Last Lecture Series: “How to Live an Asymmetric Life,” Graham Weaver

[@JeffPittman]

"Life is suffering, so choose something worth suffering for." Life changing words.

[@rahulbhatia1313]

1. Do hard things 2. Do your thing 3. Do it for decades 4. Write your story

[@grahamcweaver]

Yes! And writing your story is the most powerful of all those!

[@BreathFitness]

@@grahamcweaver I’m rewriting today!

[@vanshsharma6663]

5. No "Not me" 6. No "Not now"

[@harendrasingh_22]

100%!

[@Ricardo_Cordero]

Thank you for 30 minutes of my life back.

[@IkeSpeaksUp]

What a time we live in where we can hear such speeches for free

[@joelmuthee]

Truly a blessing

[@Marco-wz8xw]

That’s true

[@_bigmoneyscheme_6556]

Is good no?

[@sumitprabhakar7703]

True

[@brrryan2908]

Probably the MOST inspiring and relatable video about MEANINGFUL goal setting that I've ever seen! Thank you for posting it.

[@vishaalbhatnagar3924]

Brilliant talk! Never say, "Not me, not now." Now is the time to face your fears; the time to do hard things.

[@KonstantinAlekseenko]

1/ Do hard things: Embrace challenges and discomfort because life is not supposed to be easy. 2/ Do your thing: Choose a path that aligns with your passions and values, even if it involves uncertainty and risk. 3/ Do it for decades: Commit to long-term goals and keep improving over time, realizing that great achievements take time. 4/ Write your story: Create a compelling vision for your future and take action to make it a reality, regardless of obstacles or fear.

[@kp55634]

Graham! There’s no count anymore for how many times I have watched this masterpiece. Really appreciate you and want to thank you in person (whenever possible) for how graciously you have impacted and inspired a chain of thoughts that are in an upward spiral. Cheers to you!

[@BreathFitness]

I’m not sure how many times I might listen to this but it will be many. Thanks, Graham!

[@Wisagapi]

right 😊,

[@grahamcweaver]

Thank you for the kind note. So happy it's helpful.

[@johneerf5568]

Same.

[@JA-fj4yh]

​@@Wisagapi12:13 😮 13:27 😅 14: I y41 yf

[@shawnthomas3802]

Why do you say "might listen" rather than "will listen"? It baffles me that so many people talk this way.

[@ewandao2630]

Do your hard thing for decades, like you are the hero of your story.

[@user-yh1cl1zf2q]

I can't believe the internet is THIS good. I am thankful for everyone that was involved in sharing this video. Thanks!

[@steve_wk]

This was a really inspiring talk. I'm 68 years old and you moved me, Graham!

[@grahamcweaver]

So happy to hear that!

[@JosiahWarren]

You should go logarithmic

[@rwm1885]

Beautiful and much needed. Deep down we all know this and know what it is we ought to be doing, it's just the discipline that is lacking.

[@tommyls4357]

"Don't write a story about what happened. Write a story and then make it happen". Thank you, G. His story with his wife was heartwarming.

[@ambition112]

1:07: 💡 The speaker shares his experience of losing half of his largest investor's money and the lessons he learned about investing. 5:08: ✨ The speaker shares four principles to live an asymmetric life and improve one's life dramatically. 8:06: 📚 Life is suffering, so choose something worth suffering for. 12:36: 📚 The speaker shares four principles for success in business and life. 16:44: 📈 Despite facing financial difficulties and uncertainty, the speaker hired an executive coach who helped them create an aspirational plan for their business, leading to the successful hiring of a CEO and significant growth. 20:25: ✨ The speaker shares their experience of how they changed their story and made their dreams come true. 25:36: 💔 The speaker reflects on the loss of their friend Monty and decides to live life without fear of failure or loss. 29:51: ✨ The biggest obstacle in life is fear, but the antidote to fear is to play big and do hard things. Recap by Tammy AI

[@JosiahWarren]

You forgot thw logarithmic explosion

[@rxcjhd]

Thanks

[@MoyaFedora]

Thank you 🙏🏼

[@vishalnangare31]

Thanks

[@EdT.-xt6yv]

Fear /asceticism?

[@epoxyfloorstownsvilleexper2573]

Your channel is a breath of fresh air on KZbin.

[@sakshibhatia3282]

This is one of the best talks from recent times. Thank you so much.

[@samghaffari4400]

Excellent speech. I have already listened to it twice in 12 hours. Not only the content is powerful but the way Graham express himself is very effective.

[@grahamcweaver]

Thank you so much!

