let's explore "trendercore" !

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[@BBDOT]

i’m a binary trans guy who is not gnc at all but trendercore has helped me so much and it’s helped me love myself and my trans identity so much!!!!! what i’ve learnt most from trendercore is that i don’t have to want to be cis!! i am so proud of being trans :D

[@graveyardpansy]

fuck yeah !!!!!

[@alicec1533]

That is so cool, happy for you awesome!

[@cameurysm]

this comment is old but i'm so happy for you ❤️❤️ i hope youre well

[@jacquelyn_jacqueline]

:D

[@SLUDGEWARE]

THE WAY HE USES THE NEOPRONOUNS OF EACH TRENDERSONA N STUFF........ THIS IS THE ONLY VIDEO ON THE INTERNET I LOVE IT

[@StarCatchrr]

This is the video ever ‼️‼️

[@afeelingofdreadd]

As a ex kalvin garage stan, I adore trendercore so much. It took me so much extra time to figure out who I am due to the push for me to hate the fact I’m trans and hate my body when in reality, I don’t. I don’t hate being trans I think it’s really neat and sometimes I don’t mind my curves and I don’t mind my boobs sometimes which is totally cool. I don’t need to be disappointed. I don’t need to be disappointed for dressing how I want.

[@reix3230]

I wish I never watched Kalvin, he's the reason I still question myself so much today even though I stopped watching him I could've discovered my gender way earlier than this :(

[@kirbysthiccthighs]

@@reix3230 same here, but with blaire white. just remember you’re valid, loved, and you deserve to be able to love yourself, too🥺💜

[@iamhydration9263]

@@reix3230 same! I hope you can eventually rid yourself completely of Kalvin Garbages words. I'm rooting for you love ❤️

[@reix3230]

@@iamhydration9263 you too (＾∇＾)ﾉ♪💕🥰

[@aminishnamedvaati]

okay now i want to see kalvin and eridan ampora fight to the death

[@frog3287]

enbyphobes: You can't use they/them pronouns! it's plural! use a different word! enbies: *create neopronouns* enbyphobes: no! not like that!

[@FarofaBiladeira]

I'm happy that trendercore is so empowering, i'm cis, also bi, but the whole "transtrender" thing really upsets me, I mean, i just hate minorities judging minorities, it doesn't make sense to me, we should help eachother, there's so much more to life than trying to limit ourselves just to satisfy some society niche, they don't do that for us

[@esomaisumcanaldedesenho9104]

Me as a Bi cis girl have to agree, here in my country, there ara a buch of gay man that says that the "other letters" are not valid..... I think Trendercore is cool

[@yukiandkanamekuran]

Back when I identified as cis, I always felt extremely uncomfortable with transmedicalism but didn't think I could say anything about it. I'm glad at least now that I have a voice against that bullshit. We all deserve love and support!!!

[@gh0stbat110]

The positivity of this video is so much more powerful than negative videos that shame trans people.

[@micky2708]

I think trendercore is nice because it’s a reclamation of something that’s been put on others in a way to shame them. It seems very healing to me for people who have been put down or demonized for how they dress/express themselves. While I don’t participate in it, I understand why it exists and I’m glad people (who want to) can have a way to reclaim something that’s been negative/harmful to them. It just seems so positive and honestly we need more of that. Especially now with all the influx of hate towards trans people/ trans nonbinary people

[@micky2708]

coming back to this video/comment a over a year later to say I've started to explore more abstract parts of my gender and have also added another name I love being called-Moth- that before now I would've been too afraid to express or explore. I still don't fully participate in trendercore but I have been able to explore my gender more and find more labels like really fit for me like voidgender or gendervoid. Also have been thinking of adding or exploring neopronouns to add them later on because while I love they/them, for me finding very specific ways to help communicate my gender to others or just for myself is something that means a lot to me.

[@ApollosDagger]

My crops are flourishing, my skin is cleared, my depression is healed, I am LIVING this!!!!!

[@nessbailey7931]

This reminds me so much of voidpunk and cripplepunk. (Cripplepunk is for physically disabled people and should be referred to as cpunk by abled people and disabled people who are uncomfortable with the word cripple). You should check them out, Daniel, even if they don't apply to you!

