Life After Divorce for Men | Moving On After Divorce | Divorced Men | How Divorce Changes a Man

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

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[@kingdino849]

Im going through it aftet 18 years married

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

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[@grahamodonnell4980]

Love the channel,it’s been helping alot

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

@@grahamodonnell4980 Join our Free FB Group. It's private. Just write that on the questions that I recommeneded you. Thanks for the compliment. facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978

[@gigan1166]

I need help .

[@grandparedpill2695]

Whoever said money can't buy happiness, has never paid for a divorce.

[@little75Fox]

Nailed it, My wife filed last week, and I'm now a single dad of three. Everything will be ok

[@trisno112]

Going through the same thing. Got served on the 21st of September

[@jorgetalamantes8674]

​@@trisno112I'm currently in process. She went on a trip with family, came back with "her eyes open". Called me many things that didn't make sense. I showed up to our home with all her stuff gone. Guess I'm now a divorced man 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@IsureamFalling]

@@trisno112but how bro? It’s 2023 , this information has been out there for years , why didn’t you see it coming?

[@IsureamFalling]

@@jorgetalamantes8674dude if you haven’t spoken to her since then , I recommend you don’t at all , things would go a lot smoother

[@Ankam863]

I filed last year. In the final stages. I have met many single dad's along the way. One was at the gun show with some of his kids. Sold me some nice accessories. He is director of sales for the East Coast.

[@johnkauppi7078]

My marriage to a money hungry single mother ended years ago. Got drunk ,for 6 months.Sober up and started doing stuff.For me.I succeded and never looked back.I did not get involved with women.I lost my trust in them,but I did have lovers that I cast away after they started having ''feelings'' That was the 90's. Now in my 50's I do just fine,retired at 45,bought houses,flats,farms.I do not ever want to get married.Women are such a drag on a man.

[@CosmosChill7649]

Rich women will divorce Does nt matter whether she was rich to start with, or you made her one

[@charlesdial7152]

Same here, I don't never want to get married again, shit I didn't want to in the beginning. I kinda want to do other things and not have to come home. I just want to fuck and go with no attachment. I did that for 22yrs. 💯🙏

[@donaldball6671]

100% Going through a divorce after 34 years. She was already checked out and when she sprang it on me, she screamed about everything I ever did real and imagined. She used to be sweet and caring, but now she's angry all the time, dismissive, and cruel. I'm pushing through one day at a time.

[@John_Wood_]

Amazing how cold they become. Keep the chin up!

[@stanbogdanovecz1300]

Pretty similar story my brother. Thought I had such a good girl. She turned on me. Crazy shit man!

[@Tonyelcucuy-f4q]

looks like my reality for now divorced 2 weeks feeling very bed. + 1 kid

[@laron.henderson]

Same! Going through this now! I can't take her abuse anymore!

[@TRUTHandLIGHT4809]

It's gets much better for men. Be strong

[@LePédantSémantique]

The divorce process is awful but the freedom & peace of mind is priceless!!!

[@eddiewilson5054]

Man you nailed it! I was miserable in all of 2022 grieving. This new year is exercising, embracing my new status of single and reinventing myself

[@John_Wood_]

how is progress eddie?

[@joshuadoss1955]

40 minutes ago the judge granted my divorce 35 months later. Finally I can move forward. Just subbed

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

35 months is unfortunately only about 3 months longer than the average. Thank you for subbing but why don't you do this for yourself, join our FB Group facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978 or make sure you make a 1 on 1 with me. First one is free and I'm not one of those that hides the price so it's on the site but again, first one is free and I swear, it's not a commercial. Believe me, you'll walk out thinking FACK, should have done this a while ago. www.mensdivorcecoaching.com

[@phoenixrising451]

My wife served me with papers two weeks ago. This video is exactly what I needed. More affirmation on what I am feeling.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks. Very true that you need this and that's why I did it. CW has it so wrong. Please, join our FB Group. Free, confidential and it is the fastest growing group for divorcing men on FB. facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978

[@MarcosLopez-cu6ui]

This guy is speaking a lot of truth man! I went through this … and still growing…. 🤜🤛

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

Naturally, I would hope that perhaps y’all work things out and reconciled and all that. I think it’s pretty dirty pool love the way that women initiate divorces. I don’t suppose she could’ve sat down with you and seeing what y’all could’ve worked out. Anyways my dude God bless you best wishes. One last thought, if she did that to you thank God you found out now instead of being in a more critical position when she pulled this stunt.

[@baronerolo]

Absufuckinglutely man...me too!

[@bskinny6087]

How you doing after 2 years @phoenixrising451

[@paulgalley1100]

I'm going through a divorce right now, you're spot on regarding my ex's reasons for leaving and my reaction to it. Turns out she was cheating on me for a year before I found out, then she told me she wanted a divorce. I'm in the unusual position of having the kids stay with me, which means I need to keep my shit together, but it's easier said than done. Having said that, I'm feeling more optimistic about the future than I have in years, I just need to get through the shitshow in the courts before my divorce is issued and I can move on!

