How Can A Mother Lose Custody Of Her Child?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

What If My Child Just Doesn't Care About Consequences - kzbin.info/www/bejne/e6ackHiOlruthdE

[@claudiacoury1558]

This works great if you’re NOT dealing with a Narcissist!!! You guys have no idea how hard it is to work with them. They are impossible!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Claudia Coury, I do feel your pain, I have worked with narcissists in my practice. Hang in there for the kids.

[@dispertamenina]

exactly. My husbands wife is a narcisist. OMG it's impossible. They suck your energy and they are never satisfied

[@sharinmythoughts2510]

@@dispertamenina STAY STRONG, STAY CALM AND WITH CONFIDENCE. HAVE GOOD BOUNDARIES! TREAT THEM FAIRLY REGARDLESS OF HOW THEY ACT. YOUR KIDS ARE WATCHING 💖💖💖🙏🙏🙏

[@jimenahernandez7645]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I get you. I’m going CRAZY

[@bluebird6300]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV have you worked with Covert Narcissists? So baffling...

[@s1ke6]

I’m going through this right now. 100% spot on. Mother constantly accuses me of disgusting things. It’s so sad that good dads (or moms) have to go through stuff like this.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ernesto Moraila, it really is. It just makes everything more difficult for everyone.

[@s1ke6]

@Mister Incognito attack after attack, I stay strong for my baby

[@s1ke6]

@Mister Incognito always man. Thanks for the advise 🙏🏼

[@hiaslayer]

Then recommend a change in custody, problem solved. But you don’t as it’s “traumatic” for the child. It is only traumatic if the decision would be in favour of the child father relationship. Who snatched away the child first and makes accusations and establishes a new status quo “wins”. You (custody evaluators) could change it but you don’t.

[@Lynn-ml7nn]

I’m sorry you’re going through this. My son is going through the same issues. My son doesn’t even have his name on the back and the woman is stating my son is abusive with no merit.

[@micfail2]

This is an excellent video, far too many parents in this situation are more concerned with "winning" than they are with what is best for the child.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Alex Magnus, agreed. We don't want to be keeping score with our children.

[@googleuser7126]

That's because we have a antiquated judicial system.

[@dc3011]

I’m sincerely dealing with that mess . First court date Wednesday

[@robynedward125]

Alex your so right in my case the other parent lying manipulation just to win I have been honest from the beginning and will fight for the best interests of our kids Emotionally abuse is not whats best by any child their not a trophy to win our actions effect our children. Your so correct I'm sticking with facts honesty and truth and facts and our kids are all that matters in all this

[@wills.4013]

@@dc3011 hope it went well. I am 2 days away from round 2. Stay strong either way. I’m a father and this sucks. Children always loose in this crap.

[@hopesanderlin]

We give God all the glory. I have gone to court on two other different cases without a lawyer and won. There are times when a lawyer is needed, so let the Holy Spirit lead you. Prayer and fasting always work for directions. You never, never assume anything. Always seek the Lord's face before you do anything legally. Chaplain Hope

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you.

[@OH-vh6vi]

Amen .

[@studentberry3131]

Yes!

[@hallelujahjesusisloveandpo9771]

I agree Amen!

[@sophiabayusie8024]

Amen

[@kingsagenda]

There are parents who are highly manipulative; I'm dealing with one. All custody evaluators and GAL's should have extensive trauma and psychological abuse training.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Von, agreed. Over time most learn to see the signs. Good luck!

[@coltonbrown3282]

I know how you feel. My ex is narcissistic and lies so much to make everyone else to be the cause of all problems. Never received my day infront of the judge and now I've given up all rights to them to rid myself and my future of the ex and her destructive nature.

[@lydiahubbell6278]

@@coltonbrown3282 nobody should have to do that, but sometimes it is the best decision.

[@dispertamenina]

@@coltonbrown3282 omg! My husband is in the same situation with his ex wife

[@St4rQu3st]

@@coltonbrown3282 I'm about to do the same. Really sucks.

[@nickywaggs8672]

I’m am a father with residential custody. I went to pick up my kids for my parenting time and their mother had moved out of state, 1,250 miles away from me. So, it can be done guys. Document everything and follow the court order to a T. I even went as far as completely quitting drinking. Also, hire an attorney! Focus on your kids. They’re only kids for a short time. Good luck guys!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for encouraging others. Glad it worked out for you.

[@1700tums]

Were you completely dependent on drinking? Like were you sick?

[@brb72]

I have a friend and her ex-husband who honestly handled custody of their daughter better than anyone! These two despised each other, their divorce was a nightmare. Then came custody, they turned into very different people. Dad stayed in the home, Mom moved two blocks away. Their daughter was 14 at the time of the divorce, at the time it was safe for the child to walk between the two homes. Basically the child lived with Mom, but could go to Dad's anytime and often stayed overnight at Dad's during the week or weekends. Both parents were able to constructively talk to each other when it came to their daughter. When it came to money again no issues, Dad offered to pay support but Mom was able to take care of her own bills. In the end both patents just equally bought things as needed, paid fees or whatever again somehow both parents were able to communicate. I believe they both understood they were equally responsible for paying their daughter's bills. If my friend had unexpected bills, her ex had no problem paying for things that my friend usually paid. Weirdest thing that they could make parenting work but not their relationship.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Melissa Now, this is a rare story in the world of divorce and parenting. It is wonderful to know the adults are acting mature and working together. Think of the lesson their child learned.

[@rachelabate2401]

Great point. More situations would be easier if the parents put their children's needs first.

[@aojathotmail]

unfortunately the state is incentivized financially to put one of the parents on child support regardless of what the parents agree on. also in many states, the judges are also financially incentivized to do this. CSEAs have been turned into money farms for the state... policy has supplanted morality

[@ellismaytham456]

A woman is not necessarily the best person to look after a child. Sometimes the man is the better parent

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ellis Maytham, I agree. The child needs to know that both parents love them and are there for them.

[@tecumseha]

@Nikki Bentley Is My Angel I sincerely am sorry that is your experience. I personally know so many wonderful fathers - hundreds of men that love their wives & children. This world would crumble without good fathers; they are so necessary.

[@KOLYNandKYLYNN]

@chuck wood exactly Chuck and I'm one of the unlucky guys who ended up having to deal with one of these crappy individual's I've been taking care of my daughter also since birth since you was born December 13th 2019 currently going through the process now I was trying to establish paternity and get some kind of custody

[@toughgirl6837]

Ellis Maytham Amen. My son is going through this now. He loves his daughter. His ex won’t let him see her. She has been abusive to my son. She can’t see denying her daughter contact with her father. Is abusive to their daughter.

[@toughgirl6837]

chuck wood Yeh. That’s mean. I think you meant men can be good parents too. Stop saying things that are generalized judgements and can be viewed about you too. Please. This isn’t about which gender is better. It’s about being a good parent. Your children are half your partner. If you hate women you will be destructive to your children. They are their mother too.

[@osmanvincent1975]

I know several instances where older children, usually around twelve, decide to go live with the other parent, usually dad.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Osman Vincent, it happens.

[@MrNMrsBundy]

Nope, my boy is almost 14 and he wants to stay with me. We are moving six hours away and the biological father is upset even though Visitation isn’t changing much and we meet halfway he’s being ridiculous.

