Let It Go! - Part 2

Have you ever been afraid of letting yourself go? The ladies of 'The Real" share their real-life experiences, in this Girl Chat. Check it out, then join the conversation below in the comments.

[@evinc8758]

These ladies be talking about letting go at 30, 35, 40. Girl im 17 and im already out

[@alibabi]

Evin C I'm 21 and letting go every other week

[@KamalIsaiahMorales]

Evin C I'm 16 yaassss hahaha

[@oftones]

lmaoooo

[@morewithmarianna]

Bruh, so real. Im 21 too and in college, I let go at least 4 days out of the week.

[@losavoen]

HAHAHA BUY WHY IS THIS ME LMAO

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

I think Adrienne really needs to get off social media or take a break. She looks for approval from strangers and takes their words to heart.

[@marlynracius9628]

gigglyfitzgirl I agree she so stuck on what everybody thinks about her ever since she started dating Israel nobody cares. he's fat too....so what. next topic.

[@jessicat2304]

gigglyfitzgirl she has histrionic personality disorder #internetpsychiatrist

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

***** What can I say...I have a lot to say. I react to the video as I'm watching it. So it's either one huge paragraph or multiple short comments. Doesn't make sense to put random unrelated thoughts together. If it bothers you, please just block me.

[@Mochaprincesss91]

gigglyfitzgirl girl keep writin ur thoughts ... cuz us commentors r truly da only ones who keepin it 💯

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

Kawaii Thug Thank you, I will 😊

[@Empressive]

Applause to Adrienne for sharing her truth because I've been going through the same thing. It may sound superficial but the idea of letting yourself go (and being unaware of it) is very scary. I recently had to switch up my diet and get my metabolism pumped up again. If you go too long without doing anything, it will be hard to get back to yourself.

[@Denise-ob8dk]

Empressive same here I'm 30 and the biggest I've ever been. How do I get back?

[@annarose8913]

Denise 1101 Try Intermittent fasting ! I lost over 20 pounds with it.

[@gilberthpavon6725]

Stop eating

[@xredb]

Exactly, I understood Tamera and Loni's points but I was siding with Adrienne the whole time

[@rustyshackleford4076]

Empressive Yup it creeps up on you and you go so down. Looking at your high school yearbook and screaming at the idea that you did a whole 180 since then

[@warmmarshmallow1612]

Side note: Tamera looks SO fabulous and classy in that burgundy colour and hairstyle!

[@xredb]

she does!!

[@mjlovahh12]

Adrienne was poppin before and after her 20 pounds. Everything sat proportionately.

[@msmarisol14]

Exactly. 1 year later. She let her self go and she's still cute.

[@1122Be]

honestly for short people we really do obsess sometimes over 20 lbs or 10lbs because we carry it more than tall people

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

She needs to find herself outside of her looks. Adrienne you are so much more than what size you are and what your hair and makeup look like.

[@Shashayaway]

gigglyfitzgirl or what you cand dp or be or sexually provide for a man

[@ineedya123]

I think most of her life she relied on her looks, so thats it's hard when looks fail you..

[@livelovelearn6343]

gigglyfitzgirl everyone struggles with this though and I think that's why she shared it

[@BriaBarrows]

thank you, like she made it seem like her weight gain was life and death, girl

[@EssenceSweet]

gigglyfitzgirl I'm glad she shared her true feelings because a lot of women feel like that about themselves, we're all not confident and happy with our bodies in the same way

[@FashionnGalore]

I feel like Adrienne almost needs validation from them to FEEL confident and even then she doesn't fully realize how stunning she is

[@xredb]

Exactly my thoughts, Adrienne is stunning that I never understood why she has to feel the need to be validated sometimes

[@tresarobinson9]

Right. Adrienne is proof that it doesn't matter how beautiful you are, you HAVE TO feel it yourself!

[@MajesticMyronn]

Now , Adrienne I have to say with her health issues... she has a thyroid condition and an auto immune disease which is one of the reasons why her weight fluctuates a lot.... When she gained 20 pounds I didn't notice because when I see a person I don't think of their weight I think of how they are doing and what they are going through ! She looks beautiful either way regardless tbh !

