Later, she said she was just joking..

[@TheCodeHunter]

YOU FOOL. She offered an amicable divorce YOU SHOULD'VE GONE FOR THAT

[@thevisitor1012]

Bro consciously missed the good ending in favour of the bad one 😔

[@agx8447]

That entire thing was on the premise that the daughter wasn’t his. As soon as he showed the actual test results it would’ve gone up in flames, would’ve been completely stupid to try and do that.

[@justadummy8076]

Yh, no one says something THAT serious as a “joke” during an argument The daughter may be his, but that doesn’t mean that she didn’t cheat during that period

[@roninsamurai8128]

💯

[@web3wizard381]

she seems to be willing to go any lengths to win an argument, pretty dangerous type of person.

[@mereassassinates550]

My sister once told my dad she wished that he wasn’t her father….A year or two later he came to her & Asked her if she remembered when she told him she wished he wasn’t her father & Than he said “congratulations” & passed her a DNA test (It wasn’t her DNA) but He pretended for a whole month that he wasn’t her father & he even took her to some guy’s house & told her “This is your real father & your going to be living here now” 😂😂😂😂 He left her there for like a week before picking her up & Telling her the truth & To never say such a thing to him again….people definitely do & can say such things in order to win an argument or to teach a lesson

[@sofyarsadiwaachyar1773]

Yeah, some things are not acceptable even if it is REALLY a joke from him/ her. I hope he leave her. It's very disrespectful

[@jay_dave8722]

The DOORMAT and SIMP and SPINELESS PUSHOVER is strong in this one.

[@Gods-o9j]

Yes absolutely

[@Orange_Swirl]

Average modern Western man moment.

[@PopJacare]

😂😂😂

[@alihaydaryalnz6118]

@@Orange_Swirl ahah true

[@oneuup2490]

Thank you for telling me. Now I don't have to listen to it.. 😂😂😂 I lose brain cells listening to these dumbass stories.

[@lamargordon6017]

"I don't know that she cheated." Dude...even if that is his daughter...the fact that his wife doesn't want him to get a paternity test definitely means she cheated.

[@scottjarvis1974]

Tons of women will say that the kids not yours cause there evil and they know it will hurt u but what these chickenheads don't realize is now u have put a dout in him and he will always feel it's not his kids like not all actually the majority of men can't afford dna test so they just deal wit it cause there screwed either way women are trifling.

[@Intrepid_A]

That relationship is toxic af, to constantly do divorce and then back out is just.

[@SM-oc4rc]

The mfs in the story change their minds more often than a Taco Bell its toilet paper rolls.

[@andrewindless2563]

Well there are a lot of bad things that come with divorce such as having to split half of what you guys owned when you were married not being able to always see your daughter house arrangements n stuff

[@darkcircle899]

It seems like they have some serious problems but both of them have valid reasons to not want divorce. Based on his explanation of their relationship he’s probably still not going to leave her. Because they’re probably never going to divorce they need some serious therapy.

[@Hoki4]

I really don't understand why would any self respecting person stay with a "partner" that behaves and treats them like that. I would have noped the fuck out of that situation long time ago.

[@saintoflastresorts2272]

Family court laws

[@djeurdjel1]

You answered your own question with that first sentence.

[@jay_dave8722]

Doormat

[@l-_-sage-_-l]

Because of the kid(s) & money like child support

[@web3wizard381]

I think a lot of men have a hard time recognizing how emotionally dependent they are.

[@bharathsankaranarayanan]

TLDR: The daughter is OP's biological daughter. The OP tricked the wife into admitting that she slept with OP's friend after OP went on a date with someone else when they were separated. OP told her the truth and planned to take an STI test. idk if its just me, but just give the story and the updates. Not all the comments. If not, please try to timestamp it so that we can skip forward :) Thanks for the upload.

[@Ric_Roar]

I agree. I am glad that people share their stories but the writers have to focus.

[@10ee]

So she felt disgusted for doing what she did but the other guy was better? Wow she's a real treat.

[@HumanB312]

He still cheated though

[@SeniorCharry]

What an oddly specific way to hurt someone. Even the small chance OP’s wife didn’t cheat, she still has a lot of problems that need to be addressed.

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op is pathetic for staying

[@patrickh6571]

"On the verge of divorce MULTIPLE times", dude, that's all you need to know... 😮

[@gospelelvis6136]

Given the toxic background, I think I would have taken her offer for a one sided divorce to not say anything to scumbag AP.

[@lizmarin9568]

Same!

