"I Want To Lose Weight, But My Mom..."

[@KianaDocherty]

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[@Fabdanc]

I love this content, Kiana. These shows are such a blast from the past. I was my heaviest by my senior year of HS, and I totally remember watching these shows and wanting this so badly. My parents were always good on food, but were not big motivators on exercise. I remember asking my mom to buy me Slimfast and Progresso soup 🤣 I can't believe that for months, I had Slimfast for breakfast, Slimfast for lunch, and a Progresso soup for dinner. And I did lose like 35 pounds doing that. I ended up losing another 40 my freshman year because I had access to the university gym. I really ended up doing the "I am going to go away and come back completely different" thing 😂

[@lauraanne5175]

IM just happy to see a Kiana video when I wake up!!!

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[@zxyatiywariii8]

As a formerly obese woman, I shuddered when he said, _"That girl has to lose one pound a day, no way around it."_ Yikes! 😲🤦🏾‍♀️ That kind of time limit was what kept me from reaching and maintaining a healthy BMI. It's like a perfect setup for long-term failure. What worked was maintaining healthier habits and NOT setting some specific date by which I had to reach my goal weight. But now I've maintained it for years, because I DIDN’T put a specific time by which I had to lose each pound. Edit for clarity: Now I've maintained my goal weight for years, I meant

[@CosmicLookOut]

My mother was the opposite. She encouraged me to lose weight and we would do things together. Looking back I appreciate her efforts more, because it could it been the opposite.

[@Ziguly]

The mother is terrified to see her daughter succeed in what she failed

[@annarboriter]

The mother could use her daughter as a foil to rationalize her own obesity and sedentary lifestyle. Women often repeat this same pattern when they choose a 'bad boy' in order to normalize their own failure (future and past) in relationships. Essentially the mother is using her daughter as a girlfriend but with an inherent power dynamic

[@NickM_FirstofHisName]

When you succeed, you usually leave the losers behind, because they can't stand it. I have had to cut friends out of my life because I understood they were jealous, and I was failing at the time. Failing hard. But they saw my potential, and instead of pushing me, they resented me and tried to break my spirit

[@sydneyclark1135]

my mom got mad at me one night for not wanting to go on late night ice cream runs with her anymore when i was actively trying to lose weight LOL

[@zxyatiywariii8]

Nailed it! Food can be addictive, and the mother isn't ready to give up her addiction. It's like when an alcoholic, each person must get to his or her point of wanting to change more than wanting the addictive substance.

[@NickM_FirstofHisName]

@@zxyatiywariii8 The mother is a loser and has probably always been...

[@shay8138]

mothers holding their daughters back in any manner in life is so heartbreaking to see :((

[@Andreabay90]

holding back their children in general yes

[@DomFortress]

That's what unhealthy enmeshment and lack of strong personal boundary looks like between parents and children in a narcissistic family dynamics.

[@JanetSnakehole28]

Food is often weaponised by toxic parents, typically to force dependence and eliminate the chance of the kid 'abandoning' them. I left home at 17 not even knowing how to use a can opener, because I was banned from learning even basic cooking skills. Therapy taught me that the likely reason was to force a situation where I'd always need my mum to survive, but thankfully I ran screaming from that house, figured stuff out for myself and never looked back.

[@DomFortress]

@@JanetSnakehole28 likewise, my own agency on what I want for my relationship with foods to look like, is a part of how I want to self parent my inner child to heal from trauma.

[@LouiesLog]

Mine got me

[@UncleMikeDrop]

I imagine, the biggest issue is that they should've sent a cognitive behavioral therapist and/or a dietitian instead of a personal trainer.

[@irradiated_woman8016]

Fr, I don't wanna be that guy, buuuut... The mom is giving personality disorder.

[@FrozenRoxas]

they shouldve sent all three! i feel like all of those areas are extremely important for weight loss

[@Too_tired_for_this_]

@@FrozenRoxasexactly, a dietitian or nutritionist to craft the proper meals, therapist to help her though it and help with negative thoughts/emotions about her current self, and a trainer to help her in the gym

[@robinkholmes7127]

But shock value...🤮

[@UncleMikeDrop]

@robinkholmes7127 It's MTV. My idea would've been VERY shocking. The only thing more shocking would be if they went back to being all about music.🤣

[@sj4iy]

My child was overweight. He’s an impulsive eater and it got bad over the last year. So our entire family committed to healthy eating and exercise. We also teach portion control and choosing food wisely. And the importance of exercise. He’s lost almost 10 inches off his waist since. We’re not doing a calorie deficit, because he needs the calorie for exercise, but we’re all doing better. I simply cannot imagine not caring about your child’s health.

[@i_heart_jesus-l1v]

I’m very proud of your son for caring about his health. We need more parents like you to take care and guide the youth of today.

[@SlipandRip710]

Props to you and your family for having the dedication and persistence to do what needed to be done.

[@gabijoanna1110]

That’s awesome!! ❤ :D

[@hansTowns]

Awesome ❤ Although you probably are creating a caloric deficit for him, thats why he's losing weight. Keep up the good work!

[@sj4iy]

@@hansTowns he actually hasn’t lost any weight. But he’s grown about 4 inches and went from a 44 waist to a 32 waist. He’s starting swim team again soon, and we’re hoping that he continues with good habits into the school year.

[@coolwahl]

“I don’t know how it’s gonna affect me” Letting your daughter be happy and healthy? Oh you poor thing…😡

[@nicnac9147]

the woman looks so sad, she needs therapy asap for that narcissism

[@ozzyaararon]

The first year I moved out from home I lost 200lbs. Environment is so powerful.

[@stevenschnepp576]

God damn! That's more than my entire body weight. Good job.

[@teelesynclair5902]

Well done, that's more than many people weigh and you lost all that, I'm sure it took a lot of willpower and hard work. Good for you 😊

[@chilltarts]

@@stevenschnepp576 I wanted to like your comment, but the “G-D” word is terribly offensive to me. I understand you using it- it has become so normalized; but it wasn’t always this way. And that’s why, in good conscience, I just couldn’t. Still, I wanted to tell you that I agreed with your reaction 100%! That’s such an *incredible* amount of weight to loose! You GO @ozzyaararon! That is truly inspirational and I hope you are continuing to live your life in a healthy way that is conducive to fulfilling every single one of your dreams, and enjoying many more adventures throughout ❤

[@SarahKiddo]

I went through the same thing when I left my home I could not believe how over 70 pounds just fell off me and its taken years still to figure out the mental aspects of it. You kick ass!

[@hitzoneproductions7858]

Great Job! I'm so proud of you!

