Let's Talk: BPD and DBT

[@danielaneubauer4300]

Hi Sophie, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing. I am from Germany and here BPD isn't really understood very well. I am 56 years old and finally got a diagnosis three years ago. I have complex PTSD which probably resulted in my BPD. Your analogy of the house with the broken foundation brought tears to my eyes. All my life I didn't know what was wrong with me. I've gone to self help groups for years and years, had conventional talk therapy, read tons of books. I would seem to get better but my crumbling foundation was always present. People don't always understand mental illness and I am often made responsible for how I feel. My emotional instability has literally exhausted me and made it very difficult to work and have a private life. I am so thankful to know I am not alone with this. I wish you strength and all the love you need to continue getting better. Thank you Daniela

[@SophieIslington]

Thank you for your comment and I'm so glad to hear that I've been able to help in some way. You are more definitely not alone and I offer you all the love and support in your journey towards getting to a better place x

[@guladecolores]

Hi Sophie. A few months back you talked about BPD, so I looked it up and everything resonated with me. I went to see a psychiatrist and he confirmed i have BPD with a formal diagnosis. I started DBT two months ago and I’m already much better :) Thank you for posting these kind of videos. I’m so glad you are feeling better, it gives me hope ❤️

[@GabrielTheMagolorMain]

Angela Sampayo That is really amazing that watching a video was able to help you identify with someone and to seek out the support you needed. Awesome to hear you’re doing well! ❤️

[@SophieIslington]

Hey Angela, I'm glad that you were able to find out what was going on for you and so glad to hear that things are brighter already. xx

[@platonvolkov3486]

You are so brave, beautiful and just great, i feel so much better having listened to someone with BPD as well

[@nerdychicbookworm9439]

Thank you for being so honest in this video. Sending you lots of love and light 😘 xxx

[@SophieIslington]

xxx

[@HJPeet]

About four months ago I attended a group meditation and it was only when I got there that i learned we were meditating on anger. I was annoyed bc I’m not an “angry” person. I’m a compassionate pacifist. No anger here. Two hours later I was red faced in a puddle of tears after realizing I was quite possibly the most angry person in the world with a very honed skill of stuffing it all down and then systematically eliminating everything and everyone that makes me angry. It was quite the awakening.

[@anonymousetrap]

I would love to learn more about the process of meditating on anger. I feel the same way you did - anger is just not an emotion I seem to experience, and I know deep down that that's not healthy

[@HJPeet]

Veronika Aleshina There was a guide leading the meditation that was wonderful. He asked leading questions for us ponder and kept getting us to dig deeper with his suggestions. Then he guided us through the “why” and then into the “now what” thought process. It was very powerful.

[@HJPeet]

Veronika Aleshina There is a translated work by the Dalai Lama called “Healing Anger.” I read it after that day to do some more exploring. I didn’t particularly enjoy it myself, but it’s very highly rated by others so I seem to be the minority. Maybe give it a try?

[@anonymousetrap]

@@HJPeet thanks so much! I'll have to look it up. I'm quite new to this, and hadn't realised that other people were just as affected by this when tackling mental health issues

[@SophieIslington]

I had a huge personal revelation too with anger. I hadn't thought I had felt any anger for an event in my past, it felt more cold and empty there, but when I did the work I found this stream of anger I hadn't even known I'd had inside me. There was so much relief to feel and then let it go. xx

[@jof8581]

Amazing woman 💜❤ Hey sophie I've been watching your videos for the last couple of weeks and I love them. In so many ways this was the icing on the cake. You're so incredibly brave and truly an intelligent, kind individual xx

[@aquamarine2822]

Wow, thank you for posting this. You are so well-spoken and it was great to hear a perspective on BPD from someone that's lived it. As someone who is finishing up their masters in mental health counseling and currently interning at a psychiatric hospital, I have been getting discouraged and frustrated with the way patients with BPD are stigmatized and treated poorly by others in the field. This video reaffirmed for me how truly difficult it must be to cope with this illness and how much I really care about trying to help guide patients in their recovery. I especially love your last line about holding onto hope. Your journey is really inspiring and I fully intend to hold onto hope for all the patients I work with even when they are unable to see a hopeful future for themselves. Thank you!

