LET'S TALK... LIFE ADVICE (conspiracy mom, cheating, political differences) | leighannswers

[@Gelime_]

Going camping with her boyfriend is less exposure to the virus (especially if she lives with him) than a freaking bridal shower...her mom has cancer and she is trying to get through that and so many other things....and bride is just sounding really selfish... COVID is hugely impacting all parts of people's lives and we need to grow up and be kind.

[@xxoldmagicxx]

YUP, if she avoided the bridal shower because of exposure then it seems obvious to me that she would avoid the bachelorette party? Like? I understand the bride’s feelings are hurt but I think they should have a proper adult conversation about it.

[@Gelime_]

@@xxoldmagicxx Exactly, and honestly, canceling last minute can happen for so many reasons and if the bride hasn't been a super great friend...(ex: talking about the friends situation behind her back to the bridal party) then maybe she didn't want to talk to the bride about it. Her mom could have treatments coming up that she needs to not risk exposure for. There are just so many things that feel unkind about this situation. :/

[@thecaninefoodie]

Yep. I honestly feel the bride is being selfish and a tad bridezilla-ish.. Like big picture here: Her friend’s mom is sick. Covid is rampant. It’s 2020. Bachelorette parties and bridal showers aren’t a priority...not very responsible to do during this time. Maybe reach out to your friend and support HER during this time? It isn’t all about you.

[@Gelime_]

@@thecaninefoodie definitely! How many wedding events does she need? Lol. Might as well just do it in a couple years on the wedding anniversary...in hopes that we aren't still battling covid like this in 2 years.

[@hippopajamas]

Totally agree. While I know I don't understand the whole situation and what precautions the wedding party was taking: it would be smart for EVERYONE to have stayed home. If the wedding is still a little less than a year away, now, I personally would have pushed all this stuff, too. Going camping with your bf (who she probably had been spending time with if not living with before) is so RADICALLY different from a social gathering. The friend made the right choice and I hope bride comes to see that.

[@luzandlife9425]

Dang Leighann! Let that bride have it. I agree with you. No shade at the bride but her friend is going through a lot. And this covid situation is no joke. I wouldn’t do anything to ever put my family’s health at risk even without cancer. 2020 has been rough and has affected everyone in some way or another. Hopefully the bride understands her friends emotional and mental struggle.

[@Monica-McAppl3t0sh]

Kinda weird that the bride from the first question was so concerned about her friend's mental health that she asked her to step down as maid of honor, but, when things really start getting difficult for her friend, her instinct is to just ditch her. Seems like quite a slap in the face.

[@09honest]

I honestly question how genuine her concern was when she asked her to step down as a maid of honor. It makes me wonder if she just wasn’t satisfied with her...like she wasn’t doing enough for the bride. I don’t know. I feel it would have been better to let the other bridesmaids help her out more, and then to not have that moment where you demote her.

[@stephc1091]

@@09honest THIS! All of this. It sounds more like she didn’t think the MOH could give her the attention she wanted and used her mental health as an excuse to demote her

[@krystinac5024]

@@09honest Yeah, I got the vibe that she was worried her "mental health" would get in the way of her MOH duties, not that she didn't want the stress to make it worse. The whole situation rubbed me the wrong way.

[@arayogi]

@@09honest That’s what I thought too. If they really were/are best friends you don’t demote them, talk about them behind their back with the other bridesmaids, then potentially kick them out of the bridal partybecause they’re having a hard time. You ask them what you can do for them to make life easier. “What can I do to help you in this moment?” Let them say, “You know this is a lot of stress I don’t think I can handle this” or “No, having your wedding to look forward to is a bright spot but because of my mom’s health issues I won’t be able to participate as fully as I would otherwise.” Bride essentially has zero compassion and is exhibiting splitting behaviors by going to the bridesmaids about a private issue between her and her MOH.

[@gutterqueen]

Agreed 1000%

[@BattyDana]

I don't know how people are dating and having wedding parties during a pandemic y'all. Maybe it's just me, but I would not want to go to any wedding party or event during a pandemic. I think the friend who's mom has cancer has every right to stay away. Her mom's health is far more important than a wedding party. Even if she said she would go I can imagine her getting cold feet and bailing due to health concerns. Thinking of cutting off a friend for not going to your party during COVID is so selfish.

[@lacierobedeau2531]

This!!

[@sweetmelissav]

YES! I start to feel like I’m overly paranoid about COVID when I hear stories like this and it doesn’t even come up as a concern. If someone opted to *not* go to a bachelorette party in August in the middle of a global pandemic, the pandemic alone should have been reason enough for this person not to go and for her friend to be understanding- let alone having a medically vulnerable person at home. Personally, I feel like it’s selfish to demand that people put aside concerns about the pandemic for completely unnecessary events... but maybe that’s a fringe view at this point!

[@illbeyourwendy]

The CDC reported about a wedding in Maine that led to 7 deaths. No thanks!

[@Monica.Corrie]

As the mom of a nurse working on the front lines, I thank you for taking Covid and it’s ramifications seriously! I wish everyone felt the same way. 🙏🏼

[@allison7940]

This! This! This! I’m beyond annoyed at the first person’s question and anyone else that’s doing this right now. So selfish! Literally no one cares about your wedding but you. We’re deep in a pandemic and the world does not revolve around you and your wedding party. Ugh! Why are people still having weddings, bachelorette parties, etc right now?! And the nerve to be upset that someone doesn’t want to take part when you’re the one that kicked her out of it?! And her mother just got diagnosed with cancer?! Whaaaat!? This girl is delusional, selfish, and a terrible friend!

[@juleh1642]

I said yes! Thank you so much Leigh Ann im crying and I’m shocked and I love my ring and I love you more than anything Sierra ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ashleemarie8506]

Congratulations!

[@nltz85]

So cool that your fiancé did this! Best wishes you two!

[@asunbeam5479]

Congratulations & Best Wishes!!!

[@magicangelfairy]

Congratulations 🎉

[@CHRowan73]

Congratulations to you both!

[@carolina.369]

To the woman with the father in law issues: Next time he says something like this, look at him with the "I'm not mad, I'm disappointed" look, use your best mum voice (you know the one) and tell him "You should know better than saying this. In this family, we treat each other with respect and are proud of everyone's accomplishments." No shouting, no scene, just educate him the way you would educate your son.

