The New Feminine: 12 Masculine Things to Stop Doing NOW!

[@TheNewFeminine]

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[@danielle2331]

@TheNewFeminine “Men are not pets” “your dusty” I laughed and learned so much from this video. 2024 Thank you! Ps from a white women 🤪♥️

[@lizz741]

My Grandfather told me..."when a man sees you doing too much he'll sit down and do nothing"... I didn't listen so now I've had to hire an attorney to get my do- nothing ex out of my house...please learn the lesson ladies!!!

[@ShiaGirl18]

Thank you for sharing this. Has there been any progress with your case?

[@honeybunn_deluxxe]

That's not a man, that's a lil boy. His mom and dad failed at raising him to be masculine.

[@s.velarde1811]

Wow. Wisdom. ❤️

[@HumbleBeauty679]

I wish the women and men in my family taught me this. I learned the lessons now

[@akur3578]

Hmm. Maybe you deluded yourself doing too much an just Ended it. Might Need more Information for this.

[@supermanfan1315]

Men truly don’t know what to do when you walk away and respond to them with silence. Hit him right in the ego

[@sonyab2u974]

I give the silent calm treatment and they look so puzzled and confused that they forget what they were trying to argue about...lol!

[@supermanfan1315]

SSS 334 Yes girl!! Pair it with keeping your composure and maturity and you become unstoppable

[@rapsodyevans1693]

@@Nekole1 and then they say u hate them just cause you not kissing their ass.

[@sayless1445]

Amen

[@dnw75]

Yep, just like a toddler having a tantrum. Ignore the behavior & they will eventually get it together.

[@ArtemisUnderscoreJ]

"Men don't think like women and we don't want them to." Damn. That sat me down.

[@goodfay]

Ha

[@Sasha-xt3jh]

There are women who say they are physically attracted to men but emotionally attracted to women. When girls tell me that, I just assume that they have never been in a relationship with a woman. 'Cause women are complicated af.

[@larkford4460]

Yet women often try to “think like a man”

[@Melanie-le6mw]

Come thru! ❤️

[@TruthAboutLies]

The man/woman dynamic is supposed to be complementary. We are designed to be different. In theory, we should be better together. We are different and that's okay.

[@Danger_Bunnyyy]

It's true! I'm too easily duped by a man's compliments! I was ignored as a child so any kind of attention feels like real love. But I refuse to get played anymore!!

[@blackwidow2134]

Qu33n D3m3t3r Thank you for being brave enough to share that. I completely understand. I was also ignored and never felt loved. The only attention I did get was verbal and sexual abuse.

[@RMW22222]

I completely get this... ignored as a child and now I have anxious attachment style so I crave and need validation from men and family members but I've been working and focusing on myself and now everything is changing. Thank you Lord, thank you Jesus!!

[@rroberts7073]

Congratulations on your revelation, you deserve BETTER! 👍👍

[@femininedivin3]

glad you are aware of this sis. Hopefully you get therapy if you haven't already, and also speak life and love into yourself in the mirror. Much love!

[@estheradao]

Same here, the proof: I accepted to give my number to a dusty today just bc he complimented me. I’m too easy and I want to change

[@dnw75]

My great aunt used to always say, "Never buy a man a pair of shoes, because he will use those same shoes to walk off & leave you." She was huge in teaching all of the girls in our family hypergamy. She was old school, so she would just refer to it as being "ladylike." I appreciate all she taught us.

[@ri3845]

My Nana says the same! 😄

[@TrinaBinaBaby]

My father always told me and my sister this... he died when I was 11, so I now understand/believe that he was preparing us for life without him.

[@dantoniowashington9785]

So buy that man some crocs/slides then 😏

[@annissakapor]

What else she taught you? If you don't mind sharing ❤

[@thepedestalwifesociety]

Yes, if he talk badly about the ex. Run 🏃‍♀️

[@peacejones3790]

It's true and now he talks bad about me smh

[@thepedestalwifesociety]

@@peacejones3790 yes it never fails low value guys try to get women to compete by talking bad about the ex.

[@blaq2handle]

peace jones I’m going through this too smh

[@leofeza9325]

True. Same with women. Bitterness has no place in relationships

[@virgodiva2811]

Every time a man comes to me with some negative ish about their ex I stop them in their tracks!!! Example: Guy: My ex is crazy!!! Me: How long were you two together? Guy: 6 years. Me: Okay....either you like crazy or you made her crazy. Guy: 😠😠😠 Me: Boy Bye!!!

[@SnowFoxParty]

Stop asking men to hang out/on dates. Let them ask you. Dont tell them your whole life story and schedule. Let them ask. Keep your mystery sexy.

[@anissa2361]

Glad I learned this recently. I never asked any guys on a date, but I would mostly be the one to ask a guy friend to hang out. I told myself I would stop and I have.

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Very true

[@blessingashanti7039]

Yes. I also would NEVER approach a man. That's their job

[@ZawadiBirya]

@@anissa2361 That's great! Baby Steps...

[@ltetobago]

I have never asked a man out but finally got the nerve to do so..I worked on me and my finances for a year and I'm in a great place, don't do social media much and rarely go out so I thought why not...now I'm hearing it's a no no...some say go for it, life is short and others say nooooo....thoughts? Why not?

[@billiebillie678]

Stop trying to rescue everyone. Yes to that. Stop rescuing family members too!

[@TheJalesa1207]

billiebillie yesss!!!! I had to stop trying to save my cousin from her dusty. I told her today I will no longer be listening to that bs anymore

[@lavellans]

I am trying to do this less but end up coming across as “cold” or “you don’t care about us.” But I have to get my own life together too. :/ I can’t save someone if I’m drowning.

