Kerry Washington's Parents LIED About Her Paternity & It Caused Her OBSESSION With Her Weight

A lie doesn't care who tells it. And for almost all of her life, Kerry Washington's parents lied to her about her paternity.
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[@aminah761]

That was a horrible secret for her mother to keep from her . Kids deserve to know who thier biological parents are

[@LailahLynnTV]

BOTH of them kept it from her. SMH.

[@aminah761]

Shame on them

[@PositivitySpeaks101]

Because the mother used a unknown sperm donor don’t make him a father.. he was just that.. I don’t know how I really few about the story to be honest.. because it wasn’t like she was adopted or treated differently it seem both parents loved her.. to me her eating disorder came from her wanting to fit in or her mind told her she had to look a certain way to be were she is at now.. we just know her side of the story so I don’t know!! I’m glad her and her parents got through this

[@sacredchimesthecrystalhealer]

​@@PositivitySpeaks101exactly

[@kokainejane773]

​@@PositivitySpeaks101me too I feel she threw her parents under the bus to justify her disorder that she was ashamed of.

[@fah232]

Parents don't realize the harm they do to their children by lying and keeping secrets. They claim to be doing it for the child instead of taking accountability. These lies are to protect them, not the child/children. A child should know who their biological parent/parents are even if they're not there, as soon as they start asking. I have seen this in my own family, and it's hurtful to a child. I'd rather suffer a small amount of embarrassment than to hurt my child like that.

[@aegoaway]

They know full well. It's the point!

[@monejohn9973]

Exactly, I have 2 cousins, one that disowned the whole family. When she found out at 18 and another one who just quit talking to the family when she found out at 16.

[@thewordsmith5440]

Glad her parents are at least still alive.

[@diwi5823]

​​​@@YeahmynameKiaraThe thing is that they have a chance to do so (be truthful) before the consequences of CHOOSING not to be truthful happen. It's the deceit and betrayal more than the secret itself. If they lied about this (a lie is by omission btw), then what else would they lie about??? You don't know someone at all if they're a liar of any kind and it doesn't matter what the "history" is. When there is ample time to give the truth and you give a lie, it costs you. Lies are dangerous.

[@fah232]

@@monejohn9973 Right, this still affects my nephew at 37. He found out his dad wasn't his biological dad at 19.

[@zeleneturner8047]

Those type of secrets are very harmful. My grandmother would not tell my uncle who his father was. She died with that secret. He begged her until she closed her eyes. It hurt him so badly and he died not knowing.

[@janiceguillory]

Folks can do genetic testing and it will tell you relatives

[@lexuriouslife_24]

I’m sorry for your uncle. I hope he gets the answers of who he’s related to. Kids needs to know when their old enough to understand and if they want to know.

[@AminaPhilosophy]

Perhaps the secret was due to her not wanting to know the manner in which he was conceived. He could have been either a r@pe baby or a child born out of infidelity.

[@kaysammy6730]

​@@lexuriouslife_24she said he died too

[@millennialodyssey5956]

@janiceguillory5565 you cannot just do genetic testing without having a sample from the person you need to test against. Those test just don't give you the name of who your parents are randomly.

[@ka-ta-ya9565]

As someone who is adopted, I believe it should be illegal for parents to keep such a secret. I’m glad Kerry is healing from this 😊

[@mariejane1567]

There are many people traumatized from finding out they are adopted. You have to look at both sides.....

[@roc42cov]

If I'm not mistaken it is now illegal to do closed adoptions in the US now

[@stefaniisimone]

@@mariejane1567& there are many of us that were adopted that are traumatized because of a lack of knowledge on where we come from and who we are.

[@iseeyou2810]

It's people who adopt children and see them as possessions, not as children they choose to love. I have seen adopted family lie about the parents of the children they have adopted in order for them not to find out who and where they came from for purely out of jealousy and possessive reasons. I am going to adopt hopefully soon, I will my adopted child about who they are to me and why I choose to love them and want them to have relationships with their own biological parents if that'spossible.

[@NoOne-wt3sv]

The only time I say it is appropriate is being born from incest or assault.

[@juanderuano8969]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@juanderuano8969]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@flblackbutterfly1]

Sorry to say this, but an anonymous sperm donor sounds a little suspicious to me. Just my opinion.