[@MrNMrsBundy]

Nope, my boy is almost 14 and he wants to stay with me. We are moving six hours away and the biological father is upset even though Visitation isn’t changing much and we meet halfway he’s being ridiculous.

[@BibleMarriages]

@@MrNMrsBundythis is called an anecdote, you can’t simply say “nope”

[@mangalisoxaba498]

Love your channel, it is absolutely purposeful & necessary. As for these 2 guys right here (a Physiologist & an Attorney) you guy's are intelligent both emotionally & cognitively. Thanks a lot and God bless you.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Wow, thank you!

[@gabriellad3757]

This video was nice but it just makes me mad that I'm even here, I just wanted a family. It's not that hard to just be a decent person. I just got this overwhelming feeling to have things be simple and normal because this is just too much. Together and happy it seems so simple.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Gabriella D, I am sorry for you disappointment. I always say simple is not easy. We can't control or dictate what another person does. I hope you find peace.

[@msatkinson07]

I feel you

[@donovancarney]

@gabriella d man you just don’t know I want my family too and I’m the man and most men just leave I didn’t I stayed and I tried I did everything I could and now I’m dealing with allegations of physical abuse of her and our son which is so untrue I love them both

[@two9s649]

@@donovancarney dam g , u tripping

[@candicejaid6107]

You two are way better then any professional iv met, help wise... For my whole proceedings currently two and a bit years..... very informative

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Candice Jaid, thank you.

[@sadrinamota12]

Not only that they moved so that way I couldn't find them or find out where my son is

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

sadrina mota, does your ex have family or friends that would be willing to help you locate him?

[@ronniemartin6942]

I have full custody of my Daughter and I was awarded supervised visits at my discretion because my ex wife was on drugs and abandoned her and left for over 9 months and now is trying to get visits without paying child support or doing the required classes for visiting and is very verbally abusive so in that aspect what do I do

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ronnie Martin, I appreciate you watching Live On Purpose TV; please know that I cannot give specific legal advice. You can watch more of my child custody videos on this playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd, but that is all I can say. For more in-depth help, you would need an attorney to assist you with your case. Best wishes.

[@Asriel821]

I watched all the way through, my ex is the one I have to worry about this happening, he's wanting to battle this out

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Silver Seraph, so much is lost, money, time, relationships when we go to battle. I hope he changes his mind.

[@Asriel821]

Son's father has focused on me, it's just the beginning of my battle, my ex has just trashed me, and hasn't thought about our son, he abandoned me, took all the money and I absolutely don't know what to do, he's alienated me from our son and has the courts on his side, I have no attorney and he is just trashing me all over to get our son

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Silver Seraph, this is so sad to hear. There is not reason and in the end, usually it hurts the one doing it when the child grows up and begins to see what happened.

[@hinatahouga]

I'm somewhat in the same boat any advice?

[@dc3011]

I’m going to court to battle my husband Wednesday. He is an evil person who just wants to hurt me. It’s maddening because I know he can charm and talk his way out of anything. First time dealing with anything like this and I’m terrified because of all the allegations he’s made

[@izabelamajkowska4620]

@@dc3011 how did it all go in the court please? Did the judge saw through his lies?

[@lydiahubbell6278]

I think using custody to enforce court orders when it is detrimental to the child is wrong. I think the proper way to deal with disobedience of court orders is with a contempt petition. In my case, from day one my daughter's dad lied and also asked for court orders just so he could claim I was violating them. He actually filed a petition for contempt which was totally bogus, but within a few months I was violating orders. So he supplemented the contempt petition. I got some gag orders overturned on appeal, but you are supposed to follow them until they are overturned. I cannot follow a court order if it is going to hurt my daughter mire in the long run. Sometimes having custody is not the most important thing, protecting the child from additional trauma is. The courts really failed us, but I trusted the system at first and was compliant and cooperative. When I figured out what was going on, I had to push back. In my case, we had never been married. We worked from an agreed order until our daughter was old enough to go to school and then he decided to cut me out of her life. I could not afford a lawyer and he had one that lied with impunity. I always supported my daughter's relationship with her dad. He completely erased me. I am appealing the latest custody modification order. I can see very easily why some parents walk away. I have known many parents whose children were torn apart like a piece of meat two dogs were fighting over. Some kids committed suicide or ended up in mental hospitals. It is so sick.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lydia Hubbell, I hope you are able to prevail, I know this is a tough time for you and I sympathize with your plight. You are right that our children need to know that we love them no matter what.

[@LibertyMadison]

Im so sorry this happened to you. I appreciate your recognition of “what is best for the child”. It’s like the old bi me tale of the women who said “cut the child in half” . The king knew immediately she was not the mother. A mother will walk away before inflicting more pain

[@ellenhenderson6865]

This works in reverse too. Men engage in this alienation conduct. They are describing parent alienation with calling it that.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ellen Henderson, parental alienation is wrong, no matter who is doing it.

[@spoonspoon3826]

I would pin 📌 this comment.

[@ThatGuy-en2nn]

You can make that argument for anything. That does not mean It's done equally between the sexes. It's disingenuous to comment in such a way that makes it seem like that is the case.

[@JustTiyo]

Man stfu everything works in reverse when talkin about women 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@Shornandkenny]

What if you have spent the last 8 years watching your child be endangered and your self being controlled with allegations stolen from cheated on and lied to? I struggle to treat my co parent with any respect after the treatment I have received from her and her parents.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

mr machinist, I get what you are saying. You are also never wrong about how you feel, you are responsible for your behavior. It is natural to feel hurt when someone has lied and hurt our most precious relationships.

[@weknowcomputertech]

It happens to Moms too. Some people really know how to work attorneys like this who aren’t trained to work with those who undergo significant trauma and abuse but have remained the pro facia parent. But the court sure as heck better perform their due diligence and have all the necessary evidence in hand before making any assumptions.

[@mensafamilyhustle3356]

In my case all talk no evidence

[@themetatruthengineer1442]

My in-laws are acting so much like that mother, who is completely obsessed with what I do. My inlaws reach out to family members of mine that don't like me, and they have made 10+ CPS complaints, etc and have made many threats to take my child away. This anxiety inducing behavior is very bad. They are so focused on ruining my life and relationship with my child that it has cost me so much money and time away from my child. I have struggled with work and keeping up with my life. In addition, the damage they have done to my family is irreparable. They were granted visitation even though they are the step great-grandparents, but they are given many decision making rights over my child. My child is being used as a pawn, and then this is corrupting our lives. I am appealing this order, but I am considering suing my inlaws for all of this emotional and mental anguish.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I can't believe CPS hasn't caught on to what they are doing. Having no finding in the 10+ incidents will help you.

[@monajones6748]

I love Sid! So much great information complete with real-life stories.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sid is great, isn't he? Thank you for the positive feedback, Mona Jones.

[@eastaustin1able]

I have binge watched about four of your videos about now. I really appreciate the advice. Happy to know I’m actually doing pretty well. Thanks DrPaul.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You got this!

[@jrmaxon1593]

I'm dealing with parental alienation RN. This video helped.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am glad the video helped. I wish you the best.

[@h0llyw00dhoward7]

Good luck, I'm going through the same thing.

