Letting Go of Control: How to Embrace Uncertainty and Live in the Moment

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Are you tired of feeling anxious and stressed about the future? Do you feel that the more you try to control your life, the more out of control you actually feel?
In this video, I'm gonna show you the negative side effects of trying to control your life. I'm gonna show you the positive benefits of letting go of control and how embracing uncertainty is the key to happiness, presence, and actually feeling safe in this moment now.
The first thing to understand about letting go of control is, why are we actually controlling anyways? Why do we wanna control what's happening in our reality?
Why do we wanna control what other people think about us? The reason we are controlling aspects of our life is because our ego wants to survive. Our ego wants to remain in familiar energy patterns that it learned growing up.
And the challenge is that then, as we grow up and things in our life change, we many times will fight to keep similar childhood dynamics in our life that recreate that sense of familiarity.
Now, look at this. This is something that's very interesting about it. The word familiar actually has within it the word familial. Like familial, that's the root word (laughing) of the word, which means family.
So in a way, when we're fighting for familiar, we're fighting to recreate similar energies that we experienced growing up.
There's a familial energy there, familial, family. Now, when it comes to letting go, this is, I wanna share a little story with this too of something I realized recently with doing a certain type of somatic transformation, energy, like, you know, being in the body and releasing energy.
There was something that came up for me that made me realize why I have struggled in my life to let go of control.
And this is gonna sound a little bit interesting, but it's gonna wire in this understanding that we create and we are addicted to the familiar. Now, think of it like this.
This is a box that is around our ego. This is our ego. This is our body. We have this box around it. And we have within this box certain rules that keep us within the known or familiar.
And these rules are the way reality should work, the way people should respond to us, and it keeps us in this metaphorical box. Now, outside of this box, we have the magic, the unknown.
They say that all magic happens in the unknown. Yet, there maybe could be something even more magical than we could possibly imagine that could come into our life if we embrace the unknown, but sometimes the familiar feels more safe.
It feels more, like something that we're used to and the ego just wants to survive. The ego doesn't necessarily wanna thrive. Now, freedom is also outside of this box of the known, of the familiar.
Now, one of the realizations I had in my own life was actually energetically connecting to my body, feeling present in my body, and realizing that there was a certain memory that came up for me that made me aware of why I control certain aspects of my life.
And let me just give you an example of this. Like, sometimes I've had tendencies to where, if I'm dieting or something, I want my physique to look a certain way, I'll micromanage the calories I eat and become like neurotic about it, where it's like a game.
I'm in MyFitnessPal just like concocting up exactly what I can eat for the day, 'cause I also love food. And it becomes something where I'm just overly controlling it. I think awareness is powerful, but you can overdo anything.
There's times within my business that I become controlling, too controlling about how everything could be. I know that when I even first started on KZbin, for the first like year and a half, I edited every single KZbin video that went on KZbin because I couldn't trust someone to edit.
They're not gonna edit the way that I want to, the way that I wanted it. And eventually, I realized, wait, I'm spending so much time editing, it's such a basic thing that like I, my editing was so simple.
If you go back to my older videos especially, it was literally like just me talking, there were no cuts, and there was an intro and an outro. And like, an intro and outro music. Like it was so simple. For some reason, I couldn't let go of that.
I had these beliefs that somebody else, if I give it to somebody else, it's gonna crumble and die. No one's gonna value it as much as me. But that kept me having to work very hard in order for like to keep me feeling safe within my business.
Now, this memory that I had when I was working with this somatic coach, I was going into my body and I was feeling different, kind of like energetically going to certain times of my past and childhood to like kind of heal the past version of me.

[@AaronDoughty44]

anyone joining me in Austin on January 28th!? (p.s. there's a zoom options as well ) ➡ www.aarondoughty.com/events

[@FantomWulph]

Would love to take a trip down

[@MistMgmt]

My daughter & I! Jan 28th live. We in already?!! Zoom 🏎️ this time. With more notice in person next time! So excited! Your 21 day challenges did so much perminant change. Breath work so hard but wow ^^^ emotion release w/o thoughts just pure emotion volcanoing out. Much love 💕 Mist Mgmt/Paula 🌷

[@SCARFACE_805]

Thanks Thor 👍

[@thehealinggarden7850]

😂

[@recovery.wakeup]

😂💖

[@starkid77]

Of course he knows what's up, especially today, being Thor's day and all😊

[@deepar4010]

Yeah, no offence 😂😅.......he really looks like Chris Hemsworth.

