Learning To Say The Hard Things (with Tim Ross) | The Leader's Cut w/ Preston Morrison

Preston sits down with Tim Ross to have a discussion about courageous conversations. When we have to have communicate hard things or hard truths to a friend, family member or co-worker, how can we take a healthy and loving approach? How do we create a safe space? And what are some practical tips we can take into the conversation?
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[@joeysonyt]

Preston and Timmy pods are my favorites. Feels like three best friends sitting in a room (I’m the third best friend 😂)

[@daneistephenson6392]

I’m the fourth!! Tim leaned over after pushing the mic away is the best part 😂😂 I read his mouth when he said “what is happening right now?”

[@derekgreen9622]

Pretty sure the God of the Universe is the 3rd best friend bc he always comes through and talks to me when they get on the mic and let us in on the convo

[@uchennaakunne6741]

Please let me also be in the room too, I don't mind being the least. Thank You Lord Jesus for bringing us together.

[@eric.valleyoftheheroic]

🤣🤣🤣 factsssss

[@X22689]

I thought god was the third lol i was mistaken 😅

[@cometrew8850]

This is one the best conversations I have had the pleasure to sit in on.

[@rachelkasper5403]

Love these conversations with Pres and Tim. Such wisdom from people who have walked the walk the hard way. Alters iare where you die. Be a safe person. Ask what and how. Less why's. Learn to play the "harp" in courageous conversations. ❤

[@sheilataylor2733]

Thank you Holy Spirit for pulling up a chair, yet again. I really needed this literally today, right now. God's timing 🙌

[@alicia_nicole444]

Got me crying at the mechanic shop. I just wanted an oil changed and now my soul is changed. This is another one that’s going in my “podcast to remember” playlist. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@usernameunknown4912]

That Man Tim Ross is The 🐐

[@mickipizzutello768]

One of the best things I’ve ever listened to in my life. Thank you🙏🤍

[@daneistephenson6392]

This was amazing. Thank you God for drawing these two men together decades ago so we could take from their wisdom and draw closer to who you made us to be AND how we were made to deal with difficult situations.

[@ashleyfranklin4708]

The WISDOM shared in this episode is above & beyond. 🤯 Definitely will come back to this one prior to having any “courageous conversations”.

[@justniki77jn]

I love it when The Twins get together and talk! So good! Thank you LORD for sharing them with us 🙏🏻💝

[@sassypants0421]

Only the healthy are anointed to play the harp. That goes deep. It's the truth as to why we need to do our work on ourselves.

[@Jay-pm9qy]

This conversation has encouraged me to do the work in checking my heart and preparing my harp. My mother and I avoided the courageous conversations. My past attempts left me more wounded. The irony is I am a safe place for others however pride (both of us) almost eliminated the desire to pursue possibility. This episode reminds me I can also be safe in future courageous conversations. Thank you both!

[@IAM2388]

Excellent podcast

[@SOI-wl2lo]

Hm, the way I’m learning from Tim Ross - thanks to both of y’all for this!

[@brittanyscheitlin4776]

Gold right here! Harps not spears and Safe like Jesus 🥹🥹🥹 as always, thankful for both of your generous sharing, the world needs to hear this 🤍

[@rhobounce]

This is good! A lot of everything they are speaking of I’ve tried and the outcome is the exact same. 😮 I’m stuck in the middle!

[@GavinHolligan533]

Hey Tim, I grew up in the same household that you described Juliet growing up in and loud voices are an emotional trigger for me even if it’s not meant in anger or violence just straight out of passion like you said, but when you started to switch your tone of voice from passionate to more soothing it really made me feel safe and secure, that’s just the best way to describe it but I gotta say you hit the bullseye on that one.

[@lebogangsekgota2221]

Thank you so much for this. It came right on time and has given me revelation on what I've been questioning for some time. At times (all the time) we need to be grateful for the growth in our intimacy with the Lord more than being right when we are met with rejection in these courageous conversations.

[@TheLord.IsMyShepherd]

Tim’s like “ this pod is over “ I love it

[@ronessajohnson5297]

I LOVE you guys. I have listen to this three times and I am talking notes and I have been praying for tools to have a courageous conversation thank you so much ! This pod blessed my soul !

[@Kristofina611]

ooff,what an episode! completely lost for words!👏🔥

[@ilanapetersen9496]

My first watching. I have been so blessed. I have seen where I have gone wrong in having normal conversations and where I am right now is also leaps and bounds feom where I've come. Me watching @thebasement and now following on this platform. I have been through a divorce and diagnosed with cancer there after and just listening to your words, learning and applying. Being able to say what I thought I was doing serving Jesus all the othera years was not like now me having a relationship with Christ. Thank you so so much. May God continue to bless both your assignments on earth and also bless your hearts. Amidst what I am facing now I am so excited for my life 😊

[@charlenenurse1880]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 🤸🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️ Imagine an overweight woman doing cartwheels! I played, replayed, shared, replayed this podcast so many times in the last three hours. The Holy Spirit pulled up a chair and guided this conversation. Only He can change one's trajectory and land us in the very place He wants us to be. And this was not a group therapy session! Every individual came away with a special treasure from Abba Father! Thanks Dad for loving us like this. We do appreciate You.