[@bingusslingus7020]

Jealousy is a powerful emotion, deeply disturbing seeing a mother direct it at her own child. “If I can’t have it nobody can” type shit

[@berrymint6384]

it is weak this is why it makes people weak

[@morkawlanamk2319]

Jealousy is crazy! It's beasiclly desire and cowardness, they have the desire to do the same thing, but they are too scared of failing to even try. My mother in law literally laughed in my face when I told her that I wanna get a master's degree... I'm almost done with my Beachlors degree and even with all my mental health issues I'm doing sooo good! And she has a high school degree, here in Austria you have to go through college to get the degree that you need to even be able to go to university! And she hates it that an immigrant, that has been in Austria for 13 years has done so much. She said that I have not achieved any successes at all...

[@morkawlanamk2319]

While knowing how hard I work. Jealousy can be a good emotion, because it shows you what you would love to do, when I catch myself being jealous of somebody, I ask myself what I want that this person has achieved and then I try it out! It is an emotion that will come up in life, it's about how you use it

[@Prismalpink]

It’s exactly why I don’t trust friends or anyone period. They all hide jealousy from you

[@user56gghtf]

It more common than people think. A lot of children deal with toxic parents. They don't look toxic to other adults or those adults have a different interaction with the toxic parents so the child(ren) are not believed when they do try to express it to someone.

[@Breson-td3tz]

I am 13 I have been attempting to lose weight I went from 224 and I am 200 as of today in 2 months and I am extremely happy my double chin is slowly going away I am hoping to get to 180 Just keep on going and reevaluate when i get to 180 I am more then half way their and really happy on the path I am going on.

[@fleurosea]

I hope things are still going well for you 👍👍👍

[@Breson-td3tz]

@@fleurosea yeah down to 170 now

[@krampus7520]

@@Breson-td3tz That's great dude!!

[@oimazzo2537]

Good job, but be mindful of the pace, thats really a lot to shred

[@idkanymore1899]

I’m on the same journey, I’m under 200 for the first time in my adult life. I hope I can get to 185 before the end of the year!

[@ASMRAncient]

The sister and dad are so sweet. I'm so glad the coach roped them in. The way her dad just casually suggests a salad with their meal is a great choice- the more normal this sort of thing is treated, the more it feels like a lifestyle change

[@Kelly-uw1xr]

The dad IS NOT SWEET, he’s still giving her those things and cooking those things just using his wives as shields

[@jhessicacomjh]

My friends and I always eat burgers. In January, I started a diet and told them I would take a sandwich instead of a burger. They refused and asked what we could cook together to fit my diet. When people care about you, they support you in your goals.

[@Bunn.B]

Awe this struck a chord with me. It's wonderful and you're so lucky to have such loving, supportive friends! Also good luck on your journey! ❤

[@DNELLEB]

I thought this was going to say that they refused and told you burgers or nothing 😂 it’s so good to see a positive twist ! Supportive friends are the best ❤

[@CLM1988]

That is so sweet

[@GodGunsGutsandNRA]

A burger IS a sandwich.

[@lexi.ejones]

always that one smart ass who just HASSSS to correct someone.

[@JanetSnakehole28]

You should check out 'It's Your Fault I'm Fat', which is a UK show that focuses on obese teens confronting enabling/sabotaging parents. The actual weight loss part is less extreme than MTV's methods and the more rational parents are encouraged to join their kid in losing weight themselves.

[@molasorrosalom4846]

Yeah, its borderline criminal what some parents do to their kids.

[@lillyggs]

Boosting this comment

[@alamedadanceparty]

Sounds like an interesting show. I need to find it and watch it!

[@alabama.worley]

​@@molasorrosalom4846Abuse is criminal.

[@Rosemary46840]

Yea but Americans don't see overfeeding their kids or feeding their kids nothing but chemicals as abuse​@@alabama.worley

[@wolfhawk1999]

Getting her under 200 pounds would have been a tough, but realistic goal. 140 is insane. And that "personal trainer" shows you how loose that title is, especially back then

[@molasorrosalom4846]

That's what I mean, something like 40-50lbs would have been more realistic, and then set another goal after those 90 days.

[@NothingIsLittle]

The worst thing is that it seems like Jimi knows this is a terrible set up; he looks so uncomfortable! But in order to participate, any trainer on the show has to play into this idea that working out for 80 hours a week is healthy for most people. He's so gentle with Terra in some of the clips and genuinely encouraging even outside her workouts. Then again, that other trainer set the bar so low the devil would trip on it.

[@ythelldoineedahandle]

As a skinny person reading testimonies of ppl who are on the other side of the spectrum, part of the show was to see the f-t person visibly suffer.

[@dreamerlotus]

When he said you need to lose 1lb a day it was major red flags. A healthy loss would be more like 1 to 2 lb a week. This is setting her up for failure and unhealthy habits. Poor lass has her mum being unsupportive and a negligent trainer.

[@jessica5470]

​@@ythelldoineedahandleI think kiana has done a vid on the biggest loser I'm sure she says something like that too

[@SRHisntSilent]

When she said she's not sure how her *daughter's weight loss* will "affect" her, i immediately had no sympathy for Terra's mother

[@Lovinia1]

Because if her daughter succeeds, she’ll no longer have an excuse for staying complacent. She’s a pathetic bully who’s daughter already outgrew her

[@zzomified]

i know right. this is just evil. i get some moms make kids go on strict diets or unhealthy diets (which im not comparing anything to, thats terrible :( but this is just insane

[@chronic2023]

I was always a chunky kid. I remember losing about 30 lbs by eating right and walking a lot while living abroad and was down to a normal BMI at the age of 26. My mother was overweight all of her life but she had been really pretty in her youth with thick black wavy hair and blue eyes. She was very vain. I sent a photo home of me with friends and my mother's reaction was that she thought I was starving. At 5 ft 6 in and 143 lbs? Not hardly. 😅 My friend was so upset by my mother's comment she told me, "That’s sick." Later in life my mother was always putting me down. If I got any attention or compliment from anyone else, my mother followed it up with a put down. I think some mothers just can't handle their daughters looking better than they do.

[@sanyokk8024]

I FEEL YOU. I moved out recently and got to a normal bmi at the age of 20 and my mom is not happy for me lol, she's like "you must be starving, can't even feed yourself without parents around", always turning things around to call me ugly/incompetent/ whatever. She's obese now but used to be pretty before she had kids, she's insecure and takes it out on us. Took me getting to adulthood to realise that and stop hearing everything she says as truth. I feel so much better now that i can control what I eat, when i eat and don't have to listen to my mom's insults every single day.

[@BaristaWithADog]

My mother was just like this! Sabotaged diets, used emotional abuse and manipulation to force me to eat more, and used my weight as a means to viciously make fun of me. I'm not overweight anymore, and I also don't talk to my mother.

[@marmor3957]

I'm so sorry, man, these stories with parents mistreating their own children are so heartbreaking to read. I hope you are in a much better place now

[@left-handedstan4506]

Good on you!!

[@WobblesandBean]

Good. I really, really hope Tara cut all ties with this wretched woman, too.

