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[@jasmijn4213]

Hey ladies when I meet a man and he ask, "what are you looking for in a man" the best response for me has been "I am looking for a man to be exactly who he is so I can observe, then figure out if he is someone I want in my life." Say it sweet and with confidence. Works like a charm. 😉

[@Jaythecook]

Woooow... I never thought of this. Thanks for sharing sis

[@jdavis6727]

Love it. Thanks!!

[@Linalwaysreal]

Good answer

[@Reshae_]

Love this! Thanks☺

[@solekhashuwa]

I love it, so gonna use it.

[@nalignmentwlifehealinglife3519]

When I refused to come to a man’s house for dinner and stay overnight. He said that no man would ever put a ring on my finger because I was being difficult. I laughed, and said boy please, that’s your hurt ego talking….any man would be blessed to be my husband.

[@jasminexxx3911]

Yes they try to gaslight and manipulate you when they can’t easily get what they want ! Smh atleast you knew your worth and didn’t give it up to him

[@veritasnkom5934]

Yasssss! Love how you shut his weak ass down with that as it’s clear that his motive was sex

[@HFDZ119]

He was trying to make you doubt your morals. How nasty.

[@piak78]

Bravo girl. U shudve added one more line. "Pls get me a diamond ring n a new model iphone n then im all urs baby".

[@elusiveali785]

Amen

[@kokoalaska9888]

LADIES: Focus on living a FULL LIFE SINGLE. I just came back from a solo Vegas trip and meet two nice gentlemen and one took me out to dinner after meeting him during a dirt bike tour! Even if I never meet these dudes again, live a life of abundance! Fitness, meal prep, hobbies, travel, etc whether you got a man or not.💕💋

[@shannon08261]

Yes 🙌🏽 please ‼️

[@vonnii1013]

I endorse this campaign lol

[@lashawnward340]

Thks, I need some excitement in my Life. Solo Trip sounds Fabulous..

[@stacybynum427]

Yesssssssss 🤗💕🤗✨

[@candidlycamille]

We as part of the blessed tribe, should all make it a girls trip next time 🖤

[@rosemarie5489]

I have a male colleague, who is in a relationship with a girl who is studying in another city. I asked him once how often do they meet. He told me, that every Friday, he drives 3 hours to her and early on Monday mornings, he comes back straight to work. And then you have men who tell their girlfriends , living in the very same city that they don't have time.

[@Nitra813]

That was me. My husband was driving 4 hours every week before he transferred to the same city but even then he was driving 2 hours faithfully to see me. Never made excuses. He made the time. Even when we went tom2 different churches. He went to his service then left and met me at my my afternoon service. If they want you they will make the time and the effort.

[@rosemarie5489]

@@Nitra813 Yes, if they want you, they will put effort to make it work. If they don't want you, they will put effort to make exuceses.

[@tamitatangoto5134]

The free love movement that started in the 60s has escalated to the point of what it is now. Men don't have to be faithful to a girlfriend or a wife,.. BECAUSE they don't even necessarily have to get a wife 😞.. because they don't have to wait to have sex for marriage,.. men would throwback their head and laugh at that outdated thought.😢😮😊 If women would just close their legs you might say then things could go back to men wanting women in marriage. However; something NOT new and perverse is happening that happened and was brought out in the Bible in Genesis, about Sodom and Gomorrah..😮 Men having sex with men. No longer a bizarre thought in many people's minds, a man will turn to another man in many cases if a woman will not put out.😊 Nobody it appears is thinking of the moral consequences. Guess what? GOD IS...HE IS THINKING ABOUT IT AND HE WILL HOLD ALL PEOPLE ACCOUNTABLE THAT ARE IMMORAL. So why am I putting this comment on this particular place. Just so you know that it is all under control,..( nobody is getting away with anything) God is not letting anybody get away with anything that they shouldn't be doing. They/We will all answer to God on their/my judgement day.🎉❤

[@tinathomas1525]

Give him the same energy he's giving you..

[@arnelevans6779]

I'm about to do that to my boyfriend. Almost a year, and now he's acting stupid.

[@avahpetit7962]

@Lovely me same here you’re not alone my sister been telling me about this guy in the video I wished I did at the first time

[@Thekingsdota]

Just leave him. Matching negative energy with a toxic person doesn't work

[@wandasconci426]

Yup

[@dabaraalfa6084]

Yeeeeeeesss

[@redeemed1352]

"Remove the desperation, the frustration, things that make you do too much, give too much, show too much. Just read and respond, let him do the talking." Amen Tony.

[@yukineswan]

I mean its true tho. It makes me think about what people have said to me years ago. "Just be yourself" but ive noticed some want to "win" so much they will deceive. Honestly tho nowadays, love is a transaction. Real love is free.

[@ebiemchioma5192]

What about reciprocating or being true to the energy he gives you. For me I don’t hold back on love. If you give me 50, I put in 50 but it seems men don’t like it that way. Maybe I should start holding back but it’s gon seem like I’m toxic. Relationship is hard.

[@kefoxxie3691]

Amen xxx

[@amberinternational]

I just met this man about a week and a half ago and I’ve have definitely been doing too much 😩 from today on... if he doesn’t call me won’t be talking and if he doesn’t text me or give me updates on what we are working on he won’t hear from me.

[@eveheart2876]

💯

[@TheBethRoszman]

This is the talk every father needs to give his teenage girl.

[@neworleansindianwells1821]

All men need to have this conversation with their daughters of all ages I think. He is speaking the truth!

[@jennymccullough9517]

But never do

[@SS-rl9bg]

I share his content with all of my sisters. Dad just doesn't know how to have these conversations because he still isn't ready for his babies to grow up.

