Let's Discuss Death and Dying in the Philippines. every Man Has a Story

[@jai-dii-seeker3149]

I am a 61 year old Swedish guy and I am planning to escape to the Philippines 🇵🇭 very soon. My plan is to paint art, write and live a simple life and spend my last days in the Philippines. If I can avoid it then I will not go back for hospital treatment in Sweden when I near my last days. I sat beside my father for 3 days and 3 nights before he died so I feel that I have been close to death because I put my hand on his chest and felt his last heart beats... And I now and then meditate and feel connected with my father, grandfather and all my ancestors that I am soon going to join in the Dreamtime world. ❤️

[@lisagordan9136]

Hi, Jai-dili, take me with you. I love Swedish men

[@jmsorino]

Come. To mindanao

[@lisagordan9136]

I am in the States

[@carlpouliot3899]

Lisa Gordan, would you settle for a Canadian? :)

[@lisagordan9136]

Yes

[@dalelittlefield57]

WOW !!! I'm 63, I plan on dying in the Philippines. My filipina hates hearing that but it is what it is. Thanks for sharing your story

[@theonlygeezer1]

Very interesting video, I live in the UK and I am very fortunate that all medical care is free. 12 years ago I had my right kidney removed because of cancer was informed live expectancy was 6 months still alive up until lockdown traveled to the Phillipines two times a year no medical insurance as it was to expensive had other operations and radio therapy, chemo etc etc, I’m 68 and after watching your video maybe I should just bite the bullet and go back to Phillipines and live the life with my girl and not just exist. Thanks again made me rethink my life.

[@L4P-Monk]

Hi Mark, Phil here. I’m 60. I plan to go there as soon as the pandemic restrictions lift and I sell the house. I’ve had a ring side seat to death for over 15 years now. My wife was 51 when she died. She died at home. I took care of her with the assistance of hospice but it was mostly me. She had 64 chemo treatments radiation surgery the works. That’s what she wanted. She lasted 6 years. $800k for that. Pretty financially devastating. My friend just died of a heart attack at 60. My health plan is to let nature take its course. I’m trying to retire before 62. Pandemic is in my way. I hope to live a little before it’s the end. Peace ✌️

[@L4P-Monk]

Bill... thank you sir. Much appreciated

[@retiredinbali9565]

Thanks Mark. Sage thoughts.

[@thomasboutin6045]

After 20yrs as a financial advisor- I promise you Mark : you're discussing a subject that is of utmost importance for people who ignore such a touchy subject . Job well done sir !

[@junehitchcock170]

Most needed discussion. Thanks for being so open.

[@immelting9834]

Finally someone does a video on this subject. Thank you so much for the information.

[@everymanhasastory]

Thank you for watching

[@rkatz0]

Man this is so crazy good, I agree with everything you said. That's nuts man! Thanks for yet another monumental post.

[@workerbeast]

Hey Mark, Another good video. Your perspective on life is a good one. I can definitely relate to what you shared. I'm turning 61 have been divorced 10 years and thinking seriously about what I will do once I'm no longer working full time. The Philippines look like a possibility for me. I'm going to continue to watch your channel. Thanks

[@ZafOsophy]

2 suggestions: 1, get a car, and stop using your motorcycle. 2, you are in a perfect position, to start a new family, and enjoy life, don't think too much about the future, what will be, will be. 'A brit in the Philippines' has done that. Similar to you, I have had out of body experiences. I agree, each person has right to their own life, but life is a gift. Near the end, normal people will be escorted away by entities, which resemble dead relatives, as a comfort. If you have watched the film 'Ghost', it is good depiction, of what happens to normal and bad people. I am NOT trying to convert anybody. I am just giving people FREE additional knowledge and wisdom, to ADD to their own knowledge and wisdom, to help them. My 3 videos, Creation (7 minutes - Beautiful graphics and music), Logical and Scientific, Proof of God (4 minutes), What happens, when we die (4 minutes), enjoy)

[@ZafOsophy]

@@travel_with_Pat A man in his 90s, can have a family, lol)))

[@Synfulz]

I was diagnosed with cancer in Feb 2018 at the age of 55. Well I am typing to you and it is gone. But I get tested every few months which makes me kind of anxious until I hear the results. So certainly makes you think! Thankfully I have a great filipina wife who has taken great care of me and always stands by me.

[@Mochit67]

Mark, this is to my opinion by far, the best monolog on your channel. I agree with each word. I am 64 y.o and I was never afraid of dying but without pain. I also told my family not waste money to ship my body back to my country. As far as I concern if I would died abroad they can use my body for medical students or throw me in the ocean for the fish to eat. Unfortunately, every country where the religious is strong people would continue to suffer on their death bed , without purpose and dignity. You are very interesting person and I hope to buy you lunch if I will come back soon to the Phillipines.

[@mattdiaz9360]

Excellent topic! Very well done!

