The real cause of loneliness (and how to fix it)

[@JustinBrownVids]

Hi all! I just shared another video on "the loneliness of the introvert": kzbin.info/www/bejne/hHjXiHuwqsucpKM

[@avrilvillodres3733]

Thank you for sharing this video. I really needed to hear this today. The lonely path ahead still looks uncertain and dark but now it's more bearable knowing that in the darkness around me I know that there are other people walking with me even though I cannot see them.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Happy it helped and that things are becoming bearable

[@sarahjaneross2918]

This is so wonderful 💖 I don't really like socialising, it generally drains me. However, exploring nature, and doing solitary things fuels me. Having my little dog with me all the time stops feelings of loneliness. Being with animals is a wonderful way to deal with the crazy world. Thank you for such a lovely video 😊

[@phyllidaacworth5212]

During this video it suddenly occurred to me that I might not be lonely so much as thinking my life 'should' be more social. I have gone down the joining clubs and societies road but don't have any more friends than before. I just know more people. My life may be social enough for me with the right level of outlets for my interests.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Hi Phyllida, absolutely! I've wondered the same thing and come to a similar conclusion.

[@nancygober6193]

Makes great sense!

[@nancygober6193]

Possible topic: People say "you've got to take care of yourself." What does that mean and how do you go about doing that? People-pleasing is a part of the problem.

[@lmng3772]

Embracing ourself is the most important thing in life and ive experienced,like you mentioned, being alone is powerful and has given us more time to think and know ourselves better. I find nothing more lonely than being with a person who makes us feel lonely😔😑😢.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Yes! I'd rather be alone and content than feel lonely with someone.

[@morganpais2019]

I was lonely and alone because as a kid, I grew up in a broken marriage. I don't like that feeling of being introvert and shy because of isolating myself from others. The trauma of children hood memories is in me;how could I solve it? I think watching more of such videos gonna help me a lot. ❤✅️

[@treynoodle]

I really appreciate the compassionate approach to this problem, i often seek advice on the internet and have always kind of been confronted with a sense of blame? As if its "my fault" and I totally get taking responsibility but, I've put myself out there as much as i could bear, over and over, and didnt really get anywhere. I'm tired of it and just dont feel like i can anymore, so I really enjoy the thought of this different approach, becoming closer to yourself, rather than trying to reactively sorround yourself with other people

[@Total_Recall1984]

I don't feel lonely, but you made me realize things about myself that I already had. However, I didn't know what they meant. You really opened my eyes.

[@yanagirl58]

Hey Justin...thanks so much for sharing about your loneliness. I just subscribed so I could hear more from you. I love your accent. I love being alone & definitely need space to just "be," maybe more than most people. But, the loneliness I occasionally feel is such a deep void & I'm not sure that can ever be filled by another person. When I take the time to read my daily spiritual readings and then journal, that is the only time I feel full. Spending time in quiet contemplation with God and writing to Him makes my heart full. Thanks again for sharing.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Thanks for sharing this. Glad that you enjoy your alone time. Me too.

[@sanchezvnssa]

Thanks for sharing how to go about loneliness in a positive way. Many people struggle with this and it can be destructive and seem hopeless because they dont know how to deal with these emotions.

[@user-uy3jv2xd1j]

Hi Justin. Many points of connection and appreciation here. Your choice to share insights you've personally found beneficial, feels generous. There's been real pleasure for me in making some parallel discoveries for myself. Great to hear someone else articulating (effectively) aspects of what I seem to be discovering. Perhaps loneliness is one of our 'capacities' as humans. Something to recognize and befriend (?). Even celebrate? It shows us that we value connection. As you indicate elsewhere, it can sometimes stem from socially prescribed notions. We can learn to give those the flick if they're not helpful, but that doesn't mean we'll be immune to the desire for connection. As you also suggest, that feeling can be met in a variety of ways. Loving the journey myself and all it reveals. Thanks fellow traveller. Your generous heart will warm others.

