Let Your Ex Miss You

[@joey11_]

You have no idea how much this man has helped me coping with my breakup....she never came back but i started accepting it and Getting stronger everyday....thank you lee

[@Ella89zxx]

@@joey11_ How long were you together and how long no contact?

[@baggergurl16]

That’s the power of no contact at work

[@lynne14344]

Thank you Coach Lee for this, it is so helpful.

[@kiddytube3915]

Same same. Or at least I no longer have any emotional attachment to the outcome.

[@RealCoachLee]

Joey, thank you for your kind words. I’m so glad I have helped you in some way.

[@jayjaytornea7132]

She broke up with me couple months ago and started NC, Right now Im moving on but still keep watching coach lee. This man helps me a lot during my first few months of break up.

[@rxsx123]

@@jayjaytornea7132 I saw your comment on another of coach lee’s videos saying you got back with your ex after four months of no contact. It didn’t work out after yall got back together? What went wrong?

[@josephkush1032]

Used to feel like I couldn't live without them, but after a month of staying busy and working on myself, I miss them less every day

[@ch1ldenjoyer]

hey, just wanted to update my story to motivate everyone who is struggling right now. i dated an avoidant guy for 6mo before he broke up with me randomly, and honestly i stayed in no contact even though i really had no hope he would come back. he blocked me everywhere too. everything coach lee says is extremely accurate, he came back after day 45 and it’s day 60 now; each day he’s been even more obsessed to get me back. so… listen to this guy, he knows what he’s talking about. the more nonchalant you seem the better ⛓️

[@ch1ldenjoyer]

before when we broke up, i took him back too quickly so he took me for granted. now that i’m taking my time, he is doing more to keep me bcs he knows that if he fucks up… i’m Out

[@sloanmagnum5009]

Block him and move on. People who are avoidants don't work well with those who aren't.

[@your.music.worldd]

He will leave you again randomly one day.

[@ch1ldenjoyer]

@ i left him a month later. sometimes it doesn't work cuz they're a loser

[@your.music.worldd]

@@ch1ldenjoyer thats true. My relationship with an avoidant was hell

[@EricScofield22]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

[@KennyChensey]

I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

[@EricScofield22]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?

[@KennyChensey]

Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@EricScofield22]

Thank you for this valuable information Ken, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@matthewoconnor5838]

Going through the same but almost 2yrs now.

[@alex_6911]

First Comment haha! Coach Lee you're the man. You helped me alot to heal considerably after my 3 year relationship ended. It's been 6 months and it's still hard for me some days. Especially when i know propably she aint coming back. I reached out around the 6 month mark and she replied, but was very generic overall and didn't carry the conversation further. Had she missed me enough, she would grab the opportunity to reunite with me, yet after all these months she didn't. I ain't saying that the possibility doesn't exist since she does watch my stories and hasn't blocked me...yet. I gave her her space telling myself I'm giving myself the best chances to get back together. I'm not willing anymore to wait. I will leave this matter to chance and what universe will make of it. I don't blame you for this outcome, you did warn us it doesn't happen everytime. I guess, the house of cards analogy in life really applies. You do your best everyday to help people in need. I'm gonna carry your lessons forever in my heart. There was a road of disgrace. But you showed us another way. The way of dignity. Had it not been you, i dunno if i could survive the breakup. You saved me...Thank you!

[@Nashvillethegoqt1234]

7 months now with my break up .. she blocked my number a couple of months ago and didn't try anymore she's completely a different person now .. cant do anything but move on .. she's must be happier since she didn't give our relationship a second chance .. life is tough lol

[@alex_6911]

@@Nashvillethegoqt1234I understand your pain but hear me on this. Let the fact that you've tried everything, give you inner peace. Actually what hurts the most after the breakup besides the memories together, is the feeling of guilt. That you blame yourself for them breaking up with you or when they don't come back. Like it's your fault she didn't return or sth. Like there is something else out there, that you didn't try. I was there, i felt it...don't fall for it...PLEASE! Unless you were a horrible person to her, or cheated, mistakes in general are to be made. You are a human beeing after all. And if the other person doesn't accept mistakes or shortcomings from you and immediately threatens the relationship at any given time, they are disgusting and horrible people. In this case you should not want them back...EVER! No contact is the ultimate test of faith. If they return, they possibly reflected and remembered the value in you. If not, actually they are not worth hurting over, although i know you will continue to hurt. A day will come when all of this will come to an end! We're in this together. Stay strong brother!!

