WHY WE DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN (NOT HAVING KIDS) - LEMPIES

[@earthangel2522]

I remember being 22 and close to graduating from college. I asked my mother a vital question. I already knew the answer, because she was not the most nurturing of mothers. But I wanted her truth, and she gave it to me without hesitation. I had a guy I was planning to marry. He literally was the boy next-door. We grew up together, and it was expected that we would marry we got old enough. So, there I was getting ready to graduate from college and go out to the world and experience a career and having my own money my own time. My head said to do what all my friends were doing, but my gut said that I was not really FEELING the whole marriage and children thing. Being the eldest in my family, I had already had the responsibility of changing diapers and caring for 4 younger siblings. In addition, I worked my way through college as a nanny and a house maid. During the summers I lived in with these family six days out of seven. On weekends I went in on Friday night and they spit me out on the college campus on Monday mornings. I knew what it was to be the first one out of bed early in the morning and the last one in bed at night and being in constant perpetual motion throughout the day, while the lady of the house got her beauty rest So there were no illusions about how much time, attention, and energy children take up and how much of your life you have to give up. Once you have them, you have to arrange your entire life around putting their needs first until they’re old enough to be out on their own. For some people this is the supreme joy. But that is true only for people who truly truly truly truly want to be parents more than anything else. I did not. I knew I wanted to see the world, travel, study and learn as much as I could about the world and enjoy myself since my early life had been one of nothing but study and hard work. So I ambushed my mother one day when she was busy doing some task. Here’s my question, “Mother, if you had to do it all over again, would you have gotten married and had children?” She did not try to sweeten her answer. It came suddenly and explosively: “No! I never wanted to be married or have children. I wanted a career in show business. I wanted to be a singer. “I only got married and had children because that’s what women did in those days. It was the thing to do. It was what all NORMAL women did. So that’s why I did it. “If birth-control pills had been as readily available to me then as they are to you now, none of you would’ve been born.” ( There were 5 of us alive, and she lost 2 as newborns). Did this hurt my feelings? No. I wanted truth, because I was feeling the same way in my gut. She actually set me free to follow my own mind, my own dreams, and my own heart by telling me the truth. I never did get married or have children, and I have never regretted the decision. I have had my experiences of being deeply in love, and I wavered several times on my decision, but there were enough children- nephews and nieces around me for me to have children to play with when I wanted them. And it was always nice being able to hand them back over to their parents when I wasn’t in the mood to deal with them. Some people are not temperamentally suited to be parents. It doesn’t make them bad people. It just isn’t their nature. And even as a child, when I paid attention to my mothers friends, I noticed that the ones who had the richest, closest relationship with their partners were the ones who did NOT have children. That’s why there was such turmoil in my heart as I was growing up. I was wrestling with the reality of what I was seeing and feeling versus what society said I was supposed to do. So you two take your time, enjoy the richness of your relationship and the fulfilling aspects of your careers. Children will come to you when and IF they are destined to. I know from experience that children do not have to come out of you or look like you in order for you to love them. You can always find Somebody else’s children to play with and your lives can still be one of enriching experiences. AND you can always adopt later or be foster parents when you are middle aged if you change your mind. It’s your life, and what you feel and think should take precedence over what anybody else wants to impose upon you as an ideal. Blessings on you both. 💐🙏 One-who-does-not-regret-never-having-had -children-of-her- “own”- but- has-never-been -deprived-of-loving-them-and-being-loved-in-return.

[@Lempies]

Thank you 🙌🏿. We are now live in a different Era and women should decide on their own if they want tk have kids or not....because having children impact women s life way more than it does on men life. I love children and enjoy taking care of my younger siblings. But I am not mentally ready to have my own babies.

[@Laitalafraise]

Thank you for sharing this story with us! I'm glad you followed your gut. P.S. : I like your writing style! ❤

[@glgartman]

What a wonderful reply! My mother would never have been so truthful, but I know in my heart that she felt the same way. I would not have been hurt or upset if she had admitted it. I know some of her unhappiness came from not being able to follow her dreams because she was "expected" to have children. Luckily, women have more freedom and opportunities now. It's also interesting that one of the best ways to control the world's overpopulation problem is to educate women and give them alternatives to choose for the paths they take in life. Thank you for this reply!