[@cindys4277]

Also how about keeping financial and other private details confidential? Why does he know how much money each of you makes? None of his business especially if he’s using it against you and not celebrating it with you. S

[@neni1303]

WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT THE PROPOSAL?!? CONGRATSSSS

[@MunroCutiee9]

What proposal?! 😳🤔

[@oOoEberleoOo]

At the very end of the video.

[@saramarlena7184]

RIGHT!!!!!! Juliette?????? Did you say yes!!!???

[@juleh1642]

@@saramarlena7184 I said yes!!

[@saramarlena7184]

@@juleh1642 CONGRATS!!!!!!! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

[@aharold35]

“I can’t make these videos 12 hours long” me: I mean you could...😂

[@leighannsays]

maybe next time 😅

[@heidiyoule6721]

I would TOTALLY watch that!!!

[@sylvestr79]

@@heidiyoule6721 me too!!!!

[@marinak5112]

@@leighannsays maybe a monthly hour-long podcast?😇🥰 If you have time and capacity of course.

[@thecaninefoodie]

That would be amazing.

[@krystinac5024]

To the first person: why you having so many parties during a pandemic, girl? You can't expect people to risk their lives and the lives of their loved ones for your wedding festivities. Also, how damn selfish can you be to put the onus on your friend when she is struggling mentally and her poor mother was diagnosed with breast cancer - she has more important things to worry about than your bachelorette party and it doesn't sound like you care about her at all. She's better off without you as a friend

[@BABYJam25]

I agree.. My sister is also getting married next week and its a "optional" face mask wearing, and i will not be attending. This virus is taking a toll on so many families who are taking this serious and its not fair for those who aren't to be upset at their decisions.

[@betsybabf748]

100% I think that one is just really young, or I hope so with that mentality. Not everyone young is selfish and not bright, but if just young, far more likely just immaturity she'll outgrow.

[@BeJeweled1160]

I completely agree. My big wedding was scheduled for May this year, and my husband and I chose to have a zoom ceremony in our living room with everyone watching from their own homes- even our parents! We have decided to postpone the big wedding until the pandemic is under control. My family has asked me all year if I still want to have a bridal shower or bacherlorette in 2020, and I have said no every time. I don't want to do anything until it can be safe for everyone attending. I cannot believe the audacity of some people still expecting everyone to show up at events during a pandemic. 2020 has caused so much emotional turmoil for people. The bride should be more concerned with her friend's well-being instead of worrying about shoving her out of the bridal party when the wedding is still a whole year away!

[@saramarlena7184]

AMEN SISTER

[@krystinac5024]

@@betsybabf748 I mean, she's old enough to be getting married, which means she's an adult. Unfortunately I think she may just be a selfish person.

[@il0velamp4]

Awww Julliette is my sister she showed me this, I’m so happy for her!

[@leighannsays]

me too!!! 💙🙌🏻🥂✨

[@jesscunn7632]

So she said yes?!?!

[@jesscunn7632]

Oh I found it!! Yayyy! Sweetest ever

[@saramarlena7184]

Did she say yes!?

[@il0velamp4]

@@saramarlena7184 yes!

[@pascalemercier6232]

Job issue: My dad always says that when you announce to your boss that you are leaving, if their answer is to offer you more money, you should stick with your decision and leave. If they didn’t value you as a person and a business partner while you were working for them, why would you be worth more to their eyes now that you are leaving? Money will not make you happier and less stressed! Keep following your gut!

[@TheEickert]

I think the biggest issue was that she didn't have an open dialogue with her boss about the issues she was experiencing with her customer accounts. If she has a good boss, then the boss would try to adjust the workload or work through the issues so that she isn't so overwhelmed. But it definitely means she needs to speak up so that her boss even knows there is an issue. I dont think it was problematic that her boss offered more money for her to stay, but if she did stay, then she would need to negotiate other changes like workload or adjusting which accounts she covers.

[@luciaf5626]

I love these videos! As a psychologist lemme tell you, this is your calling. I’m a long time subscriber and was still surprised by how charismatic and encouraging your words were.

[@leighannsays]

this is so encouraging to hear!! thank you so much 💙

[@mridul7639]

I agree with you. Spot on advice plus Leighann is kind, funny, empathetic and smart.

[@arayogi]

Bride in first email needs some perspective. The former maid of honor has a mother with a serious disease and she cannot be around large groups of people if she also wants to be with her mother. Like you said Leighann, it was not a good move to bail last minute, however she might’ve been afraid of this reaction from the bride.

[@kleptomelly]

I agree. I also think it may be possible that she really did want to go to the shower, but given everything with her mom, didn't think it was a good idea to go. She may have been struggling with the decision, on top of everything else, for a while and then last minute decided she wasn't comfortable going. Her boyfriend may have decided to take her camping to get her mind off of the situation. Of course this is all hypothetical on my part.

[@tracyrhymer6639]

So for the first one regarding the wedding. I am a cancer survivor so I kind of understand. To begin with she should have asked the girl if she wanted to step down. Being the bridesmaid maybe was her one cancer free event. So when she told her she wanted her to step down it could have upset her she may have thought because her life was a little hectic she was no longer really wanted her there. And maybe that is why she didn’t show up to those events. The way the bride went about it was maybe not the best way. She should have asked her.

[@AshleySmith-js2fj]

I completely agree!!

[@mridul7639]

Aww.. Idk why this made me emotional when you said it might have been her one cancer free event. Also hurray for you! May you always remain healthy.

[@um505]

Can't help but write regarding the first question- just as LeighAnn said, your wedding is a major event in your life and it's absolutely understandable that you are wishing your friend was there for you. However, your friend's life turned upside down, her Mom might die. I wonder how "demoting" her from Maid of Honour went- did you ask her if she's able to still do it or did you decide and present her with the fact? I understand that you're stressed but your stress is related to a happy event, your wedding, and maybe your friend could have still been a great Maid of Honour and it could have been a welcomed distraction in her life? Also, maybe your friend feels lonely in her suffering? 2020 has been hard on many of us and whilst you are getting to have your happiest day in your life during this year, your friend might feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel in her life. I think now is the time when she really needs you as a friend, not as a bride to be.

[@leighannsays]

I hear you on all of this! it's just so easy for brides to get wrapped up in the stress of a wedding and forget everyone's lives don't revolve around it.

[@um505]

@@leighannsays I can totally understand that, it is a stressful event nonetheless!