[@Gbb93]

Hey, Alex! I read your message and can relate to you. I’m going to tell you something that may give you some hope. I stumbled across Coach Lee 2 years ago, when my ex suddenly began ignoring me. Ghosted. Even blocked on IG. However, she made a second account that I wasn’t blocked on, and I think there was a reason for that. After not hearing a word for 7-8 months, and basically giving up, I wished her a HB. That was it, and her response was dry like yours was. If she didn’t follow up, she probably didn’t want to talk. Well, 5 months later or so, I ran into her sister but we didn’t say anything to each other. Long story short, we reconnected and over 3 months we got together twice. The last time we were together, I could tell she was fluctuating back and forth by sitting close to me and completely distancing herself. That night I found out she had thought about me missed me terribly all that time (over a year) and was torn between trying again or letting go. Initially she blurted out that we could never, like I was stupid to even consider… but she got quiet and thought maybe we could. So they are sometimes torn, especially if avoidant, and just because they don’t make the effort doesn’t mean they don’t think about you or care. In my situation, the more persistent I was.. the more I think she could sense that I was serious and she felt safer to communicate with me. Def played the “hard to get” game with me to a T. But in the end, her fear overwhelmed her even though she claims to love me, and I’m happy to know that. And even though she and I (your ex and you) may never be together some day, they probably still think of you. I hate it, but sometimes love isn’t enough. Especially for Avoidants. They are a complete enigma and run away from those they love the most. Anyways, long message but I thought that might give you some hope. You need to let go, though, and put it in “gods hands”. If she loves you enough, maybe she will overcome the hesitation.

[@walkertranger5746]

@@Gbb93I can relate Almost identical Sounds like we all fell for a dismissive avoidant

[@Gbb93]

@@walkertranger5746 Yep, most likely avoidant! The only thing one CAN do is let go and let god. Either they come back on their own or they don’t. I’d rather wait for someone that’s completely sure about me.

[@realMCcoy56]

Im a week into no contact. I've been working overtime and also hitting the gym every day. Please, like so i can update, stay strong everyone 💪🏾

[@pwaceke]

Stay strong for yourself

[@realMCcoy56]

I've been on a workout rampage since I last commented, "I'm feeling good and looking good. I am really enjoying the attention I'm getting, I really don't care if she contacts me anymore 😊

[@hvirus1]

@@realMCcoy56Good for you 👍🏼

[@MistaMagee]

@@realMCcoy56did she contact?

[@Annihilatr_]

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[@superjoshlopez]

My ex broke up with me 7 months ago. I went straight to no contact. Didn’t accept bread crumbs but wasn’t rude. Completely took control of my life and gave her my silence. While working on myself and even started talking to someone new. Tell me why today. I received a call from her crying saying. I miss having you by my side and I can’t take your absence anymore. She said she needed answers and didn’t understand how I didn’t fight for it. I expressed. I accepted the break-up even though I never agreed to it. But had to just accept it. I ended up getting interrupted by clients calling me. So I expressed. I had to go and continue to work. Left her without closure. Even though she wanted more answer of why I walked away. Stay strong my friends.

[@dianatalida]

What do you mean you did not accept bread crumbs? What happened?

[@superjoshlopez]

@@dianatalida When she would text me. It would be to share odd posts, or just saying she wanted to check-in. I wouldn’t reply to those. When she called. It was nothing significant so I kept our conversations short. I wasn’t rude. But just had to focus on healing.

[@Qwerty-2812-m3s]

@@superjoshlopezare you getting back together with her?

[@kevinkurgansky4479]

Are you acting this way cuz you don’t want her back? Or you’re just not ready to try to move forward with her again?

[@dianatalida]

@@superjoshlopez did you reply to more significant texts? Or of she called you, didn't she ask about why you were not replying to her posts? What would you say?

[@jamesspeed5744]

I never thought id see content like this out here. I’m soooo grateful to have come across your stuff. My ex broke up with me a month ago, been in no contact for 3 weeks, I’ve felt a total energy shift from the start to now I feel like I’ve got power from this. She still has my passport but there’s noway on this planet I’ll ever go out my way to get it now, I feel she’s breadcrumbed me with a few things but staying the course guys. At a point now where I don’t think I’d be bothered with her at all but what this has taught me most is the improvement on myself has been astronomical. It really has, shout out to everyone staying the course. Coach Lee…. I appreciate you!

[@jamesspeed5744]

@maxsheerin8219It is. I agree with you but I also feel she’s trying to play a game and bait me. No thank you I’ll pay for another one than play games. If you want to message I’m not hard to contact. Staying true to the no contact. I don’t need the passport just yet

[@sloanmagnum5009]

So, you only decides to improve yourself after your ex left? Why not while you were together?

[@sloanmagnum5009]

@maxsheerin8219 I didn't ask you. Don't speak for other people. Know your place real quick boy

[@lornemalvo565]

Same here.

[@LilLucky2012]

I hope you got your passport back 😢

[@pppaaattt4671]

Agree, my presence didn’t keep them with me, my absence won’t either. No Contact works when you use the time to heal and move forward. I love myself too much to use NC to hope to get a man back who didn’t see all the good I had to offer. Don’t be an option in someone’s life, make room for your soulmate to enter your life/heart. ❤

[@osvaldoruiz3826]

Coach Lee is the Bomb , people listen to him. Dont break NC , The hard phase is the first 2 months , once that time pass if you sometimes feel the urge to brake NC you will be talking yourself out of it, cause believe me it will feel like you arebraking something that cost you lots of efforts to build. Coach Lee Thank You sr

[@Kelllllyyyy.]

