KJ and Tony Move to France | Why we Returned to the US and Health Update

[@inmytravelstoday]

I lived in Paris for 8 years. There is nothing wrong south you possibly living in both places. If you’ve never lived abroad before it can be overwhelming. Please know that you don’t have to vlog as much as you do. It takes time to get your footing in a new place, let alone a new country. When it’s time for you to return to Paris, why not just turn the cameras off snd gently learn about your surroundings, find your rhythm. We’ll be here to continue to support you both. Take your time. We can wait and do can Paris.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much for your support and encouragment!

[@mariecarter3138]

I must tell you both how inspired I was by your travels in France, but even *more* inspired by your transparency and vulnerability in this video. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. I was surprised by how much you were posting, and completely understand why that was too much. Change for me is very very challenging so I applaud the huge steps that you took together. Your experience and reactions are the OPPOSITE of failure ❤

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Marie! So appreciate this post 💞💞💞

[@nancysaladino6108]

I am new to seeing your channel and it all seems like such a lovely idea, but I have to ask you a question. Are you aware of all the changes that are happening all over the world? I think it would be very stressful to change your life in such a huge move while the world is going through so many changes spiritually, politically, socially and monetarily. That's enough to make anyone's head spin. Many people might not agree with this but it is the truth. We as humans are getting and are currently going through changes on all fronts which are unique in all of human history. Whether or not you believe it, Bible prophecy is playing out in front of all of us. The world is about to be in Tribulation for the next three and a half to seven years. I hate to be a "Debbie Downer", but there are going to be more lockdowns, vaccines, change in world wide currency and lots more social unrest. I can see why anyone would be very stressed out not being around familiar things, when the whole world is losing its mind, around all of us. Whether or not you believe in Jesus, He is about to return and take His children out of this world, because the next few years of Tribulation are going to start at any moment if they haven't already. If anyone thinks what I am saying is crazy, read the book of Revelation. It's all coming to pass. If I were in your shoes, which I am not, but I wouldn't want to leave my elderly parents at all and be in a different country either. Travel is probably going to be restricted more than it already is. It's amazing to me that many people in the world can look around and not notice anything going on, but it's time to wake up. We all need discernment and the only place to get that is with the Holy Spirit through belief in Jesus. No one should want to be on this earth during the Tribulation, because in order for you to be saved you must believe that Jesus died for you and you can't take the Mark of the beast and you should not take any Bill Gates and Dr. Fauci vaccines. You have to admit that the elites and the powers that be just want to take your rights away from you and control every aspect of your life, especially communication, travel and money. They try to pass themselves off as such philanthropic helpers if the world when they are just the opposite. Sorry this is so long, but I have to say it couldn't be more normal than to listen to what your body is telling you that things are not right and that there are too many adjustments to be made in life right now. Many people are losing everything. God is trying to get people's attention, because he wants to save us all. The next few years are going to be ruled by the evil one and many people will have to go against him and will probably be killed for their faith, if they make it that far. If these were normal times, I think your channel would be wonderful, but we are all living not in normal times. I wish you all the best and God's blessings and protection upon you.

[@globetrotter6127]

I empathized with you because my husband and me planned many years ago to return to Spain after retirement where we lived some years but has been impossible for different reasons. And then decided to travel different places very often instead . I think the way you’re planning now to stay some months and back is more realistic and is a smart decision. God bless you and continue with your videos at your own pace. We enjoy them very much.

[@enigma4649]

I'd rather live my life with "failures" than regrets. Failures lead to growth while regrets lead to depression.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Absolutely!

[@gw4008]

I am so sorry to hear you endured such experience, but I want you to know your bravery in sharing your experience is heart felt. I want you and others to know many more people experience this, but is not easy to admit, but we love you guys and wish you the very best going forward,I can say that my wife and i experience this in our move to Poland, it surprised us but needed a reset thanks for sharing your personal experience.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you ♥️

[@cremebrulee4759]

Thank you so much for being honest about your depression. Mental health issues do have a stigma around them, and they shouldn't. As someone who has struggled all of my life with depression, anxiety, and ADHD, it's wonderful to see someone talking openly about their struggles. That move was an enormous change in weather, language, lifestyle, family. It's easy to think that you're ready because you want to be and you feel like you are, but it turns out to be too much. Adding pain like you're having with your knee to that just exacerbates the issue. Now you can think through your next steps from the comfort of a place where you feel at home. Having your own possessions around you is also extremely important. I've been to Paris twice on short visits of two or three days. I didn't see all of the sights, but I did love the atmosphere and the architecture, walking along the Champs-Élysées, and sitting in a sidewalk cafe watching the people go by. Don't pressure yourself to make so many videos unless you are dependent on the money, which I don't believe is the case. When it stops being fun, then you shouldn't be doing it. I didn't realize that KJ had another KZbin channel, but I would love to check it out if you provide a link. Best of luck.

[@dls300]

I would like to visit Paris and do those exact things that you spoke of. Debby in Kansas

[@suzannekurkowski8246]

I’m glad you prioritized your own health. I love watching your videos, but YOU matter more than anything 🙏🏻❤️

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Suzanne 🥰

[@sharonalexa]

So nice to see you both. I was worried the last few weeks. You’re not alone KJ, so many go through homesickness & depression. Big hug. I have no expectations of your vids. Whatever you post in future will be lovely. 🇨🇦♥️

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Sharon 🥰

[@kathleenkalt3852]

Learning what is best for you is not failure, it's insight.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Yes, we agree. Thank you!

