Lies about manifesting you're told in your twenties.

[@besidekick]

"This guy Warren Buffet" gave me a good chuckle. All famous and wealthy men should be described as "this guy" more often. Thank you for the thoughtful and thought-provoking video!

[@anotherarchivist]

This bit also tickled me!

[@sarahsowayan4255]

I died

[@HarrietJaneNorfolk]

Absolutely this!

[@lilifane]

This reminds me of a funny story from my past, when I got my university degree and called my mom to tell her. And instead of saying: "Oh, I'm so proud of you. You worked hard for your goal, you studied for 5 years and accumulated all this knowledge and passed all exams and spent 6 months writing your thesis. Congratulations!" She said: "See, it's all because I prayed to god for your success every day. You're welcome."

[@sophieserendipity4164]

ugh. I'm sorry to hear that.

[@kaykay1570]

punch. im joking of course. kinda 😂💚 well done. and have a lovely life. xxx

[@Katiesgotmail]

Sorry to hear that

[@allyson--]

whyyyyy

[@ponandzi212]

🤦‍♂️

[@niahowells101]

I spent a long time wishing for and trying to manifest a relationship. Not much seemed to happen, so I asked him out instead and it worked 🤯

[@blaaahderp1646]

One thing I think is really toxic about manifesting is that it implies that something bad (cancer relapse, for example) happened to you because you didn't manifest strongly enough. It's victim-blaming at its best and incredibly destructive

[@siiri8902]

This was such a comforting chat! The thought of "maybe the things and people who are already in my life are the right ones" is a really nice one :)

[@a.laddinsane]

🥺 I love that

[@ponandzi212]

Yeah that was really sweet

[@honestlyholly7657]

I'm anti -manfiesting because I HATE how people think they deserve something more than others just because they wished really hard for it and thought positively. And books like the secret say rubbish like terminal illnesses are because the person thought negatively. Like wtf

[@candice1481]

Yes that argument that if you manifest enough and always have good thoughts you can heal anything is terrible because that's not how the world works. Yes having a positive attitude towards for instance a chronic illness is a good thing but only because it will help your quality of life within your own head and not because it will heal you. They use anecdotes as rules and profit from credible people and it makes me so mad. Also hate them for putting the blame on people who are ill like do they even listen to themselves?

[@serachylle6850]

Same. Because stuff can be achieved by doing the process that helps U progress towards whatever goal u have. It's not easy. It might not work out, but if ur being realistic and grounded on the goals u want to achieve, you won't have a hell of a time emotionally recovering from it, but all these priveleged manifesting gurus like to feed their audience the "feel good vibe". I really hate it when privileged people say shit like they manifested this wonderful thing they have, because they already know they were gonna get it. It was already a guaranteed goal. 🤷‍♀️

[@palaksharma1777]

This is why I love KZbin so much - today I was able to listen to someone across the world whom I don't know, and probably would never meet, speak words that made me feel more connected to myself and make my soul feel more at ease in its confusing existence

[@sarahnelson8836]

One of my favorite things about these videos is not just your commentary (which is awesome) but the comments which show us we are not alone and are generally such a wonderful and kind comment section, everyone give yourself a pat on the back!

[@leenanorms]

Amen!

[@annaradcliffe]

The biggest value I see in "manifesting" is letting yourself dream and imagine. Opening yourself up to the possibility of good things does make them more likely, because once you imagine them you're able to work towards them. I was seriously depressed for too long, and never thought positively about the future, so simply letting myself have dreams vastly improved my life. I know this isn't quite the same as the strong version of manifesting.... Maybe what I'm referring to is simply *hope*?

[@hannekepeeters]

I can so relate to this! I like the idea that maybe I can have the things I want, maybe I can truly be happy most of the time. Maybe I don't need to follow the ideas of society about what I should be doing. Maybe I can allow myself to do the things that truly spark joy. For me, manifesting is also more about that. About begin okay with every outcome, because you believe in yourself and you believe that you can be happy with yourself, because you don't beat yourself up for things. And from that viewpoint, setting goals and intentions and wishes. So they are truly desires and not needs. (Lorena Shuth explains this well I feel). I do believe that if you are content with yourself first and are okay with being alone. And then you let yourself believe you are worthy of a good relationship, that changes are higher you will find one. But maybe I also just more believe in the internal work and being okay with every outcome. ANd that that makes changes actually higher of getting what you want.

