let's talk about alexa nikolas

[@AdamMcIntyre]

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[@Bls-of1ld]

Shes attacking u

[@erika2m16]

As a survivor, she doesn't owe anyone anything. Correct. Doesn't mean you're beyond criticism, Alexa!

[@DrBoyZepho]

yup, especially when other survivors are also speaking out

[@ReeCrowsFray]

Oh my word…perfect! I wrote a way too long comment trying to say exactly THIS! Except it took me paragraphs and I’m sure it doesn’t even make sense😂😂😂🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@maggiedk]

Yeah. As a survivor myself, I hate that she uses that as a shield so broadly. She doesn't owe anyone anything in regards to being a survivor, her own trauma, etc. That doesn't mean that she doesn't have a responsibility as someone with a platform when talking about OTHER PEOPLE'S trauma and experiences. I've supported her for a while, and I do think that at her core she has good intentions, but the way she's been running Eat Predators lately hasn't been healthy to her or the community, imo. She doxxed the name of one of her former patrons/a fellow survivor and activist a few weeks ago because the individual was saying not nice things about her in private DMs with another person. None of this feels like it's helping survivors or doing anything to stop predators.

[@electra424]

@@maggiedk yeah I supported her for a few months but I had to stop after that doxxing incident it was too much for me

[@JunkieSama]

Very good point.

[@DC-lp5ly]

She consistently uses "I'm a survivor" like a shield against even very valid criticism.

[@Tamga2]

@@Sweetieee She accuses her ex-husband, Michael Milosh.

[@toomuch2874]

I couldn't put my finger on it but you nailed it perfectly

[@cjevans3640]

She kind of gatekeeps being a survivor and it hurts me

[@brittanyrose6185]

I just made this exact comment before seeing yours! Very much a gate keeper like she’s the “queen of all survivors.” It’s bizarre.

[@mapledrivesthings]

Her tone feels incredibly condescending-another survivor

[@FabiolaRVela]

It does sometimes , yeah.

[@Madame_Butterfly_13]

She has always felt that way to me. There’s something very off about her.

[@no.name.4.u]

There's something off about every human beings. Others are better at masking ​/hiding it @@Madame_Butterfly_13

[@hunteradams3269]

@@ashk7280 may i ask how? I dont fully disagree but i want to see it through your point of view because mine isnt set in stone but ive been feeling the same way a bit

[@stephlalalitta]

I think there is an automatic defense, survivors always need that layer of protection and it can come off as being condescending. I don't think she nor Adam are actually condescending here or in their lives

[@auroraborealis6671]

If you're gonna dedicate your whole platform to calling out predators, but pick and choose who to come for...

[@devynguest5403]

I think that is exactly the problem

[@tothemoon2562]

Basically...It looks like she basically picked Drake's side. Words mean nothing when it's not matching your actions.

[@MylingCyrus]

Honestly

[@simplyrachel_1]

@@tothemoon2562ofc ! The correct side! Drake is innocent 🥰

[@isabellawint]

her whole video feels very “you can’t say anything to me bc i’m a survivor” i dont know am i wrong

[@FabiolaRVela]

I got that too, & I don’t like that 😞. I’ve been getting that for a bit now , been following her since she talked about Ballinger, and I’ve been noticing she does that. Whatever happened to accountability? the way she puts herself in each situation and reminds us that she’s a survivor every chance she gets is the reason I’m side eyeing, because it feels a bit manipulative to me, I’m not gonna lie, it makes me sad that I’m even saying that, but I can’t ignore it.

[@fancydeer]

her whole platform is "I am a survivor if csa and domestic abuse. pity me and give me money, nobody has suffered like me before!" like 25% of women aren't survivors of some type of abuse in their life.

[@rae3995]

I don’t see that but it does seem like she’s not having regard for others at this point because she’s angry

[@alycatt13]

⁠@@rae3995this seems more accurate to me as well. not necessarily bad, but definitely a problem if you're an "advocate" with a platform, power and influence.

[@thethrowawaythatstayed7055]

You’re not wrong. That’s one of the huge things that bothers me. Especially as the audience is filled with other survivors.

[@dillona1001]

Human beings hate nuance. Adam's one of the few to acknowledge "two things can be true at once".

[@Moonlightmatchmaking]

On every single video about Drake bell you wi see the exact comment “two things can be true at once”. Adam probably read it somewhere and is repeating it

[@savannahskye9441]

@@MoonlightmatchmakingAdam has been saying that for YEARS💀literally since before 2020. Had nothing to do with any articles he read

[@nondescript123]

@@MoonlightmatchmakingThats because it’s a very common saying. It’s a cliché.

[@yup8166]

@@nondescript123this cliche needs to be used more often these days especially on the internet. Everyone always thinks they are the only ones right when in reality you can both be right at the same time.

[@cathen7848]

yes!!!!!!!!

[@katjune]

What makes me feel a bit uncomfortable about the whole Drake Bell situation is that they feel empathetic for him as he is now. Sure, stand with a child that was abused, but do not continue to stand with them when they grow up and become a predator.

[@musicdiary5768]

She should bring on his alleged victim too. That’d be an interesting episode showing how victims can grow up to become so screwed even to the point of becoming predators themselves.

[@CamDollar]

Exactly. They can't separate the two. They can't mourn his past innocent self that was hurt and still accept he went on to do the same thing to others. It's very concerning this mental block people have.

[@Idontwant1]

Yes I have had some issue with that situation too. Yes he went through really bad things as a teenager. But he still did some really really bad things himself. He hurt kids in the same way that Brian Peck hurt him. Just because he was a victim of abuse doesn’t mean he didn’t do abusive behavior to children.

[@Idontwant1]

@@ashk7280 He destroyed a kids life. He robbed the kids innocence. Things may look less to some people. But as a kid it messes you up when an adult you know and trust robs you of that. Regardless if he physically did something or it was just inappropriate behavior he wasn’t doing right by the kid. And the kid is left with irreversible trauma to the child.

[@Jabberwocky112]

@@ashk7280This is what happens when we tell a generation that all trauma is made equal. Does trauma have effects on the person regardless of what it is? Yes. But is all trauma equal? Absolutely not. And this lie has been said in order to not offend others. We have got to stop making the preservation of feelings the priority in activism.

[@mvvnda7135]

as a survivor myself this put an incredibly sour taste in my mouth. she won’t stand up for victims of Drake Bell just bc shes getting some hate online, when that’s literally what her whole platform is about…standing up for survivors???

[@hellkitty98]

THIS. idk why it wasn’t clicking for me that what she’s saying is “wrong”. it’s not exactly wrong to address the harassment, and she’s absolutely right that survivors don’t owe anyone anything.. but the fact that she actually signed up to be an advocate, a voice for survivors is crazy to give the excuse “i got bullied out of it.” there will be naysayers, doubt, harassment, and worse from speaking out on abuse. is it okay? absolutely not. but that’s why you continue to speak out. that’s why she’s supposed to be an advocate. very icky of her to not do what she signed up for.

[@keenanslittlesister4604]

@@hellkitty98Alexa is an advocate and has been trained in trauma-informed care. This is only my personal take as a fellow professional advocate trained in trauma-informed care; there is a lot of info I’ve missed online to this story. It appears that Alexa has been bullied or harassed into being quiet about Drake. Yes she is an advocate and it’s easy to say she signed up for that. From a trauma informed perspective you have to understand much of Alexa’s trauma as a child actor has been bullying. Most of her story is that she was bullied on the Nickelodeon sets. It seems in this video that she is pretty triggered by the bullying she’s receiving online right now. That’s really valid, I think this whole situation is retraumatizing to all involved. It’s understandable that if there’s a topic heavily triggering her trauma she doesn’t want to engage with it anymore. And part of being a victim advocate is being able to advocate for yourself. She’s setting a boundary for herself and whether the internet likes it or hates it she just asks to stop being harassed. Advocacy is about speaking up against haters and predators but it doesn’t mean she owes that especially if it’s damaging to her, and I think that’s all she’s trying to say. Talking about drake is just causing issues with her situation and her stalker and it’s triggering to be bullied.

[@avaph0bic]

@@keenanslittlesister4604 while it is understandable , it isn’t a free pass. this will continue to be a question that people will ask her unfortunately

[@keenanslittlesister4604]

@@avaph0bic how is it not a free pass? A reporter and her stalker are now getting very involved and he’s violating their no contact. She doesn’t need to be advocating right now except for her case that she has to deal with. It’s very fair to prioritize yourself and your safety

[@InfoLunix]

Can you please name the "Drake's victims"?

