Letting Go: How To Know It's Time To Move On From A Relationship (Part 1)

[@JonathonAslay]

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[@aesha6120]

I will try to join I’m a bit shy tho😍😌

[@kayesmith8040]

Oh my bless you, it's so hard, praying for you

[@janegreen191]

Don't feel embarrassed Jonathan. You are so brave to share your feelings.

[@Joshualuv13]

Thank you so much, Jonathan, for all your logically ,practical, and even more so truth ,keeping it real.

[@Ladybug.123]

Jonathan, it was SO very brave of you to share the ending of your relationship. I’ve been watching your channel, and I had a feeling something happened when I didn’t see a photo of you and Marie on the shelf. I do believe that when relationships end, there really is no good guy and no bad guy, (except in extreme cases of abuse), it’s just two people who realized they were basically not compatible. And that’s OKAY. Of course, breakups suck big time. But you’re going to be alright, Jonathan. So many here are with you and we support you as you go through this process of “letting go.” Hang in there. Sending prayers of healing to you…

[@VallerieMalkin]

Marie was so lovely and clearly you had a very deep friendship. I did not feel you were completely compatible, just a gut feeling. You definitely had enough of a spark to give real love a try. I believe you will remain friends and that you’re each better for having known the other. Best to you Jonathan. You’re a good man who has helped many. 💜

[@JonathonAslay]

Well said

[@JessicaPolman-i2p]

I agree. They seemed more like brother and sister for some reason. Gut feeling.

[@KS-ij2oz]

I agree. Marie often seemed annoyed by Jonathan, and was a tad condescending. Both of you are beautiful people in your own way. I’m going through the exact same thing right now, Jonathan, so I feel yours and Marie’s pain. Love to you both.

[@JessicaPolman-i2p]

@@KS-ij2oz I felt Jonathon was condescending to Marie and threw her under the bus a lot. They seemed to walk on eggshells with each other which isn't healthy. While I did think Marie was lovely, I didn't think they were a match at all honestly.

[@jackiebennett3762]

💯

[@kathleensteinfeld6977]

Jonathan, I’m in tears for several reasons. Just the pure, vulnerable, innocence of you sharing this. I’m keeping you two beautiful people in my prayers. God bless you both.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@ptownsend5228]

You are good man Jonathan, I feel your pain. Thanks for sharing.

[@sism3028]

Jonathan I am so very sorry about you and marie breaking up. Sending prayers and hugs to you..

[@dd87127]

What happened to them?

[@JusttRaquel]

Everything happens for a reason. Be strong, something better and right for you is on the horizon ... (When she does, maybe keep her all to yourself, and not online)

[@donnaloveless4266]

Amen! Thank you beautiful person

[@funkydunky6366]

"Everything happens for a reason" but only in the west not in war torn /authoritarian / poverty stricken countries.

[@carmadariacompaniona4181]

Thanks so much. Everyone who has gone through a breakup - and 99% of us have - needs to watch this. Your honesty and vulnerability are good role models for us.

[@ajm3821]

Thank you for sharing. We are all in the same boat. Best wishes. You are so wonderful.

[@Cezzlina]

You and Marie are both inspirational, both together and apart. Thank you for being so open vulnerable with us all. You are both class acts.

[@denasharpe2393]

Yes, so agree and so grateful!! Blessings for you both kept in prayer❤❤❤

[@dianemalone8961]

@@denasharpe2393 a hi

[@deejames1st]

I don’t feel either you or Marie should be embarrassed. It’s great that you were both true to yourselves. And are able to part amicably.

[@taschadresser5988]

Thank you for showing your vulnerability Johnathon. You have my deepest empathy during this difficult time of breaking up with Marie and you did not have to cry on camera as I cried throughout your entire broadcast. It deeply touched me. God bless you both and I hope you two remain friends.

[@cynthiaabada3961]

Exactly. Open trust with your partner who won’t judge you & truly be all IN is so hard to find❤.

[@sononi4798]

I relate to your disgust about online dating. My friends are pushing me to get online but I can't shake this feeling that it will leave me feeling demoralized and less optimistic about love.

