LETTING GO Techniques To Get Over Your Ex

[@JulienHimself]

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[@Rliss99]

Mad props to this girl

[@JulienHimself]

Yes, MASSIVE respect to her! 🔥👊

[@ToJoseGarcia]

So important to love yourself before getting into a relationship and you will still love yourself after a break up. Also don't make it your partner's job to make you happy.

[@JulienHimself]

Yes, self love is the foundation of a healthy relationship! 👌

[@VeganBambi]

I loved myself when i met my dream guy and him leaving me still crushed me. lol

[@Mushroom321-]

Yeah , it happens no matter how we feel about ourselves. 💔

[@hummingbird4934]

Well somehow I must have loved myself to attract the love of my life. He was amazing, everything I dreamed of. Didn’t love myself by the end though which is how I lost him. Just goes to show if you start to lose yourself in any way even the best relationships are tested. It’s so so important to take care of ourselves

[@Sasha-zl1xr]

​Sorry to hear that, but also know it's normal to feel hurt after a breakup, like Julien said, it shows you had real feelings for that person so it is natural to grieve after a breakup. Hopefully you are in a better pace now or at least things are getting easier for you 🙏🏾

[@StupidLoveAI]

She’s such a fuggin badass in this video. The honesty and sincerity. Crazy to see someone so beautiful feel this way. This is how we heal each other ❤️❤️❤️

[@tristenn292]

Shes amazing being so vulnerable. I hope shes healing or healed and finds someone just as amazing

[@DIMON13585]

What a timing Julien, broke up a couple of days ago after 6 yrs of relationship. In a couple of days she's gonna come for her stuff, gotta stay strong.

[@JulienHimself]

Sorry to hear... I'd suggest watching this video as well: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g2HGpYWDh52kjq8 - You got this! 🙏

[@bombe0119]

Ended after 7 years here. I'm with you brother. I'm not sure honestly, what the the fuck I would do, if julien wasn't by my side the last weeks. Thanks again, Julien ❤

[@arthurpereira6782]

Same, 2 years tho.

[@AblackGenie]

Same, two weeks long relationship 💔

[@stepasidecitizen3747]

stay strong man, I had 15 years...still figuring out how to walk freely:) but I will and you too

[@damienwelter4543]

Dude this girl is amazing, so brave, so heartfelt and open-hearted. You're a beautiful soul, too, my friend, healing these girls has to bring you so much more joy since you have a baby of your own now... You're doing the world a service with spiritual, political, and social implications that will serve as a transformational effect upon all human consciousness. Not bad for some nerds who were just trying to figure out how to get laid, who would've known where such paths could lead.

[@SplashyCannonBall]

I’m going through this. My wife broke up with me a year ago and then filed divorce. She has processed it all and moved on and now, I’m dealing with the shame and guilt and loss. It’s hard to transform myself under the shame and guilt. I’ve never seen her happier and it hurts.

[@vv-cv6ud]

No bro no shame no guilt . Stand straight and be bold what your facing . This time will pass . GL

[@EAEverheart]

Even though I didn't break up with a significant other, I recently had a friendship breakup, and this helped me. Thank you Julian for being you. Recently I've been expressing my real self a lot more to the world, and I've never felt so...free. I hope someday I can attend one of your events in person. You are truly an inspiration. -some 16 year old girl learning to become authentic :)

[@danirobi10]

Be authentic - right from the beginning, from the very first moment - be rejected for who you are right away instead of years down the road. It’s’ not personal. We are not meant to connect with everyone. You will eventually have to be yourself and you’d lose them anyhow so be yourself from day one. Put out all your quirks up front - you will weed through those will not care for, and you will connect with those who accept and can love you quirks and all.

