Living in NYC ? - Is It Hard To Make Friends? (10 Ways To Meet New People)

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[@bibekdas5595]

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[@trywithchris]

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[@joelweiner4798]

Good ideas expressed here..but i think it's easier for younger people to make friends in NYC than senior citizens..the older a person gets, the more invisible they become..that's my perception. One wants trustworthy , honest and reliable friends which take years to develop.. The best friends are those from childhood..nothing can replace them. I haven't had much luck making new friends and i've been living here for my whole life > 60 yrs.. I wish everyone good luck and welcome to NYC, friend.

[@GGdude]

hey man. I see you place "best friends" and "friends" in the same row. You can get a friend.. just don't go searching for the best friend that you had back in the days... And thats what i'm going to do travelling all the way from Norway.. To the worst place on earth to find a friend... Just because... what could go wrong?

[@teresaprajapati1153]

New York is truly the best place in the world, live there all my life. Great tips

[@bibekdas5595]

teresa prajapati yes I love you New York city New York city is the my favourite city in the world I love New York city people and I love you usa and USA people

[@tonysamosa1717]

😏 sure

[@AndrewJM]

i lived in NYC my entire life and this is not the best place

[@paarthdesai4269]

I AGREE!

[@GisylleGlam]

I've lived in NYC my whole life & still find it hard to meet new people. I'm a bit introverted so that doesn't help either but thanks for the tips!!

[@ShannonSoSweeet]

GisylleGlam girl, just smile when you walk and people will talk to you... that’s usually what happens to me. They just come up to me and start talking. Just talk back. Boom! Decide if you want to continue to create connections with the person or not.

[@ShannonSoSweeet]

Soooooo many people in this city!

[@GisylleGlam]

@@ShannonSoSweeet I'm going to try that out!!!

[@queenkimmylifeisgolden3265]

I definitely know what you mean! I always meet ppl and they live in another borough! I’m going to go out my way and say if you don’t mind talking you can definitely reply to my comment! And we can exchange IG accounts

[@akuaku3496]

Shannon Angelique will my English accent help lol

[@KonradHansen]

Hi, this video really perked my interest as I met some new friends in New York when I was on holiday in 2013 - and some of them I'm still in touch with today. I was travelling solo and staying in a hotel (Roger Smith) on Lexington Ave. There were a couple of bars around the corner on 47th street (SNAFU and Connelly's) which catered for after-work crowds. Back then I smoked and smokers always chat when outside (kind of like being members of the same club) - anyway I got chatting to a stockbroker outside Connelly's who, after hearing my English accent, invited me to join him and go to another pub near Gramercy Park where he was meeting a friend and work colleague who was also English. Before heading down to Gramercy we had another beer in Connelly's - I got talking to one of the guys at the bar, Patrick, originally from the Bronx, who worked in Washington but was on secondment to the UN (which was nearby). I invited him to join us so the three of us headed down to Gramercy for a few drinks. We all swapped mobile numbers and met up a few times over the next few days. We're still in touch now. On the Saturday evening I went down to Greenwich village - I'd been walking around all day and was ready to head back to the hotel when fate stepped in and I found myself in front of a bar called GMT - an Englishman in New York outside a bar called GMT - I couldn't not go in. I got chatting to a girl, Evelyn, while we sat at the bar. She was waiting for her brother before heading to a party. When her brother, Ian, arrived they didn't rush off - instead they stayed with me for a while and we had a great time just having a laugh. After they left for their party I stuck around and got chatting with the DJ and the bouncer (who used to be a teacher) - both really friendly too. A short time later I got a call from Evelyn, they were heading to a fancy bar in the Time Warner building and invited me to join them there. I found the New Yorkers I met to be not wary or cynical or scared to talk to a stranger - the amazing vibe and sites and sounds of New York were fantastic but the people I met were even more so. Sorry for the long thread. TLDR: Don't be scared to talk to people - life is boring if you don't!