[@sharonhammon5457]

Justin, I am so glad to have found your video on loneliness. You had such good information on getting to know yourself and your values. I believe that may be something I need to do. I also find myself in a group of even family members who don’t know what to say to me. I experience the ‘invisible’ feeling quite often. My husband had me start a list of the things I talk about that do not interest him, and he does not want me to talk about them. The list is quite long. He, however, will stand in front of me and talk about his interests in great deal and I am supposed to give him my full attention. I have selected the follow button and I look forward to hearing more from you.

[@carr16k]

Thank you Justin for all your videos that I have been watching recently. I do really relate your experiences to mine due our personality. The problem I have is over the years, even though I have kinda get used and accepted to do things alone, it really upsets me that I am not able to maintain long term relationships, be it with friends or people I have fallen in love with. Most people are not able to accept the real me, and it hurts to see the people I love leave me eventually over and over again because of my personality. I do want to settle down, but I am not able to. And that's what's really frustrates me and hurts me deeply whenever I meet someone that I want to spend me rest of my life with, knowing the eventual outcome.

[@abdaghaaa]

Thanks Justin for sharing! What I also found extremely helpful to normalize my emotions during times of fear and worry is coming back to myself by affirming and feeling how much I love myself. I hug myself too while doing so. We are our own best dads (as I didn’t have one), and I think we need to cuddle and affirm our love and acceptance to ourselves at least once or twice a week, and most importantly feel it deep within. I got better at it with more practice. Louise Hay who self-treated her self from cancer opened my eyes to this through her book (you can heal your life). I recommend everyone to read it.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Thanks for sharing this, glad it was useful

[@mkaush]

This advice is spot on! So often, to not feel alone, I have put myself in situations where I am with people and come out underwhelmed with the interaction. Since the past 3 months, I have embraced my alone time and developed a much stronger relationship with myself. I still go out in the world and do activities with others, but the goal has shifted to having a good conversation instead of making friends. If friendships develop, it is a bonus!

[@sonniebee3819]

Thanks for making this video, i am a mature single woman, I have never been so lonely in my life, I thought I could figure this out but I was wrong…you are shedding a new light on what I may need to try, instead of forcing friendships. I live alone and they put me off at work due to restructure, so I feel like I’m starting from scratch.

[@seamusconlan9673]

I'm on a journey with myself also so I think I can relate very well to what you've described here. I started day hiking with my two young doggies several months ago and find it a great way to connect back to nature and back to myself in many ways and the dogs enjoy it too. Anyway thank you for another insightful video and take care.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Thanks Seamus. Sounds like a lovely way to begin the day.

[@Freshadventures_]

That's awesome you got some dog buddies to go with you. I usually go alone on really long hikes. I feel at peace in nature.

[@zacharykubas4478]

Hey man, thanks for making this. I just moved to a new city where I dont know anyone, and I'm single, so loneliness is something I've definitely felt. Sometime I try to go outside and do activites by myself, but for example when I go to a place like the beach where I see a bunch of families, it does contribute to my loneliness.

[@imeldapearce]

This is a very deep and unusual insights- it's getting my wheels turning. I can feel lonelier with crowds of people than by myself. i love having lots of family around.

[@HarrisKray]

Good timing on the video for me. Just went through a breakup last week, and its rocked me to my core. Spent 3 months on and off and for there to be final closure / a wake up to HEAL my own shit for my SELF - I need to embrace this journey for a bit.

[@lmng3772]

I hope you get over it soon.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Wishing you all the best, Harris. It's such a challenging time to be going through. Hope you can continue to embrace the journey.

[@aubergekickinghorse]

This is an excellent video. It was like having a haha moment. I bookmarked it to share it with a few people. The strange thing is how I fell on this by total hazard. It is like it showed up and caught my attention to help me with my struggles. I also watched the love and intimacy video which was also excellent.