[@emmagrenier8277]

Is there a similar punk for mentally disabled people, say like nerodivergentpunk or retardpunk

[@corenisveryconfused]

@@emmagrenier8277 Crip can be reclaimed by many kinds of disabled people. Cpunk I assume applies to mental disabilities also. (Then again I'm multiply disabled, both physically and mentally and can miss stuff ) The r word on the other hand... Only intellectually disabled people really have the right and can we just not anyway? I hate it

[@nico-we7bp]

ok ngl. when you started reading that first trendersona post and alternated pronouns i almost started crying. i know this video is kind of old but I must say. i use multiple pronoun sets as well and people almost always will just use he/him for me with no alternation and just hearing someone alternate between someone else's pronoun sets made me so euphoric

[@abbiepancakeeater52]

!!!!! same. i alternate between they/he/she and it always feels so wrong when someone defaults to just one set like no,,, pls try to use at least two of them,,, even if you change it daily or something. it feels like being misgendered when people use just one single set yknow?

[@osml]

Omg I didn't know you were supposed to do that with pronouns sets!!! Woah!!! I am learning so much.

[@souleaterevans4589]

Hoo boy, I'm not being good to my fellow enbys. I didn't know people wanted their pronouns alternated like that. As an enby who only uses she/her, I had no clue. I've only ever heard of them being used in different circumstances or based on gender feels at a given point. I've gotta remember to ask if other enbys want me to do that in reference to them.

[@Koiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii]

Yes I love people alternating pronouns I use they/it and I get so annoyed when people call me they all the time because they think it’s rude to call me it even though I ask them to.

[@DoubleGoner]

Oh omg!! i didn't realize people with multiple pronouns liked it when the pronouns got alternated, thank you for writing this because now i know!! :D

[@phoenixll632]

I literally said "Damn, I wish I could be trans so I could transition" ...very cis thing to say /s

[@strangecassette]

cis guy: wears skirt and makeup everyone: yes! get it! give gender roles the finger! trans dude/nb person: also wears skirt and makeup everyone: well thats not right, boys dont wear makeup :/ anyways, loud and proud trender here, my gender is a floating eyeball that sears your most visceral guilt into your soul, and this video is everything

[@achilleus9918]

The aesthetic is not really me but I LOVE the idea behind trendercore. I need to find a way to translate it into my rather more subdued and professor-ish style

[@e.valentinian]

maybe some dark academia inspired style integrated, with dramatic makeup?

[@salemsmith7085]

Trender Acedamia? like what @Kirby D. said with dark acadamia? What about like ProTrender? like for professional trender or smth? I def would love to see some of that if you ever put it out there

[@achilleus9918]

@@salemsmith7085 I mean, I like some of the stuff associated with dark academia (though I hate the name), but honestly I’m 23 and don’t feel the need for these hyper-specific aesthetic labels! If they make you happy then I’m not against it but I don’t get it, personally.

[@hannahfranklin2814]

DARK ACADEMIA TRENDDERCORE

[@bmd9551]

Happy flaps right here!!! I love trendercore so much. Im a trans guy who wears makeup and likes heels and i relate!!!

[@claireb6543]

HAPPY FLAPS

[@nopeimout3182]

HAPPY FLAPS INDEED

[@decietfuldolphin986]

@@nopeimout3182 INDEED!

[@tk-ol6iv]

HAPPY FLAPS INDEED MY THUDE!

[@kip1815]

HAPPY FLAPS!!! HSGSHWUWJJaAAA!! :DDD

[@n.c.435]

god i NEED the spiked leather gloves -theyre for punching people who misgender me and also my ex who outed me-

[@salemsmith7085]

honestly thats fucking awful ur ex is shitty also arent the gloves so cute tho? i just love them so much!

[@souleaterevans4589]

It really sucks when someone does that. It's so unfair to take that choice away from someone, even just in reference to one person. Not cool at all and I hope you're doing okay

[@CHLUPANDO]

can i say that what the actual f like in the start of quarantine i was watching kalvin garage and now im here *e d u c a t i o n*

[@isthataspider7410]

Sam Collins has changed since that video and he’s way more accepting, just so y’all know.

