Joe's Abusive Childhood is Worse Than We Thought

[@roycesato4129]

Joe’s ability to forgive and empathize literally saved his life and broke the cycle of abuse. That’s inspiring

[@aquaviii]

Joe Da Man 😎👍

[@seraph741]

Having grown up in the same time period and also with immigrant parents (though less violence it seems), it seems to me like there was a real, meaningful societal and cultural shift in the United States during that time away from normalizing domestic violence. I can still vividly remember the messaging, especially in schools, and the feeling that it really shouldn't be normal or acceptable and there'd be consequences for it. I believe that this is partly responsible for allowing a whole generation of men to escape the cycle and have more empathy. My dad (and I'm sure Joe's) definitely didn't grow up in that kind of environment, and neither did their parents going back generations. Domestic violence, resentment, anger...it seems that these were just normal parts of a relationship and raising kids. Even in the US up until around the 90s. I feel like our generation was the first to largely move past these things (although not completely as of course it still exists even today). At least that's my opinion based on reflecting and looking back on things and seeing relationships now compared to back then.

[@sandyg4646]

I can see why joe and bart became best friends...not onyl do they share the same outlook on life, but they both went through some tough childhood sh*t

[@valmorethenenough]

As a mom. I’m kinda balling my eyes out right now. I’m so happy of who you have become. Your way of thinking now and the way you express yourself. I was not ready for this video lol

[@GYSMelanie5]

As a mom, I really want to protect childhood Joe. Thank you so much for being so very vulnerable and turning out to be an amazing man regardless of what you went through. Someone was cutting onions the whole time.

[@Mr-pn2eh]

I didn't know you have kids

[@bethnichols2875]

@@Mr-pn2eh I mentioned this to you before when you remarked a similar comment, that Melanie has children and grandchildren. She has mentioned them in previous comments.

[@jonie562]

😅

[@GYSMelanie5]

@Mr-pn2eh nor do I care if you know. You go on my actual KZbin one more time and leave some dumbshit comment about drugs, and you're blocked.

[@bethnichols2875]

I don't know wth is going on here and not sure I want to know. Yet I will say, 4xfaith if you have been harassing Melanie, just stop it. She is a great lady, a rider for the guys, and one of the moderators. She does not deserve to be harassed, and if she says she will block you, she means it..

[@drdannydude123]

Hands down, this series is the best thing JK has ever done. I thought I knew these guys but now I’m more connected to them than ever.

[@Kannade]

Ngl I was so invested in the story and felt so bad & scared for the kid version of Joe pretending to be asleep out of fear, but as soon as Bart made the “honk mimimimi” fake sleeping sound at 10:23 I laughed so hard I cried. It’s so freaking dumb 😂

[@perlaescamilla267]

Frls I was legit gonna cry and Bart goes and Honks 🤣

[@simpleitsdanny]

It’s always the funniest that hides the most pain 🥲🥹 Joe is a role model

[@undecidedopinions1188]

I started watching jknews when I was in 7th grade and I was pretty bad kid, I felt like no one understood me and I was doing bad in school and my brothers would tell me that i wasn’t gonna be anything, when you’re a kid stuff like that hurts you but I remember watching the jkfilms about joe, I think it was called getting to know joe and they did one for every cast member but I remember watching and seeing how he made it out and went to college and really changed his life around and that really inspired me and ever since that I always knew I was going to make it in life or die trying, joe had a really big impact in my life that I didn’t even realize until now so all I want to say is thank you Joe, now I’m going to UCLA and I’m doing a lot better from when I watched that initial video

[@PK-kitti]

Wow so proud of you Keep it up Hope your family so proud of you too

[@_kevin_wong_]

This is the series we didn’t know we needed years and years ago, but glad it finally came

[@whatchahowsya8688]

They're laughing and making light of it but I'm trying not to bawl my eyes. The way you know it's bad is how detached and calm Joe is talking about it. It's so deep that he's emotionally unfazed from it.

[@black4pienus]

HUG to Joe.

