Thanks Jocko. I lost my wife at the end of 2019. We were married over 38 years. My head went straight up my ass and stayed there. I really needed this video. Disability prevents me from working, but it doesn't prevent me from living. I Think it's time to stop existing and it's time to start living again. Thanks again.
@TheB1nary Жыл бұрын
Go get it!
@City-Swimmer Жыл бұрын
You got this mate 👍
@dallassukerkin6878 Жыл бұрын
This is a road I have walked, Michal, and it sounds as if you are at that point in the evolution of grief when the fog starts to clear a little. When you begin to be able to tell yourself that it is time to stop just existing and to try and start living again, that is a definite turning point. There will still be times when that grief comes hammering back in and knocks you off your feet for a while but the best advice I ever got after I lost my wife was, when you are able, to expand your life so that your grief is not the only thing in it.
@sammystones Жыл бұрын
U got this man, one day at a time
@MrLJT1 Жыл бұрын
I am on this road myself. The best I think I can do most days is just keep living and hope at some point I will get to the point where I want to keep living. Not there yet, but somehow the days are getting a bit easier.
@阿倫-r9d Жыл бұрын
If you're watching this, I hope your dreams come true. May everyone here finds out their purpose and get what they prayed for
@DAClub-uf3br7 ай бұрын
I have no dreams.
@HyperbacАй бұрын
My dreams don't want themselves to come true to me
@gabrielnagy5955 күн бұрын
@@DAClub-uf3br I know what you are talking about brother...
@YaroTK Жыл бұрын
I am 37, married with 2 kids, run my own company, train almost every day at home and go to bjj 2 times a week. Yesterday I got the news that I have a tumor in my testicle. I said, ok that's the next problem I have to solve, but damn the thought of possibly not seeing my kids again scares the shit out of me. I will beat this.
@edwardmoore8865 Жыл бұрын
Jocko says, "Home depot...Good."
@arielmauriciosantander9910 Жыл бұрын
We are praying for you...God is with you..trust Him
@raks1111 Жыл бұрын
I had testical tumor in 1998 ... hang in there bro ❤
@krwnik8419 Жыл бұрын
Similar story to Peter Czerwinski
@YaroTK Жыл бұрын
Thank you guys! I got operated shortly after my first message and things are looking good. I need to do a check-up every 3 months, no chemo.
@rishabhgupta88769 ай бұрын
Broke, jobless and in debt but still somehow going through. Somedays even waking up is the hardest thing. Going through the toughest phase of my life and somehow hanging in. To anyone reading this, we will get through this and the sun will shine on us. 😊
@TheXenetiX8 ай бұрын
I wish your situasion will be better soon buddy! I really feel with you, the couple of last days specialy. Today ended well and i looked up and thanked god for making me go on a path that makes me feel better. i prayed for it earlier and now i harvest the power of the prayer. God bless you from Norway!
@resilient.gladiator8 ай бұрын
Grew up everything. Been hiding frkm life and not doing anything. Im 37 and still act like child that havent taken responsibility of my life. Homeless, jobless and broke.
@benbridwell99918 ай бұрын
❤Prayer works
@rishabhgupta88768 ай бұрын
@@resilient.gladiator now is the time brother. It's never too late.
@rishabhgupta88768 ай бұрын
@@TheXenetiX thanks a lot. Much love from India.
@AndBusinessIsGood8 ай бұрын
REMEMBER WHEN YOU ARE AT YOUR LOWEST YOU ARE AT YOUR LAST HIGHEST TOP AND THAT YOURE STILL ALIVE FELLAS KEEP IT THAT WAY
@zenthegeneral Жыл бұрын
"When going through Hell, keep going." -Winston Churchill
@JesseSprague-cc3sy9 ай бұрын
That's easy to say when you're the devil, and he sure was.
@darksaintxvi69148 ай бұрын
@@JesseSprague-cc3sycry about it.
@christmasisawesome93488 ай бұрын
@@JesseSprague-cc3sy It much easier said than done. That's for sure.
@_Arugula_Salad_7 ай бұрын
@@JesseSprague-cc3sy He was a monster
@dbz93937 ай бұрын
'Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.' - WC
@KevinsEvil1 Жыл бұрын
I have 2 diseases and got really sick last year. I was hospitalized over 30 times. I haven’t been able to work since October. My wife of 14 years lost all respect for me. We have two kids together. I helped her get to where she’s at in life and now that she’s successful she has turned her back on me. Talking to other men behind my back, going out getting drunk at a bar every other night. She wants a divorce. This past month has been my best month yet and I’m starting to feel better physically. I go back to work in two days. Gotta dig myself out of this hole. Thanks for the advice I’m going to try to keep moving forward and focus on getting better.
@Metaphoria_Music Жыл бұрын
Glad to hear you're doing better brother, take it step by step and remember to listen to your body so you don't go overboard - You got this!!
@e-rod1596 Жыл бұрын
God bless you, brother. Stay strong. I hope your health will improve.
@jeffrodeback8390 Жыл бұрын
Wishing you strength brother.
@iamchrisknott Жыл бұрын
Just wanted to comment and say keeping “walking” brother. Take your time but work hard. All things great, comes to those who wait…faith without work is dead!
@realtalk3653 Жыл бұрын
Stay strong. I’m sorry to say this but your wife is a sellout, she has no integrity and is showing her true colors that are ugly! Get rid of her and start a new life without her. You will find a much better woman that will accept you for who you are today 👍
@gruberjens4354 Жыл бұрын
My advice to anyone who feels lost... Frist, don't panic. Ask, what problem is the critical one? All other problems just can wait. Work around that problem and the solution for many other problems will just show up. Akways keep moving, one problem at a time and suddently you realize things all worked out. Got my self out of a living hell by that way...
@garbojaxmcbruce9626 Жыл бұрын
Good job man!
@fishlestat Жыл бұрын
And when the whole life is a critical problem...