[@reubenbryant]

Well said. Never heard of trendercore before. But I’ve never understand why some people are so keen to put down other people just because they present in a different way. So anything that helps put an end to that is a positive.

[@caylyfishbein2469]

This is so beautiful. As a binary trans guy, I have struggled a lot with toxic masculinity and needing to feel “trans enough”, even though I’ve always experienced extreme dysphoria. I love the idea of being more gnc but I thought that made me invalid. Thank you for sharing this.

[@xx_d0ra3m0n_xx]

You can use anything to express urself! Don’t let society norms hold u back!

[@nicoshaughnessy6476]

This is probably a weird thing to notice but I really like how effortlessly you'll use mixed pronouns for people who have separate ones? ie that he/they/it sona at the beginning and you used a diff pronoun for each bullet point? idk as an author who sees a lot of readers choose and stick to just one pronoun set for my multi-pronouned characters it's just nice to see

[@sffb8295]

I've got a genderfluid character who "came out" around 2018-2019 so I made practice of using he/they/her pronouns for them to the point that it felt natural and effortless whenever I say it. I hope to do more of this for other queer OCs of mine,because it's really nice.

[@kiste.222]

I SAW THE VIDEO IN MY NOTIFS AND JUST *HAPPY STIMS* *HAPPY STIMS* *HAPPY STIMS*

[@graveyardpansy]

happy flaps !!!??!

[@kiste.222]

@@graveyardpansy YES YES!!

[@crishall9522]

All the happy flaps haha

[@argo5330]

Aaaaaaaaaaaaa *flicks fingernails rapidly* H A P P Y S T I M S

[@nothere251]

happy arm flaps

[@eliagamiz1320]

I love the post aknowledging the conflicting relationship between gender and autism. Sometimes gender identity and neurodivergency are equaly important in constructing ones identitty

[@Hi-vf9wx]

14:44 AE'RE SITTING ON KALVIN GARRAH'S GRAVE I CANT LMAOOOO

[@mammoneymelon]

the power

[@savnoel]

my friend mars coined the term trendercore and i'm !!💖💕!!

[@savnoel]

happy flap time !!!!!!!!

[@graveyardpansy]

happy flaps right back at you !!

[@KoatsNGoats]

I follow him!!!! his fashion/style is rad and im just :)))

[@mammoneymelon]

good for mars daldnalf it's a great term

[@praalgraf]

we have a specific word in dutch for reclaimed slurs - it's a 'geuzennaam' (from french geux - beggars) from the dutch revolt when the beggars started revolting. i love seeing transtrender reclaimed like this, it's so positive!!

[@Generic_emo_username]

Ashton: *casually uses it/it's for someone's sona* Me: *SECONDHAND EUPHORIC SCREAMING*

[@maxhasproblems4885]

TRENDERSYNTH IS LITERALLY MY AESTHETIC WHAT- Sincerely, an agender human

[@jupiterzombies]

OMG... did you not notice the trender-goth sona was sitting on kalvin garrah's gravestone? i DIED lmaooo

[@felikso]

This was really interesting for me to watch! As a trans man who presents much more traditionally and who doesn't consider his transness as much of a big part of who he is, the whole trendercore thing is something that I would never be a part of myself, but I can see how happy it makes people, and it's Awesome! I also love how much it advocates for self-love! plus, although I do get kind of dysphoric sometimes, it's hardly enough for me to justify any kind of medical transition so I have no plans for surgery or hrt or anything, so I'm also very glad that this movement is helping people be more aware of and comfy with the idea that not all trans people medically transition, and that's Fine and Valid Too! nice!

[@graveyardpansy]

good comment !!! that's all i have nothing else to say just. thank you for sharing :)

[@moonbased7796]

Let’s be real: Trendercore, Kidcore, and Cottagecore are probably the best core’s that to ever exist (in my own opinion) and I gotta love how everyone in those aesthetic groups (I don’t know if they are considered as aesthetics but gonna roll with it) is so wholesome and accepting!

