Letting Go of Reactive Energies | The Michael Singer Podcast (S3 E2)

The Michael Singer Podcast: Season 3, Episode 2
There's nothing even remotely spiritual about going through life reacting to events. In this episode, Michael Singer explores how to become aware of our emotional reactions, navigate the energies that drive them, and learn to respond to triggering events with greater consciousness.
About The Michael Singer Podcast:
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Meet Your Host Michael A. Singer:
Michael A. Singer is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller The Untethered Soul, The Surrender Experiment, Living Untethered, and many popular Sounds True programs including the Living from a Place of Surrender online course. In 1971, while pursuing his doctoral work in economics, he experienced a deep inner awakening and went into seclusion to focus on yoga and meditation. In 1975, he founded Temple of the Universe, a center where people of any religion or set of beliefs can come together to experience inner peace.
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[@jamiereife5581]

The things to which we might react are thousands. The techniques to not react are few. Be present. Do not auto respond to anything. If you have an urge, resist until the urge passes. And may I add to distract yourself from reacting, do box breathing: breathe in 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds, breathe out 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds…repeat until calmness resumes.

[@mohammadzeeshan9746]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@feelthepeace]

Agreed - it is simple. And 'essy' only after commitment and consistency. I would include the 'technique' of gratitude. Bring to mind -and heart where one experiences gratitude ... bathe in that stuff! 😉✌️🫶💪

[@maryodell731]

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[@journeyoflovelight]

How do you do this in front of people?

[@darlacontessa8397]

​@@journeyoflovelightin most situations when I auto-react, the person I'm talking with will not really notice when I stop talking and focus on breathing. By the time I'm ready to respond, they didn't notice anything. I always need to remind myself that we're always in our heads, and so everyone else must be just as focused on themselves.

[@laurayates4033]

THIS is one of the most enlightening videos I've ever heard in my 51 years!!! WOW!

[@army_of_love]

word

[@malaselvarajah5398]

Me 2 ! I will be 51 in a month an totally feel what you say 😊

[@alanduff1054]

51 likes TOO :)

[@alanduff1054]

Well fifty TWO now :) I'm 53 and I approve this message

[@tonycohen2000]

very powerful video indeed

[@susanswinny588]

This talk - Mickey's nailed it! And he's so calm, sincere, and correct!

[@6lack_pineapple]

I listen to this everyday and practice the techniques while driving. Life Changing.

[@brightchange6065]

He is just the best ... I never get tired of listening. This is next-level, simply put, expertly delivered. I HIGHLY recommend the 8 video course. Changed me, I mean REALLY changed me.

[@Mitsyin]

You Got this

[@Jehna618]

I looked and haven't found where to purchase his 8 video course from. Can you tell me where you found yours? Thank you very much 🙂🙂

[@diburrup]

Living from a place of surrender is the name. I did it several years ago and going through it again now… excellent!

[@cecilydean9795]

Thank you! 🙏

[@richardhart2291]

@@Jehna618 You can get the course from Sounds True

[@steveotatooed]

Im going to have to listen to this 1000 times maybe more

[@harvestmoon3098]

you helped me with my freedom, no amount of gratitude is enough, thank you

[@deannedivine4591]

This has been the most transformative podcast! I’ve listened so many times and it’s landing differently when I listen again and again as I implement practices for change. Thank u so much! 🙏✨

[@leighleighdesigns]

I agree, every time I listen, it comes across differently ❤ epic and think his best

[@weareadventuresam]

I have been taught that if the reaction is fear then it’s not intuition. He stated that but it’s not easy to know your true thoughts if you’re in a narcissistic relationship or any mental health or stressful state. Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t tell. Noticing it and asking is worth celebration and then the next time you try to hug your inner self for that. And keep trying.

[@drshahin9]

I agreed with all that's been said until it mentioned there's never a need to change or manipulate the outside world, or "fight". Unfortunately this is where your spirituality is incomplete. There certainly is a need to set boundaries...setting rules and standards of practice, which will at times trigger other people's fight response. In the same way that we must be "capable" of self restraint, we must also be "capable" of self protection and self expression without getting caught up in the negative energy of it all. It's like a detached way of meeting the needs of the moment.