[@tractordriver8950]

It only it was that easy

[@chuchualemayehu6029]

Oh my god she is my mirror thank you so much julien

[@jessebradford7130]

Julien, I dated a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder and she also had drug problems. She was very much into me. Crazy about my looks, how much I loved her, she loved how I was masculine and very loving at the sane time. Wanted to marry me and even thought she wasn't good enough. She even said she was scared of how much she loved me. But then all of that got faded out to her and she walked. Like it was easy too. I'm not talking about pain of missing her. It's a different beast. I honestly don't miss her and no pain. The different beast is not knowing what was actually real. Not knowing or sure of who she was. Because you leave not really knowing what you meant for real in the first place. That's a lot harder than knowing what you meant but it's over and you're sad now. The question of what was it and what was I to her haunts me.

[@kristinasvenska3688]

She was just fucked up I guess. Why u need addicted person? Maybe u deserve better and healing to find right person ❤️‍🩹 don’t seek roller coaster 🎢 it’s not gonna make u happy eventually 😢

[@sashar5646]

Hey. I have C-PTSD (it's not the same as BPD but has some overlaps). From my perspective: she did love you and felt what she said in the moments she said it. But mental issues can be very strong and steal a person from herself. She just didn't have any bandwidth for love because of her issues and her pain. It's not your fault. Hope it helps.

[@amandareanne]

Just got off of a call with one of your team members named Jose. He was amazing at giving me advice! ⭐️

[@sarastrange5282]

After a 10 year relationship, I had a rebound, and I quickly learned how it was just a temporary bandaid, since, with very little dating, I'm so used to being on my own now (almost 3 years) that I have zero interest in connecting with anyone, dating or opening up to anyone

[@Greatscott24]

Notice how both the rebound and your current mindset are the two extremes of the pendulum though? From needing someone, anyone, to don’t need anyone.

[@sarastrange5282]

@@Greatscott24 Yeah my problem now is that I've developed hyper independance 😬 I have no desire to let anyone in my life

[@Greatscott24]

@@sarastrange5282 find someone who values you remaining independent. They exist. Don’t go out of your way, but keep your door cracked at least. Nothing is permanent. Everything can be changed. Look deep inside to that shadow self. Maybe it’s not just about independence. Maybe you have some insecurities and don’t want to be hurt. I have a saying. Don’t bleed on people who didn’t cut you. Regardless, I wish you well on your journey. Nice nail game btw.

[@ClaironAurelio]

Como eu gostaria de estar assim​@@sarastrange5282

[@Acorn905]

This actually helps a lot. I need to work with my feelings with my ex since i still miss her a lot. I wish we still talked qnd where friends cus i want us to get along together like we used to. But when i think of us being friends again i think of it like the past but without the bad parts. But that can't happen, we can maybe be friends again but it won't be like i want it to. It won't magically fix everything and be a perfect friendship it will still have the same problems. That's doesn't mean if we have flaws we can't be friends but after what happened it's better for both of us to grow as our own people instead of speed fixing ourselves for eachother. I feel that i'm not enough for others to sometimes. Or that i'm to much actually, that i talk to much, i'm to all over the place, or try to hard to be friendly when i actually was just raised as a social person. And i miss how i use to be because when i was a kid i didnt care what others said cus i knew i was worth friendship and i was trying my best. But knkw i feel more and more insecure but i think this year ill try fo be more positive and loving in myself and i'll look in myself for what i need to heal and how to think of myself ❤

[@Jakilyn]

Is it possible to just simply grieve a relationship because it was so special and the rare coming together of two people who adored each other? I miss my ex terribly, BUT, I'm trying to look back & appreciate the relationship and end this grieving process so I can move on.

[@viztuza5530]

You are 100% right. I recently found a useful book on amazon on this issue titled "How to Recover from a Break-Up and Find Happiness Again"

[@johnny5stacks60]

I am so heartbroken. I know this will “pass eventually”. It doesn’t make it any easier right now. It’s been 2 weeks, and she is my first thought in the morning, and the last thought before I sleep. She’s on my mind all day long. I don’t work well, I drink to numb myself, I’ve abandoned passions and struggle to sleep each night. I just wish I had never known her sometimes, yet find myself revisiting photos and videos. I guess I like to torture myself. She initiated no contact without reason or notice. I resist going over to her place. I resist looking for her. I won’t do it, but I think if I got an answer, some closure, I might be able to heal faster. I’m 40 years old and I haven’t hurt this much over a breakup in my life, and I’ve had a lot of relationships.