[@genevievemeuniere4047]

I have sadly experienced similar things too. My sister was always supported in her fitness efforts, I on the other hand was always put down. Me wanting to eat at different times? Nope. I want to eat something else as the rest of my family? How dare me. While my sister got her healthy plan meals from a fitness plan she bought. Also yeah iw as the emotional punching bag. The oen who needed to be more miserable as the rest for everyone esle to feel better. Glad this is over since 8 years. Sad that it still influences me. A high to therapy.

[@KristinaBlabla]

I have the exact same story to the dot. Happy for you and happy you managed to cut her out of your life and that you are doing better :)

[@christinakinch]

As Terra implied at the end, sustainable weight is about changing one's lifestyle completely. Terra did a phenomenal job by keeping herself disciplined.

[@tumekeehoa3121]

She also has a good bunch of friends who she can look to for support. Their normal looks to be what she is seeking so living with them and adopting their lifestyle is ideal.

[@juliasmith960]

Terra: "I have to change in order to fulfill my dreams and become who I want to become in the future." Mom: "It's just not something that I think needs to be done." Dang, mom!

[@Too_tired_for_this_]

And like there’s a big difference between “the you don’t have to change to achieve your dreams but if you want to then I’ll support you” and “it doesn’t have to be done”

[@WobblesandBean]

Translation: "I'm jealous of you, and I want you to be fat so men won't find you attractive because I can't stand the idea that you would get male attention and not me".

[@JDClair]

Something like this happened to me with my ex wife. Went from 300 lbs to 190 lbs in under a year. The whole time she was eating bad, calling me names, scoffing anytime anyone said anything nice to me. At first I thought it was to keep me humble, but she never came around. I started acting and did very minor modeling and she hated all of it. She also struggled with weight, though not as extreme of a situation as I was, but that jealousy was beyond hurtful. She couldn't be proud or even happy for me.

[@AutumnHaunts]

She wanted you to stay in the same dark pit of depression and sickness as her. That’s not love that’s codependency. I’m proud of you for seeing your worth and getting out of that situation.

[@FullcircleFaith]

When the trainer told Terra's sister, "I'm glad you came today." In support of Terra. And Terra said, "Me Too!" Man I wanted to burst into tears. She was needing that support that she wasn't getting from mom. And i'm sure the mom is not a terrible person, she just needs healing and deliverance herself from binge eating/food addiction. we all wanna be happy and fulfilled in life, and you really feel like a failure when you haven't been able to accomplish your goals. It sad, we need to pray for the mom.

[@MaximilienNoal]

I was in this situation, I moved out. Without a support system I would not have been able to lose any weight !

[@holdmacat9932]

Wish I could do that, maybe one day. Good for u!

[@alexandramccain7482]

Congratulations!

[@mariastewart9820]

Proud of you ! I left my momma's house at 19 and still havent looked back !

[@BlakeGeometrio]

​@@holdmacat9932 Same.

[@mediumchunkymads]

That mom didn't sign up for the show but she signed up to be a freakin mom! I worked really hard for a long time to have a healthy relationship with food and I'm gonna do everything I can to help my daughter have that too!!!

[@zxyatiywariii8]

Exactly! 👍🏽

[@user56gghtf]

People are only objects to be used to them. Especially their own children.

[@bethlovesthings]

What strikes me the most is the way she mentions how she feels her high school experience was similar to her daughters, then explains it was an negative experience. So a negative experience that she could have protected her from but chose to use it as a way to trauma bond instead. That makes me so sad. You are completely right that people who behave that way - it is 100% a reflection on them, not the person they are taking out their bad behaviour. Im SO happy for her kicking her goals though.

[@phoebeglasscock7149]

The mum has deffo not be able to loose weight herself and doesn’t want her daughter to succeed where she failed👀

[@leonnunhofer3453]

Yeah. She could see it as new chance and motivation. She, and both daughters could lose weight. The sister does it later. Sad, how she doesn't see it as chance, and sabotages her daughter instead 😭

[@Cat_Woods]

Which is an incredibly narcissistic attitude to hold toward her own daughter.

[@robinkholmes7127]

Or it's about keeping her fat babies close, they get slim, more confident and will leave her. Mum could get a hobby and some friends but doesn't. "My mum's my best friend."

[@JannatanyahuStaAna]

Yeah, I also thought the same thing. It will make her mom feel like a failure seeing her daughter succeed

[@lainiwakura1776]

@@Cat_Woods It's not narcissistic, narcissism itself does not fit the qualifiers for narcissistic personality disorder. The most you can say is she is clearly jealous.

[@wild282]

Shes so right it hurts when the people who are supposed to support u destroy you with criticism! My aunt always said that I will break my back and be paralyzed when I first started lifting , and when I injured my back she couldn't hide her satisfaction. She literally raised me but shes so jealous and envious

[@madelineheidler2545]

the interview clip of her during college just radiates self growth, she seemed more confident, happier, and just glowing. i’m also in my first year of college rn and i feel the same way and i’m so proud of her weight loss in this :)

[@dustyblevins5502]

My mother was an awful selfish person who went out of her way to Try to mess my life up and to do everything for her . I have went no contact with her . I felt for this girl.

[@ciobalina7445]

Yeah, I did too, although my mom was always supportive. But I just felt so upset for this girl because her mom clearly was not on board and was thinking more about her own comfort. Her mom has a lot of issues around her weight. Clearly, she doesn't want to change.

[@retroreceptionist7571]

Also no contact with my mom. It seems like my peers all have the same experiences with selfish, self focused and narcissist parents! I don’t understand why parents want their kids to have it worse off but it’s always been my experience that my issues or struggles meant less than nothing to my mom

[@CursedWheelieBin]

Aye it’s a harsh choice to make but so often a necessary one. It’s like…Just because she raised you doesn’t mean you’re now indebted to her. Yet, so many scummy parents seem to think that. They’re legally obligated to raise us. Shitty people get cut out of my life, especially when they’re making no effort to change. When it comes to preserving and improving your mental health, I think you’ve gotta be selfish sometimes and do what’s right for you

[@lainiwakura1776]

Yeah, but we don't know her, you're making calls based on this woman's 3 months of featured clips from 10 years ago fit into less than 30 minutes.

[@retroreceptionist7571]

Well the mom’s instinct when her daughter wants to get healthy is “ how is this going to affect me?!” So rather than her daughter being active and actually able to achieve her goals she is worried they are gonna throw away her “good stuff” nah, that is more than enough to see what kind of a person she is.

[@gas-lyghtchristianson-ashl5041]

Parents are so often our worst enemies in life. Also side note, wow the daughter has an absolutely gorgeous face!!! There is no doubt the mom is threatened by her looks.

[@nmnih1820]

She is beautiful 😍

[@xxxmelissatacionxxx]

Yeah I thought I was the only one who thought her mum is jealous of her and will be way more if she was slim.

