Ladies, Avoid This Kind Of Man.

#shorts #relationship

[@codyarmstrong8428]

I have been yelled at in past relationships for trying to provide solutions when "all I wanted you to do was listen". So now when I'm presented with a problem I ask "do you want me to listen and support or fix the problem?" This has served me well

[@vitalis]

That's a good question

[@starryshark]

Kind of sucks that you were yelled at for trying to help. I mean good on you for finding a good way to communicate whether the person you're speaking to wants you to offer support or not, but yelling at someone who's trying to help isn't fair. I'm seeing "finding solutions" as "offering advice/suggestions" for dealing with a problem. If someone yells at someone for trying to do that, it's a little rude on their part.

[@codyarmstrong8428]

@@starryshark oh for sure, those WERE toxic relationships, was more of a silver lining that I at least learned something from it, even if it was indirectly.

[@aubreysong]

Yep, it's basically Leadership. What do you think or expect a good leader would do? Same thing when you facing your kids, sometimes you just need to listen to them. Or pet. You should know how to differentiate when is the bonding time, and when is problem solving time. Relationship is like nurturing and taking care a plant, it's always tricky, sometimes you think you've done everything right, but the flower won't bloom or producing fruits. Sometimes you just let it alone but it able to grew beautifully and having beautiful flowers and tasty fruits. One thing for sure, it need water. Love is like water. Too much love can make the plant rot, too less water it'll dry and die. Before trying to solving some problem, always make sure you know what's the 'real' problem is.

[@Primsofcostarica]

Exactly!!!!

[@carriemtsh9648]

That goes for friends too, i keep friends who offer something and i do same for them ❤️

[@beverlybooker-davis]

Facts

[@Cosmicz929]

Big facts

[@faith6575]

One hundred percent!!

[@genesmith4386]

Exactly

[@TheRonskins]

Agreed! I recently said the same thing to a friend of mine because there's a couple of folks in our circle who always are in need of help but never available to provide help.

[@Cobb_Dunzo]

And lots of girls try to say "I just want you to hear me, stop trying to fix all my problems!" Not realizing that a man offering solutions means he loves and respects her.

[@parabellum5503]

That right there.

[@Certago]

Yes and no, depends on the problem and smart men will understand when to get up and fix it or offer their opinion and support as needed.

[@sheesh6400]

Correct but it's not just for women, people don't always come to you just cause they want you to fix the problem they're going through. Sometimes they might have feelings all bottled up and need you to quietly listen to them. It means a lot. Not every problem needs to be fixed by you, rather you should ask them 'Do you want me to listen to you or do you want me to try to fix this problem with you together?' It will serve you well.

[@AlexMinor]

EXACTLY.

[@flamingrage100]

@@Certago doesn’t make sense as they don’t want our opinion they just want to vent. I have friends like this and my sister is the same. I think complaining about stuff is stupid if you’re not going to do anything to solve the issue you’re complaining about.

[@kueblercookies]

"Is this a Vent or a Fix" conversation? Best advice I ever got.

[@VincentSophia-pf5mq]

Yes it does , how do you feel about his advice

[@Sarah-yg9nd]

He's the problem. The solution, find a man that wants to help fix the situation not avoid it.

[@izabelatokarowska]

Find them in the dream. Wake up on morning and You just know - they no exist.

[@grace_note40]

...or cause the problem.

[@monicanorman4681]

Very true

[@chanellaugustine7341]

Yes thank you !!! Exactly I have a bf that does this constantly he ignores my emotions 😂🤙🏾

[@jasmineestafia]

Amen

[@othellocampbell6839]

That's what a man is supposed to do with his significant other.

[@TWLogik]

gf too so that she can see your marriage material.

[@sandracameron4515]

I agree with both of you all.

[@bigsexy412]

If you a man and you didn't meet the woman in the streets this is what you supposed to do period but men be tied up in playing games they forget that they supposed to do stuff

[@bikerreed]

It’s true. Even when she rejects 99 out of 100 of your ideas, keep showing that you care that she came to YOU.

[@ohdear2275]

Depending on the situation, you can also ask, "Babe, do you just want me to listen for support or do you want me to help you with this?"

[@honeywest39j95]

Eventually, I will tune out. No one has time for that. Let them figure it out on their own…

[@VincentSophia-pf5mq]

Not everyone have time for that

[@moriskatei]

Hi handsome man

[@workingontheroadagain]

Men don't want to hear about it, if you don't want to fix it

[@starznmyeyez8906]

Some men are silent when we are telling him about a problem. He is silent because he is thinking. A good man will fix it. Just let him think. 💯

[@Christheking5050]

Good

[@SW-zt7du]

I love that advice, that goes for partners, friends and family.

