Lily Allen Extended Interview - Stalker's Death Threats

Lily Allen talks candidly about her seven years of being stalked and harassed.
Thanks to BBC Newsnight
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[@mikaviola2458]

The fact that she feel so bad for the guy that she actually started crying when she talked about his condition shows that She's a really good human.

[@Teah8cbdude]

@coward infinity gauntlet too

[@milouvandaam506]

coward and raise crime

[@dannydorko7075]

yet the whole james corden thing, if it is true, would prove otherwise

[@railgap]

@Crows - B4 - Hoes Oh right because age group has everything to do with being a scumbag. Thanks a lot. William Soper doesn't speak for others his age. How would you react if I addressed you as "girly"?? The top of your head would come off, and rightfully so! Don't do the same shit he's doing, ok? (Prejudice)

[@sarabesche]

Yes because that dudes family and the system’s inability to take his downward spiral seriously affected the safety of her kids. As moms we absolutely need to feel our kids are safe. Actually, if all the things we can’t control, the one thing a parent normally feels like we can do is keep our kids safe from harm. This man robbed her of that ability. But she also knows he can’t even help it. Which makes it MORE terrifying. Tormenting. Bc no one else will do anything for her that gets him to stop. The guy is schizophrenic. He can’t control his delusions and she knows this from her interactions with him. He is certain of his delusions. With a non-delusional stalker; you could have the possibility they would “get it” with logic and reasoning and stop their actions. Delusional stalkers can’t do that on their own. They need medication and therapy. She knows this and empathizes because of that. The entire thing is just sad and also endlessly terrifying for the target. She is speaking my life and does it better than I could ever articulate anything. ❤️

[@lilychristenson6827]

Lily Allen is honestly one of the most underrated women as a role model and just human person in general

[@lilychristenson6827]

my name ss ok thx for the insight

[@lluna1266]

There’s far trashier people in the world. I wouldn’t say she’s trash. I’m not particularly a fan but she’s not some vile, awful unethical person.

[@JulesPorta]

my name ss define ”trash”

[@1029blue]

@Tommy Wiseau Where are you getting this from?

[@EvelynL.1112]

Tommy Wiseau Can you tell me about the incident when Lily Allen let in refugees into her home but she said she was homeless because of them?

[@fraufreundt6849]

Yep. The mental health system has failed him and the police sure failed you. She's right and she is absolutely a lovely woman. So down earth and normal.

[@a.murphy1270]

Its quite ironic isnt it? Although she was unfairly and horrifically plagued by a mentally ill strangers problems, they were both failed by institutions we are taught to turn to in desperate times. When you are having bad thoughts, or can't cope with yourself, or your life is too overwhelming and you want to hurt yourself and others, you're taught from childhood to talk to a professional or someone you trust who can get you professional help. On the other side of this, we are taught from day 1 (in American schools anyways) to turn to the police in any moment of danger or in most moments when youre in need of certain type's of assistance. Fuck, prior to all the police shootings our parents were taught to call the police so they can SAFELY transport a mentally ill person whos having a fit to a "safe" mental institution!! Instead, here they show up and shoot some poor families schizo-affective child in front of them. Almost as if punishment for their poor mother calling in a desperate attempt to get her baby some help, for making them look at such an "atrocity". Makes me sick for the poor mem/women like Lily who have to endure the secondary negative affects of failed mental health systems. If all people plagued by mental illness didn't get help, the world would be an even scarier place than it already is.

[@Teah8cbdude]

She's smart too. The fact she cares about younglings trying to get talent out there, hatered because the Hollywood system type of thing... She can laugh over things and I admire that.

[@missmoth2588]

The mental health system is beyond broken. And it is only getting worse with the isolation people are going throw with covid.

[@rylantranter3449]

the best way to put it without sounding like your taking the stalkers side

[@bloodyhetza]

Damn, I feel like she needed a hug during the whole interview

[@ifitistobeitisuptome]

Thats strange, because I feel the need to kick the shit out of her during the whole interview!!!

[@MorikoMoonlight]

And why would you say something like that? What is wrong with you?

[@Andromedacelestia21]

bloodyhetza lol I was thinking the same thing. I can't imagine how hard it was to come forward about it. poor girl, all that hell could have been avoided.

[@bakedpatticakes9932]

Liber 8 You sound like her stalker.

[@theharbingerofconflation]

ah jeez, give the girl some space, sure she needs to be hugged by you

[@hannahtaybooks]

This is scary. The police are so useless in stalking cases!

[@curiousalien9464]

They're useless most of time sadly.

[@eddyspagetti9899]

there really needs to be a concerted effort in the west (US, U.K. etc) to legislate laws that protect victims and prosecute offenders in this new age of 'easy access' via interwebz..

[@lillypopanimations6146]

+Eddy Spagetti IKR

[@MrMotherfuck123]

Yes, Ma´am.

