Laugh At Your Own Anxiety! ⚠️

Learn to laugh at your own anxiety and stop taking yourself so seriously!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
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Laugh At Your Own Anxiety! ⚠️
How to stop feeling anxious all the time! In this short, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to beat social anxiety and how to get rid of social anxiety for good!
Use this powerful technique if you're suffering from social anxiety disorder and social phobia.
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[@JulienHimself]

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[@saragracie5554]

No,not everyone KNOWS ABOUT THIS SCENE. THATS ME. Grew up without a TV/ internet/ newspapers..... Ok dude, I greatly appreciate coming across your clip... this is exactly what I need. Extremely clever way to get your point across 😉 To offer a coaching call to get clients? What's your point with bringing this stressful clip, that's heavy? In the past few years I've written my book and empowerment lectures for women...must insert HUMORED PERSPECTIVE...While delivering my message to University students who are Learning from patient's stories.... While learning to laugh at oneself, self deprecating humor, drives the point of survivors of suicide attempts not to quit on their patients! Doing comedy in Hebrew, even though English is my native language....left the cultist community in Jerusalem where they literally throw rocks at cars driving nearby on Saturdays/ Sabbath.... Crazy absurdities, grew up without internet. I'm missing basic knowledge of TV shows, Even though I grew up in Brooklyn NY, then Miami, then followed family who got remarried in Jerusalem, ISRAEL. Got a bunch of.life skills....learned psychology in a girl's only program.... is a super important, necessary life skill, esspecially like saving -literally in my position in life. This is exactly what I'm looking for.... Formerly Ultra Orthodox. Looking to inspire women after insanely absurd life- story of abuse. I find myself stressed -out, surprised, frustrated, as Im in an absurd position to offer encouragement and urge them to "not cry" to all the Psychologists (* I have a degree in psychology myself actually!) (*and their supervisors I've went to complain to.... Completely Rediculous... They can't understand how I strangely still have hope and don't do self harm?! Written a book yet afraid to publish it. Searching to find a good one name and lawyor to consult with...don't want to wind up like "Hatty" the awful booook called "Spared"

[@saragracie5554]

Why is it that your TYPO- form,IN THE LINK ABOVE, does NOT ACCEPT "YES" @ submit at the end. What a bummer and waste of Freaking time 😒 EBEN AFTER MULTIPLE ATTEMPTS. Actually shocked at the wierdest invasion of privacy to ask for income, and phone number?? Why did I go along with this? Annoyed because after all, that the "SUBMIT BUTTON" AFTER TYPING "YES" DOESN'T WORK , despite the fact of attempting😒 multiple times. What a scam!?

[@saragracie5554]

Wanted to focus on inserting humor to my public lectures and upcoming book this will save my life. Been looking for this type of help for the past 6 years since I started documenting my life. . I would have loved to work on this with you.

[@saireddy2950]

This are very strong words . Close to spirituality

[@bingleberryboo8685]

Do you think there will be consequences from you attempting to turn ancient Eastern teachings into a pyramid scheme?

[@sarahcook895]

Just disassociate until you’re watching yourself in a sitcom, guys!

[@elegancia6179]

😂😂😂😂😂 plss

[@storyaboutmosquitoes9441]

I’ve done that. Boy is it bad when you fall out of it though. when you can’t get beck in, youre stuck with the feelings of anxiety AND disassociation!

[@mcphalitha3675]

Disassociation and shifting perspectives isn't the same thing. You need to have an endless perspective of something, because it's a function your brain can perform!

[@nostromoau]

I used to think it would be great if you had a little laugh track gadget in your pocket and accompanied your life with it. Or had applause you could trigger when you entered a room, just like a sitcom actor walking on set.

[@dalentoews3418]

So long as I don't develop a laugh track.

[@garretttroke8800]

Great advice. "If you're stressed, just dissociate from reality."

[@saurabhkumarsingh3986]

The west is changing the established definitions of words formed people disassociated from reality

[@samshk3095]

My man 😂

[@jankachowski]

Works though.

[@moekiemissa5731]

Why is it dissociation? I get that you're not 100% serious, but I think if you do this you are more aware not less! Because you are not only taking your own perspective, but that of everyone else around you into account. People don't care that much about what you do. If you are being embarrasing and no one cares, including you, then were is the embarrasment? Is it even embarrasing?

[@TROLGUY999]

​@@moekiemissa5731 exactly

[@MrPathorock]

No, You will not like yourself if you constantly try to dissociate and detach. I used this as my previous coping method. No, it just make you feel weaker. Just face it and accept it.

[@rexibhazoboa7097]

Then don’t do it constantly

[@VagatorErro]

speak for yourself. works great for me, doesn't make me feel weak. i continue to love myself. this will likely remain to be my coping mechanism

[@themaladaptiveotter]

Like any other coping mechanism, it works well on some situations and on others not so. Taken to the extreme, this could even appear as being shameless. I think it’s important to let loose, but exercise a little bit of prudence not for others’ sake but for your own peace of mind. 😊

[@Staples-King]

You have NOT to dissociate and detach. You have to MEDITATE. Specifically, mindfulness meditation. You have look at your toughts from the inside of your mind, not from the outside.

