Reactions to My LONG Natural Hair IRL (Positive and Negative😖)

[@moremiaj4786]

To all women, if you see a woman and her hair looks nice, regardless of the length it was yesterday..... You say it looks nice.... DO NOT ASK IF IT IS HER HAIR. IT IS RUDE.

[@gigibeal]

this!! it’s part of being a girls girl 😭

[@mellowillow]

I agree wholeheartedly. What’s wild is the amount of men who ask me if my hair is real. I would rather be ignored.

[@TriggaTreDay]

The fact that it is not your real hair is the only reason why you would feel some type of way about that question. Most people don’t ask this question anyways, but for us girls that have long thick hair it doesn’t matter if people ask us if it’s our hair or not. Stand tall in your truth. If I am curious about how someone got their hair a certain way I am going to ask the needed questions. Because if it’s her real hair I will know if I need to get clip-in hair or not. Some people are a freak of nature and have double the thickness of this girl in the video. May hair looks just like hers but it’s a little looser in the front and we have the same thickness. Even I like added more hair to make my hair insanely thick. It’s ok for people to ask you that question. Because regardless of what they will still compliment you on how amazing your skills are.

[@keke5577]

It's not rude in my opinion. There are many reasons to ask that question.

[@moremiaj4786]

@@TriggaTreDay TBH, not everyone was brought up with decent home training and sensitivity. And so I understand where you might be coming from.

[@PrettyPrincess9609]

I’m a black woman with long mid back length natural hair. I get a lot of shrinkage but I started stretching my natural hair since I get a lot of fairy knots and tangles when I let it shrink up. I noticed when I went out with my family with my big natural hair in its stretched state, I got ALOT of stares. I was asked by multiple people if I’m wearing a wig. I also dealt with a waiter at a restaurant grabbing my hair when I went on vacation with my family to Mexico.

[@questioneverythingtv]

The touching would have triggered me so bad 😡😡😡

[@klarken7710]

That’s so aggressive!

[@lisamac2403]

When I went to Mexico, the people there were really fascinated with my curly hair. Many people asked to touch it.

[@Janary08]

That's rude and unprofessional of the waiter

[@MethodiousMind]

He’d’ve pulled back a stump. The nerve😤

[@saphire2214]

I have locs and get the same attention and responses by both black and white people. We're in 2024 and the mindset hasn't really changed.

[@ericaloveskorea]

I thought when I got locs people would stop questioning if my hair was mine, but nope I continued to get questioned. 😂 People would also assumed that I had my locs for years and years more than I did. They also assumed my thoughts started off very short but such misconceptions, lol! 😆

[@jacijune]

Yup somebody ask me if my locs were mine or if I have extensions. I didn't even know that was a thing.

[@roni7172]

Yes, the same thing happened to me a few days ago, someone I know grabbed my locs, said they were nice and asked if they were all mine 🙄

[@beverlyseymour2171]

I have locs and the same reactions.

[@ChemicalX29]

WHY WHEN YA GET LONG NATURAL HAIR YA ACT SURPRISE WHEN PEOPLE ASK IF ITS YOUR ?? if your black it’s weird because MOST/MAJORITY of black people don’t grow hair long. YOU KNEW THIS BEFORE when ya’ll hair (s) was short ya acting brand new..my natural hair is “16” and I understand EVERY-TIME someone ask because before my hair got long I WAS ALSO ONE OF THOSE people and so were YALL !! stop acting stupid as if you always had long hair FOH I SEE RIGHT THORUGH YA.

[@SoldierofYAHUAH88]

I remember when I went to Amsterdam with my friend. I was rocking some blue box braids and this Chinese lady came up to me and said "excuse me I love your hair is it for real?" I said no they are extensions and she asked if she could touch it amd normally I wouldn't permit that but, she seemed so sweet so I said yes and she started asking me more questions about it and complimenting it. She seemed so amazed 😂. She actually made my day because that day I wasn't feeling good at all. That same day I had a random guy shout out " I like your hair "😂. I think sometimes we don't realise just how amazing our hair is.

[@teoleno4019]

I lived in Japan as well, and yes, most Japanese people are obsessed with bleaching their hair. It ends up looking weird agenst their skin tone, since the natural black looks the best.

[@bellebonebag8096]

Yeahh same, when I visited Ikebukuro I noticed so many women with hair literally matching their skin tone, it looked very odd

[@leidyvanessa8187]

They are weird !!!

[@sdanzey6962]

My son lives in Japan he’s a Marine and loves it there he plans on staying😂

[@Nazinsky]

@@leidyvanessa8187be kind.

[@leidyvanessa8187]

@@Nazinsky I am they're weird. Have you seen those managuas, mohuas? Seriously...

[@Nerrrddi]

I had to pause at auntie's comment "I need you in my life"😂😂😂😂😂😂 I was dying LOL but this was such a sweet and interesting video! Keep teaching us how to fish girl ❤

[@Simply_Mimi1017]

Hahahaha I was in tears

[@kayeceeharmon]

Lmaoo same

[@littleleah310]

😭 you can tell shes funny

[@karllytskfk8471]

Honestly.. Without context that could give any vibe.. stalking, trafficking, romantic love, obsession... And that's what kills me more😭

[@ifshesopleases]

hahhahaha I felt the same! 😂😂😂😂❤️ And thank-you for your comment!

[@BaMbI386]

I hate when ppl act like it’s impossible for black women to have long natural hair.

