Khadeen & Devale Ellis Speak On Putting Work Into The Marriage, Their New Book + More

[@Fredible_Hulk]

This interview makes the idea of marriage and commitment feel amazing AF

[@courtneylatimer8967]

It really is! And there are more couples than not really living great lives together.

[@nettw4703]

lol right. Make seem like a partnership with your best friend

[@copperamerindian050]

Faxts.. Because I love the idea of being committed to my soul mate and best friend for the rest of our lives.. I always say not even death can do us apart.. My first, last and only husband 🥰

[@Lainey_Shelley]

With the right person it is. There’s nothing like being with someone who can make you feel secure even in your vulnerability. RIP babe 😢❤U

[@ylpitts1]

For real me and my husband are partners it’s give and give not take as long as both are giving you will be fulfilled and supported 💯

[@katieriritaylor15]

I've been following The Ellis' for about 5 years now, and seeing how far they've come is amazing. The way they've held each other down throughout different careers, from the NFL to acting. Creating their podcasts & moving across the country to LA from NY, to provide & create an empire for their 4 beautiful boys. I'm so happy for them. This is beyond dope seeing them receive accolades on their journey! Much love to Khadeen & Devale for allowing us to be apart of the ride, vulnerability & all, God Bless you all! TBC did such a great interview with this one here!

[@jayc5756]

They moved from NY to LA...back to NY...now in ATL where they tape his show.

[@tub51385]

I'm a newer married person (less than 2 years) and the best advice I've received from my pastor in premarital counseling was to make our marriage our own and don't let anyone including him nor our family define what marriage is to us. I seriously recommend that to all couples. Do what works for yall. Only your partners opinion matters.

[@bcloudengineers]

They are representing healthy real black marriages that we need! 💪🏿❤️

[@nunyabusiness3516]

Exactly! Happily married over 20 years. When he said "We are not an anomaly" I almost stood up and clapped.

[@Caramel_Queen504]

Agree...I'm so here for it!

[@_NotDownWithOPP_]

Moral of the story: never listen to what others have to say about your partner/union, and treat your partner like your best friend

[@AlphaMandingo]

Amen sister. My parents have been married for 43 years and counting. They say the same exact words.

[@mbubb4626]

Everything is not for everyone. It is wise to listen to good counsel.

[@none8726]

@@mbubb4626 yeh I think it’s better to not COMPARE your union. It’s good to listen to counsel.

[@Mrluisabravo]

This really doesn’t sound like a great take haha if your entire family is pointing out something to you about your partner, might be worth to take a listen.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

@@Mrluisabravo well if I saw red flags in the spouse of a family member who is married with 4 kids (like they are), I'd keep my opinion to myself cause they're stuck anyway🤣

[@janjenkins1324]

Khadeen is so well spoken

[@sherondahi11]

I think she has a degree in communication.

[@BTCBlizzy]

Do yall say that same shit about white people? 🙄 black folks kill me with that shit. Like you so surprised to see other black people use correct English.

[@mukhtarsharmarke251]

Why is that surprising?

[@jamesshort4241]

@jan Jenkins You not taking her man lil mama😂🤣

[@SheniceSays214]

@@sherondahi11 She does.

[@Margart526]

So beautiful to watch, my relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, Really love her so much, i can’t stop thinking about her. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life but to no avail, I’m frustrated because i literally can't envision my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..

[@bartholetbay412]

your feelings are understandable, It's always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation when my wife of 12 years left me, i couldn't just let her go. I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back.

[@Margart526]

@@bartholetbay412 Wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

[@bartholetbay412]

@@Margart526 her name is MONICA ERLENE MORA, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as a caster and healer

[@Margart526]

@@bartholetbay412 Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up online. impressive.

[@rwilliams951]

Bruh to keep from losing your sanity you are going to have to. Talk to a therapist. Time heals all pains. Stay strong. 💪🏾👑🙏🏽

[@DanielleGillmoreJohnson]

I love Devale & Kay's energy and the love and respect they have for each other. I enjoy watching them interact with their the ultra supportive village. 🥰❤

[@ericperry72]

Brother, I'm married, and you sir are not a simp, you are the epitome of a MAN, you aren't perfect, but you are honest, humble, appreciative, and respectful.

[@JustlifeofInez]

I need more Black men to speak more open on hurt, healing and loving they spouse. And not feeling they need 2-4 women to feel complete. I love this conversation

[@comingsoon2u297]

I totally agree

[@ninasimone1207]

True

[@jayc5756]

You gotta know where to look...and stop keep focusing on the ones that do the opposite. I see and know a lot of us that do...that's who i look at and communicate with via DMs.