[@rabeetarighat872]

Thanks for sharing your perspective on living abroad and all the things that you need to consider before making a serious decision

[@SoLaRe60]

KJ and Tony, I just discovered your videos today. All this resonates so much with me. My husband and I live in Miami, Florida. We have been talking about moving away for years, and France has been high on our list. I know both Paris and Nice very well (I am European and a French teacher), and, although I love both, I would prefer to live in Nice, and just visit Paris. For us, Floridians, used to seeing the sun every day, the south makes sense. Your experience is not a failure. Finding out what we want and how to achieve it is a process. You are inspirational. I wish you the very best!

[@dls300]

"Finding out what we want and how to achieve it is a process." So much clarity! Debby in Kansas

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much, Sorela. I'm disappointed that I missed out on experiencing Nice. Tony says I will probably like it even more than Paris, due to the weather and the coast. I'm looking forward to going back to Paris in October, but the next trip will be to Nice. Thanks again for your kindness and support🥰

[@castlequay2327]

i love Nice. After about 4 visits in 20 years my husband and i enjoyed a weeks holiday in April so much tbat we have decided to return every year during the end of April for a holiday. The airport transfer is easy on the metro and we have chosen the Hotel Beau Rivage as it has its own beach. Perfect in all weathers with shops museums good train links and best of all the Promenade.

[@christillery7194]

This is Chris Tillery, Tony was my Therapist at Beachcommer. My input is that anyone who Posted anything negative about your Adventure are the same people sitting in their one bed Apartment scared to go get a gallon of milk at Publix, that's 2 blocks from where they live. What y'all have done and accomplished in the past 10 to 12 months is probably the Best Achievement in your whole time married. What you both overcame, would be sending most married couples to a divorce Attorney, I personally have enjoyed the adventures and watching all of the good bad & ugly, and for you to be so honest about everything is just BRAVE. Thank you both and keep us posted on what's next. Thanks again, Chris Tillery

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thanks, Chris. We appreciate your kind words of encouragement and support. Tony says hello 👋

[@suzigemini]

KJ I too have been out of the loop. My partner of ten years passed away suddenly on March 18. I miss him terribly. I am sending you hugs~just get well. People will not leave your channel because of a health crisis. Hang in there. I personally am drawing strength somehow. Much love. Suzi Gemini

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Oh my gosh, Suzi! We are so sorry to hear that. How traumatic for you Sending you lots of love, hugs and prayers your way 🫂

[@jenniferbarkey5712]

I was a military wife for 20 years. The depression you suffered from is something I went through when ever we moved to another country. When I was younger I got through it a bit easier and faster but when I was in my early 40s we got stationed in southern Italy. That's where I again suffered from depression. It's all linked to you knowing you are going to be there a long time, culture shock, missing home aka U.S., time changes,etc. It took me about 6 months to get out of that depression. I never came home to the US to visit family for fear of going through the readjustment again when returning to Italy. Don't beat yourself up over you needing to come home. Maybe it would just be best to go for a month at a time. Take care.

[@dls300]

That is so interesting. I was a 3rd grade teacher at a military base, and am now retired. Debby in Kansas

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Love and appreciate you, Debby in Kansas!!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you for sharing this, Jennifer. Helps to normalize the experience for me and know I am not alone in this experience. Truly, so helpful. Yes, I believe shorter visits and having a home base to come home to in the US is a better option.

[@patoshea5351]

I am glad you are now doing better..I was concerned...it show when you wanted a certain blanket...when you do if when....not ignore your limits..such as selecting apt when to many stairs..or using unforgiving Metro that doesn't provide accession..elevator... I think if you went into Maritime Alps long term lease of car..to discover the better part of South Coast...such as Beaulieu...Viillefranche etc..do possibly weekly visits in the area. Posting adventures restaurants etc..I am going back to visit..now costly in Summer. I have been traveling in Mexico for over 2 months...working with Airbb..sometimes good one week at time another passible.I recall Tony saying what do with your clothes...since caught in season change of clothing..I do need downsize my suitcase...for its been OK on bus to Airbb...but now be taking trains in Europe..it will be more difficult..heavy suitcase..any tips Tony?

[@noelineclancy2671]

Thank you and bless you both for been honest x

[@anandhicooray5512]

It's so nice to see you both. KJ, you don't 'have to' post a video every week. We'd rather wait for one when you are free and liking to post, than feeling compelled and under pressure. It's your experience of France and not a job or a chore. It's the joy that you feel in your experience, that we enjoy. Best to you both! 👍👍👍💖💖💖

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much. We appreciate your encouragement and support!!

[@juliejames3338]

i wondered how you were doing. so sorry to hear about your depression, but although i don't suffer with depression, i do get home sickness; we have been living in france for 16 years, but its really hard.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Julie. Wow, 16 years living in France. I bet you have some stories to tell. We appreciate you and all the people sharing their experiences with us!

[@suemiller7917]

We were transferred to a new area. I had to give up my job and family. I woke up one morning saying I have no friends,I don’t know anyone. But once I started meeting people, making friends and having new experiences I became stronger as a person. I learned so much about myself that I can now move anywheres. I love the experience of new adventures, meeting new people and making new friends. Looking back I found the first move is the hardest. Don’t give up because there will be always new adventures ahead for you both..

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thanks for your encouragement and support ❤️

[@primordialmeow7249]

I've lived abroad twice in my life. I would say 4 out f 5 Americans return home within 5 years. With all our problems and the changes here, I am an American girl at heart. Just retired from nursing and am happy here in beautiful Northern Arizona. Thanks for being so honest and real.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

You're welcome. Gla dyou enjoyed.

[@emmabarron8515]

I really appreciate your honesty, and make a big move is always difficult. Keep going!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you! We plan to.