[@tomoyapryce5087]

Oh yes 👍🏾

[@TalieValentine]

Almost married a guy like this. I finally realized there was nothing in the relationship for me and left. He didn’t even try to stop me.

[@celymonteiro6960]

It’s ok, better days will come, you will find someone who deserve you☺️

[@thecrownlessking2804]

Probably because he got sick of your shit and knew that giving a solution to a problem you weren't trying to fix was pointless and a waste of time.

[@evertonb3031]

Smart man

[@mothyhtx]

@@evertonb3031 no, she's a smart woman. He would of went through with the marriage. She walked away. She made the adult choice. There's always Loser dudes like you who DON'T EVEN GET WOMEN trying to act like you're proud of some douchebag. GROW UP.

[@brandygee9954]

💯

[@judygutshall7282]

My husband would start talking about something else in the middle of me talking?? So I knew that he wasn't even listening to me

[@Ms.Tee65]

I’m experiencing that now but not for long. It’s time to move on.

[@papasantacruz404]

Or was it that you refused his help in the past, so he doesn’t seem it’s even important to continue the conversation if it’s a one way conversation? He wants to be hears too.

[@WinWin-oo4uk]

@@Ms.Tee65 You can't do better than him. Your going to end up crying on TikTok. Asking where is my man?

[@monejohn9973]

So did he become this person before or after marriage because in my experience y'all married people that y'all know don't care about you and then complain your whole f****** marriage to bleed out our ears or we don't care because you made that choice divorce him move on

[@chanellaugustine7341]

Exactly not even my husband he’s a guy I’m dating he doesn’t care what’s I have to say cuz every time I try to talk he’s always high starring at my lips thinking about putting his … inside my mouth that’s all he think about is having sex

[@seasonedqueen6960]

I have allergies sometimes and id complain to my guy about it and the dust. My guy literally made it a point of duty to take the fan apart n wash the fan regularly to keep it dust free. I've never had to ask him to wash it. I never knew he would. I thought he'd just vent with me but he attempted to fix the problem by trying to alleviate any triggers. If i complain about being cold, he goes for an extra sheet. Steve knows what he talking about.

[@diegomuli9450]

Hi how are you doing today

[@Maria-0017]

Yes the “no solution” man needs dumping!

[@thecrownlessking2804]

Some men don't offer solutions because it's not worth the migraine dealing with a woman who clearly doesn't want one.

[@rm5282]

Don't take the same problem to a man twice. Heay listen the first time, but he wants to get it solved the best time. Constantly talking about a problem and doing nothing about it is just plain stupid.

[@Rice10120]

@@thecrownlessking2804 The men these days would have a migraine trying to solve a problem because some of you can't solve your way out of a paper bag.

[@thecrownlessking2804]

@@Rice10120 lol I mean, you're not wrong... but those are the fools y'all go for because they're surface over substance. Females don't want quality men with intellect, they want attractive imbeciles.

[@javarwalker7149]

@@Rice10120 your hurt. Stop projecting and heal

[@themercy138]

I just love how Steve Harvey talks. He is so real across board.

[@9OrangeKush9]

He’s not

[@carlinbrumback8931]

YEA RIGHT.Thats why he's had 10 wives.

[@carlinbrumback8931]

@@9OrangeKush9 He has a lot of people fooled.

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

Steve needs to solve his own issues before giving advice...lol

[@katarinaj.6830]

@@carlinbrumback8931agree...He 's surrounded by all these women hanging on his words, he's enjoying his position for sure. Still needs women around him, their attention and praise..he's ego will never have enough.

[@youtube-rebel]

I think it’s just best if either of them just go “Would you like me to listen or help you out?”. I think that will do wonders for either of them

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

Indeed!!!

[@sammanthaford3982]

A man with nothing is likely a narcissist. He's got nothing for you because you're role in the relationship is only to provide him with what he wants.