[@Jess-ew3tm]

@@lavellans exactly

[@sharonhunt5256]

Amen.

[@celestegarcia923]

billiebillie I’ve never learned how to believe in a God.

[@layalove]

This video is pure gold. Tip #9: Stop judging yourself for what you didn't know. That tip hit harder than a dusty finding out his pick me left him because she's been watching Chloe's channel! Ladies, say it with me "I didn't know! It's going to be ok because I know now!" Let's teach our younger women, please!

[@i.l.746]

Self forgiveness is a GAME CHANGER 💡

[@sonyab2u974]

Yes, I forgive myself for not knowing but now I know!💝

[@sashad1076]

Definitely! Forgive yourself, and most importantly start moving accordingly.

[@MA-ed5rn]

Miss Canteuse you said it!! #9 hit me to my bone! I love Chloe!😘

[@ssyynnn]

I forgive myself! Bring it on 2020🤗🤗

[@ceemac304]

Men who you have to argue with in public are not men that you must associate with.

[@entset]

on God!!!

[@cinnamonangel5506]

Thank you!

[@sonyab2u974]

Facts! I dont argue in private either, we are two adults that should respectful communicate with each other...men who speak rude or disrespectful trying to pick an argument...I cut them off! That's a sign of anger and controll issues that lead to abuse!

[@larkford4460]

Huh? If YOU are arguing then YOU are the one with the issue. That doesn’t have shit to do with the MAN. Control ya self woman! Hold your self accountable for the energy you give out.

[@vfree4579]

@@sonyab2u974 LORD if I only knew as a younger women. I WILL LOOKING FOR SIGNS IF A MAN CHILD IS TRYING TO PICK A FIGHT❗❗❗

[@SimplyTrishx]

You can’t turn a dusty into a husband.

[@StandupGirl-ym3ey]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@aminah761]

Trish Chanda it’s a whole lot of women out here that do I would say 70 percent of marriages is with a dusty 😂😂😂😂💁‍♀️

[@ivyrainbitch]

Aminah A right that’s why there are a lot of divorces

[@sonyab2u974]

💯💯💯

[@sonyab2u974]

@@aminah761 Sadly this is true, they get married and complain all the time about these men...smh

[@Itsmarylynn]

“Stop expecting your friends to be happy for your glow up” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@GoddessTMarie]

She's right, men aren't as appreciative as we think they should be when we "provide"

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Tell me about it. Had to learn that the hard way.

[@sonyab2u974]

Nope, look at how they still cheat on a woman who spoils them!

[@genj6630]

I am learning that too. Know a woman that is supporting a man fully and the man's child from another relationship. He still calls this woman lazy. He just does not respect her at all it appears.

[@larkford4460]

I wouldn’t know what that feels like as I provide for self

[@vfree4579]

@Paul Hogue you're right Paul but it's certain women doesn't appreciate a good man. Once you Choose Wisely because signs are always there I've learned the hard way

[@hx6612]

Stop cursing and being loud in public!

[@victoriaking9662]

M_ Hx thank u

[@glammourdoll]

Please

[@wandamajette5000]

Let the church say AMEN!

[@sharonhunt5256]

Girl i try talking nice but thats feminine- not masculine bc men dont yell loud in public!

[@SACREDFlRE]

Black women can't help themselves..

[@BetterLoveMovement]

"Stop bragging about your accomplishments!" This is 100% right on! A good healthy masculine man is not impressed by your degrees, your house, your car, etc. That stuff is for YOU! And that is fine. Just don't lead with it expecting it to somehow "impress" a man. Men are to impress US, not the other way around! The skill of walking away AND the skill of being PATIENT for the man you want, period! No more fixing and repairing broken men.

[@princessdiana2737]

Your right sis!!! I put that I graduated from college!! And never again will I post another accomplishment! I don’t want anyone knowing where I work or anything! Hahahha

[@Kabarile31]

I wish every woman on this channel a healthy and hypergamous Happy New Year! 💃🏽

[@cherelled6419]

And to you 😊 xx

[@not_the_same_]

Awww Lynn!! You too hunni!!💕🙏🏽

[@Kat3369]

Same to you, sis!

[@myriamwilliams]

Thanks

[@entitled7665]

Lynn Barade Thanks sis 😊same’ to you

[@SS-cu8se]

In 2020, we letting non-beneficial friendships expire in PEACE. Unfollow your “friend” who you’ve known since highshool sis, y’all don’t talk anyway. Stop letting people who don’t care for you have access to you. In 2020, I’m choosing ME and everything that SERVES me. Nothing else.

[@leekeene5889]

Yes! Feeding you breadcrumbs so you'll stay on the sideline until he's ready to play with you and then throw you back until he's ready again. No ma'am!! I'll be happily single while I'm improving myself, but I refuse to accept that anymore!

[@flykhic4180]

Yeasssssssssssss!!!!!!!

[@maristahuddleston6213]

Safia Ay I Tried It And It’s Working 🙌🏿🗣

[@TheeKanyeMsi]

Ladies stop buying love 🤞🏽 Any man who expects to be taken care of like a woman in a relationship is acting like the prize.