[@earthangel2522]

Laitalafraise 🙏😘

[@earthangel2522]

Zelda I thought my sharing might be helpful to young people who often make hasty decisions or fail to plan at all and find themselves locked into parenthood and experience unalterable regret. There is no one way to do one’s life. We would not have been given free will if we weren’t meant to exercise it. Thank you for your response 🙏

[@LittleTut]

My mother had me at 44 soon to be 45 and this was 1966! I was born July 22nd 1966. I'm 53, so I could be much much older than I am now if she had me much much younger. I think out of five children, she was maybe 2nd or third oldest. But all her siblings had children much younger, so my 1st cousins are older than my brother and me. She had my older brother at 42, going on 43 and he was born in May 1964. My mother, God rest her soul, lived to be nearly 86 (Nov 1 1921 - Jul 2007) having high blood pressure, raised two young boys, worked many many years in federal government and finally as the Payroll clerk for for many years Smithsonian Institution in Washington DC. I'm so blessed to have had her all those years. My mother passed July 30 2007, about two weeks after I turned 41 years old (July 22nd my birthday), from effects from advanced Alzheimer's disease. So, Limpies and her husband, may be older parents if the time comes, but if it's what they want, then that's all that matters. :))

[@carmenblanchard3596]

You guys are so wise. Knowing that ultimately the decision is yours and your husbands alone. Enjoy your lives, enjoy each other, enjoy your freedom right now.

[@Lempies]

Thanks 🙌🏿

[@LindaTinahTV]

This discussion about kids is a sensitive and personal issue. It's nice to see that you seem to be aware of what comes with child bearing. The pressure is always going to be there even if not from your families but from 'womb watchers' here on these platforms where you share your lives. As a mother of 2 kids, I will tell you that you are never ever fully ready so if all the basic things are set sometimes you have to just dive in but I advise that you at least feel it in your gut that you are both ready. It is hard and comes with a lot more that no one prepares you for so you should be mentally decided that you want to do it. I wish you all the best, i am sure you will decide what's best for you, you both have some good heads on those shoulders.

[@Lempies]

🤗👏🏿👏🏻

[@carolinebarnett9848]

Having kids does not validate who you are as a person. Do not allow society to dictate what goes on with your womb, let it be a decision that you both want. Enjoy life, live, love each other and travel.

[@Lempies]

Thanks 🙌🏿

[@julieelizabeth510]

Caroline. 100%. I am married. My husband is my family. No having kids does not invalidate me or us. Each to their own.

[@shalieah]

So glad you guys shared this. I think it’s important for young people to see this. Communication with your partner is sooooooo important. Planning things out is also key. I love this!

[@Lempies]

THANK YOU!

[@OdopaFoods]

Very Educational concept. Dont have children by pressure but have them WHEN and ONLY when you are READY and CAPABLE of sharing your time with another person. Blessed.

[@emiliamartinez9600]

Children are amazing, dont let that painful word hit you one day as it did me and my husband REGRET,I waited so lond and when we were ready it didnt happen,I have cried and suffered silently so much,they are so precious and I am number 10 of twelve and my mother and father wanted 2 more! Sure you have to think of someone else but the joy and love you recieve and the knowledge and joy of teaching and passing your love on to someone else is amazing, my father lived to be 100, my mother will be 90 this year she drives and just stopped working apart time job, we all are educated and we all love each other,please dont end up sorry.I say these thing with the most respect and love to you both

[@brendaleelanchongchin4727]

Emilia Martinez you are so right the same thing happen to my friend . The husband left now she is in her late 40 th no kids

[@namitalasharon3193]

Am agree with u dia

[@tizitapusch9780]

I too grew up in Africa and was traumatised by teenage pregnancies Happening arround me. I couldnt even talk to boys for fear of falling in love uncontrollably and getting pregnant lol. I had made a promise to myself not to have a boyfriend untill finishing Uni. and starting earning my own Money, which was exactly what i did. I avoided boys like the plague untill i was financially Independent. Any ways great content as always Lempie.