[@wandadrayton1505]

💯

[@WholeHeartily]

I love this. Tbh sometimes I get annoyed that he’s always trying to fix stuff when sometimes I just want him to listen… but I totally appreciate the advice to let him try to fix it 🥺 So glad I heard this tbh. I could’ve been standing in the way of him trying to be good to me

[@MrArtVein]

Been looking for your comment. I guess you're the only honest woman in that comments today

[@MarkusSommer-qq9ql]

Me too I love it and I will like to listen to this discussion 😅😅😅

[@FortuneIgnace]

Make him understand! Most men I’ve lots of things going on in there life they can’t even talk about so when you’re talking they’re thinking of something else.. but that doesn’t mean they don’t love and respect you

[@carolthomas5187]

I got rid of my husband who never had a solution. Everything was my fault. I lived with him 28 years and he never gave me a solution. I moved in. I'm married to a really sweet man now.

[@beverlybooker-davis]

Good

[@lauradufon677]

Any advice that you could give me to help my husband with making a solution to a problem?

[@mattsteez2481]

I find it hard to believe you were with a Man for 28 years and he NEVER had a Solution to anything EVER!?!🤨 Idk whose the least intelligent, you or him. Or… Ding 🛎 🛎🛎 That’s a CAP 🧢 ass Statement.

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

Better late than never to learn you were with a JERK!!

[@sherwoodwalker573]

Hey ladies I got another perspective. Sometimes over time if he offers no solutions it may be he feels you don’t listen. If he feels this way in his mind, why tell you if you won’t listen or incorporate his advice in the solution you come up with. Steve always blames the man without both sides of the story. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@claryndamontie3638]

This totally changed my marriage Thank you Steve We're 11yrs in💗

[@MarkusSommer-qq9ql]

Am very very happy for you 😊

[@ViniciusMartins-gx2vo]

Hello pretty

[@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt]

Hello pretty how are you hope you're doing great

[@GlorifiedGremlin]

Women don't WANT that tho lmao when I learned that I started asking "do you want a solution or do you just want to vent?" That's saved me the brunt of a lot of passive aggressiveness in my life

[@scooblov]

Women don’t want answers. They want you to listen. “That must be hard for you. Let’s go to Cheesecake Factory and forget about Michelle taking your stapler.”

[@venitastrong1241]

Love me some cheesecake factory 😋

[@webnovel5540]

Exactly. They just want to vent about the same thing and not you to provide any solution.

[@MrRay3801]

My wife has literally told me, "I don't want you to solve anything....just listen" 🤣

[@NoMoreNamesAvailabl1]

Exactly bro. Syeve gets it right about 60% of the time because women love to rant. She just wants you to actively listen and provide comfort. She will even get pissed if you provide logic to the situation

[@jackiescheid]

Suggesting to go to the Cheesecake Factory is a great solution 😂

[@shutthefrontdoor733]

I’m lucky enough to have that. Anytime I go to my guy with any problems, he always gives me a response with advice on what he thinks I should do. He makes me want to be the best version of myself that I can possibly be!!

[@StevenMezie-we1rx]

Hey Love ❤️I’m Steven mezie , it feel inappropriate for me send you this message I am sorry for bothering you but I got to ask if you’re interested in being my sugar baby you will be receiving $7000 either through via PayPal or bank transfer, I will be waiting on your response.

[@MarkusSommer-qq9ql]

Oh really good to hear that, am happy for you dear

[@ViniciusMartins-gx2vo]

Hello pretty

[@James-ty4tj]

Hello

[@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt]

Hello pretty how are you hope you're doing great

[@shennaw7]

When a person presents a problem, ask this question: Do you want solutions or comfort? This will eliminate a lot of drama and confusion.

[@sandracameron4515]

Best said

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

Absolutely!!!

[@paulettea2208]

Truth. My husband was my support. If he couldn't fix it himself he would go out of his way to find someone who could. He understood that I just needed to bring it to him. He always listened, he was always patient. I miss him. Rest In Heaven Love ❤️

[@patriciaholloway]

So sorry for your loss, Paulette. I'll bet he's still watching over you . True love never dies. I truly feel for anyone who has gone through what you have, it takes a lot of strength. Wishing you peace and joy 🙏🤗

[@MarkusSommer-qq9ql]

Oh sorry for loss, I feel how you feeling, it not so easy

[@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt]

Hello pretty how are you hope you're doing great

[@FortuneIgnace]

So sorry about your lost! He’s watching over you loves never dies

[@johnjohnson7006]

thats the honest to god truth reguardless.

[@krisgaines3661]

So true! Because most times I just want you to listen, not provide a solution... but if you do...if you do provide a solution... that's a man I'm gonna keep!