[@musicjunkie9192]

As someone with a loved one with cancer, the stress associated with that is nothing compared to the stress of planning an event. If she was the maid of honor, then her and the bride must’ve been really close, and at this time is when she would need her friend the most. As for the camping trip, maybe she was at her breaking point and the boyfriend knew this and took her away to get her mind off things. The bride to be needs to be a friend first and bride second and find out how her friend is really doing not jump to well she needs out of the wedding.

[@PlanetJ32]

@@musicjunkie9192 Huh? Are you saying that the stress of having to deal with maybe losing a loved one to cancer.. is LESS than the stress of having to plan an event?? For me..having to deal with my mother going through chemo and watching her die due to cancer,was the worst stress I've ever had in my whole life! I would have much rather have planned an event on ANY given day,than watch my mother suffer through cancer.

[@catherinebushill5129]

@@PlanetJ32 I feel like she might have mixed the phrase up and meant the stress of dealing with a sick relative is worse than organising an event. If you read the rest of her statement, that’s what I got from it, but just a simple mistake with the phrasing

[@nadine5765]

Some folks have avoidant tendencies when extremely overwhelmed. 🙋‍♀️ I hope Bride To Be takes your advice and doesnt ruin her friendship.

[@heidiyoule6721]

I agree the advice was spot on!!

[@leighannsays]

I hear you!! I've been learning about avoidant/anxious attachment and that's a great point.

[@rocioiribe5841]

Yep that's me! And the more stressed i get, the more i avoid. And perceived (or real) pressure from others makes it so much worse! (Speaking from a personal Covid related situation I'm avoiding right now)

[@nadine5765]

@@rocioiribe5841 yes, agreed 100% I am the same way. Id rather not deal than bring on more issues, and then that turns in to excessive napping and just over all withdrawal. True friends understand the space you need.

[@AlyseNicolettaHolder]

Oooh! Ooh! I just saw a video that said the phrase "I'm not interested in being spoken to that way" and the daughter in law needs to whip that out at the dinner table

[@carolina.369]

That gives me Kamala vibes... "I'm speaking" lol

[@AlyseNicolettaHolder]

@@carolina.369 yes!!!!!

[@leighannsays]

absolutely!!

[@bluepeachwhispers6845]

I approve! lol. good one!

[@hannahhulsey5743]

My maid of honor didn’t come to my bridal shower because the only bra she feels pretty and cute in broke and she had a come apart😂 girl be kind to your friends and love them anyways!!!

[@leighannsays]

omg i love your friend and you even more for loving her through it all ♥️

[@mridul7639]

Hahah.. what a situation. But life doesn't stop after the wedding, real friends stick together and understand. I had an exam and skipped 2 functions of my best friend's wedding. No issues at all.

[@FkD814]

Thats my style... I can't go out my bra died.

[@OriginalRecipe88]

That bride is a see you next Tuesday. I don't care how many times she said, "I totally understand" she obviously doesn't! Her mom had cancer, I'm pretty sure the girl has bigger things to worry about than to think of a wedding that isn't even hers.

[@thecaninefoodie]

To the woman dating someone with opposite views: Question for you - if you didn’t think he was super cute would you still be pursuing this? Something to ponder...

[@mridul7639]

I don't think its a good idea if she's looking for a relation. Basic values should be similar for a couple. Small things and differences are not a problem.

[@Cathilee86]

As someone whose mom battled breast cancer for 6 years before passing away, I can say that living with that reality is all consuming. We don't know if the boyfriend convinced her to go camping just to decompress. I agree with your stance, whether she says it or not the friend needs people to be understanding and forgiving as she navigates her current life situation especially now that we are living during a pandemic

[@alexagarcia6394]

I also think maybe she felt bad about missing the shower (missed for a good reason of course!) and maybe her bf came up with a safer alternative thing to do that day to keep her mind off missing the party and feeling bad. Especially since it sounds like all her friends are alienating her for missing some events. Just my theory.

[@jdxx59]

Having your mother battling cancer makes a wedding and its parties pretty trivial.

[@Vkg998]

Leighann you are so reasonable, understanding and humble! I feel like you give great advice that’s coming from a good place in your heart and I love that about you! Love your videos💕😘

[@Monica-McAppl3t0sh]

For the obnoxiously rude father-in-law: I wouldn't worry too much about his bad attitude rubbing off on your son. The example that you and your husband set for him is sure to outshine any snide remarks from your father-in-law.

[@annacurtis5696]

What an adorable proposal 😭

[@leighannsays]

✨🥂🎉 I'm so excited for them!!

[@rhiannanh5009]

To the job one: Leigh Ann is spot on here. I was in the exact same position as you this time last year. I was in a job I hated with poor pay and was offered a new one with far better pay/benefits but in a different field and would require extensive training (which they provided). As soon as I told my manager I was leaving I started second guessing my decision, partially because they really wanted me to stay. I was also scared to start something new as I knew I was very good at my old job and was worried that I wouldn’t enjoy or even be good at this new field! BUT at the end of the day there was a reason why I applied for a new job and there is a reason you have applied for this new job. Almost one year later, that move was the best thing I ever did and I’m even up for a promotion at some point next year, something that would never had happened had I stayed at my old company. Long story short: go for it! You never know what will happen. Maybe you love it, maybe you don’t. But you for sure hate your current job, so it is definitely worth a shot at something else.

[@Triaanx28]

To the first bride: I was the maid of honour in my bestfriends wedding, I couldn’t keep up with her expectations and it was really stressing me out, I tried calmly talking about backing out of the position and she flipped and kicked me out of the wedding party completely. I ended up going to the wedding still and we’re back to being bestfriends but we both really really regret me not being by her side for her wedding day. She apologized but is really upset I wasn’t by her side. I think this Bride just needs to let it go and let the friend stay a part of the wedding.

[@leighannsays]

this is a very valuable point of view! thanks so much for sharing it.

[@lrcatlover13]

Thank you! I'm the bride in question. I appreciate what you're saying. I wish she would talk to me like you tried to do with your friend. I feel like I would be understanding.

[@jdxx59]

@@lrcatlover13 Why don’t you try talking to her?

[@kristy4619]

What about with the father n law one, when the FIN makes a comment the husband could say ik isn't it awesome that she makes such great $. I'm so super proud of her and so happy our children will see both parents working so hard and seeing that woman are as valuable as men. If the FIN sees his comments aren't bothering anyone maybe he'll stop. He may continue bc he knows it gets under the skin

[@jenniviiv]

That's a good idea. Say that and then leave. That'll make him get it really quickly haha.

[@leighannsays]

I love this advice from both of you!