[@skeginaldp1533]

If you have full custody get child support from her.

[@mrbugman67]

Got divorced over 10 years ago. It was a nightmare. Just wanted men just starting the process to know that the misery really is temporary. It doesn't feel like it now but with time life is going to better than what it was before. Take care of yourself. It's worth getting through the crap.

[@charlesdial7152]

I was really hurting in the beginning but as long as keep healing my heart it's going to get better for me. I'm starting to feel a different way about the situation and not really care about what she is doing 😕

[@Mrhandfriends]

What a great topic. ! All my friends who are divorced - it’s been the women who leaves the men ! Then they left them - gets the house - the kids and their pensions !

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

What a great point you bring up and I hope you share this vid with them. I'm very curious as to how they're doing now? Usually, the anger is the last to leave but it's not crippling.

[@Mrhandfriends]

@@Mensdivorcecoach once you accept you are being f*cked and you can’t do anything about it and it’s not worth the Agro fighting - they just accept things / they get on with it !

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

I hope they embrace it. Take it a step further. Take charge and enjoy it. Many guys as mentioned (and including me) get married right away. Happens all the time.

[@81MUNSTER]

Thank you for this, I was not married but together for 13 years. All this felt close to home and I’m embracing the single life and rebuilding myself. Stay strong guys

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Great to hear and thank you for your comment. Yes, embracing it is what's most helpful. Also, thank you for letting other men know that they will get beyond this.

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

Thanks a lot my bro! Back at ya!

[@benweiser22]

I'm a week deep into my divorce and feeling miserable. I know what needs to be done, although I'm struggling to find the motivation. A huge hole now exists where I once found comfort and stability. I'm confused and hurt and for a lack of a better way to explain, I'm addicted to a substance that has been ripped from me(my ex wife). I appreciate the blunt honesty in your words and advice.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Hey buddy, thank you for your comment. That huge hole in your heart will get filled but it's up to you how you want it filled, with anger, disappointment and resentment or with fulfillment, growth and understanding. I'm glad you found my channel. I hope you join our FB Group and schedule a free one on one with me because, I wish I had the help I needed when this happened. Can I help? Absolutely, but I need you to find the strength to talk. At minimum, you'll walk out feeling better and with a plan. Do it for yourself and no one else www.mensdivorcecoaching.com

[@Minnow4397]

Hang on bro. It is a huge stressor. It’s traumatic. I’ve been where you are. You probably don’t even feel like eating and can’t sleep. If you do sleep you probably have nightmares. It’s hell on this earth. But I promise with every fiber of my being you can get through this. And remember you are not what she is telling everyone. That’s just what she is doing to cover her tracks.

[@scott247]

I see this comment is 9 months old. How are you doing now? I hope you’re feeling better and doing better brother!

[@jaraf107]

@@Minnow4397 I appreciate it’s reading your reply. I’m going though a separation and she is poisoning the minds of all the people in our circles to ensure I am the bad guy when I truly did not do anything wrong. Nothing that cannot be worked on. I need to see past this. I cannot and I’m really depressed and in a negative place.

[@gsk5161]

Same here brother, 30 yrs, she's fucking another man that she ended up marrying. Sucks big time, I'm still struggling.

[@FHIPrincePeter]

It's crazy you have under 4,000 subs! Great video no BS straight talking. Subscribed immediately based on your presentation.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Isn't it? I don't get it either. Appreciate your support Brother. Look me up on FB or IG. My contact information is right here in the comment section. Hope you're doing well.

[@noochieboochies]

Agree with much of this - my ex-wife knew (and had made up her mind) long before she broke the news and moved out.

[@joehendrickscasinoman7849]

Mine 2

[@SKBottom]

I wish this guy had been around when I went through my divorce 19 years ago. He's solid.

[@charlesdial7152]

for sure

[@peterjones4940]

Everything you said was exactly how my divorce unfolded. Thank you so much for sharing this.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

My pleasure and I hope you're doing better. Join our divorce support group.

[@durtintracey5858]

Seriously thank you. A week ago she left me. At my lowest this video did help me incredibly. Honestly man you said exactly what I needed to hear.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

How are you holding out?

[@stacyschenk4233]

This video is everything! As a relationship coach, everything Rene says in this video is pure truth. Men do have a very difficult time with divorce and Rene's advice is spot on. I've found it takes men 4-8 years before they are to change their lives after divorce but if they follow his advice, they will be much happier way sooner. Men, listen up! It's time to take back your life.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Stacy, you're too kind and appreciate your feedback. Funny, you're a relationship coach and I'm a divorce coach. LOL. The biggest take away I can give is the change in paradigm; from saying STBX to just X. 4-8 years was the number I was looking for so thank you for sharing. If you ever want to add your link, feel free, I'll accept it (I have to approve each comment because I get a lot of literally witchdoctor to cast a spell on your ex comments or "I wanna have a baby with you" comments).

[@elindigeno1215]

I'm taking my freaking life back!

[@gsk5161]

Correct, took me 10 yrs and another women, sooooo maybe not????????

[@quanjicollins4668]

I'm going through separation right now and I'm glad I found this guy because it definitely gets hard.

