Let's talk red flags. How many have you missed in previous relationships?

[@BetterBachelor]

To clarify about wanting to look through her/his phone. This is the beginning of a breakup. This isn't used in a normal functioning relationship, it's when you're quite sure something is going on behind your back and you have no proof but are tired of the bullsh*t. It's the pin on a grenade, once you pull it, you should be sure that she is up to something and she will say no, then you walk away and break up with them. Good relationships don't require this type of assertive behavior.

[@chewbacca4778]

Thanks for that clarification. I thought that sounded a bit off because that's the kind of thing you do to a child, and if you're with someone you're treating like a child, you just shouldn't be with that person. There was one other point I disagreed with but I can't remember which, so I'll have to go back through the video. But yeah, this point (above) stood out to me as being very worrisome.

[@karlnord1429]

Taking a phone is fine, asking to take it isn't.

[@chewbacca4778]

As far as I'm concerned, if I happen to ask to use your phone because mine is far away or something like that, and you get weird about it, that's a major red flag. Unless there are other indicators of something being amiss, as Joker stated above, it's none of my business what's in another person's phone.

[@curtisdecoste9345]

Agreed 😆 there’s nothing on my phone I care to hide, but that’s still invasive.

[@IconOfSin88]

Great that you clarified. I was sitting here thinking "jeez this guy is a fucking creep". I password protect everything for general safety reasons (my roommate does have fingerprint/password access to my phone and PC in case of emergencies) and I'd find it odd if my partner didn't. I'd never let anyone search through my files, though.

[@CynicalL3NS]

Funny enough: when you take the *red pill* you’ll see all the red flags.

[@G34RH34D]

I saw them in Skyrim. All those Imperial Legion flags on the map in Dragonsreach.

[@rickeyb.9072]

Sounds strange, but in reality is true. Light is definitely the opposite of dark.

[@syazwanali7094]

I see all women as Red Flags

[@JeeGee114]

@Harry Palmer I'll get me coat and the Mini.

[@rickeyb.9072]

Learn game! Matt in 33 Secrets got his course going on! Learn from one of the best! Don't learn to get even, but to get much smarter! Getting those beautiful hotties from 18 - 29, the 8's, 9's, and 10's (dime pieces) plus they're red pill women!!! No club slut, bar trash crazies or in Europe somewhere. So don't be sad and mad, get glad bro!

[@PretentiousLatinName]

"strange game, the only winning move is to not play"

[@anominousanonymous9344]

Try playing a game of tic tac toe on your first date. If they lose, then maaaaaybe it will work out.

[@theashpilez]

Would you like to play a game? Global thermonuclear war? Chess? Chinese checkers? Nuclear depth charges against submarines?

[@justinmontagne6543]

@@anominousanonymous9344 LMAO

[@theSword-]

This has only been said 1000 times already.

[@kevinhamilton9920]

Pretentious Latin name... lol Your username is awesome.

[@joelmccoy1989]

When I was 18 I dated a girl who randomly dumped me over text. About 3 days later she tried to get back together with me over text. I said no. 2 weeks later she announced she was pregnant (I never slept with her) but with the timing of it all, she obviously cheated on me and that's when she got pregnant. I wonder sometimes if her plan was to get back together with me, sleep with me, then say the baby was mine. 🤔

[@LOOTS243]

Probably.. 😬 Sickening

[@alexriver7441]

Ya think?

[@buffymcmuffin5361]

Probably got pregnant by a "Bad Boy", now wanted someone responsible to take care of her.

[@BWater-yq3jx]

@@Tommy_Raven_private So they were both dishonest then.

[@noahidewarrior5838]

@@BWater-yq3jx you can't compare that

[@TacetTheTerror]

My biggest red flag is "I am bored". This applies to both females and males. Stay away from it like the plague, as these people will either make you bored or depend on you to satisfy their boredom until they get bored again.

[@xyzct]

What do women want? Something else.

[@thecoteshow]

I feel like that's a symptom of never spending anytime alone....serial dating, always needs someone else to be responsible for their entertainment. I agree, big flag

[@theveganmamil9289]

"only boring people, get bored".

[@rickychargertruckrench4646]

Only weak minds get bored

[@2st_duallist]

"you are not bored. you are boring"

[@Sevensliders]

Red flag: "I'm free spirited" - "I like sleeping around"

[@MrRourk]

She breathes

[@scopedog9197]

I'm a free spirit...as in flaky non committal spiritual crystals cuckyoga and lack of a job...

[@muskokamike127]

My ex described herself that way, but it wasn't sleeping around, it meant that she was self absorbed and a narcissist and had no clue about being in a relationship.

[@coiledsteel8344]

I like the ones that say "performance artist."

[@muskokamike127]

@@coiledsteel8344 or "spoken word poet" lol I"m a spoken word poet, OH so in other words, you talk? What a SKILL you have! lol

[@xringarcher1440]

"you know it's funny, when you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags, just look like flags"

[@imm2mthankgod616]

actually the flags disappear

[@Luis-gz3oo]

Being fair using rose tinted glasses everything looks red to me lol

[@davecrupel2817]

Damn!

[@shrim1481]

Bojack horseman quote passing off as your own

[@latt.qcd9221]

Biggest red flag for me is she takes interest in me.

[@BetterBachelor]

ok for real I did laugh at that one. +10 internet points for you sir.

[@Marcara081]

Unironically yes, this.

[@Murry_in_Arizona]

Yep, one of my best and truest rules from youth when I was E-nothing in the Army followed by a $500 a month working cowboy (1979-81ish) was never date a woman that found me attractive, pursued me.

[@Yellowjackets1900]

@@BetterBachelor biggest red flag: they have two XX chromosomes!

[@markshimmin3192]

@@BetterBachelor only +10... damn your stingy Joker LOL

[@knowbuddy6139]

One of the biggest red flags for me is 'magical thinking' i.e. astrology, healing crystals/homeopathy etc. It shows they don't have a grasp on reality.

[@strikeforce1500]

Oh yeah, definitely, between that and doing MLM, is people best to avoid.

[@damienbunting873]

Every woman I ever met thinks she's secretly psychic or a witch or her dreams predict the future ect..

[@timothyblazer1749]

Does this include religious people? Because there are a lot of those who use religion just like crunchy women use crystals.

[@richardscathouse]

Yeah like a belief in this Covid Fad

[@richardscathouse]

@@timothyblazer1749 very much so. Super daddy issues

[@GPhonse257]

When she says "I'm not like that"..she's definitely like that.

[@jasonbrowning546]

Guaranteed she is like that and more , the only 2 woman I have dated that said that were narcissists

[@Superman-xr1oh]

@@jasonbrowning546 Is that typical?

[@jasonbrowning546]

@@Superman-xr1oh if it’s not typical it’s one hell of a red flag

[@Superman-xr1oh]

@@jasonbrowning546 My ex said, "I'm not the kind of girl that sleeps around" 🙄🤦🏻‍♂️

[@jasonbrowning546]

@@Superman-xr1oh and she did?

[@justhangin2389]

Biggest red flag nowadays is when she refers to an ex as abusive.

[@crazyworld54321]

And that always means you'll eventually be lumped in as well. As soon as the break up happens is when she suddenly starts telling everyone what an asshole you are and how you mistreated her, even though previously you were Mr. Perfect. I don't know what that is really. That need to chop a guy down after it's over. Gotta be mostly psychological and emotional. But they have a desperate need to emasculate a man once they're ready to take a swing on the monkey branch. Best thing a man can do is just go his own way. This mess in 2020 is just a nightmare of extremely toxic proportions. You need a full on hazmat suit and rebreather to even speak to a female.

[@randomlygeneratedname]

@@crazyworld54321 its a tactic, they dehumanise their ex to give them self validation rather than relising they made a mistake

[@p_serdiuk]

Had a narcissist do that to me. So it isn't as rare as I thought?

[@randomlygeneratedname]

@Covid 1984 yt been deleting my comment so let's try again 60% of reciprocal domestic abuse is initiated by whomn.