[@OUstillSUCKS]

I am to but stick with it there is light at the end of the tunnel. My sons mother believe it or not told me if I didn't marry her when I was 21 and now I'm 34 I would never see my child. Im soon upset but I know god knows the truth but I just got 50/50 custody of him few weeks ago. He is 13 now and I have missed everything. I wanted to learn to change diapers and feed him when I was younger and she always gave me broken promises about seeing him and then denied he was mines which I showed the judge. She showed her ass in court and argued with the attorney and the counselors advice. She even got mad about my wife's friends speaking about if my wife were around my son what they think. My sons mother thought they were trying to take my son from her but she don't even realize what is going on half the time. Here's the worst part every time I ask bout my son she always switch convo or flirts with me out the blue and she is married!!! She even ask me meet her at hotel and stuff. They tried to get me to pay $70k in back child support but it didn't happen and she denied all my help.

[@TheBmmd321]

Me too. 30 days today no contact and she changed all there cell phones when I was paying or all the phones.

[@narcissisticvictimsabusetu5077]

My husband is too but she messed up big time, now we have a very high chance of FULL CUSTODY 😭😭❤️😭❤️❤️❤️😭❤️

[@a.americandad3885]

Thank you both for the reassurance this is only a common sense process. You do make it a little harder for me to follow when you go in to detail on examples.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Warren Houser, thanks for the feedback.

[@kristlonloves]

I’m so cordial with my sons father! I’m so accommodating for him to even see my son. And now out of no where he isn’t allowing my contact w my son and texted me that he isn’t coming back and that he has a protective order for them! If he wanted to get custody why didn’t you just go thru the court? But your sole focus is to keep me out his life! His mom that has been raising him his whole life! I’m so lost and scared that I will never see my baby again

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am sorry you are going through this, it is so painful not to be able to see your son. I hope you can work through this.

[@Lisa-ub6zl]

I am going through the same thing right now! My ex called DFCS and falsely accused me of things and with no investigation the case worker awarded him custody and gave him permission to leave the state with my daughter! Now I have a court date in a different state scheduled in October and I don't even know what the accusations were to defend myself! I didn't find out he did this until I went to the sheriffs Dept to press charges for him taking her out of state and only then did I learn about the custody change with DFCS that I never seen signed by a judge but the investigator said there was nothing he could do! I feel so violated! How did they arrive at such a serious decision with only half a story? I wasn't given a fair or much less a chance at all! Nothing! I'm learning how to file a law suit myself for the emotional distress this has brought both me and my daughter because of their grossly negligent decisions mine and my daughters relationship has been damaged and sabatouged! I am pissed at all the lost time wasted of mine and my daughters life we can never get back that was so unnecessary. Only when they are made to be accountable will they learn to stop making these mistakes that are so damaging to the mental health of children for an indefinite amount of time. If they can accept appreciation then they should be able to accept criticism as well. I get so mad just thinking about it!! How dare her take away my biological rights without discussing it with me, notifying me, nothing!!! And then turn around and give him the go ahead to take off with my little girl out of state.. what in the hell was she thinking? She knew I was around my daughter because in the parenting plan it clearly states that if she leaves with me to call law enforcement. She believed every filthy word he said without batting an eye and fell hook, line, and sinker. These people need some serious training! If a child has two living parents discuss situation with both before you make a decision!!!!! Accept they're are liars in this world that unfortunately made it to be parents!!! It is the case workers responsibility to make the best decision for the child and if you can't do that well get someone that can! Don't just go out on a limb and hope for the best! Don't believe they have a goat just because one says they have a goat. Go look for yourself!!! I'm sorry for going off on a tangent but it frustrates me to no end and how such ignorancy there still is with this matter. New policies should have been made yesterday to stop this yet it keeps on and on and there is just no excuse for it. We're supposed to be smarter than this and more caring about human life than this yet we keep pussyfooting around like it's not important. I don't get it. When did teaching kids to hate their parents become acceptable and okay? And we wonder what has happened to our society? Why kids act out.. with the arise of narcissism now more than ever. The abuse from them is serious and some will go as far as murder. With over 158 million Americans effected by their abuse why is the effects on children being ignored and taking up so much time in our family courts? We don't turn our head on our veterans do we and pretend they don't need help? We don't turn our head on animal cruelty and pretend they don't need help? Foreign affairs? Why our children? Please someone help me understand why we haven't done one thing to stop this?! To prevent this?!

[@Heartz_ash]

@@Lisa-ub6zl omg I’m going threw something slightly similar my heart is broken into pieces the system has failed me and my babies and idk for how much longer can my heart take 😔

[@gigglekeyon]

Same situation Sus

[@gigglekeyon]

@@Lisa-ub6zl same sus

[@tammyguessbeckham2212]

My husbands ex wife did everything she could to try to make him a bad guy. She lost custody and visitation.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tammy Guess Beckham, Some men do win custody. Thanks.

[@sheriffofrockridge9095]

Nice I don’t have kids but good to see it does happen

[@fatimaguzman9826]

Why did she lose custody? If I may ask?

[@fatimaguzman9826]

Im stepmom

[@MrFox-ip3jf]

In my situation, me and my ex-wife agree. That the courts took advantage of us. She was coached in the decisions that she's didn't want to do. In return she lost rights. Not only had to jump through hoops of life. But jump through someone else's hoops that has no connection or understanding. Child support is a corporation. By law and actually has nothing to do with the quality of life of the child. The House Always Wins

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Mr. Fox, I am glad you and your wife agree and hopefully you are working everything out.

[@MrFox-ip3jf]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I appreciate the videos, research is the key to understanding situations.

[@nicolesteele6000]

we are dealing with flying monkets. my partner has supervised phone calls and then supervisor is his daughter's baby sitter. 15 phone calls were missed and she has assisted the girl in leaving voice-mail wiht false and already recanted abuse accusations. we finally got a call on fathers day and the daughter told us that mom didn't want her to talk to dad. supervisor won't respond to messages asking to confirm this.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Wow! There is a lot to track here. Keep a record and I hope it works out for you.

[@nicolesteele6000]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thanks for responding. these videos are invaluable

[@vinceocratic]

The “expert,” opens up with “almost unthinkable for a mother to lose custody…” Absolutely perfect opening because it exposes the bias towards fathers. And this is coming from an expert who’s a man. God bless you for your inadvertent transparency.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Just my experience working in the court system.

[@davidroberts9099]

That’s what makes it remarkable. The fact that it is so rare speaks volumes about how sexist the family court system is against men. I say this as a man that has 100% custody of my child.

[@matthewc5019]

Malicious parent syndrome is a very real thing.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

And damaging.

[@lovelywalks4270]

If you find yourself being consoled by your child or ostracized because of the other parents actions or hatred. How should the consoled or ostracized parent approach that with their child?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Seeking Justice, if I understand what you are asking, look at this situation as an opportunity for your child to use empathy and kindness, don't bring them any further into the situation or have them feel responsible in any way for what is happening. You can let your child know how you are sad and tell her hugs make you feel better. For a small child, this is enough.

[@lovelywalks4270]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV great advice, thank you.