[@silverlining566]

This man is FULL OF WISDOM.👍🏾💯

[@stealthcamo712]

🤣 PREACH IT HARVEY!!! "Babe, I have a problem...." *me running back from garage with the big toolbox*

[@cutzymccall7675]

Sometimes all we need is a good listener, Steve. We don’t need to be “fixed.” Just supported.

[@StevenMezie-we1rx]

Hey Love ❤️I’m Steven mezie , it feel inappropriate for me send you this message I am sorry for bothering you but I got to ask if you’re interested in being my sugar baby you will be receiving $7000 either through via PayPal or bank transfer, I will be waiting on your response.

[@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt]

Hello pretty how are you hope you're doing great

[@jennaire56]

I could have used this wisdom 35 years ago!

[@fgmontgomery21]

1986!

[@geo0526]

@@fgmontgomery21 87 I think 😆

[@user-rf3ji4yk9c]

Sometimes listening and giving emotional support is all that is necessary

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

Absolutely!!!

[@simplymeeh2509]

I need that too😢

[@MarkusSommer-qq9ql]

Interesting 😊😊

[@ARD7177]

Many men don't have the emotional intelligence required to do that.

[@veliciawilliams3776]

Agreed. I will go a little further. If you have people around you called , “friends” and they are giving you negative solutions, they are probably not friends. Great friends,1. Listen 2. Are empathetic 3. Offer solutions that elevate you 4. They follow up later to keep you accountable, lastly 5. They take your secrets to the grave. Gossip offers no solutions. It’s a I am better than her. That is not a friend.

[@sonyap8253]

I don't want someone to fix my issue. I can do that myself. Sometimes I just want to vent and hear "damn, that's annoying/that sucks. What can I do to help you feel better?" Support. I don't want someone to fix it but support me through it ❤️

[@cassialim7802]

Me too. I don't need or want anyone to fix my problems

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

Indeed...

[@gregoryclark7566]

So true. A man wants to fix stuff, or at least help, and move on. A male who doesn't is not a real man.

[@janine3330]

There are a plethora of males in the Black community!💯

[@CR-xh3zd]

@@janine3330 just very few men

[@janine3330]

@@CR-xh3zd Exactly!

[@rex2g4]

@@janine3330 black women have to take some responsibility with that outcome. Single parent homes are destroying our community. Children need good quality men as fathers. We would all be better if we studied the people we date.

[@janine3330]

@@rex2g4 OK call me simple but taking on the responsibility of a child you made with someone by yourself IS taking responsibility. Why can't you see that? As far as studying the people you date, of course we naturally observe their habbits but sincerely there is never any guarantees that when a situation arises that you can gage with certainty how they will react, if they have the tenacity it takes to commit and do the work.

[@DonteWylie]

Not all women want to be seen as problems that men solve. They want you to listen first, make them feel, display that you care. Later, if they want you to solve it for you that say so.

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

Absolutely!!!

[@ghdodo]

Right on.

[@VincentSophia-pf5mq]

Yes you are right ,

[@Ndasuunye]

Some women dont want your solutions. I been told sometimes they just want you to nod and listen

[@unapologetic1413]

FACTS!

[@petepistol6403]

Depending on who you are dating will dictate how much you help fix the problem. Some just want you to listen others want you to help fix it.

[@cassialim7802]

Exactly

[@YSQ300]

Just offer a solution and if they don't want it that cool

[@victoryamordecai9259]

👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾The best I ever heard of all of Steve's advice videos!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@kimberly8185]

I love this man. He gives it to you straight. No BS. ❤️

[@viviansan6842]

He never offer a solution..... He offers me absolutely nothing..... Thank You Uncle Steve ❤️

[@VanguardEternal]

Don't take any hasty decisions with your man over just this video. Some men are like that, also introverts. Sit down, speak with him and ask him what to do and I'm sure he won't refuse.

[@tamarathejudeochristianmedium]

Some men will mock you for having a problem so you’ll stop talking about your issues and talk about what he wants to talk about, usually himself.

[@Leatricaw]

Wow your so right

[@simplydesigns7230]

That’s true

[@jonniehickson5599]

That's because he is the problem.

[@monejohn9973]

DUH He's trying to teach you to avoid these man because they don't give a fuk about you like seriously you too old to not know this by now

[@ethanbornar]

@@tamarathejudeochristianmedium hello 👋🏻

[@lifelessonswantbenofoolnom6205]

Yes I need a real man that's really got my back and it more in a relationship not just sex I need someone that's gonna be there for me and not put me under pressure or stress me with dumb stuff I need a partner that's gonna go the extra mile for me

[@tracyellis9965]

I hope you find your mate just be willing to reciprocate what you are asking for and the universe will give it to you

[@rambo-bolo6172]

No you want a man who will help you clean up the mess you made.