[@kp-mp8tm]

It's sad that such a beautiful girl like Adrienne is insecure about the way she looks. Girl you always been fly

[@nickibee8056]

I hate how Adrienne is so hard on her looks, she's beautiful!

[@xuxushushu]

Adrienne has problems with her body changing, as it ages. I think these ladies are telling her that's fairly normal, a slower metabolism is but one example of what every woman eventually experiences. The next chapter will be learning to embrace that, as you move on and let go of your 20s. That's a legitimate fear, that they themselves experienced, as all women approaching 30 (and in their early 30s) experience. They were able to empathize and comfort her, telling her she will be okay. That's a conversation she needed to have and I learned a thing or two myself so thanks, ladies. I'll be 28 this year and the changes in my body in and out are visible, unsettling. 'Tis good to be reminded that it's a universal transition, these conversations are important to have. Women don't express these things in fear of appearing insecure. Have such conversations with one another, instead of tearing eachother down. A lot of you women, in the comment section, are doing just that to Adrienne. Kindly, go love yourselves.

[@arigrande2647]

Shay A , this comment was amazing. You write beautifully!

[@xuxushushu]

Ariana Grande Thanks! ☺️

[@xuxushushu]

Miss Aaliyah ❤

[@BeautifulDreamerK]

Shay A thank you! What you said is awesome and so true!! I experienced this when I was 26 and it was hard to accept that my body was changing. We need to talk about this more in our society. We see too much of celebrities being skinny after giving birth or being skinny all the time. I'm now 30 and have accepted it. I eat healthier and workout but I do accept that my body will not look how I was at 23-24.

[@xuxushushu]

BeautifulDreamerK I feel you sis! We do need to have these discussions. I think as long as we're taking care of our health and dedicated to staying fit, we'll be able to have smooth transitions as we age at any age. Once we learn to embrace our natural aging process, it will result in mental fitness which is essentially, most important. Tamara points this out to Adrienne, seeing her happy and satisfied in her life overshadowed her self-consciousness and in turn, they were all blind to her weight gain. When we're self-conscious about our appearance, people sense that and they subconsciously focus on what we're self-conscious about. I'm glad you're able to grow mentally and embrace yourself physically. Unfortunately, these celebs you mentioned cause women to sink deeper and never let go; They resort to going under the knife and never reach a level of satisfaction.. so on so forth.. anyway, keep accepting yourself! ☺️

[@SunkissedKuri]

I really like this clip. I think this is the most vulnerable we have seen Adrienne yet and I honestly applaud her. That is a real womans fear but eventually you'll get past it and come back resilient. 👏🏾

[@staciacharles]

Adrienne and Loni's relationship is forever friendship goals

[@faithfullee9689]

Adrienne you are beautiful. However I do feel you need to detox from social media. And clear your mind and focus on yourself and happiness. Give yourself a break from posting pictures and just focus on yourself. Secondly, each persons pregnancy is different, each persons motivation and drive to stay fit is different. Gaining weight during pregnancy is required unless it becomes to excess and dangerous for the health of yourself and the baby. Thirdly, after pregnancy once cleared by the doctors you can build a routine to get back into shape at your own pace not by what critics or body shamers believe you should do. Follow what is in your heart and what your own personal goal is. Everything will fall into place by Gods grace. Enjoy the journey and focus on being happy.

[@stephanierodriguez7387]

I have the same fear as Adrienne and I'm 22 . I don't want to let go but I know that I'm not perfect. I know life happens and I can't control . What gives me the greatest peace is that I trust myself. Life has happened to me and I 've been somewhat depressed but I always came back to loving myself. I make the decision everyday to love myself and accept myself and that has made all the difference

[@kelendria]

the thing with "husband" and "boyfriend " is that most of them dont really tell you when you are letting yourself go. They will always tell you when it went too far haha! So we shouldn't be like " my man didnt mind", he will, believe it.

[@MsCassiexo]

jeanne violette So true...they don't want to hurt your feelings..even some friends will tell you what you want to hear.

