Leaving the NATURAL HAIR Community Chat + Removing Matted Kinky Twist

When it comes to why women leave the natural hair community there are many reasons. Unrealistic hair expectations? Struggling with natural hair goals? Feeling the pressure? etc.. While I remove my kinky twist lets chat about it. This video explores why some women leave the natural hair community and how to find your own hair happiness.
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00:00 Intro
01:55 Editing Grace
02:50 Leaving Natrual hair community
07:00 Accepting your hair
09:58 Not liking your hair
11:50 Clean your heart
13:56 Brainwashed naturals
15:40 Stop watching others
17:20 No comparison
18:29 Hair review
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[@user-zl7ly4qc1x]

I don't engage in the 'I hate my hair ' conversations. Only subscribed to you and Jennifer Jackson for the reasons you talk about. I wish people would know and understand that when we show up with love, respect and acceptance for ourselves, we are at our most beautiful and powerful. ❤

[@NappyFu]

Thanks you so much!! And yes I agree with ya 💯

[@user-zl7ly4qc1x]

Thank you, little sister. ❤💐

[@aquafina6544]

Exactly. How can we expect to show up in this world or find love if we hate any part of ourselves? I dislike not hate just disliked my body and complexion bcus I am the only thick dark chocolate kinkier hair one in my family. There was a lot of colorism and body segregation in blk families bcus of society and beliefs during enslavement that was carried on for several decades after it was abolished. It is still going on in 2k24 but not as badly. Ppl don't realize that we must do better once we know better. That means fix your insecurities from childhood trauma and walk away from non positive beliefs so that we don't keep repeating the cycles of abuse for our children. I'm so greatful for the natural hair movement. I was born with long thick hair but I knew NOTHING about it and thie community helped me.

[@JennJackson]

Not my whole gov name 😩🙈🙈

[@user-zl7ly4qc1x]

@@JennJackson I absolutely adore you! You just don't know but I'm your South African Auntie! ♥️😅

[@LadyDee150]

"Our 4c hair is difficult because we are not accepting her as she is." Powerful Statement!!! You talk facts 💯Sis! Love this video. Thanks for being you💕💕💕

[@sharlaamysamuel]

Facts

[@oliviastar3812]

Exactly - and who made it a problem?

[@candi1904]

Exactly, im 4a and i have such a difficult time to find 4c hair videos compared to other hair types. And when I do most are more focusing on defining curls or slick hair styles. I would Love to see 4c videos that showcase the uniqueness of it.

[@afrakoma_a]

Thank you for this video. Please say it louder for those at the back. Over 20 years back to natural and I'm never going back🤷🏾‍♀️ I'm all about healthy hair and follicles. The texturism, length bias and curl definition obsession for afro hair is for the birds. During the pandemic, I unfollowed all the influencers whose hair texture was not like mine. I realised they weren't relatable and woke up. I didn't see the point when products would behave differently in their hair compared to mine. Enough was enough.

[@oliviastar3812]

I unsubbed from all such ones too - years before that; after realising that I was also supporting and perpetuating the whole disingenuous tribe of "good-hair-gurus" profiting from the adulation of the shunned nappy-headed wannabes. Sad and farcical. That's my observation and rant.

[@deejai1173]

Yes, yes and yes!

[@HiamChelsea]

​@@deejai1173 Nah, it's not that deep. Love how you call yourself woke while putting limits to someone else's choices and also "only going to people/following those you relate to/looks like you"..... sounds a little familiar. Please don't put your identity just in hair. You're so much more than that. How about identify as someone who helps others despite their social/economical status (whether more or less than you), race, gender, background, age etc. That's more woke. That's more important. It's easy to love someone that looks like you but it's very difficult but more honorable to love someone who doesn't.

[@warriorwinter2233]

​@@HiamChelsea​@HiamChelsea I think shes literally just talking about the hair 😅 and how she had to redo her algorithms so she would learn from only influencers who have her texture so she could start learning past her previous hair integrity thresholds. I dont have their texture of hair but I love to watch people like her anyway, I just like people. But I Digress.. She will expound upon her own thoughts if she wills to do so ❤

[@Mastersilvers25]

​@@HiamChelseaShe said she woke up, not that she is "woke." Get a grip.

