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[@yourspookygay]

Honestly, as a long time follower, Eileen has been using YOU the whole time. I'm so sorry, I'm not trying to be malicious. The fact that she refused to get a job after everything you've done is so so selfish. The credit card hiding, the arrests, the name changes, she has NO responsibility for herself. Leave and her losing you will be her greatest most required lesson.

[@zoodleinfo]

I agree people are thinking age. Con artist get old too

[@adrianaacosta7293]

Not to mention she invited an ex lover who she had an affair with back in the day to their wedding.

[@Lennox2638]

Agreed!

[@CoeMichaud]

​@@adrianaacosta7293They are open, so whatever.

[@jesss4174]

I’m still not over Eileen not getting a job. I couldn’t imagine putting my partner in debt (my debt!!) and expecting them to pay it off! I wouldn’t let them either! My partner is not my financial slave. It’s not a shock because we all see it, I don’t know Julia personally but every video I’m just screaming to myself. Please leave Eileen!! Please!!

[@myfriendwouldntgivemearawegg]

Julia, don't stay because you love her. Leave because you love yourself. You're the most important person in your life and this relationship is only gonna get worse. Don't hurt yourself any longer.

[@negativecreep8066]

💯

[@isabela_cdz]

I agree totally with u

[@laurenralph5968]

This was said so beautifully she so doesn’t deserve all the hate she was getting she legit did everything to the relationship going

[@melissa-Sabatino-Threet]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@snailpolish9982]

Yes, you should always lookout for yourself and your life first. Everything else comes second. You deserve to feel appreciated ❤

[@chanellevenes1150]

Her not coming to Turkey with you because the hotel wasn’t a 5 star is so insulting & vile. That action alone says it all……..

[@princessofstars666]

The fact that Elieen was the entire source of your debt and wouldnt get a job to help pay it off is crazy. Im so sorry!

[@zeldapowers8094]

Eileen is at social security age and when most folks retire..lol. This young woman needs to find someone close to her age and get out of this nonsense

[@princessofstars666]

@@zeldapowers8094 yeah, but the debt Julia was in was entirely because of Eileen and she wasn't asking her to work forever, just a while to help with paying off the debt

[@mysticalpineapple7263]

What debt? I haven’t watched in a long time

[@shuddershudder]

Did you even watch the video?

[@missshannonsunshine]

She’s old asf what did she expect?

[@jvblnds]

julia, i love you, but you are delusional if you think this marriage is still going to work. please leave, you are destroying yourself.

[@miss_michelle]

I couldn't agree more

[@dezaraeberg7695]

Oh shit you weird mouth up… we do not know everything. Actually we know nothing. Don’t you get it?

[@pumpkinpie.0]

Indeed, Eileen is a grown woman, she is not going to change her mind at her age to suit the situation. Julia should better take distance and heal her pain.

[@missycitty9478]

Delusional is kind of harsh. She's young and has A LOT to learn. Not to mention, she still has hearts in her eyes. Calling her names is never the way to go.

[@user-zg9er6jc1r]

@@pumpkinpie.0 I’d like to point out Julia is also a grown woman… she’s not a child.

[@jesss4174]

Emotional and financial abuse is abuse, Julia. If she was slapping you across the face, domestic abuse, would you still fight to stay? Julia please, I don’t know you personally but I’ve followed you for a long time. I will always be here to listen to you. She has taken everything from you. Your spark, your joy, your happiness. And even then you fight for her. You know you deserve better💔

[@diabolicaldebbie]

Exactly right, it's ABUSE.

[@Poseidonblue123]

Taking advance of the goodness of people is abuse!!! You are right

[@ellex8597]

Exactly. She has been abusing her since day 1. Julia needed love and Eileen hit the jackpot with the wedding and all. She sucked the life out of Julia 🥲

[@user-tl7gx1gx8q]

There is two sides to every story.. its not all one sided... no us pointing and blaming one person when you don't know the full story..

[@wingbat]

@@user-tl7gx1gx8q I'm not sure what else there is to know that can change anything.. Unless Eileen comes out and says this is all a lie and that she paid for her own bail and paid Julia's friends back for helping her with her legal troubles then maybe sure.. But otherwise there really isn't "another side," that can change this being financially unfair and not right..

[@kaylaberg4558]

This isn't a rough patch. This is emotional abuse. Know this.

[@Maggie-tr4ij]

I’m a therapist who’s seen my fair share of abuse…..this is textbook. Watching you blame yourself and defend her is so heartbreaking. You deserve someone who will love and RESPECT you the way you do. I hope the open relationship brings you to your true soulmate ❤

[@StarFire-fk9jr]

​​@U2_UIt's only slander, if it's not true. She can't be incriminated, or sued for this

[@StarFire-fk9jr]

@U2_U I mean.....that is fair. But you have to take into account, when people tell relationship mishaps, and what not. They are telling it, from how they see it, from their perspective. So when someone is telling what happened to them *and there is some sort of bias to it, that is literally unavoidable. Because there will always be some sort of personal bias, to things regardless. When you retell something that happened to you, that you feel emotionally scarred by, or even wronged by.* But just because there is some sort of bias, doesn't erase the facts, that are objective tho. *in regards of relationships*. Like wrong is still wrong, regardless if we have heard the other side or not. I am just more so saying....personal bias, really is unavoidable. Because everyone is gonna play for their side. It's just human nature. But it is really hard to say, what an actual relationship is tho, without knowing the full picture. Because we are just filling in spaces, at that point. Of what we don't know, based on little information. So it can be very easy, to paint someone as a villain as well, when we don't know, what we need to know, to fully say. What I have noticed personally tho, is a lot of relationship problems, stem from other problems, or even bigger problems. That tend to not get addressed, for whatever reason. I can't really say, if this is the case for them. But some people, will react abusively, when they feel a need has been neglected for a very long time. Obviously you can't fight dirt with dirt, because it will destroy your relationship. But it does happen

[@StarFire-fk9jr]

@U2_U I am not, I am literally making an observation, from what I have observed, between couples, personal experience, and what counselors have talked about, in relationships

[@StarFire-fk9jr]

@U2_U That's not me accusing anyone of lying. A lot, aren't trying to lie. Because what they are saying, a lot of the times, did happen, and is objectively true. But like for instance "2 people that have 2 different love languages, who simply don't get each other." 1 person may say, they did everything they could do. And was the best partner, but the other person, may not agree. But it's not because they are trying to lie, but because from their perspective, they did do everything they could do. Even if in reality, for the other person, that was not true.

[@jayc3596]

Bullshit. No self-respecting therapist would give diagnoses in a comments section based on a youtube vlog.

