Living at Home to Save Money

[@mayloop123]

Im 27 and still live at home. Savings account looks nice and credit score 700. Once I finish my MBA and get a new job, I’ll move out! But for now im so thankful for my parents 💕

[@heyobiiish3363]

Yes girl im happy to hear that for you. You and your Parents helping you move forward👏🏼👏🏼

[@heatsd]

Naija represent! It's not uncommon for kids to stay in the house well into their 20s especially in African families.

[@juniorgonzalez214]

Same here..

[@sabrina.natalie]

Yay! Babe. I’m SO happy for you. Congratulations on your amazing credit score. That can be hard to accomplish. There is absolutely nothing wrong with living at home. 🦋✨

[@gwagon6506]

A smart and gracious queen 👏🏻

[@mandys1038]

He's young and saving his money, I fully support this. I felt bad for Tamera when she spoke from her own experience of having to be on her own at 21 with Tia while her brothers got to stay at home pass that age, it is a double standard. Loni just didn't get it, its not about the twins having each other to lean on its about their parents giving the sons an advantage that should have been given to their daughters.

[@thinman8889]

Tia and tamera had that sister sister money.

[@mandys1038]

@@thinman8889 So did Tahj, like his sisters he was consistently working in the industry since he was a child. Tahj had enough money to be on his own just like his sisters so why the double standard? The same way their parents found a house for their daughters, they could have done the same for their sons by having them live together. This is why Tamera brought that up.

[@Ambereigh]

ThinMan 88 you forgot taj was smart guy ? Lol

[@mollyshaj.3888]

@@Ambereigh and that kim possible money dont forget

[@TiyaBabiiee]

M Muss preach!!😩🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@ahlamshalabi96]

In Middle Eastern culture you live with your parents till you’re married!!

[@daniellalaquis1328]

Ahlam Shalabi Yup

[@dawnarxtic]

@J Nic thats why she stated "in middle eastern culture"

[@hhf4776]

J Nic it IS Middle Eastern culture though, if you like it or not. Not everyone follows that so you don’t need to get worked up. But it does not change facts

[@oumydiasse9529]

Ahlam Shalabi west African households too

[@thedetour9576]

mood

[@heatsd]

I relate to Jeannie. In African families, it's not unheard of for kids (boys and girls) to be living with their parents well past into their 20s.

[@uKANdoanything]

It's the same in the Caribbean

[@sharinettegonzalez23]

Adara Nelson yeah Puerto Rican’s are the same. I think it’s more of a minority thing tbh

[@courtneyw6224]

I need to get my black butt out of here 😅 I say 25 I'd when I'm gone I'm 23 right now. Everyone going in debt because they dont wanna be judged for living with they parents. My mom say you "trying to be big when little got you".

[@steph_steph876]

@@uKANdoanything Agreed..it is the same in the Caribbean

[@lilyzemengist8091]

@@uKANdoanything Facts! I am East African and we all stay with out parents until we are good and ready to put the deuces up. Mind you, we all pay for the things we use collectively and individually. Parents don't play the moocher game.

[@albad3951]

Mothers will kick their daughters out of the house real quick and met their sons live there forever. Raising independent women and dependent men

[@Leavemealone11604]

Alba D Yesssss !

[@tahirahj6282]

You are spot on 👏👏👏 loni needs to understand this point of view

[@Cherell-ugc]

That last line made me scream hallelujah.

[@bmarie5509]

Yeap I 100% agree!

[@thehoneydeev]

Because daughters give hell to their moms?

[@emanrehan4180]

Moving out at 18 is dumb like who even created that idea save save save

[@ErrisOfficial]

@stryfetc1 True but at 18 the kids (or I guess young adults) should be helping somewhat in whatever ways they can. I turned 20 a month ago and can say at least 40-45% of the kids at my University are commuters from home. It's almost impossible or at least back-breaking to sustain a life for yourself while balancing studies, social life, dating life, and working a job that's really only gonna pay $7-$12 an hour. I pay what bills are managable for me at this point in my life and my parents pitch in to help with the remainder. I will say tho that I feel a little bit of pressure not being out of the house by now so I'm moving out next Fall semester lol.

[@sarajames3744]

not everyone has the luxury of healthy family relationships. Or even just a family that wants the best for you, even if they wouldn't know how to provide it. I've tried my best to repair relationships with my parents, but it's draining to be around ppl who have hurt and abused you. Being dependent on them is the last thing I want, no matter how beneficial it would be financially. Of course I keep my relationship w my parents as respectful and friendly as possible, mostly because my younger siblings need me. I'm 17, I love my parents to death and I'm a very calm and peaceful person (even around them), so everything from the outside seems fine. But I just can't stay after 18, trust me if i could i would. My parents would propably kick me out anyway for no other reason than just to feel like they have power over me.. even my aunt who is in her 50s can't stand my parents, or her own parents. So not everything seems to heal with time, because time doesn't always change people.

