Reasons A Parent Can Lose Custody

Child custody can get really messy and no parent would ever want to lose so watch out, here are reasons on how you could lose the battle.
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[@Healthnut1909]

I wish lawyers and judges were educated on covert narcissism and learn to recognize the signs. Too many children being put in dangerous situations

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Good idea, healthnut. Thanks for commenting.

[@Madmok128]

They do!

[@christyepperson8805]

Seriously! It's so difficult to prove this and they are such experts when lying to the court. I hate lying.

[@MiguelGonzalez-ko1ow]

What happens when the father is being abusive and mother is trying to protect his children

[@jaypuck6912]

With respect, the word "narcissist" is thrown around way too much.

[@msfittherapist]

He's a narcissistic sociopath and has said he doesnt want to be a parent...so why force visitatiin when its obviously not in the best interest of the child when he will not feed, not give bedtime, not provide safety...in this case i want and understand the importance of co-parenting but why do we as the parent have to wait for "something to happen" to a child before the courts listen or understand...and thats the tip of the iceberg in my case... We teach kids to stay away from harmful situations. .so what is the system teaching? Nothing...just addding to another generation emotional and unstable abuses we as parents are trying to TRULY avoid and not as a control tactic...

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

If he truly doesn't want anything to do with his children, then the kids will pick up on that and they should not be forced, Ms. Fit Therapist.

[@violeturviolet5]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Recently on the news the crazy narc x who was allowed visitations decided to chain his 3yrs old to the child care seat engulfed the car with gasoline and burned her alive a he ran to a near by pond and saved his own life NOT EVERYONE DESERVES THE RIGHT TO A VULNERABLE CHILD JUST CAUSE THEY ARE THE DONOR....🤔🤔🤔

[@selinallano9147]

Man.. You said a mouthful right there!!! Im in the same situation and i wholeheartedly agree with you on this!!

[@selinallano9147]

@@violeturviolet5 This is the story that haunts me when i think about parents who hurt the kid as a form of punishment to the other parent. Heartbreaking

[@user-bd4bo4tb8u]

Do you really need to ask that question? Most people are decent and fair and care about their own children. For most of us, it never crosses our minds that a man we love would be any different. Then it happens and your world and world,view are destroyed.

[@emelle285]

you both have way too much focus on normal people custody problems. Do a video of one parent doing everything right and healthy, and the other parent being an abusive alcoholic.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

There are so many scenarios, em elle, sorry you have had to go through this.

[@simplyshannon3478]

em elle this is my issue as well. Adding sexual abuse, along with physical, mental, emotional abuse, and substance abuse...yet he has more money.

[@lindsayfarr8978]

cooperating with a drug addict... I would love that video

[@matthewlove6678]

But your answers obvious and there is no reason they would waste there time and effort you clearly have flaws or you wouldnt make such a remark

[@DimitriTheBarbarian]

@Karol Palazej thank you that's good info

[@Mbspitz851]

If the other parent is a narcissist joint custody only maintains the unhealthy dynamics of the narcissistic parent. From the child's point of view the narcissist makes sure that you are belittled and he is the good strong parent and the child has to listen to that parent and not the other parent. In many cases the other parent is healthy and has no idea this control tactic is being used.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Mary Spitz, co-parenting can be a challenge and more-so with a person who has mental problems. Over time, the child will see what is happening. Thank you for watching.

[@zofiaelfsberg3452]

This is what im going thru but it will work out 4 the best im determent ❤❤❤

[@garenhuddy1981]

​@@LiveOnPurposeTVyea by then it's too late and the child has severe issues

[@davidflash603]

Rule 1. Dont have kids or get married in the USA. Take your labor to another country and get a passport.

[@davidflash603]

@Karol Palazej What they say and do are two different things. Watch the Coach Greg Adams channel. Then sit in on family court.

[@melyssasmagictouch]

I'm just curious about a couple of things, that I'm hoping you might be able to touch on. Every decree seems to end with a Children's Bill of Rights page that lists everything that you should not do or discuss, etc., with the child. And, in my opinion, a lot of those "things" are very important, if not detrimental in terms of appropriateness at the very least. So my question is, at what point do you hold the other parent accountable for breaching the child's bill of rights? And, realistically speaking, is it even possible to do so? Any parent can say or do whatever they feel like or deem appropriate at the time (or always, for that matter), but what exactly can be done about it, and how? It seems to me that, unless a bystander hears or sees it for themselves, or if it is miraculously caught on tape in some kind of way, there is absolutely no way to hold a parent accountable for such. I would very much like to know what your (both of you) take is on this matter, as well as, if it is (if at all), something enforcable. How does one prove that. And I'll be honest, I feel that a breach of that particular bill is a form of child abuse; whether it be verbal or emotional. To me, they both go hand in hand. How exactly do you protect your children from that,? And, how exactly do the courts receive &/or respond to such acts?

[@joepaquet4332]

@Karol Palazej This is not reality and based on a pattern of your comments you must be a pro-legal troll

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

David Flash, sounds like you have had a negative experience.

[@joepaquet4332]

The NH family courts regularly award a pathogenic parent custody in the face of evidence so that the industry can ride their behavior to the bank for as long as possible. If you have enough money you can buy your way out.

[@bullishzig]

Please do more videos on Father's with custody and the mother being the abusive party.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Mark Zeigler, thank you for the suggestion.

[@somchai272]

I want to thank you so much for providing this information. I just wrapped up a 15 months custody battle. Needless to say it's been the most emotion period of my life. Gotta wait about 2 weeks for the decision but I feel confident in our case. We established domestic violence, medical neglect (my wife took our daughter out of the country,18 months after not seeing her her teeth are black) and educational neglect. In 18 months of school she was absent 21 days and tardy 57 times! All the while I never knew she was back in America.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Kanyarat Baker, good luck to you and your case. Glad you have contact with your daughter again.

[@oneloveoneheart3563]

Females are really weird to me now!

[@christyepperson8805]

Can't love this enough! Thank you for addressing Parenatl Alienation and focusing on the children and not either parent. They need both parents.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Christy Epperson, my pleasure.

[@dougfoster445]

I have primary custody of my 11 year old but we pretty much let her choose when she goes to moms. But I actually support her doing it 😂. Mom also can call me and say “can I get her this weekend?” And I totally support it. This actually works better for us than when we enforce the order. She didn’t like going to her house at all when we went by the court schedule. 2 years ago we decided to try to just let her tell us when she wants to spend time with mom and she actually spends more time with her now than what the court called for. This only works of both parents act good though. I definitely wouldn’t advise it if there’s conflict with custody as it’s very easy to manipulate the situation. I learned this very early on. All it took is for me to say “baby your going to moms tomorrow, I’m really gonna miss you” and the child reacts by not wanting to leave me. I recognized this is unhealthy and really didn’t mean to cause the reaction, but I recognized it. Now I give my daughter a healthy heads up “babe, don’t forgot tomorrow moms gonna pick you up from school, don’t forget she’s been wanting to goto the park with you so bring good shoes” - “ok daddy!” Amazing how much kids react to us as parents even if we don’t directly say something to them. Non verbal communication is a very real thing.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Doug Foster, I am glad you are working together on this. Your child will benefit from it as she sees people communicating and working together. You are giving your child a valuable gift.

[@jessicaedwards524]

That's so great you both can do this. In the past, when my son was 3, my ex used to try to make the exchange difficult, basically by doing the opposite of what you do.

[@chynabarnescb]

Because you mature… I wish it was more people like this

[@kevboost]

How did you get custody?