[@jk4115]

the crazy part about Joe's story is that there's so many dads who are bipolar like this and it's better when they leave

[@nicolewright8833]

I can’t stand the thought of families treating each other like that. Seeing the photo of Joe with the list of descriptions and drawings of his favorite things made me wish he had more caring adults who valued who he was. I’m sure he wants nothing to do with church again because of his childhood but I hope he knows God loves him.

[@kiarademoner]

No child should ever experience abuse 😢

[@ijonel906]

My dad had weird out bursts when I was a kid. He would get in arguments with my mom and eventually when he lost his temper he would just wreck everything in the house and yell. Thankfully I had two older brothers who were 10 years older who helped me feel safe. But damn the times I was by myself I was scared as shit. Later this year he passed away and I haven’t seen him in over 6ish years and the other side of the family would give out stories how he was a fun and kind man and that hella fked with my mind and I kept asking myself “why did we get the bad side?”

[@zxbeida]

Joe and Ryan’s stories of abusive episodes their dads would inflict on them are really sad 🙁 - I remember when Ryan mentioned how as a child his dad body slammed him against a table, or when his dad slowly choked him out cuz Ryan accidentally hit him in his sleep or something - so happy they’re in a better place now ❤

[@HH_Julius]

Oh no....oh no no....feeling pretty nervous right of the bat for this video 😵‍💫

[@SolidAmon11]

3:37 that took a dark turn lol

[@mr.gamewatch7547]

Beating your kids is an absolute tragedy. And there's no excuse to abuse your kids if you yourself were abused. That's another reason to break the cycle, not continue it.

[@panda3040]

Hi Joe, thank you for sharing your story. It was amazing that you were able to talk about your childhood without falling apart. I was very sad for you but happy that you’re able to live your life in forgiveness and release the hurt and bitterness. You and Bart are doing a wonderful job Peace and many blessings to you, Bart and the gang.

[@cas4040]

I’ve been watching for years. I truly love when you give Joe the time to just speak his mind and heart. Even if it’s sometimes silly. This right here is why.

[@jaguy4u2]

Wow ,I was NOT prepared for Joe's story, it is WAY more intense than I could've ever imagine!! It shows the great effort it took for him to overcome his past and the work he put in to be the person he is today.👏👏👏👍😁he deserves every happiness.

[@bethnichols2875]

lol @20:32 damn it Steve. 😂 And I do kind of wonder what question Anthony had planned to ask Joe earlier in the vid.

[@KevonialJemonathoy]

I was wondering that too lol

[@davidfromsouthpark]

Dam, it got dark real quick 😅

[@WallFlower08]

Damn… I’m so glad I was not abused by my AP. They knew better not to hit their children because of the American system living in America after escaping war overseas. Even now my parents will yell at my siblings not to “hit” their kids. ❤

[@jk4115]

even bart was like 😳 4:38

[@euichan100]

I've recently realised at 24 that I've had similar childhood and abusive dad growing up. I've only distanced myself from my family a year ago and i feel so damn lost and emotionally defective. This one was very heavy and hit too close to home for comfort ngl haha. But it was really therapeutic and inspiring. Thanks Joe and Jk for always being my therapy.

[@VorpalSnickerSnack]

You don't have to be a parent to recognize how fucked up Joe and Bart's life were. Empathy and forgiveness is only a coping mechanism to stop yourself from killing and hurting others or yourself.

[@DamnAwesome]

Man Joe's story is crazy, hearing him go more in depth about his childhood is such an awesome thing to hear, and the photos that are added in really show how his parents wanted others to perceive about them. Also Joe looks so much like his mom!

[@Jocarla5]

I totally understand Joe's story. I'm 48 and still healing❤

[@InsaineAZN23]

That’s some fucked up shit you had to go through Joe….glad you’re doing good and thriving now 💪

[@RonaldPilva]

All I know is over 10 years ago I ran into Joe at Fashion Show Mall in Vegas, I said what up to him and he was cool and really nice.

[@lilyu9006]

I wanna give joe a big hug 😢❤ thank you so much for sharing! So inspirational to see his empathy, success, and everything against all odds.

