How To Stick With No Contact | Help To Stay In No Contact From Coach Lee

[@RealCoachLee]

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[@andyg7460]

I need some advice, my ex blocked me for almost two months than recently she unblocked me but has not reached out, however her 7 year old son used her has been sending me messages i answered some of his messages but not mention his mother (my ex), I do not understand why she is letting her son contact me and yet she does not reach out herself, should I even answer her son?

[@lightningbrigade4722]

@@andyg7460 No. Do not talk to her son. This situation is between two adults. When a single mother breaks up with a man that is not the child's father. He (you) loses contact with both of them. I hope that helps. Good luck my friend.

[@pconnor76]

My ex broke up with me and blocked me straight away.. I spoke on n off for 2 weeks and now am into week 2 of no contact..last time we spoke she said she loved me and missed me still but needed time to heal and not be angry. I feel in limbo.. Im worried I ruined no contact by being a needy idiot for 2 weeks prior.. Is this the case.. What should I do?

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@pconnor76 I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's awesome and it has strategies for every situation myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@lilliankillian7366]

Ty coach Lee. No matter what happens you are a great coach and get me through many nights. Ty from all of us who are hurting .still doing n c after a month and a half

[@jordanhoover2984]

I already got my ex back after listening to coach lee a while ago. I still watch these videos just to remember how much he’s done for me. Thank you, coach lee

[@Taran532]

Coach Lee saved my marriage. I am forever in debt to him because had I never heard about the no contact method I would have forever begged and chased.

[@jeffmullins7260]

Just let them be, become better everyday, and when they do come back they’ll be blown away by your new looks and attitude!

[@lzstnzn]

So happy for you!

[@AlbertoMartinez-zj6ey]

Same! It's just good advice.

[@thehavoc6331]

She reached out after a month, but only for friendship. We had a few positive interaction but.. I messed up by showing her how hurt I was, and she blocked me and told me we're done I don't know what else to do, but I still want her back, can someone please help?

[@lightningbrigade4722]

I was dumped by my girlfriend and I went into NC right away. When I have a weak moment and want to contact her I go straight to coach Lee's videos to regain my strength to carry on without contacting her.💪

[@chocolatesyrup3063]

Let me know if she contacts you, I just recently went on NC I need encouragement

[@lightningbrigade4722]

@@chocolatesyrup3063 Last week she contacted me through text. She asked about my parents. I texted back and said. "Good" . I asked about her kids and that was it. Last Friday I wished her a good Friday and she responded by saying Thankyou. It was a month of no contact when she texted me. I never asked why she ghosted me or begged her to come back. I didn't even say. "I love you!" I kept it simple. Now I'm back on No Contact and I'm done playing games.

[@chocolatesyrup3063]

@@lightningbrigade4722 Fr in my case I made the mistake in begging her to come back… saw her yesterday to give her her things and she told me she never wanted to see me again or here from me “get out of my house”… I’m no longer going to contact her or check on her but I hope I still get the chance to have her come back and I make it right… but if I can’t I’ll face that reality and move on

[@lightningbrigade4722]

@@chocolatesyrup3063 I feel your pain.

[@steviee4787]

Stay strong brother!! It genuinely works... but maybes by the time she comes back... you'll have moved on 👌

[@naturefacts1001]

I begged my ex-boyfriend to return after he broke up with me. I tried everything and then I came across some great advice here on YT. It was on a channel called exreturno or something like that. Anyway I did everything I could to stop him from telling my friends things about our relationship that were completely false, but it didn't work. Five months later, I contacted him again to confront him about it. He responded by claiming there had been a misunderstanding and promising to clear things up by speaking with them again, which he did. We talked nonstop that day. We discussed everything. And I'm sure that as soon as we both felt our feelings again, we both understood how incomplete we would be without one another.

[@naturefacts1001]

​@FreeBean Good thanks: we're still together

[@susananavarrete2801]

@@naturefacts1001 congratulations! I’m happy for you 🥲

[@briannab7613]

what did you say when you messaged him after 5 months

[@dannymcelhinny490]

HOLY SHIT!! I have not spoken to her for almost two months. She reached out this morning. I have not responded or opened it because I do not want her to think that I have been waiting around for her. Regardless of what she says, she reached out and I'm in a better place emotionally and mentally. Coach Lee, you and Coach Ken gave me the courage to stay in No Contact and I'm better for it. Thank you both.

[@knoa1436]

Have you read it yet? What did she say?

[@dannymcelhinny490]

​@knoa1436 I did! It said, "Hey, good morning. Hope you had a decent weekend. Some stuff in my living situation has changed and was wondering if you could take any or all of the animals." Just some context. There are 3 cats and a dog. I already have two dogs and a cat. So, I said, paraphrasing, "Yeah, I can take them. I'll look at my schedule and work out a day with you to get them." She replied, "I would like to do it when the kids are not here." Also, just to clarify, they are not my kids lol. I just said, "I understand" and she said, "Thank you." The next day, she said, "I was thinking. Maybe it's easier if I come to you?" I said, "If that is easier for you that works. Also, next weekend may be best for me. Not sure what day you had in mind." She just said, "The 7th will probably work and just want to do it when the kids aren't around." I just said, "Ok, the 7th will work. They will be in safe hands here." She said, "I know. They'll be good with you. Thank you so much for taking them." I replied with, "No problem." and she replied with a heart reaction on my comment (which I did not respond further as that is a breadcrumb like Coach Lee says.) The other thing is, she did not have to ask me to take the animals as they are not mine. She also did not need to try and make plans to come over as I have her apartment key, I could go and get the animals while she is out with the kids. So, interesting situation but no communication since but she looks at my snapchat stories when she did not really before. So, I'm thinking she needs help but also wants to see me in a weird way. Just sticking with the process and doing my thing. I will be positive and civil for when she does come over. Not putting any pressure on the situation. Will keep you updated!

[@KathrynPosa]

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[@dannymcelhinny490]

@KathrynPosa So, definitely forgot to update you guys. Anyway, she said that her living situation has changed and asked if I could take any, if not all, of the animals. There were 3 cats, a dog, fish, and frogs. So, anyway, I agreed to take them. She wanted to bring them to my place, rather than me going over there. She dropped off two of the cats, on my porch, in one tiny carrier, without litter boxes, food, or any essential items and did not wait for me to get home. So, I just did not react, brought the cats inside, gave then a tour of my house, and went up to Petsmart to buy litter boxes, food, food bowls, etc. The following day, she asked how the cats were. I just told her that they are doing ok and just getting used to the house. Also, I told her that I went to buy some of the stuff that they needed and not to worry about bringing that stuff. Later on, a day or so later, she asked if I could go to her place to get the rest of them. I agreed, but gave her days times that I could do it. She wasn't there and that's ok. I just got the last cat, got the fish, and frogs. I could not get the dog as that would have to be another day. She thanked me for taking them, I sent her $20 for this plug thing for the fish tank, she asked what it was for, I put it in the description through Zelle to avoid confusion and her texting. That didn't work but I told her what it was for. She said, "I don't need that" and I just replied with, "Ok." After that, I have not reached out about the dog since I have 4 cats, two dogs, fish, and frogs and, quite frankly, not my responsibility to figure all of that out. I can work with her, if she has days available. However, not going to reach out just for her to say no. Since I haven't heard from her, I'm guessing she kept the dog and have not seen her on the humane society website. Anyway, fast forward to my birthday and her family reaches out to wish me a happy birthday. She did not and that is ok. I have a weird feeling something could happen here but with recent actions, her only reaching out for when she needs something, and just overall behavior, I mean, you have to take a hard look at this. So, @coachlee, not sure what you can say about this recent experience but yeah, that's the update. I have not reached out to her and it has been almost two months since I last heard from her. I have a weird feeling I will hear from her again. She's also been more active on Snapchat, which is what we used to talk, and taking pictures of her and her kids. Normally, she would just send that to her family or my mom, when we were together. So, I can tell what they are and don't click on them. Think she is trying to bait and I have not taken a bite from her hook. Sure, it's not easy and I miss her kids. However, if she wanted to be with me, something probably would have happened by now. Anyway, if you're struggling, stay strong guys. It's not easy but eventually you start to see things that you did not see before...or you did and just ignored.