[@LailahLynnTV]

Wow y’all are really calling it out

[@AfricanDee]

That’s what I thinking. Still sounds like hidden secrete if you ask me. Was there even such a thing at those times? How old is Kerry? I can understand if she said anonymous adoption. But sperm donor? Nah I’m calling cap!

[@tammyjackson9685]

Yeah especially back when she was born it wasn't popular ??

[@chaylajenkins5777]

Exactly, especially given the fact that it was a black sperm donor too. Those are hard to come by these days so I don’t know how it was possible back when Keri was born.

[@javiruiz8365]

@@chaylajenkins5777exactly! DaBrat couldn’t find a good black donor either 😂

[@GoldSag1]

I know exactly how she feels. I found out five years ago, by taking an Ancestry test, that the man I thought was my father is not. Im 43 now, but was 38 at the time and it was traumatic. To make matters worst, my mom passed when I was 28. I always knew I was different from my siblings and vocalized it as a kid, they thought I was trying to be "different " from them , so I stopped saying it. As an adult now, with time to cope. I've made peace with never knowing who my bio dad is. I truly hope Kerry allows herself to grieve that loss, allow herself to go through the emotions of anger to acceptance towards her parents, and ultimately, be at peace.❤

[@tashahall1855]

Girl , i know how you feel. Its like never knowing your other side but what can you do

[@cherylwade264]

​@@tashahall1855 Try DNA testing, try to find a good Facility. You might not find your parentage that way but there is useful information in the testing. There was a review done using 3 different laboratories and the results were different. The DNA can also inform you of hidden traits for illnesses.

[@flashylights]

Chille same, found out my grandpa and his parents (that I barely knew) actually have no blood relation to me 😕 my real grandpa was my dad neighbor/ his bf dad too this whole time smh. Later on to become his boss.

[@tressanallenmartin9336]

You never know what a person is going through

[@leeza660]

as an adoptee whose parents told me as soon as I was old enough to digest that info, and who has friends who now have to heal through their parents’ deceit, I am immensely grateful for how my parents handled this situation. I can’t understand why anyone would want to keep this secret from their child for a lifetime.

[@jjasminedee3062]

What age did they tell you? I’m in a similar situation and it would help me a lot to know what age you were able to digest that info

[@BklynBabe]

I was adopted when I was 3 and it was never a secret. I was even able to meet my biological mom and I'm aware of my biological family. My brother and sister were also "adopted" but since it wasn't done properly and they weren't told until they were teens, it was more difficult for them. Lying to children is wrong.

[@aprilmay1061]

​@@BklynBabeYour parents did it the right way. Ive always felt that every adoption should be an open one and each child should know what bloodline they were born from, what their bio parents look like if possible and the true circumstances of why they were placed as an adoptee if its not too traumatic. That would at least give the child a sense of knowing who they are and where they come from.

[@jjasminedee3062]

@@BklynBabe thanks for your response! Being a teen already comes with so much. I can’t imagine adding such a pivotal secret in identity while just discovering yourself.

[@leeza660]

@@jjasminedee3062 I think I was around 3-4 y/o, they sat me down and told me in a very non-stressful way. I didn’t really understand what adoption meant at that time, but I understood that it made me a little different than my friends. the more we talked about it, the more I understood. I remember people at school caught wind that I was adopted and told me about it, but I was already perfectly aware of it, so it wasn’t uncomfortable for me to talk about at school. they told me about my bio siblings a few years later, and set me up on my 18th birthday to have a relationship with my bio parents if I wanted to

[@byst8729]

Whenever I look at her I always thought she had East African phenotype. Her face structure is similar to Somali, Ethiopian or Eritrean.

[@mzion4686]

I absolutely agree with you, she truly does look like my people ❤ Eritrean/Ethiopian ❤

[@mjbelle23]

She resembles Illhan Omar to me

[@kenyafromcali]

Same!

[@33fragola]

I’m Somali & know dozens of girls that could be her sister or cousin… including me 😅 East African phenotypes don’t show up frequently in modern day African Americans, at least to my knowledge

[@dee27206]

@@mjbelle23I always said she looks like Ilhan omar. Even my mom thought she was Ilhan Omar when she saw her on TV the other day.

[@mrshoward8616]

And I have a feeling that her parents are still lying to her….They probably know who her father is.