[@Lempies]

In my village teenage pregnancies has now decreased thanks to the government for providing free contraceptives 👏🏻👏🏿. During my time most girls got pregnant between 15 and 18 😥. I understand your reasoning 💯 because I have had similar experiences. So I still think people should have kids when they are financially and mentally ready to raise them 🙌🏿🤗

[@namasebo231]

I can relate, had my first child in my thirties and second one in my 40s.

[@leeltd1229]

Ngibo Mubeta Fernandes thats how I want to be...I honestly don’t want any kids but let’s say I end up having a child I would only want to conceive around the ages you did late 30s

[@51Saffron]

I was married 13 years before we had children. It was the right choice for us. They are both 18 and 19 now, and they are amazing, however, we would not of been the best parents early on in our marriage.

[@cherolk]

Lempie, the fact that you worry whether you will be a good mother already means that you will be an amazing mom. But, kids will come if and when they have to. Enjoy your marriage and each other.

[@Lempies]

Thank you very much 🤗. I think so too... There is the right time for everything

[@beverlyhosein2830]

Your child would be so blessed to have the two of you as parents. The love is ever present in the way the two you reassure each other. Lempie let go of others unfortunate circumstances and as Your husband said” that is not your reality. You are married to a man that loves you and has the most beautiful heart. And your love for him is so apparent. God bless the two of you. You will have little ones when you both agree and in God’s perfect timing. ♥️

[@Lempies]

Thanks for the beautiful words

[@ambyburum2666]

I happened on your channel one night when I couldn’t sleep. I love your story❤️

[@mirandabisnou1307]

Do what you guys feel is right... do not allow people to pressure you. IF it happens without being plan, EMBRACE IT💖

[@lloydmoore982]

The good book said multiple and replenish,that's what keep us all here today,i understand certain commitment but at a certain point kids should triumph over every thing else,don't be fruitless.

[@victoriamask2755]

I love your relationship guys. Keep supporting each other.

[@jenithanguma7310]

You guys are beautiful together and I love the way you answered this

[@Lempies]

Thanks

[@mbloveg4492]

There is something about this couple .... they are so cute .... wishing you all the best thank you for being so grounded ..and sharing your thoughts with so much poise .

[@veronicajade20]

Yes, after you get married the pressure for babies start immediately. Hell, the pressure to get married and start having kids started for me once I hit 25. People love children. But I definitely think it’s the best idea to put off having kids until you’re ready. I hope to saw you guys with little ones sooner rather than later though, lol.

[@berylwalters8993]

I think it’s great to plan your family don’t let anyone dictate to you the only thing I had my last baby at 42 and I felt a big difference on my body from my first child at 25

[@Lempies]

Love honest opinions. Very appreciated. It is important that we also listen and learn from others experiences

[@paulineallen7621]

I have seen this from many angles. Some couples wait until they have enjoyed their career and being able to enjoy their life. However, children as teenagers with parents in their 50s sometimes act awkward among their friends. Also, if the woman goes past the period and end up needing in vitro help, it can be a difficult period for the woman. However, it is wonderful that you have a supportive husband who listens and respects your decisions about your body.. .

[@Lempies]

🙌🏿 I think the ideal age is between 22 and 35. Above 35 risks increases (infertility, abortions etc).

[@cassandraknight9869]

Amazing heartfelt conversation ❤️

[@ambyburum2666]

You are such a beautiful couple...any child will be blessed to have you as parents.

[@nickys1234]

Your husband is 100%. Girl stop looking for excuses. Yes enjoy your time together as a new married couple, but you can still travel with kids l have 2 kids. Lempie, he is good man. Learn from one another culture and grow from it. You both will do fine.

[@Lempies]

Oh 🤔 I thought I (lempie) was right.

[@nickys1234]

@@Lempies like you said it's on his and your term. No one is 100% ready with babies and kids throw at you. Balance

[@alineblacklaw2175]

@@nickys1234 Yepppp

[@glgartman]

This is an entirely personal issue! I think asking about it is rude and intrusive. A person's life can be complete and fulfilled without having children. My brother and his wife made the conscious decision not to have children and have lived a happy, successful life full of travel and adventure. They do not regret their mutual decision not to have children, and they are now in their 70s. I am so glad to see that outside pressure is not overly important in your decisions concerning this issue. Having a child should be a careful decision, not something that just happens whether you are prepared for it or not! I think many people with children did not think carefully enough about it and weren't properly prepared for the responsibility of parenthood. As a retired teacher, I have seen how damaging that can be to children. I loved your comments on this issue!