[@animalluvr122]

I know Joe doesn't like all this serious talk about his trauma, but man, this really opened my eyes.. And I think it's great he is sharing his story because he is teaching everyone about forgiveness and also to not follow the footsteps of the toxic men in his life. Very encouraging, I think this is really needed. We needed this. I needed this. I need to forgive. Thankyou joe

[@yuikuznetsov2276]

I’m watching it only 7 min in, but I can confirm that as a Japanese person grown up in Japan up to high school (born in 1989) I can confirm that culture of “abuse” was prevalent. My parents were using “force” such as hitting my head as a punishment for any bad behaviors of mine. I was 6 years older than my younger sister so I remember when I was old enough, I was the one intervene to stop my mom hitting my younger sister because I was fed up with it and I knew as a child “hitting” isn’t valid as a punishment. Even when I was 3 years old, I started to building up asthma and I don’t remember but my mom told me later that she was hitting me at night because she was so tired of me having a asthma attack at night and she needed to go to work next morning (that time she was a single mother) I would never do such things especially now that I’m mother of two. Crazy!!! Also really similar to what Joe said. My mom said I don’t even know how scary her dad was (my grandfather) since he past away when I was 1 or 2, so I have no memories of him but it seems like he really adored me and never raised his hands to me but he did for his children and wife (my mom and grandma) so as if she is trying to validate her abusive behavior and telling me that she is better than her father lol 😂 That’s why I stepped in to end this negative cycle. I’m not like mom. I’m totally opposite of her and being very gentle and thoughtful to my children because I know I don’t wanna be like her so I’m not just “better than mom” but I’m completely opposite of her!!!

[@Mollietuyetmai]

Ahh! **Triggered** 😭😭 I'm so sorry you went through all of it Joe! Thank you for sharing your story. It means a lot to hear others tell their stories and feel like I'm not alone in my similar struggles. Your whole story is so relatable. Humor and being surrounded by good people is the best medicine to heal.

[@lionelldalguntas]

this is why I see future baby Joe or Hannah will be damn spoiled for sure.

[@magmarmtn]

Legend says that Anthony still has a question.

[@issachan_15]

Hugs to Joe 🥺

[@peterq.1523]

10:00 is straight up horror movie content

[@peterlongac]

Damn it's always the abused who just want to laugh the hardest 🥲 and joes not even gonna see all the love everyone is empathizing him with 💔

[@fuabsho3062]

I really feel with Joe on this one, growing up in an abusive household I didn't know it wasn't normal. I also thought it was normal to not remember your childhood and I recently learned from therapy that it's not normal and that it's all suppressed and forgotten memories. It's crazy how that works and now I feel like I'm in the midst of trying to reclaim my childhood that I feel like I never got. Can't wait to hear the rest of Joe's story 🫶🏻

[@hj_prays]

The fact that Joe went through worst shit he doesn’t remember is the wort part. I’m sorry for everyone who also relates to this whether they’re aware of that or not. You’ll always be in my heart for a beautiful testimony. Like many others have said, to be able to experience what Joe has, and move forward the way he’s been, is incredible. It gives a lot of hope for people who have experienced similar things

[@VusueT]

Oh man, I can most definitely relate to you Joe. Keep sharing your past if you’re comfortable with it. You are for now one of the few that can show growth and maturity from a traumatizing past which can help the younger generation have a different perspective. Don’t think for a second that just cause we have survived those kinds of trauma’s that there aren’t others out there also suffering the same if not worse situations. Tell your story brother! It takes great strength to share those kinds of past trauma’s not to mention the healing to get past all that. I’m proud of you for sharing and for still coming out on top. I hope you guys are able to pull in some younger viewers and impact their lives positively. Love the JK fam! Been watching ya’ll since the early days I’m 41 now.

[@sullythedoc]

Really mature and healthy mindset thanks for sharing Joe

[@letsagreetodisagree3474]

that’s what helped me too learning about their life, ppl with empathy we just forgive if we can understand why they are the way they are if that makes any sense 😢

[@innermantra9049]

I can relate to Joe. It’s hard explain our past but it’s easier just to try to ignore it and “do better.” But I never got the part to doing better in life like he did. I’m barely doing there for myself 😂slow slope ig. But he’s definitely a role model for me.