[@Leavemealone11604]

Ava Rehan not everyone has that luxury

[@SuperSouthchick]

some ppl are forced out

[@KAYELLEK]

stryfetc1 not true! I moved out for college and my parents got me own apartment. They still pay my sisters rent and she’s 26. It’s the first step in being independent

[@rachelannjerome]

there's also so much added pressure towards daughters than sons. Daughters have to be the prime example to live up to, regardless of their age amongst their siblings. There's so much pressure for them to be more knowledgeable and intelligent by a certain age, whereas boys/men will get the excuse of "well that's how boys are" excuse for them to continue to be coddled. It makes no sense

[@eastsidejohnnywalker8687]

But women get married

[@jinaq]

Totally agree with this, worse, they also allow guys room for more mistakes than girls

[@bookbag6432]

Women are just smarter in general let’s be honest

[@JohnneseP]

@@eastsidejohnnywalker8687 men get married too. I don't understand the comment.

[@evanperilstein5308]

True, but everyone knows women generally mature quicker than men. Men are developmentally a little slow in the maturity department.

[@MajesticMyronn]

I agree with Tam... only because I saw a comment on here yesterday during the preview that said “ women raise their daughters , and love their sons “ and it made me think differently... like girls are held to higher standard and have to grow up 10 times faster than their male counterparts/ siblings... and it’s weird to hear that !

[@angelesfatima2605]

I do recall seeing that comment as well.

[@shuntiamcmillan1503]

Yes it's true a black doctor wrote a book about to destroy the black boy in the early 1970s and that's what that phase comes from and everything he says is true til this day what i been seeing in my own house and in the black community.

[@amazon1606]

So true

[@ojogbaneamedu2501]

Myronn Coleman It sounds weird because it isn’t true. Men are expected the be mature pretty early on in life because of this whole “head of the house” nonsense. Who is loved more by their parents is entirely a case by case matter. In truth society doesn’t put that same kind of pressure on women, unlike men who are expected to take the lead and be a provider for someone.

[@genwilson7741]

Shuntia McMillan whats the name of the book?

[@iknowbestmyfriend]

In my culture you live at home until you get married

[@bimbo9334]

Sara same with mine, or when you and your partner are getting ready to settle down. I’m Mexican

[@Ambereigh]

Georgia why are you assuming she doesn’t have a job and a life or a career and can’t provide for herself or have a good credit score and money saved up. Why do you equate being married to depending on a man. Maybe that’s just what you would do in a marriage.

[@maggief1851]

Same

[@ValerieAbena]

Georgia why does it have to be ‘depending’ on lol. The parents are helping... like they’re supposed to do as parents

[@Carolbulanger]

@Georgia it's not dependency, but it's easier to buy or rent a house if you have a partner because it is expensive. Same case in Venezuela.

[@dionysiadinius3083]

I think tamera knows her own parents better loni...

[@LoEaston]

That irritated me so much like girl those are HER parents

[@faithpullins2697]

I dropped out of school in February due to having PTSD from almost being killed. I have been STRUGGLING all year no job no nothing, and I'm 21. My parents make me so uncomfortable in the house like they want me to leave, while my 25 year old brother gets a free pass. Next year will be different though. Y'all pray for me please. P.s rent in Toronto is a different kind of expensive.

[@gigihymen8012]

Faith Pullins i felt this! good luck sending successful blessings towards u ❤️

[@alexanderp9509]

i’m praying for u! please pray for me too, i’m struggling and i need energy and a good spirit! sending you blessings and i hope you fix your situation! take care

[@Aneeqah1]

Praying for you 💓

[@faithpullins2697]

@@gigihymen8012 thank you💕

[@faithpullins2697]

@@alexanderp9509 thank you 💕 I'm praying for you as well

[@dance4life1208]

How loni gone tell tamera why her parents made her move out before her brothers 🙄

[@brandonfrancis9465]

Lol theres like a million reasons why I think her parents would have made them move out before their brothers tbh.

[@camille98tt]

She just joking around damn

[@daniellax334]

right!! SO ANNOYING

[@cheetahcheetah4687]

@@camille98tt she was damn serious lol she wasn't joking

[@camille98tt]

beauty lewis she was joking to make conversation and have a debate. She’s usually the one to do that and disagree but people always think she’s rude

[@ameercopper4871]

If you’re not financial independent and aware of how to take care of it, you shouldn’t leave home. But don’t get dependent on your parent though...

[@diam1893]

Ameer Copper I agree

[@23magneta]

If you are not financially independent, then by definition you will be financially dependent on your parents, so I'm not sure what you mean?

[@ameercopper4871]

23magneta excuse me, I used the wrong term. Not financially independent, stable is more of what I meant. In any regard, you should know how to handle money properly (paying bills on time, having a stream of income, budgeting, etc.) Just because one earns money doesn’t mean they will know how to deal with it. Some people live above their means, especially football players. So I’m glad this guy took the time to learn how to not spend as much as he could have.

[@23magneta]

@@ameercopper4871 Oh! That makes sense now.

[@MarayaDay]

My parents have always said after 18 as long as my siblings and I abide by their rules since we are under their household, and honestly just remain responsible and continue to grow/ mature as adults we don’t have to leave the house till we desire or if/when we get married! Especially being in college, we are allowed to stay! It’s a blessing for real🙌🏾

[@AppleSofi]

@Cynthia Zavala well, kinda, cause there's still some shitty people out there... I'm hispanic and I've seen a lot of fucked up things. Some that happened in my own family and because of that, I don't have contact with my parents.

[@vballchamp98]

Cynthia Zavala I think there’s a difference between parents who kick their kids out on their ass with no support and parents who encourage their kids to become independent. Parents aren’t supposed to be 100% responsible for their kids until they’re 35. My parents would never kick me out with no where to go but there was an expectation that I would move out and support myself when I could.