[@akuaku3496]

Konrad Hansen so glad I’m English then lol because im moving there in the next year by myself and I’m 17 can’t wait to leave this hell hole everyone my age is a chav and I can’t deal with it lol I don’t want my kids to grow up in this country the way it is also most girls here are chavs to and I’m not marrying someone in a tracksuit 😂

[@bibekdas5595]

I love you usa and I love you New York city New York city is the my favourite city in the world bro

[@meretkurbanov6239]

I moved to NYC when I was 17 I lived there for 1 year. Let’s be honest, I was really social before NY and in NY it was really difficult for me to make friends. I did couple, but we were hanging out together once in two month. I had really bad depression because of it. I moved to Seattle year after because of the school. I learned a lot in New York and have 2 good friends there. I wish this video exist back to those days. Btw I moved by myself without my family

[@crazyfolks9831]

wish I can move and start over like you

[@rohidnablayy6060]

Meret Kurbanov I’m 17 and planning on moving to nyc, I’m nervous about not having any friends.

[@akuaku3496]

Rohid Nablayy HEY me to !!!!! I’m moving by myself from the uk I just turned 17 in April that’s so cool are you exited?

[@akuaku3496]

Meret Kurbanov I’m doing the same thing but coming from the uk at 17 lol any tips for me ? 😆

[@mubarigaxmed1521]

Brad Diaz we can hangout my brother I’m not there but I’m coming

[@travelerlasol8112]

That's why you have a lot of friends. I will try it If visit New York again~!!!

[@HereBeBarr]

Glad you enjoyed it.

[@Zoe_6]

Thanks this really helped, Me and my family are moving from England to NYC so thankyou x

[@hannahhh..]

I moved here in January... *LOVE* this city!!! Plus, I’ve found it’s actually way easier to make friends here rather than the Midwest (where I came from) because people are so open and not usually too cliquey since a lot of people are coming and going (which may make the maintaining hard lol) one of my friends already moved back to London...but there are still lots of friends still here and more to make 🎉

[@dr.random8920]

Nice! Any tips on how you made your friends?

[@TheTravelingClatt]

Heyooo shoutout to King of The VLogSSS

[@HereBeBarr]

Heyoooo

[@bibekdas5595]

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[@FoodandFootprints]

Good tips here. Always interesting to think about this as a native

[@Fernando-hp6hp]

You were talking to us, take off the glasses next time 🤓

[@imscanon]

While ya gotta be facing the sun for the good lighting, I'd rather he not have to get burned retinas and go blind trying to make a vid. NY blind...difficult.

[@Alexis-gj1bn]

I've met so many people here in such a short amount of time. But it is harder to maintain those relationships... I feel that applies to any city!

[@annaaltheide5077]

When I moved to the city I knew next to no one. I made my whole friend circle through the meetup app and shared interests.

[@mauroadventures]

I am a kind of new in NYC. I think is kind of hard makes good friends for different reasons. 1. Most of the people have more than one job so, you have two jobs, I have two jobs, a coincidence in the schedule for hang out is hard for both. 2. The distances and commute times are huge so, let's suppose you finally could do something to avoid the point one. First, it is probably that reach a place to hang out, take you one hour, you will have a good time and go back to home will take you another hour and it is probably you have to work the next day so, it won´t be a good idea to reach home early in the morning, this time is if you take the train. If you take an Uber or taxi you must to add around $50 to your expenses of that night. 3. If you can avoid the last two points, probably you can not do this very continuously due to the costs that it means. So, I think that if you find someone through the options mentioned in the video. This people probably will be your friends for a short period of time or just for specific moments or activities. Based on the above I think that makes very true friends are not impossible but it is not easy in NYC. That is my personal experience. Maybe your experience is much better.

[@queenkimmylifeisgolden3265]

elmauror hi I’m In nyc also I don’t mind making new friends! I guess u can meet ppl on KZbin also l! You can reply if interested

[@krystalmendez2994]

I've lived in nyc all my life, and this list is good if you're an extrovert, but as i'm an introvert I would have a hard time with many of them. I would try to make friends in college in nyc and people just weren't interested in holding friendships. All my current friends are people I was friends with in high school and am happy with them though

[@noldi123]

25 y/o and I was raised in Queens. Social life in college was very challenging for me, and to this day I don't really speak with many of the friends that I made in college. as I have entered the workforce since then, it is still still challenging for me to develop close friendships with people because the people I meet have a very different vibe, some with better circumstances, some with worse circumstances, and few people hit me up regularly... ugh. I see young Manhattanites well-dressed who walk around with 5+ people in their friend groups and I want to be there too

[@mehreetsingh8508]

Would love to hangout with u someday im new here and feeling super low

[@sophyli3101]

Any one has the same feeling with me that It's getting harder to make friends when you grow older.And meantime,youR requirement of friendship is lower and lower than before.