[@bethnichols2875]

I feel like the guys were looking/reacting the way most of the audience were, of part omg, and part well at least you can somewhat laugh about it. Kind of like the way it goes when a "tragic" news story is told on JK. @15:07 still holds true regarding Joe. And when I saw the pic of Joe with the recorder hanging out of his mouth, I was remembering all the times Joe has sat at the table playing one instrument or another. Thank you for sharing your story with us, Joe. Much love to you and so glad you have such a supportive friend group around you. 🦋🦋

[@3nduser]

By far my favorite "out the closet" episode. 2 important things I took away from this: 1: Empathy vs Blame, i've mixed the two and created: EmpaBlame. Which is where you kinda understand their point of view but still let them know they eff'd up. . 2: Next time I'm eating a good ass burger KEEP IT TO MYSELF cuz you don't know what's going on with other people. Thanks Joe.

[@Moonmivita]

My childhood was very similar to Joe’s i used to pretend to sleep and put purple eyeshadow under my eyes to hopefully not be beat. Hopefully a lot of us can end the cycle with our children

[@leylapicou4500]

After reading some comments, I'm scared to listen while driving to work

[@RonaldPilva]

That’s so sad and upsetting to hear. Everyone had their own abusive relationships.

[@PlaywithShay21]

Joe has always been a favorite. The way everyone stays engaged while he speaks ❤️

[@KevonialJemonathoy]

Nah 17 year old doing those things to a 5 year old is psycho.

[@TheWhatscaresu]

That dad sounds like my mine growing up it’s hard to love and hate him, I call it a functional drunk who’s a narcissist but they are well aware of what they do and it was normal as well

[@ssenluong17]

Watched this twice and opened a lot of memories for me. As a pregnant mother of 3 boys, I want to protect Joe and the careful boyz. As an Asian child growing up it was the same screaming yelling abusive parents. That molded me into the great person I am today. And that’s why Joe is a great successful individual because of the experience he endured

[@bethnichols2875]

May your current pregnancy continue progressing smoothly and may you have a smooth and safe birthing experience.

[@lynnleonhardt2792]

My heart breaks for any child dealing with abuse. ❤ to you Joe

[@Jun-eo8ky]

I wonder if it’s an Asian thing im south East Asian. When it came to discipline I got my ass whooped. My dad was a war vet also so he probably had ptsd and unfortunately it was unleashed on us kids when we f-cked up.

[@CuongChanster]

You just never know what people has gone through until you listen to their life story (if true)

[@ntstoner559]

Joe’s story is crazy, he’s easily my favorite JK member. Ik he might play a character on JK when the cameras are on but I’m sure in real life bro is 💯💯💯 Love you Joe, Bart, the Careful boyz. I’ve been tuning in since I was 12, now I’m 24 going to 25 with 2 kids and I still watch this shit show. I’ve been smoking😂 but I love the way this show has formed naturally 🔥💯 Careful Boyz on top ‼️

[@nix-nicholas]

Waoh, Joe thank you for sharing. Our experiences growing up in asian families are different but some of your stories really brought me back to some of those places. Wow man, thank you for sharing, I was feeling nervous just listening to your story and it wasn't even my story. Peace Dude.

[@Nickylilbitofeverything]

Same childhood as Joe except I had 2 older brothers. Coming home and using my backpack as a shield and being shoved under the pullout couch

[@kimn8837]

12:13 When Joe said he was like a hoe. Anthony's face was like: You are. 🤣🤣🤣

[@taydiggs5740]

Joe, Joemalia, my bamboo brethren 🐼, you’ve got to let go of the past. Your past, no matter what you’ve gone through cannot, will not, and should not determine the new path you’d like to charter for yourself.

[@LionKing1130]

Thank you.

[@adityac1991]

Joe's story of getting to where he is now with all his past and his inner demons never stops to amaze me. We love you Joseph ❤️❤️ , never change.