[@tanayanottanyabrooks8085]

I know someone that this happened to. Her mom got pregnant in college the father didn’t want anything to do with the baby he signed over his rights. Her mom met someone when she was two years old got married and had other children. She grew up thinking the man was her father. Fast forward she was 22 and getting ready to graduate college someone started inboxing her on Facebook saying she was her paternal grandmother. At first her mom lied about it then she told the truth. The man she saw work two jobs to put her through private school and college was not her father. Her world fell apart when things started making sense to her. She didn’t look like her siblings and always wondered why she was darker,around her birthday and Christmas gifts would come for her in the mail which turned out they were from her paternal grandmother who wanted to be in her life.

[@mscardioqueen]

Parents can be incredibly selfish when they keep secrets. They say they are doing it for the child's benefit. But, it's really for their benefit.

[@hienienguyen6766]

that is so true

[@TheRoyalprincessojed]

Yes, I believe so too.

[@williamsb456]

It's not selfish telling a someone this type of news can be devastating.

[@MsDeeAnn]

2018!!! If they were going to keep it from her they could have at least told her this when she turned 18. This makes me so sad for people whose parents are deceptive towards them.

[@malyroberts4054]

This is odd 🧐. There were black sperm donors back in the late 60’s early 70’s? She sure her mama don’t know who her dad is and just don’t want to tell her? 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’m definitely reading the book because I have a lot of questions.

[@sleepnomore6065]

An ancestry test should show if she's half white

[@soriyazz]

I have a friend that CANNOT Get her mom to tell her who her father is

[@WilliamsPinch]

May not know, may be unsafe or may have been conceived by assault.

[@brittany4414]

Or a family member. Either way its sad.

[@mzmeshelle]

I know two people right now with Jamaican mothers who refuse to tell the truth about their fathers

[@chicgal3]

Tell her to do a 23& Me Test & a Ancestry DNA test she’ll likely find out that way & can Move forward with the information & her life❤🙏🏼❤

[@user-dv3kq3rm4h]

Oh! Her mum's a REAL Jamaican then. Plenty of secrets in West Indian families where parents either stepped out and then raised the love child in their nuclear family OR the woman's first child was with someone else and she later married someone else and that child was raised by the new husband. I have a story like this in my own family. I try not to judge but lt's trifling behaviour. I dont believe a Jamaican woman would've chosen a sperm donor all those years ago- for cultural reasons alone not to mention how widely available this would've been plus the likelihood of finding a Black sperm donor? Yeah right.

[@jt2994]

​@@l.t.3857It's women in general. I can't tell you how many of my white friends have come and told me they took a DNA test and found out their dad is not their dad. It got so bad that some of the DNA companies had to train employees on how to counsel customers calling in destrout.

[@user-dv3kq3rm4h]

@@l.t.3857 Thanks for your perspective I'm British West Indian and only had my perspective to go by- I've always heard about 'jacket' children and outside children etc- too many stories to draw from! Even in my own family. I knew I couldn't speak on Black American women 'cause I wasn't sure this happened frequently in the same time in their culture as ours. That's crazy. I wonder what created this type of behaviour? Maybe s*xual ab*se or overly strict parenting? It really is a thing in that older generation. I think lying to a child about their paternity is a wicked thing to do.

[@justbeingveetv3423]

Damn🤦🏿 People please tell your children the truth.

[@EarthQueen-1111]

Her mom definitely told partial truths 🤔

[@atlsongbyrd6084]

This happened to me and I just found out 2 years ago that even though my parents were married for 36 years that my mom cheated & got pregnant with me. She died in 2016 and I did an AncestryDNA test in 2021 & found out the truth. Then I had to do a DNA test with the father that raised me that’s on my birth certificate that my mom was married too. It came back with 0% probability. He blamed me for telling him after I discovered it. I have other family that was upset with me too when I didn’t do anything wrong. The only difference is my “dad” didn’t really know.

[@Justonevideoplease]

Exactly what happened to Kerry. We all know it’s not a donor. Mother just doesn’t want to tarnish her image but she should be honest with Kerry

[@michaelmaps2004]

I also feel bad for the dad who raised you. It must have been heartbreaking to find out after all these years

[@pelomk9022]

Why did you tell him though?

[@bernadinewilson3614]

I get it but. I would have taken that to my grave

[@julieuk5855]

That is wild.

[@Sherryrice4149]

Damn they wasn't going to never tell her .she could have gotten with her brother. How selfish or they.😔🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️.

[@GraceReport]

So unfair to her. I hope getting the truth out there helps her heal!