[@Chronicblessings]

Checking in on you. Are you feeling better?

[@johnny5stacks60]

@@Chronicblessings hey there, thank you. I am. I joined a band that tours the U.S. and Europe this year, so I’m keeping busy. Thank you for checking in.

[@playerovgy]

This is absolutely so beautiful, thank you. 14 and a half years later after my bad, bad breakup and it's got all of the feelings coming out, but with an answer on how to manage the feelings. Absolutely awesome!! I've written so much down from those questions (why wasn't you good enough, why was the other person better than you) and found answers that have been held inside for years 🙏🙏

[@JulienHimself]

Glad this was so impactful for you! Stay strong! 🙏

[@playerovgy]

@@JulienHimself ♥♥

[@halloenglish.nguyenkhoanam]

I prayed to god, as I prayed for love. But this time, I prayed for God not to hurt me anymore in my process of finding love. I have lost so much hope and faith, with only so little of it left through all the pain and trauma. I pray god to no longer, not even a single time more, to punish me for trying to find love and trying to love someone. Because if I do get punished one final time, then the next time, I could only be nothing but nihilistic, yet not resentful. I would then lie, deceit, punish, manipulate, abuse and violate my sexual partners, not even consider them the slightest bit humans, because I felt that every single time I try to give love, I am always betrayed and deeply hurt. But one final time, if I am lucky, I will finally get what I pray for, but if I don't, then so be it.

[@AM-wt7cl]

I hope ur okay x

[@dazzh3834]

She's PRETTY, and honest

[@amandareanne]

My dad gave away my dog about 3 weeks ago. I’ve numbed my pain and pushed it down resisting to feel the pain because I’m afraid of the pain as it is unbearable. I am angry because he gave her away and will never get over it. No amount of positive advice will help me get over my dog that he gave away. I am angry at him and sometimes want revenge. The pain is unbearable and I am filled with pain and anger………..He said it’s just a dog you will forget about it soon. It’s very inconsiderate and when he said that it made me very angry. Ever since this happened my mental health has declined. I don’t know what to do…..I feel like I have no other choice but to be strong and push through in life and continue but another part of me is incredibly hurt.

[@Gragon777]

Feel the pain and go into it. Stop resisting it and go in. Step by step you will feel the pain grief and anger and it will release.

[@damienwelter4543]

4:12 The instant reflexes of a man who has successfully survived a worldwide media 'scandal', like a BOSS! Haha. Fire, bro, had a little roadbump that made me trip into a pot of gold, but it's a pot at the end of the bottomless depths, so as soon as I ascend like Jesus, I mean Prometheus... I'm hopping into The Purpose Process, had to take the route less traveled to make sure I planted on stable ground, but believe me, everything is still going according to plan. You're fxcking killing it, brother, so proud to say that I'm a Horde Elder... When the Horde commences upon civilization, we'll all be Legends For Eternity... Our bloodlines will live on, FOREVER!

[@naturallybecoming831]

I went thru a similar thing as her. I never felt safe to be myself with anyone it really didn’t feel like a performance. I’m gonna be myself with everyone going forward

[@user-jj8zt1cv7m]

People are so judgemental these days it’s impossible to be completely yourself. I have tried and got rejected that it created fear of being myself fearing that guys would keep on leaving me and I will end up alone forever. My soon to be ex-husband who has diagnosed mental health issue left me when his chaos got into me and I also became chaotic. “Perseverance” and “honesty” is so underrated in modern relationships

[@millysmanifestations]

she’s fucking beautiful, some guy is gonna love her

[@NunYaBiz1313]

Wish her the best.

