Let It Go! - Part 1

Have you ever been afraid of letting yourself go? The ladies of 'The Real" share their real-life experiences, in this Girl Chat. Check it out, then join the conversation below in the comments.

[@manny1488]

Women are so hard on themselves. Not wearing makeup, not being super thin, not getting your eyebrows/nails etc done is NOT letting yourself go. It's personal choice and we are not obliged to do these things. Be healthy, happy and hygienic and that's all that matters!

[@daintyann1795]

Manny insecure women

[@marikboo]

Manny I was thinking the same thing. According to their standards I've been letting myself go my whole life.

[@dianajorgeloyalones6083]

Manny So True💯

[@osimeon00]

Lol. If women stopped doing those things, there wouldn't be any man to marry or procreate with. Be free and alone for the rest of your life. Lmao

[@alexianicole7268]

Amen

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

I was super insecure at a size 0. Then at a size 10 I was still insecure. Went back to a size 6 and improved a bit because I changed my view a bit. If it's not my weight, it's my nose. If it's not my nose, it's my hair. That's when I realized I have to learn to love myself no matter what I look like cause I'll always find something to obsess over if I don't.

[@leaderoftaehyungnation9766]

gigglyfitzgirl PREACH 👏👏👏👏

[@leaderoftaehyungnation9766]

gigglyfitzgirl I just realised that when you don't write a shady comment, you don't get as many replies but I love this comment so much because it's so *TRUE*

[@xxsasunaruyaoi13xx]

gigglyfitzgirl true

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

Hadja kamagate Combination of getting sick, hormonal imbalances and being bedridden

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

Eugene Lee Thank you! Yeah people don't pay attention to the more positive ones but there's nothing I can do about that lol

[@elliecasta1145]

Adrienne needs to have a baby and see the reality of that for herself. Hormones are no joke. And post partum depression is cruel to your mind. Some women have "let themselves go" while depressed. That year and a half that tamera mentioned is a reasonable time frame to get your mind stable again after having a child.

[@tinytowz4471]

Elizabeth Castaneda I see what you mean; yet, no one NEEDS to have a baby, tho.

[@jjtt850]

SHOTS FIRED !!! That "certain people" was Tamar Braxton ladies and gentlemen ( Real fans know Tamar was always trying to get Loni to stop wearing them beannies)

[@chronicles6065]

yup. I remember that because Tamar did not that specific beanie Loni used to wear, for the Christmas episode Tamar bought her a new up to date beanie.

[@hidayakhalaf4271]

Jay 2.0 omg I was just about to say she's talking about Tamar!

[@alvinbriankyle]

Flawless shade

[@romustlive]

🌴🌴🌴

[@cnf2368]

Yeah I remember that episode

[@aminamousa]

Adrienne said: "a year and a half?!?!?!" to Tamera. YES ADRIENNE, let her take 10 years if she wants too lmao

[@NappyLove41]

She'll understand when she has kids. It takes a while for your body and mind to heal and adjust.

[@maloumasereel966]

Amina Mousa Plus... your partner should love you for YOU! As long as I don’t let my personality “go”, it should be fine!

[@maric8423]

Damn Tamera You're looking so fine girl 😍

[@khodascope]

Mari C for real. It's that red, my god.

[@oneilgerald]

Mari C It is DEFINITELY that red!

[@jocelynr7174]

She always be slaying

[@WellthyAndYou]

Adrienne was so shocked that Tamara said a year and a half until she got her groove back. Just wait Adrienne until you have kids. Getting back into that groove can be really hard.

[@2436golden]

Andreana W That's exactly what I was thinking, I cannot wait until Adrienne have a child. She has no idea how becoming a mom will change not only her life, but her body as well. Or how long it takes to find or redefine yourself after you have a child.

[@xxsasunaruyaoi13xx]

I let myself go all the time at the age of 22 and when I do dress up, people look shocked LOOOOOOL

[@nicolevillafuerte4983]

Hisoka Joka same right I go out with my pjs sometimes and I get stare bc of it lol

[@mekaylasmith5307]

this is me!!

[@mariarendon3032]

I let 'my self go' for 8yrs only because I was focused on my kids. Now that my youngest is 3 I'm in the best shape of my life and at my lowest weight and my children love to exercise with me. But I got majorly criticized for getting 'so fat' by my mother and sisters. My husband now looks at old pictures and says he does no remember me being that big lol

[@usadrones]

Maria Rendon congrats on winning the battle to get back to you! There's nothing like falling in love with yourself all over again!