[@Lempies]

Thanks Zelda. I agree with you 💯. This is a big decision and should be approached with caution.

[@IamBrendaMarie]

Take your time and enjoy life while you do

[@Lempies]

Hello Brenda. Thanks dear and have a nice weekend

[@IamBrendaMarie]

@@Lempies Thank you. You are welcome

[@realrosesforever3847]

Every parent learns along the way. You two will make great parents.

[@Lempies]

Thanks for all the positivity 👏🏿👏🏻

[@tamarajoseph6377]

I been waiting for this moment but, ok fine, i respect your views

[@charnaemorrison2188]

The both of you are very smart intelligence is the key to your future family. God Bless Always

[@Lempies]

Thanks dear and have a great weekend 🤗

[@sabrinaadam8557]

Its your decision when to or not have kids but I know people who said they didn't want kids that accidentally ended up with one and said it was the best thing that ever happened to them. If you are interested at all in kids don't wait too long or it will be too late and you will always regret it especially as you get much older.

[@Hertha_Imene9845]

Congratulations! I love you and I believe you're gonna be super great parents. 1 or 2 will be fine. I can't wait for the combination both physically, intellectually and spiritually of your souls and spirits. Wonderful ♡

[@Lempies]

🤗

[@britjj5126]

Your outfits 😍 Enjoy your travels you two!

[@Lempies]

Thanks 👏🏿👏🏻

[@mentorexcel1907]

Children are important when you grown old they are the one who will stand by you

[@Lempies]

True that 🙌🏿

[@missfang8396]

That's not guaranteed. Ever.

[@earthangel2522]

Miss Fang You got that right. I have worked in two different nursing homes in my life. They were filled with elderly men and women whose children dumped them, wiped their hands and of them, and never came to visit. NEVER! I’ve been at the bedside of quite a few for whom MY face was the last thing they saw before they shut their eyes for the last time and took their last breath. 😭

[@ezinne8740]

Great Video and I love it. Plus, I love the outfits and continue to be yourselves.

[@Lempies]

Happy to make you happy

[@tammygreen8962]

Listen to YOUR HUSBAND BEAUTIFUL. He's WISDOM and TENDERNESS will help you overcome everything my 👑

[@Lempies]

You are right 🙌🏿

[@brendaleelanchongchin4727]

Tammy Green god give her a mind of her own she can make her own decision . But also Lisen to her husband own as well . It's 2019

[@tammygreen8962]

@@brendaleelanchongchin4727 AGREED 👍 💯 I'M AMERICAN🇺🇸 . SO YES, I FEEL YOU. THIS BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT, BRIGHT WOMAN COULDN'T HAVE GOTTEN AS FAR WITHOUT HER INDEPENDENCE. NO DOUBT SHE/THEY WILL FIGURE THIS OUT. I APOLOGIZE I JUST LOVE CHILDREN AND THAT MAY HAVE BEEN WRONG OF ME.

[@johannesgebhard3906]

mara tate yemwene okwahala okanona Lempie pls give your tate a child . a child is a gift from God and you guys are married We want to see the family. May God give you a child and a blessed family.

[@Lempies]

Eeye tate nategelele ngaa kashona sigo meme tiilongekidha. Omunona ogwaa ntu ayehe 🥰

[@damaq2889]

You guys are over thinking. Your perfect to be parents and ready financially. Honestly it’s just safe to say...you guys are too selfish right now to have to worry about children, and that’s ok! Continue to enjoy your selves together! When the time comes, you’ll just let it happen♥️💘

[@Lempies]

First we need to buy a house! No house no babies..

[@ayotalsamoth6867]

Your husband is ready to have kids. He doesn't want to tell outright because he doesn't want you to feel pressured. He also told you why...You are of age and getting older if you wait any longer you wont be able to god forbid. He wants you entirely and you are very lucky so give yourself a year or two to travel and work but inbetween do try and have that baby. Adoption is great but Italians like their blood regardless they are very family oriented so dont depend on adoption...give him his seed. A good freind of mine is also black and her husband is Italian they have two beautiful kids. Read between the lines hun. Great vid btw and much love from Trinidad

[@monikanaholo1195]

Ayotal you are very right, the husband is ready to have children you can see that in his words, this lady should get serious and ready between the lines really.