[@hospiteerslive]

Your conversation is one of my harps

[@joleencox5900]

Wow, Tim, you just taught me a HUGE key to this life and the success of it. What you said about the questions we should ask ourselves BEFORE we speak to somebody else in a hard conversation has forever changed the way I will speak to another person. I vow to never say a word until I have asked myself those questions in my head. And I have always been the queen of asking “why”, which you made me clearly see is accusatory from the jump. Wow. This one was absolutely life changing!!

[@bridgetbusby2022]

"Only the healthy are anointed to play the harp"...🤯 I so enjoy when the two of you are together and share such anointed and timely truths! Thank you so much - Amen and Amen!!

[@evansbellavoix9687]

Wow talk about God telling me you need to listen to this 😮 on time word

[@alicia_nicole444]

I’ve listened to this pod 4 times and I think I need to listen onnne more time. This is by far my favorite as well Preston

[@karengrant6488]

The spear vs. the harp is so good.

[@dionne0470]

I needed to hear the conversation!

[@meditationwithatwist6685]

Not a Ninja! I laughed so hard, poor Preston didn't even know.

[@yamilee1354]

THIS WAS FOR ME! THis is was what I need listening to you guys! Thank you Tim and Preston.

[@lovepcejoy]

I've watched/listen to this one already twice and I already know I'm going to again. Holy Spirit help me be a safe place for other humans. Thank you both 🤗

[@allisonweaver9649]

Cannot tell you what a blessing and God timing this message is!! Learning to navigate relationships that trigger former ptsd moments

[@TebriaC]

Ok Preston your community needs a name… Cutters probably not a great name lol I love it here really helping me grow

[@Flor-0926]

This podcast is awesome 🤩 I finally found people who think just like my mind works ❤ I also compare life experiences to what I read in the Bible 🥰🥰🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@irenekaigo8847]

So happy for the duo again, God bless you both

[@frangelinaramokotjo9273]

Beautiful❤

[@cherylharville9586]

Perfect timing in my life to hear this on repeat.

[@droiddyman55]

Awesome awesome awesome! My wife and I can't get enough of these sit-down podcast!

[@edwinjherrera]

“Only the healthy are anointed to play the harp…”❤️‍🔥

[@sassypants0421]

Curiosity leans in....even when it stings.

[@drewlane3710]

Just the 4 of us. Thanks for the lesson. Much love.

[@sirdaniel159]

22:22 Holy moment. Sweet mother of Jeesus! The holy spirit was in the room.

[@MrLyell]

No kidding - went into an extremely courageous conversation today with a loved one after making a "stabbing" declaration of truth that ruffled some feathers, and God provided this discussion for me to listen to immediately. As in, today is the first day I've ever listened to you guys, and it was exactly when I needed it. Lord's grace. I've got a lot to learn, but this has helped. Thank you.

[@TKMprof]

Tim's bar of the episode: if you won't change for your spouse, more than likely there's some stuff you are not doing for Christ out of obedience...

[@BruddaEL]

I needed to hear this, I’m the “my whole family loud this is just who I am” guy lol thank you brothers for the harp and spear analogy

[@karlhaupt6622]

Thank you for this, In short my difficult conversations with my wife was always strained. Listening to this makes me realise where I fall short and how I need to step out of the way to be able to have a healthy encounter.

[@sadespriggs6557]

Thank you for this conversation. So convicting and needed. ❤

[@sabrinademore]

This is so, so good. Saving this one to watch again! Thank you for your ministries!

[@JaymeOrr]

The scream I scrumpt when Tim said "the problem is you" SIR!!!!!

[@go2yourself]

Much needed and appreciated discussion....thank you so much❤ 42:53-44:23👊🏽💯

[@tmichelle72]

Guys, I know you’re both super busy, but I truly need you to pray about doing this monthly. I know that’s a lot to ask but we just get so much out of your conversations. All jokes aside. Thank you so much. Thank you so much.

[@shamgod3003]

This is soooooooo hard! I'm just getting pelted with this convo. Not because I believe they are wrong, but I feel a little conviction. What does in fact trouble me is this: how someone receives that truth is a real factor! If someone doesn't like hearing the actual, factual truth about something and hide being hurt, this can lend itself to manipulation. That is my only question when it comes to speaking the truth in love. We go back to Jesus as the example, but we can't make it seem like everyone liked the truth that Jesus was communicating. That his truth didn't cut some people. And it still does to this day. So as I communicate truth, without the intent to hurt, how should I feel when only the hurting feeling left behind is spread form the receiver?