[@BigMoney21]

Haha 😂

[@hippiecritegymnastics3311]

The hardest part is recognizing and getting passed how simple it is.

[@LondonsPointOfView1]

Honestly needed this. I just let go of somebody who I placed so much importance on. Feeling fresh and lighter already!

[@BeautynBrainz2]

This is so me! I tried to control every aspect of my life in order to give myself a false sense of security. It all stemmed from abandonment issues in my childhood. I’ve only recently been able to live in the moment after doing a lot of inner work & finally recognized why I’ve boxed myself in all my life!

[@chesneydennis7108]

I know it’s been a year, but what did you do that helped??

[@BeautynBrainz2]

@@chesneydennis7108 listening to coaches such as Aaron & Matt Schaffer. Read self-help books & received counselling using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Also practice yoga.

[@tonetalks7484]

That point you made about the masculine “dad” energy in relation to trusting the universe was phenomenal. Thank you! Opened up my eyes a bit

[@anitacarter8060]

Yes, always trying to control the situation/perfectionism… Equals stress and anxiety !! 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@tonyjlorns1727]

Absolutely am done with it it has led to greats of stress , anxiety and poverty ! Am done with controlling

[@AndiSpiess]

This is maybe the most powerful video you have ever made! Nice work. I love that you use the term higher power. I just got 2 years sober and that’s how I did it, turning my will and life over to the care of a higher power❤

[@recovery.wakeup]

Made a decision to turn my will & life over to the care of god ✨💫🙌

[@scottbrown7071]

Exactly! Was just discussing this before this video popped up on my phone.

[@tonyjlorns1727]

Me to my friend

[@danielle2502]

You've been a massive part in my recovery. I really appreciate what you do and the help and support you put out to the world. Learning to let go really is starting to change my life. I'm grateful to have found your work so thank you 😊

[@ShAd0w0100]

"Anxiety is excitement being filtered through a negative judgement." OMG I'm putting that up on my wall and framing it! xD LOVE THIS - You've got another sub! ❤

[@ShAd0w0100]

@Aarodoughty You forgot to spell his name right, but good try.

[@Kareena1988]

Holy mother of God!!! This is my current issue!!!!!! I do not trust LIFE itself.

[@mayhtoo3576]

Let go of control,safety box& stepping into unknown magic!!

[@Bellamilly99]

You are incredible!

[@shundreaneely]

Perfect timing ❤

[@moniquedavey3120]

Aaron, I just wanted to thank you for what you are doing. After watching a few of your videos, I feel like you have changed my life. What you say just resonates with me. I feel so blessed as my energy has changed for the better. I think the last week was an awakening for me. Keep on doing what you're doing. You are amazing. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏

[@thehealinggarden7850]

Everytime I come back to watching your videos after a while I’m reminded of how much you helped change my life.Thank you Aaron,I’m in Dallas but I’m joining the event virtually ❤

[@jillhale9656]

I felt this one in my bones. Thank you Aaron

[@lamaelcharif1523]

We need a fence. Actually they call it, boundaries. We just don't want it to turn into a wall. We need to protect ourselves. Allow into the fence those we trust. When you share your understanding it's eye opening. My version of control is, doing everything in my power to master something, to secure everyone, to prepare for something then I let go of control of the outcome and let the universe take it's course. In that way I make my ego, the little girl in me, feel secure and at the same time I put my trust fully in the greater force and greater cause. So everything that happens next, was meant to happen.

[@excelsior8682]

Exactly. Can you control how your heart beats? Can you control how your blood vessels operate at any level? Your very existence is an infinite intelligence at play. Just surrender it, whatever "it" is. The outcome will always be a pleasant surprise

[@nibeam9251]

This is VERY important information. Thank you!