[@oranjjjggg]

Interesting seeing Julien talk to a woman. I’ve only ever seen him talk like this to guys. It’s really astonishing how much more in touch with this type of stuff women are. When he asks men these type of questions, he always has to spend five or 10 minutes probing deeper to get them to address the actual question and not just surface layer stuff.

[@TuomasSjogren]

Julian, have you had people who have been sexually abused and have serious mental health issues as customers? What would a therapist say about your letting go method? I strongly believe that your method work for people who have "soft traumas" rather than severe issues like personality disorder. Nevertheless, I admire your work and I hope people find this material useful in their lives.

[@tubbey76]

Julien´s teachings are profound and powerful! Unfortunately I think people have a preconceived notion of who Julien is.

[@menamgamg]

I saw past the allegations because these videos have genuinely helped me realize some things about myself and i've felt like Julien genuinely does this to look out for people and help them. So recently i went on a call with one of the coaches and was incredibly disappointed because that was clearly nothing more than a very unethical, manipulative and exploitative sales strategy. Afterwards I felt used and emotionally violated. They're trying to take advantage of people who are struggling and are in a position of weakness by making you feel "chosen" for an opportunity to move forward in your life and like it's a privelage to get the call, so that you're willing to comply when you're asked for complete honesty and opening up about your darkest issues. And when you have let your guard down fully they end the conversation with unexpectedly pressuring you really hard to buy their expensive online programs, despite initially promising to not try to sell you anything. The "coach" asked straight up how much i had in the bank and in savings, and when they realized i wouldn't be able to pay they suggested i pay with credit LOL..That is just beyond fucked up to ask me after i explicitly had told them about my situation and not having an income. Even though this doesn't take away anything from the genuinely helpful content Julien uploads, it's clear to me now that the purpose is above anything else to make money, even if it means exploting the people he's claiming to help.

[@Mushroom321-]

" normal & healthy to be rejected for you ". 😮😮

[@user-nj1rn3qq2p]

I was feeling like once years ago she should cheer up it will only get better

[@Lindah787]

I'm in great fire my whole body is burning i loved him with all my heart, he betrayed my love, he blocked me without telling me why😢but one day I'll hell i forgave him forever, there's power in prayer i will overcome this.

[@ae-oh]

As a guy, i resonate with her sentiments completely. I’ve felt the exact same way.

[@maddymclaugh9660]

I really like her 💕 she is like me. I understand .

[@_petite_feuille_]

I think it's possible to get over your ex without cutting off all contact (sometimes it's complicated when you have the same group of friends, or when it's a colleague), but you need a good mindset and a good awareness that allows you to cut off all hope when it comes whispering at you. It's hard but possible. But any form of distance can help for sure :)

[@DushaneB]

mr hands is something i did not expect to hear 😂😂😂

[@JulienHimself]

😂

[@thebreakupjournal]

LMFAOOO THE WANDAVISION QUOTE I ALWAYS TALK ABT THAT TOO this is an amazing shadow-work video Julien

[@richspiritualman6366]

Your the most underrated self help life coach on KZbin or in the whole self help genre you’re videos are cringe but in a positive way if that makes sense you touch the stuff that most motivational speakers are afraid

[@ezpzjayzaar]

Well, plough me sideways...you just told me what I was scared of the most...just my luck, always wrong place and wrong time. I bloody give up...

[@coreysanders4471]

I’ve seen tons of videos similar but yours is eye opening. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@christoforospaphitis4090]

Firstly like she said, this was a stiuationship, a rebound and wasn't authentic. Therefore not a relationship, not a true one anyway, she will get over it in like 2 hours. We had it, all of it, the authenticity, the vulnerability... Then she moved away for her studies, got overwhelmed, got stressed, got depressed and wouldn't accept my help or my suggestions. She put walls in front of her and broke up with me 8 months after moving away. I do miss her, 3 months after the breakup, I feel like I will never be myself and she be herself with anyone else

[@Persephone98]

Thanks

[@montimon2029]

Perfekt timing. Thanks

[@Mushroom321-]

Definitely a brave woman!! 😮👏👏👏 to be vulnerable.. 😊

[@aaronfahr65]

Its been 4 months, going through my first breakup at 30. I made alot of mistakes and she dumped me and started datin my ex friend after. Took me 29 years to vibe and experience a relationship. Shit is crushing me. It hasnt gotten better. 💔

[@sabrinaposh1]

One of my fav of Julien

[@growthzack9542]

I can deal with the pain during the day, but nights are hard. When it starts to impact sleep, mental health and mental strength take a hit too. Any advice for the nights?