[@DrBoyZepho]

its so weird she saying "power to survivors" but refusing to talk about drakes survivors whilst being very condescending

[@bexmccarthy4526]

It really comes off like Drakes poor actions weren’t SA enough to Alexa to compare to what Brian Peck did. People respond to different “degrees” of abuse differently which is why ALL OF IT is ALWAYS BAD. It’s not the survivors job to “handle things” well in the fallout of their actions.

[@mrspreminger]

Alexa basically said “power to survivors unless it’s the survivors of someone I like then fuck them”

[@marvelousmia]

why is she calling herself a survivor? what did she survive? none of the cast liking her and dan telling her it’s not the “alexa show” 😂😂😂 i’m confused

[@bexmccarthy4526]

@@marvelousmia her husband was the one she survived. Not Dan. Though Dan is still a scumbucket

[@aogamismuscles5963]

She got groomed by her ex husband when she was 16 and when she finally visited him when she was 18, he SA'ed her. He some big star now and when they divorced he put a sneaky little clause in there that said that she couldn't sue him for prior abuse from when they were married.

[@ahaakaa]

I’m a huge Alexa fan and even I’m like shocked at how quickly she switched up. Like we can feel for the child Drake was but still hold him accountable for what he has done as an adult.

[@ihatemickiegee]

same boat, i got confused bc when she talked about christy carlson romano (and ccr’s video with corey feldman) she went on and on about corey revictimizing someone as an adult after his traumatic childhood abuse & how ccr wouldnt even address it. so how is she then gonna do the same w/ drake bell

[@girleyeguess]

As a survivor who has many other survivors in my life I find it incredibly disappointing that Alexa has decided to avoid the discussion of Drake’s continuation of the cycle. Yes his victimhood is valid but that doesn’t change the damage he’s done. Im going to find it hard to trust any further commentary from her after this one. He’s not the exception. Victimhood doesn’t excuse anything.

[@frankiedankymemes]

Absolutely! Victimhood can EXPLAIN why he may have behaved the way he did. However, victimhood absolutely does NOT EXCUSE the behaviour. It doesn't excuse anything. Tbh, it doesn't even matter that the abuser was a victim. He IS an abuser. Was is past tense.. Is, is present tense. Alexa has personal experience.. however she doesn't have any education on the subject. Her bias is showing. There should be no bias. She has no schooling at all in re: supporting victims of abuse... Which is concerning tbh. It's a potentially dangerous situation. She can be actively harming people further by supporting this abuser. If every abuse victim thought they could be a therapist, they'd be wrong. I'm a Child & Youth Therapist. (Also an abuse victim. However I went to therapy and school for 3 years). Majority of my fellow classmates had been abused. (They'd actively romanticize their abuse and talk about it over and over and over and over again. Almost trying to win an imaginary contest against eachother in re:who had it the worst...). To their fellow classmates they didn't even know yet.. That was never a contest I was trying to, "win" 😅 imo now I realize my fellow classmates should have been paying to speak with someone. Professionally. To sort of manage their own emotions in re: past personal experiences. Vs thinking they can save the whole world-(untreated and uneducated) because they experienced trauma themselves. My job is to protect children/any survivor. So if an adult who was abused as a child harms a child/youth.. he is NOT my priority in terms of providing support. Because he is now an adult. He can get support. He has actively CHOSEN not to. That's on him. And instead of helping himself he's choosing to hurt others. The exact same way he was hurt. So he's continuing the cycle. He was a survivor. Now he is the abuser. That is how abuse works. The victim can (& often does) turn into the abuser. By choice. Choosing not to get support is a choice.

[@EdenthelRei]

Does it make me a bad person that I have POCD from being SA as a child ? Or you mean it doesn't excuse actions?

[@Zharoze]

​@@EdenthelReiPOCD is completely different than people that actually are predators

[@thdoggo1]

Exactly! How many people are victims of that, and how many continue the cycle of violence? Everyone wants to blame something these days instead of the fact there is something wrong with them! I’m sorry but I was a victim myself and thinking about how many children have to go through that, makes me violently angry. And HOW is adverse childhood experiences not an excuse for Brian Peck, but it IS for Drake Bell? I feel terrible that Drake went through that but he also has continued all of this. Made me sick when they said something like “Well I never touched anyone.”! God what a saint you are for that! Wasn’t the Mother on there talking about how her Daughter was victimized the same way by someone in the industry, and how it still had a lasting impact on her child? And then to downplay the severity in the same documentary had my chin on the floor! Just seems like no accountability depending on who the predator is. People are all for “eating predators” until they knew or liked them! And that is precisely how people like Epstein got away with it.

[@dunjunart]

@@EdenthelRei were you convicted of endangering minors like drake bell

[@Ozzyoxenfree]

If she didn’t want to speak on it, she could have instead included links to videos or articles in her description at the very least. She is not protecting or advocating for survivors in this moment, in my opinion. It is also so important to acknowledge that survivors can become abusers, and speak about what can be done to stop it. This is not something she even seemed to mention.

[@avaph0bic]

right. she says “survivors” so many times in the video to deflect.

[@bobtheball5384]

​@@avaph0bicFirst-hand viewer, it's like that in a majority of her videos and it started to make me question a bit.

[@SAMEntalhealth]

Or she could have just never made this video at all you know

[@SAMEntalhealth]

​@@avaph0bicshe uses survivors as a scapegoat to take the attention off of herself and make it seem like it's not just her it's me and all of my viewers that are being held accountable not just me type attitude that's kind of sick

[@beckkilmark]

personally, so tired of alexa lately. if you watch her streams, she can bc very selfish imo. she tends to talk about letting survivors have the space to tell their stories, yet when i see her watching other survivors talk, all she wants to do is speculate who it could be if not named, keeps making points to talk about herself and her own experiences, almost feels like putting words in their mouths, instead of letting the survivors speak for themselves. to not put out a better updated video on drake bell because people were questioning her intentions (even though she never told us... so naturally, your audience is gonna speculate) is so funny to me because people are doing what she's trained her audience to do when they side with predators. if she really wanted to do good, she would just post an updated better video like she originally intended & continue her activism but she's decided to "punish" her audience which does quite the opposite.

[@beckkilmark]

- speaking as a survivor of childhood s3xual gr00ming btw

[@gaines_gal]

Yes! When she was speculating about who unnamed victims are it disturbed me. It felt like she was making it into juicy gossip rather than what it is which is a traumatic experience that someone should not be outted for.

[@guineapigtalks]

She seems a bit burnt out to me, so isnt handling things well at all. She has several stalkers and Her channel doubled in size in less than a week. She needs to take a break.

[@star0nyx]

Why do you expect other's to be anything more than interested in themselves or to even expect her to do something you think is the right thing to do?

[@violetadlt2729]

i feel like she's a pick me? i get she's a victim and trying to advocate against predators but idk i get an ick from her

[@maiaisdefinitelynormal]

she is WEIRDDD. like i don’t understand how you being a survivor applies to every single negative criticism or experience? it feels as if she’s defining herself by that term alone. and why is she gatekeeping it and downplaying the survivors in the drake bell situation? - a survivor❤️

[@JoF999]

This comment is super on point in recent days!

[@michelleb9884]

Biggest issue for me is how she repeatedly called out Christy Carlson Romano for doing the exact same thing she’s doing now, yet in her case it’s apparently fine because “she’s a survivor” and “doesn’t owe anyone anything” and “people harassed her into *not* saying anything.” She’s a hypocrite. Also, I definitely do believe she was bullied on the set of zoey101 and I don’t invalidate her experience there or any of her other trauma, but it does start seeming a bit fishy when somehow, in literally every conflict she gets into, she’s the victim and the other person is completely in the wrong.

[@gymleaderkeeko6165]

Hmm…if you’re saying protect survivors not predators, then let’s acknowledge that the survivor is an alleged, or a confirmed predator.

[@greg-op2jh]

She did that like 9000 times

[@LunalovaniaGaming]

Theres no such thing as a perfect survivor or perfect victim, so when you base your whole life on protecting one group and condemning another, and they end up crossing into each other, you're gonna get backlash for not only protecting the condemned, but also going back on your word about eating those you condemn, while also insulting and disrespecting those you claim to protect.

