Change Is Hard ~ Processing The Loss Of A Pet & Pack Changes~

[@sueklein9265]

A month is just a few minutes. It is going to take a long time to stop sobbing every day. But you are building your new life and I KNOW she there with her head on your shoulder

[@gloriamccarchey1355]

You did everything just right!!! It will take time and you will always miss her!!! That video of you two made me cry because silver knows you were with her and she knows how much you loved her and she loved you!! Please let that get you through and I have no doubt you will come through stronger to be there with your other pups!!! Hugs...,and may you let God's perfect peace comfort you!!! Prayers always....

[@VixinatorsVideos]

The worst part of grief for me is the guilt you feel, even though there's no reason to feel guilt. Take care

[@susann555]

Alex- my heart goes out to you. The grieving process can take a very long time. I totally understand. Please take good care and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

[@bethcunningham4346]

Take good care of yourself during the grieving process. ❤❤❤❤

[@tinadiffee9539]

Oh I am so sorry!! You gave Silver a beautiful life😢

[@marysanchez8595]

So, first of all sending HUGS!I definitely understand where you're coming from. Grief is a process and kinda has a mind of its own. My Beagle Darla passed away September 16, 2021 and although I've learned to cope with the fact that she's not here physically I still feel so many moments of sadness. And I know it's a longing I will always have. And yes, you're right they are such a constant in our life so now that they've passed its like not only is your mind in shock your body is in shock as well. And our beagle Boomer passed away March 21, 2023. That was my brother's dog but, man, I cannot believe how much I miss him. So I could only imagine how he's feeling it. I'm glad you're out and having time to mourn and are able to just feel what YOU need to feel! ❤ I finished your painting so I'll mail it out soon! Sending healing vibes to you and your crew! 🐾🌻

[@TheHeelerMama]

That is so sweet of you. I can't wait to see it. It's amazing how much grief we also feel for other's pups as well. One of the hardest things grooming was when my clients dogs would pass and after knowing them for years. They stick with you a bit as well. Rest easy Darla and Boomer. ❤ Many hugs back to you! ❤

[@bernadettenemec2705]

Woman...I balled looking at Silvers paw print. SILVER AND YOUR BOYS WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU...CLEA DOES HAVE BIG SHOES TO FILL...BUT SHE WILL FILL THEM WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT. MY HEART HURTS FOR YOU BUT DAY BY DAY, MINUTE BY MINUTE....❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🐕🐕🐕💙💙💙

[@Bunji-TheBlueHeeler]

Aww, honey. New viewer here and my heart goes out to you. The muscle memory of a dog is so strong. Bunji and I send virtual hugs. We adopted Bunji just 6 weeks ago and are learning so much from you and the pack! Thanks so much for your channel. Silver sounds like she was such a good girl.

[@TheHeelerMama]

Thank you. She was the best girl. 💙

[@darrinquigley6919]

Your dogs are very special 😎👍

[@bbaff8622]

Not going to lie, it will be a rough time not getting over it, but getting used to it. We never really get over it fully, always there with us. I lost my 17 year old 2 years ago and still think about her a lot. In time will feel better, and you will see her again.

[@carlamartinez4728]

I'm a person who has a hard time crying, for some reason, especially when I feel deep emorion. So I'm happy for you that you can let your pain out. But sometimes I feel like crying makes me feel worse. I wish you a cradle of comfort and a celebration of such a close and loving bond ❤❤❤😂😢🎉 Yay Silver! Yay Clea! Yay Gypsy! And little Sully ❤❤❤❤❤ bless your family! Much love and many hugs from your brood 🎉

[@TheHeelerMama]

Thank you. And yes I agree sometimes the crying is worse. The physical pain and the snot it ends up making me mad ❤

[@darrinquigley6919]

Totally understandable, I’m still getting over the loss of my Kally Cat.

[@TheHeelerMama]

So sorry for your loss.