[@robertdenessen4330]

I am nine months into our separation, and I have been struggling. All of this is completely making sense, and I think that men should watch this before they get married or if they are married, they should definitely watch.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks. I agree. I think everyone needs to watch this video

[@johannesswillery7855]

All you can do is start over. Time is on your side brother.

[@banzand]

I'm a woman, and I have found your words very interesting and informative!! It's rare to hear the raw emotions and actually, it's wonderful to see the crux of what men go through! Cheers and thank you.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thank you for your words. Glad you saw it. I try to keep our pain about us and not blame others like other channels do. They go around and blame women that' it's all their fault, etc. That's not my style

[@IsureamFalling]

Ooo I see , you’re getting prepared to be a chameleon to your future husband

[@derekspence7241]

No wife happy life. I regret getting married. Now I have to pay cash and prizes and reward her for Not doing a heck of a lot

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Divorce is the gift that keeps on taking. Heard that one.

[@swisscheese412]

Hope you learned your lesson. I know a guy who got married three times. The probability of third marriages getting divorced is i think 80 %

[@car9race]

Amazing informative video man! Very well laid out! Cheers from NYC!

[@chibetamale1163]

Damn. This video describes EXACTLY what I went though during my divorce. And it is the truth. Divorced 4 years now. Make about 30% more now. Started working out heavy. MUCH better sex life. Many trips with the kids. Just to name a few... Anyone watching this who is going through a divorce, pay attention to this video! Once you get past the pain it gets MUCH better. Thank you, sir for posting this.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks Mike. Yes, there's lots of research done on this one and as typical, you look back and are better off. Curious because I'm all about learning, did the beginning also resonate with you? Were you part of the 70% of men who's wife left.

[@chibetamale1163]

@@Mensdivorcecoach Almost exactly. The only difference is that my ex said she wanted a divorce but never filed. And after "scrambling" for 6 months trying to make things right I got fed up and filed the divorce papers myself.

[@eddie_pesosdvggaming8885]

@@chibetamale1163 bro why do they do that? 😆 they're definitely crazy

[@CosmosChill7649]

Women who can be independent, tend to be polygamous and divorce. Cheating is just another sign of independence, seen in wealthy society

[@MrTrackaholic]

You spoke nothing but FACTS !!!!!....much respect to you my brother !!!!👍👍👍

[@Bellaexe5091]

My wife and I have been married for two years. We hit it off on the first date and have known each other since elementary school. We grew up a lot as a team when we first got together, even moved into our first house together for the first time on our own. We have had minor up and down issues here and there but nothing truly dreadful or bad fights. She had been asking me for many things. More time in bed together, more time in general together doing things, to lose weight, and to stop weed and alcohol. I was also being very controlling and manipulative trying to map out the relationship to what I had wanted and had never stopped to asked what she wanted to do in our life next. One thing she had wanted was to go to the military. At first I was very open to the idea, but as the time ticked closer to when she was going to sign up and get deployed I was scared. I don't know if it was me being controlling or myself just being scared of change. Either way I was not supportive as I should have been and this caused some major tension because of how dedicated she is to bettering herself and wanting to do this goal of hers. I dismissed many of her concerns and had not thought much of it even though she had mentioned it countless times and on many occasions I had said I would change things. I never did and always found excuses for it. Hindsight is always 20/20 and looking back on it I have never felt more dumb in my entire life. She recently asked me to spend the night at her parents and have a break. Naturally I wanted to talk with her and balled my eyes out trying to express how deeply sorry I was and blowing up her phone with please come back messages. At the time I wasn't truly sorry. How could I be? I barely was beginning to grasp the issues that I have if at all. She had told me she was really unhappy with our relationship and where everything was going and that she did not want to be stuck anymore. The next day we talked again and she came to grab some of her things along with both our pets. I once again talked with her about our relationship and where it was going to go. This was not very fruitful either as it only left me with more questions. She was not sure if she wanted a divorce or what to do with the baggage that I brought with me. She wanted a week long break to think over things which led to me asking for her back again. The following day I told her I was going to give her as much space as she wanted and if she needed anything that I would be here. She texted me back telling me that this wasn't going to work out and she did not want to string me along. It hurt a lot to realize just how much pain I had caused her, to push her to this point. I had found myself asking why I did all these terrible things to her and why I wasn't a good enough husband to see all the issues. I've thought about that a lot recently, and I have realized as a whole I have very many flaws that need to change. Not just minor personality issues but addictions of laziness and stillness that I just couldn't shake. I will not blame her if she does not come back to me. I have been a terrible partner and person in general and truly I am not sure of whether I should even be forgiven. I was given a chance with the most amazing and perfect woman I had ever met and I blew it. All I can hope is that she finds her happiness. After thinking about many of these root issues and realizing how toxic I am I have decided to work on myself. My change has not been drastic so far and won't be for a long period of time, but I truly am dedicated to making myself better. Whether we end up together again or not, I need to be better for me. I just can't believe I had become so toxic and was completely unaware of any of these issues I was causing. This was the biggest wake up call I have ever had and that's for my life as a whole. I'm just grateful to have realized all the mistakes I have made and have been working out on a daily basis. I've also been more expressive with other people about the mistakes I myself made and no one else and have been working on communicating better as a whole. I know that if I tackle these issues one at a time that I will change. This will be a long road, but I know I can do this.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

It's been my experience that the longer the post, the more the pain. Why don't you join our FB Men's Support Group? After joining, why don't you make an appointment. There's a lot of pain and guilt in your comment . You'll benefit

[@Bellaexe5091]

@@Mensdivorcecoach it truly does hurt. A woman you've known since elementary school and having to lose her is just insanity to me. What is the Facebook group called?