[@vannettamsnatural]

Everything you’ve said is happening to me and I’m the mom. His focus is me and not the child. But they gave him physical custody of my kid

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am sorry you are going through this. I hope you still have time with your child.

[@Mimixo421]

I’m dealing with a narcissist and an abuser please I need help I wanna get child support and get full custody of my child my daughter dad can’t even cook for himself let alone feed my child he would rather spend money on beer than buy food for my kid and it’s his kid too he doesn’t deserve her at all I tried my hardest to keep him happy but he’s a narcissist and emotionally abusive I need help what can I do ?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I don't know your situation, it would be best to work with someone who is familiar with your court system.

[@Katz_Pajamas]

So if it's to keep them where they are and Mom decides to divorce so she decides to leave the house then the children stay with the dad right?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

FrealFreal, that happens sometimes and sometimes they leave with the mom.

[@jeannemarie3704]

Being humble to feedback is hard for all of us but it's true.. You need to focus on self a bit. This is great content. I was a guardian ad Litem for a time. So get this..the kids need to not be put in the middle of the parents.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jeannie Salinas, that is my wish, kids not to be used as pawns. Happens way too often. Thank you for your work as an ad Litem, not an easy job.

[@TheMFStudios]

What do you do when the other parent is an abuser and an alcoholic? My wife and I have been together for 6 years and have I have a strong relationship with her 2 daughters. There mom lost custodial to their dad who berated, beat, and stalked her while they were together and afterwards. She had no lawyer and he had a lawyer. The house they bought together went to him cause he only put it in his name. He is just a trash person. He constantly tried to drage the kids into every little disagreement. He has called the police because they girls didnt want to speak to him during our custody. The kids gave even asked me if I could be their dad instead which breaks my heart. We have tried co parenting with him it is impossible. We invite him to their birthday parties and I even had to kick him out omce because he slapped the oldest daughter. I really could use some advice. No idea how we could get custody back so the girls dont have to keep suffering in that toxic alcoholic environment.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Work with an attorney and have the girls see a counselor for additional documentation if possible. Sometimes it can be done through school.

[@deathcharge5468]

It’s funny how the court naturally chooses the mother as the base parent and paints the father as an evil being

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

DEATH CHARGE, there is cases where the father gets custody.

[@jeremymenning56]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV about 10% 9f the cases. Not very equal.

[@mensafamilyhustle3356]

I have the opposite situation and I'm the more stable parent

[@SACRAMENTO_916]

My girl wants to move out of town with her mom because shes going to be lonely and also takes my kids away from me. We dont have problems at all but what am not agree on is that my girl choose her mom 1st instead of me. I mean we have a family we supposed to stay together and not living with their parents but she dont want to leave her mom... What you guys think i need a suggestion???

[@dannyboytruckingadventure5415]

@@SACRAMENTO_916 if she quick to leave without worry about u leave her she’s not the one for you

[@gbellard81]

But how do you address when they do become unwilling communicators

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Figure out what you control and what you don't and stay in the lane of control. Don't get tipped over on what you don't have any say about.

[@strickenbaseballseries6894]

"It would be best if they could co-parent or parallel parent" Yeah no duh. But if the two people were capable of cooperating, they would still be together.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Stricken Baseball Series, not always. I have seen people who can't get along being married, but are able to successfully co parent. They have to be mature and focused.

[@lydiahubbell6278]

Lots of people successfully co-pparent. I did with my ex-husband.

[@renskedj]

No that's totally different. We're not married anymore, so he may treat me like crap and I stay friendly and obedient, as long as I can see my kids. When we were married I would get mad. Now I say yes sir. What do I care? Over the years he started to treat me quite normal.

[@laurar990]

Father never obeys the court order. Every order. But the court doesn’t care. Can I make them care? Why make an order an just nobody cares if it’s followed? I’m frustrated FOR MY KID

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I would be too.

[@jaynecassidy3651]

My daughter lost her children to grandparents for no real reason. It was an a used assault against an aunt that took one of the children. I haven’t been allowed to see my grandchildren for 8 months and my daughter is distraught. It’s been very unfair what social work and court have done. 😩

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am so sorry.

[@SublinkK34]

I have domestic violence being victim 4 years ago after 2 years fighting in the court the father win after that I lose my daughter get kill by his father none believe if my ex is violence thanks for the justice of getting making wrong choice

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

MOnica Rante, I am sorry to hear what happened. We are here for you.

[@weknowcomputertech]

I feel your pain. Constitutional law is dead.

[@MariAlistineMoss]

The worst thing is the children being used and they have no idea. That is wrong.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Mari Moss, I agree.

[@mariesmith8547]

Thank you my son has 2 baby moms that treat him this way one constantly wants to arrest him for kidnapping on his weekends when he takes his son around family member she don’t like... well the son told his father all what mother was doing and his mother has mental abuse him he is 12 and wants to go live with his dad and well I have had to fill child abuse charges on her cause my grandson texted me and begged me to please make mom stop hit and punching me and calling me names...Mammoo make her stop!!! My heart drop I had to send the police for a welfare check!!! My son can’t afford a lawyer DCH finally got involved and we are working on trying to get him

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Marie Smith, I wish you luck. I hope things work out for you.

[@HimLiving]

I need help getting custody of my child

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I hope you find it, we don't do child custody cases any longer.

[@crystalm8460]

This is Exactly what happened with our current custody battle. Evaluator sided with my husband and I over his two children. Mom is unwilling to admit any fault, recorded her children, all she talked about is what happened 10 years ago. We were very careful, respectful and henremained humble through this process and we are pleased it served him. I am thankful for your videos. Wish us luck we are nearing then end of year battle hopefully. Thank you again from Idaho

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Crystal M, good luck to you!

[@sorad5791]

I bet you at least half of the cases where a mother has diahhrea of the mouth about the dad, and it isn't about cheating or just focusing on being hurt thatbthey want to leave her.. it is because she has been pushed past the limits of her normal character by a narcissist or other toxic abusive other parent, and she knows damn well they are lying about her and just recycling everything she has been begging them to realise about their abusive behaviour for a while. Twisting it onto her. Methodically driving her to the point of doing ANYTHING that he can use to say she is unfit. It is disgusting that the court officials aren't trained enough to spot trauma responses and abusive manipulation tactics from a mile away. But then again a lot only care about money, and not really about doing the right thing anyway. I understand if she is making it solely about the other parents life choices outside of parenting or normal expectations of raising kids with another person, but the fact that showing emotion in court = crazy is appalling. That's why women who are victims have to do everything they can to emotionally detach themselves FROM THEIR ONGOING TRAUMA so they can stand a chance of keeping their kids as protected from psychological abuse as possible. Custody court is highly traumatizing and scary for any parent. Yet showing any sign of it, you lose points and fall to your knees sobbing because someone who has never been present for any of it makes their call on what THEY think. That isn't justice. That is a joke. The months of fear that you might lose your kids over lies, knowing the true reality and extent of the abuse and praying that you happen to get a good judge that will spot the signs. Sometimes it really is just a Lioness fiercely trying to protect her cubs.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment.

[@bosston4467]

I'm such a fan of your content! While I'm a father going through a divorce/custody battle, I truly just enjoy your content as it is furthering my education as a parent. Regardless of any outcome, I believe in progress not perfection. So any knowledge to help me better coparent is more than welcome

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Wow, thank you! I think you will have a fantastic relationship with your children, Boss Ton.