[@dannymcelhinny490]

So, update, found out she was cheating on my since at least April. Found out through an ad for the dog that we had that. The boyfriend made the post and it said, "She gets along great with me and my wife." Read that again. I called to get the dog. I now have the dog and good thing because they were not treating her right. So, she's living with him now and possibly married already. Take care, guys 👋

[@larrywinkleman8526]

Broke up with almost 8 weeks ago. Been in no contact for almost 7 weeks. Every day is a battle but I hope anyone who reads this can stay strong. I feel for each of everyone of you but have faith in the process and know we will all be ok one day. Much Love❤️Thank you coach

[@sotamanilorac]

You got this 🌻

[@larrywinkleman8526]

@@sotamanilorac idk why or what made you choose the sunflower emoji. But that was such an important thing with me and my ex and you’re response gives me so much hope and faith. So much love❤️

[@sotamanilorac]

@@larrywinkleman8526 It's a flower that reminds me of my grandma (she passed last year) and yellow always brings me a happy feeling. We got this 💪🏼

[@os3688]

Not even worth stressing brother. I’m on a year NC. Don’t expect to hear from her it will make it worse. Get married to the gym and money. Forget dating for now trust me… i sat around for 3-4 months hoping and praying and wish i had that time back to improve myself

[@lisabaughn]

What a nice message. Thank you! Do you think you'll do one of those nothing-to-lose reach outs, now that you're past the mark for that being okay? Just curious about how you feel and if you want to.

[@offshorefour7911]

After watching these videos nearly 2 years ago after a break up,ex moved on had a baby with new partner and now she is calling me up regretting her move! Trouble is Iv moved on with zero interest! No contact works 💯 don’t lose hope,don’t chase,heal and they shall run back!

[@Yek_]

I'm almost at 4 weeks of no contact, she wanted to be FWB and said she wasn't ready for a relationship after 6 months which is fine but not something I'm interested in. She continued to reach out and want to hook up but I simply denied it respectfully and told her to only contact me if shes ready to commit and work things out. I haven't been checking her socials some days are hard and some days are easier. Your videos have been helping me so much and I appreciate it.

[@Weimerica8841]

Stay strong bro, sounds like you're doing a good job. Don't settle

[@anotherguyIoLoLo27]

You're doing the right thing, keep at it!

[@jassonkhoo1223]

Stay solid brah

[@lisabaughn]

Good job!!!!! What you did is extremely commendable. She was lame for asking you for that. And you recognized it and refused. Inspiring!! 🌟

[@DSMTUNER]

I'm in the exact same boat. She all the sudden didn't want to be in a relationship but wanted to stay best friends and do things together. I said hell no and told her I needed to protect myself and my dignity. It's been just about a month sense she ended things. I know for a fact she will eventually reach out, when is the question. When that time comes I'll be in a different state of mind to decide if I want to go forward with her again. Keep your head up and STAY BUSY. Weekends are the absolute hardest thing because I know she's out partying and potentially hooking up with random guys. It's been getting slightly easier though however I have sudden urges to reach out but I know I will lose everything I've worked for. Dm me if you need anything.

[@os3688]

1 year almost in 2 weeks. I can tell you that no contact helps you not give a f*** about getting back with them. You focus on what’s important. Which is your time and your own future goals. Their not apart of that because they kicked you out. Which is a good thing up to this point if you get here like me. I see a great life without her. The people in my life now fill many voids that she didn’t even fill. If she comes back I will not give in and I will not get back with her. I’m the strongest ive been even before we met. You also may experience other emotional paths (death, losing money, getting a dog, taking a vacation, moving somewhere) that they don’t even know about. Because guess what? They don’t care!!! It’s such a great realization that you don’t want someone like that in your life.

[@larryclay8875]

Next month will be a year of No Contact for me. You're correct that NC makes you realize that it's not worth to wait/reach out for the EXs. It makes me feel like I don't care about her anymore. I've already removed her off of Social Media, phone numbers, etc., so I can focus on myself. I wish you the best, OS3. :) Stay strong.

[@fernandoguillenactor9191]

It’s been 1 year and half for me of NC. It was really difficult at the beginning. But you are so right. NC definitely made me stronger and now I really don’t feel anything for her anymore. Amazing how it works just like that.

[@os3688]

@@fernandoguillenactor9191 stay strong brother. Theres so much to enjoy in life.

[@os3688]

@@larryclay8875 you as well. I appreciate it. We won lottery by being born! Enjoy every second

[@sohaahmed9729]

Hey coach lee. Just wanted to say thank you for doing this for all the heartbroken people. You are greatly appreciated 🖤

[@victorianorris1916]

Your exactly right I’m one of them be blessed!!

[@randallbowden6225]

I second that

[@bradwilliams1869]

yes!

[@bradwilliams1869]

coach should make a social site for all his heartbroken followers to mingle and be there for eachother and maybe find love again.

[@pixotass]

Don't view yourself as heartbroken, the fact that you're here means that you're trying to be better! Start by saying more positive things about you

[@tuanchunfeng8663]

2 months in no contact. She haven’t came back but I already moved on. It’s more peaceful now.

[@Damian-rc8tw]

Another great video. I would also add NC shows you care about your ex and you're respecting their wishes. They are basically asking for space. I've been in NC for 2 months now. It sucks. I want to hear from her so bad. But I realize now if I truly do love her, I have to let her go. I have to give her the freedom to decide if she wants to come back to me or not. If she doesn't, then I only wish her the best life has to offer her. I really mean that. She's a great person and she deserves to be happy. If she ever does return to me I want to be able to show her I'm not the same anxious, needy guy I was. That's why it's important to work on yourself during NC as well, as I have been doing for weeks now. If I ever get a 2nd chance I'm not going to blow it by being the same guy I was. If she doesn't, then it'll help me with a new relationship down the road once I'm ready to date again. Anxiety is terrible. I didn't even realize I had it in relationships until my recent break up. I was so oblivious. When you are trying to make excuses to break NC that's just your anxiety talking to you. I know I've let my anxiety control me for too long. You think you're doing something good, something for someone else. But really it's just to soothe your own anxiety. My anxiety continues to try to get me to do things to try to get my ex-GF back. It's hard to fight sometimes, but I'll beat it. Now that I'm aware of it I just have to learn to fight it.