[@indigo_worldwide_]

Isn’t it crazy how her parents kept a secret between the two of them all this time, then only for everyone else to now know their secret. Just goes to show that the truth will eventually come to light.

[@kimpointer21]

You’d be AMAZED how many of us are going through this. I was the family joke for YEARS!!! Everyone knew EXCEPT me!!! I haven’t spoken to them in YEARS and they couldn’t care less…

[@Star-fp4ro]

*I WAS RIGHT THIS WHOLE TIME!* I know DNA can be unpredictable at times, but I've ALWAYS said she looks nothing like her parents and OFTEN wondered if she was adopted. Her bone structure was too far off.

[@rooseveltwilliams1073]

I always thought she was adopted. I don't think she looks like her mom either. Mom lied once. Kerry's mom could still be lying. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Star-fp4ro]

That's exactly what I was thinking after I commented. I feel like the dad is trying to spare the mom. @@rooseveltwilliams1073

[@loosegoose937]

I'm still waiting for this book to be released

[@fridayfosternow6787]

I am glad that Kerry Washington spoke on Eating Disorders especially with Women of Color.

[@WilliamsPinch]

People have the right to know who their parents are. But a lot of you will be disappointed to meet the parent that probably didn’t want you. Especially if you’re a black American.

[@ToyaRR]

Parents would say they keep it a secret to shield the child. But that's a cop out. They keep it a secret for themselves. In this case they did not want people to know the father could not have children.

[@ritaseay2811]

This is profoundly deep! I pray that she finds the personal/emotional balance and self-acceptance that she deserves.

[@glassbikes]

Damn her parent's played a SCANDAL on her.

[@martiniloganmartinilogan83]

Haha 😄

[@niratomas579]

Why are y’all like this😩

[@chicgal3]

Art imitating Life>Life Imitating Art!💔

[@ItsTifahTifah]

Da Jango 😂Lol. Girl the D in Django is silent

[@dlilwon]

I found this comment as i was saying the same in my head 😅😅😅

[@ItsTifahTifah]

@@dlilwon I played his voice in my head when he said in the movie haha

[@sandrakelley3391]

I can’t believe that she would be able to forgive them so easily. Someone should really watch her. Whoever is her friend. Real friend.

[@pamelahurt8168]

Kids can deal with the truth its the lies they cannot handel...children understand more than you think and she needed to know who are real father was because it affect the rest of her life...wow who does that ..this is almost unforgivable 😮😮😮

[@yazmiynjones4930]

I could never imagine holding information like that from my kid . Geez so toxic

[@rooseveltwilliams1073]

Wow, reading the comments of others who have similar stories like Kerry Washington is quite sad. Every child should have the right(s) to be born knowing who their bio parents are no matter the situation or circumstances of their birth. And for a mother to keep important information from their child (they claim to unconditionally love) is very selfish and deceitful.

[@janiceguillory]

She should still do ancestry to find her birth father

[@andreamarie529]

She knows her mamma . She just need to find her daddy .

[@dianajohnson4364]

When protection becomes harm. When she was old enough to understand right from wrong, she should have been told about her biological father

[@a_ya_la]

1st Kirk Franklin and now Kerry Washington. 😢! Deception of Parents. Kirk's situation 😢😅. Will be purchasing that book.

[@NubianQueen100]

Parents learn later on that those secrets you keep from your kids cause major trauma for the kid once they become an adult..it doesnt help the kid , it hurts the kid..

[@Hi_Tamera]

Nah it’s giving affair but that’s none of my business 👀☕️😂

[@reachfothesky]

I always loved Kerry. I never would have guessed she was going through this. I thought she looked great on Scandle.🥂 to her going forward in her new life journey! ❤🫶🏾

[@Justonevideoplease]

I don’t believe it was a donor… sorry it was the 70s

[@LailahLynnTV]

👀 wow

[@funsizedazzy6708]

There where women who had donors back then heard of test tube baby? But it’s funny because the show she was on little fire everywhere her daughter she had was actually a couples😊 baby that she was just suppose to carry but they used her dna and she just disappeared on them.

[@SureYoureRight]

I agree. Definitely more to the story….

[@estherstrategicadvisor749]

I learned of a White couple who used more than one donor & it was either late 60's early 70's. I WAS SHOCKED this was happening so far back! The man couldn't impregnate his wife so the doctor told them donors were available. The children did Ancestry DNA & at first thought the mother cheated twice. 2 of the children have the same father, but the other has a different father. The same re Breast Implants. Rich women & celebrities have been getting those since many years ago....