[@Eveningbreeze721]

But let's be real.. We don't see it often. And the focus seems to be on bundles and more bundles. I think it just comes from anecdotal evidence.

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

@@Eveningbreeze721key word here “impossible”. Blk people have gone through two major slave trades, colonialism, a complete stripping away of culture and knowledge passed down about our hair, Eurocentrism living in the west, wth do you expect it to LOOK like? With the right education, mindset, and actual self love, it IS very possible.

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

@@Eveningbreeze721my own AFRICAn grandma didn’t really know how to take care of her hair bc she put it in a relaxer. Kenya was COLONIZED. School girls are sometimes forced to cut it off because the British preferred it that way and they pass it off as “a way for (BLK) children to focus on their education” because apparently were the only race with hair that’s too much of a distraction

[@junecat1597]

​@@Eveningbreeze721You're right. It's still relatively uncommon to see black women with their own natural hair that is a long length. There's no denying that fact.---whatever the reason. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@PoeCommunicateATL]

The problem is that soooo many sisters do were hair grown out of the heads of non-blacks. WE make other people confused.

[@Giggles50]

Beautiful hair and the rude Japanese lady was clearly jealous. It makes no sense to make negative comments. I love how calm you are and you don’t let the negativity get to you.

[@jms5752]

It’s not always jealousy babe! Some people have different preferences but that lady should have kept her rude comment to herself!

[@Giggles50]

@@jms5752I never said it was always jealousy ma’am. I specifically referenced the rude lady. I’ve heard many stories and I definitely can tell if something is related to jealousy. Preferences? Please elaborate.

[@littleleah310]

@@jms5752true!! shed racist!!

[@PoeCommunicateATL]

It's our/your insecurity that has you convinced the Chinese (not Japanese... they could say that was rude) woman could only be being "rude" by wanting to touch our hair. Have you ever thought that, maybe, she just wants to learn more about the world and the people in it? I've seen TONS of Black people stroke and feel the hair of white people but those white people don't seem to have a problem with it.

[@gaudylady7]

@@jms5752 And why didn't she keep that preference to herself? LOL

[@JulietRobin]

I will not tell you how to do your business. My hair is probably six inches long. I will NEVER allow anyone to touch my hair. They could have just come out of the toilet and not wash their hands or picked their nose. Plus people have energy. Some people could be secretly jealous of your hair. You don’t know what strangers have in their minds. Next thing you know is that your hair keeps dropping.

[@naoedouard4422]

JESUS died for you and loves you very much!

[@CrazyBunniePanda]

I agree.. she is allowing strangers to have free access to her body. It’s weird.. no boundaries… smh.. it’s funny at the moment for her, but you don’t know peoples true emotions or feelings.. way to naive and immature….

[@JulietRobin]

@@naoedouard4422 Hallelujah!

[@HandleBerries]

@@CrazyBunniePandait’s not that deep for her obviously,no need to get so upset for her

[@CrazyBunniePanda]

@@HandleBerries I’m not upset.

[@beautifuldreamer8803]

Other races do fixate on length also. I work in a European hair salon. Also, a 🇷🇴 Romanian girl I used to work with, had really long hair already and still wanted it to be longer.

[@KevvaPMcK]

Yes. And other races also ask if your hair is "real" when it's that gorgeous and long (to non-black women). Why? Because among all "races" today (for lack of a better word), extensions are extremely common these days.

[@fyali1632]

@@KevvaPMcKunless tou have surveyed at least 10,000people then that general assumotion that other races dont wear extension can 🚫 t be accepted😊

[@KevvaPMcK]

@@fyali1632 Did you READ what I wrote? I am saying they DO.

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

All groups prefer long hair. That’s not surprising

[@HandsomePutin]

So it's a fixation and a problem because they're another race 😂 goooooot it

[@rozzzr2]

I’m a 75 year old great grandma who’s been on KZbin for years! I’ve never seen a naturalista as beautiful as you. Your hair is stunning and your personality compliments your beauty. I’m a new subbie!❤

[@edithchinyere7387]

Hi 👋 😊

[@ifshesopleases]

Aww welcome, glad to have you here!

[@jr3kg3]

💯👏🏽💯✨️🥂👋🏽😉

[@marajones1828]

My sister and I grew up with long natural hair that my mother always kept heat straightened. Because of this, we always had people questioning if our hair was real or if we were mixed with something. It didn't help that we grew up in a predominantly white suburban neighborhood (which is why my mom always had our hair straight so we could assimilate and stand out less) I swear it made it worse.

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

It’s called interrogation at some point. Beyond curiosity, it’s not with positive intentions

[@TriggaTreDay]

I hate when people ask me am I mixed because of how long my hair is. I think that upsets me more than people touching my hair without asking.

[@denyshadials5702]

If you like straight hair, great. Stop expecting everyone else to like what you like. It’s silly really. Like the number of Asians flooding the comment section of natural hair shorts asking the same ignorant question. If someone wanted to straighten their hair-they would have already done it. Or worse, *telling you (when absolutely no one asked) to straighten it because it’ll ‘look better’.* Opinions are best expressed subjectively not objectively. It’s far more accurate.

[@KevvaPMcK]

My ex husband (who's white) had a dislike for straight hair. I didn't know that perception of straight hair still exists.

[@denyshadials5702]

@@KevvaPMcK It sure does unfortunately. Some just completely convinced that straight is ‘normal’ and any other texture isn’t. I’m over the unnecessary arrogance and rudeness.

