Don't waste your 20s on MARRIAGE?? | dating and marriage advice from a big sis!

Hi friends, thank you so much for watching. Back with another 20s series video and I have a SPECIAL guest today's episode! Dodos and I will be discussing dating and marriage, redflags, lessons and tips she has learned along the way and advice she'd give herself in her 20s now she's entered the 30s club lol. This is definitely one of my favourite episodes, I learned so much and hope you do too. Enjoy!
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I’m 24 years old, my birthday is on September 26.
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[@Iamdodos]

I had the best time having such a beautiful conversation with you. I hope all the Queens in the 20's find it helpful and remember to always know their value.

[@reekahslifestyle4231]

This video was so helpful❤️love you both.

[@ngbachelorineducation9080]

Been married for over 10 years, married at 23. Trust me marry a man with good attitude, good vibes and genuinely GOD LOVER, see even if you marry late or young, if both you and your spouse don't put effort to make the marriage a safe heaven, you both may not enjoy marriage

[@Ruthta]

That's so true I married my love in my 20's we're getting along So well. Sometimes it a lot it takes two people to get things work out. You should be patient with each other.

[@jerryokonji411]

You have said it all

[@sadraolaedo4733]

Truth

[@Nay0mii_]

don’t let one chewing gum boy make you feel like you are asking for too much’ - know your worth queens! - stick to the standards - don’t settle for just anything ugh. i love it here 🥺❤️

[@chiikahh2740]

Sameeeee

[@_elizabethliving]

Many people don’t understand the meaning of dating. They think dating = relationship. There’s a difference, dating is going on dates to get to know someone, it advisable to date different people (or talk to them) to know what you want and what you don’t want.

[@Stevengomez-j6q]

What's wrong with dating one at a time? YOG

[@favemoments]

Don’t be so focused on the next step that you forget to enjoy the present.

[@Chisomntinulu]

It's not just dating but the things you do while at it. Are you doing the right things? Are you asking the right questions? (or is it only have you eaten today?😩) Are you tackling the red flags wisely or you are thinking it's a white flag? Are you even self-aware enough to be in a relationship 😩 If you don't know where you are going(purpose) how do you know who you need on the journey tho....... I’m learning from my own mistakes and from others❤️ I believe there are good men out there and there are beautiful relationships/marriages and mine will be part it 😍 I enjoyed the video kamsi. Thank you🤗❤️

[@ifeomax]

me being 19 and watching this with so much focus like i’m getting married anytime soon💀😂🤍

[@Osazee_Journey]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@toribuwa]

Me tooo😂😂

[@toluwani_]

Samee😂😂

[@angelic7855]

I just turned 18 and we're out here like: be prepared pretty ladies 🔱😆

[@excelinaacquah7688]

😂😂sometimes I even forget I’m not yet 20

[@12Sharon]

I personally like my married life in my early 20s. Yes it can be hard sometimes. It's unrealistic to think it's a happy ever after. The work comes after. I personally think marriage is a good way for people to show they're being taken serious. It's a contract, yes, that you will work for everyday and can't easily be left. It makes you work things out. It's never a guarantee and that's a risk with everything. I would suggest moving in with your potential husband so you can see what that's all about. It totally changes things for the better or worse.. As to the friends topic, all I got to say is that changes too. You marry your spouse he becomes your best friend. Friends are good to have but if you want to spend every day with them then marriage might not be great. Especially in your 20s many of your friends won't be your friends in your 40s. Friends in your 20s might be single and wanting to live that life.. when you get married you can't live it with them. Obviously it really depends. But don't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't ladies. Your instincts will tell you and evaluate your maturity and what you're willing to do and not. Be realistic with yourself if that's even a thought in your mind.

[@lolaidris6073]

I’m happy to hear this talk today because right about now I’m going through some emotional stress. 🙃 This this brighten up a little There’s more to life in your 20s than just marriage I’m ready to explore, love my self, forgive myself and move on From today hence forth, I am a better me! Thanks Kam 😪😪

[@kamsinnamani]

🥺🤍🤍

[@kamsinnamani]

Hi my loves 🌚 back with another #20series episode with a VERY special guest! Learned so much from Dodos and hope you learn and enjoy this video as much as we did🥰 Link to her channel in my desc x

[@theganiiyat]

I learned so much too. Amazing collaboration! 💃

[@soniajohn]

This is a power collab! Damn girl! It’s the content for me! 👏🏽👏🏽

[@kamsinnamani]

Thank youu 🥰

[@OLUWAFAYOKEMI]

OMG! The collab I didn't know I wanted to see. Dodos. It's nice to see you on here. I love you both.