[@elipotter369]

I tried it a couple of times- overall, the time I put in wasn't worth the outcome I got (cost benefit analysis, I've got a degree in economics haha). These days, apparently it's full of scammers, so be sensible. (Don't send money & if you're love bombed by someone usually out of your league, it's a scam). I spoke to some men on the phone, I met one in person (which was a horrid experience). Most men are chasing women over 10 years younger. I felt less valued and the men were less serious than I find in real life - probably because it was a smorgasbord to them, so it was "next" for the flimsiest of reasons. I don't think online dating is all bad, it's a way to significantly increase actually meeting people. It really depends on your tolerance level for sifting through and being wary plus on how serious or keen you are to get a relationship. I also dated via an agency. The matches were okay guys, but none were quite right for what i was confortable with dating. The agency was disorganised and a bit unethical. I'm in the older demographic, but from what I hear re younger online, men are mostly just chasing one off hook ups..

[@sherriflemming3218]

Being demanding of respect is essential.

[@zanecliffo3685]

It's fine as long as u approach it like finding a job. Methodical and a process u keep going through u til u align with the right person for you. U might mert the right person on there or it takes a while . It can be exciting getting to know different types of people whilst keeping an open mind ul find what ur looking for. Itl be a screening out process but it will help you to find out what sort of person u want and then ul have to delete or keep as appropriate this helps u align with what u deserve and what is meant for you

[@rhiannonrhiannon6285]

Hi Jonathon...please do not take my comment wrong. I knew this was going to happen with you and Marie when you both moved in so soon. I know you say that you should move in quick but I don't believe that is true...just my opinion. Marie is a great woman and will be missed. She was great at giving dating advice. My advice to everyone is please do not move in with someone too quick. I believe you shouldn't move in unless you get married...I know that's not for everyone but just how I feel. Remember Jonathon being single is just fine. What you do here on YT is very helpful to people and very entertaining. As Marie would say "You are a lot"! lol Yes you are! 🙂 Never change! Have a wonderful Sunday!

[@Goldenowl66]

I am sure Marie is a wonderful person. As for dating advice, come on.

[@rhiannonrhiannon6285]

@@Goldenowl66 She gave good advice. I liked when she said to the man that was hovering over her in a chair "What am I doing to make you feel like you can do that?" I thought that was a very classy way of handling the situation. I think she was very good on the show especially for not having any experience on camera.

[@sshuteandrew]

She gave good, common sense advice and in a classy, diplomatic way, I agree!

[@lesleyherrick3966]

Very big hugs to you Jonathon! Thank you for your willingness to share your life with us. My life is better from learning from you. ❤❤❤

[@ginnybenett428]

I think there should be more of this on social media that shows that relationships are not intended to be perfect. Some are intended for growth. This is just a great example, thanks for sharing. My last relationship was similar to this and we ended it mutually and have remained friends. He is happily married now and I’m happy for him. ❤ peace to you during this emotional time.

[@aquamarine0023]

Jonathon, thank you so much for being so real and honest. So many coaches think they have to act like they have all the answers and have everything figured out and have perfect relationships. The fact that you are REAL and share your experiences honestly is what is TRULY helpful to others. I have such respect for that, that you have the courage and wisdom to not put out a false facade of perfection. Dating is a process. I'm going through the same breakup process right now and your wise, honest and loving way of handling this is a comfort and inspiration for me. Thanks so much to you and to Marie for sharing yourselves on both of your journeys.

[@LisaGemini]

Yes, Jonathon is so authentic and that's what makes him a fabulous person.

[@Mollyjak4]

Beautifully said aquamarine - I truly love the realness and authenticity balanced with the grace and kindness. It reminds me of the scripture verse 1 Corinthians 13 that is the definition of love where it says love always protects , I see Jonathan really protecting Marie with his gracious words he is being both honest and kind and protective of their relationship and its journey

[@jcool4358]

Jonathan, we are all human. We all struggle to get through this life. It's peak and valley's. You don't need to feel embarrassed. I am sorry for your breakup. I respect you so much how you still speak of her with caring and love. That tells me a lot about you. "Accept what is let go of what was and have faith in what will be", I hope your healing comes soon.

[@LisaGemini]

@@jcool4358 Kind words here. I appreciate Jonathon's honesty and huge heart, too! I'll pray for you to heal quickly, Jonathon. I have confidence you can do that. Wishing you all the best. Hugs!

[@dlm2133]

Ok. So I hear she's retired and enjoys traveling and needs people around her. You're working, and you have commitments that hold you to L.A. A homebody. See? You both have different lifestyles. It's ok. No one's wrong. Just different.