[@jessica5470]

I was thinking so too, regardless of her weight she looked amazing, just glad she's now healthy

[@Blackatchaproduction]

Yup, the mom can't stand her daughter would be a better version of her

[@RestorativeRenaissance]

Thank you! I went hunting for a comment. She is beautiful I wondered whether it was just me who noticed!

[@knucklescapricorn31]

When she said near the end "It is not really a diet anymore. It's like a lifestyle", I gave a sigh of relief. That is truly how you lose weight and (more importantly) keep it off. I hope she is still doing well.

[@tomstdenis]

10:37 "a lbs a day" is not a plan for success. no way you sustain that longer than a few weeks at most and then revert back to weight gain. 1-2 lbs PER WEEK is a good long term goal for sustained weight loss.

[@arthas640]

It's doable with my all X-Lax diet plan. The pounds will literally come rocketing out of you faster then you'd ever beleive!

[@crusher9z9]

thats called fasting to death.

[@jonnypaspula]

When I heard that, I immediately thought that it was an unsustainable crash diety plan that wouldn’t lead to lasting results. Plus your weight flunctuates from day to day so you can’t reliably even use that as a metric. It makes far more sense to track your weight week to week or every few days, and I agree with the 1-2 pounds a week guideline

[@layanalharbi1300]

Terra’s so pretty, this just shows that weight doesn’t affect beauty.

[@lali_034]

for real

[@Ayum8PigeonAnal]

Yes weight loss just makes her more healthy

[@wetfart222]

fr she has such pretty dimples too

[@tell-me-a-story-]

She has such a sweet face. I bet she’s a good freind.

[@Hiddenoddity26]

Yeah, most people look at the face. I think being fit is attractive due to what it means in terms of capability. But I don't think it means beauty.

[@melissaj1310]

I just wanted to scream whenever the show talked about Terra having a difficult time reaching her goal, BECAUSE HER GOAL WAS UNREASONABLE. I would have so much more respect for what they were trying to do if the trainer had coached her towards a more reasonable goal that taught her a sustainable lifestyle.

[@boosqueezy2418]

yes. if you make your goal unreasonable, you’re gonna fail and then give up entirely. you have to make small changes that add up over time. you can’t change everything at once

[@ge2719]

@@boosqueezy2418 idk about that though. When I lost weight it was after I stood on the scales after a few years and realised I was 210lbs. So I immediately started a fast. It was very effective way of getting rid of my old habits. Realising that I don't need to eat the way I was and it was also very easy because I just didn't have to think about food. I didn't have too cook. Literally just a cup soup a day along with a vitamin tablet. It was a sudden change but it allowed me to make massive realisations around what i was eating. And allowed me to gradually learn what foods I enjoy that won't make me overweight again. Gradually increasing my calories until I hit maintenance. Rather than being on a "diet" that took years to work and taught me very little about how many caloires I need to be eating. Instead I lost the weight in 2 and a half months and kept it off. Sometimes a large sudden change works far better than small changes that take forever.

[@Goldenblu_0502]

Let be real. Some mothers are jealous of their daughters and will do anything to sabotage their daughters. These mothers will intentionally fatten their daughters, to make them unwanted and unattractive. Terra is an attractive young woman and her dropping the weight would skyrocket her! Her mom doesn’t want to see her daughter in shape and taking care of herself because it will remind her how much of a failure she is as a mother and woman.

[@boosqueezy2418]

just like in that show Smothered

[@wellthatgotweird]

Wow

[@mississipi1103]

Because being fat as a woman is a failure ?

[@RabbitWatchShop]

I’ve also noticed that. Older women are often hostile to younger women due to envy and jealousy

[@Ad1nfernum]

I'm pregnant with a daughter right now and this mindset makes me so sad. I would do anything to give her the happy childhood I didn't have myself (my parents were generally good, but I had very few friends, was quite unattractive imo, and just generally struggled with my mental health). But I could see myself going the opposite direction of the situation here, being too hard on her because I want the best for her, and I know that's something I'm really going to have to keep in check so I'm supporting her without trying to live my goals through her.

[@S_H9260]

I had people wanting me to stay fat. My friend would bring me food like ice cream and expect me to eat it or she'd get upset. My dad always said that 'you lost weight before, you can treat yourself and you can lose it again'. Thankfully I didn't have anyone being outright hostile and sabotage me at home constantly.

[@nightlysobbing]

😬

[@NickM_FirstofHisName]

Just because they aren't acting openly hostile doesn't mean they want the best for you.

[@okaycola2]

That’s messed up

[@SueRosalie]

your Dad's attitude was terrible

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

Your friend was covertly hostile. 😢

[@tanveesharma2636]

And then there's ny Mun who is always so supportive. I was once doing a health challenge and she got on board without even me asking her. She was all like "so what do you need to eat? What should I cook for you?" The food she made also tasted good, she didn't just make bland dishes, it was healthy and tasty. I absolutely live my supportive family to bits. 🥰🥰🥰 So so appreciate to have then in my life

[@Ranger_Steve]

I just had to let out a "DAAAMMNN!' when I saw her transformation. I know she still has a ways to go but the before and after is so inspirational. Good job terra ☺

[@lillybee2951]

Growing up with a mom like this destroys everything about you from the inside out. My mom lack of support and complete dismissal of everything I ever tried to do, made me so unbelievably insecure. Awful, call what it is her mother is neglectful and abusive and it’s disgusting.

[@nomadic_orthodox]

I’m in my 30s and still struggle with the impact on my life, my parents’ sabotage had on me. They sabotaged my education, health and finances. It’s unbelievable, that some parents want their kids to fail.

[@Babyqueeniexoxo]

My lovely but the same

[@Ro-ol6on]

Yup

[@namedULaika]

This was my mom. She always pushed back against any of my efforts to lose weight or to even start eating healthier. I was finally able to lose weight once I moved away for college.

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

"Covert Narcissism" might be a good term to look up, unfortunately.

[@jesmey4902]

​@@Orquet-qj2nf you are right. I see a lot of my mom in Terra's mom and mine is a covert narcicisst. I cut contact 6 years ago and it was the best decision ever.

[@blueredacted]

your mother is either your bully or your best friend as a young woman. i am so blessed to have a best friend for a mother. she has always cheered me on in my successes and picked me up in my failures. i wish this girl had a better mother who truly loved her like she deserves.

[@jellopy24]

Your parent should never be your best friend Until you’re grown at least

[@Lostouille]

My mom is neither one of them 💀

[@tell-me-a-story-]

@@jellopy24 They should be. Your parents should be the person you love the most as a kid. They are not your peer, but they should be your best freind, as in the person you can trust no matter what.