[@dougfoster445]

@@kevboost The way I won custody is I kept at it...Don't ever ever ever make it personal with your ex...Always be the nicer person and more mature person but make sure you have boundaries...The true way to win custody is a marathon, not a race....Consistency is key. Always be available for your child. Know the doctors your child goes to. know the teachers. Know their best friends. Know your kids birthday. In most cases, doesn't matter how good you are because if your ex is also good and you guys get along then it'll probably be 50/50...Which, trust me, is a good thing cause your kid needs both parents. A lot of bitter moms understand that 50/50 only works when both people get along so they'll purposely make it difficult for co-parenting just so in court they can say "I NEED FULL CUSTODY CAUSE WE CLEARLY CANT CO-PARENT" and she'll probably try to blame you. That's why I say ALWAYS be very reasonable even if it's not in the court order..For example, if I was ever running like 2-5 minutes late, my ex would be a huge deal about it and point to the court order...On the other hand, when SHE was late, I didn't make a big deal because i'm reasonable....That is how you win. When you have your trial, you show judge that you can't co-parent because she makes things difficult and that you are the more reasonable person that is going to do whats right for the kid AND also ENCOURAGE the other parent to have a relationship with the kid.

[@bbailey7740]

Thank you for your insight. I have been binge watching your custody videos. Next Thursday I go to court for the primary custody of my almost five year old daughter. I am terrified. She is my world. Obviously, there are many details at play here, but at the end of the day, I just want what is best for my little girl. I will give you an update after the hearing...positive thoughts and vibes, please!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

B B, positive vibes are going out. You have your heart in the right place, what is best for your daughter.

[@Mrs.LeahBaker]

Update? How did it go?

[@bbailey7740]

@@Mrs.LeahBaker Long story short, we came to an agreement and we share custody. It was a long road, but I’m so glad to no longer be on it. Thanks for asking!

[@Mrs.LeahBaker]

@@bbailey7740 that’s great!! I’m so happy for you!! Mine is Tuesday... I know what you mean about long road. That’s seriously amazing!

[@bbailey7740]

@@Mrs.LeahBaker best of luck. We went to court for one day and then the day before the second hearing, we came to an agreement. I don't know your story, but I hope everything works out! I know you must be anxious.

[@lydiahubbell6278]

I bent over backwards to cooperate and be accommodating, but truth didn't prevail. My case is straight out of hell. I am praying my daughter will stay alive until she is 18 she she will be free. The best liar won...

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lydia Hubbell, I am sorry to hear this, I wish everything was fair in the world, sadly it is not.

[@nashonnebryant3458]

How did he win?

[@lydiahubbell6278]

@@nashonnebryant3458 he erased me from my daughter's life.

[@lydiahubbell6278]

@MadeintheImageofGod cooperating and communicating are necessary to a healthy parenting relationship. I was not so compliant with demands of strangers but I was reasonable. I had no idea what was going on. I thought it was weird to request court orders to keep me from saying anything negative and to support my daughter's school experience. I had not anticipated making any negative remarks other than calling him out on lies. And I supported her school experience in every way, but he lied and sent emails to the school saying I encouraged Dilara to misbehave at school. Court orders are dangerous things.

[@Ash-gc6kj]

Thank you so so so much for these videos. They are very helpful and so very true. There is no win or lose. And this is where so many people get so focused on is winning or losing instead of what works or what’s right.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

So true, Ashley Adams. Glad you have found this in your life.

[@1thedarox]

Can you please address corrupt judges in custody cases? How can you obtain justice when the judge is bias, falsified court documents and won't allow you a change of venue.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You may need to seek the advice of an attorney who can help with your individual situation.

[@davidflash603]

All judges are corrupt. Dirty attorneys with a dress. The dirtier the judge the more money everyone makes.

[@sandyesingh2597]

Yes. Corrupt judges is a problem. They ARE biased.

[@armancha23]

I agree, I might have a judge who sides with mothers when fathers rights are continually being violated against the parenting plan with documentation.

[@simplyshannon3478]

1thedarox oh my God girl..I’m telling you. Fayetteville North Carolina is the most corrupt place on earth. My ex who was recently charged with 5 felony sec offenses against my daughter, and a charge against my youngest son for forcing him to blow into his breath-o-lizer actually got custody of the same child he is in court with?!?! Wtf? They used a fake Facebook page that I proved wasn’t me against me, and my dead boyfriend. Smh it’s insane

[@milesholloway6031]

Mom left the state with kids and I have joint and legal custody. Have seen them since July. This video is good. Waiting for court date. Hope the judge sees the same thing and enforce or change custody to me for my kids sake. Kids needs both Mom and Dad.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I agree, Simeon Holloway. I hope you see your children soon. Thank you for watching.

[@robynedward125]

It depends if the other parent is being phyiolocially more damaging and lying about the other parent and abuse. It's difficult

[@mrsc7500]

Simeon Holloway sorry bro.. my wife was going to leave the county with are 4yr boy.. but a quick call to my attorney stop ✋ that... hang in there!!!! everything will come ur way.. just stay positive bro👍👍👍

[@milesholloway6031]

Mr S C That’s good news! Will do! Thanks !

[@raeo7963]

What happened at your court date

[@LivingBGLegend]

I like these guys... I’ve wasted a lot of time watching Rogan and Bobbie related videos but these are the ones that directly affect me, I’m sure they help others as well.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Living Legend, thank you, honored to be on your team.

[@vybzmusiq7964]

Awesome Video!! I'm Using Some of These Pointer's For My Custody Battle!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

My best to you and your children, Vybz Musiq.

[@lyndsiemmiles]

Thank you so much! I needed to hear this!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hi Lyndsie Miles. As always, great to hear from you.

[@DeepWebDiary]

I enjoy your videos a lot. Thank you for your work.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, spcbell3246. Thank you for watching.

[@ThisSheetB4RealYo]

So helpful and good. Got my case in 8 hrs. Thx for your insights

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad you found the video useful, ThisSheetB4RealYo. Thank you for watching.

[@Renofirefly30]

This will actually help me write my motion for sole legal custody. My ex is so concerned with being the fun parent that he isnt being a parent. he makes demands on me in regards to our son because 'its his right' 🤦‍♀️ our son got arrested for a assaulting my husband and my ex is mad i took our sons xbox away.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ctrl Alt Delete, it sounds like your son needs more parenting, glad you are setting the standard.

[@Renofirefly30]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV he certainly does. My son stole his phone back out of a dresser before he went to his dads. my ex is ignoring my calls and text messages. Ive had to put security cameras all over my house inside and out.

[@l.p.904]

Wish these informative videos were available back when my X was trying to take custody after our "amicable" divorce.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

l. p. I hope things turned out well for you, share away with anyone you know who may be able to benefit.

[@ClaireWill71uk]

My son a victim of kidnapping and parent alienation, has breached court shared custody, and taken my grandchildren from their mother because she had a new sibling last month, and in his mind no other man can raise his children. Court is today, 5th March 2020.... yet he claims he will refuse to return the kids, and leave the state. The Hague, International social services, are aware this is occurring... I’m horribly concerned this history will repeat again...since it’s a norm for the family I married to remove children from biological parents and adopt them under duress, by new step parent often more than one. Thank you for the insight.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Claire Will. Best wishes to you and your family during this time.

[@lornamadden1099]

So I have followed you for years and have always valued your parenting advice , who knew I'd be here taking advice for this .....I'm a year into a seperation for my four children's dad , it's been very difficult, I am so thankful for your video this is so valuable for people like me thank you for sharing ❤

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am so sorry. I wish your family well.

[@cgah6690]

Keep teaching the public. Thanks guys.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

DC, you are welcome.

[@DW-ug5tb]

I would love for you two to represent me in court. The mother of my kids has alienated me from my two girls and I dared not fight her. I didn’t want to hurt the kids during a stressful situation. But I can promise you, with what your saying, I could get my kids back in a positive environment and give them the best life and I would continue to allow my children see the mother.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I believe you, Joseph Roach, seek out good counsel where you are at.

