Let's talk about The Bachelor and the lies being spread about my past life

[@drtash21]

Kim DEFINITION: The only person that I'll listen to for an hour rant about a show I have no interest in and somehow still be entertained. That's a gift.

[@danisacademiccorner4493]

Same 🤣 I haven't watched the bachelor in years

[@Estrellitawilliams]

Right! I’ve watched one episode of that show and never again. Yet, here I am... ☺️

[@trishatorres8103]

Same

[@magdalaone]

so true lol never seen an episode of it!

[@Nooooooooooooooooooooo7913]

Literally 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@trishatorres8103]

Story time about how Kim changed my life... it was a few years ago, I was working retail and I was listening to one of her videos with an ear bud in trying to be sneaky about it. I worked there for almost 2 years and felt like I could do more but didn't belive I actually could. So in the video I was listening to Kim said she could get a real job if she wanted to at a bank. And I took that as my sign to belive in myself and get that bank job. And I did. More money, felt more confidence in my work, and a better life over all. So thank you Kim. For anyone actually reading this, take this as your sign to level up if that's what you're looking to do.

[@anastasiavasilyeva5116]

I don't get why people are so mean to you online, you literally only foster (ha!) positivity and insightful conversations

[@niyj5783]

lol love that pun!

[@ThatsJustMyBabyDaddy]

Because it takes all kinds.

[@anonymousone9699]

Aaaah that’s a nice one!

[@Zikomo7]

People are insecure. Kimberly is pretty, financially comfortable, and very intelligent. It’s threatening to people

[@peteadenuga]

@@Zikomo7 👌🏾👏🏾

[@coilyqueen312]

In trying to figure out what's so suspicious about your college experience when the vast majority of college students take 6 years to graduate typically due to personal or financial hardship. It's very common!

[@ornenow4703]

People are weird!!

[@cannibalisticrequiem]

Right? And sometimes people go back to finish or further their degree (Graduate, Masters, Doctorate depending on their field of interest), or life just gets in the way! Like, it's not that deep!!

[@LethalLemonLime]

the majority of people who are calling her story fake probably have never even been to University. they probably didn't have the SAT scores to even enter one or the drive to go to community college.

[@Salutations26]

it's the Harvard part for some people.

[@CreoleKing1986]

Oh God, I HATE Lipstick Alley. I did youtube for a couple years and didn't like 2 things: 1. That people started to recognize me everywhere I went 2. The gossip trolls at Lipstick Alley! You've got soooo many people that love you and your content and are rooting for you!

[@xr2kid]

Hey fellow Creole brotha I hate Lipstick alley too

[@cannibalisticrequiem]

I'm not familiar with them but I do know of... God what was the name of it, it was like Pretty Little Liars only it was inverted with one added word, or Petty Little Liars... idk but it's this massive troll website similar to Kiwi Farms, just not as blatantly bigoted, and they talk shit on EVERYONE on KZbin. Like first it was just shit-talking the Beauty Community, but then it expanded outwards to people who, if you saw the 1,000+ pages dedicated to spanning five or so years, you'd be confused as to why they'd have a problem with them! Like I've seen them shit-talk Jacksepticeye and his ex Signé when they were together. They shit-talk Akidearest and Joey (TheAnimeGuy), and Safiya Nygaard and Tyler... and you just sit there wondering "Wtf are y'all mad at Saf for?? Why you mad at Jack??" These people did literally nothing wrong, but they act like they're better than the people they sit around all day being mad at, and will attack anyone that points this out or questions them. And it's always petty shit too. Like I would understand if you're criticizing Jacksepticeye in his weird growth in the last several years where he's turned into a Pewdiepie clone and is constantly kissing his ass, pretending that Felix hasn't done the racist, antisemitic shit that colors his past, and that his weird "Subscribe 2 Pewdiepie" call to action wasn't co-opted by a terrorist and uttered seconds before he blew up that mosque in New Zealand never happened, because that's not okay, and if you really claim to be an ally of marginalized people and care about them, you wouldn't just let your friend get away with this shit that the wrong people take seriously and use to enact hatred and violence against the groups you portend to care for. Like when that whole Fiver "Death 2 J*ws" fiasco occured, Jack actually called out Felix and wasn't going to let him slide just because they were friends, like Markiplier and MatPat did because godforbid they don't handle Felix with kid gloves and not reassure him that he's really a good person every five minutes because that might hurt his feelings-- but then fucking Keemstar walked in and told Jack "Uh no dude you're wrong. You're just unfairly criticizing Felix when you don't understand the situation!", and Jack CONCEDED TO HIM and dropped the whole thing because fucking trogladyte Keemstar was more reputable than actual Jewish people saying "No this was antisemitic and calling it a joke doesn't make it okay"!! I would understand being mad at Jack, Mark, and MatPat for falling short and acting like a lot of White Liberals for claiming to be allies only to drop the ball because they don't want their shitty friend to feel bad... but nah, the users of Petty Little Liars would rather be shallow and bitchy because they're clearly not happy with their lives and they hate that they're not as popular or relevant as the people they diss. It's just a fucking mess.