@garbojaxmcbruce9626 Жыл бұрын
@@fishlestat prioritize and execute
@KolyaNickD Жыл бұрын
Exactly what I've told people - identity the root causes of the situation then sort them out one problem at a time - not all at once!
@abrambarco5799 Жыл бұрын
I love that for you
@JaketheJust Жыл бұрын
My birthday this year, I took a moment and compared and contrast where I was and where I am today. A year ago I was suddenly fired from my job, I was still living with my parents, and all I did for my last birthday was go to McDonalds and then took a walk. Jocko is right about taking a walk. This year, I’m so competent in my new job they are giving me more responsibilities, I bought my first house, I’ve gotten stronger and leaner, took up a passion for boxing, and this year I had steak and twice-baked potatoes for my birthday and I was surrounded by my family that love me so much. Stay strong and keep getting stronger!
@Suroshi89 Жыл бұрын
Happy for you G .. keep it going!
@JaketheJust Жыл бұрын
@@Suroshi89 Thanks brother.
@garbojaxmcbruce9626 Жыл бұрын
Get it!
@jksolution Жыл бұрын
So it is like just surrender to job ignoring what that job do wrong in nature or humans and just do it for your success? I am now stuck
@Aloysious0013 Жыл бұрын
Right on brother
@FlamboyantArt Жыл бұрын
Im at the lifetime low. Wife of 15 years blindsided me for a year and filed for divorce. When she finally said those words "I want a divorce" whole world imploded on me. I was like zombie for two months reflecring on how good my life was but then i realised that life is gone and I literally had nothing else but bag of worn out clothes, phone, car and wallet. Then i started to think really hard with what i ended up with after 15 years of hard work and what are my options. Thank god i have decent job. By american standards i have low 6 figure income. I fought for shared custody and won. I bought 3 room condo and now starting to shape things arround me to reflect what/who i want to be in next 2 years. Its hard and still feel my loss but i cannot stay in the middle of woods figuring out in what direction the town is...
@acehood9953 Жыл бұрын
Low 6 figure income? I haven't got a penny to my name, or a job and chronic illness left me disabled about 7 years ago. I'm working on my illness and improving very slowly but what do you recommend I do when I'm better? I genuinely have no idea where to start. Relationships can wait till much later I'm talking getting my feet back on the ground.
@RockyTop85 Жыл бұрын
In my experience, a woman doesn’t up and file to divorce. We, as men, have a ton of blindspots
@Michael.S.Ryan. Жыл бұрын
Insane that our culture motivates and incentivizes women to leave their men. Absolute bullshit. Obviously there were probably things you could have done different but this is what it is now and all you can do is make the best of it. This system though or literally incentivizing women to leave good hardworking men they committed to with all the vows they say is absolutely insane and asinine. Absolute Trash 🤡 world.
@bushpig6837 Жыл бұрын
Good for you man. I guarantee when you get to a better place where you're over her, she will come crawling back.
@kronikakuma8 Жыл бұрын
Sounds like you're on the right track back . You have a job and your sanity. Good luck in your future ventures.
@TeKnoVKNG23 Жыл бұрын
Good advice for the gym as well, the days you don't feel like doing anything, just go. No plan, just go. When you get there just lift something, get on a bench and do what you can do. Jump on the treadmill for a few minutes, etc. After about 10-15 minutes you'll usually find that groove and get into a full on workout and feel 100% better. All about staying in motion and focusing on something.
@devonbrown4894 Жыл бұрын
Today was one of those days for me bro but I’m here right now at the gym
@gischalav Жыл бұрын
what works for me is not worry about performance as in weight lifted in dogshit days... rather focus on text book form and sensation, control.. works super for get in the grove as you mention
@burt7104 Жыл бұрын
They say just showing up to the gym is the hardest part.
@tohian Жыл бұрын
100% true. I’ve had hundreds of workouts that started like absolute dog shit but ended awesome.
@derekcarruthers2197 Жыл бұрын
Exactly and that's why I always remind myself how happy and good I feel after a few minutes of lifting.
@graham6883 Жыл бұрын
I did exactly this. I started at Lowes as a seasonal associate with no skills other than work ethic and customer service. I outworked everyone around me, got promoted several times and became a successful salesman. In just a couple years I went from making $10/hr to $20/hr. It wasnt easy but it was simple. All I had was my mindset, my mentors, and my perseverance.
@HxThomison Жыл бұрын
This is absolutely key. Young men and women need to learn this. The key is to make it where people feel it when you're NOT at work. When others sit you find something to do or someone to help. Even if it isn't your "department". Be the guy who's happy to be there and positive. 99 percent of it is being bearable or even pleasant 😅😅
@nolangoldenberg8843 Жыл бұрын
Congrats man! Very inspiring
@Cannisseur119 Жыл бұрын
The construction industry desperately needs people with that attitude... You'd be making $40 per hour in the trades at this point....
@Wild1KY Жыл бұрын
The best ability is AVAILABILITY. Doesn’t matter how good u are, if ur not there, ur of no service. The key word is to “Endure”
@brianpalmer4643 Жыл бұрын
Lol...congratulations....you get to be the idiot that misses the whole point.@@w_ulf
@alpinewolf7751 Жыл бұрын
Me about a year ago. Not a divorce but I had just broken up with my fiancée after she cheated and lied. Jocko's advice, amongst other's helped me find my way out of the woods. Thank you!
@TNnxnek Жыл бұрын
Great to hear you’re doing well, brother! Keep working on yourself, and God will work his magic 🙌
@markeberle3984 Жыл бұрын
Congratulations my friend. You were blessed. Evil exposed BEFORE the marriage, kids, house, 401k, & the life blood of money. Spoiler Alert: AWALT. Divinity favored you, don't f*ck up. ;)
@deuceseis Жыл бұрын
Sabotage a country by making its women child and responsibility hating consumerist, narcissistic freaks chasing 80-90 iq criminals or millionaires at a 1:100 female:millionaire ratio. Pretty great plan. TV and phones to beam it constantly, fantastic!