[@whoome1638]

My natural hair has triggered other Black people. I expect the negativity from non Black people but I was shocked when I experienced from my own people. Not anymore but I still noticed it creates a discussion amongst them. Last year I went swimming. I had 2 strand twist during the swim. Well that night, I washed, moisturized and retwisted. I saw a few people from the pool party the next day and they were shocked because ish was shining, big and thick. I think they expected me to look raggedy. Mind all of those women refused to get in the pool because of their relaxers or lacefront. My natural hair gave me nothing but options. I love it

[@ambitiousbeauty1013]

Yes I love going to the pool during the summer. I just put my afro in braids. Going to the pool and beach is a freedom that I enjoy being natural.

[@ambersummer2685]

Who wears wigs to the pool?😭 Wow they only came to look sexy in a swim suit huh?

[@ossier2796]

This is the hair that God gave me. I wear my hair in its natural state because I like it that way.

[@emeraldstarr4643]

Amen!

[@tambariw]

Period. People have a hard time accepting their hair for what it is and thus choosing to not work with their hair. Hair acceptance is the issue. We need to accept the texture, accept the curl pattern, accept the shrinkage. Healthy hair looks different with different hair textures or patterns. Trust me, natural hair is easy once you accept your hair and how it presents itself.

[@Karen-rp4gz]

I agree: the texturism, curl definition bias and length of hair obsession gets tiring....😢

[@NappyFu]

Facts!!!

[@ciciwise5]

I could not agree more, people are so scared to embrace themselves EVERYBODY LOOKS THE SAME!!!! accept what you have & fall in love with it!!!

[@hazybliss4069]

If people rocked the same hair style and/or natural hair everyone would still look the same..

[@emeraldstarr4643]

It's all from God, who knows what He's doing when we are created in the wombs. God gives us what's best for us. Our job is to learn how to take care of it in the best way. Amen

[@badonnaadams7903]

Comparison is the death of joy. That was powerful. I needed to hear that. Thank you and stay blessed 🙏🏾

[@ms.evegene]

I love her spirit. She is her spirit. She's a good spirit and soul 💗💗💗

[@emeraldstarr4643]

​@@ms.evegeneTruth and facts. I agree...

[@2damecuteUK]

I’m kinda glad the jump on a trend part of the community has ended. Now we’re left with the realists content providers who speak on the real issues. I’ve seen so many women just wearing there hair out in cute buns and French braids. I remember people making comments that those styles are for children. I’m so glad we have moved past these criticisms and enjoying wearing our hair how we see fit.

[@ayelefit]

The majority of "other" women wear their hair in simple buns and french braids. If a BW with natural hair, specifically loose 4C hair, does the same her hairstyle is considered childish or homely. Texturism is real.

[@2damecuteUK]

@@ayelefit I know I would hear other black people make those kind of comments & it always bothered me.

[@Meloyadina]

I loved watching you gently finger detangle 'Contour' 😍. Our KINKY hair is the truth it's so unique. Here's one thought that keeps me uplifted 'God gave us a hair type that is NOT like any other & He wasn't confused when He did that!'

[@bridgetl.7882]

Loving my 4c texture is like loving my mahogany skin, full lips, wide nose, and big booty. Self ❤ is head to toe!

[@kymberlycourage]

Did you read my reddit post? I literally responded something similar to a girl who said 4c hair is ugly simply because she could has not found out how to take care of her hair. I love my crown in all its states. People try to achieve styles that their hair type cant achieve. Coveting things that are not yours leads to jealousy, anger and hate. We need to do better at loving ourselves! I love this community and knowing what I know in terms of black history, our hair and the agenda to erase us, I refuse to subscribe to any ideals set by Eurocentrism.

[@desireehodge32]

I always said tighter texture yall hair holds twist better and twist outs look better.

[@curlynella1011]

Frizzes less as well even though tighter textures get frizz as well 💯

[@Sandwomen]

❤ I refuse to go back to the creamy crack.

[@raechelle1985]

Girl, there isn't even much creamy crack to go back too. I visited that section of the beauty supply recently and there's only a few brands of relaxer left.

[@raechelle1985]

Girl, there isn't even much to go back to. Went to that section of the beauty supply recently and there were only a few (under 10) brands left.