[@flyingfrenchbread]

The court is allowing the alienation to take place. It's frustrating, I've been without my son for almost two years now and the court is sitting on their collective asses about it. "Oh you just need supervision" to "oh you just need reunification therapy". I as the father have to jump through all of these hoops and pay for everything while the mother just sits back and collects her child support checks

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

That is frustrating. Court is not the place to handle these problems.

[@Orophile_303]

Well, sometimes the father is the BETTER parent. My bf is alienated from his children because his ex wife is angry that he didn't want to work out things with her. She would hit him etc. Days before the actual incident his oldest child was saying he was going to miss his side of the family and it's been almost 2 years he hasn't seen them and she talks ill of him on Facebook

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Agreed. Children should have access to both parents.

[@DustinRoberge-v6n]

Mine is so much diffrent my children are with md as a dad on and exparte because moms boyfriend is under investigation of sexualy assault of my 2 and 4 year old girls she never left him tryed to help financially or emotionally still with man under investigation kids are with me the father till november 20 th for final hearing

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I hope you prevail and the kids are safe.

[@OLIVER949OC2]

Mother of my child left home and took my child to a guys house that lives 5 hours away and put child support on me while we are pending a child custody court case

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I hope you can see your child and continue your relationship.

[@India-eb6wl]

What about when there's DV involved and the other parent is actually a concern? I have a protection order against dad, but I still want whatever is best for baby, so I play his game and try to co-parent. Whatever happened between he and I isn't my child's fault, but he isn't a safe person for me. He's also in another state where the PO isn't able to be enforced...

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

India, it sounds like you are doing what is best for your child. I am glad you are able to separate the two.

[@robynedward125]

In my case my ex has put the kids in the middle he's been telling the children to keep secrets against me and continues to say negative comments I have not said anything about their father in front of them I rose above what has gone on he has been dishonest in court. I don't claim to be perfect I went through parenting classes and communication workshop with the court he hasn't been honest through the entire process unfortunately my ex has used them as pawns. I don't say anything to the children he's doing it unfortunately on purpose I haven't said anything unfortunately in my case there's conjugal abuse It's very difficult the court here doesn't look at it as a pattern of abuse I find it very difficult I'm being the better parent I'm legally not allowed to say anything in front of the kids I can't even say when they look unbathed and nails dirty and uncut I'm not even allowed at all I've been keeping a journal for behavior I've noticed, but say nothing to them of what I observe. My ex hasn't paid any child support hasn't brought them to doc appointments or dentists me and my parents it has fallen on our plates as extra responsibilities and expenses unfortunately It's documented in a binder for court I find the system here is very difficult he's stolen from me and has gotten the kids to steal and hasn't been honest I can't even ask the kids about the items I will not put my kids in the middle I love my kids with all my heart and will fight for them.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Robyn Edward, I appreciate you watching, however there is not much we can help you with in terms of legal advice. We have several videos on our Child Custody playlist - kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd, and I hope you can find some value there. Being a single parent is so hard; we also have a Positive Parenting playlist to help you out with that: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU. You may particularly like "How To Be A Single Parent After Divorce" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/fWXLm4Frd5Zgd6c and "How To Make Ends Meet As A Single Parent" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/mKWxp4agbMuCrrM Best wishes.

[@t.c.2402]

Women tend to exaggerate

[@robynedward125]

@@t.c.2402 I told the truth in my case my ex didn't tell any truth he's the man It's been very difficult he said I left for 3 months and willing left him the lease in reality he changed the locks and booted me out I had to go buy shampoo and other items and stay in a hotel and buy clothes for court I have a bank statement to prove other things about what happened at the time. It was very difficult at the time we were one week custody and I'd leave when it wasn't my week he didn't care if I was homeless and lock the door handle to the handle I didn't have keys for preventing me from entering when we were both on the lease and yeah it wasn't good long story short he ended up stalking me and harassing me and ended up threatening me in the end I was able to get a restraining order and he's continuing to put the children in the middle on a brighter note I was able to get a lease in my name. I have to prove that the kids are in the middle on his side he wasn't honest to the social worker from the court and they believed him the problem with the system they aren't trained to deal with narrascist he's basically a Trump bullying and intimidation tactics I got stronger and didn't let him bring me down

[@robynedward125]

@@t.c.2402 your probably right

[@pjschillchannelxoxo]

I live in nh my mom accused me of things that never happened all she has is hearsay but i have evidence she is lying? How common would a judge decide to not give my daughter back?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Pj Gage, I have no idea of the specifics of your case. Please talk to a licensed attorney.

[@paulphillips5747]

I was always video recording at every meet to get my kids. So one day my ex went ballistic, so I tried using the video footage in court, but later found out that its illegal in PA to record at the meet place.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Rip Van Winkle, I wasn't aware of that. I wish you luck.

[@livingforourfamily7589]

Please do a video about how to conduct myself in court to fight a neglect charge against cps???

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Living For Our Family, I don't have another video date until August. Be calm, just state the facts without any raised voices, use calm body language and answer the questions honestly, and succinctly.

[@gigglekeyon]

Definitely need this

[@gigglekeyon]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV definitely need this

[@L-Johnson-Jr]

The same reason a dad can lose custody of his child. Unfit parent.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Gordon Grandz, yes, thanks for watching.

[@bailujen8052]

But what if the unfit mother gets custody

[@mourningwarbler]

On the other hand, there are family members who ignore abuse. (The Home School Legal Defense Association protected many of us when we were home schooling. Just an anonymous tip, and your kids are seized without any due process: speedy hearing with impartial jury. There is some sort of human trafficking going on in reprobate courts. In Florida well-to-do elderly are taken and put under guardianship so the courts, guardians, and lawyers can munch on their wealth.)

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

mourningwarbler, abuse should never be ignored. We have made progress in this area and much more needs to be done.

[@allisonzimmerman6077]

Thank u guys so much for taking ur time to do this I have a daughter I lost years back turned my life around and got my children back its been 4 yrs so my oldest lives with her dad she calls her step mom mom and called me allison for a while she still calls her step mom mom im trying super hard to be supportive for my daughter but I will admit sometimes its super hard to not let my feelings get in the way but I dont know what to do she completely ignores me when we are all together. Itd total heart crushing can u please help with some advice

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

We are honored to be on your team. It may take some time, be open and loving, always. She is testing to see if you are going to be there for her.

[@ConservativeWatchParty]

My daughters mother is a heroin addict / narcissist and has been keeping my daughter away from me the past month so that she could take me to court for not seeing my daughter. We split the driving 50/50 for the past 6 years and in January she lost her ability to drive so instead of finding another way to transport, she filed a restraining order to keep me away so that she could say I'm not around. Court is next Wed. None of her claims on the order are current. All are from our past relationship back in 2013. This is her claim for me not to be around. My daughter 10 year old doesn't agree. I have physical evidence of her heavy drug use, a CVS clerk where she left my child at the counter for 15 minutes while she went and got high in the car and video evidence of her boyfriend assaulting me. Any advice you can offer for the hearing next week?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Have your information showing that you are available and she has withheld the daughter ready to go.