[@Maria-0017]

@@rambo-bolo6172 You sound like a right selfish lazy azzzzzzzzz Name says it all 💪😂

[@JayDon9876]

@@rambo-bolo6172 You sound very hurt leaving multiple angry comments against women 😂

[@rambo-bolo6172]

@@JayDon9876 oh no l am happily married. Just want us to be fair. We all want to blame someone instead of blaming ourselves

[@skyintheclouds4106]

My husband tries to fix everything sometimes I just don’t want him to worry about it so I try my hardest before talking to him about it.

[@dachemurray5565]

And listen to him when he gives you one!!!

[@Lin6055m]

My husband always told me how men think 🤔 makes a big difference

[@nancykane8680]

Boy, you opened up my eyes My guy is a user

[@caspamercy5274]

Move on girl Someone out there needs you May we all find the right men

[@nancykane8680]

Yes, thank you We deserve the right men, too

[@NoMoreNamesAvailabl1]

Noooo dont be hasty. Speaking from experience sometimes you guys just want to rant and for us to actively listen and provide comfort. Like when you come back from work and moan about you co workers or boss. As soon as we start speaking logically in that moment you get pissed. Best to agree and comfort then another time in the future we can try to help you. Your dude has probably figured this out too

[@rm5282]

@@NoMoreNamesAvailabl1 exactly. She does need toove on though because she is not meant for that guy. He needs someone that also has at least one thought about how to fix something. I have been a people leader in multiple industries and when those that worked for me brought a problem, I asked them if they had considered a solution for themselves. I wanted to get them into a frame of thinking to be able to solve some of their own problems. When you always need to dump your problem on another person, you are the user.

[@tishataylor7183]

Run girl run

[@kaje01]

I learned a LONG time ago never to try fix things she’s complaining about. Also never to ask what’s wrong if she’s being short. Just let it go, let her vent, empathize, do nothing. That gets you the best results across the board with women.

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

Using emotional intelligence and reasoning... 💜

[@VincentSophia-pf5mq]

But why, that means you are not happy in your relationship,

[@fredminpin]

I've heard that alternately when women are complaining about all the chaos and problems of any particular day, they don't want answers or solutions, they want to relate or share their drama. It's no wonder they lead guys through hoops trying to figure out the problem and eventually give up caring or wasting the time, especially when they create drama and problems like they have nothing else to do.

[@Edge-ir2gn]

Some of these women don’t want solutions. They just want someone to talk to. Sometimes they get upset when you provide solutions.

[@jefferyburgess7291]

This is the realist advice I’ve ever heard him give to women

[@Disqualified_Identity]

They want you to just listen but they also don't want a guy who just listens.

[@VincentSophia-pf5mq]

We want guy that cares , you are just a understandable man I love that

[@sheneedsme]

I had to learn from my wife that when our teenage daughter came to me upset about something that she wasn’t looking for me to “fix it”, she was looking for sympathy and empathy. Good advice.

[@monicagomez4616]

So, in relationships let’s start giving them a problem of three to see what they are truly about, a keeper or not. Good advice on this one Steve.

[@mogreen9713]

I always say, ask the for something, it will tell you all about them.

[@monicagomez4616]

@InYourMom Oh disrespectful one, my man and I are a winning PARTNERSHIP with Jesus Christ at the head. We don’t have these modern date relationship issue. I comment seeing the difficulties of modern day dating and relationships between men and women. Good luck to and yours.🙏😊❤️

[@monicagomez4616]

@InYourMom Being disrespectful by hurling insults at me because you dislike my comment. Don’t be in a state of denial on that. Surely you are capable of making polite, intelligent and worthy commentaries without insults. Since you can’t, let’s please terminate this conversation right here and now. Bye.