[@lalittl]

Hot Take: Sometimes people call something problematic or intellectualize something to justify their choices. They go on these long rants and do these long video essays about the history of hair and about why the natural hair community and the typing system is problematic all to say: “I want a perm and extensions yall” 😂😂😂 But no one wants to be accused of not loving their natural hair so they attach all this intellectualism to it and it’s ridiculous. I can’t stand when people do that. I’ve had natural hair my entire life all through the 90s back when clowning natural hair was constant and I was made fun of daily, so I find it hilarious that anyone could deem women who have natural hair to be n*zis and not the overwhelming majority of people who shame us for growing hair out of our scalp. we have all had to live in this anti-black texurist society for decades. Most of us have hair horror stories around trying to fit a standard of beauty that was never a reflection of our phenotype, yet they deem the natural hair community problematic. How many of us have hair that can never be regrown in certain spots, horror stories about comments from all types of people about our hair, etc all to achieve straight hair. I cannot. This is not to say their aren’t extremists in the natural hair community, but they are not the overwhelming majority of women with natural hair. And making it seem that way is just an effort to justify their choices to leave the community. Just say you want straight hair and that embracing your hair is not something you want to do. I can’t stand all the intellectualizing people do about why the natural hair community is toxic. No, our texturist society is toxic. Certain people with natural hair who demonize others for their hair choices are toxic. But the natural hair community is not inherently toxic. And don’t have me writing another essay about the people who claim it’s too difficult. I live in GA so it’s absolutely hilarious to me that women will try to convince me that maintaining straight hair in a climate that has 70% humidity most of the time is “easier” 😂. Idc what anyone does with their hair. Shoot, I dyed my hair for the first time in 33 years. I think people should experiment and have fun. But stop the lying about why you are making certain choices and leave the natural hair community alone. They sound like the rappers that lie and say their teachers told them they were gonna be losers when they grew up. Stop it, no one told you that you just wanted to be a rapper 😂

[@erikaarnold4780]

I just saw a video like you described the other day. The woman was saying that caring for natural hair IS difficult, and so women “benefit “ from using texturisers because of less breakage…it was just dumb. Half of what she said wasn’t even true…and my only takeaway was she was telling women it’s okay to use chemicals. My point is…if you want to use that…or “training” your curls…do that…but what we don’t need is misinformation and made up reasons why OUR hair is so “difficult”.

[@cheekintenders]

This was the most positive video relating to the natural hair community I've seen in maybe 2-3 years. It was really refreshing. Thank you for this.

[@JennJackson]

I can’t believe you kept this gem in the drive since 2022! Loved the video. Comparison is preventing us from stepping into our higher purpose.

[@isa_virtual]

I love y'all two! ❤

[@laurenthomas3748]

Jenn! I love your content, too ❤😊

[@nutgeb]

It’s not my hair that is the problem, it’s me. I’m just not that talented at doing my hair. And I am impatient. My hair is getting longer as well so it’s getting challenging for ME because I’m not used it my hair being longer and natural. Whew…❤

[@emdoubleu1763]

I would say it's not even your fault sis..think about it..people with our hair textures (or anyone really) who have been raised in a country where they are surrounded by mothers , sisters, aunties, grandmas, great grands, who have been doing the same hair styles and treatments for generations..do you think they are having these same issues that we are? Do you think they struggle nearly as much? Or do they have the knowledge and tools that they need to manage their hair because it's all they've ever known to do? Just something to think about, you know. It's a learning curve because these tools were not passed down to us. So give yourself some grace. We will each find our own way but it's not your fault that it's challenging. Be kind to yourself on this journey ❤

[@ambitiousbeauty1013]

Look up "tuck and roll" hairstyles on KZbin. It's a lot of beautiful tuck and roll styles you can achieve with your beautiful natural hair. I love watching tuck and roll videos and getting new ideas for my hair.

[@kimsim8750]

I love this video. I am now on my way to loving my fine, natural, GRAY hair😊

[@Bnizzofashizzo]

I never see naturally beautiful women complaining about how hard their hair is to make look pretty. Ever. Feminine beautiful women or some women that know they’re a 5 on a scale from 1-10 but can get to a 6 showing their willingness to care about their appearance, they do not mind. The ones that find this tiring , LOOK tired. There’s a correlation! And their disposition tells the story

[@denyshadials5702]

That’s the quiet part out loud.