[@okolepuka3376]

Very good video. Watched my wife of 37 years die from cancer. Four years of surgeries and chemo then towards the end radiation treatment. She died at home with hospice care. I cared for her the last six months at home. Watched her last breath and then the last six heart beats before peacefully passing. I have no fear of dying just don't want to burden anyone else. Especially my children or other family members. We have discussed this topic and are in agreement, no resuscitation and no intubation. Death is natural and maybe the start of our next adventure...I don't know. Thank you for speaking about this. We have similar views about death and the euthanasia. It's a good day to die. Aloha

[@leea8451]

Good video. I'm 65 and have thought about this a lot recently, but have yet to do a will. This is a reminder that i need to take action. What scares me most is Alzheimer's. My mother is 90 and sitting in an assisted living facility right now and doesn't have a clue of what's going on anymore. She spends her day sleeping or sitting in a chair staring off into space. My dad died when he was 89 and also had some form of dementia. If that happens to me, I hope I can have the courage to end my life before I end up like my mother. It's a lot to consider.

[@amarkmanpeters]

Lee A Same with my mother and it’s horrible. She would never have wanted to live without her mind.

[@justininarkansas7792]

I already have my grave/headstone in Utah, alongside 5 previous generations of family graves. After seeing things as a RN in a hospital for 20 years, after being Navy officer and school teacher, I want nothing to do with doctors or hospitals. In the US I would most likely die alone, which means a State mandated butchering autopsy, organs and brain sliced up, for no reason. At that point my cause of death does not matter. Leave my body alone and let me rest in peace, with body intact. I am hoping the Philippines do not require autopsies for unattended deaths, or better yet I will not be alone there when I die.

[@johnsullivan1510]

I remember a Canadian man who was 104. He outlived his entire family and friends and was a wreck he just wanted to end it I believe he went to Switzerland and they granted his request. I was happy for him

[@BinanceUSD]

Good advice be prepared and enjoy life. Think about your decisions.

[@NYUTisch]

This is the best of your series. Your reluctance of burdening others is admirable

[@anthonynixon6511]

Thanks for your Frank assessment. I am waiting to travel to Philippines To live there and this subject had already crossed my mind. I wasn't sure if it would be automatically necessary to be repatriated to ones own country but from what you said you could be Buried or cremated there.

[@TrainLordJC]

Hi Mark, yes I agree with you on all that you said. Just like any other forms of life on this planet our lives on this planet is very short. I guess the difference for us humans is that we have reasoning power to understand about death. Well who knows what an animal feels as I watch my lovely fifteen year old doggy sleeping more every day. I give her the best of care and attention possible as I did for my cat. I too would rather be cremated and left with my two animals in the garden which I have created and worked in for thirty years, but of course that is not allowed in Australia. I met Nigel in 2010 when I first arrived in Dumaguete. He invited me to his lovely place in Tambobo Bay, the Tongo Sail Inn. Lovely man, spent many hours in chat with him whilst watching glorious sunsets from his place with nipa huts overlooking the ocean and fishermen in big bangkas bringing back their catches every morning at sunrise after fishing all night long. Good man to interview. My other friend John who lives in Dumaguete told me recently of Nigel's wife's death regarding the fishbone. Sad indeed. She was a good person. Life is short. At 69 I try to live it to the fullest, yet totally aware that I am on the other side of the hill and with far less energy than before.

[@cutum]

Have you considered purchasing a car? Just due to the safety aspect. Much safer than a motorcycle.

[@danielwells774]

Way more expensive and requires more maintenance and hassle overall. Car ownership is pretty rare even among expats in PH.

[@MrBbbruins8]

Exellent topics, makes us open our mind's up to things we do not want to discuss but is so important that we are ready for that Time.

[@Jakearrian]

Drivers here in the philippines have a death wish.

[@gman5986]

Never heard anyone on KZbin with this particular subject. I have been thinking about this over the last year when I turned 65 and totally agree with everything you said and it was nice to participate in this discussion with you. Soon it will be my dinnertime and I am prepareing to have a nice glass of Cabernet and toast to you and your chanel for discussing meaningful subjects in an open and non confrontational manner. I do think it will be possible that when you die you will not have any answerrs in an afterlife in that moment but it sure woulf be awesome if there was some magical state of the soul going on into a spriritual existense. Seeing how much controversy and religious wars and killings mankind has done in the name of what they think is "The only true God"! I somehow think there may be no answers in the afterlife as he...God (if there is on) and if he does have ultimate power and has not stepped in to help manking in all these thousands of years would be a very sad thing to find out "Why didn't you help us and put your ultimate gobernment on earth!" ??

[@omjkumarful]

I had the same question Mark .Thank you very much.God bless you .I am a Canadian .

[@paulthurson]

very thoughtful video Mark.. i turn 56 in November.. stayed very fit all of my adult life in the gym.. take care of myself but irregardless the end WILL come.. when i turned 50 i really started to ponder my mortality.. it's depressing for me sometimes but it's reality for all of us.. enjoyed your thoughts on the subject !