[@CreoleKing1986]

@@jrr7031 I guess but I don't think that's true. I think if you have any maturity about yourself you can criticize the work someone puts out. But mean gossip in public (everyone does kitchen table talk) about things that have nothing to do with the material someone is offering is just disrespectful and malicious in my opinion. But many people subscribe to your belief on that which is why I quit. A few bad apples really do spoil it for everyone.

[@CreoleKing1986]

@@jrr7031 You better believe it

[@mercedessmith9015]

I loved your KZbin videos 🤗

[@shilohsacks3809]

I'm sorry so many people use you as a punching bag online and undermine your experiences/ deny that they happened. But, I'm also really glad you talked more about your year away from Harvard, as someone extremely high achieving with ADHD and a bit of a mess (i'm 22), it's so nice to hear the stories of the women being a bit of a mess and making regular human errors who still have badass futures. We expect so much of women (especially black women) to be perfect all of the time and it's inhumane, we all should be given the privilege to be a mess and make mistakes. I really appreciate your perspective but it sucks that people are so rude to you online. It is completely unnecessary and sad on their part.

[@TheNinjapancake14]

Yes, Kim's story was so similar to mine academic wise. Currently 22 as well and had to leave a private school after a year and a half. It's encouraging to hear successful women talk about overcoming familiar obstacles

[@GlamGoddes101]

I think in her Harvard video where she explains everything she says that it was a few years before she went back and finished

[@calebgore1914]

You're posting so many satin pillow talks. I'm feeling so spoiled. Thank you. Happy Belated Birthday.

[@suavee1001]

Merch idea: “it don’t make no sense” 😭😭😂😂 bc it don’t!

[@Sososunnyyyyyy]

Yes and silk pillow talk 🤣

[@ladyqvictoria]

And “Sooooo good”

[@LethalLemonLime]

"I get my hair done every two weeks... like a good black woman" made me choke on air

[@kmichellenotthatone3611]

Kim said if y’all are gonna be nosy anyway, imma 👏🏽get 👏🏽my 👏🏽money!

[@cannibalisticrequiem]

Does anyone else just love Kimberly's laugh? It's just so infectious and full of joy, I can't help but smile every time I hear it!

[@LethalLemonLime]

They definitely personally picked Matt cause they knew he didn't date black women. They wanted to have a black man for *dIvErSiTy* but didn't want it to be too TOO black.

[@BellesView]

Exactly

[@treyking1432]

The same way they picked Rachel Lindsey

[@TerryAE]

Matt was supposed to be on Claire's season, Tayshia was on Colton's season and Rachel was on Nick's season. So because they all signed up to marry a white person, producers know that that was their preference. That's the only way to show diversity, ONLY IF the Bachelor/Bachelorette chooses a white person. Majority of the viewers, are white, so they don't want to see any black love lol. Look how on Twitter they're saying that Matt & Rachel's season were the worse, for obvious reason. Taysia is mixed but very very Valley Girl, I didn't expect anything less. It's the best of both world for the show. 🙄🤷🏾‍♀️

[@LethalLemonLime]

@@TerryAE Makes sense. I've never watched the show btw. But that's what I got out of hearing her talk about this and I was right lol.

[@alexstyles5808]

Two of the bottom 3 were black women. Matt never said he didn’t date black women

[@ObservingtheMatrix]

Its so weird how I went through the exact same thing and I know it must happen to more people. So few people talk about failing out of elite schools and returning.