[@theaniqa99]

There’s nothing wrong with living at home as long as You’re not a Burden on your parents. There’s people that actually live with their parents so they can take care of them when they get old a lot of cultures around the world respect their parents By living with them throughout the end of their life and taking care of them just as your parents take care of you when you were a child

[@wintress211]

Aww thats beautiful.

[@mega-mind3167]

exactly, I never understood American culture with moving out at 18. In the Caribbean we stay until we are married and help our parents pay off some debts. Our parents also encourage us to save so when we do get married we have enough money to buy a home because they always say rent is dead money when you could've saved that money and invested it in a home and start a happy marriage life debt free.

[@gloriaestevez4874]

Yes we do the same in Latino culture many times we have three generations under the same roof. It’s important for us to take care of our parents when they get old and family is so precious your parents won’t always be around might as well treasure them ❤️🙏🏽

[@LLCoolJ_25]

Yeah, as long as your helping with the bills. I help my mom with rent, groceries, etc. it’s not like I’m leeching, I just can’t afford living on my own.😭 Also, I don’t have close friends. Regardless, I can’t see myself dealing with living with other ppl who aren’t my family.

[@jom908]

I moved out of my parents at 26, purchased my first home. I have no shame,, I am very appreciative for both my parents who helped me accomplish all I am as of now.

[@Trey.444]

Wow you literally lived out what im boutta accomplish while my friends who made fun of me are in bullshit apartments with roomates ima be a home owner before the age of 30

[@allenpayne927]

If your parents are OK with it then why should anyone give a crap. I still live with my mom and I'm 26 because living by myself is expensive and this way I can save money until I'm financial good. I pay rent and for food and I cook for my self so my mom is just my roommate and I like it 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@evanperilstein5308]

Allen Payne That’s good of you to pay rent and pay for food.

[@kaylawaters2691]

I still live with mine(my parents). Everything I get I buy myself with my own money (groceries, personal items, etc). Most people on this thread seem to neglect to realize that most jobs are low paying (federal min wage is still $7.25/hr, federal poverty level is making $15,000 or less a year) and part time, not high paying and full time. I would love to live by myself if I had a full time, long term, non poverty wage job. I literally have no other choice. Having a degree (which I do have) or simply just working harder makes no one pay me more money or give me more hours than they are willing to give at these businesses I've worked for. Couldn't afford that thing called "a social life" if I wanted to on poverty wages..

[@5000MikeMaster]

@@kaylawaters2691 minimum wage jobs are starter jobs. Time to grow up and be an adult. Get a STEM degree and work in healthcare

[@signalfire15]

A problem that doesn’t get talked about often enough though is that a lot of adult children who choose to live at home don’t walk away with a huge savings account at the end of it all because they were living at home to financially support their parent/s. My mom was a single mom raising three kids. I was the one who “made it.” Guess who the burden fell on to take care of the family?

[@seygra20]

Most of us do walk away with a fat bank account as long as there are no younger siblings and parents have no medical condition.

[@fack1002]

☹️ you know I never thought about that side. Herr I am thinking everyone got to save living at home with their parents. Even I got a chance to save a lot.

[@signalfire15]

J. Avila Yes, adult children. As in, you are always someone’s child, even as an adult. Your siblings and yourself are your mother’s children. You are her adult child. A child doesn’t refer to a young kid, it refers to offspring.

[@signalfire15]

seygra20 I know that many people are able to save living at home, I was just saying that the problem that I referred to above is one that I never hear anyone talk about even though it’s a reality for many families, especially families made up of immigrant parents. The assumption is always that adult children are living at home to save money when the truth is many adult children are living at home to help their parents and siblings with money, rather than saving for themselves. I can’t tell you how many people I know who stayed at home longer than they wanted to because they would rather give money that they would have paid to a landlord for rent to their parents instead.

[@MrsRichards]

@@signalfire15 yes, I agree, I'm about to be 23 and I'm living at home, my parents are elderly and I dont feel comfortable leaving them on their own going somewhere else when I have to go back and still take care of them. I prefer to build on the house and have my section and they have theirs so I can be around them if anything happens.

[@DeeL3]

Loni, it has nothing to do with twins though.

[@camille98tt]

She knows. She was joking.

[@DeeL3]

@@camille98tt don't think she was.

[@sunflowerg2872]

But she kept going with it and there was no resolve to her joke so it just made it annoying.

[@camille98tt]

D. L. She’s always joking that’s her job hun. Y’all just think she’s mean cuz she’s a black woman lmao

[@DeeL3]

@@camille98tt literally no one said anything about her being mean or black but hey, go off sis.

[@avill012]

As a central american, you are clear to stay home as long as your working or studying or until you get married. It is a blessing but also a drawback. Both professionals, Brother moved out at 30, I'm still there at 31

[@amylee8969]

@ avill012 Yes! I agree. As long as you're working or in school, it's completely fine nowadays. Today, it's actually rare for anyone under 21 to be living on their own (with the exception of college dorms, which to me don't count).

[@Kaahtea]

Can't stand people who interject their opinions on how MY parents would react to something. You didn't grow up in the house with me.🙄

[@wealthy5702]

Kaah-tea I think she was trying to make it less controversial and make Tam feel better. Tamera always portrays her mum to be very cold.

