STRAIGHT NATURALS, SOCIAL MEDIA, & Leaving the Natural Hair Community | KandidKinks

[@KandidKinks]

Yall have me completely overwhelmed with these comments I truly appreciate the feedback and ideas!!! That’s honestly why this is my favorite app like I love yall for real for real 🥹🥹🥹

[@kimberlysavage4922]

Hello! Would you be able to say what products were used to twist ur hair (the twists in the beginning of the vid)....for 3 weeks old, those twists are separating like a dream!

[@nhoza9747]

@@KandidKinks love you too sis🇿🇦😍

[@SheReaDelSol]

I'm all for black women doing whatever they want with their hair but this certain aesthetic is quite interesting to see. Thanks for sharing.

[@erikabowers7827]

I like all of your content. Honestly, when I follow people I enjoy their personality so I typically enjoy whatever they put out. I would love to see your travel vlogs, makeup, and fashion content.

[@TrishtheNatural]

I would love to see your travel, make up, skincare and clothing videos in addition to the hair videos.

[@alexisamarikwa4907]

SAME 🥹

[@ennvee1989]

Yes ive been saying that for years but I dont think she wants to do that😅

[@sarahdawson975]

Thank you for saying natural hair takes effort! I get so annoyed when other naturals shame folks for being exhausted by their hair. That said, I think everyone can do whatever they want but the return to silk pressed hair is interesting. Cuz I’ve gotten dolled up for an evening at the theatre or ballet and my natural hair can betray me if the humidity is wild. So I almost want to blow it out but I stopped to think why I didn’t think twists were acceptable with an evening gown…

[@DEJAALEWIS]

I’m definitely with you as a fellow lazy natural. Been throwing my hair in braids all year. I feel like it’s sad us black women can’t accept our natural hair for what it is. I’ve done alot of different styles wigs, sew-ins, silk press & etc but it’s nothing like wearing my own natural hair as is. I would love to see the cruise content. I just came back from a cruise and it was so much fun. Lastly that divorce in the black movie had potential but Tyler Perry needs new writers cause that first was scene was a mess 😂

[@jasmined7816]

A messssssss 🤣

[@VarieTeeSamRich]

Thanks for posting hair videos, it is my main reason I watch your videos. I cannot promise to watch the travel vlogs but I won't mind seeing some shorts....having different parts of the travel vlog as shorts with the video linked will help me decide if I want to watch the entire travel vlog...I think you can ramp up quite a bit of views using the short form content also. A lot of my content creators are uploading less hair content but I understand that.

[@miniminott48]

Lexi, I don't care what you post as long as you post. I'll be watching. Really miss you.

[@cleoclaus69]

I feel you on a lot of things here. Fellow lazy natural going on eight weeks with twists in. I have been washing my hair with them in and drenching them in oil and leave in to prevent locing, but I know I will pay for it when I finally take of the scarf and take them down. The straight natural is unfortunately more of the same old isms, and it’s sad that it keeps coming back around. Do what you want with your hair, but do it because you love ALL the things your hair can do. That’s just my take. Looking forward to your travel vlogs, and I do miss your Insecure recaps. Don’t be such a stranger girl!

[@byrself3005]

glad to have you back posting! the straight natural thing is rooted in texturism, ppl just really are against type four hair for whatever reason but imma rock with my kinks🤭. it takes a lot of time and my neck and shoulders be feeling every bit of it but i wouldn’t trade it for the world! i had locs for a year but i combed them out b/c my scalp was going crazy.. just didn’t work for me honestly. it was definitely a nice experience tho. currently i’ve been practicing flat twisting my hair girl. i can’t wait until it becomes an easier process honestly. excited for your future content & reviewing shows/movies in detail could be really cool

[@jadakelly2297]