[@xxoldmagicxx]

And don’t let them have access to the kids and I’m sure the MIL will have him in check quick.

[@ArmednotTriggered]

Yep! I'm a firm believer that shared values are crucial for close relationships, otherwise it is always going to be a discussion. I do have friendships with people who have different political/religious beliefs, but my core group of friends and my husband share my values.

[@hlycks]

The conspiracy theories one- I feel like having a family member who got sucked into this is a lot like dealing with someone in a cult. You need to consistently and calmly refute what they're saying, but don't push them away because they'll just sink deeper into it. I think it's a hard line to toe, but if it's someone you really love (like your mom) you just try your best. It sucks to have to be the parent of your parent, but people get pulled into this stuff out of fear and anger, and cutting them off only furthers that.

[@LittleByte01]

💯💯💯 this

[@notthegrammerpolice8747]

I have lots of family members in this group, they don’t listen and they don’t even acknowledge any other reality, it’s so hard. The US is such a sad spot right now.

[@ReganFree93]

I disagree. Once they’re that far deep it’s just not going to work. My dad follows Qanon and I tried for a long time to get him to understand. It only caused me more pain. In the end the only thing that made him even mildly consider his choice was cutting him out. Not even telling him. Just no longer visiting. No longer respond to texts/calls. Just end it point blank. When they get it through their head they’re burning bridges they’ll come to.

[@andgummybears]

It’s UNBELIEVABLE just how many are still mind controlled here and don’t even know it. You pat each other on the back with what great answers you each have on how mind controlled the “conspiracy theorists” are. WAKE UP! What has happened in so many other countries is now happening in this one, as we worry about makeup and weddings. I love makeup and weddings, but, want to be able to live in a country that’s free enough for our self interests to remain a part of life. As far as the theories not holding up. Many do! Scary I know... but, it will be scarier to not wake up. www.outofshadows.org or look into Yuri Bezmenov on KZbin

[@mridul7639]

@@andgummybears oh my gosh.

[@ElaineCicconi]

speaking of accents, I miss Grants southern Gentleman accent

[@leighannsays]

you know what, so do i!! i need to take him back to Atlanta to bring it out.

[@jenniferconley3396]

But wait!!! Did she say yes????? It’s killing me lol!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@juleh1642]

I said yes!

[@OliviaJones-fd6fi]

@@juleh1642 yaaayyy!!!

[@kirstiefailey1331]

@@juleh1642 YESSSSSSSSS CONGRATZ

[@rocioiribe5841]

Awwww congratulations! That's a super adorable and creative proposal.

[@Monica-McAppl3t0sh]

@@juleh1642 Congratulations!!!

[@ShannonAndy]

omg!!! I REALLY HOPE OUR GIRL JULIET SAID YES!

[@sophialyn16]

First one re: wedding - I think the friendship is more important than the day of wedding festivities. I don’t mean to make your wedding sound insignificant but is kicking her out of 8 hours of festivities worth your friendship? I like your response to this one, Leigh Ann!

[@lissyh620]

I need a podcast from Leighann or a weekly radio show. Seriously I’m living for this content. It’s so unique and you can tell how much you truly care about how you answer these tough life questions. I don’t know how you haven’t been asked to host your own podcast yet.

[@AmandaandlolaNL]

I need to know did she say yes?! Are we invited to the wedding. I NEED TO KNOW

[@leighannsays]

ME TOO! I have to wait to see if I get an update 💙

[@AmandaandlolaNL]

@@leighannsays well I will eat extra cookies 🍪

[@il0velamp4]

She said yes!

[@AmandaandlolaNL]

@@il0velamp4 OMG Yay!!!!

[@uglyduck3172]

leah hilliard how do you knoooow? 😱💕

[@janetf23]

The shot giving story reminded me of when I got my flu shot this year. The young man giving it to me was so nervous (I was his first) that he was trembling. As soon as he did it I told him that I did not feel a thing and he just beamed. Everyone at the drive-up flu shot station was high-tenning him (it was ok of course because they were all wearing gloves) and it was one of my few great 2020 moments that I cherish. 💉✨

[@leighannsays]

that's so awesome!! I bet he gained so much confidence from that moment!

[@leslieryalls566]

Wow, kudos to you for the way you responded to the first question about the maid of honor business.....very good, very good. Perfect actually. Come to think of it, you did great on all of them! Proud of you.

[@struckanerve88]

The bride is definitely being irrational, COVID is messing with everything you can't expect your wedding to be picture perfect and that your friends will all want to risk exposing themselves for a bachlorette party/shower. Even if COVID wasn't happening your friend is going through a lot,people all cope with things differently, just because your wedding is important to YOU doesn't mean it is everyone else's most important thing. For her keeping her mental health in good shape and making sure her mom is healthy takes top priority. Just b/c she has other priorities doesn't mean she's not your friend still. Maybe she was afraid you'd be upset and didn't want to tell you b/c the thought of talking to you about it stressed her out? Also a trip with her bf has a lot less risk esp if it is just camping and she already lives with her boyfriend. I think people get so absorbed in wedding stuff that they forget other people have stuff going on too people not showing up to parties isnt' a personal insult to you. Maybe she thought you didn't want here there anymore by demoting her. Maybe that was one more bad thing to happen to her and she didn't feel like you wanted her there. ALSO If her mother's cancer is advanced and she doesn't want to risk passing COVID to her, she might only have so many more months or years to spend with her mom and wants to make the most of it. Her mom might not be here next year but your wedding still will be. Let her spend her time with her mom while she still has the chance she probably also needs a friend right now who is actually a friend.

[@eliseunleashed]

As a bride who will most likely have to move my April wedding due to Covid, I would never want my bridesmaids (or anyone invited) to feel unsafe attending wedding related events. I understand the bride’s disappointment with her friend not attending the bridal shower & bachelorette, but given the extenuating circumstances, I don’t think it’s fair to hold it against her. The last minute notice was certainly not ideal, but maybe she was just afraid of telling the bride. And the camping trip - being in the woods with her boyfriend is a pretty low exposure activity compared to parties with many people. I know it’s a bummer but I fully agree with leighann’s take on this situation

[@kellychapo1840]

in regards to the bride to be situation with her friend, as someone who also has mental health issues, being in crowds (like the bridal shower) can be SO HARD. I know it can be hard to understand from the outside perspective, but things like that can sometimes be impossible to do. Remind her that you care about her, and give her the option of stepping out of the wedding, BUT DON'T ASK HER TO

[@PlanetJ32]

I'm right there with you..I have extreme social anxiety,CPTSD and panic attacks..it is so hard when people dont understand how bad it can get for people like us. Sending you hugs..and I want to tell you that you are not alone. xo

[@lrcatlover13]

I'm definitely trying to understand as best as I can. We've talked about it and I've given her the option, so we just have to see what happens at this point.