[@ClaireWill71uk]

I’m one, separated from my children, court supported my estranged husband... 2001 gained temporary sole custody. He had immigration pick me up, processed and then took my kids out of state...even refusing to pay for court ordered guardian ad litem, and counsellors for my kids. We divorced in Dec 2006.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am sorry for the tough time you endured, Claire Will. I hope you will be able to see your kids again.

[@ich6636]

Yes, explain to an abusive narcisist who want custody just to feel he won and don't have to pay alimony, what's best for his children.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Paptsi Paptsi, I hear you. It is difficult to deal with someone who doesn't put the children first.

[@matt071482]

Wait! They "rehabilitate" mom and throw dad under the bus?!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

matt071482, don't read too much into one conversation. There is a lot behind the story.

[@matt071482]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thanks for replying! OK. I'll try not to. Thanks for the videos. I'm trying to learn

[@prfu1222]

My daughters mother took her to buy drugs. And she gets wonderful treatment. And me. I am put under the bus.

[@experimentalgroup9473]

Well yeah. The world is unfair and the court has bias. Toward mom

[@anelatea-anac2978]

No the other parent dont want to participate or play the game

[@BadaAndLala]

Is it exaggerating if your child voices that things are happening to them and your the only one to defend them and help them. What is missing here? Did she get bad energy from me, is my daughter having troubles at dads home, help me understand why my daughter would say these things and how I handle them 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jada, I don't have enough information to hazard a guess. Seek counseling to understand what is really happening.

[@icbratbrattz7909]

How about a narrasitic dad that even has they judge fooled..

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Icbraz Brattz, I wish I could help you, but I cannot give specific legal advice. All I can say is stay honest and keep your children's best interest at heart. I hope you are able to find an attorney to help you with your situation. Thank you for watching.

[@chriswade225]

Most people who claim narrasitic or sociopath actually have the issue's they claim the other parents have.

[@Yolduranduran]

People give in to the hate. That's why it gets so ugly. You have to be the better person.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Agreed! I wish everyone would have the child's best interest at heart.

[@annkogut6268]

It’s ok for dads to alienate kids from mom , not, it works both ways!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I wish there were no alienation, ann kogut. It would be wonderful if both parents loved their children, and the children loved both parents, and the parents were respectful. Even after divorce, there can be love. Thanks for watching.

[@meaghanpike2424]

My boyfriend is trying to get custody of 2 great kids. Custody battles are the worst!!!!! Nothing prepares you for a battle that must be peaceful, and it is expensive and painful.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Meghan Pike, it is a drain financially and emotionally. I wish you the best.

[@suddenlyhope]

My ex has alienated my children from me and used the courts to take away my visitation. It is heartbreaking. I want a good relationship with my children AND my ex husband. I left him because we had a toxic relationship. He believes that because I’m an ex wife, I should be an ex mother. I haven’t seen my boys for a year and my daughter for 4 months. I have done all in my power including $30,000 in legal representation to try and get some visitation and am now waiting on reconciliation counseling. My ex has sabotaged it up until now.

[@suddenlyhope]

Nikki Bentley Is My Angel My children are 24, 19 and 14. I moved next door so they could go back and forth. It is very hurtful to have people say things about circumstances they know nothing about. The trauma is bad enough that to be re traumatized again trying to explain is a huge trigger. When someone asks, how can children turn against a loving parent? Or what have you done that your children want nothing to do with you? Is heartbreaking. I love my children with all my heart and had a beautiful relationship with them up until I left my abusive spouse. He then used them as pawns.

[@tecumseha]

@@suddenlyhope Not everyone believes as this other viewer does. I am very sorry to hear about your situation. I can't imagine the pain your heart must be going through. I sincerely hope that you can reconcile soon and be in your children's lives again. Despite evidence, the world isn't all bad. I love this channel, & hope you feel supported by Dr. Paul & his team, as so many of us do. 💚

[@suddenlyhope]

Tecumseh A. Thank you for your kind words. Love and Kindness goes a long way in this world. I am grateful that God has got me this far. And I know he will be with me and show me how to reconcile and renew relationships with my children. I am praying for them daily.

[@tecumseha]

@@suddenlyhope I love your attitude & faith. 🙂 Please don't take this as being preachy... think of it as a friendly reminder, as I'm sure you've heard this before. Remember: God's timing is not our timing. I prayed for 12 years to have children with my husband. Finally He gave them to me, & I spent the next 8 years praying for help to be a good parent! 😆 Then He directed me to Live On Purpose TV. It's so hard to be patient when we want good things, but the Lord's timing will serve us best in the end. Merry Christmas to you. 🎄

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

SuddenlyHope, it sounds like you love your children very much and are trying to have a positive relationship with them. That is great. Keep that up, even tough it's hard. I have a whole Child Custody playlist; if you want to see if there is anything more helpful, please check it out: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd Thank you for watching, and best wishes.

[@coedshowers]

The mediator, my lawyer and the at litem said "i hope we get somethign signed today because you hae judge **** and her MO is to take fathers custody, even though I ( at litem ) am for you having 50/50 or more and be the custodial parent judge **** will not care, She wont care about your evidence if she even lets it in" all 3 of them were agreeing and talking trash about this judge and how bad she is to fathers.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Well, that isn't right.

[@geehill9323]

I'm going through this right now my son is 4 years old and it sucks when they focused on you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Gerald Hill, it is a tough situation no matter the age. Stay strong, you can get through this.

[@karlkorleontv1294]

I’m going through ALL of this right now

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am so sorry, KarlKorleonTV, it is a tough time, just know it will end.

[@isosoriharrison9556]

Thank you so much, my brother is going through something similar and I think this is encouraging.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hope it helps. Glad you are there for him.

[@isosoriharrison9556]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Yeah, he is having a very hard time and I hope my brother definitely makes good improvements.

[@theomanification]

The assumption the mother should have custody is discriminatory

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Both sides should be looked at and hopefully they can both parent the children and be there for them.

[@sadrinamota12]

What should I do I really need help

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

sadrina mota, I do appreciate you watching, but there is little I can do. You would be best off finding an attorney to help you with this situation. We do have a free coaching call available, if you would like to try that. It won't help you with your case, but possibly the way you are dealing with it internally, psychologically. You could try to schedule a call with my guest in the video, Sid Unrau who is an attorney and a coach. Here's the link: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall

[@CarolDudeck-bl7kz]

Here in Canada I have now witnessed two cases where the father got custody and both these men were having affairs around they’re children, the court knew full well and so did child and family services they did nothing!😂🇨🇦

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Carol Dudeck, affairs don't seem to be taken into consideration the way they once used to.

[@CarolDudeck-bl7kz]

Live On Purpose TV Absolutely but I’m “OLD” school and you screw with me that’s it!🥶

[@weknowcomputertech]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV not true. North Carolina your spouse can do jail time for putting your sexual health at risk. Same with New York.

[@googleuser7126]

Justice! That's how! Not all women are made out to be good mothers, same goes for fathers!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Google User, at the channel we seek to empower parents who want to learn how to be better.