[@kip1815]

agree!!1! :DD

[@mentally_meow]

Since we use the word cishet, we should do that for ourselves as well For example, I'm transbi

[@mammoneymelon]

enbyace nice

[@soyboy6953]

enbyqueer aww yeah

[@officert5147]

Every time u validate me a transmed gets blasted glossily into space to Enya’s “only time”

[@shinzob4704]

I'm kinda sorta a Transmed (don't believe in invalidating people's identities tho!) But man your comment is hella underrated rn and I think I'll be laughing till eternity 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@officert5147]

Shinzo B LMAO thanks! :D I mean hey, having a personal opinion on the definition of trans, questioning it-Imo that’s fine. It’s what you do with your beliefs that matters. Respecting other people’s identities even if you don’t understand them? Aces my dude

[@shinzob4704]

@@officert5147 of course, I believe there's enough hatred out there and I don't wish to spread more *just* cuz I don't understand something! That would be the most inhumane thing to do! Humanity above everything!🖤

[@officert5147]

Shinzo B Nice :D

[@SaintCharlos]

_You're not valid_

[@Chaosbutch]

I’m a transmasculine demiboy who’s GNC, and I laugh at people who call me a transtrender Like, I laugh at them because I know myself way better than them Trendercore is lovely

[@Angelgrimalkin]

Trendercore has really helped me accept myself as a gender non conforming trans girl. Growing up, I’ve really hated my queerness and had a lot of internalized transphobia and homophobia, but discovering trendercore helped me so much with self love and discovery

[@ClosetDemon]

i'm making a trender oc but it's me if i wasn't still halfway in the closet and full of anxiety

[@saragarofano9727]

♥️ sending hugs for strength

[@alexiswilson8093]

I love trendercore. It helped me come to terms with being a Demi girl and a lesbian. My pronouns are she/her and they/them. I don't have any social or body dysphoria. I only want to be able to wear a binder sometimes, and I've considered changing my name to Arden. Trendercore also helps me remember that I don't have to medically transition to be valid.

[@alexonline2340]

this video has the exact opposite energy of like youtubers reacting to cringe comps this is BEAUTIFUL

[@ggjune7392]

Can I just say that I love how some enbies reclaim it/its pronouns??? If u go by it/its I love u so much MWAH

[@yvesntuality]

we love u too

[@ggjune7392]

@@yvesntuality ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@straycat698]

I love you too!!! *KISS*

[@ggjune7392]

@@straycat698 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

[@mammoneymelon]

it/its ppl are 10/10

[@brooke-qk7fg]

i'm not trans but trendercore is so wholesome & cute, i love the trendersonas

[@pansyboyfriend]

OH MY GOD! I’m the artist at 22:50! Uh, thanks!

[@graveyardpansy]

well i absolutely adore your art !!! everything about it just fills me with joy

[@sigmawhale2217]

This video inspired me to re-download Tumblr (I abandoned my other one because I gained followers but lots of them were toxic and it wasn’t good for my mental health) and make a trendercore blog! Thank you so much for introducing me - and lots of other people who watch this video - to this, since at it’s roots it’s all about loving who you are and celebrating creativity and self-expression, and a place where I can do that really is what I need in my life right now. Again, thank you for brightening my day, you’re rad as heck!

[@jr9049]

transtrenders DO exist & IM ONE OF THEM HELL YEAH

[@roo4yoo]

I drew the art at 11:30 thank you for the compliments 🥰

[@kaydenmarlow2674]

How do you use hen pronouns I don't know how to use that in a scentence.

[@roo4yoo]

Kayden Marlow 26 “Hen went to the park. Hen picked up hens water bottle. Hen cleaned henself.” Thank you for asking!

[@Theghostofnewyearspresent]

Does this come from if being the gender neutral Swedish pronoun or the chicken? Or neither? Just curious

[@eerieisnotfromhere]

THE GOTH ON K**VIN GA***HS GRAVE SENT ME OML

[@graveyardpansy]

life goals

[@saggguy7]

I know this is old but are we just not going to comment that kayden (15:00) is sitting on kalvin garrah’s grave..or...