[@hannekepeeters]

I also feel like the idea of 'things don't have to be the way they are now" speaks to me (indeed the hope part). Letting yourself dream is so awesome and already brings joy. For me it opened up the thought.. maybe I don't have to live with mental illness forever. ANd that was such a game changer. ANd I don't know wheter I will ever be free from my anxiety, depression episodes and eating disorder. BUt believing I can recover from everything gave me at least such a spark to start trying.

[@annaradcliffe]

​@@hannekepeeters I agree! not being attached to a particular outcome is something I'm working on myself, it makes such a difference. I'm so glad to hear you're on a path to well-being too

[@sarahnelson8836]

“In the darkest of times hope is something you give yourself. This is the true meaning of inner strength.” Uncle Iroh from ATLA, some may have darker times than others that’s true and we often need help of various forms to let hope grow again, but in the end it is us that chooses to keep moving forward and find the *why* again down the line. I hope you are now in a better place friend and that you plant hope wherever you find space for it!

[@annaradcliffe]

@@sarahnelson8836 I love this quote! And I've certainly found it to be true. I've come a long way since my darker times, but there's always space for more hope. Thanks for your lovely message, it's really brightened my morning.

[@sallys.2707]

I really, really enjoyed this video. I am currently trying to detach myself from the "hustle hobby" and this video resonate with that. I don't want to be able to sew by hand a 1786 gown in one day or to crochet enough amigurumi to open an Etsy shop for my side hustle. I want to enjoy the time I spend crafting, even is it's 1 hour a week, for the sake of crafting. And if it take me 6 week to crochet a 12 cm pinguin or a year to sew a dress by machine I DON'T CARE. Let me enjoy what I enjoy.

[@BookNomming]

Yes!!!!

[@sarahnelson8836]

Same… I sew and getting over the perfectionism the Internet makes so easy to develop is hard. I think I beat it back a bit the other day when I was first working with knits and decided to make some around the house yoga pants. I accidentally sewed the wrong sides together for one of the interior side seams…. And I left it. It would have taken me so long to rip out the seam around the knit undo the rest of the work I’d done that day and who was going to know anyway?!? 😅 They are actually some of my favorites now, just a tiny bit imperfect

[@JustinePmpem]

Omg preach i tend to transform my hobbies into goals and even "jobs" and crochet has told me that it's okay to miss a round you can build on it or try again :)

[@garrulus3399]

Yes! It's a human practice and a j o y. Thing is, back in the day folks also mostly used winter evenings for crafting since the rest of the year was so work intensive. We just don't need pressure.

[@CathDaddy]

“Goals are meant to be achieved or scrapped. You can’t fail at them” I love this so much 😭

[@rreid498]

I've noticed that some of the thrifting girlies like to say that they manifested specific items when they find them at the thrift shop and it's always irked me a bit. Like no babe you didn't manifest that denim jacket you actually just thought 'i want a denim jacket' and then went out to the thrift shop and looked in the jacket section. Don't get me wrong it's great that we're being reflective and intentionally thinking about the things we want! But it didn't miraculously materialise because you thought about it! It's almost like there's an assumption that if you manifest something then it will come easily and passively, without you having to put in any work.

[@gnubaum9768]

i use vision boards and goal lists as a way to manage my adhd. whenever i get super itchy to impulsively make a major life change that is probably unsustainable, i stick it on a vision board or goal list. it makes me feel like i've done some sort of step towards it and often scratches the itch long enough for me to get distracted again and forget about it

[@marynadubyna7729]

hello from a Ukrainian in her twenties and thanks for your video, it gave me a bit of clarity we really did have vision boards, hopes and dreams, and that 5-year business plan. I'm in book publishing myself and books just don't seem like that high of a priority right now - but strategically they are. so I'm trying to, from where I am right now, promote Ukrainian books and keep alive the interest that the publishing world had always lacked but now seems to have picked up. I think for me that's the thing I can't not do. I've been watching your videos for a few years now, and I really appreciate your take on lots of things. so thanks for that

[@Lucy-ve6lb]

Love this! I usually make a weekly list of goals (work things that need to be done, some "life admin" things, and then a few nice things like doing yoga, cooking from scratch, going for a long walk that I think will bring contentment in a more immediate way). Within each of those categories, I give myself a bit of "grace" to shift things on to the next week. But if a goal just keeps getting put off for weeks/months on end, I've recently come to realise that it's probably something I like the idea of doing but don't actually want to do.