[@Serkesh80]

Wish I had known this to be a red flag before. You are 100% right

[@chrisonthedrums9955]

One of my biggest red flags is when I hear a woman say, "I tell it like it is, I don't care who it hurts!" or "I'm brutally honest!" or "I don't sugarcoat things." That tells me: (1) she has zero compassion or is completely incapable of empathy. (2) She's already justifying why she's going to talk to you any way she wants and expects you to just accept it. (I've learned these same women can never handle it when the favor is returned. Suddenly, you're a "jerk!")

[@elasolovey986]

I have a co-worker like this and this kind of woman still has to talk bad behind your back, even if she acts like she has the guts to be "honest". Fuck that.

[@chrisonthedrums9955]

@Jimmy Cricks When women respond, they're standing up for themselves. When men do it, we're being abusive/jerks/chauvinistic/controlling/etc... It's a horrible double standard we live with today.

[@bobbybosh4235]

I myself am quite honest and I think honesty will be admirable feature in woman, although I haven't yet seen one with it. C'mon how many of you can stand sweet pleasantries?

[@chrisonthedrums9955]

@@bobbybosh4235 everyone wants honesty. I just prefer mine to also know how to use tact.

[@chrisonthedrums9955]

@Nikki you are 100% correct.

[@Andy1119]

"they don't comfort you in times of need" My mum passed away last year and the girl I was seeing was nowhere to be seen... Gave me the whole "if you need anything just ask" crap but went silent after... Hard pass.

[@Andy1119]

@@MaulqasmPK Thanks buddy.

[@ns88ster]

My best childhood friend almost killed himself via suicide, but ended up with brain damage, and she thought that was the perfect time to break up a 6 year relationship with me.

[@Andy1119]

@@ns88ster that sucks man

[@maxhames499]

Last girlfriend " Me and my son are a set. You take me and him or not at all". Son is 30 years old.

[@andrews127]

And she is 43..

[@elsinore63]

I've been with women who use this line. if it's a 5 or 6 year old, sure i get it....BUT 30 yrs old. this useless KID needed his ass kicked 12 yrs ago (possibly earlier!).. broom her!

[@schweinhund7966]

😱😂😂😂

[@williamreif2329]

I dated that same laaaady!

[@BOG0690]

WTF!!!!???

[@FallouFitness_NattyEdition]

"I'm looking for a guy that actually knows how to treat a lady." Translation: "I'm looking for a beta simp that will provide for me while I sleep around with Chad."

[@gordons-alive4940]

Preferably one that'll blame himself if he finds out about the cheating.

[@bloodshine1515]

yep

[@ibubezi7685]

@Lee Dawson and Chad nailed her!

[@asandove7896]

Sounds exactly like a guy I dated ... wish I saw this 15 years ago. Would have saved me from that particular relationship. Lesson learned. Sending you all love, light, good vibes and a big virtual hug.

[@drtomo5548]

Bro, that's exactly what "lady' means. It originates from the knight's woman, who he never fucked with. Every knight had a lady, to give gifts and have a talk and other simping, but never fucking her. While the lady was fucked by the rich fat dudes. It was the tradition. Same as now.

[@So_Shy_Last.Century]

Better Bachelor, I have heard a lot of RedPill KZbin personalities via my husband, and I have to say your my favorite. We sit down and listen to your channel together. Your well mannered, you don't come across as bitter or resentful, and despite listening to this and seeing some of my own things I need to work on, as well as things I think my husband needs to work on, I don't perceive being attacked, or like I need to defend myself. Some of my husband's channels are very crude, so it's hard to listen to the message, even if the message is valid, because of how it's delivered. Your delivery is non offensive and I appreciate that.

[@missbelle_elle]

You’re * my favorite *

[@missbelle_elle]

Your * show ;)

[@billymcneal1239]

Men don't care about how the message is delivered. Woman do because their feelings get Involved. Looking into the mirror taking accountability is a hard thing to do especially for woman.All long as the message is delivered that's all men care about.

[@SirEdwardeight]

@@billymcneal1239 Some of them are really too bitter, though: watch them for too much and you'll start getting bitter and resentful too, and that's something to avoid at all costs. Too much Better Bachelor and things start to get bitter too, but that takes a much, much longer time. Plus, his contents are of much higher quality. It is important to keep balance on things, particularly on these topics.

[@هاجرخليل-ط5ت]

Oh yes, me too. I like coming here to listen to the men's point of view, trying to understand it, and to learn how to make myself a better person for my future

[@xyzct]

The internet is not big enough for this list.

[@robgoodsight6216]

😂😂😂😂

[@kjnkjnkjhkjhjk8465]

Truer words have never been spoken.

[@carolinecourt3206]

51. They're always bored - when they're bored with family, school, work and everything else in life, they appreciate nothing and it is just a matter of time before they grow bored with you and move on.

[@robertpaul1353]

Huge advice to young men. If she is not happy in her career run. She will end up unemployed and you pay. Or want to go back to university and again you support her

[@andrews127]

Those types also have little or nothing that interests them that requires some degree of intelligence. As for hobbies that's the last thing on their list.

[@dwalker885]

wow damn good point, thanks I never thought about that one

[@thehawk5141]

This is a really good one. People like this will drain the life out of you. I’m not against having a good time but when someone wants to do something fun literally every single day, that’s a red flag.

@@andrews127 "gaming" is not a hobby dude, sounds like you're one of those dipshits

[@BeingBarton]

I've watched a number of your videos, but this one has been my favorite. I am a 38 year old wife and mom. Conservative. Fit. I have tattoos and funky hair. My husband is amazing. We are best friends. He wonders why I like to watch your channel, we laugh about it. I feel like listening to what drives men nuts about women is something akin to women watching reality TV. 😂 Keep up the good work!

[@BetterBachelor]

I appreciate that!

[@puddingpudding9579]

Same here. I'm a single mum and enjoy these videos great insight especially the password on phone...I have no issue with giving my phone if it helps ease any doubts or fears.

[@givemecash9404]

@@puddingpudding9579 mum mum? Or mummy?

[@Jeremy-ql1or]

"I feel like listening to what drives men nuts about women is something akin to women watching reality TV." Holy shit...that is exactly it! These videos are the reality TV for the modern gentleman.

[@dugamonn]

A huge red flag, when she says: „I always get what I want“. Leave and forget this person as soon as possible. It‘s crazies and narcissist talk.

[@edbartek6550]

Dating is like owning a boat, cost lots of money and you only actually get wet a couple weekends a year. Other than that its a huge liability and a depreciating asset.

[@ed5308]

Then think what a marriage would be like

[@2st_duallist]

i heard somebody saying something like "owning a boat is like standing under a cold shower while tearing up 100$ bills."

[@Savvynomad225]

Like they say, "the two happiest days of boat ownership are the day you buy it, and the day you sell it"

[@MrRlspell]

good analogy.

[@ordinaryhuman5645]

Buy utility, rent luxury is one acronym I've seen. Maybe on the Financial Samurai blog. There's no utility with a modern woman, and you could probably argue whether there's any luxury to be had with most of them, even for an hour at a time.

[@macrochipped]

Honestly dating seems like a horror story tbh. I feel kinda lonely sometimes and definitely crave companionship, but maybe it's less stress in the long run to be single.

[@marksallai2289]

if you meet The right hard to find girl they can be great companions but be very careful moving in or marry them - I found after my second Marriage Broke - she comes to my place and have complete control and with the right type of woman can be great fun all around - it is much safer this way

[@stevenrichardson3000]

Spend $25. I had a prostitute argue with me when I said" Oh I don't pay for sex!" She said" Really?" Me' yep' all cocky Her' You got a girlfriend?' Me' yes' Her' She pay any rent?' Me' uh, no!' Starting to see I will lose this argument bad. Her' she pay any utilities?' Me, ' No!' Her' She pay for the food you eat?' Me' uh, no!' Her' What does she pay for?' Me' Nothing I guess' Her' she give you some anytime you want?' Me' No!' Her, ' let me tell you the difference between paying her and paying me! For $20, you know I'm gonna give you some. Have a nice day!'

[@zerpblerd5966]

I recommend seeking friendships. I've always been right up front I DO NOT DATE, EVER - WE ARE HANGING OUT LIKE PEOPLE, YOU WANT TO KNOW ME IN LIFE, LET'S HANGOUT AND GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER, if we like each other's company we will want to continue to hang out, and then after several months we will know if we actually are good friends, and THEN if something more develops simply because it CANNOT be contained, then pursue it, with eyes wide open. People need to stop playing games and just be HUMAN with each other.