[@melisacaceres8740]

So she put you through hell emotionally and financially and but you feel bad over being a bit messy at home and making some snarky comments? Julia just RUN. There's no gold at the end of the rainbow for being a good wife to someone who can't be a decent partner.

[@jesss4174]

Do you remember in one of Julia’s vlogs, I can’t remember which one, she left in a clip of one of Eileen’s snarky comments towards her about putting a can of coke away or something and Julia just looked so drained and sad. The way she spoke to her and left her feeling was just💔 and then Ofcourse now knowing everything else that was going on in the background. It’s no wonder she is severely struggling with her mental health. I really hope she leaves Eileen man.

[@EmileeBreeana19]

@@jesss4174yes!!

[@rileyalexander358]

Well said!

[@mariaphares4783]

Thank you for this comment!! I was looking for this comment! The audacity!!! Are you kidding me?! Wow! That p*sses me off! 😒

[@mollyAllison10]

Oh Julia I love you I am so proud of you for telling us it really hard I been getting hate too I love you

[@Sarahs71990]

Wait, so she was okay with you traveling to a whole other country alone because she didn’t want to stay in a crappy hotel? Julia, please baby girl, get out.

[@wingbat]

Right that part was quite appalling... Julia was having a dental surgery done, she NEEDED someone there to look after her for that. If it was my partner i'd be there in a heartbeat, regardless if we could stay in a nice hotel or not. That was so sad.

[@flav2689]

Well, that’s relative. It depends what you mean by ”a crappy hotel”. If it’s a real dump - like actually dirty and in a bad shady area, I understand choosing to stay home - also then the other person can at least travel better. I’m a bit of a germaphobe as well as a bit insecure when it comes to traveling - if I had to go a really sh*tty hotel… I cannot help but shudder at the thought. But if nothing else than an excellent 5-star hotel is good enough, then it’s a red flag. Compromises are crucial in relationships. A basic low-budget place works fine as long as it’s clean and safe.

[@abbiej3539]

i remember when she had another surgery in london under anaesthetic and she had to walk home alone while she was still loopy cause eileen was too lazy to walk her home 🫠

[@wingbat]

@@Whatisthiseh So? ... I never said it was medical, cosmetic or not, it's still procedure that you'd need someone there for you afterwards. I'd absolutely be there 100% if my partner was doing that. Especially since Julia was paying for the trip, there's no excuse not to go in my opinion.

[@flav2689]

@@abbiej3539 That’s…alarming, to say the least. Who the f*ck does that? Nobody that actually cares for the person.

[@lifewelllived2842]

What seems very suspicious to me is a woman in her mid 60's (who has never had children/family) to have absolutely no savings, assets, or investments. It is pretty despicable that Eileen would allow you to pay for her mistakes and inherit her financial woes. You deserve so much better Julia. You have a whole life ahead of you to continue to build your success - don't let anyone hold you back! I truly hope you gain the strength to leave. Move on and be set free

[@LaLaLonna]

THIS.

[@irenealonsobronte9638]

That’s a silly statement ..

[@lala4461]

@@irenealonsobronte9638Eileen went to jail and got arrested at the airport. She made a 23 year old (at the time) get all the finances together to bail her out. Eileen refuses to work

[@JacquelineRobinson-ub5py]

You can't say anything about a person's prior life to say how things will turn out, she paid for the whole wedding OMG she is not getting anything back that is the red flag❤❤❤❤

[@billywashere6965]

Eileen was previously married to a man and divorced him, and also broke up another married woman's relationship to a man. There is a history of homewrecking.

[@Levernical]

3:15 when they met 6:30 financials 7:49 us trip /arrest 12:20 other legal things 13:05 debt and financial responsibility 16:00 turkey trip 18:20 credit cards

[@stuff1784]

Thank you!!! ❤

[@lalali188]

Gracias!

[@denisabrandejsova4122]

If you want to know all the things just support Julia with watching the whole thing at least -_-

[@lukas-vandmand]

thank you!

[@idonttan]

Your wife didn’t make mistakes, she knew exactly what she was doing. She used you financially and then manipulated you into believing that it was somehow your fault, and your responsibility to pay for her crimes! What she has done to you is unforgivable and I hope you find the strength to finally leave and never return one day soon. You don’t deserve this and it’s time you stop accepting it already.

[@adonaiourgod]

couldn't have said it better myself

[@rose_yts]

Yes, and only people who have never loved anyone, cannot see how much Julia loves Eileen. And only jealous people would say she was a gold-digger just because she was the young one in the relationship. I want to see all those who were saying in the comments: 'Why are you assuming this is all on Eileen??' You see? This is the answer! Julia, you deserve better. I never expected this. I thought she loved you as much. I suspect she doesn't think she deserves you and she started pushing you away. She knows how much of a go-getter you are, and she doesn't think she can live up to what you have and can achieve. And maybe she doesn't think she ever has achieved as much. Because she has her own issues that stem from her past. At this moment, she really doesn't deserve you. Get help and try to move on. It will hurt a lot now, but you will move on. You could try marriage counselling, but only if she also wants to. That's putting her to the test to see how committed she is to you. And also to give you food for thought. Is it really worth it? Can you imagine things improving after that? or is it just your wish?

[@HaydenDianaCash]

totally agreed, im shaking mad. Julia has been textbook manipulated. that women is a career criminal. if anyone knows Julia personally, please help her get into trauma therapy ASAP. it breaks my heart each time julia thinks shes throwing her under the bus. She's going to have to go through a journey to heal. It will take a long time for her to see it for what it was if she doesn't get the help

[@JessicaN555]

Julia, the age gap isn't the issue. At all. You're being used, manipulated, and used as a financial crutch. Please listen to everyone here. You genuinely need to leave. Please. ❤

[@dandylion3345]

I agree about the age gap. Its not the problem. Im in a 30 yr gap and we don't have any of these problems. What keeps a marriage together is that you want to stay together!

[@cupcake-yj2bx]

Finally a comment section where people dont automaticly blame the age gap for all issues. I have a 16 year age gap and people on the internet are so close minded.

[@lauranjo]

@@cupcake-yj2bx16 is a lot less than 37..

[@rxpunzi]

The fact she wouldn't travel with you just becuse the hotel wasn't 5 star tells you everything you need to know. It's about making memories with the person you love not where you stay

[@truth9270]

Exactly!

[@EL-ld1rv]

Eh I wouldn’t fault her for her personal preference on that. But everything else she did was wrong

[@TaylorWilliamsnaturalisttaylor]

Well if she preferred that then she shouldn't paid for it . ​@@EL-ld1rv

[@LuliLovesYou27]

@@EL-ld1rvI get that, but if the person I loved was going, I’m gonna go. Unless it’s literally like 1 star sketchy that I understand.