[@sarahnelson8836]

… this is brilliant and thank you for posting it! There is some research that suggests the more time you spend thinking about a goal the less time you spend working towards it, perhaps those things will pop back up on the list when there’s room for them

[@TheKateasrophe]

"you can't fail at goals, you just set the wrong goal" eeee amazing !!!!

[@user-yi9zf6ke6o]

I don't disagree with your thoughts on manifesting as an act of asking and wishing, but I do personally approach the subject of manifestation in a very different way. I can see how it might resemble preyer, but to me manifesting is ensuring I write my ideas and plans down and that I keep track of them, believing in them long enough that some of them will eventually make their way into reality in tandem with hard work and effort. I don't believe in 'the secret' (people wishing away severe illness instead of seeking treatment is a very dangerous idea,) but vision boards and manifestation can put into words and in pictures what it is you want, instead of keeping them as abstract thoughts and ideas, less likely to ever come into fruition.

[@krazyk931]

I've gone through a drastic lifestyle change since I developed a chronic illness. My goals were part of what drove me to ill health, I didn't want to be held back anymore after all these years locked away. I'm slowly recovering, but its a struggle at 21 having your goals transform from graduating uni to being able to make your own bowl of porridge. Alot of my family are into Manifesting, Karma etc. and with the types of dialogues they promote it feels like getting sick, having a slow recovery etc. is my fault, my responsibility. Right now I'm just trying to give myself permission that it's okay to just exist. But it's hard in a culture that promotes the ideology where you are, your progress etc. It's all controlled by you. Great video Leena :)

[@anavidreader277]

I know this video was a while ago but I just wanted to say I am in the exact same situation (I have CFS/ME) and although it’s still something I’m working on it is definitely very much okay to simply exist AND take up space - your needs matter

[@graceleathers5970]

This was so, so good for me to hear. I’m not into manifesting, but the idea that what we are meant to be for is already what we prioritise is so beautiful and gave me a lot of peace

[@keitepie]

"goals are meant to be achieved or scrapped, you can't fail at them, you just set the wrong goal" Love this

[@happytofu5]

yes, in the end the goal you set for yourself was something you made up in your head, it does not automatically mean that it was a good idea in the first place

[@mehco-op9061]

I manifested that I would comment on this video, look how that turned out!

[@BookNomming]

I think the manifest thing is similar to the whole be positive, if it was meant to be it was meant to be, and honestly sometimes yeah.. but sometimes like no. Sometimes just wishing and hoping will never be enough, sometimes things are just shit and there is no reason for it. There’s such a line before it gets toxic, yes in small amounts but not a life mantra

[@sarahnelson8836]

Isn’t there something somewhere that says “if it was meant to be it will be” is for the natural flow of relationships and “if you want something work for it” is for dreams and life plans etc? Not that this is a perfect system lol, relationships once established do take work, and not every effort towards a dream yields success (unless the dream is broad enough) but it’s nice as a guideline

[@smileitsalright7]

I do believe in manifesting and prayer. But I think of it as putting intention towards something. Agreed it’s not some magic wish granting machine. But I don’t think that putting positive intention towards something is bad. I also think part of “manifesting” is also just noticing when nice things happen to you. It’s almost like remembering the happy coincidences

[@AnnaTalks-videos]

The 'please ask me for directions' coat is so relatable! I wore a pair of bright yellow dungarees recently and SEVERAL people stopped to ask me for directions, which is hell for someone who can't even navigate my hometown

[@JoyandSerenity.]

I have a mood-board folder on my desktop of what I want my house and garden to look like, but its not me trying to manifest the house, its me collating the general aesthetic of what it will look like when we eventually move in. Like how you would build a fashion mood-board, you collect ideas and then you refine over time.

[@WandaWolf]

I am from Ukraine. I did make a vision board. The plans have changed. I didn't have "Find a place to live" on the list, because I assumed I already had that. And I did. Before the bombs got dropped on our region. Maybe I just really suck at manifesting, but I doubt that is the reason. The last few years have taught me to be flexible with my plans, but still I didn't expect I'd need THAT much flexibility. Thank you for this video!