[@KevvaPMcK]

@@denyshadials5702 It's really not prettier. It can be plain flat sometimes. But I like full hair no matter the texture.

[@denyshadials5702]

@@KevvaPMcK Preferences are preferences, but that’s all they are. We’re all welcome to have them, I just dislike them being impressed upon others as if they’re supposed to automatically feel the same way.

[@KevvaPMcK]

@@denyshadials5702 I know. At least we're in a day and age when more ppl than ever express themselves and feel confident in their choices.

[@TurnAwayNow]

I honestly don't like feeling like a unicorn & I don't like how vain people are. I have always gotten looks but when my hair is out people literally stop in their tracks. I can see them processing that it's real. The disbelief & shock is obvious & quite annoying. But I do love my hair although I don't style it often/have the energy at this point. I have daughters so my hair is not a priority at this point. I am happy that I found a genius way to hide my hair while wearing it out. It's actually genius & exciting. I digress.

[@OrealeXO]

How do you hide your hair? In scarves?

[@peacebalance8067]

This is my experience exactly. People even follow me. They make racist remarks sometimes, or they say it must be so hard doing all of that hair. And I just usually say it's really not as hard as you might think. I feel like this unicorm that people have to stop and stare or find reasons to ask questions to get a closer look. I dislike the unnecessary attention, delays, or overall inconsiderate actions to stop me from my life to gawk at my appearance. Then people who don't understand my concern, get mad when I speak out on it and say I should be grateful I got a compliment. Thank you for the compliment, but my life is not wrapped up in how people perceive me, compliment me, or their opinion. My life does not revolve around beauty, or if I'm pretty enough. That's a trap. I'm not living for likes. I care about my appearance enough to shower, freshen up and be presentable for the days events.

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

@@peacebalance8067people are obsessed with bw

[@zgirlizfine]

I find it more offensive when my own race try to do that whole test for track touch..like they don’t know our hair grows to long lengths

[@ebbyoma7008]

The way I relate to this so hard. Plus I HATE when ppl (mostly men) ogle at me in public like I’m just a thing walking on 2 legs when I’m walking alone in public. Makes me mutter under my breath every time and wanna disappear. This is part of why I enjoy my baggier darker palette dress style and wear my hair put away more bc when I was dressing more conventional and with more color I would get SO much unwanted/ dehumanizing attention. Like have some self control with your eyes and how u act w ppl in public you untrained sleazy animal. Cant even be a woman existing by yourself in public without some male acting untrained, okay rant over 😊

[@amb7412]

I love your hair and it is beautiful! My hair is passed my shoulders and a White woman who was attending a craft event weekly with me, asked me if my hair was a weave and I laughed and said "No." She didn't believe me until I dragged my hand through it. She said that she didn't think that Black women could grow their long and I told her that she was mistaken. I love my natural hair will not allow anyone else to style my hair, it response to my care solely. My smile cause a stir with people. They love to ask me where I got my teeth done and they ask if I had braces. I've never had braces and I've never had any cosmetic work done on my teeth. I tell them the secret is brushing at least 3 times a day and flossing. I never missed a scheduled dentist appointment. I've had the same dentist for nearly 35 years. My dentist tells everyone that I have the best teeth and use to complain that he'd go broke if he waited for me to need his services. He said this until he started doing my husband and son's teeth. They keep him rolling in dough! It's amazing what people will pick apart. The reason why I take care of my teeth is that my Great-Grandmother use to tell me that she wanted to die with her own teeth. I wasn't aware that people could keep their own teeth for a lifetime. But, you can if you take care of them and she did die with her own beautiful teeth, I hope to do the same and my own hair. Thank you for this wonderful video.

[@Simplythetruthfulone]

Wow! I think what it boils down to is most people are jealous. I mean for real. People grow up in such a state of lack that they literally have to believe the negative about others to keep their mental health. I'm glad you have natural teeth and hair and can keep it until you move on in old age. I'm sorry people second guess your beauty, but it's rooted in their own insecurities, and has nothing to do with you. People like that will need false teeth in old age😌

[@KKFilms-pq4xi]

Came for the hair, stayed for the golden personality 👏🏿✨

[@ifshesopleases]

Aww haha thank-you!

[@simplyandoime7344]

I had a hard time dealing with the attention, but I'm used to it now, and I LOVE it. I love being celebrated as well💕.

[@ifshesopleases]

Same! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@enjoyyyyable]

same

[@karllytskfk8471]

The admission of you roommate could have brought tears to my eyes.. so touching

[@ifshesopleases]

I know, right

[@thisiscoilette]

5:15 'a part sold separately' took me all the way out 🤣🤣🤣

[@GrowWithDimande]

😂😂

[@Victoria-_]

😂

[@AsandaWilliamson]

You are so right about natural hair being beautiful in every length. My hair just got long enough to tie on a burn. I get complements almost all the time, even if I am wearing it in its shrunken state.

[@ifshesopleases]

Exactly!