[@HANZELVANDERLAAY]

Get a dog if possible...mine changed everything...and if it's really bad .. benadryl..can help you sleep...and also...go to a sauna...and also....pat urself on the back for taking a shower..cleaning up...keep loving yourself..it will get better..I promise 🎉

[@Gragon777]

Start letting go of your pain. Julien got several videos on it. Also book of letting go by david Hawkins and free sedona method course 1991 on youtube is also very helpful. Getting a dog to feel better will probably work but to train a dog needs time and mental Assets. Wouldn’t recommend that at a bad spot in life

[@lafleurbleue8936]

Thank you so much for this video... That's exactly what I'm going through right now...

[@moveordievision]

amazing

[@angelnocharlie]

Dating is hard as you have to do that mess till you find someone then you dont have to go through that minefield for awhile if not forever. You forget when you find love and all the fears of being yourself is accepted by another, one of the reasons we like it i guess.

[@angelagraczyk2123]

She is so brave & beautiful ❤️

[@cleonagretelgodinho2881]

Beautiful conversation ❤

[@ashleymarierael]

This was such a great video and you gave me some things to really think about. And by the way that story at the end and how you used that as example is funny. Very extreme comparison but you’re so right. Thank you for this talk.

[@lovelymix22]

Wow she is,so much like me I resonates with her Says her name…crystal ….we even have the same name

[@sarshanden8033]

Man. . Julien knows his thing

[@InstaOmry]

Amazing! Thank you

[@chilloften]

Breakups can be so heartbreaking. Ugh

[@djebarazidan103]

gold

[@MrPogor]

I am tired of watching videos in KZbin, reading books like Pcyho-Cybernetics, Crucial Conversations, Tolle, tired of having advices from my pcyhologist, tired of trying different methods to make myself feel happier, to find my pupose, to understand what is relationships for me. Have no idea how my girlfriend still shares her life with me. Anyway its just a scream of some bear, drank just now after a big pause, though I promised myself not to drink an alco for 1 year. Hope I will let go all this shit !

[@ToJoseGarcia]

Life isn't over yet. You never know what's coming your way. I waited and life is awesome right now.

[@menamgamg]

I think many of us fall into that seemingly endless loop of self-help. Ironically this industry is fundamentally dependent on your continued suffering because that is their source of income. There is a lot of genuine content creators out there, but Julien is not one of them. After booking a call with one of his coaches it's very clear to me that Julien gladly exploits the exact struggles he claims to help people with, only to make money from it. And if he's fine doing that you can bet your ass he has zero intent to help anyone if it means they would no longer need him. Content like this can be incredibly helpful but i think only to a certain extent. I'm sure you've learned enough already, just like i have. It's time to let go of the crutches and focus inwards and learn to rely only on ourselves instead of putting our faith in external things to fix our lives. We all fall on our ass from time to time and that will never stop being the case. But what we can become better at is to quickly get back up again and to self-sustain for longer and in a more healthy way before inevitably stumbling and falling again.

[@ClaironAurelio]

Faz mais videos sobre esse tema, por favor

[@michellecremers361]

What if it feels like a part of me is still with him? Like I gave something of myself away, and now I don't feel like myself anymore..

[@kingofbadgaming]

It's just something to look for. Find you again. It feels like you're missing something but I think it's a sign to get to know you again.