[@wisdomanyaocha6512]

Hello 👋

[@kotahj7433]

I tried this with three different men when my tires became flat and I heard crickets! Let’s say my dating pool shrunk instantly! One of my girlfriends, tire blew, the guy came with her to the tire shop and allowed her to pay then asked her what they were going to do afterwards. She responded, “I’m going home,” and dropped him!😂

[@monicamccalmon9897]

Hi. Yes, Steve Harvey is 90% correct. I met my special companion years ago, and, we were just friends for a few years that texted every now and then. I kept things like this since he had "a situation". This man asked for time to get out of the situation, and, I GAVE HIM THAT TIME! Fortunately, last year, he kept his promise, and, now we are in a more serious situation. I can see myself with him on a more serious level since he was HONEST with me from the beginning and I believed him. And, he is such a "fixer". If ever I need anything done around the house, he hanes it if my brothers are not able to do so! I am glad I remained patient, optimistic with him. I hope God allows us to be friends forever and always! Facts! Nica from Jerzey

[@thirtyyearstylist]

Absolutely right don’t mess with a man that sits on his ass when you tell him you need help. If he can’t help move on.

[@nhd1111]

She shares her problems because she wants you to listen, don't provide a solution unless she asks for the same.

[@darlacook5543]

GREAT ADVICE MR. HARVEY. Money don't fix everything, it's good to have but knowlege is key to moving through situations

[@musizlovva1570]

And understamding

[@MrGrey-wm2sv]

He is right to a point, but damn everyone got problems .Learn to make better decisions so you won't have so many problems. What ends up happening is some of you get in your own way and make yo situation my situation and we get tired of it. At that point you become a problem.

[@elliothomewood8070]

8/10 times the woman just wants to vent and will get annoyed if you offer a solution 😂 that’s why I ask my wife ‘is this a rant or can I help?’ If it’s a rant I’ll join in and if not I’ll help.

[@JoyLady-1966]

When I learned what the word Pivot meant during covert…I realized that my life for the past 10 years with my husband stopped displaying a pivot. Every problem I had was a push pull for him. He literally stopped wanting to show up for my game. I finally filed for divorce and left . What a beautiful thing it is to be authentic…loving life❤❤❤

[@anneliesewright662]

It's important to ask this question before offering advice: "How did that make you feel?" This lets them know their feelings are important and they matter. Then, they'll be ready to receive advice. They might even come up with a solution of their own after they've processed their feelings.

[@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt]

Hello pretty how are you hope you're doing great

[@lynnfinley7636]

Sometimes all we are doing is venting. We aren't always looking for help

[@redscorpion9325]

Thats cool but nobody wants to hear about Problems all day when they have a solution for it,they give out solution so you can deal with the problem right away because in life we’re going to deal with a lot of shit,so if you want to Vent with no solution then do it with your Girlfriends

[@2peter1v2]

It took me years of marriage to figure that out. Now, I often bite my tongue and listen rather than give what is usually an obvious solution.

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

@@redscorpion9325 what if she only has male friends?

[@Lady_A.R.Browne]

Very true. ❤️ Thank you, Steve. Teach these men to be a real man like you. ❤️

[@dagreatness9738]

Lmao

[@Phantasia.Official]

This is soooo true. I relate to this 1000%. I solve all problems, even if there is no money.

[@nricofighter]

Lol this is funny cause my wife tells me that I don't need to solve every problem she has and she just wants to vent sometimes. I just don't want her to have problems it's not about moving on its about something bothering her and I don't want her to feel upset so I always try to help her no matter what it is. The truth is we can't solve every problem but we will still try.

[@AT-kc6ll]

I can now double confirm he is the one❤️

[@zombiegoddess1524]

That's Not true. A lot of time we just want to get stuff off of our chest. We don't always need a solution, just a listening ear.

[@moimyselfandi]

i learned that in a past relation, i was the fixer but she never took my advice . She just want to get stuff out and solve problems by her self.

[@naijalycan]

He never said yall wanted the solutions. He is just saying that's Men's Nature to give solutions when we hear problems

[@FireAngelChris]

Lol you didn’t listen to him

[@htpghana]

Listen again

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

Absolutely!!!

[@soeifong]

That's the best advice I've heard in a while.

[@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt]

Hello pretty how are you hope you're doing great

[@shawnwilliams2138]

Bring Steve Harvey back to the talk show he made me want to listen to all the time. He's a great Blessings to this world. Put him back on the platform of Wisdom. I love him. He's genuine!!!

[@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt]

Hello pretty how are you hope you're doing great

[@barbarabuford5795]

Heavy duty Steve! Loved this. 👍♥️

[@celymonteiro6960]

I totally agree, it’s great feeling when you can count on someone that you love. Anyway, I guess I didn’t find my partner yet🙁

[@kkdb22]

Protect your peace gentlemen. Allow no one come to disrupt it

[@migoslimatl8]

I’m glad I seen this video it made me think about the last couple conversations me and girl had and I really did t give a answer or solution and yea that’s a no go I see I have to do better

[@jobjobyvonnegaskin8356]

Just say: You're a nice person, but I cannot move forward. And I want you to stay focus, prayerful, & obtain prosperous life. I can't call you. You can't call me. Why? I can & will never give you want you need, want, or deserve. Be well.