[@Rayne1bow]

His future daughter is very lucky

[@SophisticatedTeacher]

I had that talk and still bumped my head. 🤕

[@kourtneymarie8995]

"A man needs me..& I'm the prize" I feel like women need to be told this from a young age, instead of feeling like we need a man

[@QueenKG2288]

Exactly

[@attorneymom35]

Why do I treat him like this but NOT myself.

[@thedreamer6359]

This is great

[@sweetulip2004]

They need us and we need them. It's just been more promoted on the woman side...

[@deniseharper5913]

Stop doing the most for a man that you are not exclusive with

[@toriyt2714]

Denise Harper even when exclusive it’s still not yet the time to be doing the most.

[@lesliec5339]

@@toriyt2714 how is that possible when your friends before a relationship

[@wendy2630]

One of my ex husband's jump offs thought she was something serious. Slept with him on the first night and did everything his wife wouldn't do in her words. He ended up leaving her high and dry and talking about her like a dog. She did the most for the least respect, in the end she found out she was one of many. Although she bragged that she was very experienced , he only appreciated her expertise until he didn't want her anymore. So being exclusive isn't enough, a man needs to marry a woman first and make sure he's God sent.

[@shutit4024]

wendy2630 yeah still gotta make sure it’s the right man to marry because I have men in my family that marry women but talk about them like a dog even while still being married to them ( and they talk about their ex wife’s like dogs) like you said make sure he’s god sent

[@toriyt2714]

Leslie Chung did you watch the video

[@jenniferlitanda3416]

“What you let a man do shows how you value yourself”

[@lifesjoyz4724]

So true I solely agree. I also notice women. That cling to men that have no jobs. Live with their Momma's. Some women have their own Apt. But get off work and go straight to his Momma's house. And lay up with him in his one room. 🤔 No way would I disrespect myself like that or his Mother home. They just have no self esteem.

[@labosskitty]

This was incredible ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@jenniferjohnson7225]

👋🏽

[@jenniferjohnson7225]

Jeanine Okpala i

[@candiury5994]

Love that

[@veeyanaweva]

attention all ladies, watch this over and over again until it STICKS!!!

[@julianagarces2389]

So glad I found this video and channel at 21. I cleaned my exes room trying to prove to him I was wife material, never again!! This video was a huge wake up call thank you! I’ve been praying a lot and been celibate and I know God sent me this for wisdom. Amén!

[@mft7530]

I’m so glad you saw this at such a young age! You have definitely saved yourself years of hurt. Don’t ever try to earn love from a man (or anybody really). Women have been programmed to believe that we are lesser than men & need them to survive. We don’t. If a dude leaves, let him go! Rejection is protection. You’re still super young. Don’t trip off no boy. Use discernment and take your time. Have fun!

[@tamitatangoto5134]

Me too Juliana, not giving up to no one for nothing. Only marriage is going to score this woman. That's the mistake that so many women are making they give them the one precious thing that they truly have to offer from the very depths of their being. And they give it in such a quick amount of time too. The guy doesn't have to work or want for nothing. Why should he marry her? He shouldn't and he won't.

[@jamoresworld8233]

Me too 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@jamoresworld8233]

Being young and knowing this is gonna help you so much 💜

[@paolaree8004]

How old are you now?

[@NaomiRGlee]

I always felt like if a guy was interested in me he would check on me daily.

[@theprincessdivam7695]

Exactly! I am not going to be anyone option. If I am not a priority I do not want to be bothered.

[@bre_s9164]

Hello somebody!!! 🙌🏾 Thank you!!

[@Scorpio12348]

He was checking on me daily. Sometimes 5 times daily. Too excessive. Then he was asking for intimacy. Slow down buddy. I told him no. Now I think he so gonna ghost 👻

[@claudia_90]

@@Scorpio12348 Let him ghost!👻 If he comes back, your voice mail will answer his call. No time for bs😎

[@kwash01]

@melissacolon girl the same thing is happening to me right now 🙄. He said he didn't have a problem with it but he's not texting as often anymore. I know I deserve better and so do you!

[@marblezulu8117]

Thanks to my grandma who taught me this when i was 16. She told me NEVER NEVER to chase a man bcoz i am the prize. Now im 30 and married to the most amazing husband on earth. One day i asked him why he decided to marry me from all the girls in the world, he said.. " because you made me EARN you. You never chased but i did and it made me fall in love with you bcoz it made me feel that im the man and i had to earn you." So ladies, NEVER chase. Let him do the job. He will realize your value and worth.

[@elizabethsara991]

But man coach say to Man To not chase a women ,woman coach say To not chase a Man , so am confuse

[@chrisjulian6564]

Gugue Nyathi Beautiful story. Thanks!

[@kirk1007]

That is awesome. I like hearing the man what really happened

[@TrangLe-dp8jf]

lavidavi it’s so true

[@missmarymack3457]

Bullybuc I promise I hope you get blocked.

[@elanabelcher1536]

My dad told us stories how he was a player. And never put us his daughters on game. Didn't protect us, I ended up bumping into men that were who he used to be.i had to learn completely the hard way. I am so happy you are out here being honest. God bless you and your family forever Amen.

[@user-qs7wc8xp5s]

Same sis, same 💯

[@kizzyharrison6906]

❤

[@nancythinks9159]

For someone who’s NEVER HAD A FATHER! I want to say thank you ! Some of this seems so obvious I just never had a man explain this to me. I will definitely take this advice to heart and live by it.

[@kaitlynnbroke2321]

I have a Father and I still married an abusive man because no one still explain me that they are wolves in sheep’s clothes out there.

[@Z_Israel]

@nancythinks9159.. I totally agree with you. I was just saying how I thank God for this internet brother.

[@mom2suns857]

People like him are a blessing

[@citygirl212]

I don’t understand why my dad never taught me any of this .. could have save allot of heartaches

[@unamass75]

citygirl212 check out The Daddy Daughter talk by RCBlakes

[@poeticlovee]

Mine never did either. Had to learn everything the hard way.