[@deekshasingh8032]

Exactly

[@Rainz_Storm]

That's why empathy is such important character on a person.

[@cosmopsyche]

I took his advice and now I have dissociative identity disorder Edit: guys.. it was a joke, calm down. I don’t really have DID. plus, this mental condition usually happens as a response to traumatic event. Take his advice, or don’t. It really doesn’t matter. I’ve had anxiety before but the real solution is to recognize that you’re just too in your heads about things. Ground yourself in the present moment. Let the negative thought come (what if I people think I’m an idiot) and then let that thought go. Ask yourself “I wonder what my next thought will be?” And watch as your mind goes silent for a moment. Every time you realize your having anxiety, just ask that question and observe your own mind. This trick will relieve you of any anxiety and/or even depression. I find it helps me to keep in mind that we’re all having a human experience; everyone else is in their heads too. It’s okay to be there but where you really belong is in the present moment. Good luck on your journey to self-actualization

[@lotusgrl444]

😅😅😅

[@saragracie5554]

Thanks for sharing

[@samuelhernandez3948]

Right lol

[@BrCarla]

Yep and start to refer my self in third person 🤪🤪

[@coredadventure1]

Lmfao!

[@laurenj6771]

I always feel like I feel the same emotions as the person experiencing the stressful moment. Sure I can laugh at it after it’s passed and they’re laughing as well, but in the moment no matter how ‘ridiculous’ it is I still find myself feeling the stress they’re feeling in that moment like I’m in their shoes.

[@rfloader]

Same, I share your empathy.

[@mari97216]

Same! I feel it in my gut. Stressed. I might smile and laugh but its like Im almost experiencing it myself.

[@HiNinqi]

This is why i dont support Empathy Culture. Empathy isn't healthy imo. But sympathy is.

[@rfloader]

I hadn't heard of empathy culture. But I have heard people say they don't want sympathy, they want you to walk a mile in their shoes.

[@necrona]

@@HiNinqi Most people lack enough empathy to really care about others and understand them... and you need empathy to be able to actually feel sympathy for them and not some fake simulacrum of it. This not empathy culture, it is self-centered culture.

[@rewindthatradio2513]

I mean, just this clip showing that clip of Ross in a panic , increased my heart rate. So yeah, I would say my anxiety is pretty high lol

[@smallpseudonym2844]

Same. Germans have a good word for it: Fremdscham. Vicarious embarassment or anxiety at the actions of others. A *lot* of sitcoms are based on it, and I can't watch most of them for that reason.

[@stumbling]

Keep your head up and try to focus on other things and people not yourself.

[@lunaballesano6410]

I love this advice actually. As someone who overthinks every mistake after talking with other people, it makes me realize that I am judging myself for something I wouldn’t judge other people for.

[@plionas]

Not necessarily bad!

[@itstrue1025]

​​@@plionas oh trust me it's torture to live a life of self doubt even when having the most pleasant convos

[@adienbrooks8281]

Exactly, the way I do it is I'll ask myself in my mind in my inner dialogue "what part of you and which version of you are you judging, the version of you as a kid(your inner child) or you now kinda, I say kinda because it's more complex than that and a part of me is like "bruh I don't feel like say and explaining everything" even just breaking down that can help you understand what's going on in your inner world cuz I got one and you got one , that's my advice and you can take it to your inner world or leave it here in the comments and forget about and ether way whatever you choose it's okay because I want you to have the day you deserve and I know we don't know each other and that we are complete strangers on the Internet, on KZbin but we both humans , the only difference between you and me and you and and other people in our life is just simply the fact of I can't experience anything in your life and you can't experience anything in mine but it's when our inner critic starts saying that we aren't the same and that we are different because that's foolish because if we think we are different from other people then we are gonna feel more alone, so turn any inner critic into a inner coach even multiple depending on if your aware of what's really going on in your inner world, see I got High yesterday and I just noticed that my awareness increased just like that , I know it's the weed , keep trying no matter what. I don't know what your life is like but I hope this helps and if it doesn't that's okay I just wanted to get this out there, have a good day!

[@rhmotes]

Clearly he picked that scene from Friends because he too had trouble putting his pants on

[@_-KOEN-_]

Facts

[@pvt.prinny759]

I’d say he had trouble waking up, looks like crawled out of the bed 5mins ago

[@e.1419]

Two things to help you through it (and that helped me) : - knowing that everyone will go through these things, you're not alone in your ordeal. - knowing that people are receptive of your own reaction to the embarrassing moment. If you treat it like something trivial, that just happens sometimes, have a little embarrassed smile and blush and then move on to whatever you were doing, most people will follow along and move on too. People can empathize, they realize they could've been at your place. I don't always agree with the "laugh at it" because some people take it as you allowing them to mock you.