[@D0NDIDO]

Get ready for this ride Edit* 17:20 MY GOD i resonate with this! I remember as a kid I had a shitty summer camp councillor who gave everyone a slice and me a CRUMB for not sleeping during nap time? 😒

[@cristianduque3421]

Out the closet series has been the greatest treat

[@DavidGonzales-j9m]

This podcast (conversation) had me an my uncle talking all night and we didn’t even finish this video Bad ass podcast bro I can’t believe my uncle Tio Pual put me on yall (this video is definitely a gem bro )

[@TubeDeviant]

THIS is why I have a KZbin playlist titled "Joe Jitsukawa"..

[@L9210L]

Just want to give Joe a hug, thanks for sharing your story 💛

[@o6fade800]

Came too early I feel Abused too😂

[@bradcha5413]

We need a part 2

[@minjagaming2629]

There always a reason u don’t remember at all young age somehow ur brain hides it until it eventually comes out. But as adults it’s opposite you remember all the negative things easier than the good. Strange

[@fizkallnyeilsem]

Joe the King himself!

[@cooglamooskies2091]

i always thought bart and joe got some good ass lore

[@Puentes01]

It’s crazy cuz I’m just realizing how every parent I saw at parties were very religious and had a very sinister side in “disciplining” their children. Now I kinda understand why their kids grew up into what they are today. Because they were very involved in church it really gave the impression that they’re good people/parents with great kids but it’s honestly the complete opposite with everyone

[@liyinchong4493]

This is so fire 🔥

[@Sweettormentt]

Im soo excited to watch but at the same time, really worried about whats about to come out from this video based on the title itself 😥

[@amalovjoyful]

BABY JOE 🥹🥹😩

[@felipecraz1]

You guys should do this with guest that come on frequently

[@kEaNeKlEiBeR]

Keep it up Joe. We fully support you

[@belbel4611]

I love joe ❤ he is very kind, he is like a flower lotus 😅. No one is perfect , there has to be an equal evil and bad, fighting demons just means you got to live things others didnt and manage to change and still wanting to change to be a better person, empath ❤

[@Octobre1986]

So, in total, the women watched not only but also participated.

[@vt_hikaru]

Im seeing these out of order but if its as emotional as part 5 this will hurt 😢

[@manchuriancandidatethe3rd101]

Many children had childhood trauma, but some of them learned on their own to deal with it, learn from it, and overcome it to be great people, however they’re kids who couldn’t and become worse people. It’s almost as if God put these obstacles to test us to see what we’re made off. Don’t pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a horrendous one.

[@magmarmtn]

Joe and the crew are truly inspiring. I didn't get beat but more mentally abused? I can't remember most of my childhood either. It's easier to heal when you can define what your parents were/are. Mine is the definition of a narcissist. 😂

[@MagzAppeal]

I LOVE YOU JOE💜YOU’VE BEEN AN INSPIRATION OF MINE FOR YEARS!! I’m also a survivor of severe childhood abuse, trauma, sibling rivalry/bullying, our lists can go on & on, yes?! Life is crazy & JOE is DOPE AF. JOEMALiA✊💜

[@Tleeproduction]

You can see Bart remember some shit at 12:50

[@SS-vt1hb]

I had the burger thing happen to me but it was pizza

[@isasquietmanchannel2323]

We love you Joe

[@UrbanLegend2k11]

For the algorithm, I'm watching this on my hotels TV 👌

[@zeryang85ify]

Well, damn

[@ginogarcia8730]

Joe Joe

[@Bibi_bluee]

Joe is the boy version of me

[@jsungk5]

So da mudda sad 😢

[@ThomasThomas2x3989]

Asian parents are different bruh😂😂

[@NefariousStyx666]

No cap bruh my dad pinned me to the ground when I was like 6, mf stabbed a pencil into my finger 😂😂

[@Majin_Lee]

Yeah Asian culture is crazy. We just get through it.

[@alexjeronimo8490]

Bruh I can relate so fucking hard to getting a bad grade or something similar and than get my ass beat by every family member of my house 😂 my uncle my aunt my dad all beat the shit outta me lmao good times😅

[@adrianangg_]

Is Kalyne gonna do an outta the closet as well?