[@kamsinnamani]

Aww thank youu 🥰

[@theganiiyat]

That's right. Marriage is not the end goal. What's next after getting married?

[@akabuezemirand6057]

This is the most realistic relationship talk I have heard on the internet, it was educating

[@okeoghenedesigns]

What I need after leaving this long 2 years relationship 😭😭. Thanks

[@veeslifestyle3130]

Dear friends and family, please don’t make excuses for people. If they show you who they are, take it and meuveee.

[@theganiiyat]

OMG!!! I was watching Dodo's recent video and saw an amazing subscriber recommend that she brings you on her series 'To all the girls'. This amazing. I rushed to click on this video. Hardwork is really good, when people see how much effort you put in they root for you. You have an amazing tribe Kamsi. This is so Inspiring for me.

[@kamsinnamani]

I really do🥺 so grateful for every one of you🤎

[@faithalex4870]

Kamai has been over-feeding us!!! What is this consistency??? I love it!!!

[@AmazonEstherIbia]

This was really interesting and very enlightening. Go on dates! Note to self! Yes whatever you keep projecting to the universe will come back to you.

[@nicoleediae5790]

been waiting for this collab, yes!

[@kamsinnamani]

🙈🤎🤎

[@Owamena]

Solid advice, dropped facts!…be yourself, get to know yourself, look out for red flags (it’s always in plain sight)… loved this 💗

[@gracefieldafanga8510]

This was so motivating cause I actually want to get married in my early 20s so listening to all these talks aren’t changing my mind per-say😂 but actually enlightening me think more matured about marriage red flags sacrifice compromise thanks for all these.

[@Samzymira]

This video is about to blow up coz there is soo much knowledge in it. I learnt soo much!!! I thought my head was going to fall off because of all the nodding🤣🤣 great collab 💕💕

[@kamsinnamani]

😂😂😂 sis I thought so too😂🤎

[@watchmenchristianfellowshi9821]

I love dodos . So matured and wise. Kamsi thanks for bringing her on the channel. Great videos

[@nazokoli8]

Awwwwww. Seeing @iamdodos is giving me extra joy....

[@sham6783]

Dodos is so cool. She's dropped gems all through the video. Thanks for bringing her on.

[@DrHunnay]

This was a very nice video to watch. I agree a lot with everything Dodos said especially as we have both been married for 2yrs and her experiences are quite similar to mine from this video.

[@sandrabonn1979]

Wow! Dodos! Dimma next 🙌🏾

[@kamsinnamani]

Ayyyeeee😂🤎

[@omavlog5502]

📍Always know what you want as a lady !! 📍Don't settle for less at all !! 📍Add value to your self !! 📍Learn skill, though skills isn't for everyone out there !! 📍Speak out when treated less !! 📍Go to a place where you will be valued !! I'm learning from my own mistakes, ain't settling for less again. 🤗🤗

[@ivychimelum217]

Really loved this video! Would also have loved her to talk on other topics not just men and relationships. Topics like self improvement in your 20s, finding yourself, self love, elegance, femininity career, friendships etc. A lot happen in 20s asides men and relationships. Overall, I really enjoyed this video and I hope for more collabs! Love u both❤

[@hildahmuringai7362]

It’s about finding THE person you want to enjoy life with. A relationship is not a chore if you do not want it to be. A lot of people get it mixed up, and end up falling on the other side. I am in my mid 20’s but my boyfriend and I enjoy each other like best-friends and also lovers. “I would not advise “dating” people, you will go around a lot and won’t actually have anyone. No one said it was going to be a fairytale ladies.

[@asabedeborah2075]

I really enjoyed this and I think it'd be nice to invite more experienced people who have already been there and done it. As to the possible reason a marriage breaks off even after long years of dating, I conversed with way older people and one of the very important things I noted from the conversation is that weight breaks marriage or even any relationship at all. People are all relaxed and having fun while dating but the second they get married, they feel the need to pressure their partners to do certain things because "they are a married woman or man". I think if people treated marriage not too seriously or a just a tiny bit above relationship, it will last and even be more enjoyable. That's a long ass comment😂, I hope you get to read it.