[@MysteriousRNP]

I always think about my future but I don't know what will happen we never know. I do believe that the universe will guide me to the right path of my life and I feel so thankful for that

[@sharonleal7968]

I really appreciate that the other day I was watching your videos and it snap me out of negativity, and i got so much done and raised my vibration. You snap people out of it with your voice, the intention and your content

[@Itssimplyaisha]

You’re actually the best self/help and energy KZbinr I know… I’ve watched so many videos for 3 years but I always end up coming back here❤

[@valerienj02]

Loving your new videos. You are on a whole other level. Speaking truth 💯

[@kitan94828]

So grateful for this video

[@steveklavis7496]

Such a gift Aaron ... this is truth... Carla

[@thebullwhisperer916]

I respect parents who limit tv/screentime because it's "programming" even don't allow it at home. You gained more creativity from that. There's always something to be grateful about. The other stuff...no. I'm glad you escaped the abuse. Forgive, but don't stay in abusive energies-self respect matters. Love u.

[@roxanekeeley-monet9352]

Practically described my 12 Step experience. Thanks Aaron, I love your passionate energy💕

[@user-xk6hi6hx7d]

Thank you 😍👌❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@MAXTHOMASTHOMPSON]

ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴛʜᴏᴍᴀꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ꜱᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛᴏ ʜɪᴍ ꜰᴏʀ ᴀ ᴘʀᴏꜰɪᴛᴀʙʟᴇ ᴄʀʏᴘᴛᴏ ɪɴᴠᴇꜱᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ, ᴛʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ꜰᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ'ꜱ✍️...

[@glendapeglau4694]

This video makes so much sense. Had to keep pausing it to really take in this wisdom . Stopped half way thru to do deep forgiveness work on mother and sis.. I know I keep attracting mom like bullies as difficult living n work peeps that create the same ugly feelings with core of you don't matter n your voice and needs are of no importance. Wow. Thx

[@emilypaussa1124]

Wishing you all the success in the live events this year. It's so inspiring to see you do this. I cannot wait for more event listings.

[@NathanPlaks]

I loved one thing you pointed out about how when you let go and you forgave your stepmother, then your manager got fired. A realization that I had is that sometimes I will let go and forgive someone and let's say there's a manager in my life that is reflecting the person I forgave, if the only reason I let go and forgave the person is because I believe that in doing that, the manager that is mistreating me will be fired, that is still a form of control and manipulation. It would not be truly letting go and forgiving the person. It's so easy to get stuck in my "spiritual ego", and trick myself into thinking that I am letting go of control, when in reality I'm just trying to control the situation in a more subtle and sneakier way, without even realizing that I'm doing it. Even calling my ego a spiritual ego is egotistical in and of itself. Ego is ego and that's that. Also, I realized that people who are in the "spiritual community" are still sheeple. They are not truly thinking for themselves, they are still letting allowing others to think for them.

[@yutoob6181]

God bless you, this paradoxical epiphany is saving me

[@tanyaredfieldkelley1804]

Yes!!!

[@korniukkee]

Your video was very helpful, thank you !

[@irinipapandreou9648]

Fantastic Video! My father passed away 2 months ago, I think I needed this video. I need to forgive

[@indialewis7679]

The part where you said there was something comforting in the abuse & it’s called Stockholme syndrome.. I needed that 😅🙏🏼

[@rayjarrad463]

Awesome insight, thanks!

[@CreceTuAlmaTarot]

I loVe this title 😂😂😂❤ thank you Earth Angel

[@MAXTHOMASTHOMPSON]

ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴛʜᴏᴍᴀꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ꜱᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛᴏ ʜɪᴍ ꜰᴏʀ ᴀ ᴘʀᴏꜰɪᴛᴀʙʟᴇ ᴄʀʏᴘᴛᴏ ɪɴᴠᴇꜱᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ, ᴛʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ꜰᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ'ꜱ✍️•••

[@ElevatedSoulVibes]

Aaron that was expansive message, thankyou 💯 please please do a video on the truth bombs you raised about the Dad archetype, I am so happy you went there and thay was channelled. The community needs more of this talk to remove this program and heal this wound. I feel strongly that I found your videos now to watch you in this new world. Your messages now are in resonance with me. Yes, your energy is on another level. Personal stories and vulnerability. Aaron living and winning, keep up the magical enlightment 🦋🙏💙🇦🇺

[@momione11]

I feel this energy and have believed this to be love all my life. But this energy comes today. I go. My whole nervous system runs amok. Feeling physically unwell. Luckily, I don't feel this way about everyone. Totally relearned. What love is. My story about love is very similar to yours. My father had mental problems. My mother codependent nice women. Met new man when I was 9 years old. Covert narc. He was in our life for 18 years. My mother was totally controlled in that relationship. Me and my brother with her.

