Hey Beautiful people! I know it's been a minute but life... anyway lol Would love to know your experiences around these questions and where you are currently in your life walk. xoxo
@FireBride3 жыл бұрын
40's just learning so much!! One thing is never be intimidated by anyone, anything or any circumstances since Christ has everything I need. All I have to do is ask and receive!! I was needing courage the other day as I was in the hospital. And was about to get depressed. But I heard Him say it's okay if your scared I will give you courage!!💜💜💜
@mariawisearse84922 жыл бұрын
My 20s went by in a blur of uncertainty and let downs. I didn't start to live with the joy, freedom, authenticity and courage I had before my 20s until I turned 30. I found my purpose and began walking in it. I am now mid 40s and have been able to break generational curses that have affected other women in my family - all by God's grace. My life isn't what I thought it would be but I now understand that it is a journey and with God at the helm I will get there. Patience, however, does not get easier as you get older. Especially when your hearts desire is to meet and marry your husband and have kids. In your 20s it is important to pursue your interests because you will form networks which will be filled with a variety of like-minded people that you can collaborate with. Inner circle must share the same important values though.
@Amorantasia13 жыл бұрын
80s baby gang here 🙌🏾💕💕
@waymiller66933 жыл бұрын
I’m 24 years old and entering my mid twenties. I love the conversation and listen on my way home from work. I’ve started my career as a high school science teacher this past year and I’ve learned its okay not to have all the answers. In addition to that, I’ve learned to enjoy my here and now. I try to soak in as much I can on the good days and spend time doing things that me happy.
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
This is beautiful girl! You're already way ahead than I was. life only get better from here... not perfect but truly yours.
@iCottonHippie3 жыл бұрын
I'm 29 and will be 30 next year in June. I sooooooooo needed to see/hear this video. In fact I'm going to download it. I need to tune in to this this almost weekly. Soo much to learn and grow from. One thing I learned in my 20's while dealing with depression was that I have to keep pushing on because I'm going to be here on Earth either way. I love your videos!
@sallyomae92622 жыл бұрын
“People say adulting, the bills…Don’t mind the bills…the *inner work*…”. You hit the nail on the head. Im 26, and nothing prepared me for the inner work I’m doing right now. I have made stride in the past, but nothing compared to this. So much stuff is coming up, and I’m working through it with therapy, a support group, prayer, fasting, self-care, and good ol boo hoo crying. I’m growing so much and I love the results, but by far the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I’ve become so much more in awe of the each person’s journey in the process as well. Hugs to everyone doing the work.
@noirfit97213 жыл бұрын
I’m 26. Two marriages/divorces and a child later, adulting is hard. Having my child made me slow down and really do a lot of introspection. Excited to be single for some years and just raise my daughter while focusing on me and her
@HoneySnowflake3 жыл бұрын
I heard someone say 30s are similar to your 20s...you just have more money LOL as a 31 yr old mom...I agree lol
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
lmao! There's defo more money so I can't wait for the 40's
@HoneySnowflake3 жыл бұрын
@@FusionofCultures exactly!!!
@nicoleprice85523 жыл бұрын
There are questions I learned to ask myself when I was in my late 20s and they are "why am I reacting a certain way to this person?", then ask "is this how I feel about myself on some level, or is there a lesson I need to learn from the experience?" Usually this was helpful when I found myself annoyed by someone's behavior or attitude.
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@Royalrae233 жыл бұрын
I love this. I’ll use this more often when dealing with others.
@vtara53943 жыл бұрын
Same lockdown didn’t phase me …,I work from home and I’m a home body !
@KittKat_G3 жыл бұрын
Just wait until you hit your 40's. I'll be 41 next month and my entire life has changed, 2020 was definitely an awakening year. My parent enforced education and working = (stability) so that's what I knew and did coming from poverty and never wanting my children to experience. I was career driven, promotion after promotion my personal life on hold. Then my world came to an abrupt end when the company closed it's doors and permanently laid-off all higher management. Know that change is inevitable, you don't control anything in life except your reaction to the circumstances or situations you're put into... Living life is a constant test. You PASS OR FAIL. PASS you move to the next level. FAIL you repeat until you learn the lesson. It can break you if you haven't clearly found yourself in your 30's. Focus on your mental/physical health, your family and continue to keep God (Higher Being) in every aspect of your life. Planning on 🤰🏾this year keep me in your prayers. Better late than never. Put YOU FIRST!!!