[@almafigueroa7892]

i sense some SHADE coming from Loni to Tamar

[@danigal5804]

Alma Figueroa yes. mmhhmm

[@user-si6gs3ne8l]

Alma Figueroa throwing shade like it's sunny

[@Charmedbykhy]

The only people who keep bringing Tamar up are you and other Tamar fans. She is no longer in the show get tf over it! Let her and other ladies on the The Real live damn!

[@danigal5804]

Khadiya S what! ?!? How is she not letting them live? A spades a spades. Calling someone out on something doesn't mean she's toting feelings for Tamar. Tamar always talked about Loni's travel beeni and that's the only person we know had a problem with Loni "letting go." So it's an observation, nothing with not letting them live.

[@shantem92]

Well if it was Tamar started it. I don't think it was Shade but it was a situation that happened and she just told her opinion!

[@reppinghana]

That Tamar shade that Loni threw though!

[@chipotleobsessed]

reppinghana please explain

[@chantelshernelle7722]

@Chipotle from previous shows tamar always got onto loni for wearing those ugly beanies, she shady saying "certain people" cant tell her what to wear

[@chipotleobsessed]

chantel shernelle ohh okay thank you!!

[@chantelshernelle7722]

lool ur welcome!!😂

[@teri_p]

reppinghana shady boots, I felt it in trachea

[@TheElsaAlvarado]

Tamera is a fantastic example of a GOOD mother who sacrifices all for her kids. It is normal to sacrifice a bit for your kids, so I am happy she is taking care of herself now that her kids are older.

[@MsMoses-hs5cz]

I can't wait for Adrienne to have a child because she'll be able to relate to mothers. It's not easy Adrienne and I really hope you don't suffer from postpartum because that's real too! And it would most likely hit you because you look at vanity as a way to be. Plus you spent a long time just thinking of yourself. Your life changes in a heart beat and there ain't no going back.

[@MajesticMyronn]

To me just because someone has a little bit of weight on them doesn't mean they don't care for themselves or are "unhealthy" if they wanna lose weight... That's their business ! If they gain weight , it's THEIR business ! How about no matter what is going internally and externally in our bodies is important HOWEVER how about we just love ourselves no matter how we look

[@somebody7538]

This conversation is really upsetting for me. I was in an abusive relationship for years and forced to wear ugly clothes, no makeup, no skincare products, no razor sometimes and I knew people were always judging me in public. Sometimes you really don't know what people are going through. I never let myself go on the inside.

[@jenhampton1627]

I wish for you to be surrounded by love inside and out. The very best for you and to you.

[@alec9358]

Adrienne gurrrl....hope you don't eat your words...I use to always say the same "I'm not going to let go of myself after marriage and baby"..,but as soon as I had my precious baby nothing else matter but my child needs!!

[@Fatima-rz9vt]

You matter too though...your husband matters... All you guys matter so take care of yourself first your husband will definitely appreciate that and so where your child because they will look up to that. But of course this comes with time no one is doing all this right after a baby.

[@pinkstaaa]

Ive been loving Loni's comments lately. She seems more honest and open to talk about things now as opposed to before.

[@chanyisme]

Yep! You do go through A LOT mentally after having a baby. That's the part women don't tell you about.

[@BeautifulDreamerK]

iloveu85 had no idea. You hear about post partum depression but now it's interesting to hear that you do go through this mentally after a baby. I feel we need to talk about this more! Thanks for sharing 😘

[@ashalissasmith7273]

Yessss Tamera! I did exactly the same thing. When I frightened myself it was time to take action despite what other people were saying about binding bellies or i should have lost weight if I was breastfeeding etc.... meh... about a year after my last son was born I worked on me and all the weight fell off. I was smaller than I had ever been. Don't let society or men dictate these things to you ladies. My journey is on my fb page. I also had adrenal fatigue as well as hypertension and it all went!

[@8SeventeenForever]

Tamar reference at 3:10. In fact, I remember how annoyed Loni would look whenever Tamar referenced her beanies. You gotta let people be. Not everyone is or want to look glam 24/7 🙄

[@29rare]

I read a book over getting my nails done. And I'd do that every single day. It's not important, to me, to look good or whatever. If my husband is home I don't care if I'm wearing sweats and a bun. Beauty fades people... I didn't get married for my husband or anyone else to expect me to look a certain way. I got married, because we love each other for our souls. That never fades.

[@NinaCassiePour]

First the Tamar shade on wendys "I saw TIA", now this? SHOTS FIRED MOVE MOVE MOVE 😈😈

[@monicabuzorubio7770]

I caught that too! "certain people" aka Tamar!