[@lynnsullivan8373]

I agree with you about coffee... it helps me through everything and keeps me from throwing things... LOL You are the kind of person who loves DEEPLY and it makes it so much harder to deal with grief. I hope your stomach pain has not become an actual physical problem. That happened to me before when I was dealing with grief. The doctor gave me a prescription that helped a lot. Shopping is great therapy!

[@TheHeelerMama]

Coffee is life! lol Hubby asks me every morning "have you coffeed yet?" before talking with me about anything lol. I hope the stomach pain stops soon too. I plan on getting an appointment in a month to check things anyway if it's still there I will ask for something. Plan is to go to antique shops next. I love old crap lol

[@keithwepking9988]

No words can ever be said that will make it any easier. Talking about it is probably the best thing you can do. As always, thank you for sharing, I look forward to your videos, sad or happy, cuz I've been through the same deal. Hang in there.

[@TheHeelerMama]

Thank you ❤

[@ArkadyKirsanov]

We said goodbye to our red girl today, and this is the only place I wanted to visit after I got off the phone call with all our kids letting them know. When the doc said, "She's gone," everything in me wanted to yell, "Bring her back!" We had 13 glorious years with her, AND IT WASN'T ENOUGH.

[@TheHeelerMama]

I'm so so sorry. 💔💔💔 It never is enough, that's why they love so hard. Wishing you all the strength and love as you and your family go through this. (hugs)

[@ArkadyKirsanov]

@@TheHeelerMama thank you. Your compassion means a lot.

[@looky-here]

I'm so sorry for your loss. 😢😢😢 this is the first time seeing your new video.

[@TheHeelerMama]

Thank you. ❤

[@runswithwolves522]

aww Clea❤ hugs to both of you ❤ hope you have a wonderful time camping! we are taking the boys camping this weekend too😊

[@TheHeelerMama]

Thanks hun. Hope you have fun as well!

[@debbie6787]

My dog Mikey has had the hardest time adjusting since losing our tiny girl Mariposita. He and my blue heeler Doc argue all the time and it has been 6 months. It’s slowly getting better, but Doc is so naughty right now.

[@TheHeelerMama]

Yeah Sully being extra turdy is a bit surprising to me. I knew there would be problems but didn't think this many. Our girls really held things together didn't they. Hoping it just keeps getting better for you. ❤

[@debbie6787]

@@TheHeelerMama they really did. I hope it continues to improve for you as well.

[@mwanstall52]

my soulmate left on the 6th of the 7th, 2020, I howled at the moon when she died in my arms. The moon is always at its biggest and brightest every month around that time. so when I look at my Jazzy moon each month I'm gonna make it my Jazzy- Silver moon. All your feelings are a carbon copy of how I felt and can still often feel. I cant help compare every other pet to her and I love our bluey but she's a stubborn moll like Mr Sully, haha (aussie slang) and she has brought a new life to our old cat and made me laugh. but there isn't a day I don't remember the empty spaces where my soul connection was full. i recommend smashing stuff, moshing out to a song you love and crying whenever you need. I'll be thinking of you and your Silver girl as I look up to the moon and the southern cross. be kind o yourself Mel

[@TheHeelerMama]

Thank you Mel 💙 This brought some tears but I love that. A Jazzy-Silver moon. 💙 I think I'm going to have to start calling Sully that lol. Stubborn moll indeed!

[@sereneadair4941]

I used to beg for me to feel like my old self but a friend reminded me it's a new Normal. I love Silvers Paw Print.

[@TheHeelerMama]

It took me forever to get Sully okay with the lawnmower but he still bites the wheels when it's shut off. He doesn't get the water hose as much either because I'm worried he is going to hurt himself.