[@iworshipgaysandsatan6822]

Yeah it's weird think really think about it, "I wrote the fear" meaning like he's the reason for her feeling this internalised fear for this threat of him, and he's the creator of this "fear". Also " where's my money" meaning he wants the recognition and compensation for his work and that he was angry about it, foreshadowing his aggressive tendencies. Creepy.

[@lex3913]

It is disgusting how much she had to practically harass the police just for them to do their damn job! It's like they didn't care AT ALL if something happened to her or the children living in her house with her! He literally broke into her room and told police he was going to stab her to death, but STILL they didn't put him on trial right there?! How in the fuck does this shit happen? I'm disgusted. Absolutely disgusted. You are a strong, brave woman Lily for hanging in there through all that hell.

[@notsurewhattoputhereyet7052]

100%

[@workhot]

@@notsurewhattoputhereyet7052 90% don't forget that most police are people, too, and are afraid of hurting the victim by inciting the abuser to lash out by believing and responding appropriately! imhe (in my humble experience)

[@forestnymphconfessions3596]

Unfortunately their hands are a bit tied until an actual crime is committed and there is evidence. A report means very little in court.

[@starrchild254]

The police don't put people on trial. They make a report to the pf who then decides if there's enough evidence to justify the expense of a trial. Everything comes down to money and trials are expensive. 90% of criminals have thier legal defense paid for by legal aid

[@tubester4567]

Not to mention theres a whole anti-police and anti-punishment mentality in society these days, The cops are reluctant to charge people who are obviously mentally ill. The charges are not likely to succeed in court and the mentally ill person will usually be let off anyway.

[@montpelier42d]

The stalkiing of Lily is so outrageous. I have often seen Lily in Camden Town and my two infant daughters want to approach her to ask for an autograph. I tell them that Lily on stage and Lily going about her personal life are two entirely different things. Don't let them grind you down, Lily.

[@animalfinatic9366]

montpelier42d Bless you soul.

[@liviuca]

thats not what infant means

[@Emiliapocalypse]

That’s so lovely and respectful :)

[@Sssssssslf]

I think you're confused what the word 'infant' means 😂

[@severelygrandcreation4295]

Sphinx Money a very young child is an infant. Very young children can speak.

[@carpy1970]

She's adorable, and you can see the pain in her eyes, but the only time she breaks down is when she talks about the stalker. She must be an amazing person to be so forgiving and sympathetic towards him.

[@ultraboombean]

She knows he is mentally messed up.

[@carpy1970]

Agreed, but most people, even knowing that would still be quite negative towards them. She always comes across as so open, honest and caring in my opinion. I get the impressions that she cares more about the pain of her stalker than the pain it's caused herself.

[@lovearttherapyalways]

Just like most empaths.. we sympathize and excuse their toxicity too much.. leaving us so vulnerable abd sadly to futther abuse!

[@vickdelaormk]

Opoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo pop

[@Exsugarbabe1]

What an intelligent, insightful, sensitive lady, she has so much sympathy and understanding for her stalker who wreaked a good chunk of her life.

[@bluemakem459]

Ruth Barr INTELLIGENT ARE YOU FUCKIN DAYGLOW..... SHE WAS STALKED FOR 7 YRS AND STILL WANTS THEM HERE...... GOOD LORD!!!!!!!

[@oliverlovespop8742]

Who do you mean with "them"? She was stalked by a man named Alex Gray, from Perth in Tayside. Do you refer to people from Scotland?

[@carpy1970]

IF I HAVE TO REVERT TO CAPLOCK TO TRY AND GET PEOPLE TO LISTEN THEN IT'S COS I'M NOT INTELLIGENT ENOUGH TO DO IT WITH THE WORDS

[@CFCMICKTH33BHOYCFC]

To all you clowns who are saying the Scottish thing, the person said “them” because that’s how you refer to someone in 3rd person ya bunch of grapes. Suck a small one

[@jonathancarswell7209]

GARY PATTINSON no it's because she knows he is mentally ill and that he wasn't able to control himself

[@beth-bi9yv]

So scary!! Stalking laws are really horrible. It's horrifying that another person can inflict so much fear and unwanted attention on another with little recourse.

[@trix4565]

I feel like the police is failing women. Stalking cases fail, rape cases fail, cases of violence against women fail. These people DID NOT BELIEVE her that she did not know her stalker, they probably thought she didn't want to tell her partner about this weird guy she once dated. Aka just a crazy woman.

[@brandyb2931]

Trix Women are not the only people who are affected by stalkers. This chick broke into Brad Pitts home once and actually put his clothes on and climbed into his bed waiting for him. Another guy was sentenced to prison for stalking and trying to stab Ryan Seacrest. Unfortunatly as a person who is in the spotlight lots of crazies come out and people become obsessed. The thing with people like her is they have security to protect them and unfortunately there are millions of men and women who are not famous and do not have security that are stalked and they have nobody to protect them because as you can see in her case, the police are useless until they actually do something.