[@hotarugracequeen7349]

Hey there cuties....Love love how your hubby looks on you. Children will be comfortable with you both when the time is right. My husband and I are in the same place..discussing the right time. In fact we started preparing our bodies (pre-natals), mind (thought process on how to balance varied roles) and discuss how we prefer or plan to share the discipline.

[@veronicajade20]

You don’t have to stop traveling b/c you have kids! I know a couple of women work from home and homeschool their children while traveling with them.

[@Clonerianyambali]

I can't wait to see your Namibian videos. Okay,l like the way you tackled the questions about kids. Let me Just say that having kids is a personal choice and also marriage is not about giving birth as other people might take it. I also think that there is not time that a couple will feel 100% ready to have children but it is entirely their choice. All the best.

[@Lempies]

Thank you Cloneria. I totally agree this decision should come from the us ✌🏿

[@doaaalmayali4110]

Your children will be fortunate to have an open minded parents 🤗

[@Lempies]

Thank you👏🏻👏🏿. That is so sweet 🤗

[@19dulce68]

I made that question in another video. It yuor thing, don't care about what other People think. I like You both, God will Bless You.

[@ViaggioIsDesigned]

I am so happy that I came across your channel. You are a beautiful couple and I look forward to following your journey together. Continued blessings!

[@Lempies]

Thank you. We are have to make you happy and also to learn from you. Welcome to Lempies 😂👏🏿👏🏻

[@bitterthetruthchannel9190]

Much respect to you all especially my African BLOOD 💅❤🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

[@serenitymap9801]

I've been married 13 years. Lots of ups and downs, figuring ourselves out and loving life. Growing and learning together but I will not lie, a huge part of me now wants to spoil and care for a little one so I spoil my nieces and nephews often. I don't think that'll ever change. But I just cannot bring myself to raise a child in this western world, way too much evil. I'm too deeply involved in my spiritual path and love my relationship with the Lord way too much. I'd have to raise one in a rural setting, old school wisdom and knowledge to give the child the best chance outside the distractions. One of my greatest fears would be to bring another soul into the world, only to have that soul fail to be reunited with Jesus Christ. What would've seemed as my greatest blessing would quickly become my deepest regret because to me, if a child lives their entire life but doesn't make it to Christ in the end and goes on to suffer in hell then what was the point? It would have been better that they were not born than they should reject Christ and eternal life and every soul must ultimately make his/her own choice. So as much as it pains me at times I can't bring a child into this world so selfishly, just because I want them. The risk is too great as the world becomes more disposed to wickedness. And that's okay. Not every couple is meant to have children. Some couples are reserved to help their siblings with their kids or their families and impact their communities. Not enough people pray for their communities. I seek other things like wisdom and knowledge, God. The good Lord has given me a clear purpose and many blessings and I am fulfilled by Him and comforted by Him and my spouse so, just saying that life without children can still be very fulfilling and rewarding. All the best

[@Lempies]

🙌🏿

[@jovialthinker]

Where can I get a top like yours, Lempie? I like it ❤️

[@Lempies]

These traditional dresses are made in Namibia

[@alineblacklaw2175]

Wakanda top

[@teresianelundu2009]

Yes Mom Lempie be ready for the body change. i myself was putting on size 28 before married but now after giving birth i am putting on size 36.

[@ilikethaifood7564]

Lempies I can totally relate to you regarding people (woman especially)giving birth without being ready. It affects the child emotional growth alot. I'm proof. I chose not to have children ever because I'm still recoverying from emotional support poverty from childhood. Just like you said, I would like to be a mother that you'll be there for my children in all aspects of life. That takes energy and the one I have managed to gather is just for me. Sorry! LOL Thank you for another simple and authentic video!

[@Lempies]

👏🏿🙌🏿

[@frederickthomas6031]

really amazing couple, I'm a Namibian, bt south African citizen, this dude is like, bro u got a good girl who's proud of culture, bigger up

[@mufasasdaughter4831]

You are both at the right age to have kids. Before it's too late.