[@brysonpfouts8949]

I hate the mindset that "transtrenders" are bad for the community when it's trans people like Kalvin Garrah who are actually toxic and bad for the community.

[@karitavahvelainen3562]

I'm an enby who's had the worst time with impostor syndrome, because of people being shitty about how enbies present themselves. Kinda love it that the whole trender insult thing kinda boiled down to 'feminine things are bad' when you think about it. It's nice to see people reclaim the word and the aesthetic, it gives me confidense.

[@willbe3043]

i once had a guy ask me why i'd want to play as a trans character when i could play as 'a cis character of the desired gender', and i was,,,,? dude u ok? this is just the type of content i needed

[@Someone_or_something_37]

Hi I'm a genderfluid trans person and I love trendiercore uwu

[@krobbalt]

this video is like... the opposite of a cringe compilation - this is so pure and wholesome! thank you!

[@cecilross2848]

I love trendercore!! For anyone looking into this on Tumblr, though, avoid "cishetlessfashion" as they have shared some pretty lesbophobic and anti enby-lesbian opinions, so try to avoid :/. I used to love their posts, so hopefully I'll find some more good blogs in this vid :P

[@graveyardpansy]

bleh that sucks, i didn’t see any of that, ill look into it :/

[@cecilross2848]

@@graveyardpansy They basically reblogged a post about how historically wlw used to all be called lesbians and how everyone who is wlw and identifies as such should be able to use lesbian and lesbian terms (like butch or femme) and they reblogged the post saying it was dumb and that bi and pan wlw were forcing themselves into lesbian communities and shit which is... a bad take.

[@psychegoddessoflight9358]

This is fascinating. I’m an old straight cis lady who wouldn’t have known this existed despite my interest in LGBT issues. I’m not practicing currently, but I’d worked as a psychotherapist for years and try to understand things from the individual perspectives of many varied ideological beliefs. As opposed to making assumptions based on categories and labels. I have so many questions for someone like you!

[@Carter-jy3qq]

I dont have a tumblr, could someone drop the link for the “mothman days trans rights” patch?

[@Carter-jy3qq]

Aaaaaand maybe the gay vampire patch. Thank

[@graveyardpansy]

i got you! www.etsy.com/listing/712519853/mothman-says-trans-rights-hand

[@graveyardpansy]

www.etsy.com/listing/695235648/hand-painted-gay-vampire-halloween-goth

[@Carter-jy3qq]

@@graveyardpansy Thank you so much!

[@Alliien34]

this was the video i needed tonight, and trendercore is the movement i needed in my life

[@hannahfranklin2814]

this makes me so happy because i used to be on an art website that was fully or mostly queer, and we couldn’t share images that weren’t art so we’d all draw ourselves and write out our pronouns and stuff and it made me super nostalgic because im sure our little bios would’ve looked like trendersonas

[@kiste.222]

the goth trendersona was sitting on a grave that had kalvin garrah's name on it oh lord

[@pigeonkid3931]

I ALMOST SCREAMED WHEN I SAW THIS VIDEO CUZ I LOVE YOU AND I LOVE TRENDERCORE AHHHH

[@graveyardpansy]

i hope you enjoyed it !!

[@3leafcloverr]

The only trans “ trender “ is trisha 😌

[@mikumikugerms]

Okay, thank you SO much for making a video on this. I've never felt so accepted like that in a while. This radiates so much positivity as well, its amazing. Anyways, I'm gonna find some more of this rad stuff XD

[@graveyardpansy]

hell yeah !! have fun friend :D

[@pistachio_stick]

ok but my trendercore aesthetic is just AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[@spyrofan245]

i feel like this comment section is a safe space... im a trans guy that suffers heavily with dysphoria and im overall a more feminine person. i have a lot of self hate for the way i act and the way i look... overall the way i am i dont mean to fish for anything or be an attention seeker but... itd be nice to hear someone call me my name, Richie, and affirm me... i rarely hear someone call me my name or pronouns or masculine things... thank you

[@Just_One_Tree]

Hey Richie 👋 Hope you’re having a good day bro!

[@tsurugikinjojoinmycult2100]

Hey Richie how do I pronounce your name?