[@Freshadventures_]

I very much value my freedom. I do want to find someone I can share my experiences with like going hiking and being out in nature. It's hard to find genuine people in society at least where I live (Utah), so I choose to spend most of my time alone. I have turned into a loner in my late 30's. I am 38 now.

[@Athanasiospaschos2963]

Hey Justin, i think you approach this whole thing in a more wholistic way and not in a superficial way, yeah it can be hard but its not impossible, the universe provides for us.🙏🏼

[@JustinBrownVids]

Much appreciated!

[@jayb8961]

Thanks for sharing this brother just the information I needed at this time👍

[@carlgemlich1657]

I love this new video, Justin. I've learned in the last few years that making real friends can't be forced because, as you said, you look needy. I also like your take on spirituality without religion/dogma. That's where I'm at, trying to operate at a higher vibration from a place of abundance.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Great to hear it, Carl. If you're interested, check out this free masterclass on prosperity/abundance. It's by the shaman I mention in this video: ideapod.com/prosperity-masterclass/#1&data1=lonelymessage

[@maggiecochrane-xk4hj]

Loved what you had to say. There was a time in my 20’s when I stayed in a dysfunctional relationship because I didn’t want to be alone. Fast forward more than 40 years and I prefer to be with my dog with no complications. I do have friends and a career, so not a hermit, but I have been single for 27 years. My next question in life is..am I ever going to trust enough to let another person in my life, or is this good enough? For the most part, it is, but it would be nice to have someone to share my day with.

[@chessc.3407]

You can always date and see why happens

[@abijay1933]

Hey Justin. I really like your calming energy whilst you talk about ways of being ok with feeling lonely sometimes. It is something I struggle with at times, but I am starting to realise that there is nothing wrong with feeling this way and nothing wrong with me. I'm spending more time in nature, love discovering new walks and I'm slowly distancing myself from 'one sided' friendships because I think that these unhealthy relationships actually make me feel even more lonely!... I am looking after, appreciating and liking myself more which are things I was neglecting so a little sweetness in life has returned yay. Have you read 'Stillness Speaks'? ~ Echart Tolle. A reminder and reflection of how wondrous life is, especially in the present moment 🙏 Beautiful spot in Oz wow. Am rather jealous of gorgeous sun 🌞 much love from 🇬🇧 🌧 ⛈️ 🌧 😂😂

[@JustinBrownVids]

Thanks for the kind message, Abi. Much appreciated. Nice to know you're appreciating your alone time.

[@thegolem9325]

I prefer being alone and I will always choose to do activities alone rather than with others. But I am ridiculously lonely because I am single and don't have anyone that thinks I'm special in my life. Nothing else in my life matters because I am missing the one thing I actually want.

[@Freshadventures_]

What do you want?

[@thegolem9325]

@@Freshadventures_ Just to feel like I am important to one person and that out of billions of people on this planet, they picked me.

[@gidgetharris9513]

I LOVE this! Thank you so much Justin. Finally! Somebody understands! 🥰

[@keerthanachebolu7792]

Seriously, cause i have no friends in school and no friends in my place, even i express with my mom, she misunderstood me and says its my problem. i feel so lonely and very depressed . i feel like it isn't my problem, that's because others don't want to come or make me as a friend , they cant understand our value . every word you said is absolutely true. thanks for the motivational

[@The301045]

Thank you,…❤…found you by accident!…I have subscribed and look forward to more…

[@natebeach]

Thank You, for this. 🙏

[@Paradys8]

Great subject, thank you very much 🙏🏻👍🏻 More on FINDING one’s PASSION/vocation please 🌈🍀

[@JustinBrownVids]

Thanks Jessica. This one focuses on finding your passion/vocation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4HXf4d8fsqfa6s

[@amynguyen5298]

Even as a single person, I don’t feel lonely often, but when I do, hearing others like yourself who also go through stages of loneliness, has helped me feel less lonely. When I do feel lonely, it’s almost always because I see my friends or other couples who seem to be having a great time in their relationship. However, I have a great relationship with myself and tends to quickly dissolve the loneliness feeling. Because I value freedom so much, I just love being able to do things at my own pace, at my own time. My other important relationships to me are with my family and friends…whom I value my time with in place of a romantic partnership.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Love it. We all go through loneliness, it's completely normal. Best wishes!