[@sajini7925]

Adrienne had a point but Loni interrupted her for the lame joke "is the contract signed."

[@aurabyizzie]

I know! She chips In unnecessarily with lame jokes sometimes! 😒😒

[@karenhampton1111]

How is Loni telling Tam what her parents mean. Lol

[@fromspace7]

I'm never going to judge another family for their living arrangements, and I don't understand people who feel the need to do that. It's nobody else's business, they can live however they see fit!

[@erissromero3822]

Girl yes saybit for the noseys in the back

[@brendaly7085]

I’m 24 graduate from college a year ago applied to countless jobs nothing yet. Still living with my mother of course however if I had that kind of money I will definitely move out cause she won’t be with me for ever.

[@akshayapradeep9793]

Hope you find a job soon then :)

[@paritdoshi9836]

Brendaly, she gave you birth and she took care of you until now and will carry on do so. Be grateful at least you have parents but others out there crave for parents’ love!

[@brendaly7085]

Parit Doshi my intention wasn’t to say I wasn’t what I was trying to say is that independence from your parents is important someday I would love to take care of my mother like she has taken care of me

[@ShanaSephora]

Well I pray you will get the job your heart desires, In Jesus Name ✝️, it’s already hard out there in the world, why would one make it even harder on themselves.

[@maggief1851]

Hold on in there.

[@gracedwithbeauty5233]

Affordable housing is an issue in the US and homelessness so no need to rush out the house unless your parents can help you and you can help yourself. But even 25 is not old, there is not an age limit to needing your parents.

[@EsaCrisbel]

I can speak out of a Guatemalan female perspective . I am 26 years old and still love with my parents, single , and about to graduate with my Masters in Social work. I don’t regret it at all. To be able to see parents grow old together is a huge blessing and I wouldn’t take it back for the world no matter what society says.

[@GlendaTheGW]

I live in San Francisco, a place where you absolutely have to live with your family at older ages unless your damn near rich...

[@ms.beautiful]

Articles have been written that a family of four with an income of $100,000 a year is considered POVERTY in San Francisco!!

[@indigobeauty1]

@@ms.beautiful Its really expensive here, if youre frugal,you can make it but a lot of stress and saving.

[@GlendaTheGW]

Ms. Beautiful its really insane honestly 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@livinglifewithtiararenee]

Yes! My family and I live right outside of San Francisco age it’s tough. Only been here 7 months and thinking about leaving.

[@emanualcarr7408]

Have to, or you make the choice to based on lack of resources to grow and make your own mistakes to build on those experiences? Residual income has been mastered in certain cultures.

[@IlikepurpleXP]

With student loans, moving out in your early 20s is a pipe dream.

[@amylee8969]

@Clarissa Explains It All People who judge adult children living at home, CLEARLY never been to California or even aware of the price ranges for rent here.

[@disneythequeen]

I think there's nothing wrong with this. I'm 25 and live with my mom. I help with the household finances, both contributing and managing it. We're super close and we love spending time together. It's super hard to save money and renting or buying a home is really expensive nowadays. It's just wiser and healthier. I'm not leeching off of her, we're both responsible for cleaning, cooking and paying bills. It's too much pressure to put an 18 year old out in the streets unless they need that shock or are moving away for college. Idk...

[@lori-anngooden8372]

Adrienne looking like an angel 😍

[@stephenchristian3636]

I’m 31 an helping out with my parents !!! Times are hard n challenging so I feel like no one should judge a person’s living situation these days

[@jon6309]

Lol I’m 31 too and live with my parents. I live in Hawaii and the rent is just too high for a single person. My parents are landlords and they understand renting is tough. Very fortunate my family didn’t have that burden to raise me and continue to support me.

[@bmarie5509]

If you think about it , they be quick to kick the daughters out but when they get old the daughters be the main ones taking care of them 🤦🏾‍♀️ lbs

[@LandieCandie]

The only ones!!!

[@Sony4Ever321]

Yes! This!

[@evathespeaker9537]

I wouldn't. If I was kicked out... you better believe they find some other solution than to expect me waiting on them hand and foot. I don't think so! They can rot then.

[@tahirahj6282]

Every family dynamic is different some ppl don’t want to stay home because their parents are toxic

[@brianafranklin8164]

I was going to mention this. I couldn't wait to graduate high school and leave! Never been back. I would rather struggle and figure it out on my own. People should count their blessings!

[@ineedhoez]

They kinda said that from the jump.

[@Sonicxis4ever]

👏🏽 That too....

[@TheLightShines]

Frfr...I honestly would prefer to stay home and save money but my mom is just too draining to live with.

[@Katintheechat]

Michael B Jordan’s parents live with him. Lol In a house that he bought.

[@monique_6]

I think parents would want their daughters to stay living at their home longer than guys. I only have sisters and my mom is like you can stay here. More protective. Plus LA is expensive so I ain't going anywhere soon

[@ms.beautiful]

🗣🗣🗣You would think that parents would let DAUGHTERS live at home for safety and protection. And that the SONS would move out and ESTABLISH their OWN HOME/NEST because men are suppose to be STRONG, INDEPENDENT, and be able to PROVIDE for a FAMILY ONE DAY!!! It makes NO SENSE for a GROWN ASS MAN to be living at home and for women to be KICKED OUT THE HOUSE AT 18 YEARS OLD!!!!!