[@sweetpeaj1952]

💯

[@shanicesm6208]

Kanye Msimang 💯

[@shanicesm6208]

Dominique Deveraux yes 😂

[@TheeKanyeMsi]

Louder 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@larkford4460]

I am the prize. 🤷🏾‍♂️ doesn’t seem like women are meeting too many of what y’all call “real” men these days so for one to be allowed into my life and have access to my intimacy and resources is a privilege.. ijs, you gotta be on your shit especially intellectually when engaging a high value men

[@elevatedgoddess3917]

BW plz worry about self 2020 and beyond. It's OK to be selfish. Travel,find fun hobbies, get fit and explore other cultures. Live your life. You only have one.

[@larkford4460]

lol black women cant even break the addiction of keeping up with a social media image lol the need for validation is disgusting amongst y’all

[@mochamommyATX]

Don't feed the troll

[@ilysaportax33]

Lark Ford “the need for validation amongst y’all” says the man literally begging for female attention on a channel for women lmfaooooo

[@humilis42]

Elevated Goddess This is a goal of mine this year. Time to explore other parts of the world and meet people that are different than the ones I know. I feel like I keep running into the same type of people.

[@euphorialee2958]

I agree a lot with this. I absolutely LOVE to read, I aspire to become am author, and I've found that a person who never reads only lives one life while a person who reads everyday lives MILLIONS of lives

[@livio8]

Don't let the term 'wife material' keep you in pickme hell and have you lowering your standards to below the earth crust ladies. Cheers to FEMININE 2020 ladies!🍹

[@reahndaku2230]

Preach sista!

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

Yes! Just more mere words.

[@adrianmartin4901]

Drop them standards or end up alone

[@annissakapor]

Factssssd

[@Prettyfancypantz]

Walking away is the art I just mastered. He 'loved me' but didn't have anything for me. ✌🏽🤯😤

[@MZPOETSKYLOVEBLACK]

💯✔

[@sonyab2u974]

Yes, I quietly walk away if it's in person but if on the phone I stay calm and after they done talking I say I'll call you back and never talk to them again! That's a sign of an abuse person who likes to pick arguments!

[@mogetit5999]

Yesssss ma’am! Good job!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Prettyfancypantz]

@Paul Hogue you sound really smart commenting on something you know NOTHING about. Let me fill you in shug... I was house and pet sitting for two unruly pups with NO TRAINING, giving business advice and credit counseling as well as social media guidance all for HIS business all while putting it down in the bedroom for this guy to say he doesn't want a relationship? He included me in 🚫 aspects of his actual life. BYE FELIPE'! So EXCUSE me for EXCUSING myself from a dead end one way relationship. You sound like you're mad that I won't let him use me anymore 😐

[@mochamommyATX]

Don't feed the trolls

[@TiggysTC]

"Master the Art of Walking Away" Thats A gift/blessing every woman should have.♥️

[@larkford4460]

Tigi the art? lol that’s a natural ability wombman. Are y’all that mentally declined to where you have to design strategies to “walk away”. You were born free so live free.

[@missshannonsunshine]

Lark Ford a lot of Bw feel like we should fight through everything . That ride or dieee

[@TiggysTC]

@@missshannonsunshine Say that louder please because I don't think @Lark Ford heard you🗣️🗣️ Also while you're at it @Lark Ford re- listen to post. One of the 12 things Chloe mentioned is about women bashing themselves for things They DIDNT KNOW.(#9) Having the power to walk away may just be one of them...Marinate on that 😉

[@Rhawn246]

​@@larkford4460 Firstly, "mentally declined"?? OMG no, just no. Secondly, I don't think you even understand or are able to appreciate the very human part about walking away that you're criticising.

[@ilysaportax33]

Rhawn246 men are damn near sociopaths so they don’t understand the intricacies of detaching emotionally from another human being.

[@AMYP6]

Another tip in my experience- men see how great you are or will be, and use reverse psychology by telling you "you are not good enough.... You ain't shit... You're not even that pretty..." To break you down to get a way in because they would never stand a chance other wise. So they bring you down to their level. This is not a man!!!!

[@sweetpeaj1952]

💯

[@th3nigmatic]

This!

[@itsme3k]

I'm still trying to figure out who is giving men money? Especially when bills and children are expensive af....if you're asking me for money there is a problem. You don't respect me or my child...those are my sentiments.

[@sayless1445]

Right!!

[@AntoniaWright]

🙋🏾‍♀️ I did...he never even asked. I just felt sorry for him. I have no idea what happened to me when I met him but clearly I lost my senses. This channel actually made me end the "relationship". My only regret is not ending it sooner

[@babyboasty6033]

Me too I wouldn't give a man a coin I don't even know how to start I get offended when men don't give me money hahahaha

[@CashmereakaCoCo]

@@j.dillonthescene 😂😂😂

[@Cherokee_Tribe]

🙋🏾‍♀️I’m guilty of this in the past..if I knew then what I know now..my life would be a WHOLE lot different..I see life different & more clearer..I love & respect myself now

[@yeizzy3949]

Half of the time you are jealous of a whole facade of another woman

[@aminah761]

Tauruschic 201 facts

[@Kabarile31]

Tauruschic 201 That is so true!

[@CiaobellaAmour]

This comment 🏆

[@sonyab2u974]

So many women fall for being jealous of other women and dont even know what that woman has/is been thru or going thru! I never envy anyone! I only acknowledge and appreciate good character and quality ppl!

[@yolandathomas2887]

@@sonyab2u974 yes and some of them think another woman is the problem.

[@questionresearch8721]

Cutting other people off. Use your ears and listen. Listen to learn not always respond. Listening will help show you how to handle people who are not worthy of your energy.

[@jemgem6044]

👍 YES i Agree ...need to petfect that 1☺💪🎀🎁

[@humilis42]

Dimepiece 954 Yes, a person who’s talking too much is NOT listening and paying attention to the person in front of them. You learn a lot about a person when you pay attention to what they are saying.