[@winniethexi2184]

I, too, quit my job within 24h after listening to the lecture. Now I am fucked and cannot feed my children, thanks bro.

[@AmericaUnited]

One of the best, most inspirational story tellers I've ever heard. And he gives you his framework to lead a successful, happy life. It would seem that Graham has returned to and embraced his former self, Dream Weaver.

[@alokshah6842]

Graham is truly inspirational. Thank you!

[@networkingpaysdividends]

Love the lecture! I’m in the process of transitioning from a poverty mindset, into an individual that can build a solid foundation of wealth for the long term. I spend so much time playing not to lose vs defining the criteria I want & playing the game to win. Thanks for the value given here !

[@BijanIzadi]

Whats great about this is Most of the people in the room forgot about this talk already But you are here, learning, and watching. So don’t feel bad that you werent there in person. You got this

[@Hdianvciadpei]

Yes, but “you” didn’t go to Stanford, so you might not “make it”. Still, play the asymmetric game.

[@BijanIzadi]

@@Hdianvciadpei i honestly like my chances better not going to a school like that, or any school at all. Most people are chasing something that they think only school can provide them. But its all so interesting. I would have liked to go though

[@vikasjain57]

Life Begins when Fear Ends !! How you identify that Fear and end it will define your story for the rest of your life. Privileged to be audience to such great orators sharing their Life experiences and summing it up for others to learn.

[@dchangebegins]

What a speech! Worth coming over again & again

[@mohamedachrafmrabet4523]

commenting to get you back to watch again :D

[@abhishekrbhat7907]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🌟 The importance of asymmetry in investing and life. 05:16 💪 The value of doing hard things in life. 13:47 ⏳ The importance of long-term commitment to your goals. 18:12 🧞‍♂️ Crafting a compelling future vision. 19:41 🚀 Living an Asymmetric Life 23:15 🌟 Catalysts for Change 29:42 🚫 Overcoming Fear Made with HARPA AI

[@charlesyamamoto4407]

It has been 25min since I finished watching the video and I already quit my job and broke up with my girlfriend.

[@SIMPLETRUTHS2012]

...and I've started dating her. Wow, she's a really special person!

[@giosasso]

​@SIMPLETRUTHS2012 I finished watching 25 minutes ago and i've already finished building my time machine with parts I had in my garage. It's unbelievable, because I've already gone out on a test run. I went back in time to 65 million years ago. I met an amazing Neanderthal woman. We fell in love and had 14 kids. Sadly 3 asteroids were about to hit the planet, so I had to travel back to earth. As I write this, i'm in a wormhole. It turns out the universe has amazing wi-fi, and it's free. Life is short when it's going well and far too long when it's not.

[@cwong1107]

I think you missed the main point lol

[@tomrutlandiv9339]

i think you nailed it.

[@CeeGeeZ]

Whaaaa⁉️

[@santoshoommen9209]

Inspiring for sure, do hard things that you love and do it for decades, but began It with the story you want in 5 years!

[@subhankarlayek4340]

Truly an inspiring lecture. Thank you for giving the courage to do hard things.

[@ethankelly8800]

sensational. It’s always amazing when things find you at exactly the right time. Let’s play big.

[@alexanderwhite1171]

"When the student is ready, the teacher appears."

[@teddy-xy2eh]

Thank you GSB for sharing the lecture series.

[@gaurav29107]

Life changing speech I have been longing to hear these words.. Don't miss this video for anything! Graham love you man!

[@grahamcweaver]

Thank you so much for the kind words!

[@ReflectionOcean]

Adopt an investment strategy focused on asymmetric outcomes rather than just trying to prevent losses. 3:38 Embrace difficult tasks to make significant progress, understanding that growth often requires discomfort. 5:09 Pursue personal passion or interest in your career to increase the chance of success and fulfillment. 9:02 Commit to your chosen path for a long duration to leverage the power of compounding effects over time. 13:31 Write your future story without focusing on the immediate difficulties, envisioning the best possible outcome. 16:18 Respond to personal or professional setbacks by reevaluating and redirecting your focus towards what you truly value. 24:25 Face your fears directly, using them as indicators of where you need to focus your efforts for growth. 30:48

[@MatheusCosta-lm7ml]

Hands down, one of the best lectures I've seen in a long time and that make me feel motivated on changing. Thanks for the words Graham, amazing!

[@christinazhang2164]

Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and wisdoms. Truly words to live by.

[@grahamcweaver]

Thank you!!

[@davidh.65]

Love the commentary on doing your thing/playing big. Needed to hear that. Thank you!

[@utahrockz3305]

This is one of the most positively life changing talks I have ever seen! Thank you so much for sharing this!