[@none8726]

What if it was an assault 😢

[@Igottimetoday45]

Join the club. My mom stay lying about who my father is. 🤦🏽‍♀️ She should have chose better.

[@clairedaniels1877]

I suggest to see a psychic. They’ll be able to channel it.

[@jo-d-lo38]

I know someone who's mom told him in his teens that his father was not someone that she had a relationship with but, a sperm donor. He has never been the same again due to the fact that an anonymous sperm donor was his father. He wishes that he wasn't told. These situations can go both ways,so l understand her parents decision.

[@MsMizz1]

😢 see you never know. You can be well intended and still. That’s why I check myself if I start judging bc it’s easy to say what you’d do or want in a hypothetical situation

[@yvonnewilliams8800]

This happens more than it’s talked about in Black families. My stepmother begged her mother who is now deceased, who her father is but she refused. I don’t know if her mother felt like this was her own personal business or if she didn’t really know. It was rumored to be a local prominent radio personality. But her mother would never admit to it. My stepmother has since passed away as well and never was able to find out.

[@sleepnomore6065]

She Could have been a by-product of abuse. My grandma wouldnt either and is now dead,. Wish I had the courage to have asked!

[@patriciaclark-sims3816]

I know at least 3 people with this story. It is devastating to them.

[@trulysensitive5620]

I still cannot get over Kirk Franklin life. The truth must come to light.

[@Dee038]

If I was Kirk, I would’ve made his mother take a paternity test as well! I once dated a guy who found out that his mother was really his aunt! He spiraled out of control.🙏🏽

[@alexisagginie4574]

The Truth is always the best. The Truth truly does set you free! Why are we afraid to speak Truth?

[@TradeWynn65]

I didnt know the man who I called Dad was not my dad until my mother died. My oldest sister couldn't wait to tell me😢.

[@tg2046]

I didn't have an eating disorder, but I had that desire of being perfect and the good girl because I always felt out of place as well. I had a relationship with the father who raised me, but it was never like it should have been because he had his own issues as well. At the age of 51, after doing ancestry, and thinking back to a comment made by a so-called friend of my mother after my father's death I learned that my father was not my biological dad. Unfortunately, my birth father died when I was a junior in high school, so I never had the opportunity to meet him and the father I grew up knowing never knew the truth before his death. My mother passed when I was 27 and took this secret to her grave, so I am left with so many unanswered questions. On the upside I found two sisters and have met other relatives on his side of the family all because of Ancestry. Ancestry is definitely a great tool, but it will definitely reveal some secrets if you decide to take that journey.

[@chocolateradiance7216]

That's messes up..I always side eye older ppl smdh

[@tg2046]

@@chocolateradiance7216 Right, because they know they be keeping secrets. It is so many folks running around here with another man’s last name.

[@saidyv6561]

I can relate. Not bc my parents lied to me but bc ive been forced to keep this secret from two of my siblings. They believe my father is their bio father but we found out during my parents divorce that they weren't. My mom threatened that neither me or my father are to tell them. Meanwhile, so many other family members know. It was over 15 years ago and they are not in the mid and early 20s. It feels so awful but at this point I don't think any of us want to be the ones to tell them. However, if its up to my mom she will never tell them. My dad despite being hurt never treated them differently. I respect him for that.

[@niratomas579]

Ouch. This hurts. Especially given that other family members know but they do not😔

[@millennialodyssey5956]

Personally If other family members know i would have told them. It's not okay. Truth is more important than me "feeling" bad about it. Even if they get mad at me I could live with that. I couldn't live with seeing them and constantly knowing I was lying or hiding something from them.

[@feliciaholley-loveless2343]

Your mother is dead wrong to have you under that abnormal stress and pressure

[@GoldSag1]

I just wrote a long post about my experience that is similar to Kerri's. What I didn't include was that my oldest sister heard rumors and never told me. It was painful finding this out and affected our relationship. I get that it's the parents' responsibility, but if other people are out here talking about it, your siblings might as well know. I would suggest letting your mom know that her secret is too much for you to bear, and if she doesn't tell your siblings, you will. All the best to you all ❤

[@Justonevideoplease]

You should speak up!!!!!!! You’re old enough to now be part of the problem

[@aegoaway]

A lot of these celebs are sold by their parents into chaos and lie to them about their parentage. They say their mom is their grandmother, is actually their sister, they don't know their fathers... etc. So many examples of this. & nobody wonders why?