[@cheeseburgersuperior1874]

"I'm strong and independent women." Admiral Akbar: "It's a trap."

[@samlai5411]

She's strong and independent until she needs the lawn cut.

[@johndavis8746]

Code for,"I love to sleep around on you"

[@johndavis8746]

@Jan-Ola Ellingsen I'm sorry but I don't think I talked about dating. I talked about sleeping aroind. Those are two separate things and dating is important because people want to be happy and therefore do not want to be alone. People also consider loyalty and honesty desirable traits in someone they spend their time with. So unless you fall into the small percentage of people that were born as some form of an anomaly where they dont care if they're alone, that is why dating is still an important thing beyond a certain point.

[@jasonlee8156]

A strong independent woman doesn't sound like she needs a man around. More of a reason to stay away from her.

[@johndavis8746]

@@jasonlee8156I get what you're saying here. But I'm gonna put it like this. Women that claim to be "strong and independent" are just like men who claim to be "humble". You don't claim to be something good without being narcissistic. I do like a woman who knows how to take care of herself obviously but claiming that as who she is comes off as cocky. And nobody likes a cocky person.

[@hazardousjazzgasm129]

I once dated a girl about 4 years ago, and I actually noticed a couple red flags early on, but deliberately ignored them or allowed them because I thought the good in her would outweigh the bad. Long story short: I was wrong. NEVER IGNORE THE RED FLAGS

[@asianboyyy117]

I swear to god for a second I double checked to make sure I didn't write this.

[@DS-ft6sd]

Same here ignored the red flags for 2 years,red flags as soon as she opened her month the night I met her.

[@devonmathurin]

Same thing happened to me. Can’t believe that I was so stupid🤦‍♂️

[@tomgochenour8435]

I thought I wrote this almost 50 years ago. Oh wait, there was no internet! I could have...

[@philgb1126]

I swear to God i also doubled checked to make sure I didn't write this 🤣

[@donf3877]

The ex-wife... every argument, "Maybe we shouldn't have got married". After six months I looked at her and said, "You know, you're having a hard time making up your mind. I'll make it up for you... I'm F'ing out of here!!!".

[@therealflamelit]

same thing I told my ex wife: since you cant make a decision, ill make it for both of us

[@gulag8735]

@@therealflamelit that drives them mad. My ex wife initiated separation proceedings (in ireland you can be legally separated but still married, or you can get a divorce) On the day, to save money, I changed the "separation" to "divorce".......like why would I pay again in a few years. She has gone off the rails since. I made the decision, I took away control.

[@xxyyzzplants131]

And when that thought enters you mind, pop smoke and do it, do not procrastinate, or hesitate.

[@numbereightyseven]

You don't actually have to make up your mind "for both of you", as it were. You only need to make up your mind for yourself, in such a situation. A subtle thing, perhaps, but maybe important for developing self-respect and good boundaries

[@jaircarinhatojunior7194]

god

[@duderanch18237]

Man - almost all of these happened to me. Her brother told me to run - twice.

[@jinojikitomo5065]

Damn..

[@dab0331]

Always listen to the brothers

[@rinzler9775]

Its strange when you ignore obvious advice - we all been there.

[@Zamolxes77]

Hope you listened to her brother the 2nd time. If not, you deserve 100% everything that happened to you !

[@duderanch18237]

@@Zamolxes77 Thanks for the support. You're an asshole.

[@H41030v3rki110ny0u]

Single Mother... there's the big one

[@H41030v3rki110ny0u]

Raised by, or currently is.. retreat at all costs.

That's a red flag plus land mines.

[@olliea6052]

@ 🤣🤣

[@user-fh4sl2fz3y]

Only single mothers to even consider would be a widow other than that stay away from them

[@robcubed9557]

@@user-fh4sl2fz3y Thanks for adding that disclaimer. I have a distant cousin who was widowed at age of 25 with a 1 y/o daughter. She's actually a pretty decent person (conservative Asian parents). Sucks for her that she gets lumped in with other single-moms. She ended up marrying a single-father and they've been happy for the past 7-8 years.

[@Pomoscorzo]

My mother would often pretend before other people that one of the reasons why she was such a good mother was that she apologized when necessary. The truth is that she never apologized to me. Never, as long as I can remember.

[@SomeCanine]

One of the more subtle red flags that most guys miss is when a woman has no appreciation for delayed gratification.

[@georgiosdoumas2446]

Yesss,, that is so important. It means she has no discipline , and she will sleep with the first handsome dude that will flirt with her, or she will want to buy various things because "they look nice" , either clothes or furniture.

[@ivantapia6428]

Any examples

[@jonasthesuperstraight8825]

Google: "describes the process that the subject undergoes when the subject resists the temptation of an immediate reward in preference for a later reward."

[@4RobinsonJ]

@@ivantapia6428 Opening Birthday cards and gifts days before her birthday

[@R0404]

I dated a girl that whenever she'd be at my place and would call her mom back after not answering for a couple hours, she'd tell her mom she had been asleep. Coincidentally, there'd be times she wouldn't answer MY calls, hours later she'd call me and, you guessed it, she missed my calls because she was "asleep"

[@R0404]

@Afrodisiac that was back in my blue pilled simp days. I stayed with her like a dumbass. Nowadays she would be dumped IMMEDIATELY

[@kingkang6877]

rgatlin04 we all learn bro

[@antoniolima1068]

if she lies to the mother, imagine with you, i had the same experience, let just say i start put the nails in the coffin for that relation, people of the lie.

[@MusicCityCANE]

I’ve heard this one before...

[@malding8643]

@@R0404 Is the Blue pill really so potent as to lure you into a false sense of security and numb your senses so much? That is extremely unfortunate dude, thankfully experience is a painful but effective teacher.

[@SCUBASQUISH79]

I needed this 10 years ago..

[@carvercapitalequitypartner122]

You can hopefully shape your future.

[@MoyToy84]

If she is friends with her ex, or still talks to him. Block and run. Red flag as big as the sky.

[@pineboxboy]

my dumbass learned this the hard way in high schooll. Still get flashbacks lol

[@s1m4r]

@John Milton don't think so, you're situation doesn't apply to 99,9% of relationships

[@thrilla72]

@John Milton You may not want her anymore but does she still want you?

[@GillesSimonify]

Being friend with your ex is okay, as long as you're both single. It's kind of a crutch until you find somebody else. It does not hurt anybody.

[@mahdman3]

Not just her ex but keeping in contact with one night stands and flings.

[@chrisfisher4503]

6. They keep score about things you’ve said a long time ago. Literally every woman EVER.

[@samlai5411]

That's why women hate each other.

[@Deathla]

It happens. I personally try not to air out old traumas except to point out a pattern of hurtful behavior.

[@BalticLab]

Yeah, but also not how they have selective amnesia and conveniently dont remember things they said when it doesnt benefit them. Even if it was as little as 5 minutes ago. But when it benefits her, there'll be a minute by minute exact protocol of what was said.

[@andrews127]

@@BalticLab spot on! They need medical help.

[@jonjacobjingleheimerschmid3798]

@@johnq8043 you must be young..we old dudes have to listen to shit a decade and older! Be funny if not so sad.... Anyway....went my own way,

[@RodRuth]

I recognize a lot of these flags from my younger past. I incurred a lot of emotional and financial damage, and sacrificed my purpose in life. I am trying to rebuild this now, hoping if it's not too late. What a fool I was. .......

[@johnaverick7468]

We almost all have Bud, Just different degrees of how stupid we were.

[@marksallai2289]

it is a hard lesson but only way to learn and avoid

[@welderone5070]

I’m with ya man

[@Alexander-Hatfield]

If she's American and is even moderately attractive, that's a huge red flag.

[@Yellowjackets1900]

biggest red flag is if they have a **** between their legs!

[@eipiplusone3791]

@John Joe that's pretty much most of the world now unfortunately.

[@TwoLotus2]

@Boogly-Boo Hairy and boney.