[@DrBoyZepho]

​@@LunalovaniaGaming yes but in this case the survivor was found guilty 🤷🏾

[@ashk7280]

@@DrBoyZephohe pled guilty. Do you know what a plea deal is?

[@WafflePancakes1314]

@@ashk7280if you’re not guilty and are of sound mind, you’re gonna fight the charge. Take a seat.

[@emma0x3]

As someone who could be labeled as a survivor, I hate how much she used the term survivor 😅 the overuse seems to belittle the severity and strength behind it

[@SAMEntalhealth]

💯 that's why I said she keeps saying it because she's trying to drag her audience down and her followers with her as a scapegoat, she doesn't want to own up to anything or take any type of accountability so she says we as survivors when she's literally talking about herself

[@avaph0bic]

absolutely she seems overcome with the need to use buzzwords and the same phrase over and over again, eat predators. why not eat drake bell. i don’t get it.

[@jaylenenicole0]

She’s really condescending and is really pushing that anyone speaking about her hypocrisy about drake bell is attacking her, a survivor. Her repeating she’s a survivor which is true, but in this context she’s using it as a deflection of any wrong doing. Really disappointing ☹️ I have a lot of empathy for her but this is really disappointing. She would absolutely SLAM anyone for doing what she is doing rn (ignoring drake bell’s survivors and her audience calling her out rn) really hypocritical.

[@SAMEntalhealth]

She is definitely just out to get people's money, think about it this way she has a logo for a predator exposing what I call a corporation because she collects the money and never donates to Charities or does anything to actually help survivors or victims, the logo itself is sexualized / glamorized I mean an open mouth with a Splat symbol in it? With red lipstick on the lips? It's a little disturbing honestly if somebody went through something like sodomy or something sexually abusive, to see something like that is just disturbing in my opinion. And on top of that she's called out that pod Meets World podcast for ad revenue and how they should donate and she doesn't donate anything, because she claims to be the head Survivor of all survivors like it's some type of cool Club to be in so her justification for not donating that money is that she's a Survivor herself so the money is fine and her wallet, like sure she can live her life and have some of that money obviously but the thing is is Don't Preach so hard about something that you're not practicing, Chris Hansen catches Predators for instance, and a lot of people have different views about Steve Tyler from Aerosmith because of somebody that just came out about something from the mid-70s claiming he was dating somebody that was 15, that happened in the mid-70s I believe, just came out recently about it so I can't really believe that 100% but he opened up a house called Jamie's house and it's for Abused women that go through it really hard, those are examples of doing something about it and I just don't see how her gossiping about something and having biased views is really doing anything. Her video today just proves that she's going in circles and it just came full-fledged right back in her face, and she does get nasty and snarky I mean seriously sitting there saying as a Survivor when you could just easily say me or I instead of dragging your viewers and audience members or followers down as scapegoats with you, like she says we as survivors don't like that it's like no Alexa you don't like that and not only that I question a lot about her. I questioned actually no I don't question I don't think that Jonah Hill thing ever happened I think she just saw the episode of punk'd, she came up with this allegation in her head and then started to tell everybody and then she shared the punked clip to persuade everybody to believe her story, I mean think about it she used the same two people from the episode it's just not clicking for me I don't know. But yeah she's just claiming she was bullied but when I see the videos that she considers evidence from the Zoey 101 show even though that was way after my time, they just look like simple little mistakes like somebody accidentally bumping into her or the way they act in the scene is a part of the script and she says people are giving her dirty looks, it just doesn't really fly I feel like she's trying to take all of this victim mentality and use it to fill her pockets, she's really really hard to believe and people like this guy and this video that did this reaction seems a lot more genuine and on top of it not trying to make trauma feel like it's some type of a club. Nobody wants, I've gone through sexual abuse when I was a kid when I was in Florida at one of the Disney theme parks at a waterpark, I was groped in my private area from some woman that was probably in her late thirties, I was maybe 9 years old and it stuck in my head my whole life. I date older women as well if I do end up with somebody they're always older, so I see how things eventually play out and I had to reflect on that but Alexa does not seem like a genuine person that has gone through anything traumatic, it's the way she comes off just doesn't click with somebody that's traumatized from anything, sorry I hope that didn't strike anybody's nerves what I said in my message here but I'm just stating my opinion obviously people can believe differently it's just the way I see her. Like donate some of that money do something that's actually taking Predators down if you're that famous I mean it just doesn't make sense all of these people are giving her their hard-earned money and she's doing what with it? Popping Adderall or doing lines of blow or something to stay up all night and all day making these podcasts it seems like she's just money hungry and just wants people to believe every single Story coming out of her mouth

[@SAMEntalhealth]

And the way you said she would absolutely slammed somebody that was doing the same thing you are 150% correct about❤

[@jaylenenicole0]

@@SAMEntalhealth it really rubbed me wrong when she almost demands former child stars to speak of their experiences or the documentary to “raise awareness” , and doesn’t take into account that they may not be ready to speak about it or that they went thru severe trauma as well and are not comfortable on sharing their story to the world

[@SAMEntalhealth]

@@jaylenenicole0 right? She should be using that same energy to pressure predators to come out and hold themselves accountable!

[@lmnlstes]

@@SAMEntalhealth jfc

[@JenniferMcMahonhawaii78]

When it comes to Drake Bell, it is horrific what happened to him as a minor and how so easily it was pushed off by the court system and how his predator was given such a short sentence, but on the other side of the coin, that does not excuse what Drake Bell did later in life as an adult.

[@koolaidman_]

She's fully under no obligation to make any sorts of videos (also debatable with the looking like she's supporting drake because of it), but the "Oh, I'm not going to do it because YOU bullied me. YOU are the reason I'm not doing this, I would've if YOU guys could've just behaved right" feels icky

[@PhoenixRoseYT]

How is it gross? People were such complete assholes to her. I wouldn’t wanna do it either because people are just gonna jump on me no matter what I say. Even if she had the most nuanced take people would nitpick and do all sorts of BS. She’s made her stance known.

[@WafflePancakes1314]

@@PhoenixRoseYTno l, she hasn’t. She said nothing but shit in this video. Tf

[@FabiolaRVela]

@@PhoenixRoseYTit feels strangely deflective and a bit manipulative imo. Like she’s trying to blame someone else for her actions or how her actions (or inactions) made her look. Like I get she doesn’t owe anyone anything, but it feels very emotionally manipulative to me, like when your mom guilt trips you about something.

[@PhoenixRoseYT]

@@FabiolaRVelapeople SHOULD feel bad about how they treated her. It wasn’t just calling her out, it was harassing her and enabling her stalker.

[@maggiedk]

​@@PhoenixRoseYTyou're using the absolute worst example as if everyone was doing that. No, I've seen plenty of people - often supporters of Eat Predators - call her out in calm, civil, productive ways and get ignored, argued with, or insulted by Alexa's mom.

[@ReebaD]

“As a survivor, I don’t feel up to it” where the “it” is owning up to being wrong about something… that’s gross. You don’t get to use being a survivor as a sword and shield against criticism. A survivor is only a part of what you are, Alexa. You are also a human being with a public platform, and now you’re publicly supporting someone who victimized other women. You don’t HAVE to make a video about it, but that doesn’t mean we are wrong about our criticism of you. Just because the criticism is voluminous doesn’t make it “hate” or “harassment”

[@gaines_gal]

🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@alycatt13]

yes!! eloquently put!!!

[@allisoncastle]

Jesus this is unbelievably condescending. Why do you get to tell her as a survivor how she should identify regarding being a victim???

[@nananichole]

@@allisoncastledo you feel that just because she’s a survivor, she’s exempt from being criticized just as anyone else with a platform is? That’s all that person meant by their comment and you’re trying to flip it into something else.

[@allisoncastle]

@@nananichole never said that.

[@Madame_Butterfly_13]

Even though she *WAS* supporting survivors, there was something I really didn’t like about her vibe…I could feel something off with her. Always listen to your intuition guys!