[@michaelsix9684]

in some states in the US doctors are now allowed to give you medications to end your life, do google research on it, Oregon allows it, and other states are moving on this, there is no reason to rack up huge medical bills if you are terminal, dying at home or with hospice care is best

[@ericlima4617]

I'm 31 and love life. Somehow I enjoy your personality because you seem to enjoy sour topics by keeping your indifference high

[@jeanphillips8866]

Hello Mark. Great information you provided to your viewers! Much appreciated. I’m trying to plan ahead because like you I am 62 going on 63 this coming November. Thanks 🙏 for reminding me! I just love ❤️ watching your videos! Someday when I visit the Philippines 🇵🇭 I would sure meet with you along with your beautiful Pilipina girlfriend. God bless Mark and May the good Lord continue to bless you and your beautiful girlfriend!

[@theviking2877]

Mark at your age, I wouldn't worry about excess medicare cost. You might even qualified for medicaid already that can cover medicare excess and if have to, you can declare bankruptcy. Social security are protected from bankruptcy. The whole medical system in the US needs real reform.

[@robertmaddelena7890]

@@StarPhil_T-bone193 agree thats bullshit. Would that doctor bring in his mercedees for repairs without a price.

[@jamesblankenship5439]

I'm 63. I imagine I'll die there. My wife died there and it took me about 3 days to get all the paperwork together to bury her. She was Catholic and we went through the old traditional 10 day process. I definitely don't want that. Anyhow great subject and very interesting. I'll subscribe to.

[@robertmaddelena7890]

I agree on one thing you need to have that in order. I am your age. Lost everything tru a bad decision i made at 61. I realized i was stripped down by loosing every thing that God was speaking to me. Tru a decision to accept Him into my life i now have reestablish myself i do not fear death because i know God has a home for me in eternity. Every day I have Peace and Joy in my life . Faith is the substance of things hoped for,the evidence of things not seen. Heb. 11:1. God Bless

[@michaelsix9684]

I am 66, got colon cancer stage 3 at 56 had to retire early cost me thousands in retirement, I survived, but wear an ostomy bag now, tough to travel, wish now I had traveled when I was younger, death is part of life, as we age, more of us will disappear, the only preparation is living well daily, do a good estate plan, make a will, and make it easy as possible for your survivors

[@everymanhasastory]

Travel within America. Get an rv I had a dear friend same situation as you. He met a lovely lady in America got married at 67 and they are still together and happy 10 years later

[@michaelsix9684]

@@everymanhasastory good advice, and I've thought about it a lot, wearing an ostomy bag and traveling around alone is kinda scary at 66, once I sell my home, I don't want to be a gypsy, RVs are in great demand now, they can't build them fast enough!

[@dougmacdermott6440]

Good video Mark. My dad died last year at 97. He had no underlying conditions, never taken any meds. His heart was strong until the last. He had lost all will to live and would often ask me "when are you supposed to die anyway?" He just wasted away, no fun. I'm 76 , good health, no meds, waiting to get back there and join my wonderful girl. I believe no one really dies. When you think about it, what is the body? flesh and bone, organic matter. Our spirits pass into another realm and we go home. I'm not dogmatic in any one faith anymore because I believe we're all the same underneath whatever exterior we present to the world.. Keep up the good work.

[@imo8628]

I am totally with you Mark, 100%. To be buried in a cemetery with a headstone, that no one has the time to visit etc, not for me, cremation with the ashes thrown into the sea will do me. Euthanasia to end any suffering etc, sign me up. Thanks again buddy. cheers and stay safe

[@erwinaddison2030]

Hey Mark stop thinking about dying man😁... I'm 68 and have health issues also. If I wake up in the morning I'm thankful. make a will and give a copy to the people that care about you and don't worry about it..😆

[@L4P-Monk]

Harry... I dunno. Sometimes I wake up and say rats I’m still breathing

[@Stranotech]

Great post, This is definitely on my mind as I'm still stateside married to a Filipina, she's here with me, both working. We've got a plan to retire there should I make it to retirement, because you never know. I do find myself thinking about my life ending there as opposed to here in the states. Closer I get to retirement the more I like the idea of being there when the end does come. Thanks for posting this.

[@feliciaaquino7266]

Listening to you is so inspirational, we should just enjoy each day with full of gratitude. I’ll definitely will encourage my husband to watch your KZbin blog because he’s a big scary cat about death. Maybe he can learn from you. We’re both in our early 60’s and empty nesters.

[@bunnywabbitt5279]

My dad (retired US Navy) died in the Philippines couple years ago. The US embassy issues a Report of Death of a US citizen and the coroner issues the Death Certificate (which, BTW) is still filled out manually. The cost of cremation is US$500 in the PI vs US$2500-5000 stateside. My cousin had to wait until my brother flew in to claim the body before cremation. So plan on your brother or parent or offspring to have to go to the Philippines when you die. I don't think the GF will be able to sign anything on your behalf.

[@ddjjss]

I’m a BIG believer in everyone’s right to die with dignity! In this area, religion brings us extreme cruelty. Religion is the main reason people are forced to suffer dying in pain for sometimes months or even years. I totally respect the man you mentioned who climbed the mountain & shot himself - took a lot of courage.

[@jilltilghman3027]

I definitely have always believed we should allow euthanasia in all countries. They just banned it in virginia for poor cats.