[@ivandeeterrible8037]

Me and my GF just moved from CA to NC in search of a better much more affordable lifestyle. We have a 7 month baby boy and want nothing but the best for him. In CA we where living with her moms now in NC we're living with my parents. She decided that it'll be better for us to move to NC sonner than what we had planned because she couldn't put up with her mom and dad anymore there was always problems amongst them and it was affecting our relationship. So we made the move i resigned my job made some calls and bought our tickets to NC. She would always say that moving in with my parents would better our relationship and we wouldn't be putting up with her families drama in CA and it wouldn't be toxic. Now that we're here in NC we found jobs and my parents love and care for my son and my GF . my mom always going above and beyond for us , cooking and cleaning for us and caring for my son which is something I've never felt from her family side and im happy here in NC. Long story short I've started to notice a change in her like she's always on her phone or sometimes it looks like she's mad and won't talk to anybody which makes it awkward because my family is full of joy and happiness. I brought it up to her attention and all hell broke loose started saying that im wrong for saying such things and that she's been doing everything for my son. So we stepped out the house because I didn't want my parents to hear us arguing so i had my mom look after my son and she told me exactly how shes been feeling lately, and how she doesnt feel the same for me anymore. Hearing her say that really hurt me so much being together for 3 years being the best father with my son and helping her throughout her pregnancy when her mother was really never there. She told me that my mom does so much for me like cook, clean and is very loving with my son and that she regrets moving so soon because her family back in CA didn't spend enough time with my son. She sees how happy my son is ever since we arrived at my parents and how caring they are with him and I think she gets jealous because her parents where never like that with my son and all of a sudden she wants to return back to CA back to the same family drama that she had before we moved to NC. We just have a month since we moved and I dont see her happy and im afraid that one day she'll decide to leave with my child back to CA and to try something sneaky behind my back. I honestly don't see our relationship lasting that long, and what can I do now before something like this can happen? Help plz 🙏

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

IvanDeeTerrible, please get some help with communicating for the two of you. If you do part ways, you need to be able to communicate so that both of you have a place in your child's life.

[@jesslivin_xo]

Hopefully, it’s not too late for me to fix these mistakes in my custody case!! Great points. 👏🏾 First time in front of a judge next month! Hopefully she just gives me a stern warning to stop my bad behavior towards the dad. 🤞🏾

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jess H, be calm and respectful. You can get through this.

[@jesslivin_xo]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thanks for the advice and all the helpful videos. It all turned out in my favor! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@cheyennemccune7111]

Going to court scares me so much. We have an injunction right now and he has supervised visitation but they keep saying he’s going to go for 50/50 and it really terrifies me that he’ll get the kids more than I will. I love my kids with all my heart and I try my best to be an amazing parent

[@shirleyarmani7714]

@@cheyennemccune7111 Why does it scare you that your children can possibly share equal time between both parents. This is why a lot of mother's are loosing custody or visitation time being leesen. You can be a perfect parent both the child still desrves to be equally with both parents as much as possible. A mother's love for her children does not superseide a father's love they are both equally important and needed. Mother automactilly feel like because we birthed the children well always deserve more of the child's time and love and thats not fair. I'm happy some court systems are finally starting to open their eyes up.

[@yungkaos3500]

@@shirleyarmani7714exactly

[@moolahclipz]

I feel like the law is bs they give mother natural rights no matter the situation. Then say that changing the child from one house another is traumatic how can a father win when it’s already set for a mother to win

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I have seen father's win, depends on the situation.

[@sherrikins3557]

What happens when the other still pursues a relationship with you when you don't want them back because they cheated.. They come by without calling, etc.. No boundaries..I get worried about stalking and them not having anything to do. When does the court see this for what it is and could become? And that they talk bad about your family, too.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sherri Kins, if you are afraid you should get a restraining order so you have protection and it is documented. See an attorney for advice on this matter. Your safety is paramount.

[@sherrikins3557]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you..I did one. He was served, already violated it.

[@rochelleauge6734]

This where I am. Custody battle in progress. I am tasked with developing a phased step up parenting plan. Meanwhile, the father is 100% on the smear campaign...

[@rachelanne1152]

What if dad refuses to return child after being ordered to in person by the judge .

[@bobhope7364]

How do you deal with a mother who withholds the child from visitation and won't obey court orders? Does it hurt your chances as a father if your child has been away from you for a long time? My ex even tries to say that "Our child can't find peace, is struggling and has a very bad reaction after visitation (which is a lie).. but everything is "perfect" and our child is striving when only mom is in the picture"..

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Bob Hope, thank you for watching and being involved. Unfortunately, I am not able to give specific legal advice. However, my first thought is to remain positive through it all; easier said than done for sure, but remember you do have control over your emotions and actions. If you are worried about not staying involved in the child's life, try to work out with the mother if you can speak with your child over the phone and/or send cards or birthday gifts in the mail. As for the mother not obeying court orders, that is something the attorneys and legal system will need to work out. I would love to help where I can... I have a Child Custody playlist, if you want to check that out for more ideas: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. A couple videos that may be particularly relevant in your situation are "How To Have A Peaceful Joint Custody Agreement," and "Child Custody Mediation Strategies".

[@Mother.in.the.Jungle]

I represented myself both times I was up against the fathers of my children-I couldn’t afford an attorney, and wound up doing it myself. What I learned is to win, which I managed each time, considering ANYONE’S benefit other than the child’s will not serve you well, and it shouldn’t. In the state of Utah, women rank in the bottom 5 states even it comes to having rights. This isn’t a discussion point, we’ve ALL seen it, unless you’re blind. However, when responsibility is sought for the child, irresponsible parents, whether female or male, will more than likely have a selfish glow that’s nearly visible. Occasionally, you’ll meet a parent whose ONLY interest is claiming something meaningful from the other person. With the most meaningful right being the children, unfortunately, this needs to be factored in. With one of my exes, that was the ONLY reason he fought for custody. Needless to say, the judge picked up on it. That ex hasn’t laid eyes on his beautiful daughter, living half an hour away, in over a decade. He hasn’t called for holidays or written cards for birthdays, because he’s selfish. Thank god that glowed! Remember, put your own differences aside for the interest of your child-not for custodial reasons; because that’s what your child deserves!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for sharing and helping us remember what is important.

[@queenlove7912]

I have a detention report of verbal and physical child abuse against the mother of my kids who were took from her custody,, I want to know why if there is enough evidence to take our kids from her, WHY WAS SHE NOT CRIMINALLY CHARGED 🤔

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Queen Love, I don't know, I wish you the best.

[@johnhamilton6205]

I fought and won full custody of my son! She was stripped of all rights but to advise me of his best interest! Couldn’t come within 500 ft of us unless it’s supervised visits at my discretion and in a public place!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

John Hamilton, I wish the best for you and your son.

[@annaclusker2261]

Wow how did u do it as my violent ex won't let me see my son for 7 months..and he's on drugs .