[@SAMEntalhealth]

100 and it's easy to talk to talk and support survivors I mean I'm not a big KZbinr in that platform, my KZbin channel is about mental health and addiction, but I can tell you straight up that it's easy for somebody to say I support survivors and claim you have this big organization which is more like a corporation, for her in her case, but doing something about it like helping people that can't afford therapy that have gone through abuse and sexual assault, that would be an example of doing something about it you know

[@SAMEntalhealth]

Correct and supporting survivors and actually helping them are two completely different things as well. If you notice a lot of people comment on her stuff and say thank you for what you do, when you really question what is it that she's really doing? Because she's not donating money to charities, or taking the time rather than thinking about of the next video she's going to make, could be coming up with something that actually will help people that can't afford therapy that are traumatized that have agoraphobia from what they went through, just one example just saying

[@slevingarganera8375]

One red flag I’ve seen is how her comment sections and live chats are an echo chamber. It’s just so cultish and too superficial. It’s a shame, I was really rooting for her only to realize she’s just as bad as the people she calls out

[@snnuyboy]

I dont like how she kinda kept...using the word survivor as a shield? Like "im doing this for the SURVIVORS and i am also a survivor so you cant criticize me." (i am also a survivor for the record)

[@gaines_gal]

Also a survivor of SA and this was so incredibly triggering for me.

[@realone7488]

Because she’s not saying it in good faith. Shes saying it as a weapon.

[@eddierascalhaskell4954]

"As a survivor" is getting as annoying as people calling everything "iconic" at this point.

[@crystaltippex]

being a suvivor, i cannot use that as a way to deflect if i have a bad take. im a survivor but im also responsible for my actions.

[@alycatt13]

yup!! AND I think only people in power/more protected positions are the ones that can use it as "excuse" too. people like you or I can't expect strangers to give a shit or refrain from using it against us if we share that we are "survivors" because without platforms we don't have that safety to speak... shes doing dirty work.

[@NeuroSpicy_Priestess]

I’ve been SA’d by other SA survivors, and while my heart hurts for what they went through, they need to be held accountable for continuing that cycle of abuse. Being hurt does not justify hurting others, ESPECIALLY in the way that you were hurt. Having sympathy for a victim can exist at the same time anger for the victim becoming the abuser. Unfortunately it does seem that Alexa is promoting for money rather than showing empathy and holding Drake accountable for his actions after the fact. My heart hurt for Drake when I watched the documentary, but I still said, “with everything you went through, why would you continue the cycle?” Idk which accusations are true and which aren’t, but remaining cautious and on guard is what needs to happen.

[@judysm95]

I think it’s odd to say that she’s doing it for money. Many people are upset with her, even in her own community, so she is technically losing money and support from this. But also, there’s plenty of people riding for DB right now all over the internet not making a buck. Every time an influencer has a bad take I think it’s almost charitable to say it’s for money, could it not be just a bad take you and others disagree with but one she isn’t willing to budge on?

[@NeuroSpicy_Priestess]

@@judysm95 it’s definitely a bad take of hers, however when I say do it for money, I’m talking about the merch(that makes her money) and continuing to promote someone that you should be holding accountable because you’re on a documentary together (which makes her money). Idk if she’s losing any money, but she’s still trying to financially profit from it hence the merch. No one makes merch to not make some kind of money…also I said it seems like. Meaning even if she actually is or not, the actions she’s taking portrays a certain mindset. I’m not saying that she is for sure, I’m saying seems like. Her actions are showing that she is, even if that isn’t all she’s doing. Actions speak louder than words.

[@Katalina_K]

This was hard to listen to, the way she presented this felt like she was trying to shift the spotlight onto her audience. She doesn't have to do anything, that's true. But when you have a platform, and that platform is legitimizing, rehabilitating, or down playing a predator... and your platform is ABOUT keeping people safe... then yeah. You kinda DO have to say something. Or else you have to sit with the valid criticism that comes from not doing it. In this situation, when you are featured alongside him, AND have interacted with him on social media platforms positively, you either need to address it or lose credibility. That's the reality. I will say, her sitting there with that tone shifting the focus from the reason people were alarmed to begin with feels manipulative af. For her to say other survivors with that inflection? She was being defensive and attacking. And I get it, this is the first time her community and other real life activists have called her in to talk... but this reaction is a red flag. If you can't be understanding and can't sit with the fact that maybe you were wrong, and maybe you have some growing to do? Then you no longer are a safe space for the community. You are perpetuating harm. Calling people in isn't agressive, it isn't out of hate. It is people that geniuenly have love or respect for you and want you to do better. It became a call out when she decided not to mend the cracks in the foundation of her platform.

[@gaines_gal]

Perfectly said 👍🏻 👏🏻

[@alp_7437]

20:21 considering she’s just connected that the person from twitter she’s talking about, was one of the victims of Drake, her saying “get active” and that they’re not at protests, goes against her argument earlier on that survivors owe you nothing

[@HopeJLK]

Her saying ‘don’t hog the corner’ when she constantly gatekeeps ‘survivorhood’. As a survivor you don’t owe anything, as someone who platforms themself as the authority on predators you do owe things to your audience.

[@rinash1706]

She speaks as if everyone who criticizes her also bullies and harrases her, and I'm sure that's not the case.

[@kaiyahwyd]

alexa is a professional yapper 😭😭😭 she be saying sm but nothing at the same time idk

[@ActionJacksion]

Why is she confused about why one of drakes victims was mad at her for deleting her videos on him…? She literally harasses Nickelodeon and executives there all the time? Also she’s not the only survivor in this situation? She really thought she ate that…

[@emilytaylor4272]

Her take of "well I was going to talk about it, but then you were mean to me, so now I'm not going to give you what you want" is so toxic omg 😭 it reminds me of a parent telling a child "I was going to give you candy until you did that, so now I'm not". She is ignoring the potential to influence people who were never mean to her and could benefit from her take on this situation. It feels immature.

[@niaram]

it’s literally saying “i’m mad so i’m not going to help victims so HA!”

[@sykober6126]

everytime adam said "alexa nikolas" my alexa in my room was like gurl??? what u want??? 😭😭😭

[@sykober6126]

i fought for my life to not have mariah carey blasting through my whole house

[@SAMEntalhealth]

My Alexa put on Destiny's Child I'm a survivor no joke

[@dudeitznikki9781]

My alexa immediately played Mariah and then put volume to full. Smh ahahahaha

[@afallenphoenix19]

Alexa usually has good takes and I respect what she's done and what she's trying to do so far as advocating for child actors and survivors. However, this doesn't surprise me at all. She seems to pick and choose what she believes about allegations based on her own experiences (and I get that survivors have their own biases that may affect how they view situations). She did the exact same thing with Amber Heard, ignoring all of the allegations and evidence against her simply because she believes Heard is a survivor. I believe she's acknowledged before that survivors can also be predators, but I'm starting to wonder if she actually believes that.

[@FabiolaRVela]

This, all of this.

[@frankiedankymemes]

If she wants to continue trying to be a professional on this, she needs to realize how damaging supporting an abuser can be for the survivor. (She should already know this). Her having ANY bias is problematic. It means she isn't PRESENT. She needs to be providing support or providing nothing. Because nothing else matters other than supporting the victim. Her stanning the abuser means she's actively considering her personal feelings about her personal experience before considering the actual situation at hand. She's putting her feelings before the survivor. With a platform her size.. doing something like that could cause irreversible damage to the survivor tbh

[@cateycat1]

She's notorious for not vetting the people she goes to bat for. As far as Drake goes she could show that sometimes the victim can become the pr3dator.

[@maggiedk]

JD's lawyers paid for AH to be smeared all over the internet and there's a lot of evidence that he abused her. I agree with you about Alexa but that isn't a good example.

[@SAMEntalhealth]