[@OliviaJones-fd6fi]

Congratulations Sierra and Juliet!!

[@juleh1642]

Thank you❤️

[@becca2398]

@@juleh1642 CONGRATS!!!!

[@sstaton9885]

I’m dying inside not knowing these theories lol👀 Also appreciate how tactfully you replied to all these people ❤️❤️

[@krystine6946]

If you want to know the “conspiracy theories” that Q anons follow.. there is evidence to ALL of them. Mainstream media dismisses them as they are all in on it and owned by the same elite ( Soros, Rockefeller, Gates, etc) the “conspiracies” are that the elite torture and murder children in order to harvest their blood that is flooded with adrenaline. They call it adrenochrome and is said to give you the highest high ever. Also it gives you youth and vitality and and is wrapped up in satanism. Hollywood and the elites are all in on it. This is just the tip of the iceberg. The human trafficking business is insane in this country and in the world. Q anon is not a cult. It’s a group of people with a security clearance that would have to be someone close to POTUS. They leave clues and tell you TO THINK FOR YOURSELF, protect your children, divided were weak-United were strong. If it’s something that interests you look up topics such as pizzagate, operation paperclip, project mockingbird, frazzledrip. It’s hard to find these topics as all social media and google is heavily sensored as they try to bury it. Happy hunting✌🏼

[@zuzuspetals9281]

@@krystine6946 Thank you. I have a Master's Degree in Education and am much older than most of you. People consider that I have been tricked by conspiracy theorists. The thing is, having an education in history with an emphasis on WWI and WWII, I feel like what is considered mainstream thinking now being shown on news stations, streamed on the internet, taught in schools, and mostly supported by our politicians IS the conspiracy. This is really disturbing to those of us who are older, wiser and know the truth of what will happen like the ones who appear to be winning the propaganda fight to change the minds of the people of the United States. We worry about your freedom to speak with truth openly and to live your life the way you want without the government telling you how to live it. You all need to consider that the thinking of 50% of the people in the US is basically different than what the "mainstream" media and social media says it should be, although not as radically crazy as some that are posted or reported by the other side which is why talking one on one in person is so important. My friends often find that when we TALK we are much closer in thought and ideals than they expect because typing back and forth in short sentences lacks understanding, depth of thought, tone, and immediate response to facial/body reaction. We need to communicate better which social media and the recent isolation has taken away from us but is so very vitally important right now. Vitally important to our survival as family, friends, and a nation.

[@ReganFree93]

@@krystine6946 Qanon is a terrorist group. Literally not a single theory has been proved. Iya unfortunate how many have been sucked into this dangerous group.

[@krystine6946]

@@ReganFree93 do some research before you say something like that and stop drinking the mainstream media koolaid. It’s nowhere near a terrorist group. No terrorist group I know preaches love of country and protection of children and being a free thinker.

[@mariliisification]

@@krystine6946 I have DONE research and no one of these Qanon theories is evidence based. They are also very unlogical or have been ridiculous/dangerous (the pizzagate). To think that a whole bunch of celebrities, politicians, mainstream media workers etc in the whole western world have TIME and energy to do something like Qanon describes with such a coordination worldwide is so beyond absurd and against human nature (lazyness, gossiping etc).

[@andreahuber7511]

My best friend has the same promblem with her conspiracy mom. She always tells me "I don't even know what to talk with my mom anymore". I allways answer "talk about the weather, or what makes you happy, or how much you love her, just don't talk about the conspiracies, don't try to change her mind, just love her as she is". And when children come, teach them well not to believe the crazy things their granma says!

[@brandyboyce9544]

I love how open and authentic you are! I’ve been following you since the very beginning and so appreciate how you’ve grown with your audience. Loving this content 💜

[@leighannsays]

I really appreciate you saying that and for sticking with my channel so long!

[@LittleByte01]

i second this sentiment! :)

[@cookingwithcontext4994]

years ago I was hurt by a friend, and another friend of mine gave me wonderful advice that I think the bride in story 1 could use “ Be the friend you wish you had “... show up, make the outgoing calls, suggest plans , invite her out even when they decline often, remember birthdays, and leave a delicious casserole you made on their steps (and ring the doorbell and stand 6ft away when they answer). You aren’t a good friend if you don’t take the actions, that good friends take. If you want good friends, you have to be one.

[@90emilya]

The conspiracy theory mom: have boundaries. Say I won’t talk to you about this or don’t talk to my child about this

[@becca2398]

This!!! Be clear about the consequences of stepping on those boundaries too! Eg “when you talk about x I feel y. I don’t want to talk about x with you. If you continue to talk about x with me, I will z (hang up/leave/ignore you)” easier said than done - it’s complex with parents but wishing you lots of good luck!!!!

[@kellianndecarlo]

Yessss. Boundaries are so key here.

[@phal1108]

Oh my god that was so sweet😭 I was tearing up at the end ❤️

[@musicjunkie9192]

As someone who has worked in a toxic workplace, run! No job is worth your mental health! If the sales job doesn’t work out, find something else. At least you won’t be working a job that makes you cry everyday. I was working as a manager for a restaurant, the owners were toxic and treated their employees like crap, I finally got my break and got a job as tech support for a law firm. I liked the job, didn’t like working in the city, but the job itself was okay. After a month there, my current position was posted. Now this position, I had been waiting 3 years for as I knew it was going to come up at some point but didn’t know when. I applied and luckily I got it and I’m still there a year later (well hoping to get a promotion to a higher up position within the next month or two) but I’m so much happier now. My mental health while working for that restaurant was horrible, I was on 3 different medications so that I wasn’t having a panic attack everyday from the toxicity. The tech support position came at the best time and was essentially a buffer for the accounting position that I have now to get me out of the horrible place I was in. The sales job could very well be your buffer job til you get something that makes you really happy or you may love it and stay for 40 years but you’ll never know until you try!

[@chanamacdonald5775]

I feel honoured that you did research to answer my question! Looking forward to reading those articles.

[@leighannsays]

thank you so much for trusting me! I just emailed you a minute ago.