[@gailainsley6939]

Your story is more common and I’m glad that you are being honest instead of acting as if you don’t know why she left (like many tend to do). The truth is, a lot of the wives leave for similar reasons. The guys push and push. Then eventually put the woman off the relationship completely. They think the woman will always be there. It’s not true. There is a limit and you will know when that time has come because she stops wanting to communicate. It’s a gradual process.

[@stanbogdanovecz1300]

Don't beat yourself up too much man. She probably wasn't perfect either!

[@manny8019]

I was married for 11 years , together for 15 since i was 18, at 34 i was divorced with 2 kids , my way of coping was to get fit , drink , drugs and women . When i saw her move in with another man i forced a relationship for companionship that ended within 9 months and another baby. So now I'm 36 single with 2 kids and one on the way. You hit alot of points for me , i worked on self improvement and holding out still hoping my ex would come back. My self worth demolished with 2 failed relationships i felt like i wasn't good enough , have a victim mentality at times and sometimes struggle to find enjoyment in life, thinking I'll never be truly happy but i find a certain ease knowing I'm not alone and that one day hopefully I'll feel like myself again. Some people don't understand that my family was everything i knew and that it's what I crave in life , maybe i should change my perspective in life. Thank you for this video now i know it's ok to feel emasculated , angry and bitter at times but it's all part of the grieving process.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Bro, why don't you join our FB Group. It's free and confidential. Here's there link. Just make sure you write down you reached out through YT to make sure you're accepted. facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978

[@husainessop8064]

hope you doing better now

[@michaelangelo4147]

Excellent thank you. I will never marry again, but I am sure looking forward to having fun with no real commitment to anyone else, because now I appreciate real peace and freedom.

[@horkme]

Great video! The STBX, boob job 6 months ago, planned the divorce 2 years prior, was done a long time ago... wow, its crazy! Thank you Rene for making these videos!

[@georgesontag2192]

Divorced men know the divorce laws very well. A single guy has no idea what the laws are in their state.

[@anthonysizemore4877]

In my situation my wife is already dating someone else and we aren't even officially in the divorce process yet. That's a very painful thing to deal with.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

I know that you think it's unreasonable what she's doing but this is more the norm than the exception. I'm sorry brother. Hope you join our FB Group.

[@johannesswillery7855]

Welcome to the manosphere. Spend some time on this channel and check out Entrepreneurs in Cars and Kevin Samuels. Bottom line is if you get yourself fit, maximize your income and wealth, get involved in living a great life and you will end up in a situation that is way better than the one that was just ripped from you.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Agreed with one exception, I don't see much development in Entrepreneurs in Cars. Too much blaming the female gender for our own bad decisions. Richard Cooper is a good writer but when the dust settles, you have to look within yourself and ask what you're made of along with what you can do to be a better man. I'm not so sure he does that. I don't think it's alpha to play the victim. The only one that looses is you. About making more money, I find it interesting that that's his answer to getting more women. It's not working on wit, not dressing better, not be more emotionally intelligent, it's make more money and get a nicer car basically. I argue you want to make more money, of course. You want to do that but because of the freedom it gives you not to get laid.

[@johannesswillery7855]

@@Mensdivorcecoach Agreed that it isn't about getting a woman. What I have found however is when I am on my game everyone around me is drawn to me. Women, men, co-workers... My hope for young Anthony here is to look after himself and develop into a bad ass and realize the favor his ex did him.

[@thecamposfam257]

I appreciate your video!!! I’m going through a divorce rn and this video definitely helped. Thank you.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Manuel, why haven't you joined our FB Group? facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978

[@TalkToJayG]

Thanks for reminding us of our value as high quality men...we need more advocates like you on our sides as we go through this confusing season of our lives with divorce. Thank you brother 🙏

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

You're very VERY welcome and we tend to forget our value when going through this hard time. We have to take a step back and not panic and trust that everything will work itself out. Also, thank for joining out team.

[@michaelcarothers9665]

Married for 15 years to a drop dead gorgeous Russian women. She cheated, I divorced her 3 years ago. She didn't come out good in the divorce. Kept my house and my business. Remodeled my house, learned to play golf and just bought a new 2023 corvette. Life is good

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

See, the data is correct. I hear that a lot but for many, it's hard to move on. Congratulations

[@joehendrickscasinoman7849]

My Man!!! Exactly...Now thats some good inspiration

[@big6316]

Never married, no kids, but just out of a 12 year LTR 5 months ago where we raised her daughter from her third marriage. Got laid off of a 30 year career a month ago, about the same day I had ACL surgery. Stuck at home, I don't want to date or do anything other than start walking again, maybe run. I'm 60, have enough in my retirement to live just fine, already in good shape but do nothing but test my ability to take psychological pain every day. I can't believe how tough I am but also can't believe how hard it is after all these months.