[@chiamakaonuoha4857]

I thoroughly enjoyed this video!!! Kamsi you asked really good questions and I was literally nodding to all Dodos answers. 💥

[@kamsinnamani]

Aww yay, thanks hun 🥰

[@NafiahOsikoya]

This was such an insightful conversation!!! So wholesome ❤❤ I loved it so much!! Well done, Kamsiii! Another thing that's also important is for us to be 'good' people as ladies. You can't be mean, unkind and all sorts, and expect to meet a messiah. Try not to be 'scum' as well ❤😘

[@kamsinnamani]

Good point!

[@elizabethumoh5650]

My faves in one video?!!! A Collab I never knew I needed!!! 😍😊

[@kamsinnamani]

You’re welcome hun 🥰

[@LA-jy4sc]

CHAIIIIII😭perfekct timing😅....i was just think should i really spend me youth looking for a husband😭( iam in my 20s) After this Video my mind made sense... glory to god🙏🏽 Iam gonna have fun and enjoy me lifePERIODDD😌💖 ... even throught covid Love your Videos 💖 Thank you 💖

[@salewa6242]

4:21 @iamdodos literally IS ME! Everything she’s said ‘down to the cheating’🤣 But yes she worded it well and that’s literally how I am too Can’t be with someone needy I hate feeling choked Wanna just feel free With everything In my life

[@deborahboms]

Really enjoyed this 😍😍 Loved every bit of the conversation. It flowed so effortlessly 🥰

[@nonyeice]

Awwwn Dodos and Kamsi, I like the combo 😍

[@kamsinnamani]

Me too🥰

[@victoryayo2581]

I saw Dodos and clicked straight up

[@obindeborah1305]

Dodos and Kamsi such a sweet Collab every point made soooo much sense Thanks for this ladies

[@FeliciaAmu]

Love this I'll be 21 on 6 December Your videos are really enlightening Haply birthday in advance to myself. Subscribed to Dodos❤❤

[@kamsinnamani]

Aww thank youu and hbd 🤍

[@emotionallypink5264]

This is the most realistic video on the internet. Thanks Dodos ❤️❤️

[@Ifeoma_John]

I loved every bit of this conversation. Really enjoyed this 🤍✨

[@DinmaJane]

The collab we didn’t know we needed

[@kamsinnamani]

🤪🤎

[@ofonimechantaludoma-udofa3685]

Dodos is so funny and she is saying it as it is

[@ajalafavour]

Such a relatable and eye opening topic. Thanks for sharing ma. I'm definitely sharing this with my girls. You gained a new fan btw🥰

[@OwolabiEsther]

My 21yrs old self is just here sucking up all this relationship tips. Thankyou🥺

[@tseoteri]

Your reply when dodos asked if you would want to get married in your 20s is the same thing that came to my head 😂

[@kamsinnamani]

Lol seal it o😂

[@tseoteri]

@@kamsinnamani Girl! 😂

[@tannyglow]

I was literally nodding al through and ending your sentences over here I love love this video it’s superb ❤️👌👌

[@kamsinnamani]

Aww thanks hun

[@nomahope3182]

Strange how most of our parents got married in their 20s, and never faced any problems or were good at hiding their heartaches.

[@Duchmarve]

Never faced any problems? Good at hiding their heartaches?

[@nomahope3182]

@@Duchmarve Yes

[@ayobami_ajayi]

The word in that intro 🔥🔥…love this collab 🥰

[@kamsinnamani]

A big word lol x

[@the.clara_kor6168]

Wowwww we have dodos on our KZbin guys!!!! I’m super excited 🤩🤩💃

[@Maaro_Muraro]

Absolutely enjoyed this. I think it was good we heard from “a big sis” Great content Love you guys ❤️

[@aquilaoluwaseunfunmi9565]

Omg. Kamsi and Dodos. My two favorite ❤️❤️

[@eladebidaniella]

What an amazing collab!! Your guest was amazing throughout, love it 👏🏼❤️

[@chiamakaugwumba4063]

I love you guys together. And the video is very educating. Well done guys.

[@its.Lamide]

dodossss is such a vibe....love love her. dods , you're ageless sha o

[@KeerahsVogue]

This Collabo is everything!