[@johnhamilton6205]

@@annaclusker2261 I had documentation and a great lawyer! I dug in deep and took all the mental abuse my ex gave out! My circumstances was on my side from the get go! She abused her oldest son and was caught by a tenant and was reported to cps and after their investigation they declared her unfit but I didn’t know that at the time! I had school records of sons absentees and they were overly excessive (28 days or more). She scheduled an mhmr (mental health evaluation) for her oldest and she was a no show and got documentation on it! She just flat out told me of her and her boyfriends sex life in detail! I caught her in lies and also she never appeared in hearings nor did what the judge ordered us to do! I went very deep into that rabbit hole to ensure I got custody of my son and still paying the price of the mental and emotional abuse I endured and this all happened in 2009! I would do it all over again for my son cause he has grown into an awesome man and is going to have a great career ahead of him and we both know that he wouldn’t have had that with her! Wish you luck

[@johnhamilton6205]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you! We are happy and doing great! He’s about to turn 20 and still ticklish and I’m still enjoying being his father! Lol

[@johnhamilton6205]

@@annaclusker2261 if he is not allowing visitation I would follow what the decree says and document several times he has failed to appear with your son and then seek help with legal counsel and action!

[@ceannamccracken7001]

I have a friend who has a daughter about 4 yrs old and he hasn't been able to see his child for a year or 2 now because the mother won't allow him to he has no communication with the mother of his child because she and her current boyfriend who used to be friends with the father refuse to allow him to see his child not even pictures not even the grandmother on the mother's side can see her grandchildren because shes supporting the father he wants to get custody of his daughter but he suffers from seizures caused by stress he is also trying to be in a better living situation and have more money saved before going to court I'm just curious if anyone has any advice on what he should/could do because hes a great father and it tares him apart every day knowing he cant see his daughter it's a very sad situation I know who he is as a person and I have met the mother of his child and she has always seemed so full of herself and acts like shes untouchable it makes me feel like there is nothing he can do and I know he feels the same any advice would be great

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ceanna Mccracken, that is sad, he can keep a box with things he would share with his daughter or keep a journal of his journey to get to see her. I hope he has researched what he needs to do to be able to file for visitation. It might not be much. He can take on the custody aspect later.

[@denisehuerta2626]

I’m so scared. We are going start mediation next week and I’m hoping and praying for my stbx to come to this with an open mind, willing to compromise, realize that me and him are the parents (not the grandparents), and most importantly that it’s not about winning it’s about the kids (not what is convenient with him). He is trying to get full custody, majority parenting time, his mom as the babysitter/teacher because he doesn’t want them to go to school. And even if it hurts I want to do 50/50 with him because it’s what’s right for our girls.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Denise Huerta, I hope things go well for you. You are the mother your children need.

[@annaclusker2261]

Yes I do 50/50 0 I have my son Friday Saturday Monday morning to but dad stops me as he lied used my past against me..an£ he got temporary primary Carrer ,.

[@sorad5791]

I understand what you're going through.❤

[@Jake-8888]

wow ive watched many of your videos but this one is amazing and i need to be in touch with one of you because i am so afraid that where i live they are blinded by the truth and i need help my kids are being alienated from me and the small amount of evidence i did have was destroyed

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jacob Downs, I am sorry. Talk to an attorney who knows the laws where you live to see what you can do.

[@lukeo8196]

I really appreciate all the great content! Thank you guys!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad you enjoy it! Luke O., honored to be on your team.

[@nicolii7321]

Most couples I know including my own compete with who does more in the relationship. One person accuses and the other defends.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

nicolii, competition does not belong in a relationship.

[@kathleenmonahan1315]

You guys are awesome, I wish I could find a professional in my area like you gentlemen.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks 👍

[@kalidoscope3270]

How you don't focus on dad's bad behaviors when his abusing the children? How you don't speak bad about him? May I say to my child, I am sorry that dad did this to you. This is a awful behavior. May I speak out the truth at court without beeing seen as a overprotective mother? May I effectively protect my children when needed? Or do I have to shut up and accept anything?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Kali, there is a way to present the evidence. This is something your lawyer should be helping you with. You just want to have the evidence and present it in a formal, non-emotional way. It gets looked at that way.

[@kx80moto]

Thanks again fir all your good advise guys xxx

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

grey wold, you are welcome.

[@bryanhazelton5020]

Why are you helping women prevent fathers getting custody ????? Men, males, fathers were someone’s parent too. So when you say what’s in the best interest of the child than it’s in the best interest that everyone gets a quality of family life. “Not Just Mothers” Mothers generally divorce the father so why is it not reasonable that the legal system doesn’t allow mothers to continue to punishing the father??? Can’t we all just get along??? Can’t women just go to work all day everyday like society wants men to continue working forever.???

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Bryan Hazelton, you are viewing one video on the channel. There is a playlist, check it out. Most topics come from questions or suggestions people ask me.

[@bryanhazelton5020]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV And?

[@jeannettemiller1188]

So grateful 🙏 for both of you. Thank you for putting in the time to I form us, as we navigate this painful valley.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Our pleasure! Jeannette Miller, honored to be on your team.

[@Warriarwomen45]

This is so not true , my ex and his mother would call CPS on me all the time . Also they used the courts to emotionally and mentally abuse me , when they wouldn't get their way the Judge that began with the case seen right through there game's, so when the kept on not getting there way with the false allegations & alienation , they came to the state where I lived in but filed in a city in didn't even live in and even gave them the wrong address of where I lived so I was unaware of court and the Judge gave them temporary custody until the following week, if they didn't know where I lived then why did I get served the nite b4 court and during court he lied & said I didn't have him enrolled in school so he needed custody to enroll him which he was already enrolled & I tried to explain this to the Judge she didn't listen to a word I said & since I had only just gotten served at 10 pm the night before & it didn't even have a date for court I called the next morning and was told they had court that day and it was continued until the following Tuesday which I was a single parent and he had only went with his dad for his summer court ordered visit and was never returned because of lies he told on me and I couldn't afford to hire a lawyer that fast ,I always agreed to share custody no matter what our disagreements were but he only wanted 1 weekend a month all holidays and all summer long but that wasn't good enough for his mom the told him we want full custody because 2 years b4 this court date my so a daughter kept passing strep back and forth to each other but the Tricare military insurance wouldn't cover him getting his Tonsils removed until he had strep 12times which made him have to repeat 1st over so the Judge said I educationally neglected him and gave my son to his dad and me 1 weekend a month and alternative holidays and to meet half way that lasted 6 months then he started parental alienation for 10 yrs I went through this I went to court many times because he violented the courts orders but they did nothing to help. Now my son is 17 now his dad decided he couldn't deal with him anymore and dropped him off to my at 4 am this February 22 and still keeps the child support my son hates me because his dad told him for years that I didn't want him , my son doesn't live with either of us he lives with his boss . I can tell you this Judges that don't uphold visitation schedule and if one parent is wanting to share custody that is what's best for the child in the end , but child support and lawyers and corruption in the system is what hurts the child in the end and is very sad for so many cases. Judges just don't listen and have a open hand for a pay out to give the child to the parent with the most money SAD SO VERY SAY CHILDREN HAVE EVEN UNLIVED THEMSELVES. IF THE COURT SYSTEM ONLY KNEW HOW MUCH PAIN THEY HAVE CAUSED FOR MONEY AND CONTROL OVER THE CHILD OR CHILDREN THE CHILDREN ARE THE TRUE VICTIMS 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am sorry you have had to go through this. Continue to reach out to your son and let him know you care for him.

[@merncat75]

Thank you so much for making these videos!!! They are very helpful for those of us who are new to this horrible situation.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, merncat75. It's an honor to be on your team. Thank you for watching.