[@lesegomonageng6329]

I just want to find out if I’m the only person who fears her hair being cut by a stranger when it’s loose? I know it sounds like an irrational fear but my hair is just above bra strength length, it’s the longest and healthiest I’ve ever seen it after 7 years in this natural journey- keeping in mind I’m South African and we are still new to the idea of growing long natural hair, those people are few and far between like unicorns in our setting. I only blow it out twice a year for trimmings and recently did so and so many people complemented me and it made me feel happy that my effort was paying off. But I also got this irrational fear of people cutting my hair. Especially as it branches from people randomly touching your hair when they are curious instead of asking and it was a thing in my country at some point for people to cut long dreadlocks in the city centres. It’s weird, I know but I just wanted to know is it a fear you ever have and does it go away with time? Thank you for sharing your stories 😊 it really has created a safe space to share

[@celesteadeanes4478]

I suspect my realities would sneak up behind me and cut my hair off

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

There is nothing wrong with feeling oposed to ppl cutting your hair. My hair was past my shoulders a good pretty length. I said “trim on” to the stylist and she cut my hair so lopsided and I can barely put it into a puff!!!!!

[@OWNN23]

I’ve been on a hair journey. My edges were very thin and length wasn’t going past shoulders. I’ve been using my diy natural hair remedy in making videos for before and after. Please subscribe let me know what you think and if it’s something you can use☺️

[@ifshesopleases]

Thank-you so much for your comment! Funny enough this happened to me when I was a kid! Except it was a classmate instead of a stranger. She snuck up behind me and cut 1/4 of my hair off 😭 And my hair wasn't even long back then 💔😭 I don't feel scared of this anymore, though. I understand why this would be scary, but I really encourage you to show and enjoy your beautiful hair

[@lesegomonageng6329]

@@ifshesopleases oh my word.. this sounds horrific 😢.. but kids can be malicious when jealous. I'll do my best to just enjoy the journey instead of feeding too much into the fear. Let's hope with time, I feel less stressed out.. thank you 😀🌼

[@kianamoore5390]

Thank you for sharing your stories and your hair care practices. Some of your stories parallel my own, and I will say sometimes it can be shocking (or humorous in other situations) the reactions people have when they see a black woman with long hair. It is always interesting that people do not believe our hair doesn’t grow from our scalp like their own. That initial shock and the phrase “that’s YOUR hair? All your hair?” Will always be a constant with black women who choose to grow their hair long

[@xLadyRaine]

The story with your roommate was so sweet 🥹

[@ifshesopleases]

Thank-you! ❤️

[@Devi_Seona]

15:05 your natural hair color is naturally the most beautiful hair color for your skin and your eyes, nature is always right.

[@ifshesopleases]

I agree!

[@jonestacara]

I love your attitude, kindness, and class. So many people would get nasty attitudes instead of grace that you have demonstrated

[@ifshesopleases]

Oh wow, thank-you so much for your kind comment!

[@MoniMeka]

"Standing there like a part sold separately. Like bread with no purpose."🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@AmberSeti]

It’s a shame there is a stigma for black women to have long hair wow

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

Having black hair is a stigma enough. Having a lot of it, ppl can’t believe you

[@Simplythetruthfulone]

There's a stigma for black women to have anything. People have a lot of jealousy's towards black women and try to convince us that's not what it is.

[@MyMamaEra]

Girl, your storytelling is impeccable 😅

[@ExoticalsUnited]

Wow . I’m not surprised at all , especially with the auntie comment 😂 people will try to use YOUR skills to THEIR advantage without giving anything back to you

[@canesugar911]

It's called being a community. She just asked for advice she didn't ask for money or anything. You also have to understand that it is a cultural thing

[@fluffy_oreos]

I’d love if you can introduce us to all your accessories! I’d like to spruce up my hair some more but don’t know what would work best for me! :)) (Also thank you for your videos! My hair is at waist length thanks to you and your tips! ^o^) Wishing you luck on getting into university! 💖

[@Victoria-_]

Me too!!

[@ifshesopleases]

Thank-you for your comment! I am currently filming this, it will be out in a few weeks! Also, stay tuned for my video this Friday as I credit you for it ❤️

[@fluffy_oreos]

@@ifshesopleases Awesome! Definitely looking forward to it!! Thank you so much! :))

[@ssayima]

I had freeformed locks for about 15 years. They grew to be so long and healthy, surprising even me because I didn't really have a model for it. I just got them because I was going to a foreign country and I didn't know how I was going to manage my hair. It was supposed to be a temporary solution but they got better and better. The most memorable moments were when other African people would tell me, 'I didn't know our hair could grow that long.' Well, neither did I. I loved my locs. But I’ve cut them now. I wanted to see if I could apply the kind of freedom I felt with freeformed locs to my natural hair. I defy most natural hair rules. I wash or rinse my hair all the time like I did with my locs. I leave it unstyled, just moisturized. I once picked having locs because I thought that was the only way to live the lifestyle I wanted. I don’t regret it. I learned so much about the potential of my hair, and now I wish I could tell everybody with Afro-textured hair that if long wash days and styling aren’t for you, you can still enjoy your hair. I touch my hair all the time because it’s out all the time (which I found is a big no-no in the natural hair community). Like, it doesn’t have to be that serious to grow and love your hair. All types of personalities can do it their way just like we have different dressing styles. I call my hair my halo; even when I do nothing to it, it just is.

[@MentalEYEzations]

I have had both positive and negative reactions to my hair when loose natural or locked. Currently I am locked. My locks are 7 years old and just to my tailbone. It takes a while for my new growth to lock, so I keep my locks hydrated, moisturized and partially pulled up. Stares mainly from Asian, Hispanic and White women. Their stares tend to be curious or disgust. Some Black women stare also, but it's more admirable/questionable. I live in the US. What I find most interesting is that my friends in the UK have an odd reaction to my hair. Once one of my friends suggested that I might be getting my hair done a little bit longer each time for the appearance of hair growth. My other friend just gave me a blank stare when I mentioned my hair growth.