[@angelaarroyo4744]

In America we call a person like Eileen a con artist. Financial abuse…is a form of domestic abuse.

[@heyychi]

yup!

[@stephaniebaird6937]

The fact that you couldn't go to your grandfather's funeral because of the financial strain by Eileen....I'm so sorry Julia. I hope you are able to get the strength you need to move on from this. We love you and want to see you thrive.

[@diabolicaldebbie]

Stop destroying yourself. Your nearly 30, it's time to end the marriage and find a younger woman in her 30s-40s that is financially independent and wants a family. There is no future with your wife.

[@ibaby6346]

Or she will end up with a man and have a baby,because she said that she is realising that is attracted to some men too.

[@bumper22]

​@@ibaby6346doesn't really matter who she ends up with but suggesting she needs a man to have a family seems lowkey homophobic to me

[@negativecreep8066]

@@bumper22and sexist lol

[@nefariousdevile]

​​​@@ibaby6346wow small-minds, you people always sniff out a way to be bigoted, even 'subtly', if there's even such a way you can be 'subtly' bigoted, which I doubt...One, plenty of lesbians and homosexual couples in general have kids, two, this part is mind-blowing so keep up and prepare yourself..... BISEXUALITY IS REAL! 😱🤣🙄😒

[@lolabtch3077]

exaclty.

[@wallflower9577]

It’s not a failure to leave a marriage which has such a detrimental impact on your wellbeing.

[@k_spats]

As a 54 year old woman with a ton of life experience, I knew "she" was a phony/con artist/addict (not in recovery) from Day 1. It hurts my heart to watch you suffer for as long as you have. 💔 *ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.* You are being manipulated and abused. *Please, get the help/support YOU need and get away from her.* (Al-Anon is a great place to start.) She should be ashamed of herself for sucking the life out of you and not taking responsibility for her own life! I refer to people who exhibit her behavior as, "Psychic Vampires." (Not to mention: *AN ADDICT - NOT IN RECOVERY,* toxic, abusive, selfish/self-centered, narcissistic... Etc.) *Julia - You are worthy, valuable and lovable. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.* 💗🌷💗

[@taurusspirit4811]

What was Eileens drug of choice? And how do you know she’s not in recovery?

[@louwinters508]

​@@taurusspirit4811 I don't think she's a drug addict. There are other addictions such as spending when you don't have the funds. And she is not in recovery because she's maxing out credit cards knowing she cannot pay it back and then refused to cancel them. Who is gonna pay for it. Julia. This sort of behaviour got her in trouble in the past. She rented a car dumped the car and evaded paying the fine . That's why she was arrested in the states. That might have made most people learn their lesson but no.

[@TheExtraIntellectual]

She made a video years back talking about an addiction to prescription medication. She told a story about being in the airport for days because she didn’t have anywhere to go. I don’t know if her channel is still up. Maybe she relapsed.

[@westcoastorbust2462]

@@TheExtraIntellectualeek

[@stephaniebaird6937]

"I asked her to get a part time job and...she said no." My jaw is ON THE FLOOR.

[@Mumasarah]

How old is she? 70?

[@Mumasarah]

Shes old and must get a pension.

[@stephaniebaird6937]

@@Mumasarah she was the reason for all Julia's debt. The least she could do was get an easy reception job answering phones and taking messages.

[@liveyourbestlife143]

Mine to. My husband is the income earner in our family. But a few years ago when we had some major home repairs we needed done, I went out and got a part time job for a few months to help pay for the repairs. Then I quit when we're back on stable ground. It's so crazy she said no. Marriage is a teamwork situation.

[@Imani_Aaliyah__]

@@liveyourbestlife143 Exactly. And it’s just a temporary thing maybe for 6 months to a year to help pay off the debt. Shes not asking for a lot at all just help. In a marriage you’re supposed to be able to support each other.

[@AVTAVT]

Might sound mean but you need to hear it: you're delusional if you think this will work. I have a rule of thumb: if someone wouldn't do for me what I would do for them, then they aren't right for me. Don't waste your love on a selfish person who won't reciprocate your actions. Goes for friendships too

[@nadiafedorova3438]

This is a wonderful rule of thumb. Love it.

[@alexandramoyer8785]

Yes you were rude

[@KerriKittehx]

​@@alexandramoyer8785Not rude at all. It's just real facts.

[@dahiansantiago4073]

Agreed I get trying to once but if it’s a continuous thing this is over tryin at one point they will never change cause they know you’ll never leave

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

Abuse, be it financial or emotional, shouldn't be encouraged. It is quite disrespectful. Lets have respect for our marriages and relationships. Nonetheless, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship. I However learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago my wife and I were on the brink of a divorce because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it..

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things!!

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

I know its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now.... I hope this works..Thank you

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

You wont regret it

[@crvenalee]

Leave her. Don't look back. You don't owe her anything. She owes you. Get your joy back, get your life back. You deserve someone who would be happy sitting in an empty room with you. Sending you. You can do this

[@mariaphares4783]

Absolutely!! Completely agree! If you truly love a person, they are more than enough! ❤

[@BossyLife-ly9ys]

Please leave her , you don’t deserve this . I feel so much empathy for you

[@shannonmonae2197]

She scammed you sis...thats exactly what happened. She came into your life at a time when you were at your lowest and became honestly, a mother figure. She knew that. You do not need to absorb her negative energy anymore. She knew shae had warrants, other names etc and because you were younger and pleased her eyes sexually she plotted and got you. You two didnt know each other truly, and all the stuff you went thru wouldnt have happened if you really knew her. You deserve so much good, not this womans bad energy, im sorry for being so blunt but i have to be honest.

[@Spaghetti_KittyCat]

This 👏🏻👏🏻

[@ghostiiiekun6636]

She already has a mother she is close with ?:0 but agreed to the other stuff

[@abigailj5763]

that doesnt mean someone else cant be a mother figure to her, especially since there's a phsyical distance between her and her mother @@ghostiiiekun6636

[@PixelTheExtraTerrestrial]

​@@ghostiiiekun6636u can have a mother ur close with and aditional mother fugures for the record

[@PixelTheExtraTerrestrial]

​@@ghostiiiekun6636its called having maternal women in your life

[@mxhails]

Julia. I am so so SO sorry for EVERYTHING you have dealt with. You don’t have to worry about “painting her in a bad light” because she seems to do that herself with her actions. Don’t let her hurt you anymore. Emotionally or financially. You don’t deserve any of this.

[@CatherineDoII]

This is well said! Julia's words won't put Eileen in a bad light. She is actually too nice about this, and Eileen put herself in a bad light years ago by doing this to Julia!