[@jellopy24]

@@tell-me-a-story- Yea well depends what you’d consider a best friend You should love your parents regardless but I know damn well a kid isn’t going to class their parent as their best friend unless they say yes to their every want

[@tell-me-a-story-]

@@jellopy24 I wasn’t a spoiled child, but I liked my parents more than even my closest friend; And I really loved my friends. My parents played with me and did activities with me; that’s what a friend does. I think “You are not your child’s peer,” is a better way to say it than, “You are not your child’s friend,” Because the latter kind of implies that you should be nothing more than a cold disciplinarian and a food provider. In reality, your supposed to do those things, while also provided emotional support and playing with your child.

[@amberlamb9215]

I can't imagine not being supportive of your kids to better themselves. My oldest daughter joined the Air Force, I was terrified of the change and her going so far away., she was homeschooled so I'm pretty used to her always being around. Yet I faced my fears and supported her every step of the way. My second daughter joined the Marines and ships out this Summer. One or two pre boot camp training sessions every week ,with nearly three hours of drive time to each one. I don't want to do it, my daughter has a permit but no license yet so I have to go to every one. The point is I support my kids with their dreams though they are not my own as every parent should. You don't sabotage your children if you really love them.

[@amberlamb9215]

One more thing ,that trainer is pretty ridiculous if he thinks one hundred pounds in three months is doable. No , I once fasted for an entire month ,no food at all just water and still I only averaged a pound a day. I was very depressed which led to the fasting. I was about one sixty and ended up at one thirty. You can't eat and lose a pound a day at the same time, it doesn't work.

[@ballistachicken]

I never thrived as much as I did when I moved away from my mother. Mine meant well but was a constant burden on my emotional well being and sabotaged my efforts to be healthy both mentally and physically. When I moved away and especially when I moved in with my now husband, I learned how much I could thrive. Seeing Tara’s mom was just so heartbreaking…no one deserves to be constantly sabotaged by someone they love so deeply

[@WobblesandBean]

23:55 Look at her face, she is SEETHING at how beautiful Tara is. She's clearly bitter that the daughter is attractive and she isn't.

[@animebrat76]

So that’s her Step-mom, right? Well now that makes more sense

[@Chrisbeans]

I don't think so. You could see that she is quite surprised that Tara kept on track and actually lost weight, her mother is shocked that she didn't give up like her.

[@jsilva7005]

@@animebrat76no it’s her real mom

[@charwest9449]

​@@Chrisbeansthat's what she's SAYING, but inwardly she's feeling like she's losing her because she's now going to be living the life of an attractive girl, with friends and dates. She's admitting she really is beautiful but not that being beautiful is a good thing. That seemingly positive statement is covering that inside she's very jealous of that beauty and will try to guilt her into feeling like she's selfish or not a nice person to bring her back down. I've had "friends" like that, not with weight, but any sort of betterment that they feel puts you beyond their reach. And you could see Tara's face, like sure mom. And her mom saying REALLY as if she's trying to convince herself as well. Yikes. There's going to be a second chapter of sabotage to this and I hope Tara stays strong.

[@JanieBee]

@@Chrisbeanshonestly probably both. I’ve seen so many moms jealous of their pretty daughters. Oedipus complex

[@MrBifm]

"I was called brown cow for being biracial" 😂 God dam, i forgot how brutal high-school used to be.

[@viviannichols3582]

It sounds like one of those insults that someone would reclaim and turn into their rapper name. 😂

[@munchems]

@@viviannichols3582​​⁠ bitch Ima cow, bitch Ima cow, I am not a cat, I don’t say meow - Doja Cat

[@patriciaalvarez3006]

Aren't most cows brown?? I think ur bully had no imagination. I'm pretty sure ur bully is still an unimaginative loser 😂🎉🎉

[@EvaeAwake]

Yet childish people like you still find it funny? Lack of mental maturity much, bro?

[@lockcitylady4973]

Her come up! ​@@viviannichols3582

[@plumpydayz]

As someone who grew up with Narssistic Abuse, for me this type of thing always infuriates me. My mother would use food to control us, especially my younger sibling. Because she doesn't want us to ever leave her. When I took it upon myself to lose weight and eat less of her food, she would get so angry. Literal fights would break out, to this day she still tells me I don't eat enough or that I'm way too skinny now for anyone to love me. I'm glad I left home because if I didn't. I wouldn't have been able to lose over 100lbs and keep it off. If anyone is dealing with this, please be strong and make the changes for yourself. Your parents can only shout or belittle, they can't force feed you. You got this

[@CursedWheelieBin]

Ah yes the “be the person I tell you to be or nobody will love you” routine? As if our mothers would even know what a partner was looking for😂. Sounds crazy that we’d even consider listening but parents know what buttons to push cos they get in our heads from such a young age. We want their approval from the very beginning. It’s hard to break free from that but it’s easier once you finally see they’re full of s**t 😂.

[@plumpydayz]

@@CursedWheelieBin the problem is is that when you're young, you don't truly understand what's going on. Mum's just really strict, or mum's just angry. In my 30's, I now understand what the deal is with my mother, which has helped me to let go of some of the trauma that she inflicted onto me. I no longer hate her, I understand where this all comes from, but I do not accept it nor do I allow it to ruin my health.

[@CursedWheelieBin]

@@plumpydayzIt was a problem. You’re right. Our first relationships in this world are with parents, and the first dynamic we learn is seeking their approval. Many parents abuse this position without even realising it. It’s not that they’re deliberately evil. Just stupid and selfish 🤷🏻‍♂️. Worse yet, most parents aren’t incentivised to self-reflect because they don’t really have to answer to anybody. Having a kid makes some adults very entitled, as though they’ve suddenly figured the whole world out and aren’t accountable for their behaviour anymore. It’s a good thing you’ve managed to see it for what it is though Plumpz, cos you’ve done your due diligence. Some people never figure this stuff out and either stay in an abusive cycle, even as an adult, or they sever connections but stay bitter about it.

[@plumpydayz]

@@CursedWheelieBin thats very true, I think introspection is very hard for a parent. Especially I'd they worry that they feel like they are a bad parent. But you only fulfill that destiny if you don't learn and it's so important to show your children how to apologise or how to correct behaviours. It's been a huge weight lifted, both physically and mentally. It is sad that so many don't have the same luck 😔

[@andreahighsides7756]

Yes. My baby sister was a horrible binge alcoholic, almost died multiple times in one year from alcohol. She also tried methamphetamine twice. I was the only one in the family taking it seriously, I spent hours on the phone with a rehab specialist, someone with a PHD that my aunt had called in a favor with, and when I talked to my split family about staging an intervention both parents dismissed it and acted like it wasn’t that bad. I never got everyone on board with the intervention and she almost died a few more times. Once I thought I found her dead, she was unconscious passed out in the driveway in the rain and her skin was cold to the touch. Traumatic. Luckily my baby sister got sober eventually after a few tries and is still alive. The truly messed up thing is my mother only kept with the “no alcohol in the house” rule for a few weeks. Even drinking with my sister multiple times, acting like it was fine because it was just “a glass of wine” etc. I couldn’t convince my mother that she’s an alcoholic and that moderate drinking was not possible for her. This contributed to multiple relapses. Again, my sister is now sober and alive, thank god. An earlier incident I had become highly addicted to my mothers adhd medication. She was initially giving these to me, then I was just taking them but she had to have known. At one point after a month of pretty significantly abusing these pills I came to her crying that I couldn’t stop, and that I wanted to and kept trying but couldn’t stop taking them. She had essentially no reaction, not even sympathy, and wasn’t interested in helping with it in any way not even by moving the drugs. I don’t think my mother is a hardline narcissist, but she does seem to have pretty strong cluster B personality traits, maybe BPD which can manifest as narcissism in some situations. I love her despite that and have sympathy as I’ve also picked up some cluster B traits I need to always be vigilant about. But it is the worst feeling imaginable to realize your parent is actively encouraging you or your siblings to fail, even if it’s maybe some subconscious drive instead of malicious it’s a horrible feeling. It feels like you’re alone.