[@IbrahimIbrahim-xf9ty]

Your words has shaken up my mental pattern and could be able to understand what I was not aware of. Thanks mate🖤

[@adienbrooks8281]

Exactly man you right on all your points , all the different parts of myself agree witcha

[@dixiebasweetie]

Simply put, you should disassociate in difficult situations. It helps yes but the better approach is to forgive yourself and others for being human. When you’re the one experiencing it, it’s okay, we all go through things. When you consider someone else’s criticism of you, it’s okay, we can all be overly critical of others.

[@torysetliff]

Yeah...I've been trying to NOT disassociate anymore.

[@Amanofan7777]

Eh... I find it super helpful, but I have rules to follow when I'm disassociating so I don't do something stupid.

[@torysetliff]

@@Amanofan7777 Please, share a few of your rules!

[@Amanofan7777]

@@torysetliff Always behave like I'm doing a pacifist run on a video game. Never tell anyone something they don't already know. Never make important decisions.

[@mustafataee7523]

​@@Amanofan7777 Interesting. So what do you do when faced with an important decision that has to be made solely by yourself?

[@Amanofan7777]

@Mustafa Taee Put it off until I'm not disassociating.

[@vuks-fj7fl]

this is much more difficult if u have increased empathy, its no longer a pleasurable experience for u because u begin to experience what u are watching internally

[@Dz-is7rn]

Exactly. I have Been through the gutter the past 3 years because I did this stupid mistake of watching myself from others perspective it ended a friendship I had because I got mad at myself never getting what I wanted and I didn’t know why

[@ericachacon8337]

Yeah. I call it second-hand anxiety. That's why I can't watch The Office- so many of the characters are painfully awkward, obnoxious and offensive to others- I can't handle it.

[@salsadip7453]

@@ericachacon8337ah, thanks for mentioning this term Maybe being highly sensitive also plays a role I choose to not watch a lot of stuff (violent shows as well/ in low dosages) and it works well

[@helenbailey8419]

@@Dz-is7rn It sounds like you were being doormat

[@cosettapessa6417]

You need therapy

[@lacil8895]

As an introvert. This doesn't work. Just feel the emotion and either do what you gonna do or don't and don't regret it. Becoming less attached ..not for me. My emotions protect me and are there for a reason. Survival.

[@nho2x113]

but these are false emotions, they are not real. Its just a product of overthinking

[@adienbrooks8281]

Hey the curious part of my self is wondering well specifically he has a question "if you do what you gonna do and still regret it then what then?

[@adienbrooks8281]

​@@nho2x113exactly

[@jootpepet]

I'm an introvert too but I'm not in denial as to say "my emotions protect me", thats just an excuse to keep living behind a wall which you're too afraid to break. The same wall i would call fear, anxiety, self-conscìousness doesnt ever protect me from anything, it has only ever held me back. Instead of fooling myself into feeling good, i just find my own ways of enjoying life

[@dobbsmill3676]

If you are constantly worried about how you look to others, remember. They care about how you look a lot less than you do.

[@BabalonNuit]

It's egotism in reverse: people always thinking about what other people think of them as if they were sooooooo important- when in fact the person(s) they are convinced is thinking about them, just went back to thinking about their OWN issues a couple of seconds later. It's important to "get over yourself" and stop creating problems and issues and mental stress where none need exist.

[@SixOThree]

@@BabalonNuit I don't know that it's ego in reverse. Some people have spent their life having negative experiences with people reacting to them. They might worry all the time "does my breath smell" because of a negative experience. Maybe they were excluded from something important because they didn't dress "appropriately" for whatever it was and were excluded.

[@BabalonNuit]

@@SixOThree Then it's time to start asking questions. But that requires s having someone around that you trust to tell you the truth.

[@salishanmusic]

Literally tho. This helped me a lot with my social anxiety. Now I can walk past people without pretending to be on my phone.

[@BookieBrewster]

Unless you have Rbf. I'm constantly worried I'm mean mugging someone so I have to spend all my energy trying to look friendly

[@samuelhernandez3948]

Don't do this. Watching yourself from third perspective will split you and develop a psychosis. You can do it retrospectively like to look back and feel ok about something. BUT to view yourself as youre living like this to aquire more courage or act yourself truly will most likely damage your psychy. Don't develop a compulsion to deal with social issues.

[@ibn_adham]

Source?

[@samuelhernandez3948]

Me

[@ibn_adham]

@@samuelhernandez3948 So you've done this

[@saragracie5554]

Seen my comment above, what do you think about this?

[@nh9336]

I think youre referring to depersonalization and derealization. I dont think this will happen to EVERYONE who does this. Unfortunately it happened to you but I don't think everyone is predisposed to it. I'm sorry it happened to you. Have you seeked therapy. Lots of people can come back from it and/or learn to live with it.