[@stephanawest5054]

You are so brave. First to follow your dream of moving to France, and then to be smart enough to take care of your mental and physical health in your return to the U.S. I’m glad that you are feeling better and I look forward to more posts from you. Tell us some of the things you learned on your first move to France that will alter how you do things on the next trip. Your dream of living in France hasn’t died, like most things in life it has just changed. Good to see you both!

[@dls300]

Amen! Debby in Kansas

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Stephana. I appreciate your kind comments. We will also address your question in our next Q&A video🥰

[@ganymeade5151]

Moving to any country is a huge change and challenge The language, culture, bureaucracy, financial system of France is very different than America. It is necessary to speak fluent French to make friends or to work. French is very difficult to learn for many Americans. That combined with the slowness and complexity of the bureaucracy is frustrating and overwhelming for may people who are used to speed and efficiency. The number of papers and dossiers required in France is incredible. Lose one piece of paper and you must start all over and that can take years. There is often no AC in France and winters can be very cold without enough heat. All of that is challenging.

[@EvaOrtiz949]

I Just found your channel and this video is a GREAT lesson! I’m currently preparing to live in Spain early 2025 and I’ve planned extensively about this move. However, I have not anticipated the emotional toll that may arise from living in a new environment. THANK YOU KJ for having the courage to say out loud what so many keep silent. I’m still excited about my endeavor AND will keep your lovely voice in my heart should I begin to feel less than blissful 🇪🇸 💃🏻 🇫🇷

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

I'm so glad you found it helpful ❤️

[@jenniferjones3990]

I lived in France about 40 years ago. First semester, I lived in the Southern part of Normandy commuting to a Paris and then moved to Paris full time. I became depressed and home sick after 5 months in France. I went to a special program at the Sorbonne. I get it. I was so homesick and depressed. I had a Greek boyfriend who helped me through some of it. I like your channel I just found it. I have dreams of moving back to France. A part of my heart is in France too. ❤

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I feel better knowing I'm not alone in my experience of homesickness. We want to live in France ultimately but the timing has to be right.

[@carolyn9589]

I was one of the early watchers and remember thinking, oh, fabulous, I can travel vicariously! Your videos were right on target for me. But I do absolutely understand being overwhelmed. When you do something for the love of it, and it becomes more of a job, sometimes the joy fades as you start working harder at ‘succeeding’. Please do not torment yourself over the viewers. We enjoy your videos. If they continue, we’ll be happy. And if they have to be less often, or not at all, just enjoy your time there. Health comes first. I’m glad to hear you’re doing better (except for the knee!). Take care and I wish you the best!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Carolyn. We appreciate your caring and support 🥰

[@cannedangel8550]

Hi KJ and Tony, I've been following your channel and I am inspired by your spirit of renewal and change. I also enjoyed the beautiful "Ave Maria violinist" you posted at the end of this video. Your experience both in France and here give those who don't dare to get out of their comfort zone a little kick to dare and just try... Out of the box type of experience. Bravo to you and Tony!!! I live in Miami and was always an avid explorer of other cultures. Especially France. Keep posting your thoughts and videos, you guys are doing great!

[@auntiewin1134]

So much to explore here. I’m in France now on a similar quest. I think if it hadn’t been for your knee mostly. You might have figured it out differently.Then the out of Paris letdown vis the more rural lol lifestyle in Versailles. You learned you want to be right in the action and I am also looking for that. I want to live over the store. You learned you have a tenderness for your Florida life and that is beautiful by itself. For many people I know widowed like me, that is enough to keep them somewhere. But for me, working it out as I am writing, traveling with my husband was possibly the source of our exhilaration of being together so hitting the road as I approach 80 is a way of being with him. And thanks for you being you! I feel like we’re all in the room together talking and working things out.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Wendy. We really appreciate your perspective and kind words.

[@briancarlisto3995]

Dear KJ and Tony, Your adventure in France has been so inspiring. I've missed you both for the last few weeks. You are providing so many people a wonderful opportunity to evaluate if being an expat in France is something something that should be explored. Thank you for being so honest about your depression and bring it into the light. Depression has been stigmatized in the past and fortunately no longer needs to be. KJ, I will keep you in my prayer and look forward to your return to France in the future.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much, Brian. Appreciate your support and encouraging words.

[@juder515]

I’m so happy to see the two of you!! Go at your own pace and take care of yourselves. I’ll be standing by for whatever you share. ❤❤

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you for the love and support 💞

[@doodleacademy]

So glad to hear that KJ is feeling better 💛Your channel is one of my favorites because I find both of you relatable and genuine. It is one of my dreams to move to France as well, so I watch your content with great interest. I appreciate your honesty about your experience, keeping it real, and not sugarcoating everything. Moving forward, I would like to see you create videos of your surrounding area in Boca Raton and any places you travel to or visit. I live in San Diego, so Florida (and the entire eastern/southeastern coast) is a mystery to me and lots of other people as well. The main thing to remember is that we all come to your channel to see *you* and to hear what you have to say. ☀

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much for your caring, and for your support, especially relative to posting videos about Boca and our surrounding area. We are getting this feedback from other viewers as well and it is definitely encouraging since we won't be back in France until October. Appreciate you and your kindness.