[@stellawood4763]

I had a feeling you both were not together. When her pic wasn’t there a while back. Thank you for opening up and being brave to tell us your journey. You are amazing Jonathan and I love your channel ❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@lindym9450]

Oh Jonathan I'm SO sorry the relationship ended. Remember the good times and that both of you grew immensely from the relationship. It triggered so much healing. I love your celebration of the relationship and that respect and affection between you two that remains. Your loving, parting words are beautiful ❤. You have so much to offer a woman and to share your wisdom with us. You are worth it! You are wise! You are strong❤

[@dd87127]

Did he say what happened to them?

[@jackiebennett3762]

she wanted to move

[@ddtompkins5961]

I am just ending a relationship myself. We dated for 6 months and I shared many of your videos with him as a way to spark relationship conversations. I am praying for healing for all hearts and minds. Thank you for sharing your life.

[@lisamichelle5311]

Thank you Jonathan, I appreciate your openness and honesty. Bless Marie on her journey ❤ and may we all continue to love and heal.

[@JonathonAslay]

You are so welcome

[@sandrabrown6860]

❣ Love and heal ❤

[@EMuro-wu7uy]

My favorite saying I love that I came across was "if you had a successful relationship then you have a template for love. I think you are terrific and I wish all good things for your journey and Marie's journey. Sometimes people come into our life to help our journey along.

[@Katrn30]

Breakups are hard, and I can only imagine how much harder it is while in the public eye! You are a class act, and this will only help others watching how you follow your own advice.

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe... thank you 😊

[@mijuajua4820]

In a world where people don’t or can’t even take the chance to have an amazing romantic relationship, it is commendable where you both took the chance to have that relationship. I have learned now at the age of 52 I still have some work to do from the trauma that was a part of my childhood. God bless you both as you heal and grow. And God bless us all that we may heal and have the courage to go out and find that love that helps us become better people. ❤

[@carimccrary7907]

I’ve never seen anyone be this vulnerable to help others and himself… first time I have ever seen you. I will be sure to search up more from you. Thank you with an abundance of graciousness.🤲🏽

[@JonathonAslay]

WOW, thank you for SEEing me... 🙏

[@lisabrazell8246]

Such a mature perspective. I’m sad for you both because I know your hearts hurt, but good things ahead ❤️

[@VickiLovell-g5f]

So sorry Johnathon. I have to say that I did see this from the beginning. Marie did not seem to be all in. She seemed to be in a let's just see where things go. You seemed all in but she didn't. Doesn't make her a bad person. Glad you parted friends.

[@susancourtney882]

In experiencing a fairly recent breakup (divorce), its important for others to understand we need time, space and compassion. This means advice is not always necessary (our soul knows what's needed), criticism is not helpful (the loss(es) are painful enough and we don't have the time or energy to feed the relationship/friendship at the moment (getting through the day or night now becomes monumental and a milestone). Those that offer 24/7 assistance if needed and don't take offense if we just don't have the energy to care for them as we normally would, become golden and souls we will continue to travel through life with. My message is to be there for someone experiencing difficulty but not to force your opinions or expect anything in return

[@mtdebh20]

Oh! This hurts. I was dating a guy for 3 months and I was falling hard for him. But it became clear that our life paths did not have the same goals. Sad and painful though it was to say goodbye, I did it and he had pulled back already and he felt the same way. I’m not devastated, and I feel love and friendship. I agree that love is never wasted. I learned so much about myself and about what I want and where my boundaries are. And I got to see how loving I can be!

[@carey3694]

This is late, but I just wanted to say that I’m sorry to hear that things didn’t work out with you and Marie. This must be a very difficult thing to have to navigate so publicly and I think you have done so with a lot of respect and dignity and vulnerability. Just because relationships don’t last, it doesn’t mean that they weren’t hugely valuable to your growth and your life and a positive experience even if you are sad and heartbroken that it didn’t turn out the way you hoped. I hope you are able to grieve and heal and find happiness again.

[@marybellehobbs7081]

I want to thank you Jonathan and Marie for being so open and showing us the parts of your relationship that others would hide. We’re all hurting in different ways on this earth. I started my self love journey only when I entered my 40’s as few years back,it’s so important ❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@MortgageGirl7]

I love both you and Marie! So happy to see a respectful breakup. I am not about drama. I am about learning what the lesson is. She is classy and I want her to find her peace! You both are good people just not meant to be together. Life is a journey of the unknowns. But it’s important to respect each other’s feelings and needs. I have a couple of great friends that were exes. We will always love and respect each other. Proud of you both.