Ik exactly what you mean…The texturism is sneaking through beyond the ladies and people who just want to wear their hair straight. And it’s very reminiscent of why people left the natural hair community in the first place and now it’s like the pendulum has swung all the way to the opposite end as in regards to the natural hair. When there really could just be a balance, but people are associating straight natural hair with middle class blackness which is very isolating( potentially) and dangerous. I know everybody won’t see as political as I do and that’s fine but I really do think it is political how we think about ourselves internally and the messages that we sent outwardly for what is the standard of a group or subgroup, especially when that’s not what the majority looks like/can achieve(and here I mean in general, not just with hair) Like you said that’s not me judging people for wearing their hair how they want to, but we do always need to be cognizant of the whys. especially if this is a bunch of Black people watching these videos who want to wear their hair styles in non heated styles…it’s just like the people who were watching a bunch of 3B/C hair natural videos with either the expectation of their hair looking like that or a type of longing/envy for what others have. I hope this all makes sense. 16:23

[@TextureLove]

Pretty much all of this. I’ve been natural my entire life and I agree with all of this 💯 percent.

[@PreppyFay12]

I’m definitely trying to be a blown out natural this year and learn how to use heat safely and appopriately to keep the integrity of my hair the best possible within reasonable expectations. It’s been almost 10 years and the results speak for themselves at this point to me.

[@shishim6813]

Same. I think stretched hair will help with length retention.

[@lisaw44]

Ma’am. I had my hair in mini twists for about 3 weeks as well. Guess what. When I took them down, I wore the twist out for yet another 3 weeks 😄

[@sarahdawson975]

I did this a few weeks back and whew those roots were angry 🤣

[@lisaw44]

@@sarahdawson975 furious! 😆😆

[@tunzlunz]

😂😂😂

[@axellemenkada6349]

I just love that you are a straight shooter. We miss that in KZbinrs nowadays. I watched 10 min of the Tyler Perry movie and I was like “nope not me, not this, not today”

[@CalPall]

I love to see a full face of your absolute favorite makeup! (Drugstore and highend). See that's why I post different types of videos from the start bc I'm so scared of being pigeon holed😭😭

[@dianabryan7421]

You are 100% correct about the straight hair natural part! I totally agree and understand.

[@alexisamarikwa4907]

i can’t speak for others but i’m also really into makeup & skincare (was actually into it before i got into haircare) and i’ve noticed that a lot of ppl who are into haircare are into beauty content in general. i’d also love to see your travel content cuz i don’t just watch you for your haircare content i watch you cuz i love your personality and i’m sure a lot of others would say the same! so pls don’t shy away from showing us more. at the end of the day this is your platform so use it however you wish, don’t be afraid to expand and grow ☺️

[@anitralynn]

I'm 5 Years Natural and I Love it.. it's work yes but I Love being natural.. Thank you for your honesty and great content.. Also looking forward to seeing your traveling vlogs/videos

[@CallanAmber]

I'd honestly watch anything you post!!💖💖💖💖

[@kimlaoconnor1]

Ok, since you asked, I'm only here for the hair videos. But I understand if you want to branch out with VLOGs.

[@NaturallyKayD]

I’ve been loc’d two and a half years, and I absolutely love it here. The ease is definitely one of the best parts.

[@butterbrown100]

I’ve always loved this channel Kandi is refreshing and genuine. I wish her nothing but the BEST in whatever 💕

[@zaahire]

I'm here for it ALL !! BUT I DO LOVE THE TRAVELING VLOGS 😊😊

[@SheReaDelSol]

Congrats on the JcPenney sponsorship. Sis working working. Love that for you.

[@katrinaryan4000]

I loved your DITL vlogs!

[@FlippingToValdosta_Ga]

I wondered where you've been! I missed you girly, glad to see you back! I was a loose natural for about 9 years and been loc'd for 4. At times I miss my loose hair so I've been wrestling with cutting or combining out my locs.