[@raynellemccathern3018]

They're not your friends. They're jealous of you.

[@zgirlizfine]

You are so kind Precious! I just can’t tolerate people touching my hair head or pregnant belly

[@sharoncarty5096]

Whom God bless no man curse. You didn't buy it but even if you did. It is still yours.Enjoy your beautiful hair my sister.

[@ifshesopleases]

Thank-you!

[@Heyitsdes1]

I just cannot believe people CARE so much! And some are jealous! When I see a beautiful head of hair, I just quietly wish them a good day to myself, like blessing them, and keep it moving.

[@neema5942]

This was such a wholesome video. I need youtube to add a feature that will permit me to like this video more than once ❤.

[@ifshesopleases]

Aww thank-you for this lovely comment! ❤️

[@SpeakEnEllipsis]

It was the “Impossible babe I love my hair” for meeeeeeee❤

[@Nclk619]

Best way to answer a question you don't like or for whatever reason you don't want to respond is asking back the exactly this "What do you mean" if the person asks you back " what part you don't understand", you say "the meaning of your question". Believe me when I tell you most of people tangle themselves in a spiral of explanations and nonsense, and all you have to do is to watch in silence and smirk if you feel a little mean. 😆

[@beatrizgalvaao]

I always had straight perms while living in Japan. Last year I decided to stop and this year I did my big chop. Everyone, with no exception, didn’t believe it was my natural hair “where did you do this curly perm?” “Do you curl it every morning for work??” 😅😅 some say it is pretty, some say it doesn’t suit me lol Japanese people are too blunt sometimes 🥲

[@beeznhoney4323]

20:44-20:52 The amount of shed hair you get makes me feel better about the quantity that I usually get when I wash/detangle my hair. No matter how careful and gentle I am I'd get _smedium_ wads of hair that used to drive me crazy. I'd watch other natural hair videos and they'd have 20 strands of shed hair which made me think I had to be doing something wrong, but what!?🤔 I finally came to the conclusion that my hair is prone to shed a bit more than (100 per day) other people. It's 4Z, mid shoulder, thick/dense/coily/knot prone & will easily _loc._ If I'm not regularly over-combing & style manipulating it daily then I'm going to have a healthy amount of shed hair. Thanks for your video. You're equally as beautiful as your hair👸🏾 EDIT: Congrats and we'll wishes on all of your endeavors.

[@esthertjones]

Great video! I really enjoyed listening to your stories and your perspective on people's reactions. I often find I get complimented on accessories as well. I love adding bows and flowers and pins and butterfly clips, especially in the summer, and sometimes I'll do a style and think maybe it looks too silly or whimsical, but those end up being the days I get the most compliments. 😃 I think a lot more people than we realise want to add cute accessories to their hair but are afraid of doing so.

[@sonymicronin]

Bro I’m boy with an Afro and when I was at work an African auntie thought my hair had to ask if my hair was real 😂

[@kayniyreeee]

😂😂😂

[@Nethanda]

Most times it's admiration from Africans. Now nonblack people? Tell them to mind their damned business. We don't fixate on their features or their hair.

[@judymurray191]

As a hairdresser I’m guilty of the hair touching but not to a complete stranger. Never. It’s in the same category as belly touching on a pregnant woman EVEN if you know them well. It offends some people and you should not invade their personal space.

[@JessAnonymous]

youre literally on my vision board!!! Omg i found you unintentionally!!! Your hair is GORG and literally m goals ❤ Miseŕable elders are truly something else and hearing how the japanese roomate felt inspired by you is hella inspiring!

[@ifshesopleases]

Oh wow ❤️❤️ I'm glad you found me! Thank-you for watching!

[@annajones9973]

I enjoyed your storytelling 🎉 I often get compliments on my shoulder length hair when I wear it out .

[@ifshesopleases]

Aww thank-you so much! And that's so lovely to hear! I'm sure your hair is beautiful! ❤️

[@kainoateague8209]

this video went by so fast, i havent been this hooked in a youtube video in such a long time. i loved seeing all of your different hairstyles while listening to you speak

[@PieceMeals]

I have to disagree that people show love for short natural hair. They don't. Long natural hair like yours will garner lots of compliments because people find it rare esp in the UK.

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

Hmmm I’m “short-medium” and I got positive attention at a David’s bridal and at the mall from white and black ppl. With my Afro out. It was a braid out brushed out a bit.

[@hrhsophiathefirst4060]

Lol, I am relaxed for 25 years and started "growing it about 10 years ago. I seldom wear my hair down but I get all the rude crap. Had one lady ask me where I bought the bundles! These days it is mid back and I wear it in a side plait. I don't get anyone touching it as I am 6ft1 and let's just say I am not the warm and approachable type, my default face is a RBF. Between my height and my hair I do get taken for a drag queen quite often! I have had women in the hair store or at the salon asking me to show them the products I use. It is usually harmless but the belief that we cannot grow hair is so inundated in our minds that it is a little sad.