[@jacobtorres5542]

My uncle told me, live your life like it's a movie and your children are watching. Kinda helps, don't want to give them a boring movie..

[@experienceseeker07]

Yeah that might help. But I don't want to have kids.

[@Phoenix.219]

Yeah I thought I had a boring life bcz I was the one experiencing things but now I am a bit older I can see it was a hell if a roller coaster ride and I often say tgat if only I were a good writer I would have written an amazing thriller. Anyway I am okay with the kids having a boring story of my life from now onwards 😄 exciting lufe takes a toll

[@jacobtorres5542]

@DD haha well it never hurts to start now, I started writing and you wouldn't believe how much you begin to remember!

[@jacobtorres5542]

​@@experienceseeker07 nothing wrong with that! My best advice is love yourself. If you do, you'll want to give yourself what you've always wanted and that will make for an interesting life

[@experienceseeker07]

@@jacobtorres5542 Thank you 💜✨ Yep, I've been trying my best to take care of my mental and physical health.

[@lizziedrucker9586]

i completely live my life this way and it is so fucking freeing. Learn to laugh at yourself and everything will always be okay

[@ChrizzeeB]

I've lived by this motto since I was a teenager. Whenever something unfortunate happens, I hope someone's watching and getting a laugh

[@Seakat86]

Oh thank you. You've fixed my mental health. If only I'd known it was this easy.

[@HasanPikerIsADouche]

Look at that approach, u dismiss it and mock it... perpetual victim and a bitter one at that

[@bigchunky7499]

Keep struggling with whatever it is you are then

[@janedoe2351]

I don’t think you get what he’s saying and who is audience is. He never said it will cure your mental illness or anything like that. So, obviously, you’re not the audience. He’s talking about emotions that you can control. Not fixing a chemical imbalance so it’s not a cure and definitely helps people without mental illnesses. That being said, as someone with diagnosed mental illness myself, you still have quite a degree of control over it even if you have it as severely as I do. His advice still actually helps at least a little bit. Don’t fall for the cycle of mental illness it’ll only get worse

[@alinaamatt5500]

Honestly that's what my father always says 😂 it makes living much more fun and helps me enjoy life instead of getting frustrated from the problems I face. It makes my mind stronger too. It's not running away since I'm still facing my issue head on but I just take a different view

[@poisedpen1]

That's not how mental illness works. 🧠

[@MsAlice221]

I apparently been doing this for years. I literally can just look at the situation from a third person perspective. This allows me not to be afraid to appear vulnerable - cause thats usually endearing to people and makes them relate to you more - not think less of you, which is how it feels in the moment. I am not afraid to look or act silly - its all good fun for all involved. I am ok with making mistakes and owning up to them - because if I was looking from aside, I would respect a person who does it not judge them, which is how it can feel in the moment. Absolutely freeing.

[@dannythorpe1425]

My friend said I was crazy as I've always used my anxiety to make people laugh, then I know why they are laughing and I kinda control that. If I feel I'm been watched or judged, I'll make an idiot of myself so I know that people are defo watching me and why. It gets my heart rate going and adrenaline kicking and gives me a buzz as I calm down after.

[@kennethscherr]

This is the point of mindfulness and observing your thoughts and emotions ! ❤️ big ups

[@l-train7876]

This guy needs a stylist more than anyone ever needed a stylist.

[@armyforever_babymochi8797]

He's just explaining the point of what people think doesn't matter, that's why he wears like this, If they say what's that shit is he wearing , it's not the end of the world everything that they can do is dislike his style , and it's totally fine.

[@jnl3564]

What's the difference between conscious objectivity and dissociation?

[@nuggs9999]

its physically getting the confidence to walk a few steps out on stage, THATS the hard part. once u start, u already got it

[@josephvictory9536]

I did an imagery experiment that greatly expanded my theory of mind. I saw my depressed self as a child. then imagined if that child was someone else and i was there to comfort that child. It was obvious to me what to do as it wasnt me. But i took time to form the words i felt would make a difference. Then tried listening to those words said so genuine. Noticed the disconnect with the genuine intent and my lack of feeling it. Then something in me changed. I started to feel the feeling as genuine because it was the exact same thing others have told me. Probably seeing me in my depression and wanting to help. Then felt the love of others around me as genuine. And took comfort in it. Instead of dismissing it. It took a bit of time to actually work in the emotion since it was so out of practice. It did not magically cure my depression. Rather, i stopped feeling despondency and things got better because i felt that my emotions were untangling from my fixed perspective. And i felt that others can reach me with their goodness and its okay. As well, connecting my sense of goodwill to my own self made me develop proper self care as a matter of consistency with my goodwill to others. I did a similar thing to this short to get over my anxiety of needles so i can donate blood. I made myself feel it was silly as an adult to feel apprehension. Laughed and also felt it pathetic in the 3rd person. Then after a bit of dissonance, it clicked and suddenly, no problems. It always helps now to remember the continuity of time. Anxiety tends to paralyze toward the present. But the second you actually take into consideration how okay you will be including relief after and realize you will be safe, content, watching youtube ect. Connecting the current moment to the real and safe future; Anxiety just vanishes. That last technique i use for all sorts of lifes hardships. Nothing phases me because everything will be okay.