[@doreeneb]

Hey Lexi girl! Hmm, I'm gonna stay quiet on this straight natural for luxury lifestyle cos...👀 👀 I peeped game right from the start 👀 I'm a hella lazy natural so even doing a silk press is too much work with this tailbone 4b hair sis lol 👏🏾👏🏾 For me, I truly love our kinky hair, I genuinely find it aesthetically beautiful in all its ways. I love twists, so mostly rock them and I feel luxurious with it. M'kay.

[@doreeneb]

Also in terms of vids, I really love natural hair and love just watching people do whatever. I loved this vid cos you're just doing you hair reviewing films, talking about your travel experiences, just vibing. Girl, I even started twisting my hair along with you and nodding with all the points you were making. Re Love Island, as a Brit, it's lost its soul. The original first 3/4 seasons were awesome but then they started getting influencers and z-list celebrities chasing clout. Is Love Island airing in the US now?

[@kuddlyk2703]

Whatever you post, I'm here for it. I've been following you a long time on KZbin. Your content does not disappoint 👏 👏

[@cheshiredj]

So that's where you've been - on the other platforms! Yes, I'd like to see your travel vlogs. And this video was great too.

[@butterfly1001princess]

I have also noticed that straight hair to rich_clean girl aesthetic vibe pipeline. For me, straight hair seems so much more manageable.

[@ItsOyinkan_A]

I definitely want to see you travel love especially trips with you and Stephanie! ❤

[@latoyanjackson2755]

I would love to see your travel vlogs. I enjoy watching well put together content which you always deliver. You also put the candid in KandidKinks and I am here for it!

[@deonrhodes8588]

I’ve been thinking about locs a lot lately, but like you I don’t think I’m ready for the commitment yet. Maybe when I turn 40. But the ease of it is very very appealing.

[@Mrs.SylviaCollins]

So good. Laughing about divorce in the black. Girl😂 I'm here for whatever video you wanna do, honestly. I love hair, makeup, fashion, and the trips. Talking about shows too❤❤❤

[@eyme290]

So true. Everything doesn’t require everyone to have an opinion about it. The black community is the only community that obsesses this much about natural hair and only wearing it 1 way. SMH. They tie natural hair to such strong emotions when it doesn’t have to be that stressful. I’ve worn my hair curly, relaxed, heat trained, it’s really all just hair. And the health of your hair is all that really matters and wearing your hair in its natural kinky/curly state all the time can give people a false sense of health because curly hair hides damage, until you straighten it out at a salon, then everything is revealed. Just cause someone’s hair is chemically processed or they use heat doesn’t mean their hair is damaged, and just cause someone wears curly hair styles all the time doesn’t mean it’s healthy. I think a lot of people are starting to experience natural hair community burnout and just want to go back to doing things that make sense again for their hair. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Also, the same natural hair girls who judge black women for using heat on their hair will buy bundles of hair or wig of hair from women of another race who likely use heat on their hair almost every day 😅 we seriously gotta get over this nonsense

[@forthecurlies6513]

I became a straight natural for a year, then decided to cut my ends and go back to curly since my hair was starting to suffer from the heat. I’m focused on getting my curls healthy again. i definitely don’t plan on going back to straight hair.

[@itsallvanity]

missed you girl here on yt! 💖 fs you do you + enjoy content creation your way!! i've always loved long form content + it's still my fave. i enjoy watching natural hair (not straight naturals no shade lol), fragrance/body care, skin care, makeup vids, + reaction/commentary vids on yt.✨✨

[@nhoza9747]

It’s 02:02 AM in 🇿🇦. Babe I for one love this channel mainly for hair but I do enjoy travel and makeup videos as shorts though 🥹🌸

[@Prncsjcyj]

I tried the pattern detangler/pre-poo & loved it…but can’t justify the $28 price tag when African Pride is just as loved and sold everywhere.

