#TheLoveHour

[@lemlavarin]

Y’all are literally bringing value back to the institution of marriage to a generation that was losing it. Ready to get married now 😭

[@kimwright6377]

Vikki DC Also many of this generation are afraid of showing love and genuine caring.And it’s a game of how much do you have and can you afford me.ijs

[@Cecesingsonpitch]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@toomuchinformation]

@Vikki DC True dat.

[@lifewithnatu]

👏

[@kortenisamoses7313]

Our generation aint about taking crap so we up and run fast🎆

[@ccronk04]

Accountability feels like an attack when your not ready to take responsibility

[@sensiblemindset423]

Absolutely. It’s that immaturity at hand .

[@tujuanawyatt3755]

I think Kevin and Devale should do a 4 week segment "For Men Only"

[@christinajackson9940]

Oooooo that's a good one Ms

[@christinajackson9940]

LMBO. .they would talk about how far they can p what it's like in the barber shops in L.A. lol

[@kourtney8850]

I LOVE that idea!

[@HelloMsSongbird]

Tujuana Wyatt YEEEESSSSSS!!!

[@papi77on]

yes, yes, and yes

[@tylerfranklin967]

As a single person who desires to be married this was soooooo insightful and powerful. It motivated me to keep working on myself. Not just for the sake of marriage but because theres just always gonna be something to work on. Love it!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@derrickmason7457]

Tyler Franklin from a married person this is legit advice

[@jasmines2250]

I was thinking the same 💜

[@mrmushin1]

If you are as fine as your pic I will marry ya🤣🤣

[@IAmTracyReady]

@@mrmushin1 did you say that in the voice of that old lady on the train on Coming to America? 😂😂😂 "If you're really a prince, I'll marry you." Lol

[@juombe]

@@mrmushin1 Simp!

[@ugommaokorie1660]

MAAAAAAAAAAN this was one of the richest episodes! I feel so empowered to go ahead and get married and say "Husband, I have been learning all of the things!" Lol! Thanks so much! ❤

[@derrickmason7457]

Ezi Ugo Jen 💯

[@FromEricaWithLove]

Ezi Ugo Jen yessss, ALL of the things

[@mskesha4735]

Yes, all of the things🤣🤣🤣

[@taliapeters-john6375]

lol

[@everythingalyb]

Clearly, the consensus is yall should go on tour together! Can this be a thing?!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@ChelsaSMoore]

YES!!!! The chemistry was perfect!

[@dee_scussions]

Facts

[@nicholasjohn3215]

"We Y'all, Y'all Us"

[@shenisewilliams6703]

I’m late to the party but yeeeesssssss!

[@ItsErikaNaturally]

@@nicholasjohn3215 That's the name of the tour. It has been properly motioned and seconded.

[@MS_A_Renee]

This episode was everything! As a single woman I truly enjoy real and authentic black married couples. ♥️

[@glois80]

I agree 💯 I learn so much from watching both couples that help me in my single/dating life

[@dexterhunter2299]

Some parents leaves us with a legacy of their trauma. They teach us wrong and gives us a poor outlook on relationships and marriage. In which makes us ill prepared for relationships and marriage.

[@RoniiiB]

Dexter Hunter Yesssssss

[@Cecesingsonpitch]

Talk now!!!

[@lilone11586]

Facts!

[@fdoctor79]

And this is why it is important that you (we) renew your (our) minds daily so our past won't be a reflection of our present or future.

[@cheshahale]

TRUE!!!

[@jessicablakemills]

Let's take this group on the ROAD!!!! Next Love Hour Tour - let's include the Ellis' because I love the CHEMISTRY HERE!!! This is EXCELLENT BLACK LOVE!!

[@derrickmason7457]

Jessica Mills chemistry was nice

[@MotiA.]

Melissa did such an awesome job of letting the guests just talk freely!!

[@ericabelcher8760]

Yes I was thinking the same thing too!

[@susancupid9122]

So rich conversation, this relationship.