[@kelendria]

MsCassiexo Yes !and once you are overweight and basically look like the crazy cat lady in The Simpson's they will say " honey I am worried you have been letting yourself go, I didn't say anything before becos you were such a great mother/ GF/ just happy". Hahaha

[@sandyboo2]

jeanne violette or friends! They wait until you have gone so far off the deep end that it's too late. As a true friend or the love of my life you should feel comfortable taking to me and checking in. People like Jeannie are not the best people to call you out bc they will always tell you "you look fine" "who cares how you look" and blah blah

[@geelovepooh]

“You gain 10 pounds & I’ll gain 10 pounds so I’ll always look bigger than you” #bffgoals

[@fatima4404]

People really need to think about what Adrienne is saying instead of calling her selfish and vain. As a woman alone and then one in the spotlight this is a genuine fear and insecurity. Unfortunately in today's society body image has such a big impact on a woman's self worth. I do also think that as she experiences more in life, particularly with having children, her feelings about this will change.

[@gwenbby2]

Love A, but she does act like she is 23 instead of 33. (And the ladies treat her like it too)

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

Brittany Wilson Yeah, I'm 22 and she still needs to learn lessons that I'm learning now. lol

[@janicejanisjan]

No actually I find Adrienne has a lot of great wisdom and insights to offer. She's also very smart and articulate.

[@xredb]

She's a young spirited woman, she always feels young so she's gonna give off vibes that make us think she's still young

[@JessicaAloha07]

Tamera looks GORGEOUS!!!!

[@SR-fk6hw]

4:29 Awwww Loni that was so sweet and cute, really made me emotional.

[@lexymartin6841]

Adrienne is being so real and its kinda nice ,though she is getting older, to have a young person on there because these are the true feelings of a young adult who has all of there life and obstacles before and being a little insecure or scared of what lies ahead. I feel her and many people do and this is why to me, its good when their are both sides to a panel like this.......where there is positive and negative sides but all in all support for each other. #LoveThisShow

[@luckyboozworld]

I love how their emotions feel so real. I was watching this CRYING. People watch what you say. You really can hurt people. I pray your children dont feel the hurt you are putting on people! Have a blessed day!

[@selfxcare]

I think a lot of people totally missed what Adrienne was trying to explain. If you ever go on the Real's social media or these damn KZbin comments, you will see how pathetic and DISRESPECTFUL some people are when it comes to the ladies-especially Adrienne. This girl has been scrutinized since her 3LW days. Can she be a bit vain at times? Yeah, but I think MOST women can be that way. However, I believe A is facing a lot of pressure daily and it's going to take time for her to really accept her body's phases. Also, A is like 4"11, when she gains like 10 lbs, it shows because shorter people look bigger when they gain weight compared to a taller person. Some of you guys should stop judging and work on your empathy.

[@sarahmalone4353]

I really relate to what she's saying, I didn't see my weight gain either until I woke up one day and had realised I had slowly gained a stone. Relationship weight is a real thing, and it's good to acknowledge that it's hard to go through that. Wake up and not know your body and have to really try to lose it. It's nice to know others are on that journey too

[@0104brit]

I loved this convo because its always more interesting when they dont agree. I commend Adrienne for standing by what she said even though its different than the other ladies

[@NZZ72]

Real talk Loni is looking absolutely stunning recently, she deffo changed up that make up artist

[@seinabm.8099]

i love how honest Adrienne is about her issues

[@divamakeup7274]

That hug at the end was so genuine!! I love these ladies!

[@peachlife5118]

I let myself go for about 4 years... no make up, sweats, eat whatever I want, etc. I used to be the girl in high school that would be overdressed and full face of make up and hair done everyday. Honestly it is so much better to just be natural and love the skin you are in. I was way happier when I "let myself go" and also worked on inner beauty which goes a really long way with the right people and you truly learn to love yourself. I got a lot of hateful little remarks from "Friends" over it but they are all cut off now and I really would not want people that shallow in my life. As long as you are hygienic and don't look unkempt, I don't see the issue. I'm now starting to dress up again but only when I go out.

[@indiblues9044]

Quotables: Happiness is an inside job. Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

[@goooglia]

i would think marrying israel would eliminate any kind of pressure to lose some pounds

[@avasd59]

HoneyBee 😂🙊

[@mscourt]

HoneyBee Omg! Shady comment #2?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@goooglia]

im just playin.. i love ade

[@loulougeezer]

HoneyBee yall !! I cant with the shade !!