[@SophieIslington]

Thank you for your comment, that is really lovely to hear and I'm so glad to have reached someone working with people with BPD. The compassion and care that my health staff have shown to me has absolutely changed my life. What you do has such a big impact xx

[@TheDzzy]

Omg, the timing of this video is crazy. I've followed your channel for a few years and I have just been diagnosed with C-PTSD and BPD after I had a mental breakdown and have been on leave from work. Unfortunately, the DBT program where I live is a year and a half long wait, so my psychiatrist set me up with books and workbooks to use alongside therapy. It's been a huge pill to swallow, but I'm glad I have a better understanding of what I'm dealing with. Thank you so much for sharing, I personally really appreciate this video. So much of what you said really resonates with me.

[@SophieIslington]

Hey, I'm glad you are getting on the DBT list (and good luck, it's hard work but so rewarding) and that you know what is going on for you. Don't listen to anyone who tells you that what you have won't get better, it can xx

[@robotnic]

ThNk you for sharing your story, Sophie. It helped me to gain some understanding and I’m sure it’ll help a lot of people immensely. Glad to hear you’re doing well and I hope the skills you’ve learned continue to serve you well too x

[@LordofBroccoli]

Thank you for sharing this, Sophie. I have BPD as well, I was only diagnosed last year but I've had many of the symptoms since I was 5 -years old. I was initially diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia because of my strong paranoia and identity disturbances, and now there's the possibility I may have a dissociation disorder. I started a 9-month intense group therapy program 1 month ago, and while I'm not seeing much improvement thus far, I generally do feel more positive. I wish you all the luck in the future, and please don't hesitate to respond if you feel like talking in the future :)

[@SophieIslington]

Hey Marc, I have depersonalization-derealization disorder, and I get the paranoia when I'm less well. Apparently the two paired aren't so unusual, though the first is fairly rare. I'm glad you are feeling more positive at the moment and I hope that continues and continues. x

[@simoit9256]

Thank you for this Video!

[@the1zmaja]

Thanks for sharing, Sophie, best of luck!

[@billymusicwb]

Great video! You are not alone. Your book reviews encourage me to read. You share well. Thank You.

[@SophieIslington]

Thank you

[@hurripowers]

I love when people share such real things about themselves. Raising awareness for any kind of mental health issue is extremely important and not done enough. You’re as strong as they come and I really hope you hang in there.

[@Gagging4Lit]

I'm so happy for you! And thanks for posting about this, this is such a big thing to talk about. CBT worked for me, and I also felt that feeling afterwards that I hadn't felt like this since I was kid. I didn't know much about DBT before this, but you broke it down so well and still stayed personal so that it didn't sound like a doctor talking to us. I'll share this with my friends with BPD x

[@SophieIslington]

Thanks lovely, I hope you are doing just as well now x

[@scottneigh]

Thank-you for this. Someone I know is doing DBT right now, and I think hearing your account of your experiences has helped me understand a little better what she's going through.

[@SophieIslington]

Thanks Scott, I hope your friend will do well x

[@karenkoutsoumbaris6308]

Sophie you are so strong and sharing your Difficulties will help so many others....you are lovely and I send you healing energy and you have my hope! Thankyou ❤️🥰

[@SophieIslington]

Thank you Karen. xx

[@danii6633]

As someone who knows precious little about BPD and its possible treatments this was very educational for me and what you said really moved me. I can imagine this may have been a harder video to film for you, but it says a great deal about how lovely you are and how far you've come that you decided to do this for other people that may be struggling or know someone that do. And you only have to look at the comments to see you did a good thing. You are inspiring me to be a better version of myself. Lots of love ♥

[@SophieIslington]

Thanks Danii, lots of love back at you.

