Life With a BROKE MAN: The 50/50 Scam!

[@Jae.Edmond]

The worst part is when you split the bills 50/50 and still have to take care of the children and do most household chores and have his dinner ready for him. Like what?! Issa scam! Run sis!

[@luxuryqueen42]

You forgot the part where you also have to look sexy for him too

[@emiller1822]

@mizzmolly exactly 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🤣🤣

[@jaimiefree7081]

😂😂😂😭😭😭 yall ain't right

[@genevawelch9865]

Cool Chicka Vlogs Oh yea I forgot to mention that part. You also have to manage to somehow look sexy & beautiful after all of that.

[@charmee6284]

Dam y'all juat raggin on me huh 😂😂....I did ALL that y'all just listed for 9yrs with 2 kids and NO ring. But I'm free now y'all because he still left me...lessoned learned...never again 👏👏

[@browneyenrs76noel34]

Life with a broke man is horrible! It's very stressful and draining!

[@briana14333]

Yes, I've seen women a little older and even younger than me looking BURNT OUT! Life is long and hard when you're with the wrong person.

[@coleemerald4094]

Tell me about it...snh

[@coleemerald4094]

@Adam A. sound like you dont know the role of a man. A man is suppose to have a plan to provide. If you are a man and you dont have any money then you should not pursue a woman. You should be focused on attaining money first.

[@coleemerald4094]

@Adam A. your situation is different. You made it clear to your wife that you had a plan...and u were smart enough to execute it. Your grandparents also were able to communicate to each other and excuted their goals. So no...they are not the same as the men who have no goals...no plans and continue to lie to themselves and their loved ones. It happens all the time. They manipulate their partners and pretend they are of their purpose but really have no intentions of building.

[@coleemerald4094]

You do understand what it means to be a man. A lot of men are only going through the motions. One failure after another. Never anticipating success or security. This message is for you Adam. I didn't mean any disrespect. 🙏🏽

[@MK-yl9uf]

Don't fall for it! My ex husband acted like he could barely contribute. I divorced him over 10 years ago and that negro got an apartment, upgraded his car and has maintained the same job and all his utilities ever since for his bachelor pad. Isn't it funny, that when we were together, he couldn't even figure out how to call the electric company? Hmmm.

[@Chutney1luv]

He was using you! Any man who won't take care of you fully, is taking care of another woman! 🙄

[@MsCeCe-lt1zg]

Omg i feel h

[@Black_pearl_adrift]

Sis said negro. Fuck his scamming ass tho.

[@theempresss2020]

Hope u found someone better!

[@MK-yl9uf]

@@TheCruzan26 Then he shouldn't have married anyone and had 2 kids. Being left as a single mom is not relaxing or good for children. Nobody begged him for marriage. He could have been single and left me alone instead of cheating and being an irresponsible ass.

[@Prettykitty111]

“ A man will never forget a woman who didn’t make it easy for him” -Chloe I felt this !!!!

[@konartis747]

Jerry Umeh big facts bro😂

[@liabw05]

Jerry Umeh I think he means during the chase/pursuing phase

[@busstyflo2520]

@@Obi431 liesss

[@voquoncarter924]

Did he end up getting his own? Money and car?

[@theicewomancomethhotep5411]

@@Obi431 if that woman is making a man life easier by managing the household and raising morally upstanding children then yes. But doing 50/50 no.

[@AM-xe4iq]

I married a 50/50 man. Needless to say I’m divorced. Been gone for over 10 years. I urge women not to settle for this.

[@patriceysimmons3897]

A M so what was your process? How did you get out of the marriage? I am in a 50/50 pretty much.

[@FB-gt5eu]

Women wanted equality, you have it, and now it s men s fault

[@AM-xe4iq]

Patrice Y Simmons It just depends on the individual I guess. Not that women shouldn’t be self sufficient, but I just notice a lot of women who settle for this are working extra hard because someone told that man he should be taken care of by her too. I mean I get it, help each other...I just noticed that some men who assume this 50/50 stance are more than willing to take from women. Eventually she’s going to get tired of it. Idk what the process is. I just fell out of love and ended up with someone I felt far more secure with.

[@white2925]

50 /50 works fine just for Masculine women and feminine men. On long terms both genders are like roommates sharing everything 50/50 and living their own life. That means having fun on their own too. When you are 50/50, you don't feel you are a part of a whole unit. Simple truth.

[@white2925]

@Never lose sleep over the small stuff you are on the wrong page!!! High value traditional women will never change their mind on this matter. A true man with balls is a Provider and Protector despite any century. And that is for a true Feminine woman. Period. Exchange with you is pointless. And sorry to say, substance is not on your side.

[@frenchvanilla7109]

I hope this doesn't come off rude but this type of man is not always black. Particularly narcissistic men they will try to use women for money.

[@vfree4579]

Perhaps that's why my girlfriend only date International men because she certainly has a hard-on for black men. I remember one conversation was she told me point-blank you're not going to get that from no black man🤔. It's not that I was shocked it gave me pause and perhaps I needed to think about that or perhaps even needed to hear that in my much younger days.

[@LadyCharity]

Those men are sociopaths and they come in all colors!

[@genevawelch9865]

Yes there are plenty of white “men” like this nowadays too

[@ChamStar625]

I had a Pakistani man in his late twenties testing the waters with me like this but then again he did have a lot of black friends...

[@rokanaakbanaduak6395]

French Vanilla Amen...got me a middle eastern man hunny n I am treated as the Goddess I am..unlimited budget

[@luxuryqueen42]

I will never go back to a 50/50 relationship ever. You lose more than you get back, ladies. You might as well get a roommate, if you’re going 50/50.

[@traceym13]

Cool Chicka Vlogs Amen so true!

[@genevawelch9865]

Cool Chicka Vlogs especially because they also pressure you into providing sex, cooking, & cleaning. But definitely lots of sex!

[@shiftautomotive854]

Geneva Welch _ And she sit around and do nothing while he’s out there busting his ass to provide. Sex, cleaning, and cooking is not much compared to what men have to bring to the table.

[@marcelissah6275]

So basically you’re saying you don’t like equality. You want him to do more than you do?! Why cuz u fuck him?! Lol sex doesn’t mean shit. I’m going 50/50 with every woman

[@neriv9131]

It's. The same on both side men and women I feel the marriage shit needs to be rework for both parties so none don't come out losing

[@InLoveWithaPaladin]

After a close family member got married her husband's car broke down. So she would wake up in the middle of the night to take him to work and then pick him up while working taking the kids to school and running the house. She was so tired by the 2nd week. I told her stop taking him to work. He's a grown ass man, he can figure out how to get there. So she stopped taking him to work. And guess what ???? he got there on his own without her. Moral of the story is men know what they're doing when they are taking advantage of a woman married or not!

[@NikNik0123]

lmao

[@andylopez3522]

But what if it was vice versa? Would you still be saying “a women can find her own way to work” exactly you wouldn’t do what u just said is bs. Both partners should help each other period. That’s y half these girls can’t find a good man cuz y’all don’t contribute nun. Y’all want everything but don’t give much of anything.

[@InLoveWithaPaladin]

@@andylopez3522 she was giving everything but as you can see got nothing but tired..... You done whining yet

[@Aquariuswonder86]

Audri NaturallyMe exactly. The husband could’ve at least help with the kids or do something around the house if she was gonna take him to work everyday. Maybe she wouldn’t have been as tired

[@R.O.T.C._SEEM]

This has to be the most selfish thing I've never read. You believe she shouldn't do anything for her husband and how is he taking advantage of her

[@tianamariebeauty1913]

Why do people feel the need to take shots at black women when discussions like this come up??? Do y’all truly believe that ONLY black women think this way?? Look at most wealthy black men they date women who aren’t black. Tiger woods ex wife was a nanny before he provided her with her new luxurious lifestyle. All women of all races like to be secured stop trying to make black women feel less than because they have standards. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@PJ2009tc]

PREACH!!!