[@leenanorms]

Sending you massive amounts of gumption xxx

[@WandaWolf]

@@leenanorms Thank you!

[@ededdeddy17]

I’ve been getting real into manifesting because of feeling trapped by my current work environment. In the back of my mind has been a little voice saying “what if I actually have no control over whether these things work out or not.” Thanks for such a well timed video, your nuanced thoughts always bring a sense of calm and hope ♡

[@victoriaaponte1876]

Thank you so much, this video allowed to breath. As someone who struggless with a sense that I am constantly lossing time and not doing enough, this has been just a beautiful way to look at the things I have done.

[@brynjames3779]

Really interesting video! I practise Wicca and I do sort of believe in manifesting and using that stuff in spells to achieve things, but I always try to make it down to earth and not ask for the world, to be realistic, like what you said about "I want to find a daily routine that I'm happy with and that is manageable, and which will fulfill me". And alongside that spell, I make active changes to find that too, I don't just rely on the spell to do everything for me, like I might read a self help book or find some healthy recipes etc. On the other hand, I've got a friend who's very into manifesting and vision boards and all that. She's not a wiccan. She believes she can achieve anything if she believes strongly enough that it wil happen. Like she told me once that she believes she WILL marry her favourite celebrity musician, despite how improbable it is that they will even meet. Like, she avoided getting a tattoo inspired by one of his songs in case when they start dating it would be weird. Help me not send this video to her!

[@AmyNaylorMusic]

I like this idea of shifting focus from "output goals" ie, trying to manifest a thing that you want to happen. And instead focus on "input goals" - things that you are in control of and can deliberately act on now, to feel good in this moment, and ultimately as a result end up "manifesting" positive outputs.

[@susannaobrien8372]

Loved what you said at the end about wanting to get better at something, but that being hard to define. I like setting a word for myself each year. One year it was "New" as I was after lots of new experiences, but this year it was "Continue" as a recognition that I'm enjoying so many things in my life and don't have to needlessly strive to change or improve just because the new year came around. Not so much manifesting, as maintaining :)

[@sarahnelson8836]

I’m having that problem with exercise, I want to get stronger but that’s a very amorphous goal and I have no idea how to make that specific and measurable… like if I just continue with exercise I will get stronger but at the same time it won’t feel as though I’m working towards the original goal

[@susannaobrien8372]

@@sarahnelson8836 yeah I hear you! I felt like that with my running goals - like I knew I wanted to keep going with the hobby, but needed to find a new goal to keep me motivated. I guess running has easy milestones (first a 5K, then 10K, half marathon etc) and within that you can get quicker. Is there some similar sliding scale in your exercise of choice that you can work up?

[@sarahnelson8836]

@@susannaobrien8372 hmmm I’ll have to see for now I guess my goal is to finish a one month online course from headspace, which having that external metric is nice

[@camillacaloi4122]

YOUR ABILITY TO GIVE ME SOLACE AND WHOLESOMENESS AND TO ALWAYS BEING RIGHT (jk, over enthusiastic just bc this is exactly the video I needed)

[@_Katherine_D]

"Goals are meant to be achieved or scrapped. You can't fail at them, you just set the wrong goal." So much good in this chat but I'm definitely taking this gem with me.

[@elizabethb.3932]

Agreed- I also think it’s important to be honest with yourself on the difference between wanting to be something versus wanting to do something- I thought I wanted to be a writer, but sitting down to write feels like a chore and I don’t often do it, so I need to re-evaluate if that’s truly what I want (it’s not)

[@samd77666]

I think the whole "manifesting" thing really focuses on the outcome not the journey. Taking time to notice and appreciate how you're learning and growing may be more fulfilling than actually reaching the finish line of the goal. Especially when it comes to creative or artistic pursuits - finding pockets of joy in the moments of creating is enough, you don't always have to be manifesting something bigger and better

[@abigailtaylor2451]

Watched this with my boyfriend. We loved it. He excitedly said ‘she’s talking about personality driven goals! Like in the Atomic Habits book’ he was also excited you read his fave book too. Example of alternative personality driven goals. I want to lose weight, I want to run a few marathons, I want to write a book, would instead be: I want to be a healthier person, I want to become a runner, I want to regularly write

[@SamWest96]

This is great. So I always joke that the universe and I have got this really good relationship where I have got every single job that I have described before finding and applying for. Most recently I was pissed before Christmas at how crappily I was being treated but I need quite specific part time hours that aren't common in my field. I said to my husband "what I need is 2 full days, ideally Tuesday and Wednesday so my parents can have [our daughter.] Haha, even better if it's a Montessori nature based nursery." And then I found that exact job on indeed the next day. In reality though I think I just have the privilege of working in a field that is DESPERATE for qualified people.