[@crystopher-aaronricafrente1103]

You got this(: no matter what you’ll be okay even if your not okay I wish you the best and I know you’ll be able to overcome it 😁

[@wayfaringmonk6847]

I've hit about 2 weeks of no contact. At first I was a total mess and tried texting her every day, but this has been helping me. Coach Lee's amazing advice and the people in this community have kept me going. We got this y'all.

[@JKM7694]

Update

[@wayfaringmonk6847]

@@JKM7694 hasn't reached out to me, but I've focused a lot on myself and I'm doing better. I thought it was my fault that our relationship ended, but she's just not mature enough despite being 23. She blamed everything on her past lovers, parents, and even me. There comes a point in life where you just have to accept that you are the creator of your own issues.

[@hitmanlamar8544]

Did u get her back

[@wayfaringmonk6847]

@hitmanlamar8544 Never did. This guy and the comments section helped me heal. It takes time. 1 years time to be back in my prime

[@hitmanlamar8544]

@@wayfaringmonk6847 bro I'm so confused and broken, it would be awesome if u could chat with me brother ? ...

[@Aatell764]

I think the greatest benefit to doing no contact is that it takes your mind off of the whole thing. There's no more planning in your head what you're going to say or do to win them back, because you've made a commitment to not contacting them. Even better if you stay off of social media. Personally I put all of our little memories and stuff up and out of sight. I didn't want to delete the pictures so I moved them to Google drive and deleted them off my phone. What you should really be thinking is that you are moving on, and this is you giving them one last opportunity(that they are unaware of) to basically prove to you they love you and actually want you. Talk is cheap, let them show you with their actions. And if they never come back, it shows you how much you truly ever meant to them in the first place.

[@bartmccoy5111]

I stuck with no contact for 30 days and then said to hell with it and her! I contacted her and said it was over for good. I feel so much better! I just had to get off the emotional roller coaster!

[@johnnyhoun1044]

Coach Lee it’s been over a year and I haven’t got my ex back and I don’t care if I don’t get her back or not. Listen to you makes my heart ❤️ more at peace and moving on a lot easier. Last night Was the first night she reached out. Imma just let coach Lee guide me. Your awesome!

[@MVProfits]

So it took over a year for her to reach back? It just means it didn't pan out with the other ma(e)n she was with. Don't be Plan B!

[@sdfsdgsdfsdf23423423]

It don't work for men when women dump them. Women just move on. Look at all the no-contact success stories. Annoyingly seems like 99% are men who dumped girls, and then crawl back to them because they are needy and can't find someone else. This gives false hope to men who are dumped.

[@gooneekim4072]

What did she said after one year i get curious so sorry?

[@larryclay8875]

She reached out to you and........ (why you stopped right here? Lol) You all together now?

[@pedrof5317]

Johnny your story is encouraging. Its really hard to stay in NC but im glad we have this community and Coach Lee’s videos have been a amazing during this season.

[@davidbradley0477]

Stay strong my friends! I screwed up and broke at 30 days of NC. I reassured her I was still available. I am now 8 weeks of radio silence. It will be six months for the break up. I doubt she is coming back. I am stronger and better that before. I am dating someone new also. Trust Coach Lee and don’t give into yourself. Don’t waste your hard work. Stay strong 😁

[@brandonohara4122]

Update? How's it going now?

[@Alchemist_171]

The most scary comment here. I want her back no matter what.

[@LabradoodleTofuBoy]

I listen to coach Lee every time I feel sorrow (about 3x a day). I rely on his wisdom to regain my strength & hope. If it’s not hope for a reunion, it’s mainly hope to regain my dignity & strength. I actually stopped contacting him for good. It does feel better each day. It feels amazing to let him know “I don’t give s*** anymore & I will be ok ❤️🙏.”

[@Amai__]

Almost 2 weeks of NC, it gets a bit easier but still have days when feel like reaching out. But I keep reminding myself that time is on my side :). Keep up good work everyone who is going trough same!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Time was also on my side. I loved the guy I left but he was a narcissist. Coach Lee helped me thru it (5years) and my Therapist. Good luck to you. Take care..Jann~

[@rezenewoldegebrel6960]

Almost a month No Contact what's so ever it is a win win Hang in there fellas.

[@jerescot]

on 30 days now, it's actually feeling harder now than it did last week for some reason...I was so close to reaching out today, this video came out at the right time!

[@DSMTUNER]

@@jerescot it's too early!! Coach Lee has said this himself. 30 days is not enough time especially if you two had good times together. The moment you reach out you lose everything you've worked for. Keep the power on your side and stay strong

[@jerescot]

@@DSMTUNER thanks for the encouragement, we only had good times! It was a magical 11 month relationship, with so much, love passion and laughter. She broke up with me because of frequently feeling overwhelmed, with her personal life and having to please so many people. But she was so sure that she needed to end it even though she loves me, and that she wanted to move forwards alone 😔 I've accepted her decision, but something about it really feels final..

[@rodrigonatal8412]

It's been 4 months of NC...I feel much stronger now. Thanks

[@kittisou5366]

I keep falling off the wagon, 3 days into NC, but it’s ok bc I’m positive this time I’ll be stronger… after a year I’m still struggling to moved on, now that I know he is seeing someone, there’s no going back with that. I hope everyone reading this, please know I feel your pain and you’re not alone. Let’s stay strong together. God blessed everyone 🙏I love you all

[@retard_activated]

I'm so glad I took your advice and got the last few months I had with my bf before he passed. Really can't tell you and thank you enough how much that meant to me. 💖

[@lifeturnaround8265]

I found out my wife’s affair 21 days ago. I was crushed and lost. It took 10 days for her to ask for separation and 1 day later for divorce. We’ve been married 27 years and it took a ex fiancé 5 months to steal her heart. Limerence and the stages of that will play out but it’s heart wrenching to know it’s happening. I hope one day, with no contact, that the high jacking of my wife’s brain will stop and she will see what she’s done. All the best to you on here with other stories. I want my wife back

[@edt8535]

Dude, my heart absolutely breaks for you, but PLEASE-don’t EVER take that person back!

[@donaldjessome]

You’re in Love with the memory of your wife. You’re in Love with the woman that used to be yours, intimate with you and loyal to you. You are not in Love with a woman that went off and spread her legs for another man. You deserve better. She was lying and deceiving you for months. Women just don’t go and jump in bed with another man they are being sneaky and disloyal to you many many times before they actually succumb to another man’s charms. It seems like the end of the world right now because you are totally and completely heartbroken. There’s no crime in Loving somebody and desperately missing them. Let me assure you there are double the available women now then when you were 25 because women over 50 are divorced, widowed or there husbands are impotent, You are so heartbroken now but stand tall, walk forward . Let the old fiancé have her she’s not worth having. You can still be in Love with the memory, but you’re not in love with the woman who disgraced your relationship. She is not worthy of you. Find a good wholesome woman who will be 100% loyal and respectful of you and your relationship. Time cures all. Good luck, sir. She may very well regret what she did one day, but by then there will be too much sperm under the bridge. Pretend she died in a car accident and you had to have a funeral for her. She’s gone but not forgotten. You actually owe her a dozen roses although you’re not going to give them to her for showing you what kind of person she is now instead of wasting another five or 10 years of your life. be the best that you can be. Focus on your diet. Focus on your weight and exercise. Focus on sleeping properly. Better yourself and this will also help you forget about her and be more attractive to other women.