[@amystarnes9385]

Thank you for your honesty. Our body tells us when we need to stop what were doing and take care of ourselves.. Totally can relate

[@DonnaDickson-ti3bp]

I personally think if the two of you just videoed a trip to the grocery, I would love watching it. You make anything worth watching!❤ 3:48

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

That is so sweet and appreciated, Donna. Who knows, we may just do that one day...lol 😅

[@KayeCarterTV]

Take time to get healthy. Don’t worry about what people might think or say…enjoy every moment with each other…one day at a time. Sending hugs, prayers, love and kindness.❤

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Kaye. Sending hugs, prayers, love and kindness right back your way 💞

[@maxinebaskerville6020]

I am SO glad to see this post! I have been concerned about you two. I have to say THANK you SO very much for sharing this with us. It was not easy I know. I can totally understand what you've been thru and appreciate it too. I am sorry that this happened to you both. And I TOTALLY believe things happen the was they do for reasons. Reasons that we don't understand when they happen but later we go WOW! And it's usually a good wow, too. I adore watching you 2 and I will watch anything you choose to post here, there or anywhere. LoL!!❤😊

[@dls300]

It's amazing (the things that happen) to guide us to the right choice. Debby in Kansas

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Maxine ❤️ We so appreciate you and your kind words. It is so encouraging. And yes, I know we are back here in the US right now because this is where we need to be 🥰

[@MsAgatha1Eta]

Greetings from WV. I've just discovered you and find your videos to be inspiring. The violinist's beautiful "Ave Maria" brought tears to my eyes. Thank you!❤

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you. We're glad you're enjoying the videos ❤️

[@minnieshultz2135]

I’ve missed you and your husband. Please know that we will be here no matter what you post here on KZbin. You both are a very special couple and we are invested and attached to you as people. When you go back to France, that will be great to see , also. Take care of yourself first and we’ll still be here.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Minnie. That is so lovely of you, and also very encouraging, considering we won't be back in France until October. We appreciate you and your support 🥰

[@sherririnker7716]

I admire you both so much for your courage - and your willingness to share your entire learning experience, the whole journey, with us.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Sherri 🥰

[@jane63]

It's good you figured this out. Hopefully the learning will stay with you both as you make plans for future moves and travels.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Yes, definitely a learning experience 🙌

[@Justanurse357]

Thank you for sharing your story and your genuine transparency ❤wishing you well.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much!

[@annmarieduross7602]

You are both terrific. V honest. And, I get it, completely. Not a failure. It’s a process. Like chapters in a book. Anyone who moves to another country experiences a lot of these feelings! We moved to Prague a long time ago. Came back to NYC. Have spent 20 years on and off in Paris. And, Had one hip done, v humbling but it’s getting great. Totally respect you guys. You are in good company.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you ☺️

[@Rachel-rs7jn]

I just stumbled across your channel, and I already am in love with you guys. Your joy and sincerity come right through the screen, and your vulnerability is very moving. I want you to know that I can really relate to your story, even though my path has been different. My fiancé is French, and I spend part of every year in France with him, and I'm happy now, but it was a long road to get here. For several years we were bouncing around and landed in Lille for a year and a half. I was really depressed there. The weather was gray and humid almost all the time, and the architecture, while beautiful, is very dark and didn't help my mood. I also suffer from an autoimmune disease which can make my daily life challenging in several ways. Lastly, I was working online and didn't have friends or a community there. I was so unhappy. We finally bought an apartment in the southwest of France (Niort) and moved there last summer, and I've been so much happier. I need the sun and the dry weather (and the lighter brighter architecture), and also I've been able to start making friends and building a community. It makes all the difference. So, I want you to know that you are not alone, and that it's really really hard, and that even someone in my position who already speaks French and has lived in France and has ties through my fiancé can still be homesick and depressed, so you should not feel bad. Big hugs, and looking forward to seeing the rest of your journey!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us, Rachel. It is especially helpful for me (KJ) and my experience. We are going to try again, but stay in one place this time for the entire year. I, too, work online, and it can be very isolating, especially when you don't know anyone. I'm looking forward to having a better experience with our move back to France next year.

[@Rachel-rs7jn]

@@kjandtonylovefrance I'm so glad if anything I've experienced can help you feel less alone in your journey. I am really optimistic for you that the second time around will be better, especially staying in one place. If I may make a suggestion, it would be to find expat and/or English language groups sooner rather than later. Of course you'll want to integrate into the French culture and eventually make French friends, but in the meantime it's really, really helpful to have a touchstone and a community that doesn't require mental effort. I finally found an English language meet-up in my city (it's small, very few expats here) and it's been great. Actually most of the members are French and are there to improve their English, but they're all just really nice people that I look forward to seeing every week, and it's leading to friendships outside the group.

[@joanbreva7251]

Having overcome depression 3 times in my life, I so relate to what you are telling us on your video. Whatever works for you, do it. Whatever makes you feel better, do it. There is so much help out there, so go for it and don't worry about what anyone thinks of you, your health is most important. Good luck in your decisions.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Joan ❤️

[@KazakhAmerican619]

Thank you for your honesty! I am a new subscriber. I loved your previous videos. Being a true Francophile I was drawn to your content. But more so I am amazed by your honesty and vulnerability. Your style of narration is non agitating, not selling anything to me I didn’t ask for. So, I will stay subscribed. You both make a lovely couple. Hope you feel better and go back to Europe to enjoy your retirement.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thanks for subscribing. So glad to know you are enjoying the content. Thank you for your kind comments and we will be going back to Europe to enjoy our retirement.

[@maureenedwards2388]

Tony's comment about walking along the Seine struck a chord for me. I spent the month of May 2022 in Paris. The apartment I had was across the Seine from the Louvre, so just out the door. This was something I had promised myself for years and the month more than met my expectations.