She is definitely just out to get people's money, think about it this way she has a logo for a predator exposing what I call a corporation because she collects the money and never donates to Charities or does anything to actually help survivors or victims, the logo itself is sexualized / glamorized I mean an open mouth with a Splat symbol in it? With red lipstick on the lips? It's a little disturbing honestly if somebody went through something like sodomy or something sexually abusive, to see something like that is just disturbing in my opinion. And on top of that she's called out that pod Meets World podcast for ad revenue and how they should donate and she doesn't donate anything, because she claims to be the head Survivor of all survivors like it's some type of cool Club to be in so her justification for not donating that money is that she's a Survivor herself so the money is fine and her wallet, like sure she can live her life and have some of that money obviously but the thing is is Don't Preach so hard about something that you're not practicing, Chris Hansen catches Predators for instance, and a lot of people have different views about Steve Tyler from Aerosmith because of somebody that just came out about something from the mid-70s claiming he was dating somebody that was 15, that happened in the mid-70s I believe, just came out recently about it so I can't really believe that 100% but he opened up a house called Jamie's house and it's for Abused women that go through it really hard, those are examples of doing something about it and I just don't see how her gossiping about something and having biased views is really doing anything. Her video today just proves that she's going in circles and it just came full-fledged right back in her face, and she does get nasty and snarky I mean seriously sitting there saying as a Survivor when you could just easily say me or I instead of dragging your viewers and audience members or followers down as scapegoats with you, like she says we as survivors don't like that it's like no Alexa you don't like that and not only that I question a lot about her. I questioned actually no I don't question I don't think that Jonah Hill thing ever happened I think she just saw the episode of punk'd, she came up with this allegation in her head and then started to tell everybody and then she shared the punked clip to persuade everybody to believe her story, I mean think about it she used the same two people from the episode it's just not clicking for me I don't know. But yeah she's just claiming she was bullied but when I see the videos that she considers evidence from the Zoey 101 show even though that was way after my time, they just look like simple little mistakes like somebody accidentally bumping into her or the way they act in the scene is a part of the script and she says people are giving her dirty looks, it just doesn't really fly I feel like she's trying to take all of this victim mentality and use it to fill her pockets, she's really really hard to believe and people like this guy and this video that did this reaction seems a lot more genuine and on top of it not trying to make trauma feel like it's some type of a club. Nobody wants, I've gone through sexual abuse when I was a kid when I was in Florida at one of the Disney theme parks at a waterpark, I was groped in my private area from some woman that was probably in her late thirties, I was maybe 9 years old and it stuck in my head my whole life. I date older women as well if I do end up with somebody they're always older, so I see how things eventually play out and I had to reflect on that but Alexa does not seem like a genuine person that has gone through anything traumatic, it's the way she comes off just doesn't click with somebody that's traumatized from anything, sorry I hope that didn't strike anybody's nerves what I said in my message here but I'm just stating my opinion obviously people can believe differently it's just the way I see her. Like donate some of that money do something that's actually taking Predators down if you're that famous I mean it just doesn't make sense all of these people are giving her their hard-earned money and she's doing what with it? Popping Adderall or doing lines of blow or something to stay up all night and all day making these podcasts it seems like she's just money hungry and just wants people to believe every single Story coming out of her mouth

[@КГБКолДжорджКостанца]

I feel like she still has stuff to deal with personally, but doesn't seem to look for it, any form of criticism to her gets met with a shield that "I'm a survivor"...there is no denying Dan Schneider's behavior and toxic workplace, he's hell to work with I bet but something about all of this screams grifting

[@eddierascalhaskell4954]

Yep

[@Stephlovesbaking]

I don't think it was a smart idea for her to release that video, or put that title for the video. I can sense her frustration and hurt, which of course is valid, but this was not smart. She's going to get even more attacked now, and it's sad for so many reasons. She should not have even put his name in the title. Yeah, definitely talk about the hate, I understand because NO ONE should be bullied, but now it's insinuating that she is indifferent about Drake Bell, and as you mentioned, she has this whole campaign.

[@judysm95]

Yeah she did kinda call the moths to the flame with that one tbh

[@roseamelia6592]

Her voice is nice to listen to. With that being said, she’s problematic at best. Her actions read as hypocritical, and it’s sad to think she’s choosing to ignore Drake’s action for personal benefit

[@onceuponamelody]

When did she ever ignore his actions? She's called out Drake Bell on numerous occasions. This one particular video, the article she quoted was incorrect so she took it down.

[@judysm95]

@@onceuponamelodyhonestly I think the stuff baked into her long form content (like the full streams) just gets lost and people haven’t actually watched it they just don’t have a video or sound yet explicitly condemning Drake so they are like she has *never* called him out. I personally don’t feel particularly strongly about the Drake issue, I have other issues with her content even tho I am a subscriber, but yeah lol.

[@alp_7437]

If she had just put a post out when she deleted the video to say “hey I’m deleting this video because some things in the video have been proven to be inaccurate, so I’m going to redo it making it as factual as possible” then there wouldn’t be a problem, but because she’s only just saying that she was going to redo it, it’s coming across as a fake excuse

[@avaph0bic]

right 💀 and the bitterness toward not wanting to release another one or even speak about it anymore is understandable but frankly it’s immature, like suddenly because some freaks harrassed her it’s not her problem to speak on anymore. she could have at least portrayed it in a different way that makes us feel more sympathetic towards her lmao. her whole video and her use of the words “survivor” and “predator” came off completely aggressive, and she even ended up implying drake bell isn’t a predator to be eaten… it’s just hypocritical. she could have focused more on the ACTUAL survivors who STILL AREN’T PREDATORS.

[@amandaterrio4823]

When your whole platform is about calling out abuse and lifting up survivors, you don’t get the luxury of just having a rant about your haters without calling out the predator everyone is talking about. Either you’re for calling them out or you’re not

[@transparentjpg]

she’s equating being a survivor with being a perfect person.

[@Lettheflamesbeginx3]

Defense mechanism, she's been found out 😂

[@MummyBrown]

I think it’s important to have a discussion about the legitimate psychology of a survivor. There are statistics behind the higher rate of survivors being perpetrators themselves. Not to say that ALL survivors are ultimately perpetrators, just that they have a higher propensity of being an abuser themselves. That said, I think Drake Bell is a complicated subject. It requires much deeper discussion because on the one hand he was very much a victim and his story is important for many reasons. I think one of the issues I have with Alexa is that she even bothers with media coverage as her full basis for study. Media truly isn’t about facts, they are about sensationalism. Anything to make a buck. As she learned the hard way, they didn’t get the facts straight on Drake Bell because it worked for them. Even though he has a checkered past, facts are important. If she touched on these articles, did a deeper study on court information, then spoke more deeply about the psychology of survivors she wouldn’t be having these issues.

[@roseandlotus]

Agree fully with your opinion. This was very well said and educated. I’m a huge fan of Alexa’s Eat Predators Campaign but she tends to have a “protest” “emotional” opinion on things rather than educationally researched opinions.

[@ashk7280]

Thank you for finally saying the quiet part out loud.

[@icravedeath.1200]

That first part is an unfortunate, uncomfortable truth that people don't want to acknowledge lol

[@devynguest5403]

It’s important to understand being a survivor comes with emotional responses

[@MummyBrown]

@@devynguest5403 very much. My own journey had me looking much deeper into the “whys” of my own journey as well as what makes a perpetrator tick. TBT, I came out the other end with more anger and hate for the enablers than I had for the actual perpetrator. Therapy is very much the key in true survival of this kind of thing. I know Drake Bell mentioned in the doc that he has, and does go through intense therapy as an adult. I do wonder why his parents didn’t get him therapy as soon as possible.

[@L33W1NT3R5]

Last part of the video with her being like "your not special" its just gives mean girl became a nurse energy. And idk how to feel abt it

[@AshChiCupcak]

I think what feels so weird to me is that she went from being such an outspoken advocate for survivors to now backing down from it and not wanting to talk about it. I can understand dealing with the pressure and bullying from others must be hard, but i wonder if someone made her specifically stop talking about Drake. Its just odd THIS is the story she decided to back down from. That said, i do not support harassing anyone. Just feel like theres some outside influence here beyond the harassing.

[@KittyKatastropheLove]

that’s because its never been about children or victims its been about her pissed she was kicked from the show and her career never took off. She’s not a true advocate for shit. When the attention isn’t on her shes no longer interested. Also I fail to see what she was a victim of?when listening to her story the whole time im waiting for the big reveal… oh teen girl drama.. mean girls??? oh dan yelled at her once? thats the trauma?? gotta love how she always makes sure to throw in how they kickef her from the show… because thats what she’s actually pissed about. 😂There are actual children victims out there and shes only ever made it about herself.

[@AshChiCupcak]

@@KittyKatastropheLove Honestly, the more I think about it, I don't really remember any of her claims either other than the set being toxic and Jamie making Brittany go off on her. Her whole attitude just seems so sour, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt as much as possible but I can't ignore her change in attitude once it wasn't beneficial to her. I feel like she chose being on that show instead of speaking up about Drake, hence why she removed the video cuz they wanted to paint him as a victim. It's just too convenient and a slap in the face to the people she wanted to protect.