[@LisePlansandJournals]

I’d just like to add that a lot of why we ‘hate’ our hair is the flawed language we use to describe it. Thin hair is balding hair (think Rogaine ads). Most of us complaining about ‘thin’ hair actually have fine hair. Yes, there is a difference.

[@jladylove1]

yes it is a difference.

[@nethaniapierre8149]

Thank you for mentioning this 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@FitBabe]

Girl this is a whole sermon! Come on somebody! Along my hair journey I’ve definitely been guilty of wishing my hair was something else. I’m grateful for the natural hair community because I’ve found so many helpful tips and products that have helped me tremendously along the way. Not gonna lie, I’m still learning to accept my hair for the fine + low density mane that is. It can be hard to find styles that work well for my density, but I still love my coils anyway. I would never ever go back to the creamy crack! Like, EVER! 😂

[@preciousfro]

At the end of the day WE are the natural hair community. I understand people not liking certain things, but we can be the change that we want to see by putting out positive content and positive interactions with others. I LOVE being part of the community flaws and all. Thank you for this video🎉❤

[@Mrs_Canary]

I left the LOOSE natural community. The loc community has been the best for me. My hair grew longer n these 2.5 years then it ever did n the 7 years i was loose natural. I save time and money. No more trying everything

[@ladybird491]

I am so about to lock my hair as well.

[@KatieAJ]

7.5 years locked

[@bbw1255]

EXACTLY!!! IT'S ABOUT SPORTING YOU OWN HAIR AS IS. WE NEED TO BE CARFUL WEARING WEAVES BECAUSE WE DO NOT KNOW WHAT KIND OF ENERGY WE ARE INVITED INTO OUR SOUL.

[@cfoster6804]

Hair sacrificed in temples.😬

[@naturallybeautiful9109]

Men I saw a video about the energy of hair… probably going to focus on my own hair

[@jladylove1]

Wow I never thought about the kind of energy. What about Wigs? I wear them sometime because I don't have hair in the top. Most of the time I wear twist out under half scarf or wear head wraps.

[@TalyaT922]

Pray over the hair. The blood of Christ covers it all.

[@brandisr71]

Y’all this is not a thing. Very ignorant. Christian or not which I am but very ignorant

[@ossier2796]

My opinion is as Black people we have to start thinking as individuals free to do what we choose with our hair and our lives.

[@MissNolver2]

Exactly 💯 🖤🩶🤍

[@the80sjukeboxbaby]

The hair typing system is useless honestly. And most people don’t understand it and STILL misunderstand it. The majority of people screaming 4C DO NOT have 4C hair. Now I definitely agree that the majority of women have unrealistic expectations and self hate. And it’s not limited to black women. I see it in all types of clients. Everyone wants what they don’t have.

[@TLmomofZAHS]

"I love my beautiful self just the way I am. Actually beautiful in real life."So very powerful sis!!! Preach!!

[@michellewhite6308]

Thank you for preaching the truth about Black women not loving ourselves. God made us. Let us see ourselves as a vessel for God’s purpose in our lives. Love this❤❤❤❤❤ Our daughters need to see this video…all our daughters

[@rachybaby72]

Phew. Thank goodness I wasn't part of any community or movement. I simply began wearing my hair natural because I like having a full head of hair...

[@Justsayyes88]

No hair is better than the other. I need to figure out what makes my hair happy because I still don’t damn know 😂😂😂😂 Love the conversation💚

[@sw33tnycandy]

All valid points made. Thank you. I definitely agree that those who hate their hair really hasnt found what works for it nor have they accepted it as is. These are people that are attempting to force their hair to behave in ways it shouldn't.

[@user-jt5td2rk9p]

Accept it!!! Nothing wrong with natural, nothing (absolutely) nothing wrong with natural hair. Everyone else wears THEIR natural hair. So sorry, but no matter what you name it, there just are different types of hair!!! I’m so glad I learned more about my hair and what it does. Life is easier. I’m ok with my hair. I like, love my hair. ❤ Preach on it Nap!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@lisaj4441]

I notice that people tend to confuse The Natural Hair Community with Social Media. It is social media that is full of drama and negativity for any topic. These folks should just get off of social media altogether as this is what is making them anxious. This natural hair community has taught me soooo much about my hair. I love my hair now - it only happened because I got to know her. I got to know how to take care of her. Also, my hair looks soooo much better than it did relaxed. When I was relaxed, my hair only looked good the day I got it done. Then after that it was pointy and greasy and thin. Done with that! My natural hair is here to stay!!!!