It’s crazy I started watching coach lee back in November 2023 after my breakup in late October. 9ish months later and my avoidant ex reached out to me today. Never thought that day would come but I don’t even want him back. All the time apart plus therapy helped me to realize I deserve better. And thank you Coach Lee for your videos, they kept me going and I’m so much happier and grateful to be on the other side of things.

[@randomuser5442]

All hopes are lost in my relationship. I am starting radio silence from today. I hope it works :(

[@Kelllllyyyy.]

@@randomuser5442block them and move on, you deserve better ❤, it may not feel like it now but trust me you will understand a year from now why it was meant to happen

[@robpz448]

Bro. That hair is tough. 🔥

[@Mskesia4ever]

😂

[@starr970]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Wizard-Girl9]

I like his hair this way - compared to old videos! Coach is the Bomb 💣

[@pwaceke]

tough like his talks😊

[@maximemichel6246]

1 year today. Thank you for your work, it helped me through these past 12 months.

[@MDDR-io7nh]

Folks, PLEASE listen to this man! He literally saved my life! He is the best there is. Thank you Coach Lee, without you i wouldn't be here. I can never repay you or thank you enough. i have recommended your channel to everyone who needs to hear your wisdom ❤

[@MojRa]

Thank you for all you do ❤ I am heartbroken 😢 Broken promises hurts 😢 I feel so lonely 😭 I went quick NC. I am anxious as personality and it’s so hard for me. This loneliness it’s unsupportable. Tomorrow I have funeral of my nan, who raised me and was like a mother to me. It hurts, a lot 😢

[@ramoneprimous1450]

I am so sorry to hear that can I hear your pain.

[@gregggaldo9181]

I'm sorry about your nan....

[@LiamFisher-i5q]

These videos really help me, I did 30 day no contact, my ex reached out and bread-crummed me. I fell for it and we started speaking for another 2 weeks, hours and hours of conversation on the phone, but was so certain we wouldn’t be back into a relationship. This week, I fell again for the breadcrumming and we became intimate after it they said “I feel like I can move on now”, I’ve gone back into NC on day 3. Keep pushing through guys!

[@miatalife94]

I did the same thing, 3 weeks NC and then I reached out we met up and spent a few hours together but still she wanted to move on. we texted for the next two weeks and she kept blowing me off on lunch dates so I told her we couldn't stay friends like this but I wanted to stay in touch because she said meeting would be to emotional and painful for her, a day later she blocked me on everything. now two weeks later I sent another text saying I hope she's doing well but no reply. it's a hard road, we we're together over a year and I bought a house for us to move into.

[@LiamFisher-i5q]

@@miatalife94 how’s things? I’ve come back out on NC, been spending time together like we were in a relationship, meeting new friends together, booked to go away with our new friends then yesterday said “I just don’t think I can be with you” 🤦🏻‍♂️😂😂😂

[@miatalife94]

@@LiamFisher-i5q that's shitty, still haven't heard a peep and still blocked. pretty sure women promote being friends to help themselves get over the breakup but I'm not giving her that, just letting her go on

[@LiamFisher-i5q]

@@miatalife94 Haha, yeah I agree, it’s hard especially when both families are Involved, but I’m not being a mug 💪🏽

[@MrCodiez]

I’ve been in no contact for about 5 weeks now and I can feel the energy shifting, I know I have more power, I know it was her loss, and my thought process right now is that she would be silly to not comeback 😭😭 I will keep this updated as time progresses

[@sloanmagnum5009]

Out of curiosity, how is it her loss and why would she be dumb not to come back?

[@PB-md3nt]

Day 60 here, she's come back twice during NC bouts of 52 and 47 days in the past with me. Stay strong, and keep us updated. I'll do the same.

[@MrCodiez]

@@PB-md3nt what type of reach outs were they? Breadcrumbs?

[@PB-md3nt]

@@MrCodiez Yes they were breadcrumbs. Lee is right, you're not going to get a manifesto of their love for you. They are seriously scared to reach out, and are worried you are pissed off or if you'll even respond at all.

[@PB-md3nt]

Also, Day 61 here. She has posted four memes that were totally directed at me on her FB page. Two of them mentioned the fact that she was single or lonely. Stick with NC it works.

[@johnsonwithat2322]

No contact doesn't always work. Its honestly a blessing in disguise though. She loved the fast life and found someone to suit her lifestyle. I'm happy for her. Now its my turn.

[@Threesixtyci]