[@amymitchell1054]

I’m a little over a month of NC. I needed this push to stay strong and not contact. Thank you coach Lee for using your time to help those in emotional need

[@Bigwerk]

Hear anything yet?

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Amy. Keep NC going!

[@Shivani257]

Any update??

[@Juliette277]

Any updates?

[@sarah.marco888]

Coach Lee is the only coach I have been spending the most time on with videos on NC. Others don't seem at par. He comes from a point of empowerment and self respect. I'm new with implementing NC only on 5 days but I do pray it does something.

[@SSpitz16]

Hei How did it go?

[@LabradoodleTofuBoy]

I was at 3 weeks and have been crying so much I think my dog Labradoodle Tofu is tired of kissing me. He's so sweet. When I started crying, he would come over licking my face. Finally, I stopped crying. Let's hang in there! Like Coach Lee said, when they entered our mind push it out. Give a limit how much time they're allowed to be in our mind. We need to love ourselves and limit amt of sadness swallow us. I watch Coach every night in bed lol. His words help tremendously!

[@hillarykittim8186]

Again, I'm here to acknowledge the big impact that this person is having on my life. Keep winning

[@mustafaalazawi599]

I am struggling to fight all these reasons and hearing you explaining them and give counter logical explanations to why not to break no contact is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much coach Lee

[@julenerodney6584]

Today is his birthday and he is just baiting me to break no contact and wish him a happy birthday...I am so tempted..but I'm keeping strong..God knows I miss that man..but I don't want him temporarily, so Coach I will follow your instructions....thank you..

[@kittisou5366]

Keep it up… I feel your pain, let’s stay strong together. One day at a time

[@marinemike1559]

Today is day 92 of no contact. At times I want to reach out, but I won't! God knows I love her, but she needs to realize that and also that she loves and needs me. The only guy that actually treated her like a lady.

[@sandyl618]

Thank you very much Coach Lee! I really needed this video today. I am in no contact for a second time. We broke up in July 2020 after 6 years. I stayed in no contact and he reached out after about 11 months. We were back together until January 2022. Both of our birthdays were in June and it was very difficult not to reach out. I also still have some of his things even from the original break up. I’m hoping for no contact to work for a second time. Stay strong everyone!

[@spencersmith4646]

I've been in no contact for about two weeks. but the more I'm away, the stronger I get 💪 😌 lovein' the videos, though

[@Amazing1h]

Coach Lee's emergency break-up kit and lead coach for calls (Coach Ken). Are both amazing. I just had an hour call with Coach Ken and he is a pro. He gave me even more confidence and comfort than all the hours of Coach Lee's videos I've watched combined. Coach Ken and Coach Lee are both so awesome. Believe in what they say! They have the experience and knowledge!

[@aryaanvivek6521]

you re a life saver .. its been around 40 days since i last contacted my ex and with each day i feel better and obviously i miss her but listening to u really helps me a lot and im still maintaining no contact and im not going to contact her at all .. the ball is in her court .. she is the one who has to make the move

[@relentlessrhythm2774]

Good things come to those who wait. I got him back, and he learned his lesson.

[@yazanalmarzouqi2468]

Am going to write my success story very soon, I believe that wholeheartedly.

[@bradwilliams1869]

as many here i play your material over and over regardless of the outcome it eases my anxiety and pain and keeps me on track for no contact.

[@wildboarm]

Thanks coach. Needed this video. Have been looking for excuses to txt the ex this week but have managed to resist. Your words show me I’m doing the right thing and help me stay strong. Keep the videos coming 👍🏼

[@lisabaughn]

Good job!!!

[@Sihara.Liyanapathirana]

Any update?

[@wildboarm]

@@Sihara.Liyanapathirana yeah, I cracked about a week later and messaged her. Had somethings I needed to say and get off my chest as it was driving me mad. We've messaged each other a few times since and everything is friendly but that's all it'll be now. I'm going to try no contact again now (been 2 weeks). As nice as it is to get a message from her it doesn't help me get over her and I need to move on now

[@Sihara.Liyanapathirana]

@@wildboarm I’m sorry you went through that. My ex said he is open to the idea of a future with me, and he wants to meet me in a few months to see where we are at. Idk whether to trust him on that or not honestly. It’s so hard.

[@benithacalloway8286]

@@Sihara.Liyanapathirana take it one day at a time. Slowly before you accept him back

[@cannabislovers]

I just wanna thank you coach Lee because you have helped me get through one of the hardest times in my life. There was a time in my life where I played your videos everyday and night over and over just to keep me from talking to my ex and get through it and be strong. No contact REALLY DOES WORK for me personally it did help me and I thank you so much for that. I begged my ex for a long time before I decided enough is enough and cane across your videos and followed your advice. Later on I met a guy who is my boyfriend right now that I love soo much and he always makes me feel that he loves me too. My ex who broke my heart came to me and cried so much saying he regret leaving me and we should try our relationship again. I could not get back with him anymore because I don’t love him anymore and love my new boyfriend now. I am so happy and thankful when I look back to those days and I would tell myself that everything will be fine and even better. Just stay strong and stick to no contact. Haha thank you and God bless! You’re a good coach

[@lastjob2011]

Walking into month #4! I repeat my dramatic analogy when I get weak "he ripped my heart out and threw it against the wall." I don't even speak when I see him in church every Sunday. Totally avoid him. I choose ME! My heart is a precious thing.

[@fj4731]

Hi Joyce ..4 month NC and not working ?

[@madgestye1325]

Love this video! I have played it over and over again. It sounds like a synopsis of all of your past videos. Love how you emphasized every single point. Thank you Coach Lee for being there for the broken-hearted. You have literally given me the strength to move forward daily. Don’t know how I would have coped without you.

[@hackfeatherstep9955]

Been 7 weeks of no contact. She started posting on social media about how she hates that her brain wants one thing but her heart wants another and a bunch of other sad stuff…. Makes me want to break no contact but I know I can’t. It’s a special kind of pain that none of my friends seem to understand I’m trying to tell myself like coach lee says. It’s like a cake in the oven I can smell the cake but it’s not done yet I need to let it sit

[@hackfeatherstep9955]

@Filip as much as I want to say yes because I used to check the comments myself for success stories I learned that I don’t actually want them back. She’s started posting more and more depressing stuff talking bad about herself etc she still hasn’t reached out. I met a really nice boy though that’s been super sweet to me and we’re both taking things slow because I told him about the break up. But I’m happy with him and want to see where things go I don’t really think much about my ex anymore, of course I worry about her depression that’s seemingly getting worse based on social media but it’s not my job to look out for her anymore and the door will still be open if she ever decides to reach out, I don’t think I’d take her back but I’d probably still like to remain friends

[@anthonysumbane6773]

From south Africa with love ...i believe in you coach lee ...its been six months since me and my baby mama broke up...i believe in no contact and am emotionally strong..working on myself and archiving my goals♥

[@CliffNdukuya]

If she's from Pretoria forget about her.