[@spyrofan245]

@@tsurugikinjojoinmycult2100 Rich-ee. Just the way its spelled, like the nickname for Richard

[@mini-ch2wn]

honestly the amount of pure positivity in this video!!!! i already knew about the trendercore movement and loved the concept of it, but after this video i'm literally going to set up a trendercore tumblr because i NEED more of this in my life!!!

[@evilpansy]

It literally helps me love myself so hell yeah!

[@fungifollower3862]

I cannot express how happy I am that you're here to share this positivity and be here as a fellow nonbinary trans guy. There aren't enough people on youtube who reflect my identity back at me and it's really nice to feel "not alone" when it feels like there's so many privileged binary Kalvin Garrahs out there. Keep it up Ashton!!

[@itsjamie3023]

watching this video made me feel so unbelievably loved. i know i'm a year late, but i'm so happy i found this at all.

[@moviehaus3492]

i happy flapped while watching this ahhh

[@graveyardpansy]

happy flaps !!!!

[@saragarofano9727]

@@graveyardpansy mood, guys

[@greygoose8803]

i ~absolutely adore~ movements to reclaim and take the teeth away from oppression and hate. it's so wholesome and uplifting.

[@vincent1793]

"every pair of docs is an aesthetic" thank you actually this made me feel better about my 8 y/o pair of disgustingly dirty, full of holes, doc martens

[@yourchaoticadhdfriend3523]

Hi everyone, this is your reminder that you don't have to choose just one aesthetic. You can like two opposite aesthetic and that is ok. You don't have to choose, and you are not a faker.

[@acehealer4212]

Trendercore is wonderful, I love this positive and supportive energy

[@AshtontheCryptid]

I feel trendersynth down in my soul lol. I was born in 87 and grew up in the 90's. Some of my favorite childhood memories were spent in the arcade. I love anything galaxy, space, moon, stars, purple, blue, etc. Combine that with some punk rock, and a WHOLE LOT OF NERD and that's definitely my aesthetic. I just came out as non binary last year because I had finally found a word that describes how I've always felt. I absolutely love this community and how beautiful, loving, and accepting it is. We all deserve to be fucking celebrated

[@selbmot]

15:06 are aer sitting on kalvin garrah's grave, are we really gonna ignore this JRECBIHBRI im wheezing

[@charlievaness8104]

Hey so I was introduced to your channel through your video on Kalvin Garrah. And I just wanted to say that, as an autistic trans/enby anarchist, I am so stoked to come across another autistic trans/enby anarchist! I'm 26 now, and I wish I had your level of self-awareness and knowledge of trans/generally queer stuff when I was your age. I feel like I can learn a lot from you Also, my gf (anther autistic trans/enby anarchist) says they were SUPER called out by the "trendersynth" aesthetic lol

[@jerma953]

this is my comfort youtube video ive seen it probably 20 times over the past year

[@quixxilver5195]

I love trendercore and I love the way we've reclaimed the concept of "the trender" because trenders don't exist

[@ClosetDemon]

my vibe is cottagecore type calm stuff mixed with punk emo rage which is very interesting this has nothing to do with this video besides me just loving my own style.

[@tylergriffin6062]

i was having a shit day and was just bailed on so sat in full makeup and this video was absolutely amazing and ive literally never felt better

[@Ireallywouldrathernot]

Fun fact, the Finnish language when spoken tends to use "it" for people and when written only has a neutral pronoun (so "them" but with no other uses) for people.

[@MattosMalu]

as someone who really struggles with self love, finding your youtube channel was so good. it’s so beautiful how unapologetically yourself and accepting of others you are, i hope to one day achieve that myself ps: love from brazil 💚💛💙

[@snailcheeserulez]

Gender gremlin: ‘MY GENDER IS MINE’ XD

[@cemeterygxtes]

i fucking love this concept, it’s so expressive and cool

[@Itri_Vega]

Those rainbow lightning bolts are goals. Also that trendersynth collection was joy. I love vaporwave and synthwave, black and neons? Yes please.

[@eerieisnotfromhere]

ashton: ITS SO GOOOD!!

[@graveyardpansy]

someone: makes an art me: YES!!!!!!! I LOVE !!!! ITS SO GOOOODDD!!!