[@RSK412]

thats just objectivity. hard to remember to do that all the time but yeah good advice.

[@JulienHimself]

Glad this resonates!

[@_lehalfkakjihf_161]

Some type of coping mechanism is required for anxiety

[@JulienHimself]

Until you learn how to get to the cause and LET GO of it, yes...

[@bergencounty6602]

@@JulienHimself What is the process to LET GO OF IT? Seems I can't let it go based on what I have tried so far.

[@CurtisGingue]

@Bergen County bro just don't be anxious. Duh

[@BabalonNuit]

I can recommend a good book of techniques: "How To Stop Worrying And Start Living" by Dale Carnegie. An Oldie but a goodie. I still use his techniques every day, since I was nine, and they have relieved me from untold stress and worrying about NOTHING.

[@galacticman3376]

I don’t think he’s telling people to disassociate. It seems more like he’s saying to just see the situation(s) you’re in from a bird’s eye view to gain perspective. It’s similar to the scene in Dante’s Paradisio when Dante is climbing Jacob’s Ladder, looking down on the earth, realizing how small is problems are in the long run. Dissociation happens when you’re trying to escape your reality due to a traumatic experience. I’ve done it. Gaining a more bird’s eye perspective, (along with therapy, facing inner demons, taking medication, etc.) has been very helpful for me in returning to myself and regaining the confidence I lost due to the trauma I faced.

[@maxinepeel7057]

We all take ourselves way too seriously. The first time I actually forgot where I was and laughed out loud at myself - my laugh was so contagious that people were wanting to know what it was - as I tried to explain some got it and some didn't but the ones who did joined in and threw all kind of crazy funny things which made the whole experience one I'll never forget. I live for those moments whenever I go out because I'm being inclusive in my "owning" who I am. Spontaneity and being genuine is key....

[@taschak3889]

In German we call it "Schadenfreude". Having fun over the misfortune of a other person.

[@MD-01]

If this guy was a psychiatrist and patient comes “doc, I’m depressed” He’ll go “I think you should try not to be depressed”

[@gastonangelini8352]

A doctor can't cure depression or anxiety The answer is not in the modern medicine, or psychology... This is a problem of the mind , and modern medicine only works on superficial levels. They will prescript you a drug that will only cover the problem , not resolving it...

[@praptipanchal1469]

My life is literally PER-FECT for a sitcom. All of it!

[@jasonbignell7865]

he is right up to a certain point, i think. I used to do this through High School and some years after that. originally it was to help me handle being bullied and teased infront of groups of people.. if i laughed with them, less people would continue laughing at me for so long.. that helped, for a while... then i realised, i still have to process the pain i had.. i was, in fact, abused in this way for many years.. and i had to talk to myself, acknowledge my pain and heartbreak.. and realise what i have inside me is not a joke, but worth respecting and worth standing up for and sharing proudly.. did it make life easier? not really, infact the opposite, again for only a while.. then it got easier... and i realised.... people will treat and look at me, the way i treat and look at myself. i am not nearly where and who i want to be.. but i am damn close.. and i will stay ambitious to become what i have always dreamed of, until i die.. because if i ever think i have achieved becoming a better human, i will have failed.. because being a better human means wanting to improve. always better yourself, for others and your future.. always respect yourself, so you can keep going.. and learn to forgive yourself and let your mistakes go, so you can love yourself, or else you can never really know how to love someone else instead of being dependant on them for your validation or security. and never try to do this alone.. its not how we were made. much love to each one who reads this.

[@bloom4385]

this sounds fun in theory, but when I'm in the midst of a stressful state in flight/fight mode, I'm physically incapable of imagining watching myself in a movie and laughing at it.

[@TheTurbonisse]

Yeah i think thats normal. I feel the same when that happends to me. But try to be more aware next time that happends, maybe yo can see it att least 1- 5% like a movie?

[@getoffmydick4198]

go to a lesser stressfull situation. I know you people. U jump into the hardest scenario possible then cry after cus u freak out

[@newfreenayshaun6651]

@Linda B good call! Hey everyone....,

[@zsqduke]

You are incapable the same way you can’t ride a bike on the first try. It takes practices… One thing for sure is you avoid it you will never get over it.