[@bigerthanmyself421]

These two women are very blessed to have men who are understanding and truly open up...lord i know that you have my future husband out here i would love this level of honesty, understanding and accountability in him..thank you in advance

[@UniquelyMeAlmaLee]

Like they said, it took time to get there so once your person comes along it will take time to build this kind of trust, openness, and willingness to be vulnerable with one another but I hope it happens for you.

[@ameliaking9225]

Amen

[@jillisahodge886]

They really are ♥️

[@keishapuryear8180]

I believe this is modeled after a happy parental marriage. Make sure you don't dismiss your mate's parent's dynamic. No one taught me this, but it absolutely will affect your own relationship

[@keishapuryear8180]

Don't get me wrong, my dad died when I was a baby so I was raised by a single mom. I think I romanticized marriage and am shocked all the time about how different it is than what I expected. I love my hubby and we have grown together, but boy was it hard.

[@TheresaAdele]

Melissa you have been killing it this year.. The evolution is amazing.. Another great episode!

[@chidinmaume326]

Theresa Adele 🗣facts . Melissa girllll, you know how to curate a conversation!

[@fatimadildy5997]

This is my first time really watching her and I love her. The way she speaks and all

[@ladytinag4276]

Yes Khadeen!!!! I absolutely believe in the concept of men's jobs. I DO NOT take out the trash, shovel snow (unless ABSOLUTELY necessary), cut grass....etc. My husband & I have a very clear understanding of this. However, he doesn't cook, wash dishes, do laundry or clean the house (unless absolutely necessary) and I'm totally fine with that. Not only do I cook daily, I make his plate for him. Not because he demands it but because I choose to. He works full time AND is a full time Pastor and he takes very good care of me financially, emotionally and spiritually. This has worked for us for 30 years. To each their own!

[@AC-hp2es]

For the issue/question discussed at 35:00, I think the reason criticism from our partner feels like an attack and/or earth shattering is because, as a society, we (women) are unconsciously programmed with the idea that we should be perfect. From childhood (at least in the black community) the expectation is that girls will do well in school and boys will cut up. When girl misbehave the conversation is of shock, but when boys misbehave, the messaging is ‘boys will be boys’. Then fast forward into adulthood, the message when it comes to relationships is, “What you won’t do, another will”, the existence of side chicks, strip clubs, etc.) All unconsciously creating the mindset that we must be “perfect” and we don’t measure up, there is another waiting in the wing to replace us. So, on a deeper level and even unbeknownst to us, we see criticism as not us not meeting the standard that has been placed on us all our lives, but also a possible pathway to infidelity.

[@lifeofneu1438]

You ain lie! I know I'm not perfect but when I called out, it feels so crushing because there's so much placed on us women from childhood. No one ever says "girls will be girls". Proverbs 31, every church mother and their advice to the women. There's a meme about women not being able to admit when we're wrong, but lowkey, a part of that is because of societal conditioning that men will make their mistakes, but we don't have that same window of grace as women.

[@vicm.7576]

A C you hit the nail on the head with this

[@cristaltorres.]

so perfectly said!

[@gloglocreations]

Well put

[@ericabelcher8760]

Omg! You said nothing but the TRUTH! Smh

[@cdisturbed]

That man said "balance is nothing but recorrection" THAT BLESSED MY SOUL KEVIN!!! Who gave you permission to live this enlightened???!!!

[@ericalindsey5561]

THIS! That was a WHOLE WORD! It BLESSED MY SOUL as well!

[@cdisturbed]

@@ericalindsey5561 my grandmother would say he was "talking good" 😂

[@ericalindsey5561]

@@cdisturbed Very good!

[@thisbrowngirllovesreading5017]

This episode made me love my husband even more I see how he has been trying to adjust to who I am I will definitely put in the work! Love y’all working on grace......