[@elliotperryman6149]

Thanks Rene. Currently going through me second divorce. These videos help.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Glad to hear. As mentioned, join our closed private and free FB group. I would also strongly consider hiring a Divorce coach. Everyone does counseling but the difference is counseling is not coaching. We guide you here. First call is free. www.mensdivorcecoaching.com

[@StopWarsColoImperialism]

Sorry Man ! How did things go. How long after the 1st did you marry? If you don’t mind ?

[@infosymbiosistreeservices2478]

lots of truth in zero to 7 min. Fk, it nearly broke me. Amazing how things change. I'm entering the rebuild phase and yeh, it feels good. Man you hit the nail square so many times in this vid. It has a been a hell painful road, but i like where i am, i like this space. Thanks for the vid Rene

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

I'm sorry about your pain. It's something I hear all too often.

[@infosymbiosistreeservices2478]

@@Mensdivorcecoach A friend of mine took a rope and found a permanent solution to his pains over the same problem. That was 22 yrs back. I was with my wife and failed to understand the magnitude of what he was going through. I'm not in that place, but i can see how easy it would be for a fella to go down that road. I think during these times we really really need our brothers to help us move towards get onto a better path forward. Thanks again for you work Rene. I can imagine there is a lot of blokes who listen to it, find value in it and then simply click the next vid and you never hear about it.

[@DaveBarria]

This was a good video. Going through a weird rough time in my marriage. She said she might want to separate, then talks of custody rights of our children, wanting to keep the house and that she would want to date again. Obviously I was blown away by this thinking our marriage was great. Turns out she had an emotional affair with a married man. She has since stopped talking to him and we are in marriage counseling but I do not feel much hope for our marriage. When I look at her I see a stranger and ponder if I even am still in love with her anymore. This video gave me more confidence as I have already grieved a loss of her that I feel may be inevitable.

[@thomasbranham4374]

I’m on the brink of filing for divorce myself. I will be fine, because I checked out 2 years ago

[@joshuamccaffrey3143]

I truly my wife has been planning our divorce for at least a year. I agree I feel like She must have chosen her life over our family. She even left our 2 boys who are under 4 years.

[@loganromero5089]

There is only one thing that matters ro them, “their happiness”. After some poor advices like “your kids need a happy mother,” , if your not happy you should leave crap.”

[@elindigeno1215]

She left and i give my kids the world.

[@jamesquinn2223]

She left the boys? You have to realize that you are a very lucky man! What more can you ask for?

[@Saukingalpha]

She left because she was probably cheating

[@TRUTHandLIGHT4809]

Now you can raise the boys properly

[@rubenlugo4700]

You hit every aspect of what I went through and what I am doing to get back on track.

[@thenorm2094]

We just started the process a month ago, and I had a 36 hour panic attack, and I prayed constantly and at 1:15 in the morning I felt a weight come off of my shoulders. Wrote her an email, told her we have been roommates for several years and I want her to be happy, and I do as well. We are best friends that actually fell out of love. I did all the work on the houses I’m a builder by trade, her job is her primary focus and she travels all the time, so we got used to being apart. I am so much better now I lost 25 pounds I am at my ideal weight, and feel better about myself. We own multiple properties that were selling I am living in the house she’s getting an apartment. My daughter will live with me until she graduates. My son is moving to Ohio, so I’m OK I started writing in comedy again, song lyrics, and I have self-esteem again, so I’m not rushing into one fucking relationship. I can tell you that.

[@gailainsley6939]

Men aren’t unheard. Women give warnings before they become emotionless. Many guys just never think she will leave and love to keep testing until it happens.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

I agree with the first half of the comment. I once had a guy get cheated on only to get back together and get cheated on again and he said "it came out of nowhere". No it didn't, signs were there.. About your second point, they don't test and if anything, to the contrary, it's the other way around. What we do is stonewall. For me, I "felt" she was leaving me. I didn't know why until after she left me. She had a secret life with someone else. It all began with one comment I said 2 years before she left. We went through her yearbook and I saw what she wrote about her first lover. I said "damn, you never talk like this to me". That must have flipped a switch to where she reached out to him. Would I change anything? Only that I wish I would have made that comment before I married her. LOL. I've moved on, just giving you the background. Know that men, we try but we get it wrong. We give women what they want rather than need. See it too often.

[@Msterri4u]

So true. I kept warning my ex husband I was going to divorce him but he didn’t believe me until he got served the divorce papers.

[@charlesdial7152]

This was me, even though she has been telling me for years to get right but I didn't listen until it hit the fan.

[@cocoa105]

My brother asked my mother how long she had checked out before asking dad for a divorce. She told him three years.