[@sarafox5792]

I agree

[@jms4406]

I'm in that place right now where I had all these beautiful experiences as I opened up and I began to over share them with everyone around me which eventually made me want to be right and approved of, and that lack there of caused me to doubt the initial experience. Now it feels like being turned inside out where the focus is on being understood rather than enjoying the journey I was on. It's especially hard when change happens because it feels like I need to protect myself.

[@brendawalker-cq4wt]

I feel this same way. Thanks for sharing

[@optimisticstance9206]

Thank you for sharing AND completely helping mr identify with what it actually was that I was feeling!!! Perfectly written!!!

[@soul4cetx]

MS is amazing! He’s helping us so much! I love him and so grateful and appreciative that he’s taken the time to help us grow. ❤❤❤❤

[@reneestemmer581]

I related really well to Michael Singers podcast. He especially helped keep me out of my head and not listen to my brain when it tells me to react in ineffective ways and keeps me contained in toxic, defeating thoughts.

[@RaptorGirlkathy]

Practicing this, thank you, Michael...I am noticing how "disturbed, my energy gets...the more I notice, the space widens, and I find myself further from, my "mind 😊..then I dwell on why I am reacting and I practice letting it go...trying Not Touch, the ripples!

[@Sweethearted444]

Thank you so much dear Michael Sending love and light ❤🙏✨🍀

[@highfrequency1483]

Most people are in autopilot they are not aware of whats really going on. Most people ive met are in reaction to their experiences. We do create our own suffering by wanting things outside of ourselves to be a certain way. We think that if the outside is the way we want the inner would be okay.

[@conscienceblossom]

There is a positive type of reaction, which in fact is acting on your intuition. It saved me from trouble more often than not

[@alanduff1054]

WE are wrong OFTEN but our intuition NEVER is

[@MindfulSimpleSolutions]

Michale Singer you are an absolutely beautiful soul, your words make so much sense✨✨✨

[@maysaraali5772]

I love this man❤He transformed my entire existence. Thank you!

[@c7eye]

I did the online course. It goes so in depth. I loved it.

[@swinnyuk6584]

I haven’t watched this video yet, but I just wanted to say that since watching your last video(which was, basically, about relaxation), my days have been much smoother. It was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

[@vyvanle8428]

This is so powerful yet so intense! The book presence process by Michael brown supported me tremendously on the how of what Michael singer shares. A 10-week book that supports us in being present with those charges. Being with those charges with compassion & presence.

[@cf2278]

Me too! ❤

[@traceystirling6008]

Yup same here

[@traceystirling6008]

I love how Michael Brown refers to these energies as nutrition for us to digest or our daily bread. It made be able to witness these energies with loving compassion

[@katiea8014]

@@traceystirling6008wow that perspective just might change everything…

[@victoriayebuga3097]

Thanks for sharing this!!

[@truthbespoken333]

As always divine timing, this came right outta the blue because I sooo needed it! This will be an ongoing teaching for me personally. Very grateful ✨✨

[@joyoussouls]

“Master yourself …go deeper” “it is the ability… to be comfortable with the uncomfortable “ learn to practice discipline…keep your mouth shut!”

[@froipieces]

Thank you Michael Singer for coming into my life. I feel so connected to my seat consciousness🙏 thank you for guiding me to find my light✨️

[@russellflorence8173]

Is it not cool that this work actually helps us understand life and behavior in new ways

[@sannajohanna5579]

I am happy to hear that the uncomfort means improvement. Today, after the work - which was fine, I was happy about my accomplishments and kind words I had said to some people - I sat in the bus, thought about my life and myself and felt bad. I see all kind of vehaviours in myself that are mostly destructive. I felt to cry. I thought: Ok, it is gonna be like this the rest of my life, seeing all my faults every time, seemingly not getting rid of them. Especially, when I think about my past actions, I cannot understand myself. Or- yes, I can, but being reactive has not been helpful at all! My life would look happier if I had just let it all go! I still hang on them. Now I oractise to let go and I notice, that I can hold „letting go“ for few seconds, then the mess in my mind starts again. It IS terrible. Then I came home, this video came to me and Michael says that it is how it should be: you should be conscious and feel uncomfortable at the moment when you feel what is happening. So, I celebrate every moment that I can let go before reacting. There have been some of those tranquil moments and indeed, they made the bad momentum fall, dissappear.