[@starzkream]

I once overheard someone say, "You are married. Why do you need to lose weight?"

[@arthas640]

I've heard that a few times and it's weird. I Also once overheard a woman telling her friend to go ahead and eat all the snacks she wanted because she got married. People who just give up after they get married confuse and worry me

[@Vaedyx]

Someone literally told me, “why are you losing weight? You’re tall.” 😂 It’s such a dumb question I didn’t even know how to respond

[@kupotenshi]

You can see the resentment and lack of compassion in the mother's eyes. Just awful. Terra is so strong for not breaking down crying tbh I hope she's doing well.

[@essie_woaah]

im stuggling to lose 70 lbs but you're such an inspiration Kiana❤ you're temperment, outlook and attitude has helped me figure out where my mindset is warped when it comes to food. thank you so much for ⭐️ content

[@briansmaller7443]

I have been intermittent eating for six months now and I have lost 50lbs - slow and steady. It is a lifestyle change and one I have to stick with for the rest of my life.

[@SunshinePip]

Congratulations!

[@Mia-Elemental]

Did you also do a calorie deficit along with intermittent fasting? Congratulations BTW!

[@briansmaller7443]

@@Mia-ElementalBarely any change in calorie intake - maybe 300 per day. I just burn a lot of stored energy between 14-18 hours of fasting. So I do 18/6. I feel a hundred percent better - and thanks.

[@Mia-Elemental]

@@briansmaller7443 thanks for replying back

[@chl0e52s]

@@Mia-Elementalgood luck to you both :) stay safe and happy ❤

[@luna_soleil]

Breaks my heart... I went through something similar... I remember being in elementary school begging my mom to buy fruits and veg because people at school and my doctors were telling me I needed to eat better and she refused saying "you dont eat that stuff anyway". I'm proud of Terra for wanting to see this through and wanting better for herself.

[@AnnaSmith-b9p]

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[@josiek7589]

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[@AnnaSmith-b9p]

Nopeeeeee

[@BjjFord-e2w]

Daughter from a narcissistic mother here. That crap messes you up for life. Im still in therapy after years, reclaiming my life and power back.

[@suzykennedy3559]

I feel this. I actually remember watching this show as a teen. I was 230lbs as a 13 year old. Between this, super size vs super skinny, and the swan I wanted to change. So I changed my diet and took up jogging. I proudly lost 70lbs. At the beginning I talked to my mom about losing weight- she told me we didn’t want her to get too healthy cause then she’d lose disability and have to go back to work. My mom hasn’t worked in the past 20 years. It’s hard to have a parent chose junk food and being overweight over being there for their child.

[@dearbronte686]

Terra is adorable and I love her success. Living with that mum has to be heart breaking and soul destroying on so many levels. Talk about emotional abandonment. One positive comment from mum after Terra succeeds against mum's best efforts does not make her mother of the year.

[@scubameg]

Mother is doing the crabs in a bucket thing 🦀

[@marpsr]

For a second I thought you wrote “carbs” 😂

[@zxyatiywariii8]

​@@marpsr😆🤣😂 I did too!

[@marpsr]

@@zxyatiywariii8 mom looks like she is 😅

[@MaryamQQQ]

I can’t believe you could be jealous of your own child

[@wge621]

16:34 "the sooner we all realize we cannot change other people and can only change ourselves we'll all be better off. because in reality, that's where our power is. once you start taking responsibility for everything in your life, whether it's fair or your fault, you're more empowered to do whatever it is you need to succeed." So beautifully put!

[@abbmac1]

I am so, so lucky that I have had full support from my husband and other loved ones on my weight loss journey. I'm down over 80lbs and closing in on that healthy BMI! It was hard and I can't imagine how much more difficult it would have been if I had people actively sabotaging me.

[@pigpjs]

The Dad is terrible here too. He enables the mom's behavior toward their daughter. On a side note, the closed captions are great. Thank you for the clear and well timed captioning

[@narie8546]

because it's easier for him to I have this kind of parents where the other just allows the others behavior and justifies it

[@TedEhioghae]

You people wouldn't have called him controlling?

[@its_foi]

My both side of families also do the same, especially to daughters. The fathers would not do anything when the mom is the head of the house mentally.

[@luna_soleil]

Also as a personal trainer I need to say, most of us aren't like this at all 😭 Don't be afraid to sign up for a session. A lot of trainers offer a free or discounted intro session so you can see if you're a good fit.

[@fionafox420]

I just want to hug that sweet girl 😢 Id adopt her in a heartbeat, and support her in her health journey❤

[@Fruitloop398]

Terra has such a beautiful face! I just started watching, but I can tell that she will be stunning when she meets her goals.

[@SWB6]

My mom was just like this. She was a worse bully than I've ever had in school or elsewhere. And when I entered puberty, made sure to try to sneak the most unhealthy foods into my diet, tried to make my hair as short as possible etc well into my 20s b4 I knew to set boundaries. Narcs gonna narc, unfortunately.

[@kittykooky]

Terra is so pretty. ❤

[@tiffitori4721]

I agree! That’s why her mom wants to sabotage her, she’s jealous.

[@bebebongBaebae]

Was about to comment this

[@rabbit0.023]

Right? Ugh she so pretty 😫💗

[@doodaroni29]

For real the first thing I noticed. The mom is sooooo jealous it’s crazy 😂 sad

[@OliveDiamonds]

Watching this makes me so glad my mom encouraged me to work out and lose weight and while I wasn't able to do it while I was a teen, I've been able to start going to the gym consistently and start losing weight and my mom has been my #1 cheerleader along the way ❤

[@SailorStar602926]

Terra is such a sweetheart! Her mother was definitely sabotaging her! My heart goes out to Terra, she’s such a strong amazing person. My mom is exactly like hers. I lost weight and went down from 230 to 173 by not embodying my mom and her ultra processed lifestyle. She would grab my muffin top against my wishes and boundaries. Once she saw i wouldn’t budge from my healthier style, she saw my progress and would shove boxes and boxes of snack cakes and junk in my face and try to push leftovers on me or make my portions bigger. It’s been a tough gradual change but i started making my own food. Jealousy, emotional abuse and controlling others is a wicked thing.