[@hdeditor]

@Boogly-Boo No they are not. American movies and TV shows etc have instilled the same sense of entitlement in them.

[@bigblue4364]

@E Nah, the ugly ones are just as bad ....

[@MrDaros89]

"They password protect all their devices" I'd be more concerned if they didn't, but then again I also work as a sysadmin.

[@celestial7150]

I don't think much of password protected devices - pretty common practice. When they don't want you to see what's on the device, that's a whole different story.

[@mariezenaida]

I left my phone in a grocery store yesterday and went back to recover it. Someone had turned it in, but I was super glad it's pin-protected.

[@timrose5740]

"Where have you been all my life?" I hear that and I am gone...

[@byteresistor]

The 1st red flag we all miss is: she's a modern woman. That explains all the other red flags.

[@Crozzzbonez0]

correction: she's a modern *American* woman

[@gulag8735]

@@Crozzzbonez0 it's not just "american" women. Come to ireland, an island, off an island, off the west of main land europe......the women have a high opinion of their fat backsides.

[@lauramasterson4265]

Ah yes, the woman who is able to provide for herself and who's independence means she doesn't have to depend on men who treat her like a possession instead of a partner and can therefore focus on improving her life and finding a partner who respects her and is her equal.

[@gulag8735]

@@lauramasterson4265 men and women are much different creatures of the same species who by pure chance can co-populate. Men are not equal to women nor are women equal to men. Both have very different characteristics.

[@rizkiramadhan9266]

That, or westernised woman

[@TheGamingg33k]

I remember last year I lost my friends, got betrayed by my friends, my grandparents passed away back to back (within a few months), my parents start talking about divorce, I failed one of the most important exams in my life and I was so damn depressed from all this shit that was happening to me that I had no one to talk to except my girlfriend at that time. Well guess what, during this time she starts being cold and distant, talking less and less, she rather watch her tv series and go to bed than talk to me. At this moment I knew that the only person to rely upon to cheer you up is yourself. People are cruel, man or woman. The girl who said she loved me started fading away when I was at the lowest point of my life.

[@MrRyanwonderland]

Woman have been unhappy since EVE.Stay away from them..

[@TheGamingg33k]

@mondblume63 Of course those things are under my control, doesnt mean it will always go your way. I wont explain the details of the friends thing, long story short is that I had an argument with one of my friends and then some of his friends didnt like how I talked to him so they came to attack me with a hammer and bats while drunk and on drugs. Those other friends (who came to attack me) were mutual and I took care of them, fed them and more. It was shocking to see that they turned on me so quickly. Few months later, I am still talking to the guy who I argued with and the people who came to attack me they are apologizing to me. I have rejected their apologies, it means nothing and makes no sense.

[@SlothmanAAA]

Man you had it hard, my condolences. I think you should't refer to those people as friends because they never were, it's hard to hear but they probably were only using you... And I think the same goes for your girlfriend. Actually something almost similar happened to me where I had this nice girl and stuff but things went south. But don't lose hope

[@elonever.2.071]

@@TheGamingg33k You need to make better friends. If you have anger issues, drink too much, spend more than you make, do illicit drugs of any kind, are rude to people for no apparent reason or hang out with anyone that does have any of these issues, it is a big NOPE for me.

[@jcgillin51]

Sort of the same for me on her phone all the time and it wasn't with me and she didn't have time to talk to me.

[@speckielishouspie8942]

red flags i saw from my ex 1. continued use of dating apps/sites when we supposed to be in a relationship/dating (always on phone) 2. bragging about online 'friends' that he often engaged in sexual conversations with 3. refuses to let me meet his family after meeting mine 4. was more than happy to talk to friends, coworkers and family about me behind my back 5. huge honesty and communication issues 6. used me for food and sex and overall lack of boundaries 7. had a potentially violent temper 8. expected loyalty from me while giving none in return 9. terrible money management 10. his place was always a mess red flags i see in myself 1. i have bipolar disorder (so by your dating logic i'm undateable based off my mental illness) 2. i have daddy issues/father is not in the pictured (so i'm undateable because my dad was a neglectful deadbeat who chose to abandon me) 3. i have forms of separation anxiety and abandonment issues (i'm clingy) 4. my place is always a mess (my housekeeping and home maintenance is an issue i'm working on ) 5. it takes longer for me to trust others 6. i have only a few friends mostly male friends (i get along better with men as friends) 7. has no consistent female friends (i think of other women as a whole other subspecies) 8. i tend to worry too much about little things 9. i have trouble coping with stress 10. I have trouble with boundaries and communication

[@speckielishouspie8942]

@@MaulqasmPK Well uh no offense but your suggestions and the way you present them make me think you're the wack job here... I mean are you in a cult or something? I need help opening myself up to others in a healthy way and working on my self worth that had been shattered by dating a sexual abuser, i was perfectly fine until i let him into my life I don't need to be brainwashed i mean the way you're trying to suggest those therapies makes me think of methods used by cults to recruit vulnerable people. Also unless Christ himself has the balls to suddenly drop down from the sky right in front of me while i'm awake, sober and relatively sane everything said the bible means absolutely nothing to me

[@AstuteHarmony50]

@@speckielishouspie8942 Jesus, you musta been through alot. I hope it goes well for you, I have a bipolar friend and he's just taken advantage of all the time by his now-wife. Take the time you need and find someone who'll see you for you and actually spend time working WITH you while also being loyal. I know it's a tall order, but myself and many other men out there are willing to fill it (so long as you don't keep the ridiculous standards most women have nowadays [5'7 gang wya?]) Growing up, my mother taught me to treat people well even if you don't like them, but only recently did I ever learn about how shit the world has gone too. Try your best to be the best you can be and someone, if you wait (but not too long, settle before 30 or you'll regret it), will show up. Good luck to you and good on you for positive self-reflection. (Also, I just wanna ask, is being clingy such a bad thing? If a girl were all over me and what I was doing I'd absolutely love it. Sure it might get annoying to some degree, but I'd much rather have clingy over distant, right? Out of curiosity, is that how you feel about "clingy" guys too seeing as you say that you're clingy?)

[@speckielishouspie8942]

@@AstuteHarmony50 dating someone too similar to yourself (like being clingy or having similar mental disorders) doesn't end well because boundaries and expectations get thrown out the window As for me I'm 5'6 as long as the guy is slightly taller even if it's an inch or two than me (so can i rest my head on his shoulder) has a functional and sustainable lifestyle (I'm not asking for a rich guy just a financially responsible one) he makes me feel respected and happy I also want someone who will play Dungeons and Dragons and video games with me

[@AstuteHarmony50]

@@speckielishouspie8942 Just recently due to covid I had to cut an in-person D&D game off and it really hit me. I never knew it'd be so fun to play, but it ended just like that. Also, you have great standards and I know there are guys like that out there. Good luck with your search and have a wonderful life.

[@vt_mod]

I do hate when they don't take responsibility for anything.

[@brianct7801]

For me, this is definitely one of the biggest red flags. It demonstrates a complete lack of desire (or potentially ABILITY) to grow as a person and learn from mistakes. Also demonstrates an inability to compromise. Guys, NEVER, EVER give a woman a pass when she's clearly in the wrong and won't admit it. There's a difference between FORGIVENESS (forgiving someone who admits they're either partly or fully in the wrong) and ENABLING (tacitly or explicitly giving the person permission to do the wrong thing again by refusing to hold them accountable).

[@tabletalk33]

Why would a sociopath take responsibility for anything? Forget it!