[@lgrigg5439]

Its great to see you back. Hope to see you back in France. I can fully understand how you feel. Good bless you love you both from Australia 🇦🇺

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much 🥰

[@brenwhite5775]

I admire so much your honesty!! We lived in Strasbourg for 2 years in the 90’s! Even though my husband had lived overseas at various times growing up, we both had very similar feelings that you have experienced!! And our children, then young teenagers experienced challenging times too!! But we all agree that we are who we are because of how that time stretched us, refined us and strengthened our family and our faith!! And we are grateful!!! So be good to yourselves and do things when you feel ready!! Pray, find your joy each day and keep going!!! And thank you, you validated what we had gone through!! You are both strong, genuine people & obviously so supportive of one another!! Thank you!!!!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Your post means so much. Sorry that you struggled, but also glad to know you can relate. We definitely believe all challenges are opportunities 🙌 Thank you ❤️

[@southloupriverhomestead4696]

I,m glad your doing better! I will just tag along and see where your channel goes. Maybe show us some highlights of your area.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thanks! We definitely plan to at this point.

[@millie9236]

Travels ANYWHERE and tips and suggestions. Take us with you! Everything is timing and so much is out of our hands. Roll with it if you can and enjoy your life. 💞

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Mille! We'll share as much as we can 🥰

[@susanengleman1310]

So glad you are taking care of yourselves. You are inspirations in many ways, brave, adventurous and human. Thank you, I recently had a health scare that threw me into depression. I am feeling so much better and knowing others are walking thru this too helps me be brave as well.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Susan. I appreciate your kindness and support. Glad to know that you are feeling better from your own health scare and that my sharing has helped you.

[@jenniferkelley6875]

Yes! A total success...just a step around and yes!! Your "things about you" ....important. So glad you have more insight now. The next leg of your journey will be fortified with EXPERIENCE. You two are just wonderful.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you for your encouragement 💞

[@seaview9948]

Who would be so rude to say you were a failure! Gosh , thank you for being so honest about your life . All good luck to you as you reset your plans . Whatever you decide is right for you and what ever you offer to people is so generous of you .👏

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much for your support and encouragement😊

[@sweetivyopi]

Thank you KJ i think im living in depression too these days. Im so grateful you have the willingness to always be authentic even when we dont want to.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

I'm sorry to hear about the depression. It's definitely hard when you are in that state of mind. Sending you love, light and prayers 💜💫🙏

[@maggierobertson4518]

A step by step paper work process. A kind of how to guide would help so much. I’m 50 now and just starting to seriously thinking and looking to move to France too. Well done you two.

[@lindadorman2869]

So glad you’re back! I’ve been reading the blog and realized how overwhelming this has been for you. Having been through a similar experience, I think people underestimate how stressful the combination of leaving your family, moving abroad, retiring, starting a new venture, physical injury or illness and other life events can be. Sometimes it takes a few attempts to find the right cadence. I also want to thank you for continuing to build community amongst those of us who love France. In the same way you feel about Paris, I dreamt of moving to Lyon but always wanted to live on the coast. Because of your channel, I’ve decided to visit Nice and Marseille later this year to see if either is right for me. In terms of content, it would be helpful to hear what you might have done, or would do, differently. What are your key take-aways from the experience so far - physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc? How will this inform your plans going forward?

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Hi Linda! Thank you so much for your support and encouragement. I'm glad to know that we have helped inform your plans to move to France and that you are giving yhourself the opportunity to visit Nice and Marseille before you move. Thanks also for your questions that we will fully address during our next Q&A session. One thing I can tell that I've learned from our experience is knowing where you want to settle prior to the final transition to France. The moving from place to place was much harder than I ever anticipated it would be. This is part of the reason why I think you are wise to go check out a few other places before you move. Thanks again ❤️

[@lindadorman2869]

@@kjandtonylovefrance Thanks, I think it's also vital to realize places change over time. After a career as a global expat, I thought I knew where I wanted to go but I spent another year traveling to 12 countries, spending 1 month in each. By the end, I was wiped out so I came back to the US to create a better plan. That was in 2018. In the interim, due to stricter visa rules, war or inflation, some places are no longer an option.

[@jeanwhite2705]

Hello KJ and Tony, It was so good to see your post today, just to know you two are doing fine. Life deals us some setbacks at times and we need to regroup and take another look at moving forward. So pleased to know KJ that you listened to your body and “just came home” no matter what the reason. That was Your Best Move! So pleased to hear you both still want to continue your travels in France, one at a time for now. My husband and I have visited Bayeux, Paris and Chamonix 5 years ago now. We truly were captivated by the western coast of France and by Paris itself. We are now planning another trip to Paris and Bayeux very soon and so enjoyed your adventure videos. But seeing to some very real health challenges before this undertaking. Life is short. Time to plan our adventures and be well and healthy first. Travel is for good health, not struggle. Looking forward to seeing more of your plans either for France or even Boca Ratan. Remember to shine where you find yourself. We have never seen Boca Ratan and would love to have an insiders view of where you may be in the moment. Only when you are up for it though. Love and light, Jean

[@marciagainey5155]

I was so glad to see the notification for this video. I was worried about both of you and hoping you are better and working things out to return to France. It is clear you are determined to return but on a different time frame. I know you will figure out what you need to do to make it happen. Do your channel to suit you. People who enjoy your content will understand if your upload schedule has to be limited - certainly for a while. Just seeing the places you visited was fine and hearing your impressions interesting. I’ve been to France several times and I can’t help but agree that nothing else quite compares to Paris. What an amazing city! But I also know that other places in France are interesting and deserve your critique. So please report back to your audience. But do take care of yourselves, as well! 😃

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Marcia. Appreciate your caring and your support 🥰

[@ryanleecoolthings2533]

You two are the stars and Paris is just the backdrop. I would like to see a tour and things to do at Bocca Raton too! You two are so brave and inspiring anything you show us will be entertaining ❤

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Wow, that is so nice to hear and we appreciate your kindness and encouraging words. We will definitely be posting some videos that highlight Boca Raton. Thanks for your support.