[@RogerRamos-gw9hd]

Thank you guys for your videos!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Our pleasure!

[@threeicys]

I agree with em elle. Family Law attorneys and judges need to be educated in types of abuse and the effects on child development. Also to be trauma-informed. After a three-year-long battle, I just lost custody of my son. The main reason is that they perceived my daughter's choice not to see her father as my manipulation. I was respecting her choice and requested that decision be made with her therapist's recommendations. She has PTSD because of him and has been in trauma therapy. He is the main character of her nightmares. But none of this was taken into consideration. So now my autistic son is traumatized again by the judge giving his father total control and custody. He has no intention of keeping my son in contact with me or his siblings. his siblings testified against their father in open court. Who's interest was served in this ruling?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am sorry this happened to you. I hope you can have contact again with him.

[@cakesinthecity]

I lost custody because we agreed amicably that he would have the kids full-time while I went to nursing school for one year, and then he decided to change his mind about giving them back and it’s been hell on earth for all of us ever since.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I'm so sorry. Seems this could be addressed in court to get a more equitable arrangement.

[@Havi71599]

God is all you need to resolve the most gard problems in our lives

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Havi Wisdom, I am a man of faith and God is a big part of my day.

[@Iambrilliant683]

I really enjoy these videos that feature Sid.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hello Amanda, isn't he great? Thank you for commenting.

[@mistyflores3176]

I don't understand how women or even men try to keep the kids away from a father [mother] who desires to be with their kids. Like that's ridiculous!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Misty Flores, kids are used as pawns and it isn't fair to them.

[@christyepperson8805]

Its truly evil but happens very often.

[@193rdsfs]

@@christyepperson8805 cause the other parent can get more money for support too

[@yasidigonzalez3640]

What do you do if the mother is addicted to meth, should visitation still be allowed

[@mjennifer142]

@@yasidigonzalez3640 hell nnnoooo

[@caseymyslive7632]

This is the other reason I don't want a divorce the kids are part of my world too. I love you guys.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I'm honored to have you here on the channel, Casey Myslive.

[@Darkatlas_23]

Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

: )

[@maddie-rn8fs]

Love this

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks, maddie.

[@kristiekogutrodriguez496]

My ex husband has made false allegations against me saying I would harm my daughter. I had to go through all kinds of groups and have not seen my daughter in 3 years. He lies to my daughter making her think I don’t want anything to do with her. I had to pay 4500 for a risk assessment that’s taken 9 months for this man to go through everything, it’s almost done and I hope it works in my favor. My ex husband tells me that my daughter doesn’t want to talk to me and he’s not going to force her

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Kristie Kogut Rodriguez, I am sorry you are having to go through this. I hope you prevail.

[@cruzbedreamin3700]

Either you in or out!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I hear you.

[@anjelawilliams6012]

I have a four year old son. The father and mom l, half brother have been alienated from his life. Sacramento, Ca family judge granted us visits with the child, right after that, his sister who has legal guardian ship moved to Georgia, or Oklahoma and has made my son unavailable to visit his other family for the last 3 1/2 years. The sister who has custody of my son is purposely braking the parent/child bond. My four year old son has no one to enforce his visits or speak up in his behalf. The father and I tried to enforce through the family court and the courts said there isn't anything they can do, that the mom dad would need to hire an attorney/ private investigator to enforce . Parents do not have a physical address for the legal guardian and parents are homeless experiencing a financial hardship. So my son's sister lies and tells the courts that the parents abandoned or doesn't hear from the parents. It's a shame that professionals do not go to child's school, to speak with children in private away from abusive/alienating custodel parent.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Anjela Williams, it is a huge problem and I am sorry your family is going through this heartache.

[@PetalsPrince]

Hope this comment will be noticed and replied to. I have a situation that has gone on for many years now, and at this point, I want to get out of the house, and I'd hope for my younger brother to aswell. My father hasn't been the best person. He has threatened to shoot our dog in the head once, hes pinned me down and twisted my arm. Although that was for safety reasons, I feel that I shouldn't have been pulled and tossed onto the floor like that. Ever since 6th grade, he has emotionally drained me over my grades, and I have been criticized a bit, which has been a major putdown for me. I'm currently in 11th grade, and continue to suffer from depression since then. I'm not the only one who puts up with this. My mother has been emotionally drained because of him, as now I see her cry almost everyday and feel miserable with him. I tried so hard, from calling CPS to going to the hospital with hopes I can get away from my father. The hospital couldn't recommend much but just tell me to hang in there and maybe my dad will change, but he never does. As for CPS, my parents said so much, primarily my dad, that he convinced me it wouldn't turn out well if I left, so I told CPS the minor things that would prevent the situation from going down any further. Recently I've come to such a bad point to where I can't handle seeing my mother miserable, wasting years of her life with him and weakening herself emotionally and physically, and my brother who will become just like him… He's honestly not a father to me. He may care, but he doesn't know how to be a good father honestly. From what it seems, hem ay RARELY get physical, but he often seems to be what's called an "energy vampire". Just draining me and my family bit by bit. God, he even abused our dog, which is why we had to give him away with this bad environment. It's better than being shot in the head in the woods. My god… I need some advice. Who do I reach out to? Are there ways I can still stay in my current town? Is moving in with my friends family or even my boyfriends family an option if they approve? I'd appreciate some advice as soon as you may be able to respond.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Aouleria, thank you for watching and commenting. My apologies for not getting back sooner - I'm backed up on comments. I am unable to help you much because you are a minor. However, I will tell you that we do have a free 25 minute call available with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. Your mother would have to be the one to schedule the call and be there for the call. Please consider talking to her about it. If this is something she or the two of you do, think about or write down what you want to discuss and keep it concise and to the point - time is very limited! In the meantime, have a conversation with your mother explaining your desires. If you want to move out, ask if you can live with grandparents, uncles/aunts, or any other relatives if possible. The second choice would be with a friend, but however you do it, everyone has to be on board with you living with them. You may also want to talk to the school counselor. They are equipped with knowledge of how to help in a variety of ways. Best wishes to you and your family. Almost forgot! To schedule the call, have your Mom go to DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall

[@robynedward125]

Healthnut you have a point about narrascist I'm up against one I'm going through it now not honest ppl pathological liars I find it very tough to take hugs the court doesn't recognize character flaws It's incredible how they fall upper the radar with abuse and neglect if it's more emotional abuse hugs your not alone It's amazing how the real them comes out when u start fighting back and saying no.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Robyn Edward, thanks for your support of our community.

[@PurpleApe14]

Kids need both parents if both parents aren’t toxic. No child should be exposed to a toxic mother or father. Period.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

AprilMichelle, the safety of the child is what is important. Always.

[@heatherann4390]

It should be whats in the best interests as a family as a whole unit.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Heather Ann, I agree, it would be nice if that were the goal.

[@malurobles4704]

I am a parent going through parental alienation. their father and new step mother have done everything use the court system to have my children. right now they used false allegations of sexual abuse. later my son confessed to being coached.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Malu Robles, this happens all too often and the outcome is never good. I am sorry you are having to go through this.

[@gaittr]

What a marvelous video!You gentlemen are wonderful! Signed, a Man

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

C W, thank you!

[@stranahan07]

You have amazing videos that are very informative and insightful. Currently, I am awaiting a 706 (Expert Custody Evaluator) based in Las Cruces New Mexico, my appointment is this Thursday on the 18th, I have been accused of about 4 false allegations and I have spent this entire week organizing everything for the evaluator to prove how these are false allegations, all 4 allegations have been ruled out as well after the investigations. My question to you, is there any way you can make a video about what I can do about many false allegations, basically how can I take action against the accuser or how can I prove in a court of law that these allegations were false with malicious intent? Also, how should I prepare all of my evidence for the expert custody evaluator.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Stranahan07, hopefully you are working with an attorney to present your case in court. I am not an attorney, that is why I had a guest attorney on this video. Your need someone who knows the law in your state. Good luck.