[@MayV93]

Appreciate you making this video, and I'm glad the dialectical method has been such a help in your life. Sorry I've been away from Booktube for a bit. I'm with someone currently who has their own mental health difficulties and I'm doing what I can to support them, but there are definitely skills I need to develop there. I introduced them to some of your past videos where you talked about what works for you, and it seems to have been beneficial. And here I connected with what you said about sometimes needing someone to hold your hope for you when you can't yourself, I think that's a really important thing to have.

[@SophieIslington]

Hey Mason, I understand that entirely, it can be an overwhelming task to help someone through their more challenging times in their lives. I hope you are well. x

[@Nyledam89]

Fantastic video, Sophie. Thank you so much for talking so openly about this topic and about finding the right thing to help you feel better and how that can take a while. I especially appreciated your comment on holding onto hope for somebody when they cannot. I have both held onto hope for a friend and have had people hold onto hope for me and I think that is a beautiful way of describing it.

[@SophieIslington]

Thank you, I'm really glad that you liked it. I love that phrase so much :)

[@KittyAndTheBooks]

You are just the sweetest. What you said about hope at the end is incredibly cute. Thanks so much for sharing your experience and giving hope to others... or at least positivity.

[@SophieIslington]

[@sandra7319.]

This was so interesting, educational, insightful and hopeful...I was thinking you should write an article about this and then realized all the people you will reach with just your channel. You explained things so well...

[@neverxever66]

This must have been an incredibly difficult video to film, but knowing someone who also has BPD, seeing people talk about it and being honest and open about it means so much. Thank you and you're just amazing!

[@SophieIslington]

Thank you, I think it's so important to be honest about it and to hear from people with things like BPD to stop the stigma of it remaining.

[@tboygenius]

Thank you so much for sharing your story, Sophie. This is so helpful to so many people. I'm so happy to hear you're doing well❤

[@liame5780]

I've been diagnosed with C-PTSD, and BPD following an inpatient stay recently. This was so reassuring 💙

[@SophieIslington]

I'm really glad, I know the point of diagnosis can be tough and there are a lot of stories out there which can be scary but it can get better xx

[@kaortega1120]

Thank you for being so honest with all of us! You are a true inspiration. The work you have put it, the therapy and all your struggles are paying off. Sending you hugs, hugs and more hugs -- I will keep you in my thoughts -- Lots of love from Boston, MA - USA!

[@SophieIslington]

Thanks Kristine. I hope you are well and happy too x

[@AMOEDEN888]

Thank you for sharing I was diagnosed BPD back in 2014 and cognitive behavior therapy has helped me immencly. DBT is actually rooted from CBT with other things added . Angel hugs n Blessings to you and yours ~ 💜💜💜 ~

[@SophieIslington]

Thank you xx

[@seriela]

Such a hopeful message. Thank you!

[@thuntz29]

This is really important! I don’t have BDP but that course sounds like something everyone could benefit from. You’re incredible brave for sharing this with the world.

[@paperbacklaura8967]

Love what you said at the end about hope Sophie. Thank you for this video xx

[@poeticdiscourse]

It's important to remember that standard, and sometimes prosaic therapeutic methods can be ineffectual with intellectuals with psychic-ailments. I appreciate you're sharing this. I too have had experience with what you've so elegantly articulated. Stay strong.

[@wronggeometry]

Thanks Sophie

[@Happyfridays11]

This was such a helpful video Sophie, thank you so much for sharing your story. You are so so wonderful, sending lots of love!! xx

[@thebritishbookworm]

Such an important video. Thank you so much for sharing xx

[@alessyagorelova2940]

Thank you for talking about this topic. Appreciate that it gets adequately represented in youtube...

[@dorisdoris2633]

Congratulations on getting well enough to be able to share.bxx

[@zubaerchaudhari8267]

Portal in the Pages you’re really soooo kind cool nice and a greatest coolest favorite friend everytime

[@beatingaroundthebooks]

Thank you so much for this video and it's amazing, hopeful and loving message! ♥

[@russjscott]

This is such a good video

[@SophieIslington]

Thank you :)

[@TheNovelSanctuary]

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