[@OrealeXO]

And none of those dusties are under this comment because they know it’s true! They want BW to continue to be their doormats and we peeped the game and realized our worth! They can jump off a cliff! 😌💅🏾

[@gigi4874-w3w]

TianaMarieBeauty 🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️

[@verb0ze]

definitely not a black woman thing. In fact, I would argue black women (in America at least) are stronger and willing to hold their own more than women other races (They've had to for centuries). But yeah, it's a woman thing. And there's nothing wrong with a woman wanting to be taken care of, the problem is when it becomes the primary requirement for dating/relationship (instead of say, you know, building a partnership).

[@eisenhower9069]

@@verb0ze I thought Ghanaian men wanted submission

[@shannonludden8283]

It's true!!! White men do this too!! I recently had a man tell me that I'm "too high maintenance" and that I "don't contribute" to our dating life. I told him to get lost. Keep your heels high and your standards higher! I wish I would have leaned this in my 20's.

[@Pilotalphapapa]

Shannon Ludden lol better buy a toy because you’re going to be lonely AF

[@shannonludden8283]

@@Pilotalphapapa you sound so angry and bitter. It's ok honey, I'll pray for you 🙏

[@Pilotalphapapa]

@@shannonludden8283 pray you find a man because at this rate you're destined to be single forever

[@shannonludden8283]

@@Pilotalphapapa you don't even know me so how can you even say that? Why do you even care?

[@Pilotalphapapa]

@@shannonludden8283 this video is toxic garbage.., and if you had a decent man you wouldn't be agreeing with this nonsense

[@MrsClean1]

I'm 37 and I'm in shock at how younger women nowadays in their 20s are these guys cash cows. Black and white women

[@violetsellers3890]

True

[@kesh9252]

They do it to keep them because they think they will lose them to Instagram models......

[@meowmeow9831]

@fifikhalifa barry What's wrong with it? My girlfriend earns more than me, so she treat me from time to time. She likes it. Why are you weirdos so salty about this?

[@briana14333]

Right! 20 looking 45 because she is working overtime to pay both their way! NO no no nooo

[@shelbywasheere]

It’s because they manipulate through guilt and crying, and when you try to leave they become stalkers. It can actually get dangerous.

[@shay4988]

So glad that God intervened before I got permanently caught up in this scam lol

[@shay4988]

Madelyn Collazo Amen! ❤️

[@Poet3lively]

Had my intervention too, Sis! Glory be! And the funniest is I used to call him "50" during our arguments before ever learning about this scam. I'm woke now 👀👀👀

[@Willow22nd]

I thank God every time I think about it for him intervening on my behalf. I plan to never go back to that way of thinking.

[@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju]

Now the task is MUCH harder. Now you have to find a man who's willing to provide for you, which is MUCH harder

[@fatimafernandesvicente4479]

Glory to God

[@blackscorpio1129]

Wasted 10 years on my ex-husband finally I let him go in 2017 now im 39...will be 40 in November. Ladies listen to this lady. I just found this channel today and already watched 10 vids and I was described in them all smh. Now im 40 and gotta change mindset so u younger ladies and older cause its never to late. SELF LOVE AND CARE IS KEY LADIES!!!!

[@easy8325]

Black Scorpio 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@juliana-mt8ro]

@@easy8325 🤫🤫🤫🤫🤫

[@leafmealoynederpydeu85]

This is so true most just want the offspring . When you have a choice make it. Be strong MAN

[@ManuelleLeblanc]

Same here! I divorced my ex in 2017 as well after almost 10 years of marriage. I'm 39 now and will be 40 in February. I learned a lot. Never again!!!

[@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju]

@@ManuelleLeblanc A woman over the age of 30 is a senior citizen. You have TOO much to compete with

[@Gbaby779]

Dated a Low Self esteem man Who started out paying for Everything. About 3 weeks later had the nerves to Suggest that we go Dutch and I pay for one date and he pay for another date on different days. I Stopped that Gravy Train fast. 3 months later he is still calling. Straight to Voice mail.

[@AB-vb4sv]

Gbaby779 so he respected himself and did not want to be used?

[@AB-vb4sv]

No he just realized you aged out and he can get better. Since you wanna to get personal.

[@denisewhite3902]

Gbaby779 ... Ewww I’m glad you dropped him. Where is the romance? Smh.

[@denisewhite3902]

A B ... Then why was he pursuing her and continuing to do so? 😂😂😂 bottom line is she dismissed him quick and rightfully so!

[@denisewhite3902]

Sky Dream ... age dosent really matter. They use it to cause anxiety and desperation in women. It’s to get you to settle and put up with poor behaviour because you believe that you cannot do or get better due to your age. It’s all a lie. Look around you. Women of all ages are living their best lives and that’s why they are mad.😂😴

[@Latinaperspective]

I went out to eat with a guy, it was our 4th date. When the bill came he looked at me and said “are we going to split the bill ? Because my ex and I used to split every Time we would go out.” I was shocked! I look at him and said “ listen, if you can’t afford to take me out to eat please let me know now so that I can go with a man that can.” He looked and me and said “yes I can afford it!” And after that he never questioned Paying for anything. Also it is important to mention that the ex that used to pay 50/50 used to get cheated on all the time. So it proves what you’re said in the video. He proposed to me 2 years later.

[@KieraNiomie]

Y’all together?

[@mluna1898]

I am so proud of you for sticking to your standards, especially because nowadays we are considered gold-diggers for doing so. If I will be called a gold digger for doing this, atleast men know that I have standards for myself, and respect myself... This used to be the norm, now us feminine ladies got to make it the norm.

[@lexithompson6517]

I'm keeping this reply in my pocket for future use. I'm not dating right now, but I already know it will be helpful.

[@Yaheleven]

Wow what a great response

[@monas]

Lol I would have dumped him immediately

[@waterfallstargirl]

This is literally the Tyler Perry’s movie “Acrimony.”

[@ihave2ques902]

waterfallstargirl YES! I would say at least the first hour was this scenario and it became exhausting to watch!

[@VisionVoyagersOG]

Facts

[@luxuryqueen42]

The other movie you should watch is “Baby Boy” (2001). It’s about a dusty living at his mama’s house and he’s got 2 baby mamas. And Snoop Dogg is in the movie too lol

[@luxuryqueen42]

Another pick me/dusty movie y’all should watch is “Sunlight, Jr” with Naomi Watts and Matt Dillon.

[@bambidaydreamer3]

Cool Chicka Vlogs YESSS! no more Jodi's!!!!!!

[@amarie1852]

Going 50/50 is a way for him to never ever do anything for the relationship. Quickly becomes tic for tac and he won’t do anything nice unless u do it first. And then he probably still ain’t gon contribute without a tantrum. “Who paid last” is not a phrase I wanna hear again.

[@shaunaf2811]

Girl.... this is touching my soul.

[@GangstaBoo7]

Omg this is the one right here 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@Arletty17]

OMG this is sooooo true it becomes tic for tac since the first time you do it, then it turn he feeling his actually entitled to that 💩

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

My parents relationship basically. "I PAID THIS" AND I PAID THAT" future me would be like *He* pay that and I Watched him paid this.

[@MrROCKMUZK]

@@melteddarkchocolate000 huh lmao

[@Lovely_Diva]

I have my own. But I will never support a dude financially. There are women around me who sponsor dudes and move them in....smh

[@peacelove6492]

Ha ha you haven't met the right man yet.

[@Lovely_Diva]

@@peacelove6492 Exactly!!!

[@Lovely_Diva]

@@outsideworld76 I don't roll like that. I carry myself with respect.