[@cozychaos9021]

I can't stop staring at Loni! Her makeup is sooo gorgeous!!

[@DeniseF]

Tamera "i didn't shave..ANYWHERE" 😅

[@Anaxo90]

Tamera looks so good! That color is everything on her😍

[@smartinez7561]

I dress comfortably at home my man dont mind it cus he do the same Adrienne exageratin tf i aint going to be all dressy at home i cook clean and look after my kids so Im bound to get dirty is easy for her cus she prob dont got to do any of that..But you besta believe that when he takes me out I dress up and put on my makeup and be leavin him breathless😱😊

[@genavievec]

Yup I hated when Tamar used to tell Loni to stop wearing her hat to the airport ! Soooo happy that lady is off this amazing show.

[@sandyboo2]

Lmao I'm 24 and I don't give a damn about what people think. If I don't put on makeup or I don't dress up don't talk to me. Lol

[@1rkhachatryan]

Ya'll hush, literally every girl at that table has told Loni to burn that damn beanie. Jeanie straight up threw the thing away when Tamar wasn't even there lol.

[@07sarida]

dude im 22 and couldnt give a rats about if im labeled as letting myself go. with the busy hectic lifestyle i live. i just wanna relax and be lazy. if im seen as letting myself then so be it.

[@eveaugustine8197]

Love it , THE REAL KEEPS GETTING BETTER AND BETTER GOD BLESS YOU ALL IN THE REAL

[@Mel__21]

As a mom, A year & a half is right !

[@joneywoney2034]

my sister and i are in our twenties and i must say throughout my life i've never looked at my mother as letting herself go physically but mentally she did. we're fortunate enough that she didn't need to work so she stayed home with us and i appreciated that so much but now i wish she hadn't because shes at a point where shes kinda lost and i feel so bad. so now im determined to help her find her way like she did with me. no one should come down on a mother for letting herself go but i do think its important to have people in your life that can check you.

[@101stylesiheart]

Well spoken Tamera...not everyone can and want to bounce back right away...we created life..can we chill for a minute?!! As for Adrienne, girl you havent even been married for 6 months so PLEASE come talk to us when ya'll have been together 5+ years and u have to run around babies all day trust me that gown will be LONG GONE!!!! no hate just the truth!

[@miranehoussein]

Anybody catch that loni talked about her beanie that TAMAR always brought up 😂

[@Shalayah2010]

I really don't see the issue with Tamera always talking about her kids and her husband. She just speaks to a those who can relate to her and that is all the moms out there. I don't see nothing wrong with that.

[@lovespooh13]

I loved the way tamera was talking and her hand communication haaaa

[@jasmontrell7236]

thank you Tamara! I Love what she said about when you become a mother ooh my goodness thank you!

[@cindychelsea]

As soon as Loni said 'Certain People' i came straight to the comments hahahahhaha

[@natashaphillips4806]

Bap bap! Shots fired indeed. The moment Loni started talking about ppl being disapproving of her traveling attire, I had to pause the video and come straight to the comments section....😂😁

[@beamerbenz546]

I'm actually going through that "let it go" period of time, but let me tell you how much more fun I'm having right now and how much more comfortable I feel. Theirs honestly nothing to worry about unless your really not letting yourself go too far. I ain't worried about it because I know I will get my groove sooner or later💁🏻.

[@ImPerfectlyTwitta]

THANK YOU!!! I KNEW I WASN'T THE ONLY ONE THAT CAUGHT THAT SHADE FROM LONI

[@tab0108]

Lmao Tamar told Loni she was looking raggedy at the airport 😂😂😂

[@fatima4404]

That Wendy interview triggered Loni. She's slyly been shading Tamar lately.

[@KaliElaine]

so true. Let ppl find there groove again. I know i fell off but I'm getting my groove back on my own terms

[@EssentialBalance777]

I love these LADIES! ❤💞💞😩

[@LIZZyNIqUZZ10]

Tamera's hair, outfit, and makeup looks soo on point👌

[@Rehptawr]

Loni, I love ya but Ima have to disagree with you here. As someone with depression, and having many people in my life with depression I think it's important to be able to acknowledge when somebody has "let themselves go". Because when the person starts to look dingy, has un brushed hair, and looks like they haven't showered, it is a sign of depression. So when I ask my friends if they're letting them selves go its not me asking are you getting lazy its me asking are you okay? do you need help? What can I do? However I do enjoy the serious topics from time to time I think it's important to discuss them and bring light to them. :)

[@tinytowz4471]

Rehptawr Amen!

