Life with Borderline Personality Disorder (Short Film) | BBC Stories

[@stefcoleman16]

“Don’t believe it, you are lovable!” - means so much to me. I’m undiagnosed BPD, my therapist is calling it “BPD traits”, but I know I have BPD, so watching this and hearing your perspective makes me feel less alone. Thank you.

[@lil_timmy7443]

Don't ever make an armchair diagnosis, if your therapist says its not just believe them. Your therapist is the professional, you are not.

[@Captainpast6]

Go talk to a different therapist or a psychiatrist. Bpd is serious. traits or not if it's capable of killing u please please get serious help. I'm m so sorry this must have been so invalidating. The whole world can be invalidating, even the therapists sometimes can be. I was given 100s of diagnosis but bpd like ocd, ADHD, bipolar, ptsd, gad blah blah before finally having guts a psychiatrist for calling a spade a spade.

[@worthc.7535]

My therapist recently reported to me through another member of her office, that my diagnosis was changed from "Displays BPD traits, to BPD" on December 9, 2021. Therapist, Marie told me last meeting that we spend an entire session talking about BPD ( I had read "I hate you Don't Leave Me" twice, and was sure I had it) so she changed my diagnosis after that meeting. If you get a chance check out that book. I saw myself in almost every page!

[@Captainpast6]

@@worthc.7535 it's not that great IMO the title is itself stigmatazing . Good you should try and be compassionate to yourself and stay away from stigmatazing literature about your illness. Read Building a life worth living by Marsha Linehan, check out DBT skill book by Mathew McKay and read stuff by Rosie Cappuccino, Buddha and the borderline is also a good suggestion. Take care buddy. All love to you. You're precious and much more than this illness.

[@mandymoore5774]

Living w BPD myself I’d say stay away from social media as much as possible.

[@Captainpast6]

The most underrated thing. Stay off social media. JOMO.

[@ani-ma-tion5326]

YES! it added so much to my insecurities and also triggered countless episodes over basically perceived danger to my relationship

[@AndrewFosterSheff69]

Sounds to me like these people could benefit from similar treatments as for cptsd... 1. I am not my emotional flashbacks 2. I intend to be calm and present in the moment capable of expressing healthy love 3. I welcome all of my emotions and will not try to suppress them but will let them play out in a safe manner 4. I am engaged in putting myself first when needed 5. I am my own self

[@craigrobertson8364]

I believe my Granny had this type of condition, as kids it was scary as she would be angry,sad,happy in a short space of time and that order could be different on any given day,thanks English Rose!

[@Sameoldfitup]

“We're all sentenced to solitary confinement inside our own skins, for life.”― Tennessee Williams.

[@barrywhitesavedmylife7957]

Whilst I empathize enormously with anyone who suffers from this terrible affliction which causes enormous suffering, as someone who was dumped by someone who had this it is important for people to understand the devastating effect it has on people who are on the receiving end of it as well. I was/still am deeply in love with the person. It was absolutely devastating for me to lose the person I love the most in the world, to see her go back to a partner she doesn't even love but who she is with 'because of the kids', who makes her unhappy but who she is with out of fear and due to it being an easy option. It absolutely sucks, it does leave one traumatized as it has me. It has been well over 2 years and I still find it really difficult to deal with the after effects of this. Misery for everyone involved.

[@ThepPixel]

You only have to deal with that from ONE relationship. People with BPD deal with that trauma with EVERY relationship.