[@MAXTHOMASTHOMPSON]

ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴛʜᴏᴍᴀꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ꜱᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛᴏ ʜɪᴍ ꜰᴏʀ ᴀ ᴘʀᴏꜰɪᴛᴀʙʟᴇ ᴄʀʏᴘᴛᴏ ɪɴᴠᴇꜱᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ, ᴛʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ꜰᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ'ꜱ✍️...

[@user-hr6zw7yf9o]

Thank you for sharing experience! Watching your videos, my life have became simple and calm.

[@shuvangideb549]

Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏻❤️much needed ☺️

[@MAXTHOMASTHOMPSON]

ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴛʜᴏᴍᴀꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ꜱᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛᴏ ʜɪᴍ ꜰᴏʀ ᴀ ᴘʀᴏꜰɪᴛᴀʙʟᴇ ᴄʀʏᴘᴛᴏ ɪɴᴠᴇꜱᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ, ᴛʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ꜰᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ'ꜱ✍️•••

[@cashiskingaustralia]

thankyou so much

[@relaxationtime2970]

I believed I could manage everything, but it turns out that it only leads to stress and anxiety for me. I really need this! Thank you for this

[@lauriemorales7605]

I can understand exactly what you are saying ❤

[@shinydiamond8896]

i was searching topics and ur videos comes up and only few of your videos changed my mind set i needed this so much thank you so much that you exist much love from south Asia.

[@davidevan4461]

Yes you said it, let go and surrender to a power greater than yourself.

[@lindalim5901]

Wow, this came at a perfect time for me. Thank you!

[@michaelburleson1477]

Johnny on the spot. Just when I need it the most, there it is. The video for exactly what I been going thru. Much appreciated is an understatement.

[@scottbrown7071]

You are amazing, Aaron! Thank you for this! ❤

[@winniewinkles]

Am same, I secretly think I’ve to do every last thing by myself, always. This also sounds like my kundalini awakening and it loosening, dissolving, pockets of trauma in my body where all sorts of childhood abuse memories are stored. Am same stockholm syndrome wise or have been, attaching to legit dangerous people or men. Doh. Love your content Aaron, love ya.

[@jainy1707]

I needed this! Life changing stuff.

[@sofcecocka8456]

Wow this video i manifested i am so happy 💓💓💓 Thank you dear friend for Video

[@cris-1001]

Thank you, Aaron, you're so good!

[@chaz7604]

You’re an inspiration first and foremost to yourself. I’m proud of you and I know you don’t need my validation of saying that, but I am. Well done man! ❤

[@4gvs]

could you do a video more focused on tunning into nature ('mother' energy) and the universe (father's energy)

[@thesocialfox_]

I started my own YoutTube channel 1 month ago and I am trying to let go of the outcome and just enjoy the process of making videos !

[@emilypashak9834]

Aaron! THANK YOU

[@Remaz_r5]

I needed this today coz I have been controlling and forcing things lately

[@BriblaueAugen]

Wow, best video yet. So helpful, thank you!!!

[@heybutwhy3421]

Thank you! I felt better after watching it. This video comes at the best time

[@huskygold5319]

I have recently discovered I struggle hard core with this now that I'm in a relationship. I'm 22 and he's my first bc my mother NEVER let me be around boys. EVER!!! So while I'm not boy crazy I'm freaking horrified half the time when I'm with him and especially when I'm not. I just have this constant feeling of dread bc I don't know what he's doing or why he's not talking to me. I remember always feeling like I needed to be secretive about stuff bc my mom made me so freaking nervous. I'm trying to overcome this. This video helps.

[@mathieuallaire9405]

amazing stuff!

[@enterpreneurlife6150]

Hey Aaron!...Way to go! Your best video so far! Huge fan! You speak my language...Lots of❤ and best wishes for your future endeavours.Namaste!

[@blade8424]

This is really scary. It's like you were literally talking to my subconscious and it was listening to you. Almost like I was hypnotized in a way. Suddenly my anxiety and stress was going away. Was having a hard time sleeping. Thanks.