[@SM-oc4rc]

The dude is a doormat addicted to conflict and drama. Both of them completely deserve each other and their shitty lives. I am only feeling sorry for the daughter in the middle.

[@melaniewilson1742]

Yeah, completely agree. He should have withheld it while it was still useful to him. He could reveal the truth after the divorce, or when he knew she couldn’t come after him financially.

[@agx8447]

@@melaniewilson1742That would never have been the case, and odds are she would’ve asked to see the results before anything even went down. She could have sued him afterwards and basically ruined him if he did that.

[@Adiscretefirm]

Binary choices here, it's true and it's time to go, it's not true but it's still time to go.

[@catherinep2034]

Seperated but still living in same house, sharing the same bed? He was seeing what else was out there, or to make her jealous. Definitely toxic marriage.

[@noonecares269]

When the wife claims she hates one of your friends, that means she's lying and she's attracted to him. Pay close attention men because that's the only reason a woman would complain about one of your friends. That means she's thinking of hooking up with him or has already done the deed, that's why they say they hate your friend. When a person says hurtful things during arguments and they are pissed ass f**k, they are telling the truth, it's like when they are drunk.

[@azmolhossain9244]

Yes, i heard lots of cheating stories where guys find out their girl cheating on them with the person she claims to hate. Never , say you hate a friend in your circle , he is the one she will sleep with. Also, if she says she hates a coworker and constantly talks about him.

[@ricardoalcala4784]

I screen shot your coment, really belive to think its a reality

[@AsdfAsdf-hj3zw]

​@@azmolhossain9244 Correct, women see you as weak when you say you hate a man in your social ciricle, because it means you aren't powerful enough to exile them from it.

[@Reggy2000]

#1 he should have recorded her confession! #2 this shows what kind of men women are truly attracted too #3 expose her and him #4 find a lawyer asap

[@dikshithaariyawansa1299]

I agree he shouldn't have even told her that he lied. Now he's still gonna end up divorcing her, lose the kid, majority of his assets and pay child support for the kid. If it was me i would have never told her the truth till i had the divorce certificate. MF is STUPID.

[@dough9512]

#1 - yes; #2 - true; #3 - don't tell your wife the truth; #4 - accept her terms for divorce!! #5 - you and your daughter live a happy life!! No! You chose instead to be a TRUE fool!! Your wife knew what was best for you!! You said you and your daughter would rather be abused for the rest of your lives!! What a dumb-azz!!

[@andrescampos3989]

Your #2 can be flawed. It's more about men being able to get away with anything as long as they're hot

[@Reggy2000]

@@andrescampos3989 who’s letting them get away with it???

[@andrescampos3989]

@@Reggy2000 women. But #2 could be misinterpreted as "behave like a Chad and women will love you" instead of "handsome people live on easy mode"

[@musiclova6368]

Women say mean and spiteful shit in arguments but most of the time they deadass mean it. The back peddling that comes after is usually enough to convince doormats that there wasn’t any actual truth in it and they were just angry. If she would go to “she isn’t even yours” then bet your ass to a barn dance there is a serious possibility that kid isn’t his

[@cheesycheese7100]

Yep the guilt was probably brewing for years

[@jamarr27]

Bruh... how the hell do you hear that from your wife and not immediately want to test your kid and divorce her. Some things can't be taken back, and this just might be one of them.

[@williamj.dovejr.8613]

If she constantly verbalizes how much she hates a guy... that's the one you have to worry about.

[@HumanB312]

He cheated first

[@chriswhinery]

Guy was in the perfect position to get rid of this toxic harpey and just threw it away. Opportunity lost, what a shame.

[@crimealleysoutlaw1103]

Sometimes it is hard to sympathize

[@Fishingandstones]

So did he divorce her or not? If he still with her he deserves everything he gets

[@andrescampos3989]

Can't you see the pattern? They are staying married

[@Myworld-jr8un]

A best doormate in town...

[@AnthonySforza]

Jesus... just imagine what its like, being with someone who would weaponize such a thing, just to "Win an argument" that she wouldnt even remember was about, two days later.

[@columkenn]

What an idiot not to accept her generous divorce offer.

[@bigmike2464]

Deflecting and gaslighting.... Hypocritical Tuesdays best weapons

[@HumanBeingResisting]

Why do people not understand the significance of having your own blood? There's a reason we feel relieved knowing our kids are biologically our's and a reason they say take the dna test. If you truly meant that a kid is your kid despite origin, you wouldn't be recommending a test cause it doesn't matter. This is my problem with "be the better man" side

[@joshuanoble5895]

Anyone who doesn't look after being told to look deserves everything they get.