[@Lovely_Diva]

@@bubblesactivated Exactly💯💯

[@justme_lo]

Lol @sponsor...smh

[@sylviabaskin2933]

If I'm doing the cooking, cleaning, shopping and working everyday. Hell no to 50/50. I'm already 40% in the hole.

[@sylviabaskin2933]

@@outsideworld76 dream on

[@spectre2472]

sylvia baskin That your duty

[@sylviabaskin2933]

@@spectre2472 and so is paying all the Bill's your duty. You start first. !!!!

[@spectre2472]

@@sylviabaskin2933 You want the equality !

[@sylviabaskin2933]

@@spectre2472 no you want The Equality and less accountability. You want to be a man then act like one. It's not my problem you can't Measure up to a real man. You took it back to 1950. In that case, when a man asked his future wife's father for her hand in marriage. He stated he will take over where her father left off. That's Furnishing her a home and everything that Entailed. Be a 2019 man that doesn't want to solely support his wife or 1950 that can ask for cooking and cleaning for he is completely supporting the household. Pick one.

[@waldraut25]

My husband and i practice a 50/50. I stay home and take care of our Kids and He provides and pais all the Bills. When i work,the money is for all the expensive bags and shoes, that i like. He Always say Happy wife happy Life.

[@fatimafernandesvicente4479]

Excellent

[@theicewomancomethhotep5411]

I would add since you are living off of his paychecks your paychecks should go into a savings account to keep y'all wealth up and for possibly business Investments and savings for a rainy day.

[@nosipho4899]

@@theicewomancomethhotep5411 smart!

[@monas]

That's not 50/50

[@zaria_treasuress]

Yesss ✨

[@heymisswest]

I dont pay bills... ladies PLEASE stop this pick me foolishness

[@Lfavored777]

You are beautiful👸🏻 the prize that’s right! I agree!!👍

[@genevawelch9865]

Hey Miss West Yes we will be housewives. For men who are true alpha males & breadwinners.

[@mscarmenmonee]

Hey Miss West Do you watch Sheraseven1?

[@heymisswest]

@@mscarmenmonee do I???? Lol of course I do!

[@ThetysSlone]

But what if we are both young and hustling ?

[@225Qc]

This happened to me once, & I quickly learned my lesson. If he doesn’t have his OWN shit- shelter/vehicle/money, then we CANNOT do business together....Simple as that...

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

Exactly. I need to upgrade my style once I'm out of high school. I can't stand little boys 🙄 I want to live rich and Die rich.

[@MrROCKMUZK]

BUSINESS WOW LMAOOOOO

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

@Steve J are you okay? Why are you so bother?

[@westcoastvibes1193]

Snow Cream 👍

[@225Qc]

@Steve J - Hit DUSTIES always holler & got something stupid to say...I have my own $hit-house, vehicles & $ thank you, which is why I said what I said & meant what I said....

[@amberc2839]

50/50 does not work for me. I am not going for the programming of the split. I need gym, pampering, and a lifestyle budget. I don’t want to be spent going half. No thanks. I don’t want to be tired and masculine.

[@erlande802]

That part!

[@amberc2839]

Angelica C. Pickles ...Hi! When I make reference to lifestyle budget it’s something that I’ve always added to my personal finances. That should not change in a relationship. I can not and will not ever neglect myself. Just keeping it as a priority item in addition to savings and investments.

[@shaunaf2811]

Girl!!!!

[@genevawelch9865]

amber C Yes we need to retain our femininity

[@genevawelch9865]

amber C My father used to give my mom his credit card to go shopping or get her hair done (my father was a successful lawyer who worked for NASA). It was what she earned for raising the children. And of course he wanted her to look good for him. I don’t know why I’ve dated abusive, broke dusties my whole life & haven’t dated men like my father. Time to level up!!!

[@kfrank9455]

Girl. This white dude I went out with tried that feminist bait 50/50 trick with me. I already wasn’t feeling dude because he opened with the “good guy” talk but we went to this bar to get drinks and hear music.its a self serve bar so you get drinks with a card and cash out when your done. Dude lost the card and went to get a replacement. He “lost” the card again twice and on the third time asked if I could just get drinks for the rest on the night. We’d been there less than an hour. Needless the say I froze my card and it was declined- Then suddenly he found the missing card... Kept going on about how he was a feminist and believed independent women go 50/50 and how he loved black women and how much they loved him and shit. It was weirdly grooming like. Watch out for these “progressive” white guys they try to use dogma to impress and trap you

[@carmenseguridad7105]

Great advice!!!

[@sofiam50]

So called "feminism" is such a good excuses...

[@madelineasmr926]

Ew...: I would have made an excuse to leave. What a nightmare

[@olenaostroushenko8012]

OMG! Crazy man!

[@Sarablueunicorn]

@@olenaostroushenko8012 They all have this speech nowadays. I live in Europe and as I log on a dating app men ask for sex (i have to deliver myself to their designed location) or immediately ask my job. Then they start with this speech that they are "feminist" and they believe in equal rights blabla bla. I lived in China so I'm familiar with a different approach, men feel shame if they let a woman pay for a date, SHAME. I'm unemployed so i would say that I was currently unemployed since i lost my job in china with covid. Then they kept asking about if I was looking, what was my degree if I lived alone, with roommates, with my parents. It felt like an employment center questionary for benefits. Horrible. "They are all after pussy! Why does it matter if i have job or not if i have money or not", I thought. Then I realized these guys are looking for benefits besides sex, like they might consider a "girlfriend" if she splits bills, pays for her food, etc. I never asked a man about his job or hoe much he earns, they usually tell, then I let the conversation flow. They are learning the hustle of getting the best placeholders ever. I have health issues and already 34, salaries in my country are extremely low. I would jump off a bridge and end myself than pay sh*t for a man. If i pay something, or split the bill we are FRIENDS.

[@plwhite40]

Hypertension causes in ladies: Financially supporting a man.

[@majesticj42]

50/50 is not financially supporting a man. You are an adult you can pay your own way in a relationship.

[@aminah761]

Yes

[@levidiaz3074]

Low T

[@FoAl-h2b]

​@majesticj42 Cook and clean for yourself then, you're an adult too.

[@plwhite40]

@@majesticj42 actually it is when you expect her to cook and clean and be the primary caregiver for the kids, too.

[@peridozq9390]

Don’t be a mule ladies, it’s a scam.

[@imfunaplaymahgames8880]

Gail123 it’s not a scam, it’s just knowing the red flags in guys and spotting the ones that will help.

[@edwardterry9468]

Don't be a sucker, Guys, it's a total scam.

[@edwardterry9468]

@That Part Taking care of her because you love her, is not being a sucker. Being with a woman who is with you ONLY so you can support her lazy, holier-than-thou ass, is. 😃👍

[@edwardterry9468]

@That Part Well, since you're so outspoken on what men are "supposed to do," let's here you give a couple of examples of what women are "supposed to do." I'll wait.

[@edwardterry9468]

@That Part Nice evasion. 😉👍

[@MiMi_X1]

DONT DO IT!! Women lose in the end because it’s not really 50/50 because you’re doing all the work. This never ends well.

[@MariamAli-wg6gk]

Exactly! Happened to me and it turned out to be 90/10 and not 50/50🙄 but how do u attract better?

[@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju]

If a woman doesn't look like a Instagram model, she should prepare to settle

[@SuperLucylola]

Umm what does instgram have to do with looks or real life? Most of them use filters and are ovwrsezukized not even hot. Not everyone values social media you’re brainwashed

[@beyond_insight164]

@@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju this is ridiculous..

[@unapologeticchelsey799]

Eduardo Oliveira Nope she should just level up, change her mindset, and then she wouldn’t need to settle. Simple.