[@carlcollins6108]

I am in the UK , and I've found this video very useful and very truth you've got to be ready for the pain ahead ,like me know but there will be light no matter how dark the days seem ahead

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thank you. I have clients all over the world including the UK. Please, join our FB Group, looks like you're beyond the pain but maybe you can help with guidance. Just make sure you answer the questions to join us (write somewhere that I invidted you from YT). facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978

[@carlcollins6108]

@@Mensdivorcecoach honestly the pain of not knowing there up 2 and trying to focus is so difficult

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

@@carlcollins6108 I know this fact all too well. Have you ever thought of a coach? Why haven't you made a free 1 on 1? They're rather cathartic. www.mensdivorcecoaching.com

[@carlmarch9591]

Keep pushing mate hope you come out the other side just started watching Rene he has it spot on lots of good stuff on KZbin uk also Norwich

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks Carl for your kind words

[@dreadnaught6147]

I really appreciate your content. I was faithful to mine for 12 years. We'v been separated for five months now, and I've just started to quit drinking and attempt to pick up the pieces. It feels like yesterday, and I just don't even know where to start... I guess I'm starting with fitness and these videos man. These stats you shared are incredible... The world is certainly an unfair place. I'm so mindbombed and broken... absolutely incredible... :\

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

You can start by joining our group my friend. It's free and confidential. facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978 and if you need to, schedule a 1 on 1 with me

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

You’ll do OK bro.

[@nomanslandstudio6796]

This video has really helped me. This is the moment I change my life. Thanks Rene. Matt

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Matt my friend, thank you for your kindness. You should have seen me making this video. It was by far the most rewritten video I've ever done. I still have excerpts of this that I didn't use like 20 minutes of video that I didn't use. Hope you like the Covid 19 self made hair style. HAHA.

[@Sequoia690]

Thank you very much for sharing. Divorce is brutal, so brutal! So never wonder why men go crazy, suicide, etc. I am a very mentally strong individual but if I wasn't strong i would not be here. Tim is the biggest healer, but You and I need to let it go....as I tell myself every day and move forward step by step. Stay Strong!

[@soblessed4844]

After 33 years of marriage, I decided to end it. I contemplated divorce for years, holding on to a marriage that was dead. The lack of emotional reciprocity, the feeling of being invisible in a marriage was destroying me, and I had to save myself from a life of despair. That was five years ago…🧘🏽‍♀️No regrets.

[@larrywasserman294]

Thank you yes everything’s going to my head right now. I have two kids17 and 13 I’m 55 she’s 42.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Larry, I'm sorry you're going through this especially when you're in what should be your years of where all your investing in life pays off and you should be thinking about retirement rather than starting over. Please, for your sake, reach out to the Facebook group. I have a waiting list but those that come from the channel move up the acceptance. I DM everyone so because of that, not everyone gets in right away but just write a note and I'll be happy to put you through. Bless and schedule a 1 on 1 because frankly, with such younger kids, you're going to need guidance. Be it from me or someone else. Hugs brother and deep sympathies.

[@SingleDadSurvival]

It can be tough as hell being a single dad... I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it may help you...just to share stories. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝

[@anthonyfoley4184]

I just want to say thank you for your videos and everything that you are doing. I found out that my wife was cheating on me and like you said she already had it in her head for divorce way before I knew it. It has been about a year now and I have been so up-and-down but listening to your videos Has started me on the road to getting my confidence back. I requested to join your Facebook group this was exactly what I've been looking for it's time for me to move forward with my life and stop living in the past once again thank you so very much.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

What kind message and I know your story so well it's honestly unbelievable how often it happens. Just accepted your request to join our group. You're going to love it. Lots of honesty and understanding there. Make that group your home. Feel comfortable posting because I make my due diligence in not accepting bad actors. For instance, you've only had FB for half a year, normally I wouldn't accept you but since you commented I knew who you were, saw a few of your pictures and confirmed. LOL. Welcome!

[@ProfessorEd00]

Great video - honest and raw! Thank you!

[@patrickoshaughnessy5097]

Thanks Coach, everyone should watch this after divorce. But also men need to start getting laws for custody changed.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks Brother. It's my personal opinion they should watch it before they get married

[@shelleyjeanne257]

As a family law paralegal I agree with much of what you said. Nice job.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thank you Shelley. I don't know what state you practice in but feel free to reach out. My 411 is in the comment section or send me an email [e-mail] I could always use good people to refer out to.

[@RDxRyaan]

Finally someone talked about my situations 🤜🤛thanks bro

[@tomwylie123]

Another hit video Rene! Thanks again for all your advice.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks buddy. This one is amongst my favorites. You should have seen how much information didn't make the edited version. About half of the recording didn't make it because I addressed infidelity and irreconcilable differences etc. In the end, I felt it was too much information

[@raresandreiradita6163]

pretty much on point man, i did the same and i kinda still do it after more than a year, i shut down in 2 relationships i started after divorce, feeling just that "what if i'm cutting my chance of getting back together" . Its not a good attitude, i know now...