[@hygieagaloos2019]

Pls dont think so much yet if you have terminal disease you can talk to a medical doctor whos gonna cover you or checking you every six months just for vital signs and maintain regular meds when you feel youre getting weak or short of breath he can order intravenous medicine to maintain comfort so patient will not be short of breath calm and peaceful my mothee had that when diagnosed with liver cancer we decided to bring home with pain medicine to keep her comfortable and prepare everything for her after a week she passed.Theres also some places run by nuns places that takes care if you when its time I hope theres one in Dumaquite because theres one in Iloilo city under Dominican sisters in Asilo de Molo

[@jeffreybrandenburg8762]

Excellent video. Thank you for your honesty!!

[@anneb3170]

I think the only country in Asia that has modern hospital facilities is Japan but it will cost u and arm and leg to be hospitalized there.

[@everymanhasastory]

Thailand and Vietnam both have excellent hospitals

[@marcrichard7251]

Hi Mark....I am 65 and I hope I can be healthy til maybe 90 or more? I do believe in Jesus and the Bible so I hope to let nature take its course. Dr. House on the TV show said “death is always ugly “ and I agree . When I was about 4 or 5 my mom took me to this house to stay overnight as she had to I believe go to the hospital. Well when I was sitting on the couch this green transparent arm with a Hugh claw came out of the couch and the evil voice laughed and it scared 😱 me horribly! Well that night I was put to bed and this horrible green face with horns came out of the ceiling saying it’s going to get me! Well I screamed and cried so hard that my grandparents were called and my grandfather brought candy and he picked me up to touch this hook on the ceiling because I kept pointing at the ceiling saying “ MONKEY!” that was the best I could get out. Now remember I am 4 or 5 and I don’t know about Jesus or demons yet but as an adult I know for a fact it was a demon! Kids have the ability to see things adults can’t also pets can see the unknown. Years later when I was asleep at which is now my second ex-wife’s house we slept in separate rooms because I snore anyway I was in my REM sleep when about 3am I was being chocked and I could see this face which appears in my TV screen 📺 even though I am paralyzed with my eyes closed and it was going to chock me to death and I could only in my mind call out “Jesus “ and it was as if lightning struck this demon it flew off me so quickly and as I awakened I saw a white cloud next to my body and it was freezing cold and my TV came on by itself! I swear this really happened to me Mark as well as many other paranormal activities. So For me I can’t not believe in good and evil and and I believe in Heaven and a hell. You asked that we leave a comment especially if we are close to your age so that’s my feelings on the subject. As for my beautiful fiancée Merlyn who lives in Dumaguete I will leave her most of my stuff and will make sure she’s taken care of. She’s 26 and I am 65 like you Mark so we have a lot in common. She also has a KZbin channel called “M&M Journey “ if you and you’re fiancée want to see a little of her? I pay for her rent, food ,internet , you name it til I get back over there and yes I have met her family in the province....they are very poor so I do help them out as well only because I can and know how much they appreciate it. I started to cry a little bit when I was up on the mountain in the province to see how real it is that her family is in such poverty. Sorry I made this so long and I will be happy to meet up with you and you can interview me if you find me interesting when I get back over there?

[@cybertrav]

Very good comments. I agree with you wholeheartedly because I believe the Bible is God's Word. I gave my heart to Jesus as a young lad. Now I will be 77 soon, so the end is near. Yes, there is life after death. People need to think....where do I want to spend eternity, in Heaven or Hell.

[@verygood7155]

Personally if I was very ill and was ready to die I'd like to go out like Edward G Robinson in the movie Soylent Green.

[@bettygumilao3236]

Nice background! Take care!!!

[@arthurcastro1765]

Per my observation someone will die first of accident rather than regular health sickness. So it is better to share your PIN # or password to your trusted partner just in case of premature death

[@KrayPurn]

The truth of the matter is that everything, to include life itself has a beginning, a middle, and a end. The cycle of death started the second we were born. It is not death that I fear, but rather not reaching a point in my life where I need no alarm clock. Need not answer to a boss...Or ex-wife. That point where I can say the words; "You can kiss my A$$!!!" and smile about it😲🤔👌. And that point is just 4 years, 2 days, 6 hours, 21 minutes and 09 seconds from right...now!

[@Jay-vr9ir]

Oh , yes I am 61 , never married , no kids ,living with a woman for too many years. I do not have enough $ to pack it in , so I have to wait for my government pension and I am trying to take care of myself, no smoking, very little alcohol and on a diet .I want to move to Vancouver Island and try to live as cheaply as possible. I hope I make it .

[@buyerofsorts]

Careful, man plans, God laughs...

[@winkhvac62]

beautiful background

[@Jakearrian]

Hi I am 33 and I live in bohol for almost 3 years. I watched a few of your videos. I appreciate the honesty. The roads here are insane.

[@mebeasensei]

Thanks for this. I’m in Japan and it could happen to me. It seems weird. But I have to get my head around it. You give me a little more courage to ask myself.

[@peterbusdon5965]

Hi Mark, excellent video clip as usual. I like your candidness regarding your situation for I believe you’ve thought this out with no second thoughts. I agree we seniors should plan for the final event and decide how we exit. But you may have more time than you think. I’m living in SE Asia 15 years now and I find that a number of men can easily achieve 85-90 before checking out. Provided one is somewhat prudent with their lifestyle longevity can be attained. Should I make the trip to the Philippines I’ll look you up and perhaps we can have a coffee or a cold one. Stay well, take care and as always all the best!