[@lucasolivdantas]

"DO NOT ADMIT SHIT!" that should be merch #justsaying ahahahahhahahaa

[@robertstanley9633]

Yes and 'Pack Your Shit' cos when she says that I die a little 😂

[@greynotchristian]

and "AND THAT"S WHY YOU GOT NO JOB"

[@latianar1832]

We need more relationship breakdowns from you because I'm emerging from my 20s this year and I definitely could have used this closure advice a long time ago

[@msmiami212]

Whew the emotion in your telling of that story gave me chills, found myself doing some recollecting of my own. “The longer you have to stay, the harder it is to get out”. I witnessed so many where a pause or blip in their lives turned into forever. I’m very nearly ‘out’ in my journey, it’s so close I can feel it🥲 Thank you

[@robertstanley9633]

Keep fighting the good fight 🙌🏾

[@charlybrown5264]

OMG the part when you talked about how they said - we have installed cameras and we've been watching you guys literally cracked me up 🤣🤣😂😂

[@ChloeBaileysRightBootyCheek]

She knew what it was when she heard that 😂

[@stillkaryll8835]

I’ve been there 🥴🥴🥴 I was SICKKKKK

[@sageolivia1837]

it’s so comforting to hear a story of someone struggling. as of right now, I’m at a really bad mental state, working in a toxic work environment and applying for colleges . I hope to be able to bounce back like you

[@a.sydney5036]

Right. Sorta like a very confident reassurance that everything works itself out. Wishing you all the best.

[@caseyw.6550]

Why does the company print coupons if you aren't supposed to use them? That literally makes me want to rage. The fact they said it was THEFT and made you pay it back?! Fuck that so hard.

[@Maverickgouda]

She said emergency use, so the intent would be for when they on the verge of losing a sale or something like that. But the setup expecting high sales incentivized her tactic

[@caseyw.6550]

@@Maverickgouda That's still not fucking theft. And what a shitty way to take advantage of your customers. Like you gotta put on some big bluff to luck into a coupon? I hate that shit so much. Like when you pay full price and then realize the employee never told you there was a way to get a discount because you didn't know to ask for it. Obviously that doesn't even compare to how they treat their employees. Just saying there is a definite correlation. Shitty to customers + shitty to workers. Capitalism is a fucking rip off for all (nearly all).

[@Maverickgouda]

@@caseyw.6550 theft sounds really excessive, I’m not legal savvy though. Idk what they charge sneaker connects or being too liberal with samples, which businesses will also take out of checks. Basically looks like a way to blame the losses on the employee and recoup it because of threatening prosecution is intimidating

[@lowtech42]

the unbearable irony is the company was (called) Payless!!! also they have their wage theft 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@rachelm.3173]

"Stand up in your mess beloved"😂🤣

[@smilergal89]

Privilege is privilege- we all have differing levels of it. It’s important we acknowledge it when we move through the world and try our best to level the playing field for others. This was triggering to listen to at times - having zero support to navigate from childhood into adulthood was damn and is damn hard, it’s doubly hard when your parents give you additional responsibilities and burdens that are simply not for you. Sigh. I can imagine that some of the people being nasty are projecting and expressing the consequence of their lack of privilege. Sad. Thanks for sharing Kim

[@crystalpowell8619]

Chris has something. And the reason why he’s pretending that he has no idea that things like that portray a history of racism and cruelty is because when we find out his that he’s gonna be bigger than what that girl did.

[@stillkaryll8835]

Lipstick alley is the definition of a cesspool. I went on there once to see what the hubbub was about and wow what a dark place

[@lucasolivdantas]

i loooooooooooooove life storytelling kimberly! i love for harriet, but i have been enjoying this chanel so much! shout out from brazil

[@hbassey]

A racial conversation DID come up. In the preview for the season, Rachael said, "I don't see color." Matt just nodded and smiled. Then after everything that happened with Chris Harrison they edited it out of the finale.

[@tyronita]

I love the skin appreciation moment in the beginning bc it be like that sometimes ✨

[@KishaWynter]

I’ve always said we are twins. Rachel Lindsay’s the Bachelorette is literally the only time I have watched that show. That Franchise has always been deplorable.