[@getoffmydick4198]

@@zsqduke furmom

[@RionaHyland]

When I don't take myself seriously my psychiatrist tells me that it's not healthy, and when I see myself from another perspective, they call it dissociation. But hey, what do I know 😅

[@stumbling]

He is not saying to disassociate from reality, but people with anxiety are hyper-associated (if that's a real term) and far too self-conscious, they become engrossed in themselves out of fear and become paranoid to the point where they are consciously observing and critiquing every tiny movement they make and are scared that someone else might be scrutinising them in the same way or may notice if they move awkwardly and think they are strange. That is when you need to pull out and stop thinking about yourself so much. Anxiety is really just a strange form of negative narcissism.

[@StealthMaestroSharpe]

Gather round children one time I was so sick with some kind of flu I crapped myself with zero stomach pain just thinking it was a harmless toot. I could not WAIT to tell all my closest friends and while every one of them asked what the hell is wrong with me for telling them that it was one of the best laughs we’d shared together and actually cheered me up so much until I had recovered from the illness. I look back on it fondly, and now I’ve shared it with each of you as well. Own your shit (literally)

[@XPilotP]

Love this!!

[@JulienHimself]

Glad this was helpful!

[@ALGtheMC]

Surprisingly good advice from a guy with that outfit on

[@KristabelHilton]

I experience it the same as he does. I also cry when people cry in films. I can't detach from others' emotions even when I know it's not real. I feel it all.

[@crisithink9509]

Best advice I've ever heard

[@rskne8803]

I actually think this is a nice idea. One thing that immensely helped my crippling social anxiety was pretending that I’m Nathan from the show Nathan for you. Whenever I was in a situation where I felt awkward (and I felt that way nearly all the time), I just thought to myself “Well, gotta do this for my comedy show”. Over time it made me a lot more comfortable and confident in all the mundane situations, in which a normal person would feel no anxiety at all. Now I only need this approach when I want to do something actually awkward for shits and giggles.

[@Marco_My_Words]

Now that you say it, I think that's exactly how I've been living my life in the past few years. I couldn't figure out why I have become so different. But now that I think about it, I have changed my perspective quite a bit. I look at myself from the outside perspective more, but without caring much about the outcome. So not by being self-conscious all the time and feeling bad, but by not giving a shit and laughing about my own situation. But I also have extreme problems with dissociation because of my Borderline Personality Disorder, so maybe that has something to do with it.

[@reneefox9852]

The problem for me is I do feel the kind of stress that Ross is feeling. I feel the stress of the characters in the show. I often cannot watch stressful TV shows or movies.

[@nerie7653]

Me too

[@cocobini]

Credit goes to the editing and directing. I could have had an emotional reaction watching Ross, had it been presented in a tragic rather than comical way. The tone sets everything

[@tjemmyhd3894]

Basically this dude just told bunch of people to disassocaite from any experience WONDERFUL ADVICE!

[@s.g2344]

I love this !! I'm always overthinking and need to stop so gonna try this advice and see how it goes 😊😊

[@kayb8211]

When I first watched his scene early teens I remember howling with laughter and tears falling. As an adult when I get in silly situations I still howl laughing at myself instead. The lack of being able to laugh at yourself is very detrimental. Be funny be silly, be real! Laughing is the best medicine.

[@tickley42]

Man, this is the same awesome advice I got from psychopaths anonymous! Glad it's taking hold in the mainstream!

[@andreahl3494]

I actually get his idea. In fact, it's how I usually coped until now where I'm not as socially anxious. Don't make yourself the "main character" in a situation, as in, know that the people will probably forget it happened in a few minutes. In the moment, don't take yourself too seriously. When we see people on tv stressing out, we laugh at how simple those things should be, just that they couldn't be calm enough to do it gentler and with wisdom. Also, have humor. Situations can be fun or a complete disaster depending on how you view it.

[@breannamholloway]

I see a lot of comments likening this to dissociating but really he is asking if you can shift the experience to observing. Which isn’t easy to do, especially when the intrusive thoughts are happening and the feelings of discomfort are high. But he is not saying you should practice splitting off or trying to change what’s happening. This is an ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) approach and can be dug into further in The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris, it is a wonderful read. The point is to notice what’s happening and not dissociate or change the reality but to observe the experience which is a lot of what people do in therapy: drop into their bodies and what is happening, making thoughts more flexible, not taking yourself seriously. Anyway, I hope that makes sense lol.

[@A5H_01]

Why did this work so well?? All I had to do was picture something mildly embarrassing I’ve done as if it happened to Ross. Genuinely made me laugh out loud, thanks for this Julien ❤

[@Pad13]

If you’ve had as many cringe moments in your life as I’ve had, then you naturally master this skill. The guy is talking sense people. Laugh at yourself. We’re all silly humans getting into silly situations making arses out of ourselves.

[@HowDeepIsYourJesus]

This guys talking some real truth here. Doing this will help a lot, especially once you get past the first few hurdles.

[@lils1988]

I actually do that a lot. When I was younger I lived my life like I am the main character. But few years back I started going into depression. It took me about 5 years to start over. And now my way of dealing with stresful situations is just that. I take a deep breath and say to myself " Wait. What are you doing. You are focusing too much. Just live it the way you gonna told the story later. The "funny omg can you imagine" way.