[@wig99]

we going ✈️ full on feminine in 2020! thanks chloe!

[@mecarter15]

Yes🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@diva7141]

💯

[@sonyab2u974]

Yes!💝❤

[@god1st551]

🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

[@lazygirl8877]

wig yes we are 🥰

[@eamami1087]

The chasing men part is something a lot of women in my generation(I’m 20) need to know. It works against us always. Even if you do get the man after chasing him he’s always gonna see you a certain way. Never do anything that’s gonna stroke a man’s ego in a way that makes you look like a fan or a groupie. Men rarely appreciate compliments and attention, it’s all thirst in their eyes

[@sonyab2u974]

Girl I'm in my 30s and these women chasing men is so bad that the men my age see themselves as a prize! Smdh!

[@eamami1087]

C RD I honestly can’t stand all the fake feminist men nowadays who want women to chase them and reverse roles but only in a way that benefits them

[@eamami1087]

SSS 334 I’m pretty sure the men my age are gonna be just like that if worse not in the future. They’re being conditioned to believe that women aren’t valuable

[@rapsodyevans1693]

@C RD and then they'll say you must hate them cause you not kissing their ass. So that you're the one with the problem not them

[@aminah761]

EAmami yes

[@stellank7931]

Ohh yes baby, me and my bestie are in heels and dresses dining in Central London already 💅

[@rapsodyevans1693]

Need a bestie to do this with. Never had one😥

[@mochamommyATX]

Sending support, love and good energy to you sis! You made the first step by opening up. Good luck!

[@anissa2361]

@49jubilee It's so hard to shop for classy dresses today.

[@oreldean]

SAli speaking*** . Firstly, stop speaking**ghetto. Also, Nothing is wrong with the way she speaks.

[@stellank7931]

@@Sali-yw1rd no

[@villainouspixie2923]

#4 & #1 is soooo important!!!! Love & hip hop is an extremely toxic show. If you continue watching that you put it into your subconscious! Learn to love yourself! I'm starting to peep how my female friends throw shade at me or try to talk about me around other men. I just laugh it off. It's just their insecurities projecting out 😌💅🏾

[@jemgem6044]

I agree 100% ..I hardly watch 📺

[@StacyannJ]

villainous pixie I stopped watching that garbage years ago it’s so true the subconscious plays a huge role in the actions we make !

[@villainouspixie2923]

@@StacyannJ girl that show is extremely masculine. It truly disgusts me.

[@villainouspixie2923]

@Shawny Love right same here. When it's just us hanging oh man does the praises come in..."you're so pretty!" " I wish I had your body!" "You're so lucky!" Blah blah...but when were around men it's like competition for them. Hun, when you radiate confidence you dont need to compete! Your confidence speaks for you 😏💅🏾

[@villainouspixie2923]

@JessBusiness lol I know

[@moniquew3603]

This video was so perfect! I think black women need to STOP acting a fool on social media. We do not need to address everyone that comes for us, because at this point it seems as though a lot of these sicko are triggering us on purpose to get our attention.

[@rapsodyevans1693]

@Bri - especially shaderoom comments

[@MsKolo90]

Exactly, so much power in silence and ignoring blatant ignorance.

[@itsmishell]

Without a doubt

[@ravinj8625]

Yessss

[@kelceynicole]

@@rapsodyevans1693 facts. the shaderoom altogether is anti black. it makes us look so bad & there’s sooooooo much negativity in the comment section.

[@isabella09dr]

Ladies, the money they “save” on you is money they are willing to spend on someone else when they are exploring their options while keeping you in the wings.

[@selfhelpandotherfunstuff8239]

I am a young man watching this, and i must say chloe i am impressed. Continue to educate our sisters on the power of their Feminity and what it means to truly be a woman of value.

[@ShelbySteele23]

Thank you for touching on women focusing too much on other women and being competitive. What's for you is for YOU!

[@TheNewFeminine]

🥰

[@GoddessTMarie]

Don't even think about proposing..you've gone too far.

[@shadybrooks8174]

Tell me why this guy at work told me that it seems like I would be the type to propose to a guy 😐. He told me that I seem like the type of woman to have several men on rotation. I told him that I would NEVER propose to a man. I really think he said this because he knows I've been in the military and I don't take crap from rude customers. So based off of that he made that assumption. He rarely works with me though. Everyone else describes me as a girly girly and I believe hes just intimidated by me. I also think it has a lot to do with some men believing all black women are the same especially if they only encountered masculine ones. I still can't believe he said that to me 🙃.

[@olgad9842]

@@shadybrooks8174 ignore him. Men sometimes make an untrue comment to get women to go out of their way to prove that they are not what he assumes. You know who you are. He doesn't. Ignore him. If you have a slight concern he may be right, talk to a trusted friend who can be objective and work on that privately. Don't worry about a random man's opinion of you

[@chocolatecuban]

@@olgad9842 This! They will definitely say and do things just to get a reaction.

[@shadybrooks8174]

@@brownbeauty8578 He better be.

[@shadybrooks8174]

@@brownbeauty8578 New age men can be something else...👀

[@TheSomethingnew1]

Cursing/Using Profanity, Raising my voice, and arguing are things I'm trying to stop doing altogether. The guys that are around me always say they like girls with a "lil ratchet in them". The kind that have attitude and will curse them out. And I genuinely don't think I have it in me. Oh well 😂

[@ShelbySteele23]

Those guys must be ratchet themselves because a true gentleman would never

[@sherry4535]

TheSomethingnew1 you need to change your circle sis. Your network is your net worth.