[@DFridrich]

I am returning to this video a third time already in the last half a year. It’s priceless. Thanks, Graham!

[@fryderykchopin1381]

I am currently starting a software business with a cofounder and there is so much hard work coming, I was feeling really unhappy earlier this day. This talk helps me so much! I will listen to it tomorrow again after waking up!

[@dami8483]

How is your business now?

[@aqidatulizza7661]

this is the exactly the video that I have been looking for 2 years. thank you for the video -and I got it for free-, it really moved me..

[@vipulagarwal6751]

one of the best lectures I have ever seen!

[@5-Minute-Fitness-Fix]

1. Do hard things 2. Do your thing 3. Do it for decades 4. Write your story

[@motorxplorer]

Thanks for sharing this, for those of us that didn’t make Stanford, it’s appreciated 🙏

[@lankisaari]

The best possible speech to watch at the end of this year.

[@opal-r2h]

This made me cry so much. I feel like I lived my dad’s dream for quite a while. Now, it’s like I don’t know who I am outside of it. It’s a rough feeling, I hope I figure out my thing.

[@pattyvanarsdale2791]

I get it!

[@shashankraj6818]

U WILL

[@EklabSdoow]

Walked out of there with quite a few lessons learned but sadly the take-away I can't get over is how incredible the nickname Dream Weaver is

[@lotannaobika6153]

This is such an enlightening video. Thank you Graham

[@yasminkhan2067]

I needed to watch this today. Glad that I am here.

[@mikemian]

The key to investing and business success is not how you save money, but how you spend money.

[@shankers1a2b]

Fantastic orator and practical. Would have watched number of times and i keep repeating

[@benhall8629]

These guys may not realise how lucky they are to hear a speech like this before graduation. Could be life changing for many.

[@sajalkhanna7828]

You're right. But adding on to that, I think we should realise how lucky we are to be seeing this for free from our phones from a different corner of the world. Take a moment. This was the promise of edtech and youtube is here doing that for us. Cheers

[@noneofyobusiness7099]

Couldn’t agree more. Important life lessons like this are an invaluable thing to hear about at this age and will prevent some heartache

[@mdyoung515]

Wow, incredible. This talk will be a powerful catalyst for many who watch and listen.

[@TreasuryTrader]

This was powerful, thank you Graham, you made a big difference for me, I'm going asymmetric

[@chhunyi6040]

The best speech is something we can't learn at school. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@subropreneur]

So much of clarity. And now is the time ❤

[@grantchen2324]

I am so glad I came across this

[@ekeminios]

Thank you so much Graham and Stanford Business School ✨

[@Skylar13]

It’s been a long ride, but a glorious one. This is going to be the very line on my tombstone. ✅

[@SethHoskins]

Graham you are the man

[@veerkasliwal3993]

Everything you want is on the other side of the ‘worst part’ Life is suffering. So choose something worth suffering for. Write your story and make it happen. Biggest obstacle is fear who disguises itself as being practical mostly it’s disguised as ‘Not me, not now’

[@bminsk]

Came here from TikTok and loved every second of this speech. Graham for president

[@wolfgangschwerdt2429]

4:10 : "they stack logarithmically" -> Nope, they stack "exponentially". ;-) Still the glitch does not discount the value and quality of the talk. Thanks so much for sharing this!

[@optimizedpran1247]

He also called the returns equation (1+r)^n quadratic but its exponential. All good though.

[@angelacaltagirone6020]

Thank you and excellent antidote framework to fear and ensuring to Play Big!

[@johnr.duenas7165]

Thank you Graham! Great life lesson and story.

[@SimpleEnglishLearningVideos]

Amazing speech, "How big would you dream if you knew you can't fail?" this line changed my perspective. Thank you!

[@locaterobin]

Loved the lecture. He did misrepresent what Budha said though. Budha said life is suffering, but also that there is a path for that suffering to stop.

[@tomaszsyczynski1702]

Excellent speech, really motivating 😊

[@thebranclan4826]

Wow, what an incredible presentation from Devin Weaver! Made me think of things I gotta do now 🤙🏽

[@spiralsun1]

My nickname in grade school was “Weaver” and it was shortened to “Weave”. 😂❤ It’s what I do. I also listened to Gary Wrights “Dream Weaver” a few years later. Best song ever 😊❤ THANK YOU ❤ FOR THIS ❤!!! Love you. Made me cry. 😢 good tears. It’s been a long hard road for me. I live in my car in order to afford the time to write. I know what you speak. Sometimes it feels like the world is me and I am the world. There’s more to it than that but that should suffice here. I’m filled with unutterable love for life and universe. ❤

[@eonschuylerwhitney]

I would like to say thank you so much for this talk. 💗 It's exactly what I needed to hear today.