[@afallingstarfell]

@@KittyKatastropheLovehate to say im starting to agree i remember when the zoey 101 cast met up without her a few years ago and she went into a freak out and i swear thats when she started all this anti-dan content and supporting survivors/eating predators. her situation with her ex is tragic and she is a survivor like for sure but the way she milks the nickeledeon shit is insane her story isnt even close to as important as everyone elses on that doc but she made herself the face of it for years like 💀

[@kamalasheiress4035]

I’ve watched every one of Alexa’s episodes, and she has some legitimate claims. It has been inferred that Michael milosh put the coin in the wrong slot 😑 even after she had asked him not to and made a “brag song” about it using her voice because he had recorded it without her consent. Dan took home some shady lil girl photos (polaroids) of alexa dressed in a requested high miniskirt and biker shorts outfit. She says she has also witnessed things on that set that she hasn’t divulged or disclosed yet (we can talk about the massages, the uncomfortable moments with some of the females in the writers’ room, and Dan using the kid actors as placeholders to peddle his adult humour), but i think she is sensing a broader, general, overarching theme in the industry and the largely unaddressed issues within it that need to be uncovered & addressed.

[@greg-op2jh]

​@@kamalasheiress4035me as well. I am shocked at the hatefulness and ignorance of people talking straight outta there ass

[@dp9828]

I've watched hours of Alexa's content and I've realised she's very good at saying a lot, alluding to things and saying catchphrases without really saying anything of substance. She skirts around topics a lot and I feel she did that here.

[@AsmallShark2001]

20:13 hold on, so she's complaining that this person, WHO SHE'S NEVER MET IRL, isn't actively fighting abusing in person by protesting in the rain, but only a few minutes ago said that she hates ppl who are trying to tell her who she is or what shes done?? Sounds a little hypocritical tbh

[@tangerinehircine6624]

She has brought up the fact it was raining like 3493947 times.

[@accioyoongi]

even as a survivor myself, i was interested in her videos at first but then when i kept watching her clips it seemed she’d pick and choose on certain things. which is, in my opinion, an odd thing to do you know? i respect what she does with everything, but it’s also good to acknowledge that victims can become the perpetrators.

[@LawNerdAmber]

She's talking a lot and not saying literally anything

[@SamFokker]

I wish I didn't get the ick from her but something seems a lil off :/

[@Katalina_K]

Very

[@Lettheflamesbeginx3]

It is, she has done a lot of harm to me, as well as other people who supported her

[@violetadlt2729]

ive always had the ick about her but idk

[@tias78]

If i was drake bell's ex and i had looked up to alexa before and then saw this nonsense, i would be so hurt by what she's saying

[@overzealouseuthanasiast9731]

The vibes are so off from the video, unpleasant in ways am unable to find words to articulate. Is unfortunate.

[@jamie9364]

Communal narcissist. She has a pattern in her videos. Worth considering.

[@perraterca]

it rubbed me the wrong way that she referred to drake bell's survivors as "reported survivors" but everyone else as "survivors"

[@catzfuhdays]

Twice 😬

[@laurenssss]

Sure. As a survivor, you don't owe anyone anything. However, as a public figure and public advocate, you kind of do...

[@Lettheflamesbeginx3]

Yep. It's called Eat Predators and she's enabling a convicted predator.

[@jennamarcus4283]

It almost feels like all meaning behind "survivor" is lost and it's just being used as a weapon

[@BaconNMegs]

Im for Alexa Nikolas but my vibes have never been right, I can't usually get through her long form videos Im not even really sure why, ive just never gotten into it. I think its the way she talks to chat constantly at times and just seems to end up ranting. And in this video its like shes really using her survivor card...her entire personality is being a survior and its just really not healthy and watching her content didnt feel healthy for my head. Edited because I can't freaking spell or type apparently lol

[@fernnyfeen]

so she doesn't support survivors of drake bell? she didn't even mention them other than calling them "reported survivors" thats crazyyy

[@Poof-y8j]

Which if it is true that's horrible 😞 and I hope they find healing and on the other hand I hope their not just making things up for money if so that's fucked up.. but idk I don't live in California🤦🤷

[@avaph0bic]

her tone is incredibly odd to me in this video. she’s not making a drake bell vid out of spite? weird. she should be used to backlash, given that she’s so outspoken about supporting victims. shes being really picky with the topics she talks about… she’s deflecting really heavily and focusing on how good it feels for HER? it’s just annoying. “survivors”. she keeps repeating it as if it proves something. she’s just preaching instead of acknowledging whats being spoken about and it’s really odd. 25:49 “no one owns any corner” wtf is she even talking about. shes talking about the broad concept of conflict between victims instead of focusing on the specific issue at hand lmao

[@AlyssHarte]

Just because she’s a survivor doesn’t mean she’s above criticism, doesn’t mean she’s never wrong, and doesn’t mean people cannot call her out on her shit. Victim card? Declined.

[@oakleyv4815]

I’m honestly fine with the shirt. It was designed after her protest signs and it’s going to her protest group.

[@emelyvaldez9095]

same i dont see the problem

[@ka342]

She also said she isn’t keeping any of the money it all goes towards her protests I believe

[@FabiolaRVela]

I agree although the price is a bit nutty for me, $40 + for a t shirt feels a bit tone deaf in our economy

[@ka342]

@@FabiolaRVela sadly that's the price of most designer name brand merch type stuff from what I noticed

[@Lettheflamesbeginx3]

Nope, it goes into her pocket, just like all of the other merch sales. She doesn't donate to RAINN, she doesn't donate to other survivors, and, with this shirt, she is profiting off of OTHER people's trauma!

[@Molly-iw1rc]

I'm studying to become a social worker and I find it so counterintuitive and counterproductive to say "don't sympathize with predators just because they were victims." Maybe it's because of how people understand abuse and it's not the worst thought process to have given the context, but yall do know that being unsympathetic contributes to the issue right? You don't have to be friends with predators and you definitely don't need to justify or excuse what they did. But we are talking about acknowledging someone went through something traumatic while acknowledging that they became a predator. That's it, that's sympathy. It's not anything more than that. Obviously the victims of a predator might not even have the capacity to do that, which is totally fair. But as someone advocating for victims, you have to acknowledge that victims of abuse can and do become abusers at higher rates. And you have to think about the psychology and sociology of that occurrence and what contributed to that and everything. It should never be "you committed a crime so you aren't a victim", that's not helping victims either, that's choosing who deserves to be victim while choosing to ignore other victims. Once again, you don't have to agree with the actions of a predator or excuse their actions because of trauma, it's still a choice someone made and it's obvious that many victims don't make that choice. BUT don't act like they didn't have a history of abuse as well just because you think it makes victims look bad. A victim is a victim, there is no exception or rule for who is a victim. If you experienced abuse or trauma, if you were hurt, etc you are a victim. Keeping victimhood to only a few people defeats the purpose of advocacy for victims and will lead to more victims of abuse emerging rather than solving anything. That was my rant because I hate when people do that. To clarify, Drake Bell is a victim of abuse AND he abused multiple people, and I hope he is being fully held accountable for that and that his victims are safe. I also hope his abusers will be fully held accountable and they are never allowed near children ever again.

[@sarah30932]

I’m a Social Worker, and I appreciate you adding this nuance. Many things can be true at once, and when we can’t even come to acknowledge that…yeah, we get nowhere.

[@Jabberwocky112]

This would be possible if so many anti abuse groups were not for carceral punishment. One is not obligated to forgive, but this idea that this should be a scarlet letter situation and that there is no way out is crazy to me, living in a country that doesn’t work like this. Americans see other countries punishments as not enough, meanwhile the rest of us look at the US and see a country obsessed with reciprocating violence. And if a person isn’t punished enough according to the masses, the population decides to basically take matter into their own hands. The US is obsessed with punishments, and this is reflected in the way they react to abuse, to the way they support the death penalty and beyond. They aren’t ready for truly victim centered justice. They aren’t ready to really break the cycle of abuses.

[@Molly-iw1rc]

@@Jabberwocky112 I have nothing to add, you ate that up. The mob mentality as well as the need for punishment is definitely historically something the U.S. has participated in at all levels. If we want to take victims seriously and advocate properly, we have to acknowledge how sucky our current system and culture is surrounding those topics. Continuing the same cycles that creates abuse and continuing the same system that doesn't really work that well for most people in the first place is just normalizing abuse tbh. Because our criminal justice system is very abusive and creates victims regularly.

[@Jabberwocky112]

@@Molly-iw1rc I am so tired of the US obsession with violence culturally systematically socially. And I see this both from the right and the left over there.

[@ashk7280]

Your comment is perfection. Adam should pin it 👀

[@11tori111]

you should see how she reacts when Trisha Paytas brings drake bell up on Just Trish Podcast, and that's before she felt "harrassed" by people I'm pretty sure, basically throwing his behavior under the rug because he's a victim as well, Drake bell is a victim, but he's still very much an abuser!!