[@spaceshido6124]

i love listening to smart people and smart thoughts even though i dont really like coachs specially if it is the only thing they do for a living..

[@eyebutterfly]

Yeah I think that’s how I live my life but I get weird looks when people around me don’t see me stressing out over horrible situations

[@celiacolladorivas548]

It's scarier, but grounding yourself in each moment and being able to observe feelings that aren't good or useful to you in a given situation without obsessing over them is healthier than disassociating. I understand the intention was to get you to shift perspectives, and it might be useful to be able to have that a-ha moment where you realize your anxiety is not grounded in a real fear, but using this as a coping mechanism thought your day will eventually leave you feeling as though no time passed at all and you were barely present (kind of like doom scrolling)

[@Siddharthv8]

There’s a spiritual element to what Julien is saying! Fab stuff!!

[@Kupparashin]

When I watched it I always thought it could work out if he just laughed with her at the situation, humor and especially from embarrassing moments could light up the mood

[@Anthro777]

YES! this is how I got over my extreme anxiety in my 20s. Just be comfortable being the joke.

[@phoebe2288]

You will eventually not be responsible for the consequences of others' actions (in this case whether Ross' date goes well or not), and that's the reason you can laugh. There is also nothing wrong with feeling anxious because that's how we feel naturally when something matters to us.

[@stupidandsensitive]

that's what I've been doing off medications and my therapist call it ✨ disassociation ✨

[@kliersheed]

"It wasnt me who killed him sir, it was the guy in the sitcom!" helped a lot.

[@royalwalter]

I always thinks the same. And be humble for everyone.

[@aimankhalid4476]

I live my life like this. I give this advice to everyone around me.

[@ashwininayak7032]

No need to fix anything. It's ok to get such experiences, when you accept specially your negative traits there is lot of chance to improve than disassociate with yourself

[@arsenal4444]

there's a nuance here between being less attached, in the eastern philosophy/zen sense of attachment, and when it becomes a crutch of a coping mechanism that one over-relies on and it becomes chronic and perhaps automatic, at which point it would maybe even be involuntary, and thus a disorder it's like the technique of taking deep breaths to calm down, if it's consciously used as a technique and it helps that's great, but when some behavior takes over and is out of control, then it's a problem

[@faithsibanyama9800]

Best advice I have heard in relation to dealing with anxiety. Thank you

[@JulienHimself]

You're welcome!

[@vanaa2130]

I remember when I was younger, I would watch myself (imagine myself )walking , entering a room, doing anything and this truely just was self-consciousness and social anxiety. Once I stopped doing this, I now don't think too much about how I look and especially if something stressful is happening. I think I understand the jist of what he's trying to say. To not take yourself as seriously and reframe your thinking. But imagining yourself going through the situation as it's happening doesn't really accomplish that. ( Maybe it works for some but not I.) What helps me, is to take a moment and remember that I don't need to be anything in particular, especially not perfect. I can just exist. Sometimes that's messy but most times it just is. :)) Happy scrolling!

[@Victor-ze3sd]

Thanks for listening to the conversation I had in my living room and posting content linked to my conversation. If it's not the case, what are the odds 1-2 hours later to have this pop up on my youtube.

[@_loss_]

Doing it this way is the one major reason why I have social anxiety

[@dichroichameleon]

Everyone keeps saying this is disassociation, it's not. He's talking about taking things less seriously, just relaxing and trying to be at peace in the moment, and remembering that stuff that feels like a big deal is sometimes not as big of a deal as it seems in that moment.

[@letizialorusso1950]

"as a viewer do you feel the same?" Me:" Yes! 👹" "No" Me:"oh..."

[@delirious323]

i think most of the people in these comments are completely misunderstanding the point here. it isn't about disassociating from things that make you anxious and uncomfortable with intentions of escaping the situation. what the guy is saying is if you view these actions and scenarios that give you anxiety from a perspective of "i am just another human experiencing things on earth" and not from a more centered point of view, like "these experiences that happen to me are going to be bad and i wont like it". if you view yourself as another of billions that have and will live on earth, it makes the small moments feel a lot less heavy :).

[@drzonnked8923]

"if you're anxious and stressed out in public just know people are watching and laughing at you"

[@ef3345]

Solid advice, best way to explain Being the witness Ive seen so far.

[@Mrkilledhorse]

Yooooooo i have tried to explain this forever to people, am gonna use that often. AMAZING. Am gonna try to give you a shoutout/ quotation every times.

[@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS]

This is how I came to love public speaking. Even did a 30 minute comedic talk and had them laughing the whole time. Was struggling with my health and so couldn’t pursue as a career though was advised to do so. Also, don’t call attention to mistakes unless you can actually make it funny. If being funny is not your gift, move on with confidence.