[@CatherineInColorado]

Jonathon, I believe you will find the love who will go "all in" and grow with you in every aspect of your lives together. I truly appreciate the courage you have had in sharing so many details of your relationship with Marie together over this last year. I wish you much healing and learning that will come from this relationship. Thank you for teaching me and many others the importance of self love and the ability to positively reflect on a relationship and to always be intentional and stand in our power. I think your heart was beating strongly today because of how much you care. Many hugs of love and healing to your lion-sized heart! ♥️

[@lisacarter1272]

There’s definitely no duct tape on my mouth! I appreciate your openness and your sharing with us. It’s hard to let go once the attachment and shared experiences has gone on for almost two years. I’ve run the course of emotions with this man, my first experience with a widower, to be so nurturing, so intimate, and so enmeshed- to still be unsure of just where I stand. And to continue to support him emotionally through his loss and now family illnesses, I am drained. Worse, when is enough, enough?! I’ve raising my children, cared for dying parents, making peace with my past, and now I’ve been pouring from my Cup so long… find I’m still alone within this situation.

[@RelaxingAmbience_ASMR]

Sorry to hear this Jonathan, sending lots of bear hugs 🧸 your way. Thank you for your vulnerability and endless wisdom, we all learn so much from you ✨💛

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@sandrabrown6860]

We collectively are truly benefitting by YOUR courage to share your truth with us ❣❣❣ I've lived long enough to KNOW that we learn a lot from our mistakes and that you can have significant growth through an experience that you've shared with Marie. ❤ sending huge hug. You've got this Courageous gentleman ❣ from Sandee in Sacto. County🎉

[@dawnmandt8843]

Oh Jonathon - we learn the most when things don’t work out. I’m so grateful for your raw public honesty as we aspire to support you as well as learn from your journey. Often, we don’t spend time sharing when things don’t work out - or only last a season. I love the “all in” in the place we are in our lives. I also love the conscious, open, communicative way that you handled this. Love is never wasted is such a beautiful statement - thank you. I’ve become so centered on the answer to all things I’d love and kindness. Being able to reflect on how you both grew through the experience and the commitment together. ❤❤

[@Diabeteslovewithdee]

Jonathon, I love your radical honesty, your Hero’s Journey and Self Worth. It is wonderful to see you gracefully let go of Marie.

[@jfdrie]

Many hugs to you and Marie. Whatever is meant to be …will be. ❤️❤️

[@junemvanstaden6565]

Thanks Jonathon. Excellent advice. Sorry about your breakup. Hugs from Cape Town

[@breewithlove]

Thank you Jonathan for sharing and being so incredibly vulnerable with us. I know this time is difficult and the pain is real. I can absolutely see your growth, it doesn’t mean you’re not a hurting human being. It really was a treat to see you and Marie’s relationship a little bit here on the KZbin. I wish nothing but the best for you both, I have no doubt you both will find love again. Gratefulness is where it’s at, I know you know this, I believe this deep in my core for myself as well. Much love ❤❤❤

[@Erendira72]

You are helping a great many people by sharing this relationship transition.

[@AndreaCTesta]

You are an amazing man. Thank you for sharing your story. I feel your pain having recently experienced the shocking end of a 10 year relationship and year long engagement. Wishing you the best on your next chapter!

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that

[@Diabeteslovewithdee]

Jonathon, I wish you peace and happiness as you are on your healing journey with Marie. I wish her well too. It is so wonderful that you were grateful for the lessons you have learned during your time together with Marie. I have been practicing Non Attachment to outcomes and not label anything. When we don’t label “good or bad” , we live in peace. We also need to live in reality. What is life showing me now? What is life teaching me now. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom in relationship with us!