[@LotsofLisa]

What an informative, real talk video. I did the big chop a couple years ago, during the lockdown and been enjoying the journey of growing my hair natural hair. I firmly believe the reason black women have a hard time accepting our hair and the journey is society. I’ve been in the military where they made actually regulations that made it impossible to wear natural hair. I still work for the government in an office that has mostly older, more white than black & brown people. You know “we “talk. Most of us wear wigs, sew ins, hairpieces slick back ponytails/buns and twists. Look, We want to do good work, not be the subject of questions, touching and curiosity all day and go home. I’ve had conversations where people were looking at my hair instead of me. I know good intentions and bad. Especially, whyte men asking something like, what do I look like without your wig? I said a human fucking being. I told him he has obviously not been told off or knocked unconscious by a black woman and either walk away from my desk, or choose from the aforementioned. He also asked another black woman with braids, “where does her hair “end” or something? I asked him why is he so concerned about black women’s hair?! (Loudly!) your hair is beautiful and you should be proud. I wish we all could be and not be treated like oddities in a freak show.

[@vindictivetiger]

this is the first time I've seen your videos, but it's so cool that your esthetic is what I'm currently sketching as a way to reconstruct the Reconstruction era in favor of Black women. Your hair is glorious!!

[@Eveningbreeze721]

I love the message about inspiring people with your own self love.

[@ifshesopleases]

Aww thank-you!

[@colorbugoriginals4457]

Your hair is GORGEOUS. That "just straighten it" comment was so bizarre!!

[@ifshesopleases]

Thank-you!

[@AMcDub0708]

I’m wondering if she was autistic. No filter and not understanding what’s wrong with being so blunt.

[@coilyheadedbby]

This was so entertaining and relatable to watch as someone with natural hair. I just looooove the fascination that comes with our hair. And it doesn’t matter…..long or short……our hair is simply beautiful ❤❤

[@ifshesopleases]

Thank-you so much! Also, I completely agree! I love the fascination as well

[@SmartyPoohBear]

I love that bow half-up-half-down style for your hair. It suits that hair so perfectly. Even made me misread your channel name as "She So Princess". XD

[@ifshesopleases]

Aww haha, I love this!

[@REPENTFORTHEKINGDOMISATHAND]

I want to see your accessories and how you use them!! I see a few pictures of diff styles of claw clips and satin/silk scrunchies

[@ifshesopleases]

Coming soon :) I'm currently filming :) Thank-you for your comment!

[@Loveladylove]

It’s gorgeous haters are going to hate, you inspire me so much thank you sister❤️🙏🏾❤️

[@binbin9196]

Your hair is beautiful. Your grace and strength dealing with all of the rude comments is amazing. God bless. ❤

[@stray_cupcake271]

I remember when I was in elementary and middle school, and would wear a high puff a lot in my hair. Almost everyday ppl would ask “is that your real hair?😀”. This got soooo annoying since they automatically assumed my hair was a clip on or something because I had thick and big hair.😕

[@stephlon6757]

You are just so adorable , i know you said you are a big woman , lol, but I find your smile and personality adorable with a soothing voice . On behalf of that aunty , thank you for finding humor in that whole encounter and not getting offended. Trust me, some People would have 😅. Thank you for sharing 😊

[@coconut2227]

Yay!! I'm so glad you made this video, I love your candor & the grace you give people in social interactions. The world needs more of it. I could hear you tell stories with beautiful photos/videos of your hair in the background for hours. (but I think that may count as hypnosis🤔).

[@ifshesopleases]

Thank-you so much for this awesome idea! I hope you don't mind me crediting you ❤️ It was so fun to make as I've never really thought about it before! If there's anything else you'd like to see, feel free to let me know!

[@a.cooper5260]

Thank you for sharing your story. Watching your videos is helping me through my own journey from relaxed to natural. Keep inspiring others.

[@ifshesopleases]

I'm so glad! You are so welcome ❤️❤️ Thanks for watching!

[@sheherbsmelanated]

Just found your channel and love your positivity. I'm a 58 year old mom and grandmother who has been wearing her hair very short for years. This video of yours make me want to grow out my hair now but have no idea how to treat it. I will look at your other videos for tips and natural products I can use.

[@RMMomma4Eva]

You know what I started with? Plain water (or a gentle shampoo), it will clean your hair just fine. 😂 Then apply plain hair grease and cream after. Google the LOC (liquid - oil - cream) method. (It is easy to become a "product junkie" buying a bunch of products that could even damage your hair, don't do it.) Then put the hair up in a bun, two braids, etc. - a "protective style" - and basically leave it alone. Don't comb it or manipulate it heavily while dry. Just smooth, oil and cream it to daily style. And the most important tip for naturals - ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS detangle your natural hair first BEFORE washing. (You don't need to wash more than once or twice a month.) If you don't, it will mat and break off. If you do, your hair won't break and will grow to your ankles 😊🙋🏽‍♀️❤️✨

[@marciapeak893]

It's sad that so many black women wear wigs and extensions that if you have natural or relaxed hair down your back, hair that grows from your scalp, they assume you are wearing wigs or extensions. That happens to my sis in law whose hair is down to her waist.