[@queenofthesouth4205]

Men are suppose to lead. Men should provide, protect and profess. Ladies reclaim your femininity. Stop accepting less than you deserve. Ladies you are the PRIZE

[@jasonarthur5237]

Queen of the South what price ? We are in hook up culture sex is not hard to find. a value woman is

[@andylopez3522]

That would be true 100 years ago when women literally couldn’t work by law but now women are equal and have the same jobs men do so the rules don’t apply in today’s day and age.. no man is going to let a women take advantage of him by paying everything while the girl doesn’t do anything lol and don’t get me started with “chores” real men do their own chores, so seriously what do u contribute to a mans life? I’m being serious no disrespect.

[@AB-vb4sv]

And what should women do?

[@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju]

A woman is ONLY the prize if she is beautiful like a Instagram model. Otherwise she is invisible to men

[@majesticj42]

Why do women have a problem with looking natural? Women don't need all this fake stuff.

[@missautumn1280]

I'm only 25, no children and still in college but never got any knowledge like this!! Teach me your ways, sis. #newsubbie Love your vids! 📚🎓

[@jasonarthur5237]

Autumn Tutson eww she’s going to teach you how to get men that have money who will dump you once’s your looks fade sweetheart

[@missautumn1280]

@@jasonarthur5237 This is obviously not the channel for you.. MGTOW is more your style. I think you'll fit in better with the guys there. ✌🏽

[@NikNik0123]

You are still very young. I WISH i'd heard this at that age. Would have saved me from a lot of dusties and their antics.

[@KagendaK]

Jason Arthur what you mean...when looks fade? Black women will often look youthful until their late 60s. We got all the time in the world to be cute and sexy as black women. 😼.

[@shaynec3517]

I'm rooting for you, young lady. Don't make the same mistakes I did. I too was uninformed. I also feel like I was intentionally setup for failure by the older women around me. Most women my age encouraged the foolery when I questioned certain situations, because they weren't taught either. So, stay away from women who encourage you to "give a brotha a chance", "work with him", or say "Oh, he just needs a good woman". They don't want to see you succeed. And definitely stay away from sad dusties like the one commenting on YOUR message here.

[@Radience100]

I’ve lived this!!!!!!! It’s a mans duty to provide and when they can’t, they can get very abusive, emotionally and physically. It typically never ends well for the woman or man. There is a sense of enablement that men actually resent when you help them financially. Ladies, do not give men money, even your sons. Make them work for it and earn it, it gives them a sense of pride and accomplishment.

[@caooue7047]

Antoinette Gardner so true! Exactly my experience. They get frustrated too when they are not the provider and become physically and mentally abusive!

[@Radience100]

CAO Oue it’s so sad but I even believe a man in my family is a dusty....😢 He will try to groom me by sending me articles about women who sacrificed everything for their children!🤨Not the other way around where men are sacrificing it all for their wives and children! It’s sick and twisted. It all starts with our fathers. If a girls is never spent on or taken shopping by her father/or mother, it grooms them believe that they are not worth the best. Pick up your crowns Queens!!!!!! Irregardless of what our fathers spent on us or did not spend on us, know your worth and value!!!!!!👑👑👑👑👑👑👑

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

@@Radience100 exactly. My whole life. I ain't trying to deal with that any more.

[@lucianmalkoro5747]

Very correct.

[@R.O.T.C._SEEM]

So a man being a provider makes him less angry and abusive. Like how does that even remotely make sense on a logical standpoint

[@uzougwu1511]

I said this to my boyfriend that if we ever end up together, I will never ever ever do a 50/50. We got into an argument about it and I told him I said what I said PERIODttttt ain't no way would I do 50/50 and still do house chores. After a long while he's gradually coming to terms with it. My parents didn't do 50/50 and it won't start from me.

[@lifechoice7889]

Madelyn Collazo good for you sis 💃🏾🙌🏾

[@chijeistheprince]

Is it not splitting the bills 50/50 or does someone need to give more to the relationship than the other or how would u view a fair relationship in which the duties of life as a couple are delegated evenly or can it be ???

[@rahh3602]

Better hurry up and marry him before you get too old. The wall is undefeated...

[@westcoastvibes1193]

Steve J yeah, I agree. She needs to start snooping, if she hasn’t already, on his phone, online activities, to save herself.

[@andylopez3522]

Men do house chores to thou...

[@survivingyoutoday8519]

I married a provider... I try to tell women all the time... when men go 50/50 it's because they want a ROOMMATE with benefits and not a wife. These women get highly upset when you tell them this truth. 50/50 men should just go get a buddy to split the bills with. A man's duty is to PROVIDE though. The Bible says that a man who does not provide for his family is WORST than an infidel. I understand there are times when a woman will need to help out financially, but if he has her paying the major bills... working and doing that 50/50 stuff he is using her financially. The Proverbs 31 wife for example, is a woman who does earn income. But her income is used to buy smaller items, she is NOT the provider. The Husband actually hires servants for his wife and caretakers to help the wife with her daily duties. I am in a black Couples group and these men were asking why women seem to not like sex as much as men. Many of the black women responded by saying they are often tired from having to work, clean, look after children... etc. A husband's duty is to actually provide the wife with everything she needs to be mentally healthy and physically healthy. The 50/50 wife is WORN out by all the daily duties... and has no time to please a man sexually... and these men still don't get it. I always say that if a man can't afford a wife and children he should focus on his own health and wealth creation before committing to a marriage. But black women have attacked me often for saying this. It's unreal.

[@belledej7555]

Y’all have to understand that just because a woman wants to go half n half with her man that there is nothing wrong with it. Everyone have different views when it comes to a topic like this. Just because you don’t like it or think it’s right doesn’t mean y’all have to judge or bash them or talk shit about the guy because it’s beyond unnecessary. What works in your relationship may not work for others, but work for some. There are a lot of relationships who does half n half and are still going strong until this day. My oldest brother goes half n half with his wife and they’ve been married for 10yrs.

[@jupiterbullish2520]

The years are passing and inflation is rising, I don't see all these one income household relationships yall been talking about yet

[@Truckeractivityy]

I don't even give a homeless man money 😂😂😂😂

[@samantharoberts6471]

Neither do I

[@lucianmalkoro5747]

That's ducked but I can understand why.

[@Gogetta80]

Beautifulsoul i spit in their face

[@shally33091]

😭💀🤣

[@reclaimedandrested]

EXACTLY

[@LadyGabriela-77.]

Never tell a man about your assests and stay mysterious! The thought of paying half makes me sick.

[@cassandraw9799]

Anytime Im getting to know a man and he comes with that “I believe everything should be 50/50 “ bull crap I immediately split. I know he’s trying to get over instantly. This is a man who’s looking for help not a partner/wife.

[@katrina1694]

Why Plies on Instagram complaining about a woman don't want a man she wants help. Lol it was so funny 😂😂😂 calling her garbage and shit. So I just don't even deal with men anymore at all. They want sex, a mammy maid, and ride my wave. I refuse!

[@R.O.T.C._SEEM]

How is paying your half is him trying to get over in you but you trying to get him to pay for everything isn't 🤨 like this is why we call you Women illogical

[@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju]

If a woman lacks beauty, then she WILL settle

[@Makeup_And_A_Passport]

@Shandra9000mail 😆😆😆😆 Idk why but this tickled me so much!

[@briana14333]

Right. I had a guy ask me what I brought to the table, told me that he wanted to be pursued and even joked that I was the man and he was the woman! To me, it sounded like he wants to be with a man but can't. We stopped talking 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@riccoc.8891]

I’m a man and I concur that your assessment is correct.