[@frostqueen4904]

She was in a bad light for me the first time I saw her here. I can not understand Julia's decision at all for choosing this lazy and passive old ass...

[@larryzpurelove1941]

Baby, as a looong time follower, I can clearly see that you’ve lost yourself. I know how it feels to not be appreciated in a relationship and how it is to feel unlovable from the person you love most. Leave this toxic environment even if it’s hard. Losing yourself is so much worse than losing Eileen.

[@Ichigoofficial1]

eileen is a MASSIVE red flag. you deserve sooooo much better and not someone who has been using and lying to you for years.

[@ig7002]

Girl, please. Your marriage is done. Find someone who will love you how you deserve.

[@jamiemcshane3621]

I know i don't have Eileen's side of the story. But even still, if my wife had thousands of dollars of debt because of ME, and something that i did wrong, i would feel so guilty and so terrible that i would have done anything to pay her back. Part time job. Weekend jobs. Selling some stuff. Anything. Because i love her

[@sammirolo]

Julia. Girl. GET OUT!!!!! Watch this over. Play it back. And imagine you're watching your friend or sister explaining the financial and emotional abuse she is, and has been, experiencing in her relationship. What would u tell her to do? Leave. Please please please love yourself enough to get out.

[@krissykaz6208]

Yes this, awesome thought. I like to do that too reverse the roles like what would I say to a friend going thru what I’m going thru etc. ❤

[@Zasiruht]

Eileen not working while maxing out credit cards is ALARMING. 🚩🚩🚩

[@gokcenakdag8189]

I cant believe this isnt a break up video. Julia how can you say all this and still be with her? Watch this and listen to yourself. She clearly love bombed you in the start, got a proposal, without tellinh you about her past at all. Financially abused you for sure. All the money in america was her debt. She should have barrowed money from people she knows to give you back immidiately let alone getting a job. She should have worked at mcdonalds for all I care. You are sonyoung and full of life and love to give, you wıill not be alone at all. I hope you leave her physically and legally as soon as possible.

[@negativecreep8066]

My thoughts exactly. :(

[@Deniedwings]

💯 I'm sorry but if Julia stays in this toxic relationship, I have no more sympathy for her.

[@user-bd8lu9id1r]

Julia is a husband role, Eileen is a wife. Julia was talking care financially, it is fine. Now do you think divorce is easy? She may need to pay to Eileen if Eileen has any health problem now or in the future.

[@alessandrajackson3768]

@@user-bd8lu9id1r no the problem is that Julia is in both the “husband” and “wife” role. She is the provider, the protector, but also the cook, the maid, the trophy, the interior designer, the sex worker, the pet parent, and stays in shape and beautiful for her wife. And instead of doing all that for someone loving, supportive, and honest - she is doing this for someone who is emotionally abusive.

[@KP-nk7fo]

Cries says all these horrible things her “wife” has done then says please don’t leave my wife any hate. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ Like you have got to be kidding me.

[@sophiejohnson3269]

People just see an old lady. People seem to think that once you get older you stop being an A hole, no! If they have it in them, age won't change them. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

[@Etherealvioletco]

Wow it’s awful that Eileen let her pay for the wedding and all the bills since the beginning 😢 Julia, you are beautiful and deserve all the love in the world! 🌎 💗

[@taurusspirit4811]

As a grown ass old woman .. smh

[@Nobodyimportant25]

Sweet julia, she doesn’t love you, someone that loves you would never let you deal with so much on your own. Please, please, please leave, you deserve happiness

[@jessicawilkerson6294]

I know you meant well, but telling her Eileen doesn’t love her, isn’t going to make any of this any better! Julia is a smart girl, but sometimes we have to go through shitty things in order to learn and become better people! There is absolutely nothing, nothing You nor anyone else can say, that will convince Julia she’s in an unhealthy relationship, or that she should leave Eileen because of it. Julia will make that decision when she realizes her true worth ❤

[@andyvag9189]

​@@jessicawilkerson6294well, she post a video talking about how his wife using her in so many ways and levels. Is clearly that eileen doesn't love her. What decent person do that? I think is fine to tell her, sometimes we need to read or hear the truth even though we already know.

[@Lithrilla]

You're being abused. Leave. You deserve better. Will you ever truly be able to trust her to have your back? If not, it's not worth spending time trying to fix. You both have made mistakes, but there are different levels here. Your mistakes are honestly nothing compared to what she's done and still is doing to you. You're being a perfectly good wife. But is she?

[@billywashere6965]

All of these relationships are destined for this.... 80% of them it seems.

[@nsanenthembrane]

Someone once told me that love isn’t enough

[@lane9854]

Lana del rey

[@poisonivy8957]

​@@lane9854which song

[@janelk1410]

Julia, out of respect for you and your marriage, I have never said anything negative. Eileen is what society would consider a conman or conwoman. She knows how to play the games and hide information. Her changing names and all the hidden information would be a bigger red flag than a red flag itself. I'm sorry you've had to endure and go through these hard times. Maybe it's time to remove the "rose colored glasses" and see things for what they are. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you need to be with them. Sometimes it's better to love someone from a distance. The Turkey trip was ridiculous. If she loved you, she would have gone with you no matter what the conditions. ❤

[@flav2689]

This. And ”demanding” for a five star-hotel - seriously…like there is no middle ground in between? I cannot understand how Eileen could be fine with that decision, knowing the financial problems Julia had (not to mention who was responsible for them…) I’m a bit of a germaphobe so I understand not wanting to go to a really messy, dirty or shady place. But a basic 3-star hotel that’s clean and trustworthy works just fine.

[@VivianPinto]

Also, seeing what she said, she didn’t open her marriage to have more emotional support, she just needs the bare minimum from a relationship

[@RisingFell]

@@flav2689 She drains Julia dry of her money...she doesn't have anything to contribute to the relationship, and I would bet she has a secret account with money set aside just for her...toxic old hag honestly. So abusive being so controlling over someone elses hard earned money

[@xxdiddlesxx]

This right here!!

[@queenz0707]

Conman is exactly what she is

[@pinkpotatowarrior]

She is not willing to move mountains for you like you are for HER. And you deserve someone who will do the exact same for you in return ✨️

[@pinkpotatowarrior]

@MichelleIsabel-OG thank you 🌸 Julia deserves the best and this ain't it

[@carolbenedetti8651]

Julia In America people that retire usually retire because they’re financially stable, also there are a lot of seniors who work for either fun or pleasure!!! There is no age restrictions if you are able bodied in America you are able to get a job.