[@laurenthomas3748]

Yes! I feel this. When I look back at old pictures when my hair was relaxed, it looked so flat and limp. My natural hair is the complete opposite and I love it!

[@brendamitchiner5137]

GIRL GIRL. SAY IT!!!!! It's so true. I am here for it and staying natural.

[@chickaliciousnyc]

I absolutely ADORE you. I can not thank you enough for helping me embrace my 4C coils. You taught me how to install crochet, and you inspired me to install them myself. It's been over a year, and I have a whole new relationship with my hair, and I thank you for it! THANK YOUUUUU, Grace! 🥰

[@kellyroyds5040]

The the problem is that we were never taught to love and take care of our hair. As s child, I had thick, long hair down my back. By the time I hit 5th grade, my mother, with encouragement from my grandmother, started to get it relaxed, while still not teaching me how to style it. I stopped relaxers in the early 90's and never looked back. I'm constantly learning to style it in new ways working with what I have.

[@sweetzCA]

I agree 1000% with everything you said. It's absolutely insecurity and a form of self-hatred. I liken it to when black men make videos about why they date interracially, and its all about why they hate black women. If you don't want to be natural anymore, then don't, why make announcements and proclamations about why you hate natural hair and spread negativity about it. It's really disrespectful. Leave in peace and silence. The negativity screams "I hate myself". And yes the media definitely plays a part. The IG baddie, baby hair laid, silky updo phase of social media definitely made it hard to stay encouraged.

[@naturallybeautiful9109]

😂😂😂😂 yeah okay

[@fin4008]

Yep

[@prtdiva]

This was a great comparison! Great point!

[@Ashley-ms3py]

Overall, I am grateful to have had people in 2008 to show me what my hair was capable of. My hair was fine but my mother relaxed it when I was 4 or 5, so when I started styling myself as a teen, I had no clue where to being. Once I moved out at 18, I was relaxing it myself and it ‘healthy’, but I didn’t actually know why I was applying a relaxer or what products my hair needed. Watching men and women on KZbin go through trial and error with their hair gave me a starting point to safely experiment with my own. I’ve big chopped and cut off damage multiple times over the years, but I’ve ultimately fallen more in love my hair along the way. This was especially important since my mom’s family is white and I live in predominantly white areas my entire life. Without the black community on youtube, I would’ve been almost completely isolated from people who look like me.

[@vanessav692]

When people say they have left the community I find it's more that they don't engage and interact with groups and pages vs not watching videos or not liking their hair. I disengaged from several loc and natural hair groups because I just didn't like the vibe, bickering and the people demanding everyone say the exact same things or you,re a problem. So I left them all. Still stayed natural.

[@hwolovely1203]

No cap. It is hard to have natural hair when you work with the dominant culture every day. When I have braids or flat iron it or cut it, they say "oh I really like your hair". Well, I really liked my hair when it was full and big. I cut my hair because it was thinning and it was shedding badly. Therefore, I went back to basics and the Science of Black Hair. I learned why my hair was thinning and shedding. It was due to infrequent washes and products that were not good for my hair. Therefore, I am restarting this journey from the beginning and recommitting to take care of my hair. I didn't take of care of my hair the way I should because the stress of work and managing a chronic illness as well as taking care of my dog. Something had to give; it was my hair. However, loving my hair is a part of my self-esteem. If I decide to relax my hair then I know I have valued palm-colored people's opinions of who I am more than my opinion of myself. I have gray hair and I am allowing it to grow out. Some of it curls, and some of it doesn't; however, I am going to love it fiercely. Loving my hair fiercely means despite what other people think.

[@isa_virtual]

Word!

[@dinamcintosh5782]

Your spirit and your transparency are why I have followed you for years. Thank you for sharing your journey and for being such an inspiration to all of us. We are a community, in the truest sense of the word ❤

[@MzMJ77]

I guess I had my hair pressed for chunk of my first 17 years. And relaxed for the the next 17 years. I just saw my relaxers were straightening my hair too much. I never thought I was part of the natural hair community for real. I dye it, I flat iron it. I do whatever I want to my hair. The main goal is to keep it as healthy as possible.

[@exxtra71]

Amen for Salvation 🙏🏾 Have a wonderful week!