[@coillest8628]

*Slow facepalm* Chileee

[@robingabriel1968]

Adrienne don't listen to them!!! Keep yourself up don't let up! It is hard coming back when you get older!

[@BeautifulDreamerK]

I kinda get what she's saying - when I was 26, my metabolism changed. I gained weight easily and I didn't feel like me and it made me sad! It was just different. I knew I wasn't going to have my 23 year old body forever but the change was so sudden. Adapting to it was hard. The difference now is that I've accepted it. I see a naturopath, workout , eat healthy... I'm not super fit like the celebrities and that's okay. Our bodies aren't perfect and as long as we're happy and take care of ourselves, that's all that matters

[@takecaretiff2919]

K dlc Thank you! I know you wrote this a long time ago, but it really resonated with me because I’m about to be 25 and this same exact thing happened to me, and it’s been really hard dealing with it :/

[@d.olivieri90210]

I appreciate that Adrienne is being real with herself, she's 4"11 and she was overweight for her height! She did not look good and she knew it and her so-called friends are sitting around trying to blow her head up. As a Spanish woman we can easily gain too much weight and call it curvy when it's just plain fat! I respect her honesty.

[@DeathGodPain96]

Adrienne looked great before the weight loss too. This is one of those times that statement is actually honest.

[@tinx214]

I get the impression Loni sometimes comforts people and takes on a self critical stance to be there for the other girls. I think she can have her moments, just like everyone else. I don't know really how to explain it.... I really like Loni♡

[@missswag28]

Why is it that whenever Adrienne has something to say everyone else has something to say? She literally just admitted that social media trolls shamed her into losing weight. How dare y'all that CONTINUE to shame her, the show is called THE REAL, it doesn't get any realer than that, if that's how she feels who are you to tell her that she's wrong? Or that she's vain and selfish? Honestly, that's who she is. Y'all come for Adrienne more than anybody and that's not okay, yes she's small, yes she's feeling herself on the gram, but who cares? Tamera said "(pre weight loss) that was the happiest I'd seen you". If Miss Adrienne Bailon-Houghton wants to speak her mind on once again THE REAL, and YOU have a problem with it, why don't you buy a plane ticket first class, fly out to the show and tell her how you really feel? You wouldn't say it in person? Oh okay, thought so. So mind your business, she's out there living her life, a newlywed, soon to be mother if she so chooses. Chill out. "Vain" and "obsessed" are not even the correct words to describe Adrienne, she deserves so much better than what you're presenting in the comments. Her life is not your life to live.

[@tinahailey4548]

JEANNIE BE PREACHING YALL BETTA LISTEN 👏👏👏👏

[@NotAMuse]

Something I wanted to tell Adrienne was that even if you lost yourself, be strong enough to forgive yourself and move forward. It’s okay if you fail or mess up, just like how you learned that it’s okay to go back home, I hope you will learn that it’s okay to ‘let go of yourself’ and give yourself the time and space to find yourself again. You’re gonna be okay, Adrienne. You’ve got a good head on your shoulders and people who love you, so that’s all the matters.

[@estherkadiri8254]

What i think is, no matter what weight someone is most Important is if their HEALTHY. ..💖From Sweden ✨

[@sarahsahar5622]

Not feeling like yourself is an identity thing within your core values and people forget we change everyday. so you might find yourself thinking "i don't want to not feel like myself". when really you grew as a human and everything shifted. you realized something happened but now you might attache misplaced loyalty to the person you were yesterday because you don't (instantly) see in these moments that it was growth, and not so much the fact that you don't know yourself. we all do this to ourselves in different ways. so thank you for sharing this Adrienne because vocalizing a scary moment or scary feeling is a brave thing.

[@ifeanyi90]

Adrienne you are beautifully & wonderfully made. Just live your life. Nobody should define who you are but you(Adrienne) define who you are and want to be.😊🙏

[@MichelleAlvieri]

Adrienne you better keep telling the truth!!!!!! She keeping it real

[@chennelmarcano5802]

Adrienne be getting in my damn nerves. I feel like Israel loves me too much... girl stopppp😂😂

[@ryuskkey8963]

why men can "let it go"(i mean israel #NoShadeNoShade 😂).... but woman cant?. I mean woman are beautiful. Why they think that they cant let them self go? I mean have the body that makes YOUR SELF happy, and be Healthy. If your man really love you, he will still love you. But lets be real, this is the real 😂. Come on adrienne, you love israel for how he is inside. And he must love you the same way. And lets be real again since this is the real 😂😂😂😂. adrienne looks good everytime.