[@yeahthatsme921]

He was running this same game on your mom

[@rainclouds1188]

Yes Lord, agreed....

[@kelleybright3113]

Rember the old golden rule love dont hurt love is kind love is... Now u fill in ur blanks queen sistah we 2 sharp 2 play becky

[@natashanolan6311]

"If you got respiratory issues.. you going to meet the Lord." 😂😂😂 Lmao... the truth will set you free

[@kikinyte6806]

Best line of the video.... I screamed and rewinded that part 10 times

[@ayinkefaridatou5524]

🤣🤣🤣

[@mschurchgurl]

And he called the virus “the 19”...I’m done 🤣🤣🤣...his advise is sooo good tho!!!

[@jaena1015]

Natasha Nolan 😂😂😂😂🤣

[@keishaoliviab]

😂😂😂

[@monabrown101]

It's crazy true.... the moment the scales fell from my eyes, and realised that I GENUINELY didn't need/desire any man, and I was enjoying my solo (free) life (building friendships, travelling, working and pursuing my dreams, becoming healthy, being happy, etc)... it was THEN my now fiancé came into my life. Met him at work. I turned him down multiple times, because I genuinely was content with my life and being single. I couldn't be bothered with no man😂😂😂. The man should be THE ADDITION to your ALREADY- FULFILLING life. Your man should add/enhance your life....not subtract and distract you. You are the prize ladies. 🔑 🗝 🔐 💯👌🏾

[@mandycook2638]

I am a healthy single woman in her 40s, successful career, home owner, and biblically based in the way I live. I am extremely happy with where my life is going and the path ahead of me. I would love to have a companion, someone to love me and for me to love, a husband. It is sooooo difficult to find that one. What I have decided to do is pray a certain scripture, I have never spoke the scripture out loud, only prayed it on my heart. I have asked the Lord to put that scripture on the mans heart who he has set apart for me. That man will speak it to me. The God who created the whole world will make it happen when the time is right. I will be patient and excited when the time unfolds.

[@TheRealStoryOfMyLife1]

This is soooo beautiful. I think I will try this

[@dawn2166]

Wow!!! Amen to this❤🎉. Well said!

[@uniquestylist4026]

A man needs me, I am the prize

[@traquilasmith2275]

So true a man needs me im the prize

[@sabrinagoddess_]

Tracy Davis yes❤️

[@cjlanier3864]

keep thinking your the prize...it’ll only lead to no man wanting to finish the race

[@uniquestylist4026]

@@cjlanier3864 have a great day

[@nellycheruiyot9850]

😂😂😂😂

[@kellier5896]

I met this guy at the gym and we had 2 dates. Initially he would call regularly but leading up to and on Valentine's day the calls turned to texts. Then the day after Valentine's he asked me to go to his place so he could cook breakfast or lunch. I suggested that we meet somewhere for lunch. He said he had been working all week and wouldn't feel like getting out. I said well I'm not ready for home visits. He proceeded to go off, by text message. Tried to shame me. Said I have trust issues and some more junk. He said we are both too old to have that mindset. I was like, I don't know you but you be well sir. Lol

[@Mywatercrystaltv]

Class act!! 👌

[@rrb2895]

Good for you! You didn't let him manipulate you.

[@grezsoy]

Well done Kellie.

[@esthernichols4451]

Thats it. You dont know if he is crazy. You get over there, you do something to set him off, then he locks you up in his basement. Smart move!!!

[@womanofgod2948]

Proud of you Sis! 🤗

[@ecclesiastesThreeVerseSeven]

Amen, the other day i was thinking about marriage and i thought about the fact that my husband could show up tomorrow... so i asked myself if i was ready to be his wife..and the answer was no. So I told myself I would get myself together in the process of waiting

[@so.many.obstacles]

Went on a date with a guy and gave him a church hug after the date. He made not of that and was offended. I normally don’t even hug on the first date, especially a sensual hug. Our communication fizzled out after that, and I was happy about that. I knew he wasn’t going anywhere because when he texted me, he would use “u” instead of “you”. That told me that he was lazy and likes to take shortcuts. “You” is already and short word and abbreviated it is again laziness.

[@77sunflowers]

And disrespect!!!

[@patriciaearley4177]

A man shows you who he is eventually

[@KeyLoLoKye]

Always.

[@chickwitthagoodies]

@Angel Herron same here I feel so bad we can't allow ourselves to be authentic with a man anymore they just use everything against us

[@abbynnaji3881]

I hate mind games. Whats wrong with loving someone and being true to urself. Not everyone wants to go beating around d bush. If i like u i like u. With all the protocols about being distance, etc. U still see rship crash. This doesn't work for everyone. Trust me.

[@wandasconci426]

Always

[@marilynboggs2151]

Yeah it all is good when a man wants a women it really don't matter to some men they will know you are a woman that respectful will cook, clean responsible and faithful but will gets with a unfaithful player that will lay on her back fast! So you do have to be your authentic self! And let him earn your love.

[@Topself24]

Watching this makes me feel shame for my past actions. This is very insightful

[@creativgenius2]

Don’t be ashamed...you ain’t the only one...just take it as a learning experience. Most of us have learned this the hard way...but once you know...you know.

[@keshakellogg5995]

I like the saying, "When you know better, you do better." There's so much self-compassion in that. ♥️

[@amiralove3539]

We live and learn no need to feel shameful Queen now we know moving forth. I'm learning as well and getting through a situation.. very insightful

[@victoriapalferez-siri5952]

No repeating same mistakes

[@Sarafara7]

I feel you. I cringed many times like damn, I can’t believe I did that

[@hopefaithandpositivity1279]

As a a divorced women in my early 40’s with minimum dating experience, putting into practice the knowledge shared in this video will save me from future heartbreak and brokenness due to making poor decisions. Thank you, Tony! 🙏🏽☺️🙌🏽

[@joyeakodu810]

This! I'm mid 40s divorced after 16yrs. Had no idea some of this stuff.