[@albertkroker5403]

5 months of no contact it gets easier, as much I vould like to see this no contact work for myself, i think its for the better she doesn't contact me, time will tell. Getting ready to move on .Thanks coach lee

[@GordonPavilion]

5 1/2 months for me…pretty much the same story.

[@Angelsb-ball22]

Can you give us some backstory? By chance did she not want you because she didn’t see you as a romantic partner?

[@biomed007]

The reason NC exists because people do not communicate their feelings anymore. That makes the loss so much bigger. Its been 7 months for me now after a 3 year relationship, and its gone forever. No contact or not, I knew she was gone forever because she was always been cold hearted even when she was not. Better happen now than after marriage. Cold heartedness never changes. But it was my mistake to ever think she was genuine, and it was the most painful thing because she literally uprooted everything we built in one instance. Hope that does not happen to anyone else.

[@Angelsb-ball22]

@@biomed007 my exes parents were in her life to much… she said she lost feelings for me romantically but I was confused as I did most things right and some things wrong… I’m still in college I like to take life a little more seriously not all peaches and cream like she thinks… she wanted a lot of attention and I gave it to her id put down homework and drop all my stuff down so I can pay attention to her… I loved her so much I thought everyday was going smooth… she didn’t trust me because she had trust issues it wasn’t fair because she believed everyone’s else’s word and not mine… We’d go out and I’d pay for everything… id work my ass off she had her drivers license and never drove to my house bc her parents didn’t allow her and she wanted me to talk to her parents about it… I mean eventually one day she’s gonna drive why not right now?!?! I was putting in a 110% she devaluated me because her life was shittier than mine she only had like 5 friends would only work weekends and did not like working I gave her the tools so that way she can fix everything but she didn’t want to help her self… she wrote me love letters all the time and I loved it but is it gonna make my life easier? As far as in money or her visiting me? all she wanted was more more more if she really wanted to spend time with me she would’ve drove over to my house so that way she can spend more time with me… she never had any master goals in mind a future job a goal that she wanted to reach… she doesn’t know what she wants and I realize that I know what I want she was only holding me down but I still would care for her… I’m not saying I’m perfect but I fixed things in the relationship that she wanted me to change and still was fixing them she just didn’t wanna fix anything her self one sided relationship and the only reason I didn’t realize it was because she would cry in front of me and manipulated me even tho I told her what to do she had no motivation to fix things… I got no closure I went to her house and tried to fix things up with her.. 2 weeks I’m telling you she got a new bf the parents were comparing me to him and told me he had a full time job, and he was 26 while she’s about to turn 21… I can’t have a full time job I provided her with the most that I could’ve and my “most” wasn’t enough her parents also showed me pictures of her and her new boyfriend say how “happy” she was… if you had a daughter and she had a boyfriend for 2 years and 2 weeks later she had another boyfriend and you think that’s right ur hella trippin…sometimes I didn’t even wanna have sex and I’d have it only bc she wanted it… she used me in so many ways and now I realize I deserve better… she would tell me in arguments that I could be easily replaced by another dude that wanted to put in more effort but it was always about her and never about me because she never wanted to change… you can’t help a person that doesn’t wanna change for the better she has to much time in her hands never kept her self busy she’s waiting for a guy that’ll just move her out of her shitty ass parents house so that way she can live with him… she depends on a guy to do that for her not her self wrong attitude to have you should rely of ur self for everything not someone else and that’s where I went wrong depended on her for my happiness I didn’t realize it needed to be half and half one day she will probably realize how much of a good boyfriend I was to her but for that day I won’t be around I just need to work on my self for now as I have a dream job and a dream car something she never had herself

[@Angelsb-ball22]

@@biomed007 thank you for the explanation about cold hearted people.. she’s with her new “bf” rn and she could not give 2 shits about me rn… I’m very hurt and sometimes get some ptsd about our relationship some things remind me of her and it sucks but I think one thing people always gotta remember is that you should’ve have to chase true love

[@Duncanexgirlfriend]

No contact doesn’t work with me, the longer you leave me, the more time I have to fire up my Tinder app and find someone to replace you. Out of sight is out of mind, time waits fo no one on this planet

[@_Diaryofwealth]

😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

[@wassabby7365]

Barely winning every single day. Thank you so much for your videos!

[@ecstazyrm]

I hope coach lee is a millionaire because he deserves it

[@wengpatac5536]

Thanks Coach Lee, I'm on 5 weeks of NC. I am still thinking about him 😔 but feelin' more stronger mentally and emotionally now.🙂... Im having more time to improve myself. Keep strong 💪 everyone!

[@niwilliams20]

I can say that I have been doing a lot of begging and pleading and putting my ex under pressure so I’m back into no contact again for the second time imma keep trusting you either way it go I got this ❤️ thank you for videos and keeping people strong once again!

[@nikkiwilliam6600]

Me too, exactly the same . We can do this I promise you. We got this I’m with you ❤️

[@candace7340]

Second time of no contact? Can I ask how long it was you stayed in no contact each time? How long ago did you initially break up?

[@slattslatt]

I broke no contact too after 2 months, don’t break no contact. Coach Lee is right

[@sanotoshiro7193]

@@slattslatt 2 months is so long, and what happened when you broke the no contact?

[@niwilliams20]

@@candace7340 the first time I stayed in no contact for 2 months my ex reached out this my second time so it’s been like 3 in a half months but I been moved on from my ex I decided I don’t want them back thats what no contact does it allows you to process the whole situation where you might want something better eventually instead of waiting around on an ex! I been broken up with my ex about almost a year now…… I do wish you luck with your ex❤️

[@MHcp8]

I find the following things helpful - Make a playlist of these videos and run that playlist whenever you feel the doubts come in. The "just one more day" thing has been hugely helpful more me as someone who already has a procrastination issue 😂, I'm just making it work for me. Redirect any urge for contact onto a friend or family member and pursue them instead. Or if unavailable, write a letter to your ex and destroy it rather than sending it. Finally, I use affirmations like "I owe it to myself to be disciplined" and "feel the fear and the discomfort but do it anyway."

[@mitchy_kles9373]

I understand now why he called me a dictator. I always begged, and won't allow him to break up with me - coz of my fear to be abandoned. But watching your videos made me realized that we cannot force someone to stay with us if they don't want to. Yes, they will stay coz you begged but soon that idea of them leaving you will come up again. It will be a cycle unless you do something to make it stop or change it.

[@semanavidi8694]

You are the most logical relationship coach ever, thank you.