[@tashahall1855]

I think some parents really suffer from mental issues and never think their children will grow up and asks questions.

[@chocolateradiance7216]

The exact thing I am thinking about my own mother and her sisters. When I do the math all of them seemed off. I also heard rumors that my grandmother may have had mental health issues

[@tashahall1855]

@@chocolateradiance7216 I’m not even gonna put my business online however it’s good to know there are others who deal with dysfunctional parents. I used to feel so isolated with my experiences and feelings .

[@leilou19]

My mother will not let me see my original birth certificate, now I'm beginning to get suspicious

[@judispencewills9457]

You should be able to order your original birth certificate online.

[@nadia4999]

Don’t speak of it. Use your fingers a a google how to order a birth certificate. Pay the $25 or so, and within a week at most you will have the original or the “made” up one. Have it sent to your PO Box, and not to your mom’s address. It’s 2023. You should not have to ask your mom for a record of your birth.

[@sunshineleslie1460]

Wonder if she tested both parents!

[@martiniloganmartinilogan83]

Haha 😄 🤣

[@mzprince4139]

@@martiniloganmartinilogan83 she looks like her mother

[@chicgal3]

with all her access & money I can’t believe she’s known since 2018 and still hasn’t found out she should do a 23andMe DNA test and a DNA ancestry Test-If she hasn’t because those tests will show you other family members even if their closer family members haven’t taken tests so you just have more probability of finding close & distant relatives like cousins grandparents, Great grandparents etc of Both of your biological parents and I’m thinking that this sperm donor story is a lie as well, I don’t know it just doesn’t seem to make sense because it’s been 6years now & the show “Finding your roots with Henry Louis Gates, junior” she went through is Very through I’ve watched it for Years & they usually find information dating back hundreds of years, so something isn’t really adding up IMO!😢

[@kimberley3577]

The parents were wrong for that

[@wanaforever6957]

When I started noticing her weight loss I thought the same thing you did lailah.. I think it’s wrong that her parents let so much time go by before they said anything.

[@tralosum9854]

This is a sad story! Being lied to for years! I’m glad she has resolution!

[@ashleyrogers1930]

This is the story of a lot of Gen X. And I honestly question the validity of it being a sperm donor and not someone she had an affair with. Baby boomers will lie their butts off in order to protect their reputation. This also happened to Tyler Perry and he didn't find out about his dad not being his father until after his mom died. Its sickening that so many kids have had to grow up like this. Part of our identities are wrapped in who our parents are, and no matter how hard we try to be different from them they are part of our story and our history.

[@kelleyturner2238]

This is not a Gen X thing this has gone on since the world began. Baby Boomers and generations before them went through the same thing they just did not talk about it. Those before the Baby Boomers never talked about anything. Also, Boomers are the largest generation those on the late end are 57 and up. So not a Gx or boomer thing just life and people.

[@ashleyrogers1930]

@@kelleyturner2238 when did I say it was a Gen X problem? Kerry Washington is Gen X and so is Tyler Perry, Kirk Franklin and a lot of other people I know who have found this out. I am merely mentioning Gen X because all of those people are gen X and Gen X are also the one of the only groups that talk about it. So a segment of society can be highlighted and my statement is still true. Two things can be true at once.

[@chocolateradiance7216]

Baby boomers are so freaking annoying and then they can't figure out why a lot of Gen X'ers don't even like them 🙄. Their middle names is Lie, deceit, and I was a *hore just don't want anyone to know

[@TheRoyalprincessojed]

This so true. It is said. It was the easy way out not wanting to take care of a baby. In that Era, most of the time the men was sleeping with a woman and gone to the next woman house. "Papa was a rolling Stone". Women are raising the kids and being married with the another man. Then, here cone then lies.

[@radiant2052]

I believe her parents truly did use a sperm donor. If they didn’t, they would have had more kids. Her father can’t have biological kids.

[@lemoncholyme]

ED and Orthorexia are typically symptoms of a need to feel some sense of control in an environment that feels chaotic. This can't all be because she didn't know her dad was not her biological dad. Something's not adding up. She's omitting something. Much love to her though. I didn't need an explanation about her weight, even if I was curious. It was none of my business.

[@WilliamsPinch]

She can’t blame Idolizing thin, white actresses on her parents.