yeah... mine was like that, too (I'm not happy for her, though...). No clue what she's up to.... she blocked me soon after she sent me her breakup text (now 3 weeks ago) and I'm too lazy (or just don't care enough) to make a smurf fb account...to see whatever global posts she does...(if any; they're probably friend private posts, anyways.) she can go do whatever she wants we weren't exclusive, anyways.. only dated for about 3 weeks... and maybe idk... 5 dates and 3 house visits... went to her church with her even though I'm agnostic...(she even gave me that religious superstitious line about she's gonna save my soul...whatever... I was catholic, once; and I'm tons without sin than she is.) she even introduced me to one of her inner circle of friends... husband, wife, and their kids... one of which who was autistic. I mean.. I thought we'd be going into exclusive status...before long... but nope. She said she was no longer attracted to me for, whatever, reason... in her text message. (probably because I was bored out of my mind at some live music bar; she dragged me to on my Bday... and I don't drink..and never learned to dance... she already knew both those facts....seems like a pretty petty reasons to dump me... ...she cares too much of image.. as if anyone really cares... she's not 25 with some sort of image to protect..she freaking 50....) ehh.. she had all sorts of problems anyways... money issues, 420 addiction, her teenage son was out of control (with the same 420 addiction)... and she was clubbing with her separated (still married) roomate/cousin on the regular. I'm probably better off... she just wants the single life @ 50yo. I think I just gave her the confidence to be wild.. is all. smh.... Anyways... discovered there is a dance studio near my house that teaches country western and Latin dance.... Think I'm gonna check it out. Apparently it's 10 bucks for those like me who have no clue how to dance.... Country is on Wednesdays at 6pm... Latin is on Fridays...same time. She would dance the Comba stuff (or however u spell it). Not gonna lie.. I'm scared shtless going.. and embarrassed.. but frack it...I'm going. Me and my crippled azzed foot.... who knows.. maybe I'll meet someone there without a partner.

[@johnsonwithat2322]

Update: Her new relationship was short lived 😂😂

[@velayatmohammadi2213]

Ppl pls listen to coach lee and take NC seriously I just got back with my ex after a month Thanks man

[@JoseChung21]

And people do not respond to breadcrumbs or insignificant messages. If you do - you really risk getting hurt a second time and extending your heartbreak even further. Stay strong and much love to all of you who are hurting - I feel it too.

[@JohnDon-pj8nv]

Never ever take them back move forward please God, someone else better waiting on you please God😊😊😊

[@robertanderson2289]

If an ex is meant for you, they will surely return. Every ex doesn't deserve a second chance. Was the Plus far greater than the minus? Some relationships are meant for a season; some are meant for a lifetime.❤

[@Ericgodisgood]

My ex said we wasn’t meant to be but unblocked me lol

[@robertanderson2289]

@@Ericgodisgood Maybe you're meant to be just friends.

[@Ericgodisgood]

@@robertanderson2289 yeah but she hasn’t added me but unblocked me in never reach out to

[@KathyMargatines]

❤❤❤

[@JoseChung21]

Coach Lee I’ve seen a ton of these types of videos but your points here are soo profound I feel like each needs a separate video. Very big concepts that are doing a massive amount of good. Those who ease the suffering of others are the most blessed by God. All the best to you and yours!

[@CarolKoussaya]

My ex likes to keep in touch as a friend he doesn’t seem to want to reconcile. I stopped contacting him, as I think he’s trying to use the friendship as a form of healing. I won’t give him the satisfaction. He needs to heal emotionally on many counts

[@LilLucky2012]

Mine does this too

[@majeedmeerasahibu1803]

Thank you sir.. my heart is bleeding. now..but, still got a hope.. .. I always trust that my silence is a nuclear bomb..

[@79thdriftwood]

I did NC to move on for good. 3 weeks later, my ex begged for forgiveness. The breakup was the most painful of all & it was hell & I'm not letting myself through that again so I keep on walking away from him. I forgave but would never forget.

[@pppaaattt4671]

I respect your decision. Why take someone back who left you and take the chance of him/her doing it again IF you weren’t the cause of the breakup??

[@ermatic5416]

Sounds like what I did lmao, I wrote a letter and got a response and thought that was a good sign but it was just closure for her.

[@DestinationX-yf6sc]

If it was the first break up?you should give a chance.3 weeks is not long time

[@rebel99ism]

Coach Lee is rocking the side swept bangs again! Let’s go!

[@CynthiaTomlin-u5b]

It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.

[@CynthiaTomlin-u5b]

Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.

[@CynthiaTomlin-u5b]

I promise you will not regret it.

[@loc2373]

She broke up with me 3 weeks ago after 3 years because I was not so “warm” moving up together. She was constantly telling me that she really wants to live with me and that she with me but maybe I was not showing the same excitement due to my fear of losing my personal space. I texted her yesterday hoping that she may have “broken” but she answered that nothing has changed in her decision. I sinked further after this…

[@marlenapar7275]

You just want different things. Three years and still not ready to move in together? Better let her go and let her find someone who would meet her needs. And you find someone who also values their personal space.

[@KennyChensey]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@Ken_Johnson]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but I couldn't just let her go I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back.

[@KennyChensey]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@Ken_Johnson]

Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@KennyChensey]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@garfieldmitchell3092]

Coach Lee, you are the best. I followed your advice and now I have a more beautiful, wealthier sexier ..... all things better partner. I have not contacted her for 18 months. She has now started visiting my parents house. I messaged her accidentally yesterday, I was forwarding a message to all the contacts in my phone and did not realise that she was still there. She responded with three messages, which I deleted without reading. I am in such a better place now. Even got a promotion at work. Thanks for helping me through what was a rough time. I wanted to buy your product as payment for your help but somehow could not from the UK. Hope you resolve that issue so that we can buy your stuff from here. Thanks again

[@justinelalog6057]

"Commercial over." Lol!