@joeroot91423 жыл бұрын
You got this. Ask your angels and guides to send your baby come. Blessings on to you. 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
@joannefaith12433 жыл бұрын
Great discussion,, also what about, been in our 30s and not living up to the expectation that society has on us, eg been married, having children etc I for one, has found myself on the opposite side of my late 30s, and I often feel embarrassed and abit down thinking about it, one of them been that, I always thought at my age, I would own my own home, have my own family, but I now find myself renting and alone no children or a husband, I think for myself, I don’t like to talk about been on the other side of my late thirties, but I no longer feel the need to say am ok, when I am not
@Negra_mbl3 жыл бұрын
Sis don’t feel dejected! You’re not alone. God’s timing is always the best. I’m 31, renting and a single mother. It’s not easy but I want to trust God’s plan for my life. Be blessed in Jesus’ Name!
@l.patrick31553 жыл бұрын
@@Negra_mbl Preach 👊🏽👊🏽...
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Joanna, it's okay to not be okay... and it's very hard to even admit it. I agree with @trass M-R..... Your story is uniquely yours and at your appointed time you will look back and understand why it had to be that moment. I pray that God's grace and mercy comforts you. the Bible says that he is close to the broken hearted. You are blessed and favoured and even when it doesn't seem like God is working, he is.
@joannefaith12433 жыл бұрын
@@Negra_mbl thank you 🙏🏽
@Naturallyshe773 жыл бұрын
I know exactly how u feel. Im 30 and Im now getting my bachelors degree and sometimes Im hard on myself up for not getting it in my early twenties. I thought I would have my own home, and a husband at this time in my life but I dont. I had to learn to stop focusing on the things I dont have and appreciate my blessings. All we can do is focus on the now. Everything will fall into place at the right time in your life. I have to remember that Gods plans are better than my plans and I had to learn to let go and put my trust in God.
@retroblak3 жыл бұрын
How beautiful is Whitney’s skin you look like Mica Paris gorgeous. The raving thing dies down in your 30’s. 🎓❤️
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Right! She's gorgeous x
@EvieBam3 жыл бұрын
“I love me as a human being” - love this for you and am so pleased to say that I’m finally in the same space. I also relate to focusing on goals and achieving rather than being 🙌🏽 We take our achievements for granted because we’re so focused on what we don’t yet have and what’s next. This is the gateway to emotional turmoil and discontentment.
@Zen-cx5tc3 жыл бұрын
I'm 32 and love who I am becoming. Self-awareness and self-love is important. I recently started therapy and I'm so proud of myself for having the courage to go. I really wanted a family, a decent paying job and a nice house . It's not here yet, but I'm accepting life for what it is at this moment. I'm starting to love my life 🤗🤗🤗
@rachzainhass3 жыл бұрын
I turned 29 on the 5th of May and I was fortunate to learn when I was about 24 or 25 that the key to happiness..... Give your life way It is and will be the hardest thing to die to yourself to serve others some whom will never appreciate what it will cost you and we are naturally selfish. But giving your life away in service is how we are designed. ( with health boundaries ofcourse!!!l)
@iDressLondon3 жыл бұрын
On the analysing front, it has to be in moderation because you're not a project but you are a work in progress too much reflection will ultimately lead to anxiety and while yes you need to be self-aware you can approach this with care and self awareness is a journey rather then a state of arrival which I think is a common misconception.
@beegirl19483 жыл бұрын
Oooh yes! 🙌🏽
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Oh I 100% agree :)
@MimiMonet3 жыл бұрын
A lot of this resonates with me. I am 34 and I had my first child in my 30s. I feel like having him is what made me sit down and do some self reflection, maturing, and becoming more self aware. Before, I was just taking life as it came. Very good convo ladies!
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Sometimes life forces us to slow down for sure.