[@sonyab2u974]

You can do it! Only a dusty wants you speaking foul, keep working on not doing so💝

[@sonyab2u974]

@@sherry4535 This!💯

[@mochamommyATX]

Good for you sis!!

[@QuianaMonique]

#9 Is speaking to me. I didn’t have anyone to teach me how to deal with men and how to properly choose a mate. I’ve made mistakes that I do regret. I’m learning not to be so hard on myself. I’m accepting my mistakes as learning experiences instead of faults. I have the knowledge and I will do better. I’m leaving the past in the past, looking towards a better future in 2020 and beyond.

[@sonyab2u974]

Same here, good luck beautiful!💝

[@priscillaarcher9916]

Me too. I did not know alot about men and relationship so I have forgiven myself and moving forward. And cutting all the people who took advantage of me off

[@taters2883]

Me too. This comment explains exactly how I feel

[@QuianaMonique]

SSS 334 💜

[@QuianaMonique]

Priscilla Archer moving forward to bigger and better! Best wishes to you!

[@simplyhere3893]

Chloe I’ve been telling Men “I don’t touch Doors or Money” ha when I say since I’m in this mindset I’ve been going on the best dates and getting expensive gifts it’s so true! Ladies we determine our worth! #2020Vision

[@zsuzsuspetals]

Oh Chloe, you are the hero we needed. I've said this before, but your advice is not just for single women. Even after women are married, maybe even more so, we need to hear advice like this. Society is always trying to turn us more masculine and we need these reminders. And now there is so much focus on gender neutrality and abandoning the idea of man/woman roles. This advice is needed for women in every stage of life. After all, it's not just about finding a good man but keeping your relationship alive. Thank you!

[@GoldSkye]

Summerafternoon so true! Never get caught slipping, even in marriage. Femininity is its own reward!

[@TheNewFeminine]

❤️

[@zsuzsuspetals]

@@GoldSkye 100% :)

[@yourentrepreneurjourney]

Stop the masculine madness ladies of trying to be a man's "homie". It doesn't look good at all.😟

[@babyboasty6033]

Omg that is so me lol got to stop this year

[@Sailorneptun99]

Why not?

[@Jess-ew3tm]

First of all.....this aint it 💀 some dudes really are just our homies ion know what kinda guy friends yall got

[@Jess-ew3tm]

@@ScientificAnomalies876 .....not at all...do yall not or ever had male friends? Hell im more comfortable around them than I am girls sometimes

[@aubreonaagee4631]

@@Jess-ew3tm These are the type of women who tend to think that it's impossible for a man and woman to have a platonic relationship 😂. Not all dudes you interact with will be attracted to you or you attracted to them, and they can actually be a homie, best friend, or whatever you wanna call it. But i guess not everybody has experienced that. And you DEFINITELY dont have to change yourself and the way you talk or act if y'all are just friends, people should be themselves. If they want to change, great! Improvement is important but growth and change shouldn't be on the basis of just male attention, it should be because that is what you want to do for yourself.

[@IndigobluBeauty]

Don’t argue with men in public OR social media...also, Don’t fight someone else’s battle

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Guilty of beating up myself about not knowing what I know now. But better now than never.

[@sweetpeaj1952]

@@dmoon6137 🙂

[@bplatonova]

Ask God for forgiveness then ask yourself for forgiveness

[@marthaharrisofficial]

Stop being a doormat to a man that doesn't want a committed relationship with you but wants to hang out with you. Still don't understand this one! Chloe, maybe you can clear this one up for me! I love your videos!

[@chinwude_]

The best way to successfully build a new habit is to set small and achievable goals in the beginning. For ex. If you want to start a workout regimen in 2020, schedule a day & time to workout when you have consistently been free. It's the small goals that helps you achieve BIG goals! 🥂✨

[@tishac8352]

Love this!!

[@evry1luvschi]

Yes! 🙌🏼

[@Theefashionchilld]

This is so true 💯

[@tayloralliease7603]

That's what I'm doing right now .

[@winstonsjulia5942]

Long ago, when we were kids, my boyfriend was broke and asked me to borrow $5. I got angry and pissed off instantly and told him no. I just had the instinct that this isn't right.

[@itsmishell]

I had this happen to me. But i was on a trial date lol. I call it. With the guy and the meal in total was 85 dollars. He felt the need to split the bill. I was personally upset. At the time i didnt know why. but now i know. And he asked me out.

[@winstonsjulia5942]

@@itsmishell 🤢🤮 terrible man

[@ifadunsingriffith1395]

@@itsmishell ew!! Omg how he gonna ask you to split the bill

[@NyakzOTSD]

@@itsmishell What's wrong with splitting the Bill? Didn't you eat? Maybe I am lost lpl

[@lydiamusima5840]

Another one I heard is never give a man unsolicited advice

[@GoldSkye]

Lydia Musima interesting

[@LadyCharity]

This is true.

[@Flowerchild2421]

This is big!

[@whitley17]

“Self elevation is triggering for those are fearful of being left behind”. ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️ I KID YOU NOT; I am moving from Ohio to Georgia in March so that I can continue my level up journey in peace. I’m becoming a realtor so that it will force me to become even more feminine and social (I’m shy, so I need to courage to meet more people). It was really eye opening to see how many people were afraid of being left behind. And honestly the ones who are afraid of being left behind are the ones who know that I will permanently be unavailable to a mule or work horse for. Since finding this channel and Chrissie’s channel, I’ve been setting boundaries and I no longer stretch myself thin for anyone, including family members. I’ve also learned to move in silence because there are so many people that want to sabotage me so that I don’t move!!!!! But listen, come all hell and high water, I AM MOVING AWAY!!!!!