[@kelendria]

Adrienne met israel a bit fatter, he actually lost weight since they got together. And she simply meant that she wants to be able to recognize herself and also find a balance between caring about her looks and being comfortable.

[@ryuskkey8963]

jeanne violette i mean, if that makes her self happy. She must know that she didnt saw she gained a little wiegh cuz SHE WAS HAPPY as tamera said. So the moment she see her self and doesnt feel happy, thats when she needs to "put it together", but do it for HER and Her happiness, and nobody else.

[@kelendria]

Ryusk Key I think adrienne made it clear she wanted to stay on top of thing for herself and not anybody else

[@ryuskkey8963]

jeanne violette well she need to put her self "together" , when SHE feels that she let it go; and no because sobody else tells her that. (As she tells the girls why the didnt tell her she gained weight. and they didnt even notice that cuz she looks good and happy)

[@kelendria]

Ryusk Key that is what she did, once she didn't recognize herself she made the change and drop that weight. Now she wishes people would have told her becos it's hard to lose 20 pounds.

[@pilimt1498]

I honestly love this show because it is so real. It's like an album, I love seeing these women grow on this show. You can see how much they have changed during the last 4 years.

[@jyn88]

I think anyone who regularly watched The Real since season 1 noticed that Adrienne gained weight, but I never thought it was bad or unattractive. I saw it as a sign of her success, happiness, and just enjoying life in general.

[@SoulStyleBeauty]

PREACH TAMERA!!!!

[@Yabbadabbadooby]

I think it's cool to care what you look like when you want to. Society shouldn't define how you look or the way you should look. I honestly don't care if you wanna wear a bonnet, sleepers & Chuck Taylor's to bed, the store or to church, that's your damn business. I'm too busy trying to figure out what the hell I'm going to cook tomorrow😩 #whatgoesgoodwith......😂😂😂

[@thobie8]

Tamera made me tear up...she was her happiest and thats wat was important

[@g.pearson4726]

I love Loni !! I understand what all the women were saying I think it could’ve been phrased as forgetting about yourself. As mom's and women we tend to put everything and everyone before ourselves. I remember when I was a nail tech doing my customers and listening to them say how they did this for their kids and that for their men/husbands and having to force themselves to make themselves a priority. I would say just like Adrienne I never want that to be me or that will never be me. Lol. Well it became me. When I became a mom everything in me changed (doesn’t for every women). My daughter become my entire world (minus God). So those shopping spheres I used to do just for me became all about her. I wanted to make sure she was always flyyyy Now that she’s getting older she’s has her own style and her own personality and so now I’m working on getting back to me. If you can find a balance that’s the healthiest thing to do for yourself and your child(ren). Too much of anything isn’t good. So have balance people. Also what she was saying about weight gain. I’m the same height as Adrienne.. for health reason 15-20lbs is a lot on a short body. Even though you will look like a slim thick snack 👅💦 its a lot. I got my grown body like boom out of no where (that I prayed for my entire life) but with it came breathing issues that I didn’t have before. Although my Boo loves the grown women...she had to go👋🏾. It’s nice to be loved no matter the size but It was too damn much🤷🏽‍♀️ And yes there were tons of people in my life that was like you let yourself go blah blah blah I think it was coming from a place of love (like you don’t look like yourself ..kind of thing) but at the time when I was still adjusting to my new body it was very hard to hear. It was hard for the weight to fall off but it’s coming off 🙏🏾🙌🏾💃🏽💃🏽 Thanks for sharing ladies

[@Mel__21]

damn Tamera said it the best. Telling Adrienne that yes maybe you gained twenty pounds but you didn't notice that and neither did I all she saw was her happiness. 😭 I'm like aww that's how much happiness over all in powers everything else. That's what people see is your happiness and confidence.