[@katherinefotopoulos9244]

People don't want to believe something scary like a random creep that could stalk anyone. I would much rather believe Lily Allen is a liar. An easy lie or harsh truth?

[@ReptilianTeaDrinker]

Men get stalked and raped too and no one ever even talks about that.

[@jae7798]

not only women

[@lupuslongevitus]

While it's absolutely true that men are stalked too and I'm in full sympathy of that, it's incredibly depressing that 75% of the responses to a comment about women suffering is "yeah but what about men!".

[@natalie1111111able]

She's a very bright, articulate and strong person.

[@missthelife]

How brave of her to talk about this. This story is utterly terrifying.

[@Azariachan]

"A really creepy guy is stalking me. He stole my personal mail, knows where I live and sends me messages all the time." "Nothing we can do lol. Just call us when he tries to kill you or something." The law protects the creeps rather than their victims.

[@Roccarok]

I never knew any of this, I feel sorry for her. Stay strong lily

[@brendawatt8157]

This is my first time listening to Lily Allen speaking and I did not realise how articulate and intelligent she was what a beautiful woman she is bless her soul no one deserves this

[@Broke_M007]

Very much appreciate the BBC for sharing this story, Lily Allen has had such a tough road. It's refreshing to see her still very strong and passionate about sharing this HUGE concern. I took it as victim blaming and inappropriate. I hope changes can be made in this dismissive system.

[@Yt2doubleo7]

Dulcina Hurtado such a tough road. Born in to wealth and privilege, total sense of entitlement & her career handed to her on a silver platter. She's had it fckin easy compared to most people.

[@augustmoonlight]

Yt2doubleo7 She has a song called "Silver Spoon" which is like an ode to comments like yours.

[@Retromanl]

Yt2doubleo7 She earned her fame and has shown no signs of entitlement. Everyone goes through things in life, but not many of us can say someone with a mental illness wanted to murder us around our children. Your comment reflects only yourself and your own mind, not the state of Lily Allen's. In fact your comment comes across as nothing but a childish response to someone with more money and notoriety than you, an act of jealousy. Being famous isn't such a paradise that you have no right to feel or go through tragedy. In reality a lot of famous people kill themselves, whether intentionally or through drug abuse and alcoholism...or fall victim to depression. It doesn't necessarily give you a happier life than a poor man. Even if it did, who are you to say another human being should keep quiet about their stalker and accept the end of their own life...just because they spent some time in the public eye? What a terrible take on the world to have.

[@Yt2doubleo7]

Retromanl Earned her fame LOOL Get in the real world

[@ReptilianTeaDrinker]

Yt2doubleo7 Yes, talk shit about every single rich person, just because you're a bitter little cave dweller...

[@taililing1907]

I'm sorry but the interviewer strikes me a victim blaming. Her questions are very pointed and have an accusatory tone to them. Lily meets them with grace and intelligence every time

[@heykittygurl9416]

100%!

[@kittencatlover156]

I didn't notice that but I did feel like she was trying to blame the police a lot. But to be fair it might have been warranted blame..

[@darkcognitive]

Nah, She’s asking probing questions to give Lily the chance to answer fully, and address what was being written in the press about her at that time.

[@pieandpep9136]

I went through the hell of having a stalker and the Police basically told me that they needed to harm me before they could do anything. I shifted houses and into another suburb on the other side of the city, and also got an order of protection. Thankfully I had to leave the country a few months later and had no hassles after that. I feared for my life and felt powerless to do anything.

[@alicevanderlund3126]

Girl Zilla -- I'm so sorry this happened to you, and that the police couldn't/wouldn't do anything for you. :( Laws for harassment and the like are so lacking, it's sad and scary for the victims. Glad you safely made it out.

[@europianbob]

Kella Nobi. Sorry that happened to you. But right now.. I bet he has another "target" and is probably making another woman's or man's life a living hell. I don't blame you for probably thinking better them and me. And it's understandable. You just get so tired with the bullshit! Keep your head up, love!

[@texuztweety]

Sounds 100% typical

[@Teah8cbdude]

That sucks. I don't know why people are hating on the interviewer having no empathy, but dude. If a random dude showed up in my house and if I had kids, I won't hesitate to defend.

[@psycherevivedby]

it concerns me her friend didn't just believe lily and take her word that she was in danger and didn't know who this guy was. even if he was convincing, I feel I would and you should absolutely know when you look in your friends eyes whether they're scared etc

[@notsurewhattoputhereyet7052]

Right? like some stranger bursts in the house and starts yelling like a maniac and they believe the maniac over the friend letting them sleep in their house...

[@BendyBread]

Yeah wtf kinda friend is that?

[@sydandtaytum]

i thought the same thing, but then again maybe it is a newer friend or a friend of a friend--- in which case, they would not know all the people in your life

[@DanRaidersWarriorsSharksGiants]

Its not that hard to believe he clearly wasnt that threatening at the time and if he sounded intelligent in his rant to her her friend could think it was legit. I would think that people as famous as her have a double life anyway. Like Bill Cosby or Kevin Spacey and who knows how many more. Her male friend was probably her lover? which is why the police could think the stalker was some guy she knew and she was trying to hide from the media and her husband/family? There isnt enough information.