[@lazer2521]

I'm 30 years old, just became paraplegic after a spine surgery gone wrong, and have never been in a relationship. I promised myself that I would bulldoze anything keeping me from finding happiness after that surgery. It's left me so broken. The 6 weeks I was in the hospital were some of the most hellish I've ever experienced, from the most evil nurse, to male nurse aide who SA'd me. I'm suing and it's more for my mental health than it is for anything else because I want justice and deserve it. If you're in an unhappy place, I'm with you. I encourage you to stand up for yourself and do what you have to in order to make you feel happy. That goes for anyone. Not everyone is nice; those are the people you need to put in their place. If anyone has done you a kindness, just be sure to return the favor. If they have done you wrong, don't worry, they'll get theirs from the universe. I honestly believe in karma. Julia- you do deserve happiness. You deserve someone who will respect you and who will be happy for you and support you. You also deserve to be heard when it's not going great and you just want to talk.

[@julrin7122]

I’m so sorry they did that to you 🥺 I hope you are victorious with your lawsuit.

[@Mrs_Scum]

I am SO INCREDIBLY SORRY for all that you are going through right now. My heart is just breaking for you... Please do sue for both the SA AND medical Malpractice even if they tell you a million reasons why it won't work. They messed up, they took SO much from you and then added insult to injury by mentally and emotionally harming you....please seek justice for yourself and to prevent others from going thru the same.

[@dawnriddler]

The fact that she didn't want to help you pay back the debt you got in because of her is mind-blowing. And even more mind-blowing is that you stayed with her after that. She should be walking around you and fulfilling every single one of your needs and those that you don't even know you have. What if something happened to you and you weren't able to make any money? What would she do? Would she just abandon you? If she's not willing to go the same length for you, she's not worth it, no matter how much time and effort you invested. One decade wasted isn't worth wasting the next 3.

[@JocelynLuvsU]

Hey Julia, As someone who’s dealt with narcissistic people in the past… RUN. they latch onto you when your at your weakest, mirror your personality, then use you unfairly. Wishing you all the best❤

[@AngieChaCha]

Exactly Eileen is narcissistic AF & my ass seen it from the very beginning. Was raised by a narcissistic mother. Can spot them a mile away.

[@AngieChaCha]

@U2_U someone who is manipulative is narcissistic. That’s a narcissistic trait. She manipulates Julia time & time again. She’s emotionally abusive. That’s narcissistic as well.

[@AngieChaCha]

@U2_U behavior traits are either empathetic or narcissistic. Manipulation is definitely not empathetic behavior. Said nothing about narcissism, said narcissistic. Narcissism relates more to narcissistic personality disorder & someone who is actually diagnosed with the disorder. Narcissistic relates more to behavior, ppl can have either narcissistic or empathetic behavior. Manipulation falls under narcissistic behavior, because there’s no empathy when that behavior is being conducted.

[@AngieChaCha]

@@aves8560 there’s either narcissistic behavior or empathetic. We all embrace both. Pick a day, time and event.

[@kaileem.2562]

Plenty of retired people have jobs. A part time receptionist type job would be very easy! So that’s no excuse. It’s so sad that she wouldn’t support you the way you’ve supported her. Haters will assume lots of stuff, can’t imagine how frustrating that is

[@justajournalist]

I was in a relationship similar to this. leave. I know it’s not that simple, but I promise, it’s not worth the pain you currently feel and will feel down the line. you deserve a relationship with someone who isn’t actively hurting you, intentionally or not.

[@liannekennedy4338]

You aren't painting her in a bad light, if she hadn't did these things then there would be nothing to talk about You're not painting her in a bad light, she is the bad light. You need to end the relationship now. You're losing yourself to stay in an unhealthy situation. Please Julia look afte yourself

[@CaggyBab]

She maxed out your credit cards (edit: her credit cards I misunderstood) behind your back but didn't pay you back for HER legal issues that SHE caused. And you went out of your way to get her home and had to reach out to your own friends to get that money. Just abbbsolutely not. But also because of that, you couldn't go to your grandad's funeral. That is so UTTERLY selfish

[@user-vq7bb5ll9o]

wait how’d u know ab the credit card stuff?

[@auudreyw]

@@user-vq7bb5ll9oshe mentioned it in the video

[@CaggyBab]

​@@user-vq7bb5ll9oJulia literally says in this video but defends Eileen because it's an "addiction" of hers. She could at least get help so then she isn't harming their relationship. Being in her mid 60's, she's had enough time to get it under wraps. I don't think there's any excuse for it

[@magicalindigoadult3838]

@@CaggyBabthe credit cards were not Julia’s her wife applied they are her wifes

[@CaggyBab]

Yeah I realized I got that bit wrong and misunderstood. But these habits in a marriage aren't great either as money is managed with your spouse to a degree. It's still not fair for those around you if you get yourself in trouble that way

[@grimaristea]

I’ve been watching since 2015, back when you were still doing diy pastel goth videos. It’s so disheartening to see you be taken advantage of so blatantly and shamelessly. It takes an immense amount of strength to admit this and even more to know to step away. I hope you find that strength and do what is best for you, because your fans care so much for you and want you to do well. You deserve to be loved the way you love

[@Heyyy1234_]

To be honest, she should have said yes to getting that part time job since all that debt was technically HERS. It was all HER trouble she caused on HERSELF that led to you being put in that situation. I mean, you could have been cold and left her ass in America in jail to deal with her shit on her own. You’ve given her much more grace than she deserved. She wasn’t even honest about herself and her life with the person she was marrying. Sounds like she was financially manipulating and using you. You deserve so much better!! If she hasn’t corrected her actions during the entire relationship, she won’t. You need to be honest with yourself. There’s a reason you’re filming this from your friends in NY and crying your heart out on the floor. You know deep inside the relationship is over and it never lived up to what you’d hoped for, but I don’t think you’re ready to admit it to yourself. You’re looking for the most basic and foundational aspect of a relationship (emotional support & love) outside of your marriage. You’ve admitted she has not given you the most basic foundation of a relationship. She cannot and has not even offered you honesty. Loving her will not change her and it will not magically change the hurt inside of you. I think you should leave her, get the divorce, save yourself the financial and emotional burden. You should invest in yourself from now on until you find the real thing. This is not the real thing, not when it’s causing you so much pain. This is not your fault, you’ve done more than your best to be a good wife… Being a “good wife” will not save someone from their own shitty behavior.

[@esmeraldagamgeetook2454]

This! 100% this!

[@Poseidonblue123]

Tell it sister!!