[@leahr9038]

This makes me so sad because I didn't know I was doing everything wrong. I feel used and trashed. I wish I knew this when I was youngee

[@jjm8224]

You still have a beautiful life ahead of you, sweetie. You are precious...remember that everday.

[@chichisosweet2141]

I do too. For days I felt like trash and used and it’s my fault 🤦🏿‍♀️

[@jhssmith2004]

@@chichisosweet2141 it's fine to feel like that. i felt the same way but i think you have to feel it all so you can be re-born. now i feel like a brand new woman. do things that bring you joy, help others and take care of yourself.

[@hhhoneycomb]

Trial and error baby girl

[@isrielyoung4826]

It’s okay! Just remember you’re not where you were yesterday. A new chance, a new opportunity to exercise your self worth. Sometimes we have go through things so that we know how feels and will never accept that again

[@jmmsmh6220]

Every girl should have a brother like this.

[@psycherevivedby]

Fathers should be like this

[@tilliefoster5925]

I am 73 years old and I am impressed with the down-to-earth conversation of this man thank God for you

[@wshelby83]

Spring valley for real!!!!!

[@AllEyezOnMeTMC]

Father, uncle, cousin, friend

[@ysmithriley]

This info should be coming from your dad if he's part of your life.

[@abby-hv6ll]

i’m only 16 but i guess i’ll learn early🤷‍♀️ update: i’m turning 18 in a few days and i still listen to tony. he’s changed my life and i’m so grateful 😇

[@Trishapaytasofficial]

You're very lucky to learn this this young.

[@hope.4298]

😭😭😭

[@miafamilia158]

Yes girl pay attention

[@elizabethhennessey6437]

Pay attention Baby Girl - save yourself some heartache!

[@ItsBridjanay]

I wish I did!

[@cr625]

For a good amount of us, we wished we would have heard this message long ago to have avoided the hurt, anguish & humiliation but hearing it late rather than never helps to stop pressing the repeat button! I want to congratulate you for delivering this message and hopefully to those young ladies who will listen and follow your wise advice to avoid the sorrow of not being warned! God Bless You, child of God Tony!!✝️❤️

[@hereisayana8207]

A man said that I didn't deserve good treatment because I didn't respect myself... I had no idea what he meant by not respecting myself, now I know thanks to Tony

[@naimac2744]

Still a very nasty thing to say

[@lexxie225]

I’m glad you know what he meant now, but for any human to feel this way about another is nasty. We all deserve respect at the least until proven otherwise no matter how you treat yourself

[@hereisayana8207]

@@lexxie225 exactly these same people will turn around and show respect to rapist in the neighborhood ( inner cities on east coast), but not to nicer people that don't know how to respect themselves

[@shaunabee]

Tony is right! I’ve always heard “what are you looking for in a man” is code for “what do I have to do to sleep with you”... sounds about right 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Glamrocs]

Shauna Yup

[@farrowife9230]

If a man have to ask what you are looking for, he is not the one, he only want to know the acting role you want him to play so he can act like the one until he get what he wants from you.

[@michelewilliams1764]

A man was so mad at me, one time, because I just wouldn't cook - clean - and sleep with him. He told me that I would remain single because no one's doing what I'm doing now. I told him "the devil is a liar" I'm not doing anything like that and you can be mad all you want. He later said "I want to meet the man you'll marry and shake his hand." 😂😂😂

[@michelewilliams1764]

A man was so mad at me, one time, because I just wouldn't cook - clean - and sleep with him. He told me that I would remain single because no one's doing what I'm doing now. I told him "the devil is a liar" I'm not doing anything like that and you can be mad all you want. He later said "I want to meet the man you'll marry and shake his hand." 😂😂😂

[@TikaRoxanne]

@@michelewilliams1764 Sound like a str8 bum...mad because you aint a damn fool..he want boyfriend benefits wit no effort..sounds about right

[@wakawakaabby4779]

Any man who values a woman would create time to spend, court her properly while respecting her boundries.

[@evka24]

its simple really...if he does not invest ...he is there to take

[@lindsay5348]

Yes

[@imwatching2960]

Boys should be tought that!!!!! Wish my father had respected my mom so I could learn that early on, how to respect and value myself and not give myself away to any man. Also my brother woul have learnt to respect women.

[@almam2133]

Preach!

[@jazminerenee4077]

Amen!

[@itsmulanali]

This makes me feel better about maintaining my standards as a young woman. Dating is a bit crazy out here and some people’s standards are so low. I even had to cut off female friends because they did wife things for men that weren’t even committed to them. I had a better selection of men that treated me better than them and they got jealous. A man is going to do what you allow him to do.

[@cynthiareynolds1941]

This is so true

[@3DSuccess]

This is aligned with the scripture that includes, "A man" that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing💜

[@dimediamond]

Ladies...... Listen to this man. He giving free game out in these last days ❤

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Amen

[@monir3275]

You so funny

[@heir_born4108]

Last days 😂.....yep!

[@sylviathomas8268]

This is not game to me

[@nellyp5997]

HeirnBell I laughed at last days too 😆

[@MyVlogTherapy]

Sounds like guys go in with disrespect. I don’t have time to be a mother keeping them in check. It’s ridiculous

[@Sebasays]

I think what it is is the fact that so many women are operating with no to very low standards that men don't have to work as hard and they think that all women operate the same. So they automatically come into a situation thinking they can try you.

[@BeautifulDzyre]

Exactly. 1st sign of being tested he is cut! I don't want a man who isn't whole and coming to me reckless.

