"I Want to Lose Weight, But My Girlfriend..."

[@KianaDocherty]

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[@YaenYisdoa]

Another great episode Kiana. I don't tend to comment too much on youtube, but since I have seen almost all of your content, I wanted you to know that you are doing great! Keep it coming!

[@nomadic_orthodox]

Would love to see you reacting to the series when trainers gained weight and lost it together with their clients.

[@mongoose08]

Kiana, would you ever do a video on the episodes with Joey Gloor as trainer? Despite initially finding his appearance and demeanor to be a little "off-putting", I think he turned out to be a great trainer who gave a masterclass in motivation.

[@anhelaanhela4996]

Kianaaa, you site for the program doesn't work, it's all a mess!!!

[@laurakershaw2471]

This will probably get buried but I found him on Facebook and he not only looks healthier and happier but he’s also a plumber and married with a new baby (not to MiKyla) so seems to be a happy ending here. Remember this was 10 years ago and people can change for the better. :)

[@LotusHearted]

If it’s really him, thank goodness. His relationship on screen was… yikes.

[@jpanPirate]

Nice if is him

[@JogurtowyPotworek]

This is the exact comment I was looking for, thank you

[@juliajs1752]

@@JogurtowyPotworekRight? I got so angry at all the people who failed that kid that I needed this closure now. I will now believe it forever.

[@salmasabry402]

Omg I'm so happy for him . I remember this ep way back and I was so sad for him . Glad he's doing better 😊

[@kristinrooney-erb501]

I think the whole point is missed that this kid was set up to fail. 5 hours a day isn’t sustainable. Establishing a routine that had the long game in mind where he could have a social life and healthy habits wouldn’t be this 100 day turn around but something that could have produced sustainable lifelong results

[@KianaDocherty]

Agreed lol. I talked about that a lot in the last video & the one before so I didn't want to repeat myself. But next time I'll def recap here.

[@cheym6254]

​@KianaDocherty I think if it's relevant to the topic of the video, it's perfectly fine to reiterate and repeat some points. Someone could stumble upon this without seeing your other videos, and sometimes we just need things drilled into our heads lol.

[@donajonse]

I think that show probably missing the part where the coach talk with the teen about how to maintain their new weight. Like, you don't need to spend 5 hours a day to maintain your physical form and you don't need to restrict yourself that much to maintain weight.

[@msjkramey]

@@donajonse but if you lose weight through extreme exercise and extreme calorie restriction, your body is going to adapt to that as if you're starving and it's going to be much, much easier to gain weight back. That's why slow and steady weightloss is the safer and more long-term proof option

[@stefania8708]

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[@Debbiesdilemmas]

If a girl breaks up with you because you’re trying to better yourself what does that say about her?

[@sofiarestaino6537]

That she is a horrible person.

[@ReDuVernay]

That's obvious to us as adults, but we aren't as good at reading those signs when we're 18.

[@morbidcorpse5954]

Or try to sabotage your progress because they will.

[@ThegrayareawithYvette]

That's a bit of a reach. She broke up with him due to the excessive amount of time, not because he wanted to better himself. You can actually better yourself more sustainably with shorter workouts. His trainer was crazy. 4/5 hours a day is not feasible unless you're an elite athlete

[@Dram1984]

@@ReDuVernay very true it’s also why it’s so important for adults to keep their kids close and keep good relationships with them. Adults can help kids navigate these challenges with a little bit of wisdom.

[@natalierose1072]

So weird the mental health component wasnt addressed. 100lb weight gain in a year is a screaming on fire red flag of a bigger issue

[@KianaDocherty]

I talked extensively about it in the other two videos I made on this topic - so I thought bringing it up would be repetitive. But I see now based on the comments that I should have gone into it again hahah

[@natalierose1072]

@KianaDocherty Oh I meant more from MTVs end haha. Youre video was great. Mental health awareness wasn't really a thing back then (as an elder millennial I remember lol). It could also be that trainer had absolutely no business being a PT especially to a kid 😬

[@boosqueezy2418]

i was thinking the same thing

[@victor_gators]

I gained 100lbs in 3 years and thought that was insane. Luckily over the last year i got to work and lost 88 of them already. But losing that in 3-4 months would be nearly impossible. The most i lost within a 4 mont period was 52lbs

[@masamimuniz]

Ten years ago, talking about "mental health" was a lot harder than it is today.

[@AdaireKrickets]

Personal training requires some form of emotional intelligence. I hope Eric has learned that when a client fails, he has failed too.

[@DomFortress]

Eric is a people pleaser, that's why both himself and the girlfriend had failed Tanner, because they're all in a codependency situation.

[@SuitedSkaterLion]

My GYM personal trainer that i had once, was turning out to be very shitty, i like him like a Father, but turned out that he started to bring more guys in when it was my hour of work with him, and he would not even care to help me anymore with weight i would have to ask him for help. But it was supose to be 2 hours me and the trainer, training and he to train me. I had a good friendship, but then i saw in the end all what he really wanted was the money i would give, which was like 130$ a month, to not mention the supply, then i just gave up when i saw what he is about, then i started to train alone on a new gym, and was better, i did it alone i didn't had to relay on anyone, but i still had issues with those other guys who would come to me and make me stand up so they can work on my machine, while i only took 30 second break which is annoying, then i just quit everything ,and i started to go outside with my Longboard which help all the parts in my body to evolve, as i go high speed often. Sorry if i don't speak well, my english is crap.