@missgabbyb54603 жыл бұрын
Love this video, I'm into astrology and recently delved deeper into it and discover that between the age of 28-31 you go through you saturn return, which is like a Astrological coming-of-age where the planet saturn returns to the position it was when you were born, expect lots of awakenings, self discovery and exposure of what is working for you in relationships, career, emotionally, mentally, physically EVERYTHING basically, so could be something to read about or KZbin it 😉 hope this helps someone x 🪐
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
oh really! lol it makes so much sense
@veronicalolaa3 жыл бұрын
Aw Laila and Whitney, a lovely throwback ❤️
@Tolu19943 жыл бұрын
I’m excited to watch this, entered my late 20s this year and I’ve been hearing that the 30s is where it’s at👀
@eyekandy30003 жыл бұрын
Uh 🙄
@monademoaner3 жыл бұрын
Where it is ....not at lol Set up your 20s to enjoy your 30s
@TheSentientSensei3 жыл бұрын
I think they both can be great but the maturity level is definitely a different vibe in your 30s, especially if you still retain some youthful energy
@No1superjuicey3 жыл бұрын
If I could like this a million times!
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
lol thank you!
@basetsanaserogole64353 жыл бұрын
I am 24 and very much at my semi-low place right now. I really love this video, i felt like i was chatting to my big sisters. I have been struggling with setting hard boundaries and that made me feel like i was pouring out of an empty cup. I also always downplayed the importance of self-love, but i guess its really important. It was draining. I will take the advices mentioned, and hope for nothing but the best for myself.
@ninac60793 жыл бұрын
Thank u both I love this chat!👏🏾I feel like Black Girl Therapy is so necessary & that as women we should encourage giving recognition to our feelings & talking about our emotions more because it helps to understand where your boundaries are. I've got 10yrs on you girls but totally agree Tunnel Vision is the way to go in your 30s!..BUT what I would tell my younger self is "at the end of your tunnel vision..try to keep your heart's desires in focus"
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Oh love that! Keep your hearts desires in focus... beautiful
@mynovela3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this recall 👍🏽Your friendship looks mature 🌹
@BrooklynLondoner3 жыл бұрын
Laila! I totally relate with loving yourself and being content and happy with who you are. I hear it sis! 👊🏾
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Real grown folks sh*t lmao x
@_ellasarpong_3 жыл бұрын
Loved this video, please keep more coming 👍🏾🇬🇭
@yaaasafo3 жыл бұрын
the stay in your lane bit was so on point. good convo
@dream7043 жыл бұрын
This is such a great discussion and it really made me think. I appreciate your transparency and openness ladies! I am 27 and just found my first gray hair (I freaked out) and still learning how to set boundaries and be honest with myself while being patient with my self growth. I need to treat myself with the same amount of kindness and selflessness as I do with my spouse and my friends and be confident now, not when I have the perfect body, hair, job, etc.
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Amma lol firstly, brace yourself, the greys are coming! But yes, you are definitely on the right track for you! x
@bwnsugashay3 жыл бұрын
I remember meeting you Laila many years ago in my 20’s! You are such a beautiful soul on and off the camera! I remember walking away thinking wow she’s so sweet. Her friends are so lucky to have her x
@deidreej3 жыл бұрын
Great discussion! I learned over the years to put me first. Don't be ashamed. Society shouldn't define who you are. You define who YOU are! Live for you!
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
That's it!
@senphiwedube21023 жыл бұрын
Laila can I just give you a virtual hug 😢. I needed to hear this! Thank you!
@mamasizzle83953 жыл бұрын
Hey ladies, your braids are gorgeous 🌸
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!
@neiilak73093 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this! I am 24, so entering my mid twenties and I can't wait to achieve all the projects I have. But at the same time I know life happens and I put too much pressure on myself. I enjoyed your video and I'm definitely closer to your friend's spiritual awakening at the moment
@dominiquejohnson11723 жыл бұрын
Man I missed your content. I was an avid watcher of your channel and I been so busy but now I'm back watching your videos its a breath of fresh air knowing that other people are able to discuss what you could not express verbally about relationships. I love what you and your friend are saying in this video its real out there.