[@dallaskennedy6117]

Ms. Beautiful 🗣🗣🗣🗣neither party should move out without a solid foundation. Independence isn’t necessarily to just be on your own and paying bills how are you living? Coming from a broken black family typically only in broken black families get out at 18 is “healthy”. Childhood trauma is real and is the navigator for most adults with the oh well mentality. Ideas of a man and a woman is systematically corrupted. For example, our black men sell drugs our black women strip neither one should be the opportune option but we allow poor behaviors due to limited understanding. The reason crime is so high is because of your ideology hun. It don’t matter if your 18 or 47 when you leave, if your parent has not done there job as a parent 🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️ young fools become old fools. We gotta start protecting our integrity before having children. Safety, half our women are broken half our men are in jail or gay. The youth is raising themselves in the streets younger than 18 male and female and look at the result of their ignorance and how it reflects our ignorance as a society we are angered about the double standard on whom should move out first. 🗣🗣🗣🗣 if there is no struggle there is no progress ...even if we establish problematic behaviors (subjective) what is the resolve (objective) Judah needs to have children with those whom are equally yoked. Stop seeking heathen lifestyles (our broken homes are a result of our vain ways it perpetuates destruction) i.e sell drugs, strip, rap, pimp, sell thotbox we have accepted the lowest norms in society and glorify them and wonder why this is our topic of conversation ... They shooting and killing the devil all souls in the house out the house legal age under age black light skin brown skin Carmel b-ball players baby mommas and daddies. When you wanna live in the world you get worldly results when you return to God simply put we will be better. Can’t serve two masters

[@dallaskennedy6117]

saysay44 only ignorant people are so subjective

[@brandonfrancis9465]

Well idk what goes on in the US but in a Caribbean house, its pretty much expected for sons and daughters to stay with parents til they married or sum. And even then alot of people stay. But with tia and tamera though, like there are alot of reasons that the parents would have wanted them out before their brothers not necessarily because they're girls

[@camille98tt]

Grown men can live at home if they want. U so ignorant typing in all caps lmao

[@shuntiamcmillan1503]

Mostly black mothers because my own mother, my aunts, and other families and other black women i know raised their daughters but love their sons.

[@rosesmiles2384]

He’s 25 so young like why would u move out I support this!!

[@halomerric8611]

@J Nic if he helped them out yes...but there is nothing better than time ×money =staying wealthy long haul

[@Cherell-ugc]

Its an American thing. I think it was a good idea. The more success you have, the more you need ppl that love you to keep you grounded. His family protected the family legacy.

[@23magneta]

@you're arrested for first-degree clownery luv They let him stay because (1) they love him (2) he's a good son who was an active contributor to the household. Parents kick their kids out when they can't stand them/kids are a burden.

[@arthurm.358]

If you're able to, 25 is more than old enough to leave the nest 💁🏾‍♂️

[@amylee8969]

@Rose Smiles If "society" plans on paying rent for that 25-year-old to live on his own! Then yes! I'm sure he'd be willing to do it right away. Rent is sky high in California where I live!

[@vareciawilliams110]

In the Caribbean children stay at home into their late 20's.

[@albertinshanally5484]

I know right. It's amazing how this isn't an issue in the Caribbean...I'm grateful lol

[@mikanoel2953]

Facts!!!

[@amylee8969]

@ Varecia Smith Yes! I grew up in a carribean household. Honestly, the whole moving out at 18 thing is outdated. When I was 18 and starting college (community college with no dorms) , I didn't have ONE friend my age living completely on their own. They were all living with their parents.

[@yadira2j]

Tamera and Tia had the advantage of being together and they had more than enough money to support themselves.

[@anai5563]

Adrienne's outfit is giving me life. Love the lace and the whole look.

[@CelineAdobea]

I'm still living with my family at 23 and yes it has its challenges but it's also such a blessing 🙏🏾🌱

[@somaliqueenable]

When parents favour their sons over their daughters it kind of creates a resentment between the siblings. That’s how I am with my brothers.

[@chantalreneehayles7976]

i think now more than ever, it is so important to save your money as much as you can. some people don't have the opportunity to be able to live with their parents (abusive families, needing to move away for a specific school program or a job, etc) but for those who do have the opportunity to, i think that's amazing. who cares about their age? as long as the child isn't a burden to their parents and can contribute in some way than i don't see a problem. making your child move out at 18 (or in my case, kicking them out on the street when you know they don't have a lot of money) is not teaching the child anything. you're making your child struggle and possibly resent you for no reason. allowing them to stay at home for longer lets them save their money and be more financially stable and prepared to handle all the monetary responsibilities that come with getting older. it's honestly the more responsible thing for a parent to do for their child. we need more parents who want to set their kids up for success, not failure and unnecessary hardship.

[@BenAziz007]

My son decided he wanted to live with me after graduating. Unfortunately, I was living alone in a 5 bedroom home after a separation. I definitely welcomed the company. He’s working and saving his money. He’s welcome to stay as long as he wants.