[@VellaBella4]

whether we're fat, skinny, thick, curvy, whatever, just make sure you love YOU! Because somewhere out there, someone is wishing and praying to have your body.

[@sarahsahar5622]

Not feeling like yourself is an identity thing within your core values and people forget we change everyday. so you might find yourself thinking "i don't want to not feel like myself". when really you grew as a human and everything shifted. you realized something happened but now you might attache misplaced loyalty to the person you were yesterday because you don't see in these moments that it was growth, and not so much the fact that you don't know yourself. we all do this to ourselves in different ways. so thank you for sharing this Adrienne because vocalizing a scary moment or scary feeling is a brave thing.

[@teatt8466]

adrienne is literally the most beautiful person ever not just her look but her vibe, she is so feminine and comfident I love it

[@VONiiE8]

Adrienne did gain weight last yr but I only noticed bc SHE pointed it out. And it's not even that she looked bad, she looked, and still does look great. She's crazy if she ever felt insecure or that she "let herself go", girl you were good. You letting yourself is like you had to get a whole new wardrobe or you didn't look out together. You gained happy pounds. You're good, ma. I promise you.

[@boluadebekun9370]

Honestly, that was the realest that I've seen Adrienne. If you've been with this show from the jump, we know that her growing up in the industry has made her highly insecure to the publics critique. This show has been her saving grace as well, so what ppl say about her, what viewers think about her, does matter, and to have 1000s of ppl coming at you all the time, as much as she has a thick skin, it hurts. Therefore, no, this isn't vanity, no marriage aint gonna fix your insecurities, being self-conscious is just the reality for celebs and I respect Adrienne for laying it down, that was so vulnerable. And everyone stop coming for her for being the young voice in the group! She's young, fresh, and learning... reps a lot of girls who watch this show! Leave this Latina spicy, Newyork toughin it, and cheetahlicious woman alone! #Teamadrienne

[@ov5385]

I am a man in my 30;s and i really enjoy this show. Yes it is about women and family but it teaches me to be a better man for my future girlfriend and wife. Kudos the hosts and all the staffs of THE REAL. Keep up the good work.

[@moneymaj]

Confidence doesn't equate to having zero insecurities and not wanting to "let yourself go" doesn't make you a narcissist.

[@IfyouBelleve]

It's not wrong that she wants to take care of herself :( Yea she shouldn't loose weight for other people But she has the right to feel to loose weight if she wants too So everyone chill She ain't conceited She ain't vain She ain't shallow She just wants to improve herself There's nothing wrong with that Adrienne you do you And if you want to be fit, be fit support uplifting comments not ones that are rude

[@ylomas3593]

well, I "let myself go"sit on the couch and watch this clip...😂😂😂😂😂

[@zora99ny]

Adrienne is the rare woman who actually looks good with some extra pounds.

[@kennethgrant9658]

Adrienne is absolutely right though. You shouldn't just accept or be ok with "letting yourself go". Sometimes people do need to let you know. And sometimes you'll figure it out ok your own. But just gaining weight and saying alright I'm cool with it isn't cool.

[@tajeoniarivers6483]

I’ll be honest. I gained 20 lbs because of the comments I received on social media. But after I let go of the things people had to say about me I was able to reflect on myself and understand what makes me happy. Now I feel free to do what makes me feel good from within

[@taelllx2829]

All the stopping halfway through their sentences when Adrienne said "yall didn't tell me I was 20 pounds overweight" 😂😂😂😂 they got caught! 😂😂😂😂

[@daesanryo]

I would love to gain 20 pounds true story. Being skinny is not all that tbh.

