Letting Go of the Narcissist You Love

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[@ValerieStaten-b9y]

Great video! Unfortunately, my 2 year relationship ended a month ago. The person I believed was the love of my life chose to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. No matter what I do, I can’t stop thinking about him. Despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. He’s always on my mind, and I miss him more than words can express.

[@SMITHJOHNSON-e8g]

Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.

[@ValerieStaten-b9y]

Wow, that’s amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him?

[@SMITHJOHNSON-e8g]

His name is Father Tosin Ayodele an incredible spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reunite with their ex.

[@ValerieStaten-b9y]

Thank you so much for the suggestion; it means more to me than you know.

[@RawMotivations]

A Valerie, the piece I need to understand is that you're stuck in a trama bond and a big piece of that is going to feel like and addiction. It's going to feel like there's no other option going back to back no matter what. I'm not saying that you can't miss him and that you can't love him. In fact that would be silly because you've invested so much time and energy into the relationship. That I wanna provide an opportunity for you to heal so that he no longer takes up so much time and space in your life and you're able to move forward, enjoying your life versus still being consumed by him. Click on the link here and see if this video resonates with you. www.rawmotivations.com/breakthrough

[@Savvymammagreenlife22]

Ive noticed its harder for me to read the bible and think about growing spiritually when im still holding onto him.I need this space in more ways than 1

[@AW4ever]

Love requires action- not just words Trust needs proof Sorry needs change - consistent change Love should not hurt and you shouldn’t have to beg your partner to treat you the way you deserve in a healthy relationship. Peace is priceless!!

[@JT0007]

Yep. Limited sex for years and I was sure I was the issue. Such a mind f. 🫡🇺🇸🇬🇧

[@Denitra3455]

I've been attending therapy twice a week. Listening to these feels like another therapy session for me. I appreciate it. ❤

[@spicydragonroll88-wd2jl]

Amen I had the same fears about the bills and taking care of the kids.. then it hit me I was doing that 90% so what exactly will be missing? To be in fear is to be stuck! I pray this comment finds someone and you also take the leap! Be strong!

[@susanleonard1621]

Actions speak louder than words. I was in a cold marriage for 29 years. I dealt with his coldness, devaluating, bitterness for years. I found out he was having an affair, something I suspected for years and now I am free.

[@RawMotivations]

Good for you, wish you the b est on healing

[@LoriCadwell]

Sex is addictive Trauma is addictive HOPE is addictive He's the drug You are the addict

[@rachybooo]

I know this is 5 months old, but this video HITS. Very helpful, Ben. Crazy how just hearing someone speak out loud what you have been through can be so helpful in the healing and processing. It's so hard to put any of this tangled mess in my mind into words. Thank you for all you do!

[@RawMotivations]

Thank you. I am glad it connects. Join the challenge to be free! Https://www.rawmotivations.com/unchained

[@watchmeheal1176]

Ben! Wow!! This is: in my opinion, you’re BEST video EVER!! Wow! Wow! Wow!! You’ve described 100000th the truth about the ‘WHY’ that many people can’t verbalize!! He’s told me a zillion times he knows I’ll never leave…. 💜‼️💜‼️ After 24yrs, my goal is to be gone by July 1st. He has a month long trip to Turkey this summer- I’m escaping then!!!

[@bronwynsimons7028]

I really hope you manage to escape dear friend. I learnt about npd one year ago, and have been planning my exit since. Whether it's NPD or simply emotional abuse, it boils down to the same thing. Abuse! No should tolerate any kind of abuse, without repentance and consistent change I'm still stuck in a rut because of shame. Second marriage I'm the common denominator BUT God knows the truth about both marriages And I'm hanging on to the hope That the truth will set me free I'm just so ashamed😢 And it's not that easy to just walk away It has to be planned with expertise Cos there's No turning back! And No contact !

[@ronimorelos8484]

Good luck!!! I will be praying for you!