[@sleepbaby17]

When Devale said, "find someone who has found happiness in themselves," I literally started crying. 😢😢 I am diagnosed with major reoccurring depression and general anxiety disorder. I struggle with finding happiness in myself all of the time, and I wondered if it was even possible for me to be in a relationship with someone because they almost never live up to my expectations or I start relying on them to make me happy when they really can't. But I don't want to be alone because I don't have a lot emotional support outside of myself. Waiting until I "fix" things in my life is a slow and isolating process. So I don't know what to do, and I get scared when I meet someone I like. I want to wait, but I need love in my life outside of just myself to pick me up when I can't do it.

[@shawandasmith3818]

sleepbaby17 Don’t think that you have to be fixed to find love, sometimes finding love in those moments will catapult you to your best self. My relationship with my ex taught me my triggers and flaws and now I am a different level than I was before.

[@sleepbaby17]

@@shawandasmith3818 thank you for that! I hope that will be the case for myself as well. Sending love and light your way 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@TweetsyCk]

Just know you'll be all right. You don't have to isolate yourself. I understand where you're coming from - especially when you don't have the support. Know that you're worth love, just gotta find it in you first. God made you special and He made you YOU for a reason. Once you find your light, you'll find your purpose... once you find your purpose- you won't be so focused on what you didn't have, but what power you hold to be great on your own. You're worth it. If you believe just a little bit- it can help. Don't let your depression define you, once you let go of its power over you you'll find strength you didn't know you had. You're here for a reason & you'll get to see it if you keep your head to the sky. Remener... love attracts love

[@cherylkay1636]

You are enough! Happiness doesn’t even come from ourselves but from God our Father. When He gives us joy nobody can take it away. Looking for Jesus will allow you to find yourself. I tried it your way once looking to my husband to find my happiness but it wasn’t until I began to focus on my faith and my Creator that I finally realized it’s not about me or my husband...there’s a bigger picture and purpose ❤️. Be blessed😘

[@perdybirdie]

Both my bf and I have depression, and we have helped each other grow and heal. I honestly would not be doing as well as I am right now without him, it's a myth that you have to "fix" yourself before a relationship. You have to be accountable with yourself, open to fix bad habits and modable

[@niknikky]

@59:23 - Two things - 1) Yes, society did not treat Black men kindly in those days. But Black women dealt with racism as well. 2) The whole Suzie Homemaker thing was not a reality for most Black women in the 50s. A lot of them worked outside the home, too.

[@nca4794]

That's true, but it doesn't mean the principles and expectations to "make a home" were different just because you worked. Employed outside or working for the family inside, there was still the idea that being a good woman meant catering to the needs of the family, especially their men, first. That's why so many women in the next generation started to reject marriage and motherhood in the 60s. Plus, there's a cultural element with her family also. I grew up in a West Indian family, and making a plate is seen as showing reverence to the husband as the head of the household. I know men who expect their plate before the children have eaten. I wasn't raised in a household like that, but it's no less real than taking your shoes off at the door.

[@boomboom6577]

Facts. In fact, the majority of black women worked outside of the household after the great migration north. And the myth of the mother homemaker was facilitated by black women domestic workers who cared for the house holds of white women. And yes, to the commenter who pointed out that black women were still expected to maintain a home for their children and husband. And when people assessed the state of black America, they blamed black women for working and displacing men from the workforce AND the household. The Moynihan Report is the most glaring and influential example that.

[@fromama2011]

Absolute facts.

[@ericabelcher8760]

THIS RIGHT HERE! ☝️☝️

[@CorettaJG]

Truth

[@TracyCats214]

These two couples are so realistic and down to earth. I love how they don't sugarcoat their marriages. Wonderful conversation with wonderful people.

[@erinnmjones]

Even as a single person watching, this was a great episode!

[@caliliving9127]

Kev making fun of Melissa for the high five made the moment soo much funnier!

[@glamazini]

I need more of this. All 4 of y'all hashing out topics. Kev and Devale only. Khadeen and Lis only. I don't care. I need more. Thank you.