[@malishaguerrier]

Grateful that my parents have said I can live at home until I’m ready to leave. I be making jokes that ima still be at home til I’m 52. Obviously I’ll probably be out before then but grateful. Haitian household keep you in then kick you out 😂😂

[@justintaylor3081]

Honestly, I couldn’t wait to move out. I moved out of state for college when I was 18. Briefly came back to the nest after I graduated. After a brief spell of getting a job and putting money away I moved out again. But then when my dad died my mom started struggling financially so I moved back in to assist with that in a roommate situation so she wouldn’t wind up on the street. But we’re definitely both independent adults with our own incomes and we’re each carrying our weight, so I don’t see any problem in a situation like that. It’s when there’s mooching going on that I can see issues.

[@engie-eu3vk]

The bond between Tam & Loni is just adorbs, i love it👌

[@EmorettaRobinson]

Me too

[@NailzByJam]

I'm 23, finishing my Bachelor's Degree in December. I still live at home. That college can make you feel strapped for cash. So I stayed at home, and my mom was low-key like you can stay forever as long as you got a job and you paying your side of the bills. But the minute I can afford it, ya girl wants her own!

[@3tmelo]

Firstly, all of the celebrities that Jeannie mentioned, parents’ live with THEM. And they have money, that does not apply to the rest of us lol

[@berdouglas2000]

Exactly lol!

[@blairf7118]

Yea I usually find their conversations relatable but This whole conversation either really doesn't encompass the average everyday person or just was complete shift from the original point

[@esmeraldac.3270]

I am Mexican and usually for us the girls are more expected to stay at home until they marry/finish college where as the boys usually move out when they have a stable job or feel ready

[@geeshnish5116]

I do not like Lonnie in the show. Her demeanor is unpleasant

[@mikaylalily4078]

I agree. Loni brings down the energy of the show. If it’s not the unpleasant faces she’s making then it’s the comments she makes. It’s always something.

[@camille98tt]

Just say u hate black women lmao

[@geeshnish5116]

@@camille98tt babygirl, what does race have to do with anything? I'm a black woman so for you to assume that I "hate" black women is very ignorant.

[@NooCallerID]

Agreed !!!

[@tahirahj6282]

I agree and I don’t like how she talked against Tamera, I think tamera knows her parents more than loni 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@iknowbestmyfriend]

I think it all depends on which culture you're from. In my culture it is very normal to live at home until you get married and it's more common for girls to still live at home than boys if they don't move due to studies or work in a different city.

[@طماطم-م9ش]

It’s so weird hearing that because in my country we live at home till we get married (boys and girls), keeps the family bond tight and gives us more time to plan out our lives and save money

[@brandonfrancis9465]

Same. In the Caribbean it's pretty much expected that you stay unless you're making a ton of money, you get a Visa and you move to another country or you get married and have kids. (Sometimes if you're married with kids parents actually encourage you to stay)

[@2BOLD4U]

Hey, I like your profile picture.

[@Sonicxis4ever]

Lucky

[@samanthacastillo9033]

I’m living with my parents until I have enough money to live comfortably on my own 😂 idc man im not struggling if they not kicking me out

[@acidpixxi8292]

I’m 20 and my mom tells me every month how I need to find a place because I’m grown now 🙄

[@blessedandfavored9242]

God bless!

[@carolinaortega4701]

I never grew up with my mom and I moved in with her when I was 17 turning 18 and I lived with her for a year cause she would try to control me even tho I had 2 jobs and was in college smh

[@CloroxBleachCompany]

Anela Grei Remind her that you’d need at least $22k to move out the responsible way ($12k ones years rent, $5k used car, $5k savings) just be open with her about what you’re doing to get there

[@emanualcarr7408]

How many kids do you have?

[@acidpixxi8292]

Emanual Carr I don’t have any children, I am a college nursing student, I have a job, and my own car that I pay insurance for monthly... and just today she told me she can no longer deal with me here which is so annoying because many 20 year old live at home while walking down a bad path

[@bootscooty]

33 and still at home here. Saving is underrated

[@amylee8969]

@ Boot Scoot I lived at home during my entire 20s decade. People like to judge without understanding the reasons behind it. Moving out isn't a decision to be made on the spot. Buying a house isn't like buying shoes. There's things to be taken into consideration. (Job salary, Prince range in your state, etc).

[@natalieking2780]

Why is Loni telling Tamara what her parents would and wouldn’t do? She’s so annoying this season

[@steph_steph876]

I have to say when Tam was sharing her experience, I did think it was the other way around as Adrienne kept saying....I am from the Caribbean, Jamaica to be exact and it really isn't unusual for children to stay in the household for a while before stepping out on their own.

[@moo889]

In Nigerian homes you basically stay at home till you are married or you go to school or move to a different state for a job. It works for some people

[@KeylaStarPacheco]

I could see in Tamera’s eyes that this was something that really hurt her. Sad that Loni was invalidating her experience. I completely think this double standard exists. Unfortunately this is a bitter topic for me because I still live with my mum but have been paying rent since I was 19, so what money am I saving? Anyways 🙄

[@brianna6694]

Confused Millenial girl what u said.. paying just as much but stuck and without savings to get my own

[@kejuanlynette8531]

If you lived by yourself (or with roomates) you'd be paying rent + light, gas, water, groceries, internet, cable etc. . . So you ARE saving money by living with your parents. The issue is KEEPING the money you're saving.

[@KeylaStarPacheco]

Kejuan Lynette I said rent as an all inclusive term because couldn’t be bothered to list it all. But I pay rent + utilities (including ones I don’t use) + do my own grocery shopping. It is literally the same as if I were living with a roommate.