[@PB-md3nt]

Coach....Can you do another video with actual dumpers reaching out to their exes after No Contact? The video you did awhile back was something that I found very helpful and got me through a lot of dark days & nights. I held out and she came back while I watched those videos.

[@brianbak6405]

I see this No Contact almost as a martial art move.! You do this like Autopilot when you see the knife is on the sideline.! This way you counter the knife and get out without dying by their hand. Ore get caught by blade and bleeding out.. keep quiet. Keep distance reflect on yourself. Who am I and what do I want? Have I put this other person on the pedestal can I do better after the 30 days? It’s almost like alcohol it has evaporated and you have only the liquid left. you are stronger than you believe you are.

[@Horus1133]

Thanks for helping me through the past couple months

[@MrC5vette]

Thanks!

[@SenthilKumar-f8f]

Hi Coach Lee, I've watched several of your videos, and I feel you often highlight the emotions and desires of someone going through a breakup. I’m curious to ask: do your insights apply specifically to Western people, or are they relevant to other nationalities as well? I haven’t noticed any comments or mentions about this in your videos. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you, and keep up the great work!

[@ThePatricenice]

fabulous advises ...this is pure gold ...bravo

[@annak9922]

My problem is solved. During no contact, I fall in love with Coach Lee.

[@geraldinepepito5289]

😂

[@GibranEscobell]

Got a succes story for you all . She came back but she was doing no effort and being crazy about imaginative, always thinking about the past. I got a 19 year old now after my ex left again after she came back, im 31. Also my ex ex the one before is back in my life haha. Life is good. 2 girls, no drama so far haha. Back in school i was probably the lowest math score in the classroom, i had to do a special test or I would fail school, hired private tutors etc. 3 years later i got 100 in algebra class. 100 in all the class. Life always turns around if you keep looking my friends. Doing no contact helped me heal faster from my breakup and date other girls. I did get my ex back the first time but that does not mean she was ready, some people beed to heal their past traumas before starting relationships so getting them back is pointless if they are the same person.

[@vasilisvks1448]

My ex broke up with me a month after my mother died. We were 4 months together and everything went seemingly perfect she even mentioned how happy she was that she was with me a week before she dumped me. The excuse was that we see things different and that wont workout in the future. How someone that seemingly cared could leave you battle two losses and a very major one and not even try if they mentioned the relationship was perfect. I cant handle both :( its been 2 weeks now and i broke up nc only once just to see how she is. never begged or anything. Now im keeping no contact seriously i really hope we get back together life cant suck so much as it does now :(

[@scorcher46]

Praying for you brother don’t break it again

[@Annihilatr_]

don't break it again,let her feel your absence,let her realise what she has lost

[@StephenSeto]

I haven’t even seen the video and I like it already

[@grilledcheese9297]

It’s been 3 years bro, she’s missed me moved on and forgotten. Destroyed my life and completely got away with it

[@duxmealux281]

Can you do a video about getting yourself back, not your ex back.

[@pppaaattt4671]

Great suggestion!! I have learned after a breakup not to use NC to get him to miss me and possibly come back. I use NC to heal, focus on me and allow ( If meant to be) my person to enter my life the chance to be a part of me. Life’s to short!!

[@bear11344]

I would like to hear everyones thoughts on this: Yesterday I just broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months. I really did not want to break up with her at all because I still love her. But I had to because she was not treating me right. Our relationship has been toxic and I feel that she does not care anymore. We had talked so much about improving ourselves and our relationship but nothing really has changed on her part. I still love her and still want to be with her. But our relationship will never work the way it is going and the way that she treats me. It has affected my mental well-being for a while and I've told her. She says she is trying to change but I don't see her putting in effort. Is no contact the best way to go? I'm really tempted to send her a text, letting her know I still love her and when she's ready to talk I'll be here and that I'll always be here for her.

[@lateashaevans4579]

Tell her how you feel for real and if it dont work out at least you told her how you feel and wanna be treat if she don't change you will find someone that will care about you and treat you right

[@_Diaryofwealth]

When you do the breakup it's your responsibility to reach out honestly u dont expect the dumpee to reach out when they know what you need is space

[@Aarajda]

I agree with ^, as the dumper it’s really your own part to do the initiating, NOT her. It was your choice to break-up, therefore it is your choice to come back and reconcile. Idk the entirety of your situation, but to me how I’m reading your message sounds like miscommunication. Maybe she is showing effort in the way SHE knows how to, but it isn’t deemed enough to you - have you ever spoken about this? And that’s nice that you’re able to remain civil after doing the breaking up - most people tend to get cold.

[@Caramelinfused]

People are so resistance minded in these comments reprogramming your mind isn’t easy but dwelling in negativity is way worse let’s detach from outcomes guys

[@samdath3439]

Slef belief is important to getting your ex back.

[@thatssojasmine.]

Can you do more of this type of videos for people in a marriage but separated in the process of divorce

[@Balzzack]

Coach lee !

[@helenemakuch8366]

Yes please for married people that are separated!!