[@WobblesandBean]

How is it Eric's fault? He's not Tanner's dad, Tanner is his client. You can't control another human being, and Eric is a personal trainer, not a therapist. Come on, now.

[@AdaireKrickets]

@WobblesandBean Hello Eric! Turns out multiple people have roles they can and should play. As stated, he is being paid to be a personal trainer. A personal trainer should hype up and help their client have a clear view of their goals and why. Telling someone to "man up" is failing to do that, as stated in the video. Hope this helps!

[@DomFortress]

@@WobblesandBean I learned fitness training just at the start, then my own curiosity got myself into sports psychology, psychonuroendocrinology, circadian medicines, muscle centric functional medicines, and metabolic psychiatry just to name a few. All the while I use myself as the test subject. Your excuses for mediocrity are lies.

[@christinao9007]

Did a quick google search and am happy to see that Tanner did become a plumber like he planned and is now engaged to new woman and is a father. :)

[@MedicFromTF2_REAL]

Where did you find that? I couldn't find anything

[@Haysueueu]

@@MedicFromTF2_REALpornhub

[@nelonwa7754]

Has he lost the weight?

[@allisonelizabeth6596]

@@MedicFromTF2_REAL search up "Tanner Umemoto"

[@marvin2678]

​@@MedicFromTF2_REALFacebook

[@UncleMikeDrop]

It feels like she was only really dating Tanner in order to have someone who could constantly dote on her.

[@keymepx4428]

That’s true

[@UseTheSupeRsonic]

This is 1000% correct and it is actually a tactic for many women out there....they choose someone who basically has no other options and has no self-respect, because that guy is easy to manipulate...he knows he can't get better/hotter. Why do you see smoking hot girls with these nerdy dudes? It ain't their personality.

[@ponny2948]

I feel like all we got was an incredibly small snapshot of their 3 year relationship and we don’t really know what was going on behind the scenes

[@WobblesandBean]

Agreed.

[@WobblesandBean]

​@@ponny2948 Lol no. We saw enough.

[@elliot.darko117]

Spends 4 hours working out and she says they have no time together. Wait until she finds out what a job is lol

[@HereForTheComments990]

She never said that. HE said that about her because it makes him look like a victim. They were kids. Both of them. Chill.

[@miaomiaou_]

If he’s in school while doing this then yeah, when does he have time to hang? That’s more on MTV tbh, the whole plan is unsustainable and never worked with his schedule in the first place

[@disgustof-riley]

​@@miaomiaou_ The show takes place during the summer

[@YAHWEHSCHILD3]

@@HereForTheComments990they arent kids they are fully aware of thing its either they choose to not understand or dont want to . Its called immaturity its happens through late teens and twenties. So no ur incorrect they arent kids just immature

[@La_belleT]

@@miaomiaou_this show was done during the summer before college. He had more than enough time

[@RandyBadour]

I love how the man is completely out of shape himself telling his son he needs to get in shape. The hypocrisy is just something else with folks these days.

[@J.Millhouse]

These days? Lol this was 13 years ago - people have been this way forever

[@OneShotSlinger]

It’s probably because he wants his son to live a different life from the one he has. They want better for their kids

[@Window4503]

@@OneShotSlingerBut he’s still living and still has grandparenthood to shoot for. They could work out together.

[@WobblesandBean]

​@@Window4503 it's also MUCH easier for an 18 year old than a 55 year old.

[@jm47889]

Yeah, the parents are probably feeding the whole household junk food, yet expecting the kid to be healthy

[@KendraSmith087]

My dad was a wrestling coach for over 20 years in a small town in Montana. He coached multiple kids to state championships, many getting scholarships to colleges for wrestling. Traveled with the kids all over the country for tournament’s. He passed away 2 years ago and the Property of USA Wrestling Cobra shirt this kid is wearing is the wrestling shirt for my dad’s team. Made me smile!!!

[@waynenewcombe7600]

Your Dad's legacy lives on. That is really cool.

[@BangBang-hk4rg]

🙏RIP🙏

[@hypnoteapot]

Where I am from, it's called the "pounds of happiness". It's the few pounds you gain once you start going steady with someone and you let go a little. But we're talking about 15-20 lbs here... 100 lbs is a freakish amount to gain in 3 years and it does not happen by accident.

[@emilyvanderlaan7699]

I’d say it’s pretty easy to gain about 3 pounds per month if you’re overeating every day 🤷‍♀️

[@molasorrosalom4846]

I've seen people get married, and watch someone gain 30lbs in six months

[@509734]

Ahhh the old 幸福胖

[@mediumchunkymads]

Haha that totally happened to my husband and I! Now we are trying to be healthier together! :)

[@spOOkytimes]

The amount of stretch marks on his stomach were wild. You don't get all those from gaining weight super slowly either.

[@carolinaazevedo2088]

18 yos talking about marriage scares me. This boy needed a therapist. He was so dependent on his girlfriend it is scary

[@Vic_Chaos_]

@carolinaazevedo2088 society brainwashing people (women especially, since they're more susceptible to social pressure) into destroying the nuclear family as an institution scares me a lot more. You do you though, I guess.

[@xxxmelissatacionxxx]

I wouldn't say that. A lot of teenagers think their first love is their forever person. It's normal..

[@lainiwakura1776]

lmao no he wasn't. I can tell you never dated as a teenager though and probably still aren't.