[@alexaburks]

Also, if you are able to look into cult deprogramming tactics and experts and their advice you should definitely pursue that help. Because it’s more than a conspiracy theory. It’s hateful brainwashing that leads to violence against anyone who is not a straight white cis man. It’s also a path to full on neo-Nazi groups. This serious alt-right cult programming and misinformation spreading on a massive scale and I don’t think people are treating it as such.

[@meghanhills9968]

Last Week Tonight with John Oliver did a whole piece on conspiracy theories and created some short videos from trusted and respected celebrities to encourage people to not believe everything they read online. One of the people who did those videos was Alex Trebek (RIP).

[@meghanhills9968]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZpPClnt4j7GAbLc this is the John Oliver piece.

[@mridul7639]

@@alexaburks Exactly. Its scary.

[@cheesypoofs614]

Um, hello life advice GURU of the world of KZbin lol I absolutely love the advice you gave but specifically to the bride. You were so nice about it and 100% real. I cannot imagine my mother having cancer and my friend expecting me to put their bachelorette party as a priority over that. You said it MUCH nicer than I would have lmao. Great vid, as always

[@jenniferharris7633]

Memo to Bridezilla: you made the first move by "demoting" your BFF from MoH to BM. Had I been her, I would have ditched you as a friend right then and there.

[@LindseyLoodles]

With the covid wedding question I so was afraid you’d agree to kick her out. I lost friends after I lost my mom to cancer because people don’t understand how much going through something like that changes you... and that was pre-Covid. It’s never personal but it’s hard to explain that and it’s hard to talk about with someone who hasn’t experienced it.

[@ArielRenee21]

The best way to explain it is from Hamilton people “push away what they can never understand. They push away the unimaginable” I had to learn that the hard way when my father passed away. Sending big hugs to you. I hope that you’ve found better friends who are more understanding ♥️

[@PlanetJ32]

Same thing happened to me. hugs xo

[@gabrielachandia637]

for the conspiracy mom, maybe talk to her about how she's doing mentally?? maybe she's using those crazy conspiracies as a coping mechanism (idk what she's reading), i guess what i am trying to say is start expressing by your worry for her wellbeing and the state of your relationship and then talk to her about what shes reading (again idk what that is) ... so that she doesnt feel attacked or that your attacking her beliefs and actually have a chance to have a conversation with her

[@CaryannCathlene]

I loved this video. I like when you give advice and share your perspective. It's a whole new level of getting to know you and makes it feel even more like a friendship rather than a viewer watching a video, it's more personal. Also, thank you for including the proposal question because that was adorable and made my day. If they get back to you and tell you she said yes, please let us know!

[@juleh1642]

I said yes!

[@hippopajamas]

That father-in-law email made my blood freaking *boil.*

[@kirstenglae]

I 100% agree with you on the first one. I really feel like she should be more understanding, I mean Covid is still going really strong. Like you said, it’s not very thoughtful or friend-like, to kick someone while they’re down.

[@tinatina1299]

The bride question got me. I haven't seen my mom for the whole of this year because I was diagnosed with breast cancer in March and she lives in a next state (not US) and we are afraid of exposure if either of us was hopping on a train for a visit. If not going to a friend's several wedding functions would mean I can see my mom I would not go. And if a friend ditched me over it I would think I'm better off without them. What a selfish bride. Also the conspiracy mom, I suggest boudaries but also talking to a therapist as this might not work out they way that person would like and she will need to deal with it. You cannot change people if they don't want to change.

[@dreamgirl907]

Wedding Drama - Yes Leighann! You said it so much nicer than I could have. The way people are doing mental gymnastics right now to feel wronged by others deciding not to come the events they chose to have during a pandemic . . . mind boggling.

[@laurasvids333]

i always immedately thumbs up before i even watch the whole video, every time, haha :D

[@ambrelicious04]

Me too!

[@Nosolorisascompilaciones]

Same

[@gigidodson]

Me too!

[@marinak5112]

Saaaame 😄😄😄

[@pamelawilliams5943]

Mr too

[@mayelasanchez5258]

For the father-in-law ‘case’, that’s pretty good advice. I started doing that with my parents (different situation but same approach as a solution). At first they got angry, but eventually does work. It’s very clear that they only get time with you if they respect the boundaries you two have set for your family.

[@joellea.5110]

When you started reading the first email, I was like “wtf?” because the two postponements from May to October to next year is my exact situation haha! 😂 (nothing else about it but it was still weird) tbh though that bride sounded INCREDIBLY selfish. Small gatherings have become super-spreader events not to mention all the things that bridesmaid is already going through! She had every right to not go. The bride needs to give her grace, just like you said. Be the bigger person and be there for her!

[@Sarah-lp6ur]

OMG THE ENDING!!🥰🥰 that was amazing!!

[@leighannsays]

I know!!! I am so excited for them!

[@katieb225]

To the person who wrote about their mother falling deeper into conspiracy theories- please look into the work of Christian Picciolini. He was a leader in white supremacy circles for about eight years before disconnecting and dedicating his life to helping de-radicalize people who have fallen victim to harmful ideologies. I'm currently reading his book "Breaking Hate" and it's one of the most eye-opening reads I have ever encountered. One of the biggest things that he identifies in his work is the existence of "potholes" in peoples' lives- unaddressed challenges and trauma that lead them down a path of trying to soothe that hurt and pain through externalizing it- much like a drug addict, but instead of a drug providing relief, it's the use of a scapegoat "other" that they can blame for their problems. The biggest problem in addressing these issues is that what needs to be addressed are the "potholes" rather than the ideologies- compassion and working to find the deficits this woman is trying to compensate for are the key to helping someone in this mindset. I'm sure there are other works by people that are in similar positions of outreach and I've only started looking into this myself, but it really helped me to see how attempts to rationalize with someone isn't going to be productive- addressing the unmet needs is the key. In Christian's words, you need to become a "pothole filler." Best of luck to anyone out there struggling with a loved one falling down the conspiracy theory rabbit-hole. *Edit to add: This is not to say that the daughter's job is to be the one to do this- I hope that my answer didn't imply that.

[@mridul7639]

This is interesting.. But honestly its scary how many people believe in hateful baseless theories and think that rest of us are "brain washed". Scary times..