[@neen9438]

Happens to often.

[@TheLotusManFILMs.]

You can never be too careful, the guitarist from a number 1 selling heavy metal band in America called Pantera was shot dead onstage in 2004 by a schizophrenic who believed he had written their songs.

[@amberlynn8665]

Bill Hicks. Heartbreaking still

[@europianbob]

Bill Hicks. My ex boyfriend went to that concert. He says it was horrifying. He says he will never be the same being drenched in dimes blood. =/ Sorry for being so crude.

[@sabrinasmith2766]

Bill Hicks wow

[@texuztweety]

Great reminder, thank you!

[@redfield1007]

Yeah I remember that. Bloody mental that.

[@jacobplaylists]

She is incredibly vulnerable in this interview, and I feel so much for her. You can tell she's a very intrinsically intelligent person.

[@Danniidude]

Jacob Flores absolutely. You can tell that from the honesty and the cleverness of her lyrics which are exceptional.

[@crissy4445]

Jacob Flores Interesting how a person with so much composure and natural intellect can write such utter shite and think such half assed lyrics are publishable

[@topanga26]

Lily is a class act. This must have been extremely difficult for her. I can't help but think, as I've seen her shows several times, that he was in the back of her mind the whole time as she was doing what she does best. What unimaginable strength. I've loved Lily with all my heart since 2006 when I saw her on Conan singing "Smile". You are my hero Lily, your music and lyrics have always been on track with my life. I know your strength will be with other women in similar horrifying situations. Stay true.

[@Sssssssslf]

Pure cringe!

[@pingbounce2851]

She’s a hero. Not just a great musician and a babe, she’s a great human being too.

[@jessicadegenaro90]

Been a huge fan of Lily's since MySpace days, and I can tell you that this absolutely breaks my heart. So very happy she and her family are all safe

[@Fenizrael]

This is heartbreaking. Her response is so compassionate for this man, even though he caused so much anxiety for her. It's so good to see she's called out the police on their poor response to everything.

[@anonymousandcool]

Not to detract from the real horror, but her story-telling skills, accent and delivery make this better than an audio book.. I've re-listened several times on stormy nights lol

[@ginasteliana5676]

Not sure how I stumbled across this but I'm kind of sad and glad I have. Such a powerful interview and the empathy pouring out of you Lilly is very inspiring and a real credit to you. It says a lot about who you are as person. To send out empathy when you have suffered so much is very hard thing to be able to do. I wish you so much comfort, healing and happiness. you absolutely deserve it.

[@cinnastyle3260]

She never cries or gets choked up for herself, speaking on her fears and her frustration in this situation, but her voice breaks with sympathy and sadness for the state of Alex's mental health and the systems that have failed him. What an unbelievably strong and empathetic person.

[@1fluffyrazor]

I believe she's crying because of guilt, i watched the whole interview she probably knows him and has hurt him in some way to make him act so vengeful.. I mean really why else would he do it. I'm excellent at body language.. she knew him. I hope this 'alex' is getting the help he needs Speaking from personal family experience, mental illness is torture

[@blackswan4486]

@@1fluffyrazor what proof do you have though, other than facial expression?

[@katiekawaii]

Wow, what an incredible example of self-advocacy. Props to Lily Allen for having the courage and generosity to share what must be so difficult to talk about.

[@huaniya]

So horrible. But Im glad she is one of the people who think that mentally ill people should get treatment for that and not just prison time (I have heard some people expressing this in my country)

[@Teah8cbdude]

Yeah but we don't know certain people illness. Especially violent or threatening acts. The guy may have mental issues, but we don't know what really causes a person's desire to stalk and kill. It's easy to say someone is mentally ill, but sometimes there's no escape and if you're scared, you'd probably call some authority.

[@lucylu2927]

​@thcbdude fully. Don't get me wrong of course those who are mentally ill need help and treatment but I'm sorry veing mentally ill DOES NOT make you stalk, kill rape ot murder. Often perps are offered more support than victims plus victims are strongly encouraged to forgive and empathise.

[@melhay9969]

Read her autobiography. She certainly isn’t the privileged brat people think she is/was. Defo worth a read. She’s actually very honest and clearly intelligent and was let down a lot, especially by her father!

[@a.reuben1347]

What a lovely person she is. Celebrities like this are great role models. The way the police responded is scandalous. I hope that the high profile nature of her case will help others in the future.

[@zcdarktide]

The police basically gaslighted her. So strange. Like why??

[@missmoth2588]

The police need to take these things more seriously. When I had a stalker it took me months to get them to take it seriously. It was until I could prove he was watching me somehow and knew my every move and would send nasty comments about a massage or text I had only just reserved that they checked my laptop and phone and started a full investigation

[@alexshort681]

This is interesting, cos no one has heard of this incident, and it proves some kind of corruption in the UK police system that really needs fixing.