[@alexricky87]

Wanting to be married at 18 is perfectly normal.

[@Miss_Akashiya]

@@xxxmelissatacionxxx its NOT normal and people like you saying this are part of the problem and the reason other people think its okay. maybe it was normal in 1960 to marry so young but not today man times have chaaanged i wanna point out it depends of course, some people maybe really have their lives together a lot, are dating since 4 years maybe already etc sure sure that existst too no doubt dont get me wrong - but its soooooo so so so rare its just not the case 99 percent of the time.

[@farzana2686]

In an alternate reality, he rejects her comeback and gets ripped 😫😂

[@Jo-th6rx]

I was hoping for that! Ugh

[@aznprnstr]

Breakups breed gymbros wth happened here 😂

[@toriamigo]

And starts dating the head cheer leader

[@jordanbrown3816]

Shaming someone by telling them it’s “time to be an adult” and “it’s big boy time” is the absolute worst motivation you can give an insecure teen. The poor guy was so disadvantaged with that kind of “support”

[@peteben9635]

His girlfriend dumps him and then wants him back in the middle of his weight loss challenge, that's enough to mess with his mindset. The trainer set him a difficult goal and told him to basically bury his feelings and put on his big boy pants. He still managed to lose 30lbs and both his dad and the trainer told him he needs to do better and he failed. Seems like everyone who surrounded him was either incompetent or toxic.

[@petrosinella]

Unfortunately, every episode was like this. The teenager would be given an insane goal and shamed by the trainer if they didn't lose enough weight. I think this show has some of the same show runners as The Biggest Loser, so it's not surprising.

[@meredith2803]

Shame he seems like a really sweet guy.

[@goblinrat6119]

I remember when I was first trying to lose weight when I was around 19 years old. I'd always been fat as a kid, and I was easily getting morbidly obese by that point. My godfather got me a gym membership and a few sessions with a personal trainer, after constantly bringing it up (I think he was genuinely worried, but his way of showing it was talking about how unacceptable it was while he was bringing me into a restaurant... and basically always besides that as well). And I did genuinely start going, and pushed hard too. I started putting on muscle and shedding weight. I was slowly starting to actually feel good about it. I never weighed myself, but looking back at it, I basically got back to a near-normal weight, just looking at the pictures. That was in the span of about... 6 months. So next summer I meet my godfather again, after a long time. I was feeling tentatively proud. I was actually doing a lot here, I was making real progress. For the first time since my pre-teens, I wasn't the fat kid/guy in the room. And so when we meet, he kinda takes a look at me, makes a few humming noises like he's just kinda acknowledging that something's happened... and then he just pushes a hand onto my stomach, *squeezes* whatever belly I had left, wobbles it a bit and just goes "still work to do", with a tone like he wants me to admit it too. I think that just genuinely broke all my desire to keep trying. I was working so fucking hard here, doing everything right, actually finding out things about myself... and all I get to hear after all that work is how much I *haven't* done yet. By the fall, I'd mostly stopped going to the gym. By next year, I was getting back up in weight. I've always tried to think he didn't mean anything bad by it. He was an incredibly active man with zero fat on his body, and every one of his kids was athletic, to the point of competing at national level. His perspective was really skewed. To him, it really did seem like what I was doing wasn't a big achievement, it was the normal. He was a really nice guy, otherwise. And yet, I've never really wanted to hang out with him after that. Knowing that was all he was looking at just killed it for me. I'm normal weight now, and doing much better than back then. It took me 10 more years after that point to care enough to start trying again. That shit really can make a difference... in all the wrong ways.

[@ge2719]

@@petrosinella plus, it seems like the trainers go the complete wrong way. have them exercise for 4 hours a day.. needlessly. the guy could have lost all the weight by just not eating anything but a vitamin tablet and at his age he should probably still try to get essential amino acids because he may still be growing. he can manage that with a protein powder shake a day. He can do whatever he wants all day he has to just stop eating so much. Obviously though for him if he wants to get better at wrestling then exercising helps him with that goal, but it still would be far better for him to lose 80lbs in 80 ish days, then start exercising at a far healthier weight... It seems most of these show the weight loss mindset of the "experts" is to require massive amounts of effort from exercise from the client, and then probably just encourages them to eat too much but "healthier". Trying to out exercise a diet too high in calories. Thats just a terrible way to lose weight.

[@aff77141]

The fact his dad said "we lost that bond" just because he stopped wrestling is concerning

[@kiiltochii1607]

How dare he be sad that they had a hobby they both loved and now tgey can't share it anymore

[@interrobangings]

​@@kiiltochii1607yeah if that's their only bond he's a bad dad. you're weird

[@BenT800]

I know that sounds harsh but as a dude, I lowkey understand it. My brother and I box each other, we find it both fun, physical contact builds connection and our time is irreplaceable. It's our "zone". I hope I described it well, I'm not agreeing with the dad tho

[@interrobangings]

@@BenT800 as a dude, why don't the two of you have other interest and hobbies to bond over too?

[@BenT800]

@@interrobangings I know the Father is tripping but it's like the iconic American troope of a father playing catch with his son in the backyard

[@cryinheart4235]

His question "who would?" is so freaking sad. My heart breaks... :(

[@Jazzisa311]

I was also missing my boyfriend bc he was spending so much time at the gym. So I joined him and started working out too.