[@joyoussouls]

“Your aware of everything…what would come …causal body …what they would do…all things are available to you…don’t react…watch …don’t do anything…non doership you don’t have to do anything about anything… just sit there… let energy to unfold in their own way.”

[@allpointstoone4346]

If a car is about to hit you, don't just let it hit you, if you can react quickly enough, get out of the way.

[@a12i9]

​@@allpointstoone4346You know he's talking about emotional reactions. Panic will definitely get you in the way during a car accident.

[@Katthecontrarian]

I totally get it. I went to the park and felt overwhelming bad feelings... it was all within... I knew it was just the reactive muck within me stirring up...I didn't fight it...I just let it come and go. Sooo painful but wow! Your ego is forever trying to bring YOUR past to the present moment (not THE past but your past...your experiences etc.) He is soo right- we each have our own unique scars and mentalities and we always assume someone will read our mind and understand us when really we need to understand ourselves. Indeed, most people never understand themselves yet expect someone else to understand them 🤣 Go within!

[@gummisnoodable]

Michael Singer makes normally difficult processes easy to understand. 25:17 - He often talks about how we try to manipulate our outside environment to make our insides feel better, This is a different and about the way we try to manipulate our inside and although it gets us closer to where we need to be, we eventually want to eliminate this as well.

[@CentaurPress]

You have to want out more than you want to make it be comfortable for yourself🙏

[@stefankaps5293]

Michael Singer is my guide,love the way he describes how we can liberate ourselves!amazing

[@ranc1977]

I found it patronizing and stuck in binary thinking.

[@theelement6255]

@@ranc1977then you didn’t “find it” at all

[@ginas.4266]

This is a life altering perspective. So thankful for Michael Singer and for sharing his work !

[@a12i9]

Thanks for speaking relatively slow and clearly, this way more people are likely to understand every word even if English isn't their first language.

[@jm7514]

I am helping myself by taking b12 and multi b vitamins, and eating well. Researching b12 deficiency helped. Also all of the calming techniques that I am trying to incorporate are helping immensely, and finally, hypno therapy really eliminated negative thoughts and my negative childhood memories.

[@thelinguistshow]

"To not eat when you want to eat..." That part talks to me. I feel like a struggle with overeating

[@darkarai5241]

You're not alone friend. We'll get through this

[@jomuldoon7003]

I'm here too, I feel its my last crutch x

[@krisc8358]

I have felt a struggle with overeating when I have cravings for sweets. I am stocking my kitchen with healthy veggies. Try cutting up your favorite vegetables to eat. I have found they fill me up and the cravings will subside.

[@maryrowe3227]

Life is short. If you want to eat then eat. As a matter of fact I like to start with dessert first. Enjoy yourself and live it up. Enjoy every meal like it's your last. 💚

[@Jillady]

Just think. the word “gluttony” when you’re in the fridge or pantry late at night. That’s what I started doing and I didn’t wake up with crumbs in my bed this morning.😅❤

[@smallsteps3801]

"You permit energies ti unfold in their own way at their own pace in their own course. You let them go where they must go and not go where they don't go. And what will happen is eventually you will come to peace."

[@jamiereife5581]

Not my will but Thy will. Yes, I can see it.

[@jomuldoon7003]

Ofcourse this has came into my reality in absolute perfect timing...thank you 🤍

[@Jehna618]

Oh my God! This is so good and so deep...yes, I am and have been right where he's talking about. Feeling the disturbances and at first spurring out, blame and manipulate others trying to control my outer world in order to find peace within, to then just sit outwardly being quiet but internally feeling the turmoil deep disturbances in my scared heart to finally learning to step back and witnessing what just all IS. This is so deep and freeing...Michael Singer's teaching is so profound, I am grateful to have come across his teaching...really thought I was going out of my mind but now I feel like I can cross the river. Love Love Love this deep work...and know I know I can relax and know I am perfectly where I am. Namaste!😌💖💯💫👍

[@soniahaddad8492]

29:02 I am scared 😱 😨 30:06 Michael singer, you are amazing, thank you. I am not gonna say anything personal, Practicing is the key. I hope everybody who reads. This will be practicing so I am.