[@Gspook19]

5 month ago the love of my life left me, my mental health and small lies ruined it all, she haf enough and i self sabotaged, but i really really regret everything i feel so guilty and hatefull about myself, i love her, how do i get over this 😐

[@NunYaBiz1313]

Cut contact. Block her. I was with someone for 6 months, she decided to cut things off about a week ago. I deleted everything, threw and gifted all the things I received. It's a process, and now I'm doing outside activities and meeting new people through some social random gatherings. It definitely helps. Go through the emotions, cry and let go. U did nothing wrong.

[@xannecorinnex]

@@NunYaBiz1313do you ever see yourself reconnecting with her in the future?

[@ShadowLord3220]

​@@xannecorinnex im gonna tell you one thing, if woman left you, never take her back no matter what. You just gonna waste more time.

[@victorias5587]

You’re so brilliant❤ 🎉love this

[@user-rc4pu6vy3x]

nice shirt-tom delonge 😂

[@ivya3242]

Thank you. This is very useful.

[@Aleks_Mechanics]

Notification Squad!🔥🔥🔥

[@JulienHimself]

🔥🔥🔥

[@Mushroom321-]

" feel the hurt " .. not stuff it down " 😊😼

[@thomasmockett9231]

Great advice 😊

[@MikeT-yt4ql]

Yelawolf - be yourself

[@jamilagrimes]

Great video 👏👏

[@Growwithgrace101]

How do you know if you should end NC? It's been a year

[@Arjun-jk8po]

What a timing big bro. You always hear me. My whole mind is so fucking numb bcs of my situation. Like my ex still study in my class and it's been few months we didn't talk. Whatever happened is bcs of the situation and i can see that she is still very stressed and anxious and i really care about her and wanna help her through everything. But i don't know to what to do and how to bcs she told me not to talk to her. Like I'm feeling so stuck and failure as a person that i can't able to help the person i cared most. Idk feeling so numb. Can someone help me through it ?

[@Chaoxianghuang]

Is it normal too aggressively flex the muscles around the root chakra around when doing the meditation in TM (should I be doing that. And also when you (Julien) say how does this feel (subject of release feel) going into My head n thinking of something when the same thing happened trying to activate the sentation from mind into body. Should I be doing that? Because I find it takes me out of My body abit when trying to remember and event where I felt that emotional.

[@Ieatlavawithice]

It has been a minute

[@JulienHimself]

Welcome back to the channel!

[@Florianpimpf]

wow... just going into a breakup with my situationship i was running after for 2 years almost... what a fucking timing

[@rappatenebrense]

is it normal to feel kind of sick after letting go?

[@Mushroom321-]

" Make an ideal partner avatar " . " "where could this person be "? 😮

[@TheChessbully]

1st off a situationship is never a commitment or relationship. Her expectations was off about the status of her position with a coworker. Sex doesn't keep a person exclusive to you.

[@tractordriver8950]

She’s cute

[@KingJosiahBeats]

What’s her @ she pretty

[@chynavaught6902]

Anyone have her socials ? This is literally my twin flame

[@gianniskontos1696]

❤

[@oliveb9007]

15

[@jed88]

Don't waste your time on me. You are all reading the voice inside my head. 🙃

[@tornikebiganishvili4616]

Wow👏👏👏♥️♥️🙏

[@latoyiab79]

Who else Googled Mr. Hands? 😂

[@AngelOfDeathSM]

👍🏼👍🏼🤌🏼😘

[@socol76]

I’m the first here. I think I’m supposed to see this

[@JulienHimself]

Be sure to report back with your #1 takeaway!

[@NewNormall]

been a fan and a hater for 9 years.

[@mylesmcilwain253]

What does that shirt say? Super distracting.I had to rewatch the video. Lol

[@giorgioc8263]

“Did they break up” Julien pronoun game strong ! lol

[@hadriusreznor3247]

😂😂what a load of horse apples

[@Mushroom321-]

THAT WAS SO GOOD !!, THANK YOU !!! 😼👏👏👏👏 @julienhimself