[@tmt436]

Girl, bring on the content. I love cruising. I would love the education. I have never been on Virgin Atlantic, so it would be good content to see if I should take them for my next cruise. Don't get me wrong, I love natural hair content, but u are right. It has changed and is, in some ways, repetitive. Girl, I was relaxed for more than half my life. I am not interested in a silk press or anything involving straight hair. U make an excellent point. Apparently, when u elevate ur status, the natural hair has to go because, guess what, it does not fit the aesthetics. We are still bound without realizing it. The companies who sell out don't even know it is a tactic to break the moment because when u feel good about who you are, u begin to excel and are less likely to put up with crap. Right now, we are back to the creamy crack and have coined the term straight natural as a compromise.

[@Chromagens]

"tired sleepy girl by nature" felt. Truly.

[@vivicablackwood]

i love your content it always helps me when i be taking out my hair , I be feeling like I'm there with you chatting away while pulling out my hair so thank you. 🥰😂

[@heatherjonz102]

looking forward to your travel vlogs!!

[@kekedorsainvil5061]

“things to do, gross” 😭 I felt that

[@cuzimjennthatswhy]

Glad to see you back! Was just in your channel looking to see if i had miased any KZbin videos because i definitelysee you everywhere else except KZbin! Video suggestions - I'm always a fan of day in the life or week in my life vlogs!

[@Dixie-uc2wy]

You are one of my favorites on KZbin. I will watch whatever you post!

[@comfortuanserume7850]

I definitely understand that it takes work to upload on KZbin. I would love makeup and travel vlogs! Thank you for all of the natural hair videos!! Keep traveling and be safe!!!

[@starmaxx4]

Hey Lexi great chit-chat🥰💙.. I really can’t remember the last time I had a silk press (that’s how long it has been) .. I also feel like ppl are going to do them so whether it’s a weave, perm, straight natural or Kinky/Coily natural.. I prefer wearing my hair in a twist and/or braid out and will do a wng from time to time.. can’t wait to see what your channel brings in the near future 😉.. would luv to see travel, Vlogs, skincare.. 💙

[@jadakelly2297]

I’ve been a leave in twist girlie for a minute especially during my Chicago winters 😭. & what I do is use the pre-poo mid way through the time I have my twist in and co wash to stop from excessive dryness/breakage. Maybe that will help you as our hair is of very similar texture/density

[@Born2BFly]

My young sis I love your videos please continue. I enjoyed your Panama videos. I’ve missed your content.

[@ayannanzinga]

I definitely understand wanting to diversify your content as a creator. As a viewer/supporter, when I come to KZbin, I like watching natural hair videos/self care videos. But i prefer seeing my fave creators’ other interests (like your travel vlogs) in shorter format on TikTok and IG.

[@MsHoneyFly11]

I’m not tired of doing my hair. Girl I’m just tired! It is thriving since my baby girl started giving me my trims. I’ve just been throwing it in two ponytail puffs and calling it a day. Styling has really been on the back burner for this whole year. The straight natural soft life content creators are really just giving the masses what they wanna see. Most of us still don’t know how to do much of anything to our own hair. We still rely on the salon to give us a presentable hairstyle in most cases. So your average everyday girl watching YT videos or following content elsewhere cannot relate to twist outs, wash n goes, Bantu knots and other natural styles unless it done by someone else. When people ask me what I do to get my style I can immediately recognize the blank look in their eyes. They either feel like it’s too much to do or they tried it once and it didn’t work. They don’t understand how heat and braiding hair and lack of moisture and protein negatively effects the hair and I don’t have the energy to explain it. The real masses are not really checking for the time and energy involved in spending that much time on themselves and the straight natural girls are just capitalizing on these preferences

[@jazzy282022]

Why does the luxury lifestyle have to be straight hair ?! That is a very good question you should do a video on..ppl always associate straight hair with being better smhh On another note i'm here for the hair content sorry girl lol but I understand why you want to branch out

[@JadeJade333]

I noticed that too. Can't our natural hair be luxury? I miss seeing the beautiful twist outs and wash and goes on some of the big youtubers who have gone lux.