[@nancykane8680]

Perfect answer... left them speechless + you got your power back They sure were not counting on that! Great going girls

[@chasingdragons9798]

Did you ever think Steve he may have already tried to fix the problem and even several times? Maybe SHE needs to understand that men can't fix every problem.

[@queensmith6184]

I agree! Some problems only God can fix.

[@albsureinc23]

I agree 💯

[@nancykane8680]

Nor should they be expected to Let's look at the bigger picture, together. . We will get there together

[@bcurry1772]

Facts totally agree

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

@@nancykane8680 I love this!!!

[@adrienneberry1764]

Steve Harvey has always been a bright light in my relationships in he morning on way to work. We listened to his radio show, laughed, cried, and sang to some “ bad” music soul music. I really don’t care what any of his haters have to say. Really! Steve has many fans.

[@bellebelle7532]

BRILLIANT , SPOT ON wisdom! Thanks so much for sharing xXx

[@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt]

Hello pretty how are you hope you're doing great

[@bdrm2009]

Not in my situation.. I'm the fixer and he's the avoidant.

[@fruitypopwhickle6806]

Get ready for an empty, lonely life of carrying two people's weight. Did that for six years, (he was a dismissive avoidant who wouldn't communicate about anything) and let me tell you, it actually gets worse.

[@bdrm2009]

@@fruitypopwhickle6806 oh I'm fucking ready to leave. I'm getting my shit together so I can do so successfully. Im over it.

[@fruitypopwhickle6806]

@@bdrm2009 Amen! Be blessed and on your merry way out! Your life is about to be amazing!💃🏾

[@bdrm2009]

@@fruitypopwhickle6806 thank you💙

[@nottodayimbusy7146]

Don't take Dating or Relationship advice from women.... It's usually terrible like we just saw you would be better off talking to him about the problem or going to couples therapy tbh

[@thedude9082]

Because we're told I just want to vent. Huh? Just stating what I've been told.

[@user-jl4xj6lz8o]

OMG! Steve is the best advisor ever. He always says the right. His mama did a great job and he respects women,👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@vegangardens308]

Steve Harvey is blessed with so much insight and understanding. hats off

[@dredai]

Although he's right and I agree, however we have to understand the nature of women. They will cheer and applaud Steve Harvey for telling it how it is but then go to their man and tell him they don't want him to fix their problems. They just want him to listen to them to make them feel valued. But again female nature is to like the man that listens in the moment, while desiring the man the fixes problems and then crave that man from the past that didn't give a f about her or her problems cause he had swag and made her feel good, smh

[@tekumforche2160]

100% right

[@nevillewhite1966]

Women tend to bring up subjects for endless conversations and will chastise you for coming up with a solution that solves the problem.

[@OBaegloich3]

Should I feel better or worse knowing it's not just me?

[@dredai]

@@nevillewhite1966 As a disclaimer we tend to say not all yet more than ever women in general tend to lean towards chaos. It's why the trashiest of the trashy reality TV shows last the longest.

[@dredai]

@@OBaegloich3 Unfortunately worse, smh

[@nikkistephens4990]

Actually no. Sometimes one just need to vent.

[@billjames2577]

Sometimes that is true but if she keeps talking about it then he wants to help you fix it

[@karenglawrence8123]

That's some Real shit.

[@koolaidcharlie3320]

That's That's real man💯 when a man really cares about you he fixes your problems. Mr Harvey is correct 👌

[@BeckiDawn]

Anytime I tried to talk to my stbx he would end up lecturing me about how it's somehow my fault.