[@aeolia80]

"he talks about this guy Warren Buffet", hahahahahahhaah, this guy, that made me laugh

[@oohlookatthatdoggo]

Me too 🤣 like it sounds like Leena doesn't know who warren buffet is, which is just fabulous. I actually chuckled.

[@linamina3600]

A thing that stuck with me was how my mom has always approached manifesting. She would describe it essentially as having a clear idea/wish as to where you what to end up, but that wouldn’t absolve you of the responsibility of still moving into that direction on your own.

[@tiaraono7668]

My feelings on manifesting, in any form is this. I do think it works, but not because of the ~vibes~ or what ever. But because you're thinking about it. It is in the forefront of your mind and whether you realize it or not it will influence your actions. Its kinda like when you hear a new word. You're like "wow ive NEVER heard that word before." and then suddenly you hear it EVERYWHERE. It was likely always there, but now you're paying attention. Ive always heard that, luck isn't so much an outside blessing but an inside blessing. Its can be recognizing opportunity and putting yourself in positions to win. And you are far more likely to win if you're in the right place to do so, even if it random. When you are holding an idea or a goal in the front of your mind like that, you will SEE those places to be. You'll see opportunity that otherwise you may have been blind to. Not because you magically made them form from your brain power alone, they were always there, but you never would have noticed them otherwise!

[@rachel4644]

4000 weeks was honestly the best book I've read this year - SO GOOD.

[@fionashaw9097]

That page 212 was definitely the best revelation! I always think about goals/things I think I want to do as 'do I want to actually do that thing, or do I want to be the kind of person who does that thing?' The piano is a good example, because I played when I was younger and thought I might want to get back into it, so I thought 'Do I actually want to play the piano, or do I just want to be seen as someone who does'-will I actually find joy in sitting down and playing music on the instrument L, or do I just think it would be cool to say I play the piano. Or another example is 'Do I actually want to do research, or do I just think it would be cool and impressive to have a Master's degree?' I find that helps be better sort out what my motivations are for wanting something and whether it is actually a worthwhile use of my time.

[@Sophia-fc2kn]

Thank you for putting my ambivalence towards aspirational thinking in such clear and wonderfully worded sentences! This was a useful and somehow very comforting video to watch. As someone who grew up religious in a non-religious household/community I never thought of prayer as anything more or less than just "talking to god"? Prayer seemed personal and introspective, never aspirational. I agree that it can be like a similar thing to "manifesting" but I do think that it doesn't have to be and it can be way more.

[@HCSAgirl99]

The idea of a taking context and situation into achieving goals rather than just personal effort and agency is really appreciated in this video.

[@MirandaPurpleClouds]

I've made a vision board once. It was more a visual representation of my goals. So i could look at them and remember them better. It wasnt much more than that to it. Interesting topic though!

[@naomimills2549]

Leena you’ve no idea how much you have cheered me up today after a horrible weekend ❤️ Keep being you, lots of love xx

[@luisarombach683]

I was the person on Instagram asking for your opinion on manifestation, so thank you so much for making this video!! Found it very enlightening and totally agree that there’s only so much we can control and that second-guessing our goals can be very helpful ♥️

[@melopepo]

Before I met my bf I wrote a list in my diary of what I was looking for and thought I deserved in a relationship. He sometimes jokes that I manifested him into my life but I think we just notice more of what we’re looking for and I also did a lot of work on myself to be ready for this relationship (aka therapy and self help books). It didn’t happen out of pure ✨magic✨

[@lauraserafina5242]

This video felt like when you find the piece of the jigsaw you’ve been looking for for ages and it clicks into place. Thank you Leena :)

[@SOOFKU]

I like the "slow life" idea u share here. I think that manifesting is a good way to release yourself from limitations that don't need to be there and start working towards your own goals instead of somebody elses :) but it's a slippery slope if you decide to model after someone else 😆

[@tiaraono7668]