[@andgummybears]

@Mridul @Katie B The book sounds interesting, but, what’s interesting to me is that many here are reluctant to entertain that they might be mind controlled (deeply socialized). It’s impossible not to be, given the culture we all grew up in. The real work for each of us individually is to confront this in ourselves and own it. We aren’t responsible for what was thrown onto us as kids, but, as adults it’s time to process things that we may be (subconsciously) throwing onto others. A task for every human on this planet. No one escapes it and no one is better or worse than any one else. We all count...all beautiful. A sign of intelligence is adaptability and being able to adjust one’s thinking in the face of new information and new understanding, remaining flexible in thought process. A sound mind does not thrive in a state of fear. Fear one often feels when running across relatives/friends with conspiracy thought is quite possibly not simply the fear the “conspiracy theorist” has or is sending out, but, quite often from ones own cognitive dissonance or subconscious. Yes, the c. theorist (who is also human) may be in the process or working through that fear as well... but, only you are responsible for your feelings and no one else. We’re all here to learn and are learning a lot right now! We’re understanding things in our own time. @Katie B I’m sure the personal account in the book you recommended is very moving! Projection also applies to every human on the planet. It’s the human condition and we need to see it in ourselves in order to truly grow. The problem breaks down when we only think it is the people that we disagree with who have a problem. (Also.... none of us know this conspiracy mom quite honestly and she may get this way on whatever her latest interest is.)

[@khanhfident]

Picking your battles wisely has been such useful advice nowadays...

[@mabelmarie08]

The conspiracy theory mom- this feels like a mirror of my own relationship with my mom. Facebook radicalised her in a strange way and I took the same steps to teach her how to vet her sources. My questions and concerns caused her to "kick me out" of the family. While I don't see our relationship being repaired, I wish you all the best with yours. I hope she's receptive.

[@hizzchek]

Facebook has poisoned so many minds... it’s wild. And scary.

[@abbypierce4196]

I love this 😂♥️ This is basically me on the Relationship Advice subreddit. You’ll see some *crazy* stories on there!

[@leighannsays]

i get so sucked in!

[@broganm6112]

I am treating it like a podcast! I have you on while finishing up some late night work (it’s 7pm here) Love it, always happy to watch or listen to you!

[@leighannsays]

that's exactly how I would do it if I was a viewer. glad youre here and I hope you get to relax soon 💙

[@shannonperez3779]

To conspiracy theory daughter: before cutting ties I would try to set up very explicitly strict boundaries. “I’m happy to talk about how my day was but I do NOT want to talk about xyz” if she does, remind her “I said I was okay with talking about ____ but not ____” and follow up with a suggestion “let’s talk about what we had for lunch” if she proceeds, hang up or leave. It takes a LOT of consistency, you’re basically training a new behavior! But absolutely always be consistent. “Mom, you’re talking about ___ again. When did you want to paint the guest bedroom?” Good luck!

[@koreecorrea5966]

Hi there, I’m commenting on the 1st question. With the point of view from someone who has been experiencing what the bride’s friend has been experiencing. My husband (34yrs old) was diagnosed with Colon Cancer in January, we have a 2 year old and I’m pregnant. He’s currently on chemotherapy. I just want to say, cancer totally encompasses my life and my thoughts... bridal showers, bachelorette parties and things of the like just aren’t important. The perspective on life I have right now is so different and I can imagine that this is how the friend feels. She’s not in the mindset to celebrate a wedding, she’s probably trying to figure out life - how fragile it is and how to cope. Also, on the camping trip topic. I totally understand it. A little get away with a person or two or few is necessary for her mental health and happiness. I would not judge her for that at all. A wedding is a beautiful time in someone’s life. You should bask in it and appreciate every moment of it. But also, have some empathy for your friend who is in a different (very difficult) chapter in her life. Hope this was helpful! I’ve been watching you, Leigh Ann since you started KZbin! You’re the best! XO

[@melissaf.568]

Love these videos and think you’re overall pretty spot on! I had to comment that my dad is also a conspiracy theorists and always has his thoughts and comments. But that’s not all he talks about and knows most people don’t agree and keeps it to a minimum. He doesn’t try to completely change our views, but will tell us to just “be careful” with what he hear, see, etc in mainstream media. I don’t know what the mom in your letter thinks, but maybe they can agree to not talk about certain things. I don’t worry about my kids being around him because luckily he is still the same amazing man I grew up with, just a little more cautious. And I know me and my husband can explain things to the kids if they misunderstand or get a little too swept up with grampa. I hate to see someone lose their mama to the political tsunami that is tearing so many people apart. I like your idea of sitting her down, but she should also expect her mom to not be willing to change some or any of her views and maybe they can come up with a compromise on what is acceptable to talk about. Start watching junk tv together to lighten things up. Good luck everyone! And congratulations!

[@cindynoel585]

I love how honest, genuine and caring you are ❤️ I think we all need a friend like you!!

[@CarolsThoughts]

Leighann, your advice for the wedding/bridal party problem was really good. No joke. I would answered this horribly. Praises to you and your big heart!

[@mariethomas3193]

loooved this one! And so did my husband LOL I could barely hear the video he was talking and chatting so much! Let's just say, we BOTH agreed with you on this! Keep these videos coming!

[@emmaBrdy]

I would sell my soul for this series to be a podcast. Love your thoughtful and thorough advice. Love and hugs!

[@kookycoyote4046]

*in Leighann’s tone* Myyy husband is 22 years older than meeee and it works!!!!!! 😂 LOL no. My husband really is 22 years older than me and it works for us, but I’m very sure it wouldn’t work for everyone, and it took us a very long time to get together and make sure that it was actually going to work out. It isn’t always easy and for whatever reason, I feel like the trust level is even more important with the age gap, and the question-asker was right to be wary. Your advice was spot on there! Your advice was spot on with all of these. I adore these videos!

[@AlyseNicolettaHolder]

Me: ugh I have soooo much housework to do and no good KZbin to watch Leighann: *uploads* 🎉

[@leighannsays]

here to save the day the only way I know how!!

[@sycobabygirl]

Haha same! I literally stopped doing laundry to watch

[@lindseynoelle8988]

these videos are my favorite I would watch them every week

[@NicholtheJournalist]

WTF! That first gal, the bride is the quintessential narcissist, good lord she is so self absorbed it was infuriating. Maybe she wanted to be the maid of honor to help get her mind off of everything? The bride is a BAD friend.