[@KrK-EST]

the short version: 1. They never apologize for bad behavior. 2. They think all their exes are crazy and don’t see the common denominator. 3. They use ultimatums to get their way. 4. When they don’t text you back quick, but are always on their phone. 5. You don’t like their friends. 6. They keep score about things you’ve said a long time ago. 7. They are upset when you go and hang out with your friends or family over them. 8. When they complain or talk about their ex. 9. If they keep your relationship a secret. 10. They don’t get along with many other people. 11. They only tell half-truths. 12. They throw temper tantrums over little things. 13. They treat their family poorly. 14. They make rules over you. 15. They refuse to get close to your family. 16. You are the one who always apologizes to end fights. 17. They password protect all of their devices. 18. They don’t comfort you in times of need. 19. They are rude and inconsiderate to service workers. 20. They become angry when discussing their mistakes. 21. When they make a negative comment about everything. 22. The way they flirt with you when they had a partner. 23. All of their friends are of the opposite sex. 24. They don’t show interest in what is important to you. 25. They don’t pay compliments or thanks. 26. They preach that they are independent. 27. They have a history of drinking too much. 28. They are extremely moody. 29. They hold double standards. 30. They Facebook stalk too much. 31. They are obsessed with fairy tale endings. 32. They don’t care about things that don’t directly affect them. 33. How they act when they are drunk. 34. They like to head play games when they are upset. 35. They like the drama of fighting. 36. They cannot respect themselves, you, or your relationship. 37. Their relationship history is rocky. 38. They project their traits onto you and don’t see it. 39. Their family doesn’t think it will last. 40. You are constantly a victim of verbal abuse. 41. They religiously delete texts. 42. They are a completely new person after the honeymoon phase. 43. They said “I always get what I want.” 44. They are sneaky on Snapchat. 45. They tell little lies. 46. They are nervous about texts or calls they receive. 47. They grew up with an unstable family life. 48. They constantly scream and yell when angry. 49. They have an excuse for everything. 50. They thought World War II took place in the 70s.

[@grahamashton624]

KrKyoutube This list is more than 50 red flags .this is being with a complete Arsehole

[@graywalkerjoin3rdparty74]

Shorter version: I'm glad I"m a Monk.

[@gavnonadoroge3092]

that rules out 100% of people

[@spsamp]

@James J. Koumos they're clueless about basic history meaning they're clueless about a lot of other things

[@KrK-EST]

​@mondblume63 where do you get that? More than half of the "chapters" (i listed/copied from the source) can not be reversed aka. will not apply when sex is reversed. Not only in my life and what i have experienced but literally atypical behaviour if reversed. Also i do not agree with few "chapters" in eighter way, they seem to be fillers (most of them also actually not wrong but not related to this point).

[@AviShmilo]

The number of times I said "fuck!" during the reading of this list is just sad.

[@mmmbbop9351]

😂😂😂😂

[@seikclavmckiez5542]

*children with both parents at home when they turn 20 years* South America 90% Africa. 92% Middle east/Asia 94% Eastern Europe 73.7% Western Europe 57% U.S./Canada. 39% Australia/ NZ. 71%

[@miguelgonzalez6495]

Sounds about right! The only thing that has prevented me from dating a really nice, traditional Asian girl is their culture. Holy hell, do they not really want to mix things up. The dad basically destroys any chances before they even arise.

[@comemyfanaticscom]

Source?

[@ehiggins360]

Good point

[@chrisoutdoor3872]

@@miguelgonzalez6495 I know someone with a Chinese wife. Turns out, if a woman can't have kids the husband will leave, and if the husband gets injured at work, she leaves, and that is just the beginning. Relationships appear more functional than loyal over there so it takes a considerable amount of effort to make the relationship work from what i can see.

[@RodrigoLimaBatista]

Those numbers don't seen right for South America. Seriously.

[@puffin-onehandedgamer1164]

yup, number 22 is my best friend's ex wife. they met when she cheated on her ex husband with him, red flag right there, he still married her and she treated him the same way. I told him before the wedding that he was making a mistake, I warned him, he did it anyway, but I did my duty, it was up to him to take my advice, he did not.

[@R281]

You're a good friend. Most people would keep their mouth shut, including myself.

[@darrinschlangen4119]

The excuses for everything/double standards kicked my behind in a past relationship. I had to be perfect, but she could act terribly and call everything she did ok. I am finally aware of how much of red flags these things are.

[@tabletalk33]

Yes, I've noticed this, too. Too many women want "perfection." There is NOTHING in this world that is perfect.

[@EM-ks5my]

Many girls add guys as contacts with female names. You see Jessica is John or Jose. Latina girls love this. Latino here.

[@JohnSmith-ys3wc]

Next level shady.

[@liamsmith1637]

@Nikki Only heard this in stories never seen a fella that promiscous. It probably has been done but really alot of guys can't even cheat anyway, you would have to be some high value male which is 10% of men to even have multiple options to choose from without it having to be at the cost of your sanity from how much work it takes for an average male to maintain just one relationship

[@m.c.martin]

Eye opening, thank you for that.

[@lostboi3974]

Dude, I'm literally walking around whistling the intro music jingle of your channel throughout the day

[@thecoteshow]

It's kinda like comfort food.....

[@lostboi3974]

@@thecoteshow 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@bossgd100]

What is the name of the song ?

[@2st_duallist]

i find myself whistling it sometimes. it's so damn catchy XD

[@ericbouchard4829]

Yeah, me too...

[@InteGritti]

I’ve also noticed that all of their friends seem to have some skill or benefit that the narcissist uses them for. They always tell you in some kind of bragging way how they can get “hook up” with discounts or free stuff from their “friends”. But they never seem to help anyone that can’t benefit them in someway in the future. They never help just for the sake of helping. It’s like the dark insidious version of reciprocity.

[@johnkopmeier3579]

Malignant narcissism. The struggle is real.

[@JasonGodwin69]

Red Flag: she gloats about times she lied and duped people.

[@xyzct]

Like it's a sport.

[@crazyworld54321]

I had a female I was dating tell me flat out "I can fake it" in regard to how she feels about a man to get what she wants. And as you would imagine, she was shocked when she was instantly ghosted. Pffft. They're all full of shit.

[@dang75790]

Or trans!

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

I am a idiot for this one.

[@machspeed8153]

This is where I let them run their mouths. "Please finish"

[@robertmendick3195]

Some other red-flags are: Belittling your conversational comments, correcting you, and dismissing any advice/ideas you offer as stupid and useless.

[@ibubezi7685]

- "I just want you to listen to me - I don't want your advice." - then why tell me your stories - at least hear me out, maybe you can apply some of it next time? - "I know a few girls that..." - "How old are they?" - "Uh, 22, 25" - "Then they are not girls, they are women"

[@robertmendick3195]

@@ibubezi7685 Good ideas. I'll use them...Thanks

[@jabberwocky8021]

Classic "Gaslighting" behavior. It can seriously mess with your mind. Run away ASAP!

[@clintonbenson7595]

That was my ex's way to just be an arsehole to me on the daily. Started from the moment she woke up, to the moment I'd have to sleep on the couch after work. The last 6 months of 7years was pure hell.

[@RaderizDorret]

One I came across: she thinks your ability to fight is "hot".

[@finnishinquisitor1626]

I was once a simp, I had a decade long marriage that went south due to her selfish desires. Then came multiple relationships. Eventually I ended up in a relationship from hell. The crazy thing is I loved her. I even moved 1000kms away and gave up a good job. Looking back clearly I was a schmuck! She showed more red flags than all of the communist armies combined. Thank the good lord above and the men's awakening in their own direction, that I woke up. I have reclaimed my humanity and walked. I now make six figures and have been single for two years. (Psycho still texts me, I don't respond anymore)

[@andrewkanz5670]

They have a picture of themselves as a lock screensaver (it’s more common than you’d think). 🤦‍♂️

[@andrews127]

Lol.. yeah vanity has no boundaries.

[@BarryObaminable]

9:00 I did this before. I questioned whether she was texting her ex. I said to show me the phone. She would not. She asked why, its an invasion. I said, I think she is communicating with the ex. I said to show it right now or that's it, we are done. She would not, so I said fine. So I go inside and 15 minutes later she knocks on my door and says 'here'. Nope. You have had time to delete all the shit. She also was one who never apologized or said thank you.

[@randomlygeneratedname]

It doesn't matter if they look at your shit if you have nothing to hide

[@kingkang6877]

Good for you bro.

[@gtomcat321]

I totalled 23 red flags from my ex's behaviour. When you're in Love it's like you are hypnotised & don't see them & when a red flag appears during this period, you just dismiss it. Then eventually further down the line they come back to bite you.

[@AudioSoulHealing]

So true

[@tabletalk33]

Yes, I agree. Being in love is a lot like being on dope. Women know this instinctively, and they take advantage of it in myriad ways in order to trap the man. They are custom designed by nature to do this.