[@perthforme]

I watch coach Lee a lot at the minute. I struggle a little but every time I watch one of his videos I actually gain strength, thank you coach Lee ❤️

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Jimmy Boy 71, get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It will help you. myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@dominikwolski9577]

Thank you, Coach Lee, you’re a lighthouse in a dark forest for so many grief-stricken out there.

[@tanguerogo]

3rd week in NC, and binge watching your videos, as long as necessary. You are so helpful, thanks again!

[@ErikasCorner]

Right on time video! Been close to 90 days of NC for me. Still have my weaker moments here and there but thank you for this needed boost.

[@thepidginguy]

Wow! 90 days while I have just started my journey

[@Weimerica8841]

@@thepidginguy You got this bro, delete it all and find some good books 👍🏻

[@foreverred105]

If you're going through hell. Keep going. - Winston Churchill. You got this my friend. Go another 90 days. Keep going.

[@aisshwaryachandrasekaran1146]

Same here, mate.

[@debbiehadley7892]

70 days with no seriously think they have moved on

[@madhusweetprof]

Hook line n sinker.. superb explanation. To the point n crisp. Girls keep ur self esteem high. There r many fish in d sea. Be ruthless n move on. If u hv lot of free tyme, go to gym, dance zumba, Yoga, spa , cycle out , get Dopamine dose but don't succumb

[@melindalephotography]

Thank you Coach Lee! This has been the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through IN MY LIFE!!!! Worse than my divorce…..I messed up a couple of times b4 I realized NC would be the best thing to do. Now I’m fully committed!!!! Your videos are literally the shot in the arm I need to stay strong when the memories of us haunt me. Thank u, thank u, thank u!!!!! I’ve combed the internet and listened to a loooooot of coaches!!! U are by far my favorite and the most experienced 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@raypeyton8573]

BREAKUPS ❤️🔥 When someone you dearly love dumps you it is like this - like you just finished putting together a 1000-piece puzzle on your kitchen table when someone comes along and wrecks it - knocks the puzzle to the floor and the pieces fly everywhere - under the frig and cabinets - to each corner of the room - you bend over and slowly pick up every piece you can find. Eventually you put it back together as best you can. With time you will eventually see the big picture again - but 5 or 6 puzzle pieces will always be missing and from time to time you will wonder where they could be. - ray -

[@mxfe]

Damn that's beautiful man

[@stephenn77]

Over 90 days and counting! Don’t have hope at this point, so just letting life happen now and allowing whatever comes my way! Feels buried in the past at this point, though unfortunately the mind still ruminates and reminisces on occasion.

[@osvaldoruiz3826]

Same situation here

[@terael5637]

Losing hope is the best thing that could happen in my opinion. Detach from any outcome and you will be alright no matter what happens. Work on yourself and grow emotionally, physically and intellectually. I hope you find peace and happiness!

[@stephenn77]

@@terael5637 Thank you!

[@brandonohara4122]

@@terael5637 absolutely 💯 well said

[@brandonohara4122]

Yeah I'm on like day 60 something. Just over 2 months. Sometimes it sucks but sometimes I'm fine. Weird just being strangers now....

[@findev6330]

No contact for 7 months, feel stronger !

[@ShmoofWB]

Been a month and a half since I lost her (specifically she lost me) and almost a month since I started no contact. I ended up in the hospital after I found out about things, so that didn't help my situation. Then I got sick shortly after I got home and that's been going on for over a month. Plus I got Covid a couple weeks ago. She reached out to my mom at that time to see how I was doing but not to me. I'm in therapy after all that's happened, but at least 90% of it is my own homework. A lot of that has been watching your videos. I appreciate what you do even if I never hear from her again. I have to be strong and patient. I'm worth it: I'm the prize. She gave up on me and it's her loss. It's more than that actually, because of all that's happened I can't even interact with all the friends I've made over the past 5 years anymore. They've all lost me too now.

[@Samx838]

Why are there so many unsuccessful stories in comments? Why can’t I find more success stories? It’s killing me!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Hi Lee! Another great video, and some of this video does pertain to me to a point. I remember the night I left him, and the look on his face nearly made me cry. It was like a bomb hit him, but I did it to SAVE MY LIFE. It's amazing that the man I fell I love with was discarded by me. I thought to myself, OMG, what will he do now? When I heard he married 2 weeks later, I realized what he was and WHY he treated me the way he did. FUTURE FAKED (Engaged) for 5 years is a long time not knowing where we will be living, and not knowing when we could hire a hall, etc.. I did feel like calling him, but thanks to my Therapist and you, it's been well known that he is NOT good for me. I know he married 2 weeks after our breakup, but who knows who he's with now. Thank God I never called or reached out to him, for he would have/could have ruined my life. Thank you again Lee! God Bless You always for helping me SEE THE LIGHT! Love ❤️ you!

[@jarretminor7787]

Starting no contact today, messed up a bit after 3 days, tried texting and talking to her in person but she just got more angry but todays the day I’m doing no contact for good, will keep posted. Wish me luck warriors

[@AntKoo]

How is it going there?

[@benlc9898]

My ex of 7 years broke up with me after a night out with a friend and 2 lads, I saw her with one of the lads 2 weeks after the break up and have been in no contact ever since (3 months). She's now official with one of the boys but more importantly I'm now with a girl who is a step up from her in every way possible. If anyone feels down and like nothing will get better I promise you it will because I was that person before I met the girl I'm with now. Focus on yourself and everything will fall into place. I still think of her but the feelings have turned more into pitying her, I'm sure the same will happen to you all. Stay strong everyone x

[@saonguyen8321]

I’ve been watching your videos for a few days now. I’m using no contact rules the first time last month and he reaches out to me right after 10 days. I keep it super short on what he was saying then when he asked me casual question he didn’t replied for few days then when I replied he didn’t reply until now. I’m back to no contact for second time and it has been a week now. It’s hard. Sometimes I just want to move on because it’s too emotional game. Thank you for being here with million of us who heartbroken coach Lee. ❤

[@RealCoachLee]

Stay strong and don’t contact him again. If you want to move on, then you probably should. I wish you the best.

[@keepgrowing9941]

Yey! Needed this, Coach. Thank you. 😻✨ Attendance Check, everyone,? Say PRESENT 🙋🏻‍♀️☺️☺️☺️☺️🇵🇭

[@donnalmalley5572]

Thank You Coach Lee! Worked like a charm, although it was a little tricky because we live in the same apt. complex! Fortunately we didn’t run into each other! Was only a week and he called me. Taking it slowly but the love is there!

[@79thdriftwood]

Omg, this is empowering!!!! 5 days of NC. Don't care anymore if he doesn't want to come back. I'm taking my life back!!! Thank u for what u do, coach Lee! Ur a life saver!❤

[@bienvile104]

My guy had an roving eye this is his third strike and I’m out! I blocked him on everything! That man ain’t gonna change and that’s fine. I’m glad I found coach Lee!

[@Duncanexgirlfriend]

I didn’t get the birthday greeting , so I take it that they’re not interested anymore, so why should I take them back if they can’t even be bothered to send me a Happy Birthday. That’s show their lack of effort and the times that we were together didn’t mean anything!