[@makeishainniss2440]

One of your best videos yet❤

[@abhijittupe8]

Always got ignored by friends and crushes. Don't know why

[@milenaseymour446]

So evolved so much over the years ! Always love listening to you !

[@MAXTHOMASTHOMPSON]

ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴛʜᴏᴍᴀꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ꜱᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛᴏ ʜɪᴍ ꜰᴏʀ ᴀ ᴘʀᴏꜰɪᴛᴀʙʟᴇ ᴄʀʏᴘᴛᴏ ɪɴᴠᴇꜱᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ, ᴛʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ꜰᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ'ꜱ✍️...

[@mandyrose1729]

Thanks Aaron ♥️

[@lvciddd.]

Fruit and meat is powerful its hard to find someone who will let there complete ego and listen to what you want i totally understand lvciddd

[@mayhtoo3576]

Embrace uncertainty!!

[@mayhtoo3576]

Jump into unknown!!

[@mayhtoo3576]

Thank you 💕 so so much!!

[@Itz_RoyceMusic]

Never disappoints 🙌🏽 Keep it going brother!

[@lorettacorson2434]

I resonate soooo much with this Totally! TY for sharing this.

[@clareturnernutrition]

This video actually made me cry a bit! Thank you so much for sharing, it is super helpful for me 💜

[@marielaivermee8313]

You are so right with everything you say in this video, it resonates with me a lot. Thank you x

[@michellefahy8201]

Resonated so much and really powerful Aaron. Thank you for sharing all your knowledge and bringing in your own personal experiences that we can relate to and understand is so beneficial. Letting go of control and surrendering to source is the only way to ascend.

[@alex-ander-13]

powerful video aaron. the last five minutes are truly life changing. thank you so much! ❤🕊

[@coffeewith_rose]

I needed this! Thank you 🤗

[@armyboi1122]

This is pretty amazing! I truly love to feel the comfort of connection your videos bring. I find myself in the "twilight zone" watching you! You are the confirmation that all the "weird" and "unnatural" or even "satanic" ideals I carried in silence for fear of judgment are not only real but bearing fruit! I love the normalcy your content expresses in a world where very few embody this level of understanding! Thank you @AaronDoughty44 and thank you spirit! 434 ❤

[@jakehenderson746]

I surrender to my higher power.

[@oliviabuker7781]

This is awesome. It feels like we are in the same room.

[@stern_standard]

Great breakdown I’ve had these thoughts all week.

[@joeldwest]

Love and respect Aaron

[@sueemara9675]

Awesome video! Love this content.. please continue to have more vids like this one please ❤

[@anthonyromagno2297]

Your videos are a great help with me going through my divorce.

[@luzls1821]

Wow great. Thanks for this video it's really helps me to understand something.

[@raypowers5828]

I needed this

[@glittergirl002zaratte3]

🙏 Just what I needed to hear... releasing control...

[@biselelatabet7735]

So true!🎉

[@SuccessLinkBlog]

This is so weird (or not) I'v not really seen many of your videos on my 1st page for a long time, and just when I've been feeling low this pops up. Thanks Aaron 👍

[@ladaderevnina1382]

God bless you Aaron 🌹

[@MAXTHOMASTHOMPSON]

ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴛʜᴏᴍᴀꜱ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ꜱᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴛᴏ ʜɪᴍ ꜰᴏʀ ᴀ ᴘʀᴏꜰɪᴛᴀʙʟᴇ ᴄʀʏᴘᴛᴏ ɪɴᴠᴇꜱᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ɢᴜɪᴅᴇ, ᴛʜᴀɴᴋꜱ ꜰᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴛ'ꜱ✍️...

[@adrianomelai]

This video is so important and is applicable to everyone. Thank you so much Aaron! Good luck in your live event! 🙏🏻⚡️

[@mendivest]

Hello from the Austin area!

[@lauriemorales7605]

Thank you. You make so much sense ❤

[@ElliottPiano]

Thank you for the effort you are putting in your videos Huge shift since October 2021 loving it

[@avaelizabeth822]

Love this ❤

[@rayjarrad463]

Cosmic Summit in Ashville NC. Next year 2024 they want to expand content and include new people. You many want to contact them as your material is awesome.

[@mayhtoo3576]

Thanksss 😍 brace encertainty.enjoyed this