[@ReeMoni24]

I appreciated this video. Thanks🙂

[@lindaolsen7828]

Doing what you love to do can bring people to you and increase the likelihood of finding friends, but the magic of true friendship seems to happen through a mysterious alchemy that I cannot explain.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Well said.

[@solangeburri8504]

I meet your youtube channel today. I LOVE your message, your YOU. Thanks for such an amazing message and presence :)

[@JustinBrownVids]

That's very kind, thanks 🙏

[@christinewilkinson2424]

I think loneliness comes from within, you can be in a room full of people but still feel lonely. I can be out with friends, socialising and I still feel lonely so I think its something that you have to recognise about yourself and deal with it as best you can. Just a thought.

[@user-kh1eq6ox8h]

Justi, I appreciate, this, video...thank as

[@julesnaraine]

Thank You Justin, I really enjoyed this.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Thanks :) You're welcome

[@chessc.3407]

I’m an introvert so my job is super busy w a LOT of people all day long so when I’m out I need about 2 hours alone to decompress 😂😅😅😅

[@shawna1365]

When I get lonely, I reach out and end up making friends with fake people, I like people that don't hide who they really are, faults are ok with me. Then I have to slowly pull back as to not offend but what I really want to do is run and hide.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Yeh it's annoying being around fake people. I'm lucky to say I don't really have fake people in my life. I think it's because I've been living according to what I shared in this video for many years now. Hope it ends up being the same for you.

[@juliestoryteller2383]

My love language is physical touch. So I found it very difficult to be alone …. Makes me feel unloved heartbroken 💔 and lonely 😞

[@JustinBrownVids]

Have you tried touching yourself? It's a serious question. Check out the video here, well worth watching: ideapod.com/relationships-masterclass/#1

[@keerthanachebolu7792]

please make a video on how you survived in school . Looking for more videos

[@dellamonk6792]

Justin, that was really lovely.

[@JustinBrownVids]

Thanks!

[@briechilli4496]

You are a lovely guy. Thank you x

[@JustinBrownVids]

Very kind, thanks 🙏

[@garylake1497]

I don’t think this video does anything at all to address the real condition of being lonely. Alone, all alone in the world, no friends, no family, no social support network, no deep connection with anyone and terrified; that’s loneliness. A real existential nightmare. Not just a few weeks isolating with Covid while your friends and family are somewhere else. I actually don’t think Justin really knows what loneliness is

[@OgyKovachev]

I watched it after your advise on my FB message. I have a concern more on the way my friends approach me as I shared. Once I want to meet them and organize experiences together, they are in. And i never get invites from them when they do things with others. I always felt I initiate things and friends join, and not the other way round. Anyone having similar thoughts?

[@VelaMdR]

Don’t you crave the intimacy?

[@JustinBrownVids]

Yes sometimes

[@JJsProductionx]

Have you ever traveled to United States?

[@JustinBrownVids]

I used to live in Los Angeles and New York.

[@SuperFear83]

Hi Justin do you think you will have a family some day?

[@JustinBrownVids]

I'm not sure to be honest. It's a nice idea but I love my current lifestyle as well.

[@charleneweston7835]

Your video is awesome however as you inttoduce your theories you claim this lesson you want to share is free however you are adking for money. Don'take sense.

[@Murofly]

He's obviously just preying on the vulnerable to sell a stupid online blog that obviously isn't going to help anyone. Being lonely doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. The worst people in the world, even serial killers, can be charming and magnetic and surrounded with meaningful relationships, while the most spiritually wise and kindest person can go their whole life without ever having anyone to talk to. There is nothing you can do to change this fact. If you want to become more spiritual I suggest you take some psychedelic drugs instead of funding nonsense on the internet.