[@Scorpio12348]

Maya's Channel exactly I already am raising 3 boys! I don’t need another one! I’d rather stay alone. I’m good

[@gino6658]

Asia Wilmore very very well said 💫

[@gogoldiego]

Yes, it's like a man can be disrespectful and we have to play a game around it and can't be your true self. Thank God I'm happily married, but I didn't play all those games. I'm a giver, but directed by God. I let my husband know who I was from the beginning and he said that's what he loved about me, no games.💛✌🇱🇷

[@peterbent5690]

Shoot that was really good. I can't believe I listened to the entire video. Tony was spitting some real truths. Opened my eyes, even though this was geared toward the women. If a man really wants a woman, he will put in the work. I can attest to that because when a man really want to be with someone, he'll go all out for that special lady.

[@INOUCIT]

I believe this and this is how we know.

[@direwolf1977]

Don't play yourself bro, ain't worth it!

[@SoulBeauty1111]

Wise man!

[@drgibson4308]

Keep giving us these 💎💎💎! Listen or pay the price‼️

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

Exactly don't give too much of yourself in the beginning stages. Don't give your address or show where you live. I had a stalker 5 years ago & had to go to court for a restraining order. Please listen to Tony.

[@DynamicallyDC]

🙌🏽🙏🏽

[@alexisdykes5634]

I went through this too. You're right. 👍🏾

[@audreyandrea460]

Same.

[@lashawnward340]

Glad your ok, I'm newly single and am not looking forward to the dating drama, lol.. God Help us All !!!

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

@@lashawnward340 Thanks for the well wishes

[@wbabe2012]

He lean over to kiss, he got the 19, he showing no symptoms, now you got the 19. You got respiratory issues *Clap* Now you going to meet the Lord. 🤣😂 Went From 0 to 100 real quick

[@catherinejoyreid9637]

😂😂😂

[@prossykemigisha1708]

Hahahahaha

[@joanna6570]

I was hoping someone wrote this, man brought tears to my eyes 😂🤣😂🤣😭

[@giyawilbourn7143]

I am dyin' laughin'

[@jennieadubea6479]

Lol

[@ABitOf_Everything]

I hate I’m crying to this . Thank Hod for my baby but this the biggest heartbreak ever. I have to let him go and I can’t even bare it . Two years and my first baby. Pray for me. It’s not easy.

[@serraross14]

5 years and my first baby going through this same thing ! Praying for you.

[@ABitOf_Everything]

@@serraross14 thank you girl ... can you believe it?! 4 weeks later thanks to grace of God ! In school ! Bills paid ! Baby happy! We have to get a car and we will be great until then Uber suffice

[@user-sw4cl4yb2g]

Please believe when I tell you , you’ll be living life once you get over him , I swear by it !!! I was there and I’m living my best life right now .

[@alexp7041]

Listening again… 4 months later Needed to hear it again 🙏

[@DynamicallyDC]

📢"A man earns you when he gives you his time when he doesn't have endless time to give you!" Shift your mindset, don't be desperate & remember that you are the prize!! 🎁

[@Scorpio12348]

Demetria Calvin 💯

[@tamikamatthews4905]

Amen sis🎯

[@iamteresaspeaks]

Time ain't earring me. Consistency and kindness, just be the MAN. period.

[@DynamicallyDC]

@@iamteresaspeaks Yes, consistency and kindness should be required from a man. He has to take action to make time when his time is limited in order for his authenticity & reliability to be shown.

[@NyNativeTv]

👏🏽💯

[@jroyal2229]

My mistake was that “I talk too much.” I have most definitely nipped that in the bud. I was blind & now, I see.

[@JozelleRenia]

Crowned Virgo May you elaborate!?

[@Mbuyiselo5]

Girl we have all talked too much... Me: “I am looking for a Christian man who will be a great husband and father in the future.” Man: “Oh, I am a great Christian man and will be a great husband and father in the future.” Also me: 🤦🏾‍♀️😅

[@StandupGirl-ym3ey]

Truth!

[@chawntaewilliams9887]

that is me right now, I am learning now to enjoy the quite moments.

[@toptiernessa]

I’m guilty of this too 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@michelled.6001]

This is exactly what God has allowed me to start learning, and I have tried to tell other women, and they argued me down. Thank You, God, I am getting it and You are teaching me. Thank you for being a vessel Tony. Keep up your ministry beloved. 🖤

[@karenhenline1906]

Brilliance !. Thankfully I had a Daddy who taught me these things, and It served me well. I have three grown sons, two of which are married now....ages 32, 36 and 38... And I can tell you, even though I tried my best to teach them that every woman they meet, is somebody's daughter, or somebody's sister....and even though they are Godly , good men, They have done exactly as Tony says. It has to be in the male genes, ladies. So women must adapt and do exactly as Tony says, if you want the love and family God would want FOR you. Blessings to you Tony. Every single woman deserves these teachings !

[@ivla871]

He just confirmed that everything I have been doing is the right way, despite being called old fashioned by some grown boys. God bless this man, his wife, his children and children's children.

[@ms.gracefullybroken8724]

A M E N

[@dominiquelove1825]

I get the same thing, they tell me I move to slow… 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@rud3boifitness716]

Are y’all married yet?

[@la6136]

@@rud3boifitness716 Are you??

[@susanhampton9671]

No, they are irritated they can't use you or play you for a fool. @@dominiquelove1825

[@btfields323]

After hearing dont do this, dont do that....honestly, im tired. Dating is like taking the SAT. With all the preparations and studying, its so overwhelming. Maybe i should just stay single🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@lavonnajackson9491]

Right, I get the essence of his message, don't be thirsty, however it comes across as some type of a game, where if you do this or that you can "win" a man, very Steve Harvey like. At the end of the day, love yourself and you'll attract what you reflect, you are the prize!

[@dannym6552]

for 2020 -- might be a good idea :)

[@BeautyWorld85]

Riight I was thinking the same thing. Ain’t nobody got time for these games. If two people like/love each other let’s show it.