[@kits1111]

So happy that u understand 😊

[@patriciamalemikia2743]

Such men are angles

[@OuttaTown91]

@@patriciamalemikia2743 angles, or angels. Pick one

[@danielareds]

Yep, there are men who get it

[@KaonMaster]

Shut up you loser 😡

[@edwardbanjo5146]

First of all, how do you women go on a date with a man and you agree to pay 50\50, it is beyond me. I actually struggle to believe such men exist, I am yet to meet one. Most men I know will pay for the entire date. Also never feel bad for leaving a broke man. Being dumped by a woman is one of the best wake up call that made some men successful today. When you see him tomorrow all successful, taking his new boo to fancy restaurants, don't feel bad and guilt trip yourself thinking you weren't patient with him. Nope, he will have remained broke if you had remained with him. As for the new boo reaping the benefits. Don't worry, you will reap the benefits of another woman. Meanwhile, this platrom is good for men too, some of the things Chloe talks about send chills down my spine. It is good to hear things that will challenge you.

[@flooredjustfloored]

I can easily see how some of us have been set up for the 50/50 mindset. If a girl's father is 100% absent, 50% sounds like a good deal. OMG, Chloe (and commenters)! Thank you for the AWARENESS...

[@craigjones6843]

50 / 50 on a date is just men wanting to know we are not being taken advantage of. You have a lot of women who brag about doing so. It doesn’t mean he is broke. And women are not entitled to our money. We go on date because it’s usuallly a requirement to ask her out or she won’t give you a chance.

[@mcali-reviews5585]

I've never heard or seen a woman pay 50/50 on a date or even 10/90 on a date it's us men that always pay for all also the reason women date broke men is because their broke too and can't do any better. Do you people actually think a woman with $ and standards is actually going to date a man w/o a job or money lol get out of here. Only broke and desperate women do that.

[@syrikasp33]

As a black woman who watched my cousin date because I don’t date black Men no more. Times are different and a Man will take you out pay for my and basically want something like sex in return. So for some of us Woman like me who will pay for my on food on a first date isn’t because I don’t think he broke or to show I’m willing to go 50/50 it’s because it’s a first date I want to see how you engage with me. I don’t want a guy only taking me out just because he think the more money he spends the more of my body he will get. I don’t mind it because I feel like most pl aren’t dating to get to know one another anyways. I think first date should be something that doesn’t cost and if the Man sees potential in his commitment to you than I think him paying for dates is cool. Too many ppl are damaged and too many men have come my way and try to say oh I’m tired of paying for dates becuase Woman don’t be helping with bills or etc. literally had a dude tell me if I didn’t prove to him by helping with his finances I wasn’t all in. So now I’ll just pay my own bill and fougre you out. May not be a good idea but I don’t have time for the entitlement.

[@white2925]

I did 50/50, moved to another country to support him for his PhD, cooked, cleaned, made a home for him.....i am the girl of my avatar, I am very fit and good looking. And he dumped me for another older, career woman he had met at University. His excuse was that I was not educated and career oriented. So why didn't he tell me before moving to a foreign country for his purpose? Why didn't he support me into getting a Bachelors degree if that was the problem? You men are not pure and I can't look at you the same way I did in the past. I also changed my mind about gold diggers.. They know their value and trade it. Fair enough. All the Red Pill and MGTOW movements are just broke men out of the dating market, mostly in the Feminine energy that want Women for free because they can't afford them. So they have invented the Wall stuff, LOL, and other shaming. We know the game now and me personally I learned it the hard way.

[@rabianharris1170]

I never asked a female for help, I have two young hands that God has blessed me with daily

[@rachelann724]

That is a true Alpha males answer!

[@Chutney1luv]

Good for you! 🙄

[@rabianharris1170]

@@Chutney1luv God has been great to me

[@kevinc3342]

​@@rachelann724 That's not alpha male behavior - it's SIMP behavior. It's all well and good he pays his own bills and doesn't ask women for financial assistance, but the comment makes it STRONGLY appear he's fishing for compliments from random women in the internet. It's pathetic. His "comment" is trivial, adds nothing to the conversation, and present neither practical nor actionable advice that helps women, or men for that matter. Grown-ass men pay their own damn bills and don't need "likes" to feel good about themselves for behaving as grown men.

[@TheDamnFarao]

@@kevinc3342 Let this fool find out the hard way brother. He's in the simps sunken place for now...ain't no pulling him out.

[@janschild]

This hit dog is hollering..you just fully described my situation. I'm paying all the bills and I feel used and resentful. Not bitter yet, but I literally can't stand the sight of him, nor do I want him to touch me

[@amandaspaintinglessons9908]

kick him out girl! change those locks :)

[@rae4828]

Throw his shit out the fucking window sis. Change the locks

[@ThebigGLRams]

Same

[@charx1031]

Me too sis! I’m a RN, enrolled in school for my masters. I have a newly constructed home. All he has is dreams and ideas. GTFOH I tired of him.

[@veeedgee]

Dag Sis....hope it's working out.

[@daughteroftheking7617]

All truth. Ain’t told one lie. 👆🏽 I’m not being nobody momma but my kids !!!!

[@Pretzelgal]

Speak the truth!

[@MrROCKMUZK]

Most of you women know exactly what type of man you have....and truth be told some of you lucky if 50 is even returned lmaooooo

[@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju]

@@daughteroftheking7617 If you do not look like a Instagram model, you will NOT be provided for

[@coffybelle7534]

This happened in my last relationship and I left him. It seriously happened just like this. I lost respect for him and then it just went down hill.

[@olgachafeeva2828]

I can't respect a man that I have to provide for. Just can't. I don't care if he has a 'good reason' for why he can't find work. I just can't respect someone like that.

[@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju]

You NEVER had love/respect for him. You had love/respect for his money

[@olgachafeeva2828]

@@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju I don't know who your comment is addressed to. If it's addressed to me - move along, loser. I never said he HAS TO pay for me, although it's nice when he does. But if he can't even pay for himself and relies on ME - there's no reason to stay with someone like that. EVER. I'm not any man's damn meal ticket and never will be.

[@iamerikathemodel]

Same here

[@white2925]

Too many dusties on Chloe's page... They are taking a pause between chores while their Masculine women are working as a workhorses to support them.... .. I wonder if they split pregnancy too and breastfeeding ..... Gender reversal that doesn't apply to real Men and Women from Ages.

[@c.s.1227]

My ex that I moved in with made me split the rent with him although he was making way more than me and was doing perfectly fine before he met me. My friends and family urged me against settling for this but I didn’t listen. They saw red flags long before me. It wasn’t until I broke up with him a long and hard three years later that he begged me to stay and told me if I stay I would only have to pay a couple hundred a month (900 is what I was literally scraping up to pay before-in the expensive Bay Area). It was a little too late for that though. I can’t believe I wasted some of my good years (21-24) with him smh He had major mommy issues too. He was emotionally abusive and belittled me every chance he could.

[@AmillionRays]

Been there sis! I vowed to never put myself in that situation again!

[@c.s.1227]

Nick Jones You sound mad. Who hurt you? We’d love to hear your story, if you’re capable of being a respectful adult..

[@ElizabethzW.]

@@c.s.1227 it's mad that she came to her senses. These things hate it when black women escape their clutches.

[@shanicesm6208]

I’m glad you left the dust ball behind!!

[@LoooveChange]

Girl I feel you men in the bay motto is “Its all on a bitch” Ugh

[@lovelight2919]

Successful woman know that having a partner is a set back these days unless he earns way more then the lady does.

[@evangeliamintzai6302]

What these women advocate is to not be successful but a stay home housewife who leeches from a man to buy makeup and weaves.

[@lovelight2919]

Evangelia Mintzai A housewife is cooking (that’s a job) cleaning that’s another job. Washing clothes like a Maid. F that!!!!

[@jasonarthur5237]

Successful man know that having a partner that contributes nothing is a set back....