[@ags835]

Same with me, it was my birthday 3 weeks ago, and we saw each other 3 days before my birthday. He didn't even bother messaging anything. Texted me day after about some letter he received (we used to live together). How are you now?

[@Duncanexgirlfriend]

@@ags835 I’m sorry to hear that, and that’s a very clear sign that he’s not invested it’s interested in your well-being. I’m doing very well, my only regret was giving him too much of my time and attention because he clearly wasn’t worth it.

[@jamiea2469]

Thank you for posting this Coach Lee! Today has been 5 weeks of no contact. I have good days and bad days. I know this is the best thing to do for myself, and if I want any chance of getting my ex back. Thank you for the encouragement! I was wondering if you could do a video, for an angry ex who dumped you. I did something to upset them.

[@migzm14]

1 month 2 weeks of no contact so far

[@migzm14]

She breadcrumbed on Day 26 of no contact. Kept my reply short and sweet. No questions asked. Wished her the best.

[@katiekat8502]

Thank you so much Coach Lee! After 23 days of no contact with my Ex of 3 yrs, he reached out to me last night! He told me how much he has been thinking about and how this past week he couldn’t think of anything else. What they go through during the stages of no contact is spot on!! I had my doubts bc my ex is so stubborn and prideful at times, doesn’t like to show the world his feelings. But everything that he told me about how he has been feeling and when he felt those things matches up exactly! He told me he misses me so much and still loves me and wants to try again. I told him I’m willing if we can go slow and kind of start over. He agreed. He has been blowing my phone up ever since, like he can’t gets enough of me! He is from Canada and we lived together in Louisiana, when we broke up he loved all the way back to Canada. So this works for long distance as well, if you ever had a close relationship. He is coming down here to visit me soon for a week and then I will go visit him and when we are both ready he will move back in. At first he kept wanting to talk about that rocky last month of our relationship and the things he was hurt about that I did as well as admitting things that he did wrong. He said it was hard to let go of those negative memories. I kept telling him that let’s revisit that at another time and just focus on starting a new relationship with all of the fun and good feelings that every new relationship has. After chatting for awhile he let go of that stuff and relaxed and we are talking just like we used to when we first got together. Stayed on the phone all night long lol We haven’t done that in years. Your emergency break up kit is amazing, but all of the videos on your channel is really what helped the most! I started no contact the day after we broke up thanks to you, so I got mine back much sooner than a lot of people who started late. I didn’t expect this to happen so soon and I am thankful and happy! Good luck everyone, stay strong. Even the most stubborn exes may come back. 😊

[@katiekat8502]

Oh btw, he did do the random first text just to see if I would respond lol started with a meme and a funny comment about it. When I responded politely with haha that’s funny and didn’t say anything else, his very next text was “I am so sad, I miss you and your kids so much!” And it developed from there. After about 6 or 7 texts my phone rang and we talked for hours

[@kagandakenneth9133]

I loved her so much and the best thing I can give her now is no contact she requested for a break and am ready to give her launch time too, I want her back but its worthy not to talk her for her to attach value onto me thanks for your videos coz it showed me that am not alone in this. Good enough I have built my life in business and money was not a factor, I was responsible enough and caring enough for her to prove that I love her good day

[@sonik58210]

Long story short: I am the dumper. I regretted the break up 5 days after I dumped my ex. I reached out and apologised sincerely but she rejected me. After this I did the same 3-4 times with the same result. I think there is no hope

[@nbee6217]

You have to give them time to cool off. Rejection really hurts. Now you are putting pressure for her to forgive you at your time, still all about you. Give her space to heal at her own pace.

[@kittisou5366]

Keep trying…

[@DDBizzle]

I did no contact for 10 days but we have an expensive gig to go to so I reached out matter of factly to see if she would go…. But the instant I sent the message I felt terrible… and all the hurt came back… I shouldn’t have sent it… let that be a lesson… stay no contact whatever it takes….

[@deshuanwilliams8882]

“You have to be a bull in a china shop”. There needs to be a 14k gold statue of this guy somewhere. Good stuff!

[@MikeLouka]

Just gonna share my story as you guys all do. Thank you Coach Lee, honestly man you have helped me a lot! My ex broke up with me on the 3rd of August. I am since battling with depression and being in the worst mental state that I have ever been in my entire life. I do go to a psychologist, I do eat healthy, I do workout my ass off. I can keep on writing things but I’ll shorten this down. She said that our relationship was toxic and that basically I need to heal with myself as I was blaming everything around me. To be honest, I had my ups and downs. I am just a 26 year old trying to figure out life. I was trying a lot, I do love her every second no matter what. I tried texting her best friend once (big mistake) never involve another person, especially her best friend. Anyhow, she’s a great person and she told me to move on and focus on myself. I have tried contacting my ex after 25 days telling her that I will be in a place that we used to go. Her response: I don’t want to discuss anything, so please stop everything that’s related with me and just focus on yourself. It’s been what like 23 days today. I never felt as bad in my entire life. I am still crying from time to time. Coach Lee has helped me a lot. I am just a heartbroken guy that has a lot to learn from this life and from the people around us. If you are reading this, you know where to find me. I wish us all to be with a person that cares for us as much as a mother cares for her newborn baby. 🫶

[@trojanmusic7859]

Any update. How are you feeling brother

[@jaredvaughan1665]

Think of the Prodigal Son. The father did not chase.

[@Kaida760]

Got dumped by my ex gf 3 weeks ago (Some great early christmas gift eh?). She attacked my character, my personal issues. Told me there was no hope of getting back together. I begged. Tried to reach out in other ways. I didn't realize how vulnerable I truly was until it the next thing happened....I tried mutual friends and both of them knew exactly where to hit me where it would brutally hurt. I've gone into NC since I sent an apology e-mail to my ex. I'm stepping back. Analysing the situation in detail since. It was planned out and precise. This isn't a game. It's people's lives and a lot of people treat it like a game. I'm taking my power back and rebuilding myself. Working on myself in general. The LOSS is why you are in pain. Recognise it. Push through it day by day. Ask yourself when you're ready.....Do you truly want this person back? The truth might surprise you.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Altanash, I would definitely recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It is fantastic! myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@jarrodoberg2078]

Update?

[@Kaida760]

@@jarrodoberg2078 6 montbs have passed and yeah. Nothing. I moved forward with my life. Set goals for myself and made new friends.

[@jarrodoberg2078]

@@Kaida760 proud of you! Keep going! I’m only on day 6 of NC and struggling not sure I’ll ever have another chance

[@feebsfilms]

Great video coach Lee! I got your Emergency BU kit today determined that I will either be able to detach and move forward or he will reconsider his choice. I have binge watched your content and it has kept me strong and in complete NC since he blindsided me over the phone with a sudden breakup a little over two weeks ago. We had a wonderful, happy year together but after that long I knew it was time to ask where the future was going. He got frustrated with that and dumped me. None of it makes any sense but I have determined with your help that running after him will do nothing good.Thanks for helping me stay strong. Love to all here going through the awful heartbreak they didn't see coming. I hope everyone who listens to you will keep their self-respect intact, love themselves first and give the dumper what they asked for.