@AmmaMama3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your transparency ladies. May God bless you both❤️
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Amma!!!!! God bless you too sis 💕💕
@cherie.camille3 жыл бұрын
This was a lovely conversation. Thank you both for sharing! Walking into 30 towards the end of 2020 was an unexpected blessing. With the world shut down and an abundance of time to self-reflect, I had the opportunity to re-learn myself and uncover who I really am apart from anyone else. It's been a journey of a lot more unpacking, healing, intentionality, self-care and self-love. It's been a challenging and difficult journey at times, but beautiful all around. I'm loving the person I am and am becoming. One thing I've learned is to be proud of myself, no matter how small the step forward is, and that I don't need to wait for myself to accomplish something huge according to the world's standards before I give myself a pat on my back for the progress I am making. 💕
@Classicbeauty8573 жыл бұрын
At 32 I’m now learning to live with the silence. Finding my own path and doing exactly what I want to do unapologetically. I’m so protective of my space in every sense, what I consume, read and listen to. In my 20s I needed the noise and thought that’s where the peace was at. I thought I would be much more confident but this is something I still need to work on. Each day I say goodbye to my 20 year old self, it was fun while it lasted but I just can’t take you to the next level.
@JemmaKay043 жыл бұрын
Definitely enjoyed this video! I’m 28 and gotta say I agree that self-awareness goes a long way when navigating through life. I probably would’ve married the wrong “people” if I wasn’t absolutely honest with myself. Saves you a ton of heartache down the road.
@BElle-Ballentine3 жыл бұрын
Good to have you back, Laila ❤️
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! 💕
@caterine46043 жыл бұрын
Laila I really like hearing what you have to say. Most of times it really resonates with me and I extract so much value from that. I really wish you had more videos or even a podcast. Thank you so muuch for being inspirational and amazing.
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Thank you soooo much!!! I honestly love sharing the lessons I've learn't from life x
@booairmow3 жыл бұрын
Currently 24 going on 25 this year and in terms of self love I’m really really getting good . I’m so proud of myself. ♥️ But I just wanna know, How can one become more self aware?
@Its_saada3 жыл бұрын
I loves these kinds of videos! ❤
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
yay!
@laulau80703 жыл бұрын
Such an amazing vlog, watched it twice just to fully absorb it all. “I love me as a human being” -something am really working on. We are constantly told how to be good to others but not many times we’re told to be good to ourselves first and also to others.. Great video ❤️❤️
@kriola843 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this to both of you! I felt like you were talking about my experience specifically Whitney. I went through what we call a spiritual awakening and it is so hard to shed all the habits and giving birth to a new self. Emotions are so high because I am a new person and it's also fascinating to see how you can change in a lifetime by doing the inner work. I am grateful to hear people and experiences like yours, it makes me feel like I am not alone in this because unfortunately, not everybody understands the changes and the will to change. I have learned to detach myself from people and things to live more in alignment with myself and it takes courage to distance yourself from people who don't do you good. Your inner self/spirit will thank you later. Ps: you both look beautiful inside and out
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad we could have this moment! I think it's so important for us to see ourselves in each other and we can only do that by sharing our journeys openly.
@kriola843 жыл бұрын
@@FusionofCultures Openess is the key. Thanks again for sharing
@mzlyzs98633 жыл бұрын
32 wow I remember when you were away at school.time has flown!!
@armamia.17013 жыл бұрын
Loved this ladies! Black girl Therapy for the win. i'm 27 and the thing that resonates with me the most, that i practice a lot is Self Awareness. However, i do struggle with the pruning part of it. Sometimes I just feel like, even if this is a terrible quality.. I'm not the only one who has terrible qualities... I can keep this one. lol. Horrible I know. Working on it. Self improvement is a constant process.
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
All we can do is work on it! We'll never be perfect but we can be alive, growing and flourishing x
@Elydalvaneves3 жыл бұрын
Great convo girls 😍😍 tunnel vision is the word for the next season in my life! Really good advice, being self-aware, therapy to deal with inner child and past traumas, tighter boundaries, using the word No and loving self above all is what I would tell my 20s self. ❤ Also everyday is a blessing and being present and enjoying the now is also so important.
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Everyday!!! even when it doesn't feel like it.