[@vivianyoung9390]

I so agree!!!!

[@kymberlywallace8650]

I follow you as well!!! I love Black folks!

[@sidersproductions941]

Man it takes some honesty and courage to discuss personal issues for all to see and hear but I appreciate y'all for doing these episodes and having these conversations. I feel like we're a family. Keep love alive y'all and y'all out here saving marriages and relationships.

[@Mzviola29]

Kev and Liss..... y’all mesh so well with the Ellis’s and the conversation was flowing and POPPIN and hella funny!!! I love the content and the honesty and I’m not even married but so much knowledge was dropped! Yassss!!!! Hands down my two favorite couples on the Internet.

[@RB4GOD]

My favorite podcast couples together

[@shawntaharris9075]

Single but lovvvvvvved this episode. I can see myself because of this conversation, not just in romantic relationships but family connections.

[@mbubb4626]

This was a great episode. My family is from the Caribbean, they get on me if I don't have my husband's meals ready. And it has to be a full meal. I always tell them that he can cook also. It is important to find balance. But he loves my cooking and praises me and my meals. That makes me feel appreciated.

[@QueenRiveRose22]

That was my sticking point......why can't Devale make his own dinner? Is he grown?

[@ericabelcher8760]

M Bubb.. oh trust me, my family is Caribbean too & I definitely understand EXACTLY what you're talking about!!! Smh

[@arianacollymore7091]

Not in my Caribbean household! If you can eat, you can cook😂😂😂

[@alanaterrel9914]

@@QueenRiveRose22 yes but didnt yu hear the part where Kay wont open her own door if devale is there because it's a 'mans job' its the same thig she grown she can open her own door

[@ivoryc7143]

@@alanaterrel9914 i guess that's true. ...it seems they have their balance that works for them.... i guess it's a matter of determining your agreements/expectations and finding a partner that's OK with that. that having his plate ready business is not my ministry :o) but I honor my partner's needs / preferences in other ways that matter to him and vice versa.

[@thesyspace]

The "High Five" moments tho 😂❤

[@lakeishar23]

🤣🤣🤣That took me out. I rewind it like 5x

[@kortenisamoses7313]

Lol

[@AdaDa_10]

🤣🤣😂😭😭 Kev had me crying

[@tracyb246]

I just saw it as I was reading this comment 😂😂😂

[@zeldapolk1980]

Y’all are so blessed to have spouses that care, extend grace and are committed to working together.

[@missbeemarie1607]

“U not always gon be on point” facts 👏🏾 Do ur best to find a balance but sometimes we come up short and its ok, as long as u realize it and keep trying.

[@latashawalker5964]

After this podcast, I believe more singles need to listen to married couples. This really motivates me to continue to focus on myself as a person and a potential wife. I realized there is no distinct definition of being a good wife, but be yourself allow yourself grace.

[@michaelmishaw]

Man, I love this. The two best couples on the internet. I agree that Kevin and Devale should do more segments together.

[@FromEricaWithLove]

Y’alls energy is amazing, so refreshing and light 🏆👏🏽 Melissa, girl you are growing and it’s SHOWING. Your listening skills have been improving so much! I did miss your input in this conversation, but also hearing the guests speak and allowing for a full conversation was awesome with everyone having an equal share. So good guys! ❤️🤗

[@jwilliams1870]

Im so freakin excited....I've been waiting for this episide!!! My 2 FAVORITE COUPLES❤❤❤❤❤

[@MsFrizzy]

Same here❤️❤️❤️❤️👑👑👑👑

[@sincerelyajg5067]

This is such an honest conversation! My husband just wants me to express my concerns where I am prone to hold it in & be mad! I’m always thinking ahead & my husband always says “it will get done, relax”! He says “if you don’t tell me, I don’t know”. I see Kev, Melissa, Devale, & Khadeen... I watch!