[@NappyFu]

Amen!! Same to you hun!

[@laurenthomas3748]

Thanks for this message! I feel so much peace when I have realistic expectations of what my 4C hair can and can’t do. I switched my focus from long hair to healthy hair. I watch 4C hair creators’ content because I can actually learn from them. I love doing two strand twists and flat twists to stretch my hair. Before I’d by “elongating” products that CLEARLY didn’t work. I had to learn how to realistically style my hair and appreciate what it could do instead of buying snake oil products. Our 4C hair is beautiful!

[@nysheikaj]

Say it louder for the kinks in the back- 📢 STOP WATCHING THEM! I still subscribe to different texture channels because I have daughters with similar texture but I only watch as an occasional educational resource. I literally FEED my hair spirit with proud 4c creators like you, Jenn, Starpuppy, Adanna, Jess, Green Beauty… the list goes on and on!

[@kimsim8750]

Girl, I have been in the natural hair community for 11 years and I will not go back. I don’t have 4C hair, but I LOVE it. My hair is rather fine and usually fights against volume no matter what I do. I wish I could do some of those styles you showed, especially the puffs. I am so here for it.

[@MK-hh1vo]

I agree about comparing hair textures; I don't bother, I'm playing the hand I was dealt. But I feel it's ok to desire length because growth is something our hair does naturally. I desire and cultivate length. I've been working on mine for the past year with great results. I hope you don't mind if I desire and admire your length! 🙂

[@JGT318]

This is such a timely video, I love it!. The first time I was a loose natural I kept wearing stretched styles and I told myself it was because it's more manageable when it's stretched. This time around it's been 6 months, and I haven't done any stretched or twist-out styles. I find that my detangling isn't any worse when I wear my hair in a fro during the week, and I don't get any single strand knots either. I had to get comfortable with my hair being shrunken, and I feel so much more confident now. I even like how my hair feels and its shrunken state. It feels much more healthy and moisturized because that's how it's supposed to be. Acceptance of my 4c has made life so much easier.

[@kkallsop]

This may be true for you, but personally, I have to wear my hair stretched in some way if I’m doing loose styles otherwise the detangling is a BEAST!

[@JGT318]

@@kkallsop I will admit that detangling is not a breeze, but it really isn't bad. I think it has a lot do with making sure it gets steam from the shower throughout the week, adding more moisturizing products until if necessary and then my wash process. I drench my hair smooth in a cheaper conditioner that's really slippery to use my palms to take small clumps and smooth shed hair out, rinse, then my shampoo, rinse and get more sheds out, and them my good conditioner. By the time I get here as long as I make sure each has a a good amount of water with the conditioner, I can get my wide tooth comb in and do a thorough detangle. I finally came to the realization that if I can get the normal shed hairs out before I detangle I have a lot less difficulty and breakage. Many people do their detangling before they wash and out of the shower but that causes a lot more breakage for me. Also, it takes less time then the way I used to do it. There is something about the water pressure pushing shed hair out.

[@anndeecosita3586]

A young lady at church asked me if I know of a salon that would be good for her to get a relaxer. I told her no but I would ask around. I thought it was kind of odd at first that she asked me because I don’t have a relaxer. And none of the black womenI know well in the local area have relaxers and apparently she’s in the same boat. I suggested she ask a woman on the street or store whose hair she thinks looks good. I didn’t ask why she wants a relaxer or try to talk her out of it. Although I don’t relax it doesn’t bother me if other people do. It annoys me when they speak negatively about natural hair or their natural hair. I don’t want to hear all that. Oddly enough I have been asked before by a stranger if I know/can suggest someone for a sewin. Not only was I not in a sew in but I have never had a sewin. I don’t know why anyone would figure I know this stuff. 😂

[@cheshiredj]

Made this 2 years ago and it's still relevant!

[@mojisoladeji]

I love the "natural hair community". I have learned from other people's experiences. I won't go back to perming my hair and I like seeing what others are up to so I do watch videos. I also love seeing videos to do with washing, styling, braiding and more. When you accept your hair, it won't be a chore to style it. You'd love styling it. And switching up styles

[@Lilianamarie999]

Needed to hear all of it. About to take my crochet out and already hearing all the self-hate in my head. This was definitely a word of inspiration

[@sandrap.2050]

I agree with you on your points. I do not understand why people consume negative content about hair them come on yt and complains about it. Just don't look at them to begin with and those people would go away.