[@ausndalt1]

My brother sent me this link to your video. You are talking about everything that happened to me. I can’t find an attorney that doesn’t want to be friends with the Judge because everyone that lives in the small town has to eventually go in front of that judge again. It’s not fair that I never had a chance. I wish you would help me see my son again. I was given the advice to wait until her turns 18 but it’s so hard to wait. I miss him so much.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

L Wms, thank you for watching, and I appreciate your brother sending this video to you as well. I am sorry that you can't see your son right now - that is heart-breaking. Unfortunately, I cannot give legal advice. I do have other child custody videos; here's the playlist if you would like to check those out: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. Best wishes.

[@sunshineintuitivehealing4793]

What do you do when the other parent is toxic?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hi Kali Caldwell, get clear on what you control, and that is not the other parent. Since you have no control over them, you can spend less time thinking about them and focus on what you can do.

[@jesseskellington9427]

Bill Eddie has alot of great techniques. That has helped me with my toxic/stressful/high conflict x-wife. Let me know if to those techniques helps you out too 😊

[@mnvlwilson]

Bro this the question

[@ladythumper7169]

You know my husband's going through a crazy custody battle the mother tested positive and also is putting the father out to be the bad guy she's embedded a lot of things in the kids head but I've been catching myself just looking into a lot of research and I mean it's obvious that the other person is very toxic I say to my husband don't worry about that let them be them what you can worry about is yourself make sure you just provide a very comfortable loving home for when that child comes with you you can't change that other person what you can do is change the characteristics in yourself if you catch yourself I know sometimes we need to have a mirror in front of our faces but if you catch yourself doing the same things or certain things that the other parent does such as pointing the finger when you look in the mirror all you can do is look at yourself stop looking at them and look at what you need to do real quick to change to make a huge change for your child let's not worry about another person being toxic trust me my family is definitely going through it and I haven't been to church in many years but I'm doing what I need to do for my family start going being a solid foundation for my husband my children and my stepchild it's easier to love then to deal with the hate for me and my case I'm not perfect nor is my husband and his ex but what I can do is do my best to provide a home for all of us it's time to grow up and get right so let's not worry about anybody being toxic just take a look in the mirror......

[@Al-lf1dm]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thinking less doesn’t remove the toxic influence that parent brings to the child. A child doesn’t need a toxic parent.

[@Antoniosanchez-li9mv]

I’m dealing with someone that harbors all my past mistakes and failures . I understand she can not help the negative feelings she has towards me . I am a great father and I am being punished and kept from Their well being , I don’t want to drag this into court but that decision will be new to our children, for us the parents have experience from our previous marriages. She had full custody and I had joint but with the petitioner title on my behalf. I’m up against someone that delights herself by making me suffer . A good parent would not interfere with a child’s right to have both parents in their lives. Never give up is my new way of waving my banner of peace not war. The children are always the ones who suffer the most .

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I wish you the best, my friend. I hope she can understand how this could be painful or made easier for the kids.

[@atstar8136]

Be proactive....im always in constant fear ... but don't care anymore

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

at Star, I understand how wearing it can be on an individual.

[@wmomma]

Just found out that my ex-husband's new wife is pushing and shoving my 12 year old son and they also left my 15 and 12 year old kids home alone unsupervised for 24 hours so they could go to a friend's beach house. He never contacted me for right of first refusal. Now I have to file contempt charges. Wish I didn't have to. But, this behavior is concerning and affects the kids

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Bolo4 Momma, abuse is not tolerated or acceptable. Sorry you are going to need to go through this.

[@blank3115]

Do you think it’s helpful or necessary for one parent to encourage or plan / facilitate outings with/ for the other parent who is nonchalant?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Good question, blank blank. I am not sure the other parent would follow through on the activities and that might bring more disappointment for the child. Be receptive and encouraging. Thanks.

[@kawaiisenshi2401]

I love the AND vs but

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Kawaii Senshi, thank you.

[@MinnesotaLiz]

Do you need a degree to be a custody evaluator? I need to know! I 100% found my calling after just dealing with one. She was completely biased on mom's side. It's heartbreaking to watch good father's in pain!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Minnesota Liz, check in your state. States have different regulations. Good luck! Your passion will help many people.

[@josdiaz5295]

I wish all of this was true, then the courts would have granted my husband primary custody. We've gone through... alienation, non-cooperation, humiliation, coercion, false accusations in court (luckily, that went in our favor because we had all the evidence), but you name it and we went through it. We have all the proof of everything being false or being done towards us and my husband was still and is still being pushed aside. I guess it's just the luck that some might run into because we haven't had any except for catching her on perjury trying to get full custody by default claiming she couldn't find where the non-custodial parent was and we proved it to the magistrate and it went in our favor but that was the only thing we got.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am sorry it hasn't worked out for you. Don't give up.

[@josdiaz5295]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you, you should see the file I have organized for my husband. He keeps trying with his daughter because his son is going on 19 but we've stopped going to court. I think that maybe the right legal representation would have helped in our situation. Sadly, his daughter has gone down a dark path and the mother just refuses to do something to help her. It's to the point that his daughter doesn't live with her mother, she lives with her grandmother. It's a sad and complicated situation but he still tries, even though we don't go through the courts anymore. It's bad because I see that he's just not getting anywhere with it. Thank you for your response though.

[@sexy198933]

I disagree with children needing both parents. My child’s father has done more mental health damage to our daughter being around her father than being with him. Not every father can be a father. And the courts need to be reformed to accommodate such non physical abuse to a child.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yours is a difficult situation, Jamela Sullivan. We wish every parent could have the child's best interest at heart and the majority do. Thank you for being there for your child.

[@ytcensorship8180]

@@princeofdeath6058 I would say not every mother is automatically a good mother.In my experience I can admit I'm not perfect dad and I learn in a process but definitely I am not as bad as my wife describe. I don't judge every parent but in many cases many many women think they crystal clear and the fault is always on the other side never in the middle.

[@princeofdeath6058]

@@ytcensorship8180 thats how women thinks, in their head 'omg hes perfect ill marry him!' When he asks the big question. Sad thing is most females go into a relationship with a guy they hardly know, and fail to realise guys always show their best traits to attract a woman. Its a womans responsibilty to figure out whether a guy will be a good or bad father before opening their legs and giving him access to impregnate them, not just for herself but for the child she will bear.

[@michele3326]

prince of death it’s not always her fault for opening her legs. My ex got me pregnant on purpose and without my consent to trap me. Now he body shames my daughter as well as talking bad about me to her. She can’t stand him. Now after telling her he wants nothing to do with her 2 years ago, he’s trying to get custody. Sometimes it’s the guy that sucks.

[@robynedward125]

I agree with u on that one mentally their father is trying to brainwash the kids my mother told me and no child support I gotta keep looking for a better paying job, my ex is while on the path to have his rights removed big time. Neglecting our children needs Horrible it breaks my heart it truly does.

[@a-trapp3660]

Can you do a video about court battles over a toddler for the best interests for a toddler and everything. It’s so much harder when a child is young

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Alydia Delarosa, it seems to be difficult no matter the age. I will add this to the topic list, but I am not able to get Sid for videos any longer.