I don't have a five year plan, i just want o "nebulously improve." Thats exactly me and I finally have words for it. Everyone (my therapist included!) looks at me so weird when I say "eh I don't really have goals." Because I dont. It sounds like I don't have drive, or that I don't know what I want. But I want to get better at the things I do and be happy. I'm happy where I am, why do I need to keep climbing some make believe ladder. For the last 4 years my "goals" have been things like "set up a skin care routine that works for me." and "figure out how to keep the house clean while still having a life and a full time job" And sometimes I have sort term things that i decide i want to do (usally financial) that I have to plan for. Or I come across a thing and I'm like, "yes this is what i want, im going to do things so that my life goes that direction." But i'm not making a vision board about it.

[@MNeathway]

This is exactly what I think

[@emilylouise9705]

I used to work in the marketing team for a DIY wholesaler, and every year there would be several industry shows where we would have a stand - we'd hand out free drinks and snacks, do product demos and stuff like that. Anyway, I had this one colleague who used to wind me the heck up, because whenever we were planning these events she would tell people off for "manifesting" things to go wrong. For instance, if someone suggested lining up any back-up options or plan Bs, she would tell us "Stop saying that, you're manifesting it. Something is going to go wrong because you're manifesting something going wrong." It was honestly a bit daft 😂😂 I've not been able to take the whole "manifesting" thing seriously at all because of working with her.

[@rowanredwood9316]

i have obsesive compulsive disorder, when I 'manifest' it was noticed as crazy, (this made me fight my magical thinking I endeavour to focus on material things and properties marx on materialism actually helped a lot), when I was older and got into the real world a.k.a. spoke to people outside my childhood bubble I found magical thinking widespread and very often propped up by social systems. I might think if I tap my teacup 16 times before sipping everything will be okay, people without OCD think that everything will be okay for even less of a reason

[@vanessatran2474]

I also have OCD and manifesting also was a bit of a trigger for my magical thinking 😭

[@ThisIsNotRelevant]

I’ve just been fired from my job so this was incredibly helpful 🙌🏻

[@johnnymissesme7464]

Even if you spent an hour analysing which toilet paper is best and why, I'm sure I'd still enjoy it. Loved the video. Thanks

[@julecaesara482]

Sometimes, I disagree with statements in your videos. Sometimes I agree. And sometimes, like this time, you put something I had inside of me into coherent words AND lead me to a crucial revelation about my life. In any case, it's always character-building

[@leenanorms]

Xxx

[@artisanalcheese]

SO glad you talked about oliver burkeman's book, I've been researching productivity & goal setting (and why they're bs) for a video and everything he says in the book shocked me to my core (in a good way)

[@eightoutoffifteen4762]

As always Leena, your videos seem to be eerily relevant to my life right now... I'm graduating uni this summer and have been having a lot of "what are you going to do next?" conversations and I'm just like??? I just completed a degree in the middle of a pandemic and the whole world is falling apart, am I not allowed to just EXIST??? For a bit without constantly thinking about what I want the next 20 years of my life to look like? Definitely going to read that book, thank you 💜

[@samd77666]

Yes! I was going to comment about how individualistic the idea of "manifesting" is - I'm glad you covered it!

[@Imallwrite212]

wow, this made me realize how much i am undervaluing how i spend my time. it never feels enough. You got me with the piano tho!!! I always think about how i want to play and then don't!

[@helenm1085]

I feel like I had to relinquish my grip on doing "important" things and started making the everyday things that I do feel important, because I'm "stuck" at home so much since I burn out really fast if I go out (I'm autistic). I think I could have done with some kind of goals and dreams when I was younger, but I couldn't imagine concrete things that I wanted to do because the examples around me were things that seemed impossible for me. I'm making my own goals now, letting myself imagine a life where I'm thriving rather than struggling to try to achieve "normal"

[@sdafergu]

I want to re-watch this video every time I make New Year's goals.

[@MCRkaruma]

You are super relaxing to me. I like to watch you and look out the window and just enjoy my time. I love your advice. Live life for you not for these standards put on you

[@silliepixie]

At 2:37 The cross in the trees behind Leena while she talks about faith based manifesting.