[@microbito66]

I don’t see it as a game. I think Tony basically teaches us that we have to love ourselves enough, just like everyone else tells us, the difference is he explains specifically what that means and how a woman that loves herself acts. 💗💗 he breaks it down beautifully

[@emtee3098]

A lot of men approach dating as a game. It's important to be hip to it so that you can protect yourself.

[@anitad2632]

Our standards will raise the bar, but unfortunately there are a lot of broken people in the world. I enjoy my single life and have accepted that I may never get married, due to there being very few men with character that are actually available and looking. But I love my life, and my freedom, and there is nothing wrong with being single!!❤

[@tenaviadarlene]

This is literally everything I’ve always known and held dear to me, but dudes so used to getting the same treatment from women, they all expect the same from you. So, when you come different they look at you like you weird for wanting to take your time to get to know them. I learned I was attracting men who only wanted me for my body. I started learning how to peep these signs from the go and I just been turned off since cause I’m not one to play. So until it’s my time, I’m good. I would rather be chillin by myself than getting played by the wrong man.

[@valw7422]

"Keep it cordial for the first 10 dates". Such great advice!

[@jazzcabbage6759]

Benny Hue not if he really wants you

[@jazzcabbage6759]

Benny Hue based on the KZbin videos you watch, you fear women and being cheated by them. You have a skewed view of all women

[@feliciamesadieu6924]

I hollered when he said “he got that 19” 😂🤣😂🤣🤣😂🤣😂....TONY NEVER CEASES to MAKE me SCREAM IN LAUGHTER!!!! So I’m done saying “the Rona” ... it’s “that 19” 😂🤣😂

[@MzSam2U]

I will only say that 19 going forward

[@jazminerenee4077]

Felicia Finished The Book same 😂😂😂

[@tanitrarobinson7477]

Lol lol lol...my spleen hurt! That 19....

[@TikaRoxanne]

Right lol black folk always nicknaming something 😆

[@chelseak7791]

I did too lmbooo

[@shanaqueenbee]

He not lying about nothing ladies don’t fall for it

[@naomimankrado8510]

Literally can't break eye contact with him. Lord, please send me a man like this!

[@cherh]

When you know your worth you move different. You're worthy Queen! Bless up blessed tribe! 💫✨

[@CoachHC]

Preach!!

[@coachnatishamommatish185]

HeyA Cher!!! Got dat right sis!!! You do move different when you kno you worths!!! I am so grateful for Tony's self love course!!! Have great day Cher.😌💃❤

[@coachnatishamommatish185]

@@CoachHC Amen

[@cherh]

@@CoachHC 🌸❤

[@cherh]

@@coachnatishamommatish185 Hey love! You're right! His teaching really does change you. 🌸❤

[@mariahsmith9283]

Tony just taught me how to get a husband without giving the flower up.

[@cynthiastevens8302]

Getting married has always been so easy for me its choosing the right one that's my problem.i always meet men that want to get married.

[@faithsintamei2333]

@@cynthiastevens8302 give me your life sis😹😭

[@kendrap.hudson7362]

I am a woman over 50. This is the only way I know to do it. With that said, these men to include “Christian” men are pushing a whole different agenda. They want everything but marriage. I had to be content with my standards. If it’s meant to be, he will find me.

[@vonaustin609]

@@cynthiastevens8302 meeee tooo.. I have a drawer full of rings but.. I think they ask me as a last stich effort... and they won't take the dang ring back even when I say I don't know .. or no... its the craziet thing !!

[@mft7530]

@Von Austin a drawer full of rings?? Gurl. You betta write yo book! You sitting on a goldmine. Blk women especially have been sold a bunch of bunk that spot of us have absorbed and low key are afraid is true. You are clearly not having THAT problem. Lol

[@michellebrown3207]

HE FIRST NEEDS TO EARN THE LOVE OF CHRIST, SO HE NEEDS GOD IN ORDER TO LOVE ME. THIS IS THE PROBLEM IN OUR WORLD. VALUE, RESPECT, ACCOUNTABLE, AND FAITH ALL PKAYS A BIG PART.

[@amberinternational]

Having a man teach you these things is priceless. My dad wasn’t around and my mother didn’t bring other men around her kids. She just worked everyday. I had 3 brothers growing up so by time I got to the dating world I had soooo much to learn. I wish I would have known these things as a young girl.

[@tamikadaniels7850]

This man is heaven sent. Tony Gaskins kudos to you.

[@cynthiamorley620]

Amen

[@4LADYSWEET]

💯

[@elizabethschilling7178]

Agree with you!! 👏🙌

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Facts only

[@ifeoluwayomi9053]

Factsssss. This video is meant for me 😂

[@vchild]

Mirroring is crucial.. Don't over extend yourself. Amen! This is very important. Thank you for this great message.

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Very very important

[@Dreamsareareality]

It's so true. Some women do too much.

[@serentalina401]

I hear another guy say the same thing but he said it like this, "give a man the same energy he gives you".

[@stevietstevens9384]

So true Tee. Seems like a lot of our women (meloenated women) treat them as if we're their mothers (washing their clothes, cooking for them, watching their kids, having their babies) and get nothing in return.

[@wowso4]

Tee Key so true I guess this can also apply to other relationships

[@nataliepiatek]

I’m 19. I’m so grateful I can learn all of that and forgiving myself and doing better without mistakes. ❤️

[@rashaycollins5328]

I’m 19 years old, and this is great wisdom I just got out of a relationship and I always been the the type of lady to treat others with kindness and just been so giving, and me not having a father in my life was a bit of a set back, but I been so focused on becoming who god wants me to become and just becoming so much better for myself, I truly appreciate your wisdom especially because you’re a married men and I would constantly get advice from ppl that are not married let alone can’t keep a man around so Thankyou for teaching me the game😊

[@whitneyhampton8749]

I’ve been dating wrong for years! 😩🥴. Thank god for new knowledge! Definitely taking time off from dating this year just to grow as a woman!