[@chiaraA.]

People sharing their emotional learning experiences are so important so thank you - we mostly learn from our 'mistakes' which aren't mistakes at all but are learning opportunities. I appreciate you taking it in the right vein because that's how humans grow and become better, and through that others can learn that they too can take risks - and not only that, the rewards of being humans are revealed during these times, we come out happier and more satisfied. What a beautiful violinist at the end!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you for your kind comments. It is greatly appreciated.

[@baxter8it]

You are very brave. I'll be watching and reading. Godspeed.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Maria. Appreciate you and your suggestions. I think we will be starting out with the longer stays approach, rather than moving fulltime.

[@joycemum8085]

Welcome back! Thanks for the update..glad to see you both again...happy whenever you post something...no worries,we'll be here waiting...love the ending of this vlog..beautiful violinist and music

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thanks so much!!

[@NancyLiedel]

I understand lifelong depression. I will only thank you for your honesty about it. I also adore France. Just keep up what you love. I'll keep watching. 😊

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you 🥰

[@LMays-cu2hp]

Hahaha!! Thank you for your update. I hope you were safe. I have seen in the news that people there were not happy about the PM and the law to increase the retirement of labor force up to 64. And I am sure there are other issues in Paris that are a concern.

[@LMays-cu2hp]

I hope the two of you will go back to Paris, France. And to see Nice would be beautiful for me in general. And also, the next apartment in Europe in general not being so high upstairs so the knees are not hurt!!!! I know other countries have their own city, town or region politics bad or good. But when people find a good place to live and to continually be educated then again, think about what you two want to do and do it. Please enjoy traveling and going back over the Atlantic to France.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you. Yes, we are very happy not to be in Paris at the moment.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you 💜

[@florencelacy4190]

I think takes a lot of strength to listen to your body and take care of yourself. Your husband and family are a great support system for you. I am a fan and will continue to follow . I have been to France and can see why you both ❤️ it.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Florence. Yes, I have a great support system.

[@anselbaby2851]

Hi, KJ and Tony! I missed you both, and was worried for you, since the last post. I'm cheering for both of you! Take care of YOU first! It's a learning experience and journey. I don't think it's you're a failure at all! I think that you have shared through your own experience of what to expect emotionally when one moves to another country. You formed beautiful memories with Tony and your son! I appreciated your sincerity for sharing your personal experience with your subscribers! Stay positive and healthy!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you! We so appreciate your support and words of encouragement 🥰

[@karenscookingkorner]

I have looked forward to each and every video you make. Your team work as a couple is so endearing! Whatever you decide I’ll support ❤

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Karen!! So appreciate you and your support ❤️❤️❤️

[@debrasams2362]

Thank you for sharing. Your open honesty is something many of us share. Your experience was challenging with so many things at once. Best wishes for the path you choose. You have people to follow you that also love France.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much!

[@debrasams2362]

@@kjandtonylovefrance you’re welcome .

[@msnessa11434]

You guys are awesome. God is using you both for incredible things. I started following you because my husband and I are going to Paris this spring and I’ve dreamt of visiting for 50 years. I appreciate the candid information you offer, not sugar coating things. Our minds bodies spirits need nurturing and care. I am curious to hear about the true nature of your adventure (even if negative). Please care for yourselves and each other. You’re an inspiration to many many people who dream of doing a move abroad and have no clue (doctors, language, money, culture, weather, politics and more). God bless you and your family. Welcome home. ❤

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much. Your support, encouragement and kind comments are greatly appreciated. Yes, there is so much to consider when moving abroad.

[@cozynaturegirl]

I just love hearing you both talk, so it doesn’t matter what you do on this channel. I am really glad you knew yourself enough to go home.

[@msnessa11434]

@@kjandtonylovefrance with the pension strikes spreading nationwide in France, your return to the US was serindipotus. Tear gas, dumpster fires, transit halts, garbage collection halted…that would have been excessive to manage while trying to post videos to KZbin and manage your health. We’re considering postponing our 5/23 trip to Paris and I’m sure God brought you both home in the nick of time. ❤

[@carynkabat4208]

The weather can be depressing and you could feel very isolated. Wish I could have put you in touch with my friend in Versailles. I hope you go back someday. Enjoy life.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thanks, Caryn. I hope so too.

[@adelacortes958]

Thank you for letting us know. I was worried and wondering what happened. I love how real you guys are! Your videos are life in real time. Please take good care of yourself. Where ever and when ever you lead we will follow your videos ❤!

[@kyranwilson3919]

I don't follow the channel but just stumbled across it. It seems, from an outsiders perspective, that the husband is much more passionate about living in Europe than the wife.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Not true, but the wife has parents and it's a complicated situation.

[@kyranwilson3919]

@@kjandtonylovefrance Totally understand 💓

[@H-bv1xt]

Really appreciate you making this video. All expats videos are about how great their new country is. I grew up in SoCal and I lived in UK for a year and half and after my first winter I knew it’s not the place for me. It’s not the temperature or the rain that killed it for me. I just couldn’t deal with the sun setting before 4pm in the winter. I’d imagine France is similar in the winter. But at least France has good food.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Interesting about your experience in the winter. I didn't care for the winter either, but I love the long days in the summer!!

[@nyegreg]

So happy you are settled for now and happy. Your transparency, your honesty, takes courage. A testament to your character. We look forward to your future adventures. You are a wonderful couple. Marlene and Greg

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Hi Marlene & Greg! Thank you so much. We are happy to know you enjoyed the video and that you are looking forwad to future adventures. We greatly appreciate your support and kind words.