[@akorn4668]

28 mins in and I have tears in my eyes from laughing so hard. Y'all are hilarious and great together. This conversation is great

[@QUADacityLyfe]

This is by far my favorite episode next to the super emotional one with Kev's brother.

[@kaliahlittle9557]

Kev went off this episode! I mean dropping GEMS 💎‼️

[@CorettaJG]

💥💥💥

[@justrishema1271]

The chemistry in this room is so good 😫😫

[@mrs.w2942]

I love Melissas appreciation of other ppl! So humble and sweet

[@wahaywgr]

I watch these marriage discussions all the time…getting myself prepared for when my boo comes along. Lol!

[@moca1992]

By far one of the most enjoyable couple interviews. Thank you so much Melissa & Kevonstage. Lawd Melissa gave a word. #Issa-a-word Melissssssssa do you know how many people have realized they have given up on good relationships because they thought growth was bad. Amen! Whew! When those who do not want to grow to realize that growth is infinite. Y'all, Kevin, Devale, Khadeen, Melissa did a wonderful job.

[@TwiinStar1224]

My two favorite couples. Would love to see a Kev and Devale Real Husbands podcast DEAD ASS! Loved yall on their podcast too.

[@amandadewalt5268]

The see-saw was a great analogy. You are only balanced if neither partner is moving. It's a constant rebalancing!

[@jdw39503]

Best conversation ever. I wish my husband listened in on this because they touched on majority of all our issues. I see now things that I need to change immediately that he has been asking for months and years. You all truly opened my eyes and mind on this marriage thing for sure. Thank you.

[@angiebaby0603]

learning how to extend grace to your spouse is everything. After 12 years of marriage, this is straight facts! This is a great episode! I love both couples

[@lydiaheelu2681]

May Glorious name of Jesus be lifted high now and forever Amen!

[@Drm386]

we need this group to have a whole show!!! I love you all!!!

[@jasminedark8255]

Shout out to Melissa!!! Truly my spirit animal when the awkward high five happened. You and Kev are helping the next generation of married Christians! Also speaking on your wonders and thoughts concerning your sexuality as a young lady has helped me feel differently and opened my mind to my own situations. I thank you and I’m sure my husband is grateful.

[@tamarajohashen1813]

Heading out to my job interview feeling nervous. Then I saw the upload all smiles 😊

[@bigerthanmyself421]

Girl you got this,

[@linalouwillis]

Great luck to you

[@brangeeellis3083]

We need an update on how the interview went (yes, I am all up in yo biznrss) 😉

[@tamarajohashen1813]

(Update) I got the job offer this morning. 🙏🏽🙌🏾 thanks for the motivational comments.

[@alexandralee794]

Tamara Latty congrats!! 🙌🏾❤️

[@Songtresskelli3287]

Ugh this was such an awesoooooommmeeee episode.. Both of my favorite couple's together.. And everything they talked about has made me look at my marriage and see where I can work on me and us as a whole!!! Thank you soooo much!!!

[@LookerStenographer]

The smoothness of Kev cuttin' people off is on par with Doboy's ad transitions - I don't be seein' it comin

[@Baddiesandbudgets]

Lmao! I love these but I wish he wouldn’t cut everybody off so much. He’ll come in and completely take the convo over.

[@satindol69able]

@@Baddiesandbudgets I thought I was the only one. 😂

[@shevaunbryant8554]

Can you imagine him and Lis arguing 😳

[@yeukaimudzi5032]

Great convo. Kev good input and perhaps more listening next time would be great. Melissa great moderation and would have loved to also hear more of you. Ellis’ on point always!

[@kevinkkirimii]

That high 5 is unforgettable.

[@tj103libra3]

Y’all have no idea on how this discussion just added clarity to my marriage. We will continue the work, but to know we are not in weird space that is unfamiliar to marriages is comforting and helps with healing. Thank you!

[@jccanteen]

I see ppl on this vid and others commenting on the hosts’ level of participation in the discussion and I don’t get it. I personally prefer to hear a conversation rather than an interview. I love you guy’s style... it’s engaging and feels organic. And Melissa if you’re not a therapist, you definitely should be one!!!

