Live with a Mortician Talking Prefunding and Prearranging a Funeral

[@raypropps]

When I worked in the funeral home, I got a death call, I did the removal after bringing her into our care. The next day some of her family came in to sign paperwork etc. and some wanted to see her for the last time. So we had a lounge couch. It was very old but so neat it was built into the old big boxes that looked like a suitcase it had legs on it. It became like a little bed with covers and pillow. So I set her fetchers and put a clean hospital gown on her and set it all up. So when her son came in ( he was not there when I did the removal) he told me he didn’t want to see her but after seeing her that it put a different memory in his mind and I was so happy that made my day

[@craigb9489]

Congratulation on your engagement. I wish Josh and you many happy years together.

[@lisabeth479]

Thank You for taking your time for good advice on preplanning. The afternoon I left from meeting with the lady at the funeral home( the first meeting I left with booklets and price lists), the second time, I felt so RELIEVED!! The arrangements are made and my children don’t have to select casket, etc. or guess what I wanted arrangements to be. I have my insurance papers together with my booklet with plans in one place and the funeral home has all of this on computer. Thank You Kari for your guidance from caskets, vaults, insurance, florist, pastoral payments, music options,etc. Whew! It’s really a lot. A huge relief and a HUGE Thank You!🙌🥰

[@catdenels5165]

Thank you SO much for this!!! I asked you to cover this and you delivered!!! ❤🎉

[@cherylclyne9145]

Thanks Kari, Very good video! I missed the live but I still really enjoyed watching this replay. 😊

[@celestesmith3044]

I love how you explain things keep up the good work 👏

[@KaritheMortician]

Thanks, will do!

[@larryulery3729]

My funeral is paid for, at Spring Grove. The one that helped me was great walked me through every step. My grip is set at lakeside mausoleum. Went through the grief when I lost my sister Linda. The funeral home did a great job. Death scares the hell out of me at times.

[@paulbattista7736]

Very informative

[@jhr7434]

Engaged!!! I ❤️it!!! Congratulations to you both!

[@babycakes1402]

It's interesting how different people/funeral homes do things differently, the prime example would be when we planned Mom's, the pastor was there too & it was a 'one & done', by time we left the funeral home that morning after she passed, EVERYTHING was planned, that was in Viroqua, WI, then fast forward 10plus years, other side of the state for my cousin's Dad/my uncle, they gave us 'lists', one for each the florists, the caterers, restaurants to hold the lunch, then it was up to US to go around to these places & arrange everything. I like how we did it in Viroqua & that's also how it was done in Spring Green for my mother-in-law's services, minus the pastor/priest being included in the planning meeting. We got spoiled by Thor Thorson funerals, he was a military guy, everything was military time, so in the midst of your grief, you had the comfort of a little structure to count on, if the person died on Sunday, you go to the funeral home Monday to set up everything, visitation was Tuesday night with a prayer service & funeral was 10am on Wednesday, so that visitation was the night before so it was also for the benefit of those who can't make it to the actual funeral. Grieving, no timeline, no rulebook & it goes in waves. Be kind to & patient with yourself, let your friends help you, & it'll take as long as it takes.

[@babycakes1402]

You can't 'unsee' & you can't 'unknow'. I had a nice visit with a couple of the funeral directors in La Crosse at a visitation I was at, we were talking about that, when people ask 'how did you do this or that', 'Well, we could tell you, but do you really want to know because you can never unknow'. I also did volunteer work with a hospice service in our area & we told the families the same thing, we can tell you why they're looking like this or doing that, but you can never unknow it. We would tell families to let the kids in when Grandma/Grandpa is on their 'deathbed', but EXPLAIN TO THEM, you'll probably see this or that, this is what's causing it, IT'S A NORMAL PART OF THE PROCESS, they aren't in any pain, but they most likely can still hear so don't say anything in the room that you wouldn't say to the person in the bed. Winter burials, the church my husband went to, they don't dig in the winter, I can't remember why but no, they have a little cinderblock shed by the gate that they 'winter them' until spring, but where I'm from, if they can get through the frost, the burial goes on. Prior to the pads hooked to propane tanks, they'd set a stock tank filled with charcoal over the spot, light it & let it go overnight.

[@curtisthomas2457]

Thx

[@randyfritz333]

Visitations/Funerals are for the living….it is an acknowledgement of a person’s passing.

[@MerlinAshcraft]

How long are you allowed to keep a body in the funeral home 🏠

[@KaritheMortician]

We have had them for months

[@MerlinAshcraft]

@KaritheMortician what happened when no one claimed the body

[@suebryant1188]

Your advice about whether to have a funeral or not is generally good. In the case of our mother, we don’t want to remember her as she was. We work to actively stop remembering such a selfish lying mean person. We talk about her less and less. The last thing I said to her was ‘I love you’. She didn’t reply so I accept her decision.

[@jbollaert48]

What kind of fur baby is Eddie?

[@KaritheMortician]

Bernedoodle

[@jbollaert48]

I honestly don’t want a bunch of acquanintances who I have nothing to do with on a daily basis in my life to show up and supposedly comfort me for my loss. I find it to be a intrusion of something I’d rather do privately without the ritual of visitation in a funeral and casket etc…. That’s my personal choice/desire. If a loved one passes… I don’t want to have to “perform” by pretending to be grateful for the attention and condolences of strangers and for those who I don’t care about . Is that wrong? For me, it would be torture to have to go through that should one of my children pass away etc…. It would be too painful to me and I don’t think it’s fair for me to have to be concerned about how strangers feel. I don’t feel it’s my job to make them feel better when I’m going through a tremendous loss. I owe them nothing. Is that an awful way to feel? Honestly, I’d probably have a heart attack and get physically ill to put myself through the visitation/funeral with the public routine. I’m eager to know what your opinion of that is. Thank you. This hasn’t happened yet, thank God but I do worry about it should it happen. I did lose my mother who passed while she was living in the senior facililty where I worked as an activities assistant. I had a memorial there in the chapel so all her friends living there could attend (no visitation or casket or funeral services). I had a reception with coffee and cake afterward and anyone who wanted to speak could say something during the memorial. That was fine but I worry about a routine visitation and funeral activity for any future losses of family member’s.

[@babycakes1402]

One of my aunts lost a baby shortly after birth, her husband didn't want to deal with it, so they 'left him at the hospital', he acted like it never happened & created an atmosphere that 'we don't talk about it'. He acted like it only affected him, it didn't. I KNOW my aunt would have wanted some type of service for that baby to acknowledge that yes, he was here. They did have a daughter after that, but that boy, she never fully got over it.