[@brendaleelanchongchin4727]

Angel's Drift correct

[@julieelizabeth510]

What about people who can't have kids? No pressure is needed.

[@bigbiemacaw]

You never know you are ready for a baby till you first hold it in your arms .i was always thinking i was still two young at 22 when i was already in a long term relationship i got pregnant and panic set in i was sure i was not ready then i lost my baby so we set out to try again we lost 19 unborn babies before our beautiful daughter was born very early and only after corrective surgery after i lost no 18 we found out after a car crash when i was a child my reproductive bits had not grown properly i had 1 tube but it was bent so every time i got pregnant it would be ectopic so i had to have pregnancy no19 removed to save my life the doctor put 2 stitches in to straighten it out then 3 mts later i got pregnant with our daughter i was still sure i was not ready till i held her after 2 months of her staying in the hospital and we could take her home we were so very happy she was so small i had to get dolls cloths to take her home and make small cloths till newborn cloths would fit so life went on and we hopped for a couple of siblings for her but hoped it would happen in time it didnt after 5 more years trying i found out the one birth had destroyed my womb it was gone along with my hopes of many more children now pur daughter is 17 and i ake for babies all babies and i think back at a younger me who was always so careful not to get pregnant with better medical care as a younger woman things could have been diffrent i see all these women so hell bent on not getting pregnant only to have so many peoblems later on my tip dont weight till it is two late startvas early as possible im bot trying to scare you both just give you the facts start early 20s like 19 would be good at that age you are already into a short window of child baring years by like 4 years ..

[@patricet.corielus6391]

You guys are awesome!!! Can't wait to see mini Lempies, God willing, in the years to come ❤😊

[@Lempies]

Mini Lempies 🤗😍

[@hyacinthreno]

The fact that you're thinking so hard you're not really ready. Couples that want to have children don't think about it that hard. Actually, they don't have a second thought.

[@dabizonke161]

Yep now they are experiencing problems after having a child!

[@kzykzy9116]

Lempie can you do a video on you and your sisters and brothers or how you grew up and what made you leave Namibia. Lempie come to Namibia.

[@Lempies]

🙉

[@charnaemorrison2188]

Yes that would be very interesting.

[@TrustGodandDoGood]

You can travel with children, but when children are school age then you can travel when the school have vacation breaks. You two will make wonderful parents

[@Lempies]

Love the positivity 🤗😍

[@priscillataylor522]

It sounds good, so both of you should sit down and decided to together when you both want children. Because children need a lot of attention and your time. So decide wisely. God Bless you both.

[@jaxxon98]

I just found your channel and I love it. New subbie.

[@lilliana_es]

I love how authentic you guys are.. sending hugs and kisses from Cape Town..!! PS would you please redo a video on how you travelled and settle in Germany please.

[@Lempies]

Thanks 🤗 happy you like our videos. Sure I will share some tips on that after the Easter holiday

[@lilliana_es]

@@Lempies awww... thank you for the swift reply.. !it means alot. Thank you cant wait.. !!

[@kaarinashuuya5548]

Have you ever get angry to each like not talking to each other one of the day? Am asking this question because you guys it's like you are happy couples

[@liliflounderz]

if you don't have kids I don't think is a problem, the most important is that you love each other this is it, weel it's up to you to decide not your parents or the society much love guys, God bless you

[@Lempies]

Thank you. God bless you too 🤗

[@princeaghamiogie7154]

I respect your opinion. Am surprised that you as an African lady is saying this. Yes it's true that some women start having children when they are young. I guess your husband is ready. You never get to get ready when you are a responsible adult. Congratulations on your PhD. Go ahead and start your family

[@pelomk9022]

Prince Aghamiogie African woman are not the same

[@antoinettegordon5349]

I think you both will be great parents and when it's time it will happen

[@Lempies]

Thank you for the compliment 👏🏿🤗

[@blossom6235]

you two will make beautiful babies i cannot wait to see them.

[@Lempies]

Thanks

[@ANAHATAJADE]

Take your time and decide when you are both ready!

[@Wlf5953]

Very wise decisions. Enjoy yourselves now.

[@Lempies]

Yeah 🙌🏿. I just finished School and started working. It hasn't even been a year after graduation 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@kzykzy9116]

Lempie Lempie we hope to see your kids when you come to Namibia. Lempie please do channels on Namibian breakfasts.