[@tifanny1939]

I get what you’re saying. Both ends of a relationship can be painful. Especially if you’re with someone who has borderline. But you have to remember, they are mentally ill. We can’t put the blame on them completely for any sort of turmoil you experienced from the relationship. A relationship takes two people. I have BPD and I’ve been struggling very hard. My boyfriend has been patient with me and he doesn’t blame me for any of this. He knows I’m sick and he tries as hard as he can to make sure I get the therapy/help I need. But I got lucky. With BPD it’s very hard not to attach to someone who provides a sense of security. Maybe she doesn’t love him but being with someone because of the kids is a valid reason in my opinion. I’d do the exact same thing. Facing the world with BPD is scary. I can’t imagine also being responsible for children while trying to overcome such an intense mental disorder. Especially with feelings being heightened, there would be the constant fear of not feeling good enough to be their mother. I’d want my kids to be with their father too. It’s not because it’s easier, it’s because she doesn’t have confidence in herself. Same with me. There’s a constant battle with identity, and that makes us not really believe in our capabilities sometimes. That’s why having their father around probably makes her feel better about the situation. Because then her kids will at least have both of their parents in times she may not be the mother she thinks they deserve. And it’s a constant thing! I go about my day paranoid, anxious, and convinced I’m not good enough. I think everyone hates me. Especially the people I love the most.

[@dalladi]

What do you mean? Mental illness effects everyone, that it proven. What isn't proven or found yet are ways to help and stop the stigma and stereotyping of people who are suffering from this painful disease; while the perception does seem to be changing slowly, it's so slowly as to be almost laughable because those who are given a diagnosis still often will die by suicide due to being misunderstood and treated like garbage by professionals and family and more. It hurts for everyone but until people suffering from the condition are treated with respect and not blamed for having a condition then how will things change? Seperating someone from their condition and learning how to help them and the self best is important because otherwise the pattern could possibly carry on indefinitely and end up with the person sick dying by suicide when it could be prevented as treatment (when found) is quite straightforward and recovery is possible. And while there's no 'cure' yet there are always advances that give hope for the future and therefore improved quality of life overall for many. These doctors who slap a label on someone then tell them they'll be medicated forever without providing an ounce of hope can be just as challenging as going about a diagnosis alone

[@keradasilva1259]

Unfortunate you forgot the psychotic part..push pull..narcotic .. I have it and we tend to be ugly if feeling victimized...I had it since childhood

[@musicguy20]

They always pick an artsy, indie, posh girl with lots of stuff from Urban Outfitter’s 🤔

[@everypostimakeisajoke5255]

let's make fun of someone's diagnosed mental illness by claiming they are trendy

[@musicguy20]

@@everypostimakeisajoke5255 I said nothing about her mental illness. I’m merely saying they always pick someone who has a lot of resources at hand instead of a person who is really struggling in life with mental illness. The beeb are selecting people who look good and have money for their company, basically a model. Instead of focusing about the subject that real people struggle with. It’s unrelatable when big media companies focus on this.

[@adeel-eh7xq]

To be honest, lots of people with BPD do try to be as stylish as possible to make up for their feelings of inadequacy. So they wouldn't really have to look far for the stylish trendy type. Plus, they have extreme emotions and creative impulses, which is why so many are creative and artsy. .

[@lisadolan689]

This is literally one of the most narcissistic comments I’ve ever read online. Well done! A new low. I bet your life is positively miserable because you have a serious chip on your shoulder. Go get some help little one

[@Tracks777]

amazing content

[@keradasilva1259]

I was beaten and verbally abused so I stuff and it is self distructive and outwardly distructive..it is linked to antisocial...medication does not help..you have to do all the heavy lifting

[@tchrmika8331]

I think our situation can hardly be understood ny people who grew up cared for, praised and affectionately loved at home😌 That is why my ex couldn't relate to how I felt.

[@pamponpan3376]

In my culture, kids have to take care of their parents since we owe our lives to them. We are forever in debt from birth. I plan to kill myself after they're gone. I hate my job but i have to do it to afford the money to take care of three people. People at the office are always nasty to me for no reason. And this job invades my weekend time too. I have to answer many questions even during my weekends. I have mental illness like this one I just know I always know this but again in my culture, if you go see doctor, it could be on your record and it will affect your work and chances of getting hired in the future if I lose this current job. It's a trap. I wish I live in your culture.