[@darrinquigley6919]

Your Eye glasses look very nice 😎👍

[@TheHeelerMama]

Thanks lol

[@elenadelawder6913]

Silver was born the day we adopted our 2nd sheltie Duchess the tri-color sheltie ❤❤❤

[@michaelbrady181]

You prolly don't feel it but I see you doing better, my heart hurts for you 2-3 weeks ago. Can't wait to hear about the camping trip!! It's getting pretty warm here, my neighbor made me jealous last weekend, him an his family went while I got to drive to Kansas.......yay lol. Got my trip to Idaho in 10 days and after that, we going camping!! The thing that stresses me out with my girls is there are deer and elk up there and if they see one they gonna be gone!!! I keep them on long Leeds but still nervous I loose my babies in the woods, anyhoo, thank you for the update and stay strong mama.

[@TheHeelerMama]

I get the jealousy lol Less than a week away and we get to camp! We keep debating to change the days because of storm warnings since we are in tents but I'll be fine if it's just rain. Not sure how the girls will be in the rain but we will see lol. I totally understand being nervous. I want to start traveling further out with the crew like head to the smokeys or something, and as good as my girls are at recall they will be on leads I can't risk loosing them in another area. They forget their recall sometimes with those evil squirrels lol. Safe travels my friend!

[@jjsolly5039]

Hi Alek, breaks my heart to see you in so much pain, dear😪💔. I am praying for God's Comforting touch to hold you now, in Jesus' Name, amen. Big hugs, Friend💕🙏✝️🙂🐕‍🦺 Regarding Clea, I saw a few things I am concerned about: has Clea always chased her tail? She clearly appeared stressed by the rough play going on. And having Sully and Gypsy gang UP atop her? Not good! Have you considered that by training Sully now (either you or hubby) with a firm hand, you are teaching Sully to respect you so when you tell Sully "Leave It" concerning Clea, he obeys? You would be protecting Clea as well as helping Sully behave. Final thought, Gypsy and Sully play very roughly together, which spills over onto Clea, even though that's not her temperment. Maybe break up the rough-housing, so they don't practice that level of aggression, even if it means separation times? Just some thoughts. Clea is clearly stressed by the rough play - as you said, its not her temperment. Rather than pushing her into confrontations such as shoulder slamming, how about honoring her natural gentle nature by "setting the house in order" and encouraging Gyp and Mr Man to take it down a notch? Just some thoughts, dear. Love, warm hugs (in May, right!?) and puppy kisses, JJ & Miss Ruthie💕

[@TheHeelerMama]

Clea has always chased her tail ever since she was a baby. There are times she will chase her tail, do a mini play pose just to get the other two going in the yard for a chase. She has never liked rough play like the other two yes, but there are times she dives in there almost as if to put them in their place. I don't know if it showed clear enough in this vid but she did vocalize as she threw Gypsy off of her and did her mama growl at Sully before he jumped up on the couch. We didn't encourage the shoulder slam or anything it just happened. "Leave it" with Mr Man seems to encourage him to go after her more just like when I try to lead him away. The last few days have been a bit better with just one incident last night where he tried to go after her for being in bed with us and both me and hubby corrected him and he stopped. I'm trying to figure out the best way to help things but not sure yet the best option without making it worse. Always appreciate your insight. Much love to you and Ruthie! ❤

[@jjsolly5039]

@@TheHeelerMama Thanks for the details, Alek! No, I could not hear her vocalisations on the vid. Glad you and hubby corrected him on the bed. He's a handfull, for sure! Clea is a sweetie, I saw that the first time Clea graced the screen💓. Sounds like you are keeping an eye on him! Good job! Praying for God to comfort you both and cover you with His feathers that under His wings you will find comfort and safety (beautiful Psalm 91), in Jesus' Name amen. Warm hugs, love and puppy kisses, JJ & Miss Ruthie PS prayers for me, Please! Miss Ruthie refuses to chase her ball, refuses disc-y, will only get going to play hide-&-seek!!! I am running out of places! LOL! 😄🐕‍🦺💕🙏✝️

[@TheHeelerMama]