[@hailee.p]

I did the same. Those who lift together, stay together lol

[@spreest9537]

Plus she was a varsity cheerleader already, so she does work out. They could have done it together...

[@francismcgowan5915]

This routine is blown way out of proportion... All he needs to do is like a 30 min workout daily and maybe like 5-600 calorie deficit. Maintain that for about a year and he's on the road to long-term success.

[@Ash_Wen-li]

That doesn't make good television though

[@GabrielAKAFinn]

We keep hearing this and everyone keeps getting fatter. Stick to a real regime for three months or keep deluding yourself about a "200 cal deficit for a year".

[@m1stern00by]

Most people that get fatter in this deficit of 600 usually cheat on their diet and thats why it doesnt work. What are you talking about going on the offense here?

[@hornetguy9063]

@@GabrielAKAFinnyeah the problem with “just eat less” is that 200 calories a day is the difference between some minor stuff. You have to have a real caloric deficit of around 20% your TDEE (so if you burn 2500, you should eat 2500-500 = 2000)

[@KillingTheMotivation]

@@GabrielAKAFinnhow does that make any sense, weight loss in media always encourages crash dieting or insane workouts and we watch most fail, or even worse they succeed and they perceive it as failure because it’s a healthy amount of weight loss and not 5lbs per week Long term slow weight loss is easily the best and easiest way. I’ve lost tons of weight without feeling like I’m dieting or exercising more

[@TheRubberDuckCollector]

Kiana I was JUST thinking “jeez I really wanna watch a video by Kiana” and then I get the notification you posted. You are a mind reader girl, I love your videos!!!

[@alexandragatto]

The way I hit the FLOOR when he said "she broke up with me" over a potential few months of being in the gym... AFTER THREE YEARS!! Insanity. He was a super cute and wholesome kid, I'm glad some folks are updating that he's married and doing well!

[@Smithpolly]

He's seems nice but they're teenagers. Breaking up is a pretty normal thing to do.

[@alexandragatto]

@@Smithpolly When I was a teenager I was deeply in love like that and breaking up with no apparent warning signs over something so minor is NOT normal. I don't know why people forget that we were real humans when we were kids, we still had true emotions. I didn't disparage the young girl but no, her actions weren't normal or particularly defensible beyond "no one is obligated to be in a relationship with anyone ever so it's her choice."

[@Smithpolly]

@@alexandragatto Do you know anything more about this girl than you've seen in this video?

[@usefulnuisance7108]

80 pounds in 110 days is bananas!

[@molasorrosalom4846]

Well, the number can't be reasonable, because this is reality television

[@REDEEMERWOLF]

I lost 70 lbs in less than 90 days. not recommended, but it's somewhat possible. Long term solutions are always better

[@hannahbunny2773]

It is an acceptable weight to lose if you’re overweight. He also gained 100lbs in the past 3 years

[@usefulnuisance7108]

@@molasorrosalom4846 hahaha! true. either he succeeds and our jaws drop or he fails and they rub his nose in it. either way, the people are entertained.

[@Chuckakhan]

Strewth weight loss needs to be functional and unique to the individual.

[@deannav1807]

After my first relationship where I gained 50 pounds in about 10 months (I was subconsciously unhappy in our relationship and coped with food and alcohol) my boyfriend ended up dumping me. After that I lost 40 pounds in 4 months and completely quit drinking alcohol. The thing is that I was motivated by the idea of us getting back together. There was no real closure in our relationship and I felt like that meant there was a chance we would end up together again. My motivation only shifted when we had a chance encounter at a thrift store after those 4 months, he obviously noticed my weight loss and I noticed that I actually wasn’t that attracted/smitten over him anymore. I realized that yes him dumping me was a strong motivator that kept me consistently losing weight, but that I didn’t need a relationship with him anymore because I felt so much better about myself that I felt free to be emotionally independent. He ended up trying to contact me after that, and I knew that if I went back to that relationship that I would simply gain the weight back and lose all the progress I had made. My own mental and emotional health was too important for me to give up because of an ex, so he was ignored. Better yourself for you!!! Love your videos Kiana ❤

[@lauralvw8445]

So inspiring

[@WobblesandBean]

I'm so proud of you 💜 You realized your worth, whereas he stayed the same shallow, immature little boy.

[@NeanderthalNorthman]

Dude. Breaking up is literally the most motivating thing I can think off. Every time I ever split up with a girlfriend I lost weight and got healthier.

[@LK-tp2le]

Same, you get in better shape and then find someone much better than the ex

[@NeanderthalNorthman]

@LK-tp2le it kinda sucks tho now haha, I'm married with a kid.... can't just break up now just to lose 20 lbs lol

[@pamelamorrisonn]

@@NeanderthalNorthman Lol

[@aff77141]

Makes you realize you don't have to put your whole self worth in someone else. Separate that idea from the relationship and easoer to not get in the bad situation in the first place

[@abirdkilledmeh]

lol right? Such a weird comment. ​@@demihau

[@Indistinguishablelady]

Just looked him up online... No, Tanner isn't married to Mikayla. 😝

[@hypnoteapot]

Thank god. The way she manipulated him by breaking up the second he doesn't crawl at her feet like a puppy really rubbed me the wrong way.

[@pamelamorrisonn]

@@hypnoteapot *God

[@rodneyjones1991]

@@pamelamorrisonnDog*

[@leifmeadows3782]

Her loss, really.