[@jakeemerson93]

After a decade of having multiple bad experiences with several women, I am so glad I found your channel. Over the years I've always thought I was the problem for not having a decent relationship. And although I'm not perfect and I did make mistakes, I finally came to realize that women are just unbearable to date and live with.

[@jonjacobjingleheimerschmid3798]

It helps me that my ex-wife has now divorced for the 5th time! Of course she chocks it up to having chosen bad men.....

[@elliscook9794]

@@jonjacobjingleheimerschmid3798 For real, I could NOT stop laughing at this.

[@marksallai2289]

don't live with them or Marry them - have your own place when they come around you are in control and have a lot more fun - I learned this from being Married twice

[@evas6052]

are you the common denominator! haaaaaaa

[@e.o9470]

We all have self esteem issues to some degree and you should work on this matter.

[@grayalun]

Massive red flag for me is when a woman when referring to sex says if you're lucky or if your good, I'm not some dog to be trained.

[@paulgiannakakos1155]

Because of the overinflated sense of entitlement you see in most women these days, they believe that their v****a is the holy f*****g grail.

[@drjohnsonhungwell5115]

@@paulgiannakakos1155 AMEN its way overated and most of them are mediocre

[@lauramasterson4265]

Hahaha looking at you mate you look like you'd be lucky to get any, let alone have a woman call you good

[@grayalun]

@@lauramasterson4265 lol at least I'm brave enough to put a photo up, I'm guessing by the fact you've not put one up that you've got a face like a punched lasagne. 😂

[@pingu3984]

@@lauramasterson4265 You can always tell when someone's triggered because they start attacking personally. I'm guessing you know you're the type of woman the video is referring to and you're pissed because everyone is waking up to your bullshit.

[@waynebollman]

One flag I missed through about 8 years of a 9 year relationship: I had never heard her apologize for anything..... to anyone..... ever. Not even if she accidently bumped into a stranger in a crowded room. Wouldn't even excuse herself with, "oh, excuse me". This ended up being a portal into her entire being and explained nearly everything to me eventually.

[@QED_]

It may seem like you'd see it in in less than 8 years . . . but no. It's such a mind-boggling character flaw that it's totally unexpected. It's like: "How is this even possible (?)"

[@QED_]

BTW: This is especially some kind of peculiarly American thing. In Britain we go around "sorry"-ing all day long . . . every day. Or at least we used to . . .

[@palika4887]

mentioning or talking about exboyfriends is a huge Red flag too.

[@tomasnokechtesledger1786]

早苗 米本

[@mandarins35]

That is a great point, have experienced that in more than few occasions.

[@palika4887]

@@mandarins35i dated a girl for about 3 months end she often was talking about her exboyfriend who she "hated" from her whole heart she told me. Then i found out she was fucking him on the Side. When i confronted her she told me that its because she borrowed money from him and wants to repay the debt😂😂😂

[@Tehblood]

My wife comments randomly on shit if its relevant, regarding her ex's, no flags at all here though. Just part of her past same as I've got. I think a healthy relationship, with both party's also being healthy in their part of the relationship, none of those types of comments should matter, from them or to you.

[@Scisca1a2a]

Having an ex is a red flag. No hymen, no diamond. Only get in serious relationships with virgins, other women are sport and fun, they have proven they aren't worth committing to

[@Scuppun]

Yep.... we've all been there in our 20s and 30s. Pitty we didn't see this material back then. Would have saved me a truck load of cash, insanity and put me on a quicker path to self development. Lesson learned.

[@madmaxx5612]

Literally got red pilled after my ex took my business and I slept in a barn....lesson learned.

[@strade601]

I'm 25 and never had any relationship, nor tried to have one. Seems like it was a good idea after all.

[@Scuppun]

@@strade601 Don't let the little head over power the big one. And most certainly don't let women try to manipulate you into doing anything with comments like "my last boyfriend would always do 'x' for me". If she comes out with that crap, just reply with "gee, I if he was that nice, why are you not still with him?" If she tries to guilt you or say something to defend her comment, call her out on it there and then. Don't give her slack. Tell her you're not going to be guilted and shamed into doing crap for her. If she doesn't appreciate you for who you are, she will never appreciate you. She will only appreciate you for what you can give her. Bugger that, it's your money, not hers. Listen to the stories of divorced men, bearing in mind that it's 80% of women who initiate divorces.

[@AudioSoulHealing]

A few red flags I failed to see right off that bat but admittedly got a weird vibe from my last girlfriend... I think on our 3rd or 4th time hanging out/dating she told me she had cheated on a boyfriend before, and that year for xmas, she booked her flight home to visit her family in reverse aka she was supposed to fly from GA to NJ, and when I asked her how her flight went, she said, 'I never made it home, somehow I booked the flight to leave from NJ and fly to GA" - this was the beginning of me discovering the other version of her that would come out when she would drink and become absent minded, distrusting and accusational. Later into our relationship she told me about times when she had punched her step-father and ex-husband in the face during arguments. Sheesh, I still ended up falling in love with her but what a stressful relationship that ended up being.

[@brentmiedema7002]

On Plenty if Fish, these women start out with “I’m a single mom. I have no time for games....” stop right there. Nope

[@glevando]

Yes, back when I checked out that site you here the "I have no time for games" line a lot. So that means she's been banged but bad boys that use her or she sport f***s whatever is out there and now needs to be saved??????

[@brentmiedema7002]

And “games” is a wigger trash word, too. A proud to be white woman would not even use that stupid word.

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

Hol up haha

[@Roypb01]

If they're on "Plenty of Fish" -- or any other dating site -- you don't want to meet them.

[@Tbone3471]

Plenty of FAIL

[@sebi7778]

Biggest red flag... Everything is a competition for her and she trys to compete with you all the time!

[@rey_nemaattori]

But then whines when she looses...

[@chrisrenshaw2146]

OMG yes! Totally agree to this one.

[@kingkang6877]

Bingo

[@rey_nemaattori]

@K RM Which is kinda a red flag by itself...

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

Felt this one

[@DigimonGaara]

I agree with you almost always. But asking for the passwords it's going a bit far, in my opnion. If she asked me for my passwords i would agree, but with a warning: "if you don't find anything suspicious, It's done, we are broke".

[@PsychicsRfake456]

If she is the "Animal rescue " type. nothing wrong with having a few pets but if she has more then a few and always wants more .... run. you will end up paying the vet and food bills for the Animals

[@JasonSmith709]

I would be ok with that. Another man's children I don't want to pay for.

[@aegiselectric5805]

Can attest. I broke up with one of these so I'm making a public journal entry :) Don't forget taking care of them, the stressful too short walks because 3 energetic and undisciplined dogs are difficult to deal with on one wrist as using both just gets the leads twisted. The all too familiar smell of piss and shit mixed with bleach and incense. The litter box you're tired of cleaning, but if you don't it won't be touched. Even if you don't pay directly, it'll still cost you, especially if you live together and split bills. With no savings they'll throw their half and more at an animal like it's their child and expect you to be OK with it. Of course, if you were, you two would be on the street. It only scales up too. Another rescue, another "special needs", another one thats needs extra attention that will never be given past two weeks, another fight they get in because despite their "noble" intentions, they're shitty pet owners and despite keeping the animals alive, are causing more harm than good. All this makes for more food, meds, temporary highs, and "one off" trips to the vet. It doesn't even have to be about public validation, there's something deeply flawed about these kinds of people, they're trying to care and fix something else because they can't do it to themselves. It's the one thing they can latch on to and say "see! I did something good, I am good, my real and perceived flaws are that much smaller now". Absolutely wasted effort. But here's a silver lining, they're doing this to an animal instead of a real child; that mess of genetics and behavior won't continue. Usually. In the stereotype, which usually exist because they're true: Modern society is deeply sick and is making women's natural maternal instincts and neuroticism go absolutely haywire. They're miserable and desperately trying to fill a sense of purpose with some Frankenstein notion of a biological purpose. Those kinds of people need a responsible person to help fund their obsession, but they end up resenting them for not having the same zeal. A sick game. And that my friends is my Ted talk, and the reason you should never ever ever date someone that is super in to animals. It's not just money, it's lifestyle and personality.