[@JukuduB]

Yes. Sperm donor father? Hmm....there is more that she is omitting or her parents are omitting.

[@UnfilteredbyMarion]

I also thought the same…

[@tonyamontgomery2733]

I don't believe the whole sperm donor business. The first IVF birth was in 1978 and she was born in 1977. And I am quite sure Black people were NOT high on the list of candidates. Not to mention the out of pocket expense. Someone was dipping and doing it back in the day. She is most likely the product of some extramarital exclusions verses a an anonymous sperm donation.

[@melliegotsoul]

@@tonyamontgomery2733🫢

[@wowandwow9691]

Those were the old days of logic. There was a lifetime of shame on women who gave up their child and those who couldn't have a child. Because of the advice given, they took it to the grave. These days, everything in the open and the stigma is gone, so everyone should come clean and heal.

[@seektruth5750]

The number of people who don’t know their actual paternity is astounding, the secrets women keep , especially when it comes to paternity is incredible. It’s become so that when I see people with their parents in my head I’m always thinking “maybe that’s not your father”, I can’t help it😫. Dna testing should be compulsory. Peace to everyone.

[@HeyMsVal]

Black folks did sperm donations back then???

[@95mzwinnie]

True they barely give sperm now!

[@amandac4579]

Chile that's what I was wondering too 🙄

[@fah232]

Yes, a lot of them did it for payment.

[@nordette]

Lol its called having an affair

[@lakeishasmith112]

Yeah something is up with that story the mom told. She didn't want Keri to go and try to find him, hence the " anonymous sperm donor" 🙄hmmm. She lying again! Smh

[@sj_snoww]

Well you know hopefully truth now prevail. Her parents are very private.

[@JanChuit]

I call b.s. ..if it were true, they would have told her when she was 18………aaaaaam, not buying it…..I suspect some not so kosher shenanigans….

[@lynne709]

Kerry’s parents are part of a generation that doesn’t discuss these things. In their day people did what they had to do, hid the evidence and moved in with their lives. The popularity of familial DNA testing is causes a lot to people to learn things about their family they were never supposed to know.

[@shauntikayvette]

Sounds like she had a father so it’s not like she lacked but to keep that from her was terrible because she may have felt like an odd ball when comparing her features and attributes to her family

[@Bree5three]

I love Kerry down so no shade but this doesn’t surprise me because I always thought her father had such a different features it was surprising to see she barely got any of it. This makes much more sense to me, another man fathered her. Also, makes sense why she highlights him way more than she ever does her mother on her Instagram. Almost goes way beyond just being a daddy’s girl but more like her mother did some thing that she resents and she’s just very happy that the man she calls her father stayed to raise her. The sperm donor story sounds like an attempt to cover up and preserve some of her mom’s integrity.

[@mamat1213]

Yes she’s literally saying the discomfort led her to an eating disorder

[@quianaparson1228]

I feel something more is going to come out on this

[@NatJac-gg3mv]

That’s crazy!! Typically people find out as teenagers. They never told her until recently.

[@KatVB462]

I watched her interview with Robin Roberts that was on tv Sunday night. She speaks highly of her parents and they speak highly of her. Her mom and dad seem like lovely people, smart and caring. Beautiful woman and glad she’s sharing her life.

[@jswjanjan]

She is so beautiful❤

[@SophiaM-le1hx]

Why would you do this to a child

[@eleayeproctor9490]

Her parents and mother in particular, was out of pocket for this. Unsure if I would be able to ever trust them as I would always question everything said.

[@shawnlittle73]

I remember I kept saying this back 2015.. when I first saw Kerry Washington father!!

[@akinatsukana]

I'm definitely getting this book.

[@nicoleday2305]

I know my biological parents but I don't know or really have a connection with my paternal side - my dad's siblings and parents. It's been hard because I was kept from knowing them because my mom had "issues" with them and vice/versa. Sometimes I feel lost because the last 2 Aunts have dementia, so I can't ask questions about "why" I do certain things. I missed out on a lot of things and it hurts. I was not and I Still am not like anyone on my mom's side. I understand how Kerry feels. I overeat until I make myself sick too and then go days fasting - seeking the help from God that I truly need. I just started crying again😢 Lord help us!!! I feel her pain.

[@nikkiward1715]

Sending you Love and Light 💫✨😇

[@brahmabkitty03]

Wow! Why not tell her before then? There’s nothing to be ashamed of

[@MakaykayLAMB]

I didn’t know she had a book so thanks!