[@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju]

@@jasonarthur5237 A woman who doesn't have ANYTHING to lose is a liability. I will NOT pay child support, alimony, spousal support to a broke woman. Men want contributors!!!

[@k.b.8994]

Eduardo Oliveira I hope those same men who want financial contributors will also know the full in and out running of the home. Know when the kids have appointments for check-up, the school and extra-curricular activity schedules and be willing to take them half the time or arrange to have them taken, know what’s running low in the household and stock up, cook half the time, do laundry (including my underwear and the kids clothing) half the time, clean half the time.... all without having to be told. We set up a schedule and you do you but with good communication so it works like a well oiled machine. Also he needs to understand when a woman is tired and cannot find the time to go get a mani, pedi and hair do (all taking longer than a haircut for him) and look sexy and appealing for him ALL the time. And he should still remain faithful, understanding and supportive. Let me see all that happen while a woman pays 50% and we’re good. I mean, he needs to come organized, know what needs to be done in the home and do them, without being prompted by his woman or coached.

[@jerichodream]

Ah I struggled with this so much. My ex-boyfriend stayed with me every weekend for a year while I provided food and covered costs of everything, I even gave him petrol money for driving to see me every weekend. I started to build resentment towards him around moneyand tried to address it, I felt terribly guilty for bringing it up. We moved more towards 50/50 because I pushed for it, then when he moved in with me we stayed 50/50. I had a strong desire to cook and clean and take care of him but I built more resentment because we split money 50/50 while I was giving him all these things, I felt cheated and confused and guilty for wanting him to provide financially. I was frustrated he couldn't see the value in what I was giving. Although we tried to work things out we just couldn't, I didn't realise how big of an impact things like this had on your relationship though! This channel is helping me understand so much!

[@blackmantravel6954]

You excepting boyfriend application? I’m down to pay the bills if you cook. I’m in Los Angeles 😅

[@anchuzaazuera761]

@@blackmantravel6954 This is how it should be! And when a man provides, women naturally do things out of love and admiration.

[@youtubewatcher6953]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@aureliakouassi5730]

@@blackmantravel6954 i assure you, you Will get a wife that Cook clean take care of Kids(with your input of course), nurture you and the family, make a house a home ect. If you are a provider, protector, leader.

[@zomb3hunt3r]

When I go on a first date and the check comes I always say...” Do you need me to HELP you with that?” 💯 of the time my guys always say No “I got it”. I smile and say thank you. My mom taught me that really man don’t need help paying for a date cause if they did they should Not ask you out in the first place.

[@caooue7047]

lala009 RIGHT! Women should be courted.

[@Babeontheweb]

lala009 I’m gonna take that line. Thank you!

[@zomb3hunt3r]

Aesthetically Amanda your welcome 😄

[@ikeben400]

Did he ask you out on a date or was it a mutual agreement to meet somewhere for drinks? Trust me if it was just a mutual meetup and he paid you DO NOT want to date that dude.

[@zomb3hunt3r]

SyzygY I never ask guys out for a date. I don’t like guessing who likes who more. So I let the guys make the move

[@DinaStrange]

The moment a man mentions 50/50, I run. I've been called a gold digger even when I dated a jobless student with 15K - its ridiculous. It's ridiculous that we women have lowered our standards so bad.

[@vaniathomas8859]

I was in a 50/50 relationship. I constantly felt masculine. Never felt like I was enough . Was always jealous of a more feminine woman. Always thinking she could take my man from me.

[@sarasomethin]

2:23 is so much truth... not just for black women but for any women. “That girl has too much makeup” “her clothes are a waste of money” “she looks like she’s all about brand name things” “her nails look so un natural and fake” “she’s gotta b with a sugar daddy to pay for all her hair coloring appointments”. All those comments are bc they can’t afford to spoil you with it. Don’t fall into the trap ladies.

[@briana14333]

This is my parents' story! Old, bitter, resentful with zero respect. They both worked, but my mom always took care of the kids, cooking, cleaning, house management, etc. She always said: "in marriage, never start off doing anything that you don't plan on continuing to do." This automatically turned me off from being a 50/50 woman before I even knew it was a thing because I like being pampered and adored in dating and relationships.

[@briana14333]

@@BK-tp6jf Yes, love. Raise your standards and keep ‘em high LOL! The right man will AUTOMATICALLY provide for you because he loves and respects you and wants to see you looking feminine and happy 💕

[@ModeFin]

I don’t know man, I’m just going to stay alone that’s cheaper and my maintenance is back on track. Thank God. So maybe alone for now is good. That’s just me personally.

[@rachelann724]

Nothing wrong with loving yourself first!!! You get more done and quick too!

[@genevawelch9865]

ModeFin I prefer to be alone too

[@Prici.x0]

same!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@MusicNatasha]

Purposefully Single Lady....right here!

[@_serenity3298]

Girl same. Even if you have them provide they'll take advantage and see it as well I'm the breadwinner fuck it, I do what I want when I want. And that will apply to ANYTHING. Idk I've seen so many bad circumstances where the wife stays home for the kids and in the end they get screwed over and left for by someone younger and fresher and then what do they have to fall back on? Nothing because they let the husbands provide. So alone is honestly better if you're going to get fucked over either way...

[@lydiamusima5840]

I knew a woman who was eager to get married. She met various men who she chased like mad. All weren’t interested, one was dating another woman and the rest drifted off. Years later she met a man who eventually married her. When she was engaged she showed off like hell flashing her ring to the single women. I paid no attention to her antics. Finally settling into married life opened another door for problems. The man has never had a job with a decent salary as I know. He’s on a basic minimum wage income. They’re constantly arguing about money and borrowing from friends to make ends meet. Their rent is always in arrears as both their incomes aren’t enough. So couples like this don’t impress me. 50/50 struggle love marriages like this aren’t inspiring

[@LunaPaloma77]

I'd rather stay single, honestly. One of my sisters has been in a relationship similar to this for 12 years. In the beginning it was 50/50, after 2-3 years she was the one paying for all the bills, rent and everything. It's 2020 and her situation hasn't changed. On top of everything she gives her man 300 dollars in cash from every paycheck so he can use as he pleases. Mind you, she even pays for his cellphone bill and transit pass monthly. He happens to be a Muslim from Pakistan. He's living the life, staying home only doing the cooking because she's the one who cleans and does laundry even though she's working and going to nursing school. My dad is tired of giving her advice to get out of that situation. It looks like it's gonna last forever.

[@blockawocka4026]

@@LunaPaloma77 I have a sister who is in this situation too. This relationship is giving me headaches. Maybe we should try to make them meet someone else and they will leave their husbands. I don’t know..

[@Judah2019]

My mom always taught to never take care of a man. It just doesn't feel natural they need to buck up. Ladies STOP IT!!

[@charmaineespeut4627]

Some men will even get upset if you tried to go 50/50 with them. As if you are trying to test his manhood.

[@thadivinemzm]

Yes. These are the men I love. They get offended when you try to pay for things.

[@AfroQueenB]

50/50 is great in theory, but tends to fall apart in practice. Boys have always been socialized to get jobs and be providers which is fine. However, girls are now being socialized to be providers IN ADDITION TO domestic work. That's what the issue is. Men don't know or don't care to do domestics. If I'm paying half the bills best believe I'm only doing half the cooking, half the dishes, half the child related activities, etc. If not, then let me get a place by myself.

[@lexiilove101]

Wooow that’s why some people never leave because they felt they invested to much money and time in someone

[@majesticj42]

50/50 just means you are paying your own way in a relationship.