@crystalz-h1d Жыл бұрын
Money/success > women Focus on yourself and your growth
@deuceseis Жыл бұрын
@@crystalz-h1d I'm not asking for your opinion. Commenting on what happens to a society with these characteristics and sigma grindsetters.
@briangates4577 Жыл бұрын
I feel it. About 10 months ago lost my car. And was forced to walk everywhere. At least 8 miles a day to and from work and other places. The snow the rain the heat. However what I wasnt expecting from this daily trudge is now having a ton more stamina and standing out from other people as a much better put together individual. At first I said it's gonna suck and it did for sure but personal growth and grit from it. Has made me a vastly better individual
@user-xb9qm9gx6x Жыл бұрын
Just happened to me in May. Really rough at first but i can go all day now. Feet stopped blistering and body fat dropped. Just got a bicycle this week and hit an emotional high, such a fun timesaver
@djnone8137 Жыл бұрын
it's been 5 years since I lost my car. it sucked and there are days it still does ... but it's worth it. good exercise
@joshpatterson4973 Жыл бұрын
How did you lose it?
@mikeb3539 Жыл бұрын
Yup. Hardship taken in stride with the right attitude molds you into a stronger person.
@dougscott188 Жыл бұрын
Buy a bike 🤷♂️
@benjamins7229 Жыл бұрын
I’m 31 and having a tough time coming to terms with the fact that I am finally aging. My 20s are done. Ten years used to seem like forever, I know it’s not. I can say I appreciate time much more than I did, but with that appreciation comes sadness, because I also realize we don’t have much of it.
@ChillPill365 Жыл бұрын
Right there with you brother. 32 here. I get it.
@chrisgriffith9252 Жыл бұрын
Your forties are coming sooner than you realize
@Petrovich2049 Жыл бұрын
30 is still young for a guy
@andrewmaher8409 Жыл бұрын
I just wish 53 year old you could tell 31 year young you to realise the world is your oyster, anything was possible and you are young. Look after yourself and love every minute my friend.
@habitualresistor9548 Жыл бұрын
And then, all of a sudden, you are half of a century old. It happens. Staring at it doesnt make it go away. It makes those feelings come on stronger. I am 48 and wouldn't trade what i have learned, and the wisdom that has come with it, for anything. You will get over it. 33 was an awesome age for me.
@adamcall36645 ай бұрын
I use the bike analogy; You have to start moving in order to get your balance, then you can think about where to go.
@carloduran2961 Жыл бұрын
Jocko is a humble genius. “In the twilight of my life I awoke in a dark wood, wholly lost.” -Dante
@Guitargate Жыл бұрын
TRUTH. It’s all about action. Even if you’re walking in the wrong direction for days & you have to backtrack, you only know that by walking.
@LuckInklusiv Жыл бұрын
The sentence "Discipline Equals Freedom" helped me alot when I was in dark place. Thanks for all the great lessons.
@cheyennealvis8284 Жыл бұрын
You weren't very disciplined from 1yrs old to 5. And you were the freest kid in the world. Remember that.
@nunoflorido582 Жыл бұрын
@@cheyennealvis8284 yeah but then again, someone had to be discilplined in order for you to maintain that freedom and inocence... Also, remember that.
@angelocarantino4803 Жыл бұрын
@@cheyennealvis8284 yes you were, you just didnt realize
@angelocarantino4803 Жыл бұрын
@@nunoflorido582 that too lol
@Jay-lo8bt Жыл бұрын
@@cheyennealvis8284 behave like a 1-5yo at age 30 and see how far you make it in life
@jessewallace12able Жыл бұрын
Literally start walking. In 2020, covid ended my business. The gyms also closed down so I had no where to even go. I found a trail on a map and started walking on it every day. Then at night I started walking all over the city I live in. I did this for a couple years. I would walk and talk (to God I think) and it helped me sort things out.
@JesseSprague-cc3sy9 ай бұрын
Really does work, walking is my form of meditation.
@jayflunker71189 ай бұрын
Luke 17:14 says “as they walked (went), they were healed. I basically terrorize my body for the first 40 years of my life. Encounter Christ in 2007 reading the Word every day. I started brisk walking in 2009 every day for five years I believe it completely healed my body. Eventually I started running and triathlon, since have done 5 or so marathons and a bunch of Ironmans as well. I hated walking when I first started but after about 2 months I wouldn’t miss for nothing! God bless you, thanks for sharing 😊
@vxsmokeyxv55405 ай бұрын
I did this too. Kicked out during covid by my ex. There's a hill in my old city where I went to sofa surf. Walked up it every day. Amazing views and it was a tough trek. Totally worth it. I kept doing it when gyms opened so I'd do a session and walk up this hill. So therapeutic
@leandroramirez6879 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, God bless you gentlemen. This was exactly what I needed. 53 yo, have hit bottom (again). Kids grown, living with/taking care of mom. Started working at Kroger a year and a half ago. Am backup lead in produce. Try to keep positive outlook, do my best (mostly). Sometimes feel depressed. Just recently started working out again. This video was confirmation that I'm not completely off track.
@lopetonceba1059 Жыл бұрын
Keep going man your story motivates me
@tomfury7767 Жыл бұрын
A warrior never loses his purpose, no matter what happens!
@Noillintents10 ай бұрын
What happens when he does?
@gerdgrubel9029 ай бұрын
@@Noillintents God will give him Purpose then, because as he says: "for he himself has said, I will never leave you or abandon you." EVEN if you yourself (think of) abandon God, he won´t abandon you. That is the true unconditional love. Read the Story of Job in the Bible. You are NOT alone.
@nathaneley6486 Жыл бұрын
Needed this, just found out the plant I’ve worked at for 18 years is closing next month. Not a great feeling but you either lie down and quit dust off and drive on.