[@sydneydrummond1808]

the positivity is just SEEPING out of this video, the absolute joy you're radiating ,, i'm just hhhnghdjfhgkj

[@vivienlacroix1681]

hi i wanted to thank you for your videos, they really help me with my internalised transphobia (i'm genderfluid) and that really makes my life better

[@kai-191]

Hi ashton :) I'm very late and I know you don't really post anymore but I just want you to know that you have helped me so much as I explore and question my gender identity. This video warms my heart

[@noodlepoodle3582]

I feel like you would like looking at harajuku fashion, especially decora kei and fairy kei because of how colorful they are.

[@jimbomyboy9679]

NGL I want all of the clothing in this video :-) Also, it's so great to see people being unapologetically themselves! I'm a cis girl, so I've never had to deal with truscum personally, but I am so glad that all of you guys are able to reclaim your identities :-D!!! EDIT: LOL BITCH I AM NOT CIS AT ALL mans was just repressing it because it is VERY stressful to question lol thank you ashton for helping me stop lying to myself lol

[@duetopersonalreasonsaaaaaa]

You're the best kind of ally

[@kirakp2661]

So I learned a lot from the text as a whole.. I'm 32 , will be 33 and coming out as female... But I realize how much I've internalized cisgender and straight logic... I'm a grandmother in my thinking... like an old school church lady. I am so relieved to see young people not bound by cissexism and heterosexism And endosexism like I have been.

[@blueerie_]

Lmao I kinda did a flip of what normally happens- I identified as nonbinary for about a year, and during that time I only thought the logical pronouns were they/them, she/her, and he/him. I was an intense transmed and Kalvin Garage stan (ew) Now that I have discovered I actually identify with my cisgender pronouns, (she/her) I absolutely love neopronouns and I think all trans people, no matter what gender, what pronouns, appearance or transition you are valid !! ❤️ So yeah, I went from being an annoying gatekeeper transmed to being a complete ally to all of my trans comrades! (I am adopting you all) Love your lesbian mom

[@FletcherDoesStuff]

You can be Trans and/or Non Binary and not have dysphoria!!! I’m told that’s true and I have Trans/NB flags but I still get really stressed about it and feel like some ‘actually trans’ person is going to come and like!!! Beat me up emotionally or something??? Does anyone know of any videos specifically about trans/NB people I can watch???

[@unfortunate_bee]

Please explain why you think you don't need dysphoria to be trans? That's the whole point of transitioning

[@indridcold9593]

contrapoints is really great 👌🏼 especially her "transtrenders" video, that changed my outlook on the issue entirely. her "pronouns" video is really good too if you're looking for some softer content, jammidodger is a cool guy too :) i don't think i know any nb youtubers except ashton here, though

[@indridcold9593]

@@unfortunate_bee as someone who does experience dysphoria and just generally fits under transmeds' description of what a "real trans person" is - i didn't realize i was trans because i hate being a girl, i realized i was trans when people thought i was a boy and i really enjoyed it. i feel so, so much happier being recognized as a guy. with my experience with depression and general self-loathing that i've dealt with for most of my life, i don't think i would have even recognized it as a gender thing until i felt that *euphoria.* and i'm living my best life now :) some people don't feel dysphoria at all - they just feel so much happier when they can express what they identify as. the "you don't need dysphoria to be trans" statement is 1. to be more accepting of those who feel only euphoria 2. (more importantly) to make being transgender less about misery and self-hatred and more about celebrating your newfound self and just being happy with who we are now i hope that made sense, i tend to ramble a bit, heh

[@unfortunate_bee]