[@johnnyabbott4251]

My children are around their mom, and stepfather. She has sole custody. CPS was called out on them. Come to find out after CPS question my kids, and they told the they was being whipped by the step dad, and step dad smokes crack, my youngest found needles in her room for heroin, they jump from house to house, not being in a stable home, and my son is cutting his arm's, and it's all on record! But some reason they want remove my kids! I go to court to get a summons for sole custody, and go against her rights! "As I should knowing their wellbeing is at a risk!" I go get a process server, they can't find her! I drive their old nieghborhood, I can't find her, I try by mail, and it goes straight back to the postal service! I keep my cool, I try other ways! But no one not even a judge, or cop can do to find her to remove my kids. I love your videos, but Im feeling all my rights is removed! If you are reading this please help? What can I Do?I'm running out of patience, and this is literally going beat me to the ground!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

How frustrating, Johnny Abbott, to say the least. I wish I could find her for you. Don't give up please, we are pulling for you to be able to find her quickly.

[@sonicmax7]

What do you do if also the parent restricts visits in sneaky ways like being late or forgetting the time or scheduling at odd times to give a false sense of visiting niglect to the other parent

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

sonicmax, keep notes with times, write everything down, in front of them. Or speak into a recorder.

[@downhomegirl5]

My EX completely abandoned my son through tremendous sickness he would say to him... Your not sick, nothing's wrong with you. Real P.O.S.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Truth Seeker, sorry to hear about the abandonment. I am glad you are there for him.

[@jakegibson7206]

Great content

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jake Gibson, thanks for trying.

[@jakegibson7206]

Live On Purpose TV I’ve watched more of your videos it helps.. I am trying! You seem like a good dude.

[@justinthebeau2590]

One of my friends has an 8 year old son he won custody 2 years ago after he divorced his wife after she ended up on disability. He refuses to give her partial custody because she can't can't take care of herself so how can she raise/support a child

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I don't know the details, but I wouldn't count out a disabled person. You might be surprised what they can do.

[@rebeccasargeant1835]

I have a question... when you were talking about focusing on ones rights vs making things about this kids... I am the primary custodial parent for my 2 kids sharing joint legal and physical custody and I have an ex who wont let me the know the info for a tutor he hired for our kindergarten aged son, even though I homeschool him during the week. He also has yet to provide me with kids dental info, and I have asked several times since December... lastly he has yet to give me info for a sport he signed our son up for, granted the sport is on his night but I worry he paints me out to others as being controlling, when I honestly just want to support our son in his extra curricular activities. What are your thoughts on this type of circumstance? Is it controlling of me to ask (nicely) multiple times for something he fails to provide me? Or should I just stop trying to co parent?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Rebecca Sargeant, I would ask why you need it. If it is a valid reason and not just to make him to something, then maybe have your attorney put the request in writing. If the sport is on your husband's night, he probably doesn't want to have you there and think it is an infringement. It really is about you as you worry what he says about you to others and that is not the issue. There are ways to encourage your son other than cheering him on. Ask questions and listen to him talk.

[@WarmongerYT]

I have 2 children. Ages 13 & 10. I have been married to my husband/ their stepdad (or Dad as they call him,being as he's the only Dad they've ever known) almost 8 years now. I left my kids biological father when my youngest was 13 months old. He has not seen the kids for almost 9 years. His mother has had them at her house a few times & he seen them then once but he didn't even come to his mother's house specifically to see them, he showed up because his great grandmother had just passed& he showed up with a girl he was dating for 2months (while he was broken up with his off again,on again girlfriend of 9 years) & the girl's 2 small children, one of whom called him Daddy Infront of my 2 kids.(Again he had only been dating this new girl for not even 2months) So aside from seeing them then, Had not seen them& had not tried to see them aside from making 1 phone call/voice mail in that 9 years saying he missed his son on the voicemail & didn't say a word about his daughter. I digress , up until about 5 months ago (October 2020) he finally decided it was convenient for him to see his 2kids. I agreed (bc I don't believe in keeping children from parents out of spite. Unless of course the child(ren) would be in danger) I agreed he could come down to our daughters 10th bday party. But if he came to her birthday party on 9/02/20 then he would need to also come to our son's birthday party 2 months later on 11/08/20 - he didn't. But point being he has now seen them =4x. He came to her birthday party & came down in December to take them to eat in the town we live in. I brought our daughter up twice to meet up with him(&my son also came on the 2nd time) & his on again, off again gf the first time they were arguing & yelling Infront of us(my daughter&I) . Then the second time I brought both kids up to his house& his gf showed up &we were all outside& they were cussing&yelling at each other infront of all of us( she's was&is currently pregnant with their second child together &they were currently broken up). So 4times he's seen them all together. Twice he came down& twice I brought them up: both of which I couldn't believe the screaming,cussing&fighting Infront of us! He has never paid child support. For his daughters 10th bday he gave her $50 & for his son's birthday (that he didn't show up for) he bought him a $130 Carhartt jacket(well I ordered it&he paid for it) I called him&asked him if we could sit down&talk sometime in the near future about Child support &he got mad& called me "a stupid b*tch" &hung up. Later we talked &he said he talked to his Mom (whom is a pastor)& That he "shouldn't have to pay for a kid if you don't see them" I said that's been 1000% your choice. Just because a person decides to emotionally & physically abandon their children doesn't mean they also can financially abandon them also(even though he has for 9yrs). So he has been now paying me $200 per month for both/2 kids. So a $100 per kid per month. Which is comical. For 4months now. That pays for a few days of groceries. 🚩 He is a self employed painter &he makes decent money , especially considering he has VERY little bills. However he has no bank accounts & has only filed his taxes 2x since I left him(in 2012)& of course being self employed says he makes a lot less than what he actually does. He has a house that he finally almost has paid off. He got it with his ex-wife when he was 19 years old,he is now 38. His house payment is $220 a month. He has recently bought a cheap vehicle. So has liability insurance. &Is even buying a cheap house with his brother to fix up to sell. My husband is a licensed pipe fitter & a licensed inspector. He makes $40k - $50k per year. I believe my kids bio dad said he put down $30k on his taxes he filed last year. Our rent for our 3bedroom house is $950/mo , car payment$320, & of course electric$185/mo , wifi (kids have to have for school wifi) $100/mo, &phone bill$105/mo& groceries of course. So I'm wondering how to go forward filing for support. The reason I haven't for so long is because he's always said "If you file for child support, I'll file for split custody or full custody" which is absurd. I'm also pretty sure going 9 years without anything more than 1 phone call to the mother of your children surely would be considered abandonment? He is a stranger to both my kids, they don't know him.& The 4x since September 2nd 2020 of seeing them(today is January 25th 2022) it was uncomfortable for them but I encouraged them to be friendly&try to get to know him. They've seen him 4x now & 2 of those we had to leave after not even an hour of being there because of his ex girlfriend (ex at the time)& him cussing & arguing literally right Infront of us. Smh. * Oh & also his off again,on again girlfriend &him have a 5 year old son together & have another baby on the way together. Their 5 year old son they lost to DHS for drugs& after 2+ years having DHS involved, he was able to finally pass a few drug tests & she signed over custody to him because she had failed a drug test again &signed custody to him so that the child wouldn't go into foster care. Smh. I apologize this is so long. Just had to give some background info. I'm just no longer scared of his threat of getting the kids if I file Child support. I think or at least hope a judge will see through him. I don't want to ruin his life. I just want some help. Why is he so special he should he not have to pay child support? He makes in reality $800- $1,100 per week. $100 per kid per month is nothing. Especially when he hasn't paid me a $1 in 9 years. Personally I would like to receive $500 per month I feel would be fair especially for 2kids. We live in Arkansas.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I would talk to support enforcement in your area. They have the best information of what is expected and how to go about getting it. Might be tough with his self-employed situation but maybe a lien could be put on the house. Seek legal advice, I am not a lawyer or licensed in Arkansas.