@rankoutsider1977 Жыл бұрын
Mate, that’s a long time to be with the same firm. And that shows loyalty when you land your next role Nate, you’ll be good 🤜🏽💥🤛🏽
@user-ph4mg1mh9c Жыл бұрын
That’s rough, almost like the breakdown of a long term relationship. Keep your chin up, the next will be something better 👍🏼
@deeznuts9196 Жыл бұрын
my dad lost his job at the local paper mill after 25 years of loyalty. this was the bread and butter of our family and so many other families like us. just came in to work one day and the news had hit. lots of families moved. our once booming town saw a substantial decline in jobs and revenue and a significant increase in crime. i can’t imagine what was going through his mind at this time. i was a young child so i didnt quite understand what an impact this would have on our family at the time. our life was built upon his low six figure forklift driving salary, chock full of shift work and overtime. the vehicles, the house, the boats, everything depended on that paper mill pay check. my mother was a self employed hair dresser who only worked 3 days per week so she could raise the kids and keep the house on her days off. long story short, i probably only knew of him getting upset one time, if that, and it definitely was not in front of us. he got up, dusted himself off and thankfully got a job at a shipyard about an hour and 15 minutes from our house. he slaved away at that job for 10 years, having taken a substantial pay decrease. i can honestly say he took it to the chin and kept on going. i, and my siblings, never had to feel the impact of what had truly happened because of his willingness to keep walking. to not sit and wonder what direction to walk in. today he works at the same shipyard, in a much higher position than where he started, and gets to work from home 2-3 days per week, saving him the hour + drive + traffic everyday. i know what you’re experiencing has to be a lot. it has to weigh heavily on you mentally. but trust there’s a greater plan and you will see it through. just keep on keeping on, can’t allow yourself to get stuck or start feeling sorry for yourself! be blessed, brother.
@GraceNow2 ай бұрын
I am so grateful to see the turn in how 'men' talk. Sharing and being vulnerable is a strength, Not a weakness. Keep sharing. Keep listening. Keep living. The only way is 'through it'. Again honored to be a part of this journey with others. Facing w different types of cancer.. 1 stage 3 and 1 stage 1. 59 with a 9 yr old daughter. Living or dying is not my fear, not being in my daughters life 'in person' is the hard part. I am fighting the cancer stuff for 'mainly' her. Time is the teller of truths. Love yawl.
@DonGiggity Жыл бұрын
I’m getting the help I need from Veterans Affairs, but I’m a mess too. Physical problems. Disorders, mentally. What keeps me going is the fighting spirit of the Navy. Also, it’s not really in my nature to not keep going. My grandfather would always say when life knocks you down; all you can do is pick yourself up by your boot straps and keep on keeping on. He just passed away weeks ago. I live on, in his honor.
@ViktoriousDead Жыл бұрын
So what exactly happened to you in the navy? I’m curious, because there’s a massive issue with veterans who’ve never seen combat, deployed or anything claiming PTSD, guys who worked desk jobs getting VA disability, and claiming psychiatric disorders. It’s bizzare
@DonGiggity Жыл бұрын
@@ViktoriousDead I found out I had paranoid schizophrenia. They claimed nothing was wrong and even wanted to keep me working with a gun after finding this out. I was threatened by two supervisors and was legitimately a mess until I left.
@DonGiggity Жыл бұрын
@@ViktoriousDead I’m not keen on being considered wrong about this or even ashamed. I did my best work considering everything
@TissueBox271 Жыл бұрын
@@ViktoriousDeadI understand your mindset and had the same view point, but there indeed situations where someone may not experience combat but one example might be leadership and the way they treat you. There are a handful of sailors I’ve talked to where their situation is a very legitimate reason to have PTSD even though they were not in combat. There are also those who do play the system….like someone in my previous leadership….. which is BS
@jackrogers5712 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for this. I'm in a slump right now. A business idea I had didn't work out, I hate my job, been feeling sick lately and I've been letting my surroundings fall apart around me. I spent two days sitting around feeling bad. Today I got up, cleaned the house, did some errands and immediately feel better. There's something to be said for just moving around and staying active. Don't surrender to the urge to stay still and feel bad. Keep moving.
@DavidRussellM Жыл бұрын
Are you exercising?
@Technofastfingers Жыл бұрын
The fact you accomplished at least one duty in a day shows progress. Never give up! Life's curveballs are what makes us stronger. We need to stop the negativity and look at everything from a positive POV. Proud of you never give up brother
@lopetonceba1059 Жыл бұрын
You know I never thought I'd find comment section on KZbin were so many men are going through a lot. Its heartbreaking, but I found comfort and inspiration in your words and seeing other men trying to get up from their slump and failures is amazing its also been tough on my side and sometimes I feel you can't really share it with anyone else
@lookupthereupinthetrees9860 Жыл бұрын
This is insanely good advice. Punishments vs rewards mindset. "The quality of your life will be determined by the quality of your thoughts."
@pete4682 Жыл бұрын
Live in CA and Covid has destroyed 50% of my business to this day. Crazy to lose something you worked so hard for. Had to carry the pressure the last 3 plus years, but I am just going to start walking!!! Thank you. Semper Fi
@Which-Way-Out11 ай бұрын
Convid didn't do anything Pete. You can thank your Gov't for all the devastation to the lower and middle class, and the real virus is called communism. Best wishes bro.
@seller559 Жыл бұрын
When I was young I would take a long walk when I had tough decisions. I got answers. Always worked out for the best. Now, I’m walking every day. 👍
@Logan24855 Жыл бұрын
I’m going through a personal crisis, right now and I so needed to hear this. I will watch later, thank you Jocko & Echo🙏🙏
@austinbratton99734 ай бұрын
Never surrender!!! Dont quit!! Hope you all are well!!!