[@mehreetsingh8508]

Sophy Li hey im new here like came here a month ago i feel the same i would love to hangout with u let me know

[@wailerolife]

I’m leaving tonight of this great city, its stunning , I mean , the people, food , stores , etc. C’mon guys , u need to know it , its and amazing place .

[@BNiche]

Excellent video, Jon! As someone who also moved from Jersey 14 years back, that was definitely an advantage I had as well, though my Jersey friends started to fade away as the years went on. Of course, going to college in NYC helps too. #7 - roommates? Great point. Half of the roommates I've had have become super close friends of mine. #5 - shared interests. I've made two acquaintances of mine from actually going out to the Bell House in Brooklyn for 90s night. Yep, I used to go NUTS at 90s nights and hey, you meet people who also like to get down with Spice Girls and Nelly. #1 - JON! Come on, man! Get at it! I've done Zog for about ten years and still do it now (I'm 31). Many of my friends I've made through it have been a part of my main core group of friends. I highly recommend it and glad you put it as your #1 way!

[@vaishx]

How easy is it to make friends in NYC? Is the loneliness as bad as I hear? That’s honestly my biggest worry moving to NYC. I don’t wanna deal with that stuff in my 20’s 😂.

[@DeluxeSquishi]

Haha tried that bumble BFF. Makes you realize how weird it is meeting people online

[@SizahYusuph]

I come from Tanzania 🇹🇿 but I wish one day I live in New York city god bless me 🙏among of dream ❤️

[@bibekdas5595]

love you bro and bro you are no 1 you tube bro

[@chandlerbingbong]

Friends = Problems

[@mstyles2667]

Fact. So much drama these days.

[@Metamorpheu]

Good video :) Going to NYC next week :) Thanks for the tips. The best to you!

[@bane5]

There’s a saying in NYC that says New Yorkers are easy to meet but hard to know.

[@bibekdas5595]

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[@jamesespinar4864]

Maybe you can give me some tips how to find a nice girlfriend thank you

[@sophyli3101]

good looking +full wallet.

[@TheDragonflyCottage]

Washington Square Park...One of my favorite places. I have always loved the musicians there, and meeting people there. A book (or music years ago) store. Sometimes you get to meet people with same likes.

[@HereBeBarr]

👌🏻👌🏻

[@bibekdas5595]

love you bro

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

That's a GREAT video Jon. Good research, good job. Especially for guys, sports socialization is so easy! In Italy EVERY embarrassing silence moment between two men is solved once one starts mentioning football. 🤷

[@Breadiez]

Great video! :D

[@HereBeBarr]

Thanks !

[@mauricio5278]

Bro I’m 16 lol ifk where to find other teens to make friends with. I can talk to people and make friends but if they realize that I’m 16 and their 21+ they won’t want to be friends

[@GGdude]

Hey guys! Going to NYC for the first time in under 2 months(First time out of Scandinavia.. go figure with this name). Any advice on a rock/metal bar/pub/place? I would love "Feel like home" in between the gigants!

[@flip1sba]

Shared interests is where the best meeting friends. But again, forget friends, having a girlfriend is enough an spend your time with her.

[@davidbanas7609]

Okay, yes, I hesitated writing about with my latest New York City experiences, but why ? I'm okay with it. I started out very early from Los Angeles on a 7:00am flight, the Thursday before Memorial Day, even when lightning hit the baggage route and it took nearly two hours to get my bag, I still had time to get to my Hotel, shower, and explore some that evening. That night was really, really fun. I did some bar hopping (Something I must be careful about in LA because of driving), the patrons and staff were friendly and social and somewhere around 3:00am, no one cared I was drunk and enjoying myself, I got smiles. I did my usual, customary, and wanting too of buying a discounted ticket the day of the show on Saturday afternoon. I saw 'The Cher Show'. I have never seen a bad Broadway play. The best, no, but certainly not bad. Then came Sunday, my last day in New York City for now. Qualifying always works for me. Everything is relative. What I am about to write may offend some people and / or invoke strong viewpoints and / or opinions of how I should have responded. Sunday afternoon, I went to bar I already know about in Hells Kitchen. I had two strong drinks. I didn't expect anything nor did anything extraordinary occur there. I head off to find the subway back to 32nd street. I ask a younger man where exactly the subway entrance is, I couldn't really see. Not unusual for New York City at all. He says I'll show you and walks across the street with me. He goes down the stairs with me. Shortly thereafter, he puts my hand on his erection in his pants. I politely say I'm not interested in sex at the moment, which I wasn't. To make a long story short, he didn't want to take no for an answer. He suggested some little corner somewhere, lol. Anyway, persistent yet, it was not violent in anyway. I hope he found someone in Hells Kitchen to help him out. Just wasn't me. No I didn't really think of going to the Police, sure, maybe he just wanted my wallet. He didn't go for it though .. Gawd I love New York City. ;-)