[@supratimpattanayak1313]

Your hairstyle is awesome Sir ❤

[@Stirredupagain]

Coach Lee you're the bomb! Thank you for these video's. You're awesome 😊

[@amrei9760]

Your videos are helping me so much going through my current breakup (as dumpee). But they are also leaving me some kind of concerned if I will have to dump someone sometime in the future 🙃…

[@misslucky93]

I broke up with my boyfriend. I had enough of not appreciating me or cared enough. He was shooked that I did it to him. I did NC for 14days now. Her sister reaching out to me asking my home address and my ex boyfriend was the one asking for it.

[@BigTD]

Unfortunately not ignoring my ex has been very bad in my case. My ex started using me because of my good nature, going hard NC ignoring her until I see significant messages from her.

[@DestinationX-yf6sc]

Block her bro.i was in same situation she breadcrumbs or insignificant messaged me and i responded all.when she feels i want her back she pulls away and blame me.the access anytime they please boost their ego.just block.if they want you back they will find a way.i know one of my exes did that by email

[@realeljaguarmusic]

Been a week, woke up today and reached out 😪😪

[@marisolvaniabonampak359]

Noooo

[@මලින්දසමරසිංහ]

You are 100% correct Sir

[@DanielRodrigues-fz9xi]

Great coach Lee!

[@amyrowe8014]

I walked away a year ago I’ve not contacted him and I won’t !!!! I love myself more than I love him

[@Xur18]

I’ve watched a ton of these but something I’ve noticed in the comments is that I never see ANYONE talking about this working lol it’s always someone saying they’ve started this but nothing coming of it

[@katelynluna5912]

Coach Lee. He broke up with me 2 months ago and said he still loves me but doesn’t want to fight for the relationship. He thinks he is better off alone. No contact has been broken a few times but we still have each other’s locations on. Do I need to turn mine off? I just want him to feel my loss, regret his decision, and fight to work things out again…

[@scorcher46]

Yes

[@Caramelinfused]

New subscribing I’m here to learn really ❤

[@mrbvr3013]

I messed up chasing, I broke no contact after a week, Just said nice things I loved her, she know that, Thats the issue Now im blocked

[@ThePatricenice]

Have you ever felt like you've been hurt before? By the ones that said they only loved you more? Inflicted pain and scars of sorrow Like an empty shell I wait for tomorrow I sit here wondering why you walked away Did I ever do you wrong in any way? Was it something I said to you that made you change? There is no more sun, there is only cloudy days Yeah What goes around will come around and come back and get yah What goes around will come around and come back and get yah Have you ever felt like you've been hurt before? By the ones that said they only loved you more? Inflicted pain and scars of sorrow Like an empty shell I wait for tomorrow I sit here wondering why you walked away Did I ever do you wrong in any way? Was it something I said to you that made you change? There is no more sun... there is only cloudy days

[@claudinemontreuil747]

Good job coach Lee, god bleed you💕🙏

[@TruckerMontana]

I was with her since I was 15. We are 29 now with 4… FOUR CHILDREN!! We separated for 6 months I was a wreck my head wasn’t in the right places. We didn’t have GOD in the relationship at all. The enemy was in control and he didn’t want what god had planned for us. I took the time to get myself together as a man, I worked on improving myself on all things that I lacked on. YESTERDAY she became my WIFE, never give up work on improving yourself she’ll eventually come around. What’s meant for you fellas can’t be stopped by ANYONE. GOD has a plan be sure to follow his instructions. These videos did help me get through my breakdown, remember to stay positive, work on yourself, and definitely PUT GOD AHEAD OF THE SITUATION HE WILL SEE YOU THROUGH IT. Good luck fellas🙏🏽💯

[@RealCoachLee]

Please email me your story! [e-mail]

[@melissablakeman2659]

What if you broke up with them now you regret it. But they've blocked you on everything?

[@RealCoachLee]

Old fashioned mail or email. Apologize and ask your ex to consider talking you back (or speaking with you). That's all you can do.

[@cassiewilliams2041]

Call from a phone number that he doesn't know

[@heisenbergx7011]

Thank you so much Coach Lee! you helped me a lot during my break up last December. We've been together for 7 years but LDR happened. Since January I did everything you said and did not initiate any contact. Every weekend she started asking for some favors but I cut the conversations short. February came and I met a wonderful woman, the day I posted her in my IG story is when I got the regretful message from my ex. Trust me guys it's hard at first but you'll get through it. My goal at first is to get her back and now I don't want anything to do with her. I felt alive again and travelling to different countries with my new girlfriend. Goodluck everyone we can all get through this ✅💯

[@ERYInTrance]

Hi Coach Lee, does not accepting her request to be friends = not giving her closure / Unfinished business? We were in a LDR for 4.5 years and she wants to be friends and even go travel together. Broke up because of distance mostly; she wants someone closer. She said me moving to her country does not do me any good, be it salary, work culture and benefits. And she thinks she has limited work capabilities to move to mine. She said she can still accept if we are LDR in same country but different cities. Also we are both females which made it hard too. She also said she wants to go out there to find out what she really wants (be it relationships, anything) and try on things she has never done as her parents tied her down, are strict and protective.