@Auslife007 Жыл бұрын
Easy to be positive about “starting over” and giving advice on such when your not in that situation yourself
@WhatMakestheDifference11 ай бұрын
When surrounded by darkeness look for the light, even if it is a glimmer. Find it reignite and hold on. Repeat as necessary.
@nieczerwony10 ай бұрын
You have to be your very best at the darkest moment. if you can't see the light, you must be the light. It's like the ocean. Everyone love colorful reef with warm water, plenty of life and amazing creatures. You can dive and there is still plenty of sunlight, so you can admire everything. But if you are thrown in the middle of deep ocean, under the water, where there is no light, pressure is so high that you can't breathe, and you can't see shit, that is scary. But still this is the place which is most unknow to mankind. Has so many amazing creatures and things to be found. It's clod, dark, wet, and scary but what you find there will stay with you for the rest of your life and only few will understand what you mean. With coral reef, yeah it's warm, colorful, bright and amazing, but many people have videos to remind themself how it was back then.
@nuajayala Жыл бұрын
25 years old, just got fired from amazon for not being treated right and want ‘what is right’. i’m taking this as an opportunity to grow and no longer have to work my butt off to a company that doesn’t care. if you’re reading this and you are going through the similar situation, don’t give up. God has a better plan for you and i! KEEP WALKING!! look for opportunities, we can get to where we want to be. it’s not the end of the world.
@Clayton_White Жыл бұрын
6 years ago I was in the middle of a break up from a toxic relationship that ended in betrayal. Emotionally devastating doesn't do it justice. I would wake up in the middle of the night with tears. I didn't even know that was possible. Suicide was contemplated regularly. Jockos video "Good" which I believe may have been produced by Echo, saved my life. It gave me the motivation/awareness to move and to crawl my way out of the whole I fell in. The extreme ownership mentality helped me realize that I was in fact the one responsible for my circumstances not the victim. Had I not ignored the flags that were hitting me in the face, I would have avoided it all. Taking responsibility is a release valve. Being that you are the only thing you can control it allows you make sense of things and to accept the situation and eventually forgive yourself. But only if you do the work. Do not avoid the pain. Allow yourself to feel it and process it... Create your own pain by pushing yourself mentally and physically... 3 years later I found a better relationship. And after 3 years together I'm back in a similar situation without the toxicity. It sucks almost as bad as what I remember, but this time I have a head start. I know what to do. Get up, accept responsibility, embrace the suffering, recalibrate, reengage and go out on the attack.
@Bodyknowledge77 Жыл бұрын
Good fortune to you. It ain't easy, but is it really supposed to be? Not necessarily.
@elijaholiver5937 Жыл бұрын
Savage 🔥🔥🔥
@justinjennings141 Жыл бұрын
Damn man I feel like I wrote this almost! Same situation after 10 years being together and now it’s been 2 1/2 years and I’m just now excepting everything and embracing the pain and moving on while listening to Jocko !
@raphaelwesley9140 Жыл бұрын
I just went through a break up man, my fault. Im crying bad
@Clayton_White Жыл бұрын
@@raphaelwesley9140 It slowly gets better. There will be ups and downs through the process.
@EricKing-p4i Жыл бұрын
Damn man! I've been separated from my wife of 10 years with 4 kids for the last 18 months, stuck in limbo of not knowing if we're getting a divorce or working it out. I've been stuck for the last 18 months in your friends mindset. Out of all of the times I've executed a plan I alway remember to just move after a certain point - not to get stuck in planning but this time, personal life got stuck. I forgot to just move. This helped me pull my head out. Thanks guys
@hitch-tf5rh10 ай бұрын
I am divorced with two kids single dad. I am glad I found this video! Life gets tough and there is a lot of people who have had tougher road. That being said, he is right, you prepare yourself for your road ahead. Nothing more and definitely nothing less.
@jonny_apocalypseii1051 Жыл бұрын
Needed this today, thanks, Jocko. I'm working a terrible job that I hate because I've got a baby on the way and don't have another choice right now. It's tough , not physically, but mentally, I needed to hear this.
@thatbusinesstrainer1414 Жыл бұрын
You ALWAYS have a choice. Once you understand that, the rest falls into place.
@ionbusman2086 Жыл бұрын
Always a choice! Goodluck :)
@locophoto6881 Жыл бұрын
You are not what you do, don't forge that. Your character defines you, not your job, but definitely build your skillsets so you have a better job that makes it easier later to live and invest and build wealth and provide for family.
@abrambarco5799 Жыл бұрын
@@locophoto6881I like how you put that together. Very good mindset.
@P-A-L-M-A Жыл бұрын
Start walking, look at the direction you’re walking to, keep walking. I was doing cardio at the gym and listening to this in the morning, and it actually made me smile and feel better and more secure about my approach on things. Awesome.
@jamisonbernhardt3310 Жыл бұрын
Still moving?
@P-A-L-M-A Жыл бұрын
@@jamisonbernhardt3310 till this day
@mathieuconklin3146 Жыл бұрын
i am astounded at this man's wisdom. I am convinced there is no situation on earth you could give Jocko and he wouldn't find a solution.
@Partoftheratpack Жыл бұрын
It’s how he’s been trained. Elite mindset
@matthewtgp8213 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Joko Going through hard times right now in my life. But the message I got is can’t stay still and dwell over my sadness. I’ll acknowledge it, but have to keep moving forward w my goals/ aspirations. Thanks
@SidewaysEightSix Жыл бұрын
In racing we call that target fixation. If there’s a crash developing in front of you, you look for a path through. If you’re looking at the crash you’re going to end up inside that crash. If you look at the wall, you’re gonna hit that wall. You gotta find the open lane. It’s a moving target, sometime it closes on you and you crash. But other times it opens up and you fly right through
@check4v4 ай бұрын
I was gonna say, when I learned to ride a motorcycle they told me pretty much the exact same thing.
@a.far14513 ай бұрын
thats called Tunnel Vision. avoid Tunnel vision at all costs.