[@roberrt_solomon]

My literal two faves!!!!!!! Ugh!!!! I’m crying!

[@kasiariegbon1541]

Thank you for bringing one of my favs to your channel ,the thumbnail made me so excited 😂😂😂

[@kamsinnamani]

Lol you’re welcome hun 🥰

[@JudithNwaigwe]

My favorite girls in one video 💃💃 Dodos spilling facts 😅

[@kamsinnamani]

🥰🥰

[@nnennajune]

This Collab >>>> Liked before I even watched 😍

[@cyrilchetachi]

Wow!! I love love love love this episode, so thoughtful of you Kam Kam, so Insightful, enough knowledge, I love every bit of it, DoDos spoke well, and I think she highlighted on alot of important things that we're getting wrong these days...Well-done Kam Kam, this is content, I love it

[@rosemaryike]

Kamsi+my fav dodos...ok ok I’m not crying guys...I promise I’m not

[@ValerieEgbuniwe1]

Absolutely loved watching this video! So many gems dropped

[@the.clara_kor6168]

Can we get a part 2🥺 This video was awesome!!!!

[@dimphokgaladi7052]

Liked before watching🥺🤍I know it’s good already

[@preciousaaron1]

The best of everything I needed to hear 🙏💕

[@victorychioma1]

Okayyyy !!!Now this is premium content.🤎🤎🤎

[@EmeraldGoodness]

Your 20 series has been helpful to me❤️❤️

[@NnekaOlisa]

Dodos is pure vibes. Love her honest opinions

[@tochianozie]

Awwww. This collab makes me happy

[@preciousco]

Yea every single time your next should be better than your ex

[@nanadiycorner]

Dodos! This was really insightful...I love it!!

[@mikaylakimberly]

Ok but y’all are gorgeous 💖

[@agwazia]

This is a facts filled video no lies!

[@theonlyqueensley1838]

Omg dodos I love your smile! This is a definitely a nice reminder thanks kamsi❤

[@gabrielacenteno6431]

thank you for this video!! it helps to get advice for people navigating the world :) you're awesome!!!

[@Duchmarve]

Concerning compromise....I think the word is just a trigger especially to Gen z’s because what we know or saw as compromise felt like cheating to the one compromising, however they do compromise but don’t want to use the word...lol

[@adaezenwaokolo5456]

This was such a beautiful and insightful conversation 🌹

[@agadasophia5773]

Really really enjoyed this😩. Thank you so much for filming this too.

[@kamsinnamani]

So glad to hear, thanks for watching🥰

[@olasubomiojo]

This question is for Dodos.....what if your spouse is not the conversational person and you are the conversational one? How do you balance that? Well done Kamsi

[@ifeanyi485]

The collaboration we didn't know we needed!❤

[@kamsinnamani]

Periodt pooh 🤪😂

[@IMETGODSHEBLACK]

Okay but this is the KZbin collaboration that I didn’t know I needed 🤎✨

[@ChyMgbikeh]

Love love every single words Dodos said.

[@kamsinnamani]

Ikr so much wisdom

[@onyinyenezianya4194]

This collab!!!! Love to see thisssss 😍😍

[@Missimaaa]

This video was just WISDOM! Loved it ❤️

[@theganiiyat]

Balance is key truly and it doesn't have to be 50/50 😊

[@nwankwomaryclara474]

The maddest combo ever filmed

[@TheEdith_Augustine]

Thank you so much Kamsi for the content you put out here. Learning!

[@lisaodionstudio]

I really loved watching this 🤎🤎 both amazing women!

[@maduekwechisom7112]

Awww iamdodos😍😍❤❤❤😭, this collab choke o🙌💯

[@munarellatv]

Enjoyed watching this, super insightful 😘😘💃

[@tonia_star8988]

I love this and I love the both of you, premium content always💯🥰😍

[@Nay0mii_]

came to pick up words of wisdom from my fave😌❤️

[@OpenUpYourHeartPod]

Two of my favs!!! Am I dreaming???!!!!😍

[@wadiamsamaila6694]

Yess!! Kamsi and Dodos Love you both

[@n.adanna]

Love this video!! But Dodos is so beautiful. You guys are gorgeous

[@tarebouebi-igeretv]

Best collab ever 😍😍😍😍