[@immanuelt613]

Really excellent talk, thank you for giving this talk.

[@sakshisharma3463]

Do hard things Do your things Do it for decades And you'll not regret ever in your life looking back at it.

[@chrislandgraf1926]

Thank you Graham.

[@summmmmmable]

I wish I have a lecture like this! So inspiring and true, and I’m glad Im blindingly following the 4 rules he was saying!

[@Stella-se1lg]

I am really thankful for your talk! It’s really touching!

[@grahamcweaver]

So happy it was helpful for you!

[@johnalmeida1483]

This is Gold.

[@TheCALMInstitute]

1. Be born rich 2. Do hard things 3. Take out a small loan from your father 4. Do it for decades

[@GirishVenkatachalam]

Amazing content amazing body language and very honest speech

[@thebusinesshq]

Great speech! Thank you for sharing

[@dapobelieve]

Best talk I've heard in years...

[@BisiMuhammad]

As I finish watching this video I line more things thank you sir

[@SarahCrowder]

Ali tells me to watch a video, I watch the video. Excited to learn!

[@bindhiyabandral]

This is so inspirational ✨." Do something that's worth suffering" .The things he has talked about in this video are just to the point and are really an eye opener for all of us . Really amazing 👏👏

[@nwoka]

Absolutely amazing talk

[@arsalanmustafa1563]

“Fear disguises itself as I’m helping you. Not me not now”

[@iredeadekunle2707]

'I'm going to step out NOW and DO that thing I've been putting aside'. TODAY!!

[@SerendipityLuo]

A friend died young, giving Weaver the courage to change career, end relationship, etc. There is a lot psychology to unpack there.

[@Saaad2]

no.. reflecting on his his younger self and realising how far he is away from that self makes him do these steps.

[@AlayaMoody]

This was such a beautiful talk. Hello good morning sir.

[@davidr4523]

As a Stanford MBA alumni who knows Graham, there were several good points/concerns about this lecture. 1. I definitely agree with the advise of going after big challenges and live your best life today. Yes, delayed gratification is important but you need to balance that with youth and having great life. 2. If you met Graham in person, the guy looks like a model. Good looking guy, athletic, smart, loved by women and respected by men. Since he has definitely led a charmed life, his story of struggle does not really resonate with most people. 3.The speech sounded a bit of an advertising presentation of what a great firm he has and how successful they have been. 4. I don't really agree with the statement do it for decades. Yes, don't be flakey but in life you have to pivot and change with the times. I have a highly intelligent family member who has been in the jewelry business for 40 years and has hated it for most of that time. If he would have been lucky to have found "his thing", which was real estate, he would have been happier and more financially successful.

[@grahamcweaver]

Not sure about the model comment. But thank you:) On the point of your friend in the jewelry store - that's the second point - "do your thing" If he hated it, it likely wasn't his thing.

[@jmoricedfcurm4809]

Even if he has had a privileged life, doesn't take anything away from his story. The message is 100%. Play the ball not the man.

[@chiggy515]

I was moved by your story - and your manner - I would expect you'd to be a solicitous and kind person in-person, which I'm guessing has been essential to your success and the joy you've brought to others along the way and very importantly, evidences that you don't have to be an asshole to succeed@@grahamcweaver

[@faraaz144]

I think the 2nd point only makes his message resonate more. I believe very very few people are born athletic. It takes hard work and dedication every single day to better yourself athletically. Someone with a great body shows that they have struggled and are familiar with that process.

[@davidr4523]

@@grahamcweaver thank you. So if you quit early you really never learn if this activity was your thing. If you stay for decades trying to make it work, it may be too late to make a change.

[@jesseobonyo6073]

This was one of the best information I’ve heard in many years

[@jesseobonyo6073]

Coincidentally, I’m also graduating in November. Daystar University- Kenya. Stanford has been one of the places where I dream to do my post grad. I wish I had the finances to make it work.

[@JoelleAGodfrey]

This is one case where you shouldn't read the summaries people give you. This is a good talk. The Talk is more than the summary.

[@SmarandaCojocaru]

Taking Normotim improved my ability to focus on long-term projects.

[@someoneinmyhead]

With full respect to the personal stories and great achievements of Graham, I'm looking forward to at least one of those motivational speakers to tell - and have the same amount of luck I had in my life. You can definitely improve your chances, but even learning how you do it usually comes to you by luck

[@mfawls9624]

You're speaking of material/financial success I assume?