@MotivationMastery-d3d2 ай бұрын
Thank you, Jocko. After losing a job I worked hard for, with great pay, at the end of 2021, I felt like my whole world was flipped upside down. It was hard to find motivation again, but this video gave me the push I needed. Even though I’ve struggled, it’s time to stop dwelling on what’s lost and start focusing on what’s ahead.
@josephgish2573 Жыл бұрын
This was one of the hardest, and most important lessons of my life. Soon as I embraced this mindset and seeing opportunity in the hardship my entire life changed, and continues to change.
@charlessapp-p4r9 ай бұрын
Dad always reminded me always do your best no matter what you do.
@RM-jb2bv9 ай бұрын
Your dad is a loser. Most jobs aren’t worth doing.
@lordeowstheking4 ай бұрын
Jocko and goggins are the two guys who have pushed me through some tough times.
@samvojtech1153 Жыл бұрын
I think this just saved my life! People make faces & roll their eyes when I bring up NAVY SEALS & stuff I heard from them. But two former SEALs just rocked my pity party with back to back videos. Thanks Jon M. & Jocko!!!
@stephenfannin6482 Жыл бұрын
currently just turned 22 and am a Pharmacy Technician working on Associates degree in criminal justice, wanted to law enforcement but now pivoting towards my state's board of pharmacy for employment, great video and I feel like I am doing something wrong everyday and am unsure of where I'll end up but the fact of visualizing where I want to go has helped ease some of the anxiety of not knowing
@tommydee1981 Жыл бұрын
Hey man. So I’m 42 and have been where you’re at. What I will say is that you are in the right place. You’re taking action. You will figure it out. It’s the people that don’t move and stay still that lose. If you’re feeling lost it’s because you’re growing. Don’t give up man. Ever. One day you’ll have a wife and then a family. Build discipline now so you can take them through those times. You got this.
@yvlakhtionovАй бұрын
💯 ! Just pick a direction and start walking. That’s exactly what I did in my low points. Works all the time 👍🏻
@MrHDProd Жыл бұрын
I’m up my lowest point right now but I’m still focused on my purpose which is making beats 💯🙏
@BearMan665 ай бұрын
Woke up at 2 am! And I really needed to hear this. Ty
@doca8792 Жыл бұрын
Brilliant. I was so overwhelmed my first year of grad school that I almost quit. An upper classmate told me not to get lost in the forest staring at the trees. Amazing advice, almost as good our man here.
@weezyrunner10 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this, especially today. I've been going through a rough patch, and today, I broke. I cried over all of it, and I am not a cryer. But hearing this opened up my eyes and gave me the kick in the ass I needed. Thank you. ❤
@salohcin1013 Жыл бұрын
Can’t even imagine how dope Jocko’s Home Depot aisle would be
@WilliamCantSingAtAll Жыл бұрын
You’re a dope.
@baldrickization Жыл бұрын
I just imagined it with rocket launchers and assault rifles on it 😂
@glenngreten88 ай бұрын
Thank you Jocko, I remember listening to this a few months ago after getting out of jail and having to live with my dad and his wife. I felt really low and got a job I could. Now I’m in training to be a sup because of all the hard work I’ve put in. I felt ashamed till you talked about being the best at what you do. Life for me still has its ups and downs, slipped up on some habits but I got my vision and ready to tackle this challenge.
@phonkandchill.mp3 Жыл бұрын
I was a rock bottom 4 years ago. It wasn't until I decided to get help at the VA for things that ate away at me for 20 years. Turned out to be severe PTSD among other things. It wasn't the 2 years in and out of the hospital, but the small journey of that couple years that made the changes inside me. Now I tell myself that I'm flawed maybe more than others, so I work to fix myself daily. I'm not up at 4:00 AM (Jocko), but 5:30 and to the gym. So I can assess each day before it happens. One day at a time now, it's a way of life for me.
@readerofbooks5170 Жыл бұрын
It’s only Tuesday, and this week I am already in the middle of the woods. I didn’t know what to do or where to go but now I am just going to start walking. Thank you for this.
@harrymills2770 Жыл бұрын
Best thing that happened to my career was finding out my annual contract wasn't going to be renewed at the end of the year. Last thing I wanted to do was hustle up a new gig, but the new gig paid better, had more security, and an upward path. The previous gig didn't, but I couldn't see past it until I HAD to.
@chris-s978 Жыл бұрын
Brother, this message is more needed than ever. So many men feel hopeless or lost in a situation like this…. Keep walking and perusing your purpose. This is the root of happiness! Purpose !!!!
@davidellis5312 Жыл бұрын
When you're at a very low point the last thing you feel like doing exercise or work and your body aches straight out of bed. But it's true - walking or a bit of physical work frees your head. I always found that cycling has been my best rehabilitation mentally and physically. I also find that doing a simple task on your property like a simple repair which produces a result gives you something to build on. I was very low in the late 90's living alone, and I started going out for a walk not knowing where I was heading or why, no food or drink in my coat. On several occasions I saw an Argentinian soccer player who was at Manchester United walking the other way and we'd nod to each other. Later I read that he was also in a low place at the time. You can recover and be stronger & resilient if you just convince yourself to start.
@CapnWilly9 ай бұрын
Jocko always has the words to encourage. I look to this guy as a real example of mental strength. Everytime I'm in my head too much he gets me back in line.
@ariz5247 Жыл бұрын
I didn’t know that I needed this message on this day. Turns out I did. Well done gentleman. And thank you.
@Mojobeetz3 ай бұрын
Day 5 no food in my stomach and the family I love doesn’t give a crap about me. videos like this keep me from very dumb choices thanks man
@ronirwin6421 Жыл бұрын
Jocko, you thoughtfully and powerfully words delivered me from the depth of the ruin of my life. I am rebuilding, reshaping, and carry myself differently, I am better than I was. No matter the low, your words always played a MAJOR point in getting me out. I wanted to offer my most sincere thanks to you.