[@hannahrose4091]

I honestly needed to hear this too. God fuckin bless u

[@hannahrose4091]

It’s tough when u wanna see the good in someone but they neglect u time and time again. Made me feel misunderstood and led me to try harder

[@fadedpages]

I can't help but worry that this relationship is financially destroying Julia. While she's footing the bill for Eileen's debt and living expenses, who is helping Julia save for retirement? Who is helping Julia build investments so she doesn't have to work for the rest of her life?

[@jesshigginbottom3866]

We love you Julia. You’re young, but so wise & Eileen is old, but quite immature for her age… but that is NOT a healthy balance. Please look after yourself and I know you will make the right decisions. You have our support.

[@raelneam7164]

Not only immature but intentionally deceptive.

[@reemclaughlin4260]

I unsubbed a while back when I saw what you’re saying. Julia, you’re worth so much more. Praying for you Sweetie. 🙏🏼🌸☮️

[@chloedoyle-yc6ih]

@@raelneam7164don’t hate she’s going through a hard time. No hate to you but we don’t know the whole situation so we don’t have a right to judge what she’s going through.

[@mikasablackerman6776]

Julia, I don’t want to be negative or send hate but it makes me sad to see you like this. Please leave. It’s okay to leave.

[@jeniilee8158]

People who love Julia have been able to see for a long time how Eileen has been using her, and it’s bloody heartbreaking the only one who can’t see it is Julia 😢

[@nataliedanielle1724]

Julia I've been watching you for 10+ years and have never commented on your relationship out of respect for you but I can't hold this in anymore, YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER! I know it's hard to let go of someone that you really love and care for, believe me I know it's so so hard, but everything that you've shared is toxic. She has financially taken advantage of you and it's heart breaking to see because I know you've worked so hard for everything that you have. I'm not going to go on and on except that I pray and hope you see your worth and value, the way I do and all of your fans do. You are so beautiful inside and out, talented, creative, generous, just an amazing person all around and you deserve a partner that treats you like the queen you are! Not saying that financial support is everything but just someone that respects you as a person all around. I'm rooting for you Julia. You are so strong and I know you will get through all of this. I support you no matter what you decide and just want you to be happy and loved properly! Sincerely wishing you all of the best love.

[@l67x78]

You deserve so much more Julia. You’re 29, so much life left to live, don’t waste it on something that’s clearly so toxic. Sending love ❤️

[@karla4ed]

Eileen was very confortable. I remember a vlog where she was basically IN BED ALL DAY while Julia worked, cooked, served, cleaned, and just basically did everything while she stayed in bed. Thats not a team, is an older woman abusing of her power and control over a young girl. Economic and domestic violence everywhere. Just horrible.

[@hopejurgens2821]

Did anyone else notice Eileen hasn't commented, she always comments on every video

[@krissykaz6208]

She had said somewhere that she wasn’t going to watch this video or comment. I wrote a comment a few days ago saying that I think she SHOULD watch it because god forbid she wants to do anything to help Julia or work on helping her, but nope. She won’t watch it because IMO she’s too ashamed and she doesn’t have the guts. She’s a coward.

[@AshASMR2]

Okay, I have never commented on Eileen and your relationship negatively because I didn’t know the whole story. Now that I do, Eileen is abusive Julia. She does NOTHING for your marriage. You cook, you make the money, you get the both of you out of situations. It makes perfect sense if all she does is clean and you get upset when she asks you to do that. Why wouldn’t you? She does nothing to benefit your relationship. Moral support doesn’t take physical effort regardless of age. The fact that you had to open your marriage because you didn’t have SUPPORT is so sad. When you love someone all you want is to support them and help them and make things better between the both of you. I hope you get out of this soon you deserve so much better.

[@user-kw4wk2jl3e]

حدثت أمور لا تنسي أنهما تحبان بعضهما بعض سينتهي هذا الخلاف … لا يجب تحدث عن ايلين بهذه طريقه هي شريكه حياتها و جوليا غاضبه بعض شي … ان ارى الحب ينتصر دايما

[@sunshinek5827]

Oh for goodness sake please let this be a creative story for views. Surely the 10/10 gorgeous young lady isn't financially supporting the obese senior citizen. When I see an older overweight man w a gorgeous young woman I don't think anybody is using anybody necessarily - it's a transaction that is mutually beneficial. The attractive woman is living a lifestyle she wouldn't be living if it wasn't for her good looks and the man gets to sleep and be seen with a beautiful woman he could never be with if he wasn't wealthy. This is easy enough to understand. But this... Wtf...............?????

[@AshASMR2]

@@sunshinek5827 it’s actually not for views unfortunately. I’ve been watching Julia almost since the beginning of her KZbin career. Her relationship with Eileen is real /: people have been calling it out for years. It’s sad. Julia has always been attracted to older women. Back in the day she had videos with her previous partner who was also an older lady. It’s just her preference, but regardless of that, Eileen is an abusive person.

[@BilingualBookworm]

You might love her but she has been financially abusive. It’s okay to put yourself first here, Julia. You deserve more 💖

[@AngieChaCha]

She’s also been emotionally and mentally abusive to her as well.

[@MyBfDanVascloveu]

Agreed

[@Tamed_Delirium]

You deserve better, you're not using her, shes using you and its all clear now. I'm blown away that you've tried so hard and put up with all of this in the name of love. Hopefully someone will return that to you too

[@fluddie6832]

Hi hun, I understand what you're going through and I've shed a few tears listening to this. I was in a very similar situation with a woman around a year ago, until I realised one crucial thing, if I didn't leave and start pouring all the love I gave to her into MYSELF, I would eventually be destroyed by her. Once I had the courage to officially leave, it took only a few months to realise the whole thing had been the biggest mistake of my life. But now I know better and I'm completely content with myself and only myself. Its a journey, but ultimately for it to be successful you must first look inwards

[@dinosaurfun5965]

Julia, for the sake of your own sanity strike out on your own, you can do it. Do it before you get caught with her debts as you're married. You can have so much better, what you have is toxic and will destroy you unless you get out!

[@jillianmarcoccia1439]

You are such a beautiful person, Julia. There are soooo many people out there who would adore you and be a real partner to you. Honestly, myself included. You're one of the sweetest women on this platform and you deserve sooooo much more than this. You're such a sweetheart that even when you tell us what she was doing, you give her an excuse each time for being that way. I do the same thing so I know that It's exhausting.

[@Landelle]

I’ve been in a similar relationship for 13 years. I hope we can both find the strength to leave. You deserve partnership, honesty, love, and respect.

[@catherinemiss6360]

So do you x

[@moondust9970]

You seem to feel so guilty over your "resentment" towards your wife, but you shouldn't. When do people feel resentful? When they are dealing with an unjust, unfair situation/person. Listen to yourself, Julia. If you felt resentment, why was that? What, or rather WHO was unfair/unjust to you ? You know deep down that Eileen is not a good person, at the very least she's not a good person to YOU. The faster you'll see that reality the faster you'll get out of that wreck of a marriage. Remember, guilt never brings happiness. And it seems that Eileen brings you only guilt and sadness.