[@edtollesonjr3426]

I actually went to a coffee shop called Stumptown to drink coffee and met a lot of really nice people there. My Ex-Girlfriend went to school on 8th street so I spent a lot of time at Stumptown. Stumptown is a block away from Washington square park on 8th Street. I also spent a lot of time there at Washington Square Park many people will come up and speak to you if you are alone.

[@bibekdas5595]

bro please visit India bro

[@liamdonaldson7208]

I literally just was wondering whether New York was a lonely place last night

[@joelweiner4798]

Yes...it's a lonely place unless you have a good network of family and friends..although friends are hard to come by...that is genuine friends, not shallow.

[@Psyiconics]

Bumble BFF doesn’t exist . Only bumble and that’s a dating app

[@dougm3037]

Sounds like New York is similar to other big cities around the world. I think you make some good suggestions. I've attended a number of Meetup gatherings both here in Australia and also in Vietnam. If you aim for a common interest group then I think that strategy is more successful. Good to see that New Yorkers are happy to chat at bars. It's not as easy here in Oz. My favorite bars are in Saigon where it's easy to meet travelers and ex pats and chat up pretty bar girls at bargain basement cost.

[@carinahrzg]

i wanna visit it from austria.. i rlly hope i can make some connections there

[@DanFrullani]

Great video.... As usual! Greetings from Madrid!! P. S. I miss NY!!!

[@nattanpires]

Take a walking tour with tourists? But they don’t even live here in the city. Make friends with people that live abroad? Makes no sense!

[@HereBeBarr]

New arrivals to the city take them to explore . Like when we first moved .

[@tnikoli40]

Which phone company do you recommend? I will be in usa for 25 days and want unlimited data (dont care for calls and text).

[@HereBeBarr]

Try T-Mobile

[@HighHopesAndDreamsWill]

Helpful thank you

[@cal31BRIAN23]

Hard to make friends as a introvert who likes to stay home. lol

[@MarioRafaelM]

Man I downloaded a couple of apps including Tinder to see what's up cause I barely know people over there just to make friends in my next vacation over there in a couple of months and it's brutal though coming from Latin America in most countries you do that you can find locals willing to be friends and show you around i thought this will be the case but I was wrong.

[@johnmoran7434]

Good ideas even if it isn't NYC. Most of my NYC friends are closer to Long Island.

[@HereBeBarr]

Thanks

[@MickAngelhere]

It all depends on circumstances and how one interacts with others great information 👍👍👍

[@HereBeBarr]

Thanks Mick !

[@mauricio5278]

Under rated asf

[@barbarabaker5552]

When I moved to NY I found the best way to make friends was to take a class - I took ballet, and then later yoga. Some health clubs allow you to join for a short period. It's so easy to talk to people after the class and maybe go for a coffee. A continuing class is better than a one-off because it allows friendships to develop slowly and to continue to grow. I also joined a writing workshop, and I've still got friends from that group.

[@mehreetsingh8508]

Barbara Baker would love to hangout with you im very new here

[@TheHardik01]

can you tell where you went for yoga class?

[@petradellorbo5259]

Colleagues and neighbors (especially in the new developments)

[@meretkurbanov6239]

Petra Dellorbo colleagues could be dangerous. I met a lot of backstabbing people when I lived in NY. So be careful

[@micah_robbins29]

How did you mee Adrianna

[@PatrickByas]

🔥

[@m-l-3456]

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[@bibekdas5595]

I wish kindly your 9lkh subscriber bro

[@faithamodios916]

Great advice!

[@Nancy-iv1yj]

Thanks Jon. Great advise.

[@HereBeBarr]

You're welcome

[@Sophie-em6jx]

Enjoyed the video

[@HereBeBarr]

Thanks