[@treyking1432]

She picked a Whte Man

[@treyking1432]

@@simplyvonnie He was a WHITE Columbian, stop with the Semantics lol

[@conflictpersona8]

@@treyking1432 you sound pressed ive seen you trolling around 😂😂😂

[@sugarhoneybunch08]

I worked at Stride Rite (a Payless company 😅) in 2011, and they were closing all of that brand's stores. I literally just started giving the shoes away, I did not give a damn 🤷🏿‍♀️ and the other girl who was a manager, (very cute, maybe 20 or so) stole $600 the last week the store was open. Lord that job was a hot mess.

[@jessicam.4777]

😂😂😂

[@demiluv1]

THIS👏🏾IS👏🏾THE👏🏾CONTENT👏🏾WE👏🏾NEED👏🏾

[@traceeford2914]

Please accept it as a compliment when I insert claps from now on.

[@CulinaryGuide]

I think the word is college “attrition” rate. When universities take a special interest in preventing students from dropping out of school.

[@Peighter]

These back to back uploads have improved my quality of life by a very significant amount Kim

[@AlexMBateau]

Attrition rate is the rate of students who drop out before graduating. Retention rate is the rate of students who make it to graduation.

[@ofali]

Payless is THE thing now in Latin America. We have a store here in Saint Lucia and it's very popular

[@LBoogie49]

I saw that L.A. market was booming for Payless....I don’t know if the current prices are like they were here in the states. I was a customer primarily bcuz I wear a 12/13 & had limited options for affordable trendy shoes. Me n my family shopped there for years! Then all of a sudden, boom, prices went up like crazyyyyyy! I remember a pair of ankle boots were priced at over $50....huh? It was like they forgot the store was full of pleather and faux suede....I would rather spend my money 💴 at places like Nine West and elsewhere to get REAL leather shoes that last....

[@cannadesmond]

Yay 🇱🇨

[@nathifa3798]

Its popular in the Caribbean. Got a store in every major city in Trinidad

[@CFTStheband]

Just coming up on this two years after the fact lol. It's so important for public people to tell these stories because you never know who they can help. And they do help everybody realize that we all have problems and no one has had a "perfect" life. Damn, I could tell stories like these and worse too 😩 Thanks for being an inspiration! And yeah, I worked at Mervyn's for a while 🤣

[@olive6679]

BP have been going on bachelor franchise shows for years and getting rejected by whites. It's embarrassing. We have to be the lead to walk away with IR love. I don't see the value in forcing our way into these spaces.

[@dch3934]

"maybe it's what he prefers" - your reaction😂😂😂😂 accurate

[@robertstanley9633]

I love when she reads a comment & holds back what she really wants to say but insteads chuckles lol we know sis, we know

[@Annaiuq1]

Lemme tell you something...as a former Ross front end supervisor, you were blessed to be in the back. You get timed in the front too with the added aggravation of customers. I begged to go to the floor

[@ranniazorya]

I'm in tEARS about your comments about the skeletons in Chris's closet 😭😭😭

[@ornenow4703]

Payless was so petty for that. That's why they are out of business now. Lmaooo

[@eoa363]

I think they're back in business, online only.

[@876me7]

The vast majority of merchandise in the US is made in China, including shoes. The shoes Payless sells aren’t much different than the shoes sold at higher priced retailers. They’re all made in China with cheap material. You just pay more for the shoes at other retailers like DSW. But you’re getting shoes that are only a little better quality if at all.

[@momi1610]

Kim, thanks for your breakdown of "The Bachelor" debacle. I also heard somewhere that the school that Rachel attended had banned Antebellum parties on its campus. So, the students took it upon themselves to still hold those parties. If that's true, then she was not ignorant about what she was doing. If her school banned that type of gathering because it was racially insensitive and disrespectful to a portion of its student body - but she decided to attend those types of gatherings anyway - then she basically did not care if it was inappropriate or not. Also, I agree that if this whole thing hadn't come to light, Matt and Rachel would probably be engaged to one another right now. He mentioned feeling pressured to choose a Black woman as his final partner on this show. But no, the only pressure that was placed on him was to not choose the white woman who he wanted, because she was called out for racist acts that occurred less than 3 years ago. I think they'll probably still end up together, since she recently released her "Yes, that was racist. Sorry about that." apology

[@tkennedyreads4525]

I believe it was the fraternity that issued a national ban on that "theme".