[@devenwest981]

I was truly blessed by this episode. Keep it up guys! Love it when you two connect ❤

[@tydavis8246]

I need to Listen to this again, share and take to heart!

[@markandjuby]

Goodness Gracious. What an Amazing Drop Fam! You 2 are just Incredible together. One of the best convos I’ve heard on Tough Convos. Thanks for the Spiritual takeaways and Practicality Fam!

[@ThroughAngesEyes]

Yall👏🏾 Glory be to the Lord. That’s all. Wow❤

[@tawanamccowns3231]

This was everything I needed ❤️ 🙌

[@faithrenny2104]

I look forward to these!!

[@KickDrumRebel]

This was amazing. I needed this. Thank you guys.

[@sequoia4631]

Thank y’all 🙏🏾

[@dionne0470]

I have to watch again and take notes.

[@nondumisomadlala1692]

Wooow😮 Thank You LORD JESUS. Thank you Twinnies, really profound words Brother Tim🗣️👌🏾✨✨🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Maybeoneday704]

SOOOOO GOOD!!!!!!!! I LOVE YALL SO MUCH!!!!

[@rae_tsholo9719]

This is Soooo Good.🤞🏽Verbalising so much I’ve battled putting to words

[@gugungwenya7836]

Yoh this was powerful! I am learning from you guys you're a blessing in my life❤❤

[@jamekathomas5120]

This pod right her tho!!!! (In my Tim voice)

[@rrveld]

Another great episode! Thank you so much for these conversations🙌 the book Tim might be referring to is called: Crucial Conversations. Great book!!

[@howardmarsellus6342]

Self-esteem

[@alicia_nicole444]

It’s so much that I want to say. I wish I could send this to my friend and she receives it with truth and an abundance of love. Like yoooo, talk about someone that brings up my past from upteen yrs ago and I’m like no, let’s stay present because who I was then is not who I am now. Don’t you see?!!! Chileeee we stay agreeing and disagreeing to keep peace. But I’m so tired of that. I’m so tired of not being able to get out my truth and perspectives because I have fear that she’ll get in my face and now I shut down and go in a shell. Bruhhhhhhhhhhh this conversation needs to live with Q&A because c’mon!!! This is so good. Pray for our friendship. I love her dearly as well as she loves me but maaan it’s exhausting not feeling free to express. I should probably stop looking for her to accept me, to stop wanting her to see the change. Idk help me Jesus. I can have courageous conversations with everyone except her. I need therapy. Ima sign up next year. Holy God be a fence of protection. Amen 🙏🏾

[@austinblackmon3028]

This one right here tho brought the heat 🔥🔥🔥 Also I love watching the unscripted train of thought they go on together 😂

[@sassypants0421]

Curiosity is meekness, which is strength under control.

[@TKMprof]

💯Preston with the HS download for Bar of the Episode: Q: What happens if your David in a courageous convo with Saul? A: find & play the Harp (not the Spear)

[@rhinoculousaurus]

You had me at 20:21 . I will play it

[@5addd5]

EVERYTHING IS A SPEAR TO HEEEEEEER!!!!! Even when I try my freaking harp. I know the enemy hates division, but maybe we need time apart to learn our harps. Or maybe it’s just MY harp since I’m more emotionally healthy. GOD SHOW UP PLZ!

[@user-de7ks6mb3h]

Powerful 🙏🏽❤️‍🩹

[@GraffitiScarred]

What if the “harp” is succumbing to their manipulation? Like, it’s the ONLY thing that calms them; is you lying that they’re right, just to avoid their rage or denial?

[@drewlane3710]

43:00. BARZ. BARZ. mic dropped.

[@AbolishFamilyCourt]

Ezekiel 33

[@dionne0470]

Do my words heal? 😭

[@carriecooksey]

What do you say to someone when they are unhealthy and throwing spears but they believe it’s the “truth”? I have several family members that do this on a consistent basis. 25:01

[@dellaroderick1220]

Brene brown.

[@TerentiaVision]

I need the harp not a harpoon

[@LauraS-qi6gu]

Well....i was good with this whole thing until Tim started going through the list of who was safe with Jesus and now I'm a weepy mess. Good heavens that hit me sideways. Can you even .... i.am.safe.with.Jesus. i can't

[@bthechurch7877]

PHEW!!! I GOT 🔪🔪🔪Help me Jesus, help this marriage!!! We're given a gift of decades of work in one podcast. MASSIVE CHEAT CODE ALERTS!!!

[@anthonymalgas260]

This was such an exceptionally great episode.🎉🎉🎉🎉