[@aliciamontero7061]

Nobody needs to know you go to a doctor. You can go to a doctor in another city that the one where you live.

[@christinemiller230]

Please dont kill yourself. Nothing stays the same. One day you will be happy. I dont know why I clicked on this video and then saw your comment ...read it and felt to reach out. I hope I have given you something. We are all hurting a d desperate at times... things can change. 🥰

[@mariahwilliams5333]

I'm sorry to hear, that's heartbreaking. How are you doing?

[@MLeibs]

Once they die, you can get a job that suits you better and take your life in a direction that pleases you instead of pleasing others. please don’t give up

[@tommyischonky6666]

that is called emotional incest- parents making their kids take care of their emotional and physical needs. I'd suggest you leave them behind and start your life over somewhere else and go no contact, that's what i'm planning to do anyway. You don't owe abusers a dime.

[@sandysandy967]

If any person have any mental or phychological problem.

[@mervesevinc2377]

I am a borderline

[@grandmastermario3695]

The people who have great childhoods so to speak who have bpd do have trauma but it's just blocked out don't remember or to afraid to tell or just are tricked into thinking they didn't go through anything vast majority of people who are born with with brain problems don't have bpd and many people have family members who have bpd and don't have mental disorders my family members have bipolar but no one in my family has bpd but I went through alot of abuse and abandonment and that's why I have bpd but not bipolar most people vast majority of people who have bpd have been through some sort of childhood adversity like bullying abuse neglect abandonment or parental loss or seperation not everyone who had trauma has bpd but I definitely believe everyone who has bpd has had atleast one adversity its mostly caused by trauma or trauma and genetics it's mostly a trauma disorder

[@MLeibs]

Why do people develop bpd? Is it bad parenting or traumatic events?

[@Alexis-jw7ot]

There is no one cause for any psychiatric disorder. It is often a combination of biological (e.g. genetics), social (environmental factors, social relations), and psychological factors (big life events)

[@MLeibs]

Thank you!

[@chinlane5511]

It’s more often than not caused as a result of extreme childhood trauma, neglect or abuse. As these events happen in childhood or adolescence when the child is still forming their personality, their emotional development and ability to form healthy attachments is disrupted which results in a personality disorder. Not all cases are caused by this however there is a strong link between them.

[@MLeibs]

Chin Lane Thank you so much!

[@alyssabrown6877]

M Leibs it can be both

[@lailajoyce5528]

who she lookin so happy when she saying ' yeah i have BPD

[@JogBird]

this is like a hostage ransom video

[@RobertHosein]

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[@BaffleMeThis]

Bet it's a Tumblr blog

[@Titbitist]

isn't social media a horrific place to hang out with bpd lol

[@tifanny1939]

No. Social media is a place where I don’t have to physically be in a room with someone. Being in contact with people is way worse.

[@imamuggle02]

What a borderline thing to say... typical.

[@karlfroman]

It's not suffering from...its a lack of control and complete disregard for others.

[@robertjazz3613]

That's ASPD educate yourself

[@DevonPixie1991]

Robert Jazz no BPD has similar traits. My ex was a borderline and it was toxic AF

[@xxx-su2ty]

People like you are heartless, you’re sat there judging people with mental health issues trigged by abuse.... Get off your high horse, honestly. It’s a mental disorder, what’s wrong with you? Sorry are you a psychologist with any understanding of the condition? No? Then please shut the fuck up.

[@karlfroman]

@@xxx-su2ty I have yet to finish my degree. Even my beginning studies was only due to suffering abuse by several types throughout my life. It was just an honest opinion from experience, and experience that I'm in no way alone in.

[@xxx-su2ty]

Karl Fröman well I have finished my education, and I can tell you your experience isn’t the only valid one. If you were able to think outside your own experience for a minute and have empathy for others you might realise that. Also if you truly believe that of people suffering with this condition, please acknowledge your bias and stay away from practicing in any capacity.