[@caitolent]

Telling this kid that he's worth it, he's worth the effort, he's worth his own time and energy, without anyone else's approval, was probably all he needed to hear. Instead he got told "man up!" Sad.

[@hornetguy9063]

Obv it could’ve been edited, but clearly “you’re a fat POS, push yourself” works great on some people. On an emotional teenager, not so much.

[@tsurugizaki]

Given his unique name I was able to find a facebook profile for him pretty quickly. He's a plumber now, married, and even has a child. He looks like he's in decent shape! And... his wife is not this person, haha. There are a lot of comments about the girlfriend here but ultimately when you're eighteen you're still inexperienced with relationships and you're going to have some messy ones. Glad to see he's (probably) grown since then.

[@mxtchako8646]

what’s his facebook name

[@tsurugizaki]

@@mxtchako8646 Tanner Umemoto

[@allisonelizabeth6596]

@@mxtchako8646 Tanner Umemoto

[@kinaratundra6475]

The girl is toxic. Manipulative to have her boyfriend give up everything of himself to make sure she feels devoted and loved. And wants to be seen as the "hot" one and how he should feel "lucky" to have snagged such an attractive partner therefore should stop doing everything for her. What? Is she gonna break it off once he gets a full time job? If you have a partner that doesn't push for your success then it's a stagnant relationship. How you show love to your partner is by taking care of yourself then taking care of your partner and household. There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself first if it means to benefit and support both persons. And in return makes you feel good about yourself and accomplished in your personal goals.

[@CursedWheelieBin]

Maybe she is. It’s his responsibility regardless. What’s much more interesting is what you were saying about the importance of self-care ☝️. I was talking about this the other day. Imagine if people cared for themselves as though they’re caring for someone else. How much better would we treat ourselves? The fact that people [usually] take better care of other people than they do of themselves, kinda reveals how much or how little we value ourselves. Even the simplest positive step in looking after ourselves is a little reminder that we’re actually worth looking after. Our brain hears all this. Just my silly little take 😃

[@miaomiaou_]

I feel like you didn’t watch the video or are projecting way too much onto her. She barely says anything at all. It’s him who has devoted himself to her, and that’s all we really know. She dumps him bc he has no time for her anymore, then they get back together and he quits the program, so yeah, maybe she is the devil, maybe he sucks at time management but we don’t really know either way. Seems like the average shallow teenage relationship to me.

[@hemanownsyou]

@@miaomiaou_ Stop making excuses for the girlfriend.

[@autumnh5027]

@hemanownsyou Excuses for what?? 😭😭 she literally did nothing but sit there the whole time, so it is hella projecting to say she was manipulative based on what we saw lol. And why is she not allowed to break up with him?

[@dudelikeseriously8418]

​@autumnh5027 she clearly was the issue lol. He ended up marrying someone else and is much healthier now. You girlies that are getting angry are doing so because of your expectations on your partners/future partners. People have things to do, not everything is about their s/o. Sadly though, certain people love feeling desired, and to feel desired they need all their partners time and energy. It's quite messy. Obviously she didn't convince him on camera to quit the program, she didn't break up with him on camera either. She knew how to manipulate the situation and she knew there'd be people like you jumping for her lol.

[@terrykingpin1452]

I haven't finished watching the video yet. But this hits close to home. My younger brother met his ex girlfriend when he was 14. He was on the path to join the military, fit, confident, popular and outgoing. After meeting his girlfriend,he changed drastically. He stopped taking care of himself, she would always want to eat out and eat fast food. He stopped working out and stopped hanging out with his friends. Years of this, he's overweight, has high anxiety and his world revolved around her. She made him believe he's unattractive and helped him gain weight so that no girl would look at him. Every time he tried to pull away, she would threaten him. By either hurting herself or spreading rumors about him. Even being sexually abusive towards him. It took years for him to finally break away from her. But the damage is done. He's 23 now, and is struggling to find himself and break away from the psychological damage she did to him.

[@terranghost5432]

Really crazy how there can be psychotic women that are out there right now doing this to other people again and again.

[@yasmine4501]

The damage is not done unless he says/decides that’s the case! He’s 23, he’s still young he can absolutely still do it!!!!

[@Bts999-3]

This happens with young girls too all the time. Who is to blame? The parents or do these teenagers start taking responsibility for their toxic behaviors that have gone too far.

[@corkaczarownicy]

Wait, a guy loses almost 40 lbs, but everyone says he failed? With the stupid program that is 4-5h of workout everyday? 😵

[@chickenindoubleC]

Mikayla is also essentially a child here, too, so hopefully folks aren't too hard on her. Hopefully she's seen some changes in her life too--I definitely would not want my teenage self on national television, ha! I wish the best for them both.

[@hamlet557]

If I was that parent I'd never consent on my kid being on TV. Never, ever.

[@GabrielAKAFinn]

She is not "a child". Her parents can't deny her image rights. She's an adult. This world ia fucking doomed because the last generation created a bunch of 30 year old children

[@MadsterMadness]

You know, 36lbs is still pretty darn good! I wish they celebrated that with him, that he lost something and that he's feeling better instead of shaming the heck out of him. Idk, sometimes shame works for people, but he seemed in a tough place

[@daviddombrowski3253]

I did some 10 mins digging and found who I think is Tanner. He is currently not thin, but in an noticeable healthier weight and is not with Mikayla anymore.