[@KarenFlynn-k4p]

You will be so happy you did. It's very weird in the beginning because you think, we have always been a couple.....but not really. It's our fantasy world we thought we had. I was married for 25 years, he left for a new supply....it was heart breaking at the time but it was a gift from God. Life is so peaceful and wonderful now. Best of luck, you won't be sorry you left.❤

[@JUSTUs-w5k]

Need this❤ after 14 years I had to let go! I was doing so much and all he did was tear me down. I try to make it work but I really need to heal

[@RawMotivations]

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[@dumpmail-xz2qp]

Yup, this what I have been struggling with. It was really hard to let go but I knew I had to because of the insane growth of anxiety and emotional abuse. She was very smug and uncaring but would feed me lies to keep me around. It was like she was really obsessed in getting a reaction out of me by visibly treating everyone else better while not giving me even a normal talk. Now I realize how little she was doing in maintaining a friendship and how much a waste of time she was. I prioritized my mind over my emotions and distanced myself from her attempts in making out of me the narc, its still emotionally taxing but still much better than what shes been doing to me to lift herself up at my expense. One things I noticed that's very typical about narcs is that they get a kick out of getting you emotionally distressed. You don't want this kind of individual to make a big part of your life. To get over her I also made a list of the bs she was doing and then I labeled what I felt for her as simply a bad addiction and labeled her as obsessed with me in a toxic way because no normal person would go as low to dehumanize you that they wouldn't even put up with making a normal conversation.

[@SilverBeauty_53]

I didn't become emotionally constipated. Exact opposite I became a hot mess and cried constantly crying!! I cried EVERY DAY for 8 months straight. I finally got a grip and stopped (mostly) for about 4-6 weeks. Then he started being more evil and cruel and I started all over again. I think he liked seeing me like that

[@marknimmons2051]

Absolutely he did...because it showed that he had control over you!

[@RawMotivations]

Im sorry to hear that, hope you are doing better these days!

[@KarenFlynn-k4p]

Run, and don't look back.🙏you deserve better❤️

[@elmaswanepoel1598]

My greatest desire is to heal. Not out yet😢, but need to prep my mind to get out and STAY OUT

[@RawMotivations]

Let’s chat www.rawmotivations.com/breakthrough

[@karenronk4659]

Great video Ben, THANK YOU 😊

[@RawMotivations]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@Lovergirlstudiio]

He literally told me that I don’t have what it takes to leave him alone and provide for myself. When all of my things were packed he’s still tried to act as if I wanted to stay with him 😂 mainly bc he think I don’t have anywhere to go or money to leave.

[@Jenhashadit]

You're right on. It's amazing that I'm going through this right now... I have to leave and just don't know how to make the first step. I tell him all the time, if you don't do this im going to leave, yet I'm still around after he's ran all over me like a piece of crap on the bottom of his shoe!! I'm at the end of my ropes. I'm sick of talking myself down.

[@RawMotivations]

I appreciate your courage to share your experience, i would love to help you on your healing journey, please join me in this webinar . www.rawmotivations.com/webinar

[@BeTheLight624]

Excellent - great explanation. We get frozen and confused because of all the chaos that is thrown at us for that very reason of keeping us stuck. Until we are able to sort it out logically, ignore our emotions and become educated to the narcs way of thinking and what is actually going on, only then can we successfully make our way out of the narc spider web or hamster wheel of pain. Thank you for your help and dedication to this abuse. It has helped me when you share from a narc perspective.

[@RawMotivations]

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[@elmagarza478]

Narcissistists SUCK! I WAS WITH ONE!

[@rhondawampner688]

I'm still in this relationship, I want to be free from him. I have let go 4 or 5 times in the past 4 years. We don't live together, or share our money, I have my own money. I have my own place. We have no kids together. So I don't understand why I'm hanging on. I feel trapped, can't break free.

[@bronwynsimons7028]

I'm so very sorry 😢 It's manipulation and deception keeping you hoping, and holding on to what is a total lie anyway I pray you manage to cut and run and block contact altogether May God grant you the grace to do what's best for you, your health and your healing ❤

[@eigthhousefallen]

Tell his wife everything.