[@TemayaCurryAlston]

Absolutely sis!!

[@ellehcim2135]

Yessssssss! I agree! It’s alot of hurting black men out here you don’t speak on it.

[@gracesimba6323]

Thank you. I hate when delusional people say. “Marriage should not be work” work can mean many things. Idk how anyone can have any relationships or friendships without the work

[@dream-nk5xv]

People who think like that isn't sticking around for the long haul

[@kingsiriusfit]

Work, yes... but being forced to change who you are, No.

[@kevinwright2521]

@@kingsiriusfit That's why ur single 😂😂😂

[@kingsiriusfit]

@@kevinwright2521 I'm 43. Got married at age 30. Still happily married... to the same woman... with 4 beautiful daughters. Dumbass 🤦🏿🤣 But that's why you allow ppl to make you second guess who "Kevin" really is. 🤣

[@Tunechi65]

@@kingsiriusfit Yeah you're not gonna last in any relationship 🤣 just stay single big dog

[@Cupcake_82]

I can relate to them . Marriage is work … Finding your true soulmate is a Blessing

[@havenrab]

No such thing as a soulmate they even said it - find someone to grow with

[@bridgetbaber6679]

I totally agree.

[@copperamerindian050]

Absolutely.. I prayed for a husband and eventually was blessed with a soulmate.. it is truly a blessing that I’m very much grateful for.. Just because he’s my soulmate doesn’t mean we don’t have to work on our marriage.. Our focus is making it work through the good, bad and ugly days..

[@hopet9210]

This was a beautiful interview. You can tell how much they matured in this relationship. They understood the true meaning of partnership and companionship

[@brittishwatlington1256]

This was such a great interview, not only did I enjoy Devale and Khadeen but it seems like Charlamagne and DJ Envy were even sensitive to the conversation of marriage. A great interview.

[@antoneotking]

I LOVE MY ELLIS FAMILY!!!! It's quite amazing to go back about 6-7 years ago.... and seeing how far you all have grown and expanded! GOD IS GOOD!! It's only up from here!!

[@Sis.MaryClarence]

Listening to them makes me think about me and my husband's relationship. So many similarities in our experiences. It's tough now to hear now that I'm a widow, but at the same time I get immense gratification hearing their story for some reason. Thank for sharing your story! I'll have to buy the book

[@Lainey_Shelley]

As a fellow widow I agree. I love how they show the give and take of marriage. ✌🏾❤️🙏🏾

[@soundsfromYYBY]

all praises to you sis....we are hebrew israelites

[@Dsweetgurl23]

LOVE THIS!!! Please continue to spread what healthy monogamous black love looks like. Us couple's are out HERE!!!!

[@courtneylatimer8967]

Yeesss!!!! Healthy Black Love exists! Real Love!!! ❤

[@Hotrodchef89]

Ive said it before and I will say it again, I love this family!!!! I love the way they support each other and have a balance in life. I wish them all the happiness and success in life.

[@kadefa2]

Marriage is work and you work on the things you love. I love listening to the Ellis’s and they spoke their of truths and dropped a lot of gems. I have been married for 33 years my parents and my in-laws have been married for 53 years. Don't expect for him/her to be the same person you married 5, 10 15+ years ago because you are constantly evolving. Meaning, your personalities, and thought processes are going to change. Every marriage will endure valley experiences but couples have to be willing to work it out. Because the good days out way the bad days. Marriage is a commitment and a growth process. He caters to me and I him. It's one way of showing love to one another. I love our journey. I love seeing Ellis’s interact as a unit. Just beautiful 🌹

[@sharonbridges344]

Everyone do what they want in the marriage that they have to LIVE IN. I love how transparent this couple always been and how openly affectionate, sensual and communicative. I pray they are married happily until their last breath. I would love ti have a partner like this

[@raquelcolon5785]

I have been following these two for years. Since they were vlogging from Brooklyn. I love there relationship. People are going to talk shit no matter what, but look how far they have come in their careers and their personal life. Love you guys. You are both a role model for young couples!!!

[@not2thick2befit77]

This interview made me tear up a bit. This is beautiful. Their beautiful. I love it.

[@yolandaslade1059]

LOVED this interview! So authentic, organic and funny! They are friends in my head and I'm a New Yorker as well :) I bought my copy of the book via kindle and I can't wait to read it. Congrats on all of your success Ellis'!