[@donaldderp1602]

+Alex Short It will never big fixed unless there's a revolution, the population are just as much to blame.

[@hippocritic]

It doesn't prove corruption. What it does prove is massive underfunding in the health system, the police and prosecution services.

[@AlThurayya7]

This doesn't necessarily "prove" corruption but it's definitely there.. And like someone commented above somewhere, the fact that a teen seling weed can get locked up so quickly but it took so long to act on this is just ridiculous man.

[@texuztweety]

This is happeninf to literally millions, no make that billions of people worldwide, mostly women.

[@damiendalgaard5524]

I really think it is important that Lily went public with this story, because it shows how wrong the system can treat people, or victims for that matter. Its sad and scary that at this time, with all the knowledge that we have and the situations we 've been confronted with in this world, the police or the system still does not feel the need to take every case as serious as the other, because obviously, as we saw in this case, there's always more to it, than what meets the eye. I hope Lily is well now and that she can feel save again, not just for her sake, but for the sake of her children. I wish you all the best my dear and i hope you wont let this incident stop you from being the gorgeous and great person that you are!

[@pkmichael85]

lily you did great .very brave .

[@GlennB9876]

I love her!! So Strong and genuine.

[@Sarah-ft8jr]

Lol

[@redfield1007]

Only if your a liberal buffoon like she is. Us normal folk that don't tug ourselves off to her album cases see who she is. An incredibly privilege lady pretending to be working class that kicks off when things don't go her way. Yes she shouldn't have been stalked but loads of us have been. We just don't end up on here turning it into a publicity stunt : /

[@nellgodwin8658]

Redfield 100% how did she turn it into a publicity stunt?

[@bwmanhath3770]

@@redfield1007 Welp, I entirely disagree but 🤷

[@Robadine-he7cp]

@@redfield1007 the first line said it all about you. Can't lok beyond a person's political views. Pathetic. And how do you think police or laws will ever change if victims don't speak out? You're a moron.

[@eleanorcm7033]

Poor Lily :( well done for speaking out about this.

[@bajaleatupedo]

The interviewer carried such a judgemental tone to her voice by asking Lily about why she didn't do this and that, etc. Total lack of empathy.

[@bakedpatticakes9932]

Jessica Ramirez I disagree. I think that the reporter was setting the tone for how the police handled the whole thing almost in a mocking way, and Lily responded honestly about how it made her feel. I think that she was drawing out Lily's emotions since some of the incidents had happened so long ago.

[@Teah8cbdude]

@bisquitnspanky not even just that, there's a lot of terrifying shit lately, and people gotta stand ground... Stalker mentally ill or not, how can he get help? They usually don't let any threatening violent people in mental institutions. An mental institution, or asylum for the violent type is also basically like prison anyways.

[@Chelsss703]

Anyone here from Lily's book? Such a strong and inspiring woman.

[@MrLisbonlions1967]

Yes my 19 year old daughter gave it to me . What an insight into the challenges that face all young woman to a greater or lesser degree . All men should read

[@ziggylavigne]

The sympathy she has for him is so touching :(

[@julietcappetta3196]

Lily, what an amazing person you are. I'm in tears. Shame on the UK health system, shame on how the police and CPS handled this (I can only imagine how sick you must have felt on receiving the letter "showing concern" after your interview with The Observer). Thank God you and your family came out of this unharmed... I hope you are ok now, and that things have been made easier as a result for people who are being stalked. Sadly, I fear the help isn't there for those who really need psychiatric help thanks to even more financial blows to an NHS already on its knees.

[@mynamestumbleine]

More money for NHS ? If you want to know what psychiatry is like you should watch again "One Flew over a cuckoo's Nest". I'm not even joking. They killed my girlfriend with so-called "new generation" anti-psychotics. In plain English these drugs are just numbing the person, turning them into vegetables. Girlfriend killed herself after psychiatric "care" in hospital in France. Psychotics can be very scary sometimes but we should NOT trust science to heal them. I also worked with disturbed children and as lame as it sounds, they need love, not drugs. It's very hard though to know what to do as a society, more and more individualistic.

[@upendasana7857]

@@mynamestumbleine I don't think the commenter was advocating simply "more drugs"or containment without care or therapy and proper support.I think what they were sayong is that proper psychiatric support that actually helps people and deals with the issues are rarely available . Yes I agree that One flew over the Cuckoos nest is a closer to accurate representation of what the mental health system is like and I also agree that community and wrap around holistic services are what people often need and yes sometimes containment via meds and being in a contained space if a ongping risk or danger. There is not enough money out into mental health care but also a lack of adequate care that doesn't involved just drugs.

[@tex2163]

I'm not a fan of this person's music but WOW! what an intelligent, compassionate and strong person she is.