[@rhondawampner688]

@@bronwynsimons7028 thank you very much for your support

[@peterhoekstra2957]

Thanks!

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

Lust not love huge difference ❤❤🎉🎉♌️♌️♌️♌️🇺🇸💯💯

[@anitakern1216]

Wow this is soooo sooo true. What I'm going through right now. But I can survive. The house is mine. I don't need a man to pay anything for me. No kids either. He moved in with me. The best supply he's ever had. But the addition is real with this narc

[@PassarinvanderWal]

I am amazed! you can accept yourself a Narcissist because of so much ego and never wrong. And you also amazed me you understand what women feel, think exactly the way it’s!!! You are very good! 👍 wow!

[@ShariGiar]

Or perhaps he reads the same books we do! Careful of those wolves in sheep's clothing.

[@RawMotivations]

:,,) actually read less on the subject that you would imagine. Some of the best books are psychopath free and covert passive aggressive narcissist. I don’t watch other content either just speak from what I did and how I coach.

[@chrisobenshain718]

Best video yet!

[@caroleminke6116]

You never loved the narc ❤️‍🩹 you’re in love with the dream

[@eigthhousefallen]

And yourself. Since he mirrors you in the beginning, its kinda like falling for yourself.

[@amandajohnson-williams7718]

You're in love with a false ILLUSION you've been fed, not the real toxic person, that's the problem it's all DECEPTION in reality.

[@susanturner9023]

That’s great advice. I am trying to figure out how I got here and how can I love and hate a person at the same time. I am a mess and completely emotionally drained I can’t deal!

[@nina19275]

So true

[@lisaz4411]

Yeah with a dream or a mirage or the person you imagined them to be instead of the horror show they turned out to be

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

Also, it was so hilarious… I guess it really truly wasn’t hilarious. It was really pathetically. Very sad…… the other day, because he said that he answered the seven questions whether he was a narc and he’s not I just kept silent. I totally see clearly through all of this.

[@caroleminke6116]

This is denial inaction 🤦‍♀️ at least mine acknowledged his narcissism diagnosis & was also proud of it

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

YUUUUUUP……….WORDS

[@lynnschaeferle-zh4go]

Leave immediately. It gets worse, the longer you stay the more you waste your life. I should have left before my kids got old enough to be bribed, brainwashed and filled with lies and cognitive dissonance. So I stuck because I imagined what the stepmother would be like. 41 years of covert passive:aggressive and his agenda is to erase me so he can be the only parent. It makes sense: his beer belly is about 9 mos. pregnant. The drinking was a godsend because he got sloppy so I had to believe what I was seeing. An old man playing mean girls. A fat old narcissist is not attractive and it makes them angry I’m considering going to court so I can visit my grandkids but I don’t want any more misery and disfunction.

[@eigthhousefallen]

Ben, "You're the only one we can work with" "... if thats not what you want then this isnt the place for you, go find another channel". "Because "I" only want to work with people that actually want to heal. " This must be why its said that the one that hurts us (or representative of) cannot be the one to heal us.

[@dg11306]

The narcissist in my life was a woman.

[@LaceyCastro13]

Mine contacted me yesterday after no contact for last 2 months while going through divorce from long distance...now he wants to talk and see each other in person before he agrees to help with the divorce 🤢... Whats there to say ?!? To someone who betrayed manipulated and used me when i did everything under the sun to help him during his worst now hes better and i feel he sacrificed me even if he hasnt let go....

[@RawMotivations]

i would love to help you on your healing journey, please join me in this webinar . www.rawmotivations.com/webinar

[@KarenFlynn-k4p]

I have been I your shoes. Get a good lawyer and have no contact with your narc. They hate to lose, there is no negotiating with a narc. They will try every trick in the book and drain you dry emotionally so you will cave in and give them what they want. Best of luck❤️

[@shane1539]

I like what youre saying but at some point i thought your nose would bleed

[@loubo3285]

sync is no good