[@ethanbornar]

Hello 👋🏻 Rebecca

[@studyfocus822]

why is he never giving solutions anymore..perhaps some should see their own behaviour frst

[@td163]

That advice doesn't make money and doesn't pander, but I agree with you

[@nottodayimbusy7146]

I was getting ready to say the same thing he probably saw you weren't taking his advice and decided to stop wasting his breath you know Steve has certain audience he has to pander so he can't really be real

[@shiraukiriakane6420]

I think what he meant was not if he tried and then stops, it's about him not trying at all and just going "oh sorry babe" just to end the conversation and not the problem "here's when you know you have nothing" I think that statement was made to help them ladies know if their relationship is something or nothing

[@studyfocus822]

@@shiraukiriakane6420 its always about ladies.. i guess.. about that im 100prcnt agreeing with u

[@soulspirationgoddess]

He didn’t say the type of guy that doesn’t provide solutions “anymore” bc of another cause. He said the type that never has and never will. Y’all really have to Stop projecting 😆

[@nita7997]

I will always remember "Holes" how Sam said "let me fix that"... Even her tears no matter his looks no matter how much money he had she felt for him and I would too. That's a true friend, dedicated to serve people he loves. I wish I had a Sam in my life every time I cry, I would do anything to make him happy.

[@AnimKelvin]

Hello beautiful

[@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt]

Hello pretty how are you hope you're doing great

[@florencebowden3980]

Yes, mine said GET OUT!!!🤣😁🤣😁PROBLEM SOLVED!!!

[@brianfreer4942]

Chicks don't want solutions. They just want you to listen. If they don't ask for a solution, don't offer one.

[@Lucydesti]

Hello

[@Lucydesti]

How are you doing

[@johnder1203]

Shit, after years of her talking right over my solution and never tries a single one. My mouth is shut, and my neck be bobbing. Uh-huh yep yep. Oh yeah...huhhh. Thats what she gets now and forever more.

[@kareempusey5032]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 exactly, Steve out here trying to ruin relationships...... Like he don't know, women don't want the problem solved by you, they just want to vent, and want you to just listen

[@therealdeal7468]

And let the KZbin church say..... Amen!

[@anthonywilliams5520]

Bingo my friend. I try suggesting things to my wife's problems. It goes in one ear and our the other. After years of this it's silence now.🤭

[@louiseerbslisbjerg7854]

And that is the "solution" most of us need. Not the "You just do this, ehy dont you do this"; just listen. Say "uhum", hold us snd that's it.

[@justafanfave228]

Maybe she just wants you to listen. I know, what a strange concept!!

[@COCOCHI143]

Yes! Yes! Wish there are more MEN who are wise like Mr. Harvey. HE IS WISE! I hear you from thousands miles away. YES.

[@lanapalij4014]

Thank you so much for your pearls of wisdom! ❤️

[@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt]

Hello pretty how are you hope you're doing great

[@evertonb3031]

This man just be talking for claps .. he always make it seems like men are the problem smh

[@thetruehustler1365]

Lol they are lol

[@evertonb3031]

@@thetruehustler1365 🤦🏾

[@rex2g4]

@@thetruehustler1365 humans are the problem.

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

@@thetruehustler1365 awwwwww, men are always the problem. At times they are and at times a woman is... How can both effectively communicate without encounters with issues is the big question...lol

[@dburnette6723]

there comes a point in time when the man may get tired of providing solutions if A, you don't take the advice...or B...you keep coming up with problems all the time most men want peace 😁

[@jenniferhanson6467]

This one slapped me.. I've JUST broken up with a man who was definitely selfish and it was all him.. this one bit of speech wrapped up so much in such a short time.. I didn't have to watch a full video.. just BAM. Nice one Steve.

[@bartlemi5]

Trying to 'fix' things caused me a lot of problems. Can't do right for doing wrong lol. I just think men and women are wired up differently. When I come to you with a problem, I'm 100% looking for a solution and it just feels strange to me to think any other way.

[@arcangel879]

Naaaaaahhhhhh. Learned this the hard way. Most women don't need the solutions, they just need to rant. Cause it's either it's not really a major problem or they need the drama.

[@careyscott30]

If you have a problem in your relationship. Open your mouth the same way you run that trap to your female friends. Men aren't mind readers at all.

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

Some men are... Most of my friends are men, and I have a few which are highly intuitive. See, if a man comprehends how the harmony of using masculine and feminine energy to communicate, just as if a woman does the same, it makes it easier to understand each other. People get confused as to what channeling masculine and feminine energy is. It is just using a combination of emotional intelligence and logic when necessary. In order to communicate with most men, it is best to use logical reasoning, and for women, emotional reasoning. Using both as a human being makes for a well rounded human being... 💜

[@longevity-ineternalbeauty705]

Darn great advice ladies. Know when to say goodbye & respect, unquestionably, ALWAYS - YOURSELF FIRST‼️

[@rmb214]

This is also how you know he has checked out. If he has tried to fix the problem so many times and not only have you shut him down but you hit him with the "I don't want a solution, I just want you to listen".