[@andrealmorris8576]

Whitney Hampton 19 stopped the dating already

[@potajonapotaje9158]

Thank God you smart and young, I am 50 wishing I knew💗💗💕

[@lateriaquionne2283]

Mee too sis im 31

[@owe1255]

This video makes me angry, not because I disagree with what you are saying, but because alot of us were disarmed before we even got in this whole dating game. Its one thing not to teach your kids these realities, but it another thing to disarm your kids and breakdown their small sense of self esteem and self worth because you as a parent are messed up. Thank you for teaching us these things Mr.Gaskins, at least somebody is willing to teach us right. I know its not to late for me but if I was prepared, I would have avoided a whole lot of embarrassment, humiliation, and heartache.

[@tanitrarobinson7477]

Ew chile... amen!

[@misslauraj2756]

Well, thank God for another chance to get it right. We can love again. This time the right person in due season.

[@marshannajohnson8584]

Thank you! I could not have said it better myself. I actually cried while watching one of his videos because I couldn't believe how wrong I had been doing things. I could have been in a great committed relationship had I known these things a long time ago

[@intuitivespiritmanifested4459]

Right

[@FightsRightsAlways]

Gurl, were we raised in the same household or did our parents study the same manuscript, that encouraged them not to prepare us for life in a realistic way??

[@chi-chi7224]

Ommmgg I’m 28 and so thankful I’ve found this video!!! I feel so free from my unintentional stupid mistakes!!! Thank you. God bless you

[@elizabethjenkins7794]

This was a powerful and anointed message. I received this message. May God continue to use you, to help people to get in right standing to be ready to live in positivity, in every aspect of life in Jesus name

[@goldenglowladore3842]

I agree. Amen!

[@millie1988able]

So glad my last relationship didn't work because I didn't know my worth then. I gained so much new knowledge watching your channel. My mindset shifted!

[@claudia_90]

:)

[@traquilasmith2275]

Mildred casseus i agree with you i was the same way before. Now my mind set has changed alot more. I learned alot by watching Tony videos he keeps it real truth. Im learning and growing im proud of my new knowledge mind set and i know my worth and value. Don't settle for less. God bless everyone.

[@sylviathomas8268]

Amen!!!!! I really appreciate this eye opening information

[@shayyree]

Same girl! I made a lot of mistakes! I know my worth now.

[@pennynewman4475]

Mmmm so true

[@amaliastar1244]

I'm so tired of relationships! Why the hell is it so complicated. This is giving me anxiety.. I just want to be myself.

[@phyliciahenry2068]

It’s all about changing our mindsets. Show up as your authentic self ALWAYS but we have to read these men and react accordingly. Dating is our way to chose the RIGHT partner based on these set of standards that Tony is hipping us to.

[@andream89]

@@truthseeker44 go for a walk order food delivery and eat it at the park. Any outdoor activities

[@queensmith856]

I'm definitely feeling the same way . I innerstand *BREATHE*

[@tiawannarichmonde250]

Women don't necessarily need a man. They're good to have if the relationship brings you peace. If it doesn't bring you peace, he's not from God. And most womens' mistakes and heartbreaks are due to not consulting God first about the man. I always say that a man will only reveal what he wants you to know about him, but God knows his heart. This is why we need God at the forefront of any relationship.

[@kimorajohnson8819]

Yes I agree it’s different when your a natural flirt & don’t realize your flirting until your doing it.

[@HealingHoney]

This one of them videos you gotta save + replay! Teaching us things school never could.. things some of our parents never taught us. So grateful for your words. 🙏🏽

[@IndependentPrettyGirlis]

OMG, just changed my life watching this

[@rml8701]

I am 54 years old female and everything this young man is saying is true...,.ladies, ladies please listen!!!!

[@olgaharris1103]

I’m 72…ladies please listen!!! 🤗

[@JonahzsaTerry]

Thank you OG

[@robertpinckney535]

@@JonahzsaTerry Well, I don't think Tony is 'Old'. So technically he is not an O.G. He probably is forty-one or younger? But, he is somewhat wise.

[@cynthiareynolds1941]

Yes! This is so true

[@cubanadelrey]

I forgive myself for how I behaved before I knew better. Now that I know better, Ima do better 🙏🏼 Thank you Tony.

[@gayle2020]

Excellent advice!!

[@journeywithme_erika1890]

Amen Sis! Thank you for this. I forgive myself for every behavior committed in ignorance and now I hold myself accountable to be better now that I have learned better.

[@victoriamonari]

Amen me too ❤

[@victoriaharris4691]

Im listening to this over and over again because I've come to realize the mistakes that I've made. If i had this knowledge prior to my past situationships coupled with listening and obeying the message. I would have made better decisions. (Real Talk) Thanks Tony for being a willing vessel in exposing the game some of these grown boys be playing keep up the good work your wife is a blessed woman I admire how you praise her.

[@saradigota7201]

this man gorgeous and got real talk. love it

[@jazminerenee4077]

14:35😂😂😂 let him earn your love ladies if you want to have a husband. Don’t let these men run anything especially in the earlier stages. I pray for clarity , humbleness, and discernment over you all.

[@michelewilliams1764]

Absolutely. Give him no more than what he gives you. Wait for him. I messed up before and was the only one reaching out.

[@moniquemoss7802]

I work 67 hours a week and he still makes time to come see me,

[@Mrs_Canary]

How to vet a man @27:00. 👏👏 u r a rare man for not looking down on her for not cooking and cleaning. I swear I heard this what a wife is my whole life.

[@marquita7694]

Gosh, I needed this 2 months ago!!! Still learning at 37...smh

[@libbymills4432]

Congrats! You're ahead of the game. I didn't Awaken until I was 55. Keep Shining!