[@Theprincessinyellow]

This reminds me so much of my boyfriend in the best way! He pays for everything when we are together, carry’s my bags, reminds me that I’m beautiful every chance he gets and opens the door on muscle memory. When we first started dating, we were out with a group of friends and I went to pay for. a $4 taco and he couldn’t let me. It was such a change from what I’m used to seeing and I thank God that even if this man doesn’t become my husband that I have had the opportunity to be treated how I deserve and to have first hand experience to say that good men exist. No more settling ladies! But in order to make sure we don’t settle, we have to know our value and be the high value woman that a man would gladly provide for and protect.

[@juliennea9500]

My mom won. My dad pays for everything AND cooks/cleans whenever he's free. That is true love. Before we speak about providers, 50/50 is not love. Everything is calculated.

[@AmaryllisTV]

Everything you say is true. Also, if you're living with a man and paying things 50/50 you're living with a roommate not a boyfriend or husband. Leave those dusties alone ladies.

[@majesticj42]

The Bible does say the woman is the man help mate and women are equal so women need to financially help.

[@SuperLucylola]

@@majesticj42 no

[@majesticj42]

@@SuperLucylola I know we are not equal, but women say we are equal all the time.

[@jodianbarnett2760]

I was that girl once and once I decided that things needed to change ... And guess what ? he called me a gold digger lol...boy bye

[@ItsGoingDao]

I was that woman before, but no longer! Your very eloquently constructed video just solidified it for me, THANK YOU 🙏🏻

[@ThisisFerrariKhan]

Loaded Leo were you? That’s what’s up 👏🏾 Cause I ain’t never met a woman who’s paid for shit that doesn’t pertain to her or her children, only receiving and taking but not too many reciprocate. White, Black, Asian, Puerto Rican, Spanish, Indian, Haitian, Xaimaican, Arabic - NOT A SINGLE ONE.

[@painexotic3757]

@@ThisisFerrariKhan me neither

[@modeljaisimone]

This guy literally told me to move in with him and pay half of his rent ON THE FIRST DATE! Needless to say, it was our last date.

[@So_Boujee]

modeljaisimone 🤣🤣🤣

[@ChiChichiwe01]

😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣😭🤣😂

[@ghenaezzeddine9754]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@theaprilglasgowshow]

I’ve been here and I have left that mess faaaarrrrr behind. It doesn’t work! A man who makes you feel bad for not helping him financially is a bum.

[@luzdary1113]

Life with a broke man is actually very difficult because theres moments when you figure it out love is not all in the relationship

[@kishacameron80]

so true

[@pamelasbutterflylife1312]

Sadly, I was a 70/ 30 woman in my 13 year marriage😔! I didn't love myself or thought that I didn't Deserve better. But don't cry for me Argentina (in my Wendy Williams voice)🤣🤣🤣. I left my husband two years ago and have been flourishing ever since I realized my value💖🌹♥! I lost 110 lbs in one year, I have a new car, a thriving career, and my son and I just moved into a really nice apartment🌺! My mindset about femininity, men, and hypergamy has shifted and I'm so grateful that I'm on this journey of self-love💯! I was a caterpillar for sooooooo long waiting to turn into a butterfly🦋!

[@karmakarma4961]

We want an update ✨️🌹

[@pamelasbutterflylife1312]

@@karmakarma4961 Hi now! Thank you for inquiring about me☺! How are you? So quick update! I lost a total of 140 lbs, still keeping my weight off, I changed careers and now I am a certified Health and Life Coach🦋! My son and I are moving into a cute condo over looking the water! Thank you God😭. I am now beginning to put myself out there and mingle with wealthy men example; expensive steak houses, golf events, art galleries etc. Hopefully your hypergamous and femininity journey is flourishing too♥️!

[@DayaTom]

Been there, done that. Worked longer hours than him. He had a notebook where he wrote how much each one payed, each month. I was doing more than half of the work at home, looked after his son when he was out. FKN Narcissist, worst type of an NPD clown. Worst relationship of my life. And you're right about the make up, he used to say he hates make up. He was too short for me to wear heels with him.. ahhh Never again.

[@aminah761]

Lmaooo

[@TheKrystee]

Just learned this! I’m 25 and my ex of 1.3 years is a 25 year old med student. I went 50/50 because he’s in school and doesn’t have an income. Two of my friends urged me not to do it and that if a man wants to date me he should be able to provide. Sis, 8 months in I started to resent him and my respect was going out the door. We broke up a month ago because he has no clear plans for this relationship and basically needs more time to know if I’m “the one”. Smh. Never again but I’m happy for the experience.

[@taylorhallakachuchimonet]

TheKrystee been there done that. But my experience was for 5years! I too tried to be understanding with the fact that he was a college student. But in all actuality it was just an excuse. Real men who are determined won’t make excuses.

[@nicolebrittan948]

He was just using you. If you had stayed with him he would of dumped you as soon as he graduated med school.

[@madelineasmr926]

Right? Be grateful and move on. It will reflect in your future

[@amandanorthern2467]

I agree with most of this video however just because you’re not 50/50 doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have your own money and enough money to provide for yourself because when you depend 100% on a man, that man and his ego will try to control you. Money is power and not having any as a woman in this society means not having a lot of personal power. Let a man provide but also have the ability to provide for yourself.

[@YagirlM]

Amanda Northern well said. 🙏🏻

[@floridaboy305boy3]

This the problem i see. For the "believer" yall women went for boys impersonating men. Women were created to be helpers but ladies if you wit a dude who aint doing NOTHING. WHAT THE HELL YOU GONNA HELP HIM DO??? Dont let these lames make you miss out on a real man.

[@sunidaze]

This is true!! I did more than 50/50. I split bills, sacrificed and gave up my youth while my ex-husband by built up his career and I stayed home with the kids, cooked, clean, etc. Now his is making 6 figures, he picked up a side piece and I divorced him. He is now traveling the world with his young girlfriend while I'm still home with the kids. Ladies please learn from my mistakes and listen to these videos!

[@Zen-cx5tc]

Oh lawd that’s sad. 🤗

[@HDorce12]

My old life in one video. Now my whole life when it comes to relationships will be this channel and Chrissie’s channel. From hypogamy to Hypergamy. Never going back to my old life, not looking back or down at all. Forward and up, North West style. Thank you ! We needed women like you in the black community to open up our eyes as black women on knowing our worth and not settling for less then we deserve. I have literally been writing down notes, I’m learning fast. I needed to understand and build this mindset. Thank you again.

[@lexielovingu206]

Deep down, men will lose respect for you if you do 50/50 eventually. Don't let these men trick you ladies.

[@nickandchrismom]

Profound notion " men don't need help they need inspiration. " I got it!

[@winstonsjulia5942]

I instinctively never bought into this. I knew a man had to provide me with a better life than my parents can. And yes, even a man who is not wealthy will provide for the love of his life. If he loves you he'd rather go without new work boots before you go without perfume.

[@vocdev]

Winston's Julia as long as you holding down the house/children duties.

[@kerripendragon4888]

Women are strong and independent and have degrees , good jobs and businesses. Women want to be providers......that makes men the prize! Thanks to feminism and feminazis.

[@ChimmyQ]

I could never do 50/50! Im better off single

[@nautashasharpe-mn4ke]

Ladies just know that when you're pay 50/50 YOUR MAN IS PIMPING YOU!!!

[@iAm83raine]

It starts out 50/50 but will usually end up being 90/10...with you being the 90

[@lealeahazel8093]

LADIES MEN DONT APPRECIATE U WEN U MAKE IT EASY FOR THEM..THEY ONLY APPRECIATE U WEN U MAKE THEM WORK FOR U PERIOD

[@vocdev]

You’re not really interested in the guy then, just what he can do for you

[@paigec5017]

I'll let him pay the bills and I'll pay for my lifestyle then I'll save money for our future / investment. You stay around long enough then you'll see that too.

[@kingdomwithinhypnotherapy6252]

Ha! Yes! Love this comment!