[@michaelsix9684]

shows maybe she can't get along with people very well

[@gwanael34]

I mean if that's your calling too she's just perfect for you. Personally if I could have some kind of sanctuary for animals I would be more than happy.

[@jorgebarriosmur]

Unlless you are that type of man, too......then you have find a soulmate......

[@nickdial8528]

Here's a huge red flag. She lies to her parents! I dated a girl who put on a "nice girl" persona around her parents, but when not around them, she acted completely different. She also would allow her parents to still talk to her like she was a teenager. I asked her, "why do you act differently around your parents, they don't even know who you really are"? She said, "they pay for alot of things and help me financially, so I have to consider that "

[@EduFirenze]

You’re just listing every single girl I dated, worked and went to school with so basically: all of them

[@thebraziliangardener8481]

i must be the most bluepilled guy who ever lived,my relationship had like 52 of those flags and i was like "ShE LoVeS Me "

[@CarlosRuiz-gg5wn]

yes blinded by love and blind to red flags

[@coldcraze5366]

Dude. Same here.

[@abrahamricoart246]

its been hurting so bad realizing this about relationships. i've shed some hefty tears about it but i'm starting to feel better and am just taking it day by day

[@thebraziliangardener8481]

@@abrahamricoart246 yes we all did i guess,i shed my tears more than one year ago,and i am much better by now,time will heal you fella,dont give up

[@Phantom11718]

Bruh when wearing the rose tinted glasses red flags just look like normal flags, I have a similar high score

[@Biscuits514]

Realizing that I missed a lot of red flags over the years in my partners.. but also realizing some of my own issues/areas of improvement. Remember to strive to be your best self people! It isn't always the other person's fault. Thanks for sharing the list, Joker!

[@yyz4761]

"How many red flags have you missed in previous relationships" Me: Yes

[@againsslayer7339]

1982 mundial soccer

[@josmclove4426]

🤣🤣🤣yeap

[@rocksteele6926]

When she says "I am Honest" on her dating profile...She lies so much she has made a lie-detector explode.

[@gavinjenkins899]

Anyone anywhere any gender saying "I am [thing that could have been demonstrated through behavior or by example in text]" generally means they aren't that thing. Nothing specific to this particular case.

[@av8tor261]

She says, "Tell me you love me". You say, "I love you". She barks back, "You don't mean that!". RUN!

[@UnrealTransformer]

Answer with a question : "What is love ?" (Because she don't know.)

[@strikeforce1500]

@@UnrealTransformer baby don't hurt me, no more.. (I had to)

[@robertc7072]

When they dress like a slob at home and do themselves up when they go by themselves out or when they all of a sudden start exercising when they never had an interest in before. Means they are wanting to look good for another person or they're trying to get attention elsewhere.

[@Freeyourdollar]

You hit on a MAJOR red flag that should have been on this list. If your girlfriend or especially Wife suddenly stops eating junk food and you notice her getting slimmer and slimmer just know you are about to be dumped and there is another guy in the picture.

[@machspeed8153]

@@Freeyourdollar The guy is most likely at her workplace. Its like we've all been through this disrespect

[@DrugTalkTV]

Yeah, that was what happened with my first wife when she made friends with a single lady at work. Suddenly new underwear, makeup, oh, well you go out to concerts (Which I did because I'm a huge metal fan), so I'm going out on ladies nights with "april"....yeah, ho was getting her back blown out.

[@Freeyourdollar]

@@DrugTalkTV Same with first wife. All was good but past single girl friend shows up to hang out. They have girl time suddenly she lost twenty pounds and wanted new outfits. Then I hear from friends she was seen in my truck with a dude driving around base. It's good we can speak to the young guys here so when they see this pattern they know exactly what is going down.

[@saram3840]

"when you are wearing rose coloured glasses, red flags just look like flags"

[@evanwilcox82]

that's good

[@Joe-rx7ht]

Red flag: “I’m a foodie.” 😬

[@lordtgmailcom]

Fattie.

[@zarhun7]

@@lordtgmailcom lol 😆

[@user-om4nw8ee6l]

If she has a bunch of Instagram followers aka addicted to social media “cracked out on likes”

[@steven4999]

Social media causes the same chemical reactions that coke produces so you're not wrong about that

[@spenndoolie]

This is a good one

[@rambomoore381]

#1 RED FLAG!

[@freedomdude5420]

No phone, no marriage!

[@user-fh4sl2fz3y]

Took me over a hour to watch this video as everytime joker read something of the list it got me thinking of my old simping ways and what red flags I missed 🤦🏻‍♂️

[@YT-ks9go]

That 65% not subscribed is probably from the video being shared etc. It’s a good sign your content is getting out there

[@duderanch18237]

Phone is a big thing. I was more James Bond about it. I saw her enter her passcode to unlock once, waited till she went to bed. The crap I saw in there. Dear God.

[@berzerkfury1459]

Wud you see

[@eclipsez0r]

@DA Based

[@duderanch18237]

Gabriela Martinyuk hey not saying it was “right”. My suspicions were confirmed though lol.

[@duderanch18237]

DA yeah she’s an ***hole. Surprise lol. Don’t know what she’s doing on this channel if she’s gonna bash the people on it. She’s a loser.

[@BernardBethea6339]

@Gabriela Martinyuk so men now just susposed to be in the dark about the modern day succubus and let her be? Lmao you are one of the reasons men are red pill or migtow

[@charlesconfino165]

This is a good one if you can’t tell if she’s toxic or not. If you find that after you hang out with her all your energy is sapped, like you need a nap every time you meet her, that’s a sign she’s an energy vampire. Run for the hills

[@musicalfringe]

That's interesting, I'll have to watch for it. Thanks.

[@charlesbell5500]

Couldn't it possibly be that she's just a genuinely energetic person? My best bud's like that. It's not always necessarily a red flag is it? Well it depends on what you mean by "saps your energy". Do you need to nap because of exhaustion due to a fight that always takes place? In that case yeah, but....

[@alphamorion4314]

@@charlesbell5500 "Energy vampires" are real, dude. People that, even if they are just awesome in every single way, at the end of the meeting leave you frickin' EXHAUSTED. Is not a red flag per se... meaning: if she is, it doesn't mean that she is a bad person, or a liar, or anything. She might be truly awesome. But if she is an "emergy vampire", with all of her awesomness, you will still feel frickin' exhausted every single time you meet with her: that is not good for your long-term well-being, that is way is also a... maybe orange flag. If you can discuss the issue with her and come to an agreement that actually works out, then it's all good

[@Zamolxes77]

VERY good one ! Very good ! I didn't expect to find this here, but someone beat me to it. I will add to it. If after having sex with her for the first time, your next day is shot, with lack of energy, irritability, not wanting to do anything, headaches and a profound need to sleep, run AWAY. Some vampires wait and attract you with good vibes, they make an energy investment to get you in the sack, and once they do, they drain you. Is a more parshive vampire like the one Charles described. In some cases, they're actually possessed by a demon, that uses her partners to feed himself.

[@loverschoice885]

there are triggers to push that behaviour out. And its not very hard. A normal sain woman, will take it like a champ and joke about it cus they are intelligent. And the ones that get triggered behaves like Laura Masterson

[@GrnXnham]

Bottom line here: Don't rush into anything with relationships. Always take things slowly. People cover up their red flags early on, but it gets more difficult as the months go by. If you've already moved in with someone before the red flags start, it's tougher to get out of the relationship unscathed.

[@jobz9150]

Good advice

[@yunggolem4687]

1. Treats the defenseless poorly. (children, animals, wait staff, cashiers, etc). 2. Behaves poorly when anonymous or certain there will be no repercussions. 3. Loud in quiet public locations such as quiet restaurants, theaters, etc. 4. Always blame the victims of their actions, especially when the victim is not at fault. "If you didn't do X, then I wouldn't have to punish you with Y." 5. Pretends to be the victim when someone finally reacts to their continuous aggressive/annoying behavior. 6. Always weaseling out of their past actions and statements, never accepting they were wrong even in the face of definitive proof. 7. Obsessive rule follower. Obeys all signs, obeys the dictate of anyone with a uniform or a badge or a title without question. 8. Obsessive rule breaker. Breaks rules without questioning them or why they exist. 9. Hypocrisy. Expects others to behave in ways they themselves do not. 10. Never volunteers. To help, to pay, to drive, to plan, to solve problems. 11. Doesn't clean up after themselves when in other people's houses. 12. Either fails to return borrowed items without being hounded by the lender or returns borrowed items in poor condition. 13. Uses words to substitute for action. Says "Sorry." but never does anything to correct the problem or explain why it is legitimately not their problem to correct or not a problem at all. 14. Can't entertain themselves. Always bored unless someone or something is entertaining them.