[@clarissegomez9275]

Still learning at 39 dont worry 😂

[@clarissegomez9275]

@@FA9082 say who ? You ? God is in control of our life not humans who say its over...its not over until God say its over... Ur talking pure ignorance !!

[@fa_lee_lee2133]

Don't feel bad.. I'm 48!!! It's NEVER too late to learn!!

[@ladyjvlogs7463]

I am still learning at 41.. I haven't dated in two years.. I know the game has changed alot ,so I think I will take my time this go round..

[@febpiscean6418]

Oh lord I was talking to this guy and REALIZED I WAS TALKING TO MUCH. All I could here was TONY in my head & shut my mouth...

[@kizzyrock]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@LoveSierraDenae]

Same lol

[@joyb5353]

🤣🤣😂😂😂 we got the same problems..

[@rubyred9834]

feb piscean lol 😆 I know what you mean. I experienced that before.

[@patricebarrett5845]

Right done told this ____ but my ssn smh

[@lo.p4089]

I'm so glad I found this video. Realised I just made a total fool out of myself, and have been doing it all wrong. I'm saving this to remind myself. And we should be showing this to our daughters.

[@Dr.Thandi]

“If he that good, that comes from PRACTICE!” 😮

[@gerrileylucas3318]

"You going to meet the lord" took me out 😅😅😅

[@Dreamsareareality]

😂😂😂😂

[@KeshB27]

😂😂😂 I hollered so hard when he said it 😂😂

[@joywambui7664]

😂😂😂😂😂😂I thought I was the only one

[@annettesolomon1347]

Class is in session , you took us to school on this one

[@beaustique9712]

Annette Solomon Agreed sis!! I was like, “Check, did that wrong. Yep, that one too! Even this one!” Damn 😧😣

[@delovelyday430]

Right🤔

[@SabievannessaVanne]

For real!! Idk how I even got here but I’m subscribed now 🙏🏽

[@marshalogan8858]

@@SabievannessaVanne Me too

[@marshalogan8858]

@@beaustique9712 Yes. Same here

[@chynabarnescb]

Man this is heart felt never too old to learn and become the woman God called you to be…🙏😇

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

A man needs me. I am glad that I stopped settling. I am the prize. 🙏🏽💕🦋☀️🎁

[@ChaeThompson]

Mindset is everything

[@Its_paulaaaaa]

Is anyone laughing while watching this !! Dude your personality is A1!! Thanks for teaching me something

[@katc6812]

Girl!!! He has me rolling on the damn Florida sometimes.....

[@rollacloster]

Girl when he said you going to meet the lord cuz you got respiratory issues and got that 19, I almost fell out.

[@marlajones2514]

Harlem Globetrotters! He is too much.

[@rue4619]

Hahaha, i usually dread listening to these relationship videos, can be too serious sometimes, but this is my second Tony gaskins video and i feel so empowered and happy!

[@angelicadeleon9373]

Tony, I love you my Brother in Christ!✝️💜 Thank you for caring about us women and helping us to make informed decisions. You are doing God work because you are being selfless and informing us and telling us how you were and how you changed- pouring out your heart and soul with your testimony 🙏🤗

[@ang_ro]

I've been with my boyfriend 7 months now and I still have yet to cook for him. 😆😆 We gon be living together before he gets that privelege

[@telesialoyd8084]

Mr. Gaskins, I’ve been single for over a year now. I’ve never went this long without being in a relationship or situationship. I’m so proud of myself, I’ve been doing the work: reading, watching videos and loving myself. I never thought I would be this happy being alone. God is Great.... I try to be the best person I can be daily.... continue to let God pour into you and you pour into us...God Bless you...

[@riorio-rt1oq]

Me 4yrs

[@Blueberry-ij4de]

me 7yrs, 37 yrs old and still willing to wait until the Lord blesses me with the right man. Have worked a lot on myself and still learning.

[@telesialoyd8084]

@@Blueberry-ij4de God Bless you and We WILL GET WHO GOD HAVE FOR US!!!

[@shns3ma]

Me going on 2 years and I am so proud of myself. I have peace like never before.

[@destanisdestiny]

After just 10 months of marriage with verbal, mental and physical abuse , I thank God for this brother Tony . Watching his videos have pushed me to separate from my husband for the safety of me and my kids !! I’m going BACK HOME. 😭🏃‍♀️🙌🏽

[@ashleyjay56]

Destanis Destiny yess. Know your worth and never let no piece of crap dishonor the lord by putting his hands on you. God loves you and you must love yourself. God bless

[@deemcghee-piepie3089]

Are you okay? 🙏

[@v.i.butterfly4779]

Good for you my sis….. May Jehovah bless and Cover you under his protective wings. I too am a survivor of Mental, Emotional and more so Physical abuse for 6 years. I knew when I had enough and I left. God is a good God!!!! We’ll be okay!!!!!

[@ms.gracefullybroken8724]

I’m happy for you love. Get on ur bike & pedal like hell back to safety.

[@bettysuber2486]

Hey Destanis, just saw this was a year ago. How are you doing now. Are you safe

[@syduniversoul]

This was amazing, felt like a father or big brother was speaking to me! Lol thank you 🙏🏾

[@alyssaxmora]

this is a real man right here

[@tamikadixon2011]

I stopped auditioning for a role I was created to play...I'll wait! Thanks Tony you always speak that real talk!

[@ANB44955]

Tamika Harris MESSAGE!!!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@mae1062]

"If you ain't gat an hour a day to give you shouldn't be dating" ..i felt that

[@inesmith8431]

I see why this video has 1M views. This is an entire life lesson in 1 video!! Wow!!

[@sebclay1526]

Tell it Tony. With that being said....this man has done so much within a year .Quality time and he has done so much. With a church hug. Lol.😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