@@indridcold9593 ok both you and blue may, let try to explain my side. People with gender dysphoria DO feel gender euphoria as well. If you feel euphoria identifying as the opposite gender, (or nonbinary genders) doesn't that mean you feel some kind of discomfort with your birth sex? A common misconception I see is that people think you need to have intense life ruining horrible dysphoria to be trans. You don't. Even a small amount of discomfort with what you were assigned at birth and a euphoric feeling as the other gender is enough to transition and call yourself trans. I'm not one of those people who thinks you need the worst dysphoria to be trans lol so please don't get the wrong idea. But what I'm trying to say is, don't we technically agree? If you feel euphoric identifying as a different gender, you must have some kind of discomfort with your birth sex, like not wanting to use those pronouns and being misgendered would make you uncomfortable. That's a form of dysphoria. Just because it's not intense really bad body dysphoria, doesn't mean it's not dysphoria of some kind. I think what y'all r trying to say is you don't need body dysphoria to be trans, and I agree. Sorry literally none of that made sense I'm really bad with putting my thoughts into words. Also sorry if any of that sounded rude I'm really trying to understand your side :-(

[@indridcold9593]

@@unfortunate_bee it's ok! i'm also having difficulty thinking of how to phrase this, so here's a weird analogy lol let's say that every person i walk up to is going to feed me either a spoon of baked beans or a piece of chicken. i haaaate baked beans, eating them is super unpleasant for me, i would much rather eat the chicken. someone else might be perfectly fine with both the beans and the chicken, but still prefer the chicken cause it's a bit tastier to them. although they don't dislike the beans, they might request the chicken and be told "no fuck u you're getting beans," which would make them go "wow rude >:/" i'm running on 3 hours of sleep, my brain is melted, and i'm rambling about beans but. - i don't think having a preference for something requires having an active dislike for other alternatives - i think being misgendered makes just about everyone uncomfortable, but for people who don't experience dysphoria, the discomfort is caused by being disrespected i am glad that we can agree on the body dysphoria thing, there are a lot of people who glorify self-hatred and make it like a competition of whos the most valid and that just makes me sad

[@user-lv8vn8kq8r]

I didn't know people actually use "it" as a pronoun. "It" is the pronoun i grew up being called and the pronoun im most comfortable with. From where i came from, if you are a minor, your elders can refer to you as "it" and your close friends can also refer to you as "it". But when you call someone who is not very close to you and isn't younger than you "it", then it's a derogatory term 😅. As you may guess, I dont tell people i prefer to be called "it" since my friends and elders already did. And if a stranger suddenly call my "it", i would feel offended 😂.

[@SybilNix]

My aesthetic for the past like 6 years has been y2k and kidcore and I was afraid of being seen as like......... weird and predatory........... for literally no reason....... but now I understand it’s just me being trendercore 😭 this video reminded me of how much having a tumblr gave me such a solid sense of self, this has convinced me to use my account for the first time since pale/grunge blogs Were It 😂 your blog is about to be my GATEWAY back to myself

[@owenaster487]

Love this video. I’ve been off tumblr for a while so I didn’t realize trendercore was happening. When I was first realizing I was an enby I unfortunately stumbled upon some cringe videos, but found myself loving all the crazy fashion and makeup being made fun of on the videos. I’m glad that there’s space now to appreciate all the awesome gender fun!

[@rodentia1474]

Watching this while I design my trendersona :p Edit: faer name is cax

[@soyboy6953]

That’s such a cool name!

[@svnflwrxsvn]

this video is so wholesome and positive i love it. ♡ trendercore is awesome.

[@dakki.dreamer1539]

ok but why do webkinz give such a trendercore vibe-

[@Mika-by9hd]

Oof,im now so angry i once lowkey liked kalvin, tho i always had a feeling what he said is wrong. Now im 6 months away from starting testosterone and i am so happy i stopped holding myself from exploring my gender. I felt like im 100% not cis but i also liked some feminine clothes and aesthetics and wanted push myself to identifying as binary trans man to be taken seriously by everyone(i live in Poland so oof),it felt so wrong i got back to identifying as just very masc lesbian for a while but obv it felt really bad too. And now i realized im just a feminine enby guy and im finally happy. The thing that made even more happy was finding abt xenogenders and trendercore bc even tho im happy with just saying im just nonbinary and not going any further bc there are no accurate labels for me,but i now see an opportunity to find exactly a term for who i am. You are such a wholsome person! Thank you for being here on youtube!

[@cyberren354]

fully claiming trenderpunk for myself i love it

[@sewingmachine420]

THE VIDEO WE'VE BEEN WAITING FOR