[@guneetsingh6218]

I like your honesty and genuinely.

[@Billydevito]

This is great content. Please fix the audio.

[@Ludercia]

We’re resilient men! It’s gets better if one wants it to.

[@GlenMcbride-s6l]

First as a guy I was raised to work & take care of my wife and kids. I thought my wife would be like my Mom who appreciated my Dad working and supporting all of us. Well that did not happen! My first wife was never happy! She hated me from the beginning. There was nothing too good for her and she wanted everything. Finally, even though I paid all the bills and took good care of her she ran off with a pretty dumb guy! It work out great! I had a great steady job made a lot of money and traveled a lot. I did not need her! There were a lot of women taking a serious interest in me. I married a great women. She is smart enough to respect and love me! We have a great life together!

[@urbanart7325]

I raised the issue of divorce with my wife several times. She finally took my suggestion and went to a lawyer. To be honest my attraction toward her slowly died and we became roommates without benefits. Getting divorced and getting ready to pay for my freedom and not carrying the financial loads.

[@carmike7671]

God bless you for this video it's true my wife checked years ago and I tried my best but it wasn't good enough she would just keep bringing up the past and when we divorced the family and friends I was there for when they went thru hard times were no where in sight I forgot how it was to truly be alone but thankfully healing taking it one day at a time

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks for your comment. I truly hope you're on the side of the latter portion of teh video rather than the former. If you need any help, please join our free and confidential FB group for divorcing men. It happens to be the fastest growing support group for men. facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978 Also, feel free to chedule a one on one if you feel the needfor a divorce coach.

[@husainessop8064]

Thanks bud...amazing advice!!! much appreciated.

[@johndaley6392]

I was just served last Wednesday. I feel gutted.

[@humblemoss1526]

It has been the most difficult thing I been dealing with

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

I know. It's horrible. Join our FB Group. I'm hosting a zoom call on ways to get over your ex. I can't stand it when they say give it time. It's lazy thinking.

[@irishseaswimmer]

I'm only half way through this video and it's savage good. 👏👏👏

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Just got off a call with someone from Ireland. Love your guy's accent. Bruh, glad it helped and join our FB Group my man.

[@kingquadpooingatv1359]

I agree with EVERYTHING you are spot on my wife left me two weeks ago with my little girl and my wee man she's trying to have me never see my baby's again. Hope all things go well for me! Thank you.. you give me hope!..

[@shawnberthiaume7056]

Divorced and never been more happy than I am now. She did me a huge favor when she filed. She's someone else's problem now. 😂 my girlfriend is amazing.

[@ShadowFox1141]

Can some elaborate on the saying for the second marriage? Thank you.

[@dreambeliever3652]

This was really good. Ty Woman mostly initiate divorce and then run their mouths about their loser ex who actually gave up his life, workouts, time, in order to keep her happy. There is no such thing guys.

[@cocoa105]

This is an excellent video. I have a brother going through this.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

I'm really glad your brother has someone to help him and be so concerned. Hope he gets to see this and join our FB Community along with making an appointment to speak: www.mensdivorcecoaching.com

[@scratchnbell]

As a widowed man....many of these lessons apply. Still working through my shit but am hopeful

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

Well everyone has their opinion and I have mine. I think you’re hitting the nail on the head with your video. I know I was married 17 years and the girl had the stunt she pulled all planned and I had no idea at all. She was my wife I trusted her. In any case though I will say this one thing there’s good girls out there but they don’t grow on trees fellas!

[@ierikopj]

I hated myself for begging my first wife to forgive me and begging her to stay. I was on my knees. Looking back at my desperation, boy I was a weak minded man. I am so embarrassed for my stupid actions. My second marriage, my wife cheated. This time, I am a little stronger. I kicked her out of the house. I didnt beg this time. I am a man and I will never ever again beg a woman to stay. We are the head of the family. We should never be weak when our woman decides to leave us. Thats their problem and weakness. Stay strong guys. Men rule the world. Let us not forget that.

[@FrancisDique]

Yeah did exactly what you did. Life after is so much better and have forgiven myself for a moment of weakness. Respect buddy. 👍

[@NastyHydro]

Currently going thru a DUI case didn't hurt anybody but myself when i hit a wall at 40mph. My wife left me with 3 kids 2 twin boys under 6 months and a 3 year old girl. I go to jail for 2weeks in 2 months my public defender said. I've looked into being an electrician going forward, i hope everything works out for me like it did you! Wife doesn't want a divorce due to custody issues that may arise instead we are "seperated" which sounds good to me i don't plan on re-marrying again ever. I tried drinking and it only made things worse, when i'm sober i find i don't want her back but when i'm drunk i do and usually end up talking to her on the phone for an hour. LOL wish me luck!

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks for your comment. I'm terribly sorry you went and are still going through this. Can you join our FB Group? It's free and confidential. I'm not trying to sell you anything but it sounds like you need help/guidance and this is the best way you can get in touch with me. When you answer the question, please point out that I invited you and your story. Reason is I don't know your true name. facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978

[@davec3487]

Rene, you are awesome. I make twice as much as I did when I was married. I am an engineer, so I was doing well before I got divorced.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks brother. I really enjoy making videos and especially now that they're getting watched more. This one in particular took over 100 hours to make from research to upload but I had content there that would have made it 30 minutes long and that's too much information so I had to cut it. Guess I had the opposite of writers block.