[@lydiaheelu2681]

So soo many golden moments and insights. But the point Melissa made about expanding one’s vocabulary to articulate and express emotions is 👌🏾👌🏾.

[@prudencek7087]

What Devale said at 38:45... BARS indeed! Sir you said a WHOLE LOT right there. "The moment is perfect for the you because I've suppressed how I'm feeling, but it's not perfect for me" woooow Chile. When Melissa said "grace is needed" that spoke to me, cause we often forget to give each other grace in marital situations. We feel like our spouses should know what we need and fulfill it pronto. Kevs story about his bro. at 50:00 mins in, again I'm wowed. Just touching and beautiful. I've been married over 18 years and this segment really touched me, I got some sweet laughs and I even got teared up. Best and realest convo about married life ever.

[@TheHeartsandcake90]

This was awesome. Y’all have a natural chemistry

[@dawnj6618]

@@conversationwithu7301 the whole picture and the fam of it to be done

[@dawnj6618]

@@conversationwithu7301 they were able too late I already paid the car to get

[@dawnj6618]

@@conversationwithu7301 the whole picture away for the day before the wedding was like Really the

[@dawnj6618]

@@conversationwithu7301 the whole time to

[@dawnj6618]

@@conversationwithu7301 they were supposed like a picture from a friend and she was very nice of the kids in my room lol 😜😜😜

[@MsProsperity0803]

I am a single woman & I have learned a lifetime of information from this podcast!!! I am a supporter of both couples & love them so much!!!! Thank you guys for being so transparent & REAL!!!!! ♥️♥️♥️

[@maxinec1616]

The Frederik's and The Ellis' !!!! Lemme get ready for this ride!

[@karentjackson86]

Listening to this again. I'm older than you guys and have been married a little longer but I'm learning so much from you. Thank you all for being so open and sharing so much publicly. I'm gonna recommend my husband listens to this......wish me luck!

[@akalaspeaks]

Ultimately, the defensive response when you hear what's wrong is connected to the shame cycle. We already beat ourselves up and when it comes from our partner, it amplifies our flaws.

[@ms215rep]

🗣THIS WAS THE BEST EPISODE THUS FAR! (If I could make the word THE bigger I would) It’s so enlightening to hear other couples go thru similar situations. I learned so much in 1.5 hrs that I’m watching it again to instill parts of it. I felt Khadeen when she said “Damn we had this discussion b4 & I didn’t fix it yet.” That’s exactly how I felt recently. I was like ok I gotta do better. When u want to make a relationship work you put in the work ya self! Love this episode!!! ♥️ 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 ♥️

[@paulanderson2225]

Dang today episode had me all in my feelings. A lot of good points I wish was made in my previous relationship. Things could've went differently so we could've reached our true potential in our relationship but we never made it there before we broke up.

[@UniquelyMeAlmaLee]

What's great is that you now have the opportunity to take this information along with what you learned from past relationships and be the best version of yourself that you can be for the next person.

[@blkfiit]

What I LOVVVVVE about these two couples is their ability to keep it ALL THE WAY REAL, and to be able to reflect and laugh at their flaws and each other without getting upset. That seems to be essential for a healthy relationship. Laughter and love is Everything.

[@lanas.johnson2943]

I don’t EVER comment on these videos but let’s be clear black women have ALWAYS worked in America. While I understand the theory of how a black man is made to feel out in the world (reminder: we are a step below you) and his home should be his refuge, we ain’t sitting around twiddling our thumbs... well I’m watching this KZbin now but I’m an entrepreneur in my own right. Lol But you get the point Davale.

[@CorettaJG]

Truth.

[@aya9af]

I'm a single older woman and I always enjoy you guys' conversations. This one is especially good! I find all kinds of relationship dynamics fascinating. And communicating, especially understanding how to effectively, is key in all of them. Thank you for so honestly sharing. Blessings to each of you 🙏🏽.