[@nadine5765]

I couldn't help but think she was selfish. Her friends mom is dying and is clearly overwhelmed with the sh*t storm that is 2020. I think its completely unreasonable for Bride To Be to want her friend to be happy go lucky and celebrate at a Bachelorette party while everything is crashing around her friends life. Not to mention we are still in a pandemic? Idk. Seems completely inconsiderate on BTBs part. 🤷‍♀️

[@kimberlygonzalez3148]

To wedding story: 2020 has been a weird and horrible time for many. Give your friend the benefit of the doubt. I agree w Leigh Ann to be the bigger person. It’s your wedding yes, but be there for her!

[@leighannsays]

I totally agree! I feel like we can all get so caught up in our own stress but we need to give people the benefit of the doubt as much as possible.

[@RenVon1111]

Just what I needed on this Friday Eve!!!! Clicked so quickly! ✨✨✨

[@jesschase1690]

These are absolutely great videos, Leigh Ann! My grandfather has also gone down the conspiracy theory/QAnon rabbit hole and it’s a giant yikes. What we’ve basically decided as a family is to avoid the politics topic in general. It’s not ideal, but the boundaries do help. And it’s stopped a lot of fights that just go in circles. Love you! 💜💖✨

[@broganm6112]

Yes yes yes! One of my favorite reoccurring videos 🧡 love hearing people stories and your outlook on them! 💁🏼‍♀️

[@S1D0N1E]

I feel like you need a podcast... I will listen to you talk about anything

[@lindsaygoode6210]

To the girl asking about job change- yes hun, u made the right choice. U took the steps to leave, u know in ur heart it's right. I agree 100% with leighann

[@StevieSkaggs]

Out here serving some Dear Abby realness!

[@katelyndglass]

I could sit through 5 hours of this!! I love these videos so much!! You give very intelligent and well thought out advice!

[@breannag9066]

Ive had to be the person who stops a conversation and leaves without drama after talks werent helping. Its HARD... and it works. It’s hard to explain to the kids and hard to be brushed off as dramatic or overreacting the first few times. The hardest parts are usually the big parts of parenting in my experience and doing this opened up conversation about not only acceptable conversation but boundaries with my kids.

[@jessicaeverson2073]

I enjoyed this so much! Just closed my eyes and listened before bed. You have very thoughtful advice.

[@warriormakeup]

Unpopular opinion: bride and bridesmaid...probably not really that good of friends 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@lisafriesen]

Love you and your positive vibes so much! Never drama, just smiles and love!

[@crystalkayrickard9225]

Wedding issue: what we have here is a failure to communicate lol 😆 okay but seriously covid has made everyone more stressed out so it’s just the cherry on top of it. I hope they can save their friendship and have a one on one conversation!!! Nothing is the same anymore and this lady has had serious issues like you mentioned, and she probably feels like her issues aren’t being taken seriously due to this other persons wedding. Weddings are important but friendships are as well and she was there before you got married or before you do etc. hoping for the best !!!!!

[@lrcatlover13]

We definitely have a lack of communication for sure, but it's not for lack of trying. We did talk about this whole situation and she's thinking about her decision. I'm taking her issues seriously I promise! I'm trying to be there for her as much as possible.

[@crystalkayrickard9225]

Laura Rojowski awwww yay and congrats 🍾🎊 btw!!!! Best wishes all the way around for you. ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@lrcatlover13]

@@crystalkayrickard9225 thank you!! ❤❤

[@BelleStreetBoyz]

Oh my goshhhhhh!!! Congratulations to the couple in the last question!! That's so exciting. 💜🎉🌻✨

[@85arrie]

Congratulations Julliette!! Wishing you lots of love and light 💜

[@aleciaj8098]

Start a podcast! You are seriously good at advice and you seem to enjoy it and I think everyone would definitely listen!💛

[@kellychapo1840]

I'm dying that proposal was ADORABLE

[@destyniepaige]

I can relate to the first one! My dad passed unexpectedly in august 2017 and my best friends wedding who I was the maid of honor for in October. Instead of my best friend kicking me out or asking me to step down, she showed grace and simply asked someone else to fulfill some of the maid of honor duties while allowing me to grieve and focus on other stuff. While I was obviously happy for my best friend, planning bachelorette parties and wedding showers was the absolute last thing I wanted to do at the time. Moral of the story- have grace for people dealing with hard stuff!!! Like Leighann said- your wedding is only important to you :-)

[@mingle27]

I agree with you on the first scenario. It's very hard especially when you're going through a big thing in your life like your wedding to not put yourself first. It sounds like the girl is trying to be understanding to her friend, but like you said if she was struggling with all of the crap we're dealing with as far as covid-19, and then her mom having breast cancer, her friend is going through a lot. Let's remember that regardless of whether you are scared of corona or not, if you are somebody with cancer you are at high risk. So she's seeing her mom regularly or living with her, going to a bachelorette party when you're out with a bunch of friends even if you think your state is in the safe zone or whatever, it's not a good idea to be around a bunch of people in a bar scenario or whatever she did. So the bachelorette party thing I believe is something that is a moot point. Anybody attending a bachelorette party or a big celebration right now is putting themselves at risk. Let's just be rational and serious. It is what it is and you believe what you believe but when it all comes down to it even a big outside event with people that you know have tested negative could be risky. And sure best friends /close friends might say that they tell each other everything but in reality we all know that our closest friends legitimately probably don't know everything about us and our feelings. It doesn't sound like her ex bridesmaid friend is being a bad friend, it just seems like her life has completely flipped upside down and things are just different for her right now. So even though she's getting married she does need to be the bigger person and maybe call her friend and have a heartfelt one-to-one. Let her talk about everything she's been going through and her mom and all of her struggles. And then just reassure her that she wants her to be there for this huge wedding the big day in her life, but she knows that she can't. And then maybe they'll be a breakthrough. But you can't let something like that get in between your friendship. It's hard to step outside the box. But in this case it sounds like the friend is just doing the best she can to get up everyday and deal with our current reality.

[@itscandace1143]

Exactly what I needed today 🙌🏻 still sending you good period vibes 😂 and good vibes overall!! ♥️

[@TheATILE]

1/ there is no "maid of honor duties". Your maid of honor is someone you truly want to be more than a bridesmaid. No duties involved. Especially if they're struggling - "demoting" - them won't help them just so you\ have someone to do maid of honor person. Seriously...

[@Heidicolt]

This! While there are sometimes societal expectations and common duties MOHs will take on its not a law. You absolutely should choose your bridal party from those you want beside you on a very important day, not because they are fun to party with and you want some free labor.

[@ashleemarie8506]

Leighann! You don’t know how much I needed this today. ❤️ lookin like a Queen!