[@kurusuakira6891]

Thats the funny part: Some people put their ego so high up that they expose their true self just to hurt someone if they upset about losing an argument. Just wait until they self destruct and then leave.

[@chrismaurer2314]

Both parties are vile lmao

[@Dougt2c]

she's not mad you lied. she's mad she got caught/you busted her.

[@Ric_Roar]

"Just Joking"? What is the joke? Always get a paternity test.

[@DavidKoha]

Men. Always making excuses. She's not yours. Move on

[@randomrayquaza2044]

wether or not she ment that comment she crossed a line hard and her backpedaling and begging about the dna test at the very least proved she did something its funny how cheating women can be like "i promise theyre yours" but the second a test gets mentioned they get mad sacred manipulative etc...but im not complaining because those fumbles often lead to the truth coming out eventually

[@Colton-wz5sh]

Meant*

[@miau5878]

so.. he goes on a date and her revenge is to sleep with another guy multiple times then think shes hiding that their daughter isnt really his..?? huh??

[@bencruz563]

There are no good people in this story.

[@csi1392]

TAKE OFF THE ROSE COLORED GLASSES, IT IS CLEAR YOU ARE NOT HAPPY "COMING HOME" EVERYDAY

[@undead9999]

Nobody says something like that as a joke. Paternity test. Now

[@PopJacare]

Dude, get a DNA test and be out!!!!!🤦🏽‍♂️

[@DavidCook-t9k]

The pleading confirms the statement.

[@robert-zg8or]

Is there a chance you can figure out where your balls are, and get them back?

[@williamj.dovejr.8613]

No...she spoke the truth, she fucked up. You can't put the shit back into the horse. Leave.

[@نيشا-د2م]

Simple, get a paternity test & divorce the wife regardless of the results. OP needs to leave b/c what’s the point, lmao.

[@gwenrichard7507]

How fast can you get your spouse from a calm and relaxed state to emotionally destroyed. Now, how fast can you bring your partner from a emotionally destroyed state to calm and relaxed. The difference in that time tells you all you need to know. In a healthy, loving relationship, it would take days to build up the nerve to hurt your spouse. Mainly because you would be worried about the aftermath and your own sanity. Meanwhile, you could find the 20-40 words to sooth a distraught spouse.

[@alphaq3368]

What are loser for not getting a divorce first then telling her the truth

[@johnrathbun2943]

This guy is the most mature and selfish person that I can think of. Nor to mention a horrible father. To put his child threw all this imature fighting and showing his daughter that this is how relationships are supposed to be. They both need to loose custody of that child. Both are horrible parents and imature. Children raising children. Tha5 child has absolutely no chance at having a normal relationship because of her parents .

[@SomeBlackDude26]

No one says anything like that without reason. Follow it up with investigation.

[@roninsamurai8128]

She was definitely not joking. He should get a dna test and consult a lawyer

[@soubhikpaul2651]

The guy is a simp... When he planned well about the dna test he could have hide a camera and voice recorder where the conversation was going on

[@alihaydaryalnz6118]

The moment women tell the absolute truth is the moment they are seen as cruel.

[@jasonrustmann7535]

The wife most certainly slept with someone else, and just got lucky OP was the actual father. Edit: wow. Immediately after posting, she admits it lol

[@HumanB312]

He cheated first

[@kennethbarkley1491]

This OP needs to get into counseling along with his wife. They are so toxic it is not good for their daughter.

[@HighlyCaffeinated-g8o]

Just joking in the middle of a fight? She couldn’t come up with a better lie? 🤣

[@Alessandro_Batistuda]

If a woman says you do not do the DNA test it's already eloquent enough and gives you the answer you're searching for. At least, it means she has the reason to worry about

[@alexbrowne9566]

This guy has zero self respect, hugging her after that revelation and fiasco

[@allangroat6406]

You are not in a marriage, leave, divorce and move on.

[@saintoflastresorts2272]

She respects you less now. Great job.

[@psier11]

And she deserve even less respect than she has for the others, for intelligence too. Real 304

[@philipturner9087]

Nicely done now divorce her.

[@winchestersons6258]

Well played sir. Well played

[@009AWB]

You don’t need to remain married to anyone that cruel

[@JBTFan124]

Just another doormat going to Reddit to find his spine. Edit: oh and he didn't find it.