[@anaexpatlife6274]

Admirable couple 💕 Take risks to me means: feel free and alive. As an expat in The Netherlands 🇳🇱 I realise is a question of be brave and passionate about restart. Congratulations 👏 and I wish you all the best 🌅 believe in your plans, follow your intuition, always. 🌸

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Ana. We appreciate your kind words of encouragement.

[@candygleason3333]

Hi Kj and Tony! Thank you for this update and I am glad you are feeling better, KJ. The two of you have done a wonderful job of taking us on your journey to France. I kept looking for new videos and I am glad you have explained what happened. I feel sure you will return when the time feels right. Your health is definitely a priority. Paris will always be waiting. I appreciate your honesty about the homesickness. I love France ( we were there a month in 2014) and the allure is real. Also real is missing the comforts of home. Get your knee done. Don’t pressure yourself.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Candy. We appreciate your care and support 🥰

[@meri8746]

I never thought about it in any depth before this video. It made me realize, as much as I love watching the adventures and renovations in France, Italy and the UK, there is no way that I would leave my state, much less my country for another. Thanks for this video. I would also experience a huge homesickness that time could not heal. I would have to click my heels and say, “There is no place like home.” Glad you are feeling better! 🙏🏼

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

We are so glad you found the video to be helpful. I love the Wizard of Oz reference. One of my favorites from childhood 💫

[@marilynfdavis891]

I’m behind in watching your videos & knew you were back in Florida, but not why, so it was very good to hear this! I’m sure you will preplan for your next trip & enjoy your time in France! Blessings! 💜

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Glad you enjoyed it. Yes, we already have a trip planned for October.

[@lizadivine3785]

I’m so glad to see you and thank you for taking the time and making the effort to let us know what was going on and how you are. You are very aware that we care about you guys!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Liza. Definitely much more aware now 🥰

[@caos6358]

Thanks... Have a blessed day... Love light and strenght...

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Same to you! Thank you 💞

[@Honeypepper.]

Completely understandable. When it comes down to mental health especially, that is not anything to play with. Needs to be taken care of immediately. I am all for doing *whatever is necessary* to get back to a good mental health status.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Yes, absolutely.

[@karenscookingkorner]

I couldn’t hit the ‘like’ button fast enough ❤️ welcome back ❤️

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

This made me smile😊 Thank you, Karen ❤️

[@maisonjournals6007]

Wow thank you for this vlog, I have a house in France which I plan to relocate to from London very soon, the refurbishment has been going on for two years and as the time comes I get more nervous about the possible overwhelming homesickness, I have lived in London all of my life and it will certainly be a massive change but I am totally mindful of homesickness and how this can be so very overwhelming but if I do not do it I will regret it forever. Thank you so much KJ for your honesty and I am so glad you both are now in a good and settled place, what a rock Tony is. Your trip, in my opinion, was an absolute success. Look foward to your updates and enjoy the journey xxx

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you! Yes, Tony is an absolute rock. Best of luck with your move to France and hoping you don't struggle with too much homesickness.

[@RebeccaCooperDupin]

I had a long career in television news and find you all more interesting than many of my favorite news shows. But no pressure! Post when you feel like it and we are here for you. It doesn’t need to be fancy. Just an occasional update from an interesting couple is great. Finding life after leaving busy careers… your road to recovery … travel… managing mental health… are all great topics you tackle so well. Once a month is great. Thank you for an inspiring update.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Rebecca. What a nice compliment and encouraging words. We greatly appreciate you and your support!

[@neliemeininger]

Maybe iets an idea to take french lessons in the mean time? Taks care!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

YES! Great idea!!

[@kellymcghee1943]

I absolutely admire you guys for doing what's best for you as a couple. Dr. KJ, it's so important to know that you leaned into your feelings and "knew" that there was a significant change within yourself. Being aware of feelings on another level is the Universe speaking and you acknowledged that. I enjoy watching your videos and show them to my clients and groups all the time. Take care.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much, Kelly. I'm so glad to know you are finding my videos helpful with your clients and groups ❤️🙏 We also both appreciate your kind comments and support 🥰

[@donbelec]

You are both so authentic. Thank you for sharing!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thanks for watching!

[@sweetivyopi]

NoNo staying isntstrong moving back to take care of KJ self care and compassion. I Love YOu Yay I love this name for you channel! you bring so much to the universe from sharing yourselves and experiences

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Ivy 💜

[@barbarahill4281]

I admire your courage and have a similar dream. As far as the knee goes, I have had an injury to my left that progressed over 5 years and I had a replacement - a zimmer prosthesis- best thing I ever did. Painful because I refused all meds but Tylenol. My decision does ot have to be yours of course. Homesickness. I am a traveler but experienced homesickness after 3 months in Europe. I too need a home base. KJ you are so lovely and so good to your husband. So kind. I so wish you could be kind to yourself. I wish both of you continued love and elevators. ❤❤❤Barbara Hill

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thanks, Barbara. Appreciate your kind words, support and encouragement ❤️

[@sharonwright7932]

Just found you guys this morning and because my son is moving to Paris in August I’m now hooked…..and also wondering where you are now!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

We are in Vero Beach and heading back to Paris in June.