[@armandosanchez8901]

You should consider stop ridding motorcycle

[@arielpuatu3961]

Great topic. I'm 57yo and considering spending years there. Some people are uncomfortable and avoid this subject, even though it's part of life (and death) cycle. It should behoove anyone and is very appropriate to plan and not ignore it, as lack of action could affect people around your adversely. That is careless and unfair. I agree that getting your shirt together will give you peace of mind and allow your love ones and friends to proceed with their lives without the burden of sorting things out for you when you croak. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your video mate!

[@philboisvert3005]

Great video enjoy your blog

[@DIYTechnician]

damn good talk

[@dpower2012]

Bud Brown did some research for a friend who passed away last year regarding cremation in the Philippines. He mentions it's about $700 if I recall. Hit him up the next time you see him. 👍

[@jigadeekinley]

I’m 58 my father and his wife just died. I want to make sure my greedy family gets nothing after seeing this mess. I’m gonna work on it this week. Make sure it all goes to charities.

[@d9918]

Two things to do to increase your longevity in the Philippines, don't drink and don't drive a scooter/motorcycle just walk everywhere or take public transport.

[@abcebtyyrrfgjj1077]

I quit working as an accountant to take care of my husband. He's got a heart problem, clogged artery. He did not like to have the surgery, and would often say that he will just let nature takes its course. Sometimes, i cringed becos i like him to live longer. At other times, i understand where he is coming from. I take care of him night and day. At the moment he is doing well, but heart ailment is different it could get you when you least expect it. But the time we spend together is something that we both enjoy. I enjoy preparing his bfast, lunch and dinner. I am a control freak when it comes to his diet. He has no medications. So i let him take kyolic aged garlic and turmeric pills. He is British by the way. Your video was good.

[@michaelsix9684]

in my case I had 3 operations, six months of chemo, single, never married, and no kids, so I must plan now for what lies ahead

[@everymanhasastory]

Don't waste a single day. Get out there and see the world. Love will find you if that's what you want. Best of luck

[@thomasdee3119]

Excellent. Thank you.

[@bobnevala5218]

First off I don't see You dying any time soon Mark. I see You living easily into Your mid 80's with your mindset on Life. Secondly, those recommending that You get a Car either do not understand that you have very little money and/or they think that motorcycles are unsafe and no one should ride one. There are people out there that die behind the wheel of a Mack Truck! Thirdly, there is a difference between playing it safe and being smart about things In Life. If you have a blind turn where you pullout from your apartment complex, go in the other direction and then stop and double back. Problem solved! Just a week ago The Chief Justice of The Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court died of a Heart Attack. One of the Best Hospitals in The World in Boston keep him alive for a couple of weeks, but in the end he died at age 65. Perhaps Mark you just need some lessons on riding a motorcycle that you never got when you were younger? Some people don't like others to share another KZbin Channel on their KZbin Channel. I don't know if that is the case with you Mark, but perhaps This Gentleman has a way to make you a better Motorcyclist than You were when you were so much younger. P.S. I like it when you tell your stories with the mountain in the background. Thanks so much Mark for sharing Your Stories, Bob kzbin.info/www/bejne/i57Jd6x-orelgtk

[@brianhughes1681]

I am Australian 74 retired in Subic Bay I have been retired here for 18 months but my wife is Philippine but Australian citizen we have been coming here for last 20 years and I defiantly never think about dying just never think that your that old stay young in your mind but the one thing here you do not want to have health problems this is a third world country and it’s like tuning the clock backwards I am like you if something happens just have to live with it but the restriction on older people in pandemic is like making prisoners of us a lot of things we cannot do like travel

[@arizonafarang4034]

That was such a ray of sunshine!!

[@ima4ster]

We're the same age and I think about this subject also. My father had a simple operation installing a pacemaker when he was 68. So, instead of dying of a heart attack at 68 like his father, he lived for another 15 years or so and lived through cancer, diabetes, etc. I've always said that I would not make that same first decision to install the pacemaker, but you know what....we don't know until we're there and need to make that decision. By the way, I am a Christian and I believe that suicide is the result of a lack of faith. I do wonder about situations where an elderly person is locked up in a long-term care facility with severe dementia and can get no assistance from family. It's a bad situation. My mother is there now.

[@landlady4990]

Hi there guys ....😊thats so cool its always to get ready for everything no matter what you are rich or poor .the very important thing is to save your soul to other side of our live.money is worthless if you die but to be repent for our sins is the best thing to do .fallow the rules of Almighty God.thats my suggestion.your physical body is return to dust but our soul is returning to our heavenly father .and if you dont fallow his rule you might go to the hell of fire.😢

[@rhianngacusan1227]

get a saint peter insurance, they will take care of the funeral casket etc., acquire a grave lot... in this way in case something happens you will burden no one of burial exp.. now here in the phil unlike some other country death is very religious. i could not explain further but just wait till nov. 1 and you shall see what i mean.