[@Ronnie_D25]

Wow .. well done video my friend… going though the big “D” right now myself… and don’t mean Dallas …

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thank you brother. You sound in good spirits. Hope you decide to join our FB Group: facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978

[@abcxyz15000]

Nailed it. Excellent content

[@grahamodonnell4980]

This channel is so underrated!

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks Graham, I get that a lot but it's still a new channel and the big channels have been around for nearly a decade of more. Let me know if you have any video ideas and please, join our FB Group community, it's free and confidential. facebook.com/groups/1381621565353978

[@JacquelineOrtizSelfLoveDiva]

WOW! What a passionate & compassionate video! Thank-YOU ReneSanceMan for this powerful & enlightening video on how men really feel after a divorce. This is a SUPERB video for men to understand they are not alone & to process the pain. This is a very comprehensive video that men should hear. GREAT VIDEO!!!

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Jacqueline, many many thank you. It's truly heartbreaking the pain these men endure. That's when it went from "hobby" to "a passion project" and now it's my mission. I was fortunate in my demise of my marriage as that I didn't suffer. As mentioned, I was so terrified that it scared me straight of the possibility of dark abyss of the mind. It wasn't strength, it was mere survival.

[@stanbogdanovecz1300]

Right on brother. That was spot on. Thank you for your help 😂

[@deathst3v3n]

Dude your on the money with this advice keep the content coming

[@1bizjets]

Divoced 30 years. Thank you for your video.

[@twowheels3018]

Have been married for 17 years. Have a new career and all she does is complain that I don’t spend time with her…(we have different off days) however when I’m off I spend time with her and it’s still not enough. And always accusing me of doing something wrong(cheating)

[@maxpower8158]

love your videos man!

[@СергейИванченков-ДляСвоих]

Very helpful video and 1 on 1 consultation with Rene was eye opening to me. Very open and insightful. In fact the paints made in this video are right on the spot with my own marital situation.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Wow, thank you Brother. I was glad to have helped you during our call. The process of letting go is so much easier than we give it credit. It's within our grasp. The challenge is, figuring it all out before it eats us up inside. You're great to work with. Your friend Rene.

[@snfigueres]

Good info, the audio has a lot of echo

[@KainKustomGarage]

Thanks Man! I needed this😊

[@nathaniaregina]

wow this is accurate. i know a close friend who is going through all these.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thank you Nathania. You're a good friend to be thinking of your friend. Please let him know there's help, he just needs to ask for it.

[@chadbrown4136]

Thanks to Rene Sance's videos, I was able to move onto higher ground with a rapidity that impressed me. I really felt he put into words a lot of what I already knew. I already have a decent network that helped me through, or I definitely would have hired him. Turns out I didn't even need a coach, but his videos were enough. My mourning period lasted a few months. I'm not exactly sure how fast as I had highs and lows, but this program works! I highly recommend you get help through this. I've already recommended his videos to people who are currently where I was earlier this year.

[@hotchkrp]

Such a great take. Hard hitting truths.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks Hotchkrp. Really appreciate the feedback. This one and my stoicism one are one of my favs.

[@Biblemotivationhub]

I'm seriously thinking about filing. I'm miserable

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

My dude, thank you for making the video.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Any time!

[@peternorthrup6274]

I paid child support for 21 years in NYS. She wasn't happy. She has been married 3 more times since me. You can't make someone else happy. Life is to short.

[@kevinproulx9137]

Glad I am Divorced from my Ex wife who was Super Narcissistic, I moved out because of her toxic abuse and then she filed the papers (Been happier the past three years) ❤️🤘✝️ God with us all dealing with “Parental Alienation” from Ex Spouses too, don’t give up!

[@Scorpio13_670_Gaming]

I'm about to get D'ed and I'm experiencing all you explained. Thank you.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks buddy. Always feel free to join our FB Group. It's free, confidential and very private. If need any time of 1 on1, look me up.

[@steveholden9139]

I joined a very expensive programme to win my wife back after she told me she wasn’t happy. What I learnt is that she had already checked out by the sheer fact that I was doing everything to save the marriage and she didn’t do anything which went on for well over 12 months. In my case the decision had already been made and in the end I was just more frustrated and angry. I’d suggest the same went for most of the guys in the programme, the marriage was over and there was no coming back. The programme did teach me however to work on myself and you become stronger coming out of the marriage.

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

True in every aspect. Yes I called a place, their program is twice the price of mine and they usually come with an expiration day. You want to really become your own badass? Yeah, let's set something up because I don't fuck around. www.mensdivorcecoaching.com

[@charliereussner1513]

Excellent video!!

[@Mensdivorcecoach]

Thanks Charlie. This one was one of my top 5. "What's Masculinity" is another one and "Being a single dad". Appreciate it.