[@gayhomosexuallll]

Can you tell me which video/episode of the podcast it was so that I could find it? Thank you!

[@hoodys]

this !!!!!

[@11tori111]

@gayhomosexuallll it was on Just Trish Podcast, from 2 weeks ago and it's titled Alexa Nichols on Quiet on Set, Fallout, T-shirt controversy and Dan !!!

[@11tori111]

@@gayhomosexuallll sorry I just saw this didn't mean to reply so late!!!

[@acid9790]

the whole video had a sort of gabbie hanna-tone

[@afallingstarfell]

REAL

[@hoodys]

I think she is a bit unwell

[@cass12234]

Quickest way to get fucked up is drinking everytime Alexa says "survivor"

[@nightwing1984]

AA won't take me back!😅😂

[@electra424]

Alexa Nikolas is problematic af. She doxxes other survivors for petty bullshit and the way she runs her organization is extremely sus imo. I am a survivor who was a supporter of her until I repeatedly witnessed problematic behavior and decided to unsub.

[@gaines_gal]

Yeah the doxxing is unhinged tbh. It's really hard to not side eye her with her actions in the past few months.

[@ORIONSTARGATE]

same

[@Emily-eq1ts]

I might sound stupid here but what’s doxxing?

[@gaines_gal]

@@Emily-eq1ts definitely not stupid. It essentially means that you publish someone's private information (ie full name, address, medical information, etc.) online.

[@forestgremlin420]

her tone makes her sound like a 5th grade teacher lecturing her class on bullying 💀

[@Dominique129]

I don't think it helps any survivors or the movement for anyone to try to whitewash Drake Bell's actions as an adult where he has be accused of DV by his ex-girlfriend and he was charged with attempted child endangerment and disseminating matter harmful to juveniles. He was victim who became a perpetrator, and idk it seems like Alexa wants to wash her hands of talking about it now because it does not fit her narrative of Quiet on the Set/Nickelodeon. It's the fact she is doubling down /deflecting making it about her trauma (which is valid).

[@onceuponamelody]

She's called him out multiple times. She took down the video she's talking about here, because the article she quoted was not correct. Drake was a victim, now he's also a predator himself who pled guilty to charges against him. Alexa doesn't need to make another video on it. If anything, the Quiet on Set video makes Drake look better than he actually is.

[@maggiedk]

Two ex-girlfriends, not even just one.

[@devynguest5403]

Yeah I don’t like what they have done with drake and how he’s horrific. Murders usually have a horrible upbringing but it doesn’t excuse what they did. Same with this

[@alycatt13]

@@devynguest5403yes! incredible point, thank you.

[@SAMEntalhealth]

​@@onceuponamelodyshe had that up for so long I'm pretty sure she could have fixed it all up if she felt like she genuinely wanted to but she took it down because she wanted to please her audience not be genuine

[@Jennacavanaugh69]

Went to high school with DB’s cousin, he performed at our HS prom, met him several times at Disneyland, and he attended our graduation. He had a…reputation amongst SoCal high schoolers circa 2014-2017 lol

[@BigAlexgator]

I myself am a survivor and if you become a perpetrator, I can still feel bad you had to go through something awful. But if you abuse someone else, that’s unforgivable. I never did. So wtf is his excuse. You HAVE TO get yourself help

[@Poof-y8j]

Okay how does everybody know that drakes allegations are true like most of them are his ex gfs right? And most of it is him being abusive which could possibly be true which is horrible he got child endangerment charges it even says it in the court vid it didn't say anything about child predator what so ever though..I'm just really confused on why everyone's saying he sexually abused more people when all I've been seeing is he was charged with endangerment..

[@AsmallShark2001]

Idk if this is just how she normally sounds or not so sorry if im wrong but they way she talks seems...mean? Her tone feels very condescending and aggressive, shes talking about what she did but is trying to make it seem like because she was a victim, she's above any and all criticism. Her vibes are off ngl

[@StationRelaxation1111]

I’m so sad about her. I was a member and a top patreon sub but the Drake Bell situation made me stop supporting her. I really tried to keep giving her the benefit of the doubt and wait for her to acknowledge it but she wouldn’t and also let her fans call his victims liars in all her comments. Really disappointed.

[@BarnAvDenWebb]

Also she uses being a survivor as a safe goat, alot of people have survived alot of things, does not mean they are above criticism

[@Joemom80085]

Girl, you’re not the main 1 being critiqued. You know who is actually being attacked and harassed? Drake Bell’s victims are! Being called liars, stalkers, that they deserved the abuse but that ‘no abuse happened’. Alexa go cry a river and make more merch and money, since that is all you care about obviously with the way she speaks down to the public of hundreds of survivors, especially Drake Bell’s victims.

[@paigecullen4095]

drake bell's victim was proven to have lied about her age to drake. he cut contact as soon as he found out she was underaged. do your research and watch the court videos.

[@Joemom80085]

@@paigecullen4095 watch the victim’s court statement if you think she lied and then read the countless other victims’ stories. I already know you won’t since you’re defending and protecting a pedo, pathetic.

[@Joemom80085]

@@paigecullen4095 thanks for proving the point. The only people that have said she lied was Drake and his Lawyer but Drake knew her Aunt who was driving her to meet him. Also, during the court hearing his lawyer slips up and says that Drake knew that she was underage when texting. The judge calls him out on it later when he is speaking to Drake. Do your research before you are willing to protect someone who has hurt many children and his ex partners.

[@Lettheflamesbeginx3]

​@@paigecullen4095 Nope, it was discussed during the sentencing hearing that she told him her age and he told her to 'hurry up.'

[@Bls-of1ld]

​@@paigecullen4095i hear she's not the only victim

[@beepboop7041]

Have y’all seen the creepy nude pictures she posts of her children 😖 it made me so sick I had a mini breakdown. I had heard people on Reddit talking about it and I didn’t believe it cause I had my rose colored glasses on. It’s sick. She’s sick and it’s clear she knows what she’s doing. She’s a hypocrite and I’m glad I came around to peoples genuine criticism of her. I used to fight for this girl.. what a shame.

[@2222bearbear]

everytime she said survivor it annoyed me. it’s not a qualifier and it’s not a personality. some people seem elated to declare that and just talk in hysterical circles and it’s very bizarre and doesn’t contribute to any sort of long term healing and then they drag other vulnerable people into it.

[@314Juicy]

So it stopped being about survivors… and started being about her own ego. Got it 🙄

[@Hooked_on_britney99]

💯

[@evie-fn1sp]

I'm going to be very honest, I've watched some of her content and some of her points agree with, but I always got a strange vibe from her and I've never been able to put my finger on it. I really don't like how she kept saying basically "don't attack me for supporting drake bell because you're attack a survior" you can be a survivor and an abuser. you be a survivor and have bad takes and shitty moments. being a survivor does not give you a pass for shitty behavior. she did not address the situation at all, very disappointed in her....

[@EggboyYT]

I agree, vibes are off personally

[@Lettheflamesbeginx3]

Your vibes are correct, she's harmed me and so many other survivors from her own community.

[@EggboyYT]

@@Lettheflamesbeginx3If you don't mind giving any details that would be helpful - but of course only if you're comfortable

[@Lettheflamesbeginx3]

@@EggboyYT Hold on, I'll basically copy and paste what I commented to Adam, on this video. Brb.

[@Bls-of1ld]

​@@EggboyYTppl that worked with her for the whole eat predators stuff are coming out and saying she traumatized them

[@sydneysoleil8647]

I get she’s a survivor and she’s been through shit, but she’s always rubbed me the wrong way.. maybe it’s just the way she speaks. It’s way too condescending for me to like her

[@primrose97]

How many times is she going to mention she’s a survivor? I understand she’s gone through a lot but she always find a way to make it about herself. I feel like that’s why she doesn’t have many guests on her channel. She doesn’t want anyone taking her limelight as a survivor.

[@eddierascalhaskell4954]

Its psychology talk. If she says it enough, she feels it can be reality

[@no.name.4.u]

Its hard to listen without noticing the manipulative language .. conspiracy theories, problematic , bullies. Going on about how problematic it is that people are able to say their oppinions anonymous. "I got nothing to hide, who are you?" It somehow always ends up there, spinning that narrative.

[@Lettheflamesbeginx3]

Especially considering the fact that she spread a conspiracy theory/misinformation about me.