[@saral4114]

THis is such a good comment. I hope she sees it and really thinks about your words.

[@MariaSwaid88]

use me as "please get a divorce" button

[@mbrrrrr]

your comment aged well 😉

[@itsmeTaylorx17]

This video is so heartbreaking. I can feel the pain you’re going through love❤ sending you tons of love and support

[@SavannahBeneventi]

not to be that person, but she definitely used your age to her benefit. she manipulated you while you were young and impressionable, and took advantage of your kindness. how she is treating you is abusive. it's emotional, mental, and financial abuse. regardless of her age, she should still be able to provide you support in your relationship. support is the absolute bare minimum and the foundation to keep any relationship running smoothly. if you don't have that or trust, it won't work out. you have exhausted every option possible and i believe you should walk away while you can. don't let her dim your light more than she already has. i think you are aware of the decision you have to make and when the time is right for you, please make that leap. you deserve better.

[@aliceright1]

What is even more shitty is that Eilleen hides instead of coming forward and defend you from all the hatred. She should've make a video defending you, saying that you were the one supporting her financially, owning her mistakes and telling everyone that they are wrong and that they should not send you her wife hate. Instead you Julia did all the work again, clear her name, defend her while she gets to stay warm and cozy and play the innocent.

[@user-zy4kb7uc7w]

She couldn't be arsed unless Julia edited for her. She's not supportive and is lazy.

[@maytesilva11]

exactly!!! 👏👏👏

[@FlickeringEmber]

Yes!

[@erica5513]

​@U2_Uit's only "highly libelous" if it's untrue. Everything Julia said would be *very* easy for her to prove in court.

[@florenciaribeiro8194]

Because, sadly for Julia, Eileen is a pathological narcissist, and knows very well how to play the innocent and rip Julia apart

[@ElectroRaven]

Sticking with someone you love through thick and thin is one thing; enduring abuse is a whole different one. You are not a bad person or a bad wife for not being able to live like this. Or for not WANTING to live like this. Also, telling people what an abuser did is NOT painting them in a bad light. It's just saying the truth and possibly warning other probable victims too. If someone does not want to be painted in a bad light, they can AVOID BEING ASSH*LES. It's really easy. Run, Julia. Before it's too late. Just run.

[@truth9270]

@electroraven…. This is THEE MOST ACCURATE COMMENT!!! Thank you ❤

[@justthatgirl-ct4jo]

Poor girl took abuse from the entire internet because she wanted to protect her. She needs to get away.

[@bigboldsoul]

Sending you LOVE Julia! You are cared for, seen, and heard❤

[@mrs_pinkmist]

side note: and i mean this with all sincerity...you are beautiful but plz stop doing plastic surgery or atleast take a 5 year break and really really think and stuff because ur doing a lot in short time...and i havent watched in a while and its like woah holy shit. ur beautiful dont get me wrong but its a lot stay strong

[@All5AJz]

She is using you financially. She has used you from day one.

[@guitargirlutube]

Non of this is a surprise. My heart breaks for you Julia. Always seeking to blame yourself. Who wouldn’t be passive agressive when all of that was done to you?! Anyone else would rightly do much worse things in retaliation and in self defense! Please stop blaming and criticising yourself and feeling a guilt which doesn’t belong to you. This world of full of bad people who never think they are wrong and good people who always think they are bad. My heart breaks. I’ll pray for you. Eileen needs a 12 step program immediately. She needs to be rigorously honest with a sponsor. It’s her only hope for personal transformation. If she really wants to change to will go to any length necessary including 12 step recovery. Otherwise, my God grant you the wisdom to come to your own conclusions. All my love and best wishes for you both xxx

[@user-cm3uw5qx4p]

Love this!!

[@marymaingi9179]

xx means someone wrote to me and I feared to ask the meaning

[@Spaghetti_KittyCat]

Well said. She needs to walk the path of recovery in order to be a better person and wife to Julia.

[@pinpantrukutruku]

eileen will never change at this point...

[@bethroberts4855]

Whilst I admire your loyalty and resilience, you only have one life on this earth and it’s really important to be with someone who respects you and makes sacrifices/compromises too. I can’t imagine ever telling my partner who I love that I wouldn’t contribute to paying back debt they got in to save me from going to prison for things I did because I wanted to focus on a venture that doesn’t bring in any money! There seems to be a lack of accountability and emotional maturity on her end and I just hope you don’t waste your life trying to force this to work when it may be a one sided fight. You deserve all the happiness in the world and have such a kind heart ❤️ don’t be taken for a fool x

[@RSHAnimation]

Honestly for everything you dealt with, leaving abit of mess out in anger was the smallest thing. You deserve the love you keep giving to everyone else

[@lovewins4617]

I see someone who already knows what needs to happen. It may be hard but it’s necessary.

[@fadedpages]

I've been following your channel since before you even met Eileen and it's absurd that anyone could think you're a gold digger. Anyone saying that clearly has no idea who you are. Your long-time subscribers remember the traumatic shit you endured with Eileen's arrest and how you stood by her anyways. How heartbreaking and humiliating it must have been to find out so much information about your own wife from strangers. It's not my place to tell you how to deal with your marriage; but it breaks my heart to see you feeling so unloved and lonely. Please put yourself first.

[@jessicahainsworth7994]

Completely agree with this comment 👏👏

[@fernandamattiello]

Força Julia, você é melhor que esse relacionamento que está te destruindo!!! Ela não é quem você pensa que é, você fez dela uma deusa e ela te fez de capacho, eu passei por isso, eu te entendo… Nunca se culpe por nada, você é incrível, uma grande mulher!!! Não nasceu pra bancar ninguém não, nasceu pra brilhar!!!!!

[@ThatMoth]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You have a lot to think about but at the end of the day you need to know that people who love you don’t do this kind of thing to you. They don’t financially and emotionally abuse you. You deserve so much more, you’re such a lovely delightful joyful and loving person, you deserve to be treated well. I’m so so sorry for everything you’ve gone through and I hope things turn around for you.

[@FriskyKarma]

Girl this is abusive. You were lovebombed, tricked, paid for everything. She won’t meet you in the middle. Please get some therapy as a couple or at least for yourself. You are darling, loving and I hope you two can work it out.

[@butter-fly16]

Covert narcissistic abuse

[@Poseidonblue123]

This is not something you can work out. This has to do with trust, and she doesn’t trust her anymore. Too many red flags. And that is the truth. Julia needs to be someone who is on her level, and is mature and caring at the same time. Eileen doesn’t care about her. Just about the money.