[@mitsukislife]

29:18 Thank you for bringing this up! I remember someone getting upset on Instagram because one of her followers said she was "lucky" to have parents who supported her move to Asia. She got defensive, saying that she had to struggle to get there, but I don't think she realized just how many factors were truly based on luck despite the difficulties in the journey. The fact her parents eventually said yes, the fact she was able to get a visa (especially as a BW), the fact she could successfully grasp the language! People are so uncomfortable with the concept of luck, but if we all embraced it these conversations on privilege would be a lot more easier to digest. I was extremely lucky to be born into my family, and that luck has translated into educational opportunities a lot of people would never have access to. Yes I still have to work hard, but I'm not going to act like the stars were never aligned in my favor 🤔

[@TimoteoDeBaum]

I grew up middle class and my parents passed away by the time I turned 22 and I’ve been living damn near poverty even tho I have a bachelor’s and using it with my salaried career in that profession. With student loans and skyrocketing rent and cost of living I can barely save with my income. It’s been extremely difficult and moving up as a black man seems so foreign and impossible even though I’m one of the most skilled and valued people in the office. I’m frustrated to be looked over and taken for granted but proud that I’m doing way better than some but know that I’m a paycheck or two away from homelessness. And constantly thinking of ways level up my life. And I know I’m not the only one.

[@nicolehood4581]

Your smile is so cute 😊

[@TrangPakbaby]

She’s like a young Alfre Woodard. So adorable:-)

[@MichelleWatsonLee]

Girl! That story about Payless and Ross, so relatable! Lol. My school did not care about me dropping out. Different situation but they was like girl you gotta go, closed my account, and haven’t heard from them since. Not a good luck, hope you’re doing well. Nothing.

[@Salutations26]

the kicker is that he got rid of the girls who could most identify with him....michelle and bri were biracial women and per them he had a conversations with them about race. Matt wants to be ignorant.

[@GlamGoddes101]

I feel like I’m sort of in a similar place as you were in your early 20s. I’m 21, finishing college(at a top private school) a year later than my class, and I feel like I’m just about to “launch” and I’m really getting my ish together. And I had the same thought as you that I need to stack my money lol- so here I am working at a vaccine center & as a medical assistant & making money from things I do on the side(etsy,selling art). I’m similarly privileged and I’ve also had a realization that I’ve been able to bounce back from my mistakes(due to untreated mental health problems,I was down bad :/) because of all the support and financial backing I have from my family.. I don’t know why your videos make me spill my life story😂 I just relate to you so much

[@danielajorgeayoub7155]

You had me sweating with all the flashbacks from retail jobs. 😫

[@ekstn645]

Next red table talk: Matt James 👀😂

[@Elizabeth-uz3le]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Lovemylife65]

Happy belated birthday Kim! Your birthday is 6 days after mine. Pisces women rock!

[@FromMikaWithLove]

“I still have make up from 2018!” Girl I felt this!

[@shannon1188]

My Dad always told me don't sign anything

[@ladiepink]

I’m a older age and I didn’t know that but I just put it in my pocket now thanks y’all

[@IAM.SARAMIA]

thank you for the time stamps

[@K7M80]

Matt is in need of long and deep therapy because he truly has issues with his father’s absence. I watched the season and what I saw was a young man still harboring great pain that he inherited from his white mother. She has the greatest pain. Matt is confused for real and I think he’s unaware of his black heritage past the known stereotypes. Now his brother, is the real mvp, check out the episode when his family met the two contestants.

[@aaliyahclark823]

Payless was my first job freshman to sophomore year of college and when you started talking about giving everybody coupons I screamed because that was me!! I was like Oprah giving everybody a discount lmaoo

[@zeepickens2712]

*"Sitting in the back📱 texting".....Doing my job! That part! Too funny @Kim!!!* 😅😃😆🤣😄😁😁😄😄😆

[@yes_anotherone3260]

I appreciate your acknowledgment of your "bad moves" but I also hope you give yourself grace. Losing a parent is devastating and you survived it. Thank you for being so transparent with your journey!

[@autumnelizabeth533]

I am so glad you decided to weigh in on the Bachelor

[@AR-md1zq]

Really engaging story!!! If you haven't been irresponsible as a young adult, you haven't lived. Our eventual wisdom come from these experiences if we have the opportunity and willingness to learn from them.