[@reginagordon4246]

Yes Nappy Fu💕💕💕💯💯💯Amen!! Nope my natural hair is here to stayyyyyyyy 🥰

[@marciawynter5155]

You're the only one I hear talk on this topic !!when I see video saying I am leaving the natural hear community( I am like WHAt?? ) if you're natural you leaving yourself !! I will never go back to perm so I got sister locks .

[@fergi1707]

I just want to say when I first went natural, like 6-7 years ago, i came across your channel and thanks to you I got out of my mental hair slump , picked up to useful tips, tricks and product suggestions and now i LOVE my hair! I feel like the version of me that I could only imagine. Thank you so much for what you do, always continue to move in love as it allows others to learn to do the same.

[@JasmineNicoleCogdell]

Grace, you live up to your name. This message was delivered with so much grace and love. I pray every person who decides to wear their hair in its natural sees this message. It was a spiritual awakening for me realizing I am questioning what God made when I say I want it “longer, more this, less that…” not just my hair, but being consumed with comparison in all aspects of my physical features. It was also a loving reminder why I went natural in the first place, this is the hair God gave me. Thank you for being YOU. Thank you for using your platform to elevate the Word of God. This was a Bible study session for me and I truly can’t thank you enough 🥰🌹💖

[@deejai1173]

I’m not sure why your video came to me, but I’m glad it did! I’ve embraced ME back in 2012!!! Haven’t relaxed since then, yes, it has been a roller coaster, but I love it. I AM WHO I AM and my HAIR is who I am as well! I find that most people say they hate their natural hair because they don’t take the time to learn it and so it’s frustrating for them. Instead of doing different things like you said, they get discouraged. I myself grew my hair down to my bra strap and some things went wrong somehow, I’m working on it again. May the powers be with me! I’M SUBSCRIBING by the way!!! ❤

[@sindisithebe]

2013 i made the decision to cut my relaxed hair and be natural. Then i found your channel 😊 you helped me alot Thank you all the from South Africa

[@Listen2me400]

Love watching my fellow Believers! You gave a word sis. Continued Blessings!!!

[@NappyFu]

Thank you so much 🤗

[@luvly4sures824]

You have spoken facts on top of facts! Thank you for saying this out loud so that I can hear it and have it sink in!! I don't know about anybody else, but I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS!!

[@jamiAkos]

C'mon NAPPY FU!! I wasn't going to watch your vid. But I said naw, she my girl, let me see. And you did NOT disappoint! You said ALL the things I think. And KUDOS to you! But seriously, thanks, Sis.

[@NappyFu]

Wooow than you so much sis. I appreciate you watching and commenting!! 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@DrSimpleBeauty]

I personally am grateful for the natural hair community. Hair is very personal and I had an unhealthy relationship with my hair. I used to flat iron my hair EVERY MORNING. I also was obsessed with bleached highlights. I learned (slowly) to put down the flat iron, use a satin pillowcase and master the twist out. I’m glad you mentioned the hair typing system because I got trapped into the wash-n-go trend which destroyed my FINE hair. It took years to figure out MY hair. The natural hair community all-in-all for ME helped me experiment more, pay more attention to how I viewed myself and take better care of my self.

[@LaToyaEbonyHair]

Ooooooo this was said SO beautifully and real! Love everything you said!! 👏🏾👏🏾

[@TLmomofZAHS]

This is one of the best natural hair videos in a very looooong time. Thanks for keeping it real. This was so encouraging.

[@Picturegirl26]

I love everything you covered in this video. I can't even imagine using a relaxer again. Since I discovered my natural texture, I love my hair just as it is. I have to stop touching it everytime I do a twist out and how it feels when I shampoo and condition it. Everyone keep the love for your hair it's what makes us unique and special.

[@user-fn9ys1ji9o]

One of my favorite videos ever! I've been preaching this for some time. All of our hair is God-given and beautiful. I love all of the curls, coils, and kinks. Natural hair is a blessing, and we need to treat it as such. You are so beautiful inside and out. I have followed you for a long time. Please continie to share your wisdom. I hope people truly take this to heart!