@ionbusman2086 Жыл бұрын
I was in a rut, decided what I'm currentlty doing ain't working.. So I drove an hour to the city next morning for a business networking group at 7am.. I made friends with some guys I had lunch later in the week with, I made some connections and got some referals! I was uplifted and inspired by the groups energy, and my confidence was restored when they were all interested in my business.. It really helped and opened several new paths I had no idea about!! I'm walking them now and feel better than I have in years!
@RyanTait-vk9sc Жыл бұрын
I SOLD MYSELF OUT MAN THANK YOU. FOR THIS.
@JinroHz Жыл бұрын
Walking really is a great way to think over your options when you're down. Better if you do it without distractions like listening to something. When we're cooped up in our own house all day, walking outside with no distractions will make you see things clearer.
@derekdimaggio8034 Жыл бұрын
Your words have literally been a key tool in assisting me completely change my life. Without running into your work, I do not believe i could have myself through changing from the irresponsible person I once was and gotten me and my Daughter through her biological mothers drugs tearing our Family apart, putting my Precious Beargonel (a fictional character my Daughter has made up at 8 years old) and her desertion of her. However, we are doing very good now. I hope to someday be blessed with being able to shake your hand and thank you.
@haliec4964 ай бұрын
2 years ago I didnt think I'd be around for long, dark thoughts, dark times. I literally got through a year hour by hour. I had to protect myself emotionally from the outside world. Spent a lot of time by myself, walking my dogs, went to therapy, and watched a lot of motivational videos. Work also saved me. I love what I do so it got me out of the house for a few hours every other day. Baby steps. Never give up. The clouds do lift.
@dimsun3039 Жыл бұрын
Amen. Let's walk.
@frankie4fingers5525 ай бұрын
Your life never changes....ONLY YOUR LIFE SITUATION....Learn that...understand that ....know that....and you will become UNBOUND
@primalexperiment3332 Жыл бұрын
This is good timing. Got complacent with life and things got away…..this will give me something to study on. Thanks men for always finding a way to help a refocus
@Str8ShootinLoner81 Жыл бұрын
I just wanna say to the world to get feedback that My blood pressure has been over 200 to 170 on top and over 120 to 90 on the bottom for over 10 years..I've been on meds for the first time via ER with no insurance for anxiety and blood pressure and I'm 38, I'm 6 ft and weigh 275 with a long line of cancer amd heart failure in my family..I've never met my mother and was raised by my roughneck dad and I tried so hard to be him my whole life, I've had 10 years of cocaine use which I'm 1 month clean and 20 years of alcoholism which I still do and I've been depressed my whole life even as a child spending much of my time alone and I've thought about ending it all many times..But I can't because I don't wanna hurt others specially my dad and gf..I'm sitting in my barn rn listening to this and paused it at 7:48 to say that I'm gonna fight harder and tomorrow is gonna be better..I was the man at one point..And I will be the man again soon..I will not give up and I will fight harder..I pray that God gives me the strength to get through this and be a better man..I needed this..Thank you Jocko
@SinceretheGhost Жыл бұрын
The most important attribute anyone can have is the ability to frame things in a positive, or at least, a NON negative way. You won't always be happy about where you are, or what you are doing, but if you can keep perspective, and appreciate that it can always be worse, and be thankful for whatever little bit you do still have, you will win long-term. I say this as someone who struggles to do this personally, but I know how important it is to do well.
@lopetonceba1059 Жыл бұрын
Well said I love that man. Its not easy, but its exactly what you saying
@DB-Barrelmaker Жыл бұрын
Bro, I'm going through a nearly identical situation. Being aware of your own intelligence sometimes leads to paralysis, you are avoiding to seeing what others can't but that means you also assume there's always an immediate answer from your current situation. Move first and reappraise, loud and clear. Thank you!
@jelulish95683 ай бұрын
This hit way harder than I thought. I recently had my life derailed as well and really struggled for a few months similar to the guy in the story, trying to figure out what to do. The thing that helped me was doing just like Jocko said and picking a direction, and slowly head towards it. I don't know where I am going, but I am moving in A direction and things are getting easier.
@anthonykenyatta11 Жыл бұрын
❤I’m a SASM at Home Depot in Scottsdale. And I’ve been standing in the woods about a mile away from an intersection. I know this further puts things in my control to overcome. thank you for talking on this.
@CodyBeard74 Жыл бұрын
The bit at the end, where he was talking about jockounderground. He says if you can’t afford to support us, we can afford to support you. That to me speaks volumes about his character! Great video brother, keep up the good work!
@Yetipfote Жыл бұрын
Everytime I come back to Jocko it feels like taking an essential vitamin.
@Vessoul Жыл бұрын
When overwhelmed by life remember detach and simplify. Great perspective jocko!
@CaptainObvio Жыл бұрын
You can’t always change your conditions, but you can always change how they’re approached
@williamtelkamp7079 Жыл бұрын
I started my walk when I woke up this morning,and in my walk I came across this gem or stream to help me understand my journey. Not sure where this journey is going to take me but with the baby steps or list of things to do as another video suggest to do. Well I guess I was walking and on my list was to battle the demons that are currently in control of my life and if I don’t walk then the demons win. So thank you
@jairogri Жыл бұрын
Great advice, thank you. Im recently divorced. Since we have small kids, the whole experience has been overwhelming and difficult. For a while I was down and feeling depressed. But i kept moving and working hard. Im not saying that everything is in order, but I know that i just need to keep walking. I am fortunate to be an American and being able to take advantage of all the privileges and resources that we have here. As difficult as divorce, losing your job or business might be, we can always bounce back and find an even better life.
@williamramos33508 ай бұрын
This is by far one of the best pieces of advice that can be given to anyone. I am watching this video because financially I am at the lowest point in my life. I remembered someone who was interested in my unique talent and I am going to give him a call and see where it leads. I have nothing to lose.