[@Rhawn246]

Whitley, I don't know you but I feel like I understand and I feel so proud of you! Keep looking out for yourself in this way. Keep it up girl. Now I'm inspired!

[@whitley17]

Rhawn246 Thank you, love 💜💜💜

[@35cheeky]

Stop trying to tell a man what he needs to do. So many times we meet dusties and we waste a lot of time directing him in how to be successful in his family life and the work force.

[@Dhunt118]

Omg I felt this

[@edunlap6594]

Don't cook or clean for men.

[@edunlap6594]

@49jubilee You can marry him and suddenly he only values work outside the house. Married or not he has to cook and clean too.

[@wonttrickmea1869]

E Dunlap PERIOD

[@jasonokoro1224]

Then pay and provide for yourself, your not his maid and he’s not your walking wallet. You notched are dumber than bricks

[@humilis42]

Dominique Deveraux Hahahaha He probably doesn’t get what you are saying.

[@sonyab2u974]

Right!

[@Cache_Danielle1]

Going into 2020 with a mindset of gold. Ladies!! Let's get it together

[@Bella_Noire]

Learning to forgive myself for what I didn't know, for everything I never learned growing up, and for making so so many mistakes in my life. Thank you for the advice Chloe. Many of us don't have the mother, auntie, big sis, and/or grandma and etc, to teach us how to be feminine women.

[@Jessinking]

first time hearing this in 2023 it is STILL VERY POWERFUL. MY HEART IS BEATING AND MY BODY IS SHAKING. a deep processing.

[@Razzledazzle111]

I definitely beat myself up about my mistakes with my first bf, a dusty. I gave him everything and it was such a waste. I felt worthless. Ladies, don't think that a bad relationship defines you, you mean much more than that.

[@NBean90]

Can’t lie, Chloe came and saved a good part of 2019🙏🏽

[@sayless1445]

Right!

[@TheNewFeminine]

🥰

[@fionamubanga8627]

So true!!!! She has really helped me understand life and relationships.this is one happiness key.

[@mercyokiro9849]

100%

[@czarinaosain8187]

I repeat STOP GIVING MEN MONEY!!!!

[@purplekitty]

I’ve learned that a lot of things are a skillset. Communication, confidence, attractiveness, letting go, happiness are all skills. You can’t just be it. Just like trying paint or play piano you have to practice. Baby steps are still steps and the consistency matters more than anything.

[@DynamicallyDC]

Absolutely Chloe! ✅ Learn to invest in your looks, hopes and dreams, instead of bitterness and resentment, which leads to a dead end. Stop thinking men and women think alike because we are wired completely different. 🙌🏽

[@lkofie6670]

I would say leave the overly used proclamation of "being an independent woman" to rest. Fact of the matter is, even IF a woman is or becomes independent, there is no need to flex...keep and use the independent spirit for your own self progression, not to prove a point to him. Just give and show the feminine expectations and mannerisms towards him.

[@LadyCharity]

Totally agree!

[@cc_chi123]

Another thing I see a lot in women is getting too drunk. Getting hammered and acting stupid and hooking up is masculine in my opinion and totally unbecoming as a feminine woman.

[@alanpapashow1926]

People can do what they want. Stop trying to dictate what people should do. They are probably having more fun in life than you trying to be proper. Gtfoh

[@ganguro60]

Alan papashow someones mad lmfao

[@sweetpeaj1952]

@Dominique Deveraux right lol. Then go on those red pill channels and call those same women thots which is why he doesn't value women. 🙄🙄🙄

[@latoyablackmon9033]

Men shouldn't do those things either.

[@amirariyama2349]

Yes you are right that's it is not a good look when women behave like this but it is equally unattractive when men act like that, it is not masculine behaviour lmao

[@beccat6055]

If a dude argues with just start crying, pull out ur camera and say u feel unsafe and go to the nearest male and ask for help. Give em the white girl treatment

[@Afrocreolebombshelle]

Becca T 😂

[@Flo-zb8pw]

😂😂😂😂👏

[@cc_chi123]

ha yes!

[@beccat6055]

@@Flo-zb8pw Yall know good and well white girls have mastered this might as well try it too

[@purposedpatience6597]

Becca T 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@user-ny8hl8iv8r]

May all of you ladies find an amazing man this coming year! May he make you genuinely happy , may you have excitement, butterflies, and most importantly security! You all deserve it and don’t settle for anything or any dusty ! YOU ARE THE PRIZE 💁🏾‍♀️💎

[@TheCleanLife0605]

My vision board will consist of these 12 rules

[@coolcoloursbeautyngozioji8772]

Thank you so much Chloe. Since i found your channel this year, I am taking steps to becoming more feminine and high value woman. It is so rewarding to lean back and enjoy the attention of the opposite sex. Wishing you a blessed 2020. God bless you.

[@questionresearch8721]

Ladies, don't be hard on yourself. Learn from it and use it. Don't feel bad. We are learning and doing. And don't be fair be kind to yourself. Others are not fair to life and others they think deserve ill-treatment.

[@lifelessonswithjo]

The year 2020 is time for my ultimate feminine GLOW UP!