[@Lempies]

😂🙆🏾‍♀️

[@brendaleelanchongchin4727]

Good for you Hun hope it all work out

[@Lempies]

Thank you 👏🏿👏🏿

[@tatesimon97556]

Hi guys its my first time to sow your clips here ,, am watching from Namibia deep in Oukwanyama .. Thanks guys

[@Lempies]

Is there MTC network deep in ouKwanyama 🙉. Thanks for watching and welcome to Lempies

[@tatesimon97556]

@@Lempies yes we are having full MTC and TN networks here.. You guys you are doing good things !!

[@namitalasharon3193]

I can see love of wife and hasband but wen u add another person love will be above the earth ooooh yaaa a bby is the most most happness in the family

[@a21s58]

You gonna have beautiful kids. Take your time. Love from 🇳🇦

[@Lempies]

Thank you 🤗. Have a nice weekend

[@dulcecampos791]

Non sense!!!

[@josephinanampla785]

I love you so much.. You guys are my role models

[@ritap5053]

Yes, you are sensible. Wait, until you are both ready and if you want to not what society says. Adoption is a great idea there are so many kids without homes and parents. I could never understand this pressure of people asking about whether you gonna have kids or not especially when your married.

[@Lempies]

It is interesting and unnecessary. I think each couple knows their living and financial situation so it is best. And no one should make a baby just because of the pressure, in the end it is only going to be the two of you to take care of the children 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@soniaisaacs307]

Beautiful couple. Bring him to cape town too

[@Lempies]

Cape Town is definitely on our backet list but let see how things are going to be after rona 🙄

[@soniaisaacs307]

Would like to meet up with you guys when you come to cape town. So many beautiful places. Love Namibia too. Have friends there.

[@phurasquest]

Only when you're ready is when you have children. To be parents you need to prepare. How you gonna nurture your children and so on.......✌✌✌

[@asiyam3583]

Yes ♥️'s you both have the right idea on children they're a blessing but don't rush when the times right n you both are ready then do it whether biological or adopted or even both n I can tell you're both going to be amazing parents 😀

[@Lempies]

Thanks... The world need positive people like you 😘😍

[@asiyam3583]

@@Lempies Welcome n thanks ☺️

[@genwords1789]

Love You Ywo Guys!❤❤ Thanks for Sharing. Have you been or lived in Munich Germany?

[@Lempies]

Thanks

[@Lempies]

YES WE HAVE BEEN IN MUNCHEN MANY TIMES!

[@mariatashiyashoolongo]

Children are blessing from God and no one must bother you to asking when when? I love you from Namibia

[@Lempies]

When are you getting married, when are you having kids and when is the next child coming 🙉🙈.

[@Phillymall]

Parenthood changes you in ways unimagined. You can never predict the type of parent you will be. I challenge you both to write down the type of parent you yh8bm you’ll be now. Look back on it after you’ve had your first child and see how close you were.

[@Lempies]

I can imagine...like Ale said one can not real prepare or plan for the babies.

[@tuyoleniniishindiismovie4094]

It's true lempie no one must force to have a Baby you must prepare for it.

[@teopolinakaishonga48]

Guys I'm your new subscriber I just sow your video nw end I'm enjoying it love you guys keep it up your girl teopo

[@Lempies]

Thanks Teopo

[@jaxfl8945]

Children are beautiful gift from God. Enjoy your life before this big decision. Now we have ability to delay motherhood aka freezing our eggs etc. glad you mention adoption. Be blessed. BTW I am youngest of 13 children for my parents. I love my big family.

[@Lempies]

Thanks. I am from a big extend family and I love it when we have braai 🤗😂

[@sahra4091]

You guys have the most beautiful clothing, the colors are magic, just like you guys.