[@buckeyeadventures1631]

Interesting perspective... If possible I will choose the time and the method of my exit from life... However until that time I will be on a mission to fill my time with things of interest to my mind, body and soul... I enjoy the simple life of the Philippine province, while at the same time I crave the social life that urban areas have to offer... Cheers to all.. !!

[@arkijun8304]

Hi mark , you are absolutely correct, there is nothing certain in life but death and taxes ha ha ha...anyways, seriously being able the accept the inevitable, is a powerful and very liberating attitude, it will make you embrace life and whats left of it better. ....at 45 years old then i got it figured out, i bought a memorial plan ( st. Peters or Loyola mem plan available here min around 1k US) for myself so that my next of kin wouldnt be bothered so much of my passing. You thoughts are pragmatic... thats what makes others enjoy your stories. Keep it up! Who knows youll live till 100. Nobody knows. But yes be prepared. Its like taxes.

[@fredamagdayodahan-taer2730]

Such an eye opener topic and i think it should be addressed within family. I do agree with you on that too getting help from the doctors for medication to die peacefully if youre terminally ill. I think some states does it now bcuz honestly i would rather be gone than to continue living in a vegetative stats....you're not only sufferings but also giving burdens to your loved ones. (Just my opinion)

[@TomandAmyinthePI]

Looks like Cremation in P.I. is about $1200.00 US including casket for wake (I assume)

[@Jackson-e4k]

I’m in the beginning of the video so you may have talked about this but there’s no charge dying if you donate your body to a medical school or some other place for research. Strange how it costs money to die.

[@keithd1219]

When i was younger, when you'd ask an older person how they're you often get a story about their ailments and meducations. Now that I'm close to 60, if anyone asks me how I'm doing I start talking about my problems. I've now become old!

[@keithd1219]

@pat I guess so....im retired for 2.5 years now so no stress from work but now I take care of my mom....so new kind of stress.

[@elephantinrm]

Funny, some believe once you place it on the things to do list, the end is near. Putting it off won’t change the date dying will happen. The reason for putting your things in order is to prevent someone else from having to clean up your mess. Mark, I would like to ask you about your experience when you felt close to the ceiling and could see your Own body. I have also experienced the same thing, when I was outside myself two things happened and would like to know if you had the same experience. I noticed my body wasn’t moving, I also noticed I could see the ceiling and myself. It was as if my body was on the bed, that part of me near the ceiling had no body. There was no need to turn my head or body to see my body or the ceiling. All it took was a thought. I was a runner for many years, there’s a point during running when you can’t feel your feet touch the ground. You feel light as if all your carrying is your thoughts, even those seem absent. I can’t really describe it, I just know I felt the same looking down at my body. Would appreciate any thoughts you may have? Thanks.

[@willieshoemaker8680]

Thanks Mark!!! good video. willie stuck in seattle

[@musicwormhole6008]

Mark, please put some lighting on your face, especially because you like that angle and frame with the mountain in the background. It will improve the quality of your channel. The next improvement would be a better microphone but lets do this one step at a time :)

[@heretical161]

I'm a 37 y/o Ameeican male who's watched my mother, my father, and my entire family rot away, in front of me, in the hospital, all on chemo- I WILL NEVER DO IT, NO MATTER WHAT! How can something that only kills cells ever be good 4 even a healthy person? Totally agree w u about the suffering. Unfortunately, not only is it illegal to help put a dying suffering person out of their misery, their are several industries built up around it (eg. chemo, drug cos, & so much more) that will not DARE let u put a suffering person, at end of life, out of their reach

[@clivejury5536]

Cremation in the Philippines currently isn’t first choice. But in time that may change. For me I have chosen to live my life in the Philippines with my Filipino wife. So when my time comes I want to be cremated and my ashes scattered on our land somewhere.

[@peterfleming1946]

AAA+ great video Mark!.

[@artman2606]

Hi, Mark I really like your channel and the stories! I'm 63 still working a stressful job I'm sick of for 29 years,semi-truck driver, but I'm home every night. Your video hit me when you said you only have so many days left. My dad was 63 when he died. I'm so brainwashed to work till 66.I have enough money to buy health insurance and retire but its fear I think. When I saw you, and your buddy Paul say the hell with it retire and move to the Phillippines I thought good for you. My second wife is a Philippino from Cavite married in May 2004.you made me want to make my first youtube comment..LOL..again all your stories, especially the one about your dad! I had a similar experience with a bad hospital and my dad. It was a Friday night he was not feeling well and I said let's go to the hospital, being a stubborn German he said, I'll go Monday after work. I said no we are going now..long story short, after the hospital jerked us around for 3 hours they said my dad has gas and to go home.as we were walking out of the hospital my dad had a massive stroke and never was conscience again.3 or 4 days later I told my mom to pull the plug... keep the stories coming! You got me thinking to start a channel, just to document some things for my grandkids when I'm gone..

[@tonylee7291]

I think people should plan their death. Unless it is an accident, or your young. I think once you are 50 start getting your plans taken care of. I believe as you do, if two doctors say you are terminally ill. You should have the right to choose the way you go. With respect and dignity.