[@AutoMattOn]

never have i ever heard a motivational speaker from the investment world go through 1/10th of what most people go through. this guy had an easy life, was bouyed up by systemic advantage and now claims it was all down to his brilliance. it was just luck all along. just another investor-bro with a book to sell

[@tencido]

"Chance favours the prepared mind"

[@someoneinmyhead]

@@tencido, I agree you can best your chances, same as you can squander them. But even before you get conscious of that so many things have to align. Even when you're there, chances disperse randomly. That's why you don't see all the humans aiming there but getting there even keeping to pep talk themselves like you do

[@tencido]

@@someoneinmyhead What you're telling is only one part of the equation. It's not just that a prepared person will be able to better utilise a lucky break or a good chance; the more important thing is that the 'Likelihood' of getting good opportunities can dramatically improve if you are aiming at a goal single-mindedly - more visibility, better knowledge of factors and knowing what areas to focus on etc; even the probability that you would recognise a good opportunity would improve if you are well prepared

[@vijayganeshk6315]

Very Inspiring & motivational....

[@idk0075]

Do hard things, embrace challenges and fears gonna be there but you know how to tackle itz it's as manipulative it can get and throw practical ways at you to neglect on you but you are thinking big, fears got nothing on you so you do your thing and ofc you have bumps here and there but you will improve everytime and this things can be done, learned, tackle problems with effort and there's gonna be discomfort but it's okay, great achievements take time and write your story from whatever moment you're on and take actions and make it a reality regardless of obstacles, thing big, fears got nothing on you

[@benjaminwilson2939]

This is awesome… great information

[@digvijayankoti1708]

Wow! Prediction- This speech will be one of the most watched graduation speeches in a few years time and Mr Weaver’s star will only ascend. What a master storyteller!

[@lexsite]

Why do Indians get so over-the-top emotional over stuff like this? This comment section is full of funny comments from them lol

[@ChristianFenner]

Great talk, very inspiring! is there a template for how you write your story or an example to look into for a business story? That would be helpful. Cheers!

[@HoraceMash]

Was this a final test for the Stanford graduates? * Did any of them notice that Graham’s rhetoric and message that “you can write any story you want“ was devoid of any ethical dimension? * Did anyone spot that this kind of thinking is entirely compatible with the behaviour and beliefs that brought us the global financial crisis and any number of corporate dumpster fires? * Did anybody see potential downside to giving future C-Suite Executives “an antidote to fear”? A belief that “there is no obstacle that will not yield”? Class of 2023, if now is your time, as Graham Weaver said, I sincerely hope that Stanford University has helped you cultivate the critical thinking and ethical compass you need to put this last lecture into perspective, so that your future endeavours do not come at an asymmetric cost to others.

[@someguy2885]

I noticed that life was charted as some inevitably increasing value over time. As if life gets better and better and better and then stops, as if childhood is our lowest of lows. It was very hard for me to stay engaged after seeing that.

[@HoraceMash]

@@someguy2885 …the “more is always better” mindset has a lot to answer for.

[@misterbeach8826]

This is not critical thinking. You are just some social media guy with no major life goals. How about you become a billionaire and make serious contributions to the economy and environment? So that other adults take you more seriously.

[@jsquire5pa]

Brilliant comment .. also it’s absolute rubbish that “there is no easy path” .. yes there’s a lot of human suffering but some people defo have easier lives than others .. and some people are happy go lucky and my experience of such people is that they are almost invariably happier than people who are endlessly goal oriented .. less successful but happier

[@anoushkas8726]

​@@misterbeach8826 No, " Mr Beach "!😂😂 His argument has a lot of merit but but you don't have enough brains to understand the nuance that both the lecture and this comment hold value and have their own pros and cons. But you're not developed enough to sit with the discomfort of knowing that life is complex and there are more truths than one.

[@vasilecernovschi1126]

Summary: 1. Do hard things Life is always going to get worse first. Any change that you want to make is almost always going to get worse first. First move is always gonna be worse first. Everything you want in life is on the other side of "worse first" 2. Do your thing There's no easy path, there's no safe path, there's no path of ease. Life is suffering, so choose something worth suffering for. 3. Do it for decades. There is NO obstacle that won't yield to you at full power for a decade. 4. Write your own story. The "How" is the killer of all great dreams. Don't write a story about what happened. Write a story, then make that happen. Never say: "Not me, not now" The biggest obstacle you really have is going to be fear.

[@YasinArshad]

This was spectacular - thank you for posting to share with others who weren't there. Sad to see other commentors projecting their self anger in the comments.

[@rafiseam4788]

This video was very inspirational.