[@akuaaso]

amen!! thank you Tamera!! I am 3 months post delivery, I am experiencing everything you just mentioned. I'm finding who I am again, I am a makeup artist and to tell you the truth is don't even remember the last time I wore makeup. went from 127lbs pre pregnancy to 155lbs post pregnancy. I am loving every bit of my life, and more so because I am finding who I am again. my baby is my priority (I've shaved btw 😂😂) but everything is else, 😏😏 my baby is so beautiful and I keep her so well kept that I tend to forget to keep myself up too. hope to get myself back again, hopefully it won't take a year and half though 😅

[@dianajorgeloyalones6083]

Defiantly Agree With You Ladies💯💯

[@jolenehurtado1363]

I feel like adrienne is always kinda judging moms a bit. Like when tamara said she found herself after a year and a half she thought it is too much, or she criticizes tamara when she says she's too tired to have sex. Like... don't judge something you know nothing about. Have a couple of kids and then talk. Having kids is incredibly exhausting and on top working, taking care of a home, husband... its crazy. Tamara time is pretty accurate for me, it also takes me about a year to get back in my groove.

[@smartinez7561]

Jolene Hurtado ik i stopped giving her the time of day since she said that spouses have to nice to our husbands cus thats why they leave to another women like TF u talking about if u not a wife dont talk about what we shud b doing bih stay in your lane this was before she was married

[@maggief1851]

University made me let myself go in terms of style, hair and makeup but I 'm still healthy and workout.

[@bebeheart5128]

I do think women feel pressured to keep themselves together and it sucks, especially after you have kids. A lot of people expect you to snap back like some other women four weeks but it doesn't work that way, at least for not all women.

[@TeamJones]

Love what Tamera said! It really is alot having a child.

[@goooglia]

loni doesnt gaf anymore. no more brown liqor and bacon jokes. she more serious now

[@wendybendy9454]

All these lady's have Great advice for different types people ...

[@erica-bm1ke]

OH SNAP LONIS SUBBING TAMAR. I hope Loni didnt think that would go unnoticed because Tamar use to say it alot lol we remember Loni!!! But on a serious note, your friends are suppose to tell you when you look a hot mess so loni should be happy someone was honest with her lol

[@elishab4506]

I agree with Toni, in part 2 of this segment, adrienne was basically like why ya aint tell me i was getting fat! lmao all of a sudden loni has a problem with tamar? Bye Loni, have several seats and get your life!!

[@Shashayaway]

Tamera! very well spoken as always!

[@rivereve13]

Loni threw shade at Tamar!! Oohhh it's about to go down!! Lol

[@Globbertv]

I wish they would talk about other stuff going on in the world. They need to revamp the show, maybe go live?!?

[@irenealvarez6094]

Right!!, they keep on recycling topics i.e. talking about their personal lives all the damn time, did they ever talk about trump's & his sick administration ridiculous deeds, I was rooting for em when they debut, but it seems like they shouldn't have a talk show lol

[@haychj8567]

Irene ALVAREZ what are you talking about, that's the whole point of the show, most of us love when refer to their personal lives because it's relatable... It's why the shows called the Real.

[@javiruiz780]

Yes they need to go live like Wendy Williams or the view

[@minidocstv3339]

BawdyVlogger I know that is not a pic of shanene miss that show lol, yes GREAT idea go live!

[@mrsbts3882]

They are going live this season. Guess they read your comment.

[@miriammatos5354]

Loving Tamera's look !!! 😍

[@taniahoque9525]

I think Its not about letting go! its about whatever lesson learned in life! This is how we grow! Anybody with me?

[@simonemcmillion7862]

Listennnnn.... (I know this is old...but...)A year and a half as Tamera said, is SUPER REALISTIC!! As a mom, a year FLIES BY!!! and (my opinion) you need that time to refocus, so I hear you girl!!

[@pd96851]

All of these outfits on this day were slaying ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@dimplepascua3921]

Tamera gives me so much mommy feels. I'm at the stage of my life when I definitely have let myself go.

[@johnjohn4048]

i swear sometimes i don't even know when loni is serious or not from her being so sarcastic all the time lol

[@sparkle1derful]

America with their magazines and their standards and their beauty rules and their Donald trump 😒. Y'all can keep all that.

[@emilybecerril4325]

Giiiiiirl I hope this show is still on when Adrienne has kids and is married for 5 years. I haven’t let myself go after being with my husband for 6 years with two kids but I definitely notice I pay attention to other things instead of my appearance.