[@InvisibleHiccup]

Kim, you should watch Nikki Star TV. She's a black woman who does reviews of the bachelor and its always a great fun roast and discussion!

[@joyi9474]

I call him Matt Romney. Literally saw a picture of him at a Mitt Romney rally. At a time when we were trying to elect our first black president. Mess 😭

[@BellesView]

I find it hilarious how Unreal, a fictional series loosely based off The Bachelor showed a Black bachelor before the real Bachelor did.

[@VernettaRFreeney]

Man I hadn't thought of that show in a minute.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Like the series "24".

[@Rikkilover17]

I feel the same way about Emmanuel. Everyone was all like "Hes great! he does conversations with a black man and its really great!" its like looking at blackish to feel represented as a black person. Its literally made for white people to feel comfortable.

[@alexstyles5808]

Maybe you don’t feel that your personality is represented. But blackness is definitely represented on the show

[@Rikkilover17]

@@alexstyles5808 umm it’s a known fact that Kenya Barris makes content that is for white people to feel accessed to the “cook out” of you feel represented good for you fam.

[@j.carlier5359]

I really appreciate that you share the story of your downfall after the loss of your parent, I think this is the first time I relate so much to someone else heartbreak and it brings me solace and encouragement that eventually I will come out of this phase too

[@sirenthomas4595]

YOUNG PEOPLE LISTEN now days they will allow you to get fin aid without your parents if you explain to the fin aid counselor that your parent refuses to hand over any tax info FOR PROFIT SCHOOLS especially are vicious about ANYTHING in the way of their coinz. Some times the fin aid couselor will do an override and allow you to just use your own info. They started this bc stories about parents refusing to fill out the paper work were just becoming too common ...

[@kwallace3821]

How could anyone not like this girl ? 🇬🇧🇬🇧🤍🤍👌🏾👌🏾

[@naimatabernuro9945]

I went to college but every year getting my mom to complete the FASFA was hell. She would wait to the last min on purpose. I’d always get the least amount of aid because of it. But if my brothers needed attorney money she was first in line.

[@nature95]

That's sad. Sorry that happened to you. Do you still allow her in your life?

[@naimatabernuro9945]

@@nature95 yeah, we’re ok.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Male identified.

[@ornenow4703]

This man sounds like a whole damn fool. I can't believe he went out of his way to defend this woman. Imagine fumbling your bag when you could have just been quiet! Lol

[@michaelharrismuabeauty4279]

I’m absolutely living for the Edmond Oklahoma references !

[@rayofirst8885]

You are an awesome story teller. I can listen to you for hours!

[@molivie1624]

As someone who messed up multiple times in regards to college I don’t I can go back and complete my degree without winning the lotto. It’s been so hard trying to go back.

[@sarahschwartz6657]

The bachelor franchise deserves any of the controversy and backlash it receives if they can't do enough background research on the people they cast to find something as damning as this LMAO literally 2018? that's about 15 minutes of scrolling on instagram

[@BellesView]

It was deliberate for ratings.

[@MusicbyEverlasting]

Your silence to the “Maybe it’s his preference”😂

[@sheryladams2359]

Kimberlyyyyyyyy!!!! I knew there was a reason why we shared like energy! Payless Associate first job checking! Seems like that Payless store scandal happened everywhere 😆

[@christianjane8401]

Filler also improves the appearance of skin and promotes the production of collagen :)

[@zeepickens2712]

*It's your facial expressions towards **#ChrisIAintGotNoJob**....too funny!!!* 😄😄🤣😃😃😅😃🤣🤣 #PressAndWearHairToo👑

[@cmrogers05]

Thank you for your review about this show. To be honest and this may be a stretch I don’t think some (not all) black men that date/marry white women have the tough conversations with their significant other about race. For some black men they could have grown up in a society to where the identity of blackness was not taught at home. Perhaps they grew up outside of the black community. Perhaps their choice in having a white partner gives them an escape of black identity (in other words a black woman as a partner reminds them of the struggle and pain). I will say that overwhelmingly black women with white significant others seem to have this conversation a lot more than the other way around. Although we are in the black community and we all have struggles there are certain issues that black males can avoid. For black women, we have to deal with micro aggressions. We have people telling us that we aren’t seeing things that exist at work and in our community. There is so much more to do a deep dive into but I just want to leave this here. Matt James-Bachelor and Rachel Lindsay-Bachelorette had two different lived experiences.