[@ruelpile]

This is the best ex-back channel on KZbin. Great advice.

[@georgesaunders3532]

The more I listen to you and your videos the more I feel the strength to not only follow through with NC, but to actually motivate myself to lead my life based on my terms, and actually detached more from the feelings of her. It's been nearly a week since she ended it, 5 days of no contact, and already I'm looking into myself, and thinking about me now.

[@juniorlugo2814]

Started watching these videos 12 months ago after being dump , 11 months of no contact and i feel a lot better. It gets easier guys i promise

[@Holly........]

Seven months no contact here. Got a text from him: “Feel free to reach out anytime. I think of you often. It would be wonderful to talk to you!” No contact worked! Just not very well for him, it turns out. I’ve moved on.

[@lisabaughn]

Wow. Yep. A lot of these people are going to have to lie in the bed they made for themselves. A lot of us just move on. There's only so long we're going to sit around tortured and upset over them. I'm glad your life is in a better place.

[@ErikasCorner]

Thank you for reporting this. Gives me a glimmer of hope 🙏. Best wishes to you

[@katualfaro5811]

It’s been 6 months of no contact for me and he hasn’t ever text me. Maybe there’s still 1% hope if it happened after 7 months for you.

[@clairedavis6921]

That's great! I'm happy for you! :)

[@MVProfits]

I like both parts of your story. Thanks!

[@xl4196]

I got my ex back for 4 months. He has a classic avoidant attachment style. I was careful from the time I got the first initial “recontact” text, to when after 4 months I needed to bring up some issues. But I think he can only work on and give energy to so many things in his life. He get overwhelmed and checks out. I watch this now to help me stay in no contact. I gave him all the power with my anxiety after the dump. These videos really help keep you in the reality of the situation. And it’s exactly what I need. Thank you.

[@hellomybaby7486]

Are you together my ex is an avoidant too. Did your boyfriend reached out to u the first time?I know avoidant tend to not reached out or apologized

[@kayhawkins5925]

Got my X back by listening to Coach Lee after two months but now realize the same issues that caused the break up still there and they are his issues that he created and no way that he will change so I maybe the one to end it. He made many promises to get me back but empty words. I am the last on his priority list and feel I have little value So easy for him to break up with me after 15 years so I don't trust him plus just waiting for the pressure to build up as he has too much going on in his lfe so I am the to go person to blame. The honey moon phase lasted a week at the most after reuniting then the same ole same ole ...be careful what you wish for.

[@MVProfits]

The main point is not to give in to the urge just for what would likely be just a temporary emotional boost. Time is the ingredient as you so rightfully say, but also time never comes back hence why it's so tough at times. I know you suggest in other videos that at 2.5-3 months that then we can break NC if they haven't reached out cause there's nothing left to lose then, and at least we can get closure, whether it's getting back or a definitive ending. I mention this as striving for 11-15 weeks is easier in a way (easier, not easy) as it gives us a goal at least. If after 3 months they don't us want back, well, it's over. No reason to torment ourselves forever. I know I ain't waiting more than that. The wait is too painful, that a no would become less so, even if I agree fully in the power of NC as the best approach to getting back together.

[@dogankutmen811]

Damn, I wish you had put this out yesterday. After 4 years, she broke up with me days shy of 2 months ago. I was a mess for the first 3 weeks. Did no contact for almost a month. Found her earring yesterday. Told her I was going to ship it to her. She texted me for a bit asking how I am and if I've moved to a new house yet. Then went silent. She read my last text at 5 am today but nothing since. I guess I need to double back down and do it all over again.

[@helenan866]

Just over a month since the breakup. Im missing him so much today.. i saw him last week when he brought back some of my things. I just want to be in his arms 💔💔

[@chrismallia1559]

Yeah no contact doesn't always work but it does work on you if you stick with the rules and decide that this is best for you😊. At the end of the day the biggest winner of no-contact is you.🙏👍🤷

[@devontezp347]

The more I watch these videos the more I realize that romantic relationships are extremely fake. If a person has to go through all of these measures to win someone back, then that relationship wasn't really solid to begin with. To everyone who is wishing to get their ex back just move on. Do you guys really want to go back to someone who was constantly thinking about dumping you for weeks, months or even years? To hell with that. I'd rather be happy & single versus chasing after someone who walked away from me.

[@lisabaughn]

Yep, although Coach Lee has gotten a lot of people back together and in their opinions, for the better. But I get what you're saying. Who wants to think and plot and strategize and tiptoe on eggshells with every word and move 24/7 for months to get someone to remember they love them?

[@devontezp347]

@@lisabaughn trust me he's gotten me through my divorce. The more I stay away from my ex wife the more I realize that I don't need her in my life. The people who comment on here need to realize that they don't need validation from someone who chose to walk away from them. There will be someone who will love them for them. We shouldn't seek love or respect from people who chose to walk out of our lives.

[@lisabaughn]

@@devontezp347 I'm glad you're feeling strong and moving forward. But I'm still so sorry that happened to you. I hope the best is yet to come for you!! ❤️

[@Angelsb-ball22]

It’s so hard my 2 year relationship ended because she told me that she didn’t have any romantic feeling for me anymore she’s not checking on me not worried about me at all I begged her and she’s in another relationship 2 weeks later not sure if she was talking to him b4 hand but it hurts so much as I have much feeling for her I know where I went wrong it was the romantic part

[@lisabaughn]

@@Angelsb-ball22 I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Unfortunately we're a large club here my friend. How's your evening going? You can discuss and share here if it would make you feel better.

[@betsycollins601]

Coach Lee, would you please make a video for people in no contact who broke off the relationship because the other partner cheated on them? In a couple of your videos, I have heard you say you are not really the dumper-at-fault if THEY cheated on you. Would you please explain more abut how your role shifts when YOU are the one who walked because the partner was unfaithful to you. Thank you! Also, no contact works even if it takes FOUR YEARS (it did for me because the former partner was married at the time).

[@paulinapoznan8401]

It's a great idea for a video! Also I would include dumpers who left because the other person didn't want to commit and they tried to push us into a "situationship" or unvoluntary fwb. Coach Lee, adress it please!

[@catherineglobetrotter6510]

It's so funny to read 2-3 weeks of NC. 1.5 year here 😂 he found smb else and doesnt even think to contact! Unless smth drastic happens in his life, he's not moving his ass in my direction it looks like.

[@sharrizaermajasmani5331]

Still doing the same thing, might not be the best thing but making moves towards better goals is much more expected .

[@jaredbarnes1277]

What about the dumper who did the break up for the right reasons? I.E. being lead on, being in a hot/cold situation, and it was the only way to show self-respect. Just because the dumper does the dumping because they have to have boundaries doesn’t mean that they feel in control or feel less of a connection.

[@Rasclat]

coach lee - I've been following you for years - I love you brother. thanks.

[@marcelabonturi7681]

Stick to the plan & trust the process 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️

[@harolddasynth795]

You nailed it in the head and i learned the hard way,i have this woman that I love so.much,when we broke up,i chased her and force my way to get her back,i was successful but it didn't last,after a year,we broke up again for good,lesson learned..