[@lashandriawhite3296]

Something happened one time ever. N my son had just gotten out the I c u . N had the stomach virus which passed on to me n my mom. That'll take a whole lot out of u. N it was the first time I had ever caught anything after it left him. I was driving home and I had to stop by being up all night n morning running back and forth to the restroom. Went and found a motel to stay in till I wasn't too tired to drive and also for a restroom. I laid my son beside me. He laid down. Then he got up as usual to go to the potty. But he was in there too long. Keep in mind I had the stomach virus at the time. N anyone who's had it knows it takes a toll on your body. Also by being in the ICU not getting rest. Nurses coming in n out for tests, checking his sugar and giving insulin too him. N checking in on him. I am use to doing all this so at the checkup times I was up making sure he was alright. He went in for very very high ketones,fever, vomiting, diarrhea, being a severely Diabetic. N I catch that virus afterwards. Any how actually we laid down ,he went to potty . Somehow I dozed off a little . I got up went to the restroom and my son wasn't there. When I was about to look outside a man knocked on my door n says your son is at the restaurant. I said O my Lord . Looked for my shoes, didn't find them went barefooted to the restaurant and saw him running around. Yelling. Because we were going later that evening after he rested too. When I looked around ppl were looking at me strange. But they knew who he was. He came over to where I was n grabbed my hand and says mama sit. The police were over there waiting on me to come over and get him. But they called dhr on me like this has happened b 4. This is the first time ever happening. N the last now I know how he tries to go outside to familiar places. In mind my son looks 4. But he is 10 years old. I see 9 year olds walking to the store and no one messes with them. Y me?? I'm a great mother and anyone who knows me , knows that I am.i just don't understand y they had called dhr on me like I'm doing wrong to/ for my son. He's all I got and all I do for. I love my son. With all my heart and soul. And I wouldn't ever let anything bad happen to him. He just wanted to go earlier. And he put my missing shoes on to do so. That's all.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lashandria White, this sounds like an unfortunate situation. The police have rules and I am sure they were just following them. I hope everything is going well now and just continue to love your child.

[@kingsagenda]

Question: My son n his dad live in different states. Our son lives with me and they have been talking on video chat for two years. The father records the video. The two party law exists in both states. He recently admitted to recording the videos even though I've told him that I will need consent to recording. I know I've been recorded at times just because I'm in the house along with my other kids.I wanted to stop the video chats and just have calls over the phone. I realize that would not be in my son's best interest. The father says he's moving back to our state. Should I ask the court to modify the plan for calls to no longer include video when the father lives back? How can I enforce my right to not be recorded?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Von, you could ask for the modification, I am not sure how you would enforce the no recording, speak to an expert who knows about that subject.

[@joestetz8325]

Very well said. My Ex wont let our 10 yrs old son do scouting unless I'm there. Refuses out of state travel, for his safety, but anywhere in CA is ok... (step mom is active army, so we have 2nd residence) infinite battles... always something new. Has him afraid of murder Hornets, COVID19, riots.. Said his moles look like cancer, had several removed... and that his silver fillings are giving him cancer... she told out older son (works for me) that ne could go to prison if I don't deduct proper taxes

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Joe Stetz. We have more child custody videos if you're interested: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd Just remember that even though you don't control your ex, you do control your own words and actions. You can show love, support, confidence in your son, positivity, etc. Strive to be the best example he has!

[@jasminrodriguez2779]

They don’t care about the kids! I loss my house, my kids just because I sent the form I suppose to fill for spousal and child support to a wrong place and the oficial didn’t get it. They give to my husband everything listed on his divorce demand. They sent me to live in the street with no money! No a single dólar. I did not have place for me which means for the kids neither. Never work in this country for 17 years so impossible to rent with no credit history. I was in the street with just visitation. So , they doesn’t Matter the kids will loss their mom! What matters is paper and documents and that is it!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I'm so sorry. I hope this can be helped. There are services that help people such as you get established. I have seen it in action. There are classes you can take. Check at a woman's shelter.

[@malynn730]

I didn't travel to my sons father's city for the first visitation because I am not working and don't have money for the 2 $400-800/each round trip tickets. What can I do to protect myself when I see the judge a month from now? Any recommendations? Thank you 💛

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I would have documentation to show that you cannot afford the tickets. If it is in the order, you may have to find a way to afford them. Explain what happened and be ready to work toward a solution, offer a few up.

[@freaky_jsn_killr1364]

Thankyou for these videos. I've moved within a mile of my children. I changed jobs, I have a new house. When I reached out to my x for more time with my children she shut me down, took away any extra time I was having with them at the time. We're are on our way to the meditators meeting because she will not negotiate or give me more time. I'm nervous, I've done my positive loving homework, I just want to be in their lives. Please, any advice on going into this meeting is appreciated!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Freaky_Jsn_Killr 13, I hope my response isn't too late; I have many comments to get to! While I cannot give specific legal advice, we do have more videos about child custody on this playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd Best wishes to you and your children.

[@Mgoblue1023]

Hey - I know it’s been a year plus but I am in the same boat. Moved close, etc… but she is so rigid / black and white when it comes to scheduling I’m afraid if I take her to mediation she will start spewing lies and make my situation worse. What ended up happening in your case??

[@freaky_jsn_killr1364]

@@Mgoblue1023 well,, exzactly what you described and with covid everything was by phone. It was extremely difficult. Know what your kids want more than anything else.

[@jessicaedwards524]

In the 1st part of this video you mention not alienating the child from one parent/not following court order. In our case, my son's father and I had a court order but he was shortly thereafter incarcerated for robbing 5 pharmacies with a gun for narcotic painkillers. He has spent the last 10 years in prison and was released last week. He tried getting our son the day after he was released, but I refused saying we needed to ammend our agreement. My son does not know him and I do not feel my son is safe with him for overnight visits yet. I believe initial supervised visits and possibly some parenting classes would be best. I am nervous about what the judge is going to say though since technically we have a court order from over 10 years ago. What are your thoughts/professional opinions on this?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

The parenting plan was made on information at the time. If there is new information, that should be taken into account.

[@tacticalshortpants4238]

What if one of the parents is a drug addict and has a history of domestic violence and abuse who has been to prison for domestic violence (strangulation of the other parent?) My girlfriend is dealing with her child's father, and he is a very violent person (got released from prison and immediately went back to abusing the mother) she has left the situation and now has a restraining order against him now, but fears he may continue the cycle of abuse on the child... Both of us believe it is in the best interest of the child for us to remove him from her life entirely and raise her in a violence free environment...

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tactical Shortpants, seek the advice of an attorney who knows the laws and how to present your case in court. Keep it to the facts without making any judgments, let the judge do that.

[@aprilm1151]

Oh

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

April m, thanks for watching.

[@Lizzard2060]

My Daughter was trying to call all the shots. We had to talk about that she is entitled to her feelings/opinions AND I don't get to make that call and we (Dad and I) would talk about it in court with a judge and all. We compared it to kids at her age. I said she would eat pastry strudels everyday if I never made her have oatmeal or granola. She said the "fine, I may not know everything". I said "you would play minecraft all day long and never do anything". She kinda nodded like "Okay, maybe" face. She says "Maybe half the kids in my class play FortNight all night long and do don't their homework bc their parents are too busy to spend time with them". These are married parents and the kid's are really just left to their own to video game all night long. This is Elementary School!!! I'm like why not just turn off the wifi? or unplug it? I was like "You know I know where the computer plugs in and the breaker box is right?". . . "Yeah, Mom, I know".

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I love the communication you have going with your daughter, Elizabeth Becker. This will pay off ten-fold in the future you have with her. Awesome.