[@shadae68]

This happened to me as well. I was raised & named after the man my mom dated after my bio dad. Well, she actually was dealing with them both at the same time. But, my mom, my ‘Goddad’, & my bio dad all are know who my bio dad is. I look just like him & his family as well. Yet, my Goddad’s family lives in denial. They still don’t accept that my Goddad isn’t my real dad. It’s crazy that I am the only who is named after my Goddad. Yet, he has other kids & none of them are named after them. Including the son that my mom actually had by my Goddad. My brother has never met my Goddad & most of my Goddad’s family didn’t even know that he existed. My brother was adopted by a family friend as a baby. Man! I could go on & on. It’s sick that there’s so many lies in black families. It’s sick

[@ThyBrokenhartedx]

So glad Kerry got it together!!

[@TiffTALKS22]

That is sooo trifling for parents to DO that to the children!!! It's NOT for the protection of the child, it's for the EGO of the parent. It is VERY selfish!!!

[@ebonyeyes22]

What kind of parents are these

[@TheHighest22]

Now i know why i like her so much.. similar story, different face. Praying for her healing. This is an unbearably hard pill to swallow.

[@DivaDen]

My mom grew up not knowing who her dad was. When I was 16 my grandma would randomly share infomation about my moms dad with me. I always felt bad for my mom and wanted to tell my granddma to share her not me because I knew who my dad was but I wouldn't dare otter those words. He met my mom when she was in my late 40 but they didn't keep in touch...it was just sad that I knew more about that man than his child did.

[@chocolateradiance7216]

So you picked your grandma over your mother???

[@clairedaniels1877]

Sound like you ain’t like yo momma too much to keep that from her. Smh

[@Jennifer-kc7tc]

She's been knowing for 5 years.

[@curlslegitbaby2981]

She's had an eating disorder for a long time. She looked healthy on save the last dance

[@Deanshamar92]

My aunt and uncle raised me and I call them mom and dad…My real mom is my aunts sister and they don’t talk or get along and never have…it’s always been a weird space because i felt like I was torn between two moms…and a bunch of other issues….at 31 it definitely effects me and I get what she feel

[@citygirlingraham]

What makes parents keep secrets that are so detrimental to the child? Why? Family secrets are wrong..

[@hienienguyen6766]

Parents shouldn't hide anything like this. I feel bad for her to go through this. we all figure that celebrities don't go through struggles, but they do even more. wow this is incredibly crazy.

[@scheniquejackson6562]

My heart ❤ goes out to Kerry and everyone in the comments who experienced something similar to this. Praying for health and happiness to you all. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@JustBree716]

My mother's husband raised me and they never bothered to change my last name so i used to ask and of course i was lied to

[@stephaniemounts317]

Yes I’m going through this right now

[@latisewilson4561]

I bet the mother is still lying... anonymous sperm donor? Yea, okay

[@TheHumanitarian23]

Sadly I feel tt her parents are still not telling the whole truth about it being an anonymous doner. Anyway, all the best to that lovely talented actress.

[@rata-pk4bw]

I was lied to about my biological father my entire life.

[@ricky6244]

I love the respect that I have for this lady...it's not her beauty, nor is it her fame or fortune...its indescribable and it feels good ❤

[@jillneverumind7229]

That’s sad and deep! Although I don’t agree with it, I understand the logic behind Kerry’s parents never telling her that they used an anonymous sperm donor. They BOTH, PLANNED, on being her parents, 1 parent was biological, & I guess they felt that that was enough.

[@MsColetha]

Blessings to this Lady. 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

[@2intriguing1]

If you've never struggled with fertility you have no right to judge or negatively comment. This is real deep because her intuition transcended from spiritual to physical knowing something about her body being off. I pray for them all. ❤ I pray peace moves over Kerry and God directs her journey to find her bio father. I send the same prayers of peace to the parents. God knows it wasn't out of malice or cruel intention that kerry came yo be and I empathize with whatever emotions evoked from this.

[@Oh_Nana1990]

Hmmm there has to be more to her story because at the time of her eating disorder she did not know about her paternity. Did her parents treat her differently? Did they make her feel like she doesn’t belong? Perhaps we need to read her book to find out because am I the only one this didn’t make any sense to? Is she blaming the eating disorder on something she found out decades later?

[@nber1954]

Thank you. Finally an interesting and logical comment!!