[@tahajuddlover9427]

My coach legit pushed me to workout 5 days a week but he was fun and the workouts were secondary to us talking about anime and Disney movies. We would plan out upcoming tournaments and what we would do to improve and I never felt the pressure to do better but I feel motivated to do better for my coach.

[@BobTheBever]

A good coach or teacher can do so much. For you to succeed. I still miss my economics teacher. I don't think I will ever get a better one than him. Keep going 👊

[@tahajuddlover9427]

@@BobTheBever he isn’t my teacher but he is dope. I will try my best to keep going and honestly I’m enjoying working out because I used to be athletic and I dealt with depression and quit my team. I realized how out of shape I became but I also see my old self coming back and the competitive spirit is coming back. Everyone I encourage you to compete with yourself and treat yourself like the main character

[@BobTheBever]

​​​@@tahajuddlover9427 I am sorry to hear that I am pretty athletic to. Its good that you saw the problem en did something. Stay trong 👊 And yes i know you had it over your coach but this is the same for a teacher a teacher can make a subject interesting and fun. The same with a good coach they can make workout fun.

[@tahajuddlover9427]

@@BobTheBever oh no I completely agree I had few teachers like that. I’m ok now Alhamdulilah I’m grateful for every day

[@irishpineda_]

can’t believe we have another update again for this week. Thank you!

[@KianaDocherty]

😏😏😏

[@irishpineda_]

@@KianaDocherty HI KIANA

[@cian104]

A lot of people fear change, it is a natural response. If someone you love and depend on starts changing it can be scary, and someone with insecurities may sadly cave to those insecurities and start to sabotage the person they love. Duality of man. People need to overcome those insecurities and support the people they love and rise up with them. I feel a lot of people who react like this would benefit from DBT.

[@RedWaterGlow]

Very well said, couln´t agree more.

[@farzana2686]

As someone in remission from BPD, well said!!

[@tristantries9211]

What is DBT?

[@cian104]

@@tristantries9211 Dialectical behaviour therapy, its primary geared towards people diagnosed with BPD but I think it has value for everyone

[@tristantries9211]

@@cian104 thanks

[@ecksofresh]

Man it’s so weird seeing this having gone through the same thing. Clearly this kid was codependent on his girlfriend. His relationship with his dad is strained so of course he’s going to find happiness externally. When you have that level of self deprecation having someone tell you they love you and show you the love and affection that you want is it going to make you want to put that persons needs I front of your own.

[@margaretliston8950]

I was obsessed with these shows when I was younger. I often used them as “inspiration” to start some crash diet. Watching now, in my 30s, I’m horrified. Thank you for covering this!

[@dobromiaborys3555]

I believe Mikayla enjoyed how much control she had over Tanner, what he was eating, to be more conventionally attractive than him and thus have an upper hand, and once she felt he was slipping away she pulled back to starve him for her affection. Glad they arent together no more

[@Jay-oj3lt]

4:27 “Right on!” 😂😭 That was so funny to me idk why 😅

[@Soyapudding]

The real moral of the story is to doing things for yourself, not for others

[@christinerodriguez3976]

She is afraid if he lost weight, he would not want her anymore. It is so obvious. His motivation was routed in the wrong things. If you do not do it for yourself, you will fail. Sometimes it takes a few tries, but the whole thing is to keep doing it and not stopping.

[@HereForTheComments990]

No. She is a kid who realized she was too young to settle for an unmotivated jerk whose parents blamed HER for HIS obesity. She was SMART to run.

[@WobblesandBean]

​@@HereForTheComments990 You are reeeallly reaching with that stretch. You just invented an entire scenario in your head.

[@LaMangouste]

@@HereForTheComments990 and when she went back to him he started regaining the weight he lost. Suuure, keep living in fantasy land buddy, it's all a coincidence.

[@KillingTheMotivation]

I think she just wanted to get more free time with her boyfriend. He was at the gym for hours every single day Imagine if your partner finished work every day and spent hours at the gym. You’d want some middle ground

[@christinerodriguez3976]

@KillingTheMotivation I agree, but I gotta say, all the crap they ate was not helping, and she did not support him to get healthy

[@Caroleeena]

That poor kid. Bad trainer, unrealistic goals, unsupportive girlfriend who also enabled his worst habits, and even his parents didn't seem supportive. A better plan would have included moderate goals, celebrated losing 10 pounds a month (which is huge!) and worked in joyful movement (when girlfriend was cheerleading if need be) and realistic changes in eating during Netflix and Chill time like popcorn with brewers yeast as a very low calorie and filling snack. (Hell, Netflix is when I do yoga. It's possible to habit stack a good habit on a bad habit you already do.) I wonder how Tanner is doing today and if he's still with Mikayla? I hope he didn't get worse because he felt like a failure. Losing 40 lbs in 4 months is a lot and they should have made a big deal about that.

[@G99304]

The UK has a version of this show but a lot less dramatic. The episodes also show what can happen when you have family support. There was one guy who lost way more than was set for him with the help of his mum and dad. I literally cried like a baby at his reaction!

[@pamelamorrisonn]

Which show? Always watch UK shows but can't think of the name

[@G99304]

​@pamelamorrisonn it is your fault I am fat. It aired on channel 5 so with a vpn you could probably watch it

[@dylanpark3519]

I love what you said about “health” isn’t a good motivator, honestly I’d love to see a video specifically about that because I think so many people (myself lol) make this a well- intentioned goal (subconsciously or on purpose) because it is vague & no deadline for being “healthy”. This will help you avoid responsibility if/when you fail . And how to overcome that.