[@larrymans4]

I am so greatful that my spirit and soul can hear this paratactical wisdom ❤

[@aidamhruska120]

Thank you whatever algoritm popped this gem of a video in my face. NAMASTE 🙏

[@soniahaddad8492]

30:28 🎉🎉🎉 I'm leaving this note. Because I will be back a few days or a few weeks later on , Because I'm gonna be working on myself. And I would love to share this note with you guys. And you can do the same.

[@stefanoredaelli849]

Tousand years ago a person who has gone above his intellect was called a buddha . Michael singer is a buddha. And he's living right now. And it's a an opportunity for everybody to attain peace thank you for your teachings.

[@bluepilledworld]

Excellent description of the road towards Spirituality and Knowing Thyself.

[@renakmans3521]

He is one of the deepest teachers I’ve heard…I’ve heard 20 others that are also incredible but, wow!

[@noellesavidou1688]

Thank you so much!! I so needed this talk today! Thank you, thank you, thank you!! 🙏🏻❤️🙋🏻‍♀️

[@SonyaBe748]

This is eye opening. Thank you 🙏

[@markleto4852]

Michael describes this process of what happens within the heart and how one reacts to it so perfectly 🎉

[@chessmaster2000]

So when do I actually engage and dance with life? When do I get out of “observing” mode?

[@elenikambas9843]

Boy, did I need to hear this!

[@safahummel9396]

Thank you 🙏🏻 for this profound and timely reminder.

[@dashawnbennett7274]

I completely get what is being said here, and I, myself have watched myself go through those phases - not lashing out, working through it within myself, and not trying to assuage myself with a story. However, there are moments in time when someone does something or says something where, if it is not addressed, it is a huge disservice to decency and humanity. The response does not need to come from a place of anger or a blatant trigger response, but how does this pertain to real physical assault or violence perpetrated upon oneself? I would appreciate that being directly addressed.

[@bushii9272]

I believe this is part of the subtle difference between action and reaction. I think to act is to consciously use your will power, and to react is to allow the world to influence how you use your will power. Putting it simply :)

[@TheJedynak]

On one hand, it's genius. On the other, I feel a bit like it invites to suppression. THat can't end well.

[@optimisticstance9206]

You’re not suppressing anything because you’re in the present moment with self. When you’re present you accepting the feelings that’s surfaces WITHOUT being reactive. When you’re reactive due to circumstances, you’re allowing the circumstances to control YOU.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

Let Go! Just Be! 😊❤

[@abaton1633]

Thank you so much for this, algoritm send you in my reality right in time🙏

[@guzmandaniela3047]

so excited

[@gillianlim3395]

i love how you guys add the chapters to the video. it really helps when we're trying to relisten to the videos!

[@allislove369]

Thank you Michael Singer. You're an amazing teacher.

[@user-sz4gg9bv9w]

The best of the best and clear explanation… it makes my life easier..!! ❤

[@jayaramann8707]

I continue to learn every time I listen to Michael . This lecture is an absolute masterpiece in spirituality

[@priscilla3583]

You are a genius, and need to be cloned some how lol !! Absolutely brilliant!

[@user-gf9ee3tk9p]

Here because of the twin flame journey. Healing is incredibly difficult here. Everything is triggered all at once.

[@chilloften]

Learning this, mastering this. 🦋🌺🌲🌸

[@ranc1977]

I am not sure that Dissociation, Denial nor Repression are leading to mental health at all.

[@theelement6255]

@@ranc1977I knew someone would say this; and that’s NOT what this is

[@c7eye]

This is spectacular. I love this.

[@carokiter]

I love Michael singer’s books , and I agree with most of his content . however this video made me feel like if we don’t do anything about anything we potentially become a door mat. A codependent “victim “ As an adult I had to learn to speak up my mind and express myself , and that has helped my life to improve Perhaps this message has a part missing and is only one aspect of how to live our lives

[@mojca969]

I love it 🙏🏻🥰 Michael is so to the point and clear. I am super grateful for these series 🫶🏻💕

[@joyoussouls]

“Growth is about me changing … my environment changing me”

[@debbrenneman3407]

So much growth ,Peace and freedom

[@shirleyfrost9909]

My question, how do u have a conversation with someone who has a totally different opinion? Just not respond???

[@cateinnish6578]

Beautiful! Thank you, Michael.