[@vanessabennett382]

I've been following the Ellis family for years now. As a 50 year old woman I so appreciate and enjoy them and the whole family. I long for a marriage and love like theirs. Keep doing exactly what ya'll doing. Gonna get the book!

[@tracylaramore7316]

This couple is much younger than me. I've been married for 31 years. It's has not been easy. Anyone looking to go this route, get this book. I will for my daughter. They have so much insight to share with couples looking to get married.

[@JM_HUh]

Never heard of them before but they are so refreshing to watch!! They give me a glimmer of hope for love & marriage 🥰

[@courtneylatimer8967]

You really should listen to their podcast DeadAss. They are a beautiful family!

[@veronicadaeh2336]

I've always admired this couple but after watching this it has upped the Anty Much RESPECT👏👏👏👏 to this power couple. They are from NYC .. Brooklyn stand up!! You give marriage a great name. Blessings on many years of Strength and love! ❤ 🖤💚🙏

[@thereellifechoices374]

Great interview. I really enjoyed listening to them with my husband. As he states, it's so refreshing hearing your peers going through the same things in life and remaining committed to marriage.

[@sharazeworld]

I’m such a big fan of this power couple. ❤ Anyone who can call the Ellis’ a simp or too submissive have never been happily married. Y’all keep killing the game and keeping it real.

[@Tunechi65]

I'm always weary of these internet couples. They typically all end up the same way.. Shady in background. Hope I'm wrong

[@dianaodero4667]

I’m a huge fan too, love them and their family so much❤

[@copperamerindian050]

Big fan here also.. I love their family and how inclusive they are of their extended family.. I watch them daily instead of the predominant toxic couples online.. I envision my marriage to be similar to theirs because I share the same culture, upbringing and family values as they do.. This is a real NY love journey..

[@jayc5756]

They are clowns. Plain & Simple.

[@jayc5756]

@@copperamerindian050 FR

[@tcollins7494]

I LOVE THE ELLIS’. I’ve been watching them since they were in their apartment in Brooklyn, and it’s AMAZING to see how far they’ve come!

[@sassyx2048]

What a dope interview you can tell they have both put in the work have a solid friendship and pure love and respect towards each other.

[@PrettyGirl-en2ft]

Khadeen is so well spoken and likable! Khadeen come back and guest host real quick...tryin to see somethin! LOL

[@iamkierraleigh9499]

That would be awesome I love her too!!

[@CreatedToInspirePodcast]

Thisssssss

[@ConstanceVanna]

Khadeen && Devale is the only couple who make me feel like I’m for sure ready to tackle and maintain marriage. This so rare, and I wish this for myself and for everyone 🤞🏾🤎

[@kj7682]

It’s not that rare. It’s just that happy couples are busy being happy and not miserable complaining. Squeaky wheel and all that

[@hopeahb1966]

Devale and Khadeen are excellent communicators with each other. You can not shut down your communication in a relationship. They also trust each other. They are honest with one another. But they respect each other. It is not perfect, but it is respectful enough.

[@mukhtarsharmarke251]

The world in the past few years has made it hard for me to believe that people still genuinely care about each other. These two just reminded me that there are people who still care about love. Not money and status. It may be harder to find today but it still exists. Sometimes a sliver of hope is all you need to push forward. SALUTE TO MUTUAL LOVE!!! 💪🏾💪🏾💯💯

[@PurpleKayz83]

Love them. They communicate so well collectively and individually. This is what happens when the bond, love, goals and respect is REAL! Fact is, most people just don't get to experience it. ❤️

[@latoyakelly3683]

Love it! I love them! We need to see more positive stuff like this especially seeing it from a young perspective. I'm 45 years old and I have learnt alot from watching them. Thank's Breaskfast Club for the interview.

[@g_no4707]

The amount of nuggets/gems dropped in this 45mins!!! Love these 2 I swear!

[@MrsIkonwa]

You guys don’t know how much I needed to see this. Awesome interview. I love their friendship and their love. 😍

[@lateishaclement]

This was such an informative discussion. You guys are so real. I love it. May God continue to bless your marriage and your family.

[@betterthanyaaverage...1036]

She a real one and this is real perspective on understanding the partnership aspect of marriage!

[@cherylwilliams2530]

Congratulations on all the amazing things you'll are doing in life 🙂. To see two students that attended Bethlehem Academy in a positive space is a blessing.Khadeen you were always so humble but I knew you had a little edgy side,and as for Devale you haven't changed any from that little boy not afraid to take on any challenges.Continue blessings to the Ellis's family 💗.