[@KefiraChosenRoyalty]

I LOVE OUR Natural hair Community! 💜👑💜

[@ChiannaNycole]

This was so needed, thank you ❤. I am so tired of people pretending that just cause we all decided to stop using perms that we are in some type of movement. Like how was the movement a ‘failure’? Ion remember no community meetings, so what are they going on about? I just know perms was never the answer, I genuinely think they should be taken off the shelves they are that dangerous.

[@shemazingberry9789]

As soon as I respected my hair has a job to do - completely independently of me, my relationship with my hair changed. My hair is ancient Most High technology from God and has a job to do, regardless of what products I put in my hair, she is going to start responding to the elements, shrinking and doing what she do to regulate my body temperature etc etc. She don’t care (my hair) how much time and money I spent to manipulate her, she gonna do her thing. My hair is alive, an entity onto herself and she has absolutely no manners 😂 but I love my hair so much. I can’t thank the Most High enough for my fro ❤

[@Stillunbothered37]

I thought you was leaving doing videos, I clicked this so fast, I was bout to act a fool totry and get you to stay! Glad I didnt have to ack a foo today😂

[@starmaxx4]

“Comparison “ is the thief of joy! Come on Grace 🙌🏾.. luv this video 🥰💙

[@lemonicajohnson7181]

I want to say, you were speaking to me! This is what i needed to hear. It is so refreshing to hear another 4c hair type woman say this. I appreciate you and your words!

[@angelcakes2385]

Yaaaay thanks for the Sunday evening video! Have a blessed week!

[@NappyFu]

You are so welcome! You too!!

[@jasmainjasmain2906]

I am okay with ppl sharing their frustrations to know I am not alone because depression and painful cramps makes you want to hate dealing with your hair even tho you love it. And PCOS doesn’t help so yea I am OVER this crap but keep trying because GOOD natural hair stylist are hard to find and I can only do so much on my own don’t silence ppl.

[@KatieAJ]

Yeah! I mean, when i went natural, I almost got swept up into comparing my hair to some influencers but then I started unfollowing them and following ppl like you, sister! And i loved my loose natural hair. Im 7.5 years locd now. Love my hair but i def struggle with the natural hair anxiety at times. I am fearfully and wonderfully made by the Most High God. He made no mistakes in creating me. I praise and thank God for you. U are definitely impacting this community for Gods glory.

[@esezakironde1297]

I love NappyFu so much! Always fills my cup

[@rieneafricaine6122]

Powerful message & well said sistah!!!

[@A_Wilson]

This video will always be on time! Thanks Sis 🌺💕

[@KokoM369]

I love this!! ❤❤ Thanks queen!

[@LaToyaPlansLife]

This is what I needed this morning!!! Yessss!! I love me some Nappy Fu!!! Thanks sis!!❤❤

[@brittanydavis2730]

I loved this video so much I had to like and subscribe. The point you made about what we consume influencing us resonates with me beyond hair. Thank you for this.

[@shawnpatterson6632]

Preach, beautiful lady!

[@clenasmavanklompenberg6524]

I love how real you are on this topic about natural hair. I wish more natural hair KZbinrs would ould speak the truth on this topic. This video is so encouraging and you deserve more followers

[@love0818able]

I respect you so much. You always say what we need to hear with comic relief.

[@jamaicanbeauty1588]

The way you broke this down was so needed. I agree with everything...i can't go back to the creamy crack. Praise God for you....showing us that we must love ourselves.

[@avivab515]

Keep on the preaching ❤ love that it’s so honest!

[@valrice817]

You are truly a joy! ❤

[@courtneycherry255]

Thank you, thank you, thank you sister ❤

[@failurescanbeblessings2209]

Great message!

[@marliseisrael3017]

💗U Sis Thank You fir sharing this older video

[@MsBeasley0783]

You are soooo funny! Thank you for the realism!

[@cf8081]

Glad you shared this. I hope this positive message reaches the masses 💚

[@teakea5838]

Sooo well said. Thank you.❤

[@janeti.6723]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Enjoyed listening to you.

[@Kaylajoy_420]

I’ve been subscribed to you for a long time now!! I absolutely love your videos and think you’re very entertaining 😄.i dont even have 4c hair, but i still love watching your videos and admire the love you have for your hair :)

[@rjones8568]

Thanks for the great video. I have learned so much from you over the years on how to care for my 4C hair.

[@TheMspoodle2]

i love these types of videos. It seems like more n more women are embracing natural hair.