[@Southernboy302]

6, 11, and 13 bring back so many memories...

[@fatcraze216]

This list is my girl now dude, and trust im omw out.

[@tarico4436]

I like your juxtapositioning of "obsessive rule breaker" with "obsessive rule follower." Don't wanna always be totally "letter of the law" when sometimes "spirit of the law" is what is more important. An obsessive rule follower is not gonna "get" that. Yours is a great list, Rat Utopian!

[@kingkang6877]

1 is fine. I'd rather have someone that shows 'mercy' to the defenseless than someone that doesn't give a rats a$$

[@chrisf1600]

Good list, I especially like #1 and #3 and #11. It's basically about behaving like a responsible adult and not some entitled little princess.

[@FooserX]

The worst is when they DO apologize for bad behavior! It throws you for a loop...because you're about ready to check out, and they apologize and reel you back in... Ugh...

[@TechnoMageB5]

Those type only apologize when you threaten to leave or are on your way out. That's not accepting responsibility, that's trying to avoid a consequence of loss.

[@FooserX]

@@TechnoMageB5 great thought my man. this is something one would never think about as it's happening to them

[@ronestrada9714]

This is one of the best videos ever! I am 68 now and I walked away from dating about 11 years ago. Best move for myself with personal growth, fitness, and financial security my life focus. I am always happy now!

[@shibblesshalzabot6320]

I’ve learned to never ask a woman what she wants for dinner. Every suggestion will always be wrong. You have to take initiative and just tell them what y’all are having for dinner.

[@mpeacraft8585]

Greg White Weird when they say they don’t know or care yet shoot down all your suggestions. They care. They just don’t want to be the ones asked. Decision making for them has extra steps.

[@majurbludd]

Make them watch you eat.

[@shibblesshalzabot6320]

majurbludd always order a double sized meal. Every time you order something they always end up eating at least half of yours without even taking a bite out of what they ordered. To top that off, they almost always never take their leftovers home in a to-go bag

[@shibblesshalzabot6320]

Fuck Antifa and black lives matter Who you kidding kid??? You obviously don’t or ever will have a wife. Shouldn’t LARPing stop when you’re 15 or something??

[@kevinhamilton9920]

"How do you write women so well?" Jack: "I think of a man. And I take away reason and accountability." - As Good As It Gets

[@nmestre2]

Classics never die hahahahahaha

[@elsinore63]

One of the best movie lines describing todays women ever!!!!

[@marklittle8805]

One of the most true lines ever spoken in a movie

[@johnym.8878]

My favourite 👍

[@donaldoehl7690]

Most succinct explanation of women ever!

[@BadSneakers]

"I have a heart of gold" - she's vicious and will attempt to destroy you while hiding behind good deeds for others to see

[@Superman-xr1oh]

That's how my ex was. She was seen as the goto person for everybody, always the one helping everyone else out before helping herself. She even mentioned it before.

[@easternwoods4378]

That's my ex and she used my money do to it

[@timgraham7851]

Oh how I wish I had known this when I was 25. I wouldn't have wasted 15 years with my ex wife.

[@TheSkull698]

Or 38 years with three wives. Yep, complete idiot here. No more tho...

[@miauw8762]

It's even worse when you send a longer message (for example 3 lines) and there is a question in it but they don't answer the question. It feels like they didn't even read your message.

[@therealflamelit]

the one word answers to 5 line text...like they dont wanna even respond..is worse

[@apushman]

@@therealflamelit I get those from girls with profiles that say "I want a man who can hold a conversation", projection much

[@nordan00]

I had one woman I already knew to some extent give me her number. Called her once, and not again. Saw her six months later, marched right up to her, and asked her why she didn’t call me back. She told me some friend of hers had died in a car crash. She was a little taken aback when I then asked her what the deceased’s name was and when was the approximate date of the crash! When she started stuttering, I just laughed, shook my head, and walked away.

[@terminatorT-]

always pay attention to warning signs , it can save you a whole lot of money , heartache , and trouble.

[@rynichols]

Don Draper : People tell you who they are, but we ignore it - because we want them to be who we want them to be.

[@daze507]

Exactly. We project our fantasy over them, then we get that huge slap in the face when reality strikes.

[@hazardousjazzgasm129]

Mad Men had so much wisdom about men and women

[@aluckyshot]

Ouch the independent one is hilarious. Isn't that every Tinder profile?

[@somedude9431]

Pronouns in the Bio. Weird tattoos, kids, having more metal in her than a junkyard and odd coloured hair.

[@fs5866]

Oh yea, pronouns in anything is insta turn off definitely, that's black flag there

[@MrBird-dw4ux]

Cool Budgie!

[@maelstrom2313]

@@fs5866 Yeah man, that's not a red flag, that's a skull & crossbones -- run like hell

[@RetroArcStudios]

All of these hit home. Aaaand all in one girl. But then I started listening to Joker and got officially redpilled. Dumped her 2 months ago. I am doing so much better now!

[@fejkpirat5118]

That's great! You got out alive.

[@swedeonhisway8608]

good for you bro, i hope you get a happy life :D

[@RetroArcStudios]

@@fejkpirat5118 I am doing great! It's interesting. Somehow I'm saving more money even though i am paying for the whole apartment on my own now. It's the strangest thing...

[@bleachstain9785]

I started fucking with this chick after a year and a half of being redpilled. Boutta make her morning trash by telling her ass I no longer have any interest due to something she let slip.

[@wolfsmaid6815]

I had an ex who would constantly accuse me of random stuff. He accused me of going through his phone and looking at texts, of talking to my ex, of having another guy behind his back.... it turned out that he was the one who did all those things and thus became paranoid of everyone else being that way. Of course I dumped him after finding out about his hipocrisy and his cheating and found myself someone responsible and stable, but I will never forget those red flags that I missed for over a year.

[@ponaskompetencija]

You know what is sad ? My ex had all these red flags minus drinking. So that is 49 out of 50. Im not even joking. 6 years of relationship ffs. I even had to see a therapist, because it. My therapist even told my ex most likely has NPD or BPD.

[@TwoLotus2]

Missed red flags-- its all a blur. All I remember now, is one girl treated me like a lab experiment. I didn;t have a clue what was going on.

[@alvarorubio1993]

My ex-girlfriend always used to tell me that when she drank with friends she would call her grandma if she was too drunk to drive. One time her grandma texted me in Saturday morning to see if she was with me, I tried to get a hold of her but she didn't answer until 10pm she said she had been drinking with friends. Back then I had my suspicions why she didn't tell her grandma or me, now it is clear as day.

[@TroublezAhead00]

Damn. I feel that.

[@StarofSolomon]

If she says she is going “drinking with friends” you know she is fucking others. That’s a HUGE red flag!!

[@steveh1510]

Found your Channel about 3 weeks ago and enjoying the heck out of it! Looks like a lot of other people are too!

[@thecoteshow]

Dude I'm 6 days into it and I've watched like 40 of these videos ( I broke my ankle this summer trying catch a ball in center field so I have nothing else to do) buuut it's been Life changing to find out how many guys have been in the same boat as me all these years. The comments are the best .... I recommend taking a scroll often

[@BetterBachelor]

Welcome aboard and glad you're enjoying it.

[@BetterBachelor]

The comments are usually as good as my vids if not better. Some real horror show stories in them.

[@vrsprngVI]

Hey there B C. I broke my ankle 2 days after the fourth of July. I have spent my summer literally doing nothing but watching youtube and playing mobile games. I feel where you are coming from. Best wishes on a fast recovery sir. Cheers.

[@thecoteshow]

@@vrsprngVI You too good sir. cheers man