[@MsOrganic1]

Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable, Jonathan. I honor your transparency. I send great energy for both you and Marie that you both grow, learn, and evolve from this loving experience. It is a great model for me how an ending can be respectful and what the blessing was within the union.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@keffi285]

Very vulnerable video Jonathan. Never be embarrassed about anything you do ESPECIALLY love. Good on you both for going in and giving it your all. I’m sure your audience appreciates that you practice what you preach and share your experience. Wishing you both all the very best. Thanks for including us in your journey. 🥲💔🙏🏻

[@angelinpdx2297]

Sending so much love to both you and Marie. 💜 You are both so brave. Thank you for taking the chance on true love, so publicly. I love you both for your courage. I’ve learned so much from your joint sessions. You’ve helped us all blossom. 🌹

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@jenniferrivera5461]

Omg...I'm crying over your relationship loss like it was mine....God bless u both!! ❤

[@candacelove4832]

I like both you and Marie. You are a man who seems to need to be noticed and when on your channel together with Marie you would comment on yourself and look to Marie to agree and validate what you asserted. Maybe that is the “anxious” attachment? I appreciate your channel and I learn a lot. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty.

[@Chosen302]

I’m a younger subscriber but I’ve been watching you for a while. I had 1 session with you and I made my decision to end it with the person I was with. I admire your strength and your explanation of the ending of your relationship. Ending it with so much respect for her and yourself. Seeing this, it helps me understand that I don’t have to punish myself for the ending of my previous relationships and any future ones.

[@staywellandstrong4199]

Regarding Grace's declaration that she stopped watching the both of you together ~ I truly looked forward to seeing the both of you. It showed a wonderfully gracious side of you, and Marie seemed to enjoy the way many of us enjoyed seeing her interact with you. Thank you for all the different thoughts & feelings you've always shared.

[@dianefronk]

AMEN JONATHAN...sending you hugs and love. You and Marie are truly beautiful souls.

[@dulcedeguzman7496]

Quote IF you’re brave enough to say Goodbye life will Reward you with a New Hello 👋

[@JonathonAslay]

I like that...

[@ajm3821]

Hope so. For all of us who have broken up.

[@bethnicholson4246]

I am sorry that your relationship is ending. I am proud of how you and Marie are handling the break up. I found you maybe a few months ago. I saw only one show with youand Marie. That was a few weeks ago. I am sorry to say she gave you look. And by the look I honestly wasn't surprised today to hear the relationship is ending. I am glad you both helped each other. And may you both continue to grow. God Bless.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you 😊

[@sherylfranklin5322]

Thank you for explaining how you didn’t give your power away. Two years ago, I came to that very conclusion when I was blind sided by a breakup after four years…I squandered over the four years the power I brought to the relationship. Over the last two years I’ve purposefully remained uncoupled and have grown my self love leaps and bounds! It’s so authentic of you to share with your followers by example, good, bad, or ugly! God bless you!

[@DC-gf7wu]

Thank you for being so mature in this.. I wish more could be this way

[@donzybid]

Love your ability to be vulnerable and share your journey in real time! We can all learn from your courage! I especially agree with your take on dating apps and the experience of them! We need to bring back meeting romantic partners “organically”

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@rhondarivas1512]

Relationships are so difficult to figure out. I’m about done with even wanting to find anyone to be part of my life. Too many heartaches and unexpected heartbreaks after trying to be vulnerable and transparent. 😵‍💫🤦🏻‍♀️😟

[@elizabethmanns5697]

Dear Jonathan, You are such a kind, open, and honest person. You will find your person again. Because you are vulnerable and dont play games with others and you Care! You are a much appreciated and loved man. And, bring so much to the table. You and Marie are both lovely human beings but maybe it wasn't the perfect connection for you. I hope you both will continue to grow and be well. ❤ Hugs.

[@JonathonAslay]

Wow, thank you

[@elizabethmanns5697]

:) Of course! @@JonathonAslay

[@margaretcampbell2681]

I have come to see that I can’t choose until I heal. Marie was a fantastic person and I really appreciate her I will miss her wonderful down to earth comments realistic comments. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@JonathonAslay]

Me too

[@deniluhoffman]

I could sense Marie's discomfort in the public sharing of your relationship. This is your profession. This was a relationship for her. Excuse me but some of your videos during your relationship felt like you were using it to "sell" your "product". Don't get me wrong, you make a lot of sense, you have much good to share. I totally enjoyed the Rabbi's talk. Being a spiritual person, I agree that marriage is Divine. Blessings to you Jonathan. Perhaps when you meet the one, you might consider keeping your relationship private. Just my humble opinion.