[@L8vertex]

Well technically if you your self said the marriage is over and yall were separated she didn’t do anything wrong sleeping with him but she is the ah for believing the kid wasn’t yours( thankfully it was) you should get divorced who knows what else she’s lying about

[@PS3PCDJ]

OP is such a pushover

[@crowbarviking3890]

He should not have told her the truth and use it as leverage against her. The marriage was done in his mind anyway, so why not keep some power over her? He could have threatened her to expose it to the family if she ever acted up.

[@thisdude9363]

Doesn't matter if it was just something said in anger and totally made up. There are lines you don't cross. That's way over it.

[@MrBassem95]

Everyone in this story sucks except the daughter lol

[@mattharrell6880]

She cheated and you ain't the daddy. Get the DNA test and get the wife gone.

[@HumanB312]

He cheated first

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

Should have divorced ASAP

[@nathanphillips2395]

Divorce. Go back in time and divorce 6 years ago at least

[@mikesmith-wk7vy]

If I was him definitely would have kept up the lie for a better divorce settlement , just don’t get caught letting her prove u lied. Getting off the hook for alimony and child support would be awesome .

[@mauriman2210]

Op_ you're just simp'n & cowering from a truth ...

[@deathshead556]

This guy has a certified ID10T.

[@sourisvoleur4854]

You don't "joke" during a fight. I don't mean you oughtn't. I mean it doesn't happen. Things said during a fight are meant, and the person who says them believes they are true.

[@jjnix9517]

The wife definitely cheated and thinks the affair partner is the father.

[@seanx476]

Move on bro

[@markmessina7895]

if she is not your kid leave right away

[@markmessina7895]

you get a DNA test its a must

[@ADude846]

Both of them are kinda terrible. But honestly sounds like counseling would help. And they could probably both work on themselves seperately.

[@mafercasahonda]

god they are so toxic for each other they should divorce fr

[@williamrichardson5678]

If a woman tells a man this get a DNA test ASAP!! And go and have a nice hard talk with your so called friend !!!

[@oldie4210]

Doormat for talking like that, but a simple dna will be the truth you need to know

[@paulefstathiou1819]

Being married , sometimes , is a mistake ... the reason for anger , who knows ????

[@carson2646]

I don't doubt my wife like this but my daughters look so much like her that I wouldn't be able to tell by looking lol

[@AndyViant]

She absolutely was cheating and the child is probably not yours.

[@legalman07]

They’re both toxic lol. They deserve each other

[@davidedbrooke9324]

Get a dna test, also a divorce.

[@tannertanner8769]

I would not want to be friends with this stupidly dramatic couple.

[@smsff7]

So what happened? Where is the update?

[@reedergrant6108]

I’m not joking. We’re done and I will be looking into paternity fraud.

[@Steve-nu4sv]

Looking at it logically your wife's statement is justifiable grounds to get a DNA test. If you are not the father you have proof of adultery. I'm not suggesting you do anything with the result but suggesting you need all the facts in order to make the best decision.

[@garychesser5277]

First step is a DNA test. Just do it.

[@frogbox4184]

Step two get STI test Step three get Divorced and keep what is left of dignity!

[@tomzawacki8906]

So did he divorce her??? Was he infected ?? You need to finish the story.

[@117JamesRoss]

DNA tests aren't expensive these days...

[@w4447]

go to the store. get a new tooth brush for your daughter(same color). After she brushes teeth grab it and swap it out. Send it out and have it checked against your DNA. Now man the EFF up and settle the question.

[@psychoairsoft7146]

both of these people, OP and his Wife, are walking disasters who should never have had a kid, cause now that poor kid is stuck with those two disasters as family... honestly i dont feel sorry for anyone in this story except for the daughter. they should have broken up and stayed broken up the first time. maybe they're actually meant for each other just for the purpose of sparing other people from potentially engaging to these angry, manipulative, lying jerks...

[@johnnyhall9154]

Toxic? Wife is abusive

[@eleanorturner4651]

Don't sit there wandering and thinking and busting your hair wide open get a DNA test on your baby that way you'll know one way for sure but either way for your wife to bust out and say that means she has already been with him or back with him however that goes!! The next step after getting the DNA test improving whether the baby is yours or not is talking to a very good divorce lawyer!!

[@bud5084]

Get a paternity test. With the results of it consider your options.

[@blastum]

Wife is definitely not the sharpest knife in the kitchen.

[@arthurdirindinjr1792]

At BEST I would be filing for divorce At worst my filing for divorce would have been briefly postponed till I got out of jail Bottom line DNA test and divorce ASAP

[@DisIzDaName]

So did he divorce the cheater, or not? Hate these unfinished stories.