[@kreativemissionllc6951]

I’m so freakin proud, happy n overjoyed for my IG/KZbin fam of 7 years!!! It’s really a win for everyone that have witnessed the journey ❤❤

[@rareforareasontv]

I love seeing them. Always seem genuine but VERY honest! People see them and THINK it’s not work, that’s why so many people fall. They want the WORK done! Not put IN the work ✊🏾. Salute to them. Been with my lady over 12 years, and we’re at where WE ARE from the hard work ! And it’s NEVER done

[@deznelson410]

I love Khadeem and Devale so much, I clicked "like" before I even watched the video.

[@Stacey_Mae]

Friendship is definitely important in a marriage

[@ClarkTS]

Great interview from start to finish. Also some good gems to take away from everyone!! Very intelligent people. I’ve been a subscriber to both the breakfast club and the Ellises YT channel for a while and have read the books written by Charlemagne and DJ Envy & Gia and saw the ElIises on Black Love. I can see why this group have a good rapport and discussions. They have similar come ups outta NY. Although Char is outta SC. He made it in NY. I can’t wait to read We over me to learn more about the Ellises.

[@RenaudReed]

That was a real good interview, alot of the stuff that was said is true. My wife and I have be married for 23 years and stuff does change.

[@ravecomedical9647]

This was a phenomenal interview…I have a new found respect from the Ellis’s… continued success for them and their endeavors.

[@clutchesllc1930]

They are one of the married couples I love listening to and I take nuggets from them and hope that I meet someone who also wants to implement them into our own marriage someday.

[@jayc5756]

FR

[@mrs.anastasia2u14]

Idk them personally but their energy and what they preach seems so real and inspiring. Gives people hope cause it's a cold world out here

[@jerlynbudd9857]

Love Love Love These 2 and Their Marriage & Family! God Blessings to Them All!

[@Rodnyet]

Communication with always be the key to a healthy marriage and this was a dope interview.

[@detroitsmooth7520]

Can't wait to get the Book. I absolutely Love the Ellis Family! I started watching them in 2019 and have been a supporter since. They will be in Michigan for the Dead Ass podcast in March - looking forward to seeing them! I will more than likely wear a Lions Jersey 😂

[@KharisB.A]

I've been following this couple and their beautiful family for quite a while and I'm so proud of them👏👏. I've always applauded their continuous growth and accomplishments. Keep soaring Kay and Devale.

[@A.Murielle]

Love them so much! Love the growth and how they grew as individuals 🙌🏾 ❤️ Can't wait to read the book.

[@helenhamilton9561]

Me too I used to look at the Smith family like this.👀👀

[@tamarwilliams4516]

Love their growth! Great interview! This interview was divine timing for me. I needed to hear some things regarding my relationship today! ♥️✨️

[@kofiboateng1241]

Marriage is a constant communication and supporting each other. Is not easy at all. I love their story!!

[@shontaraduncan1880]

Their love is so beautiful… I’m not gonna say goals because I don’t believe in saying that but I can’t wait to use some of their principles in my marriage one day. Long live the Ellis family

[@maxinemuhammad5979]

Fantastic inspirational interview loved it ❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯👏🏿👏🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿😍😍😍😍🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@brandondavis46]

Watching this beautiful black married couple gives me hope at what real love looks like they have been experienced a lot and have accomplished a lot of success I wish them nothing but the best!

[@rhondarichardson7320]

Awww I Love every moment of the conversation because My Husband and I been married since 2007 We do a lot together and respect one another but I’m telling You My Husband still needs so much attention He’s just that kind of person His personality is We’re still in Love with each others 😊❤

[@brendaconley7554]

Watching replay. Love this couple. Can't wait to read the book.

[@DJDiamondK]

This was a great discussion. I really love this couple.

[@Tjoba7]

I smiled through this whole interview

[@fotosbychase9165]

Great interview. And the book is all that and then some !!! Can’t wait to see them LIVE in Chicago next month. Their L❤VE is amazing and inspirational to say the least. #relationshipgoals #blacklove #marriage

[@direland8484]

Love how they kept it 💯. Marriage is meant to be 2 ppl serving one another. When that isn’t the goal of BOTH parties then issues tend to rise up. Can’t wait to get the book. I hope to find one more TICKET in my city.

[@WenNRome]

Awwwww I really like them and how far they have come. You know they aren’t perfect but they are great examples of what it is to be married and raise a family while still chasing their dreams and being positive…we love to see it ♥️

[@debtaketwo]

I love the Ellis’s ! I’m so inspired by their come up! They deserve everything coming their way ! Great interview! Sb: for this modern age woman, Khadeem is a great example of a business woman, mother, WIFE & girls girl ! I hope god blesses me with a marriage like this and a best friend/ man like Devale

[@dr.brendaarnold-scott2023]

Both of them are so well-spoken.