[@CCootauco]

Theres two types of personal trainers. Those who were always fit, and dont understand. And those who were out of shape and know.

[@anewlife8343]

5 hours?! I don't blame him for quitting.

[@profe3330]

Nobody needs to work out for 5 hours a day. This whole Girlfriend vs Fitness thing seems pretty artificial.

[@Lawlllz]

He looked so good too. If he had just kept moving forward with it he would of hit his goal. He proved he was capable of making it happen. I hope he’s doing better these days.

[@Theonewhoknocks879]

The way these videos link back and reference older posts really shows that Kiana knows her stuff.

[@SUPEREME_DRAVIDA]

You truly have mastered the art of writing catchy titles.

[@dudelikeseriously8418]

Wacthed both videos you did covering this show earlier on today (again), its kinda weird lol. Thank you for the new upload, we appreciate your consistency and see you Kiana!

[@Diamond-2828]

I also think this show is an exterme that would be very hard to upkeep in the real world without mtv. Most people , outside of celebrities, can't work out for 5 hours a day, not with a full-time job and school etc so what happens when you want to go down to a more manageable amount of exercise and then you dont see the crazy results then you get demotivated. The truth of weight loss is that it's a long, slow, boring monotonous process with lots of repetition, but no one wants to hear that 100lbs might take you three years to lose.

[@isthatharrasment]

The *professional* trainer wanting him to lose over 2% of his weight a week is pretty insane

[@WobblesandBean]

That's what the show did. They knew these goals are unsustainable, cuz they want dRaMa

[@hornetguy9063]

Yeah, I can’t imagine pushing to lose more than 1% per week. Losing 30% of your body weight is like a 9 month stretch goal.

[@urbanarmory]

In fairness, he's an athlete and should be able to shift weight really fast. But it's still too much

[@TheArrowedKnee]

@@urbanarmory Doesen't really make a difference, that fast of a weight loss would be extremely tough for *anyone*

[@cupcakeordeath]

What’s Mikyla going to do when Tanner gets a job? That’s the same time commitment as his workout schedule.

[@HereForTheComments990]

That was her excuse. Come on. She’s a kid. She realized she wasn’t that into him, and she didn’t want to stick around a guy whose dad blames her for his son’s bad choices.

[@jessip8654]

Oof, dunno why but his girlfriend sets my teeth on edge. Probably flashbacks to some of the girls I went to high school with, who years later tried to recruit me to their MLMs.

[@chrystianaw8256]

😳

[@MadMadMandy]

Big boy program, fr I would've been so mad if someone talked to me like that 😅

[@mayrachanpimol3832]

IMO, this guy showed some toxic masculinity. Always bring up the "being a real man" narrative and "being healthy", Eric kept repeating HIS motivations, not Tanner's. That's where he failed to his client

[@whimsy0451]

Always a delight when you drop a new video. Cheers!

[@l1fe1s0dd]

That RIP for Tanner’s motivation was savage 😂

[@smakermanster]

That's surprising that a wrestler lost control of his weight - we're usually very adherent to that

[@molasorrosalom4846]

That's crazy, this kid was a wrestler, got in a relationship and gained 100lbs????

[@madxprofessor]

She sabotaged him on purpose you can see it on her face the second they're "back together"

[@bethlovesthings]

Oh this story was a little bit heart breaking. I wonder how they both feel looking back on that experience. Definitely worth sharing, I remember gaining 10kg during the first few years of my first long term relationship. Would love to see how different the results would have been had they addressed our emotional relationship with food. Another great vid Kiana ❤

[@diolanda8570]

We said "motivated" so often that I thought this was Virgil from Devil May Cry. Now I'm motivated.

[@Sokew86]

This episode reminds my sis. She has always struggled with her weight but she is talented atleth. Anyway her weight had spinned out of control with her second girlfriend. When they broke up my sis had started to lose weight . Finding a new love, again weight up. Now she has broken up with her last girlfriend and me and my other sisters did intervention. We have asked"why you choose women that are unsupportive on your weight loss?" Now she trains with my older sister and they keep up each others motivation

[@Junior-up3kf]

This is fire do more I used to be fat episodes foo

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

I know you said you don't blame Mikyla... but I kinda do. The other comments are saying Mikyla probably wanted more attention or was afraid he wouldn't want her anymore if he lost weight. My thoughts? _There are women who are chubby chasers just like there are men who are chubby chasers._ When they got back together, he went right back to shoveling food in his mouth... and she looked _thrilled._ I think she's a feeder? (Not sure if that's the right term.) If he wanted to "look good" for Mikyla, he'd have to keep putting on the pounds. He was in a no win scenario from the start.

[@goldengreenonyx]

The best part about this video was the "In memory of tanner's motivation" candle

[@CursedWheelieBin]

Thanks for the video. That motivation equation really helps quantify our reasons for making decisions and commitments.

[@mediumchunkymads]

The personal trainer could have said on top of doing it for himself, someday he'll meet somebody better and doing this now will be worth it for her someday

[@matthewdragomir2261]

First off, the girl breaking up with him because of his weight alone was the first red flag but at the same time, I have to remind myself they're both 18 or so. Talking about marriage at that age is the scariest thing by far. Not the lack of motivation or lack of weight loss.