[@Ron-oe7hg]

Sad but neccessary vid sir. Everyone should have a plan for their exit strategy. Holy Fathers blessings for peace of mind and long life.

[@JSLigon]

About euthanasia. It's your life. If you reach a point where you don't want to live anymore, nobody else has the right to tell you otherwise. Whether you have a good reason to want to end your life, or not. What would constitute a good reason is subjective anyway. Someone could be perfectly healthy from a physical standpoint, but deeply depressed and feeling no hope for the future. I might think they should make every effort to climb out of that hole, but it's their call, not mine, and not anyone else's.

[@taconegro3699]

Free health care, legal assisted suicide, civil society and an equivalency to social security. So glad I'm Canadian!! My plan to retire and live in the Philippines only got better after this video...

[@georgenestler2534]

I'm 77 and just went through radiation treatment for prostate cancer here in USA. I plan on being cremated when my time comes. My girl is in Philippines.

[@lovelynsantos928]

Mark, in some US states euthanasia or doctor-assisted suicide is now legal. In California, the law and regulations therein are patterned after Oregon but much stricter. California does not allow it to be called euthanasia or doctor assisted suicide. It is called "end of life option." Advocates call it "dying with dignity" or "having compassion." In California, there are certain eligibility criteria that the patient has to meet in order to APPLY for this option. First and foremost, patient must establish and show proof of California residency (and not just visiting to avail of thid option). Acceptable proof includes state tax filed and/or assets in CA. Some of the additional criteria include that patient must be of sound mind, undergo multiple psychological evaluations, has a terminal illness that could end life within 6 months, doctors' approvals (which could mean have to be under doctor's care), and patient must have discussed and requested for this option at least twice. My understanding is that the doctor may legally prescribe the medications for this particular reason but patient must be able to administer it to one's self. Death certificate does not record this as the cause of death. What is also interesting is that even in death, there seems to be socio-economic disparity. California preliminary data shows that almost all of the people who chose this option had higher education and of higher socioeconomic level. If one thinks about it, if thr patient is on low or no income status and rely on Medicaid/Medi-Cal and/or Medicare, the patient may have to wait quite awhile and have to advocate for those two evaluations by a (mental health) specialist. The patient could have been long gone due to their terminal illness before the appointment with the specialists. Also, my understanding is that dying from these particular medication (which I will not mention here) is not always peaceful as the body and the brain may also react violently. Lots of things to consider for the patient and their family, including the safe handling of the medications. Hope that there are no opportunistic people inthr patient's circle who might get a hold of the medications and misuse or find a black market for it. I believe in dignity, self-determination, and, when the body is dead, that person's energy may still exist but in another dimension/wavelength that may not necessarily be visible to the naked eyes. If one was to think about the impact on those that get left behind, especially if there is faith/religion involved, then there could be another list of things to consider. So I agree with you that it is best to have your affairs in order and have a written/valid will to lessen the burden on those that get left behind but this is not always possible. Even then one does not have control over how others (including the professionals involved) will psychologically react. Love ones may be left psychologically burdened with guilt and "what ifs" or they may find peace quicker by having an understanding that their loved one transitioned with choice/empowerment and dignity. Communication, understanding, and compassion are key for all involved.

[@michaelsix9684]

I've nearly died twice in the past nine years due to cancer, then abdominal adhesions two years ago, they could come back later, I am living with a time bomb, and it's scary

[@everymanhasastory]

I'm sorry to hear that Michael All I can say is try to make the most of every day

[@michaelsix9684]

@@everymanhasastory I've been very lucky, so I'm thankful, love your posts

[@samj0nes124]

Hi Mark, I’m in my 40s but I do think of death already ! Same, I might as well be cremated rather than the old style of being a cemetery eaten by worms.. take care while there esp with road accidents. I missed seeing your videos of only you talking . I hope you’d find a proper care when the time comes for you.

[@reyes73ceo]

yes, it seems time really flies. Best wishes for you my friend.

[@LazyLary]

Good subject Mark. I was also thinking about what you or any older guy would/should do for their younger girlfriend. Giving them the atm pin code is a start. I know that if you are married for 10 years or more they would get a survivors benefit from your social security. That might only be true if you were living in the states Idk. Something to look into?

[@marvinphillips1326]

When I make the move to the Philippines its for good. If I die there I'll just have to accept that. What my GF & her family do with my body and/or ashes its there decision. I can recall in the early 90's an ex GF's uncle had a nasty form of cancer; the cancer was in his blood, floating around his entire body. The poor guy was unable to move, could barely talk, his head looked like a Mr. Potato head, bulges all over his body. Very grotesque. Every time they gave him food or liquid it would just come back up. A very sad way to go. Do I believe in mercy killing? My answer is Yes, but only if there is no hope and/or no cure.

[@delaluz4634]

Good point Mark, it appears to be very similar circumstances with Mike Cason from my Philippine Journey channel before he passed. Life is about choices and the key to success is proper preparation. Imho and thanks for sharing.