[@TBell-vb4nw]

I think it is time to change the direction of the Breakfast Club. I love listening to this type of dialogue as married couples. I love listening to good 90's R&B music. Plus laughing at Ray J. 😇 As a 80's baby ...I live for a time of vulnerability and realiness.

[@Ayommari]

I've been following Devale and Khadeen from they lived in their apartment in Brooklyn, to their home in LA and now to their mansion in ATL. I love how open they are about their trials and funny at the same time. Love to see the evolution of them as a couple, as well as the evolution of the other two men on the Breakfast Club as married men. These are the couples these men and women on the internet should listen to. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@blondie7389]

Same here, so proud of them ❤

[@rhondam4369]

I 💜 these 2 together...such a reallllll and cute couple who put in the work BTW...Khadeen would make a great cohost...she has great energy 👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@RosteeveBellier]

This show too toxic unfortunately

[@cynthiabrewer266]

This was a wonderful interview!! A wonderful testament to work of marriage. I love these two!!! A wonderful legacy.

[@roxannewatt8869]

Enjoyed listening to them speak and everything they’re saying about marriage and friendship ❤🙏

[@shaecarter1837]

We need some positivity towards marriage thank y’all!

[@AlieshiaTV]

I like the friendship explanation from devale

[@thilliard22]

Yes, the best interview with a power couple 💑. Family is everything 🙌 ❤️

[@simplyclarke5502]

Yayyyy the Ellis family!!! I love you guys! This is who we need to be putting more energy into! Not the toxic messy couple everyone cares too much about! Let’s bring back the 90s n big up black love!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@missvegan1967]

I can see ehy khadeen fell for him, he's charismatic, attentive, intuitive, and very perceptive.

[@Meka1024]

This was a great interview! I can’t wait to read the book.

[@salinared]

Fell in love with their youtube years ago, love seeing all the success and happiness ❤❤❤

[@dette3000]

This is one of my favorite episode in a long time. Shout out to the both of them.👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@hajaja1010]

Loveee what they said about wedding and marriage!!! Support this marriages!!!

[@Noname-pe8wf]

Me and my fiance are courting as we speak. Both been married before so we're treading lightly. Good to see it.

[@Mrsla401]

Wow that was really good. Definitely a fan and will be making a purchase.

[@Konkretelotus]

This was super informative, fun and laid back. I appreciate everything about it. It gives hope, answers to questions frequently asked and it felt genuine. Made me go damn I want a solid person to experience life with good, bad or indifferent. Thanks for gracing us!!! Some of us still want marriage

[@cyndinahicks8798]

One of my favorite couples!!! Love the way they love and respect each other!!❤

[@qianamoore2774]

I really love watching them. I’ve been following them since I saw them on Black Love. May God continue to bless and cover their union🙏🏽🥰

[@XtremeSportX247]

This was dope interview, they had me laughing. I love their honesty

[@MSFREE2U]

Bomb interview, love the realness and the raw perspective. So dope 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@speaktruthpeace1612]

I’m such a fan this family. Thank you Khadeem & Devale for sharing your life & perspectives. ❤❤

[@ceeeecee]

Ok Ok I'm impressed! Very good episode of the breakfast club. I smiled the whole way thru

[@michellewatkins1417]

I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!! Such a beautiful example of thriving, mature, sexy black love! I admire your family and the support you show each other! Continue to straightened each other's crowns and keep God first💪🏾🙏🏾!Continued success to the both of you and I can not wait to read your book🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤

[@AngeliaRankins]

You guys are one of the most beautiful couples God has allowed to be. Abundant blessings I speak to all marriages on the show. Enjoy your lives. 🙏🏾♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🏾

[@MsNimGirl]

The way single folks get mad when married folks say marriage is hard is hilarious. We are not here to coddle you all. It's the false representation of marriage is why folks are divorcing after any challenge. Marriage is hard but beautiful and rewarding.

[@bobbywilsonfunfaithfamilymusic]

Thanks for sharing and to Khadeen and Devale kudos and shalom.

[@susi09]

I loved this so much. Thank you so much for this interview!

[@kitahartwell4216]

I absolutely 💯 love and enjoy this couple. I am sooo super sad I don't get to see them in person this time around. But will not miss my next opportunity. Great job!!

[@zan752000]

One of my favorite couples, love how they support and enjoy each other.