[@y.v.4306]

I just stumbled upon your video and subscribed after watching. Really appreciate your honesty in your journey. I moved to Europe five years ago (for the second time), and it has certainly been an adventure and learning curve. Sometimes I’m homesick but mostly I can’t imagine moving back. As for future videos, I’d love to hear more about your overall health and knee situation. As someone in your age group, I’ve recently experienced health issues and have done stem cell treatments and I’m taking CBD oil. It’s frustrating when you’re now free to see the world and setbacks like this happen. I’d love to see how you navigate these challenges. ❤

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Welcome to our channel! So glad you enjoyed the video. Where are you living in Europe? We will definitely be posting a persona update video soon.

[@y.v.4306]

@@kjandtonylovefrance I'm currently living in the Baltics but have lived in Italy for some time as well, and Belize and I am originally from Canada. I'm currently looking for a new country to move to. I was not ready for knee replacement surgery, so I'm in the early days of stem cell treatment. It sure does put a damper on things when health issues arise. :) Anyway, thank you for sharing your journey!

[@terireid651]

I will follow you wherever you decide to do. I admire you for doing what is best for you. God bless you both. ❤

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Teri. God bless you as well 🙏

[@loustic59vda]

As being French, I would like to know if you speak french. If it is not the case, how do you intend to integrate the french society ? How will you do to make friends in France ? The barrier of language, is not a brake for integrating the french culture ? How do you do for the administrative procedures ? I wish you good luck,

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you. I (KJ) start French classes on April 17th. I'm very excited, as I know very little (en peu) right now.

[@diannaorvis8819]

Have missed you both and am so glad that things are moving along. You certainly have had a wonderful adventure and made memories and will continue to have them here and in France.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you so much!

[@wendeking8387]

We are buying a house in the Loire Valley and keeping our vacation home in California. We are doing 90 days on and off. I think that will be a good balance for us. That way we stay on a tourist visa. We will start in October. We will do fall and spring in France and winter and summer in US.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Hi Wende - We have discussed this approach, which was initially going to be our approach and then we switched gears and decided to just "go for it" so to speak. I think the 90 day on/off is and will be a much better balance. We will also be in France in October. We'll be going back to Paris. Thanks for sharing your plans. It sounds like a great approach and wishing you a wonderful stay this fall.

[@taowright]

I think that you should just do what you want to do. There is no "failure" -- life is life where ever you are. I could write a book on some of my misadventures, so no apologies necessary. Every day is a blessing no matter where you are. Glad that you are both safe and well.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Well said! Yes, every day is a blessing 🙏

[@rzrr41]

so glad that you are ok now guys...GOD BLESS YOU

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you 💜

[@donnamiller83]

My daughter and I stayed for a month in the 16th. and was the best time of my life so I love hearing all about your experiences and love of Paris too. Thank you for being so honest and sharing your bout of depression which thankfully has become much less of the stigma it was in the past. I truly believe this is due to famous people, celebrities, and people like yourself sharing your experiences making it commonplace as it should always have been. I too have had depression and believe ive helped others by sharing and then they open up about their own experience. Please take good care of yourselves and continue at the pace thats right for you. Look forward to more in your own time. ❤️🗽🗼

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you ❤️

[@magdastar2249]

Thank you for sharing this great video. Love the violinist at the end too. 🎻🎼 Positive energy coming your way and Best Wishes for the future. 🙏❤️

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thanks for the positive energy and well wishes 💫

[@magdastar2249]

@@kjandtonylovefrance Of course. Will catch up with other videos when I can. 👍❤️

[@theresaedwards2863]

Hello KJ & Tony! It is so good to see the two of you back on your channel! I hoped you were well when your seemingly regular videos discontinued. So happy to see that you are well! I have an idea of how the language barrier, alone, could contribute to desperately wanting to return home, a comfort zone! Your courage to get as far as you did is very admirable. All the best to you moving forward!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Theresa. Appreciate your kindness and support!

[@Kswift47]

Hi there, I can certainly relate to becoming homesick, most especially with the weather change. I moved to Milano from West Palm Beach.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Hi Kimberly. Yes, clearly you can relate. That's a big move from WPB to Milano. And I think being prepared for the general homesickness that can occur but also the impact of weather change, especially coming from a place like South Florida, where we are used to the sunshine. Thank you ❤️

[@milissaklicka7019]

As we are older, in our almost mid 70’s we have a love for travel but cannot figure we could sell and re locate with family here…. We have decided to take 6 week stays in our favorite places. We like to make where we stay our own and Air BnB has helped us to make the places we stay like our own places. Last fall, we stayed in Nice and we had been there before and up and down the Core Azur. We visited Menton and love Antibes on either side of Nice. Beautiful beaches and weather!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

That sounds like a wonderful approach. Any recommendations relative to Airbnb's in Nice?

[@colleenclary2062]

Life experiences needn’t be evaluated as failures or not. Your journey is absolutely a triumph of spirit, adventure and transparency. As for me, I’m here to follow your journey however you choose to share it. Keep on healing and feel supported by this follower who you don’t know personally but who appreciates you both. ~Colleen

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you, Colleen! You, your kindness, your support and your encouragement are so VERY appreciated. As you said, we don't know each other personally, but I can feel your heart through your words and I am grateful for you. Thank you 💞

[@janefreeman7157]

I love NICE!!!! AND MARSEILLE!!!! PARIS IS MY FAVORITE CITY!!!!

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Ditto to all three... lol 💜💜💜

[@cherylreeves373]

Thank you for your honesty because this has been my husband dream but I would like to take it slow and I worry about so much walking

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

You're welcome. Glad it was helpful.

[@copperpenny0209]

So glad you're feeling better. Thank you for being transparent about what happened because that's also helpful to those who might want to make the move. Sometimes plans look better on paper than in real life experiences. At least now you can move forward with that in mind.

[@kjandtonylovefrance]

Thank you! So true!!