[@ugoekwegh4581]

More like it

[@vanillacherub6847]

Same. This is the way i like it too. And the way my mum and dad does it :) My mums money always goes to the bank. Or for jewellery maybe .Dad pays for everything else. For our tuition, house maintainable. Its a very sustainable method considering they've been doing this for 25 years. Of course the man should be able to provide and u should have the skills required to do ur part

[@soulonice99]

Beautiful ... now that's Team Work!

[@enau7691]

Remember when Britney Spears got with Kevin and he was dragging his feet to marry a multimillion. U can give a man everything and al he will feel is emasculates. Love you videos. I wish someone told me this when I was 18

[@vfree4579]

THIS maybe off the beaten path but I have one thing to say remember Betty Broderick. SHE Worked alongside of her husband, sacrificed herself and let her let her looks go. After helping her husband build a successful Medical Practice he takes up with a woman who look like a younger Betty Broderick who had not helped him build his practice and then left his wife. This may be an extreme example but it's a cautionary tale be careful.

[@Five.catsno.dogs2]

V FREE THEN SHE KILLED HIM

[@hurricanekat8]

This is every woman on Snapped. Eventually a woman who has given so much of herself will eventually lose her mind one day.

[@Five.catsno.dogs2]

she also killed the new wife yall should watch that movie,and then think about

[@genevawelch9865]

Jane Doe What’s the movie called?

[@denisewhite3902]

Geneva Welch ... ‘A woman scorned: The Betty Broderick story’ it’s here on KZbin.

[@TheMralexander19]

Brotha man here. Im happy and grateful that i grew up around old school men like my dad, grandfather,uncles and godfather. They were great role models for what a provider and protector looked like. As a grown man, I now cherish these priceless examples in my life.

[@charmaineespeut4627]

I'm going to teach my daughter your lessons. Also if I ever have a son I won't make it easy for him. Too many males and not enough men.

[@MrsAmbitous93]

I’m in this exact situation now smh I refuse to marry him. I regret being with him

[@K.Rochelle]

Me too...I’ve done things my mother would NEVER do. Thinking I was being “supportive” and helping him reach his goals, but he not reaching no goals, just dropping the ball. My best friend now ask EVERYTIME she sees me “Am I still giving him money.” It’s one of the most abusive narcissistic relationships I have been in.

[@bambidaydreamer3]

I hope you all find the strength to leave soon. I've been out of this situation for almost 3 months now and it is CRAZY how much money I've saved. my ex of 5 yrs tried to talk me into having a baby with him even though he couldn't even spot me 5 for gas. these Jodi's will look for ways to trap you and manipulate you the best way they know how. *RUN WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!!*

[@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt]

Leave his dusty ass

[@gihanmusa6087]

Focus on the positive. Lesson learned. You got out of it. New chapter. Embrace it. 💕

[@Tojoj22]

Gray rock or no contact

[@dontliveinfear.7640]

I’ve just finished watching a birth vlog video, omg the pain, the crying from the woman... it makes no sense to go 50/50 . Just from that!

[@ThatCaliFoodie]

This is why I've never ever believed in the 50/50 rule. I've experienced this in my past and learned with much disappointment. You are absolutely correct. You are not that man's love if you are busy being his mommy. No thanks!

[@crazycatlady312]

It took me to date a broke man ONE time to know I never will neverrrrr do that again 😂😂😂😂 worst experience ever. Thank God I made the mistake in my early 20s & got out with no baby.

[@sharonj.9597]

Whew! Feminism has messed us up!

[@ikeben400]

Thank you Sharon. Couldn't have said it better...

[@genevawelch9865]

Sharon Jemmott It sure has I’ve been knowing feminism was messed up

[@genevawelch9865]

Feminism helped the weak dusties get over on us women

[@dinkyboss]

Sharon Jemmott I mean I kinda like the idea that my husband isn’t allowed to just beat my ass and get away with it or that I’m allowed to own property and vote and stuff lol idk maybe I’m just weird 🙃

[@sharonj.9597]

@@dinkyboss Yes!!! Hilarious! He says "stay home, if you want Baby, I got you!" Ain't mad!!!

[@riseup6112]

I'm almost 30 physically fit and all And because i had this mindset i attracted the worst of the worst men. What she's saying is 100% true. Even if you offer to pay for the date they loose respect for you and demand more and more until he moves on and you get used. Dont fall ladies. Rise up

[@chelesjulian2340]

I Don't Believe in 50/50. That is just A Cheap Way Of Using You As A Roommate.

[@BlckbeautyBarbi3]

OMG THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT IM GOING THROUGH IN MY MARRIAGE!!!! You are spot on !!!!

[@slimmchick9429]

Me 2.

[@MyBook-he3ex]

Easy to say Divorce when your not married. I would try and switch things up with your husband. Atleast give him a chance to adapt a different mindset. If that does not work then you take action. People are so quick to scream divorce when they themselves are not married and never have been.

[@ChiChiGlamShop]

BlckbeautyBarbi3 same

[@Marliie]

I remember I dated this guy and our first conversation was him asking me how do I feel about 50/50 in relationships. And whoever makes the more income should pays bills. And I told him I don’t believe in that mentality I believe the man should pay the bills because that’s how I was raised. As a young woman I was unaware what he was plotting to do and trying to groom me to have this mentality. After sometime in the relationship I found out he was finically struggling😩 and he was looking for a sugar mama 😂 not I !!!! Number one reason why he actually dated Older woman.

[@keepingupwitheydie8245]

So glad that woman are waking up from this scam keep spreading the word 👑👸🏽♥️

[@keepingupwitheydie8245]

outsideworld76 this does not apply to you Dust Bucket so I’d suggest you save your suggestions to who it applies to

[@NikNik0123]

@@outsideworld76 Good luck finding that virgin and her actually WANTING YOU!

[@Ferrist1]

When I was 25 I gave a guy $20. Even when I did it I knew it was wrong. My mother had already instilled in me NEVER give a man money. But I was lacking self worth. That $20 was a priceless lesson. I only ever told one person in my life what I had done I was that embarrassed and I knew dang well not to tell my mom or my sisters because they would look at me like I had lost my mind. Lol.

[@ChiChichiwe01]

It’s very humiliating

[@amaryisblr2235]

This makes sense. I was trying my best to be everything a man wants but honestly men don’t want what they say they do. I’m done. The 50/50 thing left me heartbroken

[@cooterqueen]

Wow you hit the nail on the head. My ex would call me a "jew" to make me feel guilty about not paying. Even though I was paying for things all the time. He would get angry when he had to buy things. And yes he still wanted me to look good. Even if I was busy all day doing everything for both of us..... hed ask me why I wasn't wearing makeup to try to look good for him.

[@q.t.gamingfamily]

Exactly, 50-50 men don’t actually mean 50-50. They want their cake and Eat it too.

[@prettylyricsmarie]

Some men are just cheap, and it isn't because of how you look, it is because they are cheap by nature. Those men end up single, a long time.

[@milliedamus888]

You so right!!! My ex husband asked for 50/50 Imagine I was only 22 years old I felt in my soul this was not ok to say to me. We ended up argued this man had some nerves to put hands on me after I told him he should packing his bag. He got very angry. I’m so happy I’m no longer in that situation anymore 😇😇😇

[@luzdary1113]

I married a man who was absolutely broke I give him everything and now that I dont have a job , makes me feel miserable

[@briannaramos6677]

A guy called me a gold digger bc I didn’t believe in splitting the bill lol… I told him, if I was a gold digger I would not be going out with you. shut him up real quick 🤣🤣

[@briannaramos6677]

@@deadcell1 if you don’t believe a woman should pay for anything then why expect her to offer? It doesn’t make sense lol. glad you got of that relationship tho.