[@favouro6344]

It's brainwashing. They use our own to bring us down. They no longer have to push that narrative as we push it ourselves. 😢

[@LefenyoEveryday]

I decided to loc my hair this year after 10 years of being natural and you’re right about it…it’s so stress less 😂. I think you should post your other content, you might pick up new subscribers that enjoy that content.

[@jadakelly2297]

I looooove that prepoo I think you put me on actually!

[@w9906]

Kandid Kinks, for the winter, I would LOVE to see you do different kinky clip-ins styles.❤😊

[@sheba653161]

I'm not the biggest fan of reality tv anymore. I used to watch Love and Hip Hop all the time. Some people started arguing and I was mad and felt MY heart rate going up. I'm like I don't even know these people. Why am I mad? I stopped watching reality tv after that 😂. I think people want to see specific types of people on certain shows like Love is Blind. They want to see these "very attractive" and "interesting" people looking for "love" even though it's all fake lol

[@AshaHassell]

Ilove you and I agree! These people hate their hair and do not associate luxury or beautiful with natural hair. They put in time to relax, blow dry & flat press their hair but don't take time to wash their hair once a week. 😢 These trends are funny, black women are going back to straight hair and no edges.

[@favouro6344]

Natural hair does not have to be redone every morning unless the style is to change the hair from 4c to 3c. THAT takes effort. Also, if the hair is washed and conditioned regularly then detangling is not hard at all. Even straight haired girlies would suffer if they didn't comb their hair for weeks. That's why they detangle daily, something that most BW don't do. Maybe that's why most struggle when they FINALLY detangle. It seems like more effort to spend 3 hours washing and straightening hair and spending effort to avoid water and sweat 💦. Detangling 🪮 can be done with only fingers 🤌🏽. Moisturize regularly. People with straight hair wash and condition their hair (aka moisture) multiple times a week. Someone with curly hair can skip the washing and do that only 1 to 2x a week. Anyway to each their own 😊

[@delftblue]

I thought I was only here for hair content, but I appreciate non-hair related content as well.

[@jackie5157]

I would watch some of your other content. You’re the influencer, you’re the brand; whatever you’re sharing here, I’d watch!

[@itsandile8097]

I only wear my hair in cornrows now… it’s very low maintenance and I can still wash my hair throughout the month

[@sheba653161]

I miss Insecure too! I've rewatched it twice. I started rewatching The Game and I liked Harlem, but nothing replaces Insecure. Also, I still haven't seen Divorce in the Black because I felt like it was going to be bad lol

[@DiverseMountains]

I have micro locs which cam take more time to maintain but I love it! Locs in general would look AMAZING on you

[@prettybrowni1]

You are more than your hair, which is beautiful. I've enjoyed your content on YT and IG. It's great to see your other interests/love. Do you moisturize your hair when you put it away? That may make your take downs easier. I'm not a fan of straight natural hair. I'm past that. It's always amazing to see beautiful black women with their natural hair, however they style it. What I do see a lot of where I live is the badly style wigs... Have you ever thought of trying head wraps?

[@jk9084]

You can combine a hair style and GRWM with makeup and clothes. Or nighttime skincare and hair routine.

[@ashleya2178]

HEY GURLLLL! 🤗

[@asg4669]

Omg I really miss Insecure toooo! I am literally watching it on Netflix now and it is my fourth time, nothing else like it on TV. @Harlem I tried to watch it at two different times and couldn’t get into it either!

[@salimatasore3735]

I'll say the association of straight hair with being more beautiful more clean more feminine comes from some black femininity coaches that say having your natural hair out takes away from your beauty. When i first heard that i was flabbergasted but that what some people really believe.

[@lmsmeco4829]

Hey KK Lexi! I been gone for a minute but I’m back. One of your fans who lives in 🇯🇵I’m a natural plus 1-3 times a year straight natural just to give me a week or two break from doing my own hair. Interested in seeing your two Cruise vlogs. How about consider discussing “How To Die Alone” Natasha Rothwell or “Three Women” Dewanda Wise and Blair Underwood? I’d love to unpack these two shows. Smart writing and great directing. Thanks for the video Sis! Stay Up! 🙌🏾

[@jk9084]

Locs would definitely suit you! I am thinking about microlocing too.