[@sshuteandrew]

Sometimes relationships last and, more often than not, they end, either way, I enjoyed hearing from both Jonathon and Marie and having them discuss their relationship openly was both brave and informative.

[@averagejane09]

It is inspiring to see an example of what conscious uncoupling looks like and how emotional grownups handle such a difficult situation. You should be so proud of yourself Jonathan. You are showing your audience in real time what a real man looks like. You are truly stand up. Amazing.

[@jennyphilipson686]

I'm sorry things didn't turn out how you wished originally. You are a wonderful person and thank you for sharing so vulnerably💕

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@brightlights9615]

Thank you. I just left my bf too with love. I have made multiple requests which have been pretty much ignored or deflected with understandable excuses. I have decided I would be doing myself a disservice to wait in hope. I wish you, me, my ex and your ex the best. 🙏🏻

[@JonathonAslay]

Best of luck!

[@IreneMcgraw]

I just wanted to say Jonathon that really appreciate you. I can relate to the way you think and speak. Thank you.

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe... thank you 😊

[@EMuro-wu7uy]

Thank you for sharing so much of your own life, it makes it easier to see what can be out there. After losing my spouse I'm trying to navigate and build a new life for myself. Please don't ever feel embarrassed or ashamed for sharing your journey. I had three new relationships what will not or cannot work for me. But sometimes we all have to part ways for our own good. But the way you've shown this is amazing, we all have challenges along our journey, but it makes sense to be intentional. I'm at a point in my widow hood where I'm looking forward to my new chapters and what I can do. I'm building my tribe back up so I can show up better in my own life. It also shows that you have a template for love and possibilities. So thank you.

[@JonathonAslay]

You're welcome

[@kerry378]

I think Marie and Jonathan were amazing together, as long as it lasted. I saw (as opposed to the commenter) that Jonathan flourished within himself and his work- you seemed very secure. I really appreciated Maries comments as a strong independent woman. I also think healing went on BOTH ends. Nomatter what 'healing' Marie has to do or more likely, as a choice, she is choosing different in her life, both parties had healthy healing and growth. I also do remember moments when Jonathan mentioned he had difficulty fully trusting and I could see the confusion on Marie's face..its also hard to live your relationship in front of others but I thank you both for sharing. This is REAL life...its the flip of a coin in many cases to get it absolutely right. Peace and happiness to both of you. Thank you Marie! Thanks Jonathan!

[@retrogirl2443]

How could anyone know what’s right for both of you, but the two of you? I’m sorry that things didn’t work out. I appreciate that you brought her on your channel and were vulnerable with your audience. That takes genuine honesty. Sending you a virtual hug! Also, sending Marie blessings moving forward. I’m happy that you both had an amazing year!❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you 😊

[@gmtinkham4101]

Jonathon...I don't know how I happened to find your channel, but I'm so glad I did. I'm just beginning the self-awareness journey and am in the initial break-up of a 13 year relationship. When I think I can't hold it together any more, I use your videos to ground myself-they really help me look at everything on a saner plane, so thank you. Ordered several of your suggested books (yes, your's too!), and as soon as I get my courage up, I want to call you. I think your group sounds very insightful and compassionate. You're funny as hell-thank you for helping me learn how to dry my own tears.This journey is going to be long, and it's scary. Keep throwing out those self-help buoys to all of us still trying to learn to swim without wings

[@jafrasar1]

Kudos to you both Jonathan! You are probably the only couple to have done this in the relationship coaching space. You were both super conscious-life is mostly an experiment-NOT an equation with a quantifiable answer. Can’t always quantify/calculate what a relationship ‘might do’-lots of unknowns we cannot fathom.

[@JonathonAslay]

Wow, thank you!

[@kellytaylarkarim1608]

The way you are handling this is commendable and a great exemplar of conscious, loving uncoupling with deep understanding.

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that!

[@JustineJeffreyMTPT]

TY Jonathan, I'm sad with you. Stay open, keep sharing. You are resilient and thriving... ❤

[@meg01968]

I appreciate the sharing of your unfolding story. I felt discomfort in my body when you mentioned you got in the dating app “just to see”. Because old me years ago did that every time. I’d offer there is a moment of a feeling state we often are trying to avoid. I lean into that healing aloneness now. I learn from everyone I encounter. Sending support to both of you as you navigate the loss of what it was. 🙏🏻

[@nancystinger7393]

Growing pains don’t have an age limit . I do believe some people are in a way assigned to us to better know ourselves. I think it was kind of you both to share your relationship in the videos. You are meant to help others and love comes in many forms . Letting go is bittersweet but joy is in each day . I wish you and Marie a lifetime of happiness .