[@BeccaAl]

Great video, completely agree. Seen too many people, the best people, suffer and strive and never get anywhere. Likewise terrible inhumane people and ideas spread like wildfire. We can’t all have what we want. Some people focus on a goal and achieve it through dedication and resilience, I wouldn’t take away from that by saying, “ooo good manifesting”. It’s more productive to be focussed and committed to something. But IDC! I go with the flow now, it’s much easier!

[@catrinahorsman1637]

Another point on the importance of other people: if you make a wish list or a vision board or a goals video, then post it online or share it with your friends, it makes you think "well now other people know about it, I have to do it". Feeling like someone else is holding you accountable can be a big motivator towards actually acheiving your aims. I can't say from personal experience, but I imagine for some people prayer works the same way. Perhaps it's the sharing that's the important bit, not the list itself.

[@saffodils]

this video's message reminds me a lot of the amanda palmer song "in my mind"-would recommend people check it out if they haven't already! she sings about how it's good to take stock of priorities and look honestly at why we're not doing what we thought we wanted to do. i'm religious by ritual more than belief, so my prayer looks more like that (or like setting intentions) than asking for divine intervention. however people accomplish it, i hope more people get to that place of self-reflective intentionality and self-forgiveness: we're all doing our best!

[@ericaporter2099]

Yesterday I 'manifested' a nap by taking one. Amazing. Highly recommend.

[@BryonyClaire]

I've never heard Warren Buffett be quoted in a positive way, and surprised it's in a good book that you like, since he's the opposite of everything we like

[@thatjillgirl]

Is he? I mean, as extremely wealthy people go, he doesn't seem so bad. He has pledged to give away 99% of his wealth. He's not leaving huge sums to his children. He has stated that a market economy disproportionately favors the rich. I'm not saying that makes him a moral paragon by any means, but he's not exactly at the top of my list of irritating billionaires. He at least seems to understand the fact that he has a wildly unnecessary amount of money and gives a lot of it away.

[@BryonyClaire]

@@thatjillgirl fair points, it's a bit sad the bar is that low for the Uber rich to be "good" isn't it?

[@BookNomming]

I used to have a strict bullet journal, with habit trackers and the lot… not been doing them the last few Years and although I like how aesthetically pleasing I don’t need them. Either I have just assimilated those tasks or I just shifted my focus on to goals I actually want

[@oliviamay614]

I am feel like I pray/manifest/wish/ask the universe very carefully in part because of reading Half Magic by Edward Eager but also because it feels more honest. For example I find my self not asking for specific event or outcome but for something like “clarity” or “rest” or “peace with my self.”

[@umyeahashleigh]

i love how your videos like this are always both comforting *and* thought provoking! I mostly just jokingly use the word 'manifesting' with friends, because to me it just feels like if you talk about something a lot, you're not speaking it into being, but you are probably just focusing on it in more ways than you think and like actually taking some action towards doing that thing.

[@heatherewert9934]

Love this! I also write wish lists for myself and love looking back and reflecting on whether what U wanted was actually achievable and how Ive changed since I wrote it

[@thelizzleking]

I like doing this too! When I was younger I used to get sad about missing or changing goals, but now it's actually quite comforting to know that a lot of things that currently stress me out will eventually seem rather trivial :)

[@Julia-zv9cz]

Have you read Derren Brown's a little bit happier, or happy? In the first book he talks a lot about this idea of flexibility and how goal setting is fundamentally linked to religion and capitalism, and this video really reminded me of this! He also touches on stoicism which I want to learn more about.

[@StrongImaginationA]

This video ties in very neatly with my (bi)yearly re-read of Amanda Palmers The Art of Asking, another wonderful recommendation from you, Leena. I'm also reminded of the concept of 'inhale years' and 'exhale years' that I can't find the source for, maybe it was from Amanda too? Or something you mentioned? Anyway, when you were talking about 'it's okay to have a fallow period' this sort of felt to me like 'inhale years', years when you're living, accumulating experience, maybe following the lead of someone else or just undergoing what's happening because you're dealing with trauma or other shit. And then follow the exhale years in which you bloom and start forming and producing things - I think the metaphor originally applied to artists and their work but an exhale year can also look like deciding to quit your job and starting a new one. Great stuff.

[@gamewrit0058]

An "accidental priority." ❤️👍

[@Lunareon]

That thing about increasing the surface area of your luck sounds vaguely familiar. I wonder if it is related to that other thing about opportunities: That you have to show up for them. Might be by the same person. In any case, thank you for your thoughts on this topic.