[@GlamCam84]

Thanks Coach Lee. Glad I foud you.

[@foodbug]

I was dating this one woman for about three months or so. After our first date, she went on vacation for about two weeks and I waited for her to come back. We went on another date. Then I went on a vacation and she waited for me too. We went out again after. We went out in a total of five dates and after that she texted me a day after my birthday and said she didn’t feel the “spark” and “wished me luck to find the right person”. I genuinely thought we were a good match. We laughed together a lot and enjoyed each other’s company and we both treated each other fairly and nicely. It’s been about 43+ days of NC. It’s been still difficult trying to move on and I’m really trying but if she said that is there absolutely no chance she will come back?

[@AineeZahra-ww5sk]

Sir you r great❤

[@leegarethbadenhorst9606]

what if you're both doing no contact?

[@sweetchinmusic99]

Comes in waves , getting better but once a week I have a day where it feels harder than anything . Haven’t spoken in 6 weeks couldn’t pull back because I was blocked as soon as she sent the message . I want to be patient but at the same time do I want to feel this pain anymore ? Is it worth it ?

[@coachaceofmen]

THANK YOU COACH LEE.

[@rajwinderkaur7786]

I know his inner feeling, what type of relation he wants. I am not so anxious, so I am silent. Don't worry message or call I will not send him.

[@rajwinderkaur7786]

Suppose he comes I will not believe on him.

[@jctealover1]

My BF of ten years started moving his things out of our apartment. He said he didn't want to be in a relationship, and he can't give me things I want in life. I found out he was taking an Uber to a woman's house. He told me everything about this woman. He told me where she worked, lived, what she does for a living and even how many pets she has. I told him he was a psychopath for cheating and telling me about the woman. He still denied being with her. After a few months she posted a video of the two of them kissing. She's not attractive and has horrible teeth. He seems to be trying to make me jealous but that turns me off. I told him to get therapy because he has low self- esteem. I asked him why he told me everything about this woman and he said he thought we could be friends. He came back to me twice crying saying he lost me and everyone but went back to this woman. It's just insanity! I guess he thought he was going to have his cake and eat it too.

[@wafabhatt9108]

Just block him. He is a liar and a cheater and wants to use u

[@drowninginapplesauce]

It’s been almost 17 months since she left. I still miss her every day, and dream about her every night. I love her with my whole heart and want her back. I truly believe she was/is the one for me. I’ve been doing NC and it hasn’t helped. What should I do? I feel like I need to at least make one final attempt to show her what she means to me before I give up on this life with her. How can I bring her back into my life?

[@wafabhatt9108]

If u want 2 try 1 last time js Do it. So that u Dont have to regret later on

[@wafabhatt9108]

U Cant force someone to stay in ua life.

[@kieran2902-r5c]

After 17 months, please try and move on. You are worth more, if she can't see your worth and value, she doesn't deserve you! You have to try and detach from her or you'll never be free and happy.

[@lucabilly8433]

Been there: 1 year and two months. I prayed every single day, cried almost daily and then one day , as i was driving home, I said to myself: “you’ve done everything you could! Please try and be happy. You owe it to yourself”. I feel at peace since then. Let go of it, let it go slowly so you can live. Trust me, the universe has a plan for you, just surrender yourself to it. Let all of it Go! Love will find its way back to you but first you have to let it happen for you. Have the courage to release all the grief, the longing, the pain. Take that step and you’ll see what i am talking about. My tears, the ones I cried for my ex, have created oceans… only i know how my grief swallowed my soul. I just couldn’t carry it with me anymore. So I’ve let it Go…

[@wafabhatt9108]

No use. He already with another girl and he said he loves her. I blocked him.

[@BEASTFUNNY-10MM]

Just move on Am here for you

[@wafabhatt9108]

@@BEASTFUNNY-10MM I m

[@Ericgodisgood]

Coach Lee I left her alone she unblocked me like my post that’s how I no I was unblocked in she hasn’t like anything in a while should I block her I stopped begging or should I stop posting things public on Facebook so she can see my story is private but my post are public

[@mjo954]

Please help! He never verbally said , " we are broken up". Instead he said that I can reach out to him but he would not initiate text or calls or reply back to me smh. I told him that sounds like a one-sided relationship and he gave me a thumbs up😢

[@Jvega001]

We broke up back in May, she wanted me to work on myself, we didn’t talk until the end of June, we started hanging out again in July for the whole month, but we we had two arguments, beginning of August we had a show to go too, we had an argument at the show and she left me and blocked me it’s been 4 weeks and it still sucks.

[@jini9755]

I need a coaching session, I can afford one of your coaches, but not you. Which coach would be the best for a LTR/LDR?

[@jrodirizarry]

Coach Ken is great

[@Grumpydog43210]

She left me at the beginning of April. In the first time I was begging and pleading because I didn’t know better. Since 8 weeks I am in NC and now she contacted my mother to ask how I‘m doing. I my opinion she is just doing it, to get sure that I am over it, so she can go on. It is just to calm down her guilty conscience. What do you guys think ?