@@jjsolly5039 Yeah I didn't leave their sound in just wanted to show puppies while I talked lol. He is a handful for sure, but I keep reminding myself he's still a pup and he's gone through so many changes already in his life he's still figuring things out. I will absolutely pray for you and Miss Ruthie! I hope she's okay. Not playing is no fun for a heeler. 💙🙏

[@dawnmitchell11]

I think the pack leader thing will just take time. They know you are still affected by losing Silver, so there's probably some uncertainty to them. Maybe Sully is challenging Clea so much because Clea is bonded to your husband more than you. Silver was your strongest bond and the pack leader. Perhaps they see you as the human pack leader because of your bond with Silver and Clea being bonded to hubs causes uncertainty. ?? I think in any situation there's going to be challenge when there's a pack change involving the leader. Glad that you are getting out, it's hard to do when grieving, but it really can help one's mental health. Wishing you peace during this time. Thank you for the updates!

[@TheHeelerMama]

I think that is playing a part in it for sure. All of that. Silver ranked above daddy. It was always me and then her ruling things and Dad only got that role when I went away for a trip. It does sometimes feel like we are in two separate crews at the moment but we all want to be together. I just don't understand the intensity Sully has over it all. But like you said I'm sure they are all uncertain and picking up my feelings. Hoping it mellows out soon.

[@monkeybearmax]

Dog fights are so upsetting! We’ve had our share. Rooting for you CLEA! I hope things become peaceful. Do u have that scary can of air that’s super loud? It can break up or prevent fights if sprayed near him when he’s aggressive. He might start to think twice.

[@TheHeelerMama]

No air can but I'm starting to think about busting out the old dog whistle I have or even making a jar full of pennies. I just hope whatever we try something clicks. Ideally I would just let them work things out but I don't want blood or it too get that far. Thankfully it hasn't but yeah, it sucks.

[@wanda3527]

I promise you will be together with ALL your furbabies. Check out John Fenn on KZbin. He saw his pet monkey and lab in heaven. His channel is pretty cool. Praying for you sweet lady.

[@NoobMaster-fi2ho]

After losing my 15 year old pitbull female last year. I still cant get over losing her. I found your channel shortly after that. I had just bought my first healer male a couple weeks prior to losing my 15 year old pitbull. My tucker helped me thru the loss. And now he is days away from 1 yr old. And he is my shadow. Unfortunately he only tolerates a few family members. But tries to actually eat or maim strangers. Learned the hard way at tractor supply. He tried to eat the cashier cause she approached me. But we are inseparable now. And im so sorry for your loss. I know what your feeling. Sending prayers

[@TheHeelerMama]

Thank you. Yeah, they can be very protective of us and that bubble. I'm glad he was able to help you through it. I'm very thankful for my three as well to keep pushing me through it.

[@NoobMaster-fi2ho]

I wish the breeder i got my male tucker from. Didnt dock his tail. I love your dogs fluffy tails

[@TheHeelerMama]

Awww I hate when they dock their tails. We love their tails and I swear it's like a rudder for them when they herd.

[@H.A.Hiller]

💗🩶💗 The feels are real. You understand not to ignore your body signals. The doggos are processing, too. It's hard. You're doing amazingly well considering, imo. *Are you watching the 'Winchesters'-the origin story? I haven't yet..please drop a reply if it's worthy😅

[@TheHeelerMama]

Thank you, and no I haven not watched it yet. I've been hearing so much good and bad about it but now that I know it's a multiverse thing and it's not the story arch of Supernatural I might. Also, when I saw Dean drive in with Baby I was like, oh man, I have to watch it now just for the cameo right? lol

[@H.A.Hiller]

Oh...now I have to watch it, too. Despite my gross out, I kept with The Boys to see how Jensen would handle the role. ❤🩶❤ Keep going!

[@TheHeelerMama]

@@H.A.Hiller Yeah there are some things in that show where I'm like ummm really? But yeah stuck through it to see Jensen.