[@juliocesarfernandez1887]

Girl you make me watch videos of shows I don’t even know of and love it

[@8happyperson]

Weird how many similarities our stories have. I'm 22 but hopefully im in a similar place you are when I get to be in my 30's.

[@VictoriaWhitlock]

When my sister was in high school, she got a job at Famous Footwear. She told me that the whole time she was working there, the manager did not like her. After further inquiry, she said that on the first day, the manager had asked everyone why they wanted to work there, and she said, "It seems fun to have a job." Her fellow coworkers were just trying to make ends meet, and her manager had been working there for 8 years, maybe having not expected to work there that long.

[@LethalLemonLime]

Payless really played you because it's not theft to use coupons lol.

[@Nallisn]

I think the financial aid system is messed up in that regard where you have to have a parent’s tax info and income to apply for financial aid. The only way you can do it before 22, I think is the age, is by getting a court order of emancipation from your parent(s). On the other hand it makes sense, because these colleges know the student will always have 0 out of pocket contribution towards tuition. Some could lie and say they’re independent but their wealthy parents fund their lifestyle. So I get why the schools do it.

[@amymarie9107]

There is so much joy emanating from you I was was smiling throughout almost this entire video🖤

[@itowilltube]

I dont want to tell you how to tell your story but you are such an inspiration and come far but I think its telling you are saying #IrresponsibleKim vs #GrievingKim- we do not have perpetuate response to death, the death of parental figure as responsible ways or appropriate= So glad we have uber/drive services drunk driving, driving while depressed are both not good idea but glad you got into a better position.But i do not think we should hold shame for feeling bad or not responding appropriately to life coming apart after loss or mental health

[@erikarefined]

Not Chris using "woke" 🤣🤣🤣😫

[@loveheals6184]

Super glad that you survived wound and disappointment and that you're now thriving.

[@kweenz600]

“When he stares into your mixed eyes...” 😂😂

[@SharonIfe]

This woman is hilarious! 😂

[@lifeonabudget8513]

Matt is about as interesting as a door mat 😄. Your retelling of The Bachelor events had me rolling! Chris Harrison must have been smoking that chronic that night because he was making no sense. And yes, he was dog-whistling all over the place 😄. He basically said "it's okay to be racist in 2018 because racism didn't exist and we didn't know George Floyd yet. But in 2021, we woke now"! Stupid. Emmanuel was doing what Black men do. I don't rate him. Rachael had her White girl tears RED👏🏾DEE👏🏾!

[@brookechanelco.1035]

I don’t rate Emmanuel nor Matt. Nigerian American and Biracial man. They do not represent (Black American culture). I’ve seen Emmanuel’s show and he is more sympathetic towards non-Black Americans in his approach.

[@warholcow]

Still not sure why Mike Johnson wasn’t also made bachelor before.

[@luckyxxxxk]

This is the same thing that happened to tablo but his was on a much bigger scale. Basically a whole country was saying he didn’t go to Stanford. Ppl just be cray!

[@Lalalalala...]

I'm sorry but I cracked up when he said it was a different time or whatever and it was only 3 years ago. I could kind of understand the argument if it was like a decade ago and when she was in high school for something

[@mmaolisae3675]

Girl I love that you yell lol. It makes my soul smile because I be yelling too. Keep doing you 😁😘

[@tikababy712]

Happy belated born day

[@j.c.maxena5352]

Happy Belated Birthday!!

[@habituallylive2333]

Can we get the man a new suit!? Yaass!!!! 😂😭

[@ladiepink]

That was me filling out the fasfa begging for my daddy info lol he was so sick of me lol

[@thembekalembethe2043]

My conspiracy is I think they're still secretly seeing each other. It's just that Matt isn't man enough to take the backlash for publicly being with her so they're pretending to have broken up

[@FromMikaWithLove]

Agreed!!

[@nature95]

Secretly? In the age of camera phones...they are very talented. Cause that's challenging. What a scoop for some blogger.

[@lullatstars]

Kim please drop the skincare routine

[@thekorturn_]

Not basically Romeo and Juliet! LMAO I cackled!

[@HorrorGeek9]

Great video. I knew this Bachelor season was going to be a Mess.

[@glowschannel5012]

Yes! Satin Pillow Talks