[@SAMEntalhealth]

If there was a 150 million percent Emoji I could post on this comment I would but I can only post 💯!!!!!!

[@yusigh]

her video made me feel SO uncomfortable. so condescending and just....weird. in my personal opinion. I do not trust her :/

[@acid9790]

is she implying that because drake is a survivor we should leave him alone?? i dont understand at all what she was trying to get across

[@RageGirlsPodcast]

Alexa falsely accused me of robbery after putting me through months of severe emotional abuse and exploiting my labor. She is a really dangerous person who has hurt more people than I can even keep track of anymore. She has filed THREE false police reports against different black people for separate false accusations. She even had to settle in court one of them, who she had wrongly detained and arrested. Thank you so much for raising awareness. I hope this prevents her from hurting more people.

[@TerrellVoid]

HOLY SHIT FR??

[@Lilly-cb2bl]

the way she talks is soo weird to me. anyone else feel the same?

[@kitty0chan444]

Literally so easy to acknowledge yes he’s a survivor but he’s also a predator. So so easy

[@patri6kd3mps3y8]

Alexa literally made a video and tweet about Kesha going on tour with Diplo and Kesha pulled out of the tour and Alexa never took down the video, she never addressed the situation again, And now the fact that she’s acting like this really pisses me off

[@briannawilliams97]

Adam, there's alot more about Alexa you don't know. She's a bully and harrasses others and sends moderators to stalk others online. There are screen shots of her mods admitting to it.

[@ebenezerstooge]

She’s always been trash

[@savannahskye9441]

I’m ngl as a csa victim myself, it felt like she was using her abuse to shut people up. Just because we are victims does not mean we are free of criticism. If she chooses to talk about drake and refuses to acknowledge he has become a predatory himself she is not free of criticism just bc she’s a victim. If anything she deserves it more because she is creating a platform FOR victims, and inviting in sympathy for current a predator rather than his childhood self, without warning her audience full of other victims of his previous allegations. It is not hard to acknowledge them nor is it disrespectful or rude. It is NECESSARY. If not you look like you are protecting a predator & being a victim of csa does NOT make you free from being criticized for that.

[@ophie-dokie]

Adam I'm so happy to see you cover this!!!!! I have deep dives on my channel if you want the crash course in what I found about Alexa when I was doing this. So glad to see you stand with the victims and call this out this video is great thank you

[@ORIONSTARGATE]

commenting to boost.

[@annecycornchip]

here to back ophie up for really well done videos on all of this

[@r2b2.]

I think Alexa needs to pick a lane. She saw an opportunity to be in a documentary and have another 5 mins of "frame" and took it. Also, what is she a survivor of? Being fired from a Nickelodeon show??

[@percocet.]

alexa don’t mention ur a victim/ survivor for one minute challenge:

[@staceysmith5074]

Her entire identity seems to be "as a survivor."

[@nightwing1984]

Shes encouraged a lot of people to follow suit.

[@Иеремия-ь4ь]

I think the thing with Alexa is she goes un circles not really saying anything of subtance, and repeats the same talking points superficially in a way that trigger certain emotions, like the constant repetition of "survivors", etc. I dont want to invalide her or demish what she ia doing or has done, maybe I'm totally wrong, and thats okay. But what I said at the beginning is the usual feeling I get from watching her videos. Edit: And that constant repetion of word that elicit feelings on the viewers, that I mentioned, creates the illusion that she is actually saying something, and because she is constantly repeating triggering words like survivors, stand against predators, and shit like that, you get this feeling that you want to agree with what she is saying, but there's not much substance to what she actually says.

[@jamie9364]

you are NOT wrong. Excellent way of explaining it and what I have observed. She does come off as a communal narcissist. I recall a long time ago seeing one of her videos and being really uncomfortable at how excited she was getting talking about trauma. I stopped watching and following. Edit: She is charismatic and that is what you are likely seeing. When we see the passion but not the authenticity behind the words.

[@Иеремия-ь4ь]

@@jamie9364 Thank you. That's a very good point.

[@Иеремия-ь4ь]

@@jamie9364 In response to you edit: awesome way of succinctly encapsulate my point, couldn't have said it better, thanks.

[@jamie9364]

@@Иеремия-ь4ь Thank you but you were spot on in your observations. I was wondering if and when, she would ever be called out. I followed her briefly at the very start of her movement and then checked in occasionally or she appeared on a podcast. I cannot for the life of me, recall which one but one in particular, made me uncomfortable and made me question her motives. Her persona and energy grew more intense as the movement took shape. This was just from a handful of videos too. I think we need to trust our gut. It is okay to question a person's motives even when it appears to be altruistic. We all know, deep down, what authenticity looks like.

[@Иеремия-ь4ь]

Thanks, but I still my comment was too verbose, I like your way of expressing it better ngl. Yeah, for me it was similar, I started to watch some of her videos, but I felt something off, and realized most of her videos are really similar in the sense they lack substance to an extent, and have a constant mind numbing repetition of triggering terminology, or whatever that's called. But again I recognize I don't know enough about her, so who knows.

[@percocet.]

i’m sorry, i’m just gonna say it right now. alexa is just full of rage, and she uses the victim card to her benefit. ik she has been through an experience that no one should but it still doesn’t give her the excuse to be using it 25/8 to benefit her. i feel she isn’t healed at all, and should honestly just focus on herself and healing. the shirt thing rlly just shows her true intentions.

[@nightwing1984]

Why apologize for telling the truth?

[@greenbird6435]

I'm sorry but she's REALLY reminding me of Mamamax with how she's hiding behind survivors/the survivor label. I really wish content creators that build their platforms off of uplifting and platforming survivors would stop using the fact they do so over our heads whenever they face backlash or criticism. It only proves to us that you don't actually care about protecting survivors and only do it to look good or as a brand. Stuff like that is why I look at channel's like hers or Max's with weary eyes. Disgusting behavior honestly

[@SAMEntalhealth]

The thing is is she has income coming in in three different ways, merchandise, ad revenue, which she hasn't called other people out for like the Pod Meets World podcast saying they should donate to survivors, and then she has also subscribers like being paid for the amount of subscribers and people donating to her, she could be setting up something to help people like people that can't get therapy that are traumatized from sexual abuse or sexual assault, and victims that developed agoraphobia due to their traumas, it's just one idea but there are ways she could easily take the time to sit down and think about those things instead of the next video that comes out because eventually you come full circle and this kind of stuff happens😢

[@BarnAvDenWebb]

Am I the only who feels her social commentary sort of feels like performance art? Like she doesnt actually care for "survivors" she cares that people see her as a beacon for survivors. Am I the only one getting that?

[@drubaker8319]

ok her making her entire argument and personality a survivor is wild that doesn’t discount u from taking accountability in tired

[@Lettheflamesbeginx3]

It's a defense mechanism, because she knows she's been found out 😂

[@lowjayP]

I think the amount of conviction she has when cornered is concering. She braces herself for battle with every video and live stream with such defiance and absolution. The amount of times she brings up victomhood is like a sheild and prop....we get it, you are a victim... of bullying and bad management......and then raise others that have experienced giving foot massages and favors... no competition in the exprience of any one person, but if your are going to raise a voice for people graped in the behind and experienced blunt, ignorant racism, this gives some super mother martyr vibes. I've been thinking about this for a while. Once. AGAIN. I value a voice for the silent, but this is getting white woman washed. I have been abused, used, and words that I cannot say on youtube. I appreciate others lifting my voice and the communities voice, but to use it in such a way is giving "her only identity and now she bank off of cute puns of her abuser" is weird. she got herself in a web. She dug herself a small hole and now has to back track. I appreciate the work and strength she brings to people who need a voice.....I also have sensed some martyrdom that gives me jim jones vibes. It's worrisome. Stand strong by yourself girl, but don't put yourself on pedistal of awkward hypocrisy. Leaving people with a sense of "but...ummm..."

[@eddierascalhaskell4954]

Excellent analysis.

[@fancydeer]

"as a survivor I don't feel like it" ... girl... what? she's taking this too far. Oh, girl she is spiraling. This whole thing feels like a manic rant. Sis take your meds and unplug the wifi.

[@SAMEntalhealth]

I'm telling you right now, that was the part that triggered me the most, when she was like, as a survivor, I don't like it, when she said that I was just rolling my eyes like oh my God

[@enigmasky1680]

I feel like she makes being a survivor her personality now. I’m a survivor and I don’t invalid others and throw that up like a shield to never be wrong.