[@cherishdeb]

Yoooooo this is the realest conversation on marriage, and i have been reading books and watching videos on mariage for years. The talk about keeping the mad front on, pettiness, not wanting to start being happy bc your partner says so....this is sooo real, so good. Ya'll getting me ready.

[@bebetucker1]

Im here 8months later and this is Great!! This conversation is great and so similiar to what all couples are going through.

[@lachellegaines670]

This was AWESOME! Loved the context and the reality. Must share. Thanks for being so transparent.

[@nicoleprice354]

I absolutely love this whole conversation 💕💕💕. Thank you all so much.

[@tamijoalvarado357]

I didn't get to listen all the way to the end but I really enjoyed the conversation and how real you all kept it. I was amazed at the level of devotion and desire of all four of you to work on your relationships . And your willingness to be so transparent with your audience. You kept it real, owned up to your struggles and didn't let any false pride keep you from your desire to minister to other couples. I really enjoyed you. You struck a cord in my heart, I feel blessed that I stumbled onto your time there tonight.

[@MotiA.]

Loved this podcast, but I'd like to see Devale and Khadeen answer the questions in full. I know it's difficult being that you guys have so much in common, but a lot of the questions thrown at Devale weren't answered in full cuz Kev had a similar personal story to tell

[@lorol5224]

I am glad they're not putting up a fake front about how relationships really are, like how many people do on social media, then behind the scenes they are screaming and miserable and toxic. Many times people have fights, don't talk to each other, irritate each other... the mature thing is to know the limits of each other, recognize that each person has their own inner life which they keep to themselves, to have a base set of rules about fighting and disagreement and to give each other benefit of doubt.

[@kp7223]

I love that, "I want to make life easy for you"

[@ChelsaSMoore]

The Love Hour Podcast will receive the recognition that it deserves in 2020! This content is GOODT every week. I'm claiming that for y'all! #AwardWinningPodcast

[@zevlonantoine3986]

Amen.🙌🙌

[@flowerylures]

I am always excited about any conversation had by these couples. Their authenticity and honesty is so comforting. As a single female working on herself to be a part of a lifelong partnership, I appreciate the truths they share that are applicable even in my ‘singlehood’. At 28 I wish these conversations were regular parts of my upbringing but I am elated that they are now being had and so frequently. These conversations really allow us to acknowledge the fact that there isn’t an ideal marriage; there’s just the one that works for you and your partner along with the work you both commit to putting in to make it work. Thank you guys so so much. You all just spoke to my heart, embraced my soul and sparked new paths in my mind.

[@lindy-annkeil6640]

Devale and Khadeen man! You guys are lengendary.🙌💯👌 Loving the hosts, Kevin and Melissa great people. Top level 💯👍🙌

[@tdroney1]

THISSSSSSSSS!! My goodness, this is the absolute best video I've EVER and I mean EVER watched on KZbin. This video was on time. This video is real. This video is enlightening and such an amazing conversation. Thank you all for your transparency.

[@jessicaclement6064]

Thank you so much for this episode. I have never, ever commented on a KZbin post or channel before in my life. However, I do believe it is warranted. I am currently in a long term relationship, engaged and to be married very soon. This episode has really given me insight into soo much that I am struggling with. I rely on episodes like this because not one elder, on both sides of my family, has had a successful relationship that I could lean on. I am trying to learn everything thing that I can as a business partner, fiancé and future wife to my spouse. I find I just don't know what to do and you all have eloquently expressed yourselves in such a vulnerable way so that our generation can succeed. So, thank you for this. It is truly life changing.🙏🏽

[@haroldbrown5149]

This is like therapy for me. I appreciate what you guys are doing. It really helps. I shed some tears about the comment that black men only feel like kings at home and it hit me because I have had to express that in a past relationship. Excellent content.