[@nora8653]

I would prefer non hair related content, especially travel and health stuff. I started watching you for hair years ago but I'm loc'ed now and just watch to see what you are up to.

[@katythebeauty330]

I love seeing people do what they want to do with the hair that’s on their head. The beautiful thing about black women’s hair is that we have the versatility to do whatever we want. I switch from sew ins, quick weaves, braids, wigs, and crotchet braids. I rarely wear my natural hair out anymore because I don’t have time to do it like I did when I was younger. Great video!

[@t156t2]

Hi! I agree with another commentor I find straight hair boring in general. I prefer my texture. I'm all for styling hair for a style for an occasion that you want to rock straight hair as opposed to wearing straight hair everyday style. I know exactly what you mean. I march to the beat of my own drum😅 I stopped watching Tyler Perry anything after the Have and Have Nots and If Loving You is So Wrong series ended. Nope no more😂 Love is Blind is ridiculous but I didn't realize some people were married😮 Watch Bridgerton or Love from Scratch or First Wives Club (all Netflix series). Let me know if you like them. Yes, post travel videos. And makeup, etc.

[@NalaAmari]

I love travel vlogs. I've watched the ones you've posted previously and really enjoyed them. Yes, please post them. I would love to watch. And, to each its own, but I don't like straight hair. I find it boring. Always have.

[@06brighteyes]

Hi Lexi! I've being watching you for a while now. I still use my spray bottle I ordered from you. I've being microlock for 2 1/2 yrs now. I don't really care what you post ill watch.

[@KiranSeo.]

I just like seeing you period so imma watch whatever

[@tarac7227]

I agree with you all the way with divorce in the black. Reality shows are not what they used to be. I enjoy watching Abbot elementary.

[@ashleyfrith-k7n]

💜

[@anitralynn]

I personally liked Divorce in the Black and I think it's because I could have related to the dysfunctional narcissist relationship she was in but that's why I liked it.

[@baansiin]

watching you take down your twists so easily, because you didn't add extensions, braid at the roots and/or borrow hair is making me jellie fr. Mine take the longest time because I have them done really mi-ni. Like others have said, your personality is what we love, so send us all that content and we'll watch them, x. Facts - all you said about the clean girl aesthetics suddenly parallel with being a straight natural. TOD, I was complaining (as we always do) about how my hair was pissing me off, and s/o said "just texlax it". I'm like " 😒I'd rather loc my hair than do that fr"

[@joythompson9530]

Hello Queen 💕🍁🍂

[@prettybrowni1]

The last TP movie I watched was Acrimony...trash. I agree, he needs to higher good writers. Periodt.

[@favouro6344]

Here is my unasked for opinion. Natural hair does not have to be redone every morning unless the style is to change the hair from 4c to 3c. THAT takes effort. Also, if the hair is washed and conditioned regularly then detangling is not hard at all. Even straight haired girlies would suffer if they didn't comb their hair for weeks. That's why they detangle daily, something that most BW don't do. Maybe that's why most struggle when they FINALLY detangle. It seems like more effort to spend 3 hours washing and straightening hair and spending effort to avoid water and sweat 💦. Detangling 🪮 can be done with only fingers 🤌🏽. Moisturize regularly. People with straight hair wash and condition their hair (aka moisture) multiple times a week. Someone with curly hair can skip the washing and do that only 1 to 2x a week. Anyway to each their own 😊

[@jeanninegorden8142]

Hey boo!!

[@killahkurlz7157]

PSA. if youre worried about frizz, research hair botox.

[@YuGiHo]

14:02 "Things to do, Gross." I felt that in my soul.

[@paulziiee]

if you're doing a series about tv reviews, I'd definitely watch that, it's like an online tv club; I won't have to talk to my BF about a show he knows nothing about!