[@charlie9238]

I couldn't do this until I started taking antianxiety meds. I'm on a low dose but it made a huge difference. I was jogging a couple weeks back and fell hard af and smashed my knee, had blood dripping everywhere. and as I'm on the ground catching my breath two big groups of teenager boy walk past me stare right at me and laugh at me. when I was younger I would have been mortified but I just laughed and got back up. if I had let that get to me it would have made the experience even worse but instead I jogged home and got out the bandaids. your mentally towards things has a lot to do with it but a good med routine can be necessary for some.

[@AustinWestbro]

This is actually good advice. It’s called detachment. Knowing who’s giving the advice, it’s probably not being used towards the best means, but ya know… Take the good where you can.

[@molomono9481]

People in the comments cant be saved, its about understanding people who see you experience something emberessing dont experience it the same way you do. If people laugh its not inheritly malice as many of you will trick yourselfs into believing. So learn to experience the humour from other eyes, ie build empathy not dissasociate from yourself.

[@patrick1587]

IMMEDIATELY subscribed to your channel. Looking forward to viewing more content!!!

[@macantakai]

Ive been so struggling with anxiety and self hatred today ... this really clicked. Thank you.

[@louise558]

I guess it could be good for some... However, practice this with caution and I would suggest to wait until your brain has developed a little bit more (in other words, if you're still a minor who has come up with this short somehow). Why? Because it can work too well. To the point where you're most in tune with people's perspective that you start to ignore your own feelings. If done too frequently, there's a high chance you'll stop recognizing your emotions and eventually reorganize how the body reacts according to each one. Started doing this when I was around 8-9 years old and after a few years wasn't able to understand why my body would react one way (let's say genuine, happy laughing) when I was angry, or start bawling even though I didn't feel any particular negative emotion. Saw a lot of therapists until one told me it was a type of dissociation and had to slowly learn again what physical symptoms corresponded to certain emotions to understand what I was really feeling. So yeah... You can try to do this and see if it works for you, but be careful~.

[@blueey2938]

Laughing at myself is actually how i learned to deal with my social anxiety. I just stopped holding myself back and be the weirdo i am. If people don't accept that it's fine cause then you will find real friends.

[@darylbrown6739]

"tips to stop being socially anxious" 1. Just don't be anxious bro lol

[@KiteoHatto]

Thats not what he said....

[@darylbrown6739]

@@KiteoHatto yes, yes it is.

[@hasnakhanom2313]

A lady was told to close her eyes and tell us a painful memory. As she spoke of her dad yelling and shouting at her abusively when she was a young child, she started shaking and her her voice started trembling. We could clearly see her distress even after 2 decades. He asked her to close her eyes again and removed the the same memory but with one difference, she needed to turn the sound off in her head whilst remembering, she started laughing because all of a sudden all she could see was her dads mouth moving like a fish and looking ridiculous. She opened her eyes abc than he asked for a third time to remember that painful memory and this time she was laughing again. He had managed to alter that memory enough so she didn’t relive the pain, took away its power.

[@kenji2342]

Its all about perspective, huh

[@lelper9870]

I'm experiencing it the same way he does and that's why I usually can't see every show out there and when I watch something, I usually have to pause it at some point to process what happened and kinda rehabilitate

[@somewhereoverit711]

Self awareness is powerful is what he’s basically saying.

[@MsDrientje]

If you need someone else to teach you to live your life like no one is watching, we can't be friends. If a helicopter view of yourself is something that doesn't come naturally to you, you need to learn this asap and start laughing at yourself because that's how you heal and how you learn. Have compassion for yourself but also, laugh at yourself with a pointing finger. It's healing.

[@missaloa3869]

Laugh at your anxiety! what a brilliant analogy. funny thou, for many years when I us to watch comedy I use to feel the pain, anxiety of the situation they tgat portrayed! I gradually learnd to laugh and ridicule the disasters but never thought of my own anxiety! Ohh my goodness today 09.03.23 discovered your channel! I go through a lot if anxiety and I meant to watch this video! Thanks for your great work.

[@riccardocacchioli9952]

No men has ever been so wrong before

[@michaelwinter742]

Even better: when you’re anxious, recognize that it’s a type of anger. Anger is when your emotions are telling you that you need the things around you to change. Change those things around you. The risk is doing it too much feeds the anxiety. You want to change everything so you’re always comfortable. That means you need to “exercise” your anxiety. Deliberately push yourself to do things which would make you anxious - but not too anxious. Like lifting weights, you gotta find the sweet spot.

[@HaIsKuL]

I always think I look like a madman laughing hysterically while my entire life collapses.

[@iramage2235]

it should have stopped at "people are detached from your inner emotional experience" and endet with "so relax a bit, they will soon forget your unflattering moments completely and you are the only one who is kept awake at night by them. learn to embrace the experience and let them go. a good behavior therapist can help you do that if you can't accomplish it on your own" and not with "dissociate lol"