[@paradiseblue5303]

Thanks for this chloe. Im very guilty of trying to rescue dysfunctional family members and friends and i've finally started to put myself first. Happy new year and thanks for all you are doing

[@purposedpatience6597]

This is the best advice I’ve gotten in my LIFE and I’m 46!!!! You are God sent and I thank God for you being a powerful vessel to help women like myself who truly didn’t know the very core of our divine worth ❤️🔥🔥🔥

[@coolcoloursbeautyngozioji8772]

Purposed patience, I truly feel same way you do. I'm 46 too and better late than never. I feel immensely blessed. 🙏❤

[@TheNewFeminine]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Katy-se2fn]

“Don’t invest in your own demise.” I like that 👍🏻😍

[@SashaFiercer]

I just come back here every NYE to remind myself of what not to do. Thanks Chloe, Happy New Year to you.

[@sitandsipwithToni]

Femininity all 2020. 2019 I for sure learned some lessons.

[@mochamommyATX]

I am very happy for you and ALL the new decade has to bring!

[@vsmith113]

Please listen to Chloe. I still listen to her even though I got married in October. I must say again best channel on KZbin.

[@mochamommyATX]

CONGRATULATIONS!

[@frenchvanilla7109]

Congratulation's 🎉🎉🎉🎉💍

[@ivyrainbitch]

Victoria Smith congratulations 🎉

[@vsmith113]

Lilmama Johnson Thank you 😊

[@vsmith113]

French Vanilla Thank you ☺️

[@TheRealMsBlu]

Chloe you are a Godsend sis 😘 Wishing you and all of the beautiful ladies on here a year of Abundance 🎉

[@yolandamarka1719]

Same to you

[@annmariebailey123]

Yes sis!! , I've learned so much.

[@god1st551]

I found Chloe’s vlogs on Boxing Day while feeling ill in bed. Being more Fem has been top of my list for 2020 and u are spot on. Chloe u ARE truly a God send. Same to u beautiful, HNY to all. 💕☮️

[@cammiekls1]

Same to you Ms. Blu!

[@TheNewFeminine]

Thank you.💞

[@thebeautystarlet]

Thank you Chloe! I really needed to hear "stop expecting your friends to be happy for your glow up." I've been on a glow up journey for the past few years (major weight loss, career level up, and most recently femininity). Upon reflection, I'm realizing I've been learning this lesson the hard way. I used to always be the sad fat friend who thought she was ugly and I was ALWAYS available to carry the emotional burdens of others and over the last 3 years I've really set some boundaries with my friends as I've transformed, and although they've been "supportive" I've never really just felt like they were behind me 100%. I recently told some close friends about wanting to be more feminine and they scoffed at me and told me I was feminine enough, the same way when I told them years ago that I wanted to lose weight they would tell me I was beautiful just the way I was (I was almost 300 pounds and dealing with weight related health issues at the time), and then they would invite me to eat terrible or order in pizza. Throughout, my weight loss they have ALWAYS been the ones encouraging me to treat myself with food and telling me "one meal won't hurt." I've lost a great deal, but I have had set backs and oftentimes they were part of me making a decision to eat poorly. I don't think they were maliciously sabotaging me, but I do think subconsciously they were, mostly because they didn't want things to change. They have admitted it's been hard for them to watch my body and my mind change and i'm really not angry with them, because honestly they're not terrible people. They're just human and I changed the structure of our relationship when I decided to change. Plus, this entire experience has really taught me the power of "No" and for that I'm grateful, but I can see now that my next level up can happen quicker if I just cut out all of the noise and draw some more boundaries with my friends! Mind your full business in 2020 ladies!

[@c.f.6005]

Stop saying yes to sex when you know in your heart you do not want to do it. Stop being a people pleaser. In the end you will just feel used. It is not a good feeling. Don’t do that to yourself.

[@sweetpeaj1952]

💯💯💯

[@janaek8371]

I’m 19 & my boyfriend is 20 , he is everything I could ever ask for , he wants to provide for me, is loyal, and he makes me his priority No man is perfect but he’s a trying man.. On Christmas he just proposed to me, we’re not rushing to the alter but he just wanted to make that step in our relationship. I know we’re young but I know I’m not making a mistake & I couldn’t be happier.

[@janaek8371]

Thee BratzDoll Yes , we would definitely need that , especially because he’s Muslim & I am Christian , that’s our biggest issue but we are going to try our best to compromise and make it work

[@TheBelieving24]

this is my story too. except I’m 22 and he is 28. he is muslim and I am christian. he is traditional and masculine, and I am happy with him :). he always provides for me without any questions asked and he is so protective of me. interfaith marriage can work and it becoming more popular, for example look up Reza Aslan and his wife. i wish the best for you love 💕!

[@Pursuepeace0715]

yes agreed stop making "your dusty a king!!" yes I lost A lot. I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I felt like I was raising a boy into man. so stressful.

[@StandupGirl-ym3ey]

Yessssss!!

[@user-nq8nl4wh9w]

Great video. Another thing to leave behind is anyone that you have to chase to convince of your worth, that goes for friends, family and love interest. Also, get off social media with your plans and learn to just shut up. Lets also abandon negative self talk/talk in general and self-limiting beliefs. Happy 2020 ladies, I see a great upcoming year full of positive change and opportunities for black women.

[@liyahsky222]

I've learned so much and still evolving towards being an all around feminine woman.

[@mochamommyATX]

Good for you! Sending love, peace and blessings your way

[@carmenhayes8680]

If you decide to ever get back with an ex, make sure his life is in order and he proves the change with evidence. You don't have to go back to an ex because the pickings are slim. Waiting is so hard, but being with a broke dusty from the past is even worst. Thank you for your channel. It helps me to know I've grown so much. Make the change from being stupid to understanding your worth is amazing. It's lonely to start. But I rather be lonely sometimes than to be broken and lonely with someone. So womanly is me!!!