[@barrycollins795]

That’s because you are easily manipulated

[@tex2163]

@@barrycollins795 LOL!

[@Robadine-he7cp]

@@barrycollins795 how are they being manipulated?

[@barrycollins795]

@@Robadine-he7cp you what ?

[@Robadine-he7cp]

@@barrycollins795 you said Tex2 was being manipulated by Lily. How?

[@s0ph1e12]

the amount of times the police failed her, and continues to fail many other women struggling with stalker cases, is vile. i hope they soon improve with how they approach this type of stuff because it could put someone in serious danger.

[@TheIndependentLens]

And men, Boo . . . I'm tired of the sexism coming from the left who think it is perfectly okay to ignore dangers that men are in. Gross.

[@Robadine-he7cp]

@@TheIndependentLens they literally don't. Jesus blame the big bad left for everything. What is this to do with left or right? Berk.

[@deeyablo]

Lily Allen handled this situation incredibly well. Bravo on being compassionate towards the stalker.

[@francescarb]

I've read her autobiography 'My Thoughts Exactly'. She is an amazing strong woman who's been through a lot.

[@TheGem84]

Just stumbled across this. I can’t believe how scary the situation was and how little the Police did. She spoke so well and seems so intelligent and genuine. She tried so hard not to cry, I couldn’t help but cry when she did. Well Done for staying strong Lilly x

[@doradebosco]

I live in NZ and was stalked by a female who did crazy things including trying to pick my child up from school! The Police were indifferent and they treated me as if I was wasting their time. The whole experience was a living nightmare. People like that should be sectioned.

[@jack-zu9dg]

She is one of the best celebs out there! Brave to even share this. Love her

[@topanga26]

Can't help but wonder if "Alex" in the intro to "URL Badman" is in reference to him...

[@BlamesCoco]

Definitely! It all makes sense now! What a genius. She was trying to tell us about this for a long time now, and we took for granted it was a random name...

[@Emiliapocalypse]

Referencing him in a song would be a dangerous decision to make, I doubt she’d do that. If a schizophrenic already thinks he wrote your songs, leaving clues in a song like that might push him to the mental tipping point.

[@blueberry7899]

Shit - thats a parr if it is!

[@ljoxleyofficial8119]

OH MY GOD. it is

[@user-rp3kn4pr5j]

Oh my god that would make sense

[@doctorfunkshock]

Lily obviously has a very compassionate nature as evidenced by her involvement in highlighting the problems for immigrants in Calais - but then she gets lambasted by the British Press for having an opinion, for having money - usual stuff, put it away, champagne socialist, keep doing the songs, who does she think she is, ad infinitum. Sometimes you have to peel away the layers of disinformation and see someone for the heart they have.

[@misslovejoy1665]

God, she's such a great person. She's been through so much in life and still sees the good in people, feels sorry for him (which is reasonable, he's ill but I think most people could just feel anger). Lily, I've always loved your work and I wish you the best! Xxx

[@kulaniwarner2424]

I had no idea who Lily Allen was let alone a professional singer. Looked up a random song and she's fantastic. Thanks for sharing your story. The more we educate the public about stalking the more likely it is to change.

[@Yourismouter]

Wow Lily Allen has really had it rough, I just want to hug her and tell her its ok. from losing a child to stillbirth, to this stalking, to media harassment and divorce, its no wonder her most recent album was quite somber. may she come out full swinging and I love her I mean bloody hell she has compassion for the person who stalked her recognizing he's ill and isn't his fault, and wants him to be taken care of since as she mentioned the system failed him and her. she's my new heroine and my respect for her has grown.

[@sassafrasselpumkinel7706]

Amazing that she can have such empathy and care for someone that put her through this- she genuinely wants him to get the help he needs for his condition.

[@CandyKoRn]

She's right though, he can't help it - schizophrenia is a terrible thing to leave untreated. I'm glad she came forward with this as it highlights a lot of issues in our society with regards to not taking stalking seriously but also a severe lack of support for the mentally ill; a lot of whom end up in prison as criminals and their conditions just get worse. Those people end up released back into society worse off than when they went in - it's a vicious cycle and solves nothing.

[@RiaDavies]

Sending my love, support & understanding Lilly x I wish you a speedy recovery from this awful crime. X

[@laughingabovethe49thparall3]

Stalking is a notoriously hard thing to convict someone for. They're also severely lacking information about what the hell to do. Saying that this was hugely bungled. Also you must tell others about stalking and any possible dangers.Its the reason women disappear into thin air abducted by men they don't know about. Thankyou for shining a light where it needs to be. Thankyou for looking into this legally and this will actually encourage women to come forward, I agree with the statement the email is victim shaming. When you look at the science of stalking the little we know. You will find it's extremely dangerous. Confusing for the victim, a actual horror story plot in real life and to be taken extremely seriously. Also everything needs to be documented to the max. Both you and the police should have copies of documents until the matter is completely resolved. And it will never be resolved with just restraining orders.