[@_Kittensworth]

It's incredibly frustrating to see parents do this to their children. Sometimes it's a form of abuse.

[@zoefree3950]

Jealousy and envy are awful and this mother seems to have these negative emotions by the lorryload and unfortunately many women are like this….to not support your daughter in her endeavours in life is evil 🤷‍♀️ I wish that young lady every success, wipe that smug sneer of that woman’s face

[@andianderson3017]

There’s another version of this-I had a Mom who was thin and all about me losing weight. Me getting thin was one of her biggest passions. But not only was that shame and pressure counterproductive-she also had terrible eating habits even though she was thin. My Mom eats like a preschooler and lives on crackers and ice cream. She’s actually pre diabetic now as a result. Anyway, she was so aghast at so many healthy foods and just thought I should eat less-severely less. She had backwards ideas about what healthy food was, was offended by basic food goods like whole grain bread and eggs or any fats, and thought the only metric for health was thinness. I couldn’t tackle things until I’d left my Mom’s house in spite of her willingness to just you know, not feed me or take on even more unhealthy habits for herself in “support”

[@EmilyGilbeywilbey]

Same. My mum was naturally average and ate whatever she wanted but stayed normal sized. She gained 20 lb at menopause like so many women do and constantly called herself fat and disgusting disgusting. My sister and I were always a bit overweight since our teens because we inherited or dad's family genetics. Every member of my dad's family is fat! She didn't do anything to help us, but constantly criticised and told us to wear oversized black. Clothes to hide our bodies. Now she has grandkids and I've lost weight I try really hard to stop her rubbing off on the next generation but she doesn't admit she really fucked up our body image, and gets angry when we tell her not to speak like that.

[@SueRosalie]

yes there are many many underweight people who end up wit diabetes because they have a poor diet are rely on sugary foods for energy instead of high quality protein and vegetables etc

[@AlienAteIt.MyNoraTees]

i remember at my skinniest ppl thought i looked so good. but i ate horribly and was having health problems. health is more complicated than what you look like. im now more focused on how i feel and eat a balanced diet.

[@boosqueezy2418]

@@AlienAteIt.MyNoraTeesmy best friend growing up was naturally thin but ate nothing but junk food. she’s now diabetic

[@FelarofTheMearh]

This is why nutrition should be taught in schools :S

[@DoubletheFun2019]

I feel so sorry for people who have toxic family members like this. Your family should be your biggest cheer leaders. I grew up with low confidence/self esteem. I now have two daughters and I am trying my best to identify things from my childhood that triggered my low self esteem, to help them grow up feeling confident, knowing they're important and that their opinions matter. Also to ensure they are living their life for themselves and not for me, I'll always be their biggest fan.

[@robinkholmes7127]

Maybe it's people with toxic families who need fat camp to get away from the enablers.

[@allthingsasiah]

Her mama is clearly jealous of her

[@dodgemastersama]

15:06 The Evil stepmom laughter had me laughing. Like yes it's so mean! But you made it so funny 😆 "You might wanna dial it down"

[@lue3667]

I really wonder how she’s doing now. I checked her old Facebook and she commented back to someone saying “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels “ And god, that age of the internet was absolutely brutal for girls. I hope wherever she is, she’s happy with herself.

[@VeronicAM313]

Someone told me this and I will never forget it. A girl's first bully is her mom. I have some stories, my friends have some stories and I know *some of you have stories. My mom has apologized for the stuff and even brought up things I didn't know or remember and how bad she feels now for saying them. Sometimes, hurt people will hurt people. I'm assuming that if Terra changes, it means that Janine (her mom) will have to look at all the times she lost weight and recognize the times she failed. She doesn't want to do that because she would rather stick her head in the sand until it happens. Edit: This statement stuck in my head because I agreed with it for MY life and some of my friend's lives. I meant to write I know some of you guys. Some of you are acting like the people who watched the recipe for bean soup and then commented, "I don't like beans." If it doesn't pertain to you, then scroll along rather than tell me how your mom is great or how I'm misogynistic based on assumptions.

[@FronteirWolf]

My mum never bullied me.

[@Arbolito661]

It’s sad a lot of parents have so much unhealed trauma and just pass it on to their kids smh

[@Arbolito661]

@@FronteirWolfgood for you, as the comment stated this is not always the case. But that is good that your mother is not part of the problem 💯

[@ciobalina7445]

Not my mom. She always encouraged us to reach our potential and do what made us happy, me and my sister.

[@FronteirWolf]

@@Arbolito661I I misinterpreted your reference to the phrase that a girl's first to bully is her mom to mean that you thought this was true for all girls. My mistake.

[@gints2766]

I was so bored doom scrolling thank you for posting

[@awesome5hit]

LMAO same! So tired of purely paid content and whole videos revolving around using the discount code Love KD this was much needed!

[@altheiaskouras]

I’ve never struggled with weight loss, but seeing her journey was so inspiring and honestly by the end of the video I was crying with pride I love whenever people turn their health around because my health journey was not necessarily around weight loss, but quitting vaping and being able to go on runs and stuff and I resonate deeply with people standing in the wayof progress whenever you’re trying to do better for yourself and it’s so lovely to see and I hope that she’s doing so good now

[@Catherine-l5w]

After this video im so glad for my mom because I know she will support me in anyway she can I can’t believe there are mothers like this in the world

[@EnbyBee]

Terra is GORGEOUS!! Even while overweight, she had a nice face. I’m hoping she’s enjoying her healthy body :)

[@paulaunger3061]

Terra looked great in the final scenes. Wonder how she is now? Really hope she kept it all going :) That vid you did on discipline was amazing! I realised I wouldn't be able to do it all (health reasons) but decided I would do 'just one thing'. And the one thing I chose was to get up at 6am, something I've been struggling with for months! What you said about the drill sergeant not caring how much sleep the recruit had the night before, they had to get up at the appointed time or else - I decided to just go with that. And OK, it's only day 1! But my whole day has been so much better, just starting from that! (And on 6 hours sleep! Will be having an early one tonight ;) ) So thanks a lot, it's been great! :)

[@justsomeone953]

Hope Terra reaches her goals. She seems to be a pretty nice person.

[@disneyprincessintraining2725]

This makes me very grateful for my mom and dad. They have always been so supportive with everything I’ve done. They didn’t know crap about swimming, cross country, or track but made it to almost all my meets. When I was in a play my parents would try to come to every performance. It was four a week for a month! They had my back when I was exhausted and crying from nursing school. When I wanted to run a marathon, my mom did it with me and did a 10k with me on Thanksgiving too. And they were so supportive when I took up ballet as an adult! Basically, I’m so grateful they did all they could to lift me up and be better instead of trying to sabotage my success. And now I’m so excited to continue the cycle of lifting my son up in that same way!