[@nomcebomthembu383]

I loved the video, I'm glad that most of your experiences were positive. Could you make a video on all the hairstyles you can do with your loose natural hair once you're out of the protective styles? 😊😊

[@ifshesopleases]

Thank-you! Sure, I can! Though I'm not sure when my mini-twists are coming out ❤️

[@nomcebomthembu383]

@@ifshesopleases No problem, thanks for replying ❤🤗

[@MH-hw4uh]

Yes, I know the feeling, I recently had to send some pictures to someone, to prove it’s coming from my scalp. I normally don’t have my hair loose only in single braids, one or two or 4 and six. So I had to show after wash day. I got much compliments but I’m sure the not her hair is there too. No I don’t like people touching my hair. I’m germ a phobic 😂

[@FitBabe]

I truly enjoyed listening to your stories! It was such an eye opener when you spoke about inspiring others with your own self love. The Auntie, the roommate, the salon owner, the little girl who said your hair looked like a princess- all such endearing stories ❤. In one of the pictures (with the yellow scrunchie and yellow & white dress) you actually do remind me of Belle from Beauty and the Beast 🙂. I really admire the way you accessorize your hair, so I’d love to see an accessory collection video!

[@pamlahughes263]

You are so lovely and inspiring. I’m 66 and learning to enjoy my natural hair too. I enjoy hearing you speak and tell your stories. Thank you for that.

[@whistlehammock]

you really have one of the most beautiful heads of hair i've ever seen, just started the video but wanted to compliment you! i wish there were more women with hair like yours in the media, i work with a lot of little girls with a similar hair texture to you and it makes me so sad to think of them feeling unhappy about their beautiful hair in the future because of bad people and society. i hope they can have someone like you to inspire them and look up to in their lives

[@shellythompson3740]

Sometimes it's exhausting being of a darker hue, also known as black. Seriously, people, we can grow hair, we can be brilliant, we can build nations, etc. Simply put, we are human. Good grief!!

[@angfirefighter]

Your hair is gorgeous, just like you! Another woman admiring and showing love!

[@AyuricoraZdream]

Omg i felt every word of this video. i do put a lot of accessories into my hair too (bows, flowers )i have always tried to celebrate these beautiful hair and inspire grown women and little black girls to at least LOVE this part of them unconditionnally. I live in France but I was born in Gabon 🇬🇦. I had a pretty similar experience be cause I don’t see other girls like me at every corner but i’m so happy when i do ❤. Keep on shining, you are beautiful 🤩

[@ifshesopleases]

Omgosh kindred spirits! I feel exactly the same!

[@RoyaltyAC]

I love this! It’s very encouraging ❤. I would love to see an accessories video!

[@ifshesopleases]

Coming soon! Currently filming ❤️❤️

[@zerosix042013]

The density 😍 I have easy hair 3c/4a low density medium porosity fine hair but it’s hard to grow my hair below my shoulder blades my ends tend to split easily and I’m also a bit lazy with hairmasks 😂 I used to do henna every month but also stopped doing that because of the staining using certain oils and butters would make the henna stain when moist. But no problems when my hair was dry. I don’t mind people touching my hair when it’s dry but of course it’s the polite way to ask before touching of course. I love your hair when I see kinky kids complain to their parents about their hair especially mixed kids I get a little sad cause I only see so much potential and hair styles. I’m a mixed kid too and my mom did not know how to deal with my hair getting into natural products and trying stuff on my skin what also worked for my hair and also experimenting. What works for a lot of other people did not work for me. Like Shea butter should be too greasy for my hair because it’s fine and thin but my curls love it and coconut weighs my hair down and makes it thinner. Please I love women with short hair styles I will compliment them whenever I have a chance! I do like how you take care of your hair and also that you use accessoires I’m also an accesories hoarder my hubby said I could open my own store 😂. I see so many kinky curly sisters on the streets these days it makes me happy cause I never knew there where so many out their with similar hair!

[@lazorajones7748]

Great story. It is amazing the impact we as Black people have on others around us when we truly accept ourselves. Thank you😊

[@Nazinsky]

That first lady just seemed interested and in awe.

[@ifshesopleases]

I feel the same

[@Hulachowdown]

Your hair is so beautiful! I have a lot of funny stories when people are shocked that my hair is all real. I have almost waist length curly hair and people are always commenting on it when I wear it down or have it done nicely.

[@auroraborealis13579]

Your hair is ✨otherworldly✨❤❤❤❤❤

[@ThePlaygroundEarth]

Stunning natural beauty and definitely an inspiration when it comes to embracing whats naturally yours❤

[@solotravel4life88]

Hiiiii, Love your videos!! Could you someday (if you wish) talk about your experience in Japan and maybe some tips and tricks about how you learned / studied Japanese?? Wishing you the best!! 😊😊 (I’ve just realised that you have a few videos never mind!!)

[@lmbmua7430]

I love your hair, coily, natural, with or without the lovely accesories , with a lot of ways of styling. Definetly if i see you i'll say a compliment. Being myself a snowflake (i'm always cold indeed😂), used to tint my hair with colors, shave mi head, repeat...till 11 months ago,then i and let it grow natural....i didn't remember i had that dark, curly hair, only knew it was voluminous and thick...(yours it's another world tho❤ ) it grown soo quickly!! More ppl, black or not, should try their natural hair.

[@carinecampier]

People generally assume my hair is fake, just like I generally assume theirs isn't... 😂

[@zaidmoges374]

Hi Beautiful! I understand why auntie needed you in her life, you hair is gorgeous! At my Big age... had me dying. 🤣🤣Yes, our aunties and grandma's have strength in their grips. Continue on your positive path. The haters will never be reasoned with so just stay above it all. My crazy experience is from my Nigerian friend who asked if it was my real hair while she raked her hand thru my hair to feel for whatever. That had me so shocked I didn't even reacted, I just answered, "Yes." and walked away. Now that I have gone all natural, more people are wanting to touch it. I stand on my space and say NO, I am not out here for them. Cheers Bella!!