[@FriskyKarma]

@@Poseidonblue123 you and I may be prepared for that reality, as strangers on the internet. Julia needs to feel supported, I would encourage she finds a support system and leaves but again I don’t get to weigh in on that. I said abusive for a reason. It’s what it is. It doesn’t mean Julia is there yet. I give her the latitude to make grown up decisions for herself at her own pace.

[@EmileeBreeana19]

Why do you hope they can work it out? Eileen is abusive

[@FriskyKarma]

@@EmileeBreeana19 that is for Julia to decide. I personally wouldn’t stay, but I’ve had a lot of therapy regarding this. It needs to be something Julia can handle and until she can, it’s rude to expect otherwise.

[@julialucas7215]

you are brave, you are loved and you deserve to feel safe and understood ❤

[@desireeortega4436]

The fact that she couldn’t get a job to help you pay your debt off for HER legal issues and warrants is crazy selfish. You deserve so much better

[@salldarling]

This is financial and emotional abuse. Im glad you're backing out of all of this mess. You dont deserve it

[@speakingupforpointmolate4670]

Julia, stop blaming yourself. Eileen doesn’t deserve you. The best thing you can do for yourself is to leave her and at some point you will meet a wonderful person who really appreciates you. You deserve to be happy. ❤

[@gianna4732]

This is just not right she is not being a good person let alone being a good wife ... Julia get out of that relationship

[@bowtiesandfood]

yeah some of these things are big red flags.... jesus.

[@mariangelaserrano1078]

I am sending you such a big hug, I really appreciate your transparency in this video. As someone who went through a marriage that wasn't balanced I can relate so much... There is so much gratitude and freedom on the other side. Choose you, you'll never regret that!

[@sarahroberts1745]

I’ve been watching y’all from the very start and she has been so secretive. She is a textbook narcissist pretty girl. This isn’t her first rodeo. She is a professional narcissist and you deserve so much more. From her name to her attest to all the things. Keep your head up ! I’m not a therapist or a dr or any thing but I’m a woman that has been through exactly what you are going through and the hardest thing to do is say no and walk away. We are terrified to start over or being alone but you need to learn who YOU are as an independent woman so you can be the best version of yourself for someone else. Much love !!! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@bethanysmith8418]

It was her problem she got arrested! So therefore she should’ve been the one to pay the debt back to your friends, I hope you find the courage to leave this

[@VelvetAnnn]

I genuinely believe every word coming from Julia right now ... shes not stuttering, her timeline of things is so thorough. Shes just broken. And i feel so sad for her. I dont only believe her because i watch and support her. It all adds up in the end. I pray for both of them and hope she finds healing ❤ 🙏

[@LaurieRickatson]

If she won't sit in the trenches with you, she just doesn't love you. All I'm saying is that my wife would do anything / go anywhere to make me happyand I'd do the same for her. That's what love is. The fact she wouldn't travel with you or support you when you needed her speaks volumes to how much she values the matrimony ❤

[@meganburcham7976]

I just wanna give you a giant hug. You needed to do this to heal. Sending lots of love to both of you.

[@Kamehalani]

Julia, we love you and we’ve seen all these things you’ve mentioned. Financial abuse is abuse too. You deserve someone to support and love you.

[@jacliveshere]

Julia, just know that we are all on your side and care about you. 💗 I'm glad you finally shared what you've been feeling and not held it inside. That can do very bad things for mental health.

[@kristenm9639]

Really wanted to give you a hug throughout this video :( so so sorry you are going through this. Take care of yourself, please know you are incredibly talented, selfless and worthy of a relationship with mutual respect 💓 loving someone shouldn't be this hard

[@miacordoba2149]

I’ve been subscribed for like 5 or 6 years now. I’ve never commented before. Julia, it just seems like your heart is so big and you really care about the people in your life. You can still love Eileen but you have to put yourself first. This relationship is very unhealthy.

[@changeling-child]

I just relate to you so much in so many ways. Like feeling lonely and traumatized and just always being more intense more affectionate than anyone else, always loving people more than they love you. Like it just resonates very deeply and thank you so much for being open and vulnerable despite getting so much hate. I really think there’s someone out there for you who will love you the way you deserve.

[@JacquiMcCarron21]

It really is such a heartbreaking feeling when you realise someone has just been using you for money and without the 💰 they wouldn’t wanna spend time with you. So sorry this has happened to you Julia, you deserve so much more than this honestly. What a horrid thing to go through. I hope you find someone one day who really loves you and is happy to support themselves and not sponge off you. All the best ❤

[@janestenning5768]

This video only confirmed everything my partner and I already knew and could see over the years… We noticed the relationship deteriorating after you got married and we knew it was not your fault. We never thought you were choosing to go away without Eileen but figured for some reason she either couldn’t or didn’t want to go with you. We could see she didn’t put the same effort in as you and was reliant on you financially and is unable to take responsibility for herself, her past and her present actions. She isn’t a woman, she is an overgrown child. She is lazy, doesn’t want to work and pay off her own debts but instead makes you pay them and has the nerve not only to blame you but also ask you to be tidier because you are messy to live with. Once she gets off her arse then perhaps she will have more of a right to ask that sort of thing of you but until then she doesn’t get to ask anything more of you. She’s taken enough… Drained you of your light, your joy, your money and happiness. You are too sweet and kind to realise it but she is a master manipulator and of course you love her and in your eyes she isn’t a bad person, she probably seems so genuine and sweet to you because if she wasn’t she wouldn’t be a good manipulator. Those are the exact signs of a good manipulator, someone who seems absolutely lovely but completely drains you and takes you for all you’re worth. I know because my ex was the same. I was lucky to find the courage to get out and leave after just 2 years of it. You have put up with all this for far too long already Julia. Please, for your own sake LEAVE and go and live your own amazing life. You may love her but you don’t NEED her, I promise you. You will be okay in time without her and eventually realise you are much better off and happier. I really wish you nothing but happiness and success in your future… you truly deserve it 🩷

[@biscoitochapado2489]

i agree

[@biscoitochapado2489]

It's so bad character for someone to use someone for their own benefit like eileen does to julia, the manipulation is so good that she blames it and still comes across as innocent and fragile not selfish in julias eyes

[@AngieChaCha]

Exactly! Eileen is narcissistic AF & seen it the entire time.

[@tatyana5692]

Completely agree. I’ve been watching Julia since before Eileen, I am so glad she is telling the truth & defending herself. I hope she leaves & takes care of herself ❤

[@victoria5897]

So what's making you happy in a relationship that sucks you life. Please leave