[@graceatere]

She left her hanging with the high 5!! The chemistry between the 4 of u is electric!! I came, I paused, i learnt....thank u all for your transparency and vulnerability. U r healing a nation....thank u from London England!!!!!May God bless you all. G8t ministry. Xxx

[@TomorrowMims]

This was everything I hoped for and more! It was like a continuation of Devale and Kay's Podcast. Loved every minute. They should come back quarterly.

[@msvanessaceo]

Great show, my 3 keys I look for in a man is Faith, Health, and yes willing to grow together all through life. It's good to find someone who you can be just be yourself around and willing to always put the work in even when you don't feel like it. May God continue to bless these real couples!

[@Reeses710]

Lol, this episode is hilarious (and I'm only 13 mins in), Devale's face when he said they moved MiMi to Cali, lol!! I absolutely love & respect the open honesty between all of you, communication is definitely important--brutal honesty!!! Kev: "turn around & huggggg me, don't dap me up" hahaha, I completely understand that! Omg, I'm in tears laughing at Melissa & Kay's missed high-five moment....

[@mommaawareness]

Perfect... Well Done! Thank you, for your "Truth" from you All....

[@Ohitishim]

May 27, 2021 Watching for the 1st time, and I must say that your assessment (grace and recalibration) is so necessary. Thank you for the wisdom, and for the love. Continued success in all that you set your hands to accomplish in the near future.

[@geecheemusclekev7540]

I stopped listening to this podcast for a couple months cause of what's going on in my marriage and 16:56 speaks to me so clearly right now.

[@sidersproductions941]

The failed high five and fist bump though.😂😂😂

[@damaralpage]

As a single person I love the honesty and you give me hope in finding and keeping love .

[@sharonn.5527]

Thank you so much for this, I’ve been with my husband for 18 yrs together but we’ve been married 13 years. I can relate to the topics y’all spoke on. May God continue to bless your union. You all are such a blessing to married couples.

[@keepingitrealwiththebrowns]

Accountability feels like an attack when you’re not ready to change your behavior to improve your relationship or marriage. This was a great interview. Me and my wife pulled gems 💎 from this convo. Respect ✊🏽

[@EdenAdele]

Just when I think I've seen my favorite episode, y'all do something like this! #HighFiveMelissa 🤣🙏🏾

[@melbaknowlton]

Omg!! I love this particular show!! It gives me so much hope!! It’s only when you are transparent and mature and happy and whole with yourself that you can have these particular conversations with your spouse or significant other. Actually, I like all of your podcasts or shows 😁

[@adsmith122]

This is a really good gem. I'm 53mins in and the convo about wanting vs needing help needs its own video. I often say understanding you can "be" independent is much different than trying to be "alone" and not know it. Relationships must have a give and take to make each person feel as if they contribute and not a burden, when you mentality is I can do all this by myself, you're trying to prove something to "you" and not necessarily the partner but at what cost

[@shaneadockery8508]

I'm around for the Fredericks/Ellis collaboration 🖤

[@msfiesty88]

My two favorite families are in the same room together 😍😍

[@Goalfluencer]

Yoooo when Melissa said I got mad right now ahahahhaha I felt that. But to he made a great point!!!!

[@esperanzagene310]

Re: Devale's question @ 35:00 - In my experience it's been the opposite. I'm able to process issues & concerns expressed by my partner, but then when I share an issue they (majority of men I've dated) react defensively. So I would say it's an individual case by case thing, not gender. Although a woman, I resonate the most with Devale. I wonder how many men resonate more with Khadeen & Melissa, etc. I think the combination of our personalities, trauma, coping mechanisms and attachment styles have a lot to do with it. The openness of this conversation is really beautiful. This is real life. Everyone on the planet has issues and your vulnerability in sharing where you're at in navigating & working through yours is a gift for those of us on the same journey. Thank you all. #BlackLove #youlovetoseeit

[@RondaWilson100]

I'm so glad I watched this. It is helping me to stay in my marriage! Thank you, God bless you all!