[@kejuanlynette8531]

@@KeylaStarPacheco Did they run your credit, make you pay an application fee and security deposit? If not, you're still saving money. But well wishes with wherever you end up of you opt to move out.👍🏽Living solo ain't no joke. I just want you to be prepared and grateful in the meantime!!

[@KeylaStarPacheco]

Kejuan Lynette nope. I am very prepared and definitely grateful for what I have. I wanted to get a job when I was 16 and she literally told me No. then suddenly when I started University she said I need to start paying rent straight away... even tho I was unemployed. But thanks for ur insight 🙌🏾

[@MAlex-cg5jo]

I love when families live together if everyone is responsible. Makes financial sense.

[@kejuanlynette8531]

Many cultures have adult children living in the same household as the parents. I think this is one of the reasons America has so much (consumer) debt. . . Moving out after HS or not being able to return home after college creates an environment where (if not properly prepared) people get mired in debt. As someone also noted in the comments, the student loan debt is basically at crisis level so, income needs to go up DRAMATICALLY to compete with the cost of living and/or cities need to have more affordable rent OR people need to remove the stigma of young adults living at home with your parents.

[@stanbalo]

I totally agree with you

[@flowersforreal2026]

I think it's a blessing to be able to actually even have a family home. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@amylee8969]

Exactly! People eager to move out at an early age, may have toxic family members they don't get along with. Maybe they're parents were unreasonably strict snd gave them limited freedom. As kids grow up, they become despite to get out of that situation.

[@k.alvarado6237]

If I’m able and my child is on the right track, they can live with me until their able to buy a home themselves.

[@haley8182]

I'm 23 with a kid and we live with my mom . We just stay out of each others way! And I'm saving $$$$

[@emme8658]

I support this. If you have the parents who can financially help you save for your future nothing is wrong with this.

[@lovejoy6710]

Yessss Tia! I feel u! Tht is true def a double standards .. & yes Jeannie if it wasn’t toxic I’d stay n save but it’s nothing like your own space. I don’t like tip toeing around others rules

[@LR669]

I think one thing that should be mentioned is that NFL contracts are typically not fully guaranteed. So it is a smart move.

[@laylag.4219]

I think he did a good thing, it’s better that he waited until he was financial stable instead of moving out super quickly then ending up having to move back in with his parents because he couldn’t afford it or was having a hard time. He was planning everything out. Good job💖

[@AndresLopezZarate]

Latinos be 40 with Like 4 kids and still living with parents 🙄🙄 The U.S is so annoying ..

[@lavonnealexander6936]

🤨really damn !

[@AndresLopezZarate]

Its normal. White people are just annoying lol

[@paulkofa3238]

Andres Lopez Zarate you realize you’re a white/Hispanics right

[@alex_n215]

@@AndresLopezZarate Latino isn’t a race, just so you are aware.

[@AndresLopezZarate]

@@alex_n215 Dd i say it was a race or are you just reaching for something? sit down

[@victoriajohn7079]

Living at home isn’t a choice, people can’t afford to have their own place by themselves. Jobs don’t like to hire people young people fresh outta college.

[@mayrab7636]

Tam looks beautiful! I love the color of the dress!

[@eileenwelter90]

By 25 I was married and had a kid, worked as a teacher and volunteered at my church. At 25 my brother was still living at home, working and whatever. When he told our mom he was moving out she called me every single day about how he isn’t ready! I agree with Tam there is 100% a double standard. My folks are Caribbean so I did a lot in the home and was capable to run my own home. My brother had everything done for him at home. 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@laurynh.603]

I don’t know who started the “you need to move out at 18” rule but it seems so unrealistic. Im 18, freshhhh out of highschool, an online college student, and I work a part time job. I don’t even have a enough saved to buy my family a meal from Applebee’s 😂😂 When I was younger I thought “man I can’t wait to move out” but I’m so grateful that my parents see that it really is hard out here and stay I can stay as long as I need to (only if I keep my head in the right place🙏🏽)

[@helenatube]

This American idea was from back when you could get a 1-bedroom apartment in the heart of NYC for what, $500-600. I would've moved out at 18 too if living had been that cheap.

[@johnnythekid4601]

very simply by law at 18 your considered an adult and adults should be completely independent

[@jrbionic404]

Real talk two big reasons I'm back home is to save money and facilitate better decisions (can't have many to any one night stands etc)

[@aliciacoles7696]

I'm 14 and my sister, my parents and I live with my mom's parents. We simply can't afford a house yet. my parents cover half the bills, and it's all good.

[@courtneybridge1427]

Everyone in the comments is almost shaming people who move out at 18. Just because you were not grounded enough to move out on your own, doesn't mean you insult other people's choices. I am pro choice. If you wanna stay with your folks, do it, but don't shame the ones grinding hard. Some people move away because their parents are abusive. Not everyone has the blessing of good parents.

[@ImaniBrooksimb]

The double standard thing is very true. My parents were more eagerly ready for me to leave the house but they wasn’t for my brother. And I’m the baby in the family. My brother is older than me.

[@jon6309]

Lol it’s the same for me and my sister. My mom is a single parent when my father passed away. I still live at home but my sister moved out of state for her career. My Mom doesn’t like the idea of her living here and visiting stresses my Mom out because my sister can be too nit picky and criticizing but she is okay with me because we respect each other’s boundaries which is the only way it will work out if an adult child lives with their parents.