[@Molzhon93]

My ex-wife has custody of our daughter in California while I live in Florida. Since the divorce, she has filed restraining orders against two different men my daughter viewed as father figures. One of which was driving drunk and crashed the car with my daughter in the car. All of this under the mother's "watchful" eye. I had just requested to get my daughter for Thanksgiving break for a trip to New York. She's allowing me 3 days... 3 days to go pick her up from Cali, fly to new york, and bring her back. This would be my first time seeing her in two years. I need help. Would this be a substantial case to reopen a custody battle? I want my daughter, and I honestly feel her mother's lack of vigilance is dangerous.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Brandon, thank you for watching, I hope you found something useful in the video. Unfortunately, I am unable to give specific legal advice as I come to the table with a psychologist's perspective. Your case does seem substantial due to the danger your daughter has been in. It might be time to consider obtaining the help of an attorney. We do have more child custody videos on this playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd

[@MsGidgets]

How do you prove that you're not abusive and neglectful? My ex has submitted an alternative parenting plan and it is full of false and misleading Statements.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Talk to an attorney who deals with these issues, Gidget Dupree-Hunnicutt. They will know how to push back with the courts.

[@penelope-oe2vr]

DON'T participate in any arguing, bickering, and discuss nothing personal. Its ONLY about the child. Do your own part to follow the orders, and be the best parent you can be. If the other parent isn't doing right, it will show. And don't make it a war about winning. Just be a parent. Document everything! I am disabled, and he makes 100k a year. I have maintained custody despite dozens of false cases. I also represent myself in court. The judge understands I don't have the budget for a lawyer. As long as I'm doing right...nothing to worry about. I encourage her to go, because good or bad she needs to know who her father is.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

penelope 2232, wow, it sounds as though you are clear on what you control and what you don't. You deal with what you can and trust. Good luck.

[@caseymyslive7632]

No win or lose situation.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Casey Myslive, thank you for watching. I hope the video helped you in some way.

[@johnejonesea7448]

My daughter left her husband because of physical and mental abuse of the children. She tried several times to get him into counceling but he refused to go. He was charged and convected of child abuse. He continued to abuse during probation. She left him to protect the children. She's has had them for three years and the children are doing much better. Her husband has taken her to court to gain custody. He lied to the court about several things. One child even harmed herself before going to visitation and two times was admitted to the hospital mental ward for obversation. The hearing will be in a couple of months. The question is how does she prepare.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

JOHN JONES, my heart goes out to your daughter and her children. I sincerely hope they can all stay safe. We have a child custody playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd, but beyond that I am unable to give specific legal advice. I hope she can find resources in her jurisdiction. Best wishes, and thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.

[@jeromegarcia5396]

Damn, I traveled coast to coast to be a father, a bitter ex went to DSS to sign up for the title IVD program, not a lawful divorce process with due process, Well I Know this corrupt process from my first child and the title IVD is single and separate and voluntary, I refused to sign and got defaulted anyways violating. My fundamental parental rights without any process proving me unfit by law, because I have my rights my ex tried to stop it and is still with holding my kids. I went to a contempt hearing with copy of voluntary agreement in hand that has the caseworkers writing that I refused to sign so no jurisdiction, I got thrown in jail, so I filed a federal lawsuit which the court will probably protect the judge.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jerome Garcia, I thank you for watching the video, and I'm sorry to hear of your troubles with the court. I hope you can get it sorted out soon. I wish the judicial system were better, too.

[@whofarted2903]

Just be so very careful with who you have your children to

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes!

[@whofarted2903]

Live On Purpose TV I learned this the hard way Doctor unfortunately for me

[@mizzteareacts9397]

We are in a custody battle he filled a emergency motion for primary custody. I have been texting him every day to talk to my kids and he won’t reply or let me !! We have the motion hearing in Wednesday! What do you think about that? My kids haven’t been without me for more than 3 days .

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

MISS TEA, hopefully this can be brought up before the judge. Good luck.

[@lindsreese2054]

Can you make a session about how to deal with co-parenting when the other parent is flirting and still talking “couple family talk?” (And yes... many direct “turn down” conversations have been made over the last decade.) Example: When I try and co-parent he sees this as an “in” to be a couple and happy family again and then takes it out on my child and I when he realizes I am only interested in talking about my son. Makes co-parenting difficult and my 10 year old son confused. I thought it might be a good idea for a clip?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

How frustrating for you, Lindsey Aka Reese. I will consider this topic for a future video. Thank you for watching.

[@sidunrau7880]

co-parenting would be an excellent excellent topic. It is one of the most difficult things, and it sometimes leads to horrible after money. Sometimes you, though, it can lead to beautiful friendship and healthy relationship between the children and both parents.

[@bgkaay8]

Thank you so much for these videos. What would your advice be in a case where a father was emotionally and mentally abusive to the mother. Continued to do so during pregnancy and was also spiteful and vindictive. He doesn’t seem to be mentally and emotionally healthy and balanced. Mom let dad come whenever he wanted to see baby. He has never paid child support but and has not come to see baby on his own accord. He also has a history of alcohol and drug abuse as well as lives with his family who has this history as well. Now he takes the mom to court saying she refused contact. But he seems bitter that mom doesn’t want to be with him anymore. Mom is not so concerned on her needs but that the baby would be in danger and can’t speak for her self. What would be the best outcome here in your professional experience? Thank you so much for your time

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Get someone who knows the laws of your state and can help navigate the legal system. They will know how to present the case to the court.

[@bgkaay8]

Thank you so much for your response. Yes that will be done. I know a lot of cases where it seems the parents are bitter about their past and the kids get stuck in the middle. In this case the mom really just wants what is best for her 5month old baby who hasn’t been around her father now for 3 months (because he has chose to have no contact). Praying for the best & safe outcome for the baby. Thank you again for your time!

[@robynedward125]

I'm dealing with custody battles 4 plus yrs long story I've been the alienated parent it's been extremely difficult and the victim of conjugal violence which is still on going not paying child support paying extremely late.Late drop offs the list goes on then writing in emails it was never mentioned by our daughter she wants to go to therapy. Bottom line is he isn't looking out for our children's best interests and I've been the primary parent I'd do anything for our children. I feel like they are trying to cover up for their father there's neglect as well lack of hygiene example last week my kids clothes soaked in cat urine and his bag I placed all items in wash and bedding was grossed out there's been other things that have gone on for the last 4 yrs. I'm repulsed he sends them to me like this. There's behavioral issues as when they come back with it on shared it's been a very tough road he won't sign I'd even drastically change the agreement where it wasn't in fairness just so he'd sign and it still didn't happen. I tried so hard to settle things and he further abused us I didn't protect my children against further abuse 💔. I'm definitely going to court coming up narcissist abuse it never ends they lie and slaughtering your character and u never told the children abuse the abuse. I'm working on writing a book to get the word it's not okay. The court system in Montréal is deeply flawed. I feel like my ex is focused on his rights and how he looks better. Let kids be kids they don't belong in the middle 2 wrongs doesn't make it right. There's also been no co parenting he's making decisions regarding our children without my consent as well as under mining the so called agreement there's so many things it's terrible 😕. It's extremely heart broken the amount that has been going on. I'm trying to do what is best by our children and the other parent has been saying inappropriate things towards our children from the start trying to ruin the loving relationship I have with our children.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I'm glad your kids have you! It is difficult, but stay with it since your kids need to know you love them no matter what and even if...

[@christinagebhart8175]

My soon to be 14yr old son told Dad that he doesn't wish to finish out his Summer he told dad he didn't want to attend Gay Pride, and Dad told son you don't get a Choice, and not respecting Son boundaries. I've been trying to stay nurtral as Possible, and deep Breath but how am I so post to Force my 6ft tall over 200lbs son. There's a lot more going on such as being restricted on asking to eat at Dad, Dad has Text Son Thew Fb to take his Medicine which is a narcotic to treat ADHD. I will be self respecting myself I wasn't born with the Golden Spoon. I got my son Counseling when he started Self inflicting pain he was hurting himself red flag so he's told his Counselor I don't feel safe at. I'm doing my best to Educate myself in Protecting my Child. I've had son for 9 yrs and well senses he droped us off am in Oregon and just trying to Protect ourselves

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Christina Gebhart, please keep documentation and follow through, your son may be big, but he needs protection and respect.