[@justbrowsing6327]

Thank you Mark, you made some good points. Stuff to take on board for the future. One point tho, i have a will here in Australia, is it enforcible in the Philipines?? Also my brother passed a cpl of years back now, he only wanted just the total basic cremation, no frills at all. The cost was $7000au So i think $2500usd is pretty good.😊 Thanks again for an informative vid. Stay safe. 👍

[@mikeking7351]

Holy shit..... I should not have paused the video........ all I can say........ we need to communicate!

[@vicaravitakka2301]

Thanks for your video, very pragmatic and clear-eyed, and also moving. I'm Filipino, and here are some tips you and other expat readers may wish to consider, based on my experience as primary caregiver for older relatives before they passed: --Prepare an advance directive (which some call a Do Not Resuscitate--or DNR--order) regarding specific interventions that you would not ever want performed on you, particularly if you end up in a coma/incapacitated and cannot make decisions for yourself. You could have this document notarized (but would have to be very precisely worded, to avoid legal complications); I have also been advised that it might be preferable to put it in your own recognizable handwriting and for you to sign it witnessed (and co-signed) by friends/relatives who can always be reached easily. These "extreme measures" may include being put on a ventilator, or being force-fed through a tube. Private hospitals in the Philippines, especially those affiliated with religious institutions, are OBLIGED to do all things possible to preserve life, especially in ER situations. This even in cases where the patient will likely not survive. Even with health insurance, the resulting expense can be enormous and has to be paid out-of-pocket. And, even though your partner knows precisely what you would like, unless they are a legal spouse, child, sibling or parent, they may not be recognized by hospitals as having the authority to convey your life-and-death choices. Some government hospitals, especially in remote provinces, do not have any kind of life-saving equipment or expertise at all, which saves everyone the trouble of making decisions; but it can be very difficult for the patient. An advance directive can help. --If you and your circle of expat friends know of hired caregivers who have taken very good care of someone you know (whether short-term care or end-of-life care), keep their contact information, touch base occasionally. Such caregivers may not be RNs; they may have been unable to finish their nursing course, or have taken only a short-term course in caregiving; but if they are tried-and-true, they are the ones to contact for services or referrals. Even if you have them for just a few days, they can help to orient your partner in medical/hospital caregiving. (Hospitals in the Philippines expect that most patients will have a relative to stay with them while confined.) --There are almost no hospice facilities in the Philippines BUT an increasing number of large urban hospitals offer home-based palliative/end-of-life care. My guess is that palliative care is available in the Dumaguete area. It might be good, while one is healthy, to identify a local cardiologist, say, and have at least one out-patient consultation/checkup (providing him/her with one's medical history). Not a major expense at this point, but it establishes a relationship, both with him and the hospital he's affiliated with. If in the future one develops an ailment that would require another specialist, that cardiologist would provide the referral. If you're brought into the ER for one reason or another, he can be contacted by the admitting desk. One could also ask him, in the course of consultation, about the availability of palliative care --just in case. He'll take his cue from that about what one's preferences might be. --Carry on your person at all times a card with your "main" doctor's name and hospital as well as the contact information of your partner and closest friends in your area, mentioning your current medications, allergies etc. Can just print it out at home and have it laminated in town. --All of what I've just said serves as a kind of informal "insurance" to prepare for all sorts of possibilities. May help keep expenses down and make things more efficient and hassle-free. Based on what you've expressed in this video, you and others of similar mind may also want to have a look at How To Get the Death You Want: A Practical and Moral Guide. The author, John Abraham, is both a "thanatologist" AND an Episcopal priest. A compassionate and pragmatic book, with a chapter on advance directives. My best wishes to all who've read this far.

[@b.baggins8893]

I just turned 68 my boy here is 3 and keeps me busy all day. Never been really sick and feel great. Worked all my life in Hospitals being a medtech engineer I avoid by all chances to be admitted to a hospital in case I get sick. My goal is to put my wife into a status to be able to manage the family without my help. Otherwise I live my life day by day and try to enjoy my time.

[@b.baggins8893]

@@everymanhasastory Thanks for the ❤️ you seem a real nice person from what I seen on your channel. As I don't believe in death, nothing can scare me. Maybe our bodies give up one day, but the soul goes marching on ....

[@kayakcobber524]

I am a big fan of euthanasia. If done in the right way and not impulsive behaviour! We here in Holland have a good book about it and nowadays also available in English: Boudewijn Chabot is the author and the title is Dignified Dying. It is beside a help book also a book about insights with law and the people who left behind. And a great help for opening up the subject about these matters.

[@ubon11]

I’m retired military, was at Clark back in the day. I had a former supervisor who retired about 10 years before I did and moved to Angeles. He had a good run, drank like crazy and chased women every night (let’s be honest not really much of a chase), but of course he passed on way too young, ending up dying right there in Angeles after about 12 years of partying every night. The lifestyle of San Miguel morning, noon, and night is not conducive to longevity. I’m thinking very seriously of finally making that move to Angeles. I have plenty of money and nothing holding me here in the US. It would be so easy to just do it. Women and beer are a lot of fun, but I’m not convinced that would sustain me. So I’m just going to go as soon as this Covid thing is over and take it week by week. I don’t think I can live there permanently, but you never know until you try. One thing is for sure though, I will drink beer very moderately and continue getting as much as exercise as I can like I do now.