[@Josh-fp2qn]

THat's because of fifty years of feminism you go gurl. Get that independence. Nobody cares about the boys now.

[@gricel8402]

First generation Mexican American here. My parents expected me to move out as a married women. NO EXCEPTIONS, BUT I HAD OTHER PLANS. I finished nurisng school at 25 worked for 6 months at my first job, bought a house and I was out. NO DISRESPECT TO MY CULTURE, BUT I HAD A CHOICE TO DO SO. TO EACH IT'S OWN THOUGH.

[@senorfrijol3713]

I’m 34 and still at home.... I been saving money and once my mom is in heaven I’m moving out.. my mom wants me to have enough money saved so that I don’t struggle in the future.... ❤️💁🏽‍♂️

[@kaylawaters2691]

I'm 37. My jobs have all been poverty level wages so it makes it impossible to move out with that being my reality.

[@senorfrijol3713]

Kayla Waters i live in LA.. it’s literally expensive to live anywhere... 😔😔

[@keisharmiller01]

I think its brilliant, and Ive already told my 12 yr old daughters that I want them to stay until theyre 25. I moved out when I turned 18 and looking back, I wish my parents wouldn't have let me. I feel like by 25, you don't make so many decisions on a whim, and like this young man, will have money saved, to buy a house.

[@TheLilibugz]

Nobody: ABSOLUTELY NOBODY: Loni: IS THE CONTRACT SIGNED?

[@alexandria9870]

I’m 23 just graduated from my Undergrad and my parents told me I was coming back😂 I had already had the idea to move home for my masters and to save but seriously very helpful and grateful!

[@brokenyouth20]

When my parents divorced, I had to get a job during a full schedule for college. We lived with my aunt and her family, so we helped her out with food and more. I saved as much money as I could for me and mom to be reunited with my sisters in an apartment of our own. It was hard but I did it though and we have an apartment together 😌 we all split the rent and bills! I pay food for one week, and then my mom pays the next week. I feel like me and my mom “live together”, not that I live with my mom. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I love my mom, she helps me, while at the same time when she needs help I do the same for her.

[@lclark3279]

I’m 22 finishing my bachelors degree and I’m studying to become a brain surgeon. My mom is Black and Asian and my dad is Black and Middle eastern . I know I’m probably going to be here until late 20’s possibly early 30’s . But I have 3 incomes and saving until my med school is completely paid off and a few rental properties. I think it’s smart to live at home and would want my kids to do the same . As long as they aren’t lazy .

[@tibo3211]

I am, don't mean I'm lazy I'm just saving money. With saving you can contribute to bills and groceries. Then once you good you move out

[@fuluk.5336]

Loni: Is the contract signed? 🤣🤣🤣

[@dashelledisna6239]

I do love my parents and im appreciative more at this age!!

[@nnankebassey]

I travelled from Nigeria to Mauritius to study for 3 years. After the first three months of moving out. I stay alone. Pay my bills do everything and guess what. This happened at age 18. As a lady, I am so proud of myself and independent ❤❤.

[@kcirdetal9697]

Not everybody has money just to move out tho, I’m talking when you’re in your early 20s

[@bmarie5509]

TED B exactly ! And the way cost of living is 😓 man you would have to almost have two jobs to afford a studio or one bedroom where I live

[@kcirdetal9697]

B marie right everyone has a different journey in life, some might not get there quicker than others

[@SupremeQUEEN668]

I mean you could take credit but then you'd be in debt for the rest of your life if you don't become rich so idk does that pay off?

[@frahelis_betzaida8466]

I moved out at 23 and it’s not the easiest living in new York but I never really got along with my mom growing up so now that I live on my own we get along a lot better . However it is hard . Everyone’s path is difficult .

[@denisefernandes-dodsley1816]

In Indian and Asian cultures, it is common to live with your folks forever and a day... it's cool if you all get along...

[@amylee8969]

Hispanic and black too.

[@aliceinwonderland3771]

Can we take a moment... Adrienne looks beau-tiiiii-fulllllll!!!!

[@gabyirigoyen2836]

That was clever of him. Most players as soon as they get the first paycheck start spending it big and renting big houses that they won’t end owning

[@aviiletters]

I’ve been living on my own since I was 17 and completely financially responsible for myself at 22. Sometimes you don’t have the option to be living at home especially living in another country than your family.

[@Sony4Ever321]

I moved out when I was 22 and have never looked back.

[@denissevargas2385]

I grew up with Philip Lindsey, him and his family are good people with a great foundation. He was not raised spoiled, the market here in Denver Colorado is highhhh it’s sky rocketing. No matter the income or background let’s agree, save your money and respect one another it can truly work for anyone long term 🙏🏽

[@evelyngutierrez7276]

I guess it just depends on the person. My husband moved out when he was 20 cause his parents were controlling and constantly wanted him around the family and would be upset if he would go out he just could not take anymore a decided too move out.

[@jessilicious243]

Living at my parents house, I am about to buy my own apartment next year . It was the deal with them at the first place since my 18. Getting my master degree,, getting a permanent job in my field and I did it . I saved a lot of money . It’s not a fatality if everything is good with your family. I am not far from this achievement , btw I am 27 . 🇫🇷