[@SSM654]

Wow. What a throw back. I remember watching this with my older sisters, as a kid I thought how sad it was that he quit mid way through.

[@stijnvanrobaeys7011]

I remember the trainer Joey... He was like a way better trainer than the others in my memory.

[@stijnvanrobaeys7011]

@@HikeWizard Nope, just from the recollection of my memory. So the image I have could be very distorted 🙈

[@moonchildxo77742]

@@HikeWizardoh I just looked it up and that’s really disappointing to read about. I always got the most motivation from his episodes :/

[@fatmanonabike238]

39lbs lost since January 250lbs I was 289lbs these videos really help thank you

[@borderlines8021]

Great job!!

[@fatmanonabike238]

Thankyou

[@masha22092000r]

I am a simple girl. I see Kiana uploading - I hit "like"!

[@roschanvargonay9820]

The dad is really a great motivation. Sitting there, grinning and stuffing his face while talking about failure.

[@nicholasgutierrez9940]

Almost 2 years after I broke up with my first love. Still not there but have gotten back a lot of motivation. I gained 18 lbs in the first year. Lost 12 of those now.

[@m.h.a.3554]

That “Right on!” and glimmer of hope made me so happy

[@Blixtwixy]

I don't understand these situations. Like, just hang out with your partner while they work out? She could have tagged along and just done some yoga or something and chatted with him. Also, I think the reason "health" is a bad goal is because we know our mortality. If we are aiming to be healthy in 10 years, well, what if we die before then? We as humans need nearby goals because that way we feel more confident we will actually see the reward.

[@melchiorlise2466]

I don't think it's really about mortality except maybe for people who are nearing the end of their lives. But relatively young ones never think that way, they never actually consider not being there in ten years time. However I do agree that humans seek results as satisfying as possible, as fast as possible. The reason is because when you eat junks food or play video games the reward is instantaneous and easy: your brain releases feel-good hormones in a matter of milliseconds. Whereas if you workout and eat healthy the reward is belated and harder to achieve. You may have to wait months before you see any positive results.

[@GabrielAKAFinn]

Did you look at her? Does that jowl say yoga?

[@YAHWEHSCHILD3]

The sign of an unhealthy relationship is when you break up and start to improve mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

[@MaxContagion]

"external motivators don't work" - said no zealot ever, or soldier, or parent, or

[@cassilove6606]

Thank you for doing these! I absolutely love this show and commentary you provide! I’ve been watching at the gym!

[@pmcfearson9453]

Dad’s fat, kids fat. Start with yourself dad and then ask your son to follow. Blaming some 15 year old girl is the cowards route.

[@МаринаБокарева-г5в]

I once read that when a relationship starts people tend to gain weight not because they "let themselves go", but because even a good relationship still causes some kind of psychological stress and fear of, say, being too close to another person or disappointing them etc., so the overeating may start as a reaction to that stress. Imagine what it must be like in a BAD relationship.

[@irishpineda_]

New Kiana update again 🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@reignbalboa]

“The biggest obstacle in front of him, himself.” BURNED

[@twinmama16]

I really hope that he broke up with that girl eventually, for good. His dad knew she was bad news, granted she was a teenager, she was still a manipulative control freak.

[@Bonny-zt8iv]

I agree so much with what you said about his trainer. His trainer didn’t give him as much help as he should of, and didn’t address the real problem that kept him for staying consistent with the program. To me it was as if the trainer was just there to do his job instead of establishing a relationship with his client; getting close with Tanner I believe would of made him feel comfortable and motivated him a lot ♡

[@user-rx7pd1xv4k]

Dads got that 3rd sense for their kid's bad boyfriend/girlfriend I swear. This guy's dad reminded me so much of my own dad haha

[@Renata-s4l]

Hi Kiana! Can you share anything about how to break some types of food addictions(specifically sugar addiction etc. for me is “bread addiction”) in near future? Need it a lot!!!❤

[@PaladinPedro]

Was the MF really just benching 315. Fuck the weightloss we need to get him on a bulk

[@Wolfiewolf1234]

I thought that too!

[@kylegreer4342]

Poor kid. He did a hell of a job. Like you said, by the numbers it’s an incredible weight loss journey! I hope in the years following he’s achieved all of his goals and found that missing piece to his motivation

[@richardpell]

He did technically give up but his expectations were also very very high

[@rebeccat9389]

Total aside: I love the colors in your background here 💙🩵💚💛💜

[@WobblesandBean]

His voice is so high. As a biologist I wish people paid more attention to the studies of excess fat creating more estrogen in the body. We don't know the long term consequences of this, little girls are hitting puberty at lower and lower ages, boys are getting increasingly effeminate, not an issue to me personally on a social level, but this is opening them up to breast cancer, prostate cancer, early onset diabetes, and so much more.

[@teresab.1448]

Your background is the best on youtube :)

[@BaristaWithADog]

I Googled Tanner Umemoto and he and his wife are both pretty husky. His wife isn't Mikyla, lol.

[@leacollin9629]

Am so thankful to watch you on my computer with an add block , like girl how many adds did you accept to fit on this video , it's ridiculous

[@robbiesilverwolf]

Kind of confused why he quit wrestling when the weight limit for high school wrestling is 285lbs

[@evanhiggins7298]

That motivational chart is so true!!! Value is the key. Btw, just subscribed