[@StevenForester]

I've had a few run ins with the cops (in the UK. I have mixed feelings. Some cops are just awful here. She is very courageous I think. This horrible experience might have broken someone else.

[@Light-jc3fj]

This has been so healing for me to listen to. This intelligent, rational woman has been traumatized and invalidated. When no one really cares or they judge you (including the police), it is extremely isolating and shame inducing. Thanks for sharing LA, sending healing prayers.

[@lisabracken5074]

She cried for him not for herself. What a beautiful heart this woman has.

[@lelekv4042]

What a lady, wow and you know all of this was difficult to speak about but the first time she breaks down is when she is feeling empathy for her stalker.

[@standoughope]

Her bluish/greenish/purple hint hair dye really makes her eye color pop! Scary hearing about stalkers like this, truly terrifying. The police should be a bit, dare I say, more proactive in these cases for any man or woman let alone a celebrity too.

[@dumbasses_R_us]

She was only 24 when this started. Poor kid

[@izzythompson5596]

She's so down to earth and genuine, bless.

[@MsBAustralia]

She is so lovely and so empathetic towards her stalker. What a beautiful, strong woman that she is.

[@emsiewemsieful]

So sorry to hear what happened to Lily Allen. This is what PTSD is like, fear, isolation and lack of trust. I'm really impressed with how Lily has handled this and the grace she has about the person who stalked her. I hope she recovers her wellbeing and freedom. And I hope the police change their approach to crimes like this. It is not ok for people to be harassed and intimidated. It's not something women should have to put up with either.

[@caryulmer7063]

This poor woman has symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder from her ordeal. Anything about the lack of response from the police could likely be a trigger for her (as evidenced in her crying at the particular time she broke down in the interview). The PTSD is caused by her life being threatened & the helplessness she was left with because she ultimately didn't feel she could trust the very people who should keep her safe to do the right thing. Sadly this trauma could remain with her for life. Had the police done more to make her feel safe this may not have happened to her.

[@dreamlessdemand]

SPOT ON.

[@lisamarie4048]

Oh, poor Lily. What a sweetheart to be concerned about him.. I cant believe the police destroyed the letters, makes no sense at all... have things got that bad, does it have something to do with the cuts to the police force..?She is right to speak out about it, anyone being harassed or stalked should always tell family and friends as well as the police and not feel like they're being hysterical.. its easy to feel scared to talk about it, as so many don't take it seriously but its so important to speak out so you don't feel isolated, so you aren't isolated ;(I hope some good can come of this in improved mental health care and the police taking these cases a lot more seriously

[@lisamarie4048]

definitely, Scotland are better off without us

[@CandyKoRn]

It's not to do with cuts - it's always been like this. It's a social issue not political/economic.

[@_letstartariot]

She showed a lot of emotional strength + intelligence during this interview. I feel her intense empathy towards the perpetrator. People who have struggled with mental health and have lost control of their lives know how terrifying it is. The perpetrator was failed for decades. This is the result of multiple systemic failures. Lily is a victim. But the perpetrator is a victim of something else. Schizophrenia ruins lives. And the sufferer has zero guilt in what happens. They cannot control their actions. Logic is totally absent.

[@melliwika4166]

the interviewer is terrible. giving YES/NO questions and just relying on Lily being a talkative person.

[@Gal2100]

I absolutely love Lily Allen, she's so nice

[@philtaylor6275]

SO SAD THAT LILY HAD TO GO THROUGH THIS. SHE DESERVED BETTER FROM THE SYSTEM.

[@isaac-cd1ot]

She's an amazing person. Honestly in love with Lily Allen haha. She's just everything you could want in a person. Kind, pretty, sympathetic, strong, caring, talented and so open. Not to mention her music is amazing. Feel so bad for her, glad he's in jail, must have been petrifying for her poor soul. Stay strong and keep up the great music!

[@ummesalmatahir6745]

Besides what you think of her, stalker cases are almost never solved and it forces a life of fear and worry, it's terrifying.

[@wahidkhaliq4776]

I went through 7 months of being stalked as a man asian and gay I was made to feel guilty by the police for what was happening to me

[@chrisevans3618]

To be able to go through all this and still wish this man a happy life is one of the most inspiring things I think I've ever heard !! All the love x

[@Scorchy666]

I love her. Never knew this happened. It didn't get any press in the U.S. I hope she's doing better.

[@sunnyvilla9]

It is like the interviewer is kinda testing her and she kept pressing her with whys and buts. I felt a lot of tension. Maybe she should have been a little emphatic? I mean Lilly is the victim.

[@michaelgjoyce]

sunnyvilla9 it’s a fine line. You are left in no doubt this is Lily’s story, and not one based on the views of the interviewer also. It’s brutal and hard to watch, but so honest and does so much to highlight how damaging an inadequate response from the police is to someone being threatened. We owe Lily a lot for being so open.