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@krazykirl1129]

Thank you for sharing your journey, openly. I wish you both healing and a new found hope as you navigate the rest of your journey 💙 Sending tons of hugs from across the pond.

[@JonathonAslay]

Much appreciated 🙏

[@JRLM-e8m]

I am a new viewer of your content and started watching your videos for a few weeks now. Thanks for sharing your personal life with us. Your learning is very helpful to those of us who can resonate with what you were going through and encourages us to be hopeful that there is light at the end of a tunnel. Doing the right thing takes courage and inner conviction. It’s all part of being true to yourself. God bless you for loving yourself enough to live your truth and be a shining light for the world.

[@JonathonAslay]

Welcome aboard!

[@kathyjohnson4823]

Oh my goodness. I was saying to myself last week as I was watching the two of you that I did not see her for you for the long haul. I give you so much credit for putting it all out there and taking the risk. I know you have learned something here. I enjoy your channel and maybe I will gain the courage to get out there!

[@ginam.4990]

I felt that , too. Some element was just missing. Very sad.

[@mariamayub212]

Really brave and powerful episode!

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe... thank you

[@gaylemeadors4300]

I dated a Colombian also and his wife died tragically. I don’t think he ever got over it. He had small children.

[@charlottecoolik9872]

This is such a powerful video that is giving me tingles and making the hairs on my legs grow out as I listened and relate after dropping off someone who I realized today I cared much more about then I realized but dropped them off to travel last night to pursue their dreams in Brooklyn. When we met it was a whirlwind but then it was hard because we are in different containers and it's not compatible our life goals and dreams right now so we are really creating a very deep and special friendship and keeping open the future possibilities but working on our healing and expanding our lives individually right now so we are with you And Marie

[@patricialovelace9689]

Jonathon, thank you for sharing your story. I was very moved and tearful to hear what transpired in your relationship with Marie. It is so hard to believe that this ending took place as you seemed to be two individuals who were very connected and meant to be together. I had lost touch with your podcasts over the last year and when I reconnected to you, I sensed something very different had taken place in your life. I had to sift through the many podcasts you had given to find out why I sensed this change in you. I wish you both all the joy and love you can each have in your lives and I thank you for always connecting with us, your followers, even when it must have been so difficult for you do so. Bless you always!

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you for your kind words... much appreciated 🙏

[@kathryncothern3433]

There is absolutely NO reason to be embarrassed so never worry about that. It's two people coming together and then figuring out each step of the way from there. No one knows what the future holds. Embrace and Cherish each step of the way and be honest with what is really happening along the way. Every one has a story, a history, wants, desires, and visions. Being able to be on the same page with someone is a wonderful journey...sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn't. Making sure one's Self Love is solid, healthy, and humble is the foundation for what Life throws our way. My heart is with you Jonathan and Marie. Parting ways in a healthy, loving, and amicable manner is what helps what lies forward for each person. ❤

[@bonnygoldberg5852]

THANK you for sharing all that you did today. It takes a lot of courage. Wishing you and Marie all the best. THANK you for your words of wisdom. Blessings to you Always Bonny

[@slporter722]

Love doesn’t blind us…Ego does. When you love with your ego thoughts, it will always fail or it will become very dysfunctional. Love is always clear, consistent, and all knowing.

[@petrataylor6984]

So sorry to see this, I am going through a break up myself, and it's difficult. But I learn from you. Hugs to you!

[@cathyannhill8024]

I was naive and innocent when I entered a very toxic relationship of narcissism and of bipolar. Ten years ago, I was 55 years and had no idea that what I was about to be hit with. In and out of 10 years of narcissistic bipolar abuse. I finally found myself. Values, self worthiness with abandonment, neglect and emotional abuse issues to heal and transform from. I am now open to a loving, supportive, honest and trustworthy relationship or courting, dating and falling in love deeply. I love myself and now know the difference. Thankyou with gratitude to you Jonathon❤

[@meseretmimi3792]

Im sorry to hear this❤ Life is amazing and ever changing and I belive great things are on the way❤

[@kiarisby2471]

It is always beautiful when two souls can journey thru life if even for a moment. I’m glad you and Marie had your time together. Sending positive vibes your way as you uncouple and journey forward! 💛

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes! Thank you!