[@Lempies]

Thank you Sara

[@lajmo78]

May God give you guys children, children need love, and you have a good husband, I hope you planning to have kids

[@catsandcookies443]

Having kids is a big responsibility is to become a second priority is to wake up in middle of the night no matter if you’re tired or not you have too. When you travel you have to choose the accommodation very well because there’s a child so I have to say is beautiful but is not easy you have to be prepared

[@Lempies]

Totally agreed and hence I thibk we should first wait until we are willing to dedicate our time to raise children. And of course spontaneous travelling and adventurous safaris and dune driving has to be on hold for a while 😅😅😂😂

[@elizabethebarkley6319]

Lempie you seem to be a very nice person, well spoken.educated,well off,etc,etc.Listen my dear,you have your PhD,a good job,good living what now!! Your husband is hinting to you he is ready to have at least a child.Lempie darling you will still be able to travel and do quite a lot of things.Now I am not getting into your life,you know that your husband loves you very much.He wants a bambino /bambina Go for it honey!!!!

[@tangilukolo5360]

hi guys.. before i say everything, i personally think that kids are a gift from God. yes family planning is vital, especially in a marriage, but than again, you just never know until it happens to you. some people can say they're ready, but maybe they're bodies are just not ready to bear or give children. the same excitement and happiness we give when we purchase cars or houses, should be the same excitement we put in when we even THINK of having kids. i mean, do you ever hear a person with money say they are not ready to purchase an expense like a car? i dont think so.. this is my own opinion. love you guy!

[@Lempies]

I get you... We love children and definitely excited when we talk about having them 😂

[@jackiebenjamin8772]

Why do people associate marriage with children. I hate when that question is asked but studies take a lot out of you, so I can understand why you want to sleep. Don't let anyone push you in being parents. Having children must be you and your husband's decision and no one elses. I have two children and they are in their late 30s and none of them have children. I am not worried that there are no grandchildren, others worry more than I do. Go see the world before you decide on children..

[@Lempies]

Thank you for your support. I love the fact that you do not push your children to make grandchildren 👏🏿👏🏻

[@kuskut]

You guys are so wonderful together - I just subscribed.

[@Lempies]

Thank you and welcome to Lempies. Ciao ciao ciao 👏🏿😂

[@IamBrendaMarie]

Thanks for sharing guys

[@antonattementor5917]

You guys are awesome

[@jasonnaemi9446]

Favourite couple..😚😚 love from Namibia

[@Lempies]

Thank you for watching and welcome to Lempies 👏🏿👏🏻

[@jojoemiliahamushila2727]

I love you guys😍😍😍😊

[@GandG4evr]

They spoke their mind.

[@ayodeler39]

Of course it’s up to you and will always be up to you.. so thanks for sharing your thoughts. So generous of you to consider adoption. You can. never heard know how you will be as a parent till you become parents. There is an African tradition which says when you are ready to go have children make puff puff and give to all your Neighbourhood children . Maybe you could do that when you visit Namibia.

[@Lempies]

I was waiting for make puff puff and eat them up (I love puff puff🙈). Anyways good idea... We are going to be during school holidays👏🏿

[@HH-bz6me]

Well Lempie you picked an Italian and they value family alot. I also think your husband loves you so much and already decided in his head that you would be mother material when he married you. I totally get where you are coming from about wanting to wait. Do it on your own terms but I can see a future with one biological and one adopted child. People who question their capability and parenthood are more serious about it than the people who get pregnant in a heartbeat bc society tells them to.

[@Lempies]

🙌🏿

[@kenny9871]

He’s an angel

[@ujangmuklis2508]

Fantastico ,grande coppia corrispondente

[@Lempies]

Grazie mille 👏🏻👏🏿

[@brendaleelanchongchin4727]

Sweet heart the lord made you to think for yourself . Don't live in other people shadow you will regret not having kids

[@Lempies]

That is your opinion and i respect. I still think people should have kids once when are ready to support them. At least that is what I chose to do.

[@blomien8896]

Missed you guys and I'm back for good....on that note I think you guys are such a fun couple 1st enjoy time as a newly weds guys kids are too much responsibility, however I'd love to see you guys have babies maybe after 2 or 3 years you'd make great parents.

[@Lempies]

Ciao Blomie and welcome back to Lempies. You said it right kids are a huge responsibility so we must wait until we feel ready. There is the right time for everything 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@ninahurd2592]

When I was younger I wanted to have a family on my own but I decided not to I like being an aunt and I can send my nieces and nephews home back to their mothers I got nothing against motherhood is not for me

[@jojoemiliahamushila2727]

Much love from Namibia 😙