[@SafeTripHome33]

the interviewer sounds like they're interrogating a serial killer

[@bwmanhath3770]

Yeah it sounds like more of an interrogation, instead of an interview

[@specialk6984]

I know what you mean but I think Lily would have said something if it wasn't right for her. It might have been grittier than could have been but I think it helped get detail to show how serious this was for Lily and could be for other women with no police help.

[@specialk6984]

@Michael Joyce agree

[@thomasmcluckie2014]

wow what a compassionate young women am wow

[@susangeorge8551]

Lilly is a strong woman and someone to be admired. I think the way she is so compassionate about the man responsible for stalking her, honestly made me cry. She is a remarkable woman.

[@lildramatic4760]

holy shit i think i was at that show. i saw her in london in 2009...

[@nerdchic3897]

Totally unrelated but her hair is on fleek though...

[@Daracdor]

God bless you Lily

[@matthewkingston2110]

I have the UTMOST respect for her strength and empathy for someone who basically mentally tortured her

[@jini08taeki]

This video is deep.. I have done my fair share of stalking women for being an incompetent suitor. Stalking harms your mind and leads to all kinds of illness and troubles with you. Listening to this woman's story I really feel ashamed of myself for making other women feel uncomfortable and unsafe but I never went far as to plotting on women. My story was about myself not accepting rejection from the friendships with these women I stalked and bothered. I havent got therapy for this but I have been keeping my mind busy and focusing on my own image and my own personality. To all the women I have stalked about only 3 in my life, I hope you would forgive me for my heinous acts and for my insecurities for not accepting "no" for an answer. The current situation with a woman named Monica, I am sorry for slandering your name at our job. I don't deserve forgiveness from Monica. She was a sweetheart and very kind. She blocked me and I couldn't help control my anger and resentment towards her for doing that to me. I'm a laughing stock of my job, and I'm just gonna have to say it is what it is and work harder on myself and let go of Monica. I hope anyone whose a stalker right now and doing harm to anyone, take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror. What would happen if your family or friends got stalked. Please get all the help professionally for yourself and workout, be stronger, enjoy the things in life, don't let your emotions and fantasies take over your life. I learned the hard way after Monica told the manager on me at my job. I'm gonna focus on myself and better myself for my life and my family, I hope you as a stalker would do that for me. Thank you for reading!

[@jadepixie2719]

The police should really take stalking seriously.

[@deannadear8148]

What a strong, beautiful, genuine, compassionate woman! Bravo! You will get through this hun!

[@havensabaini7334]

Lily, your compassion and strength is inspiring.

[@thedailyquibbler7669]

She is such a inspirational and strong woman love Lily ❤️

[@iainooooo]

That was a hard watch. I never really was bothered for her music or fame but as a person i really hope she heals. This is not right to happen to anyone. All my best wishes to her.

[@bennymerenti6850]

No-one deserves to be treated so horrendously. The way the Police mishandled the situation largely served to compound the actions of the perpetrator & the suffering of Lily. Her compassion towards Mr. Grey, acknowledging his schizophrenia, is testament to the genuine kindness of Lily. Her caring nature, despite all she has been through, is as remarkable as it is humane. Her courage in giving this interview will halo many. May her future be one of peace & happiness.

[@ozisister]

One very strong caring young woman. You have a beautiful compassionate soul....broken people in a broken system , your compassion will strengthen you and help you heal

[@DamianDodd]

So sorry Lily much love!

[@RonasRoadshow]

thank you for speaking out.

[@phoenixmoon3]

WOWWWWWWWWWWW! I didn't know this was going on. I am glad she's able to talk about this.

[@sophiemariealex]

over the years, growing up ive heard so many different things about Lily and her life, music etc but shes so incredibly humble n intelligent & i feel for her and her family!!! X

[@LoriONeill]

How on Earth that this went on for so long with nothing being done is beyond me. It's scary because I'm reminded of what happened to Christina Grimmie. That poor girl was shot in the head in front of her own brother at a meet and greet. Mental illness is very real and it needs to be taken much more seriously. Lily is a very strong and down-to-earth woman and I wish her nothing but the best.

[@miacat5630]

Made me well up when she got upset I have a new found respect for her after watching this that despite the fact this was clearly a traumatic ordeal for her she was still concerned about the wellbeing of someone she knew was unwell and needed help. If only more people in her position would use their status to highlight wider issues and demonstrate the same level of compassion. I’m not sure I would have been so understanding especially with children in the same house!

[@andrewstevenson8772]

Lilly is 1 of UK best ever female singer s still now she lovely top girl lov.. U foreve

[@bluechicken4866]

I've been a fan of Lily's music for a while, but I've only just learned of this. Huge amount of respect for Lily, and anyone elsewho's gone through a stalking experience. She's a very courgeous and strong person, even through her fear, and the fact she has sympathy for her stalker is admirable. And it makes me unhappy that there was so little done to help her, until it became far too obvious that he was dangerous. We still have a long way to go when addressing this kind of thing.