[@annettebyrd8259]

Preach Ms. Chloe!!! I love your energy and your wisdom. I'm 51 and I'm pretty sure you are youger than, me but I'm very open minded and know for a fact that you can learn from anybody. Keep doing what you are doing!!!! #2020vision

[@QueenJuliana89]

I’m 50 and have been doing it wrong for 50 years. Was undermined by all from being hypergamous when instinctively I knew it was right. Now I can start getting it right 🌸💯

[@lakeishaallen8831]

Thank you so much for this platform. Educating women and deprogramming the negative mind sets.

[@chocolatecuban]

Please know that there is a difference between a man who does not actively look for a woman's accomplishments ( like women do to men) and those who are turned off or scared by them. There is a difference, and knowing that will save you a world of hurt. Never diminish your shine. Anyone asking you to do so does not love nor respect you. Men who are looking for women to be less or have less than them will actively ask you what you do, how many degrees you have, your salary, and other indicators of such success. A man that really doesn't care won't ask. If and when it comes up eventually he will be proud of you for your accomplishments and logistically understand that you probably have positive qualities that led to such success like intelligence, discipline, and discretion ( all positive healthy traits that everyone should have). A true protector and provider does not see competition in everything, only dusties. Your ability to be wealthy has nothing to do with his ability to be wealthy, he will provide for you regardless because that is what a provider does.

[@Glad2BGolden]

2019 will forever be remembered as the year I discovered hypergamy. I feel big changes in 2020 because I’m making moves to make it happen. Thank you Chloe. 😊

[@gorgeouslymade1754]

Happy New Year ladies 🥂💫 cheers to clear vision in 2020!

[@taylordowning2533]

Love this and I also think for those who are heavy into spirituality, Keep GOD first and seek HIM daily!

[@w3n33dam1racl3]

It's like you look into my soul. I forgive myself for what I didn't know.

[@DannielleElliott]

OMG! Where have you been all my life? I am 52 and I KNOW I am a high value female. But I haven't been vetting men correctly. Especially after the baggage of having my husband leave me for another woman 10 years ago. I am watching all your videos and learning a lot. I KNOW my Mr. Right is out there. Your videos are inspirational and motivating. Thank you!

[@Karrington]

New subscriber!! I have been binge-watching your videos and want to say THANK YOU! You are reminding us black women of our worth and teaching us to never settle and not apologize for the type of lives we want

[@kdooley41]

Lord if I could like this video a thousand times I would.. The one thing I do is beat myself up over things I wish I knew in the past that I know now.. Definitely need to work on that one.. But everything else I been started working on.. 2020 is about me, financially and spiritually.. Happy New year ladies, may it bring you all the love and success your hearts can hold!!

[@BillionaireMystic528hz]

Wow, my favorite take away was stop expecting your friends to be happy for your glow up. wow, stop worrying and even caring about what other Women and people think about me. Wow, that shifted my entire life and consciousness this Sunday

[@merongirma33]

Dman I did not know this channel existed 😳! Am gone start my journey today! Thank you ur videos literally opened up my eyes.

[@septemberrosebeauty]

It’s really sad how our mothers and grandmothers were programmed my mother just said to my little daughter as a joke to hurry up, grow up and work and I said get a man a man is a provider who should give you things don’t put that on my daughter, and she got so upset it triggered something in her she even threatened me to never say it again! Like black woman have been thru it and it saddens me and I’m just thankful for this community is here for us to discuss this very real issue! If it wasn’t for this channel I wouldn’t be aware of this and would have went along with the same program! But with these videos relationships have made more sense and become easier!

[@selaelovalencia8557]

2019 has been a year of self discovery and self awareness for me and this channel has helped in elevating myself to the next level 😊 I cannot wait for 2020 and all that it has to offer 😁 All the way from South Africa I say thank you for the wisdom Chloe and keep up the good work ❤️

[@Jaythecook]

All the best gorgeous.....

[@rapetswadipuo]

Hey mkhaya 😍

[@dimple4300]

I have to learn how to say NO. I also have to find forgiveness in my heart for myself. I DIDN'T KNOW, no one taught me.

[@asiarn4272]

Chloe I absolutely love your channel a lot of women need to hear this!!! It’s just disgraceful to see how woman can slide in and out men DMs and even approach them in public. I thank God I never had that thirsty spirit on me.

[@figs0775]

Wow!!! Amazing video thank you

[@ShopGurl96]

Also please STOP calling traditional feminine women who actually want husbands and NOT baby daddies “pick mes.” Y’all got the ish twisted. Y’all are so used to being pick-mes for simps, betas, & dusties, that when a woman talks about doing wife things for a husband, it confuses you. Just stop it.

[@Razzledazzle111]

Love these Level Up videos! They literally brought me to the light and I broke up with my dusty a month ago. He was already starting to resent me after all of the money I spent taking care of him.

[@arizonaskye3917]

"Men are not equal to us and we are not equal to them!" Bravo! I have forever wondered if anyone else knew this to be fact. Thank you! We can do things they can't and they can do things we can't! So what?! I like it that way! We both have strengths and weaknesses and just bc we don't have a particular strength does not mean it is a weakness per se. It just means it is what it is and you are who you are. Be you. Women, be your feminine creature you were created to be and quit trying to compete with your man or men in general. And men, if you're reading, plain and simple, your woman ain't your mama! Just my 2cents, thank you.