[@goddessoffayries]

danayshia coping Right? I legit need 20 lbs to stop looking like a 9 year old boy lmao 😂😂😂😂

[@daesanryo]

AsianDiva Exactly! I feel like a child 😂😂

[@user-lb4su8tq7g]

You guys, i feel the exact same way! I wish i could gain 20 pounds. I think it will all go to my face though, not my body. Lol

[@goddessoffayries]

danayshia coping Honestly, if I could fit properly into all of my clothes (i.e. boobs fill out shirts, butt fills out top part of pants) that would be great. I've had enough with having something literally be too big and too small at the same time lol

[@daesanryo]

Yessss! Adrienne's body is literally my goals. 😂😂😂

[@jamie9914]

U wish I had a friend like tam that was a very genuine compliment to give A, not many friends like that nowadays

[@KHersh92]

if Adrianne wants to have kids, she has to face the reality that it is not easy and you are going to let yourself go to some extent, like Tamara said, it takes time to get back to yourself, emotionally and physically and you have to find yourself all over again because having a child especially for the first time can be really life-changing and ppd is real!! It takes time to get used to having a child, your not going to give birth and then the next day wear a full face of makeup and and go back to your pre pregnancy weight, if she can do that, kudos to her, but in the end of the day, she's going to have to face her fears and realize that this is the reality of having children but she will definitely get back to herself it just takes time and there is nothing wrong with that , this is what most mothers go through and it's what's going to make her husband love her even more and appreciate her even more.

[@mairbear100]

I actually think Adrienne looked really great when she was " 20 pounds overweight". Her curves were popping and it fit her frame very well if that makes sense.

[@ms.beautiful]

I understand where Adrienne is coming from. I saw an interview with Mariah Carey and she said the same thing, about how she thought she would never get her body back and feel like herself again after having her twins. Adrienne sees herself as a pretty woman, which is great and she doesn't want to lose that. But at the same time don't listen to people on the Internet when it comes to body image and weight.

[@FashionLover328]

Wow, I really love how Adrianne kept it real, because lately in the media people just talk about how we should be confident in ourselves and ignore the negativity. But Adrianne's worry on letting herself go is really what we do go through. This comes to show that just because you are on TV you are not perfect and that comments hurt. Also that these unrealistic body expectation on women does not only affect everyday women, but also women in the media.

[@dubraskaavaclabur796]

That is a REAL friend!!!!

[@Miss_Olufunmi]

Adrienne hates when they say she's too young to comprehend.. lol.

[@amantlebonolochalebgwa7904]

Y’all notice that Whenever Adrienne talks about something really close her heart and difficult,she adds in ‘Does that make sense?’ at the end.?I love her vulnerability 😘

[@tweetybyrd3544]

Honestly 20 pounds? i didn't see it. You still look good A 20 pounds or less.

[@bebeheart5128]

This was very genuine conversation

[@tularocks1168]

This is a girl chat to talk about i really love how you guys shows us what it means to let go and you guys almost got me in tears i love all of ya'll

[@luwamalem9537]

I love the #REAL so freaking much cause of these inspirational ladies & I just turned 18 so when I hear them talking bout their life; I may not relate so much in the sense that I'm not obviously married of have kids but just in general the things that get to us as HUMANS!!👌👌😘 I LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH & THE FACT THAT I CDIED WHEN ADRIENNE & TAMERA STARTED CYRING JUST GOES SHOW HOW MUCH OF AN IMPACT YOUR SHOW HAS ON PEOPLE)

[@hannahwootton6491]

Im 22 and i don't care anymore about negative comments that people want to say i went through all that at 14 to 18 im living my life now with amazing friends doing what i want

[@placesminds6816]

I agree with Adrienne. When i became overweight I was not happy with my body at all... and it had nothing to do with what people around say.. Its more about just you

[@lianet777]

I see a lot of people calling Adrianne "self absorbed" and I just gotta speak up. First of all, I'm proud of her, she's very honest about being insecure, which REAL self absorbed folks would NEVER reveal, since they want to seem perfect to those around them. Second of all, it's perfectly normal to be insecure, all you haters have been insecure before, don't act like you haven't been. Adrianne is confident in her skin, but just like any other human, she gets insecure every now and then. Why can't people confide in others about their situations without getting judged? She didn't just confided in the ladies of the real, she confided in all of us when she chose to speak on her insecurities on television. This girl is strong, but is also a lady, and we ladies ain't perfect. The level of hate I keep seeing every week is disgusting. You "girls" need to grow up and stop the hate. If you're just mad because you're ugly and these ladies are gorgeous, than idk, go do some cardio and put some makeup on 😂 but don't hate simply because you feel less. Jealousy is ugly

[@chit-chat007]

A is just sharing REAL-TALK & being very short plays a role as well & I totally understand her AND applaud her honesty for saying shizz that we women think but don’t say/nor keep it real!