[@stephaniem2119]

they all look so nice makeup on fleek today yasssss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@gittihernandez3481]

I think you have to have a balance in your life and it's so true what tamara said if your man loves you he will support you every step of the way so Adrienne don't stress enjoy this wonderful journey , life and embrace it I'm not saying let it go but don't stress about it ❤️

[@alwaysandra5111]

so funny this topic came up. I was losing myself once I had my first child. because she was my everything and I would always focus and her. and I let myself go. and I would wear my husband tees and my sweats 😂 and i realize that I need be like I was before. I'm with Tamera on this one.

[@mrsmincey9731]

Tamera is so on point ,being married and having small children you will let your self go and not realize it #sameexperience but my husband is so supportive and loved me through it, you don't have time to be looking like the everybody else because it's a trend , you have to only do what you can and I always wear what I like not what's suppose to be in season or tending cause everything isn't for everybody , it erks me that everybody look alike because it's "fashion"

[@brendatovar3413]

i automatically thought of tamar when loni talked about her beanie situation lol

[@AndresLopezZarate]

straight up TAMAR Shade and I'm here for it lol

[@safucci]

I don't agree with Adrienne. Sometimes, you need to let go to realize there are more important things in life. You stop caring what people think of you and focus more what you think of yourself.

[@Cr15ty100]

when she said one year and a half, I fully understood. (I've been there, but for other people who never had a child, it's just difficult to get it).

[@amaltje1234]

Decaying is forbidden for women, we must look perfect or we have failed. Not everyone wants to walk around like a show pony, women shouldn't be so hard on themselves. We have to be super moms, wives, housekeepers, having a career and looking perfect.

[@joeyatwaini]

The Tamar shade of it all. LMAO Loni u didn't have to do her like that.

[@marywrenn5262]

I stopped trying and was so miserable. My husband has loved me always and never pressured me in any way. I'm 44, have finally lost a lot of weight (still working on it) and he is happy because I'm happy. I feel like me again.

[@ammanyameba9040]

When Loni spoke about "people" telling her not to wear her beanie, I was oooooooooooooooooo😯😯😯😯😯

[@magicalmoderntreasures5198]

Agreed Loni! after 40 everything changes!

[@anayaj1713]

Tam looks so good! Slayyy girl💕

[@evecurrin2519]

Loni hit the nail on the head... an so does Adrian!

[@hadii2446]

Loni's shade!!! Love her!! Hahah

[@stephaniec7216]

Girl if I’m home alone I’m wearing whatever I want, forget a nighty! And if I’m just going to be in class all day, I’m wearing leggings and a sweat shirt 4 days a week 🤷🏻‍♀️ I put in the effort to look good on the weekend, maybe only Sundays. And that’s ok!!

[@aprilyang9496]

YAAAS Tamera!!! Exactly what I'm going through!

[@callmeshordieorshawty8773]

Loni was talking about Tamar when she said something about the way she looks when she traveled but I love Loni

[@maarveloouus]

I wish the comment section was actually about commenting on the subject of the video like opinions stories that we can or try to relate to ... they are really hard to find here.

[@duckiie15]

Putting my self TOGETHER is so rare these days y'all. I got work and school full time so my whole life has been letting go lmao!

[@cassidyrose1911]

I love Jeannie's look lately and bangs

[@040590vll]

Lmfao the shade on 1:17 to tamar about making fun of her bennie

[@jonnydavis6066]

Loni's brain 4:18: skinny heifer problems! lol 😁😁😁😁

[@gwenbby2]

I love this topic!

[@olyviajazzmyne7633]

Ive been born "let goed" dwl and im happy!!!!

[@2kool4u403]

3:10 Did anyone think of Tamar when she used to make fun of Loni wearing that travel beanie? lololol

[@roenaskates5485]

I make sure I do not let myself go in front of my kids only!😤

[@kimberlynunez6413]

TAMERAS LOOK IS FIRE TODAYYYY 😻

[@evahendaque]

Gurrl!! I lose myself every summer. Idk what's in the American sun or whatever but I never know who I am during the summer. So I mostly lock myself in my room and wait for winter

[@senoraantero2836]

I let it all the way go.. nursing twins for the last 10 months is WORK! I have to worry about how good my girls look and less on what I look like .. oh well! I don’t have time and if people don’t like it then they can come to my house and clean, cook etc and see if they have time to work out, shower or put makeup on 😝