[@millennialgalore5592]

I blame the father. He needed to rein in his wife. My father was a basketball player and athlete and he made sure fitness was seen daily in our home. My mother would try to coddle when I was obese and he would not let it slide. I thank him for that everyday

[@Undomaranel]

"He needed to reign in his wife," just like she needed to support her family instead of breaking them all down. It's not about one parent vs the other, it's about working together and actively seeking betterment. Once you stop going uphill you slide backwards, regardless of who or what or why.

[@Ayum8PigeonAnal]

Reign?

[@sekiro_the_one-armed_wolf]

Sure, he could’ve done that, but she is responsible for her own behavior. She is to blame and it’s silly to lay that on anyone else.

[@Kelly-uw1xr]

@@Ayum8PigeonAnalyes, he needed to be A FATHER and say “no, we’re not gonna do this to our daughter”

[@kayoss2306]

This is so sad. As a Mum all I want is for my kids to be healthy and happy 😢

[@LaraOlina]

all i wanna say is, that kindness and its opposite show on your face too.. the daughter is so gorgeous, no matter her weight, the mother however ...

[@dark9ightff775]

That mom’s whole disposition is. Misery loves company, so sad 😞

[@zeeschelp]

such a sweet girl.. what a sad situation. I love how she got closer to her dad and I'm cheering for her

[@zarajones5428]

I think a lot of women see their daughters as competition, which is very scary. I feel blessed to have a mum that’s always been my biggest cheerleader

[@babelfish567]

Terra's mom reminds me of the Roald Dahl illustration captioned "if a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on their face". This was such a hard watch that I had to stop 3 times. I hope Terra is in a good place now.

[@EROSG0TH]

I really hope Terra moved out and got away from that woman, i'm glad her dad came through for her in the end and I hope she's doing well now.

[@Paganheaven]

Great subject. I went no contact with my parents last year. Idc who you are, if you're against me, you're gone out of my life.

[@liv8221]

Terra’s discipline and consistency is truly inspirational! She’s done an amazing job and I hope she’s continuing to live her best life :’) I know Jimi, her trainer, made some questionable comments during her workouts but I see it similar to an army drill instructor and meant to push her/motivate her in the heat of moment. Overall, he’s very understanding and helpful based on the thoughtful conversations he has with Terra and bringing it forward to her family. I think they were a great team and all the best to them both!

[@renjiai]

So grateful I have a loving supportive mom right now.

[@ich8966]

This reminds me of my mom. She has always been at a normal weight but she really liked to feed me. I became overweight/obese quickly as a very young child. I loved food. It made me happy. However I disliked being fat. I hated how it made me look and how it made it difficult for me to move around and play like other kids. My mom was my biggest bully too. She would always comment on my weight or make fun about me "wow, this shirt looks really tight on you! Maybe you shouldn't wear it". She would also get mad at me if I ate all of the snacks but also got mad at me when she had to throw away snacks because they expired (nobody else ate as much as me). Spent my whole childhood and teenage years yoyo-ing from overweight to obese, back and forth. As an obese adult I finally decided to make life long diet changes and eventually got to a normal bmi. When my mom noticed I'm losing weight she would always try to feed me and buy me food and get mad when I declined because I was full or not hungry. When I dropped off most of the weight and reached a normal bmi she confronted me. She accused me of taking pills and vomiting. She yelled at me and told me she can't believe how irresponsible I am and how I could do such dangerous things to myself. I laughed it off. She quit yelling at me for it but she still tries to feed me and is still convinced I'm taking some kind of magic weight loss pills

[@annoyedaussie3942]

Well done and hope you can keep the path you are on.

[@maryjohnson9337]

I was so shocked to learn that a good personal trainer won’t push you past soreness and to pain

[@yulidrke3500]

Dang, looks exactly like my mom, plus also criticizing anything I've done/said/style choices etc. I've always wondered if it's a psychological projection and her not accepting herself in a first place (and yea..she's obese and failed to change that). Best course of action is to move out asap and limit any contact..sadly.

[@astragirl2537]

The mother is desperately jealous of her beautiful daughter. How sad!! I so hope Terra breaks away and succeeds in all her goals. That mother is toxic!

[@TurdFurgeson275]

This channel is addicting as hell. Also helped me lose 50 lbs.

[@nataliac9143]

Congrats !

[@flygirl6048]

Thrilled for this vid! Your videos have been pivotal in my life in changing my habits and losing weight. 💗

[@CosmicLookOut]

Your videos opened up my eyes to not fall for the body positivity movement. Yes, you can love your body, but also eating well/ exercise should be part of that self care love. I am in a better relationship with food and seen the difference in my physical health from all the nutrious foods I eat. Your content is full of reflection, research, compassion, and reality. I always look forward to your videos and thank you for your content. ❤

[@CursedWheelieBin]

You’ve certainly dodged a bullet there young lady. Taking care of your body is just a sensible thing to do, isn’t it? I think we all know that deep down. We sometimes just BS ourselves because maybe we get overwhelmed by weird beauty standards (both men and women) or develop a misunderstanding of nutrition and what constitutes as “healthy”. It can take a long time figuring this stuff out, especially if you’re a dummy like me 😁.

[@CosmicLookOut]

@@CursedWheelieBin It was more than just not being able to do a sensible thing like taking care of myself. I have had extreme obstacles in my path (which I will not go into, that are not just mental health) that have made it hard to keep up with wellness. I cannot pass judgment on people who CHOOSE to be fat and this lifestyle. I know that it's an addiction, there are roots of pain, but also some people cannot change. All we can do is live and let others live.

[@fighterflight]

This is not what body positivity is about. You’re referring to fat acceptance. There’s a difference. Body positivity is a bad name for it and causes misunderstanding. It’s not about loving your body it’s about loving yourself unconditionally. You can’t lose weight and live healthy for life without self love. Your self worth is bigger than your body. That’s all it is about. Don’t let the people twisting it ruin the whole message.

[@mississipi1103]

People made dieting a self love thing because society wants u to be skinny and fit in beauty standards. They don't give a damn about health, literally all these people in the comments can drink a lot and take cigarettes and they still would feel superior to fat people because they're superficial. I am not a body positive person because I really prefer dying at 40 than to fit in what society expects of me. Losing weight just make superficial people happy because they now can desire and consume you like an object. Living longer will just mean that you work longer for a shitty salary to buy things you hate to please people you dislike. I hate this channel. I've never seen somebody as condescending as Kiara. She really hates fat people but make it look like "she just want our happiness" like a real mean girl that tells you very loudly that you got a pimple in the middle of your face.

[@FrozenRoxas]

terra's so beautiful and kind, i'm so glad she succeeded ❤

[@sambarriga741]

20:21 that “me too” really warmed my heart