[@kirkmisso6448]

In cases where you are engaged, and the fiance gets cold feet “I’m just not ready for marriage” and the relationship was fantastic up until that point, what are the odds that they’ll come back?

[@rxsx123]

Great video, Coach Lee! I was just beginning to feel some doubt after handling the break up gracefully and respectfully declining to have a “final talk” during the break up, but watching this video made me feel like I made the correct decision. It’s been 16 days NC and some days like today are so much harder than other days but I know I can just turn to your videos when I feel that heaviness on my chest and the need to reach out. Thank you so much!

[@Julieanne722]

Hi there! Just watched a few of your videos and really learning about my mistakes in a relationship w an avoidant partner. My problem is when he’s avoiding me I’m assuming he’s over the relationship and I end things or ask him if he wants to leave. This was his last text to me…do you think there’s still hope? “I didn't say i wanted u out u said that I never said stop texting me or any of that U said that all by urself I think we need to just give each other a break for a bit after this one honestly now cuz I d9nt want either of us getting upset at each other it's unnecessary”

[@livschitz6545]

He called after 3 weeks from no caller id a few times and right after a 5sec call from his number which he coldly denied when i texted “you called?” And said it was an accident. After a week i had two missed calls from him where i can clearly see his number. I missed the calls. Called an hour later from fear of losing the moment he ignored me since! It’s been a week! Not a peep! Make me doubt he even saw my call back We were best friends for 8 years and it was a big love with no progress. This is not our first breakup but def a serious one this time. Why would he ignore my call tho?! It’s so frustrating and not like him at all! It set me back on my healing and im just plain angry and confused. Are we supposed to act like it never happened?! Help!

[@Novis_Maya]

@@livschitz6545 he is seeking your attention which he knows he has cause you called back n he missed it n did not bother to return it. No one fails to 'see a call' especially if he initiated with 2 missed calls surely. Go NC! For real

[@moomanchu608]

6 year relationship ended almost 2 months ago. 4 years of it was long distance and we grew apart, she checked out 2 months prior to the breakup. What if my ex initially regretted it, then changed her mind, and now hates me/considers me a burden and already started talking to “prospects”. At first she said the relationship was so warm and loving and that i was so good to her but now it feels like she regrets the entire thing 😢. I broke no contact 2 times across a 2 month period. The last texts from her were so cold and almost showing irritation. Im back on no contact but i dont think its going to bring her back. She also knows that I rather not talk too much 🙃

[@LindaC.Priest]

Ugh, I just can't believe my husband left me, After 12 years, he just left me. he doesn’t even want to talk to me anymore. I’ve tried everything possible to get him back, but nothing seems to work, and I can’t stop thinking about him! I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him

[@Toulousegatito]

He said i m the most important person and doesnt want to loose me but we is not sure is in love with me and I broke up and we are i NC.. what should i do? Thx

[@ArchitectTAHSIN]

Hello Coach...My ex girlfriend who has been acting distant for a while after moving into another country for her new job, I and her met in person for couple of times and we had good interaction spending quality time together. However, after both the meet ups, I noticed that after we parted ways, she again got distant and wasn't much interactive over watsapp or video call. This frustrated me and eventually I told her that I need to work on my healing as she is still distant to which she responded with a thumbs up. After that I blocked her and that blew her mind and she broke up with me asking to take a break and heal. How do I handle this situation ?

[@ramoneprimous1450]

I'm so sorry my dude.

[@justinlife39]

Today marks 2 months of no contact and he’s with someone new now. We broke up a long time ago but still had a very on off situation so i was unable to detach from him . Is this considered a rebound or he actually moved on?

[@derricehill3474]

Coach Lee been helping me last 3 months my ex reached out 3 weeks ago and now she calls me every weekend she’s moving slowly and hopefully we will meet up soon She also mention would I like to come over and see her.

[@scholli99]

She left me 1,5 years ago did not contact her. She wont reach out. No contact does not work!

[@lateashaevans4579]

I dont want him back I just wanna know why blocked me we was never friends on Facebook why blocked me to say it was over I never cheated I never beg him I never chase so why blocked me and Noone other women? Yes it been 1 years and 3 months since the blocked and I been in nc

[@melisasmith9485]

Can you do more videos on when they come back and how they act? Mine comes back a gives me mixed singles, and go hot and cold…it’s very confusing. I assumed they would just say I want you back let’s try again but no. This has happened twice now. You say be patient but it’s very hard. More advice and tips would be great.

[@h4zardxd897]

no contact since the breakup, 14-15 weeks and she hasnt reached out. i gotta let go

[@josephkush1032]

Just keep busy and work on yourself. It hurt like hell, but I decided to return the ring I got her, and now gonna go travel.

[@zetrioxpk9716]

What do you do if they want to give you closure

[@oogento]

I have a question, we have new years eve and my friend has requested me to go to his home and celebrate together but his girlfriend is my ex best friend and has invited her also. Should i go? If she didnt care why should i? I go there to celebrate with my friend just like she goes there to celebratw with her friend