[@Pleasantgirl24]

The truth is delicious❤

[@bluebutterflywellness2273]

SO TRUE! I am learning this now. 🙏🏽💕

[@subhaviswanathan4338]

Thanks Sounds True for bringing so much wisdom through Michael singer. Much much gratitude!🙏

[@SoundstrueManyVoices]

Thank you for your support!

[@52MAREVA]

Wow! This is Amazing and just what I need to change and become a Better person! Thanks!❤❤❤😊🥳🌈🌺👏👏🎉🎉🤙

[@DaysofSummer_love]

Thank you Mickey Singer 🙏 i needed to hear this

[@Katthecontrarian]

I agree with everything except the part that we should always allow whatever around us to happen...sadly the world is run by the biggest egos going (those who refuse to do the inner work and project their own hatreds.) I think it is possible to do both (inner and outer work.)

[@kcopeland7910]

Thank you, confirmation of what I have been doing, and knowing to do, is the way. I appreciate you, and your sharing of your experiences, to help humanity🙏💖💖💖

[@ranc1977]

He is brainwashing us that fusing our emotions with our self worth will heal the trauma. It won't- It will make it worse.

[@theelement6255]

@@ranc1977you don’t understand this stuff at all. Thanks for being well meaning but you should understand BEFORE you critique

[@ranc1977]

@@theelement6255 That is your subjective perspective. It is not true, nor reality. IT is simply a delusion in your head which appears as reality to you.

[@NadiaAhmed-rn5up]

Really excellent podcast my first experience with Micheal Singer

[@SouLightness]

Very difficult to hear this where i am now. Reacting in every shape and form now. So much pain...

[@thelinguistshow]

Was waiting for this one!

[@RealityMechanics]

Unbelievable …….. I’m out of words!!! Thank you 🙏🏼

[@aleksabisercic1410]

This man is genius. 🙏🏻

[@sedaylmaz2236]

This guys teachings are great

[@lovesnature004]

Thank you so much ❤️ Exactly what I needed to hear right now

[@user-ff5pe3pn9l]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts of life. They are Healing message for me.

[@kylecz9415]

All things point to presence

[@fourcharms4]

This was amazing, now I’m going to go listen to everything on his podcast! Thank you 🙏🏾 💚

[@SoundstrueManyVoices]

Thank you for listening.

[@6lack_pineapple]

This was absolutely beautiful.

[@Heart_Health_and_Soul_by_Anika]

Thank you! ❤

[@army_of_love]

This is golden ❤

[@IlonaNoskova]

I want to come visit you at the temple of the universe! JGD 🌟🙏

[@barcelona12ist]

I finally got it, now it's time to practice/embody it 🙏

[@sohaibam3641]

I love you MS ❤

[@LyanE24]

Relax ☮️💟

[@afsanehmohammadi1506]

I love this video ❤️🙏🙏🙏❤️

[@gaurav3290]

Beautiful video ❤

[@dimitraangelidis376]

Amazing❤

[@joyoussouls]

Use your willpower to start an environment of transformation

[@ranc1977]

According to Dr. Lynch, people who are over-controlled have the following four core deficits: - Lack of Receptivity and Openness: You tend to be risk-averse and hyper-vigilant. You may avoid new and novel experiences and can be dismissive of other people's input and feedback. - Lack of Flexible Responding: You may have a compulsive need for structure and order. You plan and rehearse everything. Your life may be governed by rigid rules you impose on yourself. You may also censor yourself and other people's behavior with high moral standards. - Lack of Emotional Expression and Awareness: You inhibit spontaneous emotional expression. Maybe you have expressions that do not match how you feel inside (e.g. you smile when you are distressed). You also tend to diminish your distress and adopt a stoic facade. - Lack of Social Connectedness and Intimacy: You may appear distant and aloof and keep people at arm's length. You may also compare yourself with others often and feel envious and bitter. These biology-based traits are powerful because they are unconscious and affect us without us even realizing it. ******* Because this is an innate predisposition, you cannot will yourself, think yourself, or use more willpower to control or talk your way out of it. ******* (Psychology Today) The Struggles of Quiet BPD Posted July 23, 2021 Over-control may help explain Quiet Borderline Personality Disorder.

[@annemarine]

Thank you ❤️🙏🏻 what a genius

[@jolez_4869]

Thank you!