@Zen-cx5tc3 жыл бұрын
🤗🤗🤗
@ItsBonnieAdams3 жыл бұрын
This was so inspiring to watch. I’ve been watching you for like your whole KZbin career, So it’s cool to see a sit down like this from you. I’ma few years shy of my 30s and I think I’m actually taking on a lot of these tips already. Thank you so much sharing your thoughts with us all
@kooliecurlz933 жыл бұрын
I was listening to this while on the shower and I must say it was so refreshing, the conversation was everything and I think you could really do something here (if you have the time and want to of course) I even think you already have a name; podcast style. ‘Black girl therapy’ there is so much room for more black women/ girl voices we need them we want them and they are helpful. Even reading the comments the feelings of ‘am I going through this alone’ become less and less. #Grateful
@Vlindertjeab3 жыл бұрын
3:00 thanks so much for your honesty! I appreciate it, I experience the same thing. I also enjoyed going out alot and now I'm also more home. I enjoy being alone, I don't longer feel that I have to go out all the time. 🙏🏿 and also at 18:25 the point of selflove is very important. 😊
@ed0003 жыл бұрын
I fell in love with myself during the 3rd lockdown and I began to review and prune after 5months on, I'm still pruning!! Thank you
@shayma74973 жыл бұрын
Thank you girls for this,I feel less lonely in this self awareness journey. I see this journey/ mindset in a very similar way if not exactly how you see it Laila x
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
You're never alone! x
@ahoufemaggie34463 жыл бұрын
Loved this collaboration!!
@WhitneyQ3 жыл бұрын
😘😘😘
@glorial28073 жыл бұрын
My favorite person !!! 🥰 so excited lol.
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
aww thank you Gloria!! 💕💕
@arynnyraalvarez67363 жыл бұрын
Great to have you Back Laila! Looking GORGEOUS as ever. Love the content btw.
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!
@completelyv3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video very much needed! Also very happy to see Whitney back on here I loved your older videos together and always wished she featured more. Didn't know she was back making videos, will check them out now.
@akuaaso3 жыл бұрын
Omg Laila!!! You she's back!!!! Good to see you!!! 😊😊
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Thank you!
@stephowusu3 жыл бұрын
Loved the video! Thank you for sharing your stories and advice. And also heyyy Whitney 😘
@WhitneyQ3 жыл бұрын
Hey boo!
@nataliean43 жыл бұрын
1. Find spirituality/follow Christ 2. Take time for self 3. Mental Health 4. Be confident in yourself 5. Don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself 6. Self awareness
@retroblak3 жыл бұрын
I already love you two already. It’s the real ness for me ❤️🤗🔥👊🏾❤️
@BrooklynLondoner3 жыл бұрын
My favs. Hey beautiful ladies xx
@WhitneyQ3 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️
@thabilemaphenchane12493 жыл бұрын
My fav... It's been quite some time... Welcome back... 💕💕💕
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! 💕
@vonnessatracey56643 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. God definitely lead me to hear this video.
@denises-a78193 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for sharing, ladies! Sooo many golden nuggets! Also, would you mind sharing where you got your biker shorts? Thanks!!
@charro0283 жыл бұрын
🎤 🎵 Brown skinned girls
@PRINCESSGEMINI1987 Жыл бұрын
Just watching Whitney on first dates.
@taylormade97483 жыл бұрын
I’m 25 and I need this
@Zen-cx5tc3 жыл бұрын
Great video 🤗🤗🤗🤗
@tonyasealy76673 жыл бұрын
Great to see you😊
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! x
@tiyyas30223 жыл бұрын
I think a lot of these “achievements” are drilled into us that we don’t feel like we’re ever enough. Even in our best efforts, things won’t always go as we hope they will. Especially as people of faith, we need to let go and let God. Things that are on God’s timing are not things I’ll ever stress myself over any longer- so marriages, kids don’t ask me about because I truly don’t know
@FusionofCultures3 жыл бұрын
Yes! I really had to surrender A LOT to God, especially coming into this year.
@movingnollywood45283 жыл бұрын
Your so beautiful at 30 I love to see you 🥰
@kwameopoku35763 жыл бұрын
Dammn whitney I remember her from one of ur old vids
@gloriazarwolo84283 жыл бұрын
What podcast were you listening to, I’ll like to check it out please.