@danmadefurniture Жыл бұрын
Great advice Jocko, every winner is a loser who didn’t give up
@ferramirez4570 Жыл бұрын
I know that is Fact but I'm getting tired of being the loser that hasn't give up yet.
@johndenning4085 ай бұрын
Well said Jocko. I've always been a hard worker, I've just always lacked this mindset and struggled with anxiety. You and Jordan Peterson have completely changed my life for the better. I look at u guys as father figures. Hopefully one day I'll be everything I want to be and just know u were a part of it. Thank you and God bless.
@jamajnasoares5702 Жыл бұрын
"Look, you're smart; but You will not be able to do anything, without doing something." So much said, in so much little.
@mikethomas4628 Жыл бұрын
This guy has changed my life big time all his videos make me feel better especially the gym, jiujitsu. My coach Shawn Lawrence is good friends with jocko. I picked up one of his GIs from origin 350$ but so damn comfortable and durable as heck, just got my blue belt last march, this guy has driven me to be better.
@DanteCarone-jz6pu8 ай бұрын
A break up is one thing..break up with your sons mother while you have a 3 year old is a whole different animal..wish me luck guys..please.
@supersexy1015 ай бұрын
Good luck G
@oz_us5 ай бұрын
I'm in the same boat. 16 yrs down the hole and 2 kids later. Hang in there. Try not to fall in a dark place like I did.
@jaepoxz3 ай бұрын
I wish you both the best. I know it sucks. Good luck
@xbenxwilsonxhighlights78793 ай бұрын
I've just got separated with a 3 year old and a 6 year old. My advice is maintain a good relationship with the mum. Trust me I know it's hard. But that's the way.
@lukeviolini95222 ай бұрын
I'm going to be praying for you man.. how is it going now?
@bobdownie.2806 Жыл бұрын
I don’t believe Jocko when he says he isn’t smart. He is pretty academic, but for even more so he is full of practical wisdom, common sense and experience. Great advice as usual explained simply and clearly. I’ve been a street cop for 20yrs, had several friends murdered, been to far too many traumatic situations, now the lack of support for police from large sectors of the community…..sometimes I just want to resign on the spot, but listening to Jocko inspires me to keep going. Looking for the things we value most and applying that into our day no matter where we are can make so much difference. Also helping your colleagues wherever you can is vital, because together you can get through any challenge!
@Farticus731 Жыл бұрын
Damn I needed to hear this. Lost my job in Feb, and have realized I’ve key-holed myself with my degree and experience. I am now about to take my CDL test and start driving for work.
@johnran6015 Жыл бұрын
Just a heads up, me getting a CDL led me to a point to where I felt like a failure and left me morbidly depressed, I don't know why people equate chasing money with having your shit together.
@Farticus731 Жыл бұрын
@@johnran6015 I get your point and appreciate the advice. At the moment it's more about what I'm able to do physically, buy money isn't a problem since I'm a disabled vet.
@Farticus731 Жыл бұрын
@@johnran6015 I sincerely hope things are better for you now. May I ask what you do now?
@nobs4689 Жыл бұрын
Been at a low spot. And honestly ..walking upto 3.5 hours some days got me through it...
@noamarpe Жыл бұрын
My wife left a month ago and took our 4 year old daughter. The next day I started getting up early to pray, do yoga and exercise. I started taking care of important things I'd been procrastinating on. When she was leaving she told me I had a year to work on myself, so I got after it. Yesterday was the first time I went to their new home and I found a condom wrapper under her bed. Now I'm standing around wondering how it all went to shit. I want to hurt the guy she's seeing. I want to hurt myself. I want to give up. But I know I have to be able to show up for my child. I have to start walking again. Thanks Jocko and Echo ❤
@kanohagito5292 Жыл бұрын
Give up it’s over with your wife focus on yourself try to be the best it’s the best revenge and find a new girlfriend
@brentie2604 Жыл бұрын
Be the best for yourself and your daughter. Your wife is getting her back blown out. Be the best for yourself. Now move on be better. You are focused on your wife she is not focused on you.
@Celery4598 ай бұрын
So sorry that this happened to you. In a similar situation. I guess 1 day at a time.
@mauiparaki-dh4fd6 ай бұрын
Been there, 21 years of my life, a 4 year old baby... caught her getting railed by a loser at her job....lost everything accept my baby.. she didn't have time to be a mum and look after our baby....that little girls now 8, we built a life together...I brought a house..i raise her. I walk everyday...one step in front of the other... my little girl knows what betrayal looks like... she saw me at my worst....yet could only see my best, brother our babies will see what man of worth looks like... as for my wife, thinking of her everyday changes nothing....so had to let her go....your thoughts become your words, your words become action, your actions shape your future, the future becomes the past... be strong brother... and change your thoughts, build your future.
@nomadd27828 Жыл бұрын
Such a valuable advise. Seeing opportunities instead of downturns / punishments is going to have a great impact on the way you and where you get to!!
@noorrazzaq6820 Жыл бұрын
Wow, word-for-word, that driving course advice is exactly what I regularly tell people. If you stare at the obstacle, that's what you're going to hit
@matthewrideout4124 Жыл бұрын
Was in infantry just a frontline dummy went to afghan.. Met some awesome people, this video a blessing my p lt sergeant was likely may God bless you thank you
@flying-fijiantv6282 Жыл бұрын
Damn Jocko you’re really helping me out on my healing process.
@tomrodgers6629 Жыл бұрын
That is were I am at now. Things went sideways 3 months ago and I have wasted valuable time in survival mode in a hostile environment. thanks for the pep talk.
@Leverhunter207 Жыл бұрын
lost my mom recently, I needed this thanks
@tuckerave1 Жыл бұрын
He is really ahead because he's got men like Jocko to guide him. Such a useful resource Jocko is. Wish I had a mentor like him in my 20's. I wouldn't have waisted so much time. Start walking and what you're looking for will find you!