[@deniseleckband1428]

Thank you for sharing, I’m glad you are sharing this because it’s important to see when a relationship ends that includes mutual respect and genuine caring. I have chosen to not seek a relationship because I knew I needed to work on myself to heal and be be the best version of myself now after almost 9 years since my divorce I am at a place where I am open to a healthy relationship now, thanks your honesty!!! May each day get better for you both!

[@DayOneLifeCoaching]

Just seeing this. So many wonderful insights in this video & I love that you shared this wisdom with your audience even while you’re still going through it. Takes a lot of courage ❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks again 😀

[@lolitapty1680]

You helped me learn that dating is the time to figure out if we're right for each other. Oftentimes, we go on dates idealizing the situation instead of being objective and trying to get to know the other person.

[@kellytaylarkarim1608]

I seriously doubt whether anyone is whole or will ever be whole.

[@ptownsend5228]

What does being “whole” even mean?? Humans are well… human. That’s all you can say.

[@tialynn1111]

No, no where near an embarrassment at all. Thank you for sharing!! You and she have learned so much! You are very brave and this is really helping others (and yourself) tremendously wow! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@Ihathnotscene]

I'm so sorry. Thank you so much for your openness and vulnerability, and your enthusiastic courage. I believe that confusion comes from a disorder in one's life, and living together romantically before marriage is confusing especially for the woman as the man and woman are natural co-creators, especially in growing a family of two into a community-- but the simpler the relationship, the more clarity there is. God bless your journey in love. 🤗

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you

[@Mollyjak4]

“That’s the vaccination to emotional chaos” Great great analogy. Lean into self love, self growth on this journey of life!!! Another person is NOT your happiness (although they can add to it) I believe your relationship with your creator and a soul journeying with Him to greater freedom and healing IS your ultimate happiness!

[@lightnblue]

Im happy you learned from that relationship. It sucks, but it wasn't meant to be. You have a lot of followers that love & support you. One day I hope we all find our true loves. Stay True

[@JonathonAslay]

Amen 🙏

[@Katrn30]

Omg, when you said Marie did not know who she was as a person outside of a relationship, it resonated so loudly to me…I still have work to do finding ME!!!!

[@Gigi-c3h]

Jonathon, I have great respect and admiration for you, for protecting Marie and for Not letting anyone disparage her!!🎉❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you 😊

[@sshuteandrew]

I’m sorry things didn’t work out between you and Marie. I truly enjoyed listening to both of you. Thank you for your honesty and transparency, and I wish you both the best. Hugs

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@julianegagne4061]

Jonathan, I want to say a huge "thank you." it takes an incredible amount of courage to be real and vulnerable. It really highlights your true character. This expression of your experience is a gift to each and every one of us on our journey. I truly appreciate you showing up for us ❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Wow, thank you!

[@positivelybeautiful1]

Jonathan & Marie connected in ways that only both have experienced. Thank you to J & M for sharing their authentic experiences & vulnerabilities in attempt to help others. That’s a way to share love & compassion to us, strangers from around the world. Jonathan’s channel were one of a few relationship experts & coaches that I watched & learn from my experiences. Jonathan often asked “ what does a commitment means to you?” when dating. Besides the obvious, wanting commitment ( are you willing to take care of me?) but also “ am I ready to give up my freedom?” ( meaning to be free emotionally, spiritually, and lifestyle). Dr. Esther Perel answer explains monogamy the best. It took me to own my part in the failed relationship in order to understand myself better. From Jonathan, I learned to be a “ victor conscience “, figuring what my standards, & vetting for the most compatible person.

[@JonathonAslay]

WOW, thank you 😊

[@eleanormartin6923]

Gosh your ability with words is incredible. Every point is so accurately described and so right. I can’t argue with any point. I think you are one amazing person.🥰👏

[@JonathonAslay]

Wow, thank you!

[@katewright4414]

I relate to this so much. On a spiritual level…we know that every relationship has a purpose. It doesn’t make the emotion of separation easier. Thank you for the vulnerability and for sharing your journey. ❤

[@prunemabilais3345]

Nothing lasts forever in this life, you are a strong, honest , lucide man, l admire you Jonathon for taking this break up with love and friendship.