[@FineNaturalHairROCKS]

Your hair is absolutely gorgeous and I love that you shared your story and experiences with us. I'm currently dealing with some damage from a hair weave gone wrong so I'm looking for all the ways to re-grow and re-learn to cherish my hair so that this never happens again. Fantastic video btw!!!!! P.S. Sending you lots of love and good positive vibes for acceptance into your top university of choice! 💛

[@TanEbear]

Ok I've been wondering who you reminded me of during this whole video. Fgured it out...sza! Lol both of you are very pretty

[@ifshesopleases]

Oh haha thank-you! I get that a lot on KZbin!

[@dari4303]

The story about your roommate embracing her natural hair color made my heart smile. You never know how your words can change someone's perspective. You gave her the courage to take pride in who she is and her natural hair. ❤️

[@bohemienneprincesse8665]

Beautiful! Not only your hair...

[@alexandrajackson2306]

I have had long hair most of my life. I recently did a big chop down to a pixie cut. I get more compliments than i ever had with my long hair. Now i plan to keep it short fir a while 😊

[@ChubsPuffs]

When I get to the length GODDDD will be the only entity in the universe that could humble me 🙈 so beautiful wow wow wow 🥰 P.S. just wanted to put it out there beautiful hair is not only about length, it’s really about the love & adoration you pour into your crown which in turn radiates outwards in your being & confidence🥰 All hair is beautiful!

[@ifshesopleases]

Thank-you so much for your lovely comment!

[@ayamull1067]

I like you so much, and I just met you through this video. Yes, I subscribed.You seem like such a sweet person i honestly couldn't help myself, now I'm about to binge all a few videos.Thank you for posting.

[@1LUV7]

Your hair is beautiful! I really enjoyed the video, it was very encouraging, funny, shocking🫨 and inspirational. thanks so much for sharing!👍🥰

[@howtoandwhatsnew]

I have had long loose natural hair and now I have Sisterlocks for years now. People who see me on a regular basis, have seen my hair grow STILL think it’s extensions. I went to a family reunion last month that we have every 2 years. A cousin said oh you have longer extensions now smh. Ok I know some extensions can have gray hair but dude my locs have gray hair sprinkled throughout. Even when my hair was long and relaxed people thought I had weave. Black women can grow long hair!! Oh and I absolutely do not let anyone I don’t know touch my hair. I had a patient’s wife recently wanting to touch my hair. I told her know and do you know she had the nerve to be offended? I told her I do not let people touch my hair period.

[@AmbulatoryFungus]

DEGORGEOUS long kinky hair! I love it! Been thinking about doing this instead of my locs but i really dont want to start over with short hair

[@RMMomma4Eva]

There are natural hair salons where they use a kind of misting machine (?) to detangle locs - so you don't have to cut them off when taking them down. But the service is very expensive, like a grand or so a pop.. Check Google for your area ❤

[@MoniMeka]

I just think people should ask before touching. It's rude to just come out of nowhere and be like wow, can i touch it???? Then stick your hand in somebody's head before they can even response yes or no, lol. I never touch people's hair though. All I say is omg, i love your hair! Then they will go, awwww thank you!😊 Then I go, enjoy your day, and they go, you do the same! 😁 So, yeah that's it! Lol. I never have an urge to touch somebody's hair because i don't want people doing it to me. Just ask before you reach out and TOUCH somebody! 😂😂😂😂

[@Nethanda]

I'd hit that hand so hard. It's rude. It's racist. It's unhygienic.

[@jazz-axy9924]

We are almost hair twins, except mine was mid back length before I cut it. I share the same opinion on hair touching. The topic has lots of nuance. I take is as a compliment when black women are surprised at my long type 4 hair because it feels like I raised the standard for their own hair. Like "yeah it is real, that means you can have it too!" The heart to heart with your roommate was so sweet. Its times like this that we women realize we aren't so different when it comes to how our hair is a part of us

[@chicchi1682]

first lady sounds like my aunty or grandma XD no boundaries , completely dragging random strangers they like everywhere

[@Hyaphill]

Where I'm from some people have hair like that. They have some sort of mixture in them eg. Indian, Chinese, Caucasian or a combination of several. You should check out Healthy Hair Studio in England. It's a female Nigerian owned and run business.

[@GamerBunny2024]

You have gorgeous long hair! I'm trying to grow mine long (when I was a child it was so long I'd sit on it, lol)- but it's quite the process... I think I blocked it out after years of keeping it short, lol! You inspire me to keep trying & not give up!

[@Seachange01120]

New subbie here. I like the way you turned what otherwise could have been a contentious situation into a teachable moment for the Japanese woman asking why you don't just straighten your hair. Sometimes it can be quite awkward for me when people ask about my hair because it's always been the source of attention. Some people would go so far as to ask my race or what I am mixed with; anybody with common sense can easily see that I am black. For so long, it made me feel as if people were just seeing my hair and not me at all. Years ago, I decided to do the big chop and it actually made people focus on me as a person, wow! I have since grown my hair back to mid-back length. I must say it's been quite a journey in learning about myself as well as other people.

[@Butterfly-yk9bw]

Cant wait!!!

[@ifshesopleases]

I hope you enjoy it!

[@MH-hw4uh]

All the best to you in your future endeavors 🎉❤

[@ifshesopleases]

Thank-you!