[@kayalang1256]

Hi, I had depression 2 years ago and got better when I went to work and haven’t taking meds. Is possibility that my x can used it against me? Would affect my custody battle?

[@tanishacowan1]

Same sucks no one replied

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Kaya Long, he always can try, if you show that you took steps to take care of the problem, then you are showing the judge that you are responsible. Also, lots of parents who are depressed have children. It isn't uncommon. Talk to your attorney and come up with a plan.

[@daby8399]

What happens when a 17 year old says she wants to live with the other parent will there be a guardian ad litem on the case even though she's 17 or does the case get decided right there that day. What I keep hearing is that a judge will side with a 17 year old due to her age

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Usually there is an ad litem, since not all 17 year olds are mature enough to take everything into consideration. A teen will have some say though, D.

[@mendezed37]

Please help me with my case my ex girlfriend is denying me the right to see my daughter and there is no actual visitation schedule or court set up except for childsupport court set etc.. Can she use owed childsupport of a small amount that can be paid any time to keep me from seeing my daughter?? Child support vs visitations. Can I legally fight for my child visitation (schedule) without an attorney? So how to fight for a visitation without a custody agreement

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

mendezed37, I do appreciate you watching, however I am unable to give specific legal advice. We have a child custody playlist for more general questions: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. Otherwise, I encourage you to seek information and/or counsel in your jurisdiction. Best wishes.

[@HawkEyeHarley]

what if one parent is aleinating themselves by chouce as in they are choosing to not be a part of the childs life even if the other parent tries to get that pare t to participate?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

hawkeye harley, thank you for watching. Please remember: we need to get clear on what we control and what we don't. You may want to try writing down what you control and what you'll find is that you don't control the actions of the other person. We can invite and persuade, but we can't force. Always focus on your actions and your child. If you believe there is an unmet need, find a way to meet it without the other parent if they are not willing.

[@jonahdav9589]

my wife took the kids, then said I abused them when I have not. Now DHS is involved. She told me if it went to court she would make it ugly. May God help these children.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am sorry you and they are having to go through this. Your children's needs should be paramount.

[@iamlydiasherice]

Can you make a video about domestic violence ex with co parenting and long distance, he moved acrossed the country?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Will add it to the topic development list.

[@lucyjohnson1087]

Would you consider myself being a “control freak” if I asked the father of my child to pass a drug test? He has my son supervised now and I would like him to pass a drug test before having him unsupervised because of his previous drug problem.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

No, Lucy Johnson. That could be a very reasonable thing, and something that is required often in court cases such as yours.

[@jessicaedwards524]

Can you request in court that drug screens be performed intermittently over a long time frame? My ex spent 10 years in prison for robbing numerous pharmacies at gun point to obtain narcotic painkillers. When my son does start over night visits I would feel MUCH BETTER knowing he was at least clean when he picked him up.

[@juliefulton1188]

My daughter right now is going through a child custody battle right now and right now he gets to make all the decisions on this case because he's the one took her to court for it

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Julie Fulton, I hope there is a good judge that can look at the case with impartiality. Good luck.

[@Tryinnosaurus_Rex]

So, do you guys have any advice for a mom in a situation where the X actually was physically abusive… Faked suicide all the time, and threatened to hurt the child when she was four months? I have two police report but I never charged him. He took off to another province and has paid me $200 a total of maybe three times since. It’s been 4 years. He never asks about her. I’ve heard he abused two other women and one of their children ... there may be charges there but I am not sure. Does he have a chance at getting custody? He also has a 10-year-old with another woman and he never sees or asks about. Apparently he lost custody of her for not showing up. I genuinely believe it would be dangerous for my daughter to get into his custody. I went to the courthouse and two different ladies that work there advised me not to do anything or he might have a chance at getting custody, but I worry if something happened to me she would go to him. I am at a loss as to what to do. A lawyer would be damn expensive, but doing it alone sounds scary. There’s also a possibility he might not show up anyway

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tryinnosaurus Rex, thanks for watching, I hope you found some value in the video. Unfortunately, I am unable to give specific legal advice. Additionally, each jurisdiction and judge vary in their custody issues. The only 2 suggestions I can give are to keep relevant documents and records, and maybe watch more videos from the child custody playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd Obtaining an attorney is a good idea, but yes, expensive; so you have to make that choice. Best wishes.

[@enoliaritabile9898]

Can you please help, my ex wanna pay lobola (negotiations) to my child and take him to stay with him full time.. Can you please tell me the disadvantages of it , and if my child is not happy do I have a right to take him back ?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Enolia Ritabile, we cannot give you legal advice, you need to talk to someone who knows the laws where you live.

[@rickymartin7337]

If you are a divorced and have a child plan and other parent goes against the child plan is that does that matter in court? Can you do something about that?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes, Ricky Martin. You can always go back to court. Seek the advice of an attorney how to do it in your jurisdiction and what it will entail.

[@wondernutts]

I have false abuse allegations Im dealing with, dude, false abuse allegations are crazy devastating. At least up front. I have my ex who is outright lying. I mean outright lying, she's called several people , including my corporate office at my job to try to get me fired so I couldn't afford my attorney breaking a mutual civil restraining order we had. When I filed a motion with my attorney for contempt, the judge didn't even want to hear it. The judge would not allow evidence to be presented, she just looked at my ex and said don't do that again. That's it! Crazy! My ex still manipulates our conversations, I can't talk to her, the judge has ordered co-parenting counseling she's dropped out of the co-parenting counseling twice. No one cares. And I'm not talking about me, no one cares about my daughter. But they love my money! You see, since she falsely has accused me of abuse even though her false restraining order got dismissed, she gets to keep a free attorney, I make good money, but I can't compete with free. I get what you guys are saying, you shouldn't attack the other parent, cuz it's bad for the child. But there are situations where the parent is bad for the child. But you guys are doing a lot of people favors, because your nonchalant attitudes have completely prepared me for what was ahead. I've come to realize, no one cares. No one cares. No one wants to sit down and hear your stories. No one wants to have time for that, if your videos did one thing for me, it made that crystal clear. Thanks to watching you guys I knew exactly what I was walking myself into from day one. It's a shame our system is set up this way, not for the parents, the people should want to get down to the details for the child. And this has not been my experience in the custody court room.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

What a terrible experience, J B. I agree, the children should be the focus and everyone, including the courts, should be looking out for their best interest.

[@Bmike8732]

Hello well I have my son 50 50 but the child accidentally cut himself on a piece of glass, and the mother was very mad, now can I lose custody because of this?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Accidents happen and people know it, Money Machine. Keep calm and she will cool down.

[@kylegalliart1352]

Can the living situation or condition of a home be a factor in deciding child custody?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes, but the bar is pretty low. Is it clean, is there a sleeping place for children, a safe place to play, etc. Doesn't have to be anything fancy.

[@sharonwelch2843]

I am the stepmom and the other parent is violating the court orders and making false statements of abuse. This is hurting the children. How can we work to help the children even when their mother is not allowing them to go to school and counseling?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sharon Welch, I sympathize with your situation, however I am unable to give specific legal advice. We have a child custody playlist, if you want to look for more information there: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd. Otherwise, I recommend speaking with legal counsel.

[@adrianarandavlogs]

My ex is not following his parenting agreement for the week. What can I do?