[@darylwillis1420]

I can honestly say this just happened to me. I didn’t like who I was becoming. I did let myself go and doing the bare minimum. I looked in the mirror and decided it was time for a change.. I feel this 💙

[@fazumohamed9729]

I am silent subby from Toronto Canada - I have a been watching the real on you tube for a long time - but today what Loni said to Adrienne really touched my heart . I think we all need a Loni in our life :) love you all❤

[@madisonhartwick8114]

I love what the girls are trying to preach to Adrienne. It's ok to go through the motions of your own life.

[@taylordowning2533]

Here is my take, be comfortable in being you. Whether you look like you stepped out of Vogue or whether you are relaxing in sweats and a tshirt, as long as you love you its all that matters. While I think being healthy is very important make sure you are doing it for you and no one else.

[@CandyCaneLane5678]

Loni crazy 😂😂😂 but it’s so beautiful to see her support her friend like that and to see the beautiful self confidence she has 😍😍😍

[@djenane7612]

The way people see you is not always how you perceive yourself. It's okay to be insecure , most of us are. I understand what Adrienne is saying, everyone can say she looks good and beautiful but she's the one who needs to realize it and I'm sure she'll overcome those insecurities. Like Loni says she's still young.

[@brittanyburley8966]

Adrienne needs to chill with this thing she's worried about... Beauty fades but it's what's in your heart Adrienne. If it's that bad then eat healthy... she made me sad just talking this way when she's beautiful but it made her come across as vain.. You got Loni sitting beside 3 girls at the table, she could be sitting there being insecure about her weight. Sitting next to Loni would have helped me feel a little better if I was Adrienne. The difference between Loni and Adrienne is that Loni has confidence and that's admirable.

[@lianet777]

This is why I try not to comment about people's weight. I saw a model online not too long ago looking like stick, very very unhealthy, and I was going to comment something caring and respectful regarding her weight, but then I stopped my self and realized, It's none of my business, and for all I know, she might take it the wrong way and get her feelings hurt. Sometimes we get an itching to tell someone something like that, it's normal to want to criticize for better or worse, no one is perfect, what matters is to hold back and put your self in their shoes. I think we should all learn to keep our thoughts to our selves, and if we find something a true concern, then let's try to be respectful in our delivery

[@nadiajones3838]

I love that these ladies really care about each other

[@93RZ]

Adrienne is 100% very insecure which is really sad. She always wants to look perfect.. constantly pouts her lips when she's not talking...heavily edits a lot of her pictures on IG etc.. yet will lie to herself by telling us that she's okay with not wearing makeup in public and stuff like really girl?! She's almost insecure about us knowing that she is so insecure which is even sadder... I wish she didn't feel this way.

[@roka2031]

Getting lazy, and letting yourself go is the same thing, I totally understand what Adrienne is saying, which is what many people think, but may not say out loud for fear of sounding vain. There's nothing wrong with wanting to look "good" . It's not the only important thing in life, but it is an important aspect of life more many people.

[@Shalayah2010]

I agree.. letting yourself go is never a good thing.

[@shomza88]

Omg loni, you almost made me cry!!! She most love adrienne very much when she said that she'll gain 10 pounds so that adrienne can look 'smaller'.

[@JustKay143]

Adrienne is THE BEST at holding in her tears in ohmygod

[@GabyChronicles]

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and right nowI feel like i've definitely let myself go! I spend 30 minutes everyday just looking at past photos of myself and seeing how good I used to look. Pregnancy is hard on the body but even harder on the mind.

[@keitafoxy7428]

I’m going through this right now. Since going back to school it’s been so stressful juggling life that I just literally just stopped caring. I stopped giving a damn about everything including something as simple as taking a shower every day if I’m being real. I literally told myself I’m only gonna focus on things that I need to get through this period in my life. I’m like once I am settled in, I’ll go back to the gym, I’ll go back to cooking, I’ll go back to the salon. But the sad thing is I didn’t realise that every time I see myself in the mirror I lose a little confidence in myself.

[@hollykayanna2587]

Adrianne looks amazing , ALWAYS HAS, ALWAYS WILL CHICKA.