[@adamphilip1623]

I really enjoyed this one! It reminded me of lots of things I need to tell myself more often!

[@JustinePmpem]

The video i did not know i needed. I've recently been asking myself lots of questions and having doubts about my career / master degree choices (yes my brain thinks it's the same). Asking myself what would have been my life if i had chosen an artistic path etc to the point where it became really stressful. And your video made me realize that if it was really something i wanted i would have put some time on it. Or maybe it is something i will do in 20 years. We often forget even if we choose a career it doesn't we can't change it and learn new stuff. Of course this is a really privileged point of you. But i think the mindset i had made me forget how privileged i was to have those kinds of dilemmas to begin with.

[@StrawberryBats67]

"This guy Warren Buffet" Iconic

[@lucyo2919]

Yeah, I think the aspects of manifesting that work are just giving something your attention- it's like when you read about something and suddenly you're seeing that thing everywhere. It's not magic, it's just that once you're aware of something you're more likely to notice it around you. Once you're thinking about something a lot, you're more likely to talk about it to other people, who then in turn might notice that thing and report it back to you- like I told someone that I wanted to work at xyz and a month later they told me about an opening they'd heard about at xyz. It's really odd to bring 'deserving' into it when a lot of it is just being at the right place at the right time talking to the right person. I guess when you bring magical thinking into it, it gives you the illusion that wishing is work that can make you more deserving than people who haven't been wishing as hard as you.

[@stardust9625]

I LOVED this video. The format is so cozy and comforting and the way you covered our range of control over situations is refreshing. Thank you for this, Leena!

[@amyhatch3761]

I see a lot of famous people and influencers who mention manifesting and I think "hmm maybe there's something to it" and then I remember that it's just survivors bias. The only people we see talking about manifesting are the people who "won", we don't see the hundreds of thousands of aspiring musicians, actors and KZbinrs who wanted it, wished it, spoke it etc as much as the ones who succeeded but didn't succeed

[@a.laddinsane]

This was a great video to watch at 6 am on a Monday morning. Set the tone for my week - thank youuuu Leena!

[@Marmite2909]

Thanks

[@marianneshepherd6286]

Hi Leena I'm a Christian and agree with you about using prayer to manifest things and it's not a guaranteed thing x x x

[@claudiajade624]

I don't 'manifest' but I am like a '5 year plan' person (just in my mind, not written down or visualisally represented) . So in that sense, I have a vague/sometimes clear-ish plan (at least career and sometimes other wise) that I am kind of either actively or in-the-back-of-my-mind working towards. I love the 'Goals are meant to be achieved, or scrapped' 😁

[@framesofwindows]

i'm literally watching this video after coming back from a walk in the forest wearing that exact coat!!! what are the chances!!!

[@GL-GildedLining]

Enjoyable! I'm really glad to be subscribed; you provide yummy food for thought.

[@xenialiashko]

Yes, we in Ukraine had goals and plans and manifesting board.

[@autism_and_niamh]

This video was so profoundly comforting 💜 I saved it to my Favourites! Thank you Leena xxx

[@vickisigh2674]

the way I absolutely NEEDED to watch this video today...thank you so much leena!

[@masakimoayra00]

I enjoy the discussion. You clarified some things I'd been thinking for a while now

[@alisonallen8658]

% good friends and a nice place to live. Armistead Maupin had it sussed Tales of the city books!

[@namjoonie936]

spoke my mind. so glad ive found your channel

[@karoline1953]

Your jacket rocks!

[@Man-ej6uv]

as a ukrainian, yeah. i had a great life before the war. i was working towards my goals and i would've succeeded and i think my life would've been stellar if not for all this. now i might have to leave in the future and my life has been reduced to a nightmare. it could happen to anyone.

[@davidshead1323]

Usually everything that happens to me is never the thing I wanted most, but it's usually not the worst possible thing either. I think it's good to aim for something but for me anyway the case is usually that I end up somewhere in between. If it's even that linear. Recently with things like work it's more of a sidestep. I wanted a job very badly and didn't get it and was depressed and deflated for a while but it meant I was available when I did get the call for a less flashy but more personally fulfilling job. I just try to think of it as okay if I didn't get that job then that team isn't the right one for me.

[@mercm97]

I loveeee your insights

[@abbeycooper1101]

I just love your brain!